@@vonherrmanna yeah I totally understand what u went through as I've been too as it's been 3 years since I've seen my kids and they must've been brainwashed by now
Yup. When my oldest was 3, Ill never forget these words: " just leave daddy, no one wants you here daddy, no one loves you daddy*.....even tho I hardly ever see her, 12 years later I'm still the biggest POS in that kids eyes.
My wife did this while we were still together. I worked nights our whole marriage and she began pitting us, my children and me, against one another, threatening to wake me up to beat their butts. When I heard her doing this, we got in to a huge fight and she snuck away two days later and told everyone that I was abusive and her and my kids were living in constant fear of me.
I unfortunately understand this dynamic unjustly instilling fear against you in the children when usually you are the parent who provides the most love and affection to the child. It’s insidious and abuse do what you can to prevent it from continuing. Therapy can help
If I was in a situation where an ex told my child that I was too cheap to pay for their summer camp my response would be that "Mom takes the money that should go to your summer camp so that she can live alone and chase bad men." I mean, hey, it would be the cold, hard truth. Divorce is expensive. It always means less money is available for the child.
My ex has done everything you said including withholding Doctors appointments, telling them that I was cheated on by my ex girlfriend 30 years ago, which I told my ex before we got married. She has stolen from me and now has taught my adult son to spy on me and he also has stolen from me. All I can say is she won, I no longer see my son due to his behaviour. That is the lowest of lows. I hope god forgives her for her sake.
Going through that much broken trust, doubt, fear and social turmoil should be seen for the evil, predatory, premeditated abuse that it is, man. And the fact that you are capable of undergoing this and still correctly utilizing the healing which simple forgiveness always brings is nothing short of admirable and amazing.
Agreed! Still fighting to see my two teens son & daughter and it’s been almost 4 years God with us all still suffering this evil “Parental Alienation” from our evil ex spouses This is also Narcissistic abuse from the Alienating Parent ❤️🤘🇺🇸✝️
my ex wife alienated my child against me in more subtle ways. I tried to keep my daughter out of the court proceedings because she was only 7 years old at the time and she never should have had to go through that stress. It used to be the courts, judge , would keep the children out of the proceedings but not anymore. My young daughter told me " mom needs me dad, you are strong , but mom needs me" how could anyone put that pressure on a young child and make them responsible for the parents mental and emotional health. My ex lied to the judge and made up an illness to take my daughter and move across the country to take her away from me. My heart is broken, she is 20 years old now and has nothing to do with me. When my daighter was young we were inseperable, I was her main caregiver and her mother has alienated her against me. I do not know why GOD would have allowed this to happen, I pray everyday for reconciliation .
When my teenage son started having mental health issues I was completely shut out of the discussion. It became a family secret right in front of my face.
My husband did this. When they were with him, week on week off, he wouldn't tell me anything about school. He also refused to take our daughter to the hospital when she was having a severe allergic reaction. Neither of our kids let him in their lives now. They are both in their 30s.
it is astounding that the bad mouthing parent does not comprehend that the child ABSOLUTELY will pick up on the fact that one parent is bad moutihng, and the other is not. so don't do that, the child will trust you more automatically.
I don't rely on my ex for anything. I do activities and have an entire separate life for my kids when they are with me. I taught my kids that me and mommy have different rules.
My daughter is a grown woman and she had nothing to do with me. We never spent 5 min together, I have always been the bad guy, and the mother and I got divorced over her sneaking men in the house while i was working, but she likes her mother better who never cared about her, but I'm the bad guy, so I don't care if I ever see her again now, there will never be nothing between us anymore, I use to worry but now I can care less, i eas always there when my daughter needed me, not anymore because she doesn't care who she uses as long as she can step on people to get ahead in life. Now I hope I never see her again.
My children were taught to hate me and have done things to me that let me know they don’t even view me as human worthy of love and respect so I understand how you feel. Sorry you had to experience this
My ex wife did all this stuff over a period of years and even while we were married. Noe I have three adult daughters who haven't spoken to me in 4 years. I have never been to one high school graduation of theirs. She won everything and still is a miserable loser.
@archiepilcher6727 sadly, yes. The kid still has to go through the manipulation, and the other parent still has to deal with the consequences while it's happening, but sometimes they do choose the good parent in the end
@PurpleChurch not always, but it helps. Just trying is usually enough for a kid to pick up on it, but some toxic parents are legitimately dangerous to even interact with for both innocent parties. Any parent in that position obviously wants full custody, and I've tried to not be gender specific, but in a lot of these cases, the courts are heavily weighted against the father. Abusive men are usually handled quite quickly, comparatively speaking. When your best course of action is to hope greetings cards don't trigger an abusive episode, options are thin on the ground. It's basically a hostage situation. And then there's everything between those extremes. All any of us can do is hope we're smart enough not to get with a complete psycho, and work out the rest later
Your very lucky if any of your kids wake up to this abuse,most kids behave exactly the same as the abuser it becomes normal to them, because it benefits them
My relationship was great. 4 years ago the kids started accusing me of the stuff he does, my kids refuse to talk to me. The last 2 years I had to flee living in my car with my youngest who’s not his because he called 160 false cps reports. The only time the kids come in is digging for info on my location, at first I told them but they are working for him now and I can’t trust them. I’m dying without my kids. To go from everything ok and they always called me to get them out of his place because he IS abusive, he tried killing me in 2003, i just think it’s ridiculous that all of a sudden my kids became enemies with no warning. I don’t even know what happened. Heartbreaking
I lost my children after leaving an abusive relationship so I can definitely relate. He used the children, our daughter especially to spy on me, then called CPS to report me. I couldn’t even go to the laundry room downstairs without being accused of leaving the children alone and in danger. My children also treat me like an enemy to this day and they are in their 30’s. It’s very heartbreaking. I’m sorry you have gone through this 🙏🏾
My 1st narcissistic ex said Infront of my kids your Dad doesn't love us anymore, that's sick,my daughter and son turned against me because of her twisted lie's,
Both my children were turned against me after leaving the abusive relationship. He told our children I didn’t love them or I wouldn’t have broke up the family. He alienated me and abused them. 20+ years later and still waiting for them to come around. Its really sickening to see how much damage a narcissist is willing to cause for revenge
I admit I don’t have the answers on how to counter since everything I have done in the last 20 + years has not worked for me but I continue to try 🤷🏽♀️.
These mothers weaponize their children to hurt fathers, but the process does the most damage to the children. If you care about your child, find a way to work together, be professional. Put your child’s interests first.
I heard this from friend, thia was happening for years very sad , hope and prey for people this , actually its kind sick if ask me , could feel his pain
Waiting for my daughter to realize that her mom isn't well liked by most, is extremely negative, and the way she treats my daughter isn't normal. All the stuff in this vid is happening to me.
I know what im gonna be looking forward too, i dont get any info about my kids and she sees me as a bad father, she denies me access. I gave her 3 weeks notice to see them, following court orders (sapposed to be 24 hours notice), i was working out of town, i couldnt take them because suddenly her mom had them for that weekend. Happened more than a few times.
Not forwarding Christmas and birthday gifts. Not being allowed to call on the phone. Mom will also get the teachers, doctors, law enforcement, etc. in on the alienation.
Her info could go 2 ways...giving other moms instruction on how to do this OR just speaking facts. IDK..it seems most woman go to the same school when it comes to this exact topic. They pretty much all do the same thing. And the absolute crazy part is there is no consequences for the mother years later. I don't believe the kids rip into their mother's asses for doing that to them and their fathers and then just abandon the mom for doing that. But whatever.. we should all think of the reward as peace in our lives. Let the kids deal with the screwed up moms. Then they can turn out like them..just how the moms wanted and the cycle will just repeat itself. We have did our time. Time for the next batch of chumps. 😅
This is my ex-wife to the letter, and she wonders why our marriage disintegrated. Haven't seen my son now in 4 years. Dumbest thing I ever did was get married. I will never make that mistake again. MGTOW is the only way for a man to go.
@@EuniqCustomCreations I can't afford too fight any more. By the time I pay taxes and child support I'm lucky if I have any income left. The last court case cost $25K just to get it to court.
Believe me I have thought about doing the same as an alienated mother now almost 30 years but he doesn’t deserve the energy l left him not my children for a reason he can’t hide for long. I’m sure his current partner knows how he is which is why she stayed. Always remember In seeking revenge, we risk becoming the very thing we despise. Be the best human you can be. That’s the greatest revenge!
@@Apopateus I think it happens a bit more often than that. It is hard to fight against big money and lawyers, when you work for a living. He's brainwashing the child, so sad.
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Love whom you love mildly, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate mildly, perhaps he will become your beloved someday.”
Guys, marry another woman (choose carefully this time). Have a lovely family. Don't worry about the ex and her child. if The child is worthy he or she will find you and seek the truth. If they are unworthy, you have your whole other family to enjoy your life with You don't need one kid, that kid NEEDS a biological father. Always remember that. If the vindictive ex makes it impossible and wants to play games, remove yourself from that rigged game and start fresh 😉
My ex alienated my son from me doing some of this. One other thing she did was to always refer to the kids as “her” kids. Never “our” kids.
@@vonherrmanna yeah I totally understand what u went through as I've been too as it's been 3 years since I've seen my kids and they must've been brainwashed by now
My ex started by forcing my children to call me by my first name
@@EuniqCustomCreations oh no
@@ychunks3710 he totally erased me from their lives literally. They view the children as objects/possessions
@@EuniqCustomCreationsso sorry to hear that, it's the same that happened to me
Yup. When my oldest was 3, Ill never forget these words: " just leave daddy, no one wants you here daddy, no one loves you daddy*.....even tho I hardly ever see her, 12 years later I'm still the biggest POS in that kids eyes.
My daughter is ten and I'm in the middle of that boat ride now. I'm so sorry, brother. It'll eat you alive.
Mom couched them to say that. There is a special place in hell for people who manipulate children to hurt their ex
My wife did this while we were still together. I worked nights our whole marriage and she began pitting us, my children and me, against one another, threatening to wake me up to beat their butts. When I heard her doing this, we got in to a huge fight and she snuck away two days later and told everyone that I was abusive and her and my kids were living in constant fear of me.
I unfortunately understand this dynamic unjustly instilling fear against you in the children when usually you are the parent who provides the most love and affection to the child. It’s insidious and abuse do what you can to prevent it from continuing. Therapy can help
If I was in a situation where an ex told my child that I was too cheap to pay for their summer camp my response would be that "Mom takes the money that should go to your summer camp so that she can live alone and chase bad men." I mean, hey, it would be the cold, hard truth.
Divorce is expensive. It always means less money is available for the child.
Exactly!!! Most of these moms just want the single life
Yeah , but if you did , some judge would make you pay for it. thats how that krap plays out.
@hamilcarbarca8659 I would gladly pay for my child to know the truth about their mother in such a situation.
My ex has done everything you said including withholding Doctors appointments, telling them that I was cheated on by my ex girlfriend 30 years ago, which I told my ex before we got married. She has stolen from me and now has taught my adult son to spy on me and he also has stolen from me. All I can say is she won, I no longer see my son due to his behaviour. That is the lowest of lows. I hope god forgives her for her sake.
Going through that much broken trust, doubt, fear and social turmoil should be seen for the evil, predatory, premeditated abuse that it is, man.
And the fact that you are capable of undergoing this and still correctly utilizing the healing which simple forgiveness always brings is nothing short of admirable and amazing.
I apologize that you had to go through this, but admire you for sticking around as long as you did for your child. RESPECT.
The with holding of information usually begins before the "wife" starts the divorce proceedings.................
with holding
Yep, totally true...
Agreed! Still fighting to see my two teens son & daughter and it’s been almost 4 years
God with us all still suffering this evil “Parental Alienation” from our evil ex spouses
This is also Narcissistic abuse from the Alienating Parent
❤️🤘🇺🇸✝️
my ex wife alienated my child against me in more subtle ways. I tried to keep my daughter out of the court proceedings because she was only 7 years old at the time and she never should have had to go through that stress. It used to be the courts, judge , would keep the children out of the proceedings but not anymore. My young daughter told me " mom needs me dad, you are strong , but mom needs me" how could anyone put that pressure on a young child and make them responsible for the parents mental and emotional health. My ex lied to the judge and made up an illness to take my daughter and move across the country to take her away from me. My heart is broken, she is 20 years old now and has nothing to do with me. When my daighter was young we were inseperable, I was her main caregiver and her mother has alienated her against me. I do not know why GOD would have allowed this to happen, I pray everyday for reconciliation .
When my teenage son started having mental health issues I was completely shut out of the discussion. It became a family secret right in front of my face.
My husband did this. When they were with him, week on week off, he wouldn't tell me anything about school. He also refused to take our daughter to the hospital when she was having a severe allergic reaction. Neither of our kids let him in their lives now. They are both in their 30s.
it is astounding that the bad mouthing parent does not comprehend that the child ABSOLUTELY will pick up on the fact that one parent is bad moutihng, and the other is not. so don't do that, the child will trust you more automatically.
I don't rely on my ex for anything. I do activities and have an entire separate life for my kids when they are with me. I taught my kids that me and mommy have different rules.
My daughter is a grown woman and she had nothing to do with me. We never spent 5 min together, I have always been the bad guy, and the mother and I got divorced over her sneaking men in the house while i was working, but she likes her mother better who never cared about her, but I'm the bad guy, so I don't care if I ever see her again now, there will never be nothing between us anymore, I use to worry but now I can care less, i eas always there when my daughter needed me, not anymore because she doesn't care who she uses as long as she can step on people to get ahead in life. Now I hope I never see her again.
My children were taught to hate me and have done things to me that let me know they don’t even view me as human worthy of love and respect so I understand how you feel. Sorry you had to experience this
@@EuniqCustomCreations Same here. Even my friends are alarmed at what has happened. Pure evil.
@@Hairyderriere Pure evil is right I’m sorry you experienced this
One sided phone conversations where the child only hears Wamoan side
My ex wife did all this stuff over a period of years and even while we were married. Noe I have three adult daughters who haven't spoken to me in 4 years. I have never been to one high school graduation of theirs. She won everything and still is a miserable loser.
I feel like this should be considered spousal abuse....
and child abuse. because it is.
💯 happened to my husband. His daughter walked away from him aged 17 it's been 6 years.
There's also every chance the kid will realise what's happening and disown the manipulative parent.
Maybe, but that process will take something like 15-20 years
@archiepilcher6727 sadly, yes. The kid still has to go through the manipulation, and the other parent still has to deal with the consequences while it's happening, but sometimes they do choose the good parent in the end
The other parent also has to constantly fight to dispel the accusations. To even do this you have to be a constant in the child’s life.
@PurpleChurch not always, but it helps. Just trying is usually enough for a kid to pick up on it, but some toxic parents are legitimately dangerous to even interact with for both innocent parties. Any parent in that position obviously wants full custody, and I've tried to not be gender specific, but in a lot of these cases, the courts are heavily weighted against the father. Abusive men are usually handled quite quickly, comparatively speaking.
When your best course of action is to hope greetings cards don't trigger an abusive episode, options are thin on the ground. It's basically a hostage situation.
And then there's everything between those extremes. All any of us can do is hope we're smart enough not to get with a complete psycho, and work out the rest later
Your very lucky if any of your kids wake up to this abuse,most kids behave exactly the same as the abuser it becomes normal to them, because it benefits them
My relationship was great. 4 years ago the kids started accusing me of the stuff he does, my kids refuse to talk to me. The last 2 years I had to flee living in my car with my youngest who’s not his because he called 160 false cps reports. The only time the kids come in is digging for info on my location, at first I told them but they are working for him now and I can’t trust them. I’m dying without my kids. To go from everything ok and they always called me to get them out of his place because he IS abusive, he tried killing me in 2003, i just think it’s ridiculous that all of a sudden my kids became enemies with no warning. I don’t even know what happened. Heartbreaking
I lost my children after leaving an abusive relationship so I can definitely relate. He used the children, our daughter especially to spy on me, then called CPS to report me. I couldn’t even go to the laundry room downstairs without being accused of leaving the children alone and in danger. My children also treat me like an enemy to this day and they are in their 30’s. It’s very heartbreaking. I’m sorry you have gone through this 🙏🏾
@@EuniqCustomCreations 😔 so sad but similar. Sending hugs love and strength ❤️❤️❤️ definitely sucks.
@ Definitely does and send it right back to you 🥰 Thank you 🙏🏾
Same here. One day all loving and engaged. The next, utter silence and coaches hate.
My 1st narcissistic ex said Infront of my kids your Dad doesn't love us anymore, that's sick,my daughter and son turned against me because of her twisted lie's,
Both my children were turned against me after leaving the abusive relationship. He told our children I didn’t love them or I wouldn’t have broke up the family. He alienated me and abused them. 20+ years later and still waiting for them to come around. Its really sickening to see how much damage a narcissist is willing to cause for revenge
@EuniqCustomCreations good luck with your kids,mines turned out worse than their narcissistic mother even more demonic than her
I suggest you should also make a video on "how to counter parental alienation".
That would be useful for your audience.
I admit I don’t have the answers on how to counter since everything I have done in the last 20 + years has not worked for me but I continue to try 🤷🏽♀️.
These mothers weaponize their children to hurt fathers, but the process does the most damage to the children.
If you care about your child, find a way to work together, be professional. Put your child’s interests first.
This is the western woman American way this is standard and they surely will act accordingly
💯💯💯
This shit hurt so bad smh i miss my kid
Me too 😢 I’m so sorry
All of this is true!!!
I heard this from friend, thia was happening for years very sad , hope and prey for people this , actually its kind sick if ask me , could feel his pain
Waiting for my daughter to realize that her mom isn't well liked by most, is extremely negative, and the way she treats my daughter isn't normal. All the stuff in this vid is happening to me.
This happened to me...
Sounds like my ex wife and 16 year old daughter. Sad and hurts
What is sad is finding out how many people actually go through this…sorry you’re going through it
@ I agree. Just gotta keep showing the kids that you are consistent with your actions, words, and that they know you will always love them.
All of it.
I know what im gonna be looking forward too, i dont get any info about my kids and she sees me as a bad father, she denies me access. I gave her 3 weeks notice to see them, following court orders (sapposed to be 24 hours notice), i was working out of town, i couldnt take them because suddenly her mom had them for that weekend. Happened more than a few times.
Not forwarding Christmas and birthday gifts. Not being allowed to call on the phone. Mom will also get the teachers, doctors, law enforcement, etc. in on the alienation.
This video could be 49.255 hours long.
What about a 10 year old daughter saying you’ve been replaced?
I have been there I’m sorry for your loss
@ Thank you, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
Sarah you are amazing where do you get your knowledge
Her info could go 2 ways...giving other moms instruction on how to do this OR just speaking facts. IDK..it seems most woman go to the same school when it comes to this exact topic. They pretty much all do the same thing. And the absolute crazy part is there is no consequences for the mother years later. I don't believe the kids rip into their mother's asses for doing that to them and their fathers and then just abandon the mom for doing that. But whatever.. we should all think of the reward as peace in our lives. Let the kids deal with the screwed up moms. Then they can turn out like them..just how the moms wanted and the cycle will just repeat itself. We have did our time. Time for the next batch of chumps. 😅
Internally, and projecting it externally. It's sad, but at least we get useful information.
I wish she heals.
I think they need to be prosecuted to the fullest extent for turning the children against you
I agree!!!
Under what law?
This is my ex-wife to the letter, and she wonders why our marriage disintegrated. Haven't seen my son now in 4 years.
Dumbest thing I ever did was get married. I will never make that mistake again. MGTOW is the only way for a man to go.
@@jasa9707 don’t give up fighting to see your son
@@EuniqCustomCreations I can't afford too fight any more. By the time I pay taxes and child support I'm lucky if I have any income left. The last court case cost $25K just to get it to court.
@@jasa9707 I can relate… *sigh*
I’m an alienated father 💔💔and im willing to put my ex’s name and city out there so people know how horrible she is
Believe me I have thought about doing the same as an alienated mother now almost 30 years but he doesn’t deserve the energy l left him not my children for a reason he can’t hide for long. I’m sure his current partner knows how he is which is why she stayed. Always remember In seeking revenge, we risk becoming the very thing we despise. Be the best human you can be. That’s the greatest revenge!
Ex’s should make fun of their ex’s choices…..they were one once!
Fathers do this crap too
I am proof of this, my ex alienated me from my children using these tactics and worse
This goes both ways though,sometimes it's not the mother doing this, it's the father.
In my case it was the father doing this
99 out of 100 times though, the child stays with mother after the divorce.
@@Apopateus I think it happens a bit more often than that. It is hard to fight against big money and lawyers, when you work for a living. He's brainwashing the child, so sad.
My brothers ex is just like those women
Every wife all the time regardless.
Rose colored glasses..
Short summary - don't get married
My dad was a vicious narcissist and i am glad he is gone
Unfortunately mine is still here and continues to wreak havoc 😫
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Love whom you love mildly, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate mildly, perhaps he will become your beloved someday.”
Guys, marry another woman (choose carefully this time). Have a lovely family. Don't worry about the ex and her child. if The child is worthy he or she will find you and seek the truth. If they are unworthy, you have your whole other family to enjoy your life with
You don't need one kid, that kid NEEDS a biological father. Always remember that. If the vindictive ex makes it impossible and wants to play games, remove yourself from that rigged game and start fresh 😉
Meanwhile, Islamic fathers laugh.
A pro-feminist government and Justice system leads to fathers being excluded from their paternal role.
Women talk shit and win.