Awe Michel, anger is part of the process to healing. Give yourself a little grace Sweetie...you're doing so great!!!!! Being alone after divorce is a challenge, and you are a work in progress! Proud of you girl!!!!
No I absolutely love the heart to heart chats! They're one of my favorite parts of the vlog! The stuff you talk about is very relatable 😊 sending love from Houston!
I think it’s great how reflective you’re being. I saw the tweets and totally think journaling would be much more helpful and productive. You’re growing a ton during this season. Sending lots of love!
Girl! I love these honest chats! I feel like so many people don't like to acknowledge that human beings in general are flawed, and that they can have harmful behaviors (both to themselves and others). Ultimately, these conversations humanize you in so many ways and I think that is a good thing. Your growth is inspiring!
I hear you with the 'uncomfort threshold'. The last few years have been so hard constantly, and constantly being new and unfamiliar, that the things that used to scare me don't anymore. Makes things easier, like reaching out to friends and trying new things
Yeah, I hit that uncomfort threshold a few years ago. Literally changed my entire life, and 4 years later I'm still different because of how significant that discomfort threshold was and how long it lasted. But the changes from it have been very beneficial for me
I’ve been watching you for almost 3 years. And the past 2 months is the most I’ve felt like I’m watching the actual you. I don’t even know how to describe it. I’m loving it. Also, I don’t know that your Twitter issue is toxic or immature at all. You need to prove to that tiny part of you that still holds out hope what the truth is. It’s ok to seek the truth when you’ve been lied to - even if you find it on Twitter. I also want to remind you that the Bible tells you to guard YOUR heart. Not anyone else’s. You don’t owe him your protection or loyalty anymore Michel. Part of you searching for the truth may be that you’re also holding yourself to some standard that I wonder if he set for you. You only owe yourself an explanation. Not us. Not him. If you want to tweet and NOT delete then do it girl. You did your time. Take yourself off probation.
Hi Michel. I am incredibly proud of you. I am old enough to be your grandmother and I enjoy watching you grow into your new life. I love seeing you take joy in the small things and planning for big things. Keep true to your faith and yourself.
I'm 62 years old and as I get older I find that the most important thing you can do for yourself is forgive others and move on. We are all eternal souls and will have to stand before God in the judgement. That's what I have tried to put in the front of my mind as I act and do things in my life. Yes Jesus does forgive but we must love and forgive and not worry about things that don't matter in the long run. I think you are doing a great job trying to move on after divorce. It was so hard for me as I was a battered wife with two kids but I have forgiven him. May God Bless You
What I did when someone hurt me, I wrote a letter than I burned it and let it go and yes it did help. Sometimes the hurt comes back, and I say to myself what does Jesus want me to learn from this. Sometimes I figure it out but most of the time I do not. I am sorry you're still hurting but within time it will easy up and hopefully not hurt so much. Please give yourself time to heal your heart sweetie!
My ex fiancé before my husband cheated on me habitually and I didn’t know until right before we almost got married. I remember even when I got home, “lurking” as I called it on his social media in order to similar things or just continue to be able to be angry so I didn’t have to be sad. I literally gave it up for Lent that year to help heal my heart. So completely understand this and you’re not alone. I love the heart to hearts.
I think it’s human nature to creep on our exes after a separation. You do it out of curiosity and also as a way to “find stuff” to make you validate suspicions or feelings but it almost always ends up making it worse. I would suggest you block him everywhere, trust me it’s for the best. Xoxo
I love the heart-to-heart chats. The internet is severely lacking in people being genuine. Your chats are always honest and genuine and it's such a breath of fresh air!
That is really why I have been keeping up watching your videos! I love that you are acknowledging how human we all are and the every day stuff we go through. Thank you for that!
Love a heart to heart chat. They cheer me up from halfway across the world in Queensland, Australia. You’re doing a great job Michel. You’re going through a huge life change and I think you’re doing so well. I’ve been you several times over following relationships - grieving and hurt are such hard emotions to work through. Life is a journey and we’re all growing and changing everyday xx
Hi Michel. Your honesty & openess is so mature. I completely understand the going on social media to check things/people & getting hurt by what you see, read, find. It can be very hurtful true that! I've experienced that & found for me that BLOCKING the person or persons is the BEST DECISION!! It first removes the temptation to check on them & gives time for the healing process to begin & complete. I pray 🙏 that you will begin & fully heal from all the hurt & pain you've been through. Keep in mind that it takes time. Prayers & Wishes Lisa Hampton 😃
I totally understand the feeling of being manipulated and second guessing myself. Michel you have come so far in this new season. It’s ok to feel anger, hurt and betrayed this is so normal for going what you have experienced. You continue to grow in your strength👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️
"act like you have kids and put them first". This was very helpful advice from a friend during a breakup. It's tempting to rage and gossip, but if you had little ones you wouldn't want them to hear that. Sharing with someone is important, but when the worst of it is over and you can breathe easier, it'll be better for your soul if you look back and feel proud of how you handled it
@17:00 we can see what really happened in their relationship. I’m so sorry. You’re so strong minded and your will to surpass this season in your life is so inspiring. Love these because you showing us how to cope and also being honest and not setting us up for an unexpected reality. Thank you for your honesty!
Tweeting and deleting is basically the same as writing a letter. They always recommend that in therapy, where you write a letter to a certain person who hurt you, but never actually send it. It's the same thing really, that cathartic release is perfectly healthy and normal.
Just don't do an email. The worst thing is to type "in the moment," and hit the send button. Many times I've been angry at someone and strained relationships from putting first initial thoughts of anger/disappointment, and hit "send" and wished I could get it back. Or, if you do ever write something with the intent to send it to "that offending person" write it all out (don't hold back, put your true initial feelings), but once finished, leave it alone for the day, go out/do something productive, then come back to it. Many times you will have a different perspective/tone it down, or may not send it to them at all. But... you'll feel better for getting it out.
I’m so glad someone mentioned writing a letter you don’t intend to send. That’s exactly the advice I wanted to pass on, too. If you hand write it, an added level of cathartic release is tearing up the letter or burning it after you’re done writing. It feels so good! Hang in there, Michel!
holy shit 24?!? you have the overall maturity of someone who's late 20s / early 30s i swear. love your vlogs - i stumbled upon here from your FAB review a long time ago, and tune in still
I admire you! You are so strong and I liked how you don't mind that people analyzed your past relationship and taking that as a good thing and use it for growth instead of feeling bad.
Your apartment is looking and feeling comfy, homey and reflects you….loving it…Max is seeming pretty comfortable too..it appears that you are doing so well, thanks for being real and speaking about your feelings…continued prayers 😘❤️💕
I had to put on the bell notification because I didn’t get the notification for this and I was checking your page every hour (Im excited for your uploads). I’m a new subscriber and I just want to say I’m going through a LTR break up and I just appreciate how authentic you are. Thanks to your channel, you’ve helped me feel comfortable in wanting to seek out my relationship with Jesus again. Thank you for being you Michel. Love from your Canadian follower -Alisha D
Your doing great yes we do dumb things after a break up because our hearts don't understand but after time and space we learn to heal and get to know ourselves 💓💓💓
I applaud your honesty. I am currently purging my closet. I’m getting rid of a lovely dress that bad things happened while I had it on. Unpleasant things were exchanged by my partner and I. And I said out loud I don’t ever want that to happen again. And out the dress went. Admitting my part was helpful to me to continue to work on my relationship and me. All parts of me
For your nails find someone who does Russian manicures. They put a gel overlay on the nails and when you get them redone they don’t remove wirh acetone they just file down and the overlay protects your natural nails so they won’t be breaking or getting ruined. Just in case you didn’t know! You can prob find someone who does them Via Instagram in your area.
I'm 39, been with my husband for almost 22 years and I am learning from you!! I'm not joking. You are not only mature but you are wise, insightful, kind, and intelligent. I am better after watching your videos and it helps me to be a better person to my spouse and friends. I never made a Twitter account, but 4 years ago I deleted FB and Insta and my life has never been better!! Sending you xhugsx!!
Not sure if you use Honey Pot for feminine hygiene but it is actually recommended not to use anything but water down there as it can actually mess with your natural balance and make stuff worse! I am a medical student passionate about women's health and I just want to share the information along :)
Have you ever read the Honey Pot packaging? The creator of it says how she got the 'recipe' for the cleanser when her dead ancestors came to her in her dream and told her how to wash her and others' vaginas (vulvas). That information in not on the site for people to see before they buy it. I thought it was a joke and talked to my OB/GYN who laughed and said she has had to try to convince many young women that dead grandpas aren't the best to count on for vulva cleansing advice since Honey Pot because popular on YT/social media.
@@betsybabf748 oh my goodness yes! I bought one of the honey pot products once and then immediately decided to quit using it after reading that on the bottle 😅
I just love you! Your videos really make me take a look at my self! I’m a 57 year old lady, and really wish I would have been more mature earlier in my life! Please continue with your chats and videos, I really look forward to them!! You got this girl, you have soooo much life to live, make it a good one( as you are!). I’ll be waiting for your next video, so I can learn more about myself!
Girl, have those heart to hearts. It's clearly a good way for you to process what you're thinking and feeling and it's super healthy! It's also good to remove yourself from unhealthy social media if it's negatively affecting you. I only use instagram, youtube, and buzzfeed because I can't deal with most social media. But, just so you know, being able to catch yourself, acknowledge behaviors you don't like, and work to make progress is extremely mature. Everyone backslides or gives into toxic or immature behaviors sometimes, that doesn't make you immature at all.
The heart to hearts are my favorite part. Even though I’m not in your same situation currently, I am gaining so much from them. It also brings my heart a lot of joy to see you growing.
I used to do what you did. It took me a while to break the pattern, but it also helped in a weird way to move on with my life lol. But also some things that helped me is writing letters to the person who hurt you and burning them and meditating, visualizing that person and saying what you need to say to them while also releasing them. Also, this may sound a little cocky, but just realize you didn’t lose out on anything, they did. Rejection is protection! You’ll come into to great things Michel 😊
A strong woman is developed by enjoying yourself. Spending time alone. Mixed with time with those that are like minded, as enjoying the same things. I've gotten used to saying my best friends are myself and I. Lol You definitely are moving forward. Carefully. Be grateful for your youth, your health, your every breath. God's got a plan and your in it. Thanks for your inspiration. God Bless
So many things…not sure if you will read this or how it will land; please know it comes from the most genuine, kind place: I’m about to be 40 and have a husband and 2yo. For whatever it’s worth, watching you move into an apartment in TX that reminds me of the last apartment I lived in while single (in Dallas), and watching you decorate, organize, have a sushi and movie night to yourself, makes me miss and appreciate that season of my life. I wasn’t married till 36 so I had many single years in several apartments and several states. I fully recognize that you are not (back) in the single-season by choice and my feelings on watching you in it don’t change your feelings. I pray that you are feeling pride (I would have felt the exact same way about that corner shelving!!), contentment, enjoyment, hope and appreciation, even in small bits, for the unique time period of being able to worry about yourself, wants, and needs first and sometimes only. Thank you for sharing the journey and giving me a reason to appreciate a season in my life that I many times begged God to end. I have never been more drawn to your channel than now and it’s because of your sit down chats, vulnerability, and honesty. Pleaser keep including and know your in my, and I’m sure others’, prayers. I have totally been guilty of using social media to find things that I know will hurt me to validate my suspicions or feelings about people who have hurt me. It’s admirable that you recognized and discussed with yourself what you were doing and why. Thanks for sharing that here as well. Hugs!
The heart to hearts are the best. You keep it real and honest. I think with most of us go back and check on ex’s especially if we were the ones hurt, because it’s natural to want answers even if they come with more pain and/ or anger. It’s a grieving process and those are steps we need to sometimes take. I don’t think it makes you immature, I think it makes you human.
I really enjoy your heart to hearts, I think for so long you couldn't share as you were processing things, this feels like a new released side of you that is honest and refreshing. Not to say I didn't love your videos in the past but they were polished We all, no matter what age, take immature actions or have immature thought processes, I think it's human The major part I see here is you're trying to learn from and be the best version of you that you can be ❤
One thing my therapist suggested to me during my divorce was writing letters to my ex. I didn't have to send them. I found much relief in writing out how I felt and how HURT I was. I often burned the letters and let go of the nonsense. Everyone needs that release of hurt. It's OK to need to type it out or write it out. Being hurt after all this, and everything going on for you... it's normal to feel this way. It's a time of high emotion and tbh.. if it's what I think it is, don't for one single second think your reaction is wrong. Nobody likes a mad woman, but there's always someone behind why she's mad.
I really appreciate your heart-to-heart chats, it's really brave to be so vulnerable and on camera, and it gives a sense of authenticity, which we need more of in our interactions with others ✨ Thank you for sharing a part of yourself with us, taking it one moment at a time however it feels comfortable and safe for you 💕
I love 💗 all of the heart to heart talks and hearing your insight into how you’re feeling and what you’re learning about yourself. It feels so nice to hear that we’re not alone and we’re all growing. Thank you for also being vulnerable and sharing. Have a beautiful day 🐝
I don’t consider it to be immature. Whether we as humans are emotionally, physically, or verbally hurt, our first instinct is to protect and defend ourselves. You were emotionally hurt and in a very stressful and in new situation, you did what most people would do. You’re a kind and real person. You shouldn’t be so tough on yourself for feeling emotions. We love you Michel, that’s why we keeping coming back to see you.
Michel, Love the heart-to-heart vlogs 🤗 LoL, gas-lighting/negative vibes,seems to be the new trend. I stay clear of both. Never apologize for being You. So good to see you growing , taking chances and smiling through. 💛 You are doing Awesome 🌼
Michel, I loooove the heart to heart chats!! I’d watch you for hours 🥰 I love your honesty and your heart, so big and gracious!! Always sending you love and keeping you in my prayers. Love you!!! ❤️
I really get inspired by your cleaning and organizing clips. As a woman in my 30's, I was just diagnosed Adhd and it's very difficult for me to stay organized so thank you for inspiring me to get some at-home clean up accomplished this weekend.
Love the chats and what you do in. Your because I am divorced now 17 yrs and I have not done a thing for myself and by myself loved to watch your staycation would love to see more of it at home if you need a challenge there's one for you .. love the new you
Thanks Michel for opening and sharing your thoughts. I see you and I don’t feel so alone. You are so kind, beautiful and smart. I’m going through a heartache, dec 20 2021 was the day I felt so betrayed by the man I thought cared and loved me. I know I cannot be with him. I decided to block his number and unfollowed him on social media, I have to do it to be able to move on. I have moments where I want to tell him so many things, I’m so mad and hurt by it but I know it’s best to just let it go and move forward. No looking back. You are strong, we are strong and we will do just fine.
Michel don’t be so hard on yourself. What you are going thru is very traumatic and I can guarantee that your actions are no different than anyone else going thru the same issues. Everything takes time and you will get there and be better for it! Just keep doing what you’re doing and everything else will fall into place. Love your channel and look forward to going thru this journey with you!! 💜
Thanks for sharing that none of your friends are able to hang out. It was so real and honest. I admire that, It really helped me in so many ways. Sometimes that happens to me as well I feel so lonely and sometimes rejected even know it’s not supposed to be that way. Mindfulness and thankfulness and being able to treat yourself with sushi and watch a new movie is such a great mindset!
I love watching your vlogs more than ever! I have found that when rough things happen I don’t always understand why they happened but with time and distance from the situation they turn out to be a blessing. You seem like you are learning, growing & flourishing and that is a wonderful way to live your life! You got this🥰
I got the line a day journal to start once I get married. I think it will be great to see how I change and what I go through in those first few years and will probably continue to do that through my marriage. My SO knows I got this and also thinks it will be cool to go through that later in life. On another note, we are all immature at times. It takes strength to admit and change those habits.
Michel l love that you do the heart to heart chats, please don't stop doing that. Your videos always inspires me to look into my own personal life and turn negatives into positives.
Your hair is looking really beautiful in this vlog Michel! Super full and healthy and natural and it frames your face beautifully ❤️ also always a joy to watch your content, thanks for being my internet friend :)
I love your heart to heart chats! It has really helped me to reflect and accept things I need to work on myself! Things I have neglected or chose to procrastinate. I’m much older than you but no matter the age we need to grow and reflect on ourselves even when it’s difficult. You are beautiful and I appreciate your videos! 💕
First of all, you are doing it great, killing it girl! I happened to see your vlog that just popped up that you talked about how much you were earning in 2019 with 19000 subscribers. To see that you are already over 123K is surely something to be proud of! Congratulations! YOU are super motivating and doing a super job. Good luck with your new chapter in your life.
I’m a recent subscriber and love your energy. Please know that you are helping so many women and men by sharing your vulnerability. Just know that the best is yet to come and what you’ve been through is simply going to serve a purpose. You still have a wonderful future and I believe God is guiding you to a season of caring and loving yourself more. You deserve more. Reminds me of a picture of a small kid crying because God took away his tiny bear and all along God had a bigger bear as a gift for the kid behind His back. Things will fall into place 🤍
This felt so good to watch. I deleted all my social media apps this week because they were making me anxious and I couldn’t just not look at what was making me feel that way. It really feels good to know I am not alone.
You sharing your tweet situation with us in such a level-headed and reflective way only shows truly how mature you are. Keep growing sis! Prayers for you 💛
I posted a comment a long time ago about him and it was talked about aswell between yall , it turned out to be correct, I'm glad you are realizing your worth, they don't need protection, they didn't protect you.
When i went through my divorce i did the same thing, and it got ugly. About a month into it i deleted everything for about a month and oh boy did it make a world of difference in my mental health. Now i pause all soical media every two months for about two weeks just to reload myself and its beautiful! You are mature and wonderful and dont forget it.
Michel, I thank you for sharing so honestly about your struggles, achievements, new beginnings, heart to heart chats, joys and self reflections. I live so far from you in Melbourne, Australia but I feel as though you I am your neighbour. You Go Girl.
I would say I’ve left every video of yours the last few months speechless. The genuine, honest, and encouraging energy I get from your videos is unlike any other creator. And I’m just so utterly grateful to have discovered you.. your journey isn’t easy but the value in you sharing it, is unmeasurable. Thank you, thank you, thank you!! ❣️ keep being awesome & authentic!
Michel, I think we, I say we because most of us have done it, would not be human if we didn’t want to know what the other person is doing. Also do not think that is immature. You protecting him, is extremely mature. I am 50 years old, a clinical therapist, and I am not sure I would not be screaming from the roof tops, how I am was harmed by a relationship. Ok well that is a little over board, but just know, you are the maturest 24 year old I have met. Keep going even though the ups and downs. Allow yourself to be “immature” at times. Just remember you do not have to cause yourself more pain, maybe be immature in a way that causes freedom and happiness :-) I love you 😘💕❤️
I have been using Thrive Market for several years and love them, they are not only a great source for snacks but also for pantry staples. I buy their branded beans, they have both dried and cooked as well as both pinto and black “refried” all with just beans and water. I also buy my veggie broth, peanut and almond butters (just nuts not sugars or oils) plus so much more. Best of luck to you, keep doing you 😘
It's good to get things out. And you are human and your reaction is natural. I'm sure we all have done it. But sometimes we have to cut out those toxic temptations that make it tempting to do things that will only hurt us. If having this person or anyone easy accessible enough that you are tempted to look for things, block them, delete them. Whatever you have to do to not tempt yourself to look or be around that. But it shows much maturity on your part to admit to yourself that it isn't healthy for you to expose yourself to that and want to change it. You will get through this for the better. You are right now becoming the person by these experiences that will prepare you for who you are meant to be with later.
You should get gel nails! That’s what I did when my nails were really weak! They helped a lot to become healthy again and it’s super safe and they don’t need to file the nail 🥰
I think you are doing what is a normal response to the season you are in no matter what age you are. A form of healing. Yes it hurts and you want answers. Sometimes there are no answers. Only that you are on a better path now. ❤️
Wow wow WOW. To see you come to your realizations about your social media use and how it can hurt you....girl, I'm twice your age and it took me a lot longer to learn that painful lesson! I don't know you but good golly I'm proud and impressed. Also, your friend's dog's eyes are amazing!
Awe Michel, anger is part of the process to healing. Give yourself a little grace Sweetie...you're doing so great!!!!! Being alone after divorce is a challenge, and you are a work in progress! Proud of you girl!!!!
No I absolutely love the heart to heart chats! They're one of my favorite parts of the vlog! The stuff you talk about is very relatable 😊 sending love from Houston!
That makes my heart so happy to hear 🤍
Same!
I think it’s great how reflective you’re being. I saw the tweets and totally think journaling would be much more helpful and productive. You’re growing a ton during this season. Sending lots of love!
Girl! I love these honest chats! I feel like so many people don't like to acknowledge that human beings in general are flawed, and that they can have harmful behaviors (both to themselves and others). Ultimately, these conversations humanize you in so many ways and I think that is a good thing. Your growth is inspiring!
You have become one of my FAVORITE creators recently. I love how relatable you are especially with everything you are going through.
I hear you with the 'uncomfort threshold'. The last few years have been so hard constantly, and constantly being new and unfamiliar, that the things that used to scare me don't anymore. Makes things easier, like reaching out to friends and trying new things
There is sometimes beauty in the pain, isn’t there? Or at least growth! Proud of you for trying new things 🖤
@@MichelJanse Yes, we're all still growing, no matter how crazy the world gets! 💖
Yeah, I hit that uncomfort threshold a few years ago. Literally changed my entire life, and 4 years later I'm still different because of how significant that discomfort threshold was and how long it lasted. But the changes from it have been very beneficial for me
I’ve been watching you for almost 3 years. And the past 2 months is the most I’ve felt like I’m watching the actual you. I don’t even know how to describe it. I’m loving it. Also, I don’t know that your Twitter issue is toxic or immature at all. You need to prove to that tiny part of you that still holds out hope what the truth is. It’s ok to seek the truth when you’ve been lied to - even if you find it on Twitter. I also want to remind you that the Bible tells you to guard YOUR heart. Not anyone else’s. You don’t owe him your protection or loyalty anymore Michel. Part of you searching for the truth may be that you’re also holding yourself to some standard that I wonder if he set for you. You only owe yourself an explanation. Not us. Not him. If you want to tweet and NOT delete then do it girl. You did your time. Take yourself off probation.
Hi Michel. I am incredibly proud of you. I am old enough to be your grandmother and I enjoy watching you grow into your new life. I love seeing you take joy in the small things and planning for big things. Keep true to your faith and yourself.
I'm 62 years old and as I get older I find that the most important thing you can do for yourself is forgive others and move on. We are all eternal souls and will have to stand before God in the judgement. That's what I have tried to put in the front of my mind as I act and do things in my life. Yes Jesus does forgive but we must love and forgive and not worry about things that don't matter in the long run. I think you are doing a great job trying to move on after divorce. It was so hard for me as I was a battered wife with two kids but I have forgiven him. May God Bless You
What I did when someone hurt me, I wrote a letter than I burned it and let it go and yes it did help. Sometimes the hurt comes back, and I say to myself what does Jesus want me to learn from this. Sometimes I figure it out but most of the time I do not. I am sorry you're still hurting but within time it will easy up and hopefully not hurt so much. Please give yourself time to heal your heart sweetie!
My ex fiancé before my husband cheated on me habitually and I didn’t know until right before we almost got married. I remember even when I got home, “lurking” as I called it on his social media in order to similar things or just continue to be able to be angry so I didn’t have to be sad. I literally gave it up for Lent that year to help heal my heart. So completely understand this and you’re not alone. I love the heart to hearts.
I think it’s human nature to creep on our exes after a separation. You do it out of curiosity and also as a way to “find stuff” to make you validate suspicions or feelings but it almost always ends up making it worse. I would suggest you block him everywhere, trust me it’s for the best. Xoxo
I love the heart-to-heart chats. The internet is severely lacking in people being genuine. Your chats are always honest and genuine and it's such a breath of fresh air!
That is really why I have been keeping up watching your videos! I love that you are acknowledging how human we all are and the every day stuff we go through. Thank you for that!
Love a heart to heart chat. They cheer me up from halfway across the world in Queensland, Australia. You’re doing a great job Michel. You’re going through a huge life change and I think you’re doing so well. I’ve been you several times over following relationships - grieving and hurt are such hard emotions to work through. Life is a journey and we’re all growing and changing everyday xx
I love the honest chats. They’re actually my favorite part of your videos.
Hi Michel. Your honesty & openess is so mature. I completely understand the going on social media to check things/people & getting hurt by what you see, read, find. It can be very hurtful true that! I've experienced that & found for me that BLOCKING the person or persons is the BEST DECISION!! It first removes the temptation to check on them & gives time for the healing process to begin & complete. I pray 🙏 that you will begin & fully heal from all the hurt & pain you've been through. Keep in mind that it takes time. Prayers & Wishes Lisa Hampton 😃
I totally understand the feeling of being manipulated and second guessing myself. Michel you have come so far in this new season. It’s ok to feel anger, hurt and betrayed this is so normal for going what you have experienced. You continue to grow in your strength👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️
"act like you have kids and put them first". This was very helpful advice from a friend during a breakup. It's tempting to rage and gossip, but if you had little ones you wouldn't want them to hear that. Sharing with someone is important, but when the worst of it is over and you can breathe easier, it'll be better for your soul if you look back and feel proud of how you handled it
@17:00 we can see what really happened in their relationship. I’m so sorry. You’re so strong minded and your will to surpass this season in your life is so inspiring. Love these because you showing us how to cope and also being honest and not setting us up for an unexpected reality. Thank you for your honesty!
Tweeting and deleting is basically the same as writing a letter. They always recommend that in therapy, where you write a letter to a certain person who hurt you, but never actually send it. It's the same thing really, that cathartic release is perfectly healthy and normal.
You are so right! I’ll try writing actual letters next time, sounds much healthier too😆🤍
@@MichelJanse Yes, maybe a little less risky! 😂
Just don't do an email. The worst thing is to type "in the moment," and hit the send button. Many times I've been angry at someone and strained relationships from putting first initial thoughts of anger/disappointment, and hit "send" and wished I could get it back.
Or, if you do ever write something with the intent to send it to "that offending person" write it all out (don't hold back, put your true initial feelings), but once finished, leave it alone for the day, go out/do something productive, then come back to it. Many times you will have a different perspective/tone it down, or may not send it to them at all. But... you'll feel better for getting it out.
Something I’ve done before is write a ‘psalm’ to God pouring out everything holding nothing back and then ask and listen for his perspective xx
I’m so glad someone mentioned writing a letter you don’t intend to send. That’s exactly the advice I wanted to pass on, too. If you hand write it, an added level of cathartic release is tearing up the letter or burning it after you’re done writing. It feels so good! Hang in there, Michel!
holy shit 24?!? you have the overall maturity of someone who's late 20s / early 30s i swear.
love your vlogs - i stumbled upon here from your FAB review a long time ago, and tune in still
That means so much, thank you 🖤
I admire you! You are so strong and I liked how you don't mind that people analyzed your past relationship and taking that as a good thing and use it for growth instead of feeling bad.
Your apartment is looking and feeling comfy, homey and reflects you….loving it…Max is seeming pretty comfortable too..it appears that you are doing so well, thanks for being real and speaking about your feelings…continued prayers 😘❤️💕
I had to put on the bell notification because I didn’t get the notification for this and I was checking your page every hour (Im excited for your uploads). I’m a new subscriber and I just want to say I’m going through a LTR break up and I just appreciate how authentic you are. Thanks to your channel, you’ve helped me feel comfortable in wanting to seek out my relationship with Jesus again. Thank you for being you Michel. Love from your Canadian follower -Alisha D
This means so much. I’m glad we can all be here for eachother during seasons of change. Thank you for choosing to hang out with me!🤍
Your doing great yes we do dumb things after a break up because our hearts don't understand but after time and space we learn to heal and get to know ourselves 💓💓💓
you are such a fun person to watch! you have a new subscriber. hope everything goes well for you in your life
I LOVE the heart to heart talks. Don’t stop.
I applaud your honesty. I am currently purging my closet. I’m getting rid of a lovely dress that bad things happened while I had it on. Unpleasant things were exchanged by my partner and I. And I said out loud I don’t ever want that to happen again. And out the dress went. Admitting my part was helpful to me to continue to work on my relationship and me. All parts of me
For your nails find someone who does Russian manicures. They put a gel overlay on the nails and when you get them redone they don’t remove wirh acetone they just file down and the overlay protects your natural nails so they won’t be breaking or getting ruined. Just in case you didn’t know! You can prob find someone who does them
Via Instagram in your area.
I'm 39, been with my husband for almost 22 years and I am learning from you!! I'm not joking. You are not only mature but you are wise, insightful, kind, and intelligent. I am better after watching your videos and it helps me to be a better person to my spouse and friends. I never made a Twitter account, but 4 years ago I deleted FB and Insta and my life has never been better!! Sending you xhugsx!!
Not sure if you use Honey Pot for feminine hygiene but it is actually recommended not to use anything but water down there as it can actually mess with your natural balance and make stuff worse! I am a medical student passionate about women's health and I just want to share the information along :)
Have you ever read the Honey Pot packaging? The creator of it says how she got the 'recipe' for the cleanser when her dead ancestors came to her in her dream and told her how to wash her and others' vaginas (vulvas). That information in not on the site for people to see before they buy it. I thought it was a joke and talked to my OB/GYN who laughed and said she has had to try to convince many young women that dead grandpas aren't the best to count on for vulva cleansing advice since Honey Pot because popular on YT/social media.
@@betsybabf748 I literally can’t stop shaking my head about dead grandpa vulva cleaning advice
@@betsybabf748 oh my goodness yes! I bought one of the honey pot products once and then immediately decided to quit using it after reading that on the bottle 😅
Is there anything you recommend for cleaning when you’re on your period?
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I just love you! Your videos really make me take a look at my self! I’m a 57 year old lady, and really wish I would have been more mature earlier in my life! Please continue with your chats and videos, I really look forward to them!! You got this girl, you have soooo much life to live, make it a good one( as you are!). I’ll be waiting for your next video, so I can learn more about myself!
Girl, have those heart to hearts. It's clearly a good way for you to process what you're thinking and feeling and it's super healthy! It's also good to remove yourself from unhealthy social media if it's negatively affecting you. I only use instagram, youtube, and buzzfeed because I can't deal with most social media. But, just so you know, being able to catch yourself, acknowledge behaviors you don't like, and work to make progress is extremely mature. Everyone backslides or gives into toxic or immature behaviors sometimes, that doesn't make you immature at all.
The heart to hearts are my favorite part. Even though I’m not in your same situation currently, I am gaining so much from them. It also brings my heart a lot of joy to see you growing.
Loving your content lately!! So authentic and honest and reflective! Sending lots of love to you Michel
I used to do what you did. It took me a while to break the pattern, but it also helped in a weird way to move on with my life lol. But also some things that helped me is writing letters to the person who hurt you and burning them and meditating, visualizing that person and saying what you need to say to them while also releasing them. Also, this may sound a little cocky, but just realize you didn’t lose out on anything, they did. Rejection is protection! You’ll come into to great things Michel 😊
Sushi🍣 & movie nights to yourself are the best! Love when you can do the little things yourself too. Makes you feel so proud!
A strong woman is developed by enjoying yourself. Spending time alone. Mixed with time with those that are like minded, as enjoying the same things.
I've gotten used to saying my best friends are myself and I. Lol
You definitely are moving forward. Carefully. Be grateful for your youth, your health, your every breath. God's got a plan and your in it. Thanks for your inspiration. God Bless
So many things…not sure if you will read this or how it will land; please know it comes from the most genuine, kind place:
I’m about to be 40 and have a husband and 2yo. For whatever it’s worth, watching you move into an apartment in TX that reminds me of the last apartment I lived in while single (in Dallas), and watching you decorate, organize, have a sushi and movie night to yourself, makes me miss and appreciate that season of my life. I wasn’t married till 36 so I had many single years in several apartments and several states. I fully recognize that you are not (back) in the single-season by choice and my feelings on watching you in it don’t change your feelings. I pray that you are feeling pride (I would have felt the exact same way about that corner shelving!!), contentment, enjoyment, hope and appreciation, even in small bits, for the unique time period of being able to worry about yourself, wants, and needs first and sometimes only. Thank you for sharing the journey and giving me a reason to appreciate a season in my life that I many times begged God to end.
I have never been more drawn to your channel than now and it’s because of your sit down chats, vulnerability, and honesty. Pleaser keep including and know your in my, and I’m sure others’, prayers.
I have totally been guilty of using social media to find things that I know will hurt me to validate my suspicions or feelings about people who have hurt me. It’s admirable that you recognized and discussed with yourself what you were doing and why. Thanks for sharing that here as well. Hugs!
The heart to hearts are the best. You keep it real and honest. I think with most of us go back and check on ex’s especially if we were the ones hurt, because it’s natural to want answers even if they come with more pain and/ or anger. It’s a grieving process and those are steps we need to sometimes take. I don’t think it makes you immature, I think it makes you human.
Go Michele for building that bathroom shelf!
I really enjoy your heart to hearts, I think for so long you couldn't share as you were processing things, this feels like a new released side of you that is honest and refreshing. Not to say I didn't love your videos in the past but they were polished
We all, no matter what age, take immature actions or have immature thought processes, I think it's human
The major part I see here is you're trying to learn from and be the best version of you that you can be ❤
One thing my therapist suggested to me during my divorce was writing letters to my ex. I didn't have to send them. I found much relief in writing out how I felt and how HURT I was. I often burned the letters and let go of the nonsense. Everyone needs that release of hurt. It's OK to need to type it out or write it out. Being hurt after all this, and everything going on for you... it's normal to feel this way. It's a time of high emotion and tbh.. if it's what I think it is, don't for one single second think your reaction is wrong. Nobody likes a mad woman, but there's always someone behind why she's mad.
Cuticle oil helps to strengthen your nails. I too have weak nails and I’ve been using it everyday for about a month and have seen an improvement!
YES! Guard your heart!
I really appreciate your heart-to-heart chats, it's really brave to be so vulnerable and on camera, and it gives a sense of authenticity, which we need more of in our interactions with others ✨
Thank you for sharing a part of yourself with us, taking it one moment at a time however it feels comfortable and safe for you 💕
I love 💗 all of the heart to heart talks and hearing your insight into how you’re feeling and what you’re learning about yourself. It feels so nice to hear that we’re not alone and we’re all growing. Thank you for also being vulnerable and sharing. Have a beautiful day 🐝
I love love love your heartfelt chats!! Thank you so much for letting us into so much of your world.
I absolutely love the honest heart-to-heart chats! Please keep doing them :)
I don’t consider it to be immature. Whether we as humans are emotionally, physically, or verbally hurt, our first instinct is to protect and defend ourselves. You were emotionally hurt and in a very stressful and in new situation, you did what most people would do. You’re a kind and real person. You shouldn’t be so tough on yourself for feeling emotions. We love you Michel, that’s why we keeping coming back to see you.
Michel, Love the heart-to-heart vlogs 🤗
LoL, gas-lighting/negative vibes,seems to be the new trend.
I stay clear of both.
Never apologize for being You.
So good to see you growing , taking chances and smiling through. 💛
You are doing Awesome 🌼
Michel, I loooove the heart to heart chats!! I’d watch you for hours 🥰 I love your honesty and your heart, so big and gracious!! Always sending you love and keeping you in my prayers. Love you!!! ❤️
I really get inspired by your cleaning and organizing clips. As a woman in my 30's, I was just diagnosed Adhd and it's very difficult for me to stay organized so thank you for inspiring me to get some at-home clean up accomplished this weekend.
Girl you don't owe anyone anything. Allow yourself to be upset. Breathe and release it!! This is a blessing in disguise 🌻
Love the chats and what you do in. Your because I am divorced now 17 yrs and I have not done a thing for myself and by myself loved to watch your staycation would love to see more of it at home if you need a challenge there's one for you .. love the new you
Thanks Michel for opening and sharing your thoughts. I see you and I don’t feel so alone. You are so kind, beautiful and smart. I’m going through a heartache, dec 20 2021 was the day I felt so betrayed by the man I thought cared and loved me. I know I cannot be with him. I decided to block his number and unfollowed him on social media, I have to do it to be able to move on. I have moments where I want to tell him so many things, I’m so mad and hurt by it but I know it’s best to just let it go and move forward. No looking back. You are strong, we are strong and we will do just fine.
Michel don’t be so hard on yourself. What you are going thru is very traumatic and I can guarantee that your actions are no different than anyone else going thru the same issues. Everything takes time and you will get there and be better for it! Just keep doing what you’re doing and everything else will fall into place. Love your channel and look forward to going thru this journey with you!! 💜
Thanks for sharing that none of your friends are able to hang out. It was so real and honest. I admire that, It really helped me in so many ways. Sometimes that happens to me as well I feel so lonely and sometimes rejected even know it’s not supposed to be that way. Mindfulness and thankfulness and being able to treat yourself with sushi and watch a new movie is such a great mindset!
I love watching your vlogs more than ever! I have found that when rough things happen I don’t always understand why they happened but with time and distance from the situation they turn out to be a blessing. You seem like you are learning, growing & flourishing and that is a wonderful way to live your life! You got this🥰
I got the line a day journal to start once I get married. I think it will be great to see how I change and what I go through in those first few years and will probably continue to do that through my marriage. My SO knows I got this and also thinks it will be cool to go through that later in life. On another note, we are all immature at times. It takes strength to admit and change those habits.
Michel l love that you do the heart to heart chats, please don't stop doing that. Your videos always inspires me to look into my own personal life and turn negatives into positives.
Your hair is looking really beautiful in this vlog Michel! Super full and healthy and natural and it frames your face beautifully ❤️ also always a joy to watch your content, thanks for being my internet friend :)
I love your real chats you are so inspiring
Thank you for saying that 🥺🤍
I love your heart to heart chats! It has really helped me to reflect and accept things I need to work on myself! Things I have neglected or chose to procrastinate. I’m much older than you but no matter the age we need to grow and reflect on ourselves even when it’s difficult. You are beautiful and I appreciate your videos! 💕
I've undownloaded all social media. Sometimes it's nice to choose yourself and cleanse!
First of all, you are doing it great, killing it girl! I happened to see your vlog that just popped up that you talked about how much you were earning in 2019 with 19000 subscribers. To see that you are already over 123K is surely something to be proud of! Congratulations! YOU are super motivating and doing a super job. Good luck with your new chapter in your life.
Love the chats they are the best part
I’m a recent subscriber and love your energy. Please know that you are helping so many women and men by sharing your vulnerability. Just know that the best is yet to come and what you’ve been through is simply going to serve a purpose. You still have a wonderful future and I believe God is guiding you to a season of caring and loving yourself more. You deserve more. Reminds me of a picture of a small kid crying because God took away his tiny bear and all along God had a bigger bear as a gift for the kid behind His back. Things will fall into place 🤍
This felt so good to watch. I deleted all my social media apps this week because they were making me anxious and I couldn’t just not look at what was making me feel that way. It really feels good to know I am not alone.
We all have helpful and unhelpful behaviors. I love your heart to hearts, it feels great in my heart 💗
You sharing your tweet situation with us in such a level-headed and reflective way only shows truly how mature you are. Keep growing sis! Prayers for you 💛
I posted a comment a long time ago about him and it was talked about aswell between yall , it turned out to be correct, I'm glad you are realizing your worth, they don't need protection, they didn't protect you.
I'm so proud of you for managing the shower rack all by yourself!!!!
Oh girl! Please do your heart to heart. We are all growing
When i went through my divorce i did the same thing, and it got ugly. About a month into it i deleted everything for about a month and oh boy did it make a world of difference in my mental health. Now i pause all soical media every two months for about two weeks just to reload myself and its beautiful! You are mature and wonderful and dont forget it.
Michel, I thank you for sharing so honestly about your struggles, achievements, new beginnings, heart to heart chats, joys and self reflections. I live so far from you in Melbourne, Australia but I feel as though you I am your neighbour. You Go Girl.
You doing the “official test” made me laugh out loud!! Love your editing lately
I would say I’ve left every video of yours the last few months speechless. The genuine, honest, and encouraging energy I get from your videos is unlike any other creator. And I’m just so utterly grateful to have discovered you.. your journey isn’t easy but the value in you sharing it, is unmeasurable. Thank you, thank you, thank you!! ❣️ keep being awesome & authentic!
This comment literally made me tear up 🥺 thank you for being so kind🤍 I’m so happy you’re here
I love the heart to heart chats !!! helps me grow and i feel like im growing with you!!
No over kill. I’m learning so much and am reflecting myself. Thank you. I have blocked people because I don’t need to see some things.
Enjoy this season of life and let yourself feel and do what makes you feel “normal like yourself” whatever that means.
LOVE the heart to heart chats! ❤️❤️❤️
Your heart chats are encouraging and appreciated for your honesty and openness . You are handling change with great courage.
All of your videos have made me feel so proud of you lately! I love the raw honesty and all the small wins you've been racking up. Rooting for you 👏🏻
Michel, I think we, I say we because most of us have done it, would not be human if we didn’t want to know what the other person is doing. Also do not think that is immature. You protecting him, is extremely mature. I am 50 years old, a clinical therapist, and I am not sure I would not be screaming from the roof tops, how I am was harmed by a relationship. Ok well that is a little over board, but just know, you are the maturest 24 year old I have met. Keep going even though the ups and downs. Allow yourself to be “immature” at times. Just remember you do not have to cause yourself more pain, maybe be immature in a way that causes freedom and happiness :-) I love you 😘💕❤️
I have been using Thrive Market for several years and love them, they are not only a great source for snacks but also for pantry staples. I buy their branded beans, they have both dried and cooked as well as both pinto and black “refried” all with just beans and water. I also buy my veggie broth, peanut and almond butters (just nuts not sugars or oils) plus so much more. Best of luck to you, keep doing you 😘
Thanks for sharing. I enjoy your self reflections it makes me think about my own actions and how I’m contributing to my well being.
I’m bench watching your videos I love them I just stayed seen them !
I love the honest heart to heart chats!!
Keep up the great content, Michel! We all love and support you ❤️
Love YOU🥺🥺🥺
Thank you for this! I definitely needed you when I was in my early 20’s but I know that there are young women out here that need what you’re saying ❤️
It's good to get things out. And you are human and your reaction is natural. I'm sure we all have done it. But sometimes we have to cut out those toxic temptations that make it tempting to do things that will only hurt us. If having this person or anyone easy accessible enough that you are tempted to look for things, block them, delete them. Whatever you have to do to not tempt yourself to look or be around that. But it shows much maturity on your part to admit to yourself that it isn't healthy for you to expose yourself to that and want to change it. You will get through this for the better. You are right now becoming the person by these experiences that will prepare you for who you are meant to be with later.
You should get gel nails! That’s what I did when my nails were really weak! They helped a lot to become healthy again and it’s super safe and they don’t need to file the nail 🥰
😀 was just getting our Thrive Market order together when I got notification. Adding the Nashville almonds, sounds so good.
You are the most mature 24 year old I know of. Hang in there...the best is yet to come!
I think you are doing what is a normal response to the season you are in no matter what age you are. A form of healing. Yes it hurts and you want answers. Sometimes there are no answers. Only that you are on a better path now. ❤️
Love your chats! You are amazing and deserve so much more!
The chats are very relatable and insightful
Wow wow WOW. To see you come to your realizations about your social media use and how it can hurt you....girl, I'm twice your age and it took me a lot longer to learn that painful lesson! I don't know you but good golly I'm proud and impressed. Also, your friend's dog's eyes are amazing!