I kinda feel bad for Gary. Yes, OP is the victim, but her husband has just had his childhood shattered with the revelation that his mom is batshit crazy. Good on him for prioritizing his wife though.
This is a bit refreshing. I’ve heard similar stories of the MIL going to the extremes of being a AH because “OP is taking her son away from her” and the husband actually sides with his mother, assuming the OP is overreacting. I’m actually glad that in this story though, the husband’s rose tinted glasses finally came off and he sees that his mother is a Class A narcissistic self centered AH.
its not like narcissists suddenly turn overnight. The husband would've known exactly how she behaves from growing up with her as his mother, yet he still didn't step in until far too late in the first occasion. Then he exposed his pregnant wife to more of the narcissist's bullshit by "trying to find a middle ground." Then on the second occasion, he didn't believe his wife and sided with the mother until shown proof. And then in the end, it still had to be the pregnant wife to have the balls to go no contact. Like yeah, congrats, he didn't side with his mother in the end, but his behaviour is hardly praise-worthy. If he'd showed balls and enforced boundaries from the beginning, none of this would've gone as far as it did and he would've have risked the safety of his unborn child with so much unnecessary stress.
@@CosmicAeon the MIL has a strong chance of not having narcissism, but just entitlement. If this is the case, it would explain why the son was trained to seek the middle ground and why he was so shocked that his mother went that far. Not all entitled aholes are narcissists.
@CosmicAeon spoken like someone whose never dealt with a full narcissistic , they don't show signs that's the point of being manipulative? If someone has narcissistic tendencies yeah but that's completely different. Then the fact that it's his parental figure so by default people are suppose to act like his mom cause his mom is "normal" in his view. That's why kids with narcissistic parents find narcissistic parents. Either take psychology or go through something because it's obvious you haven't encountered a similar situation or possibly been on the other side of it
Yeah, and even worse, that mom is clearly interested in her son in an incestuous way. Starts acting batshit crazy the moment he gets a girl and is about to start a family, and proclaims herself to be her son's child's "true mommy"?? Like, she clearly wishes her son's baby was hers, which is just... disgusting. But these instances of incestuous moms are not as often considered. But they always act hostile towards the daughter-in-law, and tries ruining the relationship, cause she "stole" her son.
1) MIL has borderline incestious feelings towars her son. 2) The baby was surprise to OP's mother, too. 3) As far as a married man should be concerned, when his wife and mother disagrees, the latter is in the wrong until proven otherwise. No one who was invited to the wedding and did not object has a right to complain.
I agree but change: if they have disagreements a husband shouldn't intervene unless it gets too dire the wife and mother are fucking adults taking one side is only for hard problems and should have some proof
Not borderline. Emotional incest is a real thing and often associated with "boy mums" on tiktok saying they are their sons first love. and girls having to swear their virgin purity to their fathers, Going as far as wearing a tiny wedding dress for him. Its gross.
Well... the wife did... *eventually*. Although he eventually agreed to go no contact, the husband's lack of balls exposed his pregnant wife to a lot of unnecessary stress by not standing up to her sooner.
@@CosmicAeon what do you mean, he stood up for her the day they announced the baby's arrival, and the only reason he didn't help during the whole baby shower incident was because he wasn't there, and she, as she confirmed in the story, didn't call him to tell him what was happening so that he could help. I have no doubt he would have gone there immediately to help his wife. He was sad that his mother ended up being arrested because that's a very natural reaction to have and even tho initially he thought of it being too much, as soon as he saw the real extent of her actions he cut her out of their life forever. What else was he supposed to do?
I'm surprised the MIL doesn't recognize that all the stress her drama is bringing to OP could lead to a miscarriage. Maybe she actively wants cut the pregnancy short. She's definitely got some kind of weird incestuous fixation about OP's husband. Picturing, "If I can't have his babies, no one else can either!" or something along those lines. Is the stress calculated or is she just utterly deranged? I could see it going either way.
Most likely just pure deranged. She's got thoughts of incest somewhere in her rotten mind and believes its okay because "he's my son he came from me so the baby he's having soon is ours not from his wife"🤮
if she realized it at all, it was either an 'added bonus' or entirely deliberate. after all, if her son had to endure the pain of loss, she would have an opportunity to 'comfort' him 💀💀💀 that IS exactly how she seemed to feel, though - "with me, or not at all." repulsive.
That's a valid point. The MIL's behavior is not only harmful but also potentially dangerous to OP and her pregnancy. Her actions could be due to deep-seated issues, whether it's a calculated attempt to cause harm or a sign of severe emotional instability. OP, do you have a plan to ensure your well-being and distance yourself from this toxic influence? It might be essential to set clear boundaries to protect yourself and your baby. Have you considered seeking support from a therapist or counselor to navigate this situation?
MiL is a raging narcissist who made the announcement all about her. Who is she to say that SHE should be the first to know about the grandbaby? What about OP's mom? Oh wait, she doesn't count. It's all about the narcissist. She's going to end up getting cut off from the kid. Edit: Yep! She even made the baby shower all about her. 😂
While I’d be the type to tell my parents immediately after knowing if my wife had been pregnant, I entirely understand OP and her husband’s reasons for waiting to break the news. There’s no excuse for that mother’s behavior
I had 4 miscarriages before my 2 successful pregnancies, I would have absolutely LOST MY SHIT if someone had gone behind my back to tell others that I was pregnant before I was out of the worst danger zone and ready to tell people. it's jinxing it. Jewish people don't even give their babies names until they're not only born, but have lived to be 8 days old. because they believe naming the baby before that will jinx the baby and maybe cause early death. many cultures believe things like this. Also, it's SO MUCH WORSE emotionally when everyone knows and keeps bringing up how sorry they are that your baby died. that's when you find out who secretly wished you weren't pregnant, you can literally watch the gloating in some people's eyes as they give "their condolences" for your loss. thats why people choose not to tell until at least the beginning of the second trimester, so it's a real announcement.
Oh same. But I also have a healthy relationship with them and my parents are not the type to spread info without permission. I mean we've been keeping my sister comming out as trans from the entire family for nearly two years now (Some of our relative are bigots and deeply religious. We WILL NOT subject my sister to that when she's not ready to deal with my priest Uncle leading the jerks of our family in a hate campaign against her). They would keep silent to everyone else and not go loco possessive on me or the little parasite (affectionate, I have snarky humor. I love kids)
Even so, it is often better to wait until the first 12 weeks of pregnancy has passed as more than 80% of misscarriages happen during that time. Imagine telling the great news, everyone is super happy and can't wait but then a tradgedy happens and you have to deliver the awful news that you're no longer pregnant. Hence most moms-to-be wait to tell anyone except their partner.
OP NEEDS to go NC RIGHT NOW. That 'I'm the actual mommy' comment is grounds for NC. That to me is a THREAT to take OPs baby. Or at the very least play mummy at any opportunity Edit : Also OP should keep in mind that this is probably not over. After everything MIL has said and done i can't see her taking them going NC and stopping from seeing 'her baby' very well. I'd consider a restraining order, changing locks and getting cameras before babys entrance. Also any schools / nurseries etc should be informed of MIL and have her picture etc to ensure she doesn't try to pick up LO. She may try and play the long game if she can't get access to LO as a newborn
I tend to agree. As someone that's watched a lot of true crime shows, I know all too well the horrors that can come about when a narcissistic grandmother is denied access to her grandchild. I wouldn't put it past her to kidnap the child or even try to take OP out of the picture entirely.
Definitely get some incest vibes. Her claims she's the babbys mom because it was made with ops husbands sperm. Kind of indicates she sees herself as the husbands real wife and op is the suroget.
For some reason I started getting anxiety and getting confused watching this Minecraft run, thinking "Don't jump too hard. It'll hurt the baby." 😭😂😂🤦♀️
I wouldve bursted into tears as soon as i walked in if this was my baby shower. Tears everywhere. I applaud OP for being so strong during this horrible time.
I think it is because of "the role of the mother in society" that many of these women from previous generations have their role as mother deeply ingrained in their being, while the father's role is only to provide, So as their children grow up, parents are open to abandoning that role because they still provide for their wife, but if the wife loses a part of her identity, problems of rigid gender roles
I'm going to make the joke... "Woman"... But now seriously talking, I know it sounds more like a cliche but by my cousins experience, it's more like some of them still have the believe everything is around them or part it, it's more often in MIL for how expressive and emotional they get as they get older unlike some FIL that kinda deal with it through the years.
@@thelastb2940 It has much less to do with "rigid gender roles" and more to do with narcissistic supply. Women are more likely to suffer from the disorder, and other mental illnesses, hence more stories of entitled mothers.
Never had kids myself (yet) but isn't relatively normal to keep it quiet during the first trimester? And its not like its only the MIL who didn't know, OP's mum didn't know either.
It is. I still have regrets we didn't keep mum with our first go around. After a M/C having to message every person you've already told is... awful. And makes it harder to process the loss.
@@baldgoatman2000 exactly. I knew for months my kid's gf was expecting a baby. but I was told to keep my mouth shut, so that's what I did. Baby is now 14 months, and he's a handsome little boy. I have yet to post a single picture of him on any social media. not my baby, not my place to share his pictures. if anyone asks I tell em, baby is a short oompa loompa with very little blond hair, blue eyes, and sometimes sounds like a mix of a fire alarm and a veloricaptor in heat. he's often seen in the company of a long hair feline American who thinks they're brothers.
Hearing how there is no sign of ops husband during the fight outside of their home during the shower, I imagined him sitting alone in the dinner table still eating lol.
Baby showers are sometimes seen as a "women only" event. Also note that the husband's "why didn't you call me or my dad" implies they weren't there when it happened. Also no mention of OP'S dad or any other man at the shower
kuz he literally didn’t even know what happened til ppl showed the video and op made it very clear that mil was screaming at her IN the venue infront of everyone
I mean "baby pictures of the parents" isn't inherently bad. It's the fact that it was just one parent and the other was excluded- having the baby pictures of both parents gives people an idea of what the kid will look like- gets the guests to think about the kid. But it's clear the MIL was focused on herself because it's got photos of her in there.
I haven't listened to the story yet but i love how Op says that every day she and her husband get closer to meeting their 'little nugget' its so adorable.😍
I don’t get why the MIL was mad in the beginning, I mean they kept it a secret from everyone not just her. Like even the OP’s parents didn’t know till that day, it’s not like they’re excluding her and only her, nobody else knew before that. Edit: Also definitely NTA the fact that she tried to claim to be the actually mother is just disgusting and terrible, OP was right for calling the cops. She definitely did not take it too far, she felt unsafe and uncomfortable and did what was best and it worked in her favour, OP is definitely NTA
I don't know if I'd be able to stop myself from telling the MIL that she isn't owed jack shit and that for all future announcements, she will be notified via public social media posts. OP dealt with this with a lot more grace than I would have been able to muster.
wait until she finds out op is in labor, runs to the hospital with a ton of home videos in her bag so she can show the doctor what it was like for her when she had her baby. I'm sure it will be a thrilling experience for everyone around. IF she wants to go the extra loony mile she'll then demand a paternity test on the baby
I just hope they take security precautions now. If I know my narcissists, and I do, things are going to heat up from her after baby is born. Cameras everywhere! If those videos are viral I would like to see them.
My time with my adult children is a privilege, not a right. Some of these ruby Frankie esq moms need to understand that at 18, you will never see them again.
Man they aren’t even trying to make these stories sound like things that actually happened to someone. I’m just now realizing that all the stories sound like they were written by the exact same person😂 every emotion and facial expression described is always “a mix of blank and blank” lol
If I was the guest in that disaster of a shower, I would just get some food, drink, sit down and watch some entertainment...in the form of a train wreck of a MIL and OP....just have some fun......
I’m glad the husband came around to understand the severity of the situation. I understand his initial reaction, and I believe that he did a great job showing his wife support
I would have walked out and inform the guest that the baby shower was canceled. Then I would plan my own shower with my friends and my mother, and NOT include the MIL
100% if the gift was so shocking they would have mentioned it, or said there was a good reason why it wasn't mentioned. these stories are helping me improve my ability of spotting AI generated content. @@plasmocat1863
I hope OP gave her hubby an earful for pushing to give MIL the babyshower after she said she wasn't comfortable with it... cuz he'd be having to work pretty hard to get back in my full good graces after all that
3:17 omg op had the audacity to to keep her own pregnancy a secret and make sure she was out of the danger zone so no one would get their hopes up and make the poor mil feel left out of HER pregnancy honestly
“I should have known from the start” time to start telling your MIL every time you have unprotected fun in increasingly graphic detail until she chills out
Why wasn't OP's husband at the baby shower to begin with? It's his child too, plus he was the one to give MIL the okay to host the party against OP's wishes. Also, MIL is totally batshit crazy. Smart to keep the baby away, she seems like the type to kidnap and say the baby is actually hers, not OPs.
NTA the MIL should've thought in her own perspective if her mother just wanted to name her son and didnt care because even if she was intoxicated she still had control of her own actions i hope that the relatives that werent there dont get caught up in who to believe
@@sofiamoran8581 ya'll jumping to a conclusion that it's fake over the most barebones assumption/accusation possible, "expressed" is a pretty fairly common used word, yet literally any story that uses it is "fake" now ig despite having no way to prove it according to you? this generation is cooked, honestly 💀💀
Also when she said for the name she chose she gave away the gender. Since shes in jail and if the baby still wasnt born yet mabey u coukd throw another baby shower. Also congrats on the baby❤😊
So. There's this ad for Painter's Guild where Will (the boy, now man from Boy Meets World) pretends to be Bob Ross (ish) and they're all hilarious, but one was naming colors, and I've never wheezed so much. One of the colors was called Barb's Revenge, and I feel like it'd look like a blend of the baby shower colors.
OP should have told MIL to take whatever ‘forgiveness’ she thought she had for her and shove it right back up whatever hole from which she had managed to excrete it 😒
Would've suggested that we re-do the baby-shower, no gifts, take two. Just so OP could enjoy it and not have this memory as her first baby-shower. Poor Gary. :(
The husband saying that her calling the cops was a bit far is stupid. He wouldn't be saying that if his mom tried to physically harm her and their baby. Also if she did call him and his dad who knows if she would've calmed down
i just cant imagine being treated like that in front of MY PARENTS, while im PREGNANT. The humiliation.....if my daughter is being treated like that in someone's family, best believe her in laws with watch these hands (at minimum).
MIL is crazy she doesn’t know that it’s OP and her husband’s baby and they have the right to not announce or announce it with everyone it’s their choice
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I kinda feel bad for Gary. Yes, OP is the victim, but her husband has just had his childhood shattered with the revelation that his mom is batshit crazy. Good on him for prioritizing his wife though.
This is a bit refreshing. I’ve heard similar stories of the MIL going to the extremes of being a AH because “OP is taking her son away from her” and the husband actually sides with his mother, assuming the OP is overreacting.
I’m actually glad that in this story though, the husband’s rose tinted glasses finally came off and he sees that his mother is a Class A narcissistic self centered AH.
its not like narcissists suddenly turn overnight. The husband would've known exactly how she behaves from growing up with her as his mother, yet he still didn't step in until far too late in the first occasion. Then he exposed his pregnant wife to more of the narcissist's bullshit by "trying to find a middle ground." Then on the second occasion, he didn't believe his wife and sided with the mother until shown proof. And then in the end, it still had to be the pregnant wife to have the balls to go no contact. Like yeah, congrats, he didn't side with his mother in the end, but his behaviour is hardly praise-worthy. If he'd showed balls and enforced boundaries from the beginning, none of this would've gone as far as it did and he would've have risked the safety of his unborn child with so much unnecessary stress.
@@CosmicAeon the MIL has a strong chance of not having narcissism, but just entitlement. If this is the case, it would explain why the son was trained to seek the middle ground and why he was so shocked that his mother went that far.
Not all entitled aholes are narcissists.
@CosmicAeon spoken like someone whose never dealt with a full narcissistic , they don't show signs that's the point of being manipulative? If someone has narcissistic tendencies yeah but that's completely different. Then the fact that it's his parental figure so by default people are suppose to act like his mom cause his mom is "normal" in his view. That's why kids with narcissistic parents find narcissistic parents. Either take psychology or go through something because it's obvious you haven't encountered a similar situation or possibly been on the other side of it
Yeah, and even worse, that mom is clearly interested in her son in an incestuous way.
Starts acting batshit crazy the moment he gets a girl and is about to start a family, and proclaims herself to be her son's child's "true mommy"?? Like, she clearly wishes her son's baby was hers, which is just... disgusting.
But these instances of incestuous moms are not as often considered. But they always act hostile towards the daughter-in-law, and tries ruining the relationship, cause she "stole" her son.
Can we please all acknowledge that OP's mom deserves mom of the year? Like, god damn that woman was a saint.
She was a nut.
YES! 🙌🏽 freaking saint. I was waiting for OP’s mom to lay out toxic MIL.
Yes the women need an award
Can the video taken at the baby shower be used to get a restraining order against MIL?
@@heleneclark563 as evidence, yes
1) MIL has borderline incestious feelings towars her son.
2) The baby was surprise to OP's mother, too.
3) As far as a married man should be concerned, when his wife and mother disagrees, the latter is in the wrong until proven otherwise. No one who was invited to the wedding and did not object has a right to complain.
I was thinking the same thing
She might be in love with him and the fact that op is pregnant she might treatning she really Will never be with him.
I agree but change: if they have disagreements a husband shouldn't intervene unless it gets too dire the wife and mother are fucking adults taking one side is only for hard problems and should have some proof
Not borderline. Emotional incest is a real thing and often associated with "boy mums" on tiktok saying they are their sons first love. and girls having to swear their virgin purity to their fathers, Going as far as wearing a tiny wedding dress for him. Its gross.
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@@CBNM1Yeah, she wants him all to herself.
Finally one where the adults stand up to their parents
Well... the wife did... *eventually*. Although he eventually agreed to go no contact, the husband's lack of balls exposed his pregnant wife to a lot of unnecessary stress by not standing up to her sooner.
@@CosmicAeon what do you mean, he stood up for her the day they announced the baby's arrival, and the only reason he didn't help during the whole baby shower incident was because he wasn't there, and she, as she confirmed in the story, didn't call him to tell him what was happening so that he could help. I have no doubt he would have gone there immediately to help his wife. He was sad that his mother ended up being arrested because that's a very natural reaction to have and even tho initially he thought of it being too much, as soon as he saw the real extent of her actions he cut her out of their life forever. What else was he supposed to do?
I'm surprised the MIL doesn't recognize that all the stress her drama is bringing to OP could lead to a miscarriage. Maybe she actively wants cut the pregnancy short. She's definitely got some kind of weird incestuous fixation about OP's husband. Picturing, "If I can't have his babies, no one else can either!" or something along those lines. Is the stress calculated or is she just utterly deranged? I could see it going either way.
No i feel like she knows.
Most likely just pure deranged. She's got thoughts of incest somewhere in her rotten mind and believes its okay because "he's my son he came from me so the baby he's having soon is ours not from his wife"🤮
She thinks she should marry her own son…
if she realized it at all, it was either an 'added bonus' or entirely deliberate. after all, if her son had to endure the pain of loss, she would have an opportunity to 'comfort' him 💀💀💀 that IS exactly how she seemed to feel, though - "with me, or not at all." repulsive.
That's a valid point. The MIL's behavior is not only harmful but also potentially dangerous to OP and her pregnancy. Her actions could be due to deep-seated issues, whether it's a calculated attempt to cause harm or a sign of severe emotional instability. OP, do you have a plan to ensure your well-being and distance yourself from this toxic influence? It might be essential to set clear boundaries to protect yourself and your baby. Have you considered seeking support from a therapist or counselor to navigate this situation?
IF PPL START TO FILM LET THEM. If cops arrive you’ll have evidence of everything someone’s been doing to warrant cop involvement.
Yup! Although it depends where you live, in most EU countries it's illegal to film someone without permission, let alone post it.
@@Meiaiscool🌭
Title could've been "Senile MIL celebrates 30yo son's babyshower"
That's a good one, not gonna lie, lol.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 YES!!!
LMAOOOO
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MiL is a raging narcissist who made the announcement all about her. Who is she to say that SHE should be the first to know about the grandbaby? What about OP's mom? Oh wait, she doesn't count. It's all about the narcissist. She's going to end up getting cut off from the kid.
Edit: Yep! She even made the baby shower all about her. 😂
This is the first story I've heard where the husband actually agrees with the wife.
I know right you don’t see that often
While I’d be the type to tell my parents immediately after knowing if my wife had been pregnant, I entirely understand OP and her husband’s reasons for waiting to break the news. There’s no excuse for that mother’s behavior
I had 4 miscarriages before my 2 successful pregnancies, I would have absolutely LOST MY SHIT if someone had gone behind my back to tell others that I was pregnant before I was out of the worst danger zone and ready to tell people. it's jinxing it. Jewish people don't even give their babies names until they're not only born, but have lived to be 8 days old. because they believe naming the baby before that will jinx the baby and maybe cause early death. many cultures believe things like this. Also, it's SO MUCH WORSE emotionally when everyone knows and keeps bringing up how sorry they are that your baby died. that's when you find out who secretly wished you weren't pregnant, you can literally watch the gloating in some people's eyes as they give "their condolences" for your loss. thats why people choose not to tell until at least the beginning of the second trimester, so it's a real announcement.
@LMCorvinus can I do a genuine question? How do you guys deal with documentation since you don't name the baby after 8 days?
Generally people who wait do so till the pregnancy is stable incase there is a miscarriage, chances of which are higher in the first trimester
Oh same. But I also have a healthy relationship with them and my parents are not the type to spread info without permission. I mean we've been keeping my sister comming out as trans from the entire family for nearly two years now (Some of our relative are bigots and deeply religious. We WILL NOT subject my sister to that when she's not ready to deal with my priest Uncle leading the jerks of our family in a hate campaign against her). They would keep silent to everyone else and not go loco possessive on me or the little parasite (affectionate, I have snarky humor. I love kids)
Even so, it is often better to wait until the first 12 weeks of pregnancy has passed as more than 80% of misscarriages happen during that time. Imagine telling the great news, everyone is super happy and can't wait but then a tradgedy happens and you have to deliver the awful news that you're no longer pregnant. Hence most moms-to-be wait to tell anyone except their partner.
OP NEEDS to go NC RIGHT NOW. That 'I'm the actual mommy' comment is grounds for NC. That to me is a THREAT to take OPs baby. Or at the very least play mummy at any opportunity
Edit :
Also OP should keep in mind that this is probably not over. After everything MIL has said and done i can't see her taking them going NC and stopping from seeing 'her baby' very well. I'd consider a restraining order, changing locks and getting cameras before babys entrance. Also any schools / nurseries etc should be informed of MIL and have her picture etc to ensure she doesn't try to pick up LO. She may try and play the long game if she can't get access to LO as a newborn
I tend to agree.
As someone that's watched a lot of true crime shows, I know all too well the horrors that can come about when a narcissistic grandmother is denied access to her grandchild. I wouldn't put it past her to kidnap the child or even try to take OP out of the picture entirely.
It's definitely clear that the MIL has attachment issues and will blame anyone getting in between her and her son for the problems she makes.
More like control issues.
I think MIL loves op husband in a way a Mother shouldn't
Definitely get some incest vibes. Her claims she's the babbys mom because it was made with ops husbands sperm. Kind of indicates she sees herself as the husbands real wife and op is the suroget.
For some reason I started getting anxiety and getting confused watching this Minecraft run, thinking "Don't jump too hard. It'll hurt the baby." 😭😂😂🤦♀️
SAME LMAO
Go home, you're drunk.
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Reeeeally should've gone for a restraining order, part of me is worried this lunatic might show up at the delivery room
I don’t think she can be let in without permission
I wouldve bursted into tears as soon as i walked in if this was my baby shower. Tears everywhere. I applaud OP for being so strong during this horrible time.
Why out of all the stories does it often happen with MIL? The FIL rarely makes scene on childrens marriage. Or I just lack of widespread sources.
I think it is because of "the role of the mother in society" that many of these women from previous generations have their role as mother deeply ingrained in their being, while the father's role is only to provide, So as their children grow up, parents are open to abandoning that role because they still provide for their wife, but if the wife loses a part of her identity, problems of rigid gender roles
I'm going to make the joke... "Woman"... But now seriously talking, I know it sounds more like a cliche but by my cousins experience, it's more like some of them still have the believe everything is around them or part it, it's more often in MIL for how expressive and emotional they get as they get older unlike some FIL that kinda deal with it through the years.
@@thelastb2940 It has much less to do with "rigid gender roles" and more to do with narcissistic supply. Women are more likely to suffer from the disorder, and other mental illnesses, hence more stories of entitled mothers.
@thelastb2940 You say that like it's a 100% social thing, and not derived from inherent differences between male and female humans.
@@kevinbell5674jeez chill out
Never had kids myself (yet) but isn't relatively normal to keep it quiet during the first trimester? And its not like its only the MIL who didn't know, OP's mum didn't know either.
It is normal to keep it quiet yes. The MIL was just a self centered selfish person. In reality it has NOTHING to do with her
It is. I still have regrets we didn't keep mum with our first go around. After a M/C having to message every person you've already told is... awful. And makes it harder to process the loss.
@@baldgoatman2000 exactly. I knew for months my kid's gf was expecting a baby. but I was told to keep my mouth shut, so that's what I did. Baby is now 14 months, and he's a handsome little boy. I have yet to post a single picture of him on any social media. not my baby, not my place to share his pictures. if anyone asks I tell em, baby is a short oompa loompa with very little blond hair, blue eyes, and sometimes sounds like a mix of a fire alarm and a veloricaptor in heat. he's often seen in the company of a long hair feline American who thinks they're brothers.
finally a husband who stands with their spouse and not their mother-
Hearing how there is no sign of ops husband during the fight outside of their home during the shower, I imagined him sitting alone in the dinner table still eating lol.
probably heard it but was just too terrified to stand up to his mother, as he seemed to be for most of the story.
I thought it was at a separate venue.
Baby showers are sometimes seen as a "women only" event. Also note that the husband's "why didn't you call me or my dad" implies they weren't there when it happened. Also no mention of OP'S dad or any other man at the shower
ik a lot of ppl have their baby showers as female only so that could’ve been the case kuz it doesn’t sound like ops dad was there either
kuz he literally didn’t even know what happened til ppl showed the video and op made it very clear that mil was screaming at her IN the venue infront of everyone
I mean "baby pictures of the parents" isn't inherently bad. It's the fact that it was just one parent and the other was excluded- having the baby pictures of both parents gives people an idea of what the kid will look like- gets the guests to think about the kid. But it's clear the MIL was focused on herself because it's got photos of her in there.
This story is crazy and OP's mom is amazing....but am I the only one that finds it adorable when people talk about their babies as "little nuggets"?
Nope, the little nickname gave my heart the warm tenders too 😊
Same❤
That sounds like an entitled mom who treated her son like a husband.
Yeah, if she keeps that behavior up, she won't ever see that child and will be intentionally excluded from the family events involving the child.
I haven't listened to the story yet but i love how Op says that every day she and her husband get closer to meeting their 'little nugget' its so adorable.😍
I don’t get why the MIL was mad in the beginning, I mean they kept it a secret from everyone not just her. Like even the OP’s parents didn’t know till that day, it’s not like they’re excluding her and only her, nobody else knew before that.
Edit: Also definitely NTA the fact that she tried to claim to be the actually mother is just disgusting and terrible, OP was right for calling the cops. She definitely did not take it too far, she felt unsafe and uncomfortable and did what was best and it worked in her favour, OP is definitely NTA
Well remember, it’s “her baby because she gave birth to Gary and his sperm impregnated OP” 🤮🤮🤮 12:40
Leaves me wondering what the bizarre gift was that the MIL gave.
I’m surprised this wasnt asked at all I was trying to scroll through comments and see if anyone mentions having seen it on the actual post dang
It was a bike-
@@Lea_1580 Thank you!
I don't know if I'd be able to stop myself from telling the MIL that she isn't owed jack shit and that for all future announcements, she will be notified via public social media posts.
OP dealt with this with a lot more grace than I would have been able to muster.
I’m 5 minutes into this video and I applaud op and husband for not telling MIL to stfu this about you.
It's the fact that everyone in the family didn't know but yet the MIL has the gall to act like she was the only one who didn't know about the baby
Yes, FINALLY a good, supportive husband!
OP's mom is such a badass
Sounds like Barbara wants to be the center of attention by knowing the Grandchild first.
wait until she finds out op is in labor, runs to the hospital with a ton of home videos in her bag so she can show the doctor what it was like for her when she had her baby. I'm sure it will be a thrilling experience for everyone around. IF she wants to go the extra loony mile she'll then demand a paternity test on the baby
I need to see the videos of the baby shower 😃
"Our little nugget" thats so cute.
I just hope they take security precautions now. If I know my narcissists, and I do, things are going to heat up from her after baby is born. Cameras everywhere!
If those videos are viral I would like to see them.
My time with my adult children is a privilege, not a right. Some of these ruby Frankie esq moms need to understand that at 18, you will never see them again.
Don't know why but everytime I hear Barbara, I imagine a Karen.
I think of those mac/sephora skits
This woman's mom is amazing for what she did at the shower
Man they aren’t even trying to make these stories sound like things that actually happened to someone. I’m just now realizing that all the stories sound like they were written by the exact same person😂 every emotion and facial expression described is always “a mix of blank and blank” lol
If I was the guest in that disaster of a shower, I would just get some food, drink, sit down and watch some entertainment...in the form of a train wreck of a MIL and OP....just have some fun......
I'd like to listen to actual reddit posts, not bullshit written by an AI.
I’m glad the husband came around to understand the severity of the situation. I understand his initial reaction, and I believe that he did a great job showing his wife support
Your mom is so protective! She cares about you and even would protect you by standing in front of you as a shield! BEST MOM
It's funny, when you read these creative writing projects, you can really tell whether the author was male or female.
I would have walked out and inform the guest that the baby shower was canceled. Then I would plan my own shower with my friends and my mother, and NOT include the MIL
What was the gift? I don't think the narrator actually says what it was...
fake story
I was wondering that, too.
I don't think the gift was ever opened.
I wondered that too. Probably fake
100% if the gift was so shocking they would have mentioned it, or said there was a good reason why it wasn't mentioned.
these stories are helping me improve my ability of spotting AI generated content.
@@plasmocat1863
Mil... NC for life, not seeing the baby, sent home permanently. No reprisals.
My mom in LA calls my son her baby but it comes from a place of pure love and have been one of my biggest supporters, I really live that woman
I hope OP gave her hubby an earful for pushing to give MIL the babyshower after she said she wasn't comfortable with it... cuz he'd be having to work pretty hard to get back in my full good graces after all that
Op isn’t obligated to tell the MIL anything. Her son is. She needed to have that convo with him.
Little nugget 🥺🥺🥺
3:17 omg op had the audacity to to keep her own pregnancy a secret and make sure she was out of the danger zone so no one would get their hopes up and make the poor mil feel left out of HER pregnancy honestly
Your joking right?
@@Isabella-m4w yes I was joking
Mil is nuts, like get the padded room and stright jacket ready nuts
Her saying her son's sp3rm made her pregnant is ridiculous for that op is going through the pregnancy not her
“I should have known from the start” time to start telling your MIL every time you have unprotected fun in increasingly graphic detail until she chills out
OP's mother is an actual angel!
I knew something was off when the MIL insisted of hosting the baby shower I hope OP, her husband and her daughter are having a good life
I don't know why but the story sound like CHATGPT wrote it.
Well good for OP and Gary to find peace atleast.
MIL is a sad beige mom…😬
Why wasn't OP's husband at the baby shower to begin with? It's his child too, plus he was the one to give MIL the okay to host the party against OP's wishes.
Also, MIL is totally batshit crazy. Smart to keep the baby away, she seems like the type to kidnap and say the baby is actually hers, not OPs.
I'm glad the husband is standing by his wife . I'm curious though ,as to what Mil's gift was .
The start was so fucking wholesome that was one of the few times I felt the wholesomeness
The writing seems so AI 💀💀💀
It probably is😂
If the writing is too detailed and jam-packed with heavy words, especially when the “OP” focuses on emotion like it’s a writing piece, 9/10 it’s fake…
yah prob is, I got 2 reccomendation for channels ReallySparked (voiced by a real guy) and StoryLounge (they put ops user in the description)
I type/speak like this sometimes.
@@gabrielsfilms2086 thank you man!
I would press charges against mil . Tell hubby she’s not allowed anywhere near op or child go to court if you need too
Fake. Chat Gpt generated
Like straight of the bat, it is impossible to mend fences unless op mil gives a heartfelt and sincere apology, acknowledging she was 100% in the wrong
NTA the MIL should've thought in her own perspective if her mother just wanted to name her son and didnt care because even if she was intoxicated she still had control of her own actions i hope that the relatives that werent there dont get caught up in who to believe
The real question is, why weren't the men of the family at the baby shower? Its the father's baby too!
question: why do you think the men would want to be part of a bunch of women gushing over baby's clothes?
Baby showers are usually women only.
It’s just a societal thing that happens. My dad went to my moms baby shower granted I think she only had 1 baby shower not 3 for each
@@cullins401 I noticed that these days mothers tend to have more than 1 shower per baby, and for each baby they go on to have
Gary congrats! SpongeBob is a grandpa now
FINALLY! A mom stands up to her daughter's bully!
dude W husband honestly. Gary is a gift to this world.
OP seems like they’re going to be a great parent
It has been written by an AI.
You can easily figure it out by the choice of words.
I have never, ever heard a human person describe a baby shower as elegant.
Agreed the syntax used is def AI.
If I hear “expressed” then I 100% know it’s fake
The last few sentences made me 100% sure. Sounded like the end of an essay.
@@sofiamoran8581 ya'll jumping to a conclusion that it's fake over the most barebones assumption/accusation possible, "expressed" is a pretty fairly common used word, yet literally any story that uses it is "fake" now ig despite having no way to prove it according to you? this generation is cooked, honestly 💀💀
Also when she said for the name she chose she gave away the gender. Since shes in jail and if the baby still wasnt born yet mabey u coukd throw another baby shower. Also congrats on the baby❤😊
Can we pls just talk abt how good the background looks?
Op needs to set strong boundaries with MIL
girl this mil is so crazy
Why wasn't the husband at the baby shower? Knowing his mom is toxic towards his wife? Nah, he set her up for that.
So. There's this ad for Painter's Guild where Will (the boy, now man from Boy Meets World) pretends to be Bob Ross (ish) and they're all hilarious, but one was naming colors, and I've never wheezed so much.
One of the colors was called Barb's Revenge, and I feel like it'd look like a blend of the baby shower colors.
His mom would’ve had to see me once I dropped my baby. Because no ma’am
Your friends should have given you a real baby shower to make sure you have a good memory of your babies shower
the pregnancy was giving The Christmas Prince 😭😭
WHEN ARE YOU GONNA GIVE US PART 2 OF THIS?!?!?!
Obvious AI. "grappling" was the final nail in the coffin.
OP should have told MIL to take whatever ‘forgiveness’ she thought she had for her and shove it right back up whatever hole from which she had managed to excrete it 😒
Would've suggested that we re-do the baby-shower, no gifts, take two. Just so OP could enjoy it and not have this memory as her first baby-shower. Poor Gary. :(
It’s crazy how she thought that since she birthed ur husband she said she’s the real “mommy” of the child like the math ain’t mathing
The husband saying that her calling the cops was a bit far is stupid. He wouldn't be saying that if his mom tried to physically harm her and their baby. Also if she did call him and his dad who knows if she would've calmed down
Oh my god.. that’s so messed up
They need to do a new baby shower :((
Oh my god at the start it was straight out of the chat gbt hand book I’ve never heard a more ai written start, only for the start
this was all because the mil didnt get the news of her pregnancy
i just cant imagine being treated like that in front of MY PARENTS, while im PREGNANT. The humiliation.....if my daughter is being treated like that in someone's family, best believe her in laws with watch these hands (at minimum).
Tell MIL, contact will be limited until after the baby is born.....like 6 months.
i have never been more taken aback then when i heard the MIL say "i am the mommy of the baby" WTF
Good that they're happy
6:20
Oh, Gary, Gary, Gary. You naive fool. I just started listening to this and I can already tell this is a bad idea.
The poor thing is that Gary most likely has normalized his behavior during his childhood...
WHAT DID MIL GIVE OP 😭😭
Wow! Talk about a monster-in-law! Why didn't MIL just admit that SHE wanted to bear Gary's child?
MIL is crazy she doesn’t know that it’s OP and her husband’s baby and they have the right to not announce or announce it with everyone it’s their choice