@vodacoma1747 That is such a good sign!! I am so happy for y'all! Yes, it is challenging but I am glad you are seeing change! If you have any video requests to help along your journey, let me know so I can make it for you!
I'm emotionally avoidant. I didn't plan it that way. It's just how I started life. A few years ago I read a book about attachment styles. In it, I learned about secure attachment, and ever since then I've been thinking about it. I realized that the way I act is not how human beings can and should act. Sometimes I try to figure out what it is I'm feeling, and then sometimes I will try to share that with someone. Today at work I told my boss I was feeling insecure about my job because she was thinking about changing my job duties. It wasn't easy or fun, but I did that. And it probably made things better for me. It's hard for emotionally avoidant people to change, but I think it can happen. And sometimes it does. This video about what the changes look like is really encouraging. It gives people hope. Thank you for sharing!
@timf8792 I think that is a huge step in telling your boss how you felt :) I am glad for you. Yes, change is possible. I see it many times with patients. I am glad you enjoyed and found the video helpful.
Thank you so much for these videos!!❤ As another practicing therapist who happens to be in.... well, let's call it a loving but undefined relationship with a dismissive avoidant 😂... I see far too many people harshly criticize avoidants and make it seem there's no hope for them to heal. Sadly, much of the advice given revolves around doing things that will actively hurt an avoidant and make them more certain that they can't trust anyone not to abandon them the second they start to show their authentic self... it breaks my heart. 😢 Thank you for showing the ways they DO make progress in healing. My man is an extreme case, and even he has been slowly healing just as you described. I believe my approach (which is just like yours) is turning things around for him, for the first time in his life. ❤
@BuckleBunnyBeth I am so glad you both are finding solutions, and he is changing! He is lucky to have you. I wish y'all a successful and fulfilling relationship together. If you have any video requests, let me know so I can help y'all on your journey.
@GuidedAwareness-n1d thank you!! I would love to see your take on core wounds. It seems like underneath the tough exterior, DA's are usually more sensitive than most, which could be why they have such an extreme coping mechanism to deal with that core wound. I have some theories of my own - it might be fun to chat or even collaborate if you're open to it. 😊
Thank you so much! I’ve watched many video's and almost gave up hope that an avoidant CAN heal! And a relationship is possible and doesn't have to be draining the life out of their partners 🙏🏼 I want to support him while he is healing... While working in my own shadowhealing
@lievevandyk9697 Yes, relationships of all kinds can be very rewarding. Just like any relationship, it takes some work and time but it is worth it if two people continue to work together. He is lucky to have you.
@sahrishmansoor3858 Hello :) Yes, it is possible. I will be making several videos on how to prompt, assist and support avoidants to heal/change. These videos are not meant to be a substitute for therapy but it is possible to heal these wounds without therapy. As long as both partners are willing to make changes/adjustments for the relationship. I will also make a video on this particular aspect as well.
@@GuidedAwareness-n1d I too would LOVE to see these videos. Thank you! I’m female, 56 and secure. My girlfriend is 60 and DA. She’s showing some signs of healing and I need tips for how I can help/support.
Thank you so much for wanting to help people! God bless you for that!
@WeepingWidowSueAna I am happy to help :) It is why I chose this career. :) I am glad you are enjoying and finding these videos helpful!
You are right. I noticed mentioned changes in his communication.. slowly, step by step.. but it requires a hell difficult work from us... thanks
@vodacoma1747 That is such a good sign!! I am so happy for y'all! Yes, it is challenging but I am glad you are seeing change! If you have any video requests to help along your journey, let me know so I can make it for you!
I'm emotionally avoidant. I didn't plan it that way. It's just how I started life. A few years ago I read a book about attachment styles. In it, I learned about secure attachment, and ever since then I've been thinking about it. I realized that the way I act is not how human beings can and should act.
Sometimes I try to figure out what it is I'm feeling, and then sometimes I will try to share that with someone. Today at work I told my boss I was feeling insecure about my job because she was thinking about changing my job duties. It wasn't easy or fun, but I did that. And it probably made things better for me.
It's hard for emotionally avoidant people to change, but I think it can happen. And sometimes it does. This video about what the changes look like is really encouraging. It gives people hope. Thank you for sharing!
@timf8792 I think that is a huge step in telling your boss how you felt :) I am glad for you. Yes, change is possible. I see it many times with patients. I am glad you enjoyed and found the video helpful.
Thank you so much for these videos!!❤ As another practicing therapist who happens to be in.... well, let's call it a loving but undefined relationship with a dismissive avoidant 😂... I see far too many people harshly criticize avoidants and make it seem there's no hope for them to heal. Sadly, much of the advice given revolves around doing things that will actively hurt an avoidant and make them more certain that they can't trust anyone not to abandon them the second they start to show their authentic self... it breaks my heart. 😢 Thank you for showing the ways they DO make progress in healing. My man is an extreme case, and even he has been slowly healing just as you described. I believe my approach (which is just like yours) is turning things around for him, for the first time in his life. ❤
@BuckleBunnyBeth I am so glad you both are finding solutions, and he is changing! He is lucky to have you. I wish y'all a successful and fulfilling relationship together. If you have any video requests, let me know so I can help y'all on your journey.
@GuidedAwareness-n1d thank you!! I would love to see your take on core wounds. It seems like underneath the tough exterior, DA's are usually more sensitive than most, which could be why they have such an extreme coping mechanism to deal with that core wound. I have some theories of my own - it might be fun to chat or even collaborate if you're open to it. 😊
@@BuckleBunnyBeth Yes, I can certainly make videos on core wounds and yes, I am open to chatting one day!
@@GuidedAwareness-n1d haha I totally understand that! It's great to meet you... when you have time to chat, feel free to reach out! 😊
Good content. Thank you
Thank you❤love your energy!
@Mahi-w2r5b Thank you! I hope this video helped you and/or your loved one(s).
Amazing amazing content. Please keep it coming!
Thank you so much! I’ve watched many video's and almost gave up hope that an avoidant CAN heal! And a relationship is possible and doesn't have to be draining the life out of their partners 🙏🏼 I want to support him while he is healing... While working in my own shadowhealing
@lievevandyk9697 Yes, relationships of all kinds can be very rewarding. Just like any relationship, it takes some work and time but it is worth it if two people continue to work together. He is lucky to have you.
I'd like to see a similar video on signs that thr axious is healing.
Thanks for sharing this video. It helped me :)
Will do. I will keep that in mind.
Thank you so much!! This gives me hope for my DA girlfriend. ❤ She has done a few of these things.
@hfortenberry Yw! I am so she is showing signs of healing! Y'all are blessed to have each other!
Can avoidants heal without therapy, if the anxious partner is working on their healing?
@sahrishmansoor3858 Hello :) Yes, it is possible. I will be making several videos on how to prompt, assist and support avoidants to heal/change. These videos are not meant to be a substitute for therapy but it is possible to heal these wounds without therapy. As long as both partners are willing to make changes/adjustments for the relationship. I will also make a video on this particular aspect as well.
@@GuidedAwareness-n1d I too would LOVE to see these videos. Thank you! I’m female, 56 and secure. My girlfriend is 60 and DA. She’s showing some signs of healing and I need tips for how I can help/support.
@@hfortenberry I will certainly do so!