@ elevating yourself to a level where you can choose because there are more people choosing you. I believe this goes for relationships and friendships.
@@HereGoesSomethin fitness - done (76 kgs 179 cm body fat around 10-12%) Career - done (top 2% in country in terms of salary) Yet I dared to be myself, ridiculed since birth by family and strangers (autistic). There are only two paths for me - fake all the time and get found out eventually or be alone
I’ve met many women in my life, the lesson I learned is just be with someone who accepts you as who you are. Someone who accepts your flaws and mistakes.
Even if I am her type she can easily move on for some reason or another like how the 4th date went or she got busy and things fizzled out or found a better guy (taller, stronger, richer), or something else
@@BRBallin1 thats why the title of the video is “Let her choose”. Those are things out of your control. There are so many women out there, gotta be at least 1 or 2 that choose you.
I agree with you fully but there’s also the flip side to where people end relationships without the slightest bit of effort to make it work just cuz they “respect themselves”. The line between self respect and ego is so thin and I think a lot of our generation has crossed it. How would u advise those ppl?
Depends on the context but if someone ended a relationship without the slightest effort Id imagine they were checked out a long time ago; having self respect is mainly just about making decisions that reflect your personal standards and boundaries
I feel it’s the same actually It is smashing-and-passing but framed in a slightly different ‘trend’ Likely coming from an urge to satisfy oneselves needs, not actually mattering the other human being’s feelings or needs “I want sex! I smash and pass this hot chica.” “I want validation! Let’s hook up this high-valued person.”
Great video. My relationship of five years ended a month ago when the love of my life decided to move on. I loved her deeply, and I can't stop thinking about her and the memories we created together. I've done everything I can to try to bring her back, but nothing has worked. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. I've tried to push the thoughts away, but they keep coming back. I’m not sure why I'm sharing this here, but I really miss her and wish I could have her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let him go. So i had to do all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
You couldn't have said it better. I think most relationship advice videos on youtube are BS but your channel is straight up facts. What you talked about took me until last year to figure out. I am a lot better off now because I realized those things. Thank you for making the world a better place.
One thing that helped me get over this simp mentality was finding a girl who actually liked me for who I was. It made me realize that even if I manage to get some 10/10 girl by simping and constantly pretending to be somebody she likes, it's just a lose-lose situation no matter the outcome, because living your life constantly walking on eggshells and playing a role is just miserable and it can be SO SO MUCH better if you can freely express yourself without being judged or abandoned for it Better to just be yourself and hey, if she doesn't like you for you - in the end it's fine because it would be a nightmare for you to date her anyway
Great video bro this one helped a lot. I recently told a girls mum that I liked her daughter, and she passed my number to her for me. I never heard anything back which is a sign she wasn’t interested, but I still persisted and wrote her a letter. Her mum gave her the letter for me, and the girl still didn’t even respond to the letter which now is an obvious sign she isn’t interested. I lacked the self-respect to walk away, but I had patience so I waited a couple months and then DM’d her on Instagram. She read my message and ignored it. In the end her mum complained that I was harassing her 😂 lesson learnt: don’t chase the girl & notice the signs from the beginning
Pride and humility can exist together. Knowing how to admit when you’re wrong is the key to humility. Standing by what you think is right is your pride. Don’t ever follow either completely.
@@suunnz You must swallow your pride. Pride and humility are opposites. It is better to be humble and know what is right, than having pride and also stand what is right.
Trouble is some of us care enough to try and make things work, because it's easy to quit. Issue is that genuine care is often seen as weakness, or neediness. But the flip side is being distant and pulling away can be seen as not caring.
Nahh thats crazy I always have this problem where I dont believe in myself as a person but yet still too prideful to chase after someone that rejects me. I can pursue but I’m also pessimistic I’ll walk away asap if I feel the person is not fw me whether it’s true or not
I swear to God, he’s been speaking directly to me thru these TH-camrs….LFA, Casey Z, stephiscold, psychacks…. All these channels have released videos on a topic that’s perfect in timing, like within minutes. And now you, so thank you 🙏
It takes time. You can feel good entire day and start spirraling down in the evening. Its normal and you should feel happy and butterflies all the time. Trust the process, believe in yourself, even little by little you are using forward.
Time and a relentless focus on yourself and becoming the best possible version of you. There is no cheat code or easy way out. You can suppress or distract yourself for only so long. Feel your feelings. Know that you can and will get through any challenge. Stay focused. Stay positive.
Well i have a different yet similar situation, i met this girl she is literallly the best human being ive ever seen. We started hanging out , i told her how i felt and she reciprocated it, but she lives in another country and said that doesnt wanna do long distance, what should i do?
I did gather up all my courage as well as my confidence for the changes that ive made to myself to confess to a girl that i really like, tho at that moment she just look at me and said she dont like men.. Wot should i do now .-.
You don't get them back or change their mind. I'll be 34 very soon. Never ever chase people that clearly don't want you. Doesn't matter if its men or women. Its like begging an employer for a job after they've rejected you. It just makes you look weak and devalues yourself. Sometimes you just have to take an L.
She says she loves me but took it back and then proceeds to say she’s not a “pick me girl’ what I attract is what I attract” 😂 Help a boy out. Okay I know she’s playing but give me your input haha
Hi Derek, my name is Robert, for a year I have been in a affair relationship with a girl who is going to get married this year in May with her partner with whom she has been in a relationship for almost 10 years, we care about each other but she can't give up the marriage cause she said its complicated, and I understand that, I cant force her Yesterday we went on a trip and we talked a bit, she told me that she can't keep lying to her boyfriend anymore and she doesn't know what's wrong with her anymore, she feels confused, plus she has to prepare for the wedding, she told me that we don't know what will happen in the future, but she wants us to have a natural relationship without having to hide, but also she wants to still talk to each other and not lose contact, Im a bit confused and suffer sometimes because of the loneliness, Ive never chased her, she was always looking for me My question is, should I continue talk to her when she is looking for me and live my life or should I cut her off? Please give me some tips
Yes I’ve let women choose….they’ve chosen to leave me alone the past 24 years.
Good one 😂
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choose someone who chooses you is so important
always 💯
Then you can't choose anyone
@ elevating yourself to a level where you can choose because there are more people choosing you. I believe this goes for relationships and friendships.
@@HereGoesSomethin fitness - done (76 kgs 179 cm body fat around 10-12%)
Career - done (top 2% in country in terms of salary)
Yet I dared to be myself, ridiculed since birth by family and strangers (autistic). There are only two paths for me - fake all the time and get found out eventually or be alone
@ while it may seem hard you will find someone. Timing for me has always been the hardest part.
I’ve met many women in my life, the lesson I learned is just be with someone who accepts you as who you are. Someone who accepts your flaws and mistakes.
I've been abiding by the choosing people who choose me mindset, and it's been revolutionizing my life. I learned it way too late.
if you are her type, you'll know by her interactions with you. Keep up with the content ! I'll always be here.
my guy 🙏🏽
Even if I am her type she can easily move on for some reason or another like how the 4th date went or she got busy and things fizzled out or found a better guy (taller, stronger, richer), or something else
@@BRBallin1 thats why the title of the video is “Let her choose”. Those are things out of your control. There are so many women out there, gotta be at least 1 or 2 that choose you.
I agree with you fully but there’s also the flip side to where people end relationships without the slightest bit of effort to make it work just cuz they “respect themselves”. The line between self respect and ego is so thin and I think a lot of our generation has crossed it. How would u advise those ppl?
Depends on the context but if someone ended a relationship without the slightest effort Id imagine they were checked out a long time ago; having self respect is mainly just about making decisions that reflect your personal standards and boundaries
I've discovered the term "weaponized boundaries" where people are using the excuse of boundaries as a way of keeping control in the relationship
I feel it’s the same actually
It is smashing-and-passing but framed in a slightly different ‘trend’
Likely coming from an urge to satisfy oneselves needs, not actually mattering the other human being’s feelings or needs
“I want sex! I smash and pass this hot chica.”
“I want validation! Let’s hook up this high-valued person.”
Great video. My relationship of five years ended a month ago when the love of my life decided to move on. I loved her deeply, and I can't stop thinking about her and the memories we created together. I've done everything I can to try to bring her back, but nothing has worked. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. I've tried to push the thoughts away, but they keep coming back. I’m not sure why I'm sharing this here, but I really miss her and wish I could have her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let him go. So i had to do all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
That's amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is an exceptional spiritual counselor with the ability to help reunite you with your ex.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information. I just looked her up online. impressive!
You couldn't have said it better. I think most relationship advice videos on youtube are BS but your channel is straight up facts. What you talked about took me until last year to figure out. I am a lot better off now because I realized those things. Thank you for making the world a better place.
You are wise beyond your years. True 🤓👍
One thing that helped me get over this simp mentality was finding a girl who actually liked me for who I was.
It made me realize that even if I manage to get some 10/10 girl by simping and constantly pretending to be somebody she likes, it's just a lose-lose situation no matter the outcome, because living your life constantly walking on eggshells and playing a role is just miserable and it can be SO SO MUCH better if you can freely express yourself without being judged or abandoned for it
Better to just be yourself and hey, if she doesn't like you for you - in the end it's fine because it would be a nightmare for you to date her anyway
100%
This was honestly very enlightening. Thank you! Do you have any tips for overcoming the scarcity mindset?
Great video bro this one helped a lot. I recently told a girls mum that I liked her daughter, and she passed my number to her for me. I never heard anything back which is a sign she wasn’t interested, but I still persisted and wrote her a letter. Her mum gave her the letter for me, and the girl still didn’t even respond to the letter which now is an obvious sign she isn’t interested. I lacked the self-respect to walk away, but I had patience so I waited a couple months and then DM’d her on Instagram. She read my message and ignored it. In the end her mum complained that I was harassing her 😂 lesson learnt: don’t chase the girl & notice the signs from the beginning
its all good, youll only be better because of it 🙏🏽
2:13 You do not need pride. You need humility. Pride will only get you so far and then to your downfall.
Pride and humility can exist together. Knowing how to admit when you’re wrong is the key to humility. Standing by what you think is right is your pride. Don’t ever follow either completely.
@@suunnz You must swallow your pride. Pride and humility are opposites. It is better to be humble and know what is right, than having pride and also stand what is right.
I also fell into the fantasy and cope once but now I’m leveling up I wouldn’t even wanna talk to them again when im up.
lets go
Always turn in to hear the goat spitting facts ❤️💯
Thx bro perfect timing, I need to hear this
Got rejected by my crush she is in love with someone else and I still can't move on
Trouble is some of us care enough to try and make things work, because it's easy to quit. Issue is that genuine care is often seen as weakness, or neediness. But the flip side is being distant and pulling away can be seen as not caring.
That was good advice I needed that thanks!
When she goes, let her. Talk to any man of substance and success, and they will confirm.
Nahh thats crazy I always have this problem where I dont believe in myself as a person but yet still too prideful to chase after someone that rejects me. I can pursue but I’m also pessimistic I’ll walk away asap if I feel the person is not fw me whether it’s true or not
I swear to God, he’s been speaking directly to me thru these TH-camrs….LFA, Casey Z, stephiscold, psychacks…. All these channels have released videos on a topic that’s perfect in timing, like within minutes. And now you, so thank you 🙏
You know you are cooked when youtube algorithm gave you this video in your recommendation
All jokes aside your channel is very underrated!!
Nahh facts😭
You are amazing brother ❤❤ keep up the good work
appreciate the love 🙏🏽
goat really never misses in a video ❤
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1:05 Transformers was the first thing that came to mind
you are good role model to young guys 🔥🔥💯💯
Respect precedes love.
Is the 5 stages of grief in getting over someone bullshit? I find myself feeling like i go one step forward then two steps back. Any advice?
It takes time. You can feel good entire day and start spirraling down in the evening. Its normal and you should feel happy and butterflies all the time. Trust the process, believe in yourself, even little by little you are using forward.
Time and a relentless focus on yourself and becoming the best possible version of you.
There is no cheat code or easy way out. You can suppress or distract yourself for only so long. Feel your feelings. Know that you can and will get through any challenge. Stay focused. Stay positive.
1:07 for me transformers, first part
Well i have a different yet similar situation, i met this girl she is literallly the best human being ive ever seen.
We started hanging out , i told her how i felt and she reciprocated it, but she lives in another country and said that doesnt wanna do long distance, what should i do?
Once we leave, we’re never coming back.
Great timing cause a girl just told me she wasn’t interested today lol.
What does the expression “I’m good off her.” mean? 😂
What if you wronged her and she pulled away because of it? I tried to reconcile but it didn’t last much longer. Got ghosted
Learn from it and move on to the next. That's all you can do. If she wanted to come back she would.
3:01 “rightfully so” so you don’t actually have any self respect LMAO
A female can’t choose when the males aren’t even trying to pursue who they want…
what mic do you use?
at 2020 usb
Spit the facts! Thank you
See she used this arguement saying I didn't choose her, but instead of other women she was refering to my family. Is there smthn I don't understand?
Let them choose wrong and see them fall😂
I did gather up all my courage as well as my confidence for the changes that ive made to myself to confess to a girl that i really like, tho at that moment she just look at me and said she dont like men..
Wot should i do now .-.
You don't get them back or change their mind. I'll be 34 very soon. Never ever chase people that clearly don't want you. Doesn't matter if its men or women. Its like begging an employer for a job after they've rejected you. It just makes you look weak and devalues yourself. Sometimes you just have to take an L.
They only seem to choose me after they’re on their 2nd baby daddy or they need something from me😢
She says she loves me but took it back and then proceeds to say she’s not a “pick me girl’ what I attract is what I attract” 😂
Help a boy out. Okay I know she’s playing but give me your input haha
Just sounds unstable
Hi Derek, my name is Robert, for a year I have been in a affair relationship with a girl who is going to get married this year in May with her partner with whom she has been in a relationship for almost 10 years, we care about each other but she can't give up the marriage cause she said its complicated, and I understand that, I cant force her
Yesterday we went on a trip and we talked a bit, she told me that she can't keep lying to her boyfriend anymore and she doesn't know what's wrong with her anymore, she feels confused, plus she has to prepare for the wedding, she told me that we don't know what will happen in the future, but she wants us to have a natural relationship without having to hide, but also she wants to still talk to each other and not lose contact, Im a bit confused and suffer sometimes because of the loneliness,
Ive never chased her, she was always looking for me
My question is, should I continue talk to her when she is looking for me and live my life or should I cut her off? Please give me some tips
1:45 ish ….. I disagree, I know I’m better in every way, but I saw her potential 😢
You saw what she could be, not what she is…
what is your email id mate?
Dont date someone who u share absoultely nothing in common with u will be miserable