If you want to take things a step further, watch this video I filmed recently with a game changing piece of advice for ENFPs: th-cam.com/video/GnAZsfhV7Xk/w-d-xo.html
It's frightening how accurate this is... Whenever I change my mind I can convince anyone that this is the right decision even when it's clearly not... I've always knew that I'm good at making people excited about anything but I was not aware of that I'm thaaat good at bullshitting anyone including myself... Now I'm more conscious about that and I usually notice when my brain wants to justify something in a wrong way.
I am currently trying to convince myself why taking a $500 a month paycut at a new job without benefits is better than the nice office job i have now FML
The only reason I "lie" to people (or make up an excuse) is because I hate it when people are disappointed in me and when I let them down. Then I hate myself even more for lying! VICIOUS CIRCLE!
As an ENFP, in school (college etc.) I found that having open ended assignments with deadlines was good for me. It was important to have colleagues to show the final result to. Now, of course i procrastinated the crap out of those projects... but the last minute pressure can bear interesting results. (not always) I agree with this video; find a group you admire to hold you accountable!
I've been hurt by an ENFP because of this exact line of reasoning with himself. He spreads himself so thin with projects he never finishes anything but never gives up on it either. He is inconsistent in relationships to the point of causing pain. He thought he was succeeding and going at speeds others can't keep up with, when in reality I waited patiently for a long time for him to make a success of what he had with me. It kills me every day that our logic and how we should treat each other is too different to make it work. Your videos hit the nail on the head a lot and it helps me understand what happened
+urbanrat84 I have a few others in the same playlist that might help him in the future. The enfp success video touches on the "going fast but going nowhere" issue too. Dan
This is exactly what I needed today! I find myself skipping work quite often, always waking up with a new excuse that rationalises why I’m tired. After this video I messaged my close friend telling her I’m not taking a day off work up to July 30. Yes it’s only 26 days, but baby steps.
Wow.. this is EXACTLY what i've been doing for years now. Have a 100% clear deadlined statement and do it for 100% everytime. The only difference is that the person i tell this is myself so it feels that it builds up my personal integrity. It helped me generating TONS of willpower and also publish my game on the appstore/playstore which was a nightmare for me..I explained my 'system' to other people and they didn't understand it. Now i know why.. Thanks
+GuitarKirby93 that's awesome! If you're interested in doing a little interview about this, drop me a note on my website (ask Dan menu item). Could be a fun chat!
I'm almost 60 years old finding out I'm an ENFP. Finally, I'm beginning why I have been unhappy my entire adult life. I have always held a job in the legal field which has been suffocating. I'm a single woman, who has shopped herself into debt and am feeling trapped. I'm a truly creative creature who has MANY "brilliant" craft-type and business ideas over the years. I want the remainder of my life to be fulfilling. I am a person who needs certainty and uncertainty at the same time. Ideas???
OH MY. Haha. So accurate... What has worked for me is the realization that not keeping my promises to myself is still not keeping a promise. Made me a lot more determined to finish what I start. I'm still not where I need to be so I'm going to incorporate your advice.
This video is great, and soooo true! I just got off of ADHD meds a few months ago, and I feel so much better physically. I do sometimes miss the focus it gave me, but would not trade my health for it. I take everything one step at a time and things get done. It helps that I have a healthy, loving relationship with my husband as well.
10 years later I started so many projects. None complete. Friends from school are doctors and successful business owners and I'm still feeling like idk what I want to do smh. It sucks but I'm happy 😅 I found this channel bc I know now that I don't have a unexplainable mental illness. There's ppl like me and for us it's normal. This channel has definitely helped change the way I viewed myself and my past experiences. I feel like I'm headed in the right direction now, I already started putting some of the practices into my daily habits and it feels great. Thank you
This is also a brilliant video for us INFP's :) Thanks for awesome advices, I have made a goal these last years to actually stick with things as a goal in it self lol and I have achieved more then I thought was possible even though at one time I left one project because I felt like it killed me slowly and made me emotionally numb, trapped, grey and lonely. I don't regret it yet I felt guilty for leaving, but I never made a promice to stay, and still I feel guilty. But on these other projects I stuck through even when I thought it would never ever work out yet it did. In the past I have left things in fear of critique.
I need to do this. When I commit to things I usually can do them if I commit and other people know I did. If I don't commit then I let it all slide. Thank you for the advice.
Yes, I've been bullshitting myself as a mean of justification for my past failures, and I just recently shared this with my INTP friend who couldn't get the logic. Somehow it works very well in every situation and I am now in a deep pit thinking that I couldn't possibly get out from that loophole. Thank god I finally found some people who I can relate to!
My former boss drove me crazy and I finally had to quit, because she and I just didn"t see eye to eye.She tried to be patient, but she just couldn't accept that when I "forgot" to do something, it wasn't done on purpose! I don't just "decide" not to do what people expect, but sometimes I just don't think of it as a priority. I procrastinate on my projects and I drop things when I realize that they won't go anywhere; my husband gets annoyed sometimes, too! A few of my colleagues learned to work with me and we got along sooo well!
Funny thing is I unconsciously d this advice, but for non-work related things. For example, I remember telling my housemate that I can't concentrate until I am in a clean environment. Since that day, I have been wired like that. I only realised this last week but I didn't understand why. This video has clarified it for me. I shall now try to use it for my work life. Thank you
Have been doing this all my life as an ENFP without having any knowledge of how this helped me to finish so many things. I would consciously avoid saying my plans out loud because I knew I had to do it and only voice the things that I really really wanted to do. I did this recently when I stated to my friends and family that I want to go back and study and in the last moment I felt obliged to apply for an university (in totally ENFP fashion I had submitted everything needed in less than an hour lol)!
Why didnt i see this 5 years ago this could have changed my life in alot of wayssss ... dang it thank you sir you really helped me understand myself more 🙏
Every point and example you have made was RIGHT ON THE NAIL. At least for me it is. Thank you for breaking things down. I have been wondering for a long time, why couldnt i get anything done? I just thought negatively, im a quitter or im just lazy but you video has given me prospective and understanding. I am going to try this out. Thank you!
Amazing! This is what me and my coach have found works for me as well. Your work is great for helping ENFPs figure out how best to use themselves to make a difference :)
Oh the situations I've talked myself out of!!! I'm been a constant stream of charming bullshit from the time I began talking! Especially with women. Just taken the personality test and ENFP is me to the core.
Hi! I've really been enjoying your videos. I know you focus a lot on personality types but I would love to see a video on ruminating. In particular, helping my daughter who has developmental delay with this. I want to help her feel less anxious and the ruminating definitely adds to her anxiousness.
Thanks for this video this is so me haha!! :) I completely agree ENFP don't want to let people down so combining that with a long-term goal is a great way for them to follow through!
This was an awesome video for INFP too. :) I never thought of it this way and I think it makes a lot of sense. I hate hypocrites but I'm always ALWAYS the one talking about my ideas and the things I'm going to do, and never doing it. Will be watching your other videos. Thanks!
Accountability doesn't work. Because I've built wayyyy too many caveats (and justifiable excuses) for people who falter. Who try, really hard, but falter. I understand it, and now if I've cut that slack to others... I can't help but cut myself that slack. I 110% agree with the being clear and definitely no getting out of it/no getting out of it later (I call this the "There is no plan B"). When I accept this as the truth... When I feel it deep inside, in every cell of my body, I'll do it.
This explains why having homework from therapy sessions never works for me--I would only do it to make the therapist happy, never for myself. It just feels like busy-work.
I was laughing so hard when he mentioned bullshiting! It was strangely funny being called out like this😂😂 On a serious note, i am really grateful to have figured out that i am an enfp and this is a personality trait. If i hadn't, i would have ruined some really important and good aspects of my life.
This makes a lot of sense to me. I've been wanting to send out resumes to work for a new dentist for over a year now and my husband told me I must not really want it because I haven't sent them out yet. I'm scared to be honest changing but I know I need too. I've told people I want to change and now I'm embarrassed that I haven't yet. I keep rethinking the plan.
I really do need to stop with the bullshitting and work towards my career. I wish I could've worked with you on this in the past. I've been with a counselor for almost 3 years and I feel as though my progress is super slow.
There's still time! Better to focus on the future than beat yourself up over the past. Although you can use that regret as fuel to focus and work hard moving forward. I'll be putting up a new page specifically for ENFPs soon, but if you're interested there is more about my coaching here: www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/coaching/
so true, I am an ENFP and I'm amazing at bullshitting, especially at job interviews. At numerous interviews I was so convincing at expressing my fake love for my previous job (that I actually whole-heartedly hated) that I almost convinced myself😂
Great video! I'm an ENFP myself; when I wanted to stop smoking I always postponed the date until I finally promised my dad (He didn't make me) and, as you said, committed him "externally" - and it worked well!
I agree with the fact that as ENFPs we have to make commitments to other person we don’t want to lie to. But how do we do when we want to do something for ourselves ? To make commitments to ourselves ?
I developed my own way to finish what I start as ENFP: * Just be creative!!! You can be creative in anything you want! You, by yourself, have the power to turn something old into something new! For example, I was going to the Gym for 3 YEARS! "Why it was not boring?" Because I downloaded like 500 songs and performed Gym exercises listening to them and dancing accordingly in some creative ways. When I ran, I ran dancing, it was very fun! I miss that vibe and uplifting energy! * Some people called me crazy and laugh. * Most people told me they were going to the Gym just to look at me. They told me I was inspiring them! I discovered that ENFPs inspires people unintentionally ;p
"Okay I know I said that I'd go to the gym after work but I got this really amazing ideia for yet another book that just struck me right there! If I went to the gym I'd gonna forget it. I just really need it to take advantage of this ideia RIGHT AWAY or is gone forever so in reality I'm not really skipping the gym, I'm deciding to invest this time in another dream... Is okay right?"
One thing I struggle with is that I LOVE the idea of things. Example: I LOVE the idea of being a hardcore reader, Constantly taking in valuable information to better myself. But I can never get through the whole book. I get distracted, focusing something else. Then I mentally kick myself for not finishing the book (WHICH I STILL WANT TO DO!)
I feel like he gave an example of him attempting his advice and then having it fail. Maybe use an example where it worked. I do the same thing where last minute I wiggle out with ‘with more time I can accomplish this’
Oh I inform coaches on something I learned in Gretchen Rubin's framework- which classified me as a Rebel. But maybe..maybe! This is an EFTP thing. The thing I tell my coaches is this: "If you tell me to do something, I have no other option than to not do it. If you insist on making me do something, you need to tell me the exact opposite. Then I will go to great lengths." So for me, the only thing to build in accountability, is if I know I m going to piss a lot of people off, by achieving my goals.
Omg thanks for this video! might help me stay comitted.. I have my exams comin' up like next week and i haven't even started preparing , because everyday i make a to-do list but eventually procrastinate and fail in following it cause i end up convincing myself that it isn't necessary! and now i have wayy to much pressure :/
could you make a website where ENFP can go and express what they want to work on, health, finance, and other stuff, the software will help us(ENFP) how to achieve it, and make us follow a routine that will help to accomplish our goal.
Potential ENFP client here. I've watched a few of your videos and you really seem to pin down this particular type really well. Do you still do coaching? Can you let me know if you are? I can relate with everything you mention in your videos.. it's just the lack of structure and follow through that kills me..
lmao my English teacher, whose a INFJ held me accountable by calling me out in front of those I care for their validation lol ( basically the whole English department) 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️😅😭🤣😆
i am quite committed.. for others.. my own wrks n prob keep on dangling... i think i sud value my works more... balance is wht we need.. love ur works.. yes determined actions.. warm regards..
Hi, in one of your videos, you mentioned that ENFPs usually do not procrastinate. But in this video, you’re talking about how ENFPs do not follow through a task, isn’t that procrastinating? I’m abit confused. I’m an ENFP hahaha...
Any thoughts on being an enfp who is supposed to hold others accountable to a deadline (at work)? I tend to just extend the deadline, but over time that becomes problematic.
Good question...the only thing I can think of is being really clear on the deadlines and having things in writing, or public, to remove some of the pressure on you to "enforce"
How funny! I almost never make commitments, cos, come hell or high water or anything in between, I WILL do it, and that is a lot of pressure I put on myself. Not fun. I skate through life being vague which isn't the perfect answer either. I am an INFP.
As an ENFP, I can verify that this is just a highly-skilled form of bullshit, too, because you just obtained permission from the group to bullshit them! LOL I say this in jest, of course 6:43
If you want to take things a step further, watch this video I filmed recently with a game changing piece of advice for ENFPs: th-cam.com/video/GnAZsfhV7Xk/w-d-xo.html
Thank you so much you helped me understand myself im only 17 years old and you just changed my life thank you so much
Can totally relate to the sense of urgency, I have 10 tabs opened and watching your video on speed 2 lol.
+Bxbexbx Smith oh jeez...
:v that’s me all the time 😂
Hahaha. I had it on 1.5x speed
Yeah I have it on 1.5...
Wait....you can change the speed?!!!
It's frightening how accurate this is... Whenever I change my mind I can convince anyone that this is the right decision even when it's clearly not... I've always knew that I'm good at making people excited about anything but I was not aware of that I'm thaaat good at bullshitting anyone including myself... Now I'm more conscious about that and I usually notice when my brain wants to justify something in a wrong way.
+Bettina K. Use your powers for good :)
I am currently trying to convince myself why taking a $500 a month paycut at a new job without benefits is better than the nice office job i have now FML
The only reason I "lie" to people (or make up an excuse) is because I hate it when people are disappointed in me and when I let them down. Then I hate myself even more for lying! VICIOUS CIRCLE!
I'm exactly like that, damn
As an ENFP, in school (college etc.) I found that having open ended assignments with deadlines was good for me. It was important to have colleagues to show the final result to. Now, of course i procrastinated the crap out of those projects... but the last minute pressure can bear interesting results. (not always) I agree with this video; find a group you admire to hold you accountable!
Too relatable.. 😩😩😩
F-Finishing what I start? *sweats* W-What?
I'm actually laughing out loud at this. You finished this comment...that's a start!
Dreams Around The World I'm moving to the right direction! I can do this!
Fuck, so relatable
😅🤣😅
This is a bitter, painful pill to swallow.
Thank You for your tough love.
Some need it a little rough...I mean umm tough. Tough.
I've been hurt by an ENFP because of this exact line of reasoning with himself. He spreads himself so thin with projects he never finishes anything but never gives up on it either. He is inconsistent in relationships to the point of causing pain. He thought he was succeeding and going at speeds others can't keep up with, when in reality I waited patiently for a long time for him to make a success of what he had with me. It kills me every day that our logic and how we should treat each other is too different to make it work. Your videos hit the nail on the head a lot and it helps me understand what happened
+urbanrat84 I have a few others in the same playlist that might help him in the future. The enfp success video touches on the "going fast but going nowhere" issue too. Dan
I feel for you
You and my husband can comiserate... although, for him, it's more frustration than "hurt" but he does get annoyed :-/
Sounds like you just aren't good enough for him and can't keep up. Go date an istj or something.
Why is that second sentence so loud..? 😩
This is exactly what I needed today! I find myself skipping work quite often, always waking up with a new excuse that rationalises why I’m tired.
After this video I messaged my close friend telling her I’m not taking a day off work up to July 30.
Yes it’s only 26 days, but baby steps.
Let me know how it works for you! Dan
Wow.. this is EXACTLY what i've been doing for years now. Have a 100% clear deadlined statement and do it for 100% everytime. The only difference is that the person i tell this is myself so it feels that it builds up my personal integrity. It helped me generating TONS of willpower and also publish my game on the appstore/playstore which was a nightmare for me..I explained my 'system' to other people and they didn't understand it. Now i know why..
Thanks
+GuitarKirby93 that's awesome! If you're interested in doing a little interview about this, drop me a note on my website (ask Dan menu item). Could be a fun chat!
I can't even commit to watch this video entirely! Man, I'm sooo ENFP
Just let it play in 2x thempo
I'm almost 60 years old finding out I'm an ENFP. Finally, I'm beginning why I have been unhappy my entire adult life. I have always held a job in the legal field which has been suffocating. I'm a single woman, who has shopped herself into debt and am feeling trapped. I'm a truly creative creature who has MANY "brilliant" craft-type and business ideas over the years. I want the remainder of my life to be fulfilling. I am a person who needs certainty and uncertainty at the same time. Ideas???
OH MY. Haha. So accurate... What has worked for me is the realization that not keeping my promises to myself is still not keeping a promise. Made me a lot more determined to finish what I start. I'm still not where I need to be so I'm going to incorporate your advice.
This video is great, and soooo true! I just got off of ADHD meds a few months ago, and I feel so much better physically. I do sometimes miss the focus it gave me, but would not trade my health for it. I take everything one step at a time and things get done. It helps that I have a healthy, loving relationship with my husband as well.
I have literally binge watched a few of your videos. You sir are speaking MY WHOLE LIFE!! Thank you!
Hello! Awesome to hear and thank you for the binge watching love! Looking forward to seeing your comments more. Dan
10 years later I started so many projects. None complete. Friends from school are doctors and successful business owners and I'm still feeling like idk what I want to do smh. It sucks but I'm happy 😅 I found this channel bc I know now that I don't have a unexplainable mental illness. There's ppl like me and for us it's normal. This channel has definitely helped change the way I viewed myself and my past experiences. I feel like I'm headed in the right direction now, I already started putting some of the practices into my daily habits and it feels great. Thank you
omg this is amazingly accurate. I am a master in Bullshitting but I didn't mean to do it.
+Phuong Dang when our own power is used against us!
This is also a brilliant video for us INFP's :) Thanks for awesome advices, I have made a goal these last years to actually stick with things as a goal in it self lol and I have achieved more then I thought was possible even though at one time I left one project because I felt like it killed me slowly and made me emotionally numb, trapped, grey and lonely. I don't regret it yet I felt guilty for leaving, but I never made a promice to stay, and still I feel guilty. But on these other projects I stuck through even when I thought it would never ever work out yet it did. In the past I have left things in fear of critique.
+Linda congrats on the awesome year and personal growth!
Thanks! *knock on wood*
I need to do this. When I commit to things I usually can do them if I commit and other people know I did. If I don't commit then I let it all slide. Thank you for the advice.
You're welcome! Dan.
Yes, I've been bullshitting myself as a mean of justification for my past failures, and I just recently shared this with my INTP friend who couldn't get the logic. Somehow it works very well in every situation and I am now in a deep pit thinking that I couldn't possibly get out from that loophole. Thank god I finally found some people who I can relate to!
That's why they pay me the big bucks! Hope it helps
Haha, INTPs seem to be wired SOOOOO differently..!
This is so true. I always tell people a deadline to push myself finish up even though they didn’t ask lol.
My former boss drove me crazy and I finally had to quit, because she and I just didn"t see eye to eye.She tried to be patient, but she just couldn't accept that when I "forgot" to do something, it wasn't done on purpose! I don't just "decide" not to do what people expect, but sometimes I just don't think of it as a priority. I procrastinate on my projects and I drop things when I realize that they won't go anywhere; my husband gets annoyed sometimes, too! A few of my colleagues learned to work with me and we got along sooo well!
When you leaned in and said "BULLSHIT"....I said "FUCK!" out loud, it felt I was a dear caught in headlights, you're absolutely right.
Funny thing is I unconsciously d this advice, but for non-work related things. For example, I remember telling my housemate that I can't concentrate until I am in a clean environment. Since that day, I have been wired like that.
I only realised this last week but I didn't understand why. This video has clarified it for me. I shall now try to use it for my work life.
Thank you
So on point. WOW hahaha I’m in ENFP. Can’t hide!!
Haha! When I googled "How to Finish What You Start", I certainly did not expect to find a video for ENFP's. Guilty as charged. Thanks for the info
I bet all like is from NFP's :) thx for sharing our challange in this LIFE, Come on guy's we can do this !!
+Milzam Shidqi yes we can!
Have been doing this all my life as an ENFP without having any knowledge of how this helped me to finish so many things.
I would consciously avoid saying my plans out loud because I knew I had to do it and only voice the things that I really really wanted to do.
I did this recently when I stated to my friends and family that I want to go back and study and in the last moment I felt obliged to apply for an university (in totally ENFP fashion I had submitted everything needed in less than an hour lol)!
Great video, as an enfp this is something I seriously struggle with.
Glad it was helpful!
Why didnt i see this 5 years ago this could have changed my life in alot of wayssss ... dang it thank you sir you really helped me understand myself more 🙏
Every point and example you have made was RIGHT ON THE NAIL. At least for me it is. Thank you for breaking things down. I have been wondering for a long time, why couldnt i get anything done? I just thought negatively, im a quitter or im just lazy but you video has given me prospective and understanding. I am going to try this out. Thank you!
Amazing! This is what me and my coach have found works for me as well. Your work is great for helping ENFPs figure out how best to use themselves to make a difference :)
Thanks Blake
I started another video, didn't watch it until the end, saw this video instead, started it just to stop it to write this comment
I’ve had people tell me that my willingness to kind of display my differences makes it easier for them to be themselves as it were.
This is freakishly accurate and definitely a bitter pill to swallow!!!
lol ENFP's also like to comment on things
Oh the situations I've talked myself out of!!! I'm been a constant stream of charming bullshit from the time I began talking! Especially with women.
Just taken the personality test and ENFP is me to the core.
When you lie to others you can't help but lie to yourself ;)
Dreams Around The World
Haha, you could be right! When I'm making my excuses I commit so much that I actually believe what I'm saying!
Hi! I've really been enjoying your videos. I know you focus a lot on personality types but I would love to see a video on ruminating. In particular, helping my daughter who has developmental delay with this. I want to help her feel less anxious and the ruminating definitely adds to her anxiousness.
Thanks for this video this is so me haha!! :) I completely agree ENFP don't want to let people down so combining that with a long-term goal is a great way for them to follow through!
You're welcome man! Cheers.
This was an awesome video for INFP too. :) I never thought of it this way and I think it makes a lot of sense. I hate hypocrites but I'm always ALWAYS the one talking about my ideas and the things I'm going to do, and never doing it. Will be watching your other videos. Thanks!
So am I
Awesome advice my friend 😎✌🏻
+Priyadarshan Nag thanks!
Accountability doesn't work. Because I've built wayyyy too many caveats (and justifiable excuses) for people who falter. Who try, really hard, but falter. I understand it, and now if I've cut that slack to others... I can't help but cut myself that slack.
I 110% agree with the being clear and definitely no getting out of it/no getting out of it later (I call this the "There is no plan B"). When I accept this as the truth... When I feel it deep inside, in every cell of my body, I'll do it.
This explains why having homework from therapy sessions never works for me--I would only do it to make the therapist happy, never for myself. It just feels like busy-work.
I believe your therapist wants to help YOU.
I was laughing so hard when he mentioned bullshiting! It was strangely funny being called out like this😂😂
On a serious note, i am really grateful to have figured out that i am an enfp and this is a personality trait. If i hadn't, i would have ruined some really important and good aspects of my life.
This makes a lot of sense to me. I've been wanting to send out resumes to work for a new dentist for over a year now and my husband told me I must not really want it because I haven't sent them out yet. I'm scared to be honest changing but I know I need too. I've told people I want to change and now I'm embarrassed that I haven't yet. I keep rethinking the plan.
Why don't you want to do it?
We are awesome people! 😂 we just procrastinate a lot. Go enfp! 😂 😑 😐
because there is so much of life to live!!! LOL
I really do need to stop with the bullshitting and work towards my career. I wish I could've worked with you on this in the past. I've been with a counselor for almost 3 years and I feel as though my progress is super slow.
There's still time! Better to focus on the future than beat yourself up over the past. Although you can use that regret as fuel to focus and work hard moving forward. I'll be putting up a new page specifically for ENFPs soon, but if you're interested there is more about my coaching here: www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/coaching/
DjPhantasy Don't ever give up. We're awesome, we can pass thru this all. Just believe and start doing.
In my performance reviews, my first boss in my first career used to say that "follow through" is an opportunity area for me.
There are a lot of videos on the channel for following through. Feel free to head over to the playlist section too! :)
so true, I am an ENFP and I'm amazing at bullshitting, especially at job interviews. At numerous interviews I was so convincing at expressing my fake love for my previous job (that I actually whole-heartedly hated) that I almost convinced myself😂
Cheers man, good videos!
Great video! I'm an ENFP myself; when I wanted to stop smoking I always postponed the date until I finally promised my dad (He didn't make me) and, as you said, committed him "externally" - and it worked well!
Awesome!
I agree with the fact that as ENFPs we have to make commitments to other person we don’t want to lie to. But how do we do when we want to do something for ourselves ? To make commitments to ourselves ?
Thank you for these videos!!
You're welcome, Eric! :)
I can relate to this so much!
Great!
I developed my own way to finish what I start as ENFP:
* Just be creative!!!
You can be creative in anything you want!
You, by yourself, have the power to turn something old into something new!
For example, I was going to the Gym for 3 YEARS!
"Why it was not boring?"
Because I downloaded like 500 songs and performed Gym exercises listening to them and dancing accordingly in some creative ways.
When I ran, I ran dancing, it was very fun! I miss that vibe and uplifting energy!
* Some people called me crazy and laugh.
* Most people told me they were going to the Gym just to look at me. They told me I was inspiring them!
I discovered that ENFPs inspires people unintentionally ;p
Awesome! Thanks for sharing.
"Okay I know I said that I'd go to the gym after work but I got this really amazing ideia for yet another book that just struck me right there! If I went to the gym I'd gonna forget it. I just really need it to take advantage of this ideia RIGHT AWAY or is gone forever so in reality I'm not really skipping the gym, I'm deciding to invest this time in another dream... Is okay right?"
This is really good. Thank you!
Thanks Martina!
One thing I struggle with is that I LOVE the idea of things. Example: I LOVE the idea of being a hardcore reader, Constantly taking in valuable information to better myself. But I can never get through the whole book. I get distracted, focusing something else. Then I mentally kick myself for not finishing the book (WHICH I STILL WANT TO DO!)
Check out my video about the Dopamine Detox, it might help you with this. It helped me for sure.
Lol, this cracks me up. So accurate, omg. God please help me ENFP!
I always have ideas for starting new things, but I have no idea how to finish it. 😂
I feel like he gave an example of him attempting his advice and then having it fail. Maybe use an example where it worked. I do the same thing where last minute I wiggle out with ‘with more time I can accomplish this’
Oh I inform coaches on something I learned in Gretchen Rubin's framework- which classified me as a Rebel.
But maybe..maybe! This is an EFTP thing.
The thing I tell my coaches is this:
"If you tell me to do something, I have no other option than to not do it.
If you insist on making me do something, you need to tell me the exact opposite.
Then I will go to great lengths."
So for me, the only thing to build in accountability, is if I know I m going to piss a lot of people off, by achieving my goals.
Omg thanks for this video! might help me stay comitted.. I have my exams comin' up like next week and i haven't even started preparing , because everyday i make a to-do list but eventually procrastinate and fail in following it cause i end up convincing myself that it isn't necessary! and now i have wayy to much pressure :/
could you make a website where ENFP can go and express what they want to work on, health, finance, and other stuff, the software will help us(ENFP) how to achieve it, and make us follow a routine that will help to accomplish our goal.
Potential ENFP client here. I've watched a few of your videos and you really seem to pin down this particular type really well. Do you still do coaching? Can you let me know if you are? I can relate with everything you mention in your videos.. it's just the lack of structure and follow through that kills me..
Hey I do. Send me something through my site www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com or check out www.enfpunleashed.com
That's such a pretty cool idea abt being accounted.. How do u come up with these thoughts and ways out..???
so many unfinished works waiting for me to finish them. the story of how I an ruining my life!!!
No time like the present to start doing things differently
lmao my English teacher, whose a INFJ held me accountable by calling me out in front of those I care for their validation lol ( basically the whole English department) 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️😅😭🤣😆
It's actually a daily struggle!
i am quite committed.. for others.. my own wrks n prob keep on dangling... i think i sud value my works more... balance is wht we need.. love ur works.. yes determined actions.. warm regards..
Too true to be good
Hi, in one of your videos, you mentioned that ENFPs usually do not procrastinate. But in this video, you’re talking about how ENFPs do not follow through a task, isn’t that procrastinating? I’m abit confused. I’m an ENFP hahaha...
Why do I feel seen and attacked at the same time...haha
I never started anything to finish XD
Damn that was good (read: accurate)
I A an ENFP and I feel like I can even bullshit God and do nothing what I started.
Thank you!!!
Any thoughts on being an enfp who is supposed to hold others accountable to a deadline (at work)? I tend to just extend the deadline, but over time that becomes problematic.
Good question...the only thing I can think of is being really clear on the deadlines and having things in writing, or public, to remove some of the pressure on you to "enforce"
Like when I used the norovirus to get 2 DAYS off work turned up intentionally looking like death then getting sent home ..ohhhhh 😂
How funny! I almost never make commitments, cos, come hell or high water or anything in between, I WILL do it, and that is a lot of pressure I put on myself. Not fun. I skate through life being vague which isn't the perfect answer either. I am an INFP.
+Barb Dennis harness that power and commit to something awesome! Life is too short not to.
Haha and I just was sending a message to some one to hold my self accountable and then I decided to not do that and deleted it 😂😂😂
How did you find a group?
Hey how did you find your group that your accountable too
What I'm mentioning in the video is actually a training group I run for freelancers and coaches called The Free Freelancer.
It's a real struggle for me!!!
Start with small commitments and start changing your wiring.
what did you do before you found a team or an accountability partner ?
Make big and clear outcomes I publicly held myself to.
This calls me out ... me in a nutshell 😭
Being ENFP, you can't standstill to talk for over 30 seconds.
Really?
Haha true or just do what I do just pretend you dont see them lol
i laughed so hard when he hit that BULLSHIT so hard lol
LOL. accurate!
btw. Greetings from Poland xD
Greetings! I love your country, have been many times.
What do you mean "sometimes". lol
You look a lot like Ryan Gosling
The distractions!!!
So, at last, he gave a bullshit excuse to justify why you were a week late. Lol 😆. Understandable. 😂😂
Lmao 🤣 on the bs stuff hence when dating perfect couple who is also smart he couldn’t out bs me but I could put bs him lol
Didn’t turnout out good for me now I see why
Us infps can relate
Accountability ;)
Lol! We are perfect bull shitters ! Really can getaway with murder
Mmmm..Hmmm...Master of the unintended BS/distraction + re-framing...We just need stuff to be right + good!
As an ENFP, I can verify that this is just a highly-skilled form of bullshit, too, because you just obtained permission from the group to bullshit them! LOL I say this in jest, of course 6:43
Hahaha! I get what you are saying, but it really was a much better book afterward :)