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My old man would smack me upside the head anytime I said or did something he perceived as being stupid. He did it so often that any time I thought someone was about to slap me I would flinch and sort of curl up into a ball that to try and protect myself. I'm pretty sure the only reason he stopped doing that was because I'm bigger than him and physically stronger than him.
My old man said follow the van...
Smack him, HAAAAAARD. He deserves it. Moreso if you have kids- or better yet, don’t allow that toxic person ear any kids in general. Especially your own.
Please tell him, “Dad, you are an A-hole for smacking me like that as a child. You deserve punishment. You will not be in your grandchildren’s lives. They might choose to know you at 18, but until then, you will be denied Grandfather Joy.” Then go NO CONTACT. Do not give him your time or attention now. Seriously, DON’T!
@@Lily_of_the_Forest I don't even have kids. Also telling him that wouldn't do a lick of good.
@@jonlyons1033 why?
Our parents taught me and my siblings every racial slur, all the hate speech, racist jokes, slogans, stereotypes, and other stuff such as homophobic, ableist, sexist, and other nastiness that they knew.
Nah bro me too I feel bad
What why
I was completely ignored as a child, I usually talk around people who love me. I don't know anything about interactions, my only other way to interact with others right now is through my middle school and Roblox
Same dude, I’m struggling at home I only have my mom at home and my sister and my dad is elsewhere and we still pray he’ comes back(he’s not a bad guy). These days I play Roblox or build on Roblox studio as it’s actually something I like doing and I don’t have people around me I can call my “friends” except for my real ones.
I remember once how I showed my mum a mental health video on things parents do that has a mental effect on children. She said afterwards, “I have done all those things but one to you and you turned out fine”. No mom. I did not. PS this was after I got therapy… she knew I had mental health problems that were only happening at her house. Why mom?
Well, because people suck at admitting they did something wrong. parents especially. And don't take it wrong, but I would not expect from her any kind of realisation that she hurt you. Just don't expect that from her. If she does apologise to you at some point you will be positively surprised, but if she won't you won't be disappointed. Focus on yourself right now and the life you want to have.
Sounds like my parents
My parents would always yell at me, especially my dad. Any little thing I did wrong would result in screaming and hollering. They'd also always make insulting remarks and offhand comments w/o even thinking how it affected me, they'd treat me like the bad guy whenever I got mad or frustrated, and they'd also ignore or gaslight me whenever I'd try to talk to them about how things they'd do would hurt me or make me feel bad. I'm 21 yrs old now, and I'm an introvert with moderate social anxiety, am quiet, unable to express my feelings, and rarely speak up against anybody and just go with whatever they want or say. I get agitated whenever I hear someone yell or get loud, especially towards me, I am constantly afraid to interact with people out of fear of receiving hostility, and I bottle up my emotions until I just explode. I've got lots of issues thx to my parents.
Wow, you sound a lot like me. I had a self centered a-hole for a step dad that viewed anything he didn’t like as personally offensive. Because of him, I learned to avoid communication to avoid conflict. Now, ironically, I seem to attract conflict because people tend to view my reluctance to communicate as being rude.
@@silverthehero1295 Same. I have issues talking to ppl b/c of everything my parents did, and it's a constant source of problems for me b/c it seems ppl always expect me to talk and think I'm rude when I don't. But then if I do talk, then I end up saying something that offends them, and then it's conflict. It's just a no-win scenario for me.
Same bro same😅
My mother would tell me always that I could do better even when I got the highest marks possible at school. She thought it would push me to do better but made me insecure of my abilities.
My Papa always told me that I had nothing to prove and he was proud of me, even when my marks were low sometimes, and how proud he was of me, and that as long as I tried harder next time, it was all good, and we would go out to get something to eat in secret. That made me realize that my effort, regardless of result, was real, and I should always be proud as long as I tried and did my best.
However that resulted in me now being insecure of my abilities but at the same time being stubborn of keep trying even if that puts my health at risk and I ended up at the hospital a couple times. My brain keeps telling me that no matter how hard I try as long as the result is not the highest mark, it's worthless.
And to top it all off, when the C-Virus came,, my Papa died and my mother didn't.
I miss him a lot...
My dad use to go out of his way to scare me every opportunity he got. He did this as far back as i can remember and the reason for him doing it was because he found my reaction funny and would refused to stop. It wasn't until a few years ago when he was finally diagnosed him with ADHD and was seeing a doctor for his behavior issues that my mother had the doctor address the issue and doctor scolded him for the whole appointment going into all the different details on what he was doing was abuse. He never realized what he was doing was abuse because his parents did far worse things to him growing.
I'm 17, turning 18. While that may still be a "child" to some, it's still old enough to know what fucked me up.
I didn't realize until recently that my parents used guilt tripping or "making me feel bad" as a form of punishment when I was child. This severely damaged me growing up- since anytime I was ever in a toxic relationship and they used the guilt tripping method, I always blamed myself until a proper friend stepped in.
My parents also use the "we're going to send you back to the mental hospital!" As a form of threat. Long story short- I was in a bike accident when I was 13 and I was severely depressed and mentally unstable at that time. When I went to the hospital, I told the nurses everything I felt since I was always open with people. They told my parents and I was deemed unsafe and so the following day I was sent to a mental health hospital. This hospital was severely poor and looking at the reviews years later- many people had the same traumatic experience there. So using the mental hospital as a threat, now makes me never want to seek a mental health hospital for proper help, FEARING I'll be even more traumatized.
There's a lot more but those are the ones that are still fucked up. All of them are.
my parents would never really do the whole "jokingly calling me ugly" thing. matter of fact, mom would often insist how pretty i was.
which i honestly just seemed like normal mom behavior to me untill i eventually found out about the insane amount of incest in my family.
What the fuck
Well that escalated quickly
My eldest brother BELLOWED a lot when I was young. When he sucks in a giant breath of air, put your fingers in your ears! The yelling thing either makes a child very loud or very quiet when they grow up. I ended up being very quiet, even though I work out and am a bit taller (2 or 3 inches) than my brothers.
Lack of privacy. Not being allowed to like certain things. demanding the "truth" aka whatever was what they deemed the truth usually resulting in punishment as opposed to the actual truth. Also you should tell on each other if one is doing something wrong, then ger punished for telling because "you are only tattling because you want them to get in trouble
I feel the first one. My dad would sometimes yell and I remember in high school I had a slight panic attack in high school I think. My History teacher at the time was teaching and the annoying, talkative kids im the back of the class wouldn't shut up and so she yelled at them. Even though her voice wasn't directed at me, she was standing next to me when she yelled and I instinctively jolted and put my head down and covered my ears. She asked if I was okay and I said yeah...I just hate yelling. She understood but as time goes on stuff like that happens where I keep my emotions in, my body gets pent up in a moment of stress and I either have a panic attack, get shaky or have the urge to hide my face and hit the floor or table. I realize the reason I'm doing that is because I was raised in an environment where I was never allowed to "back talk" or voice my genuine self or opinion unless it was what my dad wanted to hear. I especially hated it when he'd be self deprecating about how my mom, my brother and I hate him and that we call him the villain in our story. It's infuriating.
My father used to tell me as as his only daughter that my tears meant nothing to him. Then when I became a rebellious teenager and told him I don’t care about him, he started to cry. I just looked at him. He asked me don’t you care that I’m crying? I told him, his tears meant nothing to me and went upstairs.
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Wow some parents are so oblivious to what they're saying. Do you know if he understood you were saying his own words back to him? Just curious.
@@janejane6754 without a doubt! I saw his face fall. Truly a slap in the face. When I got pregnant and my hormones were everywhere, I’d cry at the drop of a hat. Guess who took me in his arms? Amazing what being hit with your own words will do.
I think my mom had anger issues, and my dad had them as well, but in a different way.
My mom would yell at me a lot whenever I didn't do something she wanted or when I failed to do something right or for asking a dumb question while she was stressed. So much so that yelling just straight up didn't work on me, because I was desensitized to it. And it crushed my self esteem as I thought everything was always my fault.
My dad would never yell, but he would be very passive aggressive if he was upset at me. This made me start constantly overthinking that people might be judging me, or insulting me, or saying things behind my back.
They did a lot of other things, like basically never letting me leave our home's block, but these were the most prominent.
I now have social anxiety and no backbone.
my dad would scold me for walking too fast on the street. it didn’t work bc i was a forgetful kid - not bc i didn’t care for or respect his words - i literally would forget i shouldn’t walk too far from him. he thought hiding so that i thought he would abandon me was a good idea to teach me not to walk away. now i have abandonment issues and i don’t talk to him.
Yelling at me for any negative emotion and accusing me of being a spoiled brat/stupid b-tch whenever I started to tear up because of her. It really started to sink in that what she was doing was wrong (at least for me, she sees nothing wrong with it) when she called me a "whiny b-tch" for not wanting mayo on a sandwich simply because she was mad at me for something else...
When i was 15-16 my parents kept telling me they didnt want me to have a girlfriend because then I wouldn't want to study anymore... not sure who they knew that did that but that added to how i was always super shy speaking with girls led to me missing out on the first innocent relationships that teach you how to deal with almost anything in one, including rejection and breaking up. The result, only had 1 girlfriend in my life, now im 36 single and my father keeps telling he wants grandchildren but now every time i hear him say that i feel i should bring it up saying "well im unable to even get a girl because i never learned to deal with rejection because of what you told me back then".
Also story 2 literally happened to me, my parents didnt want me to hang out (in part because i chose most of the time "bad companies" as friends, not precisely bad we were all gamers and Otakus but they had weird stuff going in their brain but i didnt pay attention to that and i loved those guys friendship) so in consequence i became a software developer who works from home and is basically a shut in... i plan to use D&D to start healing myself from my antisocial-shutin behavior (at least i know i want to change and im willing to)
My dad constantly self deprecates and I hate it. He constantly says "I guess I'm such a terrible father since you, your mom and brother think I'm such a bad guy" and shit like that. I love my dad when he's a good dad like when we do fun things together and have a good time but when something bad happens or we don't do something he wants or we do or say something wrong, he's a nightmare. We're afraid to say anything to challenge him and his authority. It's gotten to the point where whenever my mom and I are alone, we joke about how "dad's gonna be so mad if we forget x, y or z" as a coping mechanism. I know it's not good but at least I know my mom feels like I do. Recently I talked to my brother about his experience with dad and he feels the same as I do along with my aunt-in-law. They both said being around my dad is like walking on egg shells, having to be careful about offending him or saying something wrong. And my dad wonders why our family rarely, if ever, visits us. My dad is the reason we moved away from the family because he wanted to be "in his home state". I miss my family so much and wish they would visit us but I understand that being around my dad can be harsh. I just hate how isolating it is. That's why I do my best to see my family yearly, every summer to spend time with them and make memories.
My mom used to ask me if I was gay. No clue why it started. But I remember she once asked me because I wanted a pink shirt. I've never been attracted to other men but I questioned my own sexuality for a while. Also, I think it made me a bit of a womanizer, trying to subconsciously prove I'm into women.
Had me moe the lawn without ear protection.
My mom used to teach me lessons by taking my things and throwing them away or not letting me have food. She claimed it was harmless, but it was the only way she could get through to me because I was such a rebellious child.
To this day, I get so paranoid about asking for money, snacks- even full meals. I always feel the need to ask permission and forgiveness for literally everything I do whither or not it was bad because of this. It's a habit I have yet to break four years after being taken out of that household.
Even my dad, who is the most incredible dad on the planet, has to remind me that I don't have to ask to eat.
There was also the criticism that I grew up with. My mom said it was to help me fix my bad habits and behavior, but in reality it just left me with more behavior issues. I can't do anything without criticizing myself, reminding myself how I could have done better even if I was above average. It's affected a lot of my hobbies like art and martial arts because I never feel good enough. My dad balances my self doubt with his support though.
Best dad
@@ririlub Honestly. I'm lucky to have him because he's been a great balance for me.
11:11 this was a thing we learned in Psychology that I repeat to my parents every time they say I have a 'Talent' for something, I may be able to pick up on a thing quicker than them or others but my skills in that subject were all learned over a very long time. But the thing was a test done on kids where 1 group was told they were innately talented with stuff and the other were praised for their hard work, the hard work kids became more motivated with trying new things and the 'talent' kids didn't try anything they weren't good at.
I find great pride in knowing I worked hard to enhance my skills in things like art, and nowadays I get pissed when someone claims it's because of talent and not 11 years of practice and study
I was always told "Curiosity killed the cat." I have trouble asking questions of any sort because of it.
Story 4: If my mom were to tell me that I love her because that's "how she is" after telling me I'm ugly, I'd probably just tell that the reason I love her is because she's my mom, nothing more. Seriously, WTH!
My mom sang a song to my 3 youngest siblings when I was a teenager/early 20s about watching my body wiggle and jiggle as I moved. I was chubby at that time, had issues with eating and food choices, and it just piled everything on with everything shed always said.
Turns out I have several disorders that made my metabolism go to crap when I was young, and things that could have been fixed when I was an early teen but are conditions I'll have to spend the rest of my life dealing with now.
Thanks mom.
Gosh I relate so hard to the ones who didn’t feel “pretty” because of their parents. My mother always comments on my skin and teeth, and a lot of the issues I struggle with now is because of poor hygiene due to depression as a child.
Ugh the eating disorder thing hits me hard, my family was the exact same way to me and I'm now stoll recovering from the disorder
My mother had no acne issues so she had no idea how to take care of my acne-prone face other than cover it in alcohol. It did not work. Her best idea was to try a popular brand (which is still sold) that ended up giving me severe chemical burns. She also never used makeup so she believed using a foundation three shades darker would "apply a healthy tan". I am pale, always have been, and I had to tearfully tell my classmates that when they tried to nicely tell me my foundation didn't match that my mother refused to buy me my actual color because "it will make me look healthier".
It's benign, I swear. She's entirely clueless and was never taught about beauty and skincare. She STILL doesn't know how to do her makeup and that you have to remove your makeup after you wear it. She's still beautiful for never taking her makeup off and barely ages. But I'm the one with Peter Pan face, including the acne that will plague me all my life.
EDIT: But I still had to learn these skills and I seem obsessive and vain. I'm not. It... it hurts. It physically hurts my face. But her being absolutely thoughtless meant I had to do it myself. Which means people stare at me and will judge me. No, I'm not going out without putting on makeup and a little moisturizer. I remember the bad days when my mother shrugged and suggested just alcohol wipes. It's a dark place of being a teenager. I'm never going back to that. Bright side, I'm the family aunt/cousin who everyone goes to for skincare! I have a whole drawer of emergency things.
Parents: my kid is doing something i think is wrong
Take away everything they love
Mock them when they want to see friends
Insult them and never try to understand what your child is thinking or feeling
Why are my children all so distant with me
Me:😡😡🤬🤬🤬😡😡😡😵😡😡😡😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Story 2: I had a similar situation with my parents. I wasn’t aloud to hang out with anyone from school during the summer and my curfew was 30 minutes after school ended for the day (regardless of the distance between my school at the time and my house. It took me 35 minutes to ride my bike home from junior high due to the distance and upon arriving home my mother would furiously interrogate me demanding to know what I was doing to make myself late. When I reminded her that the distance was greater than between my elementary school and home and therefore took longer, she replied that distance was irrelevant in determining how long it took someone to reach a destination on time.
And this woman married my father, who has a Master’s Degree in Physics. 🤦🏼♀️
I also had a fixed mindset since I was a "gifted student" in elementary school. When our state testing results came back, and I was in the top one percentile, my mom's reaction was, "That's nice, sweety." She later started working for an elementary school district, and saw the other kids' results.
I also stopped caring about working hard in high school. For one, I had developed an anxiety disorder (I had undiagnosed autism) that made me terrified to talk to my teachers if I didn't understand something. And for another, I realized my parents would be equally disappointed if I got a B or an F, so why put in the extra effort?
By some miracle, I managed to graduate high school on time, but I dropped out of community college pretty early on. It's taken me over a decade to finally go back and get my degree.
anything i say i wanted to do was ignored or dismissed but when the same thing was said by my brother or someone from outside, it was a good thing
Yell at me for having different opinions than they do
Not keeping treats or snacks in the house. When I was growing up, outside of holidays or birthdays, the consumption of candy, snacks, cake, or pie was scarce. As a result, when I became an adult, I went the complete opposite direction. I always had snacks/candy in the apartment, condo, house, etc. In my 20s, it didn't matter as I had a pretty active lifestyle, but after my back injury, I couldn't be as active as I'd like, so the pounds piled on. The pandemic didn't help either. Luckily I've curtailed the snacks and candy, and lost almost half of the weight that I had gained.
These aren't harmless. Many of these are f'd up beyond belief
None of stuff is harmless.
Man if I had turned this ep into a drinking game, I'd be pretty slushy right now.
my parents gave me a small gift of PTSD and really bad self confidence issues. its gotten so bad i stopped talking to my therapist because I'm just too scared to talk to people or anything because i fear I'll do something wrong and I'll either be yelled at to the point i cry or hit. but oh its okay i was a bad kid i deserved to be hit. they also made comments about my physical apperance too like saying i need to exercise more or that i look fat. i now get sick at the sight of food and physically cannot eat.
My mother and stepfather would tell me about how ugly i was. Then said i knew they were just joking. No i didnt. I now have body dismorphia. I have no idea what i really look like.
Never ever be wrong 🤣, about anything
not my parents but a teacher, i was heavy as a kid (still am but working on it) and i had a teacher who would pick on me for it. Years later i just have gotten back my self-esteam and some of the sassyness i use to have
I used to trust my dad over my mom, but every time I entrusted him something he would tell it to his boss/friend. I detested his boss, but I had to suck it up. That combined with his infidelity destroyed our relationship to the point of coming to blows, also destroying most of my relationships with my paternal family by association. That ended up with me struggling to trust people.
My mom diddnt like me crying cuz I did it over everything from a hee sting to depression to spilled cereal. She would yell at me to stop crying or cry quieter. Thanks mom. Now I try not to cry as much as possible and if I do I do it silently. I tell myself it’s ok to let the tears roll down your face but don’t make sounds. My mom feel really bad and says it’s ok to cry.
Probably why I cried very little and silently when my grandpa passed. I miss him it affected me but I never cry about it.
My great aunts still alive. She’s getting dimentia. Slowly. She thinks the upstairs neghbor vaccuums 247 and will hang on the celing. This is a horrible terrible thought but I kinda want her to die fast like my grandpa. He got a heart attack. My grandmother had to suffer a year of her body dying while she lived. I don’t want my aunt to do the same. I just want her to die to get it over with so she can be fine already and my parents and I don’t have to deal with this shit.
A couple of these hit home for me pretty hard but the last one about speech therapy made me think of a sibling too. They were about 6-7 when they did some speech therapy and I'd forgotten about it for years but someone mentioned noticing a few sentences being spoken under their breath or without sound, as if to practice speaking before actually saying their thoughts. I have my own educational problems with things from childhood and how those matters were handled by my parents but the ones that hit hard were emotion based. I didn't feel like I was allowed to be upset or angry and express them, so I locked those emotions away from other people and didn't talk about them. I'm nearly 30 and still have trouble expressing or identifying them. My fiancé has since told me that he didn't see me get deeply mad (rather than just a passing moment of frustration) until nearly 2+ years into our relationship. I turned to self harm as a teen and still struggle those urges when dealing with big emotions.
Yup I feel the story about constantly getting teased about talking to opposite gender.
My dad was so bad about it he'd tease BOTH of us nonstop. He was the pastor of the church so he felt he could be more friendly than usual and often overstepped his boundaries as a result.
Fucker easily ruined 3 relationships for me because he wouldn't shut up towards them. I know this because years later while I'm in the military I'm talking to them still and they all admitted at some point the only reason they didn't want to date me was because of my dad.
And of course in my mid30s now I struggle to find dates both due to shyness and just not wanting to introduce anyone to my parents.
Although, I’m only sixteen I don’t know what to ask for from my parents. My dad who is the breadwinner of my family would sometimes shout at me if I wanted anything new or asked for things to better myself. Now, don’t get me wrong. He does get me new things every now and then however there were never the things I really wanted the most. However, my two younger sisters always got whatever they wanted most times the things they don’t even need. This has led me to denying myself nice things and being stingy with whatever I have left. Now, whenever I go out with my parents to but things I never know what to ask them for because I know asking them just means I won’t have it.
my grandpa beat me, still traumatized to this day
8:13 Wow I’m Guessing I’m Really Not The Only One Who Suffer’s From This-
I can relate to story number 11. My mother was a clean freak and when she lived with my husband and I she would yell at me to clean my room like I was a child. Noe I hate to clean and at times my house gets messy. I’m not a nasty dirty slob, I just don’t clean 24/7 like she did. My sperm donor didn’t yell at us, but he did quietly disapproved and mad all 5 kids feel like we were not worthy of his love. With me though, he treated me like the red headed stepchild. After they divorced he got worse.
my mom constantly tells me to "get over it" abou the bullying i suffered throughout most of elementary school and middle school because "i use it to justify my bad attitude" whenever im not being an extremely extroverted person or just act cold in general. I was a pretty happy and extroverted kid when i was young but after the bullying, specially in middle school, i became really shut in and became a full on introvert. My dad too can tell that it affected me and changed me and that im no longer that happy lil kid but he is undertanding and even in the few times i was actually rude to him he never got angry, meanwhile my mom will say i have a bad attitude for not letting her help me move some things in my room i could perfectly move on my own. She also calls herself a good mother when many times she has threatened me with kicking me out of the house and cutting all ties with me if i ever dare dating someone who is not a guy (im afab, a woman as far as she knows)
Honestly I've done with a lot of these and had a lot of similar and or inverse reactions but the one that actually bothers me is that my mom never abused my full first name unless I was in trouble and to this day I can't stand the way it sounds I hate it I hate my name I only go by my nickname and whenever anybody says my full name out loud I automatically assume I'm going to be yelled at.
None of the other things really bother me like my mom would sometimes make comments about my appearance and that used to bother me but now I don't care I used to get in trouble for not doing good grades and then I stopped caring about that and I don't care about my weight anymore either I guess the biggest thing they did was cause apathy for most things except my name and whenever I hear people yelling because my parents would fight and or one of them would take their anger out on us unintentionally. And I also had to suppress emotions a lot and now I don't really have that many to suppress I hardly ever cry and most of the time even in situations where I should be feeling any something I don't I never feel excited coming up to a big event until the day of when I'm actually there I never feel worried in situations where bad things are happening I like to think that I'm just being logical that I'm just thinking through the fact that nothing's probably going to go wrong because of this and so there's no point worrying but sometimes I wonder if that just means I'm emotionally withdrawn in some way but I honestly don't care I don't care about any of those things the thing that really bothers me is the fact that I don't like my own name
Damn, Yall getting a daily dose of character development from age 2😅😂😂yall parents dont cap😅
My mom: your hurting me why do you flinch and or snatch your phone up every time I come downstairs?
Also my mom for 18 years of my life: I’m taking your phone cuz you moved one second too slow because you were texting me I’m coming and so you had to take a second or else i would text more all caps and or storm down the hall to your room to take it.
Am I the Genius is amazing ^^
Folks, you can get justice on your abusive parents by denying them Grandparent Joy. Go NO Contact when you become an adult and keep your children away from them. True, some parents are such monsters so they won’t care. If that is the case then keep your children away for their own protection.
Family does not get away with being cruel.
I was always threatened with smacking for crying now i cant tolerate crying
My dad yelled in my face unyil i was in tears diring my childhood.
So now, if someone get angry at ne and starts raising their voice, yelling, ect. Ill either stand there and rake rake ut oike urs nothing (like yelling at a brick wall) or ill start arguing back, giving you the same volume, tune, ect you are.
With story 7 I will say tha I do have significant hearing loss because of chemotherapy when I was a child so my mother is constantly telling me to quit yellow ng when I think that I’m talking at a normal level
My mother is a narcissist. I think this should be enough explanation. I realised that waaay too late, Like really way too late. :/ Wasted life, wasted opportunities and learned it wasn't my fault. :/
trying to remove all the blackheads on my face. it was really painful and she didnt stop when i asked
Whenever my dad will get annoyed, he would throw a shoe at me. Mind it never actually made contact with any part of my body. He would throw it near me but it’s still terrifies me to this day.
For 3 years my mom didn't allow me to cut my hair in a boyish style. When I was 11 I asked my mom "cam we cut my hair as a boy?" And she was like "alr I'll pcik some haircut pics" when she showed them they were all short, but the arrived above the shoulders, I explained that I said I wanted a boy haircut, and then she said no, and something among the lines of "you need to pick one of these" 2 years later I reminded her that and she said she didn't remember so I asked her "than can I have a shorter haircut?" And she asked what I was thinking, when I explained I heard her whisper "no that's too much" and I felt hurt ones again. Another year later I was able to get the haircut, and at the time I had already realized I was genderdisphoric. She doesn't know, and probably will never know👌✨️ (she also has told me some slightly transphobic things, which confirmed even further that I'll never tell her)
My mom would yell at me.
I’m always scared of her now. Especially when she’s in a bad mood.
I have bad dreams where she blocks the internet on my phone cuz she used to do that for any reason including because she could. I got full control of my phone at 18 cuz she said I was an adult and can handle my own screen time and if I wanna watch 5 hours of TH-cam that’s on me. I still have dreams where my apps will be blocked and I realize it’s her. And I spend the rest of the dream trying to get control back via hacking or settings.
Not me, but I have a friend with a helicopter mom. She suffers from anxiety. Kinda confused on one thing, though. Is her mom a helicopter mom because of her anxiety, or did she get her anxiety from her mom being a helicopter mom? Also: the mom is self aware, and knows she’s a helicopter mom
Idk if this counts but when I was in like I think 1st grade my friend would tell me scary stories and I was scared of dolls and a specific type of tree for years after that
I tell my parents stop yelling. If they say I’m not then I say stop speaking in loud tones. They can’t argue with that and argue quieter or come to an agreement or discuss it later refer i tell them that
too many;
1. Always forbid me to do hairstyles, fashion, or make-up; no one said I was ugly, but my parents said it. Crazy, right?
2. always petty, when all kids go outside in a festival or event with pocket money given, only me just seeing (my family owns many lands to the point it's okay being called landlord, many houses, many machines, or stuff, even my house had a length of almost 55 meters, why petty?
3. Again, petty: parents have never bought any since I remember, to the point that now that I'm an adult, my friends even know that I hardly eat outside. I don't realize it since, like in elementary school, I'm always going home and making food myself just to save my school pocket for something to buy. Think about it: a kid making food himself just to save money, not eating food, and snacking outside
4. Many are sad; I don't want to remember them again. Sad. Sad of me
when i was 5/6 my dad got mad when i felt any emotions now when i smell a certen smell i get frustrated/angry (PS i associate that smell with him)
I am scared of the dark becuse my dad jumpscard me whale playing hide and seek
Many parents in the comments should be pushed into a pile/hole and just leave’’‘em there. Away from the rest of society. 😐
My parents made me have hair cuts naked infrint if people as a kid I've always hated haircuts ever since.
WTF why?
What the hell were they on?!
8:12 i also relate. For some reason trying to get close with a girl means you are head over heals for them ! I DOMT WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH THE GUYS BECAUSE THEY ARE BIG STRONG BRUTES ALL OF THE MEN CAN I NOT BE CALLED A PLAY BOY FOR WANTING TO BE FRIENDS WITH ROUGH PEOPLE
Use me as the "i quit smoking for my kids" button 🤘🤘
My sperm donor left my mother to marry her best friend after he told me he was going to remarry my mother so we could be a family again. Then called two days later to roll me he found me a new “Mom”. I was confused since I already had ampm and didn’t need a new one. Now I’m afraid to make friends for my husband to leave me to be with them. I haven’t seen my sperm donor since 2013 and haven’t spoken to him since 2012. He didn’t speak to me when I saw him in 2013. Now that his wife died my siblings think I should reach out to him. I don’t want to reach out to him after how he treated me and my family in 2012 and me in 2013. Am I the asshole for not wanting to reach out?
My mom, any time I wanted to show affection, a hug or a kiss, it was get your clammy hands off me or get wet lip off me. I still have a problem, to this day, find it hard to give her a hug or a kiss. And also to tell her I love her.. though I do love her soooo much. It's supremely hard to affectionately show her.. for a long time.. it was everyone.. unless it was sexually.. it took forever to be familially.. affectionate..
I like being early
Same
Same
Ur early cus ur gay
These Parents have a guilty free card to toxicity and are using it excessively 😅 btw research says if you had a toxic parent chances are you will choose toxic spouse, and the cycle continues 😅yall doomed for life
I lowkey get the first one
I was told the only friend i needed was my little brother. I wasn't allowed to leave my yard. My bed time was 7 pm until i was 17. My dinners were either chips and soda or some kind of past for about 14 years and my they wanted me to lose weight. My mom smoked constantly around the house and told me its my fault i smell like smoke. You would think 12 different parent teacher conferences would be a wake up call. If i showed any emotion other than acceptance of a decision they made i was beaten or punished. My baby brother has been beaten for being happy, sad, upset, and for not showing emotion. Both time we were beaten for sadness was because of our grandmother dying. To this day showing emotion, being happy, being confident, and making friends are extraordinarily difficult l. Also my dad yells a lot and i genuinely can't tell if a person is angry or simply talks loud.
Sad story bro.
If I were you, I would have snuck out during the night if possible
i don't mean to sound incensitive, but a lot of this "my parents did this, and i never got to go out anywhere now i have no friends" comments sound like their coming from relatively young adults, round 23 to 26 ish in age, and i think the issue here is that, unless you lead a very successful social life and got a LOT of freedom in your teens, you ended up like this, this is actually quite the norm, for people in their twenties to have issues with socializing due to stunted social life in their teens, the good news is, that these people all RECOGNIZE they have an issue which means even if they don't actively TRY to work on it, they will eventually subconsciously start working on it, it's like something someone said once i'll never forget, "socializing becomes easier in your late twenties early thirties because you stop giving a #$%^ about what people think or have to say about your habits" and i think their some truth to that as i've noticed people younger than me having issues with worrying what others will think or what this or that will do to their reputation and i personally don't care anymore, and that nonchalant attitude has really helped me in navigating social heirarchy in the last few years, mind you i stopped caring in my late twenties, i'm not THAT old yet >.>
That 3 generstion analysis justifying emotional abuse. Not everyone has a reason, some people ate just terrible people & many reasons you would not like......some peoplie enoy others suffering for example.
15:06 allah allah allah is right, you should revolve your life around allah, for he is our creator and in doing so, you get jannah.
what is bro playing