As an attorney, one positive thing I can say about prenups is that the less contentious the discussion of that topic is, the less likely the marriage needs one. Also, partners having separate money is fine; hiding it is toxic.
I’m a licensed attorney in California, but currently a SAHM. Take it from someone who’s been married almost 9 years and also familiarized with the legal system. Despite all the horror stories I studied in California family law, my husband and I have no prenup. We share all income AS WELL as all inherited assets. We have 3 young kids and we work together for their future because they are the only things that will survive us after death, no car, jewelry, or house will remain with either one of us. Sure, we have our rough days and disagreements like everyone else, but that has not caused either one of us to forget why we created the family we did and to protect it. I too am getting annoyed and disillusioned with so many people, including family members, who keep predicting and somehow wanting our marriage to fail after almost 9 years to the point that I have no social media and very few friends in this day and age. People are toxic as hell 🔥 and very hostile toward anyone who isn’t talking negatively on their spouse or filing for divorce.
!00%--Guys have been warning women for the longest time about toxic people whether male/female, friend, relative etc.....who intentionally try to ruin relationships. Good for you getting rid of social media and toxic people. @SonyaOutThere.
Why did you start with declaring you're an attorney in Cali, then say nothing relevant to that statement? Is marriage/ divorce a bad deal for men pr not?
@@Neoteny374 I’m just stating a fact and then proceeding to discuss what is pertinent. No different than if I had said I’m a doctor, teacher, a nurse, a hair dresser, etc. Marriage, IMO, is exclusively for people who want to create families. Working together for the well-being of your offspring and future generations, in that case, is very rewarding. Divorce, IMO, absent something major like violence, drug addiction, financial abuse, etc., is not a good deal for anyone.
@@Neoteny374Marriage is a bad deal if you marry the wrong person which goes for both men and women. Divorce is also bad when you marry the wrong person which can invalidate the prenup like with signing it under duress. That's why it's important to know the man or woman you marry before taking such a big step.
*Those wishing you harm in order to be gratified at the downfall of your marriage are already living lives of total failure* --- God bless you & your beautiful message of love, morality & genuine virtue.
@@sonja4186 It’s not because they disagree with her. It’s because they can’t have what she has or are already far past the point of attracting a decent man.
I think the same. 13 years with my husband and we agreed the d word never will be mention. And I know my husband since we were 7. We are 37 (both) and we have 3 kids. We are in an amazing happy relationship. All thanks to God.
Thank you for sharing this! I’m reminded of Isaiah 5:20 which says “they will call good evil and evil good” as well as John 15:18 ”If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you.” Thank you for sharing so boldly. It’s a great encouragement to so many women! Lord, I pray against the evil intentions of those who oppose Estee and wish harm upon her. I rebuke the schemes of the devil in the name of Jesus! That her family would be protected by your hand and her heart be shielded from the enemy in the name of Jesus! Lord, please continue to shine your light through Estee and this platform that you have given her. Strengthen her and provide her with your peace each day. Amen
Like you, the wife and I agreed never to joke about divorce, never to threaten it never to mention it. If our marriage is sacred, it is never to be spoken of lightly!
My parents have so much trust in eachother, are best friends, and have been married for 23 years. They also have grown up as Christian’s and so I have too. Since they got married before 25 I have always wanted that too, knowing God will send me someone who most likely have my same values. but my friends like to say my traditional values I have and expectations will lead to me being vulnerable or taken advantage of! They really like to make fun but I love the thought of having a relationship built on Christ, love, trust and friendship! ❤
You dont have a prenup when you are young as you. You start out with nothing basically. It would be rare for a young man to have enough for a prenup. Prenups are for older people. And yes, never throw the d word at each other.🙏
@@samclemens1565💯 It's like some people don't realize that not Everywhere is a communal property state. Just because things don't work out doesn't mean you walk away with half of his wealth . and it is his if your name isn't on anything.
I cannot believe you get ppl who wish your marriage would end/end badly. Like wow. Are ppl so jealous and insecure that instead of just wanting the same goodness for themselves too, to wish someone else calamity? Only really stupid ppl. May God help them to be better.
Prayer ❤❤❤ all day! Trust and Love ❤❤❤ I 100% trust my husband and he trusts me. Sad that divorce is an option in life. I’m living my best life and trusting God and Trusting my Husband to lead this house!
It's good that divorce is an option in life. It's sad that it's neccesary sometimes. Although some divorces might have been prevented if people got to know each other better before getting married
Amen, Sister! I got married at 19 and have 9 kids with my husband, who was 20 when we married. I have been a traditional/biblical wife for 17 years now. We fully trust each other, Share everything, love and serve each other and love the Lord. Bless you for sharing this message! God be with you. ❤️🙏🏻
Have him put $7,000 Per year into a Roth IRA for you. In 20 years it will be worth $423,027.58. Then the compounding interest will accumulate to around $3,099,973.00 in your 60s. No matter what, you WILL NEED RETIREMENT SAVINGS.
Aww thank you! I have a couple day in the life videos on my channel right now. I would love to start doing more of them though ❤ I also tag all dresses when I have a shop that’s applicable unless they are vintage or unknown. This is vintage I hope this helps though ☺️
Can I honestly say how much I look up to this lifestyle. When I was a kid my stepmother was a stay-at-home provider and my dad was at work and they have been married for the last 40 years. I honestly agree with you you have to pick the right person! Estee, thank you so much for your input and advice God Bless you
@@soullessnight6539well how do you know how much money she is making? Do you think all people who post on TH-cam make thousands? Also, she definitely isn't working full time everyday as a normal full time working woman does, and she prioritises her home, so in that sense she is traditional
My wife and I made the same agreement while engaged - that the "D" word would never be discussed or even joked about in our marriage. We believe that when you consider it a possibility, or plan for it with a prenup, or entertain it on any level, you increase you chances to have one. We are celebrating our 30 year anniversary this week. Three keys to our 30 years have been 1) Christ Centered, 2) Communication, and 3) Conflict Resolution.
@@SpiritualDoves Sure. 1) Christ Centered: We both put Christ first in our relationship, meaning we try our best to live our ways in such a life that it pleases God. We serve Him first and foremost. The bible speaks a lot to marriage. "Husbands love your wives," and "Wives respect your husbands" for example. It speaks a lot about how we should treat others. "Consider others above yourselves." Love your neighbor as yourself." "Forgive one another." 2) Communication: We never presume the other can read our mind or pick up on subtle hints, and then get upset when they don't. Instead, we communicate clearly. We make it a point to communicate our expectations and needs. Often people can become disappointed when those are not met, but far too often they aren't met because they weren't CLEARLY communicated. (see active listening below). 3) Conflict resolution. To be sure, we have conflict, but not too often, and never too bad. When we do, we try not to view the other as the problem. Instead, we identify the problem and try to solve it together. That way we are on the same team attacking the problem, instead of on opposing teams attacking each other. We also practice, "Active listening." Active listening during conflict resolution works like this: She states her thoughts, concerns, hurts, issues, and I listen. Then when she has stated those, I empathetically repeat them back to her to confirm I understand what she is saying/feeling. "So, you're telling me you neglected when I neglect the yard... " Or, "So what your'e telling me is.... " It's all with an effort to listen and understand the other. Once she feels she has been heard and understood, then I do the same, and she listens, and then empathetically repeats back to me so I see she understands how I feel, or what my needs/concerns are. Then we try to come up with some reasonable solutions and pick the best one to try. If it doesn't work, we try another option to solve it. It really helps a lot.
I love it! Protect your marriage with prayer. My wife and I have being married for 11 years and loving it. We pray together and have at least one meal together at the diner table (no tv or a phone during that time unless needed during discussion).
Even though I’m praying for Estee and her marriage to succeed too, this is dangerous advice for women. There’s nothing shameful or sinful or less than ideal about expecting both partners to have financial independence, even if only one works outside the home. A spouse who truly loves you will want to protect you and make sure you are taken care of regardless of what happens in your future and your marriage. Maybe you will grow apart by your choice, or maybe terrifyingly your spouse will develop mental illness or physical injury preventing him from working. Maybe this will look like depression or a personality disorder that is latent. Maybe this will lead to abuse. A backup is not an insult to your spouse; it’s a way for your spouse to honor you as an autonomous human who makes contributions to your shared lifestyle. A backup is even for if you stay together, a way for you to earn when your spouse can’t. In healthy relationships, you have the freedom to compliment your partner by choosing them every day. Being financially trapped to a partner is not a flex for him or you.
They can't be revoked unless they were written incorrectly. There is a list of things an attorney has to put into a prenup to make it rock solid. Only a sloppy attorney can't get it right.
We have a counter pre-nuptial agreement: if one of us should ever file for divorce, then he/she automatically forfeits all assets and child custody to the other. Signed in front of notary with 2 witnesses.
Love your videos!❤️ I would never get a prenup. I’m also so blessed that I have been with my boyfriend since high school and we have started out with nothing and will build or whole lives together! ❤️
But what if it's really a case where you really should leave. If you don't have any start-over & lawyer money you are stuffed. This is how women get stuck in keep getting hit or be homeless situations.
I don’t think women should hide money from their husbands either. I think women should make their own money. My husband is my best friend, and we depend on each others love and support. We have been together for 32 years now. But I have always wanted to be economically independent. If the worst would happen and he would disappear from my life, I must be able to care for myself.
Amen sister in Christ! If a man or a woman feels they need to hide money from their spouse then they married the wrong person. They did not listen to the Holy Spirit before getting married.
It's not just about you trusting him, Estee. It's the other way around. If you decide to leave him for another man or if you get tired of the trad lifestyle, he has to pay you for the next decade without a prenup.
So the fact you state a prenup regarding not asking hubby to sign one, this indicates you’re a very wealthy lady so are you qualified to tell other women not to have a backup plan as you have family money and an influencer job on YT. I’m a Christian lady, almost 48 and I went to university etc before I started dating. Married my first kiss, first boyfriend, waited for sex within marriage but still ensured I had my backup plan in case I needed it. My mother was a child bride and we lived in absolute poverty. Having no options ain’t pretty when your kid has no shoes and there’s a food scarcity. Girls, please….. have a backup plan. My father became mentally ill when I was a baby… these things happen. I like Estee but respectfully, you live in a bubble
This is horrible advice. You need to be able to know where everything is, the accounts and passwords and all and not rely on blind trust. If the man truly loves you, he’ll understand. Also, if you start with nothing like I did, there’s nothing to prenup but who knows down the line.
I think if you have given up the best years of your life and gave up a career for a man, you should definitely get something out of it until you can figure something out.
I believe prenups show more love. I love you enough to state that in case anything happens I think you deserve this much etc. I don’t have anything resistance to it and I don’t think it makes divorce more appealing but instead the relationship more loving.
Scripture actually highlights God's laws for how to handle the bride price (which was essentially a prenup, just different name for it) and proper divorce allowed by the Most High if done the correct way. This doesn't mean we shouldn't get to know our future mate really well and strive for harmony trust and a lifelong union.
Good for you. I very much respect your decision. I sense that you will never be divorced. If widowed, you will remarry because you are a very special person and pray and have faith. Dima
In today's society prenups are seen as a way for someone to not have to share their wealth, but you can put anything in a prenup. Like, you are only allowed to get divorced for xyz reason or mandatory marriage counseling for xyz time if someone wants a divorce. So, it can actually make people want to stay married instead of bail. That said, I am religious too so god's word is enough for me.
I think this is the first video of yours that I’ve watched, Estee, where I agree completely with everything that you said. Something I told my husband before we got engaged was that for me divorce is not an option and he agreed. We’ve been married 9 years, gone through many difficult times, and we still stand by that. Divorce is not an option.
@@eobardthawne324Precognizant of what? Even if you don’t know what’s going to happen in the future doesn’t mean you can’t make the decision before marriage to not get divorced once married. I am a Roman Catholic and we do not believe that once a marital bond is made that it can be broken.
@@eobardthawne324True, things can be broken. When it comes to marriage, though, if two people make the effort on a daily basis to prioritize their marriage and commitment to each other, they can prevent any breaking in the first place.
@@eobardthawne324True, things can be broken. In marriage, though, if both spouses are committed to working with each other on a daily basis to show love and preserve their marriage they can prevent any breaking from happening in the first place.
My wife and I got together and neither of us had anything worth protecting in a pre-nup. We are now doing very well because we have always tried to be a team and worked together for it. We are closer now than when we got together 25 years ago.
Finances is not all that goes into prenups. There can be so many clauses like we can only divorce for x y z reason. Or marriage counseling is required upon x y z happening. Printups are not all about money and statistically people who get prenupts are just as likely to get divorced as people who don't have them.
Je suis française et suis tombée sur votre chaîne youtube par hasard. Quel bonheur de tomber sur une femme qui partage les mêmes valeurs traditionnelles et qui en plus est une soeur en Jésus-Christ. Vous êtes une femme formidable et tant pis si ça ne plait pas à certains !
Exactly! In my personal opinion, I believe prenups are a clear cut sign that someone does not trust that person enough to marry them and wants to prepare themselves in case it didn’t work out.
I say make it the case where divorce is only possible under extreme circumstance such abusive situations, cheating or if both partners agree to it. No more divorces just because you don't feel like being married.
I think people should have the right to divorce no matter what, America is a free country and that should include whether you want to be married or not
@@fvvb6883 I disagree. Your breaking up families and taking peoples assets for no good reason other than your feelings. That is inherently selfish. Damaging your husbands life and children's life just because of your emotion. Does till death do us part not apply anymore? Unless there's mistreatment then I firmly believe divorce shouldn't be an option or they should just power through and stick with the decision they made.
@@Markus2E5I6 I 100% think it’s wrong to end a marriage just because you don’t want to be married anymore. But I don’t think it should be illegal. My mom was an emotionally abusive drug addict and would put us in repetitive danger by driving us around while under the influence. When my dad divorced her after she made it clear she didn’t want to get clean, the courts still gave her 50/50 custody. If the courts didn’t find my mom (who drove us around and got into many crashes with us in the car while being high) abusive enough to not take us away from her, what makes you think the courts would be better about deciding if a marriage is abusive enough to allow divorce? My point is I don’t trust the court enough to determine what situations are abusive and what aren’t.
@@fvvb6883 I fully get what you mean. Even if you design a perfect system, the ones who actually have to see it through aren't perfect and will make mistakes. My idea wasn't really realistic because unfortunately humans can be biased or just not see the whole picture.
Hey Estee, 17 year old girl here 😊 just wanted to say how much I appreciate you and you bravely putting your traditional values out here on yt. It is soooo encouraging! My Mom married someone who she could not trust (she didn’t mean to, but she was young and her parents were not people she could look to for guidance), and had to divorce him for our safety when I was 7. By the amazing grace and love of Jesus, she has just remarried an amazing guy a couple months ago. All that to say, I haven’t grown up with a lot of examples of what a healthy marriage looks like, and so this and your channel have helped me SO much 😁 God bless you and your husband!!😊❤
AMEN...Well said‼️Exactly right...I live a Vintage life because I grew up wealthy & Every1 I know got divorced...So I married a Pro Roper Cowboy was SO FUNN...just like your Video😆 was married 20 yrs, 2 Beautiful Daughters now 3 gorgeous grandchildren 💅🏻🤠
I love and normally fully agree with you 100% - however, on rare circumstances a prenup would save women and children. I also thoroughly vetted my husband, trusted him, a lot of people in the community and church spoke very highly of him- unfortunately I was in one of those very rare circumstances and he later he was diagnosed (Court ordered forensic investigation as well as a full psychological test). I was a trad wife with children. But I and my children greatly suffered. In my opinion and to me it's common sense- a loving trustworthy man would want a good legal prenup to offer you and your future children security. You're giving up everything for this and if you end up in a rare situation or he changes and leaves you one day (I know it's hard to believe, but it happens to some trad wives), it is the children who will suffer the most. A loving trustworthy man would have no problem with a prenup- but other men do. So if he's truly trustworthy- he'll give you this security and safety- and you'd likely not need it.
I don't know many girls who are this wholesome, let alone married at 26. Unless it's some kind of oops situation, where either the man, woman or both feel pressured into getting married, only to end up hating each other, getting a divorce, and screwing up their child emotionally in the process.
I love your videos, Estee! You have wonderful wisdom at such a young age and are a great role model for women young and old!!! I enjoy seeing your beautiful dresses as I also wear dresses daily. What type of life insurance did you and your husband get? Can you elaborate more on that please? Is it something you both got thru his employer or a separate policy for each of you?
I like the way Michael Knowles put it. You can go ahead and make a prenup. Just make it different than the traditional prenup. Have the prenup say that whoever is responsible for dissolving the marriage...that individual walks away with nothing.
When vetting a guy, I think it's also important to take into consideration the character of the man's father (or mother, if he was raised single-parent). How they view marriage, family, commitment and their integrity and how they conduct themselves in life greatly shapes and influences the children and their expectations of what family and marriage mean.
Hi!! 💕💕 Have you read a book written in the 60s called fascinating womanhood? I think you would love it!!!! It’s about true femininity and respect towards a husband! It genuinely changed my life and my relationship.
I preceate it, that you give so much trust in your marriage. it's so rare in this society, especially for a young woman. I think God blesses this trust and will to please. I now it, and it could be hard to fight for the right things. Forget what's "normal" in the society. there is no more moral standards in the world.
The only issue I have with this topic is that you do have a prenuptial agreement. It's the one defined and given to you by the state. Which was written by people who don't necessarily have your best interest in mind.
8+ years and no prenup. No concept of divorce and it's not happening in my marriage. I showed your videos to my wife and she agreed with a lot of things you said. I agree with 98% of things you say as well. :) We both have life insurance. :)
You do NOT know your husbands character inside and out. As a woman in her late 50's, I've heard far too many young women saying ...... "But, he wasn't like that when I married him". Except he was. Don't put blinkers on and think that it will protect your marriage. Having said that, may your God walk with you when the troubles do come.
Bien sûr que si on peut connaître son mari par coeur. Ce n'est pas parce que certaines femmes sont naïves et pensent connaître leur mari parce que celui-ci a joué un rôle avec elles sans qu'elles ne le sachent que ça veut dire que c'est pareil pour tout le monde. Non. Ce n'est pas pareil pour tout le monde. Oui c'est possible de connaître son mari par cœur et de pouvoir lui faire confiance à 100% ! Dieu merci c'est possible.
I agree with her if individuals entered in to marriage as a covenant from God as it was intended they would stay together significantly increases their well being, their assets and strengthen the family unit. Thank God for good young God fearing beautiful women like you who will speak the truth.
Yes girl!!! I love this. I teach this on my feminine energy motivation channel as well. Divorce is not an option. Wait to find the right person to marry, because I don’t believe in divorce. If you are going into the marriage with the idea that divorce is an option, then you are marrying the wrong person. I understand the concept that sometimes people change, but the reality is, you should know your partner inside and out before you take the plunge to marriage. We are all constantly growing and evolving, but the goal is to grow together. No man left behind. So if you are continuously, growing together, you are building a solid foundation for a successful and happy marriage. I, for myself, the only time I believe divorce may potentially be an option is with infidelity. I don’t believe that breaking that kind of trust with your partner is healthy for you in the long run. But this is just my personal opinion. To each their own.
Normally I agree with you but not on this one. If you are an advocate for life insurance, you should be an advocate for a prenup for the exact same reasons, being that despite your best intentions life is unpredictable. Marriage is a legally binding contract with financial implications, and while I agree that you should do everything in your power to hold your marriage together, every well written contract requires an exist clause that protects both parties.
The idea of a prenup never even crossed my mind when I married my husband. I always thought of prenups as kind of... idk... bougie, I guess? Like something for country club types.
From what I know prenups USED to be really common for richer men to protect their money and for older people. But NOW it’s becoming more common even for young people all because trust is very rare in this culture and we are told not to trust anyone completely but ourselves
I don't understand why you said you wouldn't have a prenup, the only reason you need a prenup is if one person in the marriage is coming in with the considerably more assets than the other one. Prenups are designed for the instance if two people are getting married and one of the people is rather wealthy in the other one is not, that is so the first person doesn't lose everything if the other person decides to leave. For instance take myself If I get married again I will without a doubt have a prenup, own a very large business and unless I'm marry another person that has much the same thing I'm not going to risk losing that in the event something were to happen to our marriage, not that I think that would happen but I got divorced once and I didn't think I would that time because a woman that cheated because she didn't get her way. Now most states will say in a divorce you leave with what you came with so you have a rather large amount of assets You're allowed to take those assets with you plus any money those assets were to make You get to keep as well, but divorce can be very nasty and it's almost a 50% chance it's going to happen, matter of fact my lawyer told me straight up the day you get married is the day you're divorce begins. Anyway I hope the best for you and your husband and I hope it works out I have seen couples that have been married for 70 years and that takes a very special type of person.
yea I agree. My husband and I don't acknowledge divorce no matter how angry we get. Separation is on the table but only for a couple weeks then we have to try again (we've never had to implicate this). When we were engaged we were told to prepare for divorce by our year 5. I've been told to get a job or build a career so i can live on my own if we divorce. I told them why would I start something and have a plan for ending it because divorce isn't something that just happens to people, it is something they choose to do. And 70 percent of marriages are initiated by the woman so that means most likely i would be the one to leave (checks notes) to "find myself" at age 40!! I believe in my soul that doing that is absolutely ridiculous so that's not a worry. The men who divorce do it because of incompatibility which leads to new relationships, my husband and i made sure we were very compatible before we married so no to that too. Besides all that we made a commitment to GOD. I don't know about everyone else but we take that very serious, more than anything...
I agree with never hiding money! However, do you have your own credit line or joint banking account in case, God forbid, something happens to him? I think my concern is more in when a wife or husband has no idea about the finances and isn’t on accounts. Thank you again for your earnest comments.
I'm trying to make sense of this. So... a prenup protects the person from a bad incentive of divorce. No one ever claims it will happen but the protection is useful to have... similarly, a car insurance is made to protect you from an incident. I think the justification presented to not get car insurance because you never think you'll be the one causing the incident is a bit hubris...
The only “backup” my husband and I choose is life insurance which protects us individually if one of us were to have a fatal accident. That’s why I mention life insurance is great but personally I don’t think prenups are great.. just my opinion though 😊
If your with the wrong person there IS no making it work!! Dont judge people for getting divorced. They aint doing it for fun. A guy I used to work with dovorced his wife. He told me that she beat him with a foldable chair. Why stay married to some one like that?
I really like your content, Estee. ♡ For me personally, I wouldn't want to be a trad-wife myself. I am really in favour of the 50/50 model. But your content is so sweet and inspiring. ♡ The 1950's aesthetics are so lovely. I really do like following your congent. I find it so terrible that their are actually people out there wishing u being hit by your husband and similar terrible things. I hope you dont take this personally cus I really do think that some young woman, and even some of my close girlfriends, would really prefer being a trad-wife and not having to work a +40h job. I hope all those terribly negative comments and hate dont affect u that badly. It makes me even sad reading them. Kind regards ♡♡♡
Abolishing divorce would be extremely dangerous for a lot of people, regardless of gender. If we want to change our views on marriage and divorce, it’s should be a societal change.. and rather than shaming people who do get divorced (because you don’t know what might have lead to it), maybe focus on teaching what marriage is actually about so young people don’t blindly step into it or make hasty decisions in the moment… as for adultery, I do think we should help and protect victims of it more and maybe even by law, but you can also see it as a sign that adulterer is not the one for you.. a good, loving partner would never do that..
@@Rabbit5200 Divorce should be over night rubber stamped, without question. The catch should be that you leave with nothing, getting 0% of the marital assets. Custody should be 50:50 automatic, no exceptions.
My sister is quite a traditional wife with three kids though we do not really call it "tradwife" here in Europe. They have no prenup but I always advised her to get a private pension insurance on her name. Her husband owns a small company and makes good money but for taxation it is already difficult to say how much he makes, and in case of divorce the money could be elusive. I try to put the main focus on the fact that she will be covered in case he dies. However, a brother will naturally be more careful in these things.
Giving a lot of men's experience, he should be pushing for a prenup when 70% of the divorces are instigated by women. You are an exception to the rule, Estee.
What you're saying is true. God hates a divorce and you should never plan on it down the road for if it doesn't work out. Gods word gives us every tool we need to have a happy loving family and marriage. You're right never say the D WORD. The more you do the more it puts the idea in action.
What about health insurance, fire insurance, car insurance, wills etc. all those things help you be prepared for the worst and have some protection in place for a SAHM and future children . The prenup just another form of protection That’s like saying marriage is just a piece of paper
As an attorney, one positive thing I can say about prenups is that the less contentious the discussion of that topic is, the less likely the marriage needs one. Also, partners having separate money is fine; hiding it is toxic.
What a great lady. May God give you many long and happy years.
I’m a licensed attorney in California, but currently a SAHM.
Take it from someone who’s been married almost 9 years and also familiarized with the legal system.
Despite all the horror stories I studied in California family law, my husband and I have no prenup. We share all income AS WELL as all inherited assets.
We have 3 young kids and we work together for their future because they are the only things that will survive us after death, no car, jewelry, or house will remain with either one of us.
Sure, we have our rough days and disagreements like everyone else, but that has not caused either one of us to forget why we created the family we did and to protect it.
I too am getting annoyed and disillusioned with so many people, including family members, who keep predicting and somehow wanting our marriage to fail after almost 9 years to the point that I have no social media and very few friends in this day and age.
People are toxic as hell 🔥 and very hostile toward anyone who isn’t talking negatively on their spouse or filing for divorce.
!00%--Guys have been warning women for the longest time about toxic people whether male/female, friend, relative etc.....who intentionally try to ruin relationships. Good for you getting rid of social media and toxic people. @SonyaOutThere.
Why did you start with declaring you're an attorney in Cali, then say nothing relevant to that statement? Is marriage/ divorce a bad deal for men pr not?
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I’m just stating a fact and then proceeding to discuss what is pertinent.
No different than if I had said I’m a doctor, teacher, a nurse, a hair dresser, etc.
Marriage, IMO, is exclusively for people who want to create families. Working together for the well-being of your offspring and future generations, in that case, is very rewarding.
Divorce, IMO, absent something major like violence, drug addiction, financial abuse, etc., is not a good deal for anyone.
@@Neoteny374Marriage is a bad deal if you marry the wrong person which goes for both men and women. Divorce is also bad when you marry the wrong person which can invalidate the prenup like with signing it under duress. That's why it's important to know the man or woman you marry before taking such a big step.
well you wll never be attorney ever again after your statement no firm will ever hire you. I sincerely doubt you ever were an attorney
Also the fact that you said you thoroughly vetted him, and got to know him really well BEFORE you married him is key. That's really significant.
Right once you marry you have decided to fully trust your partner. I wouldn't marry until I fully trusted someone.
People can change. People can become mentally ill.
People change.
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Beware.
@@Burrburrcloudexactly, this seems to be a completely lost concept within this whole group!
*Those wishing you harm in order to be gratified at the downfall of your marriage are already living lives of total failure* --- God bless you & your beautiful message of love, morality & genuine virtue.
Yes it's odd to wish that on another person. And just bc they fisagree eith what she says. Wishing bad things on others creates bad karma
@@sonja4186 so true!
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It’s not because they disagree with her. It’s because they can’t have what she has or are already far past the point of attracting a decent man.
@@SonyaOutThere idk, when are you past the point to attract a descent man? I think if they let go of the hate, they can attract a descent man.
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That’s the whole point though.
They never let go of the hate and the best years of their lives pass them by.
AMEN PRAISE GOD!!! Way to go Estee! This is so awesome I’m at a loss for words! 👏👏👏👏
I think the same. 13 years with my husband and we agreed the d word never will be mention. And I know my husband since we were 7. We are 37 (both) and we have 3 kids. We are in an amazing happy relationship. All thanks to God.
All thanks to yourselves you mean
Thank you for sharing this! I’m reminded of Isaiah 5:20 which says “they will call good evil and evil good” as well as John 15:18 ”If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you.” Thank you for sharing so boldly. It’s a great encouragement to so many women!
Lord, I pray against the evil intentions of those who oppose Estee and wish harm upon her. I rebuke the schemes of the devil in the name of Jesus! That her family would be protected by your hand and her heart be shielded from the enemy in the name of Jesus! Lord, please continue to shine your light through Estee and this platform that you have given her. Strengthen her and provide her with your peace each day. Amen
Amen. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Like you, the wife and I agreed never to joke about divorce, never to threaten it never to mention it. If our marriage is sacred, it is never to be spoken of lightly!
My parents have so much trust in eachother, are best friends, and have been married for 23 years. They also have grown up as Christian’s and so I have too. Since they got married before 25 I have always wanted that too, knowing God will send me someone who most likely have my same values. but my friends like to say my traditional values I have and expectations will lead to me being vulnerable or taken advantage of! They really like to make fun but I love the thought of having a relationship built on Christ, love, trust and friendship! ❤
The power of prayer IS real. The enemy DOES want to ruin your marriage. True words! Preach it, sister!
Prayer, prayer, prayer is essential. Ask your Heavenly Father for guidance and direction in all areas of life, he'll help. Beautiful message Estee💖🌺💞
I’m so thankful for my granddaughter for this channel. MSM needs to 🛑 lying to women that a career will fulfil their lives.
You dont have a prenup when you are young as you. You start out with nothing basically. It would be rare for a young man to have enough for a prenup. Prenups are for older people. And yes, never throw the d word at each other.🙏
Idiotic comment by someone utterly unfamiliar with tort law as it pertains to divorce.
Yup!
@@samclemens1565💯 It's like some people don't realize that not Everywhere is a communal property state. Just because things don't work out doesn't mean you walk away with half of his wealth . and it is his if your name isn't on anything.
Such wisdom! Thank you for always being positive and a good influence to young women💕
I cannot believe you get ppl who wish your marriage would end/end badly. Like wow. Are ppl so jealous and insecure that instead of just wanting the same goodness for themselves too, to wish someone else calamity? Only really stupid ppl. May God help them to be better.
Prayer ❤❤❤ all day! Trust and Love ❤❤❤ I 100% trust my husband and he trusts me. Sad that divorce is an option in life. I’m living my best life and trusting God and Trusting my Husband to lead this house!
Love love love all you said here ❤🙏
It's good that divorce is an option in life. It's sad that it's neccesary sometimes.
Although some divorces might have been prevented if people got to know each other better before getting married
Amen, Sister! I got married at 19 and have 9 kids with my husband, who was 20 when we married. I have been a traditional/biblical wife for 17 years now. We fully trust each other, Share everything, love and serve each other and love the Lord. Bless you for sharing this message! God be with you. ❤️🙏🏻
I love this!! 💓 May God continue to bless you and your precious family
Have him put $7,000 Per year into a Roth IRA for you. In 20 years it will be worth $423,027.58. Then the compounding interest will accumulate to around $3,099,973.00 in your 60s. No matter what, you WILL NEED RETIREMENT SAVINGS.
💯 It's like people think their husband will never die
@@kp2223They also think that nobody could ever get disabled either.
@@TOhara-eb2lpThank God for good budgeting, zero debt and insurance.
Do it from your own job, stop beggary
I put about 20k/month into one for the past 8yrs and I’m only 36 and house/land is paid off.
I love you Estee! Please consider doing daily vlogs, I’m so curious what your daily routine is ❤ Also, I need your dress collection 😂❤
Aww thank you! I have a couple day in the life videos on my channel right now. I would love to start doing more of them though ❤ I also tag all dresses when I have a shop that’s applicable unless they are vintage or unknown. This is vintage I hope this helps though ☺️
Of course you don’t want a prenup, you are being benefited by not having one.
Great message about the importance of prayer in your marriage!
Can I honestly say how much I look up to this lifestyle. When I was a kid my stepmother was a stay-at-home provider and my dad was at work and they have been married for the last 40 years. I honestly agree with you you have to pick the right person! Estee, thank you so much for your input and advice God Bless you
She is a great wife lol. I’m a firm believer in traditional roles and women like her are hard to find.
That's great but that time is gone.
She is online making money out of TH-cam. She isn’t traditional at all. What she is, is a walking talking oxymoron
@@soullessnight6539well how do you know how much money she is making? Do you think all people who post on TH-cam make thousands? Also, she definitely isn't working full time everyday as a normal full time working woman does, and she prioritises her home, so in that sense she is traditional
@@soullessnight6539look at her view, doubt she is making a lot of money at least on TH-cam.
@@jbmoney357nah, we’re out here 😂
Totally agree on this! Thank you!
Estee, I agree with you. We don't use the "D-word" either. 😂 Love this video. ❤ Keep up the great work. 🔥👏💯🤩
May God bless you and your family. Thank you for sharing your example.
My wife and I made the same agreement while engaged - that the "D" word would never be discussed or even joked about in our marriage. We believe that when you consider it a possibility, or plan for it with a prenup, or entertain it on any level, you increase you chances to have one. We are celebrating our 30 year anniversary this week. Three keys to our 30 years have been 1) Christ Centered, 2) Communication, and 3) Conflict Resolution.
Could you please specify what you do in those three points? Love
@@SpiritualDoves Sure.
1) Christ Centered: We both put Christ first in our relationship, meaning we try our best to live our ways in such a life that it pleases God. We serve Him first and foremost. The bible speaks a lot to marriage. "Husbands love your wives," and "Wives respect your husbands" for example. It speaks a lot about how we should treat others. "Consider others above yourselves." Love your neighbor as yourself." "Forgive one another."
2) Communication: We never presume the other can read our mind or pick up on subtle hints, and then get upset when they don't. Instead, we communicate clearly. We make it a point to communicate our expectations and needs. Often people can become disappointed when those are not met, but far too often they aren't met because they weren't CLEARLY communicated. (see active listening below).
3) Conflict resolution. To be sure, we have conflict, but not too often, and never too bad. When we do, we try not to view the other as the problem. Instead, we identify the problem and try to solve it together. That way we are on the same team attacking the problem, instead of on opposing teams attacking each other. We also practice, "Active listening." Active listening during conflict resolution works like this: She states her thoughts, concerns, hurts, issues, and I listen. Then when she has stated those, I empathetically repeat them back to her to confirm I understand what she is saying/feeling. "So, you're telling me you neglected when I neglect the yard... " Or, "So what your'e telling me is.... " It's all with an effort to listen and understand the other. Once she feels she has been heard and understood, then I do the same, and she listens, and then empathetically repeats back to me so I see she understands how I feel, or what my needs/concerns are. Then we try to come up with some reasonable solutions and pick the best one to try. If it doesn't work, we try another option to solve it. It really helps a lot.
What an awesome woman! I agree with all of her points.
I love it! Protect your marriage with prayer. My wife and I have being married for 11 years and loving it. We pray together and have at least one meal together at the diner table (no tv or a phone during that time unless needed during discussion).
Even though I’m praying for Estee and her marriage to succeed too, this is dangerous advice for women. There’s nothing shameful or sinful or less than ideal about expecting both partners to have financial independence, even if only one works outside the home.
A spouse who truly loves you will want to protect you and make sure you are taken care of regardless of what happens in your future and your marriage. Maybe you will grow apart by your choice, or maybe terrifyingly your spouse will develop mental illness or physical injury preventing him from working. Maybe this will look like depression or a personality disorder that is latent. Maybe this will lead to abuse.
A backup is not an insult to your spouse; it’s a way for your spouse to honor you as an autonomous human who makes contributions to your shared lifestyle. A backup is even for if you stay together, a way for you to earn when your spouse can’t.
In healthy relationships, you have the freedom to compliment your partner by choosing them every day. Being financially trapped to a partner is not a flex for him or you.
💯💯💯💯💯💯. It's like saying, "i'm a great driver, and I believe in jesus, so I don't need car insurance."
Prenups and understanding how they can be revoked is a MUST for every man.
They can't be revoked unless they were written incorrectly. There is a list of things an attorney has to put into a prenup to make it rock solid. Only a sloppy attorney can't get it right.
MOST men never pay a thing unless the woman is a Sahm or kids are involved which is only right. Also it's half of hers as well
We have a counter pre-nuptial agreement: if one of us should ever file for divorce, then he/she automatically forfeits all assets and child custody to the other. Signed in front of notary with 2 witnesses.
She'll just whine duress and get everything. Happens all day, every day
Such agreements only force people to stay in miserable marriages and seek happiness outside their marriage ( cheating). A curse in disguise.
I agree sister!!! God bless you and your husband 🙏 ❤️ praying for you!!
Home making has value so the spouse with a job outside the home should deposit money into the homemaker's spousal IRA every year.
If ya need a prenup…run! If it’s not 100% blind faith and trust…not meant to be! In my opinion of course. 🇺🇸
I would run from you...... Defo can't be trusted
Moronic opinion. Prenups are mandatory especially if you are a man.
@@kentneil7100 😂 run Forest run!
Make sure you put on your running shoes. Who was looking for you anyways? @@kentneil7100
@@kentneil7100haha, to each their own. I’m married so you don’t ever have to be concerned! 😂 Have a great weekend.
Love your videos!❤️ I would never get a prenup. I’m also so blessed that I have been with my boyfriend since high school and we have started out with nothing and will build or whole lives together! ❤️
A prenup just protects both from losing half of what they entered the marriage with, what they inherited from their individual families, etc.
It's not just about money. You can also guarantee a lot of other clauses in prenupts they are a great idea.
But what if it's really a case where you really should leave. If you don't have any start-over & lawyer money you are stuffed. This is how women get stuck in keep getting hit or be homeless situations.
I don’t think women should hide money from their husbands either. I think women should make their own money. My husband is my best friend, and we depend on each others love and support. We have been together for 32 years now. But I have always wanted to be economically independent. If the worst would happen and he would disappear from my life, I must be able to care for myself.
Amen sister in Christ! If a man or a woman feels they need to hide money from their spouse then they married the wrong person. They did not listen to the Holy Spirit before getting married.
It's not just about you trusting him, Estee. It's the other way around. If you decide to leave him for another man or if you get tired of the trad lifestyle, he has to pay you for the next decade without a prenup.
Amen for the last sentence! Hallelujah to Lord Jesus Christ!
So the fact you state a prenup regarding not asking hubby to sign one, this indicates you’re a very wealthy lady so are you qualified to tell other women not to have a backup plan as you have family money and an influencer job on YT. I’m a Christian lady, almost 48 and I went to university etc before I started dating. Married my first kiss, first boyfriend, waited for sex within marriage but still ensured I had my backup plan in case I needed it. My mother was a child bride and we lived in absolute poverty. Having no options ain’t pretty when your kid has no shoes and there’s a food scarcity. Girls, please….. have a backup plan. My father became mentally ill when I was a baby… these things happen. I like Estee but respectfully, you live in a bubble
This is horrible advice. You need to be able to know where everything is, the accounts and passwords and all and not rely on blind trust. If the man truly loves you, he’ll understand. Also, if you start with nothing like I did, there’s nothing to prenup but who knows down the line.
I think if you have given up the best years of your life and gave up a career for a man, you should definitely get something out of it until you can figure something out.
I believe prenups show more love. I love you enough to state that in case anything happens I think you deserve this much etc. I don’t have anything resistance to it and I don’t think it makes divorce more appealing but instead the relationship more loving.
God bless you and your family ❤✝️
Scripture actually highlights God's laws for how to handle the bride price (which was essentially a prenup, just different name for it) and proper divorce allowed by the Most High if done the correct way. This doesn't mean we shouldn't get to know our future mate really well and strive for harmony trust and a lifelong union.
Good for you. I very much respect your decision. I sense that you will never be divorced. If widowed, you will remarry because you are a very special person and pray and have faith. Dima
In today's society prenups are seen as a way for someone to not have to share their wealth, but you can put anything in a prenup. Like, you are only allowed to get divorced for xyz reason or mandatory marriage counseling for xyz time if someone wants a divorce. So, it can actually make people want to stay married instead of bail. That said, I am religious too so god's word is enough for me.
I respect this. Having a prenupt is like having marriage insurance.
Some people are jealous of what others have worked hard to create. Pray for your marriage and focus on what's important in your life.
I think this is the first video of yours that I’ve watched, Estee, where I agree completely with everything that you said. Something I told my husband before we got engaged was that for me divorce is not an option and he agreed. We’ve been married 9 years, gone through many difficult times, and we still stand by that. Divorce is not an option.
That's a fantasy. You're not precognizant.
@@eobardthawne324Precognizant of what? Even if you don’t know what’s going to happen in the future doesn’t mean you can’t make the decision before marriage to not get divorced once married. I am a Roman Catholic and we do not believe that once a marital bond is made that it can be broken.
@MissLauraSquared Just like something can be made it can also be broken. You're not proving anything by preserving something that's dead.
@@eobardthawne324True, things can be broken. When it comes to marriage, though, if two people make the effort on a daily basis to prioritize their marriage and commitment to each other, they can prevent any breaking in the first place.
@@eobardthawne324True, things can be broken. In marriage, though, if both spouses are committed to working with each other on a daily basis to show love and preserve their marriage they can prevent any breaking from happening in the first place.
My wife and I got together and neither of us had anything worth protecting in a pre-nup. We are now doing very well because we have always tried to be a team and worked together for it. We are closer now than when we got together 25 years ago.
Finances is not all that goes into prenups. There can be so many clauses like we can only divorce for x y z reason. Or marriage counseling is required upon x y z happening. Printups are not all about money and statistically people who get prenupts are just as likely to get divorced as people who don't have them.
Je suis française et suis tombée sur votre chaîne youtube par hasard. Quel bonheur de tomber sur une femme qui partage les mêmes valeurs traditionnelles et qui en plus est une soeur en Jésus-Christ.
Vous êtes une femme formidable et tant pis si ça ne plait pas à certains !
Nothing is a bigger red flag than being asked to sign a prenup. Commit to your spouse and know a good marriage demands sacrifice by both parties! ❤
Exactly! In my personal opinion, I believe prenups are a clear cut sign that someone does not trust that person enough to marry them and wants to prepare themselves in case it didn’t work out.
@EsteeWilliams I completely agree. Marriage puts it all on the line and declares what's mine is yours!
LOL. It's not a red flag. Prenups are for people who would rather not be at the mercy of the state if the worst happens.
@lorrilewis2178 Women don't want prenups because they wanna run away with cash and prizes if the marriage doesn't workout!
But still the redpill incite men to get prenups.
This is so wise, I agree 100%!
Love your hair :)
I say make it the case where divorce is only possible under extreme circumstance such abusive situations, cheating or if both partners agree to it. No more divorces just because you don't feel like being married.
I think people should have the right to divorce no matter what, America is a free country and that should include whether you want to be married or not
@@fvvb6883 I disagree. Your breaking up families and taking peoples assets for no good reason other than your feelings. That is inherently selfish. Damaging your husbands life and children's life just because of your emotion. Does till death do us part not apply anymore?
Unless there's mistreatment then I firmly believe divorce shouldn't be an option or they should just power through and stick with the decision they made.
@@Markus2E5I6 I 100% think it’s wrong to end a marriage just because you don’t want to be married anymore. But I don’t think it should be illegal. My mom was an emotionally abusive drug addict and would put us in repetitive danger by driving us around while under the influence. When my dad divorced her after she made it clear she didn’t want to get clean, the courts still gave her 50/50 custody. If the courts didn’t find my mom (who drove us around and got into many crashes with us in the car while being high) abusive enough to not take us away from her, what makes you think the courts would be better about deciding if a marriage is abusive enough to allow divorce? My point is I don’t trust the court enough to determine what situations are abusive and what aren’t.
@@fvvb6883 I fully get what you mean. Even if you design a perfect system, the ones who actually have to see it through aren't perfect and will make mistakes. My idea wasn't really realistic because unfortunately humans can be biased or just not see the whole picture.
Hey Estee, 17 year old girl here 😊 just wanted to say how much I appreciate you and you bravely putting your traditional values out here on yt. It is soooo encouraging! My Mom married someone who she could not trust (she didn’t mean to, but she was young and her parents were not people she could look to for guidance), and had to divorce him for our safety when I was 7. By the amazing grace and love of Jesus, she has just remarried an amazing guy a couple months ago. All that to say, I haven’t grown up with a lot of examples of what a healthy marriage looks like, and so this and your channel have helped me SO much 😁 God bless you and your husband!!😊❤
AMEN...Well said‼️Exactly right...I live a Vintage life because I grew up wealthy & Every1 I know got divorced...So I married a Pro Roper Cowboy was SO FUNN...just like your Video😆 was married 20 yrs, 2 Beautiful Daughters now 3 gorgeous grandchildren 💅🏻🤠
I love and normally fully agree with you 100% - however, on rare circumstances a prenup would save women and children. I also thoroughly vetted my husband, trusted him, a lot of people in the community and church spoke very highly of him- unfortunately I was in one of those very rare circumstances and he later he was diagnosed (Court ordered forensic investigation as well as a full psychological test). I was a trad wife with children. But I and my children greatly suffered. In my opinion and to me it's common sense- a loving trustworthy man would want a good legal prenup to offer you and your future children security. You're giving up everything for this and if you end up in a rare situation or he changes and leaves you one day (I know it's hard to believe, but it happens to some trad wives), it is the children who will suffer the most. A loving trustworthy man would have no problem with a prenup- but other men do. So if he's truly trustworthy- he'll give you this security and safety- and you'd likely not need it.
Sorry... he turned out to be a very charming diagnosed psychopath.
A committed covenant marriage based on love and respect ,is forever
I don't know many girls who are this wholesome, let alone married at 26. Unless it's some kind of oops situation, where either the man, woman or both feel pressured into getting married, only to end up hating each other, getting a divorce, and screwing up their child emotionally in the process.
She aint wholesome. She talks about tradwife yet ahe is still childless
It's rare! My daughter was 19 when she married her husband who was 20. They celebrate five years in August.
Then you're not paying attention enough
She's a full grown married woman.Why are we calling her a girl?
Amazing at the end about prayer!!
I love your videos, Estee! You have wonderful wisdom at such a young age and are a great role model for women young and old!!! I enjoy seeing your beautiful dresses as I also wear dresses daily. What type of life insurance did you and your husband get? Can you elaborate more on that please? Is it something you both got thru his employer or a separate policy for each of you?
Marriage is a big commitment my parents have told me chose who you marry carefully and get to know one another.
I like the way Michael Knowles put it. You can go ahead and make a prenup. Just make it different than the traditional prenup. Have the prenup say that whoever is responsible for dissolving the marriage...that individual walks away with nothing.
When vetting a guy, I think it's also important to take into consideration the character of the man's father (or mother, if he was raised single-parent). How they view marriage, family, commitment and their integrity and how they conduct themselves in life greatly shapes and influences the children and their expectations of what family and marriage mean.
Pray about everything!! Pray without ceasing!❤️
Hi!! 💕💕 Have you read a book written in the 60s called fascinating womanhood? I think you would love it!!!! It’s about true femininity and respect towards a husband! It genuinely changed my life and my relationship.
God bless you! 🙏🏼❤️
Estee. This is such valuable advise.
I preceate it, that you give so much trust in your marriage. it's so rare in this society, especially for a young woman. I think God blesses this trust and will to please. I now it, and it could be hard to fight for the right things. Forget what's "normal" in the society. there is no more moral standards in the world.
The only issue I have with this topic is that you do have a prenuptial agreement. It's the one defined and given to you by the state. Which was written by people who don't necessarily have your best interest in mind.
8+ years and no prenup. No concept of divorce and it's not happening in my marriage. I showed your videos to my wife and she agreed with a lot of things you said. I agree with 98% of things you say as well. :) We both have life insurance. :)
You do NOT know your husbands character inside and out. As a woman in her late 50's, I've heard far too many young women saying ...... "But, he wasn't like that when I married him". Except he was. Don't put blinkers on and think that it will protect your marriage. Having said that, may your God walk with you when the troubles do come.
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No. Most of these women are new into they're marriage. She clearly isn't.
@@SebastianHerrera-j1n
Most men are degenerate and will cheat given the opportunity.
Bien sûr que si on peut connaître son mari par coeur.
Ce n'est pas parce que certaines femmes sont naïves et pensent connaître leur mari parce que celui-ci a joué un rôle avec elles sans qu'elles ne le sachent que ça veut dire que c'est pareil pour tout le monde. Non. Ce n'est pas pareil pour tout le monde. Oui c'est possible de connaître son mari par cœur et de pouvoir lui faire confiance à 100% ! Dieu merci c'est possible.
@@MCAK0306 n'importe quoi
I agree with her if individuals entered in to marriage as a covenant from God as it was intended they would stay together significantly increases their well being, their assets and strengthen the family unit. Thank God for good young God fearing beautiful women like you who will speak the truth.
both of you are Christians/believers 👍🙏❤️
Jesus Christ should always be the center of marriage 🙏
Yes girl!!! I love this. I teach this on my feminine energy motivation channel as well. Divorce is not an option. Wait to find the right person to marry, because I don’t believe in divorce. If you are going into the marriage with the idea that divorce is an option, then you are marrying the wrong person. I understand the concept that sometimes people change, but the reality is, you should know your partner inside and out before you take the plunge to marriage. We are all constantly growing and evolving, but the goal is to grow together. No man left behind. So if you are continuously, growing together, you are building a solid foundation for a successful and happy marriage. I, for myself, the only time I believe divorce may potentially be an option is with infidelity. I don’t believe that breaking that kind of trust with your partner is healthy for you in the long run. But this is just my personal opinion. To each their own.
This is quickly becoming one of my favorite channels.
Not many good women, and so a prenup looks like a non-negotiable. And not many men have it in their character to make that sacrifice.
but what if I want to have money to buy the things that I want ?
Normally I agree with you but not on this one.
If you are an advocate for life insurance, you should be an advocate for a prenup for the exact same reasons, being that despite your best intentions life is unpredictable.
Marriage is a legally binding contract with financial implications, and while I agree that you should do everything in your power to hold your marriage together, every well written contract requires an exist clause that protects both parties.
💯💯💯 It's like believing in your faith As a driver means you don't need car insurance
The idea of a prenup never even crossed my mind when I married my husband. I always thought of prenups as kind of... idk... bougie, I guess? Like something for country club types.
From what I know prenups USED to be really common for richer men to protect their money and for older people. But NOW it’s becoming more common even for young people all because trust is very rare in this culture and we are told not to trust anyone completely but ourselves
@@EsteeWilliamsoh no, people are trying to be smart and practical unlike you🥺
I don't understand why you said you wouldn't have a prenup, the only reason you need a prenup is if one person in the marriage is coming in with the considerably more assets than the other one. Prenups are designed for the instance if two people are getting married and one of the people is rather wealthy in the other one is not, that is so the first person doesn't lose everything if the other person decides to leave. For instance take myself If I get married again I will without a doubt have a prenup, own a very large business and unless I'm marry another person that has much the same thing I'm not going to risk losing that in the event something were to happen to our marriage, not that I think that would happen but I got divorced once and I didn't think I would that time because a woman that cheated because she didn't get her way. Now most states will say in a divorce you leave with what you came with so you have a rather large amount of assets You're allowed to take those assets with you plus any money those assets were to make You get to keep as well, but divorce can be very nasty and it's almost a 50% chance it's going to happen, matter of fact my lawyer told me straight up the day you get married is the day you're divorce begins. Anyway I hope the best for you and your husband and I hope it works out I have seen couples that have been married for 70 years and that takes a very special type of person.
I want a link for all her dresses😭
Yes share please
yea I agree. My husband and I don't acknowledge divorce no matter how angry we get. Separation is on the table but only for a couple weeks then we have to try again (we've never had to implicate this). When we were engaged we were told to prepare for divorce by our year 5. I've been told to get a job or build a career so i can live on my own if we divorce. I told them why would I start something and have a plan for ending it because divorce isn't something that just happens to people, it is something they choose to do. And 70 percent of marriages are initiated by the woman so that means most likely i would be the one to leave (checks notes) to "find myself" at age 40!! I believe in my soul that doing that is absolutely ridiculous so that's not a worry. The men who divorce do it because of incompatibility which leads to new relationships, my husband and i made sure we were very compatible before we married so no to that too. Besides all that we made a commitment to GOD. I don't know about everyone else but we take that very serious, more than anything...
I agree with never hiding money! However, do you have your own credit line or joint banking account in case, God forbid, something happens to him? I think my concern is more in when a wife or husband has no idea about the finances and isn’t on accounts. Thank you again for your earnest comments.
Since she garners a significant amount of revenue from TikTok.I just assume she has her own money
can you tell us what are your thought on home schooling, how do you handle kids and chores all at the same times plus home schooling ?
She doesn’t have kids
She doesn't have kids.So i'm not really sure why you're looking for her opinion on home school
I'm trying to make sense of this. So... a prenup protects the person from a bad incentive of divorce. No one ever claims it will happen but the protection is useful to have... similarly, a car insurance is made to protect you from an incident. I think the justification presented to not get car insurance because you never think you'll be the one causing the incident is a bit hubris...
The only “backup” my husband and I choose is life insurance which protects us individually if one of us were to have a fatal accident. That’s why I mention life insurance is great but personally I don’t think prenups are great.. just my opinion though 😊
If your with the wrong person there IS no making it work!! Dont judge people for getting divorced. They aint doing it for fun. A guy I used to work with dovorced his wife. He told me that she beat him with a foldable chair. Why stay married to some one like that?
I really like your content, Estee. ♡
For me personally, I wouldn't want to be a trad-wife myself. I am really in favour of the 50/50 model.
But your content is so sweet and inspiring. ♡ The 1950's aesthetics are so lovely. I really do like following your congent. I find it so terrible that their are actually people out there wishing u being hit by your husband and similar terrible things. I hope you dont take this personally cus I really do think that some young woman, and even some of my close girlfriends, would really prefer being a trad-wife and not having to work a +40h job.
I hope all those terribly negative comments and hate dont affect u that badly. It makes me even sad reading them. Kind regards ♡♡♡
Abolish divorce and make adultery punishable. Then we got a deal.
there are instances where divorce is nessacary
@@Starry-ph6yx Then a prenup shouldn't be a problem.
Yes abolish human rights. Good call.
Abolishing divorce would be extremely dangerous for a lot of people, regardless of gender. If we want to change our views on marriage and divorce, it’s should be a societal change.. and rather than shaming people who do get divorced (because you don’t know what might have lead to it), maybe focus on teaching what marriage is actually about so young people don’t blindly step into it or make hasty decisions in the moment… as for adultery, I do think we should help and protect victims of it more and maybe even by law, but you can also see it as a sign that adulterer is not the one for you.. a good, loving partner would never do that..
@@Rabbit5200 Divorce should be over night rubber stamped, without question.
The catch should be that you leave with nothing, getting 0% of the marital assets.
Custody should be 50:50 automatic, no exceptions.
Please protect this woman at all cost
Prayer in all things. Good advice.
My sister is quite a traditional wife with three kids though we do not really call it "tradwife" here in Europe. They have no prenup but I always advised her to get a private pension insurance on her name. Her husband owns a small company and makes good money but for taxation it is already difficult to say how much he makes, and in case of divorce the money could be elusive.
I try to put the main focus on the fact that she will be covered in case he dies. However, a brother will naturally be more careful in these things.
Here in the U.S. we call ourselves traditional wives, housewives or stay at home mothers..these your people thinks it’s a new thing or a trend. 😂😂
Your ability to trigger radical leftist women to shrieks, sobs, wails and blind fury is remarkable. It’s a gift!
Are you genuinely this stupid?
I've never heard anything that is More truthful than this!!! 🙏🩷🙏
Giving a lot of men's experience, he should be pushing for a prenup when 70% of the divorces are instigated by women. You are an exception to the rule, Estee.
What you're saying is true. God hates a divorce and you should never plan on it down the road for if it doesn't work out. Gods word gives us every tool we need to have a happy loving family and marriage. You're right never say the D WORD. The more you do the more it puts the idea in action.
What about health insurance, fire insurance, car insurance, wills etc. all those things help you be prepared for the worst and have some protection in place for a SAHM and future children . The prenup just another form of protection
That’s like saying marriage is just a piece of paper
I don’t think I ever heard Jesus give financial advice.