What you said is absolutely true. My wife subscribed to your channel on here in hopes that I would just scroll onto one of your videos. I never saw the first one that would have caught my attention enough to actually watch it. She finally sent me one of your tik toks and I watched it. It was really eye-opening to me, and I realized I've not been a very good husband. When you said, in that particular video, that what women hear when you ask them what they want you to do is actually a confession of not listening in the first place. I haven't been listening to her needs and wants nearly as closely as I should have been. So I just want to say, as a man, thank you for making these videos.
@@JimmyonRelationshipsYOUR VIDEOS mean more than you know TO US! They are Confirming, Healing and Educational 🌹🌿 Thank, you! Thank, you! And fun to watch 😃
Thank you for trying to work on it. The more guys who start trying the more real love comes back to the world. And maybe somebody's son is watching you and sees the difference it makes in your life.
I'm a woman and wish I had the understanding then about what was happening on my relationship But he was a covert narcissist anyway so I just had to recognise things in my own time
I don’t even have a gf but I just want my future partner to actually be a partner for me and me for them so I’m just trying to sort my part of the shit before I find them
Many people, women and men, aren't aware of issues until it's too late. I've seen good, thoughtfull people be in relationships that were slowly breaking apart. Everyone could tell, except them for some reason.
Husband here. You have helped me shift my perspective in my entire life. I have enjoyed your content since the first video showed up on my feed a month ago. You have given me so many healthy options on how to engage with myself and engage with my family. Thank you!
Hey there, my awesome friends! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying life. Just wanted to take a moment to say hello and remind you all how much I appreciate having you in my life. Let's keep making amazing memories together!
Commitment is a facet of love, you can absolutely still love someone and still decide to leave them. I adore my husband, but if he still behaved like a drunkard I would have left.
I wish the Manosphere community would drill this into their heads and understand that women are filing for divorce because of lack of love in their husbands who think that commitment and “duty” is enough.
As a 26 year old dude watching and recently found your videos. You hit these right on the head. I can’t tell you how many older men tell me don’t get married or don’t have kids. I still have hope and look forward to having a family of my own one day and I just want to be a good partner. Keep doing what you’re doing! Makes me think about how I communicate a lot more.
The sad truth is most of those men fell into this pattern of behavior and probably don't even realize how they and their partners are contributing to the death of their marriages. Don't get discouraged, you aren't those people. You're here and trying to be a good human who can find their match in another good human.
Hey there, my awesome friends! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying life. Just wanted to take a moment to say hello and remind you all how much I appreciate having you in my life. Let's keep making amazing memories together!
I agree! I am a young woman of 26 and I've heard the same thing many times. Yet seeing there are people like you warms my heart. I congratulate you on your hope and encourage you to keep it alive!! There are many wonderful glorious beautiful people in the world and I hope when you get the opportunity to, you apply all the love and selfless kind and gentle consideration you can!! Bravo and God bless you dear Wolverine.
@TheWolvirine25, you are why I have hope for the younger generation and the cycle breakers. Ignore those old men. You want quality, go for it. You will get quality. Just know those old men wake up miserable everyday and don't care about you, they want you as miserable as they are. Good on you for ignoring them.
The rough part is someone can watch this entire video or all of these videos, but if they're not ready to listen, it won't matter. People have to be open to change, health, and growth.
@@bazjones8075 No one said it was every single scenario. I said "someone can" watch them. Blanket statements don't work for situations like these because relationships can be completely different. However, I do stand by if someone isn't open to change and growth, they're not going to do either.
I never thought I’d be in…another divorce. I begged him to spend time with me the first years we were married. He insisted he needed to work. So I accepted this. This is just the way it’s going to be right? I was wondering why my depression kept getting worse. I should be happy my husband was “committed”and we had enough money, a house, no debt. Why did I hate myself and feel trapped and want to end it?There was no deep connection or validation. Im giving all that financial security up. I moved out to work on my mental health. When I told him I couldn’t move back there he served me the papers the next week. Jimmy knows what he’s talking about.
@@JimmyonRelationships 😳you replied😱 You get it Jimmy 👍🏼. Sad but in order to understand you almost have to go through it yourself. Sorry for what your family went through but glad you saw how to fix it😊
@@tomster7574 you don’t even know what yr saying. I was so close to ending my life. Pills in my hand. I would get panic attacks when he’d get near me. But yeah believe what u want.
Emotionally ignorant and childish, narcissistic, overbearing… all things I’ve been called… I lose my temper. I’ve broken things. I tell myself I’m not afraid to cry but have recently been turned onto the fact that, for men, anger replaces crying a lot of the time. I blame lots of things for it… being raised by a narcissist, being an outcast in high school (more because of my toxic mindset, I’m sure, than being a nerd), my military service… but I’m 36 years old and I’m tired of my marriage being in the Grand Canyon when I want it to be on a beach in Maui… I’m an adult, high school was almost 20 years ago, the military was 13 years ago… it’s me… I’m the problem. I think the good Lord put you in my path. Maybe your content will help me where the drugs and ‘therapy’ the VA throws at me haven’t.
All the best! It's always great to see and hear people take accountability! 😊 I believe in you; keep taking it one step at a time and all the best to you and your loved ones!!
My dad’s a veteran of 20 years and let me tell you, things get better. You’ll get better if you let yourself, but it takes time and it happens piece by piece. You deserve happiness and peace.
@@Lillybrae1 I think he means prescription drugs like psych meds, but I might have misinterpreted it. Many people are prescribed psych meds, but that percentage sharply increases for those who have served in the military.
I just told my wife today that I’ve been watching a lot of your videos. The emotional load videos hit especially hard, and it’s so true. Thank you, and I’m working on it.
Seeing all the comments here from men and husbands looking to improve the quality of their relationships makes me so happy. I hope that their efforts pan out and their relationships grow deeper and more fulfilling on both sides.
Most of them will end up in divorce and will be paying hefty alimony for the rest of their lives..most of the women are liars and are hell bent on avoiding accountability and blaming men..
this truth. I HATED confronting my own biases about aspects of this society (I used to be kind of racist and homophobic tbh lol), it made me sad and angry and confused, but at a certain point I couldn't not own up to the fact that I had internalized a lot of shitty, culturally normalized dogma and I needed to knock it off.
@@josephmbimbi Heh, you sound like a 70yo southener convinced about black people being criminals... Maybe you're he one who should self reflect about your generalizing hateful worldview:) reminds me of a quote... ''when you think everyone is an idiot, maybe you are the idiot''
I'm a woman and I just started watching your videos. I'm a nursing student, which keeps me busy and stressed. One of your videos helped me see that I was being distant and not very appreciative. Thank you for reminding me this about men and women: we are all human and make mistakes, most of us want to heal, be appreciated and respected. We all have life history and have listened to some wrong advice from time to time, worrying more about labeling people, etc, but we all have the capacity to heal if we take the steps. We shouldn't tear each other down, we should recognize each other's efforts and be supportive of having a healthy relationship.
“It’s not an information problem” 😮 SPEAK! It’s not a resource problem either cuz they got free programs galore… thank you for validating so many of my experiences. I’m understanding better what I deserve, and gaining acceptance over my partner’s limitations. I’m not as angry bc it just is what it is - it hurts, but I can’t let it overtake my life.
The thing is that emotional intelligence can be good for any kind of relationship, friends, family, coworkers. The tools are the same, only the way we relate to people are on different levels. If there's something that can make your life easier and smoother is by being emotionally mature.
We never used to fight because I just held everything inside. Until I started listening to a therapist podcast talking about self worth and boundaries. I realized I was catering to his needs but not my own. Now I speak up and call out my hurt feelings and unfairness in our relationship. He's not taking it well and uses his psychological issues and medications as an explanation for everything.
I'm an unmarried man. I watch your videos to better equipt myself for when my partner and I make the move for cohabitation. You're doing a very good job. The algorithm isn't very effective, men do see these videos. It's exactly as you say though, only the people willing to self reflect and take initiative to improve will watch it through. I for one have learnt from you that I do have some of these negative traits and have comitted to asking myself "why?" to better understand my issues and resolve them, before they are inadvertently imposed on my partner daily. For anyone watching these videos regardless of gender please know that this man is NOT trying to make anyone a villian in your personal relationships. If you find yourself feeling vilified and/or villianizing your partner after watching, YOU are a big part of the issue. Love isn't about changing your partner, or simply being around them. It's about growing with them. Both of you are gonna mess up, argue sometimes and have bad days. A healthy relationship will see you both acknowledge your flaws and work on them together with support and compassion. It isn't you vs your spouse, it never should be. That is ultimately what this gentleman is trying to teach you.
Thank you for being awesome, Sir. Your future wife will be very lucky. I'm currently trying to improve my EQ too so I can handle my relationship properly when the time comes. This channel has truly been God send.
Yea as a young guy I’m glad my content is filled with videos like this. I don’t really need these videos as I go to therapy and don’t really struggle opening up and communicating my feelings, but my motto is to never stop growing as a person. Complacency is all around us and it’s honestly toxic
Hi! My brother who is 19 watches andrew tate & redpill podcasts. His views of himself & women aren't the best but he also doesn't believe in therapy. Could you give me advice on how to help him?
@@Cutestjpg Hello, sadly I don’t think I have any solid advice on how to change their mind. Although I will say that they are still relatively young and a lot of the time younger people have extreme views that mellow over time. Maybe they will be open to therapy in the future, and you can encourage them to pursue it.
My guy called me today, even though we'd already talked today, on his birthday, just to tell me that he feels so lucky to have me in his life!! On HIS birthday he did this!! And I never hinted anything about needing to hear that or anything!! He is making so much effort to make sure I know that he doesn't take anything about me or us for granted!! So, of COURSE, I told him that I am incredibly lucky, too, to have a man who is so thoughtful towards me and us, even on the day he's totally understood if he is focused on himself, his birthday. I love him. ❤
This is so well said. We are only 3 years in to our marriage but I can see how some of these things can cause long term damage. Thanks for reminding me that it’s important to work for it.
Makes me glad that my girlfriend started sending me these clips, that's how i've come across you and been so damn thankful ever since. You've helped me so much, for other ladies. I highly recommend talking to him about it and sending his content, you wont regret it i promise!
This is so true. I sent one of your videos to my ex (we still live together so we need to make it work). His preply was "you know I don't have time to watch your shit, so stop sending me that". He has time to watch movies, youtube and play video games every night but not spend 60 seconds on improving himself and get some perspective on things. He's been botteling up everything and refusing to talk about anything because "it'll ruin his mood" and "all you do is complain and I just can't do anything right". I wish I wasn't disabled so I could move to my own place and not have to deal with this bs.
Don't use your disability as an excuse to stay. Trust me, you'll regret not getting tough with yourself in taking the steps (yes, painful ones) to leave. It's NEVER gonna get better and you'll slowly die inside with every passing year. Baby steps, but TAKE THEM. Rather be alone that to suffer someone else's poison, it's definitely a firm of suicide that we just can't see until it's too late.
@@justrose6978 You accuse someone of using their disability as an excuse, then tell them to trust you? Wtf? I think I get what you're trying to say, but you have no idea what this person's disability or situation is, so where do you get off thinking you can tell them it's just an excuse?
I feel you, I am disabled and living with my father because he is better than my exes and has more money than my mom but damn can he be such an asshole. I hate having to depend on him so I do my best to care for myself and keep working on building a career online that works for me instead of against me like most jobs end up doing. I can’t be a slave and there are too many jobs that fit modern day slavery standards that are just not possible at my health level. Humanity is so lost it’s just insane how little empathy people have and how that is the root of all our issues. Colonization brainwashed empathy out of us so our ancestors could deny how toxic their impact on all the systems of the world are. Creating these systems harms us all and the abusers are the emotionally weakest of us all. They could not handle my pain but they sure can continue to abuse me without empathy. We all deserve so much more for the health of us all.
@@justrose6978you are unconsciously projecting your situation onto someone else without knowing enough. I hope you see this is something we do when we have unhealed trauma. That means you need to go learn how to heal whatever that trauma is, that is your responsibility because you are harming others by impacting yourself and them this way. I know you won’t believe that now because you are in it but that is the truth of what you need to evolve. I know because I was there and projected my unhealed trauma onto others when they didn’t give enough information for me to even know if my guess was right. When I saw through my damage what I saw was real to me but it wasn’t in the real world, it was tainting my view of the real world. I had to heal those wounds and then I stopped seeing life through them. I also dated a serial killer that told people to trust him in a very authoritative tone, then he gave me so many TBIs I have a severe case of multiple sclerosis. I dated him because I was ignorant to how much my unhealed trauma blinded me to reality and you could be doing it to treat level too. I was doing it because there were killers in my family that I was taught to not see clearly. But killing a nazi and killing innocent people because you are a nazi is in my family and those people have the skill to kill but that does not mean they do it for the same reasons. To see them more clearly I had to heal all the trauma that was blinding me. I don’t know the reason. You do it but I can tell you what I healed which gives you the information you need to heal yourself if you want to listen. I hope you do and you evolve to trust yourself so you don’t have to try and manipulate others with good or bad intentions. Being authentic is harder in these brainwashed times but it is superior because it is a healthier way to live.
You make me have hope for men. Most of the men I talk to, especially my coworkers, always roll their eyes when I say men and women aren't so different. They say that they're just too "simple" and only want "the basics" and that women only complicate and overanalyze things, but you and your emotionally intelligent videos show me that men can have the same emotional depth as women. We really aren't that different. We both just need to try.
I almost lost my husband because of this. It just seemed like he stopped caring. He stopped maintaining the relationship and after years I was falling out of love with him. It took a lot of courage to just go up to him and say, “I’m falling out of love” but I did. Thankfully he instantly got the message and we started working together to figure out what we need to do to maintain our relationship and I’ve never been happier. Some of those early conversations were painful, but it was worth the pain in the long run.
I remember watching this old short from the 50s about how couples should and shouldnt argue. The first example was of a couple who were very loud when they argued, which made it seem they were doing it wrong. However, it showed that they didnt insult each other, they didnt bring up uneccasary stuff, they listened, and once they got to the root of the problem they were willing to compromise and solve the issue. The next example was of a couple who were calm when they argued, but they were mean to each other, they brought up random stuff, and the man was unwilling to compromise and ended up shitting on the woman so much she was left crying while he stormed off. I considered forcing my parents to watch it LMAO
Jimmy, I'm optimistic, if you could wake up, other men could do this, too. Some already do, more will follow. We create this space for further realization.
Your partner relationship if the most important thing you have in life. I love my partner because he is so understanding, kind and emotionally intelligent. When I watch you videos it makes me realise how lucky I am.
I used to send things like this to my husband. He would comment back being attacked saying he does stuff for everyone and the house and doesn’t need videos like this. I have given up but my heart still does stuff to get him to love me . I’m just so happy I found your page because it taught me that I shouldn’t be treated a certain way. The one video you did when you said it’s nice that you care about their feelings, but how are your feelings being taken care of that opened a door in my brain to realize that I do deserve love and if he can’t be the one to give that to me, then I have to be the one to give it to me. Thanks for everything and this community. Happy December everyone
The algo sent it to me XD. And most of the advice I've heard here applies to what my wife does in our relationship too, most of it can go both ways and hopefully will help.
I've been single my whole life. I've never been in a head space where I felt I was comfortable with myself to even be in a relationship and even I'm getting your videos recommended.
This is true. Im curently trying to better my self Because i dont want to continue the same cycle. I randomly came across one of your shorts and i am curently watching all your shorts from the oldest to the newest. I appreciate how you have helped me to realize a lot of bad traits about my self that would help immensely as long as i can correct them.
I'm still single and waiting, and this channel confirmed my patience to find the right one, who can communicate and be willing to grow together. So keep up the content man it will eventually reach the right people!
thank you for being able to reach men that are struggling with these issues. I try to do my part in discussions around developing healthy relationships, but it’s so soo hard when the men that need the help the most aren’t interested in hearing a woman telling them how to communicate better when so many other men in similar situations will gladly reaffirm each other’s perspective. break that mold
I wish I had found this video many years before because I find myself scrambling to save my relationship. I have now learned a month ago that I should have asked for help many years ago because I do desire, but I allowed ignorance and work to push away.
I just started watching this channel. After the second short, i subscribed. Within the hour, I found myself saying something to my wife that I normally would ( I was washing the bowl I had used when she asked "do you still love me ") I said " I am doing the dishes" Realized that her reaction and stopped. I said, "Yes, I still love you," and then waited. She hugged me, and it was that moment I knew this information was vitally important.
I'm actually the guy who gets recommended your videos and I'm trying my best to make my relationship as healthy as it can be, and your videos definitely helped! Thank you for putting out these messages to the world, more people need to know how to love properly-- I've seen people grow apart for all the wrong reasons and it's crucial to actively work on understanding each other to prevent such drift.
I'm impressed by your profile and personality. I also admire your good sense of humor here I don't normally write in the comment section, but I think you deserve this compliment I'd like to be your friend if you don't mind sending me a friend request
My marriage is so much better now than when I got married. And that's because we both put in a lot of work and continue to do so. I really appreciate you giving people solid advice. There's a lot of bad advice on the internet about how many should behave.
After coming across one short I subscribed…never went to your page until this video and saw how honest you were about your own relationship. I have a lot more respect for you now and love your videos!
I have a deal - i watch many "man"-tv shows with my partner together, which he is very interested for. And he is almost proud, when i throw in a few (correct) names of car pieces, which they have to fix now. 😅 So we add one "you"-show to watch together. "Maybe there are many topics which don't belong to us, but that's priceless short and hopefully a little funny videos (i see that he needs the part of humor and subtitles because we are from another country😅) about healthy relationships for the long run - so why not? There is nothing to loose except a few minutes of life and it's an interesting topic." 👍🍀 Guys, we will talk in a few weeks how it's going on... 😅
So true, I cannot share with him because it might offend him, so I increase the volume when I’m playing your videos, but didn’t work 😅 because he is so deeply engrossed in his phone.
I'm only 19, I don't planned on getting married anytime soon and my S/O and I are fairly good at communicating with one another. I made sure to help both them and me to set boundaries to help since she struggled with diagnosed BPD. We have been doing great and have acknowledged that sometimes space is needed. We haven't gotten into a real fight yet, but despite that I've been watching your videos. Everytime you pop up, I watch the video in full because you either resonate with what I already do with communication or you teach me something new entirely. One thing I've noticed about myself is that while I attempt to practice a lot of healthy communication strategies, I often do feel attacked and belittled even when I shouldn't so I try to be "healthy" in a way that makes me feel better for simply trying instead of feeling better for finding a solution. I wouldn't have noticed that if I didn't watch your videos. Thank you
We all know Frank is the only man not scrolling Jimmy away 😜 I joke of course. I see a man regularly commenting on your videos on youtube, it’s really lovely to see him engaging with the things you’re teaching us all. While it’s true, the things you’ve said here are unfortunately the reality for a lot of people, it just makes it extra heartwarming to me when I see men who do engage with your content and are open to learning. So to any men reading this, Frank 😜, kudos to you!
This is spot on. I wish I had seen this 6 months ago, actually more like years ago. I'm teetering on the edge of divorce. I needed this but waaaaaay sooner. I'm about to lose the best thing in my whole life.
#Humility. Went to a marriage retreat a month back and when I tell you Humility touches on soooo many areas. If we had more Humility it will be more healthy marriages. When you get out of your own way, your marriage will thrive. It's not about you it's about us
The algorithm started to show me a lot of these videos, too, after I took a break from shorts. And I think that the reason for this is that I enjoyed watching stuff from Dadvocate, Cinema Therapy and similar things that promote the idea of all people alike having feelings and desires in a relationship. I hope this will become a thing. The world needs it.
Thanks Jimmy! Appreciate you! Nice t-shirt. I am also from there. My husband said I was being complacent when I asked him to meet a new friend that I had made and I dropped the friend when I saw how hurt he was over it. The whole ordeal brought a lot of our issues up to the surface and I am now realizing there is some work to be done in order to mend things and have a healthy relationship but it now feels like he is being complacent and ignorant. Your videos are really helping me. I’m not sending them to him or making him watch but I have tried telling him stuff I’ve learned. This is all really hard, especially when taking a close look at myself at the same time and what I can do better.
Why is he hurt that you made a new friend and wanted to share that part of yourself with him? 🤔 I could see if you made a new attractive male friend that would make your husband feel jealous and insecure, but him being mad and upset that you wanted to introduce him to a new female friend, is insane. 😮
@@KaraKahn it was a male. I can’t say attractive, I didn’t not think so, but I could see where he felt that was threatening. I have had male friends all my life and now coworkers that I call friends. I have come to realize he is picky about which males are a threat, who I can and cannot be friends with. I saw it as protective before. Now I’m seeing insecurity but I just go along with it so that it doesn’t cause conflict. Pick your battles type thing.
It's hard to tip toe around our husband and I don't think we should have to. Jimmy mentioned one of his videos that we need to discuss even the difficult things because if we don't we can't fully more on to a healthy relationship if I summarized him correctly. I have my own personal struggle of my husband not working on personal family life. I have worked part time, taken full responsibility for the kids, taken care of household inside and outside chores and trying to work on my marriage. It's difficult. My husband gets upset and defensive anytime I talk to him and also possessive when we are around other males who talk to me, but why can't he be attentive when where at home and help when it matters? I think he is insecure just because a girlfriend cheated on him like 20+ years ago, but he knows I'm trustworthy, but his lack of being a partner working together is tiring me when it's like I'm doing this all like a single parent, so maybe not be married at all and just be a single parent I wont have to deal with a marriage that is failing and draining my energy. I have already worked a job, had full responsibility of kids, and done all outside and inside chores. It makes me wonder why I put up him, when it hasn't gotten better over the last 15 years I've been trying to make it work and he continues to remain the same even though he knows its a problem, clearly after trying to talk to help about figuring it out repeatedly . Best wishes to you and everyone who is trying to figure this out, it's so difficult.
Haha This did show up on my page. I’m a man that just ended a toxic relationship, and I want to change the way I act in relationships. I couldn’t figure out if I was the problem or not, but eventually I realized we were both dancers in this act and finished it. Now I wanna change myself at least.
A big part of the content is relevant outside both marriage and partnership, so as a single man focusing on improving myself, all of this is a gold mine.
Guys like myself will swipe on you sooooo many times, Until they don’t. And we they don’t, they will consume as much as we can. Get up the work brother.
Actually, you did come across my page for some reason. I just happened to leave one of your videos running once when I was busy with something else, and now they keep getting recommended. It’s good for me, because they’re hitting me where it hurts, and I’m learning that I need to work on myself so we can work together as a team. I’m grateful I got distracted and one of your random videos got stuck on loop for 5 minutes. I am aware now that my temper is usually the main issue because I don’t want to tackle feelings, I just want to be angry and avoid my feelings. I’m learning that his feelings are valid, and mine are too, but they need to be talked about together in constructive instead of destructive ways. That’s for your content. You’re helping me work towards being a better partner.
Some shit that stuck with me from work when I almost got fired was "its not that you can't, it's just that you don't feel like it" feel that holds up as truth in a Lotta scenarios
It’s interesting. Once he watched some relationship stuff with me, about three years in. He lost his libido and got distant. Never did again. Wonder what that was about. The only time he went to therapy was to “get over me” after years of him cheating and leaving and me begging. Ya. This crap is so hard.
Makes me happy that these videos did get sent to me. Shows that I actually do care, and it also shows that the internet is always watching me….all the time, and listening to everything I say.
Single dude here... I like how you explain things about emotions, with emotion (and sometimes a clipboard), so the algorithm has continued to feed your videos to me. Not that they're immediately useful to me, but I feel I should learn for even slimmest possibility that I'll have a relationship in the future.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a comment section where men are owning their behavior!! This is nothing short of miraculous; you’re getting through. Rock on! And to those guys who are admitting and recognizing your own behavior- you got this!
As a women, I love your videos not because I feel validated but because you have put into words that I have not had the time to think about how I could put into words. For instance, your video about chores. I work and I come home and clean. Recently my husband has been helping more but we have been together for 19 years and it took me crying and letting him know that I can’t keep doing it on my own because the resentment kept growing. So although I knew resentment was growing I couldn’t put into words why. Not to mention, I feel as ladies we should learn what we can from these videos too to help in our marriage.
It makes me sad so many men don’t “desire” to seek people like you out. Like they either don’t notice or don’t care that their partner is suffering and aren’t invested enough to figure out how to make them happy again. 😔
It's insane to think of how many relationships that will end in a few weeks after the holidays. Relationships that could have been worked out, ones that could see Jimmys videos and say hey I've got some work to do.
Not all couples fight. I never heard my parents raise their voices at each other. If they disagreed on something-they were able to work it out without emotions getting out of control. I'm grateful for that, because my husband and I are going on 15 years plus now and we also haven't ever yelled or argued to the point feelings were hurt. It really is possible! I'm not saying we are perfect at all, we have work to do, but we feel safe with each other.
Hey, I'm a 20 year old male blessed to be in a very comfortable and respectful relationship. I came across your videos because your messages and the information you try to promote around communication and respect is what I look for. But I can't say I'm really your target demographic, or someone who can get the most out of your words, and it's a shame that it's such a challenge for your messages to reach those who need it most. Thank you for speaking your thoughts. I really hope your channel thrives and the messages you share can reach more ears.
when you said the thing about 'all couples fight' not being true, that felt sooooo validating!! my partner and I have been together for around a 1 and a half years and we hardly ever have fights and even if we do, we handle it well, and for some reason, our friends seem to think its weird or unhealthy that we dont fight!! so thank you, i know that we are great but its nice to hear it from an expert (:
Guy here, we both are watching your videos. Your channel is so wholesome and healing for us. We were working on our relationship and healthy boundaries before but your videos lifted it to another level. thank you so much!
My father is (or was) a narcissist. I haven't spoken to or heard from him since I was 11. I have no interest in ever seeing him again and I don't know if he's still alive or not, I don't care either way. Thank you for trying to get better, narcissists tend to end up alone as everyone they know usually ends up leaving. I don't think anyone with the capacity to change should end up alone, you are doing yourself and those close to you a great service by becoming a better person.
Sounds like it's time for you to focus on your own healing. Once you are you again it will become clear if there's place for your ex. If they don't understand that (do give explanation) you already have the answer.
I would say that Most people are compassionate and Loving people. I struggle with communicating or how to approachable a Situation and im Not even in a relationship. Thats why im Glad i stumbled to your Videos.
It is so vital that you provide these resources for women to be able to share with men in a man's voice. I stumbled across here organically but I had already sought out a lot of the same resources you're sharing. What I found truly galling is learning about how few men even know such resources exist. Reading the comments on your videos is heartbreaking. So thank you so much for doing what you're doing.
@@brendanbudniak2261If you have already attempted to talk with him and it isn't working, finding an outside resource that conveys the message differently could help immensely. It isn't passive aggressive if you have already brought up the problem. Also, some men are more likely to listen and really hear it coming from a man that from a woman.
I appreciate your videos because they help me to see that I am not crazy and I am not wrong for wanting more from my husband. I can't change him, but at least I feel stronger knowing it's not because of me that he is the way he is. I feel more balanced now. Thank you! I don't dislike myself now. He made me think I was wrong but you helped me see that it isn't my fault and I feel more confident now.
I’ve been searching for information and someone that could explain why, how and then what to do. My problem is that I had a hard time with your voice because you were talking about the truth and doing hard things like being vulnerable. Keep up the great work!
I had to teach my partner how to adress his real feelings and communicate from scratch. The thing that makes the difference is absolutley the intention and effort to change. If someone WILL NOT back down from an incorrect point becauze of their pride, it is not likely that you'll ever see a breakthrough, because the first step to fixing a problem is recognizing that there IS a problem, and most people (especially men) will not ever get that far by the stakes of their "dignity"
Well I’m a woman… BUT your videos helped me understand that MY HUSBAND is carrying all the mental load of the house work (while I care for our child). And that I’m not fair to him when I expect him to help me with our child more and he’s still doing all the household chores. I’m trying to get better but I’m really not good at keeping track what needs to be done (I have terrible issues with establishing and maintaining routines due to unmedicated and still undiagnosed ADHD). It’s driving me crazy that I’m seemingly incapable of doing life. And he’s just mastering everything (sure we both work but I only work part time and just an office job)… I really need to step up and your videos helped me see how much my husband is doing. And how little of a help I am (the video where you explain that asking what is needed to be done is no help for example)… So THANK YOU!🎉❤
Dude, you are changing lives for the better. It's so dang real what people forget in communication with each other. You keep doing what you're doing, and maybe everyone will be a bit happier over time
Those is why it's SOOO important for women to train their sons to respect women (and all people) and be responsive to and responsible for their love relationships. Thank you for your good work educating people!
Men should also participate in raising their sons to respect women. Why must women do all the emotional work for men and boys? Fathers should do their fair share.
And this is why it is extremely important for our sons to have positive male role models to learn that respect and emotional intelligence doesn't come from just the women in their lives.
Men, man up, and go to one-on-one counseling. Tell the psych to address your dismissive behaviors (which are actual emotional abuse). Own your shit. Stop rolling your eyes at everything, THAT is the problem.
I know two women who left their husband after 2 -3 decades of feeling ignored, that they were second fiddle, etc. Both husband's reaction was basically, "What happened? I don't know why she left me for someone else?" 🙄
Yeah. I'm not going to send him your videos because that would be controlling or passive aggressive. And it would just hurt more if he came upon your videos and I overheard him sigh as he swiped you away.
@@JimmyonRelationships Thanks for the response! I recently figured out that I haven't been showing my husband very much respect when it comes to things I want changed. I think your videos are amazing, but I'm also realizing that it's mostly women who watch them, sadly, and that they sometimes seem bitter or contemptuous. I think we all need to take some responsibility for what we're adding to the mix. I can show respect regardless of how loving he is because I care about the marriage and I'm willing to make the sacrifice. It's helped him show more love, and since he's a good man, he's asked more about what's going on and what I need more of. I wonder if a lot of your female viewers don't think much about what they do to add to the problems. It might not be your thing, but I just thought I'd mention it ❤️ Love your content! Congrats on monetization!!!
I think we (us in bad relationships) just need to love ourselves enough to not cry over the fact that we just get the bare minimum and try to change others, put our heads straight and move on.😊 Thank you for your videos.
I'm so glad you said it's not normal for couples to fight.. my partner thinks it's normal, everyone does it. I know it's not normal.. I'm a VERY peaceful, reasonable person and I never need to 'fight'... it resolves nothing.
These videos have actually helped me grow from mistakes in my last relationship. I donmy beat to grow and change and I really appreciate seeing my mistakes and will work to do better in the future for my furture relationships. I am sorry I didn't see in my past one.
You're an amazing presenter... I've been reading for what seems like countless hours on how to fix my relationship or just trying to find out what is going wrong. Somehow all of a sudden the concept of anxious attachment and avoidant attachments came up and explained it all to a T. I thought i wasn't in the wrong by avoiding conflict and hiding away, i can see now i was. I just can't take her yelling and screaming, still not sure how to face that without restoring to going to the garage.
My boyfriend and I have been watching your videos together since i discovered them. It's some amazing advice, and both of us have really grown from it. Youve put into words feelings i was never able to express before, and put them in such a way that he can easily see the issue. There have been times hes shown me videos, and helped me see issues I didn't know were there. Keep up the amazing work man. Its helping a LOT of people who cant afford therapy
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What you said is absolutely true. My wife subscribed to your channel on here in hopes that I would just scroll onto one of your videos. I never saw the first one that would have caught my attention enough to actually watch it. She finally sent me one of your tik toks and I watched it. It was really eye-opening to me, and I realized I've not been a very good husband. When you said, in that particular video, that what women hear when you ask them what they want you to do is actually a confession of not listening in the first place. I haven't been listening to her needs and wants nearly as closely as I should have been. So I just want to say, as a man, thank you for making these videos.
This means more than you know to me man
@@JimmyonRelationshipsYOUR VIDEOS mean more than you know TO US! They are Confirming, Healing and Educational 🌹🌿 Thank, you! Thank, you!
And fun to watch 😃
Wow! that’s great to hear. Keep going!
Thank you for trying to work on it.
The more guys who start trying the more real love comes back to the world.
And maybe somebody's son is watching you and sees the difference it makes in your life.
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Shocks me that other men dont seek out resources like this. My relationship is so important to me; I will do anything to make sure it is healthy
your wife is a lucky woman 💙
Thank you!!!
I'm a woman and wish I had the understanding then about what was happening on my relationship
But he was a covert narcissist anyway so I just had to recognise things in my own time
I don’t even have a gf but I just want my future partner to actually be a partner for me and me for them so I’m just trying to sort my part of the shit before I find them
Many people, women and men, aren't aware of issues until it's too late. I've seen good, thoughtfull people be in relationships that were slowly breaking apart. Everyone could tell, except them for some reason.
Husband here.
You have helped me shift my perspective in my entire life.
I have enjoyed your content since the first video showed up on my feed a month ago.
You have given me so many healthy options on how to engage with myself and engage with my family.
Thank you!
That's so sweet! Best wishes to you and your family
Hey there, my awesome friends! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying life. Just wanted to take a moment to say hello and remind you all how much I appreciate having you in my life. Let's keep making amazing memories together!
Awwwwwwww that's so great 😊
🙏🙏🙏👏👏👏👏
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'commitment doesn't equal love' 👏
Yep, I committed, I gave love, that didn't mean I was meant to be loved back.
Love just IS committment. Not a fuzzy feeling.
Commitment is a facet of love, you can absolutely still love someone and still decide to leave them. I adore my husband, but if he still behaved like a drunkard I would have left.
I wish the Manosphere community would drill this into their heads and understand that women are filing for divorce because of lack of love in their husbands who think that commitment and “duty” is enough.
@@happilydivorced3235 Transactional thinking. If both husband and wife are compatible then end of story.
As a 26 year old dude watching and recently found your videos. You hit these right on the head. I can’t tell you how many older men tell me don’t get married or don’t have kids.
I still have hope and look forward to having a family of my own one day and I just want to be a good partner. Keep doing what you’re doing! Makes me think about how I communicate a lot more.
That's sad.
The woman of your dreams is out there...just be patient.
The sad truth is most of those men fell into this pattern of behavior and probably don't even realize how they and their partners are contributing to the death of their marriages. Don't get discouraged, you aren't those people. You're here and trying to be a good human who can find their match in another good human.
Hey there, my awesome friends! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying life. Just wanted to take a moment to say hello and remind you all how much I appreciate having you in my life. Let's keep making amazing memories together!
I agree!
I am a young woman of 26 and I've heard the same thing many times. Yet seeing there are people like you warms my heart. I congratulate you on your hope and encourage you to keep it alive!! There are many wonderful glorious beautiful people in the world and I hope when you get the opportunity to, you apply all the love and selfless kind and gentle consideration you can!! Bravo and God bless you dear Wolverine.
@TheWolvirine25, you are why I have hope for the younger generation and the cycle breakers. Ignore those old men. You want quality, go for it. You will get quality. Just know those old men wake up miserable everyday and don't care about you, they want you as miserable as they are. Good on you for ignoring them.
The rough part is someone can watch this entire video or all of these videos, but if they're not ready to listen, it won't matter. People have to be open to change, health, and growth.
That’s exactly right. It’s sucky that people nowadays are so used to playing victim they just aren’t ready to view anything that they do as wrong
In the end, if they want to do their best for their partner, they'll listen
Not 100 percent accurate nor do you know every scenario.
@@bazjones8075 No one said it was every single scenario. I said "someone can" watch them. Blanket statements don't work for situations like these because relationships can be completely different.
However, I do stand by if someone isn't open to change and growth, they're not going to do either.
I never thought I’d be in…another divorce. I begged him to spend time with me the first years we were married. He insisted he needed to work. So I accepted this. This is just the way it’s going to be right? I was wondering why my depression kept getting worse. I should be happy my husband was “committed”and we had enough money, a house, no debt. Why did I hate myself and feel trapped and want to end it?There was no deep connection or validation. Im giving all that financial security up. I moved out to work on my mental health. When I told him I couldn’t move back there he served me the papers the next week. Jimmy knows what he’s talking about.
I’m so sorry you were in that position. It’s so lonely when there’s no depth and you’re essentially begging for the bare minimum of love :(
@@JimmyonRelationships 😳you replied😱
You get it Jimmy 👍🏼. Sad but in order to understand you almost have to go through it yourself. Sorry for what your family went through but glad you saw how to fix it😊
Am in your situation
you ruined your relationship by ending it, you deserved those papers.
@@tomster7574 you don’t even know what yr saying. I was so close to ending my life. Pills in my hand. I would get panic attacks when he’d get near me. But yeah believe what u want.
Emotionally ignorant and childish, narcissistic, overbearing… all things I’ve been called… I lose my temper. I’ve broken things. I tell myself I’m not afraid to cry but have recently been turned onto the fact that, for men, anger replaces crying a lot of the time. I blame lots of things for it… being raised by a narcissist, being an outcast in high school (more because of my toxic mindset, I’m sure, than being a nerd), my military service… but I’m 36 years old and I’m tired of my marriage being in the Grand Canyon when I want it to be on a beach in Maui… I’m an adult, high school was almost 20 years ago, the military was 13 years ago… it’s me… I’m the problem. I think the good Lord put you in my path. Maybe your content will help me where the drugs and ‘therapy’ the VA throws at me haven’t.
Pulling for you sir!! The fact that u recognize it and are willing to grow is half the battle ❤
Sincere congratulations on starting a healing journey. You are going to be so glad you chose this path. Very admirable.
All the best! It's always great to see and hear people take accountability! 😊 I believe in you; keep taking it one step at a time and all the best to you and your loved ones!!
My dad’s a veteran of 20 years and let me tell you, things get better. You’ll get better if you let yourself, but it takes time and it happens piece by piece. You deserve happiness and peace.
@@Lillybrae1 I think he means prescription drugs like psych meds, but I might have misinterpreted it. Many people are prescribed psych meds, but that percentage sharply increases for those who have served in the military.
I just told my wife today that I’ve been watching a lot of your videos. The emotional load videos hit especially hard, and it’s so true. Thank you, and I’m working on it.
Seeing all the comments here from men and husbands looking to improve the quality of their relationships makes me so happy. I hope that their efforts pan out and their relationships grow deeper and more fulfilling on both sides.
Most of them will end up in divorce and will be paying hefty alimony for the rest of their lives..most of the women are liars and are hell bent on avoiding accountability and blaming men..
@@manukris23that's why I say to forgo relationships
I'm a man. I watch and I hate to admit but I agree with what you say.
We agree to disagree I guess
@@JanetteArnolda what do you disagree with?
@@katie11199 I have to say… I am curious as well… @JanetteArnolda what did the guy say that you disagree with?
Why would you hate to admit that
Why do you hate to admit it
People don't like self reflection. Some will go their entire lives without self reflection
this truth. I HATED confronting my own biases about aspects of this society (I used to be kind of racist and homophobic tbh lol), it made me sad and angry and confused, but at a certain point I couldn't not own up to the fact that I had internalized a lot of shitty, culturally normalized dogma and I needed to knock it off.
True, men ESPECIALLY do all they can, perform all the mental gymnastics to avoid it
AGREED. Especially men.
@@josephmbimbi Heh, you sound like a 70yo southener convinced about black people being criminals...
Maybe you're he one who should self reflect about your generalizing hateful worldview:)
reminds me of a quote... ''when you think everyone is an idiot, maybe you are the idiot''
I'm a woman and I just started watching your videos. I'm a nursing student, which keeps me busy and stressed. One of your videos helped me see that I was being distant and not very appreciative. Thank you for reminding me this about men and women: we are all human and make mistakes, most of us want to heal, be appreciated and respected. We all have life history and have listened to some wrong advice from time to time, worrying more about labeling people, etc, but we all have the capacity to heal if we take the steps. We shouldn't tear each other down, we should recognize each other's efforts and be supportive of having a healthy relationship.
how have you figured out helping your relationship while being a nursing student, what do you do?
Hello pretty how are you doing
“It’s not an information problem” 😮 SPEAK! It’s not a resource problem either cuz they got free programs galore… thank you for validating so many of my experiences. I’m understanding better what I deserve, and gaining acceptance over my partner’s limitations. I’m not as angry bc it just is what it is - it hurts, but I can’t let it overtake my life.
Me, single as frick with no marriage in sight but still listening to this man’s advice with bated breath: interesting, interesting
Same, lol
The thing is that emotional intelligence can be good for any kind of relationship, friends, family, coworkers. The tools are the same, only the way we relate to people are on different levels. If there's something that can make your life easier and smoother is by being emotionally mature.
We never used to fight because I just held everything inside. Until I started listening to a therapist podcast talking about self worth and boundaries. I realized I was catering to his needs but not my own. Now I speak up and call out my hurt feelings and unfairness in our relationship. He's not taking it well and uses his psychological issues and medications as an explanation for everything.
Oof, And I am in the complete opposite situation as a man.
I'm an unmarried man. I watch your videos to better equipt myself for when my partner and I make the move for cohabitation.
You're doing a very good job. The algorithm isn't very effective, men do see these videos. It's exactly as you say though, only the people willing to self reflect and take initiative to improve will watch it through.
I for one have learnt from you that I do have some of these negative traits and have comitted to asking myself "why?" to better understand my issues and resolve them, before they are inadvertently imposed on my partner daily.
For anyone watching these videos regardless of gender please know that this man is NOT trying to make anyone a villian in your personal relationships. If you find yourself feeling vilified and/or villianizing your partner after watching, YOU are a big part of the issue.
Love isn't about changing your partner, or simply being around them. It's about growing with them. Both of you are gonna mess up, argue sometimes and have bad days. A healthy relationship will see you both acknowledge your flaws and work on them together with support and compassion. It isn't you vs your spouse, it never should be. That is ultimately what this gentleman is trying to teach you.
Thank you for being awesome, Sir. Your future wife will be very lucky. I'm currently trying to improve my EQ too so I can handle my relationship properly when the time comes. This channel has truly been God send.
Yea as a young guy I’m glad my content is filled with videos like this. I don’t really need these videos as I go to therapy and don’t really struggle opening up and communicating my feelings, but my motto is to never stop growing as a person. Complacency is all around us and it’s honestly toxic
Yayyyy good on you 👏
Hi! My brother who is 19 watches andrew tate & redpill podcasts. His views of himself & women aren't the best but he also doesn't believe in therapy. Could you give me advice on how to help him?
@@Cutestjpg Hello, sadly I don’t think I have any solid advice on how to change their mind. Although I will say that they are still relatively young and a lot of the time younger people have extreme views that mellow over time. Maybe they will be open to therapy in the future, and you can encourage them to pursue it.
I seem to be one of the only guys who is saying “why isn’t this showing up on HER page?” 😅 love your videos, Jimmy!
Thanks for being the variety 😂
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I'm a woman who actually needs to see those videos haha so it does reach the right audience from time to time!
You're not the only one!😅
We out here frfr
My guy called me today, even though we'd already talked today, on his birthday, just to tell me that he feels so lucky to have me in his life!! On HIS birthday he did this!! And I never hinted anything about needing to hear that or anything!! He is making so much effort to make sure I know that he doesn't take anything about me or us for granted!! So, of COURSE, I told him that I am incredibly lucky, too, to have a man who is so thoughtful towards me and us, even on the day he's totally understood if he is focused on himself, his birthday. I love him. ❤
This is so well said. We are only 3 years in to our marriage but I can see how some of these things can cause long term damage. Thanks for reminding me that it’s important to work for it.
Hello pretty how are you doing today
@@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qtHi
Makes me glad that my girlfriend started sending me these clips, that's how i've come across you and been so damn thankful ever since. You've helped me so much, for other ladies. I highly recommend talking to him about it and sending his content, you wont regret it i promise!
This is so true. I sent one of your videos to my ex (we still live together so we need to make it work). His preply was "you know I don't have time to watch your shit, so stop sending me that". He has time to watch movies, youtube and play video games every night but not spend 60 seconds on improving himself and get some perspective on things. He's been botteling up everything and refusing to talk about anything because "it'll ruin his mood" and "all you do is complain and I just can't do anything right".
I wish I wasn't disabled so I could move to my own place and not have to deal with this bs.
Wtf
Don't use your disability as an excuse to stay. Trust me, you'll regret not getting tough with yourself in taking the steps (yes, painful ones) to leave. It's NEVER gonna get better and you'll slowly die inside with every passing year. Baby steps, but TAKE THEM. Rather be alone that to suffer someone else's poison, it's definitely a firm of suicide that we just can't see until it's too late.
@@justrose6978 You accuse someone of using their disability as an excuse, then tell them to trust you? Wtf? I think I get what you're trying to say, but you have no idea what this person's disability or situation is, so where do you get off thinking you can tell them it's just an excuse?
I feel you, I am disabled and living with my father because he is better than my exes and has more money than my mom but damn can he be such an asshole. I hate having to depend on him so I do my best to care for myself and keep working on building a career online that works for me instead of against me like most jobs end up doing. I can’t be a slave and there are too many jobs that fit modern day slavery standards that are just not possible at my health level. Humanity is so lost it’s just insane how little empathy people have and how that is the root of all our issues. Colonization brainwashed empathy out of us so our ancestors could deny how toxic their impact on all the systems of the world are. Creating these systems harms us all and the abusers are the emotionally weakest of us all. They could not handle my pain but they sure can continue to abuse me without empathy. We all deserve so much more for the health of us all.
@@justrose6978you are unconsciously projecting your situation onto someone else without knowing enough. I hope you see this is something we do when we have unhealed trauma. That means you need to go learn how to heal whatever that trauma is, that is your responsibility because you are harming others by impacting yourself and them this way. I know you won’t believe that now because you are in it but that is the truth of what you need to evolve. I know because I was there and projected my unhealed trauma onto others when they didn’t give enough information for me to even know if my guess was right. When I saw through my damage what I saw was real to me but it wasn’t in the real world, it was tainting my view of the real world. I had to heal those wounds and then I stopped seeing life through them. I also dated a serial killer that told people to trust him in a very authoritative tone, then he gave me so many TBIs I have a severe case of multiple sclerosis. I dated him because I was ignorant to how much my unhealed trauma blinded me to reality and you could be doing it to treat level too. I was doing it because there were killers in my family that I was taught to not see clearly. But killing a nazi and killing innocent people because you are a nazi is in my family and those people have the skill to kill but that does not mean they do it for the same reasons. To see them more clearly I had to heal all the trauma that was blinding me. I don’t know the reason. You do it but I can tell you what I healed which gives you the information you need to heal yourself if you want to listen. I hope you do and you evolve to trust yourself so you don’t have to try and manipulate others with good or bad intentions. Being authentic is harder in these brainwashed times but it is superior because it is a healthier way to live.
You make me have hope for men. Most of the men I talk to, especially my coworkers, always roll their eyes when I say men and women aren't so different. They say that they're just too "simple" and only want "the basics" and that women only complicate and overanalyze things, but you and your emotionally intelligent videos show me that men can have the same emotional depth as women. We really aren't that different. We both just need to try.
I'm watching it and I'm learning
Wonderful! I'm learning from these videos too ❤️
I almost lost my husband because of this. It just seemed like he stopped caring. He stopped maintaining the relationship and after years I was falling out of love with him. It took a lot of courage to just go up to him and say, “I’m falling out of love” but I did. Thankfully he instantly got the message and we started working together to figure out what we need to do to maintain our relationship and I’ve never been happier. Some of those early conversations were painful, but it was worth the pain in the long run.
Nice! I've told my wife I feel like we are just roommates a few times. Nothing has changed.
I remember watching this old short from the 50s about how couples should and shouldnt argue. The first example was of a couple who were very loud when they argued, which made it seem they were doing it wrong. However, it showed that they didnt insult each other, they didnt bring up uneccasary stuff, they listened, and once they got to the root of the problem they were willing to compromise and solve the issue.
The next example was of a couple who were calm when they argued, but they were mean to each other, they brought up random stuff, and the man was unwilling to compromise and ended up shitting on the woman so much she was left crying while he stormed off.
I considered forcing my parents to watch it LMAO
Your not Wrong. Thanks for the Transparency.
I may have some re-balancing to do.
Jimmy, I'm optimistic, if you could wake up, other men could do this, too. Some already do, more will follow. We create this space for further realization.
Absolutely!
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
Your partner relationship if the most important thing you have in life. I love my partner because he is so understanding, kind and emotionally intelligent. When I watch you videos it makes me realise how lucky I am.
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
I used to send things like this to my husband. He would comment back being attacked saying he does stuff for everyone and the house and doesn’t need videos like this. I have given up but my heart still does stuff to get him to love me . I’m just so happy I found your page because it taught me that I shouldn’t be treated a certain way. The one video you did when you said it’s nice that you care about their feelings, but how are your feelings being taken care of that opened a door in my brain to realize that I do deserve love and if he can’t be the one to give that to me, then I have to be the one to give it to me. Thanks for everything and this community. Happy December everyone
The algo sent it to me XD. And most of the advice I've heard here applies to what my wife does in our relationship too, most of it can go both ways and hopefully will help.
I've been single my whole life. I've never been in a head space where I felt I was comfortable with myself to even be in a relationship and even I'm getting your videos recommended.
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
This is true.
Im curently trying to better my self
Because i dont want to continue the same cycle.
I randomly came across one of your shorts and i am curently watching all your shorts from the oldest to the newest.
I appreciate how you have helped me to realize a lot of bad traits about my self that would help immensely as long as i can correct them.
Good for you! Don't be too hard on yourself on your journey, so you won't burn out on your progress.
I'm still single and waiting, and this channel confirmed my patience to find the right one, who can communicate and be willing to grow together. So keep up the content man it will eventually reach the right people!
thank you for being able to reach men that are struggling with these issues. I try to do my part in discussions around developing healthy relationships, but it’s so soo hard when the men that need the help the most aren’t interested in hearing a woman telling them how to communicate better when so many other men in similar situations will gladly reaffirm each other’s perspective.
break that mold
I wish I had found this video many years before because I find myself scrambling to save my relationship. I have now learned a month ago that I should have asked for help many years ago because I do desire, but I allowed ignorance and work to push away.
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
Im a dude and got recommended these vids. I'm glad I've found them and thank you
I just started watching this channel. After the second short, i subscribed. Within the hour, I found myself saying something to my wife that I normally would ( I was washing the bowl I had used when she asked "do you still love me ") I said " I am doing the dishes" Realized that her reaction and stopped. I said, "Yes, I still love you," and then waited. She hugged me, and it was that moment I knew this information was vitally important.
I'm actually the guy who gets recommended your videos and I'm trying my best to make my relationship as healthy as it can be, and your videos definitely helped!
Thank you for putting out these messages to the world, more people need to know how to love properly-- I've seen people grow apart for all the wrong reasons and it's crucial to actively work on understanding each other to prevent such drift.
I’m not in a relationship but am watching your vids bc it’s still important to apply all this info to other relationships.
I'm impressed by your profile and personality. I also admire your good sense of humor here I don't normally write in the comment section, but I think you deserve this compliment I'd like to be your friend if you don't mind sending me a friend request
3 years and he finally said “I’m sorry I’ve been neglecting you” 😭😭 this channel helped me learn different ways to talk to him about my frustrations
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
My marriage is so much better now than when I got married. And that's because we both put in a lot of work and continue to do so. I really appreciate you giving people solid advice. There's a lot of bad advice on the internet about how many should behave.
After coming across one short I subscribed…never went to your page until this video and saw how honest you were about your own relationship. I have a lot more respect for you now and love your videos!
I have a deal - i watch many "man"-tv shows with my partner together, which he is very interested for. And he is almost proud, when i throw in a few (correct) names of car pieces, which they have to fix now. 😅 So we add one "you"-show to watch together. "Maybe there are many topics which don't belong to us, but that's priceless short and hopefully a little funny videos (i see that he needs the part of humor and subtitles because we are from another country😅) about healthy relationships for the long run - so why not? There is nothing to loose except a few minutes of life and it's an interesting topic." 👍🍀 Guys, we will talk in a few weeks how it's going on... 😅
So true, I cannot share with him because it might offend him, so I increase the volume when I’m playing your videos, but didn’t work 😅 because he is so deeply engrossed in his phone.
I'm only 19, I don't planned on getting married anytime soon and my S/O and I are fairly good at communicating with one another. I made sure to help both them and me to set boundaries to help since she struggled with diagnosed BPD. We have been doing great and have acknowledged that sometimes space is needed.
We haven't gotten into a real fight yet, but despite that I've been watching your videos. Everytime you pop up, I watch the video in full because you either resonate with what I already do with communication or you teach me something new entirely.
One thing I've noticed about myself is that while I attempt to practice a lot of healthy communication strategies, I often do feel attacked and belittled even when I shouldn't so I try to be "healthy" in a way that makes me feel better for simply trying instead of feeling better for finding a solution. I wouldn't have noticed that if I didn't watch your videos.
Thank you
We all know Frank is the only man not scrolling Jimmy away 😜 I joke of course. I see a man regularly commenting on your videos on youtube, it’s really lovely to see him engaging with the things you’re teaching us all. While it’s true, the things you’ve said here are unfortunately the reality for a lot of people, it just makes it extra heartwarming to me when I see men who do engage with your content and are open to learning. So to any men reading this, Frank 😜, kudos to you!
I absolutely echo this! Kudos to the Franks!!!
This is spot on. I wish I had seen this 6 months ago, actually more like years ago. I'm teetering on the edge of divorce. I needed this but waaaaaay sooner. I'm about to lose the best thing in my whole life.
Unless you are losing yourself-or your child…no you are not. Single is great and it’s way better than miserably married.
@@beastshawneesome people love their partners
#Humility. Went to a marriage retreat a month back and when I tell you Humility touches on soooo many areas. If we had more Humility it will be more healthy marriages. When you get out of your own way, your marriage will thrive. It's not about you it's about us
Yes all true 🙌🏽
Side note, I love all the plants in your home 🪴
The algorithm started to show me a lot of these videos, too, after I took a break from shorts. And I think that the reason for this is that I enjoyed watching stuff from Dadvocate, Cinema Therapy and similar things that promote the idea of all people alike having feelings and desires in a relationship.
I hope this will become a thing. The world needs it.
He might not see this, but you are giving me the tools to have a good conversation about the things that we are struggling with. So thank you.
Thanks Jimmy! Appreciate you! Nice t-shirt. I am also from there.
My husband said I was being complacent when I asked him to meet a new friend that I had made and I dropped the friend when I saw how hurt he was over it. The whole ordeal brought a lot of our issues up to the surface and I am now realizing there is some work to be done in order to mend things and have a healthy relationship but it now feels like he is being complacent and ignorant. Your videos are really helping me. I’m not sending them to him or making him watch but I have tried telling him stuff I’ve learned. This is all really hard, especially when taking a close look at myself at the same time and what I can do better.
Why is he hurt that you made a new friend and wanted to share that part of yourself with him? 🤔 I could see if you made a new attractive male friend that would make your husband feel jealous and insecure, but him being mad and upset that you wanted to introduce him to a new female friend, is insane. 😮
@@KaraKahn it was a male. I can’t say attractive, I didn’t not think so, but I could see where he felt that was threatening. I have had male friends all my life and now coworkers that I call friends. I have come to realize he is picky about which males are a threat, who I can and cannot be friends with. I saw it as protective before. Now I’m seeing insecurity but I just go along with it so that it doesn’t cause conflict. Pick your battles type thing.
It's hard to tip toe around our husband and I don't think we should have to. Jimmy mentioned one of his videos that we need to discuss even the difficult things because if we don't we can't fully more on to a healthy relationship if I summarized him correctly. I have my own personal struggle of my husband not working on personal family life. I have worked part time, taken full responsibility for the kids, taken care of household inside and outside chores and trying to work on my marriage. It's difficult. My husband gets upset and defensive anytime I talk to him and also possessive when we are around other males who talk to me, but why can't he be attentive when where at home and help when it matters? I think he is insecure just because a girlfriend cheated on him like 20+ years ago, but he knows I'm trustworthy, but his lack of being a partner working together is tiring me when it's like I'm doing this all like a single parent, so maybe not be married at all and just be a single parent I wont have to deal with a marriage that is failing and draining my energy. I have already worked a job, had full responsibility of kids, and done all outside and inside chores. It makes me wonder why I put up him, when it hasn't gotten better over the last 15 years I've been trying to make it work and he continues to remain the same even though he knows its a problem, clearly after trying to talk to help about figuring it out repeatedly . Best wishes to you and everyone who is trying to figure this out, it's so difficult.
Haha This did show up on my page. I’m a man that just ended a toxic relationship, and I want to change the way I act in relationships. I couldn’t figure out if I was the problem or not, but eventually I realized we were both dancers in this act and finished it. Now I wanna change myself at least.
A big part of the content is relevant outside both marriage and partnership, so as a single man focusing on improving myself, all of this is a gold mine.
Guys like myself will swipe on you sooooo many times, Until they don’t. And we they don’t, they will consume as much as we can.
Get up the work brother.
This means alot to me Bobby
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
I got my guy to subscribe to your channel 🥳 I showed him and he said your amazing 🎉
Actually, you did come across my page for some reason. I just happened to leave one of your videos running once when I was busy with something else, and now they keep getting recommended. It’s good for me, because they’re hitting me where it hurts, and I’m learning that I need to work on myself so we can work together as a team. I’m grateful I got distracted and one of your random videos got stuck on loop for 5 minutes. I am aware now that my temper is usually the main issue because I don’t want to tackle feelings, I just want to be angry and avoid my feelings. I’m learning that his feelings are valid, and mine are too, but they need to be talked about together in constructive instead of destructive ways. That’s for your content. You’re helping me work towards being a better partner.
Some shit that stuck with me from work when I almost got fired was "its not that you can't, it's just that you don't feel like it" feel that holds up as truth in a Lotta scenarios
I'm 18 and not even in a relationship, but I still find these videos entertaining and insightful. Maybe one day they will serve me well.
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
It’s interesting. Once he watched some relationship stuff with me, about three years in. He lost his libido and got distant. Never did again. Wonder what that was about.
The only time he went to therapy was to “get over me” after years of him cheating and leaving and me begging.
Ya. This crap is so hard.
My husband watches your videos and he found you first. 😊 I'm glad to know he's really putting an effort in our marriage.
Makes me happy that these videos did get sent to me. Shows that I actually do care, and it also shows that the internet is always watching me….all the time, and listening to everything I say.
Single dude here... I like how you explain things about emotions, with emotion (and sometimes a clipboard), so the algorithm has continued to feed your videos to me. Not that they're immediately useful to me, but I feel I should learn for even slimmest possibility that I'll have a relationship in the future.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a comment section where men are owning their behavior!! This is nothing short of miraculous; you’re getting through. Rock on! And to those guys who are admitting and recognizing your own behavior- you got this!
I've never ever made a mistake in any relationship. It was always the girl's fault
@@stef4oben88 certainly hoping this is sarcasm
@@Here_Today_ yeah me too.
As a teenage guy this channel has been one of the best resources for self reflection and seeking help with being able to set boundaries
As a women, I love your videos not because I feel validated but because you have put into words that I have not had the time to think about how I could put into words. For instance, your video about chores. I work and I come home and clean. Recently my husband has been helping more but we have been together for 19 years and it took me crying and letting him know that I can’t keep doing it on my own because the resentment kept growing. So although I knew resentment was growing I couldn’t put into words why. Not to mention, I feel as ladies we should learn what we can from these videos too to help in our marriage.
Speaking as rhe emotionally unresponsive husband...youre in my algorithms.
It makes me sad so many men don’t “desire” to seek people like you out. Like they either don’t notice or don’t care that their partner is suffering and aren’t invested enough to figure out how to make them happy again. 😔
It's insane to think of how many relationships that will end in a few weeks after the holidays. Relationships that could have been worked out, ones that could see Jimmys videos and say hey I've got some work to do.
This is precisely why relationships are pointless
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
Not all couples fight. I never heard my parents raise their voices at each other. If they disagreed on something-they were able to work it out without emotions getting out of control. I'm grateful for that, because my husband and I are going on 15 years plus now and we also haven't ever yelled or argued to the point feelings were hurt. It really is possible! I'm not saying we are perfect at all, we have work to do, but we feel safe with each other.
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
Hey, I'm a 20 year old male blessed to be in a very comfortable and respectful relationship.
I came across your videos because your messages and the information you try to promote around communication and respect is what I look for.
But I can't say I'm really your target demographic, or someone who can get the most out of your words, and it's a shame that it's such a challenge for your messages to reach those who need it most.
Thank you for speaking your thoughts. I really hope your channel thrives and the messages you share can reach more ears.
I send your videos to my spouse and he'll actually watch them! Our marriage is on the rocks right now and there's no coming back from this...
There's always a way to come back if y'all both believe y'all are worth it ❤❤❤
@Mizzpinkperfect key word is BOTH
Hello pretty how are you doing today 🌹
I’m not in a relationship but I need this too. I do want to be prepared for when I do start to date.
when you said the thing about 'all couples fight' not being true, that felt sooooo validating!! my partner and I have been together for around a 1 and a half years and we hardly ever have fights and even if we do, we handle it well, and for some reason, our friends seem to think its weird or unhealthy that we dont fight!! so thank you, i know that we are great but its nice to hear it from an expert (:
I am in my first relationship at 43 where there hasn't been a single fight in the year we have been together we just click so perfectly.
Guy here, we both are watching your videos. Your channel is so wholesome and healing for us. We were working on our relationship and healthy boundaries before but your videos lifted it to another level. thank you so much!
I’m a narcissist and I want to change your advice helps me understand myself better
My mother has NPD, thank you for trying and doing the work.
My father is (or was) a narcissist. I haven't spoken to or heard from him since I was 11. I have no interest in ever seeing him again and I don't know if he's still alive or not, I don't care either way. Thank you for trying to get better, narcissists tend to end up alone as everyone they know usually ends up leaving. I don't think anyone with the capacity to change should end up alone, you are doing yourself and those close to you a great service by becoming a better person.
My ex started to make efforts after our divorce. Now what? I'm too tired to rebuild, or is there such thing as too late? Confused 😕
Sounds like it's time for you to focus on your own healing. Once you are you again it will become clear if there's place for your ex. If they don't understand that (do give explanation) you already have the answer.
I would say that Most people are compassionate and Loving people.
I struggle with communicating or how to approachable a Situation and im Not even in a relationship.
Thats why im Glad i stumbled to your Videos.
It is so vital that you provide these resources for women to be able to share with men in a man's voice. I stumbled across here organically but I had already sought out a lot of the same resources you're sharing. What I found truly galling is learning about how few men even know such resources exist. Reading the comments on your videos is heartbreaking. So thank you so much for doing what you're doing.
I've sent him these videos, he doesn't watch them. No desire. 😢😢😢 ❤❤❤ his lost, not mine.
If you're still in that relationship then it's your loss as well :(
Bruh. Don't send your man these videos. That comes across as passive aggressive and weird. Just talk to him normally
Or just leave him. Men don't have to be our projects. We do not have to cure them. If he's not willing to learn, choose someone who is!
@@brendanbudniak2261If you have already attempted to talk with him and it isn't working, finding an outside resource that conveys the message differently could help immensely. It isn't passive aggressive if you have already brought up the problem. Also, some men are more likely to listen and really hear it coming from a man that from a woman.
@@claudiashundeservice992 Exactly 💯
Facts! Thanks Jimmy!
I appreciate your videos because they help me to see that I am not crazy and I am not wrong for wanting more from my husband. I can't change him, but at least I feel stronger knowing it's not because of me that he is the way he is. I feel more balanced now. Thank you! I don't dislike myself now. He made me think I was wrong but you helped me see that it isn't my fault and I feel more confident now.
I’ve been searching for information and someone that could explain why, how and then what to do. My problem is that I had a hard time with your voice because you were talking about the truth and doing hard things like being vulnerable. Keep up the great work!
I had to teach my partner how to adress his real feelings and communicate from scratch. The thing that makes the difference is absolutley the intention and effort to change. If someone WILL NOT back down from an incorrect point becauze of their pride, it is not likely that you'll ever see a breakthrough, because the first step to fixing a problem is recognizing that there IS a problem, and most people (especially men) will not ever get that far by the stakes of their "dignity"
It's also a good thing you appear on women's pages. Then they realise they deserve better and leave the man that's not treating them right.
Well I’m a woman… BUT your videos helped me understand that MY HUSBAND is carrying all the mental load of the house work (while I care for our child). And that I’m not fair to him when I expect him to help me with our child more and he’s still doing all the household chores.
I’m trying to get better but I’m really not good at keeping track what needs to be done (I have terrible issues with establishing and maintaining routines due to unmedicated and still undiagnosed ADHD). It’s driving me crazy that I’m seemingly incapable of doing life. And he’s just mastering everything (sure we both work but I only work part time and just an office job)… I really need to step up and your videos helped me see how much my husband is doing. And how little of a help I am (the video where you explain that asking what is needed to be done is no help for example)…
So THANK YOU!🎉❤
Dude, you are changing lives for the better. It's so dang real what people forget in communication with each other. You keep doing what you're doing, and maybe everyone will be a bit happier over time
Those is why it's SOOO important for women to train their sons to respect women (and all people) and be responsive to and responsible for their love relationships. Thank you for your good work educating people!
The job isn’t just on women. It takes two to raise a child.
Edit: Correction, it takes two to make a child**
Men should also participate in raising their sons to respect women. Why must women do all the emotional work for men and boys? Fathers should do their fair share.
And this is why it is extremely important for our sons to have positive male role models to learn that respect and emotional intelligence doesn't come from just the women in their lives.
Men, man up, and go to one-on-one counseling. Tell the psych to address your dismissive behaviors (which are actual emotional abuse). Own your shit. Stop rolling your eyes at everything, THAT is the problem.
i am so glad your shorts showed up on my feed randomly and i stopped long enough for it to be consistent now. its helped me a lot. cheers my dude.
I know two women who left their husband after 2 -3 decades of feeling ignored, that they were second fiddle, etc. Both husband's reaction was basically, "What happened? I don't know why she left me for someone else?" 🙄
Yeah. I'm not going to send him your videos because that would be controlling or passive aggressive. And it would just hurt more if he came upon your videos and I overheard him sigh as he swiped you away.
That would hurt me too
@@JimmyonRelationships Thanks for the response! I recently figured out that I haven't been showing my husband very much respect when it comes to things I want changed. I think your videos are amazing, but I'm also realizing that it's mostly women who watch them, sadly, and that they sometimes seem bitter or contemptuous. I think we all need to take some responsibility for what we're adding to the mix. I can show respect regardless of how loving he is because I care about the marriage and I'm willing to make the sacrifice. It's helped him show more love, and since he's a good man, he's asked more about what's going on and what I need more of. I wonder if a lot of your female viewers don't think much about what they do to add to the problems. It might not be your thing, but I just thought I'd mention it ❤️
Love your content! Congrats on monetization!!!
Don’t ever stay married to a narcissist! Those are the accusations used as deflection to shut you up. All narcissists throw out accusations like that.
I think we (us in bad relationships) just need to love ourselves enough to not cry over the fact that we just get the bare minimum and try to change others, put our heads straight and move on.😊 Thank you for your videos.
I'm so glad you said it's not normal for couples to fight.. my partner thinks it's normal, everyone does it. I know it's not normal.. I'm a VERY peaceful, reasonable person and I never need to 'fight'... it resolves nothing.
These videos have actually helped me grow from mistakes in my last relationship. I donmy beat to grow and change and I really appreciate seeing my mistakes and will work to do better in the future for my furture relationships. I am sorry I didn't see in my past one.
Commitment doesn’t equal love. Wow!! Never thought of it like that. Thank you!
Hello pretty how are you doing today
Nope, this absolutely is needed on my feed. I’m the him in this discussion. Thank you for your content.
You're an amazing presenter... I've been reading for what seems like countless hours on how to fix my relationship or just trying to find out what is going wrong. Somehow all of a sudden the concept of anxious attachment and avoidant attachments came up and explained it all to a T.
I thought i wasn't in the wrong by avoiding conflict and hiding away, i can see now i was. I just can't take her yelling and screaming, still not sure how to face that without restoring to going to the garage.
My boyfriend and I have been watching your videos together since i discovered them. It's some amazing advice, and both of us have really grown from it. Youve put into words feelings i was never able to express before, and put them in such a way that he can easily see the issue. There have been times hes shown me videos, and helped me see issues I didn't know were there. Keep up the amazing work man. Its helping a LOT of people who cant afford therapy