Basically, she's saying that masculinity and femininity are a result of being man or woman, not the other way around, which is where Pop culture has it wrong.
I love this! especially the embodiment part. i did not feel typically feminine until after I had my first child. I didn't really bond with her in the womb and I was afraid that I wasn't nurturing enough, that I was too "cold." i didn't care about my appearance, etc. but after my daughter's birth, I found myself caring about the home, being more gentle, getting into cooking, and wearing makeup. it was wild and strange at first but now that I'm several years in and have my now son as well, I have embraced it and love it and find that my boldness and fiery nature are still there--just transmuted. this conversation you two are having is so important! need to bring this to young women--teens, college-aged, and 20s.
I’m amazed to read the experiences of people like you! I never thought there were so many people like me out there. I’m glad this kind of conversation is being put out here. In today’s world, young girls and boys who don’t fit the feminine or masculine stereotype are in such grave danger. Thank you for sharing your experience. And for these guys for putting this out here.
I agree with your comment. I do however think that it is hilarious that many modern people think that wearing make-up is "feminine". Make-up was originally only worn by male actors and prostitutes to distinguish themselves from the rest of the world.
Before I had my 4 sons, I was WAY more “feminine” and I was worried that I was becoming too “masculine” because I genuinely don’t have the time to put on makeup or dress like a lady. I mean… in this stage in life, it’s just not practical. And I was concerned this meant I wasn’t “womanly” enough. But hearing this, I feel so much better. That I’m still feminine!! But it’s just different now.
I think there is, and always will be some mystery surrounding masculinity and femininity, in the same way we will never be able to fully comprehend the mystery of the trinity ( that the Father is not the Son, the Son is not the Father, and neither of them are the Holy Spirit, yet they are One). As a father, there is a kind of love I can give my son that my wife cannot, and there is a kind of love that my wife can give my son that I cannot. I think this is a mystery that we can't fully understand on this side of Heaven; there is nothing more masculine than a man being a father, and there is nothing more feminine than a woman being a mother. Fatherhood and motherhood are not restricted to the nuclear family, but The Church allows men to be spiritual fathers and women to be spiritual mothers. And we need more folks stepping into the roles God made them for, as fathers and mothers.
@@DM-ks1pj I agree we aren't called to be the epitome of those things. But he does call many of us to roles as mothers and fathers, or spiritual mothers and fathers.
The bible says that God is the head pf christ and that christ is the head of the man and that man is the head of the woman period, if you understand life you will understand that this is a simple and unrefutable reality, and if you think this is up for debate you simply dont understand.
@@quonyoung1280 I agree with you. But you'll have to be more clear on what you mean in relation to my comment. I didn't write anything that contradicts your statement.
@@quonyoung1280 No mystery in masculinity or femininity? Are you married dude? Hahah. My wife is a mystery to me. I think you're misunderstanding what I am saying. But I wish you well. God bless!
I'll try to give my simple and not so elegant answer to the question as a 31 year old Catholic woman who is still a Tomboy (but with age it has all toned down a bit lol). I'll try to keep this short. I grew up as an only girl around boys and men, so you can imagine I played football, basketball, tennis and ran track and I was really good at all of them. Drove bikes like a crazy person and all those rough activities. My best friends up until high school were boys.. Then I went to an all girls boarding school.. Lol such a drastic change. Anyway, in my deliberate walk with God and desire for holiness, and learning more about the church, her teachings and the lives of saints, I've learnt 2 things that answer this question and I hope anyone having this same delimma or question can learn from. 1. If you walk with God and in the teachings of the church, the Holy spirit will transform your heart in ways you didn't think possible and answer your questions, quell your doubts and give you peace in the midst of the noise of the world. 2. My personality and all the "Tomboy traits" are all from God. And this personality is how he wants me to glorify him in my state of Life in this moment in time. God knows all of me, and loves all of me totally and thoroughly. This has allowed me to show up each day and occupy space everywhere in and out of work, with confidence and with love because I know my Father loves me dearly. All your quirks are known by the Father and he loves them and loves you and wills that you use them all for his glory and the good of your neighbour. There's no one like you in the world. No one can glorify God the exact same way you would with your gifts and awesome personality 😁 So, honestly just walk with God in truth (and when you fall, get back right up) and he will answer your questions, change your heart, give you clarity. And please and please, let yourself be loved by the Father... The validation and confidence it gives, the way your heart will burst with love, words won't be able to describe. I keep thinking if I grew up in the world today, I would have been told to transition to a boy, or some other nonsense. Sorry this was longer than planned. 😁 God bless you.
Excellent exposition. I like that we cannot describe feminine and masculine simply as a list of traits but that both have all the traits but express them in different embodied ways which ate complementary and not in opposition to each other. I love your book, "Into the Deep". It is a real gutsy description of conversion and grappling with God. Keep up the good work Fr. Paul Burchat
Amazing, thankyou 😊 I have a lot of what modern western culture often deem both masculine and feminine and have often been confused because of it. At school when the subconcious pressure for boys to be "hard" and don't care about each other I didnt care and fought toward the polar opposite. At the same time when I need to I can be tough as a nail and press through crises and be strong for everyone else etch. I also embody some of the stereotypes when I sense thats what another person need at that time. I love both drawing and woodworking, I love learning mechanics and love going around smelling flowers slowly, I love reading both romance novels and wilderness survival books, I love studying both academic philosophy and art history, I love singing and dancing and I love programming, hobby chemistry and electronics, I love baking cakes and I love hitting the gym lifting weights, I love cars and I love animals. I have stopped trying to fit into any cultural stereotypes of what a man should be anymore, I only care to become more like Jesus now. And reading through the gospels its clear to me he is both one of the most emotional and long suffering men in history, but also the strongest and bravest man that have ever and will ever live. He fought through life with such passion because the fire that burned within him were love, true love. Not the sad echo of what contemporary culture often deem love to be, but the love that says "I burn for your wellbeing, I would go through fire, water, torture and death for you to be with me". Thats love.
Abigail, your answers are SO refreshing. Intelligent, REAL, cohesive. Not confusing, unsure. You were given gifts and thank you for using them to tell the world about real beauty. I will sen this to my niece who I believe is going to listen this with intention and not taping out because it is not fluff. Pax Christi!
I loved this video! The guest was so articulate! Thank you. I have felt frustrations with folks that I talk to who almost militantly seem to judge and sort the people they meet into categories “masculine”, “not masculine enough”, “feminine”, and “not feminine enough” and it’s so very toxic. I’ve recently been listening to and reading testimonies from trans people detransitionjng and what comes up over and over is one of two things: 1) sexual harassment or assault as a child or tween or 2) being repeatedly told that they weren’t enough in terms of their masculinity or femininity. It’s just so cruel (and such a lie straight from Hell) so suggest that any person isn’t enough or good as God created them. Wasn’t it Catherine of Sienna who said something to the effect of “be who God created you to be and you will set the world on fire”?
Yes!!! Would love more content like this!! I think that a potential root for a lot of the gender and sexuality confusion in the world might be that ppl often feel like they don't fit the stereotype of perfect masculinity or femininity, like small guys with the "gay" voice or girls that don't like babies or dressing up. (Things they can't really change). Because they feel that they can't live up to that standard they reject all of it. of course I'm sure it's often far more complex than that but it might be a factor
I think you're on to something here. Today's culture is one in which it's all or nothing; ..and along with that, if you have a different perspective or idea, that you are totally against the one that differs from you on that, or worse, they will assume that you HATE them!?. These dynamics are so polarizing!
I think this is a really balanced way at looking at gender. I've always been really intrigued at St. Thomas describing gender as an "inseparable accident" and that it is a difference that stems primarily from the body rather than the soul. I feel that there is a large temptation, as Catholics, to try to draw bigger distinctions out of gender than there really are, and try to say there must be differences in male and female souls (no doubt that the body interacts with the soul to make it more masculine or feminine, but that is an aside). Thinking of gender as an inseparable accident that stems primarily of the body seems to suggest that the nature of male or female is not a formal difference with categorical boundaries (e.g. rationality). But it is a real manifested difference in the body that is "inseparable", so it is of much greater significance than any other accident (hair color, skin color, muscle mass), and is not just random based on genetics. That's why I think the idea of a bell curve, as Dr. Favale seems to draw out, is helpful. Gender does not draw a strict formal difference, but an aggregate set of differences between men and women that come with different lower and higher boundaries. I also think this is interesting because it is really easy to see how something like this can be misunderstood and be identified as a gender spectrum. That's why its really important that we ascribe masculine to simply things that a man does, and that a man is an unchanging definition according to his body. Otherwise, we fall into the modernist understanding.
Well if the body is the expression of the soul, and the soul is the form of the body, it makes sense that the souls of men and women might be in some way different.
@@cauchydistributed161 yes there are differences on an average when comparing the two genders But they're not to say any trait belongs to the other gender averagely therefore if you show a trait particular to the other gender that you suddenly belong to the other gender
She described it well. I'm such a New York Jew, I see nothing wrong with hunting and cigars and whatnot, but it's not my thing -- I'm more into soup, bagels, lap swimming, and chess. My masculinity as God designed it and how it's applied in my marital vocation isn't compromised.
I love this! I’m a crazy mama bear, but I’m still afraid of talking to children and I don’t automatically connect to them. I love my children, but I need to work at being motherly or loving to other children.
Women are made to exemplify beauty in the spiritual sense, remembering that all things are signs of the spiritual but only disguised in the secular as physical. A perfect example is that ex transgender man who is actually a woman on Matt Walshes documentary "what is a woman. When I watched that doco, the way she spoke so passionately, authentically and the actual way she carried herself in that interview, made my heart fall in love with her amazing beauty that I could only perceive in a womanly manor. Women make the world a beautiful place to live. And men are made to be powerful/strong, remembering that to be strong is to be a rock of mastery in service of others in doing better what nobody else can. And can be manifested in infinite ways just as the men who obtain mastery of the many skills in life, dominate those measurable utilities for the sake of serving the many. Men dominate the world for the sake of propagating goodness and service to all. These are the right manifestations and the right order of use.
This was really beautiful. Sometimes when people start talking about gender online the comments I tend to see from men can be really off putting. But this is so beautifully appreciative and respectful to the importance and dignity of both roles. Really beautifully said.
As a woman often in what have been described as "male" roles with typically "male" interests, I appreciate this answer. I loved when my physical education teacher said "many of the most feminine women are athletes." I was the only girl in my HS chemistry class and on the chess team (my brothers taught me how to play). I used what I experienced growing up while teaching my own students, especially the girls, who would ask, "Ms. Deborah, is there anything you haven't done?"
I think when it comes to women it’s more about the attitude than anything else. Things have to be developed if you want certain results that require a change. Same for men
I LOVE THIS. That was a very deep, yet approachable way of expressing this dynamic. I have been aware for some time, that we are all a kind of mixed bag of things that have been labeled as traditionally 'masculine' or feminine', and that's OK. After all, Genesis said "In His image He created them; male and female He created them". This seems to me to suggest that all of what is female and male is also a part of who God is; and who are we to say how these are to be distributed to His Creatures? I had a [male] friend whom I liked to watch hockey games with, who also shared an appreciation for figure skating. We watched our favorite women and pairs skate for our country in the Olympics [but neither cared for the men singles skating.. ahem]. The point is, while we liked the display of masculinity on the ice displayed by our Detroit Red Wings, we didn't feel ashamed to show that we also appreciated the gracefulness of that other ice sport; it was an unspoken rule, of sorts. I also like how Abby said, "We all are nurturing, we all are protective, we all are supportive; it's just that we do these in different ways". And, the order of Humanity-to masculine/feminine-to individual. That was a very clear and delineative way of expressing that dynamic. You know, I have some things in common with this gal; and isn't that wonderful? -----Bless you, Abigail!!
I'm of the opinion that there are concepts of masculine and feminine that exists outside of the man and the woman. I think that we as a society have more of a duty to conform and adhere to those more traditional, and might I argue natural law, masculine and feminine traits. Being feminine cannot just be whatever a person with a female body and what a man with a male body happens to be doing. Maybe I'm mischaracterising her argument, I hope not. To me it sounds as if she is trying to subjectivize gender. I feel that there is obviously some gray area in there. But there's a reason that when you see a man who is emotional, nurturing, avoidant of difficult things, etc... you would say they are feminine. And there's also a reason that when you see a typical "tomboy" girl or woman they are perceived as more masculine. Not that neither sex/gender can't or shouldn't have any qualities of the other, but certainly we should be able to say that it is natural and proper for certain traits to pertain to one or thr other of the genders. I guess if I were to boil it down I'd say that gender and the traits of masculinity or femininity are more objective than what she seems to think. But I've been wrong before I guess.
I love babies and small children. My problem was being shy around men especially when they might express an interest in me. They could play games with me, but the sexual games would make them act differently around me.
Archetypes are key here, and what state each of an individuals archetypes are in. If we don’t have a society with a healthy soil for our archetypes seeds to grow in, they might stay small, or suffer, or grow a bit off if they are overshadowed by bigger ones around. It can all resolve, but we need consciousness and dedication to nurture and develop healthy archetypes. Both men and women have an inner child, a teenager, a lover, a nurturer, a regal, a wise one, a priest/priestess😉 (and more). Beyond that…what is your true nature? Are you more introvert than extrovert (yes we are both, but with different tipping points⚖️). Do you love flower dresses or a more urban chic jeans. Many expressions of the feminine, but it starts inside.
This is such an important question and definition to address and explain, especially in this confused day and age. I grew up as what used to be called a “Tom boy”, but: *The things I am interested in do not define my femininity* 💜 Love this! Thank you
Now girls who are “tomboys” are being told they’re trans men. And these people call themselves enlightened and say we are the sexist bigots. But God’s natural order for the sexes is actually the only true liberation from sexist stereotypes and “gender confusion”
I could’ve sent that question easily. This is my struggle. I’m a mother but I’m not a regular nurturing mother. I relate to my daughter like a dad would if that makes any sense.
Please consider looking up Carol Tuttle. She describes in one of her books, a reason why some men have a more ‘soft’ personality, women ‘manly’ personalities. ☯️
Ugh. "Theology of the Body". TOO MANY CATHOLIC SPEAKERS talk about it-- WITHOUT HAVING READ THE POPE'S WORK which is NOTHING like they are preaching. It's long, full of the Holy Spirit, and breaks worldly expectations. They NEED to read it first before teaching it. SHE has read it. I thank her for reading it.
Matt, My mom did not relate to the archetypal epitome of feminism and she didn’t even want kids initially, however; in good Catholic standing she was open to children. I’m number six of seven children and she let herself be guided by the Holy Spirit.
I partially take the point. But I think it has to be the case if you are talking about femininity not to divorce any given trait from VIRTUE. I can't help but imaging a woman in one of these modern action films punching a bunch of stuntmen to the implied ludicrous assertion "I'm so feminine." Now, it would be virtuous for a woman to take on some role that would be better served by a man (such as a physical role) if necessary, like a mother bear would. In this case, you would say "that is a wonderful woman," and you'd be right. But you must not discard the reality that some pursuits that would be virtuous for a man might be less so for a woman, and vice versa, because the sexes are different and that's the way God intended it.
I am nurturing, but I nurture animals, with no desire to be married nor have babies. I like men's work too. And a lot of the best doll artists are men, and though I improve at that hobby skill, I may or may not get to their level. I believe we are all just individuals.
Nurturing is both an act and a mode of being. Before the modern age a woman was needed to help nurse a baby. No man could do that. So there is a general requirement in the biology of a woman that whether they like it or not they be nurturing, or act in a nurturing way. Not too excuse distant father's here just addressing the biological nature of woman creates some imperative in marriage anyways.
why do real women think they need tattoos? there is nothing winsome or lovely about inked skin. I will say it and maybe someone will think twice before marring themselves.
@@MrTheclevercat I know what those words mean in isolation, but I don't know what it means for a man to be "more feminine than a woman" or how that would even be possible.
@@marymcreynolds9171 Because of the media and fashion industry glamorising masculinity in women for so many decades now. This is why women's sexuality, specifically, has become masculinised over the last 50 years also. In short, it's a result of social engineering.
As a Catholic convert with a similar background as Favale, I found this comment incredibly unhelpful and a bit mean-spirited. I sent a link of this video to a sweet young woman and good friend of mine who has been raised Catholic by devout parents but is struggling with SSA and gender confusion, and it makes me angry to think she's gonna be reading comments like yours under a channel called "Catholic Femininity." Also as a girl who was bullied as a kid/teen and called a dude as an insult for having a long chin/jawline and big hands and feet, comments like yours bring up painful memories and further cement the idea that girls/women who don't present as typically feminine either by way of their appearance, interests, or personality are not actually women -or, in your own words, "something ain't right." 😤 I encourage you to delete this comment and do some thinking on the virtue of charity and how best to lead others to Jesus cause... This ain't it, girl.
“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28. Be who God made you to be, and fully utilize all of your talents, abilities, emotions and charisms to benefit others in the name of Jesus Christ. Be true to who you are and how God created you.
@@markie0320 Exactly my point. It doesn’t matter if you’re a male with some traditional “female” characteristics or a female with some traditional “male “ traits. Those who accept Christ as lord and savior are united as one in the family of God. As you say, anyone who accepts salvation through the grace of Jesus is in the body of Christ. Both male and female qualities can be equally utilized in the service of Christ.
@@jgappy5643 There are many studies that looked at personality trait differences between men and women. One of the largest was in 2001, which included 23,000 men and women from 26 cultures around the globe (Costa, McCrae, Terracciano). The results show that women score higher on Agreeableness and Neuroticism, and one factor of Openness to Experience, while men scored higher on Extraversion, Disagreeableness, and separate factors of Openness to Experiences such as risk taking. The researchers translate this into more commonly used jargon stating that women are more aware of emotions, are friendlier, are more nurturing and more anxious, while men are more assertive, open to new challenges with higher risks, and have higher levels of aggressive behavior. Subsequent academic, peer reviewed studies have replicated these results over the last 20 years. As I said in my comment, these are generalized and not specific to any individual man or women. Nor does it address how much is nature and how much is nurture. But the differences have been apparent and consistent throughout large populations.
I was useless with children before I had children, now I'm pretty much useless with kids who aren't my kids age, because I completely forget how to talk to them once my kids leave that stage. Yet I LOVE my kids and get along great with them. Your reaction to other kids proves nothing.
I mean no disrespect and I don't mean to sound like a creeper, but when I see Dr. Abigail, I see the Blessed Mother Mary in her. Not necessarily in her physical appearance, but in her countenance. We often see accounts of Mary as this weeping widow wringing her hands and sobbing at the feet of Jesus. That's not what I see at all with Mother Mary, Queen of Heaven. She was strong when she needed to be, and was probably a source of comfort and strength for the Apostles. It's not uncommon for a devout believer to have the light of Christ within them. I see that with Dr. Abigail, but there's ample evidence that the Blessed Mother Mary is working through this one - watch her!I see a future saint in the making. Bless you Dr. Abigail for all you do for the kingdom of heaven!
Who is the LORD and who is his anointed one according to this prayer from Peter? Acts 4: 25 You spoke by the Holy Spirit through the mouth of your servant, our father David: “‘Why do the nations rage and the peoples plot in vain? 26 The kings of the earth rise up and the rulers band together against - THE LORD - and against HIS - ANOINTED ONE -. 27 Indeed Herod and Pontius Pilate met together with the Gentiles and the people of Israel in this city to conspire against YOUR HOLY SERVANT JESUS, whom YOU ANOINTED _ JEHOVAH & His son Jesus.
What will our masculinity and femininity look like in heaven? How does our completeness or wholeness look? Am I asking this question in the right way? Lol.
John 14:6 - King James Version 6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. Romans 1:16 - King James Version 16 For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. (The Letter of Paul to the Romans) Romans 5:18 - King James Version 18 Therefore as by the offence of one judgment came upon all men to condemnation; even so by the righteousness of one the free gift came upon all men unto justification of life. (offence of one - Adam's one trespass, one sin, led to the condemnation of all men - the righteousness act of one was Jesus' death on the cross to pay for human sin) Salvation is not getting your sins forgiven, it's believing they already are! We are all sinners and fall short in God his glory - how to be saved - this is the gospel of salvation - 1 Corinthians chapter 15 verses 1-4 by trusting and believing the gospel of salvation you are saved and sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise till the day of redemption and nothing can pluck you out of the Father his hand - (In whom we have redemption through his blood , even the forgiveness of sins: (Colossians 1:14 - King James Version) - eternal security is a free gift - it's a promise and God Almighty cannot lie!!! Have a blessed day! This is the gospel of salvation - 1 Corinthians chapter 15 verses 1-4 Witnesses of Christ's resurrection. 1) Moreover,brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; 2) ''By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. 3) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 4) And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures. IT IS FINISHED... Paid in Full !!! But, You Must BELIEVE IT - 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 KJV. 2 Timothy 2:15 - King James Version 15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. Romans 2:16 - King James Version 16 In the day when God shall judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ according to my gospel. (Paul's Gospel - 1 Corinthians chapter 15 verses 1-4). KJV - Bible verses about Jesus is God John 1:1 - In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. John 1:14 - And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth. John 10:30 - I and my Father are one. Isaiah 9:6 - For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. John 20:28 - And Thomas answered and said unto him, My Lord and my God. John 8:58 - Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Before Abraham was, I am. G - GRACE R - RIGHTLY A - APPLIED C - CHANGES E - EVERYTHING Religion is always dealing with you and what you're doing and what you're not doing, anytime you're sitting around thinking what should I be doing you're under religion, the grace of God is dealing what Christ did. Under religion man always says look what I'm doing for you God and under grace Christ says look what I did for you man. Under religion man says look how I went to church under the grace of God Jesus said look how I went to Calvary. Under religion man says look at how I was raised in my denomination and under grace Christ says look how I was raised from the dead. Under religion man says look at how I gave my money and under grace Jesus says look at how I gave my life. Under religion man says look God at how I confessed my sins and under grace Jesus says look man how I took away your sins. Under religion man says look God at how I stood up against sin and under the grace of God Jesus says look man at how I died for your sins. Under religion man says look God at how I judged the lost world and under grace Jesus says look man at how I saved the lost world. Under religion man says look God at how I got up and marched against these evildoers and under grace Jesus says look man how I suffered and died for evildoers. Under religion man says look God at how I bow down to you and under grace Jesus says look man and how I became one of you. Under religion man says look God at how I healed the sick and under grace Jesus says look man how I raised the dead. Under religion man says look God at how I spoke in tongues and under grace Jesus says look man at how I spoke in life. Under religion man says look God at how successful my life was and under grace Jesus says looked me at how successful my death was. Religions my friends is always man trying to reach up to God with self effort to be accepted by God. Through classic Christianity was God reaching down to man through Jesus with love and acceptance and that's why Paul said we preach Christ and Christ crucified a stumbling block to the Jews foolishness to the Gentiles but to those whom God has called both Jews and Gentile Christ the power of God and wisdom. Source ''Truth Time Radio''. Like many "Christians" today, Satan believes Jesus died on the cross, but not for HIS sins. He believes Jesus has risen, but not for HIS eternal life. Satan believes the event of the cross but never put his trust in Christ's finished work for salvation. Salvation is not: Believing there is a God. (Satan believes that) Salvation is not: Believing Christ was the Messiah. (Satan believes that) Salvation is not even... Believing Christ died, was buried and rose the third day. (Satan believes that also) Salvation is: Believing Christ died for YOUR EVERY SIN and trusting that He rose to give you eternal life IN HIM! Something Satan and most Christians want no part of because of their PRIDE! If denominationalists truly believed Christ forgave their sins, they wouldn't spend so much time trying to GET them forgiven. One tells you to pray for forgiveness. One tells you to confess for forgiveness. One tells you to believe for forgiveness. One tells you to repent for forgiveness. One tells you to be baptized for forgiveness. And keep in mind, all of these folk with a straight face will tell you Christ DIED for your sins. Welcome to Nutsville!!! I think Dorothy got lost on the yellow brick road. Today I unapologetically proclaim that there is only one way to be saved, and it has nothing to do with getting your sins forgiven. Salvations through FAITH. (Ephesians 2:8-9) Without faith it is impossible to please God. Salvation comes to those who are ready to give up on THEIR performance and rest their faith in JESUS' performance. The path to salvation is narrow. SO narrow that nothing you do will fit. Satan will never be saved for the same reason he was kicked out of heaven. P-R-I-D-E. (Isaiah 14:12-14) Read carefully and count how many times he says "I". How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! how art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weaken the nations! For thou hast said in thine heart, I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north: I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the most High. Satan is obviously a Narcissist! Like a vain person in front of the mirror, five times in only three verses he boasts of himself. Pride keeps Satan from being saved as it does most of the world. They have fallen victim to SELFIANITY and are incapable of letting go and letting God. Incapable of taking their filthy hands off their salvation and allowing God to save them by HIS finished work! If you say --- "I said a prayer for forgiveness." "I confessed for forgiveness." "I believed for forgiveness." "I repented for forgiveness." "I was baptized for forgiveness." Then sadly you have fallen for the five I's just like Satan. Salvation is not getting your sins forgiven, it's believing they already ARE! To be saved, you must first get "I" out of the way. You only get two educations, the one you're given and the one you give yourself! Source ''Truth Time Radio'' for solid teaching/rightly dividing the word of truth - also here on youtube - learn the truth and unlearn the lies! Here is a list of statements that a legalist might say or think. 1. God's love for me depends on what I do. 2. Meeting the expectations of others, especially those in my congregation or in positions of authority, is very important. 3. I try hard to obey God and it irritates me that others think they can get away with avoiding the same level of dedication. 4. My main goal in life is to try to gain God's favor by doing things that will impress him. 5. My sense of spiritual well-being is linked to a Christian leader or membership in my church rather than a personal relationship with God. 6. I tell my children not to do something in church or around other Christian families that I allow in my home. 7. I believe my way is the best way and that most other Christians may be sincere, but are sincerely wrong. 8. I sometimes worry that people might take advantage of grace if it's preached too much - people might think they can do anything they want. 9. After being around Christians for a while I feel drained - weary of putting up a false front. 10. It’s not possible that someone with lower standards than me could love God as much as me.
This tattoed lady is actually a professor, how sad. She talks in circles, using "like" constantly like a superannuated teenager and is clearly like Fradd, a Modernist. Normal, natural women and men know who and what they are innately: the law of God is written on the heart.
We all make mistakes, I was raised traditional Catholic lost my way and I have 14 tattoos God doesn't care we all have sinned. I don't get them any more and have returned to practicing my Faith.
A real woman is not based on her looks so much as how she treats others, how she expresses her femininity in the way God intends. A tattoo is neither masculine nor feminine, everyone is a child of God and we shouldn't judge someone based on their tattoos.
I'm afraid I still don't get it. It seems like she is saying that masculinity and femininity are subjective virtues of a man or of a woman. So when one says "wow, she is really feminine", does that just mean "she is virtuous"? If that's the case, those terms don't really have meaning. I'm kinda lost here...
@@baw5xc333 ;) Funny, I actually wrote a eulogy for my grandfather themed around Donovan's Strength-Courage-Mastery-Honor paradigm, which I still think has some merit. Though that was two or three years prior to my conversion.
she is talking a lot but she isn't saying anything. not really. she is clearly a feminist. christian feminist, both male and female, have done great damage to the church and christianity.
true masculinity comes in many forms - take Fr Michal Judge who was an openly gay priest who was the first to die at the foot of the North Tower on 9/11/2001 when he went to help others.....he was gay, catholic and a hero(masculine at that).
That’s completely wrong. Someone who publicly dissents from what they know to be Church teaching is a notorious heretic who by that fact alone loses membership in the Church if they ever had it (see Mystici Corporis, Satis Cognito, Eius Exemplo, Cantate Domino, the early Fathers, etc). Unity in the Church involves by its very nature one Faith and one Baptism. Someone who dies outside the Church cannot in any way be saved, as Pope Eugene IV dogmatically proclaimed in the twelfth paragraph of the Bull of Union with the Copts (also known as Cantate Domino). In light of this your statement that he was Catholic is heretical. It is also a Dogma that sodomy is a mortal sin which bars one from the state of justification or state of Grace. I cannot affirm that Judge was not saved since I don’t know his heart or intentions, it is also not known with certainty whether he was in fact a sodomite or if he was whether he repented. However one is not permitted to publicly praise a deceased individual who is not only notorious for possibly committing a mortal sin obstinately but who also attempted to justify this particular sin and thereby defy the Authority of the Scriptures and the Church, and ultimately of God Himself. That is disgraceful. Many Church authorities, including Saint Popes Gregory I and Gregory II, Saint Thomas Aquinas and Saint Francis Xavier taught that one is not permitted to even pray for people who die as obstinate unbelievers or in a notorious state of mortal sin. One is not permitted to judge Judge’s eternal destiny as that is reserved for God, but one has to go by what is public fact. In light of this you should not go around giving the impression that as long as one performs certain courageous or virtuous acts he or she can deny the faith, commit public mortal sins, and still be praised as a Catholic hero. I advise you to retract your public statement.
@@gabrielciccufalconlins4219 wow…I can’t believe you actually believe what you just wrote….you are missing the whole point of being a Christian / Catholic….yiu know all the man made laws but your heart is cold..
@@markpatrick5246 Did you just claim that the Scriptures and Apostolic Tradition are man-made? How can you claim to be a Christian when you say that God’s word is man-made? That’s blasphemy. Also, if I said something false point it out specifically and rationally instead of putting on this emotional facade which I don’t think is fooling anyone. As for how I believe in this, I follow what the Scriptures and Tradition teach while you clearly follow a modernist sentimentalist version of “Christianity”. I didn’t make up any of this, while you can’t cite a single passage in Scripture or the teaching of any Saint to support your position, which demonstrates quite clearly who’s actually spreading heretical man-made doctrine. P.S: On a final note, do you also condemn Gregory I, Gregory II, Thomas Aquinas, Francis Xavier, Innocent III, Eugene IV, Leo XIII, Pius XII, many early Church Fathers, etc who held these positions?
@@gabrielciccufalconlins4219 so you believe if an old man picks up sticks on the sabbath, he should be stoned to death?if you are such a avid Bible reader I’m sure you know this story and would be interested in knowing why old men who pick up sticks on the sabbath shouldn’t be stoned
Excuse me...but being an openly gay Priest is not a good thing. What he did was very commendable and may his soul rest in peace. But don't lecture us that because he sacrificed his life for others, therefore his "openly gay Priesthood" was right or justified.
I’ll be honest. I haven’t watched the video. Just browsed through the comments. Matt’s interviews kind of rub me wrong. Very degrading verbiage of lgbt individuals and judgmental spirit which I don’t deem godly at all. I’m ashamed of people on here hating on this woman for having tattoos. Get over yourselves. Everyone interprets the Bible and is guided by the Holy Spirit differently. One big turn off for me in becoming Catholic is your contradictory preaching and practice. You claim to be loving, respecting, welcoming. Yet, you are partial where Jesus was not. You bad mouth people who don’t fit your narratives. You discriminate against those who aren’t part of your club/church. They can’t receive communion or attend confession. I think the Catholic Church was founded on some great traditions and morals. But y’all are lacking. As an aspiring social worker and attending a faith-based program. The mission of Catholicism correlates largely with social work practice and values. But I’ve witnessed a lot of partially on this and various other channels. My tattoos represent what I am thankful (to God) for in my life. They also, as a professional, open the doorway to build rapport. For now, for clinical purposes. Hopefully one day, to serve God better. So, I think some of y’all need to practice what Jesus preached and stop belittling those who may do things differently than you.
@@thomasmcewen5493 Yea, I get the point you’re trying to make. But it’s a stretch. I get what the video is about and I can grasp thoughts via the comment thread here. Not only that, I have seen plenty of Matt’s videos. I’ve really enjoyed watching them but he’s been on an anti-lgbt avenue lately and I’m not down with it. I’m not down either with the turned up nose mentality and standards that some Catholics/churches uphold. Some who act as if they have it all together and the broken and disordered have to reach their bar of holy excellence. You know that lgbtq issues among the church are the top reason young people are not attending? Read up on it. Another thing, why is the church showing such partially when God says he doesn’t? One thing I’m struggling with is the idea to avoid fellowship with certain broken people. Yet, Jesus sat with the sinners. The sexually immoral, tax collectors, the disabled. The first shall be last and the last shall be first.”
I believe Abigail did her tattoo before becoming a Catholic Christian, not after. One time when my son was 18 he said he was going to have a tattoo done, My husband told him give me a good reason why you want mark your body, besides your friends did it or it looks cool. He Never did it or mentioned it again, he is 28 now.
In Egypt both male and female Coptic Christian babies get a small cross tatooed on the hand. This is an ancient practice. I had a co-worker who was married to an Egyptian Copt (Copts are either Catholic Alexandrian rite or Orthodox). He explained that in Egypt in the past Christian children were frequently taken by Muslims and that the cross tatoo was a way to identify them. The practice of tatooing male and female children marks them as the other in a Muslim majority country.
Basically, she's saying that masculinity and femininity are a result of being man or woman, not the other way around, which is where Pop culture has it wrong.
Wrong by intent and design to undermine society and weaken social cohesion.
Yep!!!
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I love this! especially the embodiment part. i did not feel typically feminine until after I had my first child. I didn't really bond with her in the womb and I was afraid that I wasn't nurturing enough, that I was too "cold." i didn't care about my appearance, etc. but after my daughter's birth, I found myself caring about the home, being more gentle, getting into cooking, and wearing makeup. it was wild and strange at first but now that I'm several years in and have my now son as well, I have embraced it and love it and find that my boldness and fiery nature are still there--just transmuted.
this conversation you two are having is so important! need to bring this to young women--teens, college-aged, and 20s.
I’m amazed to read the experiences of people like you! I never thought there were so many people like me out there. I’m glad this kind of conversation is being put out here. In today’s world, young girls and boys who don’t fit the feminine or masculine stereotype are in such grave danger. Thank you for sharing your experience. And for these guys for putting this out here.
I agree with your comment. I do however think that it is hilarious that many modern people think that wearing make-up is "feminine". Make-up was originally only worn by male actors and prostitutes to distinguish themselves from the rest of the world.
Before I had my 4 sons, I was WAY more “feminine” and I was worried that I was becoming too “masculine” because I genuinely don’t have the time to put on makeup or dress like a lady. I mean… in this stage in life, it’s just not practical. And I was concerned this meant I wasn’t “womanly” enough. But hearing this, I feel so much better. That I’m still feminine!! But it’s just different now.
I think there is, and always will be some mystery surrounding masculinity and femininity, in the same way we will never be able to fully comprehend the mystery of the trinity ( that the Father is not the Son, the Son is not the Father, and neither of them are the Holy Spirit, yet they are One). As a father, there is a kind of love I can give my son that my wife cannot, and there is a kind of love that my wife can give my son that I cannot. I think this is a mystery that we can't fully understand on this side of Heaven; there is nothing more masculine than a man being a father, and there is nothing more feminine than a woman being a mother. Fatherhood and motherhood are not restricted to the nuclear family, but The Church allows men to be spiritual fathers and women to be spiritual mothers. And we need more folks stepping into the roles God made them for, as fathers and mothers.
@@DM-ks1pj I agree we aren't called to be the epitome of those things. But he does call many of us to roles as mothers and fathers, or spiritual mothers and fathers.
There is no mystery around masculinity and femininity, the holy bible says no man with feminine ways will enter into the kingdom of god.😉
The bible says that God is the head pf christ and that christ is the head of the man and that man is the head of the woman period, if you understand life you will understand that this is a simple and unrefutable reality, and if you think this is up for debate you simply dont understand.
@@quonyoung1280 I agree with you. But you'll have to be more clear on what you mean in relation to my comment. I didn't write anything that contradicts your statement.
@@quonyoung1280 No mystery in masculinity or femininity? Are you married dude? Hahah. My wife is a mystery to me.
I think you're misunderstanding what I am saying. But I wish you well. God bless!
I'll try to give my simple and not so elegant answer to the question as a 31 year old Catholic woman who is still a Tomboy (but with age it has all toned down a bit lol). I'll try to keep this short. I grew up as an only girl around boys and men, so you can imagine I played football, basketball, tennis and ran track and I was really good at all of them. Drove bikes like a crazy person and all those rough activities. My best friends up until high school were boys.. Then I went to an all girls boarding school.. Lol such a drastic change. Anyway, in my deliberate walk with God and desire for holiness, and learning more about the church, her teachings and the lives of saints, I've learnt 2 things that answer this question and I hope anyone having this same delimma or question can learn from.
1. If you walk with God and in the teachings of the church, the Holy spirit will transform your heart in ways you didn't think possible and answer your questions, quell your doubts and give you peace in the midst of the noise of the world.
2. My personality and all the "Tomboy traits" are all from God. And this personality is how he wants me to glorify him in my state of Life in this moment in time. God knows all of me, and loves all of me totally and thoroughly. This has allowed me to show up each day and occupy space everywhere in and out of work, with confidence and with love because I know my Father loves me dearly.
All your quirks are known by the Father and he loves them and loves you and wills that you use them all for his glory and the good of your neighbour. There's no one like you in the world. No one can glorify God the exact same way you would with your gifts and awesome personality 😁
So, honestly just walk with God in truth (and when you fall, get back right up) and he will answer your questions, change your heart, give you clarity. And please and please, let yourself be loved by the Father... The validation and confidence it gives, the way your heart will burst with love, words won't be able to describe.
I keep thinking if I grew up in the world today, I would have been told to transition to a boy, or some other nonsense.
Sorry this was longer than planned. 😁 God bless you.
An articulate lady who explains the subject well
Such a beautiful, thoughtful, down-to-earth and relatable explanation. Should be shared everywhere!
Excellent exposition. I like that we cannot describe feminine and masculine simply as a list of traits but that both have all the traits but express them in different embodied ways which ate complementary and not in opposition to each other. I love your book, "Into the Deep". It is a real gutsy description of conversion and grappling with God. Keep up the good work
Fr. Paul Burchat
Amazing, thankyou 😊
I have a lot of what modern western culture often deem both masculine and feminine and have often been confused because of it. At school when the subconcious pressure for boys to be "hard" and don't care about each other I didnt care and fought toward the polar opposite. At the same time when I need to I can be tough as a nail and press through crises and be strong for everyone else etch. I also embody some of the stereotypes when I sense thats what another person need at that time.
I love both drawing and woodworking, I love learning mechanics and love going around smelling flowers slowly, I love reading both romance novels and wilderness survival books, I love studying both academic philosophy and art history, I love singing and dancing and I love programming, hobby chemistry and electronics, I love baking cakes and I love hitting the gym lifting weights, I love cars and I love animals.
I have stopped trying to fit into any cultural stereotypes of what a man should be anymore, I only care to become more like Jesus now. And reading through the gospels its clear to me he is both one of the most emotional and long suffering men in history, but also the strongest and bravest man that have ever and will ever live.
He fought through life with such passion because the fire that burned within him were love, true love. Not the sad echo of what contemporary culture often deem love to be, but the love that says "I burn for your wellbeing, I would go through fire, water, torture and death for you to be with me". Thats love.
Abigail, your answers are SO refreshing. Intelligent, REAL, cohesive. Not confusing, unsure. You were given gifts and thank you for using them to tell the world about real beauty. I will sen this to my niece who I believe is going to listen this with intention and not taping out because it is not fluff. Pax Christi!
I loved this video! The guest was so articulate! Thank you.
I have felt frustrations with folks that I talk to who almost militantly seem to judge and sort the people they meet into categories “masculine”, “not masculine enough”, “feminine”, and “not feminine enough” and it’s so very toxic. I’ve recently been listening to and reading testimonies from trans people detransitionjng and what comes up over and over is one of two things: 1) sexual harassment or assault as a child or tween or 2) being repeatedly told that they weren’t enough in terms of their masculinity or femininity.
It’s just so cruel (and such a lie straight from Hell) so suggest that any person isn’t enough or good as God created them.
Wasn’t it Catherine of Sienna who said something to the effect of “be who God created you to be and you will set the world on fire”?
The icon analogy is wonderful! Thank you!
Yes!!! Would love more content like this!! I think that a potential root for a lot of the gender and sexuality confusion in the world might be that ppl often feel like they don't fit the stereotype of perfect masculinity or femininity, like small guys with the "gay" voice or girls that don't like babies or dressing up. (Things they can't really change). Because they feel that they can't live up to that standard they reject all of it. of course I'm sure it's often far more complex than that but it might be a factor
I think you're on to something here. Today's culture is one in which it's all or nothing; ..and along with that, if you have a different perspective or idea, that you are totally against the one that differs from you on that, or worse, they will assume that you HATE them!?.
These dynamics are so polarizing!
I think this is a really balanced way at looking at gender. I've always been really intrigued at St. Thomas describing gender as an "inseparable accident" and that it is a difference that stems primarily from the body rather than the soul. I feel that there is a large temptation, as Catholics, to try to draw bigger distinctions out of gender than there really are, and try to say there must be differences in male and female souls (no doubt that the body interacts with the soul to make it more masculine or feminine, but that is an aside). Thinking of gender as an inseparable accident that stems primarily of the body seems to suggest that the nature of male or female is not a formal difference with categorical boundaries (e.g. rationality). But it is a real manifested difference in the body that is "inseparable", so it is of much greater significance than any other accident (hair color, skin color, muscle mass), and is not just random based on genetics. That's why I think the idea of a bell curve, as Dr. Favale seems to draw out, is helpful. Gender does not draw a strict formal difference, but an aggregate set of differences between men and women that come with different lower and higher boundaries.
I also think this is interesting because it is really easy to see how something like this can be misunderstood and be identified as a gender spectrum. That's why its really important that we ascribe masculine to simply things that a man does, and that a man is an unchanging definition according to his body. Otherwise, we fall into the modernist understanding.
Well if the body is the expression of the soul, and the soul is the form of the body, it makes sense that the souls of men and women might be in some way different.
@@cauchydistributed161 yes there are differences on an average when comparing the two genders
But they're not to say any trait belongs to the other gender averagely therefore if you show a trait particular to the other gender that you suddenly belong to the other gender
She described it well. I'm such a New York Jew, I see nothing wrong with hunting and cigars and whatnot, but it's not my thing -- I'm more into soup, bagels, lap swimming, and chess. My masculinity as God designed it and how it's applied in my marital vocation isn't compromised.
I love this! I’m a crazy mama bear, but I’m still afraid of talking to children and I don’t automatically connect to them. I love my children, but I need to work at being motherly or loving to other children.
Same
Women are made to exemplify beauty in the spiritual sense, remembering that all things are signs of the spiritual but only disguised in the secular as physical. A perfect example is that ex transgender man who is actually a woman on Matt Walshes documentary "what is a woman. When I watched that doco, the way she spoke so passionately, authentically and the actual way she carried herself in that interview, made my heart fall in love with her amazing beauty that I could only perceive in a womanly manor. Women make the world a beautiful place to live.
And men are made to be powerful/strong, remembering that to be strong is to be a rock of mastery in service of others in doing better what nobody else can. And can be manifested in infinite ways just as the men who obtain mastery of the many skills in life, dominate those measurable utilities for the sake of serving the many. Men dominate the world for the sake of propagating goodness and service to all.
These are the right manifestations and the right order of use.
This was really beautiful. Sometimes when people start talking about gender online the comments I tend to see from men can be really off putting. But this is so beautifully appreciative and respectful to the importance and dignity of both roles. Really beautifully said.
As a woman often in what have been described as "male" roles with typically "male" interests, I appreciate this answer. I loved when my physical education teacher said "many of the most feminine women are athletes." I was the only girl in my HS chemistry class and on the chess team (my brothers taught me how to play). I used what I experienced growing up while teaching my own students, especially the girls, who would ask, "Ms. Deborah, is there anything you haven't done?"
I think when it comes to women it’s more about the attitude than anything else. Things have to be developed if you want certain results that require a change. Same for men
I LOVE THIS. That was a very deep, yet approachable way of expressing this dynamic. I have been aware for some time, that we are all a kind of mixed bag of things that have been labeled as traditionally 'masculine' or feminine', and that's OK. After all, Genesis said "In His image He created them; male and female He created them". This seems to me to suggest that all of what is female and male is also a part of who God is; and who are we to say how these are to be distributed to His Creatures?
I had a [male] friend whom I liked to watch hockey games with, who also shared an appreciation for figure skating. We watched our favorite women and pairs skate for our country in the Olympics [but neither cared for the men singles skating.. ahem]. The point is, while we liked the display of masculinity on the ice displayed by our Detroit Red Wings, we didn't feel ashamed to show that we also appreciated the gracefulness of that other ice sport; it was an unspoken rule, of sorts.
I also like how Abby said, "We all are nurturing, we all are protective, we all are supportive; it's just that we do these in different ways". And, the order of Humanity-to masculine/feminine-to individual. That was a very clear and delineative way of expressing that dynamic. You know, I have some things in common with this gal; and isn't that wonderful? -----Bless you, Abigail!!
I can relate with the not being gentle. I pray about it and I consciously try.
The best take away was talking about the "virtues" that needed to be nurtured or cultivated.
I'm of the opinion that there are concepts of masculine and feminine that exists outside of the man and the woman. I think that we as a society have more of a duty to conform and adhere to those more traditional, and might I argue natural law, masculine and feminine traits. Being feminine cannot just be whatever a person with a female body and what a man with a male body happens to be doing. Maybe I'm mischaracterising her argument, I hope not. To me it sounds as if she is trying to subjectivize gender. I feel that there is obviously some gray area in there. But there's a reason that when you see a man who is emotional, nurturing, avoidant of difficult things, etc... you would say they are feminine. And there's also a reason that when you see a typical "tomboy" girl or woman they are perceived as more masculine. Not that neither sex/gender can't or shouldn't have any qualities of the other, but certainly we should be able to say that it is natural and proper for certain traits to pertain to one or thr other of the genders. I guess if I were to boil it down I'd say that gender and the traits of masculinity or femininity are more objective than what she seems to think. But I've been wrong before I guess.
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I love babies and small children. My problem was being shy around men especially when they might express an interest in me. They could play games with me, but the sexual games would make them act differently around me.
You should not be playing a sexual “game” with a man who is not your husband.
A little less buttoned-down than the EWTN interview. Much enjoyed.
This is deeply moving, inspiring, and hopeful...
Archetypes are key here, and what state each of an individuals archetypes are in.
If we don’t have a society with a healthy soil for our archetypes seeds to grow in, they might stay small, or suffer, or grow a bit off if they are overshadowed by bigger ones around.
It can all resolve, but we need consciousness and dedication to nurture and develop healthy archetypes. Both men and women have an inner child, a teenager, a lover, a nurturer, a regal, a wise one, a priest/priestess😉 (and more).
Beyond that…what is your true nature? Are you more introvert than extrovert (yes we are both, but with different tipping points⚖️). Do you love flower dresses or a more urban chic jeans. Many expressions of the feminine, but it starts inside.
This is such an important question and definition to address and explain, especially in this confused day and age. I grew up as what used to be called a “Tom boy”, but: *The things I am interested in do not define my femininity* 💜 Love this! Thank you
Now girls who are “tomboys” are being told they’re trans men. And these people call themselves enlightened and say we are the sexist bigots. But God’s natural order for the sexes is actually the only true liberation from sexist stereotypes and “gender confusion”
I could’ve sent that question easily. This is my struggle. I’m a mother but I’m not a regular nurturing mother. I relate to my daughter like a dad would if that makes any sense.
She is so smart.
Please consider looking up Carol Tuttle. She describes in one of her books, a reason why some men have a more ‘soft’ personality, women ‘manly’ personalities. ☯️
Great discussion.
This was great and beautiful
Love, both women and men are nurturing in their own way!!! Love it, practice virtues!!
It was nice to hear another woman say that she was afraid of children before she had her own. I assumed I was the only one like that !
Great talk!! Great insight!
It's always funny when my sister says I don't like children, just my own. Lol And she is a very caring and nurturing mother to all 3.
Ugh. "Theology of the Body". TOO MANY CATHOLIC SPEAKERS talk about it-- WITHOUT HAVING READ THE POPE'S WORK which is NOTHING like they are preaching. It's long, full of the Holy Spirit, and breaks worldly expectations. They NEED to read it first before teaching it. SHE has read it. I thank her for reading it.
Matt,
My mom did not relate to the archetypal epitome of feminism and she didn’t even want kids initially, however; in good Catholic standing she was open to children. I’m number six of seven children and she let herself be guided by the Holy Spirit.
Also if you ever want to interview her, I’d be happy to put you in touch. She is so wonderful.
Thanks!
I partially take the point. But I think it has to be the case if you are talking about femininity not to divorce any given trait from VIRTUE. I can't help but imaging a woman in one of these modern action films punching a bunch of stuntmen to the implied ludicrous assertion "I'm so feminine." Now, it would be virtuous for a woman to take on some role that would be better served by a man (such as a physical role) if necessary, like a mother bear would. In this case, you would say "that is a wonderful woman," and you'd be right. But you must not discard the reality that some pursuits that would be virtuous for a man might be less so for a woman, and vice versa, because the sexes are different and that's the way God intended it.
@@theologyofthebody8383 Fax 💀
I am nurturing, but I nurture animals, with no desire to be married nor have babies. I like men's work too. And a lot of the best doll artists are men, and though I improve at that hobby skill, I may or may not get to their level. I believe we are all just individuals.
Nurturing is both an act and a mode of being.
Before the modern age a woman was needed to help nurse a baby. No man could do that.
So there is a general requirement in the biology of a woman that whether they like it or not they be nurturing, or act in a nurturing way.
Not too excuse distant father's here just addressing the biological nature of woman creates some imperative in marriage anyways.
I just see it, if the man is more feminine than the woman, something ain't right.
why do real women think they need tattoos? there is nothing winsome or lovely about inked skin. I will say it and maybe someone will think twice before marring themselves.
What does it even mean for a man to be "more feminine than the woman?"
@@MrTheclevercat I know what those words mean in isolation, but I don't know what it means for a man to be "more feminine than a woman" or how that would even be possible.
@@marymcreynolds9171 Because of the media and fashion industry glamorising masculinity in women for so many decades now. This is why women's sexuality, specifically, has become masculinised over the last 50 years also. In short, it's a result of social engineering.
As a Catholic convert with a similar background as Favale, I found this comment incredibly unhelpful and a bit mean-spirited. I sent a link of this video to a sweet young woman and good friend of mine who has been raised Catholic by devout parents but is struggling with SSA and gender confusion, and it makes me angry to think she's gonna be reading comments like yours under a channel called "Catholic Femininity." Also as a girl who was bullied as a kid/teen and called a dude as an insult for having a long chin/jawline and big hands and feet, comments like yours bring up painful memories and further cement the idea that girls/women who don't present as typically feminine either by way of their appearance, interests, or personality are not actually women -or, in your own words, "something ain't right." 😤 I encourage you to delete this comment and do some thinking on the virtue of charity and how best to lead others to Jesus cause... This ain't it, girl.
She’s rad. I dig her story. I’d love to take a class!
Every woman is a real woman.
Jordan Peterson is really good on this topic of masculinity vs femininity.
“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28. Be who God made you to be, and fully utilize all of your talents, abilities, emotions and charisms to benefit others in the name of Jesus Christ. Be true to who you are and how God created you.
Dude the quote means that God is not partial and that anyone can be part of the body of Christ. You’re using it out of context.
@@markie0320 Exactly my point. It doesn’t matter if you’re a male with some traditional “female” characteristics or a female with some traditional “male “ traits. Those who accept Christ as lord and savior are united as one in the family of God. As you say, anyone who accepts salvation through the grace of Jesus is in the body of Christ. Both male and female qualities can be equally utilized in the service of Christ.
@@johnclark1371 define traditional male/female characteristics.
@@jgappy5643 There are many studies that looked at personality trait differences between men and women. One of the largest was in 2001, which included 23,000 men and women from 26 cultures around the globe (Costa, McCrae, Terracciano). The results show that women score higher on Agreeableness and Neuroticism, and one factor of Openness to Experience, while men scored higher on Extraversion, Disagreeableness, and separate factors of Openness to Experiences such as risk taking. The researchers translate this into more commonly used jargon stating that women are more aware of emotions, are friendlier, are more nurturing and more anxious, while men are more assertive, open to new challenges with higher risks, and have higher levels of aggressive behavior. Subsequent academic, peer reviewed studies have replicated these results over the last 20 years. As I said in my comment, these are generalized and not specific to any individual man or women. Nor does it address how much is nature and how much is nurture. But the differences have been apparent and consistent throughout large populations.
Right on
Cultivate gentleness 💗💗
I was useless with children before I had children, now I'm pretty much useless with kids who aren't my kids age, because I completely forget how to talk to them once my kids leave that stage. Yet I LOVE my kids and get along great with them.
Your reaction to other kids proves nothing.
St Joseph is carrying lilies
I mean no disrespect and I don't mean to sound like a creeper, but when I see Dr. Abigail, I see the Blessed Mother Mary in her. Not necessarily in her physical appearance, but in her countenance. We often see accounts of Mary as this weeping widow wringing her hands and sobbing at the feet of Jesus. That's not what I see at all with Mother Mary, Queen of Heaven. She was strong when she needed to be, and was probably a source of comfort and strength for the Apostles. It's not uncommon for a devout believer to have the light of Christ within them. I see that with Dr. Abigail, but there's ample evidence that the Blessed Mother Mary is working through this one - watch her!I see a future saint in the making. Bless you Dr. Abigail for all you do for the kingdom of heaven!
No
I love her!
Who is the LORD and who is his anointed one according to this prayer from Peter?
Acts 4: 25 You spoke by the Holy Spirit through the mouth of your servant, our father David:
“‘Why do the nations rage
and the peoples plot in vain?
26 The kings of the earth rise up
and the rulers band together
against - THE LORD -
and against HIS - ANOINTED ONE -.
27 Indeed Herod and Pontius Pilate met together with the Gentiles and the people of Israel in this city to conspire against YOUR HOLY SERVANT JESUS, whom YOU ANOINTED
_ JEHOVAH & His son Jesus.
Tomboys can be really sexy….my wife is super athletic & in a male dominated career but says being a Mom is her greatest joy.
“tomboys can really be sexy” Thank you, sir 😃
We live life out of the body we have been given. If we were born without sight we should not Demand the military swear us in to serve, etc...
What will our masculinity and femininity look like in heaven? How does our completeness or wholeness look? Am I asking this question in the right way? Lol.
WHAT!? 😂😂😂😂. Sometimes you just gotta laugh at the foolishness
Love.
Spartan women were feminine.
John 14:6 - King James Version
6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
Romans 1:16 - King James Version
16 For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek. (The Letter of Paul to the Romans)
Romans 5:18 - King James Version
18 Therefore as by the offence of one judgment came upon all men to condemnation; even so by the righteousness of one the free gift came upon all men unto justification of life. (offence of one - Adam's one trespass, one sin, led to the condemnation of all men - the righteousness act of one was Jesus' death on the cross to pay for human sin)
Salvation is not getting your sins forgiven, it's believing they already are!
We are all sinners and fall short in God his glory - how to be saved - this is the gospel of salvation - 1 Corinthians chapter 15 verses 1-4 by trusting and believing the gospel of salvation you are saved and sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise till the day of redemption and nothing can pluck you out of the Father his hand - (In whom we have redemption through his blood , even the forgiveness of sins: (Colossians 1:14 - King James Version) - eternal security is a free gift - it's a promise and God Almighty cannot lie!!! Have a blessed day!
This is the gospel of salvation - 1 Corinthians chapter 15 verses 1-4
Witnesses of Christ's resurrection. 1) Moreover,brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; 2) ''By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. 3) For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 4) And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures.
IT IS FINISHED... Paid in Full !!! But, You Must BELIEVE IT - 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 KJV.
2 Timothy 2:15 - King James Version
15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
Romans 2:16 - King James Version
16 In the day when God shall judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ according to my gospel. (Paul's Gospel - 1 Corinthians chapter 15 verses 1-4).
KJV - Bible verses about Jesus is God
John 1:1 - In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
John 1:14 - And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.
John 10:30 - I and my Father are one.
Isaiah 9:6 - For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.
John 20:28 - And Thomas answered and said unto him, My Lord and my God.
John 8:58 - Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Before Abraham was, I am.
G - GRACE
R - RIGHTLY
A - APPLIED
C - CHANGES
E - EVERYTHING
Religion is always dealing with you and what you're doing and what you're not doing,
anytime you're sitting around thinking what should I be doing you're under religion,
the grace of God is dealing what Christ did.
Under religion man always says look what I'm doing for you God and under grace Christ says look what I did for you man.
Under religion man says look how I went to church under the grace of God Jesus said look how I went to Calvary.
Under religion man says look at how I was raised in my denomination and under grace Christ says look how I was raised from the dead.
Under religion man says look at how I gave my money and under grace Jesus says look at how I gave my life.
Under religion man says look God at how I confessed my sins and under grace Jesus says look man how I took away your sins.
Under religion man says look God at how I stood up against sin and under the grace of God Jesus says look man at how I died for your sins.
Under religion man says look God at how I judged the lost world and under grace Jesus says look man at how I saved the lost world.
Under religion man says look God at how I got up and marched against these evildoers and under grace Jesus says look man how I suffered and died for evildoers.
Under religion man says look God at how I bow down to you and under grace Jesus says look man and how I became one of you.
Under religion man says look God at how I healed the sick and under grace Jesus says look man how I raised the dead.
Under religion man says look God at how I spoke in tongues and under grace Jesus says look man at how I spoke in life.
Under religion man says look God at how successful my life was and under grace Jesus says looked me at how successful my death was.
Religions my friends is always man trying to reach up to God with self effort to be accepted by God.
Through classic Christianity was God reaching down to man through Jesus with love and acceptance and that's why Paul said we preach Christ and Christ crucified a stumbling block to the Jews foolishness to the Gentiles but to those whom God has called both Jews and Gentile Christ the power of God and wisdom.
Source ''Truth Time Radio''.
Like many "Christians" today, Satan believes Jesus died on the cross, but not for HIS sins. He believes Jesus has risen, but not for HIS eternal life.
Satan believes the event of the cross but never put his trust in Christ's finished work for salvation.
Salvation is not: Believing there is a God. (Satan believes that)
Salvation is not: Believing Christ was the Messiah. (Satan believes that)
Salvation is not even... Believing Christ died, was buried and rose the third day. (Satan believes that also)
Salvation is: Believing Christ died for YOUR EVERY SIN and trusting that He rose to give you eternal life IN HIM!
Something Satan and most Christians want no part of because of their PRIDE!
If denominationalists truly believed Christ forgave their sins, they wouldn't spend so much time trying to GET them forgiven.
One tells you to pray for forgiveness.
One tells you to confess for forgiveness.
One tells you to believe for forgiveness.
One tells you to repent for forgiveness.
One tells you to be baptized for forgiveness.
And keep in mind, all of these folk with a straight face will tell you Christ DIED for your sins. Welcome to Nutsville!!! I think Dorothy got lost on the yellow brick road.
Today I unapologetically proclaim that there is only one way to be saved, and it has nothing to do with getting your sins forgiven. Salvations through FAITH. (Ephesians 2:8-9) Without faith it is impossible to please God.
Salvation comes to those who are ready to give up on THEIR performance and rest their faith in JESUS' performance.
The path to salvation is narrow. SO narrow that nothing you do will fit.
Satan will never be saved for the same reason he was kicked out of heaven. P-R-I-D-E. (Isaiah 14:12-14)
Read carefully and count how many times he says "I".
How art thou fallen from heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning! how art thou cut down to the ground, which didst weaken the nations! For thou hast said in thine heart, I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north: I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the most High.
Satan is obviously a Narcissist!
Like a vain person in front of the mirror, five times in only three verses he boasts of himself. Pride keeps Satan from being saved as it does most of the world. They have fallen victim to SELFIANITY and are incapable of letting go and letting God. Incapable of taking their filthy hands off their salvation and allowing God to save them by HIS finished work!
If you say --- "I said a prayer for forgiveness." "I confessed for forgiveness." "I believed for forgiveness." "I repented for forgiveness." "I was baptized for forgiveness."
Then sadly you have fallen for the five I's just like Satan.
Salvation is not getting your sins forgiven, it's believing they already ARE!
To be saved, you must first get "I" out of the way.
You only get two educations, the one you're given and the one you give yourself!
Source ''Truth Time Radio'' for solid teaching/rightly dividing the word of truth - also here on youtube - learn the truth and unlearn the lies!
Here is a list of statements that a legalist might say or think.
1. God's love for me depends on what I do.
2. Meeting the expectations of others, especially those in my congregation or in positions of authority, is very important.
3. I try hard to obey God and it irritates me that others think they can get away with avoiding the same level of dedication.
4. My main goal in life is to try to gain God's favor by doing things that will impress him.
5. My sense of spiritual well-being is linked to a Christian leader or membership in my church rather than a personal relationship with God.
6. I tell my children not to do something in church or around other Christian families that I allow in my home.
7. I believe my way is the best way and that most other Christians may be sincere, but are sincerely wrong.
8. I sometimes worry that people might take advantage of grace if it's preached too much - people might think they can do anything they want.
9. After being around Christians for a while I feel drained - weary of putting up a false front.
10. It’s not possible that someone with lower standards than me could love God as much as me.
So ... what is a woman?
This tattoed lady is actually a professor, how sad. She talks in circles, using "like" constantly like a superannuated teenager and is clearly like Fradd, a Modernist. Normal, natural women and men know who and what they are innately: the law of God is written on the heart.
Nicely said, but what 'bout tattoos on her arm or even both arms? Is that how real woman should look too?
We all make mistakes, I was raised traditional Catholic lost my way and I have 14 tattoos God doesn't care we all have sinned. I don't get them any more and have returned to practicing my Faith.
agree, it's not feminine, very masculine and attention seeking
@@gwenewing6837 so just dismiss all the people that made mistakes huh?? Real Judgemental
A real woman is not based on her looks so much as how she treats others, how she expresses her femininity in the way God intends. A tattoo is neither masculine nor feminine, everyone is a child of God and we shouldn't judge someone based on their tattoos.
@@bobaphat3676 Thank you for this☺️spot on
I'm afraid I still don't get it. It seems like she is saying that masculinity and femininity are subjective virtues of a man or of a woman. So when one says "wow, she is really feminine", does that just mean "she is virtuous"? If that's the case, those terms don't really have meaning. I'm kinda lost here...
She’s saying we practice our gender in a similar way that we practice virtue
She means being a man or a woman and living as a man or women defines masculinity or femininity
The Way of Men by Jack Donovan defines masculinity way better than this.
A book about masculinity defines masculinity better than a video about femininity does? Revelatory.
@@intotheriver9 I believe they changed the title.
This isn't a MGTOW channel. And the definition of masculinity by a gay biker probably doesn't touch in anything Catholic nor virtuous.
@@eucharistenjoyer you Catholics are a snarky bunch.
@@baw5xc333 ;)
Funny, I actually wrote a eulogy for my grandfather themed around Donovan's Strength-Courage-Mastery-Honor paradigm, which I still think has some merit. Though that was two or three years prior to my conversion.
she is talking a lot but she isn't saying anything. not really. she is clearly a feminist. christian feminist, both male and female, have done great damage to the church and christianity.
true masculinity comes in many forms - take Fr Michal Judge who was an openly gay priest who was the first to die at the foot of the North Tower on 9/11/2001 when he went to help others.....he was gay, catholic and a hero(masculine at that).
That’s completely wrong. Someone who publicly dissents from what they know to be Church teaching is a notorious heretic who by that fact alone loses membership in the Church if they ever had it (see Mystici Corporis, Satis Cognito, Eius Exemplo, Cantate Domino, the early Fathers, etc). Unity in the Church involves by its very nature one Faith and one Baptism. Someone who dies outside the Church cannot in any way be saved, as Pope Eugene IV dogmatically proclaimed in the twelfth paragraph of the Bull of Union with the Copts (also known as Cantate Domino). In light of this your statement that he was Catholic is heretical. It is also a Dogma that sodomy is a mortal sin which bars one from the state of justification or state of Grace. I cannot affirm that Judge was not saved since I don’t know his heart or intentions, it is also not known with certainty whether he was in fact a sodomite or if he was whether he repented. However one is not permitted to publicly praise a deceased individual who is not only notorious for possibly committing a mortal sin obstinately but who also attempted to justify this particular sin and thereby defy the Authority of the Scriptures and the Church, and ultimately of God Himself. That is disgraceful. Many Church authorities, including Saint Popes Gregory I and Gregory II, Saint Thomas Aquinas and Saint Francis Xavier taught that one is not permitted to even pray for people who die as obstinate unbelievers or in a notorious state of mortal sin. One is not permitted to judge Judge’s eternal destiny as that is reserved for God, but one has to go by what is public fact. In light of this you should not go around giving the impression that as long as one performs certain courageous or virtuous acts he or she can deny the faith, commit public mortal sins, and still be praised as a Catholic hero. I advise you to retract your public statement.
@@gabrielciccufalconlins4219 wow…I can’t believe you actually believe what you just wrote….you are missing the whole point of being a Christian / Catholic….yiu know all the man made laws but your heart is cold..
@@markpatrick5246 Did you just claim that the Scriptures and Apostolic Tradition are man-made? How can you claim to be a Christian when you say that God’s word is man-made? That’s blasphemy. Also, if I said something false point it out specifically and rationally instead of putting on this emotional facade which I don’t think is fooling anyone. As for how I believe in this, I follow what the Scriptures and Tradition teach while you clearly follow a modernist sentimentalist version of “Christianity”. I didn’t make up any of this, while you can’t cite a single passage in Scripture or the teaching of any Saint to support your position, which demonstrates quite clearly who’s actually spreading heretical man-made doctrine.
P.S:
On a final note, do you also condemn Gregory I, Gregory II, Thomas Aquinas, Francis Xavier, Innocent III, Eugene IV, Leo XIII, Pius XII, many early Church Fathers, etc who held these positions?
@@gabrielciccufalconlins4219 so you believe if an old man picks up sticks on the sabbath, he should be stoned to death?if you are such a avid Bible reader I’m sure you know this story and would be interested in knowing why old men who pick up sticks on the sabbath shouldn’t be stoned
Excuse me...but being an openly gay Priest is not a good thing. What he did was very commendable and may his soul rest in peace. But don't lecture us that because he sacrificed his life for others, therefore his "openly gay Priesthood" was right or justified.
Tattoos: not very attractive on women.
I’ll be honest. I haven’t watched the video. Just browsed through the comments. Matt’s interviews kind of rub me wrong. Very degrading verbiage of lgbt individuals and judgmental spirit which I don’t deem godly at all.
I’m ashamed of people on here hating on this woman for having tattoos. Get over yourselves.
Everyone interprets the Bible and is guided by the Holy Spirit differently. One big turn off for me in becoming Catholic is your contradictory preaching and practice.
You claim to be loving, respecting, welcoming. Yet, you are partial where Jesus was not. You bad mouth people who don’t fit your narratives. You discriminate against those who aren’t part of your club/church. They can’t receive communion or attend confession.
I think the Catholic Church was founded on some great traditions and morals.
But y’all are lacking.
As an aspiring social worker and attending a faith-based program. The mission of Catholicism correlates largely with social work practice and values. But I’ve witnessed a lot of partially on this and various other channels.
My tattoos represent what I am thankful (to God) for in my life. They also, as a professional, open the doorway to build rapport. For now, for clinical purposes. Hopefully one day, to serve God better.
So, I think some of y’all need to practice what Jesus preached and stop belittling those who may do things differently than you.
You "I don't like Star Wars"
Answer, "But you never watched it"
You. "What does that have to do with it"
@@thomasmcewen5493 Yea, I get the point you’re trying to make. But it’s a stretch. I get what the video is about and I can grasp thoughts via the comment thread here. Not only that, I have seen plenty of Matt’s videos.
I’ve really enjoyed watching them but he’s been on an anti-lgbt avenue lately and I’m not down with it.
I’m not down either with the turned up nose mentality and standards that some Catholics/churches uphold. Some who act as if they have it all together and the broken and disordered have to reach their bar of holy excellence.
You know that lgbtq issues among the church are the top reason young people are not attending? Read up on it.
Another thing, why is the church showing such partially when God says he doesn’t?
One thing I’m struggling with is the idea to avoid fellowship with certain broken people. Yet, Jesus sat with the sinners. The sexually immoral, tax collectors, the disabled. The first shall be last and the last shall be first.”
tattoos are masculine
Tattoos are stupid on male or female
Tattoos are art. So the design can be masculine or feminine depending on what the artist chooses to create.
I believe Abigail did her tattoo before becoming a Catholic Christian, not after.
One time when my son was 18 he said he was going to have a tattoo done, My husband told him give me a good reason why you want mark your body, besides your friends did it or it looks cool. He Never did it or mentioned it again, he is 28 now.
Are you a convert?
In Egypt both male and female Coptic Christian babies get a small cross tatooed on the hand. This is an ancient practice. I had a co-worker who was married to an Egyptian Copt (Copts are either Catholic Alexandrian rite or Orthodox). He explained that in Egypt in the past Christian children were frequently taken by Muslims and that the cross tatoo was a way to identify them. The practice of tatooing male and female children marks them as the other in a Muslim majority country.
Classic
By the way, REAL, SINCERE women do NOT TATTOO their bodies!!!