My Husband Stabbed Me 37 Times - Melanie Gonzalez Surviving Story
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- Welcome back to Unfiltered Stories! Melanie Gonzalez, our guest today, will share her heartbreaking tale with us. Melanie was introduced to a kind man by her closest friend, whom she eventually married, but little did she realize that her husband would turn into a monster and stab her 37 times.
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This is my cousin I’m so proud of her for sharing her story ❤️
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She is amazing! I am so glad she is alive for herself and for her kids
So proud of her son also
Crap happen to so many women sadly. His family should have told her he was mentally sick, that was rude of them not to tell. I hope he is in for awhile and she must be very careful the day he comes out if she keeps staying with HIS family, its again very dangerous for her...
Ppl who are violent are also possessive ppl. And its his family in his head.
Good luck to you all ❤
Your cousin is truly an inspiration, she’s a phenomenal and beautiful woman. I wish her and the babies all the best! 🥹💐
I’ve seen DV within my family growing up, it’s an awful thing to witness. My dad abused my mother so horribly, she left but he came back to kidnap her a few times EVEN THOUGH HE ALREADY HAD ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND! He finally left my mom alone after he moved away w/ his gf. He was a horrible person.
I’m thankful I found a husband who’s very loving and gentle with me, he’s never laid a hand on me, never verbally abused me either. I pray my girls find a husband like their dad.🥹
Much love and respect from the Navajo Nation!🪶
❤🙏🏾
@@GD-xc4wgyes she needs to stay away from anybody close to him especially his family.. no contact.. and yes very wrong that his family didn’t tell her anything about him being mentally unstable.. I had a ex just like him and his mother didn’t tell me anything about his crazy behavior he put her through.. stay safe ❤🙏
Breaking your phone, kicking your car and acting violent are not "little things". Ladies please do not ignore red flags
Facts
You have to understand that he didn’t start like that, they gradually become violent which is crazy
@@friendlyneighborkai265 I understand that but he was showing huge red flags and she said he was doing "little things". Not blaming her, but women have to be aware of these things
@@tacosmargs58 I agree with you. I will just speak from my experience. I had not been exposed to those things in my life, I was sheltered, and young (inexperienced) so the things I saw similar to this were “small things” My thoughts were “Was it growing pains?” I was sheltered and my parents didn’t do this but maybe they were the exception…I’m experiencing the real world right? It caused me to keeping going when these “small things” arose thinking we could work through it. No one is perfect right?? But they were not small things, they were signs. It only took me 2-3 months but sadly he had already been exposed to much of my life: where I lived, worked, etc (Foolish I know) I think a lot of people fail from their lack of knowledge. Experiencing that once and hearing others stories has made me ALOT more educated and aware of different signs and (this is the important point) KNOW that it will lead to more dangerous times. You can’t work through them. My ex just said things that were off, and I left. He came after me, broke into my home, stole my gun and hid out in my house for a week while I was away with a plan to harm me (they found duck tape and everything) Everyone should know to create space and protect your space, investigate a person before allowing them to pick you up places in your life, know the signs and completely block a person so they have no away of reaching you. For some predators, that’s the only protection. So Yes Awareness is the based thing one needs.
@@angeleyes3386 Well said and I'm VERY happy you survived. ❤
My dear loves never tell them u are leaving....act normal and move out without them noticing.
I never told my ex I was leaving I just got up and took a greyhound and left I was abuse for 2 years I got tired being abuse
Everytime i see a case like this and i see the woman telling her bf/husband their leaving i always say "WHY ARE YOU TELLING HIM THAT YOU'RE LEAVING?" That's like a ticket to their death. Like you said, why not just leave in silence. Call someone before you go to wait for you outside 😓
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I did that and then he used the legal system to try to take my kids. It was hell and the court didn't like that I left safely like that. They offered me zero protection or help- he tried to take my life later on and now I'm finally free from him. It's so wrong!
Exactly..
She’s so strong to survive it and I’m glad her kids are with her
The most dangerous time for a domestic abuse victim is when they leave. Don't ever let them know. Have a plan, go to a domestic abuse shelter if you need to. I had to leave everything I owned and lived in a domestic abuse shelter for 3 months. Material things no longer mattered to me. My life was too important.
Hope you are doing well and in a much better place emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. God bless you🙏🏻
@@kariay50 Thank you! Yes, thank the Lord I am. ❤️
@@watchjennydisappear5798 bless you xxx
Cry me a river - Justin timberlake
@@bonnie3937
I'm glad you chose you! Peace & Blessings, Bonnie!🙌✨️♥️
Many years ago when I was married, my ex was just starting to show signs of anger outbursts. I did NOT say to myself, "oh he's just having a bad day" and ignore it. It took ONE time for him to "think" he could hit me. He would get mad and yell, but one particular time he punched me in the arm, I elbowed him as hard as I could in his ribs and said, don't you ever hit me again. He left for work one morning, I acted like everything was fine, and without any indication I called a relative to come over to help me pack my stuff and we were out of there in minutes. He never saw it coming. DON'T EVER give them heads up that you're leaving! Don't wait, just get out quickly....and especially if you have kids! They are nothing more than cowards that want control over you! Thank God you got it! If there is even the slightest little outburst and they cannot control their anger, GET OUT!
That is correct.
Agreed! More women need to hear this! God bless
Factsss
My aunt (God rest her soul) got into an argument with her (then) husband he walked over the closet, took out his gun and laid it on the dresser, grabbed her up by her nightgown, calmed himself, put her down, and put away the gun. For the next few days, he had some of the best cooked meals any man could imagine. He went to work on the 4th day and came home to an echo. She had moved her stuff out and was GONE! The family protected her until she got back on her feet. Just before he passed away they met up. He apologized. My spunky aunt told him, although she loved him, she loved herself more. Glad she survived and is sharing her story. My advice is to get out.
@@Amanda-di8cz : so that punch in the arm won’t then develop into a slap, kick, stab, or being shot. Bffr and go on somewhere with this insensitive comment. Abuse ALWAYS escalates to dangerous levels so don’t you dare minimize this woman’s story.
"If we get married, things are gonna be different" has been said between so many couples, and it never works like that. The cycle of abuse is pernicious.
If you have problems getting married makes it worse
Crazy part for me is if it was bad before. What’s gonna happen after that’s wild 😢
True !!!
ABSOLUTLEY IT DOES CHANGE TO WORSEN THE SITUATION 1 TIME IS ENOUGH IVE BEEN THREW IT AND I LEARNED THE HARD WAY
Or having a child & thinking it will change things as well 😢
I saw my mother being stabbed by her abuser when I was a child, and it was a traumatic experience. As a little kid, I had to wait anxiously for the ambulance with her, as the neighbor had called the police. I am now happily married, but I made a vow to myself that I would never allow anyone to harm me physically.
Omg im so sorry you went through that .
If you're in an abusive relationship never tell them you plan on leaving them just leave fast
Exactly
only smart people does that, but not to be rude some people don't. they tell and get killed before leaving that abusive relationship
@@ourherfamily7582 plenty of women who disappear quietly and still get killed
Yup wait till they gone out then dip and don’t tell a soul where you going
Amen!! There are many examples of women who told their abuser that they are leaving and end up dead. Women need to take heed and learn from other people's mistake.
He tried to take her beauty away but she remains beautiful! God bless her, this story is truly awful. I hope she finds healing 🙏🏽❤️
They try ...they know beauty means a lot to women...he dont want her to attract better then him and the moms be enabling they dumb sons. These mother in laws are only loyal to themselves and they husband sons.
@@Armelleee they’re trash.
It's always been jealousy towards wxmen.
@@Armelleee
Luckily, my grown son isn't abusive, but I'm curious as to what you think mothers should do if their son is bipolar and behaving like this? Should the parent go "no contact" as the youth of today are so want to do to their toxic parents? What if they live in another state or country? Are you a parent? If your kids aren't grown yet, have you considered what you might do if they turn out to be a sociopath or bipolar?
He didn't try to take away her beauty....He tried to kill her period!! End her!
I’m glad this women was one of the lucky ones. She’s very fortunate to still be here in spite of everything she went through. That being said, LADIES, IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO “FIX” ANYONE.
Yes because there may be mental illness as he said (bipolar disorder) but still you were his wife, not a medical practitioner or healer. It was not your job.
Lucky still isn’t a word of use here. She and her kids have a life long of trauma now
That's exactly what I was thinking, how lucky she is to be alive.
AND you CAN'T fix anyone.
@@cindypattana6071well said? You can't fix anyone !! I remember when my daughters friend always was telling her about his problems and when she was tired of him and his problems she said- I can't fix you, I'm not dr Phil😂
It took my mom 9 years of abuse to leave my dad. My brother and I watched nearly all of it.
She tried her absolute hardest to make the marriage work but my dad was consumed by alcohol and emotional immaturity.
I’ve healed from it so it’s easy to talk about, but it was extremely difficult to process. Took me nearly 18 years to fully recover from it. But I’m glad she left once she realized he could potentially kill her out a fit of rage. Thank god she left before it was too late.
I once got upset and told her she should’ve left earlier, but what’s done is done. I never mentioned it again ever since. Not fair to hang it over her head. She tried her hardest to be the best mom that she could be.
My brother and I turned out fine, thanks to her. God bless strong women who put their children first. Ain’t no rule book for parenting. 🙏🏼❤️💫
This broke me. I’m in tears. It took me 9 years to leave to… same story as yours. The guilt I have consumes me every day. I am sorry we didn’t have the balls. I’m sorry we caused you damage. I’m sorry. But thank you…. Because it was ultimately you that we made the decision. I couldn’t continue to allow them to grow up and see me this way. ❤
How dare his mom guilt trip you into staying into stay with a man like that. Wft is wrong with her.
Lots of Latino families have moms like that. They always support the men it seems. I’m sorry, but my ex was abusive too and my mom to this day says I should have made it work.😒😒
They always do that(religious family members), them and the church...smdh.
What's wrong with him is what's wrong with her.
@@mermaid5948yup as a Latina I can confirm. Their sons can be murderers and they will still love and defend their sons to the end smh
A lot of abusers mothers are like this, they enable the behaviour
I'm glad she got out of this toxic relationship alive. Ladies: THE FIRST TIME A MAN HITS YOU OR ABUSES YOU MENTALLY, LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY!! IT WILL GET WORSE IF YOU STAY😭😫
But that is the problem, those women thinks they can help the abuser get better or they think they don't have a way out. Easier said than done.
@@Megitsune69 I know it's not easy to leave a person you love even though the person is abusing you. But you have to learn to let go and learn to love yourself and your kids first instead of putting these abusive men ahead of everything.
TRUTH
Mental abuse you dont often see it coming mostly when you are young
@@Megitsune69its not just the love that keeps them in
Its many factors
It can be love or sympathy, people who forgive easily, asberger type personnality are not thinking ppl will be bad to them just because, it can be they was abused as a child, people that dont know how to say no or stop, self-respect, self-love issue... never was on violent family or never was told its ok to divorce etc etc ...
ANYTIME a man argue or abuse you in front of his Mom... Watch out‼️ Glad that you made it out alive.
@K.M Love • You betta shut up!!!! And keep on own talkin’!! Say it again!! AND watch closely the way the “man” treats his mother and/or the way he speaks about her even when she’s not around. If he doesn’t love & respect his own mother, he’s not going to even know how to love & respect you?!?!
@@reginaeiland3604 Speak!
How he treats any woman!! Ask how his relationship with his mother is? Ask how his father treated his mother? The answers will tell you how he is more than likely to treat you.
@@reginaeiland3604 Agree..told my daughter in law to get away from my own SON...she left him..
@@lisacranmer8005 I hope you are proud of yourself because abusive cowards hide behind mommy most of the time it doesn’t matter how you brought him up some men will show the monsters they are but you recognizing his faults speaks volumes on the kind of woman you are! I pray you keep warning and protecting woman even if it’s from your own ❤
😢 My husband's aunt suffered through the same fate with her ex-husband. Her hands were mangled from defensive wounds, and her body is covered in scars, but she survived. She's lived decades since, raising her 4 kids as a single mom and finding contentment and happiness herself.
I'm so sorry you lived through this horror too, but the future is yours now. I sincerely hope you find your happiness.
I'm so sorry you experienced this but praise God you survived. I myself am a domestic violence survivor. I was beaten for 13 hours, strangled, stabbed and attempted to be set on fire by my ex husband. I survived this horror and now I share my story and publicly speak on domestic violence issues and currently writing a book in hopes of being published to help other women not have to experience what I went through. You are a strong woman and Hod has plans for your life. Stay strong. God bless you
I'd love to read it
So sorry this happened to you too! I hope you get the book written and published.
God bless you! I am sorry you went through that horror. I would love to read your book also! Hope the healing comes fast for you. 🙏🤍
IT'S GOD HAS PLANS FOR YOU.
What is your book name?? I wanna read it and share with friends and family, god bless you and all survivors of this!!❤️🙏
i got stabbed 13 times, thank you for telling your story Melanie
Omg…❤❤❤❣️😮
I’m glad you both survived ❤️❤️ especially for ur children ❤❤❤
God bless you my dear. Can't even imagine the pain you have gone through 😰
*hugs*
What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. You are a true hero.
Wow his mother telling you to pretty much let him workout his issues on you. She didn t think your are also someone’s daughter??? You are a human being . How selfish how about holding your son accountable these mother in laws create monsters and enable them to continue their terror on others shame on her. Sorry you went through this better days ahead for you ❤
My thoughts exactly. What a shameful thing for a mother to do.
MIC DROP 🎤
Soooooo many moms do this with their scum sons, its disgusting.
We shouldn't even blame the guy,s mum, what about ,a grown up woman taking responsibility for not walking away after all the red flags???
@@ariseshine08 when children are taught accountability from a young age it definitely forms who they become as adults. His mother’s response to this women’s pain speaks volumes. even at that moment, it wasn’t too late for her to turn it around and respond differently. She may not have deliberately raised him this way but it’s a fair assumption that she became complacent with her son’s behaviour towards women
We pulled up to where were staying, i happened to be driving so when he got out, i locked the doors and stared at him with such fear. I slowly started driving away, it was my only chance and i finally took it. My son was three, he is 18 now and we are free and happy!
I do not know this woman but I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to see her telling this story than a narrator on a true crime show….. God bless her man❤
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So sad that so many people refuse to acknowledge the danger they put themselves and their children trying to act compassionate
Wow this woman telling story is truly a survivor 👍💯👍
Girl 💯 agree.. This girl just made my day! So happy to hear you tell your story. God bless you and your beautiful kids.🙏🙏🙏 Too you girl. You look amazing. Your a Warrior a Survivor! An Angel 😇❤🥰
100%
Red flag #1, him not respecting her boundaries during the courtship phase... Him being so sweet is love bombing!
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Most women dont realize the signs of narcs. They dont realize that certain things like extreme love bombing is a red flag of a narc.
Exactly! Love bombing is completely different from desire/longing/courtship behavior.
Love bombing is a convincing type of behavior. No one that truly loves you will have to convince you of anything that’s already apparent.
It’s the same as an outlandish lie, it’s done because of the convincing aspect. That person knows their lies and they subconsciously have to convince, so the lie gets out of control.
It’s the persistent and not taking no for an answer. I have been through this when I was in My 20’s end up with a man that ruined my life to this day. I was not interested in him and he was so persistent despite me telling him no many times, he loved bombed the heck out of me being so kind, thoughtful and caring to the point where looking back it’s not normal. Relationships are mutual. He eventually got close enough to me to study me and make me believe he was a great person. Young lady need guidance and high self love to avoid the trap of these losers. . They know exactly who to target
@@rosezap8850 u are 100% right. Someone who is mentally healthy does not love bomb. But this mentally healthy man loses out to a narc becauase the narc will.
Melanie is actually a good friend of mine and to know she endured this tragedy breaks my heart, but she is so strong and driven and is the best mother that keeps pushing through all her trials life has thrown at her. To know her is to love her. Please share her story and let’s bring domestic violence awareness.
What happened to her husband? Did he go to jail?
best mother??? how many red flags and warnings did she need to get away from that monster??? Please...
@@wargoddess1704 getting away is not as easy as you morons think it is.
@@wargoddess1704 you stupid? Doesn’t mean she isn’t a great mother caring and tending providing to her kids just bc she wanted her children to ahve both parents she stayed. Nd she had just got married and had a house. You must not be a mother to say shit like that
@@wargoddess1704 ok “war goddess”
For all she went through then survived and NOW having the courage to talk about it it’s enough to respect her and NOT criticize her BUT learn by her story 🙏 blessings to her ❤
Narcissists are so dangerous.
They are and she saw the signs and brought children into it.
They will kill you to get you out of their life.
They are so manipulative
@@snsn7251 she would of been abused her whole life. She just didn't understand healthy boundaries
Bipolars are dangerous but also the foods people are eating are also causing mental problems I test my food because I'm a chemist beef from different countries has fungus similar to mad cow disease, but I eat small amounts of fish and local beef mostly I eat veggies, so I own a lot of science equipment to test meat and the foods I eat if I see something abnormal I don't eat it. Something Is wrong with the foods we eat.😂
She remembered every detail of the crazy night & listening to her tell her story with a smile, I’m just so proud of her. Yes! She’s alive & thank his she & her kids made it.
When you experience it, it’s weird it’s happening so fast and in slow motion at the same time. You remember details and loss memory at the same time. It’s really funny how the brain tries to protect you
She’s definitely healing she wouldn’t be able to tell this story with such strength. What a resilient woman
I have flashbacks of abuse, but God heals . I don’t know how she’s doing this without showing signs of sadness or trauma . Maybe she’s not experienced it fully. I hope for a full recovery ❤️🩹 mentally and emotionally. Jesus help those battered and abused. Have mercy on those committing such atrocities 😢
She could be on medication or something that won’t allow her to display those heavy emotions so I’m not judging here. Everyone’s different.
@@mona8321I don't think they were criticizing her for smiling, but a testament to her strength and resilience.
I’m a survivor of a Murder attempt suicide. I was 33 with 3 kids and I begged for my life and I asked him not to kill me in front of my children. I got away he then completed his plan of suicide. I tell my story on my @thisoldladytalk channel. I’m so happy for you that you’re doing better and is safe from him. I’m 68 years old now.
I'm gonna check you out!
You are so brave, and so happy you walked away with your life. My husband was ( ex) hacking his way through a flimsy door into the bedroom me and the children were hiding, the police came ,guns out as he was crawling through the hole into the room! I thought he’d kill me for sure, as he kept yelling to the crying screaming kids “ don’t cry kids, I’m not gonna hurt you guys”
Making it ver clear he wanted me dead.
The kids saw their dad taken away by gunpoint ….
We got away,but they gave him half custody,and till the kids were adults I had to interact with this maniac. He got no jail time!
God bless you love a pray you a sweet life
Women of all races stop being so desperate and feeling like u owe these sorry as men who his mom an dad should have brought them up to be a real man.
U got a lot of parents who want to get rid of a son or daughter off they hand. So yes they want to get rid of they weak sorry ass.
Believe me the parents knee that. Men like that prey on women like u with no support.
I have to yell ur lost young women of today pray daily God give u the strength to put him first. In a long run u will be more happier and at peace. Only trust God for ur happiness in life rather u r single or married. Satan is roaming the earth and taking me out. Most are miserable and want u to take care of them and still not respect u. U don't need a man that's abusive and u not need sex. They need the sex. Stop giving into satan world. U deserve better. I'm tired of the looser not taking care of the woman and kids. Women stop having sex with these type of men. You better off being single and just being u and God. Sad u put your kids thru this. Women stop having kid by these thugs who just want to sexually and financially using u.
Pray to GOD for strength and guidance.
I'll pray for u and kid. I hope u not trying to get a lot of reviews from this because your life will get worse if u are.
That is similar to what happened to me.
Don't ever tell them you're leaving!
if kids are involved you will be arrested for kidnapping if you take them without telling the other party where they are
her son was so brave 🥺
He was 😭🙏
I wonder how old he was!
When your kids love you like that. Never let a man mistreat you or your precious children. Your kids are your life line. Your future yr dreams God blessing❤❤❤❤❤
I dated a narcissist who acted this way towards me. Cheated, punch me on my head when I was pregnant with our twins, harassed me, threaten to kill me and my kids, put a gun in my face etc….. I took me 3 months to completely leave him. I did it with my family’s help. Praying for all women who are going through this cycle. I don’t judge because I know what it’s like to give people chances especially those monsters who are good at pretending to be angels. These narcissists are demons! I never seen anything like it. I still have nightmares. I still look at my window thinking he’s after me. Please never give any chances to someone who shows you their true colors the first time. Just leave!
Time will heal you, god bless you
Girl, our stories are so similar almost identical. Im so sorry this happened to you but, you made it out! God is good ❤️ enjoy the rest of your life✨ and make the most of it
My ex took us all on a cruise me, and my five kids told one of my sons or maybe all of them that he was gonna throw me overboard and everybody thought it was funny thankfully, he did not throw me overboard
Thank God u are alive
@@tammyterry4283 he meant it
I was living with a boyfriend and his family. He started getting possessive and abusive. He wasn’t like that when we had our own apartment. Anyways, I realize that since he started hitting me that it would only get worse. So when he went to work. I packed up my thing into my car and left. He did stalk me and try to but I was safe. I’m glad I left when I did.
Thank god you left!!
@@pokkemuur6539 thanks 💓
Good for you , and may God bless you ❤ you are brave and strong.
@@pokkemuur6539 God*
Glad you left. Know your worth, and stay strong 💪
You’re strength is admirable. You were meant to tell your story. 🙏🏽
I don't know where you got your strength from, but am so glad you went deep into your soul to fight and stay alive for your children.
I'm so glad you and your children survived and I'm sorry that happened to you. I truly hope he's locked up for a very long time.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I admire you so much. Your able to deal with the past and start over. Prayers for you.
What an AMAZING woman u are. I can't understand how anyone can put their hands on another. So sorry for what u and also your kids went through. U are such a beautiful amazing person and the love u have for your children shows. May God bless u and your family with peace and happiness. ❤️🙏🏻❤️
why are you sorry??? she chose it!
@@blindship5792 Really? That doesn't make it ok... Have a heart?
@@blindship5792 Wow, Have u heard of compassion and empathy? You don't have to reply because I won't be replying back but I just don't understand why you would even make a comment like that 🙄
May I say that your son is a HERO for keeping his calm and getting help and then getting his sisters 😇💙
He could easily have been a casualty. If dad had decided to stab him. He would have gone quickly from hero to martyr. One more reason to leave abusers very early on.
She saved so many lives, it could happen to a woman or a man, by telling us every detail, every red flag to look out for, and sharing her story with us. Thank you.
I had a counselor once tell me that when they start breaking your THINGS that YOU are next. Woke me up big.
I was so relieved to hear you got your kids back because nobody else would’ve protected them like that
100%!!! She has a true mother’s heart!
I'm so furious cps took your kids saying you were at fault, you could leave. That caseworker should be fired.
Domestic abuse is a cycle. That is WHY it's so hard to break free. Abusers are manipulative as hell.
Thank you for telling your story. Hopefully it will help to save others & help teach those who haven't experienced abuse & help those who may be in similar situations to Get Out before it's too late. God Bless You.
The system and the social worker almost took mine.
She stayed in this abusive relationship even before he stabbed her. What if he would of killed the kids to? CPS did a great job taking them away. As you can hear she kept taking him bk with excuse after excuse. And she married him through it all.. I hope she did get her kids back after she decided she was out for good. Hope she doesn't bring another abusive man into the house till her kids are grown.
Cps did a great job taking her kids!
She failed to protect her children or to leave or at least let someone else care for the kids. If you stay in an abusive relationship yourself as an adult that is one thing. To not get your children out is another & yes kids get removed alot for this & for a damn good reason. Do you know how many kids die every year due to dv? They take them temporarily while mom gets her life together and gets help.
They should've taken them earlier.
You can NEVER change someone else
Its not because of you, its because of them!
As a woman who lived under a violent husband, I finally got the strength to 'Run'! Please dont tell them you're going to leave!!! I took my two kids and its been over 20 years of still learning to live. He died last February due to his lifestyle choices so we no linger have to hide but the scars are still there. I'm truly thankful you survived. It's extremely unsettled listening to your story as I relate so much to the things you spoke on.
My story is exactly like yours, when I left I never turned back, my ex died as well I left when my kids were 9 months, twin daughters are now 43 years old he died of covid, but I never seen him again. I forgave him as well, but true scar are always there forever 😢
My name’s Ahmad. I’m so relieved that you’ve survived. I know exactly what it feels like because I was also stabbed during an assault 6 times. I first want to say that I’m so thankful and great fun for your life. You have so much courage by sharing this. God Bless you. We are survivors !!
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I literally cried when she went into the part where her son saw her face and gasped at how she looked. That must have been so devastating for both her and her little boy. I hope he knows that he absolutely saved her life.
Same 😭
That's when i cried too but because i wish my mom had fought harder and tried to get away so that i could stop waking up to police or to hearing her getting smacked around and I'm sure that wasn't the first time he saw his mom getting hurt so i hurt for him and for my inner child as well
This has broken my heart. Thank you Melanie for being so honest in sharing your story. God is with you.
Prayers for YOU. My name is also Melanie Gonzalez. I survived my exhusband abuse. 🌴🐊
Much love to you.
Wow
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She was beautiful then and still beautiful now ... She is the epitome of strength and bravery ‼️
Calm down she did what any sane person would do. "Strength and bravery"??? Why are you all so corny????
@@jmara3741 Why are you so filled with anger & jealousy? BYE, NINJA 🥷 😂🤣😅😆
@@lsb9397 why are you so sensitive and corny?? Say the word, be "brave" 😂😂
Absolutely!!
@@jmara3741 Dufuq is wrong with you?
He’s a clearly a narcissist. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I met a narcissist and the only positive thing that happened from that traumatic experience is I learned more about myself and why I put up with many of the narcissists I’ve dealt with. I was neglected as a child and not taught how to love myself. It made me a target and a magnet for narcs.
Yes girl..my narcissist taught me self love..
God bless you...
❤ we are loved! We need to look around. No shame no shame
You are loved.
Right. I don’t believe that he was bipolar. I think that he was using it as an excuse
J Faustin, exactly. Factor in as well there’s no test for any mental illness diagnosis. It’s just based off a guess of the counselor or psychiatrist that sees/hear them. If they manipulate others, they are going to manipulate the therapist as well. Lots of people use the diagnosis as an excuse to not change.
YES being raised by a narcissist is so hard to get through because we are always looking for that love we didn’t get. So we attract the same kind of “love” thinking we will finally find what we’re looking for. Who knew you hat learning to love ourselves was the answer.
Abusive people always appeal to your good heart and your sympathy, DONT FALL FOR IT. Dont argue, plan your escape and get away. DO not tell your abuser where you are going.
Melanie that marriage certificate being voided was a blessing in disguise. I'm so glad you and you're beautiful children are safe and okay❤❤❤
Exactly
God works in mysterious ways
So glad you survived❤️He's a typical narcissist. Love bombing, temper, excuses. Please take care. Ladies NEVER tolerate that or think you can fix anyone.
As a man, I applause her. It's crazy how it's so much physical abuse in today's relationships. As a kid, as an 8 year old, I was physically abused by my foster mother. Everytime she whooped me, she used to beat the shit out of me. And, of one occasion, she beat a ring stuck to my finger. I had all the anger in me throughout the years to hurt others, even when they threatened or hit me but I never inflicted any harm onto anyone...even when I had reason(s) to.
@Zena Warrior Glad you mentioned this. I was about to comment about narcissism in here and I found your comment😊
@@vaashinimurlitharan Hi. You're very welcome. Glad it was helpful 😊
The way she described everything wow , very vividly 😭I started crying when she said she didn't want her son to see her while was opening the door with the neighbor
Oh my God me too, this poor girl. I also cried, it hurt my heart. She's so damn strong.
Omg me too I was crying and I was on my lunch break 💔 had to go to the restroom to clean my self up. Blessings
i started crying too 😢
@BryArii Collins yes girl this was so heartbreaking, to be harmed by the man who you once loved and gave 3 kids to.
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The biggest thing just like Melanie said when we’re in a toxic relationship is we think we can fix them in time! I also thought the poor guy was never loved when he was a child growing up…I can show him what love is like. In the meantime we are loosing our soul and who we are. Thank You Melanie for your testimony of courage and strength 💜🙏
Someone who has been through DV as her, I just want her to know I’m so happy that you survived and you didn’t lay down and die. You are a very strong woman and your strength and love for your kids kept you going. You are my hero.
IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME WE PRAY AMEN
Thank you ❤
Make your moves in SILENCE!!!! Bless your strength! Parents teach your children their worth!!
Sweetie once it starts with verbal abuse then it becomes physical. Then they say oh i won't to it again or they blame you. You survived being stabbed 37 times and its amazing how you can tell your story for other women and men who are in abusive relationships. Stay strong for your children.
We cannot change these Men....raise your daughters to know this please. Speaking from experience😢 Thanks young lady for telling us what happened to you❤🙏
As a domestic abuse survivor that survived death by the grace of God, this testimony has me in tears. And then when she said Florida! Boy are the men crazy out here… it’s why I say single. And it is literally a miracle I even step foot outside my house because that trauma is real. Praise God she is alive and well today. 🙏
Idk but my abuser ran to Florida too ironically
Hrt husband from Chicago so is she, I see a lot of domestic violence and women and children murdered by men in Chicago so crazy men are everywhere not a specific state.
I got grabbed by my neck one time by a guy i was dating. And by reflex I hit him in the face. I told him from the get go if you ever lay your hands on me again I will wait until your asleep and smash your face in with a cast Iron skillet. He never laid his hands on me again. I feel for this lady.
Are you still with him
@@belinalug6928 I’d like to know too, stabbed in the neck? I survived, I’m gone in a flash
GOOD ON YOU!!!!....if a man ever touches me....then one of us is going down!!!....I'm not violent but if push comes to shove, ill gv him the beating of his friggin life!!!! ....A man is very skilled at sensing a vulnerable woman. Women need to show we are not to be f£#cked with...even if we are as scared as shit!!!
@@belinalug6928 This was a very long time ago. I am 52 now. But this was the only time I ever had any kind of abuse. Never happened again. But to answer your question no, I eventually moved on with little or no drama many years ago.
@@ballsey4521 Exactly. The minute anyone lays their hands on me it's a declaration of war!!
He doesn't have to abuse you "because he is going through a hard time". I'm so glad you got away from him. I wish you and your children a wonderful life.
They always give the excuse of 'hard time' for abusing & funny thing is their hard time never ends.
His mother didn't want him in her house .
The Fact that Melanie was thinking about others the Entire Time...Is Beyond! Her kids kept her alive...without a shadow of a doubt.
Melanie, I’m so happy you survived and I’m so happy that got your children back with you. However, that social worker needs to be terminated for what she said. Stay strong and always listen to that inner voice. 💜💜💜💜💜
I’m happy she survived. Ladies out there. Don’t do it. They won’t change. I promise you. They can use excuses of mental Illness. My husband is bipolar. He became bipolar from addiction which I helped him with and stood by him. Afterwards, he claims it made him bipolar. He does absolutely nothing and his moods are up and down. The mental and physical abuse you have to live with, along with your children. I always stayed for the kids. But after 19 years I left one day. It’s been 9 months and we’re so much happier.
🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
That's narcissism. Most abusers are
Omg continue girlfriend! And don't be scared to get that restraining order!
I am so happy and grateful for you and your children that you were able to leave and move forward❤Peace, Love & Light to you and your family 🙏🏼💞
You had all the signs to run and never look back. No victims, just volunteers. Feeling sorry for them gets you killed. My husband was an abuser. He fell asleep at the wheel all alone and died at the age of 51. I was already divorced and living with one eye open, now I'm truly free.
youre horrible. some people cant leave due to money, or mental trauma due to the abuse. she is a victim and so are you. but spend your time putting down others.
Thank God you're alive and god saved you from that monster blessings to you and your kids..
It’s so eerie how she’s recounting this so calmly like she’s telling a friend about a movie she saw. 😮. Ladies we have the ability to see and interpret these red flags for a reason! If you experience these kinda of red flags they’re just the tip of the iceberg. Trust yourself and listen! So glad she’s alive!
I can tell my story calmly now but it has taken years not to cry or get anxious when telling people what happened.
she prob has told this story atleast 50 times. im sure the first 10 were very emotional
I have flashbacks . I don’t know how she’s doing this without showing signs of sadness or trauma . Maybe she’s not experienced it fully. I hope for a full recovery ❤️🩹 mentally and emotionally. Jesus help those battered and abused. Have mercy on those committing such atrocities 😢
“Maybe she’s not experienced it fully” What are you talking about?! This woman got stabbed multiple times and fought for her life. Anyone who has gone thru any domestic abuse by a partner/partners would not bash this woman for being so calm about telling her own story.
Trauma does that.
This woman is such a warrior. So glad you survived ❤️
Holy shit...the amount of times she let his abusive behaviors slide...and then married him??? 😮 when grown men throw tantrums like that and get violent so easily, that is SO dangerous! I had an ex like that and left as soon as he showed me his true colors. Also NEVER tell then you're leaving. Just act like everything's fine and disappear! And do NOT let them know where you are!
🥺 This is one of the main reasons why I left my ex. He would get violently angry and my 3 year old would try and defend mommy! My children should never find themselves having to defend me. Im single and will stay that way until my children are grown and out of the home. I’m sorry you and your kids dealt with this.
God bless you
💯....our babies, especially when super young should never have to see,hear or experience domestic abuse on or from either parent....unfortunately it happens😩 and it's worse when the abuse turn to them or they are caught in the middle....it's messed them up emotionally so bad....glad u got out of it and you guys have healed and all is well 💕💕
Your post made me cry 😢 imagining a 3-year-old the love for mommy trying to defend her. 😢 God bless your baby and your household blessings
The part where you say you “will never date until the kids are out of the house” , good for you, put your kids first! 🙏
Same
I know a lot of people are asking why she didn't leave but I feel she tried SO hard. I'm so sorry this happened to you melanie. You did NOT deserve this one bit
No of course she did not deserve this...who does. She knew she was with a monster but chose to stay. She's lucky she survived.
@ Little Sparrow
I think you misread that!
I don't believe she meant she tried to leave, she meant she TRIED as in tried to make it work.
If you've never been in an extremely abusive relationship whether verbally or physically then you have no idea how hard it is to get out of one!
If you haven't been in one then stay that blessed & good for you!
But this isn't a place to mock others comments.Period.
@@andreamallery8999 Mock? Girl bye!! This is Social Media! Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I don't agree. She knew what he was after all the abuse but stayed. Again she is lucky to be alive🙏
@Little Sparrow She did ask for help. She rang the police.
@Little Sparrow And I was a grown ass woman in that kind of relationship. It took one punch to the face and I was outta there! I am worth it! I know my worth.
My ex husband acted just like her ex. Was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, too. I moved away in silence. You can’t fix people with mental problems. She put up with too much starting with the initial red flags.
Using mental health is an excuse . Bet he didn’t want to punch every man he saw especially those bigger than him . I’ve bipolar I don’t abuse people
@@Erinloveable A common assumption we hear at The Hotline is that abuse is caused by a partner’s mental health condition, for example: bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), narcissistic personality, borderline personality or antisocial personality. While these are serious mental health conditions, they do not cause abuse. Nothing in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fifth edition (DSM 5) states that a mental illness solely causes a partner to be abusive in a relationship; however, there are a select few diagnoses that can increase the risk of abusive patterns to show up in a relationship and in other areas of life. Mental illness tends to impact all areas of a person’s life, such as work, interactions with friends, family engagement and personal relationships. In contrast, abuse primarily impacts personal relationships and typically not the other areas of life.
some chicks hate their ex's next mrs.... i feel dread for mine n always worry about them
@@queeng5925omg that statement is so powerful, empathetic,and terrifying all at once. I’m sorry you had to go through the trauma but I’m happy that you made it out, you are the lucky few
My ex was bipolar and never hurt me. What does mental illness have to do with anything?
Only if you have been through DV do you FEEL every single one of her words, the memories…. Its like I can hear his voice saying “I hate you” just like she described, as he used to say that to me with such hate too. But then they turn around and cry like they will die when we leave… it really leaves a scar in your heart for ever😔
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The neighbor is so nice and thank goodness she is alive
Lord God thank you for protecting her and keeping her alive for her kids 🙏🏾 😢❤
You are a STRONG ASS woman!!!! Thank you for sharing your story. You and your kids have much more to look forward to in life. Xoxo
I am just crying my eyes out listening to your story. I'm so happy that you are alive and made it through. There are so many women who are abused in marriage. I pray that your story inspires others to stay away from these unhealthy relationships.
Pease pay attention to red flags. The anger and apologies is a huuuuuge one. You can’t fix someone. I’m happy her children and her are ok
Once IT starts IT never stops. I’m glad you and the kids are alive. God really saved you. ❤
Your story gave me chills . You are so strong and a total survivor. I’m so glad you survived this horrible attack. May your life be peaceful and blessed going forward .
F OFF SHE IS EVERYTHING BUT STRONG!!! IF SHE WAS THEN SHE WOULD HAVE LEFT THAT SOB A LONG TIME AGO
I put up with my abuser for 13 long years. No matter what he did I would always forgive him. I always told myself myself that I could 'LOVE' the bad things out of him. I am so glad your ok. Keep doing you and those babies hun.
I don’t know what is more horrific, the brutal stabbing or the the state taking your kids because you were a victim! I hope he’s in jail for life! I’m so sorry this happened to you and to them.
This is the definition of stunning and brave. ❤️
All through this unimaginable horror.. your priority was always your children. You are a true survivor. God bless you and your children.
She loves her babies unconditionally, the way even through tragedy she thought about them and wanted them to be okay us everything. As a mom, I felt her 💓
Omg her precious son, helping his mother whilst probably so scared and traumatised. Thank god she survived. ❤
Omg I know him! I went to Clemente with him 🤯 never expected that from him he seemed like a really nice guy. Very quiet. I’m really really sorry about what you went through NOBODY deserves that 💔 I’m happy that you survived, stay strong mamas God Bless you and your family 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
do you know if he's in prison now? I hope he never gets out
@@dremewhite5209
I genuinely hope so!
Are u serious
Narcissistic sociopaths are terrific con artists who hide their true selves from society but unleash the demon behind closed doors.
You are only listening to a one sided story like other dumb people on here. ALWAYS the Man’s fault! Unless you have a camera, you will AlWAYS follow the leader and not become your own. Depp vs Heard! Learn from that.
Modern women always plays the victim. We don’t know if she slapped him, hit him, curse at him, called him names, don’t cook or clean house, cheated on him. Again, you’re only hearing her one sided and 8/10 women like to lie! They like to fabricate their own stories so you can believe them as always the victim! It’s what you women do it.
A man wants peace and that’s the problem with you modem women. It’s no wonder Passport Bros is the new trend. I see so many happy Western men with their international wives. I saw a huge difference between traditional Mexican women from Mexico vs American Mexican women. Major difference.
Ever since women got equal rights and equal pay, they feel entitled and the need to dominate man. It’s true. Time has change.
Women used to be obedient, respectful and passionate to their man and always loyal. No more! Majority of American women are controlling, trying to use toxic masculinity, never listen, abusive, cheat all the times and hit a guy. These are all facts.
Another fact is majority of American modern women don’t want the nice guy. They want the 6ft, 100k and bad boy type. If they ever wanted that nice guy, they would’ve married a geek at early age. Between 15-20 years old women already lost their virginity. Their mothers didn’t teach them well to close their legs.
Women lose their value at age 25. Majority of men won’t consider marriage with an older women past their prime. Only for sex but that’s it. This is something women haven’t learned yet and still sleep around.
Men look for women with no past and women look men for the future. Men don’t want a woman with a high body count and they always lie about that because they know they will be labeled and get away with it. Women will majority of the times get away with crime and call the cops to shoot the husband and lie and say he hit her or started first. Majority of women lie.
Traditional women cook, clean, take care of the house and kids and are respectful to the man. The man sacrifices so much time in providing the wealth and support of his family and is the bread winner. If the woman makes more than the man, then the man needs to leave. Majority of the cases that the man makes more the women cheats for attention and doesn’t cook and clean. Lazy.
Majority of the jobs that are administrative, community support or managers are taken by women. They do not take the hard working jobs that require extensive labor like mechanic, construction, carpentry, plumbing etc. WOKE women expect equality yet they need us to protect them and do the dirty work while they run their mouths.
As a survivor of domestic abuse…we blame ourselves for staying BUT we fall for the aftermath which is the manipulation. You escaped and are able to help others with your strength! Your babies are blessed to have you! ❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing
I watch true crime everyday, and I had to literally sit down and pause and collect myself. This is gut wrenching and absolutely horrific! This woman deserves a metal, she's an inspiration of strength 💪and a survivor!! You go girl! What a disgusting excuse for a man! May he receive what he deserves! May justice prevail for once! 🙏
I had to pause the video, too, and I watch a lot of true crime as well. Her story is so horribly gut wrenching. It's amazing that she lived through this and can talk about it. She is a very strong individual.
Dear Melanie, your story hit me straight in my soul....You are speaking truth when you said, "there's life after domestic violence." You are a survivor NOT a victim. Im not sure how your video was suggested on my YT but Bless you for your bravery --Im reminded of my survival story that I have not shared on a public platform. I was stalked and abused by my first Boyfriend as a teenager. I broke up with him and he stalked me into adulthood eventually breaking into my home and put a gun to my head I thought it was lights out. God loves us so much I believe He does send us those neighbors because my neighbor saved me that day like yours did. I later became a policewoman--in my own way I wanted to be the CHANGE I wasn't seeing in my hood....Do you know years later I got dispatched to a 911 DOMESTIC involving MY ABUSER? we never did find him that night,,,that JOKER was still out here abusing women SMH--but like you I am so grateful EVERY day that I wake up to thank the God that I serve and that im still here to love on my Daughter and grandbaby....I later retired from law enforcement...but I responded to too many domestics as well as domestic related homicides...im still healing from some of those calls...we are survivors Melanie...NOT VICTIMS...thank you for allowing me to share my story tonight and for Blessing me with your survival story-ONE LOVE
@tonyacastle ❤🙏💪
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Was his name Jared? My ex was the same way. He stalked me from 1996-2006, (until I met my husband.) If something happened to my husband, even though my ex is married now, I know I would have to be on guard again. 🤦🏽♀️
Wow, you were on your way to handcuff your abusive ex, for abusing someone else! I guess abusers never change. The HGTV realtor Tarek El Moussa was verbally abusive to his first wife Christina. The production crew said Tarek would often make her cry, call her names, grab her breasts in front of them, belittle her, etc. So they purposely had to film quickly, because the longer they had free time, the more probable that they would get into an argument. They have since divorced, and Tarek blamed his horrible behavior on his medication. Tarek went on to marry a clone of his wife named Heather Rae Young. He buys her expensive watches, cars etc, but I think it's because he is abusive to her too and he keeps buying her things to keep her in the marriage, because you know, abusers don't change.
@@finalfantasy3808 I believe people can change, but abusers can be set in their ways. It's everyone's fault except theirs. My ex didn't change. He ended up going to prison for "Terrorism" in Hawaii for doing the same to someone else that he used to do to me. I constantly called the police on him, (who failed me and failed his next gfs) They were so tired of him and me for calling, they asked me why my brothers hadn't dealt with him yet, then told me to get a gun.🤦🏽♀️ (I was 19 with 3 kids at the time) in hindsight, I would probably be getting out of being incarcerated by now if I listened to them and he would have never been able to terrorize anyone after me.🤔...but he's his wife's problem now.😌
My heart goes out to anyone or anything being abused. There is no excuse other than the abusers are evil. They know what they are doing.
I think many of them are infested with demons. I’m not kidding. They are so given to their sin, they are taken over.
@@sonofhibbs4425 Agree..said I had DEMONS..
What a beautiful lady❤amazing human being so happy to see her alive for kids and new life is awaiting for her . He was a monster that didn't deserve her.
I hope she has accepted God as her healer. Much blessings to you! You survived to give this testimony! Stay strong ❤️ you’re a strong woman and your kids are blessed to have you
Yes I'm a survivor of domestic violence writing a book about my life. Thank you for sharing cause women need to understand. If a man hits you once he will do it again
I wanted to write a book about my life too. I wish you the best❤
What’s the name of the book ?
My dad is just like that accusing my mom of cheating. Violently abusing us recently he threw something towards my mom n she got 6 stitches in her head I remember taking her to the hospital with me covered in blood he also comes with a puppy eyes always cuz my mom is the only source of income and with out her he,s practically broke but thank god we moved out now im so happy
My GOD THANK YOU FOR KEEPING THIS WOMAN!!!!! This mama has so much fight we must know God was with her. Thank you sooo much for sharing your testimony!!! So many young women going through similar things thinking it’s love and they can change the individual. You are going to save so many!! May God continue to be with you and your babies 🙏🏽
I got chills listening to Melanie describe the horrific details she and her children encountered. Having the son trying to pull the father away from the mother is heartbreaking b/c as a son he was doing all he could to protect his mother. God bless Melanie for her courage to share her story. Hope her children are doing well🙏🏻
Im the female that calls the cops if they even push me or put my kids in some stupid situation i stay alone my kids are grown now its just me and im happy
Unfortunately that's the mistake most of us make. We think " well maybe if I give him that love he never had..."
You're a survivor with a heart of steel
So scary how much hate he had in his heart. I am so glad you are alright and you got out of this. His picture is out there for all to see.
You, my dear, are the strongest woman ever!!! Your children are incredibly blessed to have you as their mother!!! Sending lots of love your way!! ♥️
God bless you my dear ❤️ I survived domestic violence and it took me 2 years to understand and heal myself! The one advice I would give to people is;
Do not tolerate any toxic behaviour, understand the red flags and leave/ protect yourself! If you ignore the red flags and keep on going then it may kill you!
Thank you