The impossible thing is this: What happens when your intrusive thoughts are blasphemous. I don’t want to be exposed to that at all. I don’t want to think blasphemy. How do you deal with that?
How are you to do response prevention if its automatic/habitual? Especially when the thoughts bring up very intense emotions. It still feels like youre just saying the equivalent of “just dont drink” to an alcoholic
Ugh I get so confused. I've made quite a bit of progress I think when I started telling myself "I don't know that answer I don't need to figure it out." And just saying "that's cool I don't care" to thoughts. BUT. My biggest OCD is relationship OCD and not feeling connection to family. I suddenly started feeling nervous around my closest loved ones. I'm always checking myself to see if I'm nervous or how the time I spent with them went. Which I've purposely been doing this for ERP. However I could have a day I spend with them that is awesome and fun and then the next day be nervous I'm going to feel nervous and not have anything to say and feel awkward around them. My biggest fear is feeling nervous around them forever. How do I ERP this and not ruminate when that thought comes in my head after I hang out with them or while?
I would say mate the fear of the nervousness is what is makes you nervous 100%, wether it’s in the moment or afterwards. You likely replay the events in your mind to re assure yourself if wasn’t ‘that bad’ and you and I with OCD our minds don’t like the idea that our fear could be true so we try neutralise, problem solve all those behaviours Matt mentioned I don’t want to give you false advice but the exposure in your situation might be just socialise more and avoid replaying the events when your mind feels the urge too
@@ChromatixMETHOD right! It's so hard to not check to make sure I had a good time afterwards which then would cause that to be a compulsion. My therapist wants me to purposely make myself nervous around them since my last appointment last week which is killing me and causing rumination and fear which I felt was getting better. Ugh just another bicep curl for the brain I guess. I get nervous about spiraling into depression.
I am the exact same atm! But my issue is with new people, I get worried I won’t be able to make a connection with new people and no matter if I prove myself wrong it doesn’t work and the worry is still there I just want it to go away honestly
@@livharding875 I’m not gonna lie. Getting a notification for this and reading my old comment triggered me a little. That was definitely a dark time I went through months ago. I slowly have been getting better. I hope someday seeing an old comment won’t bother me much at all! Keep going. I still have bad days but they don’t last as long and aren’t as scary. Healing isn’t linear. You got this!!!
@@jocelynschwartz5582 I am sorry it triggered you, but thank u so much. I am really glad you’ve been able to get through this and I hope we all can. Literally only realised yesterday what has been going on with me has been OCD all this time
just let them float by, dont react or engage or try to solve, dont even push them away just let them come in and go. eventually they will lose their power.
Very solid advice!
What is the triple A method? You keep referencing it without saying what it is
Do stoping compulsion will reduce obsession thought over time and fade away in future
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The impossible thing is this: What happens when your intrusive thoughts are blasphemous. I don’t want to be exposed to that at all. I don’t want to think blasphemy. How do you deal with that?
I have same problem
How are you to do response prevention if its automatic/habitual? Especially when the thoughts bring up very intense emotions. It still feels like youre just saying the equivalent of “just dont drink” to an alcoholic
Ugh I get so confused. I've made quite a bit of progress I think when I started telling myself "I don't know that answer I don't need to figure it out." And just saying "that's cool I don't care" to thoughts. BUT. My biggest OCD is relationship OCD and not feeling connection to family. I suddenly started feeling nervous around my closest loved ones. I'm always checking myself to see if I'm nervous or how the time I spent with them went. Which I've purposely been doing this for ERP. However I could have a day I spend with them that is awesome and fun and then the next day be nervous I'm going to feel nervous and not have anything to say and feel awkward around them. My biggest fear is feeling nervous around them forever. How do I ERP this and not ruminate when that thought comes in my head after I hang out with them or while?
I would say mate the fear of the nervousness is what is makes you nervous 100%, wether it’s in the moment or afterwards. You likely replay the events in your mind to re assure yourself if wasn’t ‘that bad’ and you and I with OCD our minds don’t like the idea that our fear could be true so we try neutralise, problem solve all those behaviours Matt mentioned
I don’t want to give you false advice but the exposure in your situation might be just socialise more and avoid replaying the events when your mind feels the urge too
@@ChromatixMETHOD right! It's so hard to not check to make sure I had a good time afterwards which then would cause that to be a compulsion. My therapist wants me to purposely make myself nervous around them since my last appointment last week which is killing me and causing rumination and fear which I felt was getting better. Ugh just another bicep curl for the brain I guess. I get nervous about spiraling into depression.
I am the exact same atm! But my issue is with new people, I get worried I won’t be able to make a connection with new people and no matter if I prove myself wrong it doesn’t work and the worry is still there I just want it to go away honestly
@@livharding875 I’m not gonna lie. Getting a notification for this and reading my old comment triggered me a little. That was definitely a dark time I went through months ago. I slowly have been getting better. I hope someday seeing an old comment won’t bother me much at all! Keep going. I still have bad days but they don’t last as long and aren’t as scary. Healing isn’t linear. You got this!!!
@@jocelynschwartz5582 I am sorry it triggered you, but thank u so much. I am really glad you’ve been able to get through this and I hope we all can. Literally only realised yesterday what has been going on with me has been OCD all this time
Where can we find your course
Thank you.
Can’t get this instrusive thoughts that are scary and concerning to leave my mind..
just let them float by, dont react or engage or try to solve, dont even push them away just let them come in and go. eventually they will lose their power.
No mention of any actual tip to help. Just goes over and over the same thing. Anything you get folk to pay for your content!!
He also tried to charge me 15,000 for a coaching program. Trying to take advantage of desperate people is no way to go
So much talking with no solution, just buy the course...