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Sir...I have been suffering very badly for 10 years because of my elder siblings ..I am extremely hurt💔💔💔💔...thanks for guiding us in all ways possible 🙏
सर मैं ये दुःख 20 साल से भोग रहा हूँ हमारे घर में ऐसे जंगली लोग है जो न सुनते हैं न मानते है व्यवस्था खराब करके काम में फसाते है।हमें अपनी बुध्दि कौशल का सही उपयोग नही करने देते। आपकी एक एक बात सटीक है। नमन है आपको। 🙏🙏
ये बहुत ही महत्वपूर्ण विषय है, इस तरह के विषय पर समाज मे खुलकर चर्चा होनी चाहिए क्योंकि कितने ही लोग इसके बारे में नही जानते हैं और पीड़ा सहते रहते हैं। अपने बहुत ही अच्छेसे समझाया है।धन्यवाद सर्🙏
Mere sas sasur ese hai mujhe har jagah bura bana Diya hai mujhe logo se Milne ko dar lagta hai Mera beta bhi esa ho gaya hai mujhe disease lag gayi kya karu
my husband is this personality type....well am super proud of myself as I Consider ppl who like to put u down as a step to level up self....i hv made him & his games powerless by my silence.....I love proving ppl wrong so I use him as a challenge & better myself every moment ....i didnt know they were called gaslighters....being aware is the only way to bring light wuthin
This is me,it took yeaaars to understand until I was taken to therapist and put in medicine.god was with me and and everyday I leveled up myself. Now I enjoy without responding and behave like deaf and love myself. My priority my health.
अब हम उम्र के आखिरी पड़ाव मे हैं पर आपने जितनी बातें बतायी वह सब मेरे जीवन मे घटित हुई है अब बस ईश्वर स्मरण ही रह गया हमारे पास जिन्होने हमे प्रभावित किया वे सब अपने आप दूर हो ग ए है .पर आपका विश्लेषण पूर्णत: सत्य है काश बहुत पहले इन बातों की जानकारी मिली होती शायद जीवन और अच्छा हो जाता
This topic really needs awareness. Because people only know physical and verbal abuse. The society is rarely aware of this kind of mental abuse. Thank you Sir, for bring up this topic. It's well explained.
My husband was a narcissist and a gaslighter. I survived my 56 yrs of marriage by sheer will power to be my own person. I had good paying job , enjoyed and excelled in my work and he liked my money to enjoyed his addictions. Once you marry such person , you are caught in a web of guilt , love , sense duty , raising children , social conditioning & expectation , in Indian culture in my time . Everything you mentioned in your lecture had happened to me , I wonder how I survived. After his death , I feel calm , at peace and our children are happier . God bless you Dr Verma , to raise awareness in our society.
Better late than never " this video came late for us Indian people, because in western society this topic of narcissistism is well addressed for a long time. That's the reason people are more sorted with their relationships. Certainly we need Life coaching here in India as you said. Thank you sir for putting so much efforts to educate ua all. Hope many people will identify themselves and not suffer at the hands of a narcissistic personality anymore.
Awesome content sir je 👏🙏 I was a sufferer . I was a very bold and confident girl of my father. My father always Introduced me to every one ….” ये है मेरी झाँसी की रानी” 😁 but a GAS LIGHTER was spoiled my 15 years . Now he is not with me , and I am working on my self to achieve my career and spiritual goals . I know many families are suffering from these GAS LIGHTERS. 😁 Thank you sir for educating us 🙏
Yes actually same condition with me also my father also called me always same but my husband family in which I m living made me what I don't,,,i m highly educated but now dump,shy, foolish
सर थैंक्स ये सब से मेरे साथ खराब से खराब व्यवहार मनोवैज्ञानिक तरीको का इस्तेमाल करते हुए २० वर्ष गुजर गये अब असलियत समझ पाई हूँ टूटी इसलिए नही कि अपने पैरों पर खड़ी हूँ मै एक्शन में पूरी तरह से हूँ अलग इस लिए नही हुई बच्चे बडे होरहे है। अब आप मोटी वेट कर रहे है. मैं खुश हू 🙏🙏🙏
Aapne bahot sah baat kahi sir ....meri life me bhi bikul same behaviour wala ek person hai ...jiske sath mai deal kar raha hu ....aapka bahot bahot dhanyawad sir ....apki jo ye video hai ye sach bahot se logo ki zindagi badal sakti hai..... ishwar hamesha aapko ashirwad de . Ek baar fir aapka bahot bahot dhanyawad
Mera husband asa hai. Mujhe pagal banane ki koshish kiya apne dost aur doctor ke sath milkar. Lekin me aaj tak khud ko thik karne ke koshish kar rahi hu.
My sister is like this. It's all my life story...200% true. God gave me the strength to walk out of my house...although a bit too late. If I were not suppressed so much in early life I could've achieved much more in life. Now I'm at peace . No complaints. Thank God 🙏🙏
I broke all ties with my inlaws especially my sister in law and my mother in law. Also my husband. I was extremely smart, outgoing and a very happy girl when I got married. Every attempt was made to destroy my self-esteem. After 18 months of living alone I am healing. But it was a very painful process. Such gaslighters are evil people.
I m with you on this.. my in laws influenced my husband and destroying my confidence and independence.. I have to live with them as I’m in oman but I have stopped talking with in laws and talking with husband only when in laws are not there as they have to say something on anything that we are talking between husband wife… but I’m planning to move to India or stay separately once I get a job
Yeh sari baten waqt k sath main sekh chuka hun han main andar se bht barbad hogya hun magr thek b horaha hun. Bs itna kahunga jitna hoske toxic logon se door rahen ya boundaries smjha dain unhn bht ache se
Sir, husband was exactly same..i suffered for 11 months..he died 25 yrs back..then onwards I'm living a peaceful life with my two daughters,son in law's n grand children 😃
Thanks a lot sir,meri is vedio se bhut help hone vali h,me last 1.5 years se victim bn k rh rhi hu,muje to ab tk pta bhi nhi tha, ki mere sath kya ho rha h ,meri life me meri elder sister in law gaslighter h🥺
मेरे पति भी इसी पर्सनेलिटी के थे। अभी तो नही है, लेकिन आज भी नही भूलती हूं। आप जो बोल रहे है , एक एक बात सही है।मैं किसी तरह से अपनी नौकरी ,अपनी घर बचाई।मैं M A ,BEd थी sAIL मे टीचर थी। लेकिन जिंदगी भर मुझे बाहर से लेकर बच्चो की नजर में भी गिराने की कोशिश करते रहे। 🙏
Sirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....what an episode... I am. Victim of this. My entire family does this to me..... Now iam going through horrible panic attacks.... I identified this pattern....but still iam unable to help myself because they are my family members. Literally it is like pouring hot oil on us..when they do this... You are doimg a great job and saving many lives....god bless you sir.🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Completely agree with you sir,I am dealing with such person,41 years of married life with such person,I feel like waste of my most beautiful years,his alcohol has destroyed not only his life mine too.Thank you for your advices.
Thnx for guiding. My maid had been doing it fr many months with me and disturbing me. She used to shout and spk pricking words whenever she was checked fr something.thr was a pattern which was happening evry 5th month. I had been tolerating her coz she's been honest and a good worker. After a recent incident I have asked her to leave aftr eight yrs of association.
Mera 20 saal ka experience hai... Aj bhi bahar nhi nikal sakti dependency itni kharaab hai... Sirf ek change hai is vdo mein ki main main chillaaati roti hun aur samaan fenkti hun frustration se... Aapki har baat perfect hai jo aapne bataya har ek incident hua hai mere saath
Thank you so much sir for clarifying this gaslighting. Yes we are surrounded by such gaslighters in the form of father, sister's husband and some friends. 🙏🙏
My Parents are ditto this personality specially my mother. I have been facing this concern for last 20 years. My life has become hell. My social image has been spoiled to this level I prefer to avoid every common known people to them as well as known to me. There was a time I was known for being a studious kid sincere guy among all relative's kids. Every single trait Sir has mentioned here about gaslighter's ditto matches with gaslighters present in my life. Every neighbor, every single relative who visits to my parents has changed their views for me.
Can understand your pain and anger as I have also gone through same situation. But time changes. Trust on your God and in yourself.never take wrong decision in anger. Never ruin your personality for them.
मैने यह जाना के मेरे साथ ये हुआ है। मैने मेरे संपर्क में आनेवाले लोगोको ऐसे टॉर्चर से बचाने की कोशिश की।मेरा स्वभाव बन गया के मैं किसी को भी प्रेरणा ही देता रहता हू।
Thanks for this video 🙏 yes,everything is right about them.. many times I experienced being with these" gaslighters"...Thank God I understood their intentions and got victory..May all victims get rid of gaslighters..very helpful video
Thanks for this video..its really life changing for many.... i have also faced this situation ... although it was a love marriage 18 years ago...lmy life after marriage was full of criticism and blaming etc .. although he is good ,loves me too.... but his narcissistic traits were killing me inside...i lost my worth... felt worthless.... developed many health issues..... But the story started changing since few years... somehow with gods blessings.... i removed all expectations... I accepted the fact that his nature can't be changed...i started making myself distant from him from inside... started doing regular prayer and breathing meditation.... and started focusing on becoming financially independent... Now i am in much much much better position...all my health issues has resolved...i m emotionally much balanced and strong....i feel good from inside....his behaviour has become better than before ...... but I don't care much....i try to not react on anything... neither interfere in his business........
Respected Sir you are right because I'm facing all these things. Sir asa logo ki ager ham baat Manta jaata hai to yeh or torture karta hai ager nahi maanta to drama karta hai yaha tak ki boundations ka level or jyada kar data hai . Salute you Sir Jo aaj tak mai nahi samaj payi vo aapna aaj mujha bata diya . Thank you so much sir for giving us different types of knowledge. God bless you & ur family. ❤️ You are a messenger of God 🙏🌹🌹🙏
My mother is this kind of person she used to trouble my dad but after his death she makes me troubeful Thank you sir for making this video mostly log bs toxic toxic person pe video banate hai aapke is video ne mujhe ek nayi life ka realization diya hai god bless you sir .... Jab main actually share krti hu logo se ki meri mom kaisa behave krto hai mere sath and thats completly different with other people toh logo mujhe smjte nhi hai unko yakeen nhi hota hai ki aisa koi kr shkta hai and at the end main jhuthi kehlayi jati hu mujhe lagta tha problem mujhe mein hai meri hi galati hai is video ne mujhe new life di hai sach mejn iam very thankful to you for helping me and guiding me
Meri ma bhi yesi hai.....mere relatives ko mere secrets btati hai...bolti hai tu kali hai tere se kaun shadi karega.....aur bolti hai sabko apni ma ki nahi hui to kisi ki kya hogi.....aur mujhe barbaad kar ke rakh di hai...Teri kabhi job nahi lagegi bolti hai......aur even shadi bhi rukwa ke rakhi hai.....mujhe bolti hai bhaag Jana chahiye tha na....
Aapki baat bilkul hamaari aapbiti hai. Par Bhagwan hi mukti dilate hai. Kabhi saamne wala kuch badalta hai. Kabhi hamko Bhagwan dusri raah pakara dete hai aur long run me jakar realise hota hai ki ham chah kar bhi iss sthiti ko nahi paa sakte the. Par Bhagwan ki daya se mould hue aur rasta bann gaya. Aapne jo bhi 10 points bataye hai woh bilkul practical hai Hamko is bure dour ka khub anubhav hua hai. Ab ja kar Shanti mili jab saksham Guru mile.(Mentor) mile🙏🌹
Thanks a lot sir for taking up this very important topic. In Indian families it is the "Bahu" who usually become the victim of gaslighting. Because of their children they suffer silently and in most cases it's a life long suffering for them which leads to mental illness. With time ...from the immediate family members to the extended family members all learn to use her to their advantage and treat her like a door mat. This becomes a normal behaviour in the family. As their is no support system in the family, the Bahu becomes a lifelong victim. Only if her children grow to understand her ...or if she gets a strong support either within or outside family...she will be able to come out of the traumatic situation.
Thanks❤ sir. Same me 💯. Sural wale, mere pati unki sunte the. Aaj khud me hi khush hu. Mere bache Or Rab te believe ne jinda rakha. Aapne karna khrab nahi kitte. Jai shree krishna Radhe Radhe..... 🌷💖🙏
Sir me aise person se mil chuki hu oosne meri life naam ijjat sab kuch khatam kar diya mujhe dipression, baaloo ka girna ,motapa bahut si problem ho gayi hai me life me bahut kuch karna chaahti thii but aaj me career ko lekar stuck hu . 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭Aapki ek ek line mujhse resonate kar rahi hai 😭😭😭😭
I think silence, no contacts with gaslighters is best one. Victims explore their new areas of growth and be in constant support system of loved ones. Regularly exercise, take good nutrition and feed their mind by reading great books. Block him to every places social media, call, texts and also break your circle with their toxic supportes and information givers to gaslighters individual. And also doesn't not recive or accepted unknown calls and messages from. Anyone for life long. Beacause they try to disturb you by very tactics when they are bored.
Apni family pr trust kro logo ko jb mn kre tb mana bolo ignore kro jyada time tk . Aur apne pr kaam kro is the best option ................ Aur kisi ko hd se jyada pyaar mt kro
Thank you for educating us about the threats and disadvantages of a "Gas lighter" persona. Mostly people face such a scenario but don't know how to safeguard themselves. 👌
My husband Narendra Sinha is like this, very quarrelsome,then one day I was talking with Dad nicely,he started saying why were u talking nicely with your Dad 😢
Show perseverance, shed off fear , fight against them , try to come out of relationship at any cost. Yes but narcissists are always around you at home or at work place.
It's a very rare topic, and such a great explanation sir, you gave such an example ,it happens in real,my husband is 60percent same after 13 yrs of marriage I am not the same person once I was, now totally broken ,no confidence, faced depression ,Koi cheez ki ichcha Nahin Rah Gaye.sir can u plz discuss on the topic, how to know this type of person before marriage,is se bahut ladies ki life bach sakti hai,
Sir,mujhe samajhne me 04 saal lag gaya apne partner ko, Akhir me apka video mila, Thankyou god, thankyou sir Dil ko sukun a gaya, me soch me pad gaya tha ki keise is problem se niklu, Thankyou sir,❤❤❤ se,
Ram Ji, I would call you Shri Ram Ji, i wouldn't know how this video came in front of my view, for me you are Shri Ram, that's what I learned that God helps through regular normal people. You to the point. Luckily, I had seen it for a long time in my last life and today I am able to enable not just my wife, team members,but all those who have been part of my life for a certain time of life. In fact my VP in the office understood and tried to change when I confronted him and explained to him his personality trait, luckily he understood.
Sir aapki video bahoot achchi hai. Ese personality kay mere ghar may two person hain. Main bhi ese hi apney aap say lad rahi thee. Aapki video nay mujhey shakti di, samaj di. Bahoot bahoot dhanyawad.
Bilkul sahi.Parents should always be supportive to their children so that as soon as such situations come,they will have courage to leave that person,place and they ugly situation.
Each and every points are matching with my life.suffering from 17 years. But in Indian constitution there is no point to take divorce easily from such personalities.Im doctor but not able to do any job or open clinic just because of him.
That’s too sad. One thing we should always remember is ‘Never be haughty to the humble and never be humble to the haughty’, doesn’t matter who it is. I believe in ‘Tit for Tat’. It keeps the others in control. If it’s a boss then one may have to swallow their pride and start looking for a new job. The hero lies in us and not anywhere outside. We need to have a theme song in our head to handle this kind of a nasty situation. th-cam.com/video/gCiRrsmy_Po/w-d-xo.html
My parents same personality. They destroyed my friends circle my social circle only because I did not bend as they wished. They too much egoist. My mother was a teacher who thinls each and every person is her student and everyine should obey her. My mother used to beat me because I was very close to grand mother.mother and grandmother had issue in which mother was gulity. They made life saffocated same as you described now. They asked me to pay rent to live in the house as I was not not marrying as their wish. I did love marriage and now I am happily married 15 years and have two sons 13 years and 10 uears and never visited my house . They never invited me my husband and my children i last 15 years. But I chose my own life as I wished and I am happiest.
Thank you sir for this topic.Most of the families have such kind of person in their life.Very very difficult to deal with.If there is no permanent solution to it the victim 's life is gone waste for sure.I think if a person is financially dependent on this Gaslighter then he will never allow victim to breathe,and also if victim has no support from family or friends ,he definitely takes advantage of the situation.Oh my god please finish such people from this planet so that others can live happy life.
I think so maximum partners are doing this to pull down the other one, any partner,,, really u explained very well sir feel disheartened that we didn't knew this earlier,all life being misused ,,, God bless you 🙏
Golden speech and all golden words each and every words u said that verytrue… they all energy vempire ppl r sourrounding me since 65 years they mad me mad and they totaly destroyed my telent and so I feel so helpless … your speech gave me strength thanku very much U sir stay bleesed always 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 u r great 🙏🙏🙏
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sir i am suffering dur to narsicist person. i am in depression anxiety. is any course for it
Hahahaha sir you are great 👍 100/ ryt 👌👌👌
Sir...I have been suffering very badly for 10 years because of my elder siblings ..I am extremely hurt💔💔💔💔...thanks for guiding us in all ways possible 🙏
@@Gurmeet_kaur_khalsa exactly true gurmeet ji what is said
Yes sir ,I am facing all this problem ,thank you for this video this is very useful for me
सर मैं ये दुःख 20 साल से भोग रहा हूँ हमारे घर में ऐसे जंगली लोग है जो न सुनते हैं न मानते है व्यवस्था खराब करके काम में फसाते है।हमें अपनी बुध्दि कौशल का सही उपयोग नही करने देते। आपकी एक एक बात सटीक है। नमन है आपको। 🙏🙏
Mai bhi eska shikar ho chuka hu or aaj bhi mara sath asa ho raha hai ab thoda samjha hu thoda duri manten kiya hu
Hamare bhi esi ek mahila hai jo hame pareshan krti hai game khelti hai hame badati hai sirf apna naam apna hi sabkuch krti hai
🎉mai bhi fansa hu ab mai sanyas ki tayyari kar raha hu jald hi safal ho jaunga
Ladies bhi yese hote hey?@@nirajshukla6819
Ghar se nikalkar kahin dusre shahar me raho job karo
आपका एक एक शब्द सही है ।इतना झेली हूं अपनी लाइफ में कि शब्द कम पड़ जायेंगे। धन्यवाद
ये बहुत ही महत्वपूर्ण विषय है, इस तरह के विषय पर समाज मे खुलकर चर्चा होनी चाहिए क्योंकि कितने ही लोग इसके बारे में नही जानते हैं और पीड़ा सहते रहते हैं। अपने बहुत ही अच्छेसे समझाया है।धन्यवाद सर्🙏
सर ऐसे लोग बहुत धूर्त और चालाक होते हैं।
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Absolutely... Correct🙏
how to protect yourself frome Gaslighting
Use DEEP tool to protect your peace.
D- Don't Defend
E-Don't Engage
E- Don't Explain
P- Don't personalize
Looks like someone listens to Dr Ramani 😊
Mere sas sasur ese hai mujhe har jagah bura bana Diya hai mujhe logo se Milne ko dar lagta hai Mera beta bhi esa ho gaya hai mujhe disease lag gayi kya karu
Good tool
Same here 😢@@minakshichandel9764
@@minakshichandel9764bhagwan ka naam japo jab wo dikhe jab b unpe feelings aaye
my husband is this personality type....well am super proud of myself as I Consider ppl who like to put u down as a step to level up self....i hv made him & his games powerless by my silence.....I love proving ppl wrong so I use him as a challenge & better myself every moment ....i didnt know they were called gaslighters....being aware is the only way to bring light wuthin
This is me,it took yeaaars to understand until I was taken to therapist and put in medicine.god was with me and and everyday I leveled up myself. Now I enjoy without responding and behave like deaf and love myself. My priority my health.
Same thing here... I think thrse people also have inferiority complex... nearly 90 percent fitting as you say :(
Every wife thiks similar about her husband😂😂😂
Meri wife gas lighter h.
Same here..mere husband ese hi h.. bahot depression me aa gyi thi...abhi bhi hu kya kru kuch samajh nahi aata
अब हम उम्र के आखिरी पड़ाव मे हैं पर आपने जितनी बातें बतायी वह सब मेरे जीवन मे घटित हुई है अब बस ईश्वर स्मरण ही रह गया हमारे पास जिन्होने हमे प्रभावित किया वे सब अपने आप दूर हो ग ए है .पर आपका विश्लेषण पूर्णत: सत्य है काश बहुत पहले इन बातों की जानकारी मिली होती शायद जीवन और अच्छा हो जाता
ji bilkul sehi
This topic really needs awareness. Because people only know physical and verbal abuse. The society is rarely aware of this kind of mental abuse. Thank you Sir, for bring up this topic. It's well explained.
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My husband was a narcissist and a gaslighter. I survived my 56 yrs of marriage by sheer will power to be my own person. I had good paying job , enjoyed and excelled in my work and he liked my money to enjoyed his addictions. Once you marry such person , you are caught in a web of guilt , love , sense duty , raising children , social conditioning & expectation , in Indian culture in my time . Everything you mentioned in your lecture had happened to me , I wonder how I survived.
After his death , I feel calm , at peace and our children are happier .
God bless you Dr Verma , to raise awareness in our society.
@@shantitanna8033 more power and respect to you. 🙏❤️
Better late than never " this video came late for us Indian people, because in western society this topic of narcissistism is well addressed for a long time. That's the reason people are more sorted with their relationships. Certainly we need Life coaching here in India as you said. Thank you sir for putting so much efforts to educate ua all. Hope many people will identify themselves and not suffer at the hands of a narcissistic personality anymore.
Awesome content sir je 👏🙏
I was a sufferer . I was a very bold and confident girl of my father. My father always Introduced me to every one ….” ये है मेरी झाँसी की रानी” 😁 but a GAS LIGHTER was spoiled my 15 years . Now he is not with me , and I am working on my self to achieve my career and spiritual goals .
I know many families are suffering from these GAS LIGHTERS. 😁
Thank you sir for educating us 🙏
Bless you
Yes actually same condition with me also my father also called me always same but my husband family in which I m living made me what I don't,,,i m highly educated but now dump,shy, foolish
U r age?
I suffer 8 years too...now I am also free
Suffered for 7 years...Free bird now. All due to Mahadev bholenath, he saved me.I know your pain, giving you lots of peace, warm hugs.
बिल्कुल सही है , सभी लक्षण मिल रहे है। मेरे पार्टनर में।
Move on
सर थैंक्स
ये सब से मेरे साथ खराब से खराब व्यवहार
मनोवैज्ञानिक तरीको का इस्तेमाल करते हुए २० वर्ष गुजर गये
अब असलियत समझ पाई हूँ
टूटी इसलिए नही कि अपने पैरों पर खड़ी हूँ
मै एक्शन में पूरी तरह से हूँ
अलग इस लिए नही हुई बच्चे बडे होरहे है।
अब आप मोटी वेट कर रहे है.
मैं खुश हू
🙏🙏🙏
Aapne bahot sah baat kahi sir ....meri life me bhi bikul same behaviour wala ek person hai ...jiske sath mai deal kar raha hu ....aapka bahot bahot dhanyawad sir ....apki jo ye video hai ye sach bahot se logo ki zindagi badal sakti hai..... ishwar hamesha aapko ashirwad de .
Ek baar fir aapka bahot bahot dhanyawad
Each and every sentence said here is true for the narcissist and the sufferer.I think a larger population is suffering silently. Thanks for guidance..
Blessings to all such people who have to face such people in their lives..
Mera husband asa hai. Mujhe pagal banane ki koshish kiya apne dost aur doctor ke sath milkar. Lekin me aaj tak khud ko thik karne ke koshish kar rahi hu.
Correct
Samjh sakti hu dear narak se kam nhi he aesi jindgi pr bhi has ke jina padta h
Pr aese logo se umeed karna band karo or khud se piyar karna sikho
Really ??? 😮
My real sibling (sister) is like that ! She is as evil as it gets !
Stay strong...be confident and don't be afraid of anyone...u ll Come out of it soon inshaAllah.
My sister is like this. It's all my life story...200% true. God gave me the strength to walk out of my house...although a bit too late. If I were not suppressed so much in early life I could've achieved much more in life. Now I'm at peace . No complaints. Thank God 🙏🙏
I broke all ties with my inlaws especially my sister in law and my mother in law. Also my husband. I was extremely smart, outgoing and a very happy girl when I got married. Every attempt was made to destroy my self-esteem. After 18 months of living alone I am healing. But it was a very painful process. Such gaslighters are evil people.
I m with you on this.. my in laws influenced my husband and destroying my confidence and independence.. I have to live with them as I’m in oman but I have stopped talking with in laws and talking with husband only when in laws are not there as they have to say something on anything that we are talking between husband wife… but I’m planning to move to India or stay separately once I get a job
This happens so true
Same here😢
Yeh sari baten waqt k sath main sekh chuka hun han main andar se bht barbad hogya hun magr thek b horaha hun. Bs itna kahunga jitna hoske toxic logon se door rahen ya boundaries smjha dain unhn bht ache se
Sir, husband was exactly same..i suffered for 11 months..he died 25 yrs back..then onwards I'm living a peaceful life with my two daughters,son in law's n grand children 😃
God blessed you.
It's read as 11 yrs
Jab esy log mr jaty hain to zindgi skoon main aa jati hy
Thanks a lot sir,meri is vedio se bhut help hone vali h,me last 1.5 years se victim bn k rh rhi hu,muje to ab tk pta bhi nhi tha, ki mere sath kya ho rha h ,meri life me meri elder sister in law gaslighter h🥺
bahut Achha samjhaya ..jo chahta tha ..Aaj mil gaya ..sare jabab..
मेरे पति भी इसी पर्सनेलिटी के थे। अभी तो नही है, लेकिन आज भी नही भूलती हूं। आप जो बोल रहे है , एक एक बात सही है।मैं किसी तरह से अपनी नौकरी ,अपनी घर बचाई।मैं M A ,BEd थी sAIL मे टीचर थी। लेकिन जिंदगी भर मुझे बाहर से लेकर बच्चो की नजर में भी गिराने की कोशिश करते रहे। 🙏
मैने गायत्री मां और गुरुदेव से जुड़कर अपने को बचाया sir और अभी मैं औरों से ठीक हूं। स्वास्थ्य हू🙏
Mere sath same ho raha hai,main bhi msc Bed hun pr confidence bilkul nahi bacha hai.
Sirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....what an episode...
I am. Victim of this. My entire family does this to me.....
Now iam going through horrible panic attacks....
I identified this pattern....but still iam unable to help myself because they are my family members.
Literally it is like pouring hot oil on us..when they do this...
You are doimg a great job and saving many lives....god bless you sir.🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
how to protect yourself frome Gaslighting
Use DEEP tool to protect your peace.
D- Don't Defend
E-Don't Engage
E- Don't Explain
P- Don't personalize
Run
Go for no contact
After a month
You will be OK
Please keep a long distance from those. Live independently.
Apki asi vedio Lakho logo ki life ko improve krne me bahut help kregi..
Thank u sir with heart..
Completely agree with you sir,I am dealing with such person,41 years of married life with such person,I feel like waste of my most beautiful years,his alcohol has destroyed not only his life mine too.Thank you for your advices.
Every family and relatives have such people .. very important topic .. thanks for exploring it . 👍
Thnx for guiding.
My maid had been doing it fr many months with me and disturbing me. She used to shout and spk pricking words whenever she was checked fr something.thr was a pattern which was happening evry 5th month. I had been tolerating her coz she's been honest and a good worker.
After a recent incident I have asked her to leave aftr eight yrs of association.
Mera 20 saal ka experience hai... Aj bhi bahar nhi nikal sakti dependency itni kharaab hai... Sirf ek change hai is vdo mein ki main main chillaaati roti hun aur samaan fenkti hun frustration se...
Aapki har baat perfect hai jo aapne bataya har ek incident hua hai mere saath
Thank you so much sir for clarifying this gaslighting. Yes we are surrounded by such gaslighters in the form of father, sister's husband and some friends. 🙏🙏
My Parents are ditto this personality specially my mother. I have been facing this concern for last 20 years. My life has become hell. My social image has been spoiled to this level I prefer to avoid every common known people to them as well as known to me. There was a time I was known for being a studious kid sincere guy among all relative's kids.
Every single trait Sir has mentioned here about gaslighter's ditto matches with gaslighters present in my life. Every neighbor, every single relative who visits to my parents has changed their views for me.
I can feel u... More power to u.. Stay strong.
My mother is like this only.
True
Can understand your pain and anger as I have also gone through same situation. But time changes. Trust on your God and in yourself.never take wrong decision in anger. Never ruin your personality for them.
Ya this is very important topic
Igot trapped by mother in law
My marriage life got ruined
मैने यह जाना के मेरे साथ ये हुआ है। मैने मेरे संपर्क में आनेवाले लोगोको ऐसे टॉर्चर से बचाने की कोशिश की।मेरा स्वभाव बन गया के मैं किसी को भी प्रेरणा ही देता रहता हू।
My God….each and every word you said is totally true….😮 I used to think I am wrong , now I got to know the actual reason. Thank you so much….
Thanks for this video 🙏 yes,everything is right about them.. many times I experienced being with these" gaslighters"...Thank God I understood their intentions and got victory..May all victims get rid of gaslighters..very helpful video
Same type of my living partner.....thank u so much......raasta dikhane ke liye 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Shi bat khi..Or dekhne wali bat ye है कि सबी अपने जीवन साथी से परेशान. बी हैऔर मजबूर.(फिर बी साथ निभाना साथिया)😢☺️🥰🤣😀😄😍😘
Excellent, true same case I saw my friend s husband. Every line is true 👍
Thanks for this video..its really life changing for many....
i have also faced this situation ... although it was a love marriage 18 years ago...lmy life after marriage was full of criticism and blaming etc .. although he is good ,loves me too.... but his narcissistic traits were killing me inside...i lost my worth... felt worthless.... developed many health issues.....
But the story started changing since few years... somehow with gods blessings.... i removed all expectations... I accepted the fact that his nature can't be changed...i started making myself distant from him from inside...
started doing regular prayer and breathing meditation.... and started focusing on becoming financially independent...
Now i am in much much much better position...all my health issues has resolved...i m emotionally much balanced and strong....i feel good from inside....his behaviour has become better than before ...... but I don't care much....i try to not react on anything... neither interfere in his business........
Respected Sir you are right because I'm facing all these things. Sir asa logo ki ager ham baat Manta jaata hai to yeh or torture karta hai ager nahi maanta to drama karta hai yaha tak ki boundations ka level or jyada kar data hai . Salute you Sir Jo aaj tak mai nahi samaj payi vo aapna aaj mujha bata diya . Thank you so much sir for giving us different types of knowledge. God bless you & ur family. ❤️ You are a messenger of God 🙏🌹🌹🙏
बहुत बढ़िया तरीके से भावनाओ को भी शब्दो मे एक्सप्लेन किया गया है।
My mother is this kind of person she used to trouble my dad but after his death she makes me troubeful
Thank you sir for making this video mostly log bs toxic toxic person pe video banate hai aapke is video ne mujhe ek nayi life ka realization diya hai god bless you sir ....
Jab main actually share krti hu logo se ki meri mom kaisa behave krto hai mere sath and thats completly different with other people toh logo mujhe smjte nhi hai unko yakeen nhi hota hai ki aisa koi kr shkta hai and at the end main jhuthi kehlayi jati hu mujhe lagta tha problem mujhe mein hai meri hi galati hai is video ne mujhe new life di hai sach mejn iam very thankful to you for helping me and guiding me
Meri maa ne mujhe bahut pareshan kiya hai , ghar ke kaam ko lekar , tu kali hai tere se kaun shadi karega ..... Chuttiya kahi ki...
Meri ma bhi yesi hai.....mere relatives ko mere secrets btati hai...bolti hai tu kali hai tere se kaun shadi karega.....aur bolti hai sabko apni ma ki nahi hui to kisi ki kya hogi.....aur mujhe barbaad kar ke rakh di hai...Teri kabhi job nahi lagegi bolti hai......aur even shadi bhi rukwa ke rakhi hai.....mujhe bolti hai bhaag Jana chahiye tha na....
Aapki baat bilkul hamaari aapbiti hai. Par Bhagwan hi mukti dilate hai. Kabhi saamne wala kuch badalta hai. Kabhi hamko Bhagwan dusri raah pakara dete hai aur long run me jakar realise hota hai ki ham chah kar bhi iss sthiti ko nahi paa sakte the. Par Bhagwan ki daya se mould hue aur rasta bann gaya.
Aapne jo bhi 10 points bataye hai woh bilkul practical hai
Hamko is bure dour ka khub anubhav hua hai. Ab ja kar Shanti mili jab saksham Guru mile.(Mentor) mile🙏🌹
Thanks a lot sir for taking up this very important topic. In Indian families it is the "Bahu" who usually become the victim of gaslighting. Because of their children they suffer silently and in most cases it's a life long suffering for them which leads to mental illness. With time ...from the immediate family members to the extended family members all learn to use her to their advantage and treat her like a door mat. This becomes a normal behaviour in the family. As their is no support system in the family, the Bahu becomes a lifelong victim. Only if her children grow to understand her ...or if she gets a strong support either within or outside family...she will be able to come out of the traumatic situation.
TRUE u r
Absolutely true
Really it's absolutely correct
Same here. Mere in law's ne bahut noutanki Kiya hai.
Today No Daughter-in-Law tolerates anything.
Thanks❤ sir. Same me 💯. Sural wale, mere pati unki sunte the. Aaj khud me hi khush hu. Mere bache Or Rab te believe ne jinda rakha. Aapne karna khrab nahi kitte. Jai shree krishna Radhe Radhe..... 🌷💖🙏
thank you sir.. my mother did this to me for 40 YEARS.
अनजाने में मेरे साथ उम्र की 30 साल तक ये होता रहा। मैं समझता हूं ये मेरे पिछले जन्म के बुरे कर्मो का फल है।
Same...
Yes doc.I have always been a v.happy and charged person but God has been v.kind to me that I am a v.positive person so she didn't effect much.
Sir me aise person se mil chuki hu oosne meri life naam ijjat sab kuch khatam kar diya mujhe dipression, baaloo ka girna ,motapa bahut si problem ho gayi hai me life me bahut kuch karna chaahti thii but aaj me career ko lekar stuck hu . 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭Aapki ek ek line mujhse resonate kar rahi hai 😭😭😭😭
Bahut hi badhiya video banai aapne sir thank you so much ❤🙏
Ur single word is true .. as it's my true story. But as u say I m doing my best and the circumstances are better now frm my side . Gratitude 🙏🙏
how you come out. my life completely destroyed
Very gud information sir. I have lost my golden time due to these gas lighters but now understand them very well
I think silence, no contacts with gaslighters is best one.
Victims explore their new areas of growth and be in constant support system of loved ones. Regularly exercise, take good nutrition and feed their mind by reading great books. Block him to every places social media, call, texts and also break your circle with their toxic supportes and information givers to gaslighters individual. And also doesn't not recive or accepted unknown calls and messages from. Anyone for life long. Beacause they try to disturb you by very tactics when they are bored.
Apni family pr trust kro logo ko jb mn kre tb mana bolo ignore kro jyada time tk . Aur apne pr kaam kro is the best option ................ Aur kisi ko hd se jyada pyaar mt kro
Right Right 👍
bilkul sahi ek ek chiz sach our starting se end tak ek ek baat puri sach hai
I am indebted to you for educating me in such a beautiful manner 🙏 . Guru ji
Sir bilkul Shi btaa aapne.
Aise log bolne hi big dete. Jyada bolte Insult krte.
Yes drate hai.
Threat krte
Thank You Very Much Ram Verma Sir 🙏🙏Grateful to You and Family🙏🌈
Thank you for educating us about the threats and disadvantages of a "Gas lighter" persona. Mostly people face such a scenario but don't know how to safeguard themselves. 👌
We all have such people in our life.
Very good topic ..I always suffer with my relative.how to avoid such situation .
Sir,
perfect. Gone through all these.
Mann or dill ki baat kehdi.
Thank you.
It is very rare topic .Very Useful for related people . Thanku very much
My husband Narendra Sinha is like this, very quarrelsome,then one day I was talking with Dad nicely,he started saying why were u talking nicely with your Dad 😢
😮😢
Same
Show perseverance, shed off fear , fight against them , try to come out of relationship at any cost. Yes but narcissists are always around you at home or at work place.
It's a very rare topic, and such a great explanation sir, you gave such an example ,it happens in real,my husband is 60percent same after 13 yrs of marriage I am not the same person once I was, now totally broken ,no confidence, faced depression ,Koi cheez ki ichcha Nahin Rah Gaye.sir can u plz discuss on the topic, how to know this type of person before marriage,is se bahut ladies ki life bach sakti hai,
@Aditi Kumari thank you so much 😊
Surprised, u have awakens me about gas lighter and attracted me to ur knowledge. Thank u.
God bless you sir for such enlightening session🙏
Aaj first time suna .gajjab. mai khud positive se bhapur hu.
Every family has such persons. Very informative. Please also share some firm and legal help
For themselves they r very good lawyer n for others they are good judge
Sir,mujhe samajhne me 04 saal lag gaya apne partner ko,
Akhir me apka video mila, Thankyou god, thankyou sir Dil ko sukun a gaya, me soch me pad gaya tha ki keise is problem se niklu, Thankyou sir,❤❤❤ se,
Thank you for details and support and cooperation and nice councelling and motivation 👌
Bahut badhiya aur bilkul teek kaha aapney. Thanks for the affirmation.
शानदार जानकारी दी आपने नमन है आपको। 🙏🌹🌹❤
Thank you so much sir...Aisa laga sun kar ke aap meri aapbeeti bata rahe ho.....😢... bohut sach kaha aapne ....
Very true I have suffer all this deeply for 45 year. Not been able to live life.
Ram Ji, I would call you Shri Ram Ji, i wouldn't know how this video came in front of my view, for me you are Shri Ram, that's what I learned that God helps through regular normal people. You to the point. Luckily, I had seen it for a long time in my last life and today I am able to enable not just my wife, team members,but all those who have been part of my life for a certain time of life. In fact my VP in the office understood and tried to change when I confronted him and explained to him his personality trait, luckily he understood.
Aaj meri sari yaad taja ho gayi
Sir aapki video bahoot achchi hai. Ese personality kay mere ghar may two person hain. Main bhi ese hi apney aap say lad rahi thee. Aapki video nay mujhey shakti di, samaj di. Bahoot bahoot dhanyawad.
Every thing resonated with me 100%
Vey nice sir ji..esa lag raha h ap meri life ki bat kar rahe 😢..mere pati ne meri jindgi barbad kar di..😢
Exactly.Each and every word of your's is wright.Such guys are v.v. complicated.
Esi information parents bacho ko Nahi dete unhe Peta hi Nahi hota unke sath kya Ho reha h. Aapne bhut ache se explain kerte h thanx sir
Bilkul sahi.Parents should always be supportive to their children so that as soon as such situations come,they will have courage to leave that person,place and they ugly situation.
Sir u r 100 /100 %- correct aapki ek ek baat sahi hai
Very very true u just opened my eyes.i will contact doctor.
Each and every points are matching with my life.suffering from 17 years. But in Indian constitution there is no point to take divorce easily from such personalities.Im doctor but not able to do any job or open clinic just because of him.
Absolutely correct
I was executive of renowned Hotel but now my life is hell
That’s too sad. One thing we should always remember is ‘Never be haughty to the humble and never be humble to the haughty’, doesn’t matter who it is. I believe in ‘Tit for Tat’. It keeps the others in control. If it’s a boss then one may have to swallow their pride and start looking for a new job. The hero lies in us and not anywhere outside. We need to have a theme song in our head to handle this kind of a nasty situation.
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Thank you so much for insightful session.
I've been through a lot all n everything you pointed out.
बहोत अच्छा समझाया हैं 👍👍
Every topic absolutely 100% ryt.. 👌👌👌
How true 1000000%
Thank you so much sir m sry bt u r like my father so pls accept my (Namaste) from bottom to my heart sir. Now m feeling so light .I know who I m.
Very true ,rare topic ,thanks a lot ,eye opening video
My parents same personality. They destroyed my friends circle my social circle only because I did not bend as they wished. They too much egoist. My mother was a teacher who thinls each and every person is her student and everyine should obey her. My mother used to beat me because I was very close to grand mother.mother and grandmother had issue in which mother was gulity. They made life saffocated same as you described now. They asked me to pay rent to live in the house as I was not not marrying as their wish. I did love marriage and now I am happily married 15 years and have two sons 13 years and 10 uears and never visited my house . They never invited me my husband and my children i last 15 years. But I chose my own life as I wished and I am happiest.
Thank you sir for this topic.Most of the families have such kind of person in their life.Very very difficult to deal with.If there is no permanent solution to it the victim 's life is gone waste for sure.I think if a person is financially dependent on this Gaslighter then he will never allow victim to breathe,and also if victim has no support from family or friends ,he definitely takes advantage of the situation.Oh my god please finish such people from this planet so that others can live happy life.
Ya such species shd be totally vanished from this world
I think so maximum partners are doing this to pull down the other one, any partner,,, really u explained very well sir feel disheartened that we didn't knew this earlier,all life being misused ,,,
God bless you 🙏
Golden speech and all golden words each and every words u said that verytrue… they all energy vempire ppl r sourrounding me since 65 years they mad me mad and they totaly destroyed my telent and so I feel so helpless …
your speech gave me strength thanku very much U sir stay bleesed always 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 u r great 🙏🙏🙏
May God bless you Sir.... Resolved mystery of many people's life ... Giving a new light path 🙏🙏
thank you so much Mr.Verma for creating such a powerful session
भाई हो तो आप जैसा
App k har ek baat shi hai mere liye ...
superb sir, kya oparation kiya hai, Gas lighter ka. thnks very much sir, ye knowledge ke liye.
You are absolutely right.
Thanks for advice 💐