A Catholic Guide to Sex and Intimacy (feat. Dr. Edward and Beth Sri)
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"Marriage is what brings us together, today."
Today, Dr. Edward Sri and his wife Beth share some insights from their own marriage and St. John Paul II's wisdom on how to adopt a uniquely Catholic approach to intimacy in the sexual embrace.
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Can't wait to get married and experience the phrase 'and the two shall become one'.. I am saving myself for marriage and praying that God will send send me a good catholic lady. ❤
Praying for you! How beautiful. I love this.
I did this and God blessed me with a God fearing soon to be husband, I know he will do the same with you as no effort goes unseen by our Lord ❤
I can't express how nice it was to hear a Catholic couple talk a little about how sex works within a marriage.
I am so happy to listen to this couple. I am so happy there are such couples. My marriage of nearly 30 years is a mess and I have had enough of trying to save it. But, despite my daily misery, I find happiness in knowing that other couples share their love and their lives and live their married life in a good way. I am so happy for such people. They are blessed and a blessing on society.
Look into Retrouvaille, check with your local parish.
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were abused but it doesnt happen to everyone that was abused. Those that choose to live like Eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex but opposite in gender. Notice, God prefers for people to be in LGBT relationships. Male or female is determined by gender located in the brain. Billy Graham translated the bible wrong.
Rapture is when God's true people shine like the sun right here on earth. It is not what most people think. Malachi 4:2-4. Read it. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6. Anyone selling anything using the gospel or teaching the LIE of monetary tithing won't make it. Same sex marriage is not a sin. God prefers it. Male or female is determined by gender located in the brain. *
Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. That means everyone has their own choice to make.
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Stay hopeful brother, God bless!
@@serviamstudios thank you
@@serviamstudios thank you
A discussion on wife needing that intimate physical connection more so than her husband would be amazing!
Yes.
The way they listen to each other not just with their ears but with their hearts is amazing. I love the authenticity and transparency of their sharing.
You can just tell the way they look at each other when one is sharing that there is deep, committed love here.
Such a tremendous blessing, they are.
I was thinking the same thing
So true and I don't think they had any idea they were on camera either.
Thanks to Dr. Sri and his wife for the courage to espouse this very sensitive topic of sex and marriage. I struggled early on in my marriage due to the hypersexualized culture treating women as sex objects for my own pleasure and gratification. The Blessed Mother saved my marriage 15 years ago during my trip to Medjugorje where I had a deep conversion experience. I have learned the importance of practicing the virtue of chastity in marriage. I have been to be open to life during sexual intimacy to love my wife totally and faithfully. The sexual act is a renewal of the wedding vow to commit to each other for life. I am a big fan of the Theology of the Body by Pope Saint John Paul II.
This video should be viewed by couples taking the marriage preparation course. A MUST !
I love how joyous they are
I know this is Adult content but a lot of married couples need to hear this
One hopes that married couples are adults.
How many married people do you know that aren’t adults⸮
Are you that uncomfortable with sex that a nervous couple alluding to it through euphemism is scandalous to you?
For women, even after years of marriage there’s always that fear in the back of your mind that things will turn ugly
Mathew 19:12 Eunuchs that are born that way are transgender. Eunuchs made that way by others were abused but it doesnt happen to everyone that was abused. Those that choose to live like Eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven are bisexual people that choose partners of the same sex but opposite in gender. Notice, God prefers for people to be in LGBT relationships.
Rapture is when God's true people shine like the sun right here on earth. It is not what most people think. Malachi 4:2-4. Read it. I am Elijah of Malachi 4:5-6. Anyone selling anything using the gospel or teaching the LIE of monetary tithing won't make it. Same sex marriage is not a sin. God prefers it. Male or female is determined by gender located in the brain. *
Acts 3:22-23 says it will come to pass that anyone that fails to listen to me will be utterly destroyed from among the people. That means everyone has their own choice to make.
*******..*.....**
One thing I think alot of us suffer wit, is when communication breaks down and counseling is sometimes well overdue. It was a Catholic counselor that save our marriage when our children had flown the nest.
In the 1990's, we didn't know each other anymore. This year we celebrated 47years of marriage. I thank God everyday for my marriage and it's blessing! God love you all.
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Last night I watched the Mr.s' video on the Rosary, and I applied it before going to work this morning. Thanks a ton man, I really appreciated the notion of the speed bump! Seeing you with your wife here, or really warmed my heart, God bless you and yours!
Such a joyful and wise couple. Thank you for your witness!
Keep up the teaching of our bodies and how to see them through the lense of faith🙏🏽
Thank you. I hope and pray you do more video's on marriage, raising holy kids, how you would face struggles etc. This was so amazing and very informative. Thank you, God bless
This couple is GREAT. I'm watching this whole series. And I love love the Theology of the Body
#AskAscension please do videos on how to express love to your spouse, what to do when your spouse doesn't want to talk about certain issues with you, and how God teaches us how to love.
You seem like a great couple. Your talk was so lively and real. Thank you 🙏🏼
John Paul II said a lot in this area, more than a celibate man. Being a professor of moral philosophy and a professor and pastor exposed him to these
Muito bom eu estou casado com minha esposa a 31 anos e graças a Deus por me dar sabedoria de permanecer nesta união.
Thank you so much. I am in a beautiful relationship with my girlfriend, we have both grown in our Faith together over the last year and a half, and I have really been struggling with lust and my desires for intimacy in marriage. This was a rush of relief, knowing that it truly takes committed, life GIVING love. Love that will go even to death. May Our Lord Jesus Christ live His life in each of ours! Viva Cristo Rey.
Great video. Would love to hear more like these. Beautiful couple. Thank you for your insight on marriage.
I like the Idea of being intimate based off what your partner likes.
When you please your partner sex can be quite pleasurable.
God bless you both and your family!
Wow…I just received a lot of great insight. Thank you for helping me along on my journey.
Fr Brett Brannen ( To Save a Thousand of Souls)
CCC #825 Discerning and accepting one’s vocation is like building a pyramid. It must be constructed from the bottom up. A man will not be able to know and accept his secondary or particular vocation-marriage or priesthood, for example-until he has been seriously striving towards his primary vocation of holiness. Some have tried to do it in reverse, and almost always have failed.
As a Catholic who has read A lot of St John Paul two and theology of the body I am glad this video exists but really know it doesn’t do Justice to the man’s side though… good to hear what's being said but its being way to unfair or respectful to men in its presentation. Glad it does respect women and shed some good light though.
Care to elaborate? How is it disrespectful to men? What is missing?
@Sigurd EWT it’s all about the woman’s needs and wants and about what the man needs to do better. Not the other way around
@@crenshaw2186 Though she does mention that women should offer themselves to the man as an act of love, even if they do not feel like it. They clearly acknowledge the man's need for sex. There are of course other relationship aspects not given light in the video, of non-sexual nature. Anything else you would want to mention regarding sex?
@@sigurdewt7294 true, I missed that part
@@sigurdewt7294 What is missing is what women should learn about what the man needs or expects, or how he processes all of this. This might not be disrespectful to men, but neglectful. It is only about what he needs to do for her (and he should, of course), but is there really nothing at all that she needs to pay attention to, for him?
What a beautiful video. Beth and Edward, please ignore the nonsensical criticisms that this is “one sided.” Explaining that sex is better and more abundant in marriages that prioritize emotional intimacy-and honor the headship of the husband in being the initiator and leader in implementing that intimacy-is not remotely one-sided. Sadly there are many men (and some women) that think it’s “unfair” to the man if he can’t occasionally expect perfunctory sex without building that emotional connection. But that’s lust, it’s a desire to use the body of one’s spouse for gratification. It can be hard for virtuous wives to stand against that, and lovingly make it clear to their husband that they can’t allow him or themselves to sin like that. But it is so worth it. The end result is a truly enriching marriage with the kind of love and intimacy that God designed us to have. Please keep making content like this!
Their is nothing in scripture that says that men ought to initiate sex, if anything scripture indicates that sex is mutual.
To say nothing of the psychological effects on both members of one person never gets to initiate and one person always has to.
Just talking to one another about life, dreams, hopes, concerns, and empathizing with one another. Then to laugh with one another about life. That is romantic and brings about the act. God bless you all in your marriages.
I have heard that not having sex when asked by spouse is sin,unless it is abusive. God bless Edward Sri and wife.⛪️🇺🇸😀
If a husband/wife denies sex, is the denying of love itself. A lot of Catholics believe that a marriage without sex is the real holly marriage.
Some things that came to mind after being about four minutes in - we have to help one another to let the Lord and His revealed word lead our hearts, not our emotions, until our emotions are aligned with His.
In doing so, both partners have to be willing and able to allow the other to evaluate their emotions in the light of His love (as mentioned above) and appreciate it when the other might have to truthfully say that such feelings are not aligned with Him and His goodness. More simply, if our emotions are based on falsehoods in word or deed then we must be thankful when our partner draws that out and encourages us to change/realign it with the Lord.
I have found this to be especially difficult with women who think they have the market cornered on feelings and that any feeling and related speech or action they may have or display is always valid by God's standards. They often aren't, or are somewhat but not completely. The same can go for me and other men too, which is why we both need to value what God clearly tells us in Scripture more than just our own feelings and emotions at any given time or moment.
In Christ,
Andrew
Man, what a mission.
There’s a lot of good advice here. It is a bit one-sided. And I want to say that some women do enjoy sex even more than their male spouse. So don’t be discouraged if you are thinking about marriage. But on the negative side, this video has made me confirm my fears about having children. That might ruin sex in our relationship. And I know that was not your intention. Just wanted to let you know.
I agree a lot Crystal, I feel they focus so much on the negatives though of having children and not enough on the positives, also what's the case for them doesn't have to be the case for you. Some people do great having tons of kids.
Thank you for this video!!!!!
My wife isn’t Catholic but she has always been pretty conservative when it comes to this stuff, so it worked out OK…
It seems the language here is a bit ambiguous. Refusing the marital debt is a big deal. According to Aquinas: “I answer that, Since the wife has power of her husband's body, and vice versa, with regard to the act of procreation, the one is bound to pay the debt to the other, at any season or hour, with due regard to the decorum required in such matters, for this must not be done at once openly.”
Not so. It is wrong to refuse for an extended period of time, but we are also called to be compassionate and practice Chasity as well. The idea of “marital debt” is to help us understand that marriage is ordered toward sex, but it does not take away our autonomy.
Sex had been a source of unity and joy in my marriage, until the day our first child was born. Something pathological happened during labor and delivery and my wife seems to have become one flesh with our eldest daughter. Every intimate act between us since then has felt perfunctory and transactional. Our eldest seems to receive all of my wife's live and attention, at the expense of her spouse and our younger children.
Fr Brett Brannen ( To Save a Thousand of Souls)
Sexual integration is essential for all people, whether they are called to marriage, priesthood or religious life.
“The successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being” (CCC #2337). Chastity is the virtue that moderates the desire for sexual pleasure according to the principles of faith and right reason. Priests, sisters, married persons, and single persons are all called by God to chastity, to use their sexuality according to God’s plan in their specific state in life. Married persons live chastely by using the gift of sexuality exclusively with one another, according to the teachings of Christ. Priests live chastely by not having sexual activity with anyone, but loving people the way Jesus loves.
Sexual integration for a man called to priesthood is a slowly developing grace over the course of a man’s life that only God can give. But it is also a grace that a man has gained through prayer and sacrifice, and this grace enables him to live celibacy in tranquility of mind. The biggest indication that a man has not yet fully attained sexual integration is lust:
I am happy to listen to this. It's a good video for my husband to take a listen
Please keep this available to Everyone who is interested!
U can see how much gods love is between them I need this !!!
Thank you so much for this video. Very helpful.
We want more of these videos!
JP2 theology of the body can change the world
May i add this: sex before marriage dilutes what they are talking about.
Word.
Great video 🙏🏼
I am sure to take Flack for this but If you read 1corth Ch 7 V1 no matter which version of the Bible you use there it is
It is better than a Man never touch a Woman. St Paul throughout his writings expresses this 20 times . That Celibacy is the Higher Calling. 😊
is there any expectations for women? it seems like the video is just men should be nicer and listen more.
Glad I'm not the only one who noticed that. It seems like what they did say is correct, but very one-sided. It does seem like it is always, only the man who has to learn and change.
Standards for "Catholic" women? Lol! See all the comments here from "Catholic" women who married outside the faith complaining about it.
@@GillianSeed What does the faith have to do with it ? There's plenty of misogynistic, entitle, self bloviating Catholic men, there's no lack of them believe me.
That's why you like Jesuit masses given by pathetic priests that will never judge anything you do.
This makes me wanna get married even more! Thanks for the video!
Catholic married couples can't have oral sex. That's what priests and the saints taught. Its considered a mortal sin by the church so just giving you a heads up
This is good advice, but it is missing some things. For one, it is very ome sided in the favour of the woman and doesn't take into consideration all the day to day struggles a man goes thru in his day as well. Secondly, there needs to be more emphasis on the Marital Debt. It is a very important Church teaching on sex that gets far too overlooked. It is very important to have sex often with your spouse even when you don't feel like it. You should aim for at least once a week. That would be the ideal. I get that things can get in the way, but the point is you shouldn't go too long without sex. If its been a few months, something needs to change.
Thank you!
Kind of off subject but, what do you do if your husband has cheated 3/4 times and refuses counseling and you can’t Divorce because I don’t wanna go to hell, so can my marriage work or what can you suggest?
If he is cheating and unrepentant, you may be able to consider that he is putting your health at risk by exposing you to STDs. If possible, talk to a priest who knows you for advice regarding your specific situation. Catholics are allowed to divorce if they must for their own safety or that of the children as long as they don't remarry. If he took vows to you under false pretenses with no intention of being faithful to you, there may also be a fault in the marriage that could be grounds for an annulment. If things are not that bad or your priest advises you to keep working on your marriage, I recommend seeing a Catholic promarriage counselor yourself, even if your husband won't go with you. I hope this helps. God bless you.
You don't go to hell because of divorce. Adultery is divorcing and remarrying without an annulment. God does NOT call you to stay in an emotionally/psychologically abusive relationship. I'm not saying you need to divorce but your reason for staying is erroneous. He needs to get help if your marriage has a chance of being repaired. And if he refuses to change or repent you should consider a separation. It might be the thing that saves your marriage. Right now he doesn't respect you for staying in such a disrespectful environment.
Get a annulment, he cheated on you. Broke his vow of fidelity so the marriage is null and void . The catholic church will back you on this.
I just wish this couple would not have put men and woman in boxes. Yes, it’s true that men and women are different but this stereotyping of genders can alienate many people who do not fit into patriarchal roles. This talk does not reflect my 35 year old marriage where my husband and I shared equally in responsibilities. Intimacy is based on communicating and respecting each other’s needs. Sex follows. Communication is the key.
There are trends but the vast majority of men and women are in the middle, with their traits overlapping an average.
What are the valid reasons to say no to the marital act? The Church used to teach that each spouse generally has the obligation to say yes when the other one asks for it.
i saw a video about this on the youtube channel Theology of the Body- i’ll look for it
Iv read in one manual is from 1700s that valid reason to deny sex would be 1. If one spouse is severely sick . 2 if one spouse becomes guilty of adultery than the other spouse is justified in refusing the debt to the adulterer. And 3 if the wife is pregnant and she fears it might cause harm to the child than she can refuse. I think there were some more cases but I can't recall.
@@robertkolinsky1286 those are indeed valid reasons, but nobody talks about that. Everybody has the idea that their body belongs only to themselves, since that's what the world proclaims and priests aren't saying otherwise from the pulpits.
@@Rodrigo-ee3kk yeah I've read in some of the old manuals that it is a mortal sin for a spouse to refuse without a legitimate reason. It seems to suggest that it probably slightly sinful if it was like a nonchalant refusal but mortal if it was a flat out /spiteful especially when the 9ne spouse demanded it as his marriage right. He explained It's because it's a sin against charity and puts the spouse in tye danger of being tempted to unlawful sexual sin. And also it results in quarrels and can disrupts the harmony of the marriage. Also in the bible it says each spouse has the right over the others body. And I also read that it was recommended by priest for spouses particularly the wife to do her part in maintain her looks and not spent too much time fasting or overeating so as to make themselves look less attractive to their spouse.
The church does not teach it is a mortal sin to say no. You should yes as often as possible, but it is okay to say no.
going through RCIA and I know I should probably ask my sponsor instead, but...anyway. I have gathered different teachings regarding what intimate acts *within* marriage are okay... aka is it a grave sin if the "finish" is not procreative, even if it's done from a place of love and desire to please your partner, and not done intentionally to prevent life? like as an adjunct to other procreative times and you both are definitely open to life? I hope that makes sense and isn't too forward of a question, but it's one that I am having trouble with. Some have said their priests okay acts of love in the bedroom so long as the marriage itself is unitive and procreative. I know what the catechism says, but it seems like historically a lot of changes have taken place on this topic. just curious!
I recently learned it is a mortal sin for Catholic married couples to have oral sex ( even if not climaxing and its just to warm each other up before sex) but I'm confused because although the saints taught that, I can't find it in the Bible. Were they just scrupulous or is it really true?
@@iidentifyasayoutubertoday7025 from my understanding oral sex is not a sin as long as it culminates in a way that’s open to life. For many women it is the only way for them to enjoy sex in a way that leads to release, otherwise you might have a relationship where the woman Denys sex due to the one sided ness
I’d advise not worrying about being forward, we’re talking about sex there’s nothing to be gained by being coy.
The Catholic doctrine that Dec must be procreative is a church doctrine not a biblical one. Even the official stance of the Catholic Church allows for the pull-out method.
Which is to say that the Catholic Church allows for intent is attempts to counteract the possibility of pregnancy.
So even within Catholic doctrines accidental extravaginal ejaculation shouldn’t be a problem.
Though why the Catholic Church thinks it has the right to dictate the details of people’s sex lives on matter that scripture was silent is anyone’s guess.
@@iidentifyasayoutubertoday7025
Even the doctrine of procreation pushed by the Catholic Church is not in scripture, so it should come as no surprise that oral and anal sex are never condemned in scripture.
Thank you so much for this x I needed to hear this x bless you both x
Please let me know when there is going to be a couples retreat, to send my daughter and her husband. Thank you
Husband and I have been married 53 yrs, in our 70s. I seem to especially now want more love and intimacy. My priest told me all sex acts in marriage are ok, but I read some where that is NOT true. Need guidance, don't know where to look. EVERYTHING everything I read is about procreation etc, not about intimacy for senior citizens.
love this
Pure fireeeee🔥
During Basic Training at Lackland AFB TX 1971 I had the pre Canna class. Bottom line we were told if the sexual act did not have a chance to produce a Pregnancy It was a No Go. Simple and direct
When you are an.eldery couple a hug and a kiss is acceptable.
So....once a married woman is past menopause any sex she has is then sinful? That doesn't seem right.
That’s not right. You may have sex during menopause and pregnancy and any other time a woman is infertile.
I enjoyed this excellent video!
This would have been a GREAT and useful teaching if it had not been totally one sided. You put the monkey 100% on the mans back. You're teaching is unbalanced.
I have a similar comment. I agree. I do know when I am with Nieces, nephews-or any kids for that matter- It shuts everything down for me. It could be like that for just women. I’m not sure. I feel like it’s got to be a lot easier to have a marriage with no kids. I might be biased in that sense.
What specifically would you suggest to balance it?
This uni-directional stereotypical approach fails to explain couples in which the woman has a significantly higher sex drive and is the primary initiator of the marital act in the home.
I think they are speaking generally. I guess because men have higher testosterone so they usually have the higher sex drive.
I don't know if many women would be admit to having a higher sex life than their husband. I think the male would feel emasculated.
Love this
I think this is really great, but upsetting that I cannot find anything… anything, on the reversal of this. My husband has issues connecting sensually with me and seems to want to jump right into it. This is likely because as a former secular man, sex was a fix for him where now it requires connecting intimately. I really need some guidance with this.
Talk to a mentor marriage couple from church
This is scientifically supported. Male and female bodies, anatomically speaking, are almost identical. There are very few exceptions. One exception is the stress and arousal hormones. They come from separates glands in men and the same gland in women. This means the higher the stress reduces female sex drive. Loved wives are more in the mood.
Hi guys! Great video, thank you so much. I’m from Brazil. Do you have a ebook version of you book?
Do you know what the book is called?
Thats so true, sex isnt a band aid.
Greetings Mr & Mrs Edward,
Thanks for the Informative Share with His Holiness John Paul II views on most Profound happening through Marriage. CONSUMMATION through SACRAMENTS with Heavenly Father, Lord Jesus Christ, Holy Spirit Completes All aspects in Marriage.
With regards with Prayers,
RanjithJoseph (R.J)
What is the work of John Paul II they are referencing? I need to read it immediately.
I feel like Intimacy should never be like that, In the Catholic guide is different. Man and woman are completely different!
where can i buy the book? do you have an online version?
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I'm Not telling anyone to ignore Church Teaching, but pre-marital abstinence can cause major problems. You get married, and then realize you're not sexual compatible. You can TALK about your expectations until you're blue in the face, but until you DO it, you won't know. It will make for a miserable life. You will be fighting CONSTANTLY, and over the stupidest things. The high-desire spouse will have a VERY short fuse about the smallest annoyances in life. Anyone who says that sex isn't a big factor in the success of a marriage is WRONG. Don't believe it. Anyone who says that doesn't have a sexual incompatibility problem. When they state here "you have your whole life ...", that's not true either. Neither one of us is very attractive now that we're in our mid 40s, and it's just not the same. Having to earn it by doing more dishes (or whatever) isn't "preparation", it's manipulation and abuse. You may spend your life full of bitterness and resentment if you find out you're not sexually compatible ahead of time. Waiting for marriage was the biggest mistake I ever made. So, keep in mind, this may be an area where you have to suffer for your faith. I certainly did.
Any form of contraception is unnatural (except the NFP method). What about the use of viagra and the likes for older husbands? Think menopause/andropause...beyond child-bearing years but still desiring to engage in the marital act
As long as Viagra is used to facilitate the martial act, it is morally okay to use. Anything else (not being open to life even beyond child bearing age, not married, not used for the martial act and rather for pleasure, or saying you’re open to life but in your heart you’re only thinking of pleasure), then it is not morally okay. The martial act is a gift of self, not a gift for self.
@@LiztasticGames thank you for your reply. But i want to know the Church's official teaching on this matter - preferably the teaching that is not diluted with modernism/secularism.
@@dinnapadilla then read the catechism.
@@JulieNicoleSays thank you...will wait for Dr. Sri's reply.
@@dinnapadilla The Church doesn’t have a specific, authoritative teaching on the use of Viagra, but they do have it covered within the context of other teachings. Therefore what I mentioned in my previous reply is the Church’s stance on the subject, based on the context of other teachings mentioned in both scripture and the catechism. I can go in more detail in my reply regarding Viagra if it would help you understand it better?
I am trying to deepen my Christian practice, but I don't understand why sex is forbidden outside of marriage.
Edit: So, I think understanding sexual morality also requires understanding why pornography is immoral, objectification, and how sexual attraction is distinguishable from lust.
The marital act is for
1. procreation
2. Cooling of the concupiscence.
The purpose of Marriage is the procreation and education of children. Therefore contraception is immoral and unnecessary. Every marital act needs to be open to new life.
If you can accept this Truth, then you would not commit this act with just anyone who you would not spend your life with and raise children with.
Would you willingly have a baby with a man or women you had a one night stand with?
The obvious answer is no, so you should not perform this act with anyone you would not spend or build a life with.
Ideally, both husband and wife should be virgins with no past sexual experience or memories with other people.
Carnal knowledge of past lovers (not your husband or wife) affects your intimacy and causes great pain.
People do not realize how much retroactive sexual jealousy affects relationships.
The secret to marital bliss is being married to a person who has no sexual past. The scriptures are very clear that sex is spiritual, 2 become one flesh and cannot be separated once consummated. The memories of past lovers will continue to haunt you to your grave and cannot be erased. If you have had previous lovers, how is your husband or wife supposed to be at peace with the fact you shared the most intimate act humanly possible with another person?
Take this very seriously...only give yourself to your husband or wife, lest you deal with very deep spiritual problems that may not be overcome.
God Bless
@@TS-ex4ql Thank you for the reply. What you've mentioned seems counterintuitive and difficult to accept.
Edit: I've thought over what you said, and these thoughts sound twisty. If marriage is solely about rearing children, it would not matter how intimate I am with my spouse. Intimacy with the spouse only has a limited impact on child-rearing. The idea that marriage is only about raising children sounds emotionless, which seems dull. Second, never using birth control and having sex with a spouse whenever someone wants to relieve their urges will lead to a lot of children being born who their parents can't take care of. There could be financial or other reasons for this. This practice seems like it would cause a lot of harm and therefore can't be moral. It is also mentioned that having past sex will always haunt someone. Maybe it has haunted some people, but most people, I doubt, will ever have intimacy problems because of past sex. Furthermore, we live in an age of meditation and psychotherapy. With knowledge of these things, comes knowledge that our mind is very pliable in changing how we experience reality. Almost any negative feeling, I imagine, can be remedied with these solutions.
All that I describe is because I search for rational answers to leading the best life possible. It would appeal to me greatly if Christanity could state truths like
Western Philosophy and offer practical advice in managing our thoughts and emotions, similar to meditation practice. All of this said, I am a learning Christian. I'm aware that some questions we don't have answers to, but in the case of marriage, I would like to understand a good Christian position towards it, not necessarily Catholic.
When the Church teaches that every act must be open to life, one must understand that there are natural infertile periods in a woman’s cycle. A fertile woman has about 3 or 4 days which she can conceive each month. A women’s body shows obvious signs of when the fertile period is approaching, when ovulation occurs and when the fertile period is over. Any woman can learn to monitor their cycle this way. When done properly, a 98% chance of avoiding pregnancy can be achieved. It takes discipline and self control, but can be that successful. As for the 2%, we’ll even the pill is only 98 to 99% effective. God can still bring life even when we don’t want it. The only 100% way to avoid pregnancy is abstinence.
When a couple has a grave reason to do so, they may choose to only have relations during the infertile periods. This is called Natural Family Planning. However, the sexual act must always be performed morally, which the husband ejaculates inside his wife’s vagina.
Yes, Catholics who live a Sacramental Marriage and are open to life tend to have larger families. Again, Procreation and education of children are the primary purpose of Marriage. Not all Catholic marriages are blessed or fertile enough to have many or some any children. The main thing to remember is that contraception is a mortal sin that separates you from God and to die in mortal sin ends in hell for eternity. Not sure how catechized you are, but mortal sins must be forgiven in the Sacrament of Confession.
There are other naturally infertile periods in which married couples can make use of where pregnancy is not possible, such as during pregnancy or menopause. Although a small chance of pregnancy can exist for some during menses, it is not a grave sin to have relations during that time.
The bottom line that every marriage needs lots of good sex. Not every sexual act has to be for procreation only. As long as the couple accepts the consequence that life may occur from their union, there is nothing wrong with desiring each other and having plenty of good sex. The sex will be better knowing that person you are with and chooses you fir life is willing to have a baby or several babies with you. There is nothing in the world that proves true love than having a spouse who loves you enough to being open to life.
As far as fulfilling urges, the Catholic Church teaches that we need to mortify our senses. We cannot satisfy our lust for sex, food, drink every time we get an urge. We would be on the level irrational brutes if we lived that way. There are some people who live that way, always feeding their flesh and they are repulsive to be around.
True, the marital debt must be paid whenever asked. If lust is involved every time relations are asked for, then it is a severe lack of charity from the spouse who lustfully and frequently demands sex to fill an urge.
As for New Age ideology you mentioned, those are incompatible with the Catholic Faith. It’s best to leave that way of thinking behind you and fully follow Christ.
Not all people can have marriages where both partners are virgins. People make mistakes, especially if they live in today’s culture and don’t have or didn’t pay attention to Christ and His teachings on sexual morality. It is best not to have had any sexual experience other than your spouse, but it can be overcome with prayer if one did sexual acts with others outside marriage. Sexual soul ties are real, the Bible warns about fornication for many reasons. Sexual sin with past lovers cannot be forgotten totally and the devil is quick to use those past sexual experiences to put a wedge in your Marriage. Better to bring a clean slate to the marriage bed, there will not be any Catholic who will tell you different.
I’m not perfect or don’t pretend to know everything. I have had plenty of sin in my life, but the past 15 years in marriage where we followed Christ 100 % are 1000% better than the 1st 5 years of marriage where we tried to live our marriage without Christ.
We have seven children and it is not always easy. We need crosses in this life, this life is not about pleasure all the time. One thing I can tell you is God provides all we need, we never go to sleep hungry or cold/wet.
I look at each of those seven Blessings and cannot imagine life without any one of them.
We seldom get to eat out or travel, but I would not trade my Faith, my God fearing spouse or children for any material trinket.
God cannot be outdone, trading your own will to live Gods will for your life is the key to happiness on earth and the narrow gate that leads to Heaven.
God Bless
Sex is not that big a deal. If you are really in love and committed to one person, then it is very good. Worth the wait. If you don’t really love the person it is empty. Don’t waste your time- that is my advice.
Because every act of sexual intercourse must be open to new life being created, if your with someone you don,t want to have a child with should God send one why are you even considering having sex with that person. If the answer is no that's why sex is forbidden because the baby needs a father and mother too care for and nurture it in its life.
What do you do when there is ED????????
This is so important.
I'm a Militant Atheist. This video reminds me exactly why.
You guys seem to be put well!
That was a good discussion
None of this video is sticking up for the man's needs. It explains what everybody always knows and then, in vagueuries, 'trains' men on how to treat women. Why not train women on how to meet a man's needs?
Do you have this talk in Spanish? 🙏
So all I hear here is that it is also the husbands job to placate the wife to make her feel better even though he has an equally crappy day dealing with the fools at work. It’s not all about the wife but that’s what it sounds like here. Just bring home flowers and candy every night and make sure she is comfortable after a long day with the kids. I mean that’s all that matters, right?
So what if your husband could care less about figuring out your feelings?
Some men might not be emotionally intelligent enough to figure out someone's feelings. It might help if you are willing to bring up your feelings yourself and just tell him how you feel so he can take it into consideration. If he's one of those ones who thinks his decisions are always rational and yours are invalid because they're emotional, it may help to notice his own feelings out loud to help him figure out his own feelings as well, "I notice you're feeling annoyed about something. Do you want to talk about it?" or, "I notice you are really happy today. Did something good happen at work?"
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He Was NOT A saint . He uttered 154 heresies. 😮
“I have chronic migraines so painkillers are only a temporary fix and I won’t use them”
Sex isn’t a solution, but by gosh flowers and chocolates aren’t solutions either, that doesn’t mean you should avoid them.
This whole video is just.. I don’t know, it’s something about having good points combined based on bad ideas combined with their portrayal as experts despite the fact that they can’t talk about sex without euphemisms.
St pope paul 2 has a beautiful book about your body Eclipse of the body
...so ...are you saying that at face value... love is not sex and sex is not love... it is easy to have a good sex without love.. and have a good love without sex... and you ended with.... the most important is that you do your chores... got it...
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Extremely one-sided.
According to the bio they have 8 children?? Damn, they've been busy.
According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the average cost of raising a child to age 18 was $233,610 as of 2015. 1 With an annual adjustment for inflation of 2.2% each year factored in, the lifetime cost of raising a child born in 2022 could be estimated at $272,049. Probably closer 300,000 with 8.5 % inflation. and that's if they leave the nest at 18 , and don't plan on helping them out with higher education? May have to figure you kids as your retirement plan, hopefully they get good jobs.😉
Probably the average family size around the world for most of history...
@@DavidMatias79 The ones that do have eight kids are probably living in poverty for the most part, or on government assistance, And I don't know if I believe that, considering that the U.S and world populations have been dropping especially in industrialized countries.
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Sensual only for men?? I must be a man.🤪
If he wasn't a doctor???❤😂😂
Her husband is funny! 😄