4 UPDATES: Cheating Wife Comes Home to Take my Kids Thinking She'll Easily Beat me in The Court But

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  • @jay_dave8722
    @jay_dave8722 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    When they said to their mother that she's an "Alcoholic cheater" right in her face! I felt like I was in cloud 9. Beautiful!

  • @MizzShortai
    @MizzShortai ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Lilly will look even more defeated when her boss doesn't leave his wife for her. Lol. I was kinda hoping the boss wife would find out and same with their job.

  • @eldeano9964
    @eldeano9964 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Story 1: "I only settled for you".
    No, you hit the wall, and the best you can do now is be the mistress to an old man.

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    What the oldest said was perfect. It was the truth. She doesn’t need to apologize. Her mother is a pile of you know what

  • @dianabialaskahansen2972
    @dianabialaskahansen2972 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Story 1: Definitely NTA. Those girls might not be OPs biological children, but they bonded with him and their mother is a terrible person. Not surprising that they will go to any length to escape the abuse and live with the parent who proved he loves them.

  • @inacook2285
    @inacook2285 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Those girls KNOW who they need..THEIR DAD!!! OP, you've lost nothing but a mean, cheating, drunk but gained 2 LOYAL daughters!!! Yaaaaaaay!

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    That mom has no right to tell her what to do. She’s been out of her life for a very long time you lost the right to parent her.

  • @FatCat0989
    @FatCat0989 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Story 1, OP was more of a parent in 4 years to those girls than their own mother was in their entire lives.

  • @arielortiz5643
    @arielortiz5643 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    So many single parents have difficulty finding a partner that wants to be with them even if it doesn't mean to be parents, yet this woman found someone who was eager to be a dad and still had the audacity of ruining everything.
    Still, it is clear that OP did a great job raising the girls. I would be so proud of them if they were my children ✨

    • @ravanpee1325
      @ravanpee1325 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes, and you don't need to wonder why. "My children will always be my first priority and just accept that they treat you like crap"

  • @tennesseedogpack
    @tennesseedogpack ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Story one: that’s good that the kids see your side and realize how bad your soon to be ex is

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    She neglected her kids she can’t be mad at OP when her daughters actually start getting closer to her new husband

  • @rosihantu1
    @rosihantu1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They'll always resent you for not being successful

  • @diamonddiva3204
    @diamonddiva3204 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    story 1 Liy ruined her own family by cheating and drinking and staying out till all hours but she wont admit it

  • @stevenmccart8502
    @stevenmccart8502 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The kid can pick which parent to live with at 16 years old. Or apply for emancipation. The woman might have manipulated him but , not the two girls.

  • @Mia-dt3gl
    @Mia-dt3gl ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The boss ain’t leaving his wife. They never do. OP’s ex screwed herself.

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Unfortunately, we didn't get to hear that part.

    • @diarradunlap9337
      @diarradunlap9337 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MrBeevee5 If there's another update on Story 1, then it's coming.

    • @Mia-dt3gl
      @Mia-dt3gl ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@MrBeevee5 I’ve seen similar stories to this and the end result is the same. WS leaves their spouse for their AP but the AP _doesn’t_ leave their spouse. So WS becomes a glorified side piece to their AP while they wait on empty promises from their AP that a divorce is coming. But it never does.

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Mia-dt3gl The one chance is to let AP's wife know about the affair. Maybe she will leave HIM.

    • @Mia-dt3gl
      @Mia-dt3gl ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MrBeevee5 Perhaps, but a lot of time the AP’s priority is saving their own marriage and they will dump WS to do so. And even if AP’s spouse goes through with divorce, the AP still won’t be with WS because they’ll blame the WS for the of the marriage.

  • @strawberrysangria1474
    @strawberrysangria1474 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Story 1: I don't know why Lily thought she'd win custody. Yes they're her children, but she's sleeping around late at night and she's an alcoholic, and she's not there for the girls like OP is. If she did get custody, her youngest would leave in 2 years. At the very least, I'm glad OP kept his family and got rid of the extra baggage.

    • @danacarter9147
      @danacarter9147 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Well said, or worse, if Lily had custody, the girls would be on their way to the foster care system

    • @Sassy_Kat
      @Sassy_Kat ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think maybe it’s because she got custody in her 1st marriage (which I now think was due to her same behavior in her previous marriage). But, that time she got away with it. She said she had been sleeping with her boss for a decade, but only 3 yrs into this marriage that OP noticed something was wrong. That admission was a HUGE red flag. 🚩🚩🚩🥴🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @ivorynk752
      @ivorynk752 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      The legal system tends to favor mothers, due to the mindset "a child needs their mother" but the bias isn't so strong that a blatant alcoholic who is rarely around will get full custody.

    • @thundercricket4634
      @thundercricket4634 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ivorynk752 In America it gets pretty bad. Family courts are cartoonishly prejudicial towards men.

    • @Zurround
      @Zurround ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Some people think that BIOLOGY is this magical panacea that grants full loyalty from the offspring. She assumed that they would take her side because she carried them in her body for 9 months each. She was wrong.

  • @ElleD308
    @ElleD308 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    🤣😂 "With my first wife I regret jumping so fast into marriage, so when I met a cute single mom, I jumped even faster into marriage, and now I regret it" haha, his stupidity and lack of spine has no limits 😂😂😂

    • @diarradunlap9337
      @diarradunlap9337 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I suspect that he's learned his lesson, this time.

    • @shivsankermondal
      @shivsankermondal ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@diarradunlap9337 nope , these are spineless doormats we are talking about .

  • @kenolson3064
    @kenolson3064 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 3 wow, just wow.

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    How can you be sick of someone who’s raised your kids for you while you sleep around with your married boss, you got them a father now they’re just gonna lose a mother and it’s all her own fault

  • @safespacebear
    @safespacebear ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Story 1: gosh I could not love Lily and her sister more. Those girls got some important things about life figured out at a young age. More impressively, they weren't passive, they fought to protect what they valued and cherished. I think OP was walking the right line but at some point you have to recognize when your child isn't speaking with a child's voice anymore.

    • @Sifya
      @Sifya ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah they are badass!

    • @dahliadolores9903
      @dahliadolores9903 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They are so lucky to have such a great father.

    • @hema1.036
      @hema1.036 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Lily was the ex wife name but I understand what you’re saying

    • @autumnpalmer4468
      @autumnpalmer4468 ปีที่แล้ว

      But story can’t be real . He has zero rights to the underage child . Even a dunk ect takes priority over a non relative

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    First story she works with stressful job, but she also has a family and she can’t just come home drunk every night from drinking with her coworkers she hast to find a better way

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The last story thank you for sticking up for your kid. A lot of people need to mind their own business. The mother could’ve said one thing and left it at that.

  • @ajb7530
    @ajb7530 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    1st story, OP, the daughters are old enough to know who they wish to live with. Your ex-wife is the one that destroyed the marriage by cheating, not you. your ex-wife thinks that her boss will leave his wife for her, and your ex-wife needs a reality check. Her boss most likely has a prenup.

  • @virtualatheist
    @virtualatheist ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Story 1: As usual, a person gets what she wanted and it still wasn't enough!

  • @Brimoeris1
    @Brimoeris1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Keep up the excellent work. 👑

    • @rGirlRelationships
      @rGirlRelationships  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you! Will do!

    • @Brimoeris1
      @Brimoeris1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rGirlRelationships You are very much welcome.

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Don’t feel conflicted OP she lost her kids on her own. She was an alcoholic cheater. They are better off with you. That is an honor for someone to be close to their stepfather like they are to you.

  • @Zurround
    @Zurround ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 3 really pissed me off. I would not take her back. All those years of no contact while someone else raised her child and the first goddamn thing she does is try to control what she eats? Really pissed me off.

  • @anggamaulana3498
    @anggamaulana3498 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Story 1:
    Lily was the one who ruin her own relationship with her daughters, not OP.
    For 3 years OP was the one who always been there for the kids, so he was a true parent for them. The kids are old enough to know that their mother is a cheater, evil, and never been there for them.
    I'm sure the kids had already saw their mother bad behavior many times even before she married OP, and they had enough of her.
    I hope OP fully win the court and custody battle.

    • @danacarter9147
      @danacarter9147 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope so too. But, if Lilly wins the court/custody battle, the oldest daughter will couch-surf in random people's houses, and the youngest daughter will be in and out of foster homes, when social services takes her away from Lilly, next, the oldest will move in with a boyfriend who's also a cheater, evil, and never there for her, have a baby with/marry the jerk, the youngest will move in with a boyfriend who's controlling and violent (aging out of foster care), and have a baby with him, also, and then, having no other relatives, or friends to take the girls in, the oldest will flee to another state, and have a find a cheaper apartment, plus, work multiple odd jobs support herself and her baby, the youngest will also have to flee to another state, stay at a women's shelter, until she gets her GED certificate, finds a job, and subsidized housing.⚠️

  • @johnpatricklim4509
    @johnpatricklim4509 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 1: karma at its best....

  • @standinthegsp6858
    @standinthegsp6858 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your not wanting to be adopted by stepdad should have absolutely no bearing on whether or not your sibs are adopted. It’s your MOM that’s being manipulative.
    Tell her if she forces it, the day you turn 18 you’ll change your name back.

  • @teresayates8274
    @teresayates8274 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Story 2. When my mother was remarried, my little sister and I were ages 4 and 8. Our father came back from Vietnam with shell shock and scary anger issues, and was violent to me and my mother (sister was just a baby at the time) so I didn't have great memories of him. (Please note that I'm 56 now and understand that my brave father gave his mind for our freedom, and his dreams for nightmares that never end, thanks dad❤️) My sister got adopted by him but I didn't, my name is who I am, and who I'm connected to, my lineage. My mother and step dad had no problem with it. So I don't understand the thinking of the adults in this story. Adopt the children that want it, it doesn't have to be all or none!

  • @happyme65
    @happyme65 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    At least his eldest has a back bone

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    People really should wait a while till they get married after a divorce or someone dies. If anything for the kids sick kids don’t always need a step parent no this guy sounds like he’s a good stepfather but that doesn’t mean OP hast to have a relationship with him. Why can’t the mother let the other kids be adopted instead of putting all this pressure on OP for not wanting it

  • @Zurround
    @Zurround ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If I had been the child's adoptive parent in the final story I would have made it up to my daughter for her ruined meal since she barely got anything to eat by taking her out to dinner at a really good restaurant and then after that a great dessert, maybe the ice cream shop or the dessert menu at the restaurant or maybe we would go to the bakery and get a cake to take home. I would have cheered her up in a way that the egg donor would not have approved of.

  • @br4n905senkugo
    @br4n905senkugo ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You feel bad that the person telling you that you ruined the family was the person who was banging her boss and becoming an alcoholic?

  • @jovonpierce7610
    @jovonpierce7610 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Last Story: Dad is definitely not an AH. Good on him for tell the egg donor off. I got "gifted" eating disorders from both my mom and dad and it took therapy and bariatric surgery for me to lose weight. FYI I'm one of these people who do the exact opposite just to piss someone off if they order me to do something. I went crazy eating after I moved out just to spite them.

  • @onepieceisking5493
    @onepieceisking5493 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Story 1, she probably thought that because they were her kids they would stand beside her. But because op was so close with the kids that backfired on her. Only a toxic person would blame the good parent for them feel bad, say that they poisoned the kids against them, cheat on their significant other, and then say that person makes them happy. All she accomplished was showing how toxic and horrible she is. She's an egg donor NOT a mother the kids know that and therefore want nothing to do with her. It's on her that now her kids despise her. To say that her boss is leaving his wife to be with her shows that she thinks she's all high and mighty. The oldest had every right to say what she said to the egg donor. It's up to them on who they want to stay with and they chose you. To them she's not their mom and don't want anything to do with her. Only the egg donor would say that op manipulated the kids and think she was going to win in court. By threatening the egg donor to make her back down shows that they more than despise her and she's practically dead to them. Seriously?!? SHE ruined the family by being a horrible person. People like that egg donor is going to rot in hell.

    • @diarradunlap9337
      @diarradunlap9337 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Egg donor? Don't you mean "incubator?"

    • @onepieceisking5493
      @onepieceisking5493 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@diarradunlap9337 I call them egg donors.

    • @danacarter9147
      @danacarter9147 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@onepieceisking5493 So, do I.

  • @jguterrez01
    @jguterrez01 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Story1: I'll wait for the update when the AP realizes that his wife is gonna to take everything from him so he dumps Lily to save his marriage and Lily comes crawling back to OP. OP should take Lily to the cleaners with alimony and child support and I'll also sue the AP for alienation of affection.

  • @tracygardner6318
    @tracygardner6318 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Kids can eat a lot and apparently this kid needs a lot of food which is nothing wrong with it

  • @Buff_Helpy
    @Buff_Helpy ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This dude seems to have a problem with marrying to quickly.

  • @kyleanuar9090
    @kyleanuar9090 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Every guy in relationship issues on Reddit involved single mothers, Sheesh!

  • @MusicGirl881
    @MusicGirl881 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Story 2: My heart goes out to OP. She doesn’t want to be adopted yet her family is trying to bully and emotionally manipulate them into getting adopted by the stepdad. The mom and stepdad are the biggest AHs because they refuse to accept OP’s decision and is cause stress, drama and ruining OP’s relationship with the siblings and with them. If they don’t stop all I can see is once OP hits 18 that they will leave and go no contact with all of them.

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Funny, if they left her alone, she might come around. However, I don't know why it was so important to them. It is just a piece of paper.

    • @barneytaylor9338
      @barneytaylor9338 ปีที่แล้ว

      What I do not understand is why the f do they not just adopt the other 2 without OP. The whole thing just screams borderline child abuse to me. I have some very serious concerns about what else might be going on behind the scenes.

    • @andysheepleton
      @andysheepleton ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MrBeevee5 It made me suspicious that maybe there was some inheritance or something similar. OP is clearly being manipulated and it seems to orchestrated that it just seems like there must be some kind of ulterior motive.

  • @Mrwillie95
    @Mrwillie95 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Op mom needs to tell her kids to back off and leave op alone story2

    • @rogerrabbit80
      @rogerrabbit80 ปีที่แล้ว

      OP needs to ask them all, "What part of NO don't you understand?" Then she needs to just keep repeating that every time any of them brings it up.

  • @Mrwillie95
    @Mrwillie95 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It sounded like op wanted a living in maid husband and the only thing she does bring in the money 💰 story1

    • @rogerrabbit80
      @rogerrabbit80 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Depending on where they are, Lily could end up paying alimony and child support, while OP walks away with half the marital property.

  • @JP-eh4ee
    @JP-eh4ee ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 1:. Those are intelligent kids.

  • @trashotaku
    @trashotaku 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Looks like Lily’s plans to get her kids a father worked a little too well and now her kids prefer OP over her, sweet sweet karma

  • @HellstreamGames
    @HellstreamGames ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 2, she says her mom didnt cheat. Im 100% certain she cheated the whole time and thats her biological dad. Thats why theyre so insistant. Cant see any other logical reason

  • @johnkendall6962
    @johnkendall6962 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have all heard the saying . Accountability is like kryptonite to a woman. I kicked out my wife and got custody of our children. She was cheating, had been coming home hours after she got off work, sometimes smelled of booze and used every excuse she could think of for leaving our children at a baby sitter for most of the day. They never lived with her again and some times there was years between her visits to see them. I stayed in the family home the judge removed her name off the deed. 40 years later and she still blames me. PS one the children was hers from a previous relationship but unlike OP I adopted her to keep just what was happening OP from happening.

  • @philipturner9087
    @philipturner9087 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 1 - Your girls are rock stars

  • @philomenaquinn1158
    @philomenaquinn1158 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 2
    You don't have to be adopted you have a father and your father existed he can adopt the youngest but you are so much older you can keep your own name your younger siblings are being used to put pressure on you h, your mother is selfish and manipulating you don't give in and you tell your mother she doesn't have to worry you will be a adult soon and you will leave because of her actions, adoption of the young siblings has nothing to do with you

  • @trashotaku
    @trashotaku 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Second story: NTA, OP feelings are completely valid and it’s extremely cruel of the siblings and parents to try to emotionally manipulate OP into giving up their happiness. The stepfather will still be OP siblings’ father, since he’s legally married to their legal mother

  • @NunyaDammeBiznis
    @NunyaDammeBiznis ปีที่แล้ว

    16 is old enough to choose where to live

  • @trashotaku
    @trashotaku 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is that woman in the last story *trying* to give the 14-year-old an eating disorder because that kind of behavior and wording can absolutely do so much mental harm to a growing teenage girl. Besides, she has no right to parent the child she basically abandoned for 14 years

  • @lawsonallen7741
    @lawsonallen7741 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Never play the good guy to a Cheater. I can see why she see's you as a door mate. You are..

  • @sukriyagautam8957
    @sukriyagautam8957 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 1: OP stop saying sorry to internet stranger for speaking the truth. Stop being a doormat. You dont need to build the relationship with these vile women if the children want the relation they can chose themselves. Stop apologizing and blaming yourself.its literally irritating.

  • @danielmoore9080
    @danielmoore9080 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sorry to disagree. 16 years old is old enough to know what they need for themselves. Been there , done that.

  • @shivsankermondal
    @shivsankermondal ปีที่แล้ว

    Lily got interest what for her did , original price is due payment in future.

  • @thor7219
    @thor7219 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    She cheating. 100 percent.

  • @Danarchy3
    @Danarchy3 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Another one of these “AITA for not wanting my wife to kick puppies and slap babies” 🤦‍♂️

  • @DisneyChar
    @DisneyChar ปีที่แล้ว

    YTDM so even the kids know she's an alcoholic cheater and treats you like trash, and your focus is on making the ex wife happy?

  • @parrycup7212
    @parrycup7212 ปีที่แล้ว

    S1:Op. Why are you blaming yourself fot something you didn't started, you didn' started to cheat, you didn't started the lawyers steps,
    And you know you didn't started telling the kids what to do.
    Don't blame yourself.
    Even your ex still angry the kids didn't do as she said.
    Why are you being nice to her?
    Why do you feel this isn't her fault?
    Yeah...

  • @drayboog5236
    @drayboog5236 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 2 who's the mother?

  • @Brimoeris1
    @Brimoeris1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yeah

  • @philomenaquinn1158
    @philomenaquinn1158 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 1
    So you wife cheated on you while you reared her children,and she thought the children would go with her she's not their mother a mother puts her children first and you should name Daniel in the divorce papers because she's a disgusting selfish person, she was shocked when her children told her they wanted absolutely nothing to do with her she can make threats but your eldest is a adult and you wife can get custody for two years
    She ruined their family she worked than spent her down time having a affair and drinking the kids are not idiots

  • @johnrynkiewicz1607
    @johnrynkiewicz1607 ปีที่แล้ว

    5:46 I wouldn't tolerate her behavior for one minute. To be honest with you guys, I don´t even care about the outcome of this charade of a marriage. She wouldn´t be able to do even 5% to me of what she has done to him without being punished, and it would happen much earlier than in this novel. Unfortunitely, due to the law we have here, most men are emasculated and weak, and unable to act.

  • @oneuup2490
    @oneuup2490 ปีที่แล้ว

    1syt story: I wasted my time for that story that was it he didn't tell the boss wife that the boss is cheating with his wife. He didn't announce it in the company?

  • @therockcasserole3563
    @therockcasserole3563 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    why do you post stories that has no resolutions? i wish you would stop.

  • @iamspiff888
    @iamspiff888 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    op sounds like a naive panzy, which is probably why Lily "chose" him

  • @paulpreuss4012
    @paulpreuss4012 ปีที่แล้ว

    This husband is SO NIEVE THESE GIRLS CAN CHOOSE THEY WANT!!!!

    • @ThePikminCaptain
      @ThePikminCaptain ปีที่แล้ว

      Who are you talking about, if the first story, unfaithful people don’t deserve custody

  • @jamesptak2199
    @jamesptak2199 ปีที่แล้ว

    Men can't put 2&2 together

  • @christophervisser5810
    @christophervisser5810 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 3 - Read what you have written/read?? in the first few paragraphs - makes no sense at all???