It’s amazing the overlap of the different degrees of dementia. My husband’s money habits have not changed. He doesn’t feel compelled to make lists (part of that is that I’ve always been the list maker). He didn’t have anger at the beginning, he seemed not to even notice the changes. He forgets names and faces but was able to rebuild our deck, change oil in the car and even make household repairs (although these tasks take longer than they used to ). But cracks are staring to show. We needed to replace the flapper in the toilet -and I ended up doing it because the directions were too difficult for him to understand. .
Every item you listed describes my now-78 year old as he has been his whole adult life. I don't know if he has dementia or is just an old version of himself. Your book is so helpful.
I am in the same situation. My husband has ALWAYS had a terrible memory especially if it wasn’t a subject he was interested in. Over the years it became part of our dynamic that my job was to be the memory for both of us.
I’m so glad you said the last few words. I didn’t know about letting them be as independent as possible for as long as possible. “Once you take something away from somebody, that’s the last time they’ll do it.” We hate to see others struggle but I guess it’s best-just like parents have to watch their children struggle when they’re learning new skills. ❣️❣️❣️
This was good. Especially last part when you talked about letting the person w/Dementia keep doing as much as they can for themselves....or they cannot relearn what there were used to doing. I see that with my person with Vascular. Now I understand.
Mercy. Maybe you could figure out someway to get him connected. I know he may not have time to go to the library. Would that be possible? I try to keep these videos short so that you can binge watch them quickly!! Maybe the book would be best. Let me know if I can answer any questions!!
I have suspected some kind of early dementia in my husband for 4 or 5 years now. At one of my visits with our doctor I mentioned to my dr. that I was concerned about my husband's memory. My husband saw our Dr. for a routine checkup not long after and the Dr. told Steve that I was concerned about his memory. When Steve got home I have never seen him so angry. I was NEVER to talk to anyone - especially our doctor- about his memory. He won't seek any type of help or memory testing. I just keep my mouth shut now and watch him get worse and worse. How do I help Steve? My hands are tyed. He is angry almost all the time but I never mention any of my concerns.
I know it is so frustrating. Honestly, there is not much help a specialist can offer other than the memory drugs already on the market, which your local doctor can prescribe. It can be important to know WHICH dementia is present to more fully research that kind, but many of the approaches are the same. So don’t beat yourself up with worry or guilt. Watch my videos and others about what symptoms you are seeing. Read my book and others about managing behaviors. That will help. Here is my book link. Find other videos here on TH-cam! All my love. Truly. Vicky. amzn.to/2SQ1Yby
@@DementiaWithGrace To be honest I think her doctor was wrong in mentioning it to her husband. Isn’t that supposed to be doctor-patient confidentiality? What if it was her brother or her uncle, would he have done that too? What if they suspected cancer in a family member,would have told her that? Telling somebody who you think has dementia usually ticks them off. I think he should’ve had a better way of doing that, testing him someway and leaving the wife out of it. This guy will never go to a doctor for it now, and she will be living in hell until she hast to finally put him somewhere. He could also cause violence against her, I have had it happen to me. A lot of times people know that they are getting dementia, and do the best they can to try and hide it. They will never admit it, and things never end well then.
Well, I defined it there in the video! The difference in normal aging and “benign forgetfulness” and “mild cognitive impairment”, I would say, is the frequency with which you have problems. You start to forget more and more appointments, or the names of items. Enough that other people call your attention to it. I don’t really know what else to add! 😘😘😘
I catch my self doing things like that.keys in the fridge, canned goods in the storage shed. Pouring water in my hand instead of the aspirin. I see I do stuff like that more often. I care for my 90 year old Deminta granddad. I'm concerned for myself now.
It COULD be that you are overwhelmed with stress and so busy that your brain is overloaded. If It were me, I would schedule a consult with a neurologist and/or a neuropsychologist for a cognitive work up. It would set you at eas to have some answers. IF there is some true cognitive changes NOT related to overwhelm, the sooner you treat it with what is available, the better. All my love, Vicky
Is it possibly see various behaviors that look like mid stage but happen sporadically. For instance, a person thinking they performed a task that someone else performed or hearing their name being called when it isn’t. Can these type of things happen, say in a 2 week period and then subside for awhile only to reappear in a month? Also how is the best way to express your concern to the family member you think has dementia?
My dad switched to a terrible Medicare Advantage plan and I'm sure he was probably walking out of the Wmart and was talked into it easily since it was *free* ! and we see only in hindsight he was in early dementia before his wife died 4 yo. 🙁 sadly he had some impulsiveness his entire life so he just seemed *more* himself if you follow. And while living his wife just did all the list making and enabled him to function. 121720
All of these videos are free, as well as the support group on Facebook. I do offer Zoom consulting or phone calls for a one:one session. Email me at Vicky@dementiawithgrace.org for details!
It’s amazing the overlap of the different degrees of dementia. My husband’s money habits have not changed. He doesn’t feel compelled to make lists (part of that is that I’ve always been the list maker). He didn’t have anger at the beginning, he seemed not to even notice the changes. He forgets names and faces but was able to rebuild our deck, change oil in the car and even make household repairs (although these tasks take longer than they used to ). But cracks are staring to show. We needed to replace the flapper in the toilet -and I ended up doing it because the directions were too difficult for him to understand. .
Things happening since major back surgery. First short term mem. Now more symtoms. His daughter moving next door. She is a blessing. ❤
Every item you listed describes my now-78 year old as he has been his whole adult life. I don't know if he has dementia or is just an old version of himself.
Your book is so helpful.
I am in the same situation. My husband has ALWAYS had a terrible memory especially if it wasn’t a subject he was interested in. Over the years it became part of our dynamic that my job was to be the memory for both of us.
I’m so glad you said the last few words. I didn’t know about letting them be as independent as possible for as long as possible. “Once you take something away from somebody, that’s the last time they’ll do it.”
We hate to see others struggle but I guess it’s best-just like parents have to watch their children struggle when they’re learning new skills. ❣️❣️❣️
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience...priceless💖🌞🦜
You have been a wonderful help to me and my family. Our sister has dementia. Thanks so much for you simple answers.
You are very welcome! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you 🖤
I found this to be true. Sometimes I just wanna hurry and do it myself but I realize I’m not only hindering them but myself as well
Excellent advice about don't take away from them what they can do... thanks a million
This was good. Especially last part when you talked about letting the person w/Dementia keep doing as much as they can for themselves....or they cannot relearn what there were used to doing. I see that with my person with Vascular. Now I understand.
I enlisted the help of Elder Law to assist. They have been a godsend. Thank you Vicky for offering your services!
Thank you Vicky. I wish I could play all of your work for my stepdad. Unfortunately he has turned off their internet because their computer crashed.
Mercy. Maybe you could figure out someway to get him connected. I know he may not have time to go to the library. Would that be possible? I try to keep these videos short so that you can binge watch them quickly!! Maybe the book would be best. Let me know if I can answer any questions!!
@@DementiaWithGrace Vicky - I bought the ebook so I can't share. I will share with him verbally as much as I can. Thank you.
I have suspected some kind of early dementia in my husband for 4 or 5 years now. At one of my visits with our doctor I mentioned to my dr. that I was concerned about my husband's memory. My husband saw our Dr. for a routine checkup not long after and the Dr. told Steve that I was concerned about his memory. When Steve got home I have never seen him so angry. I was NEVER to talk to anyone - especially our doctor- about his memory. He won't seek any type of help or memory testing. I just keep my mouth shut now and watch him get worse and worse. How do I help Steve? My hands are tyed. He is angry almost all the time but I never mention any of my concerns.
I know it is so frustrating. Honestly, there is not much help a specialist can offer other than the memory drugs already on the market, which your local doctor can prescribe. It can be important to know WHICH dementia is present to more fully research that kind, but many of the approaches are the same. So don’t beat yourself up with worry or guilt. Watch my videos and others about what symptoms you are seeing. Read my book and others about managing behaviors. That will help. Here is my book link. Find other videos here on TH-cam! All my love. Truly. Vicky. amzn.to/2SQ1Yby
@@DementiaWithGrace To be honest I think her doctor was wrong in mentioning it to her husband. Isn’t that supposed to be doctor-patient confidentiality? What if it was her brother or her uncle, would he have done that too? What if they suspected cancer in a family member,would have told her that? Telling somebody who you think has dementia usually ticks them off. I think he should’ve had a better way of doing that, testing him someway and leaving the wife out of it. This guy will never go to a doctor for it now, and she will be living in hell until she hast to finally put him somewhere. He could also cause violence against her, I have had it happen to me. A lot of times people know that they are getting dementia, and do the best they can to try and hide it. They will never admit it, and things never end well then.
How do YOU define Cognitive impairment?
Well, I defined it there in the video! The difference in normal aging and “benign forgetfulness” and “mild cognitive impairment”, I would say, is the frequency with which you have problems. You start to forget more and more appointments, or the names of items. Enough that other people call your attention to it. I don’t really know what else to add! 😘😘😘
I catch my self doing things like that.keys in the fridge, canned goods in the storage shed. Pouring water in my hand instead of the aspirin. I see I do stuff like that more often. I care for my 90 year old Deminta granddad. I'm concerned for myself now.
It COULD be that you are overwhelmed with stress and so busy that your brain is overloaded. If It were me, I would schedule a consult with a neurologist and/or a neuropsychologist for a cognitive work up. It would set you at eas to have some answers. IF there is some true cognitive changes NOT related to overwhelm, the sooner you treat it with what is available, the better. All my love, Vicky
Is it possibly see various behaviors that look like mid stage but happen sporadically. For instance, a person thinking they performed a task that someone else performed or hearing their name being called when it isn’t. Can these type of things happen, say in a 2 week period and then subside for awhile only to reappear in a month? Also how is the best way to express your concern to the family member you think has dementia?
My dad switched to a terrible Medicare Advantage plan and I'm sure he was probably walking out of the Wmart and was talked into it easily since it was *free* ! and we see only in hindsight he was in early dementia before his wife died 4 yo. 🙁 sadly he had some impulsiveness his entire life so he just seemed *more* himself if you follow. And while living his wife just did all the list making and enabled him to function.
121720
This is why I have 10 planners🤨
U help for free????
All of these videos are free, as well as the support group on Facebook. I do offer Zoom consulting or phone calls for a one:one session. Email me at Vicky@dementiawithgrace.org for details!
@@DementiaWithGrace I got on a dementia Facebook group and every time I post something they remove my post☹