My mother has successfully enlisted almost all of my 6 siblings. In the past she tried to enlist me as a flying monkey. There is always a golden child and pretty much all of my siblings believe they can become the golden child if they are a good enough flying monkey. I told her I wasn't trying out for the position of golden child. That didnt go over very well. I waited decades hoping she would change or get better. Finally I went NC and my only regret is that I didn't go NC sooner.
I went no contact as well. Unfortunately narcs still find a way in my life. I am learning to trust my gut and send em away faster. Unfortunately I still got a malignant tenant against my better judgement I let her move in.. Uugh. Leave now narc. Less than a week and I'm narc free once again Hate these evil people.
My cousins family too. They're weak from this sick dynamic. My overt narc father is such a turnoff I've never wanted to be favored. However my poor sister does.
This is such a bell ringer!!! I could never understand why I was made to be the only one at fault for leaving an abusive relationship of 25years. Thank you for explaining this!
Dealing w/ my Malugnant Narcissistic father, we went through literal Hell on Earth for nearly a year b/c of ALL the flying monkeys. Church members, friends, even "close" family. Totally betrayed us! I went grey-rock & dont even speak w/ then. Tragic & devastating.🐞💗🌺
What makes me really sad is the fact that i feel like often the flying monkeys are being abbused just as much as you were but they do not or do not want to see it. And when the Person actually is a nice Person but with no bounderies it hurts when you have to let go of a Person you like and you know their are just being fooled, the same way that you were as you were in the middle of it. Love from Switzerland
So true. I have been going through this very thing with my husband and his family. I realize it will never change. I must change and get this hellish mess out of my life for good. It's all about their control over you.
Rebecca, I'm the one that won my mediation by using your guide! I cannot thank you enough for making this available to us. Your generosity to truly help others has changed my life and my children's. God bless you. You are a Rockstar, girl!!! ♥️♥️♥️
How to win the mediation? Last March I had a mediation with my ex, to my surprised, she refused to attend the mediation without her new partner. He acted like her lawyer in the mediation, my ex didn’t speak anything in the mediation. Suddenly he shouted in front of mediators “ if you don’t agree anything, we will leave the mediation “ So I was obliged to take all their demand to see my daughter. Now it is time to review the parenting agreement. They push me to take all demands to see my daughter without the mediation and threat me if not, you can’t see your daughter.
@@Pike4472 - hi Darcelle! I think it helps that I have always been an optimist. However, I did have some dark days. I just couldnt figure out why my husband was so unstable, i.e. jerk, etc! Somehow I stumbled onto Dr. Les Carter's site 'Surviving Narcassism' & that's how the 💡 came on. I devoured his videos & Dr. Ramani's also. Then I found R. Zung's site because that's where I am, gladly headed towards a divorce. I am smarter & stronget bcuz of these 3 smart & generous people. I dream of my freedom & am planning now. So take your time & get as educated as you can. If a video upsets you on any given day - that's your sign to NOT watch for a few days. Come back when your head is in a better place. Darcelle - the best advice I can give you is: Dare to Dream Again!!! Envision your happy future. Hugs & strength.
Wow, realising I was used as a flying monkey against my late mother during her divorce with my narc dad, and as I became the scapegoat child my younger brothers became flying monkeys he used against me (they admitted recently they used to hate me until they realised it was all my dad). So sad to realise that all this time he was manipulating all of us and turning the family against one another. Thankfully me and my brothers are now unified, defending eachother against our narc dad
I had to deal with this after I bought a hair salon. The previous owner was a huge narcisist. She immediately started to cause me drama with customers and my stylists. She made up crap, undermind me and opened another business down the street even though we had a strong non compete. It was horrible and so stressful. Went to court and that was traumatic and expensive. In fact I git very sick due to the stress of it. She was one evil narcissistic b. In the end I won in court.. but nit without other incidents like one night She attacked me in a public place grabbing me around the neck. So glad she is out if my life... I sold the business ...
One of the things with flying monkeys is that they are trying to get you to say something to take back to the narcissist.Really weren't my friend, so i did no contact.There are blow backs to the narcissist.I sent you a text recently about my nursing job situation that i resigned to not have my reputation ruined. I got unemployment but eventually it come back to cause a problem for that shady nurse. was out to protect my livelihood and the first situation,the flying monkeys thought i couldn't leave cause we grew up together. I was looking for peace .The narcissist was besides using flying monkeys would call schools i applied to or places i work to cause trouble for me.
Hits the nail on the head. After my narc daughter took off with my 4 year old , one of her poly partners (who happens to be a lawyer) was the one who wrote emails to me about the abuse and coercion we were doing to evict our daughter and granddaughter ( did not ever cross our minds and totally made up) letters went on and on with him writing all his perceptions of our manipulation of our daughter and also seeking endorsement of their polyamorous relationship. I said it was their choice and that’s fine. I am an introvert and having many of these people in and out of our home was becoming an intrusion of our privacy in our home. Daughter did not pay rent. Partner kept trying to get me to say I endorse the our lifestyle - I wrote that he is an adult and should not need my approval - it was their choice and not mine which is fine. I have the right to have my privacy and choices in my house. Several other flying monkeys begs pin to attack me - saying that I lost my only daughter and she will have people who love her take care if her. Good luck
Absolutely true . My flying monkey is my youngest. Every text and conversation goes straight back to her Mom . If I say no to an expensive gift or not the right place to go eat dinner Then the texts and calls come flooded in . I’ve changed my number a dozen times but my Narc always gets it , even when I’m promised it won’t be shared . It took a long time to realize she was a flying monkey. How do you shut out someone you love when they’re only contacting you to tell the Narc what’s going on . Help !!!
I have been going through this for quite some time,my best friend of decades was part of it along with coworkers,it was highly premeditated, my friend who I was very comfortable with started recording our conversations, he would steer conversations as well,try and get me to say certain things, he tried getting me to say that I thought I was better than others, I would say,I don't believe anyone is better than anyone, he kept going down a list of people, I continued saying the same, he reached a person I believed was part of telling my work false things,and I said well I'm better than what he did, but he would work on me like that trying to manipulate me to say things, and at the time I trusted him very much, I didn't know the resentment, and jealousy he held,he would scoff and make remarks about pretty boys,but.my work started harassing me,work mobbing, innuendo, directed conversations, I believe my targeting was highly premeditated, and planned, they wanted to put me in the state I'm currently in,I'm homeless, living in my vehicle, I was doing very well at work when this started, very liked on my way up, I had gotten licensed in several things,got my cdl,no one understands how jealousy fuels things,they will call me arrogant because saying that, I'm currently stalked and harassed daily, any job I start I'm smeared badly,and they get the employees their to start mobbing to run me off,they told family, they isolated me, they claimed it was things I done,that I need to confess, they try and make this the reason for my torture, police have participated, right now I bet their are a hundred people that come in and out that participate, and believe the narrative, stores,businesses. When the work mobbing started at the original job,they told customers, and anyone private things,smeared me so I wouldn't be liked,they told businesses, because I started looking for a job,and they wanted to stop that,I was talking trash about them on the phone to this friend, I knew they were listening, I thought they used a bug from the truck I drove,not my best friend,so I purposely talked trash bad,because what they were doing, I didn't understand how gangstalking worked,and smear campaigns,so they used that to show my community, and recruits, showing them how arrogant and a a- hole I was,but no one knows why I did that,that wasn't me,and my friend and I would talk trashy about women,you know dirty man talk,it was a private conversation, that isn't me either,I don't treat women that way,or talk to them like that, so they had plenty of dirt to show people, it really could happen to anyone, anyone can be painted badly,out of context, so if I work,I'm harassed, I deal with noise campaign all day,gaslighted by family, and homeless, and all these people act justified, everyone. They talk to falls inline,they probably say some horrible lies as well, I wouldn't know because everything is covert,it started because of me doing well I believe, it was a secret competition, and they wanted to stop it, IRS terrible those people exist,how do they convince people its what someone did,their angry,people don't get stalked and harassed for years,and smeared because you made someone angry,they are destroying life,and that's what they want.
I've just been learning about Flying Monkeys, not just one person several people have questioned me if they were recruited by my husband where he works. One was trying to sell a legal service ( her side job ) she said your husband is my friend, gave a flyer to my husband that he told me about, she told me about and wants to meet me outside of work to discuss further. I told her different issues needing legal representation thinking I could trust her. I believe my husband possibly has set up these employees could be seeing others or someone, he won't answer my text messages, take my calls, rarely calls me, told me to find someone else, then wants to have sex, no going there. Tells me to come over for lunch, then can't leave, Excuses, Excuses, then tells me after I left he will go get something for lunch and doesn't know what time he's getting off work so we could dine out together. The Abuses are huge, Flying Monkeys, Baiting me, past possible tape recordings of calls or fights he's intentionally planned, caused, Games, Ghosting, He's not paying the bills,the morgage ( paperless bills ) won't give me login information on all the acounts, controls all the banking the Financial Abuses are huge and the damages to my Mother's estate involving Probate, the Hoa & Civil court, had to take a BK which got dismissed due to him not paying the Hoa dues and the damages I believe he intentionally caused. Do you have a video on how women can be safe, cells, PC, accounts, emails when he can backdoor any password, would not pay the ADT bill unless he could have house keys living at my deceased Mother's home where we live, where a friend of his did damages to the home ( he took the ring doorbell off the house plus more. I have a fiduciary to keep the estate safe but there's intentional damages his friend and he caused. How do you know who you can trust today? In CO, need help! Women get intentionally financially trapped when we don't know what their up to, how they are setting us up building his defenses, he knows how to hide the social media or anything, anyone, or is gaming, screwing with me. Hides everything but I believe he knows how to track me and spy on me others. Past to current disability issues with continuing serious injuries with huge lifting restriction. In Colorado, need help! See additional messages I sent,
I believe that my father is a narcissist and that he is using his mother as a flying monkey. A while back my grandma texted me saying "Hi, I never hear from you" and "I hope you acknowledge your dad on father's day" because I have been no contact with him.
Thank you Rebecca!🌺 Father is a Malignant Narcissist & current relationship I just called off today, is a grandiose Narcissist. Heart-breaking. Very PUBLIC person... 🌺🐞💗
My ex uses anyone and everyone as a flying monkey. My own adult kids have turned against me from his manipulation. One of their weddings is coming up and won’t invite me, because of his silent manipulation. You really need to get into what we do when our children are the pawn.
I don't want to have anyone harmed and it had to show them to stop them... That's why I created my new business to help us all SLAY in a healthy way with information and understanding
My Ex started seeing my child’s counselor after we moved to another state and conveniently turned her into the flying monkey, she then 6 years later goes to my kids and tells them I am bi-polar and won’t take medication. She also told my girls to never live with me again. This was the lady who I still have all our text messages and she dogged on him and called him a narcissist. She literally plain out lied to my girls, now they want nothing to do with me. My youngest had not seen or spoken to her bio dad in 12 years, then in 48 hours he had completely flipped her head. I pray every day they will mature and one day ask for facts. Do I have a case against this counselor?
Hey how is it now, are your girls still distance from you ? I swear these ppl were put on earth to make ppl life a living hell I wouldn't be surprise if it was a narcissist who wrote the Bible together with their flying monkeys
Good info. My narcs are so well connected that I have every reason to believe they have access to energy weapons that they aim at my depleting my energy and affecting my health. There was a supreme court case where a neighbor was aiming energy weapons at his neighbor causing stroke like symptoms including word finding difficulties, memory loss, and extreme fatigue and pain. The neighbor got proof of it and took the offending neighbor to court and the judge ruled in his favor that if he didn't stop using the weapons, he would be charged with attempted murder and assault. Scary thought that narcs have access to energy weapons.
@Emily Wheeler I'm not sure who you're talking to.. Me? Either way though, yes narcissism runs deep and the more money and power they have, the more dangerous they are and can do different things to harm their chosen targets.
Hi, my name is Fernando Doyle. I just discovered you in TH-cam a couple of days ago. And this morning when I checked on my cellphone there you were. And as I listened to you for the first time, I took notes Get back at the narcissist..(take back your power). And I looked for and listened to a few more of your videos. And I'd like to tell you a bit about my own experience, but, right now am on my way out. So, I'll try again later tonight.
This was pure gold Rebecca, Thank you so much for this, Speaks volumes, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All Glory praise and smiles to the most high :-)
The narcissist used CPS against me, after break up where I asked the narcissist to leave me and the kids alone for a period of time, so we could get some rest. Well, he didn't leave us alone. He came over after 3 weeks no sign of him and tried to get me to give up sole custody. I didn't. He tried 5 times. Then he sent CPS, accused me of alienation, dragged me to court. The judge saw through the bs. It's was horrible bc my mum had passed away during all this. The narcissist tried to break me. He didn't succeed. So happy that the kids are starting to see through the bs now too. They even understand the flying monkey manipulation tactic. Their grandmother is an even more malignant narcissist as their father. The projected toxicity always comes through after visitation. It takes the kids two days to stop being toxic. That's good. Four years abuse free 👍🏼😀
other videos call them flying flunkies you be surprised how many are never friends and family all of life, be thankful they prove what flunkies they are. when they show you what they are believe it.
Hello Rebecca! I was there & listening to your Flying Monkeys video. Not sure why my 1st comment disappeared!? Anyway, I had written that I am youngest of 8 & 2 of 8 are major Narcs. The sibs that have less dominant traits are their Flying Monkeys. So in my family if you "go along" everything is fine but if you ? or challenge what they say - the 2 bullies turn on you like a Wolf Pack & the others are happy to join in. Uuugh. Took me long enough to realize that many are Narcs in differing ways, both parents Narcs - one Overt and the other what I call a sweet Narc ( oxymoron!). Damaging all the same. No wonder I married one. Finally waking up 💡💡💡 Thank you for all you are doing to bring exposure & shine light on these horrid beasties.
They are all cut from the exact same cloth. Once you've been exposed to them and become familiar with their mode of operation, they are completely predictable! The only thing that never ceases to amaze me is how well they can fool their agents.
I've been basically destroyed by my mother who gave me the silent treatment as a young child for sometimes months at a time. . Then she turned my own now adult daughter on me and my daughter turned my two teenaged sons against me. They are living with her. She sued me for guardianship. . I literally have no one. My so called boyfriend uses the silent TX on me at least once a week. I've never felt so alone in my 56 years. I'm barely holding on by a thread, fighting to just get through each day alive. I'm just waiting FOR my time on earth to end when I'm called home to heaven. Thank you.
After the discard, these videos were very helpful getting me through the initial period of "what the hell just happened", but now as I learn more & more about the delusional personalities of the NARC, it is somewhat frightening to know that these people are roaming the public streets untethered.
My mom is a covert and uses my dad as her monkey, so when I don't do what she wants she complains to him about how "mean" I am. I keep hearing "you need to be nicer to your mom" and "you know she means well and you're making her sad" because I'm finally distancing myself from her. Unfortunately it means distancing myself from my dad too and it's so awful 😖
30+ years of at least one narc in my life, oh and im in my 30s, i have done dbt and am learning to recognise abuse quicker, i feel for anyone going through any abuse especially behind closed doors and having had a pandemic, you are all strong, believe in your gut instincts, and remember if an oppurtunity arises run for the hills, you are all worth it x
Yes I have delt with flying monkey's my neighbor is jealous of me and she is making false stories about me and everyone that likes me she turns against me they came to her house to party until 3 o'clock and they just gossip about me whole day and I used to cry my but off thinking I have done something wrong
I have a neighbor like that too, he sit around a circle of flying monkeys.. I use to be very cool with one of his flying monkey friend cause I think he had like me, he even gave me his #, as soon as the narc see us talking, the next day that flying monkey turn me into the biggest enemy I was shocked and confused, but I knew his friend did not like me for whatever reasons. However I also believe that flying monkey lowkey do not like his leader and just doing whatever he says, and the flying monkey is not that smart, low self esteem, and insecure. So he will turn into a bully and look at me funny just to intimidate me, and the narc will laugh his butt off.
My ex prepped my friends and family before he delivered papers. I noticed them acting funny prior but didn’t understand why until after a 2.5 year troubling - high conflict divorce.
My narcissistic ex pathologically enables his malignant narcissist wife. He is her biggest flying monkey and has been influenced greatly by her to become even more toxic and hurtful in the 8 years they have been together. I wish so much there was a way to get him (and my ex in-laws) to see (and ACCEPT the reality) how this has impacted our son and our attempt to co-parent for him. I used to think he had a shred of good left deep down in him somewhere that would someday bring him out of denial. I cannot fathom how he condones and participates in this destructive behavior when his son is being emotionally brutalized by it, even with it being REPEATEDLY validated and legally documented in black and white by authoritative figures such as court judges, lawyers and even therapists. How can you POSSIBLY inspire someone see how wrong this constant emotional abuse is, especially for an innocent child??
Sometimes the flying monkey’s wrongfully assault people or do dirty stuff to you. Narc manipulated school administrators into mistreating me. She was a adult narc , and told school administrators lies about me, and made false statements about me. School employees mistreated me because of it including my basketball coach. Rebecca, can you press charges on narc for stalking and harassment?
Ex narc uses my daughter as his flying monkey, and I see now that he WAS grooming and gaslighting her before the discard happened even. It is difficult to navigate this complex situation when it is my cherished daughter who is still in the grip of the cover narcissist who has very demented behavior. My daughter’s family is now broken up, and she was hurt as well. I know she is confused. Our relationship is strained. I have absolutely no idea how to talk to my 19 year old flying monkey daughter..I was discarded 2-1/2 years ago. I’m fine- I came out ok in the divorce with the SLAY program, but this situation with my daughter is still complex. I am going gray rock, and I am setting hard boundaries. I’m doing that with my family of origin as well. Everyone will just have to get over it.
My 94 year old mother is a narcissist and has three flying monkeys. One is a pastor and two other flying monkey from the same church. My mother assigned one to be her power of attorney and is diagnosed with bipolar disorder. The woman stopped paying all my mothers bills and I had threaten to call the police for elder abuse to get a copy of the bank statements. My mother was put in assisted living and has gotten really nasty. "Its' all my fault" is what she says. She also likes to refer to me by childhood name to try gain the upper hand. She drove my father to a early grave in the 1970's. any advise on tactics in dealing with the monkeys? Is it possible to make the monkeys see the truth? Thanks so much.
It is really difficult because I am so flawed and know it. There's a ton of things that I have done in my life that are not "white hat" and that are embarrassing but I don't think that this should make me forfeit the rest of my rights. So I hate getting involved with litigation but feel like I have no other choice to check other's unacceptable behavior.
im in this situation right now gipsy narc 180 pound flying monkey 7 nacs in my life im having a hard time i have gone mo contact it is afective but most important is act like u dont know them behave they are total strangers if they ask qouestions just ignore them and go your way have i missed anything
Rebecca, my brother is a narc. I have a secret weapon that I cant disclose. His wife is an IT person and I do not want to show my cards. I can say though that he cant get the best of me anymore, in fact he is on the run.
Thanks for all your videos, your great! I said things to a possible Flying Monkeys at the store where my husband works. The one employee represented she was my friend, she started constantly asking me questions, she woukd talk about her marriage issues, our marriage issues, we discussed narcistic abuses that I told her I was learning about. I said to her what we discussed needed to be confidential. Another time she saw me in our vehicle, she came out kinda dancing around and said, I want to introduce you to a guy here.. I laughed at her because she knew my husband said go find someone else, this felt weird.. I met him and he said he could help me with some home repairs. I haven't seen either one since and will stay my distance. Possible Flying Monkey?
I love you. Youve helped me alot. I have 2 siruations going on. Its crazy. Please how can I write you. I need help before I lose it totally. Im desparate
Heck yeah I've seen flying monkeys I've had to deal with them and I know exactly what you're talking about they use other people to do their dirty work and they don't even realize they're being used good point
Everything i tell my friend a girl . I tell her what my Ex narcissist boyfriend dose to me me . She tells him him everything I say to him. She also says to him I lie to. They both are talking behind my back
Yes, that was exactly how I felt to when I was going through my court case with my ex Narc.....Unfortunately after I have proven my innocence I wanted to go back to tell what I went through and state to the court what my ex was doing ...........they quickly closed that case and could not reopen it! I look back and see all of my money/time was waisted & thought justice was not served ! Ended up...... quite ugly, & had to shut down my ex by signing off my rights being a mother to my son. it was an unfair mess! It was so stressful dealing with the court system . I was working a lot trying to keep up with my Attorney fees, almost lost my home. Then I came to realize what I must do. My ex has done so much damage & has gotten a lot of flying monkeys to help him do his dirty work and has affected my son in unhealthy ways. It was extremely painful to see. I wished u tube was available back then to help broaden the awareness of such dangerous individual/ behaviors as a NPD and have gotten to see you to when I was going through all of my crazy court crap! It was sickening! Any hoot , I'm glad people like u are spreading the awareness, educating people & willing to b open on video to state the truth! Thank You for everything u do! I agree SHUT THEM DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Trying to get my daughter to agree to mediation regarding visits with my granddaughter. Not sure if she will go through without fir several reasons. If she won’t go (it is to be just me and her - she and father of baby were never married and the never made a parenting plan. One if the agreements We had for her to return to our house with her baby was to make a parenting plan when she first left the father if the baby . She stalled and stalled and when I’d ask about it she always had some excuse. About 2 months before she exploded and left she me it was none of my business and she was working on it and to never bring it up again. She and my granddaughter had lived here for 21/2 years and no progress made on any of the agreements she made to live here - being held accountable set her off and she got made one evening - told me I do the exact opposite of what a loving mother would do and picked up my granddaughter and drove away. It’s a mess and the father doesn’t want o cross her on anything for fear he will not be able to see his daughter - but he is not seeking legal counsel either. So if daughter does not agree to mediation with me I’m done trying to have a relationship with granddaughter due to the ridiculous accusations daughter has against me and saying I need one of her polyamorous partners - flying monkeys- to chaperone me so I don’t say any untrue or harmful things , make fun of granddaughter for having emotions or other inappropriate things - none of which my daughter has been able to identify
The narc sibling whose 49 now and is younger than me-has been after me since the age of 12-lol even her flying monkies have discarded her -then she used the police and the police soon realised that she is a nuiscience she steals and mirrors every ones persona-has only had one job for a month in her life she got a voluntary job with a charity and is paranoid her family friends acquaintances are stalking her any friend of mine or any one that even knows me shf makes up slander against them and starts to stalk them through the flying monkies- I disowned her ten years ago-and has been taking driving lessons over 14 years and still hasnt passed her driving test
My Ex was a narc, she was forever making out I was in the wrong and all her friends on FB would agree and they did. Anyway, one day she wronged me and as usual said she was right, but she had made a mistake leaving herself logged in to Facebook on my laptop. So I wrote on here news feed what had she had done to wrong me, but worded it as if if was me who had wronged her. Her flying monkeys were there in large numbers saying how wrong I was and how out of order that was and how they wouldn't put up with that. There were a lot of red faced flying monkeys after she told them I had wrote that on her facebook, I proved my point, or did I. The cheeky sods instantly switched to attacking me on hacking her account. lol
Thank you so much for this Rebecca, Absolutely tremendous and clarity, Truth, God bless you Rebecca and God bless America, I really could do with someone like you with the situation I'm in now, You're a beautiful soul, I really appreciate all your help and advice, Peace, love, Respect to you Rebecca and everyone, Thank you universe 👁🕊👽🖼🐉🎨😇🦄🌷☘🌅🌟😊🌌🌹💛❤💚💜💙😃🌈
Yesss.. when my borderline sociopathic friend first met me he use to give me pocket change to hang out with him and buy pasterries for us and he say its all on me, he broke my spirit and try to crush my self esteem and BLOCKED HIS STUPID A$#
Just food for thought. You say your the top leading attorney in the nation and a narcissist negotiation expert and specialize in narcissism. When in fact one can not negotiate with a narcissist. There is absolutely no way. It's like blowing smoke in a one sided row boat. All you do is circles.
Please explain how to wisely divorce a narc with young children, and trying to work out a property settlement with a house owned by both of us, being married for 16 years and not having any employment to back myself. He said if we ever got divorced, I get Nothing...
He tried at a work party years ago telling my coworkers that I wasn't as nice as they thought I was..it backfired because I have worked with them for years so they just kept thinking he said this cause he was drunk lmao
What is the term for someone who is checking out ur social media posts etc to send it to the narcissist so they will know what ur posting or how u been feeling would they be considered a flying monkey as well or just a spy
I was just telling someone, after the Narcissist make his flying monkey stop talk to me for whatever reason, he still had my number and he use to look at everything I do. I believe it was to show the narc but recently he deleted my number and he was the one ask for it
Rebecca my lovely friend could you please make a video on cyberstalking and cyberbullying.I think in this age social media is a pivotal point of contact to inflict pain and abuse hidden behind the doors which open a medium for narcissits to come and create subtle problems.
So this is just saying Narcissist have emotional armies under their dictatorship, treating you like the enemy of everyone, only because the Narcissist says so. They have armies of FLying Monkeys. and they're so loyal because they enjoy it as much as the Narcissist. They'll even back them up and say "Oh that's just Bobby". And that lets Bob continue to be a Narcissist, using the manipulated crowd as permission to continue .
But objectively speaking, assuming that the narcissist is not the god of the universe, why would anyone run around stalking people, invading their homes, harassing them over the phone, and think it's the right thing to do? What do they think the victim is doing? Have they been told the victim is a drug addict? Or that just that he doesn't jump to the narcs every beck and call and beeds to be followed around and corrected? It's so fucked up
The poor pawns fight you from their innocent position which is infuriating and when we are emotional we loose it is such a problem as they do not realize the implanted messages until you tell them and when you do it wrecks life with everyone
My mother has successfully enlisted almost all of my 6 siblings. In the past she tried to enlist me as a flying monkey. There is always a golden child and pretty much all of my siblings believe they can become the golden child if they are a good enough flying monkey. I told her I wasn't trying out for the position of golden child. That didnt go over very well. I waited decades hoping she would change or get better. Finally I went NC and my only regret is that I didn't go NC sooner.
Hey, you knew my mother and my siblings?? Are we sistera? Lol. They are the worst and its been heartbreaking. No contact with my family for 2 yrs
I went no contact as well. Unfortunately narcs still find a way in my life. I am learning to trust my gut and send em away faster. Unfortunately I still got a malignant tenant against my better judgement I let her move in.. Uugh. Leave now narc. Less than a week and I'm narc free once again
Hate these evil people.
This was the same in our household
My cousins family too. They're weak from this sick dynamic. My overt narc father is such a turnoff I've never wanted to be favored. However my poor sister does.
This is such a bell ringer!!! I could never understand why I was made to be the only one at fault for leaving an abusive relationship of 25years. Thank you for explaining this!
Yes, they plant seeds and they work so hard and so long to grown those seeds from putting you in a bad light to straight out lies.
Dealing w/ my Malugnant Narcissistic father, we went through literal Hell on Earth for nearly a year b/c of ALL the flying monkeys. Church members, friends, even "close" family. Totally betrayed us! I went grey-rock & dont even speak w/ then. Tragic & devastating.🐞💗🌺
What makes me really sad is the fact that i feel like often the flying monkeys are being abbused just as much as you were but they do not or do not want to see it. And when the Person actually is a nice Person but with no bounderies it hurts when you have to let go of a Person you like and you know their are just being fooled, the same way that you were as you were in the middle of it. Love from Switzerland
So true. I have been going through this very thing with my husband and his family. I realize it will never change. I must change and get this hellish mess out of my life for good. It's all about their control over you.
Rebecca, I'm the one that won my mediation by using your guide! I cannot thank you enough for making this available to us. Your generosity to truly help others has changed my life and my children's. God bless you. You are a Rockstar, girl!!! ♥️♥️♥️
How to win the mediation? Last March I had a mediation with my ex, to my surprised, she refused to attend the mediation without her new partner. He acted like her lawyer in the mediation, my ex didn’t speak anything in the mediation. Suddenly he shouted in front of mediators “ if you don’t agree anything, we will leave the mediation “ So I was obliged to take all their demand to see my daughter. Now it is time to review the parenting agreement. They push me to take all demands to see my daughter without the mediation and threat me if not, you can’t see your daughter.
Oh - my husband is a covert & tries to recruit people. He plays "poor, poor me." Gag me.
How do you keep yourself in a good place M Dee, when all you hear is poor me poor me?
@@Pike4472 - hi Darcelle! I think it helps that I have always been an optimist. However, I did have some dark days. I just couldnt figure out why my husband was so unstable, i.e. jerk, etc! Somehow I stumbled onto Dr. Les Carter's site 'Surviving Narcassism' & that's how the 💡 came on. I devoured his videos & Dr. Ramani's also. Then I found R. Zung's site because that's where I am, gladly headed towards a divorce. I am smarter & stronget bcuz of these 3 smart & generous people. I dream of my freedom & am planning now. So take your time & get as educated as you can. If a video upsets you on any given day - that's your sign to NOT watch for a few days. Come back when your head is in a better place. Darcelle - the best advice I can give you is: Dare to Dream Again!!! Envision your happy future. Hugs & strength.
I know all about it and mine was using the Canadian RCMP against me to play the victim it was a nightmare
M Dee Finally my sister flew out to see me and the kids here in Canada and she said what the heck is going on?🥶🇨🇦
@@Pike4472 - my friends, art, my cat... anything but deal with him!
Wow, realising I was used as a flying monkey against my late mother during her divorce with my narc dad, and as I became the scapegoat child my younger brothers became flying monkeys he used against me (they admitted recently they used to hate me until they realised it was all my dad). So sad to realise that all this time he was manipulating all of us and turning the family against one another. Thankfully me and my brothers are now unified, defending eachother against our narc dad
no contact is the only way out . Thank you. You validate my life.
I had to deal with this after I bought a hair salon. The previous owner was a huge narcisist. She immediately started to cause me drama with customers and my stylists. She made up crap, undermind me and opened another business down the street even though we had a strong non compete. It was horrible and so stressful. Went to court and that was traumatic and expensive. In fact I git very sick due to the stress of it.
She was one evil narcissistic b.
In the end I won in court.. but nit without other incidents like one night She attacked me in a public place grabbing me around the neck.
So glad she is out if my life... I sold the business ...
One of the things with flying monkeys is that they are trying to get you to say something to take back to the narcissist.Really weren't my friend, so i did no contact.There are blow backs to the narcissist.I sent you a text recently about my nursing job situation that i resigned to not have my reputation ruined. I got unemployment but eventually it come back to cause a problem for that shady nurse. was out to protect my livelihood and the first situation,the flying monkeys thought i couldn't leave cause we grew up together. I was looking for peace .The narcissist was besides using flying monkeys would call schools i applied to or places i work to cause trouble for me.
Hits the nail on the head. After my narc daughter took off with my 4 year old , one of her poly partners (who happens to be a lawyer) was the one who wrote emails to me about the abuse and coercion we were doing to evict our daughter and granddaughter ( did not ever cross our minds and totally made up) letters went on and on with him writing all his perceptions of our manipulation of our daughter and also seeking endorsement of their polyamorous relationship. I said it was their choice and that’s fine. I am an introvert and having many of these people in and out of our home was becoming an intrusion of our privacy in our home. Daughter did not pay rent. Partner kept trying to get me to say I endorse the our lifestyle - I wrote that he is an adult and should not need my approval - it was their choice and not mine which is fine. I have the right to have my privacy and choices in my house. Several other flying monkeys begs pin to attack me - saying that I lost my only daughter and she will have people who love her take care if her. Good luck
Absolutely true . My flying monkey is my youngest. Every text and conversation goes straight back to her Mom . If I say no to an expensive gift or not the right place to go eat dinner Then the texts and calls come flooded in . I’ve changed my number a dozen times but my Narc always gets it , even when I’m promised it won’t be shared . It took a long time to realize she was a flying monkey. How do you shut out someone you love when they’re only contacting you to tell the Narc what’s going on . Help !!!
Hope you're okay!
4th of July 2015 .... Still going on...lost all relationships with my children. So tired. Trapped in Tulsa.
I have been going through this for quite some time,my best friend of decades was part of it along with coworkers,it was highly premeditated, my friend who I was very comfortable with started recording our conversations, he would steer conversations as well,try and get me to say certain things, he tried getting me to say that I thought I was better than others, I would say,I don't believe anyone is better than anyone, he kept going down a list of people, I continued saying the same, he reached a person I believed was part of telling my work false things,and I said well I'm better than what he did, but he would work on me like that trying to manipulate me to say things, and at the time I trusted him very much, I didn't know the resentment, and jealousy he held,he would scoff and make remarks about pretty boys,but.my work started harassing me,work mobbing, innuendo, directed conversations, I believe my targeting was highly premeditated, and planned, they wanted to put me in the state I'm currently in,I'm homeless, living in my vehicle, I was doing very well at work when this started, very liked on my way up, I had gotten licensed in several things,got my cdl,no one understands how jealousy fuels things,they will call me arrogant because saying that, I'm currently stalked and harassed daily, any job I start I'm smeared badly,and they get the employees their to start mobbing to run me off,they told family, they isolated me, they claimed it was things I done,that I need to confess, they try and make this the reason for my torture, police have participated, right now I bet their are a hundred people that come in and out that participate, and believe the narrative, stores,businesses. When the work mobbing started at the original job,they told customers, and anyone private things,smeared me so I wouldn't be liked,they told businesses, because I started looking for a job,and they wanted to stop that,I was talking trash about them on the phone to this friend, I knew they were listening, I thought they used a bug from the truck I drove,not my best friend,so I purposely talked trash bad,because what they were doing, I didn't understand how gangstalking worked,and smear campaigns,so they used that to show my community, and recruits, showing them how arrogant and a a- hole I was,but no one knows why I did that,that wasn't me,and my friend and I would talk trashy about women,you know dirty man talk,it was a private conversation, that isn't me either,I don't treat women that way,or talk to them like that, so they had plenty of dirt to show people, it really could happen to anyone, anyone can be painted badly,out of context, so if I work,I'm harassed, I deal with noise campaign all day,gaslighted by family, and homeless, and all these people act justified, everyone. They talk to falls inline,they probably say some horrible lies as well, I wouldn't know because everything is covert,it started because of me doing well I believe, it was a secret competition, and they wanted to stop it, IRS terrible those people exist,how do they convince people its what someone did,their angry,people don't get stalked and harassed for years,and smeared because you made someone angry,they are destroying life,and that's what they want.
I read this from beginning to end. I hope you're okay!
I've just been learning about Flying Monkeys, not just one person several people have questioned me if they were recruited by my husband where he works. One was trying to sell a legal service ( her side job ) she said your husband is my friend, gave a flyer to my husband that he told me about, she told me about and wants to meet me outside of work to discuss further. I told her different issues needing legal representation thinking I could trust her. I believe my husband possibly has set up these employees could be seeing others or someone, he won't answer my text messages, take my calls, rarely calls me, told me to find someone else, then wants to have sex, no going there. Tells me to come over for lunch, then can't leave, Excuses, Excuses, then tells me after I left he will go get something for lunch and doesn't know what time he's getting off work so we could dine out together. The Abuses are huge, Flying Monkeys, Baiting me, past possible tape recordings of calls or fights he's intentionally planned, caused, Games, Ghosting, He's not paying the bills,the morgage ( paperless bills ) won't give me login information on all the acounts, controls all the banking the Financial Abuses are huge and the damages to my Mother's estate involving Probate, the Hoa & Civil court, had to take a BK which got dismissed due to him not paying the Hoa dues and the damages I believe he intentionally caused.
Do you have a video on how women can be safe, cells, PC, accounts, emails when he can backdoor any password, would not pay the ADT bill unless he could have house keys living at my deceased Mother's home where we live, where a friend of his did damages to the home ( he took the ring doorbell off the house plus more. I have a fiduciary to keep the estate safe but there's intentional damages his friend and he caused.
How do you know who you can trust today?
In CO, need help! Women get intentionally financially trapped when we don't know what their up to, how they are setting us up building his defenses, he knows how to hide the social media or anything, anyone, or is gaming, screwing with me. Hides everything but I believe he knows how to track me and spy on me others. Past to current disability issues with continuing serious injuries with huge lifting restriction.
In Colorado, need help!
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I believe that my father is a narcissist and that he is using his mother as a flying monkey. A while back my grandma texted me saying "Hi, I never hear from you" and "I hope you acknowledge your dad on father's day" because I have been no contact with him.
I love how direct you are.
Explained beautifully thank you. I was able to help my sister explain what she's dealing with.
This has happened to me. Both with aliented children as well as friends. My concern is I keep gravitating to men like this. It's very painful.
I am going through this also. The flying monkeys are my family and people I was very close too. I’ve gone no contact but it’s still going on.
The way they get you is they suck you in. Then when They know they have you BAM. Your the one that is the crazy one. It’s not you it’s them.
Thank God for you Rebecca Zung!
It's amazing to me that they continue to back a thief, liar, drug dealer, wife beater, etc. How many times do they have to get burnt?
Remember, sadly, there was a time when "we" were backing them too!
It seems that no one can withstand the manipulation of a NARC.
You are an excellent negotiations specialist. Thank you for blessing us with your gifts
Thank you Rebecca!🌺 Father is a Malignant Narcissist & current relationship I just called off today, is a grandiose Narcissist. Heart-breaking. Very PUBLIC person... 🌺🐞💗
Yep you're absolutely right I learned about them through my worker she reports my every move my every say..
My husband had our daughter as a flying monkey. I know he has other flying monkeys. I just keep learning. Thank you for all ur info
Thanks for your videos! They are amazing! You have a gift of explaining things in a much clearer way, than even a coach or a psychologist❣
My ex uses anyone and everyone as a flying monkey. My own adult kids have turned against me from his manipulation. One of their weddings is coming up and won’t invite me, because of his silent manipulation. You really need to get into what we do when our children are the pawn.
I'd love to know too, struggling to deal with adult children who become the flying monkeys is heartbreaking
God bless you Rebecca for helping us understand this mental illness
You’ve described the last 15 years of my marriage. My wife is not a narcissist, she’s just evil.
I don't want to have anyone harmed and it had to show them to stop them... That's why I created my new business to help us all SLAY in a healthy way with information and understanding
My Ex started seeing my child’s counselor after we moved to another state and conveniently turned her into the flying monkey, she then 6 years later goes to my kids and tells them I am bi-polar and won’t take medication. She also told my girls to never live with me again. This was the lady who I still have all our text messages and she dogged on him and called him a narcissist. She literally plain out lied to my girls, now they want nothing to do with me. My youngest had not seen or spoken to her bio dad in 12 years, then in 48 hours he had completely flipped her head. I pray every day they will mature and one day ask for facts. Do I have a case against this counselor?
Hey how is it now, are your girls still distance from you ?
I swear these ppl were put on earth to make ppl life a living hell I wouldn't be surprise if it was a narcissist who wrote the Bible together with their flying monkeys
I received the best call 2day. From my attorney. Narcissist is afraid of court and police. I think u r awesome too.
Good info. My narcs are so well connected that I have every reason to believe they have access to energy weapons that they aim at my depleting my energy and affecting my health. There was a supreme court case where a neighbor was aiming energy weapons at his neighbor causing stroke like symptoms including word finding difficulties, memory loss, and extreme fatigue and pain. The neighbor got proof of it and took the offending neighbor to court and the judge ruled in his favor that if he didn't stop using the weapons, he would be charged with attempted murder and assault. Scary thought that narcs have access to energy weapons.
@@RebeccaZungEsq Yes. These weapons exist and are for sale.
@Emily Wheeler I'm not sure who you're talking to.. Me? Either way though, yes narcissism runs deep and the more money and power they have, the more dangerous they are and can do different things to harm their chosen targets.
Sherry, I believe it. Narcs are energy vampires, and flying monkeys exacerbate problems for the victims
@Scape Goat Sorry if it is. Wheres ur pic? Come on and be brave. (: No photos are kinda sketchy..
What sort of energy weapons?
Hi, my name is Fernando Doyle. I just discovered you in TH-cam a couple of days ago. And this morning when I checked on my cellphone there you were. And as I listened to you for the first time, I took notes
Get back at the narcissist..(take back your power). And I looked for and listened to a few more of your videos. And I'd like to tell you a bit about my own experience, but, right now am on my way out. So, I'll try again later tonight.
This was pure gold Rebecca, Thank you so much for this, Speaks volumes, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All Glory praise and smiles to the most high :-)
Thank you for bringing attention to this issue. You are beautiful inside and out. It nice to know there are still some good woman still out there..xx
The narcissist used CPS against me, after break up where I asked the narcissist to leave me and the kids alone for a period of time, so we could get some rest. Well, he didn't leave us alone. He came over after 3 weeks no sign of him and tried to get me to give up sole custody. I didn't. He tried 5 times. Then he sent CPS, accused me of alienation, dragged me to court. The judge saw through the bs. It's was horrible bc my mum had passed away during all this. The narcissist tried to break me. He didn't succeed. So happy that the kids are starting to see through the bs now too. They even understand the flying monkey manipulation tactic. Their grandmother is an even more malignant narcissist as their father. The projected toxicity always comes through after visitation. It takes the kids two days to stop being toxic. That's good. Four years abuse free 👍🏼😀
other videos call them flying flunkies you be surprised how many are never friends and family all of life, be thankful they prove what flunkies they are.
when they show you what they are believe it.
Hello Rebecca! I was there & listening to your Flying Monkeys video. Not sure why my 1st comment disappeared!? Anyway, I had written that I am youngest of 8 & 2 of 8 are major Narcs. The sibs that have less dominant traits are their Flying Monkeys. So in my family if you "go along" everything is fine but if you ? or challenge what they say - the 2 bullies turn on you like a Wolf Pack & the others are happy to join in. Uuugh. Took me long enough to realize that many are Narcs in differing ways, both parents Narcs - one Overt and the other what I call a sweet Narc ( oxymoron!). Damaging all the same. No wonder I married one. Finally waking up 💡💡💡
Thank you for all you are doing to bring exposure & shine light on these horrid beasties.
They are all cut from the exact same cloth. Once you've been exposed to them and become familiar with their mode of operation, they are completely predictable! The only thing that never ceases to amaze me is how well they can fool their agents.
Discovered your channel today. Excellent channel. Thank You very much!!
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I've been basically destroyed by my mother who gave me the silent treatment as a young child for sometimes months at a time. . Then she turned my own now adult daughter on me and my daughter turned my two teenaged sons against me. They are living with her. She sued me for guardianship. . I literally have no one. My so called boyfriend uses the silent TX on me at least once a week. I've never felt so alone in my 56 years. I'm barely holding on by a thread, fighting to just get through each day alive. I'm just waiting FOR my time on earth to end when I'm called home to heaven. Thank you.
If your destination is Heaven, you DO have someone. You have God ! Draw close to Him. He will not let you down.
After the discard, these videos were very helpful getting me through the initial period of "what the hell just happened", but now as I learn more & more about the delusional personalities of the NARC, it is somewhat frightening to know that these people are roaming the public streets untethered.
My mom is a covert and uses my dad as her monkey, so when I don't do what she wants she complains to him about how "mean" I am. I keep hearing "you need to be nicer to your mom" and "you know she means well and you're making her sad" because I'm finally distancing myself from her. Unfortunately it means distancing myself from my dad too and it's so awful 😖
The more I learn about my x narcissist wow I feel I was stupid n he disgusting!!...I m glad he discarded me!
30+ years of at least one narc in my life, oh and im in my 30s, i have done dbt and am learning to recognise abuse quicker, i feel for anyone going through any abuse especially behind closed doors and having had a pandemic, you are all strong, believe in your gut instincts, and remember if an oppurtunity arises run for the hills, you are all worth it x
I cannot believe all the points you hit on right on spot!!
Yes I have delt with flying monkey's my neighbor is jealous of me and she is making false stories about me and everyone that likes me she turns against me they came to her house to party until 3 o'clock and they just gossip about me whole day and I used to cry my but off thinking I have done something wrong
I have a neighbor like that too, he sit around a circle of flying monkeys.. I use to be very cool with one of his flying monkey friend cause I think he had like me, he even gave me his #, as soon as the narc see us talking, the next day that flying monkey turn me into the biggest enemy I was shocked and confused, but I knew his friend did not like me for whatever reasons. However I also believe that flying monkey lowkey do not like his leader and just doing whatever he says, and the flying monkey is not that smart, low self esteem, and insecure. So he will turn into a bully and look at me funny just to intimidate me, and the narc will laugh his butt off.
My ex prepped my friends and family before he delivered papers. I noticed them acting funny prior but didn’t understand why until after a 2.5 year troubling - high conflict divorce.
My ex got most of my family after our divorce. Thr betrayal is real. Hope you're doing okay.
I love all u said. Experienced pretty much all. Ur amazing. Thank u.
My narcissistic ex pathologically enables his malignant narcissist wife. He is her biggest flying monkey and has been influenced greatly by her to become even more toxic and hurtful in the 8 years they have been together. I wish so much there was a way to get him (and my ex in-laws) to see (and ACCEPT the reality) how this has impacted our son and our attempt to co-parent for him. I used to think he had a shred of good left deep down in him somewhere that would someday bring him out of denial. I cannot fathom how he condones and participates in this destructive behavior when his son is being emotionally brutalized by it, even with it being REPEATEDLY validated and legally documented in black and white by authoritative figures such as court judges, lawyers and even therapists. How can you POSSIBLY inspire someone see how wrong this constant emotional abuse is, especially for an innocent child??
quality perception. again good work.
Sometimes the flying monkey’s wrongfully assault people or do dirty stuff to you. Narc manipulated school administrators into mistreating me. She was a adult narc , and told school administrators lies about me, and made false statements about me. School employees mistreated me because of it including my basketball coach. Rebecca, can you press charges on narc for stalking and harassment?
Great video. Thank you for that. I left my Narc ex years ago and the court situation was awful. What as worse was his friends.
Ex narc uses my daughter as his flying monkey, and I see now that he WAS grooming and gaslighting her before the discard happened even. It is difficult to navigate this complex situation when it is my cherished daughter who is still in the grip of the cover narcissist who has very demented behavior. My daughter’s family is now broken up, and she was hurt as well. I know she is confused. Our relationship is strained. I have absolutely no idea how to talk to my 19 year old flying monkey daughter..I was discarded 2-1/2 years ago. I’m fine- I came out ok in the divorce with the SLAY program, but this situation with my daughter is still complex. I am going gray rock, and I am setting hard boundaries. I’m doing that with my family of origin as well. Everyone will just have to get over it.
My sister in law forever!
My 94 year old mother is a narcissist and has three flying monkeys. One is a pastor and two other flying monkey from the same church. My mother assigned one to be her power of attorney and is diagnosed with bipolar disorder. The woman stopped paying all my mothers bills and I had threaten to call the police for elder abuse to get a copy of the bank statements. My mother was put in assisted living and has gotten really nasty. "Its' all my fault" is what she says. She also likes to refer to me by childhood name to try gain the upper hand. She drove my father to a early grave in the 1970's. any advise on tactics in dealing with the monkeys? Is it possible to make the monkeys see the truth? Thanks so much.
Hi Rebbecca. Excellent work. I tried a few times to download your free guide without getting it my mail. Please some help. Nicole
It is really difficult because I am so flawed and know it. There's a ton of things that I have done in my life that are not "white hat" and that are embarrassing but I don't think that this should make me forfeit the rest of my rights. So I hate getting involved with litigation but feel like I have no other choice to check other's unacceptable behavior.
im in this situation right now gipsy narc 180 pound flying monkey 7 nacs in my life im having a hard time i have gone mo contact it is afective but most important is act like u dont know them behave they are total strangers if they ask qouestions just ignore them and go your way have i missed anything
Rebecca, my brother is a narc. I have a secret weapon that I cant disclose. His wife is an IT person and I do not want to show my cards. I can say though that he cant get the best of me anymore, in fact he is on the run.
Just love you and your Big noleagh. Thank you for you help here. I realy needed it❤️❤️😃🇩🇰🌟
Thanks for all your videos, your great!
I said things to a possible Flying Monkeys at the store where my husband works. The one employee represented she was my friend, she started constantly asking me questions, she woukd talk about her marriage issues, our marriage issues, we discussed narcistic abuses that I told her I was learning about. I said to her what we discussed needed to be confidential.
Another time she saw me in our vehicle, she came out kinda dancing around and said, I want to introduce you to a guy here.. I laughed at her because she knew my husband said go find someone else, this felt weird.. I met him and he said he could help me with some home repairs.
I haven't seen either one since and will stay my distance. Possible Flying Monkey?
Hi Rebecca--- I love to hear you and now I get aware what is happening to me .I don't feel so alone any more
regards from Madrid
I love you. Youve helped me alot. I have 2 siruations going on. Its crazy. Please how can I write you. I need help before I lose it totally. Im desparate
Heck yeah I've seen flying monkeys I've had to deal with them and I know exactly what you're talking about they use other people to do their dirty work and they don't even realize they're being used good point
True 👍
Everything i tell my friend a girl . I tell her what my Ex narcissist boyfriend dose to me me . She tells him him everything I say to him. She also says to him I lie to. They both are talking behind my back
Yes, that was exactly how I felt to when I was going through my court case with my ex Narc.....Unfortunately after I have proven my innocence I wanted to go back to tell what I went through and state to the court what my ex was doing ...........they quickly closed that case and could not reopen it! I look back and see all of my money/time was waisted & thought justice was not served ! Ended up...... quite ugly, & had to shut down my ex by signing off my rights being a mother to my son. it was an unfair mess! It was so stressful dealing with the court system . I was working a lot trying to keep up with my Attorney fees, almost lost my home. Then I came to realize what I must do. My ex has done so much damage & has gotten a lot of flying monkeys to help him do his dirty work and has affected my son in unhealthy ways. It was extremely painful to see. I wished u tube was available back then to help broaden the awareness of such dangerous individual/ behaviors as a NPD and have gotten to see you to when I was going through all of my crazy court crap! It was sickening! Any hoot , I'm glad people like u are spreading the awareness, educating people & willing to b open on video to state the truth! Thank You for everything u do! I agree SHUT THEM DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Trying to get my daughter to agree to mediation regarding visits with my granddaughter. Not sure if she will go through without fir several reasons. If she won’t go (it is to be just me and her - she and father of baby were never married and the never made a parenting plan. One if the agreements We had for her to return to our house with her baby was to make a parenting plan when she first left the father if the baby . She stalled and stalled and when I’d ask about it she always had some excuse. About 2 months before she exploded and left she me it was none of my business and she was working on it and to never bring it up again. She and my granddaughter had lived here for 21/2 years and no progress made on any of the agreements she made to live here - being held accountable set her off and she got made one evening - told me I do the exact opposite of what a loving mother would do and picked up my granddaughter and drove away. It’s a mess and the father doesn’t want o cross her on anything for fear he will not be able to see his daughter - but he is not seeking legal counsel either. So if daughter does not agree to mediation with me I’m done trying to have a relationship with granddaughter due to the ridiculous accusations daughter has against me and saying I need one of her polyamorous partners - flying monkeys- to chaperone me so I don’t say any untrue or harmful things , make fun of granddaughter for having emotions or other inappropriate things - none of which my daughter has been able to identify
The narc sibling whose 49 now and is younger than me-has been after me since the age of 12-lol even her flying monkies have discarded her -then she used the police and the police soon realised that she is a nuiscience
she steals and mirrors every ones persona-has only had one job for a month in her life
she got a voluntary job with a charity and is paranoid her family friends acquaintances are stalking her
any friend of mine or any one that even knows me shf makes up slander against them and starts to stalk them through the flying monkies-
I disowned her ten years ago-and has been taking driving lessons over 14 years and still hasnt passed her driving test
My Ex was a narc, she was forever making out I was in the wrong and all her friends on FB would agree and they did. Anyway, one day she wronged me and as usual said she was right, but she had made a mistake leaving herself logged in to Facebook on my laptop. So I wrote on here news feed what had she had done to wrong me, but worded it as if if was me who had wronged her. Her flying monkeys were there in large numbers saying how wrong I was and how out of order that was and how they wouldn't put up with that. There were a lot of red faced flying monkeys after she told them I had wrote that on her facebook, I proved my point, or did I. The cheeky sods instantly switched to attacking me on hacking her account. lol
Does the Narcissist devalue and discard their flying monkeys. How dangerous are the flying monkeys? Judith
My children are used as flying monkeys. It was heartbreaking.
Thank you so much for this Rebecca, Absolutely tremendous and clarity, Truth, God bless you Rebecca and God bless America, I really could do with someone like you with the situation I'm in now, You're a beautiful soul, I really appreciate all your help and advice, Peace, love, Respect to you Rebecca and everyone, Thank you universe 👁🕊👽🖼🐉🎨😇🦄🌷☘🌅🌟😊🌌🌹💛❤💚💜💙😃🌈
Does the narcissist would use money to recruit flying monkey? Like paying them.
Yesss.. when my borderline sociopathic friend first met me he use to give me pocket change to hang out with him and buy pasterries for us and he say its all on me, he broke my spirit and try to crush my self esteem and BLOCKED HIS STUPID A$#
Just food for thought. You say your the top leading attorney in the nation and a narcissist negotiation expert and specialize in narcissism. When in fact one can not negotiate with a narcissist. There is absolutely no way. It's like blowing smoke in a one sided row boat. All you do is circles.
Please explain how to wisely divorce a narc with young children, and trying to work out a property settlement with a house owned by both of us, being married for 16 years and not having any employment to back myself. He said if we ever got divorced, I get Nothing...
His monkeys have a need to depend on him. He buys them stuff when he messes up.
I have flying monkeys at work...they r trying to make me look like I am a bad worker and tried to get me fired
He made it look like or he really was having an affair with a couple of them
He tried at a work party years ago telling my coworkers that I wasn't as nice as they thought I was..it backfired because I have worked with them for years so they just kept thinking he said this cause he was drunk lmao
I live in orono ontario and would love a lawyer that deals with narcissist..do you know
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What is the term for someone who is checking out ur social media posts etc to send it to the narcissist so they will know what ur posting or how u been feeling would they be considered a flying monkey as well or just a spy
I was just telling someone, after the Narcissist make his flying monkey stop talk to me for whatever reason, he still had my number and he use to look at everything I do. I believe it was to show the narc but recently he deleted my number and he was the one ask for it
Rebecca my lovely friend could you please make a video on cyberstalking and cyberbullying.I think in this age social media is a pivotal point of contact to inflict pain and abuse hidden behind the doors which open a medium for narcissits to come and create subtle problems.
So this is just saying Narcissist have emotional armies under their dictatorship, treating you like the enemy of everyone, only because the Narcissist says so. They have armies of FLying Monkeys. and they're so loyal because they enjoy it as much as the Narcissist. They'll even back them up and say "Oh that's just Bobby". And that lets Bob continue to be a Narcissist, using the manipulated crowd as permission to continue .
But objectively speaking, assuming that the narcissist is not the god of the universe, why would anyone run around stalking people, invading their homes, harassing them over the phone, and think it's the right thing to do?
What do they think the victim is doing? Have they been told the victim is a drug addict? Or that just that he doesn't jump to the narcs every beck and call and beeds to be followed around and corrected?
It's so fucked up
Mine used everyone he came into contact with. He was get subtle. He abused me most with my children and his family. The entire marriage was Hell!
If employees do it, it is unprofessional
Yes absolutely right on.. his mom is his flying monkey
One of his monkeys 🐒colored her hair like mine.. HELLO..LOL
Had one who came out screaming like Tarzan...now i gotta find Sheeta 4 him -n- he didnt come back 🌈💗🙏
Flying Monkeys !! Perfect flippin term.
i need help in learning how to go on the offensive...
Can side chicks or new love interests be flying monkeys?
The poor pawns fight you from their innocent position which is infuriating and when we are emotional we loose it is such a problem as they do not realize the implanted messages until you tell them and when you do it wrecks life with everyone
When the seeds are planted with a trauma it is coercion right?
What time is the Q&A on? I’m from Australia. 😊
My narcissist has about 9 flying monkeys
Would subordinate perjury also count as a flying monkey?