I really enjoy these types of videos, especially now that I'm awaiting my own diagnosis. Both of my brothers have ADHD and at least half my uncles and an aunt, my father likely has autism and my half-sister too. I've never considered myself hyperactive, but with your explanations so in-depth I now don't think I'd be surprised if I was diagnosed AuDHD. Girls are great at masking autism, it makes sense that AHDH would affect them differently than males, also. Thank you for a great explanation of this, again I really appreciate it. I'm trying to absorb as much info as I can so I can go in to my diagnosis prepared, and your videos (including your experiences through childhood) have made me remember so much that I'd pushed to the back of my mind.
Thanks for explaining the three subtypes. I mentioned the possibility of ADHD to a neuropsychologist, who only looked at the second/third type and abruptly dismissed me. Hearing the DSM criteria for inattentive ADHD, that describes me to a "T" along with my autism diagnosis so that AuDHD must be my special mixture. Thanks for clearing through the mud! Happy holidays and an awesome new year to you.
Great video. I really enjoy your content because I find your explanations concise and articulated very well. It’s easy for me to follow and you always get straight to the point. I’ve been learning a lot. Happy new year!
Thank you for your recommendation on the ADHD course, I'm on week 3 of the understanding autism course and have just joined this one too. Excited that you can do more than one at a time!
I've said this before but it bears repeating - I really love the way you explain everything and share things I haven't heard in other videos. Thank you for being you and all of the work you put into making these videos, you are so appreciated!
Re. emotional instability and masking-personally, I mask emotional expression pretty thoroughly. I'm usually aiming for "calm" and from the reports of others I'm pretty good at it. That leaves a bit of a blank canvas onto which others can project-they may figure out I'm masking something, but they don't know what and the hidden emotions or motivations they guess at tell me something about them, them nothing about me. Where it gets confusing is how this relates to the concept of emotional regulation. It's easy to construct an interpretation in which emotional instability plus effective masking *is* emotional regulation. I can't tell to what extent other people have that interpretation, but I think most of what people say about emotional regulation is entirely consistent with it. Personally, I find that interpretation intolerable, but don't know what alternative(s) may exist.
This is really well put, I think a lot of us end up making ourselves into blank canvasses on which others can project or paint what they want to, and at times it even suits us for that to be the case. The second part of what you say is really interesting; I don't really have a response at the moment but I'm mulling and it's challenging. Thanks for this.
You're in a new location. I don't know how I feel about this change... JK 😂 Excellent video I'm looking forward to the next one on benefits of ADHD Merry Christmas 🎄
Airbnb! Merry Christmas to you too - I've been offline for a bit, I can see I have content of yours to binge! Looking forward to it - and to an outstanding 2024 to come for all of us!
I need to watch your videos as I recently found you via Neurodiverjennt. I'm very similar it appears. I'm AuDHD diagnosed too in 2021 and I'm a similar age also. So yeah I do appreciate someone I can relate to uploading videos on here. Thanks. Happy Christmas and New Year
Driving directions are the worst. I struggle to remember names after hundreds of reminders, so street names and suburbs are meaningless. Landmarks work ok if I have seen them a few times. I still struggle with friends names sometimes even after decades. One of my close friends is called Emily, I often call her Emma. Her husbands name I got wrong to her face a week ago. Known him for 10 years. But I can remember all the lyrics to the entire Kate Bush back catalogue. 🎉
@@autumnpendergast9151 For me, friends' kids names. Just. Won't. Stick. After years. It's really embarrassing. But yeah, song lyrics off obscure album tracks I haven't heard for decades will absolutely trip off my tongue with no hesitation. Just came to me, but left and right and map difficulties can be quite common is dyscalculia apparently, another ND sprinkle - how are you with numbers?
@@amineurodivergent i am utterly terrible with numbers! I was ok with math up until about year 7 (1st form) and then I spiralled whrn they started adding in symbols and concepts beyond plus and minus, and was put in what we called "veggie maths" here in Australia. Ironically I am a seamstress (amongst my 8 million skills), so I use numbers and measurements a LOT and can visualise 2D shapes as 3D (as well as in time and space, even though I don't understand them), I can magic sewing patterns out of pinned scraps. I can see a completed project in a few scribbles or bits of fabric. A good eg, I made tailored costumes for my dance troupe recently. Sent a mock up of the costume, in the wrong colours etc, to my co teachers (I was wearing it in a photo). They were very reticent and I was thinking, "But it is AWESOME", because they couldn't see what I could see. Of course they were utterly thrilled with the finished, perfectly fitting outfits in the beautiful colours. BUT! do not expect me to remember your birthday, address or digits or know how to do times tables. I still use my fingers and ask my bestest friends what number their house is. I laugh a lot because it really is funny being so clever but in such an "odd" way. I do delight a bit in surprising people who think I am stupid with how talented I am. And how humble I can be 😄 recently an older man, engineer, said, "You think very highly of yourself" and I said "Yep, because I am amazing, and guess what, I'm an engineer too!". Poor bugger was beside himself.
Merry Christmas to you too! Very useful video, much appreciated. I already have my autism identification, but I know I’m also ADHDer. Everything you mentioned there really makes sense to me and I identify with many of the traits you mentioned. Thank so much for your hard work ❤
I'm autistic but not adhd. My son is,though, so I try to learn more about it. The way you're describing it really reminds me of my son. I'm sending him the link. I hope he watches it.
Ah good, yeah hopefully these can be useful for people living with folk with ADHD too. I'm well aware (many, not all, of us) can be a little hard work on occasions, so hoping this increases understanding for non-ADHDers as well as ADHDers too. Cheers and hope you're well!
@@amineurodivergent thanks. He's all grown up and on his own. I'm not so easy to live with either. We had some rough spots for sure but we're good now. 😄👍👍
I heard a theory that immigration from Europe to the United States selected for people with ADHD. (I.e. European individuals who were more restless were more likely to go to America.) And that is why the U.S. has a higher rate of ADHD. (I don't think its actually true. But its an interesting theory.)
That is actually a really interesting theory! Kind of chimes with a long-standing Scottish trope - that the Scots used to be a nation of geniuses and inventors and intellectuals and entrepreneurs, then all the bright Scots emigrated to America and left behind all the doomsters and nay-sayers at the docks shaking their heads saying "this willnae work..." 🤣
Don’t you dare edit those comments out! 1) That’s 100% authentic you, 2) They’re funny, 3) Editing takes effort, 4) Sometimes offhanded comments like that switch my adhd brain into a new mode and I just see things a little differently, which can be magical, and 5) You’d be denying me opportunities to make silly jokes back. One take wonders FTW! Enjoy your day and take it easy 🎄🤶
🤔 inattentive type: 2-4-5-6-7-8-9 well they can figure that out when they do the ASD assessment hopefully somewhere next year.... ADHD didn't ring true before I heard you list the criteria. As I'm very good at being in one spot for very long times if not forced to move because of sensory issues or social pressure.
@@amineurodivergent I'm a trained psychologist. I did my study in 2001-2005. We were then learned that Autism (ASD wasn't a diagnosis then) and ADHD usually did not combine. I just looked at the changes between DSM-IV and Desmet for ADHD and the way it was phrased makes it really not relatable for an adult.
@@toaojjc I know - things are developing really quickly on gaining a greater understanding between the connectivity of all this at the moment, where it was lacking previously. As frustrating as it all is not to have known a lot of this stuff previously, it's also kind of exciting times we're in right now I think as it all seems to be accelerating.
I really enjoy these types of videos, especially now that I'm awaiting my own diagnosis. Both of my brothers have ADHD and at least half my uncles and an aunt, my father likely has autism and my half-sister too. I've never considered myself hyperactive, but with your explanations so in-depth I now don't think I'd be surprised if I was diagnosed AuDHD. Girls are great at masking autism, it makes sense that AHDH would affect them differently than males, also. Thank you for a great explanation of this, again I really appreciate it. I'm trying to absorb as much info as I can so I can go in to my diagnosis prepared, and your videos (including your experiences through childhood) have made me remember so much that I'd pushed to the back of my mind.
Thanks for commenting, I'm really glad these have helped!
AuDHD here. Inattentive subtype diagnosis. NGL, got distracted about 3 minutes in, but great video none the less - thanks :)
Thanks for explaining the three subtypes. I mentioned the possibility of ADHD to a neuropsychologist, who only looked at the second/third type and abruptly dismissed me. Hearing the DSM criteria for inattentive ADHD, that describes me to a "T" along with my autism diagnosis so that AuDHD must be my special mixture. Thanks for clearing through the mud! Happy holidays and an awesome new year to you.
Glad it was useful - frustrating to hear (again) of such basic misunderstandings in care provision, and hope you have a good 2024 to come!
Great video. I really enjoy your content because I find your explanations concise and articulated very well. It’s easy for me to follow and you always get straight to the point. I’ve been learning a lot. Happy new year!
Thank you - happy new year to you too!
Thank you for your recommendation on the ADHD course, I'm on week 3 of the understanding autism course and have just joined this one too. Excited that you can do more than one at a time!
I've said this before but it bears repeating - I really love the way you explain everything and share things I haven't heard in other videos. Thank you for being you and all of the work you put into making these videos, you are so appreciated!
Thank you - what a really lovely comment!
Re. emotional instability and masking-personally, I mask emotional expression pretty thoroughly. I'm usually aiming for "calm" and from the reports of others I'm pretty good at it. That leaves a bit of a blank canvas onto which others can project-they may figure out I'm masking something, but they don't know what and the hidden emotions or motivations they guess at tell me something about them, them nothing about me.
Where it gets confusing is how this relates to the concept of emotional regulation. It's easy to construct an interpretation in which emotional instability plus effective masking *is* emotional regulation. I can't tell to what extent other people have that interpretation, but I think most of what people say about emotional regulation is entirely consistent with it. Personally, I find that interpretation intolerable, but don't know what alternative(s) may exist.
This is really well put, I think a lot of us end up making ourselves into blank canvasses on which others can project or paint what they want to, and at times it even suits us for that to be the case. The second part of what you say is really interesting; I don't really have a response at the moment but I'm mulling and it's challenging. Thanks for this.
You're in a new location. I don't know how I feel about this change...
JK 😂
Excellent video I'm looking forward to the next one on benefits of ADHD
Merry Christmas 🎄
Airbnb! Merry Christmas to you too - I've been offline for a bit, I can see I have content of yours to binge! Looking forward to it - and to an outstanding 2024 to come for all of us!
I need to watch your videos as I recently found you via Neurodiverjennt. I'm very similar it appears. I'm AuDHD diagnosed too in 2021 and I'm a similar age also.
So yeah I do appreciate someone I can relate to uploading videos on here. Thanks. Happy Christmas and New Year
Thanks, really pleased they're useful! Happy Christmas and New Year to you too.
Driving directions are the worst. I struggle to remember names after hundreds of reminders, so street names and suburbs are meaningless. Landmarks work ok if I have seen them a few times. I still struggle with friends names sometimes even after decades. One of my close friends is called Emily, I often call her Emma. Her husbands name I got wrong to her face a week ago. Known him for 10 years. But I can remember all the lyrics to the entire Kate Bush back catalogue. 🎉
Sometimes I forget which side of the road to drive on. And left and right is a huge issue.
@@autumnpendergast9151 For me, friends' kids names. Just. Won't. Stick. After years. It's really embarrassing. But yeah, song lyrics off obscure album tracks I haven't heard for decades will absolutely trip off my tongue with no hesitation. Just came to me, but left and right and map difficulties can be quite common is dyscalculia apparently, another ND sprinkle - how are you with numbers?
@@amineurodivergent i am utterly terrible with numbers! I was ok with math up until about year 7 (1st form) and then I spiralled whrn they started adding in symbols and concepts beyond plus and minus, and was put in what we called "veggie maths" here in Australia. Ironically I am a seamstress (amongst my 8 million skills), so I use numbers and measurements a LOT and can visualise 2D shapes as 3D (as well as in time and space, even though I don't understand them), I can magic sewing patterns out of pinned scraps. I can see a completed project in a few scribbles or bits of fabric. A good eg, I made tailored costumes for my dance troupe recently. Sent a mock up of the costume, in the wrong colours etc, to my co teachers (I was wearing it in a photo). They were very reticent and I was thinking, "But it is AWESOME", because they couldn't see what I could see. Of course they were utterly thrilled with the finished, perfectly fitting outfits in the beautiful colours.
BUT! do not expect me to remember your birthday, address or digits or know how to do times tables. I still use my fingers and ask my bestest friends what number their house is.
I laugh a lot because it really is funny being so clever but in such an "odd" way. I do delight a bit in surprising people who think I am stupid with how talented I am. And how humble I can be 😄 recently an older man, engineer, said, "You think very highly of yourself" and I said "Yep, because I am amazing, and guess what, I'm an engineer too!". Poor bugger was beside himself.
Merry Christmas to you too! Very useful video, much appreciated. I already have my autism identification, but I know I’m also ADHDer. Everything you mentioned there really makes sense to me and I identify with many of the traits you mentioned. Thank so much for your hard work ❤
Great, really glad this resonated and thanks so much for your comment - I appreciate it!
Really useful and digestible info. Looking forward to hearing the rest of the series. Merry Christmas to you 🎁
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Thanks, and to you - I'm going to try to get the rest of the ADHD vids up in a relatively timely fashion!
I'm autistic but not adhd. My son is,though, so I try to learn more about it.
The way you're describing it really reminds me of my son. I'm sending him the link. I hope he watches it.
Ah good, yeah hopefully these can be useful for people living with folk with ADHD too. I'm well aware (many, not all, of us) can be a little hard work on occasions, so hoping this increases understanding for non-ADHDers as well as ADHDers too. Cheers and hope you're well!
@@amineurodivergent thanks. He's all grown up and on his own. I'm not so easy to live with either. We had some rough spots for sure but we're good now. 😄👍👍
@@shoshanafox727 Excellent, really pleased to hear. A key lesson also forgotten sometimes is ND + good environment = good outcomes!
Hey you did post one more this year! Merry Christmas!
Yep - Merry Christmas to you and yours too!
I heard a theory that immigration from Europe to the United States selected for people with ADHD. (I.e. European individuals who were more restless were more likely to go to America.) And that is why the U.S. has a higher rate of ADHD.
(I don't think its actually true. But its an interesting theory.)
That is actually a really interesting theory! Kind of chimes with a long-standing Scottish trope - that the Scots used to be a nation of geniuses and inventors and intellectuals and entrepreneurs, then all the bright Scots emigrated to America and left behind all the doomsters and nay-sayers at the docks shaking their heads saying "this willnae work..." 🤣
Happy Christmas!
Thanks - you too!
I had never thought of my ASD and Autism bumping uglies before and now feel like I’m gonna struggle to look either of them in the eye 👀
🤣 yeah sometimes comments come that weren't entirely planned but b/c I can't be arsed editing it's just the one take that remains, 🤣
Don’t you dare edit those comments out! 1) That’s 100% authentic you, 2) They’re funny, 3) Editing takes effort, 4) Sometimes offhanded comments like that switch my adhd brain into a new mode and I just see things a little differently, which can be magical, and 5) You’d be denying me opportunities to make silly jokes back. One take wonders FTW!
Enjoy your day and take it easy 🎄🤶
@@McSquiggins204 🤣thanks - you too!
🤔 inattentive type: 2-4-5-6-7-8-9 well they can figure that out when they do the ASD assessment hopefully somewhere next year....
ADHD didn't ring true before I heard you list the criteria. As I'm very good at being in one spot for very long times if not forced to move because of sensory issues or social pressure.
Interesting - yeah, having both is really, really common but the professionals only worked that out pretty recently in the overall scheme of things!
@@amineurodivergent I'm a trained psychologist. I did my study in 2001-2005. We were then learned that Autism (ASD wasn't a diagnosis then) and ADHD usually did not combine. I just looked at the changes between DSM-IV and Desmet for ADHD and the way it was phrased makes it really not relatable for an adult.
@@toaojjc I know - things are developing really quickly on gaining a greater understanding between the connectivity of all this at the moment, where it was lacking previously. As frustrating as it all is not to have known a lot of this stuff previously, it's also kind of exciting times we're in right now I think as it all seems to be accelerating.