Great interview, I love what Alisa has to say. One thought, on the pausing of a difficult conversation, I find it's good to offer it not just when people are becoming obviously emotional - I find that some super analytical people can sometimes benefit from thinking about the feedback before replying. If they seem to have trouble engaging with the discussion whether it's from emotion or "tuning out" as they analyze and grapple with what they just heard, the offer to pause and pick it back up later after laying out the issue and examples can be effective.
Is it just me who perceives these cookie cutter responses as clinical and manipulative? When Alisa says "I'm really interested in your point of view" I immediately know she's not, it's her script. Especially when she highlights emotions in others by saying "I sense that you're upset", I'd like to respond immediately with "yeah, no sh*t". Addressing someone else's emotions is condescending and aggravating. Her presumed mentoring programme is the type of HR training turning humans into obedient corporate robots.
Your courage is so inspiring Lenny, You just go out and do it any way, vulnerable, real, kind. Another great sunday of Lenny and ☕. Thanks!
Great interview, I love what Alisa has to say. One thought, on the pausing of a difficult conversation, I find it's good to offer it not just when people are becoming obviously emotional - I find that some super analytical people can sometimes benefit from thinking about the feedback before replying. If they seem to have trouble engaging with the discussion whether it's from emotion or "tuning out" as they analyze and grapple with what they just heard, the offer to pause and pick it back up later after laying out the issue and examples can be effective.
I just want to drop the first comment. I am sure this will be so beneficial because I'm needing to have that conversation very soon!
Super useful because of how practical the guidance is. Thank you.
Great topic, excited for the episode
Great advice and lets find the process try try until to succeed😂
Is it just me who perceives these cookie cutter responses as clinical and manipulative? When Alisa says "I'm really interested in your point of view" I immediately know she's not, it's her script. Especially when she highlights emotions in others by saying "I sense that you're upset", I'd like to respond immediately with "yeah, no sh*t". Addressing someone else's emotions is condescending and aggravating. Her presumed mentoring programme is the type of HR training turning humans into obedient corporate robots.