I have a friend who's done this! I moved away so don't see her much, but every time she brings her boyfriend! So annoying, as even though I'm fond of him, there are things I want to talk about with her that I don't feel comfortable talking about in front of him.
This video was hilarious (I thought i was the only one who found it weird that straights said “we’re pregnant”) but in defense of the “partner” thing: I know a few straight people who say partner because they want to normalize not having to tell strangers your sexuality so if everyone started saying “partner” it wouldn’t be a dead giveaway that someone is in a same-sex relationship (if that makes any sense). Loved the video!
To me “partner” also works if a couple has been together for a significant amount of time but are not married. Gf/bf may seem to casual for a longer term relationship
As a bi woman I choose to refer to my bf as my partner because I don’t like people to automatically assume I’m straight and it makes me feel more in control over peoples imposed gender stereotypes in our relationship before they even know us
Great point!! I say partner because in my opinion, at my big age, I don't have a BOYfriend😂🤣. He's either my man or partner. Boyfriend is a tad juvenile at an adult age for me.
8:10 my straight friends be like : omg im so over with guys they pissed me off i think im gonna date girls they look so much easier to date me*crying over a girl that will never love me back every night *: yes sure of course youre totally right 😐
It also suggests sexuality is something you can choose - which is highly problematic, and I know they say it as a joke, but it's an overplayed one and it does irk me.
That’s true and I had the same opinion but Baby showers (when done in a non obnoxious way) can actually be really useful- we threw one for my sister who had twins and it helped a lot cause she had to buy sooo much stuff for them. so it was a nice way to support them and be excited with them! But all in a non gendered way of course.
American babies don’t get baby boxes with supplies inside when they are born, so a shower is to help the parents of a firstborn get needed items from friends and family. Also no family leave in the USA.
@Lauretta Eck I think gender reveal is a gettogether where you tell firends/family about the babies gender and shower is later on where you get gifts (ie babies clothes, toys, maybe a carseat or stroller...)
girls are like "im gonna go shopping with MY WIIIFE wow im so excited" and im like : Oh you have a wife the girl: oh no its what i call my bff, im not... you know ... a LeSbIaN me*clearly gay* :😨
n o e m i x shit I was gonna say that Im glad straight girls don’t call their friends girl friends in France (where I live) but your comment reminded me that they do the wife thing (I mean tbh I do it too but Im actually gay so it’s ok I guess? Shit maybe not)
the whole "partner" thing depends on the country though. in the UK it's more common to call your significant other your partner. my american friend pointed that out to me once because when she started working in london she thought at first that everyone was queer (which wasn't the case unfortunately). :D
This is really interesting, in a lot of ways, especially from a Swedish point of view. Though gender equality still can be much improved here, many of the things you point out, simply don't exist here. And...if they do, we adopted them from North America (US mostly). For instance, we linguistically have separate words for female friends and a girlfriend. The confusion, therfore, never occurs. I don't know anybody who has had a "gender revealing party" or a bachelorette party at a gay bar, decorated with dicks. However, what I have heard is the 'if I were a lesbian it would be much easier". You are great, so are your videos!
Similar here in the uk, I don't know anyone who would call their female friends their girlfriends. & the gender reveal parties aren't a common thing here either, although I think a few people are starting to catch on to this American tradition. The dicks at bachelorette parties are defo a thing here though (called a hen night here)
Allura Jane that's so true my friend got mad at me cause she made a post that said " all girls have one guy that they'll never get over " and I said (as a lesbian) well not all girls she also claims that at one point I was straight and it's like no honey I was just closeted 🤦♀️
Yes! Also, when straight women ask if they are your type. Ummm , gay women are my type. This question is asked to me from straight women more often than it should be.
I'm straight, and had to watch when this popped up in my recommendations - the title got me. The same things that confuse you, confuse me - the "girlfriends" term, the "partner" term - you Cant be sure what it means. Also, I think gender reveal parties are stupid, and "we" are pregnant is icky. I've been to a bachelorette party at a gay bar, and I agree, it was a little strange, but we did have fun and we didn't take over the place. All this said, Im sure I still do plenty (unintentionally) that would make you roll your eyes. Thanks for the fun video!
Me: Pansexual and has a girlfriend and hasn’t came out to parents or school friends My friends: jessie why don’t you date someone My mind: I am but I can’t tell you because you’re gonna get mad at me and you will tell my parents and I’m gonna get in trouble Me: *hides that I’m Pansexual* UwU
I thought it odd that straight women would have a bachelorette party and in addition to the male stripper they'd also have a FEMALE stripper (??). I never understood that. Straight guys would NEVER have a MALE stripper at their bachelor party!!
Hahaha reminds me of the subreddit "Are the straights OK?"... they're not. Still some of my best friends are straight! I have nothing against them!! 😂 If we acted like they do.
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As a straight woman I use partner to indicate my man cause we are not married but we’ve been living together for almost 8 years and are in our 40s so I feel boyfriend and girlfriend is a bit juvenile... 🤷🏻♀️
Good topics! About "partner", though, i feel like that word has always been used as a gender neutral word to describe the other person in a couple, especially when you don't know or want to reveal the gender of the "first" (and/or second) referenced person. "A person and their partner". In my country, it is typically used in that way in official texts. "Man" and "wife" is actually not used in neither legislative texts or other official texts. And everyday speech, many straight couples feel that wife/husband feel antiquated. And it is of course only good that it also works well in a non-straight or non-binary context as well. And in polyamourous close relationships, I guess you just have to use plural, revealing that it's a multi-partner relationship. We need more words... 😀 Btw have you seen the recent yt series These thems? th-cam.com/play/PLc-afh1yK0_Rs13epIy09ZfqFNr55Qm8V.html
Michael Andersson yeah I use it because I’m pansexual with a strong preference for women but I’m dating a man and don’t want people assuming I’m straight or being shocked when they find out I’m not
My mom calls her friends "girlfriends" all the time and is like, "wHy Do PeOpLe TaKe It So SeRiOuSlY aNd TUrN iT iNtO a GaY tHiNg?!?" Like Karen, u are literally calling your same sex friends girlfriends... how r people NOT going to assume it's gay!
It's a pretty old convention to call your friends "girlfriend". Just look at old TV shows. The usage came before lesbians were able to live out in the open.
it’s very common for older generations to call their female friends girlfriends my mom and grandma do it to I think it’s only gen z who think it automatically think it’s a gay thing since people been doing it for decades
I watched the part where they mentioned how straight girls say "girlfriend" and then I immediately got an ad with an old woman saying "My girlfriends have been asking me..." XD Also my grandma says that all the time to me and I'm in the closet with her because she's heavily Christian.
I remember last summer I was partying in Sisyphos and suddenly saw this beautiful girl in a purple silk dress and I thought wow I need to talk to her, but the longer I looked at her the more familiar she looked and then I realised it was Alexis, a girl who’s Videos with her girlfriend I‘m watching... so my gay heart was broken for a few seconds ^^
The Girlfriend and friend thing is even harder in German tho. You just have the word Freundin and it's the same for a friend and a girlfriend. So basically you have to figure out every damn time if the girl you're talking to has a girlfriend or is simply talking about a normal friend, that shit is hard
I know, there was a bit that we took out where I was talking about how it is in german and how it’s annoying that it’s an advantage of the english language that there is a clear distinction between friend and boy/girlfriend but then people come and ruin it and create the same problem 😄 - L
Gay man here. 100% agreeance! You could have been much tougher. Also I tell people that the real gender reveal celebration should happen when their child tells the parents. Try that for a change.
I'm a straight woman and I also find most of these really weird. The only thing I do is call my partner, a partner. I only started doing this since I came to Australia last year because here, everyone does that. It doesn't matter if you're in a long term relationship, married, just started the relationship, male, female, etc and I really like that nobody cares. I agree that it's confusing though!
Great video! I know we’re taking this with a pinch of salt but for people who are actually confused by it I want to say something about the “we’re pregnant” thing. Yeah it might sound weird but the idea is that both of them are going through this and it’s to show that the guy is also equally invested and excited and wanting the baby. It’s usually couples who actively tried to get pregnant and I actually like when straight guys show they do want to have a baby and are there every step of the way with their significant other. We in the lgbtq community should know to let others celebrate their happiness the way they want (as long as they’re not hurting anyone) and I think by saying “we’re pregnant” they’re just both equally happy to go through the journey together, I think it’s really sweet 😊 also straight couples saying “partner” is a lot of the times because there actually is a stigma if you’re not married and are for example over 30/40 and some people feel more comfortable saying parter to show significance of the relationship and respect for the other rather than “girlfriend/boyfriend”. and in some countries you can actually legally get a partnership status OR get married regardless of gender so some people are actually legally partners. 😊💕 thanks for great content guys!
Gay bars aren't just safe spaces for gay people - they're safe spaces full stop. I've toured with theatre companies all my life, mostly in musicals, (and usually some of the company are gay) but the cast's preference is always for a gay bar or club as a mid--week outing. It's quieter and defiantly safer than the straight clubs and bars. Gay cast members run the risk of aggression in a straight bar, a thing I'd say is unknown in gay bars. In the UK at any rate. The people in gay bars tend to be warm and welcoming in my experience, and I've never felt that I was unwelcome there either. Maybe just my luck. PS, yes, a fun list...
Can you guys make a video about how to know if a feminine girl is a lesbian in Germany cause German culture is little different than American culture for real..
That would be a good video. American and Canadian gay culture changes from city to city too. Probably because of the size of the countries. Is it similar in Germany?
cayman144 no German culture is way different than American and Canadian culture so this is why I’m having hard time to understanding how to know if a feminist girl is lesbian in Germany? For real
Whenever my nana asks me about my "girlfriends" (meaning my female platonic friends) I always get confused for a second, especially since I used to be dating a girl so a part of me would go, "wait- I never told her I had a girlfriend? How does she know?!" because I realized, nope that's just that thing straight people do
Isn't "gender reveal" kinda the wrong name? Isn't it more of a "biological sex" party? If the sex of the baby is ambiguous, to they still go through with the party?
I watched this the other day and I woke up today angry at you. You cannot claim the word partner. No. Business partners. Cops are paired in partners. I used the word partner as a woman living with a man who was 20 years older than me but we were not married, husband wasn't right, and boyfriend seemed derogatory, what other word would you use in that situation? And you're American? Americans went and changed the English language way back in the great depression, Americans don't get to tell me how to use the English language. Us Australians only added our own slang, we didn't change the language, we still speak English. You don't get to tell me I can't use the word partner for a straight relationship.
Firstly, Sorry for the rant! I'm straight but all these gay videos are popping up on my homepage-I think its because I've looked at so many Killing Eve compilations about Eve & Villanelle anyhoo, yap, I agree with most of these. Yes, I'm straight but straight women and couples drive me nuts!!!!!!!!
As a straight person I don't feel that this is an attack, because it's so obviously not meant to be, The humour is inclusive and as such acts like the 'spoonful of sugar' that helps the message go down. Some very valid points made in a very funny way. LOVE these two.
Hi Alexis and Lilian I love you two so much! But please read my comment about Scottish Fold! I know they look super cute, but they have health problems. The folded ears first came from a genetic mutation. All cats with this folded ear suffer from variable degrees of painful and incurable degenerative joint disease, which can result in fusing of the tail, ankles and knees. Sometimes they sit like human just to ease the pain! The Scottish government actually said they were considering introducing a ban on the breed...I hate to say this down below your lovely video, but I believe you don’t know about this sad fact and as a cat lover I feel like I must tell you this. Hopefully you can give it a second thought. Much love& stay healthy😘
No worries, Lilian doesn’t want a cat anyway so we weren’t seriously considering it! 😄 But wow that is messed up and definitely good to know. I guess similar to bulldogs and similar dog breeds... Thanks for the information, we learn so much from you guys!
I certainly won't be endorsing my friend's request to go to a lesbian bar on her hen (as we call it here in the UK! :)) night. Especially not wielding fake penis swords!! 😁 good point though about encroaching on safe space. It is a valid point.
4:53 to 5:00 i never in my life did any thing like that. but before my son was born i always knew he was gonna be a boy. my ex didn't care either because had a daughter years ago but she's not mine. p.s. my ex's family is like that (blue, boy. pink, girl) i known my family is not like that
The "real sex" one is so important! Because this kind of perception of what sex is devalues any kind of sex with no penetration involved - like, whut?!
An example of girls who are straight but act gay as a joke: cheerleader from my school posted a pic of her and her best friend dressed up to go to homecoming, and kissing.The caption was "going to homecoming with my girlfriend, :ring emoji:" yes this post actually exists, no she is not gay.
Or when they find out your gay and staight friends profess their straightness and they would never feel like that and you don't know how to tell them you are not attracted to them. Thanks you both are great!
About the "both being pregnant at the same time": there's a Belgian basketballplayer Ann Wauters who actually did that with her wife. Ann gave birth 1 month after her wife did. Apparently it was a very positive experience for them.
In defense of the term partner, I felt kind of stupid calling my ex my boyfriend, given I was over 35 (and feel icky when older people call them boyfriend/girlfriend in a non satire way).
"Just because I'm into women doesn't mean to I'm into every woman" oh yes, finally someone said it, i don't like this attitude of straight people. Yeah i'm into women but i'm not into you. What type of self-esteem is this?!
OMG the PARTNER thang!!! That's the one that's at the top of the list for me 🙈🙈 Greats and I must say ORIGINAL content 👍👍🏳️🌈. Welcome to Canada, just be always vigilant...💖
I love your videos, and you 2 are so cute together. Miso is adorable also. I have a question for you, if I may. Which les dating app(s) on Google play would you recommend?(if any)
So, my conclusion is... I fooling around with my "girlfriends" A LOT (!! 😏😏 PS: For more gay bars in the world! 🙌🏻 These are our temples for be ourselves 🤗 I love all yours videos, girls! 💖
Another one from Germany: Lebensabschnittspartner Lebensabschnitf = phase of life - partner. I really saw someone using this! Though most people don't! ...We ... found out it's dumb...
I love men and sexually attracted to them,but i cognitively and emotionally have a hard time finding a connection.i am very aware and love balance in my relationships,alot of men seem to not care as much or want to contribute effort where needed. Mentally and emotionally I love women sexually attracted though to men. I find women beautiful and have had my moments when younger...i just dont know anymore
In Spanish there are gender endings, еg amigo(m) and amiga (f). In Russian there are also endings and prefixes to identify the gender - друг ( m), ПОдругА (f), but what should I do if i want to spcify that my friend is female. If calling a girlfriend is not ok, than calling her my female friend sounds akward
Lol, may be a hot take but for people who are bilingual English/Spanish, saying "pareja" is pretty normal and neutral way in Spain which avoids having to define the relationship (girlfriend, fiancé, wife, fbuddy etc.). And among married people, the popular word for wife ("mi mujer") is a bit jarring for an English speakers (literally translates to "my woman"). There is an alternative that is common in Mexico ("mi esposa") which is understood widely but to be honest a lot of young people just say "pareja" -especially if it's a long term relationship (e.g. live-in relationship). ... So translating that to english as "my partner" is pretty natural. ...especially when referring to *someone else's* significant other when you don't know the situation (or don't care) and just need a direct/indirect object in a sentence. E.g. when you're telling a story about having a long week and your partner surprises you with a romantic weekend getaway ... stopping to clarify gender seems a bit irrelevant. I'm pretty sure the feeling of "damn, how sweet" is genderless haha
Oh I really hate that “real sex” thing, I mean wtf, you’re doing sexual stuff 😂, (and hopefully enjoying it) soooo ... where’s the problem to just except that there are different kinds of having sex... Someone once said “If someone is cumming - that’s sex” and I can relate to this. It’s so rude to say that only penetration is sex. Ugh 🙄🙄🙄😂
you're so totally right about the sex thing, it's sooo confusing. It's like you do all the things with a man except penetration and it is not sex for anyone then you do it with a woman and it suddenly becomes sex, like wtf.. so when exactly did i have sex for the first time? XD with woman, even if i did the same thing with a guy before? it's REEEALLY confusing
GAY BARS ARE NOT A ZOO...say it louder for the straights in the back lol
But...but...but...they are looking so happy and thankful every time i stop by to pet and feed them... :(
Yes!! Especially feel it when they come for a spectacle on Halloween and completely takeover the gay village just pointing and taking pictures
I am a heterosexual women and felt that on a soul level.
omg we should have gender reveal parties but for bisexuals when we start dating a new person
😂
LMAO.
hahah that's amazing
I love this 😁
omg that's such a great idea lmao
Another thing straight women do: Automatically include her boyfriend in plans I made with just her. No, I DO NOT wanna hang out with your boyfriend.
I have a friend who's done this! I moved away so don't see her much, but every time she brings her boyfriend! So annoying, as even though I'm fond of him, there are things I want to talk about with her that I don't feel comfortable talking about in front of him.
@@Hazeydaze92 yeah. It's just polite to ask if she can include her bf and it should be perfectly acceptable for you to say no.
That doesn't have anything to do with straight people. Gays do it too. If you don't use common sense this is what you do. Gay or not
ahhh this is so true it’s soo annoying 🥴🥴
I hate that presumption that we all want to spend time with the boyfriend...um, NO!
"you're not my type"
straights: * shocked pikachu face *
@@Danimonty oF c0urSe I kn0w hOw tO sPelL piKacHu !
This video was hilarious (I thought i was the only one who found it weird that straights said “we’re pregnant”) but in defense of the “partner” thing: I know a few straight people who say partner because they want to normalize not having to tell strangers your sexuality so if everyone started saying “partner” it wouldn’t be a dead giveaway that someone is in a same-sex relationship (if that makes any sense). Loved the video!
To me “partner” also works if a couple has been together for a significant amount of time but are not married. Gf/bf may seem to casual for a longer term relationship
As a bi woman I choose to refer to my bf as my partner because I don’t like people to automatically assume I’m straight and it makes me feel more in control over peoples imposed gender stereotypes in our relationship before they even know us
@@roseadventures5766 YAAASSS
Great point!! I say partner because in my opinion, at my big age, I don't have a BOYfriend😂🤣. He's either my man or partner. Boyfriend is a tad juvenile at an adult age for me.
@@roseadventures5766 Same here! :3
8:10
my straight friends be like : omg im so over with guys they pissed me off i think im gonna date girls they look so much easier to date
me*crying over a girl that will never love me back every night *: yes sure of course youre totally right 😐
GOD I HATE THAT.. When straight girls are like : well I'm becoming lesbian now ! everytime something happens with theirs guys 😒
+n o e m i x. I know how you feel 💔
It also suggests sexuality is something you can choose - which is highly problematic, and I know they say it as a joke, but it's an overplayed one and it does irk me.
oh yes.
just got over yet another day of intense limerence anxiety.
OCD doesnt help w it hahah
Hazeydaze22, same, and I wish that they for once could just be in our shoes and see how small casual phrases like that can be confusing and or hurtful
I'm german and both gender reveal parties and baby showers just straight up confuse me
Yeah, they are not really a thing here and I don't want them to be :D
That’s true and I had the same opinion but Baby showers (when done in a non obnoxious way) can actually be really useful- we threw one for my sister who had twins and it helped a lot cause she had to buy sooo much stuff for them. so it was a nice way to support them and be excited with them! But all in a non gendered way of course.
American babies don’t get baby boxes with supplies inside when they are born, so a shower is to help the parents of a firstborn get needed items from friends and family. Also no family leave in the USA.
@@ifetayodavidson-cade5613 This makes so much sense.
@Lauretta Eck I think gender reveal is a gettogether where you tell firends/family about the babies gender and shower is later on where you get gifts (ie babies clothes, toys, maybe a carseat or stroller...)
Totally agree with the Sex thing... Im like "whaaaa???"
Straight people: So how do you DO IT???
I always say go watch lesbian porn, not real, but maybe it will open your brain some...
Angelvalare I don’t watch lesbian porn cos it’s unrealistic.. actually I don’t watch porn in general 😂 I don’t feel anything from it
@@christyyang93 I'm sorry misunderstanding, I was replying to What I answer to straight people who ask how lesbians have sex. so sorry
Angelvalare ahhh!! Well I do also feel that Lesbian porn somewhat causes misunderstanding in how sex between women is being portrayed..
The "girlfriend" - thing is sooooooo true!! And confusing!!!
(Actually, I wouldn't comment on a video, but just one comment for the algorithm....)
Haha aw thanks, much appreciated! 😊
Anja Kiening so annoying
girls are like "im gonna go shopping with MY WIIIFE wow im so excited"
and im like : Oh you have a wife
the girl: oh no its what i call my bff, im not... you know ... a LeSbIaN
me*clearly gay* :😨
n o e m i x shit I was gonna say that Im glad straight girls don’t call their friends girl friends in France (where I live) but your comment reminded me that they do the wife thing (I mean tbh I do it too but Im actually gay so it’s ok I guess? Shit maybe not)
@@emma4501 franchement en tant que lesbienne trq tu peut dire ca mais apres y a des meufs elles forcent
chuis francaise aussi 😊
its so cool how lilian just laughs so hard about herself when alexis makes fun of her hahaha - I really love the the video +the outtakes!!💖
the whole "partner" thing depends on the country though. in the UK it's more common to call your significant other your partner. my american friend pointed that out to me once because when she started working in london she thought at first that everyone was queer (which wasn't the case unfortunately). :D
This is really interesting, in a lot of ways, especially from a Swedish point of view. Though gender equality still can be much improved here, many of the things you point out, simply don't exist here. And...if they do, we adopted them from North America (US mostly).
For instance, we linguistically have separate words for female friends and a girlfriend. The confusion, therfore, never occurs. I don't know anybody who has had a "gender revealing party" or a bachelorette party at a gay bar, decorated with dicks.
However, what I have heard is the 'if I were a lesbian it would be much easier".
You are great, so are your videos!
Similar here in the uk, I don't know anyone who would call their female friends their girlfriends. & the gender reveal parties aren't a common thing here either, although I think a few people are starting to catch on to this American tradition. The dicks at bachelorette parties are defo a thing here though (called a hen night here)
“We’re not starting a war with straight people...” maybe you’re not, but I am lol
MattieGrace LMAO
I be a recruit
I'm so with you on the gender reveal parties they make me cringe so much!
I'm American and agree, totally cringe-worthy!
Straight people: stop rubbing your sexuality in my face!
Also straight people: 10:16
Allura Jane that's so true my friend got mad at me cause she made a post that said " all girls have one guy that they'll never get over " and I said (as a lesbian) well not all girls she also claims that at one point I was straight and it's like no honey I was just closeted 🤦♀️
At least they don't shove their sexuality into ppls faces.
When a straight girl flirts with you to feel “adventurous” or I don’t know what. Gurl. 🤦🏽♀️
Ugh yes!! Like tf?? Playing with someone’s feelings to feel flattered? Ok..🤮👀🙄
Yes! Also, when straight women ask if they are your type. Ummm , gay women are my type. This question is asked to me from straight women more often than it should be.
"If I was going to have sex with a woman, it would be you."
Do I get any say in this? Edging away
I'm straight, and had to watch when this popped up in my recommendations - the title got me. The same things that confuse you, confuse me - the "girlfriends" term, the "partner" term - you Cant be sure what it means. Also, I think gender reveal parties are stupid, and "we" are pregnant is icky. I've been to a bachelorette party at a gay bar, and I agree, it was a little strange, but we did have fun and we didn't take over the place. All this said, Im sure I still do plenty (unintentionally) that would make you roll your eyes. Thanks for the fun video!
Me: Pansexual and has a girlfriend and hasn’t came out to parents or school friends
My friends: jessie why don’t you date someone
My mind: I am but I can’t tell you because you’re gonna get mad at me and you will tell my parents and I’m gonna get in trouble
Me: *hides that I’m Pansexual* UwU
Alexis during the gender reveal party skit had me dying in laughter! LOL
I thought it odd that straight women would have a bachelorette party and in addition to the male stripper they'd also have a FEMALE stripper (??). I never understood that. Straight guys would NEVER have a MALE stripper at their bachelor party!!
They're probably not straight then lmao? or am I missing something
Hahaha reminds me of the subreddit "Are the straights OK?"... they're not. Still some of my best friends are straight! I have nothing against them!! 😂 If we acted like they do.
Alexis looks like a female versión of Shawn Mendes
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As a straight woman I use partner to indicate my man cause we are not married but we’ve been living together for almost 8 years and are in our 40s so I feel boyfriend and girlfriend is a bit juvenile... 🤷🏻♀️
I literally couldn’t stop looking at Lilian’s fingers 😂
Haha what's up with my fingers?
Because they’re so beautiful XD
😄 aw thank you!
I know,sooo beautiful 💙
isn't it more comfortable if you don't have finger nails 😉😂😂😂
you guys always use your inside voices.. and i think that's beautiful.
Don't get me wrong I ship yaoi and even create it....but why do you thingies make lies up? Not very nice.
Good topics!
About "partner", though, i feel like that word has always been used as a gender neutral word to describe the other person in a couple, especially when you don't know or want to reveal the gender of the "first" (and/or second) referenced person. "A person and their partner". In my country, it is typically used in that way in official texts. "Man" and "wife" is actually not used in neither legislative texts or other official texts.
And everyday speech, many straight couples feel that wife/husband feel antiquated.
And it is of course only good that it also works well in a non-straight or non-binary context as well.
And in polyamourous close relationships, I guess you just have to use plural, revealing that it's a multi-partner relationship.
We need more words... 😀
Btw have you seen the recent yt series These thems?
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Michael Andersson yeah I use it because I’m pansexual with a strong preference for women but I’m dating a man and don’t want people assuming I’m straight or being shocked when they find out I’m not
@@ekovah2860 Same! I'm bi and I try to stay gender neutral when talking about my s/o for the same reason
I always see females of my moms generation call their friends "girlfriend"
My mom calls her friends "girlfriends" all the time and is like, "wHy Do PeOpLe TaKe It So SeRiOuSlY aNd TUrN iT iNtO a GaY tHiNg?!?" Like Karen, u are literally calling your same sex friends girlfriends... how r people NOT going to assume it's gay!
lol idk why they do thattt
It's a pretty old convention to call your friends "girlfriend". Just look at old TV shows. The usage came before lesbians were able to live out in the open.
Same! My mom is bi and has an actual girlfriend but also calls her friends her "girlfriends"
it’s very common for older generations to call their female friends girlfriends my mom and grandma do it to I think it’s only gen z who think it automatically think it’s a gay thing since people been doing it for decades
I watched the part where they mentioned how straight girls say "girlfriend" and then I immediately got an ad with an old woman saying "My girlfriends have been asking me..." XD Also my grandma says that all the time to me and I'm in the closet with her because she's heavily Christian.
You girls have a really nice sense of humor. Keep posting more often these days. Much love 🖤
Thank you! 😊
I remember last summer I was partying in Sisyphos and suddenly saw this beautiful girl in a purple silk dress and I thought wow I need to talk to her, but the longer I looked at her the more familiar she looked and then I realised it was Alexis, a girl who’s Videos with her girlfriend I‘m watching... so my gay heart was broken for a few seconds ^^
Just found your channel yesterday and really enjoying it.
I am as straight as it gets, but I love watching you gals... Can’t help but chuckle with recognition from time to time .... :-p
There is something about watching your videos that makes me calm even normal sometimes thank you for all your videos and stay safe love you
The Girlfriend and friend thing is even harder in German tho. You just have the word Freundin and it's the same for a friend and a girlfriend. So basically you have to figure out every damn time if the girl you're talking to has a girlfriend or is simply talking about a normal friend, that shit is hard
I know, there was a bit that we took out where I was talking about how it is in german and how it’s annoying that it’s an advantage of the english language that there is a clear distinction between friend and boy/girlfriend but then people come and ruin it and create the same problem 😄 - L
Gay man here. 100% agreeance! You could have been much tougher. Also I tell people that the real gender reveal celebration should happen when their child tells the parents. Try that for a change.
You two make me smile : )
I really enjoyed your video. Loved the vintage blue jacket with the Canadian flag. I can see where girlfriend could be very confusing and frustrating.
As a lesbian I'm shocked on how straight ppl are treated.
Can you explain further?
This was so funny. And I want a scottish fold too 😻
I'm a straight woman and I also find most of these really weird. The only thing I do is call my partner, a partner. I only started doing this since I came to Australia last year because here, everyone does that. It doesn't matter if you're in a long term relationship, married, just started the relationship, male, female, etc and I really like that nobody cares. I agree that it's confusing though!
You guys are sooo cute...
Great video! I know we’re taking this with a pinch of salt but for people who are actually confused by it I want to say something about the “we’re pregnant” thing. Yeah it might sound weird but the idea is that both of them are going through this and it’s to show that the guy is also equally invested and excited and wanting the baby. It’s usually couples who actively tried to get pregnant and I actually like when straight guys show they do want to have a baby and are there every step of the way with their significant other. We in the lgbtq community should know to let others celebrate their happiness the way they want (as long as they’re not hurting anyone) and I think by saying “we’re pregnant” they’re just both equally happy to go through the journey together, I think it’s really sweet 😊 also straight couples saying “partner” is a lot of the times because there actually is a stigma if you’re not married and are for example over 30/40 and some people feel more comfortable saying parter to show significance of the relationship and respect for the other rather than “girlfriend/boyfriend”. and in some countries you can actually legally get a partnership status OR get married regardless of gender so some people are actually legally partners. 😊💕 thanks for great content guys!
The girl on the left looks just like shawn mendes
She could totally pass as his sister! Both Canadians too!
haha at the end , I thought you guys were actually telling us you were pregnant 😹
I'm with Alexis, I wanna Scottish Fold too 😂
hi, would u guys mind doing a “date ideas” video?:))
sure, we’ll see if we can come up with some good ideas :)
Alexis and Lilian thank u!!❤️
Gay bars aren't just safe spaces for gay people - they're safe spaces full stop. I've toured with theatre companies all my life, mostly in musicals, (and usually some of the company are gay) but the cast's preference is always for a gay bar or club as a mid--week outing. It's quieter and defiantly safer than the straight clubs and bars. Gay cast members run the risk of aggression in a straight bar, a thing I'd say is unknown in gay bars. In the UK at any rate. The people in gay bars tend to be warm and welcoming in my experience, and I've never felt that I was unwelcome there either. Maybe just my luck. PS, yes, a fun list...
Can you guys make a video about how to know if a feminine girl is a lesbian in Germany cause German culture is little different than American culture for real..
That would be a good video. American and Canadian gay culture changes from city to city too. Probably because of the size of the countries. Is it similar in Germany?
cayman144 no German culture is way different than American and Canadian culture so this is why I’m having hard time to understanding how to know if a feminist girl is lesbian in Germany? For real
Heterophobia sucks
Whenever my nana asks me about my "girlfriends" (meaning my female platonic friends) I always get confused for a second, especially since I used to be dating a girl so a part of me would go, "wait- I never told her I had a girlfriend? How does she know?!" because I realized, nope that's just that thing straight people do
You guys used a brasilian meme (on the mental equasion part) and I'm loving it 💛💚💛💚💛💚😂😂😂
Nazaréé!! haha the best one
Oh my goodness! I’m a butch lesbian called Lilian too. :)
Isn't "gender reveal" kinda the wrong name? Isn't it more of a "biological sex" party? If the sex of the baby is ambiguous, to they still go through with the party?
I watched this the other day and I woke up today angry at you. You cannot claim the word partner. No. Business partners. Cops are paired in partners. I used the word partner as a woman living with a man who was 20 years older than me but we were not married, husband wasn't right, and boyfriend seemed derogatory, what other word would you use in that situation?
And you're American? Americans went and changed the English language way back in the great depression, Americans don't get to tell me how to use the English language. Us Australians only added our own slang, we didn't change the language, we still speak English. You don't get to tell me I can't use the word partner for a straight relationship.
Firstly, Sorry for the rant! I'm straight but all these gay videos are popping up on my homepage-I think its because I've looked at so many Killing Eve compilations about Eve & Villanelle anyhoo, yap, I agree with most of these. Yes, I'm straight but straight women and couples drive me nuts!!!!!!!!
All these videos on straight culture is bound to spark aggression. I feel like straight people are gonna feel attacked unfortunately
As a straight person I don't feel that this is an attack, because it's so obviously not meant to be, The humour is inclusive and as such acts like the 'spoonful of sugar' that helps the message go down. Some very valid points made in a very funny way. LOVE these two.
I’m straight, but in no way felt attacked... Maybe you’re just insecure? I took it as poking a bit of fun... they poke fun at themselves more often!
I mean Ik people that would get really reactionary and angry. Sorry for lumping y'all together
The partner thing drives me up the wazzoo! OMG 🤦🏾♀️
Alexis your hair looks so cute! Lillian I really admire you for shaving your head it looks good!
Hi Alexis and Lilian I love you two so much! But please read my comment about Scottish Fold! I know they look super cute, but they have health problems. The folded ears first came from a genetic mutation. All cats with this folded ear suffer from variable degrees of painful and incurable degenerative joint disease, which can result in fusing of the tail, ankles and knees. Sometimes they sit like human just to ease the pain! The Scottish government actually said they were considering introducing a ban on the breed...I hate to say this down below your lovely video, but I believe you don’t know about this sad fact and as a cat lover I feel like I must tell you this. Hopefully you can give it a second thought. Much love& stay healthy😘
No worries, Lilian doesn’t want a cat anyway so we weren’t seriously considering it! 😄 But wow that is messed up and definitely good to know. I guess similar to bulldogs and similar dog breeds... Thanks for the information, we learn so much from you guys!
Alexis and Lilian Yeah! And yeah I got replied! 😆 I guess my English is quite understandable then:) Sending love from Beijing💕
Gender reveal party: exists
intersex baby: am I a joke to you
Fun, light-hearted video in these dark, difficult times! 😊 more of the same please! 😁
We’re glad you enjoyed it! 😊 Thank you
Especially liked the bit about straight women crashing and annexing lesbian bars for bachelorette parties! What is that all about!! 😆
I certainly won't be endorsing my friend's request to go to a lesbian bar on her hen (as we call it here in the UK! :)) night. Especially not wielding fake penis swords!! 😁 good point though about encroaching on safe space. It is a valid point.
4:53 to 5:00 i never in my life did any thing like that. but before my son was born i always knew he was gonna be a boy. my ex didn't care either because had a daughter years ago but she's not mine.
p.s. my ex's family is like that (blue, boy. pink, girl) i known my family is not like that
They could just say expecting instead of pregnant, that works for both/all partners.
And I like how we initials of Ana Luisa match your initials.
The "real sex" one is so important! Because this kind of perception of what sex is devalues any kind of sex with no penetration involved - like, whut?!
Ladies, obviously you never heard of the "pregnant " man in the US.
Lilian looks like lolly from OITNB😅🤣!
I think bachelorette parties in general are kind of weird
Ahahahaha the 'we didnt have sex' xD
An example of girls who are straight but act gay as a joke: cheerleader from my school posted a pic of her and her best friend dressed up to go to homecoming, and kissing.The caption was "going to homecoming with my girlfriend, :ring emoji:" yes this post actually exists, no she is not gay.
Lol. “we are pregnant”... Yes I have to say I have heard this lately from people and gee it’s confusing... and wired
Or when they find out your gay and staight friends profess their straightness and they would never feel like that and you don't know how to tell them you are not attracted to them. Thanks you both are great!
About the "both being pregnant at the same time": there's a Belgian basketballplayer Ann Wauters who actually did that with her wife. Ann gave birth 1 month after her wife did. Apparently it was a very positive experience for them.
I completely agree straight ladies and saying girlfriend or partner it confusing so true.
Ahhaah i love Lilian acting as a guy
I love you guys..im your silent fan....keep safe too..
God blessed 🙏
In defense of the term partner, I felt kind of stupid calling my ex my boyfriend, given I was over 35 (and feel icky when older people call them boyfriend/girlfriend in a non satire way).
And I hate the dick thing in a bachelorette party, she's going to see the same one for years, not swear off them!
This is so accurate 😂👏. Thank you for putting a smile on my face! Xxx
Funny. My ex wife came out late life 7 years ago So I find this hilarious
It’s all in good fun! Thanks
Ugh I really hate when straight girls say girlfriend
🤣❤ Thanks for making us laugh! Awesome video and the bloopers: haha so good
best part was you ending bloopers , was howling!!
"Just because I'm into women doesn't mean to I'm into every woman" oh yes, finally someone said it, i don't like this attitude of straight people. Yeah i'm into women but i'm not into you. What type of self-esteem is this?!
OMG the PARTNER thang!!! That's the one that's at the top of the list for me 🙈🙈
Greats and I must say ORIGINAL content 👍👍🏳️🌈. Welcome to Canada, just be always vigilant...💖
I love your videos, and you 2 are so cute together. Miso is adorable also. I have a question for you, if I may. Which les dating app(s) on Google play would you recommend?(if any)
LMAO when you start buttoning u your shirt HAHAHHAHA @9:40
wow that's one of the best videos I've seen, super spot on, thanks girls!
As a straight women I'd never think of gay people when I chat about my girl friends
👏👏👏👏👍👍😁😁 you ladies are so right I agree with you 💯🌻🌻🌻🌻 good job ladies
So, my conclusion is... I fooling around with my "girlfriends" A LOT (!! 😏😏
PS: For more gay bars in the world! 🙌🏻 These are our temples for be ourselves 🤗
I love all yours videos, girls! 💖
4:06 Alexis sounds exactly like my Broseph and I when we go to Lady Gaga concerts!! 😃
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Another one from Germany: Lebensabschnittspartner Lebensabschnitf = phase of life - partner. I really saw someone using this! Though most people don't! ...We ... found out it's dumb...
I love men and sexually attracted to them,but i cognitively and emotionally have a hard time finding a connection.i am very aware and love balance in my relationships,alot of men seem to not care as much or want to contribute effort where needed. Mentally and emotionally I love women sexually attracted though to men. I find women beautiful and have had my moments when younger...i just dont know anymore
In Spanish there are gender endings, еg amigo(m) and amiga (f). In Russian there are also endings and prefixes to identify the gender - друг ( m), ПОдругА (f), but what should I do if i want to spcify that my friend is female. If calling a girlfriend is not ok, than calling her my female friend sounds akward
Lol, may be a hot take but for people who are bilingual English/Spanish, saying "pareja" is pretty normal and neutral way in Spain which avoids having to define the relationship (girlfriend, fiancé, wife, fbuddy etc.). And among married people, the popular word for wife ("mi mujer") is a bit jarring for an English speakers (literally translates to "my woman"). There is an alternative that is common in Mexico ("mi esposa") which is understood widely but to be honest a lot of young people just say "pareja" -especially if it's a long term relationship (e.g. live-in relationship). ... So translating that to english as "my partner" is pretty natural.
...especially when referring to *someone else's* significant other when you don't know the situation (or don't care) and just need a direct/indirect object in a sentence. E.g. when you're telling a story about having a long week and your partner surprises you with a romantic weekend getaway ... stopping to clarify gender seems a bit irrelevant. I'm pretty sure the feeling of "damn, how sweet" is genderless haha
Oh I really hate that “real sex” thing, I mean wtf, you’re doing sexual stuff 😂, (and hopefully enjoying it) soooo ... where’s the problem to just except that there are different kinds of having sex... Someone once said “If someone is cumming - that’s sex” and I can relate to this. It’s so rude to say that only penetration is sex. Ugh 🙄🙄🙄😂
you two are funny
you're so totally right about the sex thing, it's sooo confusing. It's like you do all the things with a man except penetration and it is not sex for anyone then you do it with a woman and it suddenly becomes sex, like wtf.. so when exactly did i have sex for the first time? XD with woman, even if i did the same thing with a guy before? it's REEEALLY confusing