This is still a touchy subject at home, because I felt that my Daddy wasn't able to drive after the first time he got lost on the road. Since I was outnumbered by my family, he was allowed to continue driving for months longer. I was so relieved when that fear of him getting lost was no longer an issue!! It was the only issue my family and I butted heads over.
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Can you please speak to navigating the driving issue, more in depth? Specifically when family disagrees based on emotion? For example when one person sees clearly its time to get rid of the car but others fight it because they know the person with dementia is going to suffer deeply emotionally and they want to avoid that at all cost? This has been such a huge deal for my family and now a friend - my mom and my friend are super feisty and angry about the idea they can’t drive and so others around them fight to maintain it so they can avoid conflict and hurting their feelings. Is there some concrete set of tools aside from your suggestion of being a passenger in their car (that can be explained away by well-meaning family members!)? It’s truly one of the hardest parts of this in the earlier stages. Thank you!
Daria Barazandeh yes. I certainly can. This upcoming week is all about grief and the different kinds grieving all through the stages. So I will do that after!! Come on over to the group. LOTS of people are dealing with driving and car issues. Link to group in notes! They can give you LOTS of ideas. They already have shared a lot with each other. Search the group for “car” “driving” etc. all my love! Vicky
OMG you are right, if my Dad had it (he didn't) he would have never given his keys in the early stages. My mother in law has it but she's a little more complacent but I don't know about taking her keys right now...my husband and his sister will have to make that decision. I am binge watching your videos! So clear and concise! My mother in law would cal AAA for the kill switch.She's still pretty sharp.
my dad is 84 early stages and forgets how to get home sometimes but only drives when my mom is with him. I can't imagine having to take the keys. so difficult
My lo is my husband& he still wants to drive but is in stage 4. I can't get rid of our car because I need to drive. I've told him my concerns but he doesn't agree.
doggette2 They can look for brain mass atrophy, or shrinkage, which is common in Alzheimer’s type dementia. Also, they could look for infarcts (strokes) or vascular changes. ❤️
I cannot convince my 75 yo spouse with VaDem to stop driving. He blows up in anger. He was in Assisted Living for 5 months until August, then walked out. He also is on opiates for pain and has severe feet neuropathy. Scared out of wits to have to be a passenger.
This is still a touchy subject at home, because I felt that my Daddy wasn't able to drive after the first time he got lost on the road. Since I was outnumbered by my family, he was allowed to continue driving for months longer. I was so relieved when that fear of him getting lost was no longer an issue!! It was the only issue my family and I butted heads over.
Thanks for watching my video! I hope you are learning some new information in this 26-part series; "The ABC's of Dementia FAQ's"! Subscribe and hit the bell so you will get an alert each MWF when my video is posted!! Thanks! Vicky
Can you please speak to navigating the driving issue, more in depth? Specifically when family disagrees based on emotion? For example when one person sees clearly its time to get rid of the car but others fight it because they know the person with dementia is going to suffer deeply emotionally and they want to avoid that at all cost? This has been such a huge deal for my family and now a friend - my mom and my friend are super feisty and angry about the idea they can’t drive and so others around them fight to maintain it so they can avoid conflict and hurting their feelings. Is there some concrete set of tools aside from your suggestion of being a passenger in their car (that can be explained away by well-meaning family members!)? It’s truly one of the hardest parts of this in the earlier stages. Thank you!
Daria Barazandeh yes. I certainly can. This upcoming week is all about grief and the different kinds grieving all through the stages. So I will do that after!! Come on over to the group. LOTS of people are dealing with driving and car issues. Link to group in notes! They can give you LOTS of ideas. They already have shared a lot with each other. Search the group for “car” “driving” etc. all my love! Vicky
Your videos are so helpful, thank you. Also I find your attitude and approach so positive, it really encourages me. ❤ God bless you
I’m so happy! Thanks for responding!!
OMG you are right, if my Dad had it (he didn't) he would have never given his keys in the early stages. My mother in law has it but she's a little more complacent but I don't know about taking her keys right now...my husband and his sister will have to make that decision. I am binge watching your videos! So clear and concise! My mother in law would cal AAA for the kill switch.She's still pretty sharp.
My grandfather in law did call AAA to get his battery reconnected! 😆 this was years ago before I knew about the Kill switch!
my dad is 84 early stages and forgets how to get home sometimes but only drives when my mom is with him. I can't imagine having to take the keys. so difficult
It is one of the most difficult parts. BUT, as time goes on, he will forget he was a driver, which is a blessing and a sadness. Hang in there!
My lo is my husband& he still wants to drive but is in stage 4. I can't get rid of our car because I need to drive. I've told him my concerns but he doesn't agree.
My mother in law had an MRI after being diagnosed with dementia,what are the doctors looking for?
doggette2 They can look for brain mass atrophy, or shrinkage, which is common in Alzheimer’s type dementia. Also, they could look for infarcts (strokes) or vascular changes. ❤️
I cannot convince my 75 yo spouse with VaDem to stop driving. He blows up in anger. He was in Assisted Living for 5 months until August, then walked out. He also is on opiates for pain and has severe feet neuropathy. Scared out of wits to have to be a passenger.
Oh 2 weeks ago eye doc said he had cataracts in both eyes
So sorry for your troubles. Say your name (initials) in prayer right now. ❤️