@@raveenbains6964 Maybe, something bad is going on in this society That makes people think his way. Before to change another’s we have to change ourselves first! You be the example people to follow that you can make a difference around you with your healthy lifestyle! ✌️
I agree with her in so far as she’s talking about a man who is somewhat healthy emotionally. No huge traumas, abuse, etc. This does not apply to addicts or unhealthy narcissistic men. A woman can conscientiously do all those things to invest in her man but all the while he does not see her, does not recognize her love. He’s constantly looking somewhere else because his addiction dominates him. He’s fighting a giant within no woman can equal much less defeat. It is of utmost importance for young women to really get to know a man before she marries him. Get to know his family, his friends and what others who love him say of him. If a man is open to such scrutiny he is pretty healthy emotionally, so the investment of the woman he loves will get to his heart & he’ll get her the moon if she wanted it!! ❤
And the man has to be worthy of that attention. What this woman wants is a sober, kind man with a sense of humor, that takes care of himself & treats me with respect, listens to my side of things
That’s the thing! This is America. Look at the state of men and women but women have nothing to work for when generally looking at the males of this nation.
@@deyahdn3Superficial things can be ignored when the man makes up for it in personality, hardwork, loving nature. No woman will reject such a man for a handsome useless guy. So work on those areas
What does respect mean? Doing all your way? No, this is not respect. You should also keep in mind that not all of your decisions could be good and your man need to be able to choose the best one no matter who is agree or disagree.
@@maygrantz4426 EXACTLY. And loyalty is SEXY. I'd rather be happy with a sweet dog who will always be happy to see me and cuddle with me than a man child I have to clean up after and treats me well ONLY if I rule with an iron frying pan. Human males are way too much work. I'm team Dog all the way.
Bro. I'm a Man's Man. And beinga Man in our Generation. This woman is more than spot on, she giving advice to all the girls, ladies and women. If you looking to get a Man, who is ready to be a Better Man, take notes.
@@GodsSon-q6pwhat are you giving in return ? Do read my contribution about a DM above. Think about it. What exactly are you bringing to the table, hey?
What would make me the happiest in regards to a relationship is for the woman im with to yes obviously desire me but to tell me what she needs and wants to be happy herself so i can provide for her and feel like a protector and provider. I will add that in my last relationship my gf did not communicate well especially when it came to expressing her wants and needs but then threw it back in my face like I was supposed to read her mind so that's why I think that is so important to me. I would've done anything for her but unless you know what your partner wants and needs there's only so much you can do. And if they can't communicate their own wants and needs then they will struggle in all of their future romantic relationships. And if they're not self aware enough they probably won't ever realize what they are failing to communicate.
I agree i am women i feel communication is very powerful and one of the very hight quality in a women Who is féminin She needs to express herself and her needs and be authentic in ordre to creat great connection with right Man for her
As a woman, I want the same. A man who does thingas for me because he knows I appreciate it. I love that protection and care and feel like a princess even though I know I can be strong. I hope you find a woman who would appreciate that.
@kleinschmitterling thank you. I've learned too that if you're with someone who is very self sufficient and self reliant because they had to be having to raise kids as a single parent even with help from their ex spouse that it can be hard to provide for them because they might think they are weak asking you for help or leaning on you for support when they've handled things just fine themselves for so long
Load of TOSH!!! I’ve been this type of wife (and latterly partner) and BOTH TIMES he has left me at a point when I needed him the most (ie after my Mum died). Not once has a man had MY back despite me having his ie helping him navigate job losses, horrendous debt, ex-wife vitriol and a coercively controlling family. I learned my lesson the hard way and now I take care of MY life and if my partner has problems, I leave it to HIM to sort them out and offer nothing in terms of support or advice. Karma.
Sometimes you can do everything right for someone and they’re just not right for you. I’m glad that it ended so that you could be free to find the person who is meant for you because anyone who could devalue someone bringing all of what you said you bring to the table is not worthy of the energy in which they seek, and if you were removed, it was the universe taking away the good things until they learn to value them and they may eventually get another chance but don’t let their chance make you bitter if they are worthy enough to get another chance, the universe worked with them to get there Don’t let one person’s cold actions against you keep you from having the love you deserve to Sometimes people hurt people, and it is in the action of harming another that they’re humbled and forced to use empathy because the person they may want to love may not accept them as they are-where you always did not every lesson in life is for us to know
Hi, I read your comments allow to share my thoughts. I'm sorry of your experience with a man who did not appreciate and I think there is an issue of his childhood truama or maybe his upbringing.Anyway, the guy is not the right person for you. Anyway, hopefully someday you will find the right guy.I can understand how you feel and I feel the same way, but I will not give up inspite of everything I believe we can learn from our past.I want you to know that you are not alone and I hear you.
We are all build to be something, there s a saying Woman hold every corner of house, God said it too. For she is the lamp, to her Man and a shelter, warm cozy nurturing in their tent. God created that way. In egypt king was only her cocoon puppet, but in a good sense, who else will give him advices if not his woman, cause she is the Queen. Man Respect women and woman adores her Man, according to bible. What is npwadays picture is shamefull for everyone
So true.....I truly agreed 💯 Sandia If you find a queen 💖👸🌹like this she's a blessing 🙌 men.......This new generation there are not many women that care about men's well being....If you find a true queen💃💖👑take care of her 🕺❤💃💫
I think this mainly applies to Good Men (succesful or yet to be) that actually care about their well being and want a healthy relationship with a healthy person. It doesn't apply to sick and egotistical men, they typically settle for dog poo and most western minded women are dog poo so they won't do what Sadia is saying anyways, even if it was someone else saying it. Their mindset is warped. Good Men don't want them either so it's a self correcting problem.
What makes a man truly happy is being productive and providing what his woman and surrounding's needs, and for it to be accepted and appreciated. Everyone needs and wants emotional investment because everyone is human and it's a basic human need and desire. When it comes to general specifics, a strong male need is to feel needed, in whatever ways are relevant to the situation.
Men don't communicate well though. So you can lead a horse to water all you want, but you cannot make him drink it. This is how men are. They don't want to communicate. To them, it's a sign of weakness. Stay single.
If a man gives it to the woman- support, emocional safety. Usually a woman gives the same back to a man. It happens that a women does not give it back to a man, but it is rare. There are much more naturing and caring women than men
We know.❤ That's why we get so hurt when we keep offering support, but it gets rejected.💔 To any SANE woman, when a man let us be there for him.. It means the WORLD to us. And all we wants and hope for, is for men to understand that WE GET YOU. Far more than men give us credit for.
@@lioness6853I think the difference is that they want that understanding and support from the woman that they truly want. You only get rejected if they don’t want you.
Even that isn't enough. Especially the love part. Men HATE when you love them. They have to be the one who is madly in love with you, and you must keep your emotions locked and bottled up. IF you want him to stay with you, that is. Once he gets the idea you love him back, he will definitely switch up on you and start acting foolish and asshole-ish.
@@irinaivanovic9792 my ex did that, he said he didn’t feel appreciated smh 🤦♀️ I tried to make him feel more valued by showing more love…. He switched up and left…. Good ridden, he wasn’t who I was meant to be with…. Obviously. I don’t play games but understand psychology… I love & respect myself, & the right person/people/opportunities come around when you continue with that mindset. 🥂
This is exactly how I feel right now. I will tell you sadly my marriage is basically over because my wife completely ignores me & doesn't want to work on actually having a relationship with me. After we had our baby & her parents moved into our house she just listen to her audiobook romance novels. Crying thinking about what this woman is saying because it is exactly why 😢 and have to do the things I need to do to stay happy
Except when they have avoidant attachment and the thought of real emotional attachment makes them run for their lives. 😒 Their are a LOT of men who indeed dont want what shes saying. They wanna keep it shallow with no depth or substance.
Exactly. That's the vast majority of men worldwide, sadly. They see it as "weakness" to be emotionally vulnerable, whereas the TRUTH is it's POWERFUL AND STRONG. Any therapist and psychologist will tell you this. When these men refuse to display emotional attachment or have vulnerable conversations with you (a woman), that is a red flag because it means he's a horrible communicator and shuts down.
Fact! I don't know where this woman gets the idea that women don't invest heavily in their men. Or maybe she is only talking about narcissistic beauty queens. The average woman is VERY invested in her man... and she gets brutally discarded & called "foolish" for doing so.
She is so right! We just want to be heard and feel ljke we have someone that fights with you,believes in you! As men we only get unconditional love from our mothers, when they are gone, we want our partners to be there for us. That is all we have.
she's saying this due to her experience with counseling men who need counseling. men who have never needed counseling would be described in a much different way. not saying this to be mean, it's just the truth.
My wife past away after 16 yrs. But food for thought. In all that time time I never heard "thanks" one time. I did l9ve her with all my heart but yeah....
I am sorry for your loss. Maybe if you take time to ponder over it (I’m not saying so because I am a female), she probably thanked you in her own ways and language. Love language is different for each one of us, even our ways of apologising.
She never uses any source, and nobody asks her because she speaks gently. She is smart, this is how she gets people listen to her. She just justified cheating in her little world. Additioanlly, in reality, everyone knows men are treating women like she described who are mothering them- that's essentially what this is: mothering- , take advntage of them and take them for granted
👏👏👏 My bullsh*t meter is always high whenever I come across her videos. Helps that she's also beautiful so the implicit bias to believing her words is also there. Nobody ever calls her out and even interviewers (specifically male ones) don't even question what she says.
Something should be said about the look on her face after a hard day of work. When she refrains from pulling me down if shes upset with her day. The moment of peace she knows to give for me to unpack my day. Preparing meals with her is joyful. Sitting down to eat with her and hearing all about her day. How flirtatious she is with me and I deny her until the evening. I love her with all of my being. She loves me after all of my flaws and my long hours of work. She works full time and has MS. She is beautiful to me.
I met the exception to the rule. I give my dude all of that and more but he' Still won't open up to me about his feelings when something is bothering him like the passing of his grandma recently. When he told me that she passed, he didn't seem all that sad about it but come to find out hes been holding in his emotions and feelings. You can't blame someone if their partner chooses to not speak up so that I know how to be there for him more.
He wants to feel desired. He wants you to want him. Men are not like women in that most men don’t vent or share their feelings. It’s not a reflection on you ladies, if you want him to be like your girlfriends you would come to hate him.
@toshrizzle I am going through the exact same thing and I have shown over and over again my desire for him. I try to always be his lil cheerleader in supporting him letting him know I'm here. I continously love on him but apparently it is me who wants "more". No Im simply asking for the basics. I am the one who doesn't feel desired and have been putting in all this effort to get nothing in return. I highly recommend you look into avoidant attachment because I've come to realize and even my bf now too that it is him to a T! It's the emotional intimacy that either terrifies them or turns them off. They internalize everything and depend only on themselves. I'm telling ya when I read into it a lighbulb went off and when I shown it to my bf he admitted there is a lot of truth in it as to why the way he is. Now I just gotta decide is it enough for me when I'm the one who's starved on emotional intimacy and desire. Chances are no. I can't force him to want it like I do.
@@lillyrose178 oh no I know about it all too well. We went to marriage counseling and the therapist told him that he has identity issues stemming from childhood. He didn't take the therapist seriously and refused to admit he needed help. The relationship with his mother when he was a child was not ideal. She chose the wrong men and continue to have children with multiple men. He was molested as a child by his aunt. He held that in for years and when he told his mom when he was an adult she didn't have much to say about it and wasn't very consoling. 3 years I've tried to keep this man on the right path and somehow he doesn't love himself enough to stay on the right path. So I had to take a different path. We have a child to raise together So we are going to be in each other's lives at least for 18 years. The crazy part is his mother was this bad example for him and he has told me that his mother only went to one of his sporting events as a child. He has always been chasing validation from his mother and never got it. When he told his mom that he got a high position at the company he was working for, instead of congratulating him she brought up his sister and how well she's doing. I saw how disappointed he was that he told her good news and she didn't give a shit. . Him being molested and his mother not being the supportive mother he needed He has developed a hatred for women. His first marriage ended and she kept the kids. I would like to hear her side of the story because I know what I've been through for the past 3 years and I can tell you that I have never tried to keeping my kid from him and I have never cheated. That's what he says his ex did and why they divorced. She was doing drugs and running the streets he said. But he himself can't give up smoking weed Even though it makes him all loopy and all he does is rummage through the fridge and goes to sleep. I have always been the third wheel in his relationship with his mother. He goes to her for everything instead of going to me like a normal man in a marriage would. He tells her our problems But only his side of the story So she doesn't like me because she only knows half truths. I could care less if she likes me or not. People need to remember that your parents are not your friends and certain things should be kept separate. Like arguments between you and your spouse.. needless to say,I divorced him back in December. We tried to work it out even after that but his behavior was still the same. Moving to another state I thought would help but he got worse. As much as my heart wants to be there for him my son needs me to be there for him. I don't want my son to end up messed up like he is because I focus too much on a man rather than my son. I understand that he isn't going to change and sometimes people need to hit rock bottom and lose everything in order to learn. But I doubt that that will happen because he lost his first family and He didn't accept any responsibility for that relationship ending and he never fought in court for his children so that he can be in their lives. The family that I had with him is no different. Do yourself a favor and leave because it doesn't get better unless you have a strong man who IS READY TO CHANGE. People are typically set in their ways after the age of 30 And it's unlikely that they will change. Unfortunately those of us who were raised with love seem to attract these type of partners. And because we were raised with love we know better but we stay anyway. We only have so much time on this Earth so don't waste it. I made a bad choice and learned from my mistakes, left and focusing on me and my son
@@lillyrose178Thank you,I thought I was the only one, married to someone like that.. and I must say it's a roller coaster.. You can't keep on pouring into someone else's cup whilst yours runs dry, atleast I'm realising that now and I must say that shit hurts.. You can be all of that and smh it still not enough.. Just my view anyways
lol your a simp that women is a single mother that choose wrong didn’t get married before she carried a baby there’s nothing right about her own decisions
So i was only around for a long time because he didnt let me know he felt desired by every other woman he could get his hands on. I invested in him with everything, bought him groceries, and made appointments for him. Took him to see his mum and constantly made an effort in the bedroom. So glad i walked away. Independent and not trying anymore. Done. Sorry men. I need self love now.
‘Treat someone the way you want to be treated,’ they say. I treated her in the nicest way I could give, unconditionally, and all I wanted was to get something back when I needed some closeness. Instead, I got separation. That left a deep scar.
Correct. She's actually got it right. Men needs must process emotions with more control than women but he is still, essentially an emotional being. That is to say, a human being.
The fact I provided him with every emotional support and response he needed from me and I couldn’t receive any from him broke me , it was the first time I had fell in love even tho it was long distance , I kept constant contact (I’m a dental student) and no matter how busy my life got I .gave.him.my.time , nd guess what I couldn’t even have that , so it dosent matter how many efforts u give to someone , if they r not invested in u first(men) u(women) should be careful of growing emotional attachment….learned it the hard way .
You want to know what makes your significant other happy? Then ASK them, COMMUNICATE with them. And then make agreements so you can act on it. Don’t ask anyone advice about a person but ask the person themselves. And if you’re single and listening to this to try and understand “men” in general… I would suggest you to stop generalizing men. This way you’ll get stuck in an illusion and will go into a relationship where you’ll keep loving the person that you like in the wrong way. If you’re single there’s a reason WHY it didn’t work out. Don’t blame the other person, do some inner work. If the other person is pure evil then ask yourself why you felt attracted to them in the first place. There lies your wound.
I was at a church party, celebrating the marriage of a couple. Both men and women were allowed to attend. Midway, I went out to my car for a reason and the future bride came out, whom I barely knew and talked to me and gave me a kiss, and said that if I was interested in her, that she would drop him and not get married. I would guess the couples in their late 20s or early 30s. Why would a woman do this? I never said a word to the future groom. 😢Was it best that I kept quiet? Why would a woman want to marry a man (who was not rich nor above average in looks) whom she would give up so easily? So “Christian” really doesn’t mean anything does it?
Thats exactly why im cheating. My girlfriend no longer desires me so im with a woman who completely desires me just like my girlfriend used to. Unfortunately, my girlfriend will never read this.
For man sex and love someone is too different stuff and yes man are emotional creatures too. But man doesn't need to get all the attention or energy of woman to feel loves or be happy. You can make a man happy by building and maintaining a place he can call home. There is a big difference between a house and home, That kind of peace is what man looking for.
As a Christian husbands married 15 years 4 kids - your spot on let me know that I’m your all , and you totally support my vision for the family and love me and care about you and the safety, spirituality and peace and happiness of the family -
Peace means , high quality communication where issues are spoken about calmly and rationally with an end in mind. In other words the opposite of irrational moodiness.
@@jules-bz5vc Actually positive thinking is irrational and love is irrational, joy is irrational, bliss is irrational.......because its not comming from logic........As Deepak Chopra says "Love is irrational wisdom of heart.".......Just because positive emotions are positive, it desnt mean they are still rational....they are not based on logical thinking, or rational thinking......rational thinking is domething mathematical, or emotionaless.......According to you only moodines is irrational.
So in other words, LUST. Got it. No newsflash there, what else is new. This is why divorce and breakups are the most common thing on earth. You males just want to be LUSTED AFTER. That doesn't make a woman happy and we aren't going to stick around to worship you and "lust" after you. My god what a childish, immature mindset.
I went out with a Narcissist for 13 years. In the beginning I did all those things she says. He just wanted a pretty woman on his arm. He humiliated me. Argued with me in public and he just wanted someone like his Mother. I ain't no Mother to no man!! After going through Cancer and the way he'd treat me. I ran for the hills. Thankfully I didn't make the mistake of moving in with him or getting married to the asshole. Saw him walking down the street the other day. Thought to myself I had a great escape. There are good men out there. But they are usually taken..
That's not true. Sorry because I gave all of that to my husband, and he still cheating on me over and over again, then he blames me for it all & still left me and his children for a younger woman so this woman needs to stop says this.
When a man meets you he will fall in love with the person you are. A lot of times women change, they pick up an extreme amount of weight. Sometimes they stop looking attractive. Everytime a man sees the women while dating she's dressed up and make uo is on point. After he married the women she neglects herself leaving him with a depressed looking woman. A man likes eye candy. Don't give him any reason to window shop.
Consider the possibility 💭 what if you were unheald when you decided to emotionally invest in him; unconscious thus, unprocessed childhood trauma. Narcissists are attracted *to* *everyone* but, not every one chooses to entertain them ☝️🌞💝 Do some self healing before you invest in your next romantic commitment.
This girl speaks like one living in past centuries. Each one must find what they are looking for in themselves and then shall they attract that. No other way. We all attract what we are being.
I Agree, A Mature and healthy man will apreciate all those qualities in a woman! 💯
Peace! Men are all about the looks and these women are all about the money. No money no trophy women
@@raveenbains6964 Maybe, something bad is going on in this society That makes people think his way. Before to change another’s we have to change ourselves first! You be the example people to follow that you can make a difference around you with your healthy lifestyle! ✌️
Exactly.
Having a decent conversation helps alot
Women talk,talk,talk,like ckicken on head,he want peace after work,not surprise ho find another woman😂😂😂😂
I followed that, but he abused it. It doesn't work always.
The three greatest things that A man needs from a woman is respect, encouragement, and nurturing! Am I right?
Unfortunately, no. At least not in my case.
Trust, respect and love. You literally cannot have a healthy romantic relationship without all three.
@mediumchungus9662
You are so right!! I wish every living thing has all three elements in their life.
100%
Yes you I are right
I did all this. It was never reciprocated.
he is not the right person.
That's why you should NOT listen to this woman. She speaks BULLSHIT so that you fail. Again, and again.
@@maygrantz4426I come to write exact words
Mmmh. What do we now😢
This women is toxic her sound bites are not helpful
I agree with her in so far as she’s talking about a man who is somewhat healthy emotionally. No huge traumas, abuse, etc. This does not apply to addicts or unhealthy narcissistic men. A woman can conscientiously do all those things to invest in her man but all the while he does not see her, does not recognize her love. He’s constantly looking somewhere else because his addiction dominates him. He’s fighting a giant within no woman can equal much less defeat. It is of utmost importance for young women to really get to know a man before she marries him. Get to know his family, his friends and what others who love him say of him. If a man is open to such scrutiny he is pretty healthy emotionally, so the investment of the woman he loves will get to his heart & he’ll get her the moon if she wanted it!! ❤
And the man has to be worthy of that attention. What this woman wants is a sober, kind man with a sense of humor, that takes care of himself & treats me with respect, listens to my side of things
But first he has to be tall, handsome, strong, ambitious and then a woman will give him a chance to put is some effort into her.
That’s the thing! This is America. Look at the state of men and women but women have nothing to work for when generally looking at the males of this nation.
@@deyahdn3Superficial things can be ignored when the man makes up for it in personality, hardwork, loving nature. No woman will reject such a man for a handsome useless guy. So work on those areas
What does respect mean? Doing all your way? No, this is not respect. You should also keep in mind that not all of your decisions could be good and your man need to be able to choose the best one no matter who is agree or disagree.
she is a smart woman and she is rare because she knows what men desire 💕
@@patrickcallewaert8499 nope. Scam artist plain and simple. Just another scumbag speaking for everyone!
@@patrickcallewaert8499 shes a scam artist plain and simple like all on youtube and TikTok
@@patrickcallewaert8499 nope. Shes a scam artist like all on TH-cam and TikTok
@@patrickcallewaert8499 shes a scam artist
Dogs make great companions. 👍
Get a dog then 😂😂
@tiktokfamous3446 Oh, the irony!
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correct and they are loyal.
@@maygrantz4426 EXACTLY. And loyalty is SEXY. I'd rather be happy with a sweet dog who will always be happy to see me and cuddle with me than a man child I have to clean up after and treats me well ONLY if I rule with an iron frying pan. Human males are way too much work. I'm team Dog all the way.
Bro. I'm a Man's Man. And beinga Man in our Generation. This woman is more than spot on, she giving advice to all the girls, ladies and women. If you looking to get a Man, who is ready to be a Better Man, take notes.
This Really hit Home. I need this from a Wife.
You gay ?
Dead😅😅💆♂️💆♂️. Meaning, Happy? Yes, consistantly. Meaning, homosexual? Not a chance in hell.
Sirs...
We know.
We get you, far more than men ever give us credit for.
@@GodsSon-q6pwhat are you giving in return ? Do read my contribution about a DM above. Think about it. What exactly are you bringing to the table, hey?
What would make me the happiest in regards to a relationship is for the woman im with to yes obviously desire me but to tell me what she needs and wants to be happy herself so i can provide for her and feel like a protector and provider.
I will add that in my last relationship my gf did not communicate well especially when it came to expressing her wants and needs but then threw it back in my face like I was supposed to read her mind so that's why I think that is so important to me. I would've done anything for her but unless you know what your partner wants and needs there's only so much you can do. And if they can't communicate their own wants and needs then they will struggle in all of their future romantic relationships. And if they're not self aware enough they probably won't ever realize what they are failing to communicate.
This is very well said. I agree with this 💯
I agree i am women i feel communication is very powerful and one of the very hight quality in a women Who is féminin
She needs to express herself and her needs and be authentic in ordre to creat great connection with right Man for her
Well said. I’ll try to be that kind of woman who can express her desires to my man.
As a woman, I want the same. A man who does thingas for me because he knows I appreciate it. I love that protection and care and feel like a princess even though I know I can be strong.
I hope you find a woman who would appreciate that.
@kleinschmitterling thank you. I've learned too that if you're with someone who is very self sufficient and self reliant because they had to be having to raise kids as a single parent even with help from their ex spouse that it can be hard to provide for them because they might think they are weak asking you for help or leaning on you for support when they've handled things just fine themselves for so long
Load of TOSH!!! I’ve been this type of wife (and latterly partner) and BOTH TIMES he has left me at a point when I needed him the most (ie after my Mum died). Not once has a man had MY back despite me having his ie helping him navigate job losses, horrendous debt, ex-wife vitriol and a coercively controlling family. I learned my lesson the hard way and now I take care of MY life and if my partner has problems, I leave it to HIM to sort them out and offer nothing in terms of support or advice. Karma.
@@Joemccxc what a ridiculous question. She obviously chose a low-value man because of some subconscious trauma.
Sometimes you can do everything right for someone and they’re just not right for you. I’m glad that it ended so that you could be free to find the person who is meant for you because anyone who could devalue someone bringing all of what you said you bring to the table is not worthy of the energy in which they seek, and if you were removed, it was the universe taking away the good things until they learn to value them and they may eventually get another chance but don’t let their chance make you bitter if they are worthy enough to get another chance, the universe worked with them to get there Don’t let one person’s cold actions against you keep you from having the love you deserve to
Sometimes people hurt people, and it is in the action of harming another that they’re humbled and forced to use empathy because the person they may want to love may not accept them as they are-where you always did not every lesson in life is for us to know
Hi, I read your comments
allow to share my thoughts.
I'm sorry of your experience with a man who did not appreciate and I think there is an issue of his childhood truama or maybe his upbringing.Anyway, the guy is
not the right person for you.
Anyway, hopefully someday you will find the right guy.I can understand how you feel and I feel the same way, but I will not give up inspite of everything I believe we can learn from our past.I want you to know that you are not alone and I hear you.
@@EdelweisSusie Yeah this scam artist woman and her videos are just hopelessly arrogant and moronic. But all on TH-cam are🙄🤣
Same thing happened to me
TRUTH...BEHIND A MAN'S SUCCESS IS A STRONG WOMAN.
MEN NEED FAR MORE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT AND LOVE ❤️ THAN WE REALISE....
😊🦋🙏🏻😇
Im the one that One that love to be needed 😂 in sort of way, thats me, i find in that the most glorious Man.
We are all build to be something, there s a saying Woman hold every corner of house, God said it too. For she is the lamp, to her Man and a shelter, warm cozy nurturing in their tent. God created that way. In egypt king was only her cocoon puppet, but in a good sense, who else will give him advices if not his woman, cause she is the Queen. Man Respect women and woman adores her Man, according to bible. What is npwadays picture is shamefull for everyone
Amen yes so true so so so so so true
So true.....I truly agreed 💯 Sandia
If you find a queen 💖👸🌹like this she's a blessing 🙌 men.......This new generation there are not many women that care about men's well being....If you find a true queen💃💖👑take care of her 🕺❤💃💫
Let's try taking care of each other. I think that this will solve many of the problems between men and women.
@@darksecret820 It takes two to tango, relatioship is like a dance..
Girls listen this woman she knows what she's talking about 🙏🏽
No she mostly doesn’t 😂
She doesn't.
No she doesn't know. Nowadays alfa man is simply jigolo.
I think this mainly applies to Good Men (succesful or yet to be) that actually care about their well being and want a healthy relationship with a healthy person. It doesn't apply to sick and egotistical men, they typically settle for dog poo and most western minded women are dog poo so they won't do what Sadia is saying anyways, even if it was someone else saying it. Their mindset is warped. Good Men don't want them either so it's a self correcting problem.
Agreed
She speaks facts. Her voice is so calming too. Protect this one ❤
What makes a man truly happy is being productive and providing what his woman and surrounding's needs, and for it to be accepted and appreciated.
Everyone needs and wants emotional investment because everyone is human and it's a basic human need and desire.
When it comes to general specifics, a strong male need is to feel needed, in whatever ways are relevant to the situation.
Right..
Whenever a man cheats it’s always blamed on the woman. I don’t get it. If your relationship is bad you either need to leave or communicate
Men don't communicate well though. So you can lead a horse to water all you want, but you cannot make him drink it. This is how men are. They don't want to communicate. To them, it's a sign of weakness. Stay single.
Exactly ! She gives very bad advice most of the time!
Are you even interested in knowing how things work or are you just in a blame game, fleeing responsibilities and consequenses?
@@mathiasjohannesson9833 Would you have the same level of understanding if your wife cheated? Would you accept responsibility?
Everyone needs RESPECT and Love and Honesty 👍👏👍 To Be Happy 😅
Either woman or man ..
exactly..
If a man gives it to the woman- support, emocional safety. Usually a woman gives the same back to a man. It happens that a women does not give it back to a man, but it is rare. There are much more naturing and caring women than men
It hurt hearing this because it's so true. God damnit😢
We know.❤
That's why we get so hurt when we keep offering support, but it gets rejected.💔
To any SANE woman, when a man let us be there for him..
It means the WORLD to us.
And all we wants and hope for, is for men to understand that WE GET YOU.
Far more than men give us credit for.
@@lioness6853I think the difference is that they want that understanding and support from the woman that they truly want. You only get rejected if they don’t want you.
@@BlueAngel2397 Then men should stop letting their pecker control their lives, and go for the kind of women who wants the same as them.
Yes at least she knows what we want
@@chinarjadhav4061 Many women know.
she never disappoints. Nailed it!
what is more important in any relationship is consideration. Without that ingredient any relationship can’t survives.
God bless u Lady. U r speaking truth.
It’s how you make him feel, respect him & love him. ❤
Even that isn't enough. Especially the love part. Men HATE when you love them. They have to be the one who is madly in love with you, and you must keep your emotions locked and bottled up. IF you want him to stay with you, that is. Once he gets the idea you love him back, he will definitely switch up on you and start acting foolish and asshole-ish.
absolutely..
@@irinaivanovic9792 my ex did that, he said he didn’t feel appreciated smh 🤦♀️ I tried to make him feel more valued by showing more love…. He switched up and left…. Good ridden, he wasn’t who I was meant to be with…. Obviously. I don’t play games but understand psychology… I love & respect myself, & the right person/people/opportunities come around when you continue with that mindset. 🥂
This is exactly how I feel right now. I will tell you sadly my marriage is basically over because my wife completely ignores me & doesn't want to work on actually having a relationship with me. After we had our baby & her parents moved into our house she just listen to her audiobook romance novels. Crying thinking about what this woman is saying because it is exactly why 😢 and have to do the things I need to do to stay happy
Except when they have avoidant attachment and the thought of real emotional attachment makes them run for their lives. 😒 Their are a LOT of men who indeed dont want what shes saying. They wanna keep it shallow with no depth or substance.
it depends of what kind of guy because every one is unique .
@@maygrantz4426 Oh please.
Exactly. That's the vast majority of men worldwide, sadly. They see it as "weakness" to be emotionally vulnerable, whereas the TRUTH is it's POWERFUL AND STRONG. Any therapist and psychologist will tell you this. When these men refuse to display emotional attachment or have vulnerable conversations with you (a woman), that is a red flag because it means he's a horrible communicator and shuts down.
The lovliest, nicest and kindest women are cheated on the most...
Fact! I don't know where this woman gets the idea that women don't invest heavily in their men. Or maybe she is only talking about narcissistic beauty queens. The average woman is VERY invested in her man... and she gets brutally discarded & called "foolish" for doing so.
@@reverie6158 🎯🎯🎯
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Snap for men?
Exactly! So true and so painful!
She is simply beautiful and speaks
She’s so right.
So true.. spot on.. man are emotional creatures
She is so right! We just want to be heard and feel ljke we have someone that fights with you,believes in you! As men we only get unconditional love from our mothers, when they are gone, we want our partners to be there for us. That is all we have.
"Amen" keep it real ! You got it Girl!❤❤❤
she's saying this due to her experience with counseling men who need counseling. men who have never needed counseling would be described in a much different way. not saying this to be mean, it's just the truth.
You are so grate..I love all your input. You really help out people live. Thank you sweetheart.
My wife past away after 16 yrs. But food for thought. In all that time time I never heard "thanks" one time. I did l9ve her with all my heart but yeah....
I am sorry for this 🙏🏻
@kennyrobertson9292 I'm so sorry to lean this 😢
I am sorry for your loss. Maybe if you take time to ponder over it (I’m not saying so because I am a female), she probably thanked you in her own ways and language. Love language is different for each one of us, even our ways of apologising.
Facts! Girl you nailed it!
Happiness comes from within so NO ONE will be truly happy until this is achieved .
That's very true.
you are 100% correct dear.
Damn I nearly shed a tear 😢 but ok the moments over, gotta stay stoic
She never uses any source, and nobody asks her because she speaks gently. She is smart, this is how she gets people listen to her. She just justified cheating in her little world. Additioanlly, in reality, everyone knows men are treating women like she described who are mothering them- that's essentially what this is: mothering- , take advntage of them and take them for granted
interesting..
So true!!!
👏👏👏 My bullsh*t meter is always high whenever I come across her videos. Helps that she's also beautiful so the implicit bias to believing her words is also there. Nobody ever calls her out and even interviewers (specifically male ones) don't even question what she says.
I love her statement. Thank you. Us men have feelings too. We are not soft, we just want to know we are wanted.
If you're not soft, that's a red flag then. NO one wants to be with a man who "just wants to be wanted." That's EASY to do.
You are a guru🎉.. you are way way ahead of your time and education God bless you and your calling in this life
Emotional Awareness Investment, A TrueConcern, from your significant woman in your Life is Bringing Peace, this what My definition of Peace is...
Golden words! True!!
Something should be said about the look on her face after a hard day of work. When she refrains from pulling me down if shes upset with her day. The moment of peace she knows to give for me to unpack my day. Preparing meals with her is joyful. Sitting down to eat with her and hearing all about her day. How flirtatious she is with me and I deny her until the evening. I love her with all of my being. She loves me after all of my flaws and my long hours of work. She works full time and has MS. She is beautiful to me.
That is a real revelation ❤
I met the exception to the rule. I give my dude all of that and more but he' Still won't open up to me about his feelings when something is bothering him like the passing of his grandma recently. When he told me that she passed, he didn't seem all that sad about it but come to find out hes been holding in his emotions and feelings. You can't blame someone if their partner chooses to not speak up so that I know how to be there for him more.
He wants to feel desired. He wants you to want him. Men are not like women in that most men don’t vent or share their feelings. It’s not a reflection on you ladies, if you want him to be like your girlfriends you would come to hate him.
@@victorsmith5206 I will take your advice and show him more attention and affection so that he feels desired.
@toshrizzle I am going through the exact same thing and I have shown over and over again my desire for him. I try to always be his lil cheerleader in supporting him letting him know I'm here. I continously love on him but apparently it is me who wants "more". No Im simply asking for the basics. I am the one who doesn't feel desired and have been putting in all this effort to get nothing in return. I highly recommend you look into avoidant attachment because I've come to realize and even my bf now too that it is him to a T! It's the emotional intimacy that either terrifies them or turns them off. They internalize everything and depend only on themselves. I'm telling ya when I read into it a lighbulb went off and when I shown it to my bf he admitted there is a lot of truth in it as to why the way he is. Now I just gotta decide is it enough for me when I'm the one who's starved on emotional intimacy and desire. Chances are no. I can't force him to want it like I do.
@@lillyrose178 oh no I know about it all too well. We went to marriage counseling and the therapist told him that he has identity issues stemming from childhood. He didn't take the therapist seriously and refused to admit he needed help. The relationship with his mother when he was a child was not ideal. She chose the wrong men and continue to have children with multiple men. He was molested as a child by his aunt. He held that in for years and when he told his mom when he was an adult she didn't have much to say about it and wasn't very consoling. 3 years I've tried to keep this man on the right path and somehow he doesn't love himself enough to stay on the right path. So I had to take a different path. We have a child to raise together So we are going to be in each other's lives at least for 18 years. The crazy part is his mother was this bad example for him and he has told me that his mother only went to one of his sporting events as a child. He has always been chasing validation from his mother and never got it. When he told his mom that he got a high position at the company he was working for, instead of congratulating him she brought up his sister and how well she's doing. I saw how disappointed he was that he told her good news and she didn't give a shit. . Him being molested and his mother not being the supportive mother he needed He has developed a hatred for women. His first marriage ended and she kept the kids. I would like to hear her side of the story because I know what I've been through for the past 3 years and I can tell you that I have never tried to keeping my kid from him and I have never cheated. That's what he says his ex did and why they divorced. She was doing drugs and running the streets he said. But he himself can't give up smoking weed Even though it makes him all loopy and all he does is rummage through the fridge and goes to sleep. I have always been the third wheel in his relationship with his mother. He goes to her for everything instead of going to me like a normal man in a marriage would. He tells her our problems But only his side of the story So she doesn't like me because she only knows half truths. I could care less if she likes me or not. People need to remember that your parents are not your friends and certain things should be kept separate. Like arguments between you and your spouse.. needless to say,I divorced him back in December. We tried to work it out even after that but his behavior was still the same. Moving to another state I thought would help but he got worse. As much as my heart wants to be there for him my son needs me to be there for him. I don't want my son to end up messed up like he is because I focus too much on a man rather than my son. I understand that he isn't going to change and sometimes people need to hit rock bottom and lose everything in order to learn. But I doubt that that will happen because he lost his first family and He didn't accept any responsibility for that relationship ending and he never fought in court for his children so that he can be in their lives. The family that I had with him is no different. Do yourself a favor and leave because it doesn't get better unless you have a strong man who IS READY TO CHANGE. People are typically set in their ways after the age of 30 And it's unlikely that they will change. Unfortunately those of us who were raised with love seem to attract these type of partners. And because we were raised with love we know better but we stay anyway. We only have so much time on this Earth so don't waste it. I made a bad choice and learned from my mistakes, left and focusing on me and my son
@@lillyrose178Thank you,I thought I was the only one, married to someone like that.. and I must say it's a roller coaster.. You can't keep on pouring into someone else's cup whilst yours runs dry, atleast I'm realising that now and I must say that shit hurts.. You can be all of that and smh it still not enough..
Just my view anyways
She is Totally Damn correct....💜💙👍
Ladies. This woman speaks the absolute truth. Men will testify to this. 😎👍🏻👍🏻
lol your a simp that women is a single mother that choose wrong didn’t get married before she carried a baby there’s nothing right about her own decisions
You are spot on there as you know what you are talking about
Wow! What true statements about men she says
So i was only around for a long time because he didnt let me know he felt desired by every other woman he could get his hands on. I invested in him with everything, bought him groceries, and made appointments for him. Took him to see his mum and constantly made an effort in the bedroom. So glad i walked away. Independent and not trying anymore. Done. Sorry men. I need self love now.
I would say what keeps a man happy is 💯% what I just heard period. 🤘🏻❤
When a woman is treated right , submission comes naturally 🤵♂👰🏻♀
Not true at all
They go submit to bad boy D .
@@HMD1986-don’t be too nice then
Have some confidence
@@belle3055 I’m not good boy beta lol . I’m talking about general rules
Most take will take it from you and not appreciate it and still mistreat you and then leave you
Wow!! That is so true!
Yes,,,, for a mature man,,, yes 🙏🙃🙏
Show me ONE mature man. I'll wait.
‘Treat someone the way you want to be treated,’ they say. I treated her in the nicest way I could give, unconditionally, and all I wanted was to get something back when I needed some closeness. Instead, I got separation. That left a deep scar.
Correct. She's actually got it right.
Men needs must process emotions with more control than women but he is still, essentially an emotional being.
That is to say, a human being.
Is really 💯✅.
Many women approach me because I can say I'm quite handsome, but I don't find a home in them until now unfortunaly ✋
The fact I provided him with every emotional support and response he needed from me and I couldn’t receive any from him broke me , it was the first time I had fell in love even tho it was long distance , I kept constant contact (I’m a dental student) and no matter how busy my life got I .gave.him.my.time , nd guess what I couldn’t even have that , so it dosent matter how many efforts u give to someone , if they r not invested in u first(men) u(women) should be careful of growing emotional attachment….learned it the hard way .
You want to know what makes your significant other happy? Then ASK them, COMMUNICATE with them. And then make agreements so you can act on it. Don’t ask anyone advice about a person but ask the person themselves.
And if you’re single and listening to this to try and understand “men” in general… I would suggest you to stop generalizing men. This way you’ll get stuck in an illusion and will go into a relationship where you’ll keep loving the person that you like in the wrong way. If you’re single there’s a reason WHY it didn’t work out. Don’t blame the other person, do some inner work. If the other person is pure evil then ask yourself why you felt attracted to them in the first place. There lies your wound.
correct..
@@user-lk8cg8wf9h thank u good comment. Right
This is so true Bravo for you
She always speaks Facts 💯
Some good points here
this is 100% spot on
Thank you for this clear advice and positive perspective 💖💯💜🙏
Just being desired by somebody as a partner. I say yes!
And then you get bored and dump her for someone else. So much for being desired and loved by your partner. Ha.
My mum explained this to me when i was 16. Such helpful information.
We are not just animals we are spiritual too
💯 and same for women as well
I was at a church party, celebrating the marriage of a couple. Both men and women were allowed to attend. Midway, I went out to my car for a reason and the future bride came out, whom I barely knew and talked to me and gave me a kiss, and said that if I was interested in her, that she would drop him and not get married. I would guess the couples in their late 20s or early 30s. Why would a woman do this? I never said a word to the future groom. 😢Was it best that I kept quiet? Why would a woman want to marry a man (who was not rich nor above average in looks) whom she would give up so easily? So “Christian” really doesn’t mean anything does it?
You are so mature in your answers...
She is intelligent 🎉
Thats exactly why im cheating. My girlfriend no longer desires me so im with a woman who completely desires me just like my girlfriend used to. Unfortunately, my girlfriend will never read this.
Spot on!!!
For man sex and love someone is too different stuff and yes man are emotional creatures too. But man doesn't need to get all the attention or energy of woman to feel loves or be happy. You can make a man happy by building and maintaining a place he can call home. There is a big difference between a house and home, That kind of peace is what man looking for.
As a Christian husbands married 15 years 4 kids - your spot on let me know that I’m your all , and you totally support my vision for the family and love me and care about you and the safety, spirituality and peace and happiness of the family -
That's a nice story. But just know that men like you are definitely in the very small minority.
We do define peace, women’s brains shut off during that part
How would you define it then?
Peace means , high quality communication where issues are spoken about calmly and rationally with an end in mind. In other words the opposite of irrational moodiness.
@@jules-bz5vc Actually positive thinking is irrational and love is irrational, joy is irrational, bliss is irrational.......because its not comming from logic........As Deepak Chopra says "Love is irrational wisdom of heart.".......Just because positive emotions are positive, it desnt mean they are still rational....they are not based on logical thinking, or rational thinking......rational thinking is domething mathematical, or emotionaless.......According to you only moodines is irrational.
I think we need to agree to disagree.A pause to consider the other persons feelings is not cold, its effort we owe someone we love. @@alaalfa8839
1000% CORRECT.
The prettier a woman is, the more detached she is. Of course there are exceptions, but for the most part it's true.
Real talk the real one ❤
Loved it!! 😅 Yepp just peace.. you say if not when. All men are not the same with that
exactly..
Most of you are the same though. Majority rules.
Amen Lady well done you speak the truth ❤❤❤
DESIRED thats the right word there
So in other words, LUST. Got it. No newsflash there, what else is new. This is why divorce and breakups are the most common thing on earth. You males just want to be LUSTED AFTER. That doesn't make a woman happy and we aren't going to stick around to worship you and "lust" after you. My god what a childish, immature mindset.
I went out with a Narcissist for 13 years. In the beginning I did all those things she says. He just wanted a pretty woman on his arm. He humiliated me. Argued with me in public and he just wanted someone like his Mother. I ain't no Mother to no man!! After going through Cancer and the way he'd treat me. I ran for the hills. Thankfully I didn't make the mistake of moving in with him or getting married to the asshole. Saw him walking down the street the other day. Thought to myself I had a great escape. There are good men out there. But they are usually taken..
Peace and wife dont go in the same sentence. i dont won't sex just Peace and quiet
exactly, There is a book called Men are from Mars
and Women from Venus and please check this book.
That is so true share that with all Women and they will all make their Men Happy.❤😊
Proverbs 31:10 (NKJV)
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.
100% accurate 👌🏼
You wouldn't know shit about emotional investment ❤
Hahahahahahahaha killed it 😅😅😅
Aprecierea, respectul și liniștea sufletului sint citeva dintr o imensitatea de lucruri care l ar face fericit. ❤
This beautiful woman knows a lot things about man than ordinary women
No she doesn't. She's a delusional FAKE and a LIAR.
Wise lady.......❤❤❤
That's not true. Sorry because I gave all of that to my husband, and he still cheating on me over and over again, then he blames me for it all & still left me and his children for a younger woman so this woman needs to stop says this.
I agree with you!!
That is not a man that is a kid
What a loser sorry about that 😇😊
When a man meets you he will fall in love with the person you are. A lot of times women change, they pick up an extreme amount of weight. Sometimes they stop looking attractive. Everytime a man sees the women while dating she's dressed up and make uo is on point. After he married the women she neglects herself leaving him with a depressed looking woman. A man likes eye candy. Don't give him any reason to window shop.
Consider the possibility 💭 what if you were unheald when you decided to emotionally invest in him; unconscious thus, unprocessed childhood trauma.
Narcissists are attracted *to* *everyone* but, not every one chooses to entertain them ☝️🌞💝
Do some self healing before you invest in your next romantic commitment.
Spot on.
This girl speaks like one living in past centuries. Each one must find what they are looking for in themselves and then shall they attract that. No other way. We all attract what we are being.
FACTS. Spot on
So very true! Amen
I'm 51 year's old.
Married 2 children and never felt so alone.
Intimacy is next to nothing.
This is my life
Respect and loyalty
Very true........she knows men very well