God this is so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so relatable. I swear to god NOBODY talks about how just doing the thing where youre eating the "right" foods, veg, high protein foods, etc, that are supposed to be "filling" enough that you dont need to stuff with carbs later, that youre still just HUNGRY. Like, ACTUALLY fucking hungry. And every nutritionist is like...nooo, eating those high protein high nutrient foods stops cravings! It literally fucking DOESNT. And SAME with the intuitive eating!!!! My body literally wants to intuitively eat MORE. Not everyones food intuition (or whatever) is the same. And EVERYONE in the fitness world is gaslighting you about it, ALL. THE. TIME.
What we resist, persists. It’s almost never ever about the foods nor our looks/weight. If we lack comfort, love, nourishing relationships or purpose in life, it can literally feel like physical hunger. We must ask ourselves: what am I *actually* hungry for in life? The more we enjoy life, the less interest we find in eating. It isn’t simple, but the journey doesn’t begin with fixing your relationship with certain foods or amounts of foods - the journey truly begins within! ❤️
I lack all of the above. I'm a single Mum, aged 38, work part time but have no social life. I'm lonely. I have no friends, only work colleagues. I don't have a purpose or goal in life. It's a vicious circle I wish I could break. I don't want to be the way I am anymore. I agree with everything you have said. The binge is filling a hole that I cannot fulfill 😔
this is so true. now that i am hyperfocused on losing weight, my scale started going high every day. starvation during the day, binge eating due to anxiety caused by the restrictions at night.
I was feeling very sad, but relieved, through the description of what basically looks like my life.. until you said “and there she is at age 32…”. And I started balling my eyes. I’m about to be 32, and the life so possessed with food control is absolutely exhausting me.. thank you for knowing I’m not alone and I’m sorry that you and anyone else ever had to feel this way.❤
Binge eating is stressing me out SO MUCH. During the morning and midday I DON'T have any cravings but the later it gets, (usually starts within the late afternoon) the more I crave. I actually give myself permission to eat a piece of chocolate or some ice cream but then after dinner, about 2 hours later, the devil comes out. I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT DAMN SUGAR. CANDY.... JUNK... BUT NOTHING HEALTHY. I really wanna drop some pounds. Not that I'm too heavy or so, but I wanna look more defined and I wanna feel better mentally. It feels so bad having to battle with these aching thoughts all the time, everyday. The binging actually started with the beginning of covid, I got bored as most people did and late in the night I ate candy. Everyday. So now, even when life is normal again, I binge and binge because it's became a damn habit... I'm quite happy I'm still skinny, gained not too much, but still a bit. I actually start with allowing myself one to two cheat days a week, to start off slowely and not all at once. Hope it works someday.
eating 3 meals a day with some snacks in between really helped my cravings and binge eating, instead of focusing on how much I'm eating, I now focus on how much is gonna make me full and satisfied and actually fuel me
thank you, Rachael. thank you. thank you. That story is literally me. The damn Chashew and "healthy food binges" my whole route, and now I am here. Thank you for giving me the chance to maybe stop binging a few years earlier than Emily. It helps so much to know that I am not alone. I can't currently afford coaching, but thank you for sharing some of your experiences on this platform so I can support you with a sub, a like, and a comment
Thank you for your kind words. I am so glad that you found comfort and hope in this. Please do note that I am doing my level best to make help accessible to all. I can't make my coaching free but I am working hard to bring out really amazing payment plans. Obviously only if it would be helpful to you, you can sign up here to stay updated about options: rachaelwrigley.com/programme-waitlist-sign-up/ Otherwise it's a pleasure to have you here on this channel ❤️ Thank you for taking the time to comment x
I LOVE this video. The part where she said if food is the only thing you have to look forward to in your day then why would you ever stop eating resonated with me heavily. I feel like I have been bingeing a lot currently at work and home because it’s the most exciting part of my day. Unfortunately I have had nothing else to look forward too:(
I'm 38 years old and have recently been diagnosed with binge eating disorder. I don't want to be this way anymore. I quit sugar from my diet as that's all I was binging on and burst into tears at your video because now I am binge eating everything else. I am upset you're fully booked and have put my name down on your waitlist. But I worry I'll be too far gone. I am extremely stressed. I haven't had a period for 4 years and I need to be strong for my daughter. I really hope I get to speak to you soon.
Years ago a therapist told me that you if you go through hardships in life, it is impossible to put yourself into more hardships with dieting. The problem is that we never accept it and we keep trying and trying and fooling ourselves every time.
i believe that in my mind, letting go of my food addiction would be letting go of the tight control i have over myself. The weight, the bingeing, the moodswings from the sugar - are all stopping me from moving forward with my life and exploring myself and my sexuality, of being less socially anxious etc. I think I'm scared.
I am SO glad to have found you! I am not a binge eater, but very much an emotional eater. Up and down 15 - 20 lbs all my life. Getting so very tired of it. Been on every diet under the sun. And just want to have a normal relationship with food and keep the weight off. I will be calling you.
This was me as well… I discovered i started binging to avoid dealing with emotion,trying to fix it eating less next day made it worse ad worse.Journey to recovery started at 33. I am 37 now and I still have some work to do. The hardest part for me was admitting i had a problem. Being always on the slim side ( due to high metabolism i guess,) even if my weight has fluctuated a lot based on the binges frequencies (usually + or - 10kg at cicle) ,no one ever noticed or could acknowledge my struggles, so i kept it a secret for years and definitely made it worse. It’s been 2 years now since my last binge (i am so proud of my progresses and happy) I dont avoid food categories or fast after a binge (and that made all the difference), i also eat at all times of the day, following my hunger, i know express my feelings out loud, i am not a people pleaser anymore, but I find myself still having trouble of letting go to some “food rules”, for example eating carbs by themselves. So i have this to keep working on, I realize that i still think at food more than I would like to. One step at a time. Thank you for your amazing content. Sharing is caring. Send you some love and appreciation
Your channel lit a bulb in my head that was previously there, but dormant and not clicking. I knew in the back of my mind that mindset and relationship to food was why I struggled with my weight and eating and others seemed to manage it effortlessly, but I didn’t really understand that on a deep emotional level. Your description of your client reminds me so much of where I’ve been for a decade; trying to maintain a body shape through the same tired methods, and wondering why I couldn’t stick to it. I’ve realized I need to face the sense of loss I feel when I imagine not binge eating etc, and how that’s connected to many unmet needs in myself. I don’t really binge eat anymore, but those unconscious, food focused moments and overeating are becoming more apparent to me. Thank you so much for these videos, they’re helping me unpack a lifetime of unhealthy attitudes towards my body and how I fuel it.
I was really scared you were going to suggest intuitive eating. I’m so obsessed with food I would “intuitively” continue to binge and eat tons of sweets and fast food. I’m hopeful that I will be able to stop this.
Okay, wow. This is incredible Rachael! You basically described me perfectly.... Your channel is life changing. Please keep doing this for all of us! Lots of love xxx
Rachael, I have been dealing with BED for 30 years. I’ve gone through therapy for it many times but, the way you talk about and explain it makes more sense to me than all of the ED therapists I’ve seen over the decades. Thank you. Please continue to keep putting out content for all of us gals who you really resonate with. ❤😊
Woooow every single word, thought and situation is what I am and have been going through all my life. So relatable, thank you so much. It makes me feel like I’m not alone or crazy for feeling and thinking like this
44 years dieting , obsessed with food what I can and can't have , Start diets weekly then binge , then restrict again,, am absolutely in an all time low 😢,, from the age of ten iv been ashamed of my body, , doctor sent me to a weight loss clinic last week they offered me surgery , no way I'm doing that to my body ,, also injections, also no way iv heard what harm it can do ,, so here I am about to start Another day of what I can and cannot eat 😢😢😢, I'm exhausted from it all
New subscriber here. I never realized I had an eating disorder until just a few days ago- I wanted to start a weight loss challenge and the coach discouraged anyone from participating if they had an eating disorder so I got curious. and now this video is the 2nd video I've watched of yours and this is me. So many things are finally starting to make sense. I've given birth 4 times and looking back, those pregnancies were the only "break" I' had from it. I was so nauseated and 🤢 sick it forced me only "eat for fuel" and not to fill a void. Ironically, every time I was expecting it was like the opposite of everybody else getting fat being prego lol. I would suddenly arrive at my healthy BMI weight. At least for the first 2 trimesters until baby got fat. I hated throwing up, but I loved the freedom of not obsessing about food. Is that weird?
Wow Racheal thank you so so much 4 this Video! I hope you grow so big some day so more people See this! I am Emily, I tried everything that she tried, coming from anorexia and a really controlling eating pattern and I am so sure that many more people can and it is just so an eye opening moment when you realize there is hope! Thank you so much!!!
Thank you!! TW Could you maybe do a video about having the urge to purge after everything you eat, I just hate this feeling to have something in my stomach but I also want to eat and taste all the food 🤯
You are such a wise and beautiful spirit. I am 66 and have learned so much from you already and I just discovered you a few days ago. I assume there is info on your website about online program so I will research that. Thank you so much for sharing the “ gift of life” you have discovered that is there for all of us. Kathy
OHH MY GOD I AM SORRY BUT WHEN YOU SAID THE OATMEAL WITH THE PEANUT BUTTER AND FRUIT AND THE LARGE AMOUNTS OF CASHEWS. this person and me are quite the same in a lot of this and it’s crazy how specific in similarity it gets
I was thinking about that yesterday! I’ve been SO hungry these past few days. It always happens during PMS and I’m sure hormones are contributing to my appetite but I had this new thought/realisation since watching more of your videos. During that time of the month I usually feel pretty incapable. I feel slow, tired, unfit, I feel more anxiety and I feel not at all on top of my life things. Basically I feel like I’m not “surviving” very well, on a very deep and instinctive, monkey-mind level. Could it be that my brain turns to food in excess because it wants to increase my sense of “survival”? By saying “we’re good, we’re safe, there’s all this food here”. Dunno! But when I decided to do some simple life tasks and chores that made me feel a little more on top of my game, the hunger reduced significantly and I started feeling a lot less obsessive about it, so maybe there’s something to it.
That's really interesting! Thank you for sharing. It's not for me to comment on as to why or how. But I am really happy for you that you have had some positive shifts and you're finding more answers to help you in your relationship with food ❤️ For me lots of carbs and self care and taking things easy and serotonin boosting activities help massively.
@@RachaelWrigley thanks so much for responding 😊 ahhh yes to serotonin boosters I really neglect activities such as socialising and being outside during pms and I think those would probably help me out of anxiety a bit more! Thanks for sharing your strategies with me 😊 lotsa love and thanks for what you do
1It’s like you’re telling my life story in this video…… it hit home. I need help! I’m 49, and have never had a good relationship with food and I have no idea where or how to start and I desperately need to lose weight!
I've had issues binging for a long time but one thing I've noticed is that scheduling and eating at specific meal times helps a lot. I think I developed BED as a young child and it has just worsened over time, starting worsening after I started puberty, and is a daily issue as years pass, I just pack on more pounds. 😢 I have a handful of mental health issues including PTSD, major depression, anxiety/some agoraphobia, and cyclothymia. Possibly ADHD. I would like to stop binging but it's been happening for decades and the scheduled meals are the only thing that has given any relief. However, I can't seem to get on and stay on any kind of schedule yet. Self sabotage all the time. I'm 38 and I'm so tired of this being a problem.
Damn that's the second video I've watched of you now and the story with all the different trys and the emotions etc was also 100% my journey so far. Apart from the age.
I'm 19 and I've been in the process of enlisting in the military for the past few months. I've been trying SO HARD to lose some weight before I go because I can't stand the thought of being the biggest girl there. I've had binge eating and bulimia for the last 5 years now and I'm terrified to tell my recruiter or anyone around me about it. I've tried to open up to some people about it in the past (family, friends, therapists), and I even went to overeaters anonymous for a couple weeks. At the end of the day nothing worked, and I just feel so incredibly lost and hopeless, like I'm beating a dead horse every single day. I train hard too, and I want so desperately to look the part of a fit athletic person, but I can't stop binging. I can't stick to my eating plans for more than a few days anymore and I'm so fucking sick of feeling like this disgusting, defective person. My biggest fear is staying stuck like this for the rest of my life. I already ruined my adolescence over it, and I don't want to lose my 20s too.
I struggled and binged so much in my life that now I have lost the feeling of appetite. Im never hungry, but I love good food and eating. So I'm kust like Hey im not hungry but it's time to eat right. It makes the intuitive eating so difficult to practice
Sometimes it can be so hard to see other people in your own family or friends cycle no matter what happens it’s like your the only one that’s actually to afraid of eating anything out when your overthinking about things that’s restrictive to you
I'm so happy I've found your channel, I've been struggling so much with disordered eating and have just started therapy for this. I've watched a few of your videos already and I am finding your guidance so helpful!
im on this journey! it upsets me that people don't take me serious because im skinny and always have been. when they see me eating they look at me surprised and that's the "proof"
Your channel is so engaging and informative, and I appreciate your long-term mindset! But I am wondering, would you consider making a video to watch for when a person feels like binge eating in the moment? Or some advice to "snap out of it"?
Thank you I am so glad that it is helpful ❤️ Absolutely, I cover this a lot. I don't have plans to make a detailed video about this for youtube as this is such important guidance and wouldn't be fair to those that pay for my program to have access to it. What I will say is that in my experience, the urge to binge eat is not something that happens 'to' us (although is definitely feels like it!). I have found time and time again that we create the urge to binge eat not just through deprivation but through what I call 'mind games' that we play on ourselves that make us feel checked out, out of control, urgent and chaotic. In my experience, these mind games are simple to stop once you're aware of them and the urge to binge eat goes away. I don't believe in 'managing' binge eating for the rest of our life. It can completely go away. That's the rule, not the exception when I'm working with women. These 'mind games' are different to 'emotional eating' although there can be some overlap. Someone may start eating for emotional reasons, say, but then typically the 'mind games' kick in to spur that in to a binge. So 'in the moment' , drawing your attention to what mind games you're playing on yourself that spur the binge on is often effective enough at dissipating the urge (in my experience). Without ever telling yourself to 'not eat' (let's face it, that doesn't work!). If you want to learn more about this you are very welcome to put your email down here, it would be lovely to have you: rachaelwrigley.com/programme-waitlist-sign-up/ ❤️
@@RachaelWrigley Thank you for your response! I absolutely understand your boundaries and wanting to create/enhance value for your clients. These are very helpful insights. It is comforting and inspiring to know that it is possible to heal our relationship with food and not be left in a lifelong state of "partial remission."
When will extreme hunger stop? I tried to let myself go and just eat everything I want to eat (after binging and restricting for years), and I'm not rly binging but im eating A LOT. And how do I even know it's extreme hunger or me just secretly wanting to eat all of that.
Also I'm not binging but I'm eating a lot and I think because my stomach is not used to so much food she really is in distress? Im having random cramps and then random hunger pangs its really confusing😅😅
I relapsed on binge eating, but now I’m relapsing on the restriction, yeah I’m losing weight but I know how the cycle goes.I need to find the happy medium SO BAD.
I cried so much watching this video! Every.single.point. hit home! I am 32 and just finished binging when I saw this video. I need help! Please put me on your wait list!
There is so much hope don't worry! I see women get a healthy relationship with food week after week. Did you sign up to the waitlist? Here is the link again:rachaelwrigley.com/waitlist-sign-up/ It would be lovely to have you ❤️
Hi Denise, you can sign up to that here it would be lovely to have you. I'll be taking on new applicants very soon rachaelwrigley.com/waitlist-sign-up/
I don't work 1:1 with men at the moment but men are very welcome to go on to my program. It is designed for women but of course 95% of it is the same regardless. If you're interested in that, go to my waitlist (in description) and sign up. Spaces are now open for my program. You can book in a call to discuss enrolment there. Hope this helps!
Thank you for this amazing video . I have found out that I have this problem even with healthy sweets ): but I am sure that I’ll find my healthy relationship with food 🙏🏼
I cant do this anymore!!! I can't keep going on like I have been doing but I'm addicted to sugar and I can't seem to eat nutritional foods! Ive already given myself type 2 diabetes and I'm on the path to an early grave! I'm not sure what to do!
How strange! It’s working on our end but sorry you’re having trouble. I am fully booked right now but taking more calls soon. Feel free to email us support@shethrives.co.uk to discuss options. Speak soon!
I will find a reason to celebrate with food. My husband worked some overtime last week and got his paycheck today. Guess who had a binge? Not my husband!!
Hi there, thank you for your enquiry. We will be re-opening spaces for the Binge to Balance program in time for new years. You can head here to see if it's a good fit for you and your needs: shethrives.co.uk/binge-to-balance-program
Rachel, thank you very much for your videos, they really helped me to increase awarness of the times I want to binge and sometimes I can even stop myself and realize what I am actually craving for and substituting the joy of having it with food, but what can I do if I tried so many times to fix the situation that is happening in my life outside of eating, but it never works out and I just fall down again? I understand that you have a course for that and that actually fixing problems outside of nutrition is not the thing you are specializing in, but maybe you have the answer, so I just decided to try to leave a comment.
Hi, George. Thank you for your comment. I'm afraid I don't fully understand what you mean. If you recognise the bigger picture and need help with what is happening in your life outside of food because you can't find the answers on your own I would always recommend reaching out to a professional. In regards to the course, very little of what I do with clients is nutrition based. We spend very little talking about food and more about you and your life as a whole. Struggling with food usually has little to do with food itself. We move through what has been proven countless times to be helpful in a step by step way. That being said if you need very specific help for one specific life obstacle, naturally specialised help may be more suitable alongside a program such as this or instead of xx
@@RachaelWrigley thank you for your reply, Rachel, I appreciate it! Yes, you are right, I agree with you, I guess I really have to start taking this more seriously and reaching out to people that can help🙏☺️
but what do you do when you have such a big and large appetite everything you see makes you want to eat and you feel you have a food addiction? a hyperfixation around food? im losing my mind honestly, im developing such a large fear that i really will wind up obese
There's a whole process to that that I use to identify it and move past it. If you're interested, we cover it all on my program. The link is in the description x
Come unto me, all ye that Labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. Matthew 11:29
I used to be only 27kg few months ago and my height is 5'3 andmy age is 13 i used to eat only milk in the morning 1 chapati in lunch and 1 chapati in dinner and it was going like this .I was restricting myself alot since august 2022 and after few months ago, it was march my condition was very serious then suddely i stated eating alot like alot even if i was not feeling hungry i used to eat and it continued today i am 39kg and still i eat alot. I eat big packets of cookies a day everyday Pls suggest me some tips to stop doing so
Thank you for your comment ❤️ I hear you. If food addiction is present then that’s a different discussion to one looking through the lens of disordered eating.
Thank you for your comment ❤️ You’re absolutely right. Technically a diet like the carnivore diet would be ‘cutting out sugar’. This was used as a common turn of phrase rather than very literally. To clarify - Im likely referring to cutting out processed foods high in or with added sugars. I hope this helps :)
I have several friends and with myself ,we have battled being overweight, binging and being food obsessed. We all have partners who constantly "comment" on what we eat or how much or how often we eat. The consequence is that food is bought secretly, eaten secretly, packaging hidden from the partner. The partners comments are not stopping the behaviour but rather increasing it. Any ideas??
I can believe it feels like that. I thought I was a 'sugar addict' for quite a while. It definitely feels like that after so much loss of control the moment I ate one bit of chocolate and all the cravings that came rushing in afterwards. It was unbearable. All the women I work with believe this about themselves as well. That they simply cannot be trusted and 'have a problem'. I turned out to be wrong and so did they. I don't know what is true for you. I don't say this to invalidate what you said by any means. I just want all of us to have the best relationship with food we can. I would just question wether it is the sugar or just seems that way. And hopefully, you're wrong, and you too can have an ice cream without the urge to binge after (if thats your goal of course it may not be). If that's what you would like I would always encourage you to keep pushing for more insights. I see women make this shift week in and week out. I know it's certainly more than possible. ❤️ Equally, if your way of doing things is working for you, its not for me or anyone else to say otherwise!
Are talking about me ?? I’m 32 as well but I did a sleeve gastrectomy lately without any progress in my eating behaviour although I lost 25 kilos but I’m afraid to get them back again 🥹
God this is so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so relatable. I swear to god NOBODY talks about how just doing the thing where youre eating the "right" foods, veg, high protein foods, etc, that are supposed to be "filling" enough that you dont need to stuff with carbs later, that youre still just HUNGRY. Like, ACTUALLY fucking hungry. And every nutritionist is like...nooo, eating those high protein high nutrient foods stops cravings! It literally fucking DOESNT.
And SAME with the intuitive eating!!!! My body literally wants to intuitively eat MORE. Not everyones food intuition (or whatever) is the same. And EVERYONE in the fitness world is gaslighting you about it, ALL. THE. TIME.
What we resist, persists. It’s almost never ever about the foods nor our looks/weight. If we lack comfort, love, nourishing relationships or purpose in life, it can literally feel like physical hunger. We must ask ourselves: what am I *actually* hungry for in life? The more we enjoy life, the less interest we find in eating. It isn’t simple, but the journey doesn’t begin with fixing your relationship with certain foods or amounts of foods - the journey truly begins within! ❤️
Beautiful
Thank you!
Such wise words! Thank you. 💕
I lack all of the above.
I'm a single Mum, aged 38, work part time but have no social life.
I'm lonely.
I have no friends, only work colleagues.
I don't have a purpose or goal in life.
It's a vicious circle I wish I could break.
I don't want to be the way I am anymore.
I agree with everything you have said.
The binge is filling a hole that I cannot fulfill 😔
this is so true. now that i am hyperfocused on losing weight, my scale started going high every day. starvation during the day, binge eating due to anxiety caused by the restrictions at night.
I was feeling very sad, but relieved, through the description of what basically looks like my life.. until you said “and there she is at age 32…”. And I started balling my eyes. I’m about to be 32, and the life so possessed with food control is absolutely exhausting me.. thank you for knowing I’m not alone and I’m sorry that you and anyone else ever had to feel this way.❤
Binge eating is stressing me out SO MUCH. During the morning and midday I DON'T have any cravings but the later it gets, (usually starts within the late afternoon) the more I crave. I actually give myself permission to eat a piece of chocolate or some ice cream but then after
dinner, about 2 hours later, the devil comes out. I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT DAMN SUGAR. CANDY.... JUNK... BUT NOTHING HEALTHY. I really wanna drop some pounds. Not that I'm too heavy or so, but I wanna look more defined and I wanna feel better mentally. It feels so bad having to battle with these aching thoughts all the time, everyday. The binging actually started with the beginning of covid, I got bored as most people did and late in the night I ate candy. Everyday. So now, even when life is normal again, I binge and binge because it's became a damn habit... I'm quite happy I'm still skinny, gained not too much, but still a bit. I actually start with allowing myself one to two cheat days a week, to start off slowely and not all at once. Hope it works someday.
eating 3 meals a day with some snacks in between really helped my cravings and binge eating, instead of focusing on how much I'm eating, I now focus on how much is gonna make me full and satisfied and actually fuel me
thank you, Rachael. thank you. thank you.
That story is literally me. The damn Chashew and "healthy food binges" my whole route, and now I am here. Thank you for giving me the chance to maybe stop binging a few years earlier than Emily. It helps so much to know that I am not alone. I can't currently afford coaching, but thank you for sharing some of your experiences on this platform so I can support you with a sub, a like, and a comment
Thank you for your kind words. I am so glad that you found comfort and hope in this. Please do note that I am doing my level best to make help accessible to all. I can't make my coaching free but I am working hard to bring out really amazing payment plans. Obviously only if it would be helpful to you, you can sign up here to stay updated about options: rachaelwrigley.com/programme-waitlist-sign-up/
Otherwise it's a pleasure to have you here on this channel ❤️ Thank you for taking the time to comment x
Wow it’s like my brain story has been laid out. Impressive 😮
I LOVE this video. The part where she said if food is the only thing you have to look forward to in your day then why would you ever stop eating resonated with me heavily. I feel like I have been bingeing a lot currently at work and home because it’s the most exciting part of my day. Unfortunately I have had nothing else to look forward too:(
can totally relate 😢
I'm 38 years old and have recently been diagnosed with binge eating disorder.
I don't want to be this way anymore.
I quit sugar from my diet as that's all I was binging on and burst into tears at your video because now I am binge eating everything else.
I am upset you're fully booked and have put my name down on your waitlist.
But I worry I'll be too far gone.
I am extremely stressed. I haven't had a period for 4 years and I need to be strong for my daughter.
I really hope I get to speak to you soon.
Broooooo I'm 38 too about to turn 39 and I'm just freaking tired of thinking of food
Years ago a therapist told me that you if you go through hardships in life, it is impossible to put yourself into more hardships with dieting. The problem is that we never accept it and we keep trying and trying and fooling ourselves every time.
i believe that in my mind, letting go of my food addiction would be letting go of the tight control i have over myself. The weight, the bingeing, the moodswings from the sugar - are all stopping me from moving forward with my life and exploring myself and my sexuality, of being less socially anxious etc.
I think I'm scared.
This just described me word for word 😭
I am SO glad to have found you! I am not a binge eater, but very much an emotional eater. Up and down 15 - 20 lbs all my life. Getting so very tired of it. Been on every diet under the sun. And just want to have a normal relationship with food and keep the weight off. I will be calling you.
This was me as well… I discovered i started binging to avoid dealing with emotion,trying to fix it eating less next day made it worse ad worse.Journey to recovery started at 33. I am 37 now and I still have some work to do. The hardest part for me was admitting i had a problem. Being always on the slim side ( due to high metabolism i guess,) even if my weight has fluctuated a lot based on the binges frequencies (usually + or - 10kg at cicle) ,no one ever noticed or could acknowledge my struggles, so i kept it a secret for years and definitely made it worse. It’s been 2 years now since my last binge (i am so proud of my progresses and happy) I dont avoid food categories or fast after a binge (and that made all the difference), i also eat at all times of the day, following my hunger, i know express my feelings out loud, i am not a people pleaser anymore, but I find myself still having trouble of letting go to some “food rules”, for example eating carbs by themselves. So i have this to keep working on, I realize that i still think at food more than I would like to. One step at a time. Thank you for your amazing content. Sharing is caring. Send you some love and appreciation
Your channel lit a bulb in my head that was previously there, but dormant and not clicking. I knew in the back of my mind that mindset and relationship to food was why I struggled with my weight and eating and others seemed to manage it effortlessly, but I didn’t really understand that on a deep emotional level. Your description of your client reminds me so much of where I’ve been for a decade; trying to maintain a body shape through the same tired methods, and wondering why I couldn’t stick to it. I’ve realized I need to face the sense of loss I feel when I imagine not binge eating etc, and how that’s connected to many unmet needs in myself. I don’t really binge eat anymore, but those unconscious, food focused moments and overeating are becoming more apparent to me. Thank you so much for these videos, they’re helping me unpack a lifetime of unhealthy attitudes towards my body and how I fuel it.
I was really scared you were going to suggest intuitive eating. I’m so obsessed with food I would “intuitively” continue to binge and eat tons of sweets and fast food. I’m hopeful that I will be able to stop this.
Okay, wow. This is incredible Rachael! You basically described me perfectly.... Your channel is life changing. Please keep doing this for all of us! Lots of love xxx
I'm so pleased this helped, Joana! ❤️
Rachael, I have been dealing with BED for 30 years. I’ve gone through therapy for it many times but, the way you talk about and explain it makes more sense to me than all of the ED therapists I’ve seen over the decades. Thank you. Please continue to keep putting out content for all of us gals who you really resonate with. ❤😊
Your advice is utterly invaluable and so much more powerful and understanding than anything else I have come across.
Woooow every single word, thought and situation is what I am and have been going through all my life. So relatable, thank you so much. It makes me feel like I’m not alone or crazy for feeling and thinking like this
44 years dieting , obsessed with food what I can and can't have , Start diets weekly then binge , then restrict again,, am absolutely in an all time low 😢,, from the age of ten iv been ashamed of my body, , doctor sent me to a weight loss clinic last week they offered me surgery , no way I'm doing that to my body ,, also injections, also no way iv heard what harm it can do ,, so here I am about to start Another day of what I can and cannot eat 😢😢😢, I'm exhausted from it all
You just described my life…thank you for the information and support!
You are so welcome ❤️
New subscriber here. I never realized I had an eating disorder until just a few days ago- I wanted to start a weight loss challenge and the coach discouraged anyone from participating if they had an eating disorder so I got curious. and now this video is the 2nd video I've watched of yours and this is me. So many things are finally starting to make sense. I've given birth 4 times and looking back, those pregnancies were the only "break" I' had from it. I was so nauseated and 🤢 sick it forced me only "eat for fuel" and not to fill a void. Ironically, every time I was expecting it was like the opposite of everybody else getting fat being prego lol. I would suddenly arrive at my healthy BMI weight. At least for the first 2 trimesters until baby got fat. I hated throwing up, but I loved the freedom of not obsessing about food. Is that weird?
Wow Racheal thank you so so much 4 this Video! I hope you grow so big some day so more people See this! I am Emily, I tried everything that she tried, coming from anorexia and a really controlling eating pattern and I am so sure that many more people can and it is just so an eye opening moment when you realize there is hope! Thank you so much!!!
I'm so glad that you found hope in this!!! You should have lots of hope. And thank you for your kinds words ❤️
I’ve never heard this explained exactly like this , this is me 100% 😮
Thank you!!
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Could you maybe do a video about having the urge to purge after everything you eat, I just hate this feeling to have something in my stomach but I also want to eat and taste all the food 🤯
You are such a wise and beautiful spirit. I am 66 and have learned so much from you already and I just discovered you a few days ago. I assume there is info on your website about online program so I will research that. Thank you so much for sharing the “ gift of life” you have discovered that is there for all of us. Kathy
Thank you for your kind words, Kathy ❤️ Information about the program is in the description!
OHH MY GOD I AM SORRY BUT WHEN YOU SAID THE OATMEAL WITH THE PEANUT BUTTER AND FRUIT AND THE LARGE AMOUNTS OF CASHEWS. this person and me are quite the same in a lot of this and it’s crazy how specific in similarity it gets
I think cashews have crack in the ! Lol arggh
It just amazing how you are able to put all this into words and a story like this. I identify with all of this 100% and I’m a dietitian ha ha
I was thinking about that yesterday! I’ve been SO hungry these past few days. It always happens during PMS and I’m sure hormones are contributing to my appetite but I had this new thought/realisation since watching more of your videos. During that time of the month I usually feel pretty incapable. I feel slow, tired, unfit, I feel more anxiety and I feel not at all on top of my life things. Basically I feel like I’m not “surviving” very well, on a very deep and instinctive, monkey-mind level. Could it be that my brain turns to food in excess because it wants to increase my sense of “survival”? By saying “we’re good, we’re safe, there’s all this food here”. Dunno! But when I decided to do some simple life tasks and chores that made me feel a little more on top of my game, the hunger reduced significantly and I started feeling a lot less obsessive about it, so maybe there’s something to it.
That's really interesting! Thank you for sharing. It's not for me to comment on as to why or how. But I am really happy for you that you have had some positive shifts and you're finding more answers to help you in your relationship with food ❤️ For me lots of carbs and self care and taking things easy and serotonin boosting activities help massively.
@@RachaelWrigley thanks so much for responding 😊 ahhh yes to serotonin boosters I really neglect activities such as socialising and being outside during pms and I think those would probably help me out of anxiety a bit more! Thanks for sharing your strategies with me 😊 lotsa love and thanks for what you do
i have healed my relationship with food in about one month thanks to you. God bless you i'm so grateful🙏🏻💕
Congratulations ⭐️🥳❤️❤️
1It’s like you’re telling my life story in this video…… it hit home. I need help! I’m 49, and have never had a good relationship with food and I have no idea where or how to start and I desperately need to lose weight!
Thank you so much for this and also the subtitles :)
You're very welcome! ❤️
I've had issues binging for a long time but one thing I've noticed is that scheduling and eating at specific meal times helps a lot.
I think I developed BED as a young child and it has just worsened over time, starting worsening after I started puberty, and is a daily issue as years pass, I just pack on more pounds. 😢 I have a handful of mental health issues including PTSD, major depression, anxiety/some agoraphobia, and cyclothymia. Possibly ADHD.
I would like to stop binging but it's been happening for decades and the scheduled meals are the only thing that has given any relief. However, I can't seem to get on and stay on any kind of schedule yet. Self sabotage all the time. I'm 38 and I'm so tired of this being a problem.
Very good video, thank you so much. Did see myself in that story a little bit too....eye opening...thanks❤
Damn that's the second video I've watched of you now and the story with all the different trys and the emotions etc was also 100% my journey so far. Apart from the age.
I'm 19 and I've been in the process of enlisting in the military for the past few months. I've been trying SO HARD to lose some weight before I go because I can't stand the thought of being the biggest girl there. I've had binge eating and bulimia for the last 5 years now and I'm terrified to tell my recruiter or anyone around me about it. I've tried to open up to some people about it in the past (family, friends, therapists), and I even went to overeaters anonymous for a couple weeks. At the end of the day nothing worked, and I just feel so incredibly lost and hopeless, like I'm beating a dead horse every single day. I train hard too, and I want so desperately to look the part of a fit athletic person, but I can't stop binging. I can't stick to my eating plans for more than a few days anymore and I'm so fucking sick of feeling like this disgusting, defective person. My biggest fear is staying stuck like this for the rest of my life. I already ruined my adolescence over it, and I don't want to lose my 20s too.
thank you. I needed this today
I struggled and binged so much in my life that now I have lost the feeling of appetite. Im never hungry, but I love good food and eating. So I'm kust like Hey im not hungry but it's time to eat right. It makes the intuitive eating so difficult to practice
Sometimes it can be so hard to see other people in your own family or friends cycle no matter what happens it’s like your the only one that’s actually to afraid of eating anything out when your overthinking about things that’s restrictive to you
I'm so happy I've found your channel, I've been struggling so much with disordered eating and have just started therapy for this. I've watched a few of your videos already and I am finding your guidance so helpful!
im on this journey! it upsets me that people don't take me serious because im skinny and always have been. when they see me eating they look at me surprised and that's the "proof"
Exactly to the point, this issue started like 8years ago nd it goes on nd off... Feel hopeless 🤦♀️😔
Your channel is so engaging and informative, and I appreciate your long-term mindset! But I am wondering, would you consider making a video to watch for when a person feels like binge eating in the moment? Or some advice to "snap out of it"?
Thank you I am so glad that it is helpful ❤️ Absolutely, I cover this a lot. I don't have plans to make a detailed video about this for youtube as this is such important guidance and wouldn't be fair to those that pay for my program to have access to it. What I will say is that in my experience, the urge to binge eat is not something that happens 'to' us (although is definitely feels like it!). I have found time and time again that we create the urge to binge eat not just through deprivation but through what I call 'mind games' that we play on ourselves that make us feel checked out, out of control, urgent and chaotic. In my experience, these mind games are simple to stop once you're aware of them and the urge to binge eat goes away. I don't believe in 'managing' binge eating for the rest of our life. It can completely go away. That's the rule, not the exception when I'm working with women. These 'mind games' are different to 'emotional eating' although there can be some overlap. Someone may start eating for emotional reasons, say, but then typically the 'mind games' kick in to spur that in to a binge.
So 'in the moment' , drawing your attention to what mind games you're playing on yourself that spur the binge on is often effective enough at dissipating the urge (in my experience). Without ever telling yourself to 'not eat' (let's face it, that doesn't work!).
If you want to learn more about this you are very welcome to put your email down here, it would be lovely to have you: rachaelwrigley.com/programme-waitlist-sign-up/ ❤️
@@RachaelWrigley Thank you for your response! I absolutely understand your boundaries and wanting to create/enhance value for your clients. These are very helpful insights. It is comforting and inspiring to know that it is possible to heal our relationship with food and not be left in a lifelong state of "partial remission."
I'm so glad you feel hopeful because you absolutely should!!
When will extreme hunger stop? I tried to let myself go and just eat everything I want to eat (after binging and restricting for years), and I'm not rly binging but im eating A LOT. And how do I even know it's extreme hunger or me just secretly wanting to eat all of that.
Also I'm not binging but I'm eating a lot and I think because my stomach is not used to so much food she really is in distress? Im having random cramps and then random hunger pangs its really confusing😅😅
And im also like permanently bloated😢
@@saradblk3200I feel you. If you figured it out let me know
That’s my story too. Yep.
THIS IS ME!!!!
I relapsed on binge eating, but now I’m relapsing on the restriction, yeah I’m losing weight but I know how the cycle goes.I need to find the happy medium SO BAD.
I cried so much watching this video! Every.single.point. hit home! I am 32 and just finished binging when I saw this video. I need help!
Please put me on your wait list!
There is so much hope don't worry! I see women get a healthy relationship with food week after week. Did you sign up to the waitlist? Here is the link again:rachaelwrigley.com/waitlist-sign-up/
It would be lovely to have you ❤️
Denise.... wait-list for one-on-one please.
Hi Denise, you can sign up to that here it would be lovely to have you. I'll be taking on new applicants very soon rachaelwrigley.com/waitlist-sign-up/
Do you also work with men affected by binge eating disorder?
Your channel helps a lot. Thanks.🙏🏼
I don't work 1:1 with men at the moment but men are very welcome to go on to my program. It is designed for women but of course 95% of it is the same regardless. If you're interested in that, go to my waitlist (in description) and sign up. Spaces are now open for my program. You can book in a call to discuss enrolment there. Hope this helps!
@@RachaelWrigley thank you for your answer.🙏🏼
Thank you for this amazing video . I have found out that I have this problem even with healthy sweets ): but I am sure that I’ll find my healthy relationship with food 🙏🏼
You most certainly can! ❤️
I cant do this anymore!!! I can't keep going on like I have been doing but I'm addicted to sugar and I can't seem to eat nutritional foods! Ive already given myself type 2 diabetes and I'm on the path to an early grave! I'm not sure what to do!
So helpful!
Jesus. This is a perfect description of me 😭
What’s the help for that?
If you go to the link in the description, it's there ❤️
This is me as a 21y old. I told my dad about it he just said control the urges ugh
I need help too what can ldo
i can relate to all of this OMG😭😭
Sis you didn’t have to describe me to a t
Just to be clear. I am male and am experiencing very much the same issue.
It's not just a female issue at all ❤️
How can I book a discovery call? The link isn’t working ☠️
How strange! It’s working on our end but sorry you’re having trouble. I am fully booked right now but taking more calls soon. Feel free to email us support@shethrives.co.uk to discuss options. Speak soon!
I will find a reason to celebrate with food. My husband worked some overtime last week and got his paycheck today. Guess who had a binge? Not my husband!!
I was waiting for the solution for the biggest part of the video…
when are you going to accept new clients again? do you also take insurance or hsa payment?
Hi there, thank you for your enquiry. We will be re-opening spaces for the Binge to Balance program in time for new years. You can head here to see if it's a good fit for you and your needs:
shethrives.co.uk/binge-to-balance-program
@@RachaelWrigley I clicked on the link, it says the page doesn’t exist?
This is my story too 😢
Rachel, thank you very much for your videos, they really helped me to increase awarness of the times I want to binge and sometimes I can even stop myself and realize what I am actually craving for and substituting the joy of having it with food, but what can I do if I tried so many times to fix the situation that is happening in my life outside of eating, but it never works out and I just fall down again? I understand that you have a course for that and that actually fixing problems outside of nutrition is not the thing you are specializing in, but maybe you have the answer, so I just decided to try to leave a comment.
Hi, George. Thank you for your comment. I'm afraid I don't fully understand what you mean. If you recognise the bigger picture and need help with what is happening in your life outside of food because you can't find the answers on your own I would always recommend reaching out to a professional. In regards to the course, very little of what I do with clients is nutrition based. We spend very little talking about food and more about you and your life as a whole. Struggling with food usually has little to do with food itself. We move through what has been proven countless times to be helpful in a step by step way. That being said if you need very specific help for one specific life obstacle, naturally specialised help may be more suitable alongside a program such as this or instead of xx
@@RachaelWrigley thank you for your reply, Rachel, I appreciate it! Yes, you are right, I agree with you, I guess I really have to start taking this more seriously and reaching out to people that can help🙏☺️
Sounds like thee woman you are describing is me!
but what do you do when you have such a big and large appetite everything you see makes you want to eat and you feel you have a food addiction? a hyperfixation around food?
im losing my mind honestly, im developing such a large fear that i really will wind up obese
every word resonated ohmygod
Oh my God! This is me except I’m Sara not Emily 😂
How can you tell what emotions are the problem if they manifest just as an urge to binge? Where to start looking? I really have no idea 😔
There's a whole process to that that I use to identify it and move past it. If you're interested, we cover it all on my program. The link is in the description x
Thank you!
Come unto me, all ye that Labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. Matthew 11:29
Story of my life....
Literally I’m Emily
I used to be only 27kg few months ago and my height is 5'3 andmy age is 13 i used to eat only milk in the morning 1 chapati in lunch and 1 chapati in dinner and it was going like this .I was restricting myself alot since august 2022 and after few months ago, it was march my condition was very serious then suddely i stated eating alot like alot even if i was not feeling hungry i used to eat and it continued today i am 39kg and still i eat alot. I eat big packets of cookies a day everyday
Pls suggest me some tips to stop doing so
its not a coping, its just an addiction lol. whenever i get calories it feels good enough to not wanna stop
Thank you for your comment ❤️ I hear you. If food addiction is present then that’s a different discussion to one looking through the lens of disordered eating.
huh? you cant cut out sugar... its in porrige, fruit, rice, we cant drink only oil
Thank you for your comment ❤️ You’re absolutely right. Technically a diet like the carnivore diet would be ‘cutting out sugar’. This was used as a common turn of phrase rather than very literally. To clarify - Im likely referring to cutting out processed foods high in or with added sugars. I hope this helps :)
@@RachaelWrigley oh i dont live in america so i did not know, thanks for clarify i stumbled upon the term once before and got very confused
I have several friends and with myself ,we have battled being overweight, binging and being food obsessed. We all have partners who constantly "comment" on what we eat or how much or how often we eat. The consequence is that food is bought secretly, eaten secretly, packaging hidden from the partner. The partners comments are not stopping the behaviour but rather increasing it. Any ideas??
I so resonate.
Im only triggered by sugar to binge.
I can believe it feels like that. I thought I was a 'sugar addict' for quite a while. It definitely feels like that after so much loss of control the moment I ate one bit of chocolate and all the cravings that came rushing in afterwards. It was unbearable. All the women I work with believe this about themselves as well. That they simply cannot be trusted and 'have a problem'. I turned out to be wrong and so did they. I don't know what is true for you. I don't say this to invalidate what you said by any means. I just want all of us to have the best relationship with food we can. I would just question wether it is the sugar or just seems that way. And hopefully, you're wrong, and you too can have an ice cream without the urge to binge after (if thats your goal of course it may not be). If that's what you would like I would always encourage you to keep pushing for more insights. I see women make this shift week in and week out. I know it's certainly more than possible. ❤️ Equally, if your way of doing things is working for you, its not for me or anyone else to say otherwise!
I feel like you're generally talking about alot of us lol
I feel like I'm emily
14:11
i love you
I feel really lost:(
Submitted to work with you 1on1 on the website and haven’t got a reply yet
I remember seeing your name, Salma and did send you an email ❤️ I've sent you another one. Look out for it. I'd love to help.
Just saw it, thank you so much really appreciate it
I am Emily. The porridge binge was just a little to relatable lol
Are talking about me ??
I’m 32 as well but I did a sleeve gastrectomy lately without any progress in my eating behaviour although I lost 25 kilos but I’m afraid to get them back again 🥹