How to stop being so afraid of everything
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 มิ.ย. 2024
- Anxiety shrinks your world. It takes this massive world we all inhabit and makes it feel oppressively small.
Severe anxiety feels like there are barriers everywhere - invisible barriers, concrete walls block you from doing just about anything.
Are you tired of living in constant fear and anxiety?
Let’s dive in to practical strategies for overcoming anxiety and reclaiming your life.
I’m going to show you how hierarchical exposure therapy can help you gradually face your fears and expand your comfort zone.
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Here's what's inside:
00:00 - Understanding the impact of avoidance on anxiety
03:23 - Exposure therapy
07:44 - Overcoming anxiety through gradual exposure
09:53 - The ripple effects of conquering fear in your life
12:40 - The role of confidence in reducing anxiety
15:17 - Adjusting variables and using coping skills in exposure therapy
17:33 - My personal journey of overcoming public speaking anxiety
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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.
Help. I haven’t lived in 30+ years. Pray for me please
I'm praying for u
Holy Cerridwen, please help this person live their best life.
I'm praying for you brother ❤
Sending you good vibes and positivity❤ hugs
Praying for you brother ❤❤❤
It’s natural to feel anxiety in a sick society and trying to fit in and interact with that sick society. We are in a spiritual battle.
Why do you say there is a spiritual battle?
Not so
I agree anxiety taunts me a Spiritual battle.
A'ho!
Yes we are!
Yeah we are in a sick society where it is normal to exploit, enslave, and kill animals for products we don't need, but selfishly choose. In food, clothing, medicine, etc...
I used to get up of bed very early and eager to go outside. NOW, I stay under my blankets, praying that no one knocks on my door. I CAN'T face the idea of going out and seeing people.
I really understand. I have been there, still am.
So, so same😢
Social anxiety sucksssss.
Visit Christian audio books and sermons channel and absorb the word of God. It will give you strength and peace.
How do you make a living?
I think the worst part is being anxious about being anxious.
Feels like an endless cycle, but I know it's not. I hope we all come to realize this again.
I wish everyone the best ❤
Fear of the fear. Yup.
Very true
Anxiety feeds off of avoidance. Thanks for the video ❤
im the king of avoidance and retreat
Same.
@@topy706 I'm the peasant of avoidance and retreat. I can't control anything like a king would control it.
Just concentrating on DOING THE NEXT RIGHT THING, however small, can really help. Action eliminates paralysis.
Maybe having a necessary criteria of "right" isn't helpful? Maybe use the words "important to me" as in "I'm going to focus on achieving the next thing that is important to me".
@@pippacarron1861 no. Nothing is important to someone who is acutely depressed. You must do the next right thing whether it seems important or not.
I don't think brushing my teeth with toothpaste every morning is super important, but it is the right thing to do to carry me forward into a productive day.
I cannot thank you enough Dr. Scott. I am 65 and stopped working during COVID. Since that time my world has shrunken to my 2 bdrm condo and 3 cats. I have allowed anxiety to stop me from any activity that includes other people. Your explanation of how anxiety works makes so much sense. I shall be taking tiny steps of exposure so I can participate in life again. It has been pretty lonely 😔
Yes, baby steps! Good luck 🤗
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Same here. You are not alone. ❤
I have gone through a very similar experience in my life, so I know what you mean. Just work on taking those small steps, and also work on telling that voice in your head to shut up and take a hike. Good luck.
Me too! Right there with you!
I don't mean to be dramatic, but you may have just changed my life. I have suffered from anxiety and depression all of my life and have tried medication, therapy, and a variety of different methods. The only thing that works is: action. Avoiding what needs to be done. It has only gone away when I actually do it. You confirmed this. Thank you so much.
I don't think it's dramatic... Sometimes there's that one video or thing that just hits for that period of your life. Good luck on your journey
Never dramatic to reach out with honesty and integrity❤🙌 I know how you feel.
Jesus Christ is the only way to heaven the only answer the only savior and healer 🕊️✝️
yeah but then it comes back if you don't do it every day. It's so stupid this disease
I've also experienced health-related panic attacks and anxiety. I couldn't drive more than 5 minutes from my house without freaking out. I forced myself to do it a little bit at a time and push myself a little farther each time. Now I can drive anywhere.
Good for you, amazing
This is key. I couldn’t get more than 5 minutes also. I had a setback mid year but still pushing forward. Will win the fight. Just need to prioritise exposure like my life depends on it, because it does. I’ve been stuck in the same 10km for almost 4 years
Wonderful, happy for you ❤
Wow!
@@overcomingwithinI’m the exact same way
This is literally me. It started out as social anxiety, but now it’s more anxiety of being alive. It’s like I just can’t catch a break, and I’m a shut in now too..
Me also 😢
Myself aswell ,my whole life battling with social anxiety, my life feels miserable
same
Same.
Before 2020 I only had social anxiety and then now it's health anxiety, panic disorder and a bunch of other stuff that has made me feel mentally unstable.
I always get that uneasy feeling. Unsure how to explain it but that feeling that something is always wrong even when there's literally nothing wrong. I also feel like I have developed a strange form of paranoia as well ever since 2020. I've never once felt that way in my whole life.
I sometimes start to randomly shake out of nowhere. I have had head pressures, I would wake up in sweat and my heart beating fast, confusion, that panic feeling that you get not even a panic attack but something that's less severe but somehow you get that weird panic feeling that rushes through you. I didn't get any hyperventilation like I had with my panic attack so it couldn't have actually been a panic attack but yes I got that too and just a bunch of stuff that I can't even describe into words since they're very specific and are hard to describe into words. I don't know if anyone out there can relate but my gosh, it's exhausting...😃
@@Caringsoul245 sorry to hear you have it bad , I allso have had social anxiety my whole life , I only thing that gives me some positive relief is training, doing gym fist thing in the morning has a positive effect on my mood for the day
I suffered from panic attacks and anxiety for plenty of years. But it just turned out recently that I have very low iron levels in my blood. 60% it is the reason. So, sometimes, please, check on your physical health also. 🙏🏻
Its true. Years ago i went on a healthy diet kick, really healthy, no junk, and in a few weeks i realized my anxiety vanished. For the whole time i ate healthily almost 2 months. It was always there before that, my whole life. Its as if the bad food was fueling this anxious uncomfortable state n i never knew until i got rid of it. Havent commited enough since but should because it really worked.
Yes that and also low vitamin D as well. I've noticed a lot of people who deal with anxiety have low vitamin D deficiency as well!
Sound like you beedro be checked for h pylori
This is important!
I'm 74 years old. I used to be fearless, now I fear everything. Food shopping, all appointments, now, even
going out for a walk. I wake up to the moon. I never see daylight. It's November 30th and in Toronto it gets light out at 8am
and dark at 4:30pm. I say in bed all day.
I get it. But why? What happened, what's really behind this...I'm heading towards this...what's your best guess?
Gratitude. Think of just three things you are grateful for first thing when you wake. Could be grateful for just waking up. Your comfortable bed. The roof over your head that protects you. Be grateful first thing and it will change your day. Do it every morning and it will change your life.
I know how it feels I’m 39 I lost my mum she was 57 years when she passed away I felt completely heart broken I wish she could of stayed longer it’s not fair at all she was always there for me I just hope if there is an afterlife she gets something better ❤️🙏
I'm 61 & I'm the same. Always going, going, going.
Now I sit staring out the window, watching the world go by. 😢
To anyone who’s got bad experiences from school as a child and teenager: don’t worry about not fitting in or not thriving in the school environment. It’s an extremely specialised situation that basically won’t ever happen again in your adult life, not even university studies. It’s like you’re a fish in one of those tiny round goldfish bowls, and they expect you to do great in that tiny little bowl when you’re made to swim in the ocean. Adults generally don’t react the same way kids and teenagers do, so all these things you’ve gotten used to tend to disappear or at least lessen. This insight genuinely made me feel better about myself and my life once I realised it. I hope it may help you, too.
Good luck out there, it’s a harsh world but if we work together we can make it at least a little bit better.
This is SO me. It started at Ge 33, now I'm 75. Still have extreme anxiety, panic attacks, agoraphobia, the works. drs., therapists, medications, still stuck in this fractured world. It has taken my life over. It's miserable. After listening to you this morning, at least I don't feel so alone. Thanks.
Hello there I also have agoraphobia and anxiety
Hello. I’m 71, and I totally understand how you feel. I listen to Dr Scott and he’s so encouraging. I wish I had found someone like him 50 years ago. Do you feel like it’s too late for you now? I feel as though why put in all the work at this age, when I’m at the end of my life. I hope you see this and reply.
I’ve had severe anxiety for as long as I can remember. It’s so refreshing to see a doctor who understands. I’m proud to be part of this family where we can come to support each other. Thank you Dr. Scott ❤
❤ Ditto!!!
I definitely agree,, been waking up and actually don't feel like I'm going to die every morning. Love Dr.Scott and his whole community. Thanks to everyone for helping each other. There is no greater thing than that.
Wow! You really get it. Feeling like less of a failure after you explained. I tried to expand the comfort zone too far, too fast. Crashed, burned, retreated into an even smaller comfort zone than before. Now, I feel like I can try to take smaller steps again. Thank you.
Same here!
I can relate
Yes. It was very eye-opening when he said that attempting the overwhelming thing and then encoding it as a horrible experience does strengthen the anxiety. I had assumed that getting through a horrible experience of exposure to the anxiety-provoking thing would help. It doesn't! It needs to be tiny steps. Very enlightening video.
It’s always hard to imagine someone speaking into a camera so relaxed and easy ever had real anxiety. Seeing it is inspiring to say the least.
I do feel the immediate relief wash over me when I avoid what makes me anxious, but then I regret making the decision to avoid because I feel like people are judging me for being weak and irresponsible - like avoiding family get togethers or going to work. It's not much better if I do decide to go to work or see family either, it's like life is just miserable if I do or I don't and I am not sure how to reconcile that at all.
I completely and totally understand you! You are not alone. I avoid the same things. I became a substitute teacher’s aide so that I can choose work when i feel comfortable, but even then I still get overwhelmed and so anxious that I cancel. I have trouble holding down a real job. I also avoid friends and some family :/
I feel like people are judging me as well thinking I suck as a person. & you’re right even if i try, I still dont feel any better or think I couldve gone about my day not having to experience that. Dont know if im just a really introverted person or anxiety filled one
@@xsunflwromg same, I avoid meeting my bf's friends coz I feel they r way cooler than me and I feel they judge me for being quiet and boring. Apart from that other stuff, I force myself to do that even though I'm nervous but even though it goes well it doesn't make me feel better, I feel more anxious after that. I don't know wts the solution for that. I'm anxious both ways, it's soo horrible that I get a panic attack that makes me nausea and dizzy. I also feel very guilty when I avoid it and also keep thinking that people are judging me for missing opportunity.
I have been overwhelmingly anxious lately. Your videos really help and I have to say, just doing the simple acts of getting rid of social media, turning off my news feed and not drinking caffeine made a life-changing difference. Caffeine is a surprisingly bad trigger for me
I have a video coming out soon where I discuss 6 things I stopped doing to improve my own anxiety and decreasing caffeine intake is one of the six!
Last time I quit caffeine I developed caffeine withdrawals. So make sure to gradually decrease your caffeine intake and don't do it cold turkey like I did. I regret doing it the way that I did. I got a lot of awful symptoms from it including increased anxiety, insomnia for a lot of days and flu-like symptoms so please be careful 🙏 😊
I would like to hear about anxiety as it relates to a series of losses….deaths, jobs, relationships….
Absolutely, I lost my husband and mother and a niece within a year. My anxiety skyrocketed. Gave up my job to take care of my husband. Being his caregiver kept me home and I got stuck. 6 yrs later and I'm worse. Tired of beating myself up and I am forcing myself to see people and go somewhere at least 2 times a month.
I've existed in a prison of depression for a couple decades now.... & i would like to say your words are helpful to me with my recent recovery
Dont give up
Dr. Scott can help.
He's helped me wherever I listen to him
God bless you💜
Hy so if u got depression does that min a person has high blood pressure
People around me who never had anxiety just dont get it, and that alone makes my anxiety 50x worse and 50x more isolating.
I get told, "its all in your head! you never try!!!! Stop being so scared of everything!!" Oh, thank you, kind dumbass family!!!!! i feel SOOOOO understood, heard, and cured!!!!!! /s
Every time i DO try, i end up regretting it and making a fool out of myself or get humiliated. Thats what people dont see. Thats what people dont get.
I was afraid to fly until I experienced passive suicidal ideation, and then I didn't care. After I did it, it opened up a lot more opportunities for me to vacation and get away. Which in turn, helps with my depression.
I realized every time I go to my hometown, which is close to where I live, I get this gripping fear. Yesterday I decided to take a walk in this town and create new memories. Was very freeing!
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏💜 Any trauma or fear based incidents attached to that town? Just wondering.❤
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Definitely 💯! For my whole childhood.
I have severe Generalized anxiety disorder,and what he said is exactly what Anxiety is, it's like one has fear of almost everything,and in a negative situation the Heart beats so loud that one can hear it pumping in one's brain !
I think I was aware that avoidance was strengthening my anxiety.
But the overwhelmed thing is a problem for me. I do the thing, it goes ok… but internally I’m losing my mind and the anxiety still compounds
He does address that very phenomenon -- he talks about how going through something and encoding it as horrible does indeed strengthen the anxiety. The exposure needs to be within an area that is not overwhelming; just a little uncomfortable, and then it becomes a kind of medicine. Like how inoculation - a vaccine - is actually a tiny amount of the pathogen; it strengthens the immune system. A tiny bit of exposure to the anxiety provoking thing strengthens the ability in that area. He gives a couple of examples (e.g., speaking to a group of 2 people instead of a lot; going to Walmart at 10:00 a.m on a Tuesday instead of 1:00 pm on a Saturday)
I braided my hair and looked in the mirror. I told myself I looked pretty. Doesn't sound like much, but, its a big thing
Did you simply tell yourself you're pretty or did you genuinely FEEL pretty? There's plenty of things I've tried to tell myself before because it's the right/healthy thing to want to feel or believe, but I said it without actually believing it.
I’m proud of you, 👍 I’m doing great if I get a shower in 😢
I'm on the spectrum, and have had debilitating anxiety when trying to make friends in social situations. I would keep throwing myself into social situations, but I couldn't figure out why I still felt anxious even after succeeding. It all makes sense now: I was in over my head, building anxiety even when succeeding. Thank you Dr. Scott!
Thank you so much for this powerful cognitive shift: “prove my anxiety wrong”.
All of sudden, my rebel nature kicks in.
I’m going to see my doctor about my anxiety today…and I have extreme anxiety about it. If it wasn’t so horrible it would actually be funny. Thank you for this video.
Mine is associated recently, again, with driving. (Crippling panic attacks) from ptsd..(car accident)...i keep pushing through by the grace of God, until it wears off.
I understand. I was in a major car crash as a passenger and had multiple injuries. It's taken a lot of years of exposure therapy and CBT to tackle my PTSD to even drive locally. I just cannot drive on the highway anymore as my knee jerk reaction to bad drivers then makes me a dangerous driver. I've accepted this now even though it was my passion to drive long distances, get away places plus also my previous career as a sales area manager. I am happy tackling efforts to drive locally. I hope you learn to manage this. I truly empathise.
Hard relate on this one, Dr Scott. Aside from my crippling social anxiety which can make me feel physically sick, I also really struggled with virtually interacting with my team at work. Both my tiny team of 6 and the larger team of 40+ people. I recently stepped into my “discomfort zone” during mental health week here and shared with the bigger team that we should take the time to recognise and celebrate the little wins we have. I was terrified of being judged…of the message not resonating with people…but I did it anyway. I first shared it with my little team and then told them that I would share it with the wider team - which made me commit to that course of action. It was received very well. Taking these little steps outside of my comfort zone has incrementally increased my confidence so I can freely interact with my little team without second-guessing absolutely everything. I think they have noticed the change too. It’s amazing how much your videos and book have helped me to become the person I actually am and to let go of some (not all) of my negative self-talk. Words cannot express my gratitude 🙏🏻
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Well done. What a gift also to the others in the team.
Thank you for sharing this❤❤ cingratulations
Sorry but people who have never felt anxiety not understand how debilitating it is. I wish they would learn how bad it is. Good luck to those who are suffering ❤
THis is true. I am terrified of dentist and I faced it and did ir afraid, I just found the most caring dentist who made it possible. I am still scared no matter how many times I go , BUT my teeth are finally healthy and I can smile again...avoidance was my strong suit for the last 20 years. Trust GOD and do it afraid, and you will say after how easy it was and how much stronger you feel!
Public speaking was terrifying. I found a way to just keep doing it - now I work part time as a trainer and have to speak in front of 150 people sometimes. LOTS of practice has helped! Amazed I could do it - but realising that now I have been shockingly brave doing it over and over when it felt like it would kill me 🙂 And now I’m the one in a zoom conference who can swoop in and fill an awkward silence and help the host and participants out if there’s a blip.
Woah. Thank you Dr. Scott! I have so much negativity bias I didn’t realise until now HOW MUCH of an achievement it has been to overcome my fear of public speaking to some extent!
How did u do it?
Dr. Scott. Thank you for sharing your gift and risking to sit with us in our darkest fears, you always know the topics i wanted to ask you.
The world is much safer and livable with you and your gifts 💙💙💙💙💙
I really appreciate that Ralph ❤️
By the grace of God, I found you. Dr. Scott you verbalize what has happened to me.
Thank you Dr. Scott I needed to hear this. My psychologist isn’t as good as you. I suffer with agoraphobia and have for nine years and it’s getting really rough being imprisoned in my own home.
I've never heard anyone explain this type of exposure therapy before. Amazing
You make mental health problems a lot easier to deal with👍 thank you so much
Yes! I do sit around and agony for days to psych myself up to get something done wow! it helps to know what the steps are for improvement and to recognize this experience is not limited to me.
Thank you for opening my eyes.
I feel anxious most of the time and I don't allow it to shrink my world any further. I thought it must get better but my body is telling me it gets worse. Now I see, part of the Problem is, I overwhelm myself on a regular basis just to live my life, get stuff done and not inhibit my childs life. I kind of force myself to do the right, normal things but my body reacts with tension, cold hands, numbness, tightness in my chest and stomach and nightterrors. I have to do so many things that cause physical high stress to functional freeze or shutdown reactions to care for me and my child. I'm a single parenting mother. Often my body feels numb and I forget many things during intense times. Now before Christmas is such a time. Family's or friends meet and celebrate or struggels theyr way through Christmas traditions. I feel painful reminded that I feel very much alone and failed to provide a healthy enough family for my child who don't think twice to share his frustration with me and others. I feel blamed then and so lonely, left behind. My heart is aching these days. I try to bring myself in balance, to regulate my nervous system. These days the disregulation remains. I'm thankful that I'm noticing this and give my best to stay at my side with kindness. To offer myself compassion even if I don't have a blueprint for how to offer it to me...
Thank you for your helpful videos
And kindness to yourself. Dont forget this. 💜
This is f* brilliant. In all my years of performance anxiety, no one has ever told me about this form of progress through limited, gradual exposure. Thank you so much!
I totally feel what you described constantly and end up in my room in my bed reading alone and just fine...but I should not be there!! I'm so paralyzed by fear and anxiety. Now I really understand it is NOT healthy to be in this bed relaxing. So I will practice your tips and stop being so reluctant to do what is best for me and get out in the world!!! Make money moves and crush the Boulder of fear anxiety!! SLAY!!
This is something I am doing. I plan to travel be myself now that I am divorced but that is scary for me so I am starting out small with going to an early movie on my own or a local restaurant that’s not to busy. I plan to continue to push my comfort at my pace until I can travel on my own.
Safe? What's that? I have learned that the 'now' is safe, not the sorrows of the past, or the fears of the future. Gripped by fear since childhood, your assessment is very accurate. "Anxious mess forever...yeah, that's it..." It has been for me. I have been using some of these techniques almost daily. Will adopt the rest now. Thanks.
In my 43 years of feeling anxious and depressed you are the only person that has explained everything in a way i can understand and given the tools to help heal. You are an absolout gift and a blessing to offer your knowledge for free, you must have helped thousands to cope better. thank you x
Dr. Scott, thank you for this. I often equate anxiety as a self perpetuating Möbius strip of doom! Anxiety + catastrophizing everything is the ultimate spiral downward.
Thanks again, Dr. Scott. I've never had "panic attacks," but I've practiced avoidance for a lot of things in my life. I think I've made some progress with what you call exposure therapy. It has helped in some areas, but I have other areas I need to work on. Always a WIP. 🙂
Dr Scott is spot on. I have been using this technique since 2016 and am amazed at the things I am now able to do with ease, that in the past would cause me anxiety and procrastination. I went forward bit by bit and over time, I became much more confident. I sometimes dont recognize myself.
Yep. Avoiding people a lot for a long time.
Scott, your lived experience and your articulation of it makes you super relatable. This video was right on. Thanks, peace.
Thank you for this video. The knowledge you provide helps open up my world. I know doing this and applying it to real life is much harder, but knowing that I don't have to be trapped in my own mind forever, it gives me hope.
Here's to proving the anxious voice in my head wrong! We are so much more capable than we expect. I truly believe it is common to underestimate oneself. So keep going! (*in a reasonable amount.)
Thank you for all you do. Overwhelmed and avoidances increase my anxiety so there’s that. Then put a limiting illness on top of that. I have fear. Doing what I want and doing what the illness needs then choosing to do what I want while caring this illness along with me (which means not self caring for the illness) rawr. I hope that makes since. So I isolate and feel disappointed and drained. Which leads to anxiety and fear of the world and my illness. Turning the anxiety into chronic PTSD. Rawr. But I’m ok. I am crawling my way out. Getting out of my head, separating my self from the anxiety, make a decision and just do what I need to do even though I’m scared even though I have no clue what I’m doing even though I don’t feel good. Just focus on the task and getting through and the good stuff does come after. After I do the work. This instant gratification thing is nothing more than an addiction robbing me of my true potential. Thanks for listening. Peace and calmness to you. I do the work and later in life I get the reward. I’m ok with that.
This is exactly what I needed today! I’ve been avoiding so many things and try not to be triggered even Halloween even Thanksgiving. I just had so much anxiety about being around folks that I actually do care about. Thank you for posting this video. Thank you for being so open about your own challenges that validated all the more for me, because you share so much of your own personal story, I know that you understand and that you are speaking wisdom from experience with educational expertise!
Anxiety can totally feel like a prison cell. Some days I can fight my way through and some days hiding out wins. As long as we stay in the game of exposure therapy, as you say Dr., we will win out!
I appreciate the fact that you truly get it and understand these anxieties first hand and have overcome them. Very valuable information and insight that is very helpful. Thank you.
This guy knows what’s he talking about - the being overwhelmed part omg
I have been struggling with this for basically all of my life in different ways and stages. It has been so crippling and deprived me of so many things in life, I am so unbelievably sick of it.
At times I have been successful in breaking out of it, I was able to achieve a lot, but something always comes along thst sucks me back in and it has been worse than ever in recent times.
I just don't understand why I am this way, what led me to be this way even since I was a kid - being afraid of so many things, not daring to try lots of stuff, thinking I am not able to do things that seem nornal for many. It is so frustrating.
I relate to this so much. It is incredibly frustrating.
I absolutely know how that feels.. It's all about slowly standing your ground and confronting what's supposedly trying to kill you. Don't let it steal your happiness nor your opportunities... Go there and slowly approach life in a way that allows you to gain confidence little by little and don't fear death nor panic attacks.. If they occur so be it! But you MUST do something about it otherwise you will be like this for the rest of your life. ❤
I avoid everyone and everything, i can not remember last time i spoke to another adult face to face, even on internet most ppl just ignore
Hi, I see your comment ❤
I see you. I feel the same way. I would love to gradually expose myself to people but at 60, there just aren't any people for me to talk to. When I was young I had a lot of friends and social outings but those people are all scattered to the wind now.
This channel was just suggested in my feed recently, and I wish I had found it sooner. The tips and tricks are very helpful and laid out in layman's terms, which is appreciated. Thank you for this content.
Your videos are so very helpful--please do not underestimate their worth.
Avoidance neither being Overwhlem in the awkward situation is a Loose and Loose situation. Exposure Therapy helps us being immune little by little. Thankyou very much sir for this GEM 💎 information.
Thank you. .
Sometimes just going shopping, to a nearby shop, a planned show, on a tram or train can be so overwhelming tjat I will avoid it and do without what I needed to buy meaning no food, cigarettes or whatever! 😢 its like punishing myself! I hate it! but cannot stop it!😢😢
I do the same thing. As a matter of fact I have no food in the house right now except a few boxes of crackers and some cheese. I must push myself past the discomfort or "embrace the suck" to grow past this. I hope you can push through as well ❤❤❤ p.s. I have cats and they eat much better than I do thanks to Amazon ❤😂 😂😂😂
@@karenr411 Oh wow, was feeling as if I was only one who did this, so sorry you do it too💜
...and yes my cat is well fed too😉(amazon is my pal too) Its as if I am on a different wavelength, I really do care but not really believing it...aaaargh! Hard to explain...
Hopefully we can push through and find some relief...good wishes to you and love to you and cats.💜x
I am sorry you struggle so much. Your anxiety is stronger than your addiction... on a bright side you will smoke less...
Finally! Someone who truly knows how it is like living with anxiety!! This completely resonates with me! Thank you so much. You're a blessing! 🙌
I was the most outgoing person. I owned Hair Salons and worked 30 years. Then I married a Psychiatrist , MD and he said I could retire. Then Covid . Then I became his caregiver and he passed away this year . I can’t seem to leave the house. Panic Attacks and I’m really mad at myself because I could travel and live and I don’t leave my house. I’m grieving.
Feel better, praying for you❤
Thanks! You speak with such clarity and humility. I appreciate your presentation of this difficult topic!❤
Thank you so much!
Dr. Scott, you are genuine and natural and good at presenting yourself well and helping others, God bless 💗
Saved to playlist for later! I can’t wait for this one! Your work is amazing.
I found you today and I like your channel. I am the overwhelmed kind. I take care of almost everything at home. I’m pretty independent, fit, but living with a narcissistic with beginning dementia man has almost destroy me. I’m over 70 and yes, I want to hear you more talking about overwhelming. Yes my anxiety is almost is a fight and flight most of the time, so I exercise often and breath. I still think I nearly touch my anxiety level. I hope I can find some more good advice with you. Thank you.
This episode is talking to me and directing me in the direction I need to go. Thank you so much.
I have C-PTSD and the worst part for me is agoraphobia. When i get nervous, i lose control of my bowels even if I'v been already. Massive challenge for me to go anywhere and do anything, it's ruined my life. So far.
You made some great points regarding the "variables", interesting, great video, thank you 👍
This hit the nail on the head. My sisters just want to be in my life. I avoid and get overwhelmed easily. I can't relax. I used to use alcohol to get over this. It helped a bit. But I stopped drinking in 2020. Im going to really work on this.
I am having a Christmas party at my house this Saturday. I am feeling anxious about and wandering why i decided to do this. I know that we need this. This past year was terrible. We lost a few family members. We need to have family gatherings that dont involve death. It will be nice to gather the family and enjoy each others company. 😊
I don’t think we need to do anything, especially things we don’t want to. Can you identify the need for the need? Can it be ok to not see family? Or maybe it is more that you can’t be yourself in front of family. Can it be ok for you to just be anxious in front of family?
Just stumbled across your channel. I find it awesome that a mental health professional has a history of experiencing what his patients experience. While I'm so sorry you have to deal with it, it is an invaluable tool for you as a doc to be able to understand what your patients are feeling and thinking. It's just not something you find often. I'd be curious to see videos on ptsd and panic disorder. I was diagnosed with both back in 2006 after a bad accident and my life basically fell apart.
You are really helping people like me to know that we aren't alone with this. Thank you so much.
Ive been researching social anxiety for over 10 years and this is the first time im hearing this type of advice. Thank you so much
I've watched so much content on psychology, and your channel really stands out. Improving mental health issues needs both mental and practical work, and usually content is about one or the other and ends up being either like a lecture, or "to-do" lists along the lines of new age "spirituality" or coaching (I don't know if that makes sense, I mean it's either like "Think this way" or "do yoga and meditation and a whole new world will reveal itself to you" and motivational wishy washy stuff that lack substance and empathy).
But somehow you give perspectives that combine academic knowledge easy to understand and practical advice simple to follow, which really motivates the viewer to do the mental work as well. (Take it from someone who is both a mental health professional and has had their fair share of mental health issues.)
Congratulations for your accomplishments and all that you do, and thank you.
Wow! Yes, that's anxiety in a nutshell.
Your points are right on. The take away for me is to go ahead and do what you're avoiding, perhaps in small dosages. Talk to that internal small child to say its ok and safe. It does take alot of patience and persevering,but I now celebrate those small victories.
Keep up the great work!
Connecting with your child self, who actually still exists at the core of your self whether you know it or not, and giving that child (you) love and care and reassurance is amazingly healing and beautiful, I only very recently realised this.
Dr Scott..please never stop these videos..i feel like i can change my life thanks to you..have had anxiety and depression for years and never understood why i do certain behaviors..u make me understand..i keep refering back to certain videos when i get lost again...i would never have gone to my own Doctor and things had got bad,,im 48 and you are my hero..thank you so much..,,most of your vidoes i feel you are talking directly to me,,,thank you from Cornwall England
Nobody has ever told me that overwhelming situations strenghthen anxiety too. That puts me in the middle and I already feel like trying something ... thank you so much!
Dr Scott you’ve done it again! Somehow managed to articulate everything that happens in my brain when I talk myself out of something that triggers my anxiety. I had never considered before that that rush of relief after dodging something actually reinforces our anxiety and shoots us in the foot! Thank you so much for this, this is something I really needed to hear and I will definitely be giving the gradual exposure strategy a go!
Thank you so much for your videos. You have such a great way of explaining things. Your personal examples create trust in the listener and give a sense of hope.
It’s insane how much we change over time it’s mind blowing to people how I can jump on stage an play music in front of any crowd but talk to girl I like or get myself to go out nnnooppppeee
What if your fear/anxiety and depression is so bad that you immediately get terrified of thinking about doing a very basic thing? For example, “I think I’ll fold the laundry now.” Or “I’m going to take a shower” and each of those thoughts is immediately followed by fear, confusion, and the freeze response. All of these thoughts and feelings happening while your rational brain keeps saying that something is wrong with you - because it is irrational to be afraid of basic tasks.
Thanks for overcoming your anxiety and making these videos to help us. I had assumed that you were a natural. All the best.
I'm so glad you managed to keep going, your content is amazing because you're not only explaining it well, but you're so so kind. Ty.
Good for you!!! I decided to put my gym shoes on while listening to this video. I've been dealing with driving anxiety now for several months and was avoiding to go. Getting there is a mid-level stressor for me so it's better that I 'bite the bullet' and go as it will benefit me in more that one way to expand my 'walls' and derive cardio help from my workout. I just found your YT channel today and have just started with CBT therapy 2 weeks ago, Thanks for your help already.
I just subscribed. I will talk myself out of going places on the weekend. I will run errands after work on Friday because I feel like I am already out. Thank you for this. You hit the nail on the head when you said it’s about avoidance and overwhelm.
True 😊 Fear is real especially in old age
I've never in my life had such fear since I turned 68.
Thank you. Just thank you.
Please know that you are helping so many people to put this harsh battle into order and relieve symptoms.
It happened with me after a car accident, ptsd grew out into general anxiety disorder, started with fear of cars and crossing the road, then developed into constant fear of natural disasters, then hypochondriac behavior and social anxiety, it consumed all spheres of my life. I ended up going out once a week, only for very urgent things, totally tensed, with a high heart rate all time down the road, until returning to my home. Anxiety always has been with me, since childhood, but after a triggered situation it grew increasingly and became horizonless. Currently working on it using cognitive behavioral methods (especially making notes about my mental states), sport, self-education about the mechanism of this condition and overcoming avoidance. It helped me a lot, but there is still a lot to work on.
Thanks, Boss.
It's been more than a little trying, this last month. I have some great people behind me, and a load of skills they taught me. Sometimes, though, the banshees get started before I'm awake even, and it's a challenge to make my inner monologue do its job.
Timely reminders like this help way beyond their measure.
You are a real gem Dr Eilers. Happy I found your channel
I just came across your channel, and after listening for a few minutes, knew I had to subscribe, and did. Your video was amazing, and so relatable. Thank you so much. Am looking forward to your next one.
Thank you this is perfect and so helpful!
I dont have words to thank you enough. Makes me cry
Great video Dr. Scott. Could you make a video about anxiety coping skills? Thanks! So happy you're getting more exposure.
You were right on today! Thanks!
You're in my head. 60 years of this... Anticipatory anxiety is my life. I did a stint with mhmr in hopes of figuring out what my malfunction was/is but I fought it tooth and nail but did accomplish some important goals. I did also learn some good coping skills, which I know I resist even though I know it will help. But I will be completely honest. You get what I go through. Just found your channel and I'm surprised at how spot on you are. Antedonia (sp?), isolation, anxiety... I do understand your concept of how to get out of this living hell. I see this way of thinking doable. I will try to push myself to the middle ground. Thanks for coming across my screen when all I wanted to do was find a way to end it all during my endless passive SI episodes. Thank you. Keep talking to me cause even though you're talking to many, I take it all very personal and strangely helpful.
A way to end it all? You mean taking your life?
Man, I can relate to that, so bloody much, as I'm too, living this torture, and I'm on the early stages of S*icidal Ideation already. Things looking bleak.
I'd give ya a hug if we were in person, and if I weren't such an anxious wreck...
Hope you never find yourself out of will, mate.
This is so helpful. Thank you very much, Dr. Scott!
Awesome! I love starting my day listening to your videos. Very grateful 😊
Dr. Scott. Your videos are so helpful! Thank you.