'I've not moved on' - Rio Ferdinand shares his struggle with grief - BBC Stories

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  • @kieranbrooks4498
    @kieranbrooks4498 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    lost my kids mom to cancer in February 2019, man its hard to talk to the kids about her. your inspiring bro. learnt a lot from you. keep your chin up! god bless

  • @jdgafmyob3573
    @jdgafmyob3573 7 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    IF RIO DOESN'T WIN THE BBC SPORTS PERSONALITY OF THE YEAR AWARD IT'LL BE SHOCKING

    • @jjj5647
      @jjj5647 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      no doubt Ryan Giggs will win it again !

  • @Drenwickification
    @Drenwickification 7 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    I was shocked to hear that Rio's mum died last week, at such a young age of 58 again from cancer. I'd imagine after the death of his partner she had been a big help with his kids and being a female role model to them.
    Such a horrendous 2 years for him, I hope his fortunes improve

    • @ergertkurtaj8665
      @ergertkurtaj8665 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Cheated on he’s wife with 10 women while she was dying

  • @happyhour6447
    @happyhour6447 7 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Greetings from Serbia Rio we love you!!

  • @vickihawk1347
    @vickihawk1347 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I cried whilst reading the book

  • @tyclonex8071
    @tyclonex8071 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    To those who have lost the ‘ONE’
    My wife was in hospital with lupus for months also before she passed away in May 2017. 17 years together and less than a week away from our 9 year marriage anniversary. She was 35 years young. If you want to keep your ring on your finger, that's fine. We all deal with grief in different ways. I don't believe you would be dishonoring her by taking it off. Although I don't feel complete without it on. She chose and bought it for me. It's very unique and says a lot about who she is. I myself cannot see the ring coming off. I believe that it empowers me to dedicate every waking hour and every breath to completing her list of things she wanted to do before she was sick. This doesn't hold me back from moving forward at all. It's incredibly difficult for me too. Grown man crying. It's normal. I hate saying this. I thought everything was going to change and being a 37 year old male and not knowing what to do in this harsh world after you have lost the 'one' and finding it hard to deal with change...I believe she told me somehow, maybe in a dream or in the back of my mind, "Honey, my husband, our plans haven't changed. The only difference is the path you take to get there." This is not something I would come up with myself. I like to think she inspired me. Also, when I felt I couldn't go on, I believe that she gave me these words, "If not for you, then do it for others." So I decided to join a lupus awareness group. I designed and ordered several hundred wristbands to #rememberben (Ben is her TH-cam nick name) and #lupuswarrior promoting research of lupus with donations and funds going straight in to charity. I feel that things like this will make her eternal. Victoria Police in Australia also registered a star in her honor. This way, even after I am gone, her legacy will live on forever. DO these small things which will keep you busy. Although she is not physically next to you be rest assured that you are devoting your love to her as if she were. May I leave you with these words - once again I do not know where these words come from. Maybe somehow, it took a shock to my entire system and turned my whole world upside down to be inspired to write like this..."Whilst trying to cope, you will not forget her. You will only become stronger." If you would like to show your support Instagram #rememberben #lupuswarriorben It would mean the world to us. Thank you again and please, be strong.

    • @sasset-uk1987
      @sasset-uk1987 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awww don't take it off. Even if you move on one day just put it on the opposite hand. I've been with my partner 13 years. And god forbid anything happens to one off is I could never take my ring off. You will away share somthing special to the day you die also. Keep the memories alive. because she is in your heart. ❤️❤️❤️🙏

  • @VelcroKittie
    @VelcroKittie 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My heart is absolutely breaking for Rio right now with the news of his Mum's death. God...I cannot watch this clip and not cry. He is such a hero

    • @OllieGrigg
      @OllieGrigg 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Cheated on his his wife on numerous occasions, was a pretty terrible husband when she was alive

  • @JohnCambridge-c6t
    @JohnCambridge-c6t 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm with you rio I have lost loved ones to cancer its sole destroying rip to your wife and mother

  • @juldemiray
    @juldemiray 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He's a strong guy and will give it a place eventually and give his kids the best life they can get

  • @Nicklessization
    @Nicklessization 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Big Respect. RIO...From Arsenal fan.

  • @billybrook3522
    @billybrook3522 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    im not a football fan but you or a good man im so sorry for u may god be wit u wit fresh breeze on your face and glory is wit in u I can see it

  • @kylemain7752
    @kylemain7752 7 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    sorry for your loss rio hope you find closure one day your a great person all the best for the future

  • @wendyallen1244
    @wendyallen1244 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel ,exactly the same, I bring up my grandson, Rio, and this video has helped, I'm 8 years in lost my daughter, but iv got 2 b strong 4 Rio. So I would say he saved me.But iv not properly grieved, as Rio only has me and his Grandad, so I just get on with life, when my baby, Billie jane, comes into my head heart, I just shake it off, but always keep her memories alive 4 Rio.Its hard Rio, ur doing a great job , keep talking about her, memories are important to children, they soon forget them.and ask lots of very hard questions, But my rios doing ok now , in a fashion. Hope u are all getting there, TERRIBLE , thing 2 loose mum.,👼🤔👍

  • @seraphinaukeleghe1181
    @seraphinaukeleghe1181 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    the way people have spoken about this man, knowing what he's been through is absolutely disgusting, until you've lost a spouse and been left to care for the children left behind you will never appreciate the depth of pain. respectfully, if you can't find compassion anywhere in your heart, keep your mouth off of things you know nothing about.

  • @FootballInstagramStories
    @FootballInstagramStories 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    *oo i love Rio Ferdinand 💛*

  • @YaoGamers
    @YaoGamers 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    oh rio :(, my heart goes out to ya, even though u will never read this

    • @scotgod1
      @scotgod1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yao Gamers you ducking fool he cheating on her at least 20 plus times you stupid stupid fool of a person he never loved her that much

    • @YaoGamers
      @YaoGamers 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      ? Who u talking about fella ?

    • @wendyallen1244
      @wendyallen1244 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      He does, he replied, 2 me Rios story , on u tube, my grandson. Watch if u like. 👍

  • @davidpowell9629
    @davidpowell9629 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing 🙏🙏

  • @JohnSmith-sw6uv
    @JohnSmith-sw6uv 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Had countless affairs, shocking how brazen he is

  • @daveclark3337
    @daveclark3337 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That is the horrible thing with life .. you're floating along all happy and BANG you get kicked to the ground. It can be so bad.

  • @braveheartshininglight821
    @braveheartshininglight821 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💜💜💜💜💜💜

  • @JohnSmith-sw6uv
    @JohnSmith-sw6uv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    How many affairs did he have again?

    • @Maz-zb9uf
      @Maz-zb9uf 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did he cheat

  • @kb9072
    @kb9072 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Maybe it's the guilt of cheating on his wife with 10 women.

    • @B0nnylassy
      @B0nnylassy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This makes no sense. If you’ve nothing kind to say then why bother?

    • @kb9072
      @kb9072 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@B0nnylassy
      What! Nobody should call out hipocricsey. GROW UP !!

    • @B0nnylassy
      @B0nnylassy 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kb9072 you’re the one that needs to grow up. You’re clearly the odd one out here. Go join some kind of hate group and get your anger out there where it’ll be appreciated. Loser

    • @kb9072
      @kb9072 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@B0nnylassy
      I'm not hating at all. Rio comes from my area and I even know Anton. Respect him totally for what he has achieved in football.
      What I don't like is he cheated on his wife by his own admission with 10 different women.
      Surely with her dying young there must be some guilt. He'd be very strange if there was no guilt. Yet it's never discussed or acknowledged.
      The truth is the truth.

    • @B0nnylassy
      @B0nnylassy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kb9072 these are videos that his kids will no doubt click on at some point. It’s unnecessary to make those comments. Achieving nothing

  • @servant_symm
    @servant_symm 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I DONT CARE HOW HARD YOU TNINK THIS SHIT IS ITLL NEVER TOUH TEH GRIEF AND EMOTION TRAUMA OF LOSING A BORTHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHER

  • @DavieBee1988
    @DavieBee1988 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    everyone is forgetting he cheated on his dying wife with a teenager

  • @jjj5647
    @jjj5647 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    It was all over the media that he tried to take out a super injunction to prevent the woman he was having an affair with from telling her story. If he was so in love with his wife why would he cheat on her. Is the grief merely his way of not being able to cope with treating his wife so badly!

    • @alihassanarshad7
      @alihassanarshad7 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      paul Bailey You okay mate?

    • @jjj5647
      @jjj5647 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am good thanks - just commenting why if someone loved their wife so much why they would have an affair - that is all.

    • @jjj5647
      @jjj5647 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      oh ... how are you Ali ?

    • @alihassanarshad7
      @alihassanarshad7 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      paul Bailey I'm good mate. Just minding my own business and letting a man grieve for his wife. But heh I must be wrong doing that I guess.

    • @jjj5647
      @jjj5647 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      and if Rio wants to mourn in public - that is his choice and others then have a right to comment - which I am sure you will have no problem with either. If he wanted privacy he could have had that if he wanted it - but he didn't.

  • @startracker5895
    @startracker5895 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Well he's certainly moved on now. How is Kate Wright Rio? And didn't he cheat on his wife anyway? Can't really feel sorry for him. I just feel sorry for her poor kids.

    • @68iansutton
      @68iansutton 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Star tracker so he can’t have another partner because his wife passed away? Heaven forbid you lose your partner and try and find happiness again. The cheating rumours were just rumours and it was never proved. Leave the man to grieve and get on with his life!

    • @68iansutton
      @68iansutton 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Tommy Dunne were you there then? 😂

    • @68iansutton
      @68iansutton 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Tommy Dunne man you need to chill. Less of the name calling. Just a little debate thats all.

    • @68iansutton
      @68iansutton 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Tommy Dunne calling me a deluded bell end

    • @moyaosullivan3153
      @moyaosullivan3153 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@68iansutton he did cheat on her multiple times and he didn't deny it. He went to court to try and stop the tabloids publishing the stories but he didn't even deny that they were true, just said the papers were invading his privacy. He also talks in the book about her death about how he cheated on her

  • @tarmacwarrior7571
    @tarmacwarrior7571 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    got caught 5 times cheating on her

    • @markwillmore4107
      @markwillmore4107 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      And the drug taking,
      Rio the face, I'm a bad boy, and when he realised he run back to fergie boss boss hid me

  • @thefreshforce
    @thefreshforce 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i feel sorry for rio. but i guess he could come out of retirement? having too much time on your hands isnt healthy for him. he needs the sport to keep his mind off things

    • @craigmiller2101
      @craigmiller2101 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ryan Tan shut the fuck up

    • @lfcshanks2017
      @lfcshanks2017 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ryan Tan he works as a tv pundit and has kids to look after he doesn't have much time on his hands.

    • @Kashmachine10
      @Kashmachine10 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ryan Tan look what he's doing now

  • @markwillmore4107
    @markwillmore4107 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yeh didn't take long for replacement to get rid of grivement,
    Trust me the new model is all hands free
    Only rio knows the truth on how he feels
    It's wicked blud
    But that's for me

  • @Natrfc1Watp
    @Natrfc1Watp 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    He cheated on her

  • @nwong4594
    @nwong4594 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Isn't this the guy that beat Ulrika Johnson (his then girlfriend) to a pulp years ago?

    • @66kaisersoza
      @66kaisersoza 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You mean stan collymore

    • @wickedwitchoftheeast88
      @wickedwitchoftheeast88 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      N that was Stan Collymore and that was back in the 90s