Those people are the worst. If you are thinking of going back, don't do it, don't do it... it's been 4 weeks NC (He dumped me) and honestly I do miss him but I'm glad he did cause I didn't have the guts to do it and guess what I am not going back even if he comes back after 5 years. I'm not putting my mental health through such stress and pain, NEVER AGAIN, so my hunnies stay strong. we deserve better than those broken humans
That's great, you go girl! 👏👌💗Now you know your worth and value. 💗Same here. My ex that is an avoidant broke up with me two months ago. Now I can see clearly that he was very selfish. Thereafter, we kept in contact via sending messages to each other (not meeting up because I didn't want to see him physically). Three weeks ago I walked away from him, not replying to his last message to me. In that message he urged me to be his good friend for the rest of our lives. But my silence now is saying everything. Exactly, NEVER AGAIN!Yes, we are strong and we deserve only healthy humans in our lives. 🙌💜
The part where you say that you were a different persone before meeting them and you become another after having a relationship with them it’s so true.
I appreciate you pointing that out. That is the biggest thing that I think a lot of us struggle with after a breakup. Because we never realize how much we have changed until then. And then is such a struggle to redefine ourselves because we don’t know what is really us vs who we become due to the relationship. But with patience and healing we begin to uncover and in some ways rebuild our identity!
1; No contact 2;Understand their attachment style has nothing to do with you, don't blame your self 3;Validate your emotions, feel to heal 4; Stop analyzing the connection, it drives you crazy 5; Be patient with yourself, your body needs to process/heal the experience 6;Setting/rebuild boundaries, stay true to yourself 7; Start to learn yourself again, work with yourself, rebuild your identity, it's about YOU!!!
I always believe that we are all responsible for our own emotions. After being Love Bombed 💣 and dropped I never had that overload of Stress and Cortisol. It's been 3 weeks of pain and suffering and just now getting a grip on it. All I can say is Wow!
Amazing-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop (thinking about him)
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but I couldn't just let him go. I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back*
Never had been with an Avoidant before. I Never thought I was Anxious Attatched Person until now? But Thanks to your video Coach it really has helped me see myself as well as identify that behavior. Keep up this great work.
The first thing you need to understand is that this people are damage! I was ghosted and let on read leting me to guess if the relationship was over or if anything serious happened to her! After 2 years of relationship... This is not normal at all! This people can hurt you even worst then a narcissist. Forget them as soon as you can, the twist this shit makes to your brain is just pain over pain... anyone that can get fast over this is a hero!
Those people are the worst. If you are thinking of going back, don't do it, don't do it... it's been 4 weeks NC (He dumped me) and honestly I do miss him but I'm glad he did cause I didn't have the guts to do it and guess what I am not going back even if he comes back after 5 years. I'm not putting my mental health through such stress and pain, NEVER AGAIN, so my hunnies stay strong. we deserve better than those broken humans
How long were y'all together?
@ninoblakk was going to be 2 years on the 26th Dec 2024, and he dumped me on 16th Dec 2024
That's great, you go girl! 👏👌💗Now you know your worth and value. 💗Same here. My ex that is an avoidant broke up with me two months ago. Now I can see clearly that he was very selfish. Thereafter, we kept in contact via sending messages to each other (not meeting up because I didn't want to see him physically). Three weeks ago I walked away from him, not replying to his last message to me. In that message he urged me to be his good friend for the rest of our lives. But my silence now is saying everything. Exactly, NEVER AGAIN!Yes, we are strong and we deserve only healthy humans in our lives. 🙌💜
@@helenatapper777 Yep, textbook, they try to keep you on the side and as back up even if they dont want you, its for their own benefit.
@@ninoblakk True. No healthy person would accept being treated just as an option. When you see red flags, then get out of there asap!
The part where you say that you were a different persone before meeting them and you become another after having a relationship with them it’s so true.
I appreciate you pointing that out. That is the biggest thing that I think a lot of us struggle with after a breakup. Because we never realize how much we have changed until then. And then is such a struggle to redefine ourselves because we don’t know what is really us vs who we become due to the relationship. But with patience and healing we begin to uncover and in some ways rebuild our identity!
Yesssss oh how so true.
1; No contact
2;Understand their attachment style has nothing to do with you, don't blame your self
3;Validate your emotions, feel to heal
4; Stop analyzing the connection, it drives you crazy
5; Be patient with yourself, your body needs to process/heal the experience
6;Setting/rebuild boundaries, stay true to yourself
7; Start to learn yourself again, work with yourself, rebuild your identity, it's about YOU!!!
I always believe that we are all responsible for our own emotions. After being Love Bombed 💣 and dropped I never had that overload of Stress and Cortisol. It's been 3 weeks of pain and suffering and just now getting a grip on it. All I can say is Wow!
Life is too short to keep someone in your life that you have to go silent towards on purpose just so you can try to be heard.
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Thank you Coach Tynell...you have helped me a lot to go thru this breakup.
Chipping away at my boundaries. As strong as I am, I saw this too late. 💔
Why do we attract avoidants after a narcissistic relationship? And how do I fix that?
Amazing-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop (thinking about him)
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but I couldn't just let him go. I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back*
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach one.?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex...
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive!
Thank God for this video!
Never had been with an Avoidant before. I Never thought I was Anxious Attatched Person until now? But Thanks to your video Coach it really has helped me see myself as well as identify that behavior. Keep up this great work.
Me too, brother. It's a whirlwind of an experience.
Your not, it’s the avoidant making you anxious!!
Da has left me in shambles. Friends for 2.5 years dated for 4 months. Happiest to the saddest I’ve ever been. Great friend, terrible partner.
Insightful as always
Thank you!! I appreciate that!
Thank you for the pep talk!
Your welcome! I hope it was able to help!
The first thing you need to understand is that this people are damage! I was ghosted and let on read leting me to guess if the relationship was over or if anything serious happened to her! After 2 years of relationship... This is not normal at all! This people can hurt you even worst then a narcissist. Forget them as soon as you can, the twist this shit makes to your brain is just pain over pain... anyone that can get fast over this is a hero!
They can damage you worse then an NPD, amen to these words
That happen to me too. Don’t reach out. Go no contact. And put energy into yourself. Stay focused. Don’t reach out ever!!!