That one mother was WAAAAYYYY too proud of the spyware. And STILL delusional enough to answer no to that question... Fucking disgusting. Dont get the feeling either that shes the kind of person to ever admit and understand what she did wrong bc of her reaction
completely agree! she only answered no because the question is asked to her basically saying “has your daughter invaded your privacy” which she likely hasn’t and probably can’t considering how the mother ran her home
She was a domestic abuse survivor so she likely dealt with that before or didn’t want her parents to become victims of similar circumstances. I don’t blame her honestly especially as it was only the computers and not their personal mobiles.
@@BlueberrySummertimethis 1 million percent. It's not to stalk or spy on your kids. It's because teenagers are by nature very secretive and can get themselves into situations that they don't know how to handle and may be too embarrassed to ask for help. It's important to know what's going on in your kids lives, even the parts they are too afraid or embarrassed to share with you, to help keep them safe. It's not like she was sitting there nitpicking her over every little thing that she saw. In fact, the girl seems surprised to learn that her mom even had it installed which means that she wasn't abusing that power, she was literally just trying to make sure her kids were fucking safe and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and anyone who says there is clearly does not have children or understand what teenagers are up against with technology and modern issues.
I can’t even wrap my head around the first mom. She was so scared of her daughter doing things online but then writes a HEADLINE calling her daughter a b*tch and doesn’t think twice?? ALSO didn’t hesitate to use her daughter’s real name. The actual carelessness.
The first mother vehemently trying to make herself look like the victim and then awkwardly shuffling forward for a hug while the daughter looks for any excuse to avoid the hug… I’m so uncomfortable
i may be interpreting this wrong but it seemed like the daughter didnt even know about it until just then?? like theres NO WAY she one still has spyware for her daughter who is a grown ass adult and two never even told her about it????😭 absolutely insane i would never forgive my mom if she did that to me tbh
These apps do work, they are typically for younger children. To monitor what they are seeing. I have had it installed twice in different Christian drug rehabs. It was so we couldn’t watch p0n or run off and buy drugs because it also showed our location.
I don't care about context no parent should call their kid a bitch. Like trying to justify it saying it's click bait like...come on. Thats forever online. I'm glad she doesn't resent her mother for it but damn that's hard.
@@80sbrunnette Mine too. You did nothing to deserve that. You were a child. Patrick Teahan has great resources for dealing with childhood abuse on TH-cam. My heart is breaking for that girl, at least my mom had the foresight to only say it to me in private when other people couldn't hear. I can't imagine how painful it would be to have her say that publicly to a huge audience. God. I feel so bad for her. Some people should not have children
the way she tripped over herself to clarify a million times that it's okay and she's not mad at her mom, you just know that lady never gave her a single second to feel her actual feelings about it before laying on the guilt trip
@@sav44474fr, and the fact the title of the article was literally “my daughter’s a bitch and its *not my fault”* she had to make it known that her daughters a bitch, BUT ITS NOT HER FAULT!! as someone who’s grandmother is a diagnosed narcissist.. yeah this woman’s 100% a narcissist for sure 💀
i agree but the internet was also different back then, it wasn’t as easy to access everything and for people to just look people up so easily so it seems like she regrets it now but def didn’t know back then
@@nataliag7837 yeah, that's why I get the daughter wanting to forgive it and move forward while still feeling uncomfortable. People don't go back and browse newspapers or magazines - if search engines didn't exist, none of that would be easily discoverable. A lot of people made mistakes in those early years that now haunt them - and even more people continue to make mistakes now. It's at least a little more understandable back then.
@@nataliag7837it’s just crazy to ever feel the need to share your daughter’s full name to other mothers (which is what she wanted to do the beginning with) you can be a mom blogger without sharing the contact informations
Yeah and you can hear the struggle about the daughter’s sexuality. I imagine it would be difficult to hear how “wrong” it is and then have to unlearn that while still participating in a community that rejects it. She obviously loves her daughter enough to change despite discomfort and that’s beautiful. Hopefully culturally we eventually get to where self expression and hiding whole parts of your being aren’t necessary any more.
@@klaythoring1326not to self insert lmfaooo, but my mom was Mormon and I grew up that way too. When I came out as trans at 15 she didn’t know what to do, turned to the church and heard how terrible and wrong it was, heard how she shouldnt accept me and my choices. Then.. she came around. She had about the same views as this mom did “while I might not agree with everything, I still love you”. It showed a lot of growth, and patience. She eventually came around to using the right name and pronouns and exclusively calling me her son. I really loved her for that.
I dont know about that. Every relationship has their good and bad sides, I wouldnt call every aspect of a relationship that didnt go well a trauma and I wouldnt call the daughters traumatized unless they said that about themselves too. Also we just got a glimpse of their relationships
I would kill for a mom who would say “if your view of a role model is someone you can’t come to when you’re vulnerable, we’re doing something wrong”. That is SELF-AWARENESS and GROWTH GOALSSS
that pair seemed so genuine and sweet. super well put together too like when the daughter said her mom ran her own business i was like that makes so much sense lol
id never forget reading a headline like that about myself, written by my own MOTHER, thats insane. and her acting as if the context makes it better, oh no therapy for life
It really annoyed me how she kept circling around on it and explaining it. She also multiple times tries to victimize herself. I dunno the whole story ofcourse but she comes off pretty awful in this IMO. Atleast own up to ur mistake.
the daughter is so upset the whole time, it's obvious this is something that's bugged her for years and the mother only seems to be apologetic because she doesn't want to be ripped a new one by people seeing this.
That blogger mom is running in circles trying to defend herself, sprinkling in a little apology and then undoing it with the desperate attempts at justification like shes not even finishing a sentence before starting a new one.
@@lilycollegemythbusters5532i think technically since she was both the writer and the mother of the daughter it was legal because she was consenting for her inherently through it being her work; therefore not making it something necessary of editing if they brought it up and she shrugged it off. Ethically though she should’ve known better and prioritized protecting her children.
i don't think she was writing FOR the la times, i think someone at the la times wrote an article about her moms article. probably because of the crazy headline
"if the interpretation of a strong woman role model is that you cant be vulnerable and soft, then we are doing something wrong" wow. that hit home right there!!!! uhg!!! crying on my lunch
i mean, it's true as a kid that you don't have a right to privacy or autonomy; that's why minors are treated different from adults in the law, and that's honestly not a bad thing. kids are dumb as hell, and what's worse is there are a lot of predators out there who will take advantage of that. as someone else stated, it's about finding balance. it also takes a certain level of maturity to recognize that it's okay for your parents not to treat you like a grown-up when you're not.
It was genuinely healing for me to hear one of the moms say “no matter what, I wouldn’t read your diary, because you need your own space.” I had a mental breakdown when I was 15 and was admitted to a psych ward, and my mom read all of my diaries while I was in the psych ward. I felt so hurt and violated and disgusted. 10 years later as a 25-year-old I can understand why she felt like she needed to figure out what happened, but I wish she hadn’t done that. I was really passionate about writing, and my mom reading my journals made me stop keeping journals. I stopped writing anything for a long time, because she also accessed my laptop and read everything I’d written there; the novel I was working on and all my short stories, which I deleted as soon as I left the hospital because I was so humiliated knowing she’d read them. It’s been a decade and I’ve only gotten back into writing in the past couple years.
God. I’m further into the video now, and my mom was a “mom blogger” too (on Blogspot, RIP). Thankfully I’ve changed my legal name since then & my mom deleted her blog so it doesn’t show up when you Google my name, but I remember finding my mom’s blog posts about how exhausting I was, how she never meant to have me (she was 42 when she had me and she already had 3 kids, one of whom is severely disabled and requires 24/7 care), etc. I was 9 or 10 when I saw this. It completely broke me. My mom nuked her Blogspot a few years later, but I had already been keeping tabs on her blog for years and reading about how, even though she loved me, she wished deep down that I’d never been born.
Im shocked reading this because I went through almost the same exact situation!! Totally destroyed my trust in my mother and I couldn’t write for years. I still cry when I think back to how it made me feel
My mom read my diary as a teen and then scolded me for everything in it that she didn’t approve of. The biggest violation of trust I’ve felt with her and I’m still not over it 8 years later. She’s put parental tracking software on my phone and used to check my phone but I didn’t even care much about those- the diary was so personal though.
@@KristinReneeCreative I’m so sorry. And yeah, it’s such a destruction of trust. My mom only read my journals after I attempted you-know-what, and she told me that when I was a grown-up I would understand. 10 years later, I do understand the desperation and fear she must have felt, and I don’t necessarily blame her, but I stopped writing for myself after that. And I told her later how violated I felt, and she never gave an inch, much less apologized. Again, I can’t really blame my mom for what she did in a panic when I was in the hospital. But it did cause me to feel, even as an adult, that I don’t have a private space to express anything. I stopped journaling, I stopped painting/drawing anything personal, I stopped being honest with my friends about how I felt. I’m 25 and still working through this. It’s embarrassing to admit, but it is what it is.
@@emmaruth223damn yall manage to villianize mothers for everything☠️ she was 9 n its the stupidest shit ever she has probably apologized so many times like shes not a fucking monster jesus
@@maugli1347 Yeah.. Not trying to make excuses for the mom here, but people are allowed to make mistakes and then regret them, just generally speaking. Like yeah, she should have known better but maybe just she didn't, or maybe she had a difficult relationship with that daughter or whatever, life moves on (she should learn to apologize properly though)
@@someone3195 you can tell by the way she answered most of the questions, like the privacy one. The daughter said “you invaded my privacy all the time” and the mom said “no, not that often you’re misremembering” and then the whole “my mom called be a bitch when I was nine in The NY Times” and the mom said “well, here’s all this useless context that doesn’t make it any better”. Who the fuck calls a 9 year old a bitch? Let alone their own child? What, because she wasn’t always wanting to be around her sister??? That’s normal. The mom has issues with being ignored by her older sister as a kid and so she takes it out on her own 9 year old child?? Fucked.
I don't think these mothers understand the gravity of what they've done. Sarah "what you write online stays with you forever" just does not grasp that her daughter can be doxxed because of her.
Parents never do. Theu never do wrong. And if they do, do as they say and not as they do. But they can keep doing it. They MIGHT apologize later and you have to accept it since you depend on them. But it will happen again Done with my projection rant. The end
@@jam2727parents are just people. Most people are du mb af. Most parents were not ready to be parents when they became parents, they were basically du mb af, immature people that may have thought they were grown, but still had prefrontal cortex maturing to do. And on top of that, I'm pretty sure becoming a parent before your prefrontal cortex is fully developed, which is most people having kids, actually stunts your mental growth.
the mentality of some of these moms “if i say it with a nice tone and a smile that makes it okay” and when the other ppl give an awkward laugh or smile to be polite they’re like “see everyone agrees w me”
poor girl with the mommyblogger lady as her mother. you can tell she tiptoes around about how she actually feels about her mother’s writing and majority of the things said throughout the video and plays it off as she’s older and that “it’s okay” now. sad.
If I trust my kids enough to give them a phone, I'm not gonna be looking through it. If you don't trust them to be responsible on the internet, don't give them access.
Yeah that’s how my mom was. Never once looked thru my phone because she trusted me and it definitely helped our relationship. My gramma was the type to constantly search thru my phone and it added to our issues and gave me a lot of trust issues with my devices now
I will say, that if you have a personal computer and you allow your kids even just free access to study on it or do homework I would absolutely be going through search history, maybe even have a program that alerts me if certain websites are accessed from my computer. Kids can be untruthful when given certain liberties.
That's a legit philosophy but I think it's equally legit to say: "If I keep internet away from my kid, then they might search for access somewhere else with 0 knowledge on the risks. So I'd rather provide it to them in a controlled environment."
One of the commonly accepted definitions of that word is: "not involving or relating to the use of computer technology, as a contrast to a digital counterpart" So he's kind of right to. 😅
The Lesbain daughter's mom is in THERAPY??? WOAH. That's like extremely rare. Usually the kids have to deal with the abuse all their lives and still have to pick up the pieces as adults. And the parents conveniently, never, remember, what, they did to you..
@@megand12345they might also still be projecting, though. The comment definitely reads like it's motivated by a personal experience with residual bitterness. But you're right. It is unfortunately quite common.
@@Loctorak exactly, its fine to say it in this case bc its true that its common but it irks me when people -in other cases- speak of their subjective experiences as if they are statistical facts
@@BlueberrySummertimeNope, that’s what to expect from abusive parents. My parents actively pretend to be therapists for other families and still refuse to attend therapy themselves.
Regardless of how hard the mom is working on herself and how the daughter feels about her, hearing "I may never come around 100%" from your parent has got to fucking hurt so bad. That's probably going to stay with her daughter forever and she just threw it out like it was nothing.
@@fishfinger6669 accepting the fact is so much different than being supportive, though - which is what everyone would like from their mother. Her daughter is allowed to be upset. I would be.
What’s so common in these stories from the moms is the glaring emotional immaturity. The reliance on supplying “context” around these topics because they can’t fully admit that they did something hurtful and shouldn’t have is…emotional manipulation. Lol.
and I don’t think the mindset “I was learning as a parent” offers full absolution from these things. I think when you have a child you’re actually even MORE responsible for being vigilant about your emotional maturity…
@@ivanashuka8322 You're absolutely right, but from what I have witnessed- parents holding themselves responsible for their own emotional maturity is *exceedingly* rare.
@@thalobluefr like literally just check WHO she talks to instead of spyware or catfishing little children 😭😭😭 like ofc its good she understood how dangerous strangers can be, but jfc that seems like a fucked up way to go about it
At first the girl said her mom “basically called her a witch” so I was gonna come in here and defend the mom saying she probably didn’t use that word, but then she revealed the title and I learned that she’s completely at fault and nobody should be coming to her defense
That was my exact reaction too I was like oh she’s just using that word to sum up the article and then the mom said the article title and I was speechless.
right??? and all because she was projecting her frustrations as a little sister from when she was a kid and taking it out on her own child. “it wasn’t really about her being a bitch it was about sympathizing with the little sister” okay and how about having some empathy for an older sister being followed around by a younger sib who constantly wants your time and attention when you want to be doing your own thing? they’re literal children, they’re going to make each other feel annoyed or ignored sometimes, but neither should be faulted for that. it’s understandable. they’re still learning about relationships, just give them some guidance instead of using them as a vessel to blast your own unresolved resentment online
The mom im the green shirt is actually evil. The way the daughter had to pretend it doesn’t matter to her anymore when the other mom asked if the daughter was okay was so sad
Lmao, your definition of evil is just someone who made a mistake decades ago i guess. She came around with it, and said she regrets it. She might have not been aware of the consequences of posting things online. Stop judging ppl for their decades-old mistakes. U r actually insane if u think someone with a minor mistake is evil.
all these evil women always think they can just do whatever they want cause they can just offer a hug and now magically they don't have to take accountability.
@@someone3195nah but the way she essentially makes her daughter absolve her of her “minor mistake” is pretty messed up. also using your daughter’s full name in an article where you shit talk her is crazy to me. she’s not evil but she’s definitely a bad mother and it doesn’t seem like she’s changed her behavior (considering she plays down what she’s done).
@@thoughtless-fractales Yeah her explaining that she called her 9 year old daughter a bitch by saying "I'm REALLY good at click bate titles" made me want to puke
The mom blogger gives such covert narcissist vibes 😭 “I put my kids growth pains and victories on blast because I was overwhelmed” Being indifferent to younger siblings is part of developing independence and autonomy and while it’s not the most positive experience for the younger sibling, you have guided your kids through that not label it as “bitch” behaviour when she literally does not have a developed frontal cortex at that age.
@@CheeseMcGees nah she downplayed her behavior and gave excuses and was embarassed that it was brought in front of people, it looked like damage control. Esp with that dumb hands-open waddle she did to force affection with her daughter which I'm pretty sure she said no to but the mom kept coming at her. I'm usually one of give some parents the benefit of doubt but nah it felt very acted out.
I’m the exact same age as the girl with the mom blogger. One thing that has been a struggle in working on my relationship with my mom is that I have essentially had to teach her how to validate my feelings and not immediately get defensive. The daughter doesn’t like that stories about her life using her REAL name and calling her a BITCH are online forever. She should be able to express that and feel heard, but instead she’s the one who ends up reassuring her mom that everything’s ok now and she’s not mad. If you can’t talk to your kids and genuinely say, “I’m sorry. I hear you. How can we heal from this?” without turning it into a sob story that’s solely about you, the quiet resentment is only going to grow. It’s ok to have gone through hard times, but you can acknowledge your own hurt without using it as an excuse to cover up how you’ve hurt others.
Ok but how every daughter said yes about feeling their privacy invaded and the mother said no only to confess crazy shit...that's mother/daughter relationshipcore
the last mom and daughter were so sweet, you can really tell she’s her mothers daughter. both so eloquent with their feelings and supportive of eachother😭 she also looks so much like her mom
my stepdad used "spyware" on me, went through all my journals and read them back to me, and i have completely cut him out of my life. that kind of "you don't need/deserve privacy" attitude was just another reason i will never allow him back into my life. not giving your kids any form of privacy is not allowing them to be their own person.
It's not my place to say but it sounds kind of extra dicey to me that it was your step dad. Like, isn't that a decision that should ultimately be approved by the biological parent?
@@rockstarburne wow it’s almost being a man shouldn’t automatically make you the authority on all aspects of a household, especially if you are not the biological parent to the children
@@rockstarburneI’ve seen some of your other comments on this video and I’m 99.9% sure you were just unthawed from your 1950s cryochamber, because how else did you miss the last 70 years?
the mummy bloggers daughter, izzy i think, i could see resentment in those hugs and for a good damn reason too. the fact that her mum did that to her at NINE is insane and then izzy having to then comfort her mum after that, insaneeee
the second pairs conversation about queerness was ROUGH. it is so hard to know that your parent Thinks they love you in your entirety, yet they are unable to accept something so imperative to who you really are. wish her the best!!!
I have 4 daughters & I would NEVER invade their privacy like stalker mom, because I want trust and for them to feel comfortable coming to me. I do have Parental controls for my youngest daughter, and with all of my daughters I have an open door policy that we can discuss anything and I will not judge them and will always love them unconditionally no matter what mistakes they make. I was raised in a strict Christian home and I was terrified to talk with my parents, and I never wanted that for my daughters.
I know your daughters love and appreciate you so much for that. My mom is the same way with the same backstory and I love her so much for the cycles she’s broken for me
I agree, but unfortunately these moms were raising kids when the internet was just getting popular so they probably didn’t know about parental controls. The only way they knew to protect their daughters from literal pedos on the Internet was to check their Internet usage
Yeah... I feel like, even if you are hellbent on reading every single conversation even pretty late into their teens, it needs to be out in the open and a conversation you have with them so that they understand why you feel like you need that access. Reading and watching everything they do and say online without their knowledge is such a breach of trust. It tells the kid that they will never have their parent's trust, and that they can never trust their parent imo.
@karinalumen9722I wish that would’ve been pointed out to her on the show; it would’ve been great to see her reaction to being told the things she did to “protect” (in BIG ass quotations) her kid probably just made her into a victim to online predators or something else damaging
My mom is the best. She was strict at times, but was big on us having our freedom and definitely privacy. I know without knowing that my mom never read my diary. She never embarrassed us in any way.. in fact, most of our friends and cousins were envious of us having our mom because she's so amazing. She's just such a good soul who puts her all into everything. I'm in my 30s now and we are literally best friends. I found out in my adulthood how many of our friends she helped back then. Not because she told me, but because they did. We had several friends with bad home lives and my mom was there for them. They confided in her, she loved and encouraged them, and never said a word to us about it. They truly respected her. That's another thing, she can keep a secret like nobody else lol. There is not one day that goes by that I am not grateful for her. I always tell her that being her daughter is my greatest blessing and I mean it.
Hey Cody, I have some advice. I am a Mom of a 10 year old boy. The internet is a part of our lives whether it is perfectly safe or not, the best thing you can do for your kid is to teach him how to be safe online, not take away an inescapable part of life because it is scary. That will make online more dangerous and create sneaky rebellious kids.
Totally agree with this! It’s getting harder to escape the necessity of electronics as time goes by (given that elementary schools are even giving kids chrome books) so the best thing to do is to enforce online safety! Yes, kids won’t always be truthful. But personally, my parents were always lenient with my use of technology and they respected my privacy, so it was never a taboo thing and I never did anything inappropriate online (other than be cringe💀). My other friends who had strict parents were the ones who were the most curious about finding things online.
@jordandelgado5427 I hear that! My dad told us that we can only use 1 wifi password at a time so we all watched TH-cam and played online at the same time. And man we discovered 4chan. Not good.
I was really trying to give the author mom the benefit of the doubt like maybe her daughter misconstrued the article but the headline is actually crazy work
To have been a fan of Cody since vine days it’s just so wholesome to hear him casually talk about his kid. To be joked about being a dad to actually being a dad. That’s growth.
The thing Cody edited out is the part where Taia refers to her dad as her "bestie" despite knowing that he nearly beat her mother to death multiple times. It might be the most toxic moment in the entire video.
As a daughter to a narcissistic mother. If we ever went on this. It would just justify even more why I plan on never talking to her again in my later adult life.
Same but with my dad. It's all G, though. I'm pretty chill with just never going on a show like this as well as not talking to him again lol. His loss more than mine
my dad is narcissistic and he would act like a saint in front of all the people so they side with him. would never make eye contact with me but rather everyone else as if trying to win their approval 😅
The invading privacy is something SOOOO many parents are so stubborn on it’s insane. Like i do believe that at a young age, kids should be supervised in terms of like internet usage, what they’re watching, and who they’re talking to. But putting SPYWARE on your child’s phone is absolutely insane and a total invasion of privacy. Children deserve privacy too. My mom used to take my phone before bedtime from middle school up until like my junior year of high school, but she wouldn’t go through it unless she had a gut feeling i was doing something I shouldn’t have been doing, but she never put any sort of tracker or spyware on my phone to see what I was doing. My dad one time found my diary and attempted to read it after I told him numerous times not to and my mom came to my defense. Parents feel like because you’re their child that they deserve to have access to everything and it’s like children are still humans who deserve privacy too. They have feelings, they have shit they wanna vent abt or talk abt that they might not feel 100% comfortable coming to their parents abt, and they deserve to have an outlet to express their feelings.
i think many parents see their kids as an extension of themselves where choosing what makes them happy over what would make their parents happy as them actively making choices that would make them unhappy, when in reality the world does not revolve around them
Yes exactly. Like being your own person that’s different from your parent is somehow an affront towards them. They immediately become offended as if you are living your life just to “spite” them or something. When in reality you just live your life differently/have different opinions than them. 😭
@@hotdogs2549theyre saying that when you chose to make yourself happy instead of making your parents happy - it does not mean youre choosing to make your parents sad. it just means youre choosing whats best for you. but sometimes parents see their children as part of the parent, so when the kids choose whats best for themselves (against the parents wishes), the parents see it as an insult / kid is purposely going against them. which is not true as the (adult) childs life does not revolve around their parents
my parents had spyware and shit for me and it like genuinely fucked me up like- i have so much mental illness and specifically paranoia and trust issues from it
Yeah i cant imagine- i already get paranoid about people hacking or spyware and ik its not on my devices. For it to actually BE on my phone would send me over the edge
a child definitely shouldn’t feel responsible for their parents’ happiness, i grew up feeling responsible for managing my mom’s emotional state and now i have a whole slew of issues with enmeshment and not knowing how to set boundaries for myself and am having to learn how to make space for myself and tend to my own emotions. it’s not healthy to put that responsibility on a child
dont be stressed! its not a big deal in the long run so just enjoy it, itll be over before you know it and life will go on no matter how it goes! but i think you will enjoy it. be safe!
Ultimately this just made me grateful for the relationship I do have with my mom. While childhood was rough at times, to no specific fault of hers, my young adulthood has sparked a strong relationship with her and made her my strongest support system.
The LUNCH merch is probably the coolest merch Ive seen a TH-camr do, because... you're listening to the fans aka comments. That's fresh and different and POSITIVE!!! I became a fan of Cody's because his positivity was captivating (maybe a lil of Kelsey's input there😂) once Cody and Kelsey said about Karen's... "you NEVER need to go that hard" thats was life changing for me. So thank you- and all your whole team for my meal entertainment ❤🎉😊
Ugh the mommy blogger hits close to home because my mom did the same thing (not in the LA times though or calling me a b*tch wtf). Now as a mom myself I don’t post any photos of my son’s face (and have a private account) to protect his privacy. There’s so many photos and names of me as a child/teen just on the internet forever
YOOOO THATS FUNNNNNNNNNNY !! Get it cuz like people say they’re eating lunch when they watch THEN HE MADE THE HAT 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 bro you’re crazy for this
Relationships with mothers are beyond tense, even for sons. I grew up without a dad, and my mom used to frequently check my phone without notice and ground me frequently for flirting with my girlfriend at the time. My mom and I don’t even talk anymore partly because of that.
Really powerful stuff here, especially when it comes to honesty within a family and how the internet can impact personal relationships. Being 100% honest isn't always easy, but it's an important part of maintaining healthy relationships.
When I heard the spyware thing immediately I’m like hell no… my mom use to send private investigators to follow me and this causes so much pain and heartache in my earlier years it’s not okay at all…
Having trust is the fundamental to any relationship and the lack of it is honesty detrimental. You should have faith that you raised your children well and let them have basic autonomy. Under a tiktok i saw there were so many people denying their children basic privacy which in turn will only make your kid resent you more. My parents did this when i was younger and i had the worst relationship with them at that time. Just remember your children will become adults one day, you can't control and restrict them forever.
it's so disappointing to have to unsubscribe from a creator you really liked. you come across so emotionally mature, it is astounding to me that you could justify being close friends with a r*pist. (colby leachman at duke university for those who want to look it up).
"I just called you a b*tch because that was my perspective" oh okay!
calling a 9 year old CHILD a bitch is absolutely batshit insane💀
As opposed to when you normally call kids bitches? Like what was she getting at???
That one mother was WAAAAYYYY too proud of the spyware. And STILL delusional enough to answer no to that question... Fucking disgusting. Dont get the feeling either that shes the kind of person to ever admit and understand what she did wrong bc of her reaction
completely agree! she only answered no because the question is asked to her basically saying “has your daughter invaded your privacy” which she likely hasn’t and probably can’t considering how the mother ran her home
Unhinged really
She was a domestic abuse survivor so she likely dealt with that before or didn’t want her parents to become victims of similar circumstances. I don’t blame her honestly especially as it was only the computers and not their personal mobiles.
@@BlueberrySummertimethis 1 million percent. It's not to stalk or spy on your kids. It's because teenagers are by nature very secretive and can get themselves into situations that they don't know how to handle and may be too embarrassed to ask for help. It's important to know what's going on in your kids lives, even the parts they are too afraid or embarrassed to share with you, to help keep them safe. It's not like she was sitting there nitpicking her over every little thing that she saw. In fact, the girl seems surprised to learn that her mom even had it installed which means that she wasn't abusing that power, she was literally just trying to make sure her kids were fucking safe and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that and anyone who says there is clearly does not have children or understand what teenagers are up against with technology and modern issues.
@@dangerxbadger2300 LOL
I can’t even wrap my head around the first mom. She was so scared of her daughter doing things online but then writes a HEADLINE calling her daughter a b*tch and doesn’t think twice?? ALSO didn’t hesitate to use her daughter’s real name. The actual carelessness.
Jesus loves you
@@username11346 jesus isn't alive.
she looked like she was about to cry, i can’t imagine how damaging that would be!
Cyberbullying your 9 year old child BY NAME. In the LA TIMES. Is absolutely fucking crazy…. I would quite literally rather my mother beat me daily
Pure narcissistic logic at work
The first mother vehemently trying to make herself look like the victim and then awkwardly shuffling forward for a hug while the daughter looks for any excuse to avoid the hug… I’m so uncomfortable
It was so grosssss
Yesss! Glad I’m not the only one who thought that was a little off - couldn’t put it into words!
You could tell the daughter didn't want to which really sucks...and the mom just wanted to to redeem herself/make herself look better
that reminded me so much of my mom lol
I feel like we glazed right over the whole spyware thing 💀
i'm sayin, that's insanity
i may be interpreting this wrong but it seemed like the daughter didnt even know about it until just then?? like theres NO WAY she one still has spyware for her daughter who is a grown ass adult and two never even told her about it????😭 absolutely insane i would never forgive my mom if she did that to me tbh
@@kalkxx right?? She looked a little stunned, I’m surprised she didn’t say anything.
And yet she doesn't even think she invaded her daughter privacy... Like????
These apps do work, they are typically for younger children. To monitor what they are seeing. I have had it installed twice in different Christian drug rehabs. It was so we couldn’t watch p0n or run off and buy drugs because it also showed our location.
I don't care about context no parent should call their kid a bitch. Like trying to justify it saying it's click bait like...come on. Thats forever online. I'm glad she doesn't resent her mother for it but damn that's hard.
My mom has called me that before and other horrible stuff and I could never imagine calling my own child that 😭
@@80sbrunnette Mine too. You did nothing to deserve that. You were a child. Patrick Teahan has great resources for dealing with childhood abuse on TH-cam. My heart is breaking for that girl, at least my mom had the foresight to only say it to me in private when other people couldn't hear. I can't imagine how painful it would be to have her say that publicly to a huge audience. God. I feel so bad for her. Some people should not have children
idk I feel like that's not an uncommon thing lol, shit happens, the only difference is she put it online which is a bit insane
My mother went through a phase where I was b**ch and wh0*e more than my own name.
That shit STICKS.
yeah she needed therapy not a fucking mommy blog.
Cody is like that cool uncle you think probably does a little cocaine but you can't be sure
Oh he deffo partakes or at least used to...most adults indulge in drugs more often than you'd think ig
FR DOG
Do you mean 16:22 where the editor added a drink-slurping sound effect?
yessssss
@@shannonceleste5557projecting
The blogger mom moment ending with the daughter comforting the mom is crazy
No fr. Narcissistic moms.... it's such a confusing life
The "I sowwy" made me sick
the way she tripped over herself to clarify a million times that it's okay and she's not mad at her mom, you just know that lady never gave her a single second to feel her actual feelings about it before laying on the guilt trip
The hug made my skin crawl
The mom going to hug her actually made me feel sick. It's so manipulative and reminds me of my own mother
The mom in the green dress tried to comfort the daughter and the mom in the green shirt saying “it hurt me too” is so classic narcissist
I knowww she was really making sure everyone knew just how much it affected *her* with little to no regard about how it affected her daughter
LITERALLY SAME THOUGHT!!!!
10000%, I had to rewind it and re listen to make sure I heard correctly 😅
@@sav44474fr, and the fact the title of the article was literally “my daughter’s a bitch and its *not my fault”* she had to make it known that her daughters a bitch, BUT ITS NOT HER FAULT!! as someone who’s grandmother is a diagnosed narcissist.. yeah this woman’s 100% a narcissist for sure 💀
i ran away from my screen
That girl got her revenge. Her mom wrote she was a🐝 on the internet and now she’s showing that her mom is a🐝 on the internet 15 years later.
The mommy blogger just did not have to put her kids names in any of the stories she did!
Yeah completely unnecessary
i agree but the internet was also different back then, it wasn’t as easy to access everything and for people to just look people up so easily so it seems like she regrets it now but def didn’t know back then
@@nataliag7837 yeah, that's why I get the daughter wanting to forgive it and move forward while still feeling uncomfortable. People don't go back and browse newspapers or magazines - if search engines didn't exist, none of that would be easily discoverable. A lot of people made mistakes in those early years that now haunt them - and even more people continue to make mistakes now. It's at least a little more understandable back then.
@@nataliag7837it’s just crazy to ever feel the need to share your daughter’s full name to other mothers (which is what she wanted to do the beginning with) you can be a mom blogger without sharing the contact informations
@@nataliag7837 idk, she was writing articles and trying to be a blogger… do you really think she wasnt trying to get people to see it at the time?
Shoutout to the mom in the green dress getting emotional and asking the daughter on the right if she is okay. She’s so sweet.
Yeah and you can hear the struggle about the daughter’s sexuality. I imagine it would be difficult to hear how “wrong” it is and then have to unlearn that while still participating in a community that rejects it.
She obviously loves her daughter enough to change despite discomfort and that’s beautiful.
Hopefully culturally we eventually get to where self expression and hiding whole parts of your being aren’t necessary any more.
@@klaythoring1326not to self insert lmfaooo, but my mom was Mormon and I grew up that way too. When I came out as trans at 15 she didn’t know what to do, turned to the church and heard how terrible and wrong it was, heard how she shouldnt accept me and my choices. Then.. she came around. She had about the same views as this mom did “while I might not agree with everything, I still love you”. It showed a lot of growth, and patience. She eventually came around to using the right name and pronouns and exclusively calling me her son. I really loved her for that.
@@jarofpaint8410 that’s great! Glad to hear!
@@jarofpaint8410 okay now IM getting emotional 🥹 i’m glad your mom is coming around/has changed her ideology for you
The mom in green dress triggers me too idk y can someone explain to me
this should have been called "actual footage of tramatized daughters confronting their moms in front of the entire internet before going no contact"
Besides Irene and her mom
I dont know about that. Every relationship has their good and bad sides, I wouldnt call every aspect of a relationship that didnt go well a trauma and I wouldnt call the daughters traumatized unless they said that about themselves too. Also we just got a glimpse of their relationships
I would kill for a mom who would say “if your view of a role model is someone you can’t come to when you’re vulnerable, we’re doing something wrong”.
That is SELF-AWARENESS and GROWTH GOALSSS
that pair seemed so genuine and sweet. super well put together too like when the daughter said her mom ran her own business i was like that makes so much sense lol
the mother blogger calling her literal child a b word knowing it would stay on the internet forever, like u can see how it has affected her daughter
id never forget reading a headline like that about myself, written by my own MOTHER, thats insane. and her acting as if the context makes it better, oh no therapy for life
She might have not seen where it would lead to at that time. She regrets it, let it go
It really annoyed me how she kept circling around on it and explaining it. She also multiple times tries to victimize herself. I dunno the whole story ofcourse but she comes off pretty awful in this IMO. Atleast own up to ur mistake.
People have been using pseudonyms for all time. C;mon!
the daughter is so upset the whole time, it's obvious this is something that's bugged her for years and the mother only seems to be apologetic because she doesn't want to be ripped a new one by people seeing this.
SPYWARE?!!! AND SHES PROUD OF THAT?!!! yea no i’d never speak to her again wtf
Deadass it’s total invasion of privacy
Its crazy how some people commit crimes, but its totally okay because its their children???
I understand doing that if the kid is like under 12/15, but as an adult??
My literal face when she said that --> 😮
and its the only thing she said the whole episode, might aswell not come when you know everything😭😭
the son n dad version of this would be hilarious. dads would be like "well ur here n alive to complain about me so i did perfect"
That is so real LOL
Yeah cause men do the bare minimum and expect praise
@@sethmp333 Is that what my Dad was doing when he taught me to ride a bike, fish, hunt, and swim? Sounds like you had a shitty dad.
@@sethmp333 relax lol
@@sethmp333 did ur dad go get milk n not come back or?
That blogger mom is running in circles trying to defend herself, sprinkling in a little apology and then undoing it with the desperate attempts at justification like shes not even finishing a sentence before starting a new one.
no fr that woman emotionally abused her child
As a daughter who was called a bitch by my father, that whole thing really made me want to go and give her a hug
@@natalielong113 I feel so bad for the daughter when she said she doesn't resent her mom for any of it, bc like girl you should
the mommy blogger “i know it hurt ME too” like um??? you didn’t have to write it ???
real
When the moms start defending themselves and the daughters vehemently disagree - triggering 😭😭😅
Yeah I was like, oh hi mom! 😂
Omigoddddd I was cryin😂😂😂
yeah, same with my mom... ☹️ Korean moms are strict
Nah fr why can't parents ever admit they're at fault?? Bunch of narcs
lol
The other mom asking the daughter if she was okay. That was so motherly and beautiful. It wasn't even her child and she had to check and I am CRYING.
reminds me of my mom (black brit) , it’s so heartwarming 💗
i feel like the LA times mom is a beta version of the vlogging parents putting their kids on blast for all of youtube/tiktok
yeah her daughter lucked out by being born gen z instead of gen alpha.
FOR REAL omg it's so FOUL
It's not a feeling, that's just literally what it is. Blogging came first...swap the B for a V and...ya know?
It’s just a glimpse of what we’re going to hear from vlogger kids soon😭😭
100%
If she was a mom of young kids in todays world and not 2009 she would’ve had a family vlog channel with all her kids private business out there.
Respect to the mom that runs her own business, it’s rare to hear a lady at such a high position talk about being soft and vulnerable, very refreshing.
The mommy blogger and the spyware lady scare me…
Why the F did the mom writing for the _LA Times_ use her kids' real names?
No kidding, but also the LA Times editor could have caught it since it is a minor.
@@lilycollegemythbusters5532i think technically since she was both the writer and the mother of the daughter it was legal because she was consenting for her inherently through it being her work; therefore not making it something necessary of editing if they brought it up and she shrugged it off. Ethically though she should’ve known better and prioritized protecting her children.
i don't think she was writing FOR the la times, i think someone at the la times wrote an article about her moms article. probably because of the crazy headline
@@mckenziehurst2490 Huh? She stated it plainly.
@@1970DAH oh mb i missed that part, do u know when she said it?
"if the interpretation of a strong woman role model is that you cant be vulnerable and soft, then we are doing something wrong" wow. that hit home right there!!!! uhg!!! crying on my lunch
genuinely it was so lovely. That’s such a beautiful and important sentiment to tell your daughter.
i started crying too gd idk why it hit me so hard
ikr what a fuckin queen
🥺
both of them were so full of love when they spoke abt each other, genuinely beautiful
I love how parents get to decide you don't have privacy and autonomy over yourself
There is a balance to strike. A 6 year old with 100% autonomy, for example, ends up going with a stranger to "get ice cream."
@@reut0094strict parents raise sneaky kids
@@rennash2 absolutely.
Yeah cause they r parents?
i mean, it's true as a kid that you don't have a right to privacy or autonomy; that's why minors are treated different from adults in the law, and that's honestly not a bad thing. kids are dumb as hell, and what's worse is there are a lot of predators out there who will take advantage of that. as someone else stated, it's about finding balance. it also takes a certain level of maturity to recognize that it's okay for your parents not to treat you like a grown-up when you're not.
It was genuinely healing for me to hear one of the moms say “no matter what, I wouldn’t read your diary, because you need your own space.” I had a mental breakdown when I was 15 and was admitted to a psych ward, and my mom read all of my diaries while I was in the psych ward. I felt so hurt and violated and disgusted. 10 years later as a 25-year-old I can understand why she felt like she needed to figure out what happened, but I wish she hadn’t done that. I was really passionate about writing, and my mom reading my journals made me stop keeping journals. I stopped writing anything for a long time, because she also accessed my laptop and read everything I’d written there; the novel I was working on and all my short stories, which I deleted as soon as I left the hospital because I was so humiliated knowing she’d read them. It’s been a decade and I’ve only gotten back into writing in the past couple years.
God. I’m further into the video now, and my mom was a “mom blogger” too (on Blogspot, RIP). Thankfully I’ve changed my legal name since then & my mom deleted her blog so it doesn’t show up when you Google my name, but I remember finding my mom’s blog posts about how exhausting I was, how she never meant to have me (she was 42 when she had me and she already had 3 kids, one of whom is severely disabled and requires 24/7 care), etc. I was 9 or 10 when I saw this. It completely broke me. My mom nuked her Blogspot a few years later, but I had already been keeping tabs on her blog for years and reading about how, even though she loved me, she wished deep down that I’d never been born.
Im shocked reading this because I went through almost the same exact situation!! Totally destroyed my trust in my mother and I couldn’t write for years. I still cry when I think back to how it made me feel
I wish u all the best ❤
My mom read my diary as a teen and then scolded me for everything in it that she didn’t approve of. The biggest violation of trust I’ve felt with her and I’m still not over it 8 years later. She’s put parental tracking software on my phone and used to check my phone but I didn’t even care much about those- the diary was so personal though.
@@KristinReneeCreative I’m so sorry. And yeah, it’s such a destruction of trust. My mom only read my journals after I attempted you-know-what, and she told me that when I was a grown-up I would understand. 10 years later, I do understand the desperation and fear she must have felt, and I don’t necessarily blame her, but I stopped writing for myself after that. And I told her later how violated I felt, and she never gave an inch, much less apologized.
Again, I can’t really blame my mom for what she did in a panic when I was in the hospital. But it did cause me to feel, even as an adult, that I don’t have a private space to express anything. I stopped journaling, I stopped painting/drawing anything personal, I stopped being honest with my friends about how I felt. I’m 25 and still working through this. It’s embarrassing to admit, but it is what it is.
"it hurt me too!" HUN YOU WROTE IT
"i hurt you and now you don't like me so i'm the true victim!"
@@emmaruth223damn yall manage to villianize mothers for everything☠️ she was 9 n its the stupidest shit ever she has probably apologized so many times like shes not a fucking monster jesus
I think she just meant, that it hurts her that she did it and that it was a big mistake back then
@@maugli1347 Yeah.. Not trying to make excuses for the mom here, but people are allowed to make mistakes and then regret them, just generally speaking. Like yeah, she should have known better but maybe just she didn't, or maybe she had a difficult relationship with that daughter or whatever, life moves on (she should learn to apologize properly though)
That first mom in the green shirt is such a gaslighter
literally. her daughter is so sweet.
She made a mistake decades ago, said sorry and said she regrets it. What else is she supposed to do
@@someone3195 you can tell by the way she answered most of the questions, like the privacy one. The daughter said “you invaded my privacy all the time” and the mom said “no, not that often you’re misremembering” and then the whole “my mom called be a bitch when I was nine in The NY Times” and the mom said “well, here’s all this useless context that doesn’t make it any better”. Who the fuck calls a 9 year old a bitch? Let alone their own child? What, because she wasn’t always wanting to be around her sister??? That’s normal. The mom has issues with being ignored by her older sister as a kid and so she takes it out on her own 9 year old child?? Fucked.
@@someone3195we get it dude you're a crappy parent and youre projecting onto her no one cares she sucks
@@someone3195 girl she was an adult writing that about a child. she should’ve never in the first place
I don't think these mothers understand the gravity of what they've done. Sarah "what you write online stays with you forever" just does not grasp that her daughter can be doxxed because of her.
Parents never do. Theu never do wrong. And if they do, do as they say and not as they do. But they can keep doing it. They MIGHT apologize later and you have to accept it since you depend on them. But it will happen again
Done with my projection rant. The end
I found it almost ironic that the mom all about privacy , blogged all about her kids life …she really doesn’t see the hypocrisy !
@@jam2727parents are just people. Most people are du mb af. Most parents were not ready to be parents when they became parents, they were basically du mb af, immature people that may have thought they were grown, but still had prefrontal cortex maturing to do. And on top of that, I'm pretty sure becoming a parent before your prefrontal cortex is fully developed, which is most people having kids, actually stunts your mental growth.
No one is doxxing a random person from an article in 2009 bsfr
@@jam2727 what are you going to be like if you become a parent?
The way my jaw DROPPED and I gasped out LOUD when she said the title of that article oh my good god
the mentality of some of these moms “if i say it with a nice tone and a smile that makes it okay” and when the other ppl give an awkward laugh or smile to be polite they’re like “see everyone agrees w me”
poor girl with the mommyblogger lady as her mother. you can tell she tiptoes around about how she actually feels about her mother’s writing and majority of the things said throughout the video and plays it off as she’s older and that “it’s okay” now. sad.
If I trust my kids enough to give them a phone, I'm not gonna be looking through it. If you don't trust them to be responsible on the internet, don't give them access.
I like this. I don’t have kids but I think about what I’d do, and I like this response!
Yeah that’s how my mom was. Never once looked thru my phone because she trusted me and it definitely helped our relationship. My gramma was the type to constantly search thru my phone and it added to our issues and gave me a lot of trust issues with my devices now
Period
I will say, that if you have a personal computer and you allow your kids even just free access to study on it or do homework I would absolutely be going through search history, maybe even have a program that alerts me if certain websites are accessed from my computer. Kids can be untruthful when given certain liberties.
That's a legit philosophy but I think it's equally legit to say: "If I keep internet away from my kid, then they might search for access somewhere else with 0 knowledge on the risks. So I'd rather provide it to them in a controlled environment."
No shot cody called a normal ass book ANALOG 😭
One of the commonly accepted definitions of that word is:
"not involving or relating to the use of computer technology, as a contrast to a digital counterpart"
So he's kind of right to. 😅
I usually call it acoustic... like how bicycles are acoustic motorbikes
@@vogelvrouw I find this funny. Just curious, what would you call an electric bike?
@@vogelvrouw cigarettes are acoustic vapes
@@mizzcloudy249 fuck... im stumped
The Lesbain daughter's mom is in THERAPY??? WOAH. That's like extremely rare. Usually the kids have to deal with the abuse all their lives and still have to pick up the pieces as adults. And the parents conveniently, never, remember, what, they did to you..
You might just be projecting hun
@BlueberrySummertime no it's actually extremely common
@@megand12345they might also still be projecting, though. The comment definitely reads like it's motivated by a personal experience with residual bitterness.
But you're right. It is unfortunately quite common.
@@Loctorak exactly, its fine to say it in this case bc its true that its common but it irks me when people -in other cases- speak of their subjective experiences as if they are statistical facts
@@BlueberrySummertimeNope, that’s what to expect from abusive parents. My parents actively pretend to be therapists for other families and still refuse to attend therapy themselves.
Regardless of how hard the mom is working on herself and how the daughter feels about her, hearing "I may never come around 100%" from your parent has got to fucking hurt so bad. That's probably going to stay with her daughter forever and she just threw it out like it was nothing.
I get that, but she’s trying, I think it’s best that she’s honest, she’d rather her daughter liked men but she’s accepted the fact she doesn’t
@@fishfinger6669 accepting the fact is so much different than being supportive, though - which is what everyone would like from their mother. Her daughter is allowed to be upset. I would be.
What’s so common in these stories from the moms is the glaring emotional immaturity. The reliance on supplying “context” around these topics because they can’t fully admit that they did something hurtful and shouldn’t have is…emotional manipulation. Lol.
and I don’t think the mindset “I was learning as a parent” offers full absolution from these things. I think when you have a child you’re actually even MORE responsible for being vigilant about your emotional maturity…
@@ivanashuka8322 You're absolutely right, but from what I have witnessed- parents holding themselves responsible for their own emotional maturity is *exceedingly* rare.
spyware on all texts is insane how do u feel proud about not teaching your kids boundaries
MSN chatrooms at 6 years old is wild
Oh man thanks for taking me back forgot all about MSN
It wasnt that uncommon back then, this was like 20 years ago
Your brother catfishing you to show the whole family you’re gullible at 6yo is wild. Of course a 6yo is gullible.
Crazy
@@thalobluefr like literally just check WHO she talks to instead of spyware or catfishing little children 😭😭😭 like ofc its good she understood how dangerous strangers can be, but jfc that seems like a fucked up way to go about it
At first the girl said her mom “basically called her a witch” so I was gonna come in here and defend the mom saying she probably didn’t use that word, but then she revealed the title and I learned that she’s completely at fault and nobody should be coming to her defense
That was my exact reaction too I was like oh she’s just using that word to sum up the article and then the mom said the article title and I was speechless.
@@aoi394 i'm like no way she ACTUALLY called her a bitch, and then its in the TITLE?? insane
"it hurt me too" she says about the article SHE decided to write and post to the internet as an ADULT
Ikr! So manipulative
Yeah I do not like that “mother”
That made me seethe, she reminds me of my own mom 😭😭😭 she did the things but somehow I’m to blame
right??? and all because she was projecting her frustrations as a little sister from when she was a kid and taking it out on her own child. “it wasn’t really about her being a bitch it was about sympathizing with the little sister” okay and how about having some empathy for an older sister being followed around by a younger sib who constantly wants your time and attention when you want to be doing your own thing? they’re literal children, they’re going to make each other feel annoyed or ignored sometimes, but neither should be faulted for that. it’s understandable. they’re still learning about relationships, just give them some guidance instead of using them as a vessel to blast your own unresolved resentment online
She is just trying to say she is sorry and she regrets it. It's a decades old mistake, goshhh
“well that was boring” when they were being vulnerable actually killed me “call her a b!tch!” LMFAO CODY
the last mother wearing the blue jacket seems like an incredible woman. i love what she said about being vulnerable.
The mom im the green shirt is actually evil. The way the daughter had to pretend it doesn’t matter to her anymore when the other mom asked if the daughter was okay was so sad
Lmao, your definition of evil is just someone who made a mistake decades ago i guess.
She came around with it, and said she regrets it. She might have not been aware of the consequences of posting things online.
Stop judging ppl for their decades-old mistakes.
U r actually insane if u think someone with a minor mistake is evil.
all these evil women always think they can just do whatever they want cause they can just offer a hug and now magically they don't have to take accountability.
@@someone3195nah but the way she essentially makes her daughter absolve her of her “minor mistake” is pretty messed up. also using your daughter’s full name in an article where you shit talk her is crazy to me. she’s not evil but she’s definitely a bad mother and it doesn’t seem like she’s changed her behavior (considering she plays down what she’s done).
@@thoughtless-fractales literally.
@@thoughtless-fractales Yeah her explaining that she called her 9 year old daughter a bitch by saying "I'm REALLY good at click bate titles" made me want to puke
The mom blogger gives such covert narcissist vibes 😭 “I put my kids growth pains and victories on blast because I was overwhelmed”
Being indifferent to younger siblings is part of developing independence and autonomy and while it’s not the most positive experience for the younger sibling, you have guided your kids through that not label it as “bitch” behaviour when she literally does not have a developed frontal cortex at that age.
You're not wrong, but the mom def seemed like she felt shitty/embarrassed about it
@@CheeseMcGeesshe was embarrassed she was called out . My mom is like this. She'll do it again next time and blow it off if there's no audience
@@CheeseMcGees nah she downplayed her behavior and gave excuses and was embarassed that it was brought in front of people, it looked like damage control. Esp with that dumb hands-open waddle she did to force affection with her daughter which I'm pretty sure she said no to but the mom kept coming at her. I'm usually one of give some parents the benefit of doubt but nah it felt very acted out.
@@jam2727 Believe what you want
But she feels bad abt it 😢😢😢 pity her
im so excited for otis and cody to be on split decision in 20 years lmaooo
the one mother feeling so touched and hurt by the other mother calling her daughter a bitch publicly that SHE was in tears…
I’m the exact same age as the girl with the mom blogger. One thing that has been a struggle in working on my relationship with my mom is that I have essentially had to teach her how to validate my feelings and not immediately get defensive. The daughter doesn’t like that stories about her life using her REAL name and calling her a BITCH are online forever. She should be able to express that and feel heard, but instead she’s the one who ends up reassuring her mom that everything’s ok now and she’s not mad. If you can’t talk to your kids and genuinely say, “I’m sorry. I hear you. How can we heal from this?” without turning it into a sob story that’s solely about you, the quiet resentment is only going to grow. It’s ok to have gone through hard times, but you can acknowledge your own hurt without using it as an excuse to cover up how you’ve hurt others.
Completely relate. It’s exhausting
i feel so bad for the girl who’s mom wrote that article. holy fuck.
Ok but how every daughter said yes about feeling their privacy invaded and the mother said no only to confess crazy shit...that's mother/daughter relationshipcore
💀
Me and my mom would've argued about every question on this show
That’s sad
😓 yeah same as korean(my heritage) from san Francisco
Exactly 😭😭 this vid was so nice in parts but also triggering
All you can blame is childhood trauma on their part never being solved they didn't break the cycle
Same lmfaoo
the last mom and daughter were so sweet, you can really tell she’s her mothers daughter. both so eloquent with their feelings and supportive of eachother😭 she also looks so much like her mom
"I guess you need internet for a kindle." Cody, you need Internet for your job brother.
my stepdad used "spyware" on me, went through all my journals and read them back to me, and i have completely cut him out of my life. that kind of "you don't need/deserve privacy" attitude was just another reason i will never allow him back into my life. not giving your kids any form of privacy is not allowing them to be their own person.
It's not my place to say but it sounds kind of extra dicey to me that it was your step dad. Like, isn't that a decision that should ultimately be approved by the biological parent?
@@Loctorakstepdad, implies marriage, which means he becomes head of household, her mother made her choice on the alter
@@rockstarburne wow it’s almost being a man shouldn’t automatically make you the authority on all aspects of a household, especially if you are not the biological parent to the children
@@rockstarburneI’ve seen some of your other comments on this video and I’m 99.9% sure you were just unthawed from your 1950s cryochamber, because how else did you miss the last 70 years?
@@rockstarburnereligious conservatives are so cringe
THE SPYWARE??? THE L.A. TIMES ARTICLE??? i would have ran away so quick
If green shirt was my mom I would’ve gone no contact like 5 years ago what the fuck
Green shirt mom was the best what are you talking about?
@@tinygreencreature5167the one who called her daughter a bitch in a headline?
@@tinygreencreature5167...its great to write articles calling your children a bitch?
@@tinygreencreature5167are you joking i cant tell 😭
@@drizzlesauce5887 oh wait my bad, I thought this was referring to dark green dress mom. Yeah calling your daughter a bitch publicly is CRAZY
the mummy bloggers daughter, izzy i think, i could see resentment in those hugs and for a good damn reason too. the fact that her mum did that to her at NINE is insane and then izzy having to then comfort her mum after that, insaneeee
the second pairs conversation about queerness was ROUGH. it is so hard to know that your parent Thinks they love you in your entirety, yet they are unable to accept something so imperative to who you really are. wish her the best!!!
It really struck home… I’m going through the same thing with my mom right now who is my best friend.
oh i already know this is gonna piss me off on this lovely saturday morning
I have 4 daughters & I would NEVER invade their privacy like stalker mom, because I want trust and for them to feel comfortable coming to me. I do have Parental controls for my youngest daughter, and with all of my daughters I have an open door policy that we can discuss anything and I will not judge them and will always love them unconditionally no matter what mistakes they make. I was raised in a strict Christian home and I was terrified to talk with my parents, and I never wanted that for my daughters.
I know your daughters love and appreciate you so much for that. My mom is the same way with the same backstory and I love her so much for the cycles she’s broken for me
I agree, but unfortunately these moms were raising kids when the internet was just getting popular so they probably didn’t know about parental controls. The only way they knew to protect their daughters from literal pedos on the Internet was to check their Internet usage
Yeah... I feel like, even if you are hellbent on reading every single conversation even pretty late into their teens, it needs to be out in the open and a conversation you have with them so that they understand why you feel like you need that access. Reading and watching everything they do and say online without their knowledge is such a breach of trust. It tells the kid that they will never have their parent's trust, and that they can never trust their parent imo.
7:37 given the daughters ages, the "spyware" was almost definitely an info grabbing virus or yeah just straight malicious malware lol
@karinalumen9722I wish that would’ve been pointed out to her on the show; it would’ve been great to see her reaction to being told the things she did to “protect” (in BIG ass quotations) her kid probably just made her into a victim to online predators or something else damaging
My mom is the best. She was strict at times, but was big on us having our freedom and definitely privacy. I know without knowing that my mom never read my diary. She never embarrassed us in any way.. in fact, most of our friends and cousins were envious of us having our mom because she's so amazing. She's just such a good soul who puts her all into everything.
I'm in my 30s now and we are literally best friends. I found out in my adulthood how many of our friends she helped back then. Not because she told me, but because they did. We had several friends with bad home lives and my mom was there for them. They confided in her, she loved and encouraged them, and never said a word to us about it. They truly respected her. That's another thing, she can keep a secret like nobody else lol.
There is not one day that goes by that I am not grateful for her. I always tell her that being her daughter is my greatest blessing and I mean it.
This is so sweet, it’s always really nice to hear about really healthy parent/child relationships ((:
Hey Cody, I have some advice. I am a Mom of a 10 year old boy. The internet is a part of our lives whether it is perfectly safe or not, the best thing you can do for your kid is to teach him how to be safe online, not take away an inescapable part of life because it is scary. That will make online more dangerous and create sneaky rebellious kids.
Totally agree with this! It’s getting harder to escape the necessity of electronics as time goes by (given that elementary schools are even giving kids chrome books) so the best thing to do is to enforce online safety! Yes, kids won’t always be truthful. But personally, my parents were always lenient with my use of technology and they respected my privacy, so it was never a taboo thing and I never did anything inappropriate online (other than be cringe💀). My other friends who had strict parents were the ones who were the most curious about finding things online.
@jordandelgado5427 I hear that! My dad told us that we can only use 1 wifi password at a time so we all watched TH-cam and played online at the same time. And man we discovered 4chan. Not good.
I was really trying to give the author mom the benefit of the doubt like maybe her daughter misconstrued the article but the headline is actually crazy work
I just read the article and she's shutting on her the whole time whole praising the younger siblings
Bro really used "a little tense" to describe The Mother Daughter Relationship
To have been a fan of Cody since vine days it’s just so wholesome to hear him casually talk about his kid. To be joked about being a dad to actually being a dad. That’s growth.
"i needed an outlet :'((" okay??? keep a diary like a normal person, damn
The thing Cody edited out is the part where Taia refers to her dad as her "bestie" despite knowing that he nearly beat her mother to death multiple times. It might be the most toxic moment in the entire video.
what !!!
Where was it in the video? When she was talking about therapy?
As a daughter to a narcissistic mother. If we ever went on this. It would just justify even more why I plan on never talking to her again in my later adult life.
I hope ur okay. I promise things will be better once you’re away from her. It gets easier. Hugs 💞
Same but with my dad. It's all G, though. I'm pretty chill with just never going on a show like this as well as not talking to him again lol. His loss more than mine
my dad is narcissistic and he would act like a saint in front of all the people so they side with him. would never make eye contact with me but rather everyone else as if trying to win their approval 😅
Oh solidarity sister. 😭🙏🏻
Was your mother diagnosed, or are you just dishonoring your mother
did not expect cody to say "Hi Mom!" to me today
he didn't
@@404no57 rewatch & rethink
He called me mom too hell yeah
justice for daughters everywhere
The invading privacy is something SOOOO many parents are so stubborn on it’s insane. Like i do believe that at a young age, kids should be supervised in terms of like internet usage, what they’re watching, and who they’re talking to. But putting SPYWARE on your child’s phone is absolutely insane and a total invasion of privacy. Children deserve privacy too. My mom used to take my phone before bedtime from middle school up until like my junior year of high school, but she wouldn’t go through it unless she had a gut feeling i was doing something I shouldn’t have been doing, but she never put any sort of tracker or spyware on my phone to see what I was doing. My dad one time found my diary and attempted to read it after I told him numerous times not to and my mom came to my defense. Parents feel like because you’re their child that they deserve to have access to everything and it’s like children are still humans who deserve privacy too. They have feelings, they have shit they wanna vent abt or talk abt that they might not feel 100% comfortable coming to their parents abt, and they deserve to have an outlet to express their feelings.
“That was boring” 😂 felt that so hard in the best way
"mom blogger" and cody decides to call her a "mlogger" and not a mogger
right?
It was right there all along😢
I scrolled too far to find someone who commented this before me.
This was a TOUGH watch, had to put my lunch down a couple times
Food falling out of my mouth as my jaw hits the floor at some parts of this
i think many parents see their kids as an extension of themselves where choosing what makes them happy over what would make their parents happy as them actively making choices that would make them unhappy, when in reality the world does not revolve around them
Yes exactly. Like being your own person that’s different from your parent is somehow an affront towards them. They immediately become offended as if you are living your life just to “spite” them or something. When in reality you just live your life differently/have different opinions than them. 😭
I think I had a stroke trying to read this - sorry, what are you trying to say
@@hotdogs2549theyre saying that when you chose to make yourself happy instead of making your parents happy - it does not mean youre choosing to make your parents sad. it just means youre choosing whats best for you.
but sometimes parents see their children as part of the parent, so when the kids choose whats best for themselves (against the parents wishes), the parents see it as an insult / kid is purposely going against them. which is not true as the (adult) childs life does not revolve around their parents
*girl really opens up and shows love for her mom*
Cody: “well, that was boring 😊”
Lmaooo😭
i love the second mother and daughter. they’re so precious i’m so happy they can unlearn behaviors to work through their issues together.
I know EVERYONE says it but man… I literally just reheated some leftovers for lunch, opened TH-cam, and Cody was here for me. Thank you Mr.Ko ❤
my parents had spyware and shit for me and it like genuinely fucked me up like- i have so much mental illness and specifically paranoia and trust issues from it
same :( it’s so damaging, you have to spend years and years recovering from that shit
Yeah i cant imagine- i already get paranoid about people hacking or spyware and ik its not on my devices. For it to actually BE on my phone would send me over the edge
a child definitely shouldn’t feel responsible for their parents’ happiness, i grew up feeling responsible for managing my mom’s emotional state and now i have a whole slew of issues with enmeshment and not knowing how to set boundaries for myself and am having to learn how to make space for myself and tend to my own emotions. it’s not healthy to put that responsibility on a child
"that was boring" LAUGHED SO HARD
my mommy issues gotta sit this one out for now but happy belated mothers day to kelsey ♡ ♡ ♡
i'm still sitting with my jaw on the floor after hearing the title of that artilce
Mother daughter relationships be "Tense" almost always , not just sometimes😢
As a daughter, i disagree (for myself, im not denying that there are bad mother daughter relationships)
i have a pretty good relationship with my mom, but tbh it was just us for a while so maybe that helped our relationship
As a daughter, i agree but I am happy for those who have and work hard to build beautiful relaitonships
thankyou for posting this cody i’m getting ready for prom and i am so stressed i needed this. bless up
have a good one itll be fine
On a Saturday? Have fun!
dont be stressed! its not a big deal in the long run so just enjoy it, itll be over before you know it and life will go on no matter how it goes! but i think you will enjoy it. be safe!
lol
@@taylornpicklethankyou! i am feeling less stressed and now i’m just excited
Ultimately this just made me grateful for the relationship I do have with my mom. While childhood was rough at times, to no specific fault of hers, my young adulthood has sparked a strong relationship with her and made her my strongest support system.
The LUNCH merch is probably the coolest merch Ive seen a TH-camr do, because... you're listening to the fans aka comments. That's fresh and different and POSITIVE!!! I became a fan of Cody's because his positivity was captivating (maybe a lil of Kelsey's input there😂) once Cody and Kelsey said about Karen's... "you NEVER need to go that hard" thats was life changing for me. So thank you- and all your whole team for my meal entertainment ❤🎉😊
Ugh the mommy blogger hits close to home because my mom did the same thing (not in the LA times though or calling me a b*tch wtf). Now as a mom myself I don’t post any photos of my son’s face (and have a private account) to protect his privacy. There’s so many photos and names of me as a child/teen just on the internet forever
TIME FOR LUNCH 😂
😂😂😂
YOOOO THATS FUNNNNNNNNNNY !! Get it cuz like people say they’re eating lunch when they watch THEN HE MADE THE HAT 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 bro you’re crazy for this
Nothing goes together better! Have a great Saturday!
@@CNRMAX lmao
Nah fr
Relationships with mothers are beyond tense, even for sons. I grew up without a dad, and my mom used to frequently check my phone without notice and ground me frequently for flirting with my girlfriend at the time. My mom and I don’t even talk anymore partly because of that.
How is she supposed to know if u r talking to a pedo or not
that one mum folded under no pressure and just straight up admitted to installing spyware on every technology in the house
Really powerful stuff here, especially when it comes to honesty within a family and how the internet can impact personal relationships. Being 100% honest isn't always easy, but it's an important part of maintaining healthy relationships.
When I heard the spyware thing immediately I’m like hell no… my mom use to send private investigators to follow me and this causes so much pain and heartache in my earlier years it’s not okay at all…
i can spot a narcissist from a distance, green shirt mom is one. FIGHT ME!
Seconded.
The one with the oversized jeans?
10000000 %
Having trust is the fundamental to any relationship and the lack of it is honesty detrimental. You should have faith that you raised your children well and let them have basic autonomy. Under a tiktok i saw there were so many people denying their children basic privacy which in turn will only make your kid resent you more. My parents did this when i was younger and i had the worst relationship with them at that time. Just remember your children will become adults one day, you can't control and restrict them forever.
it's so disappointing to have to unsubscribe from a creator you really liked. you come across so emotionally mature, it is astounding to me that you could justify being close friends with a r*pist. (colby leachman at duke university for those who want to look it up).
The way Cody walked out of the camera just so he wouldn’t be made small 5:00