Couple more things to add, if I may Erin, re. suits (for men): 1. CUT OFF THE TAG ON THE SLEEVE! 2. If you can afford it (it’s a lot, but worth every penny), get a tailored suit. If you can’t afford that, buy off the rack, and take to a tailor for adjustments. Buy it in charcoal grey - it will go with everything, so you only need one (also everyone else going for interview will be wearing navy blue, for some reason). Single-breasted, two-button, notch collar, double vents at the back. But on the top button only (but unbutton it when you sit down). Pocket flaps should be OUT (but keep pockets stitched up). Ticket pocket (small extra pocket on right, for a train ticket) is a nice touch. Bonus points if you actually use it for a train ticket (you can unstitch it for this purpose!). Don’t go three-button, double-breasted, wing collar, or waistcoat for an interview - it’s too much. In the unlikely event that you need to pin something to your lapel, use the lapel buttonhole (that’s what it’s there for). 3. Shirt: white, cutaway collar (use collar stiffeners, plastic are better then metal ones, so you can fold them up slightly at the end, making sure the collar doesn’t curl over), double cuffs (either silver cufflinks (engraved with your initials) if you can afford, or silk knots (very cheap) if not - they should complement, but not match, the tie). Royal Oxford weave is best. An expensive shirt can (partially) make up for a cheaper suit. Bonus: when you don’t know what to do with your hands, just pull at your cuffs slightly 4. Tie: dark colour, either plain, or diagonal stripes. Max two colours. NOT black (a black tie is for a funeral only). Don’t go skinny 5. Tie knot: Double Windsor is a bit showy; go with a simple knot, slanted to (your) right-hand-side, and add a dimple. Should reach your waist, and thick end should be longer 6. Pocket square: classy touch, go with white to match shirt, or one that complements (but does not _match_ ) the tie 6. Tie pin: I like them, but may seem a bit showy. Slide on from (your) right-hand-side. Dark grey would be more subtle than silver 7. Trousers: buy two pairs if it’s a tailored suit - they’ll wear out faster 8. Shoes: black. Always black. Pointy is better. POLISH THEM 9. Belt: black, to match the shoes, silver buckle. Keep it simple. Tailored suit trousers may not need one (discuss with your tailor) 10. Watch: keep it simple and understated. Black leather strap, silver bezel. Consider a rectangular face instead of a round one. Doesn’t have to be expensive. Go easy on any jewellery. If you paint your nails, go with black (kidding…sort of) 11. Think again, and go for a tailored (charcoal) suit. It might be the best investment you ever make. You will feel like James Bond, and people will notice. If you think your clothes don’t matter, imagine the reaction if you turned up naked. If you’re wondering why there are so many “rules”, it’s because men’s suits are all basically the same (we don’t get to mix it up like the women), so the devil is in the detail. Remember, _clothes maketh the man._ Good luck, gentlemen.
@@Noahdaz No, I am a man, so I am only giving advice to men. Anyone can wear a suit, but I cannot speak for everyone, hence I am only offering my advice to my own gender. If you are a woman, or non-binary, feel free to follow, or ignore, my advice, at your leisure.
Erin, I love your content, but if there's a part 2 (or any other call to action,) a link in the description or pinned comment is an absolute must. Just wanted to put that on your radar, keep kicking butt!
Before an interview, I used the ladies bathroom. While there, another lady walked in and we had a cordial conversation while washing my hands. As I was introduced to the lady interviewing me; turns out, it was the very same lady from the bathroom! Always be nice to everyone.
Literally my mum was the interviewer and would collect the candidates herself, they’d presume she was a PA etc and it caught alot out for rudeness and weird vibes …. She once even had a guy scream at her in the car park with road rage and then she sat opposite him … he asked to be excused 🤣
LITERALLY this is the comment I came to find, I can’t think of a worse idea than walking around the office block getting sweaty before going in. I’d rather seem eager
@@hazeygrace8142 if you really get sweaty from WALKING for 10 minutes, then you certainly do not walk or exercise even nearly enough. Yes, even if it's a little hot outside.
@@Minecraftrok999 , something tells me you have not been to Florida during a really hot+humid time. It's the humidity that is the killer. I'll take dry heat any day if I have a choice. (Also, I'm really glad that my sis moved from Florida - I am not getting any younger, so a cooler and drier climate is much nicer for visits)
Cool tips! 👍🏽 I like how you point out that these etiquette tips are expected to be taught to you by your family/community. It is one of those things that put people at a disadvantage without even knowing. Because these are unspoken expectations on them, they don't even know they are "messing up" their interview. Great job aiding in information 👏🏽 Many are lucky to have you as a "big sis"
In college sociology class, they called this “social capital”. Pretty much yet another disadvantage if you weren’t born into a privileged family where you just learn these things from birth.
I mean maybe the dresscode, sure. But you can't tell me that you need someone to actually teach you to be on time for your interview and not be an asshole to the receptionist. If you need to be taught that by someone you won't get the job anyway.
@@kaboomsihal1164 That is the point. You will not get the job if you do not know. For your example, someone taught you to do those things. You learned that somewhere. It feels obvious because you have a societal expectation based on your experiences. That is fine for you, but other people may not have that experience.
@@Usedfood004 dude... if "don't be an asshole to people you want something from" is something you have not learned then that's not your parents fault, that just makes you a psychopath. There are many many life lessons people with successful parents and good parenting benefit from. But "Don't be an asshole" isn't one of them. If you watch this video and think "Oh my god I never knew that!" Either you are a psychopath or just incredibly dumb.
Google is also home to a lot of useful information! I didn’t have people to talk to when I was young and also when navigating adulthood, so it was a highly valued resource for me :) there are countless reliable blogs and videos out there for young adults nowadays
I'm security, and HR/dept heads always ask me and the receptionist how the person behaved and what they were doing. Why would they want to work with someone who is nasty to "the help"?
I ran recruitment for a contact centre and absolutely used to get reception/security's opinion. He knew most of the team my department was made of and what sort of personalities would fit. And he was very observant, which helps when you have someone who's being themselves before changing to best behaviour. This is something that I think people sometimes forget. The recruiter is trying to find a good fit for the team. Not only for their sake, but for the interviewee's sake too. If I hired someone who I didn't think would fit the team I could usually predict how soon they'd quit. And that wasn't just bad for morale, for my department the cost of recruiting, training and upskilling staff meant that we didn't break even until they'd been with us for 7 months. Anyone who left before that was a cost to the business. 😉
as an interviewer, I would say I have an alternative for the "suit up" approach since it doesn't work in all industries. In manufacturing, even if you're applying for a job that pays "suit up" $$$, if you show up in a suit you'll come off as a gomer. Instead, hang out near the building around quitting time and get an idea of what people are wearing and dress to match the nicest dressed person you see. Sometimes that means just a polo and kakis!
A lot of times if its not office work a simple nice blouse for ladies or sweater/dress shirt for men with clean ironed slacks will do. Ive gotten office jobs and retail jobs that way because i dont own and will probably never buy a full of suit because Im short as shit and always look like a kid playing dress up 😂
The advice I've heard is dress just slightly nicer than you expect to on the job. For example, in my field is pretty normal to wear a button up and slacks. For interviews, I wear a nicer single color button up and a tie. I've had very good success with that. Admittedly, at this point I've got almost a decade of experience at this point so maybe there are other reasons that I'm getting the job. Also, as a person who has conducted interviews there's nothing wrong with showing up early. 10 minutes is best, but longer isn't a problem. We want people who want to work here. Final tip, the goal is to find a good fit for both sides. Ask questions! See if they are looking for someone with your skills. See if they seem like a good fit for your life. Figure out if you even want to work there. Interviewers typically like it if you ask good questions that make it feel like you are judging the fit. Work is a huge chunk of your life. Find a place you enjoy being. Good luck out there!
@@artemisameretsu6905 even if it is office work, some companies would allow "just wear whatever you want". Our CEO sometimes comes to the office wearing a hawaii shirt and flip flops. Ive never seen my colleague wear jeans, always jogging pants.
Yeah. It's pretty bad. I've been a hiring manager and the amount of weird hoops you're expected to force applicants to jump through is insane. The bosses basically want you to act like working for their company is the greatest thing that could ever happen to you.
With all due respect, I have had to hire for companies before and there is a lot of BS that they expect from people who apply. It really isn't that simple. @@maryann7619
Your last point about interviewer checking out your vibe , my mum used to interview people and she did exactly that. She’d always go to collect the candidates and a lot of the time they would think she was the assistant etc … it caught a lot of people out for being rude to other staff and weird vibes etc She said that when they walked into an empty room and my mum would seat herself opposite it was priceless. 😂
Even if they aren't intentionally checking it out... If they hear later someone in the office being like "That guy who was in here was SO RUDE to me in the elevator" or something, it's going to make a bad impression.
I never get why being eager is a turn off for an interview. If an employer were actually trying to get the most amount of productivity out of their workers they’d want them to like and want the job as much as possible.
@@IJustWant2WatchAnime definitely this. I was young and naive and didn't know this. I didn't know this and ended up burnt out, overworked, and overweight. My mental health struggled. Fixing all this has been quite the challenge.
Overly eager people might also not be a great fit for the team. At some point eagerness can become annoying and a single overmotivated person can't make up for the productivity lost when the rest of the team is constantly annoyed with them.
@@nonchiii4548ngl this reads as a group of lazy coworkers got annoyed that someone who actually wanted to get stuff done came in and ruined the vibe, so they singled them out and blamed their lack of productivity on the one person actually doing stuff. Totally could be wrong but idk
I think it is important to note that we all have different backgrounds. As an immigrant what is considered “professional” definitely varies from culture to culture. This was a hard transition for me as I graduated college and sought my first “real job.” Let me tell you, it’s the soft skills, non verbal behavior, etc. that really counts.
This is a very good point. Cultural differences are important to take into account. Something like looking someone in the eye can vary in it's interpretation based on the cultural/societal expectations.
@gilfhound69 The whole interview process is ableist, and will probably go away. It is set up for discrimination against anyone who doesn't belong to your little same-same club. The interview eliminates autistic people who don't/can't make eye contact. Who don't communicate in the same way as neurotypicals, and aren't looking for a social club, but work. Here is the deal and why the interview is likely to go away. Autistic humans are 141% more productive than allistic/"Normal human beings, and we are the most innovative/creative/problem solvers on the face of this earth. Hiring autistic people actually increases the bottom line exponentially, and the cost of our accommodations is nothing compared to the cost of not hiring us. The tide is changing and corporations are spending millions on how to hire, onboard, and retain autistic people. They are not only after hiring those of us who are verbal, but also non-verbal. They are spending millions on training neurotypicals how to interact and respect us in the workplace. They have no problem giving an autistic person who needs peace and quiet and control of the lights a private office even if they are one of a team of five, and then when the NTs complain they respond that it is an accomodation. You see a private office for a non-management autistic person is way cheaper than having them quit because they can't work out on the "floor". Obviously, there are jobs that we can't do well, like forward-facing jobs dealing with clients or the public. We aren't happy being on phones, and we don't like working in environments where we don't get to control our environment, like lights. Dirty jobs, and generally anything that takes executive functioning (that has nothing to do with being an executive there are lots of autistic CEOs, we thrive in businesses especially where innovation is a huge part of it. NTs thrive in DOING, and we thrive in INNOVATING stuff. Suffice it to say, since the traditional interview eliminates us, the corporate world is starting to create new hiring systems, and it is only a matter of time before you will have to compete with us with our systems. The tables are turning on you, and when that happens do you want me to post that you just need to buckle up buttercup? Actually, accommodations that help autistic people actually help/benefit NTs. Turns out that NTs need NDs to function properly and all people are needed to work together not apart. This is really hard for us because they have a real need for the same-same everything, and don't like anyone who doesn't fit in. Seems like you might need to learn to get along with different people better! So I aimed this at autistic people, but your comment was dripping with micro-aggression racism/culteralism, and I am sure you believe that anyone that isn't your religion needs to change that too to be just like you!
You should always be nice to anyone you're meeting at your workplace, but *especially* to the cleaners. They get overlooked a lot, BUT THEY SEE EVERYTHING😈
Absolutely not just in work but in school as well. I can't tell you how many times being friends with facilities help me get into classrooms to retrieve something I forgot.
Only issue i have with this is business casual. It depends on the type of business you are interviewing for. My husband works for a construction company. They actually said they preferred someone coming in nice jeans and a polo shirt for an interview than someone dressed in business casual. You should dress for the type of job you are going for.
Love the tip about being polite to the receptionist. I used to do reception but also pre-screen all of our applicants. You never know what role someone may play in the hiring process.
I treated my admin like gold because she held the office together. I would have let go 10 others before even thinking of cutting my admin. Be nice to her or you’re out.
@@NoName-tx5wp Idiots who think it gives them status to be rude to everyone who makes less money than them. It's not so common that 'just be nice to everyone' is enough to land a job. But being rude will definitely cost you a lot of potential opportunities.
I got there so early I got there before my interviewer. I had 5 people interviewing me in total but this guy, in the interview, commented that I got there before him and he was honestly impressed. I always always get to work early. It's just always been my thing. I always anticipate traffic/flat tires/etc. I've been with this company for a few yrs now and can always be counted on for reliability. ❤️
I was so lucky growing with a dad who interviews people at his job. He would make me and my siblings do mock interviews with him at the office 😂 hated it at the time but now as an adult, I'm grateful for the early experience
I've been a receptionist, and a supervisor. As a receptionist my supervisor used to ask me about the interview candidate, and I did the same when I became supervisor. You want everyone to vibe, or it becomes a dreaded place to work
Additional advice, when you go into a place of business to fill out an application bring your own pen and a surface to write on, like a notebook or a clipboard. If you fill out the application on site take a seat somewhere out of the way. For instance don't stand at the reception desk or cash register and proceed to fill out your application. You'll be in the way and it looks really bad because you might come off as oblivious, not very bright, clueless or just plain rude. That's not the impression you want to make.
I honestly have not seen any places that have you fill out an application on paper, on-site in a very long time. Did not even think it was a thing anymore. Like for a while some places even had a little computer stationed of to the side so even if you were on-site it was still online. Even that was many years ago. Nowadays I see flyers or signs directing to the website. Some have QR codes so you can theoretically complete them while in the business, but not really the intended purpose. Either way, good tip if you come across it. I always have a pen, carrying around a clipboard might best be reserved for the extremely rare chance this comes up and I know I need to.
@@Jeauxnir Yes, you might have a point there 🙂. A Mom & Pop shop level of business might do just that. There are different levels of digital documentation so the expense is not always cost-prohibitive but any expense is an expense to a small business. I am glad the original comment mentioned a suggestion I was not thinking of, considering how rarely I come across it. Surely, someone finds it useful for their experience.
@@Jeauxnirnot anymore. A lot of smaller businesses use indeed and emails...maybe a Google form if they're fancy. Maybe 10 years ago but nowadays things are changing
_“Why can’t you just get a job? Nobody wants to work these days…”_ Mf I’m trying but I didn’t cut the vents on my suit or something. Might as well be an actor because my autistic ass is not getting hired with all the scripts you need to memorize to get through an interview
Exactly! It's all a game. They want you to jump through all kinds of hoops just to get turned down anyway. And if they do hire you, chances are good you will be abused by the same people who expected you to be nice to everyone.
One thing I'll add to your point about cutting the stitching off the back of the jacket - if you're wearing a brand new button down shirt, iron it or get it pressed at the cleaners beforehand. A lot of people think since it's new and crisp, it's good to go, but it usually still has the crisp fold lines in it from being packaged and it's very obvious that the shirt was recently purchased and thrown on. Good luck to everyone out there on their interviews✌️
actually, it is a good idea to wash all clothing before wearing to take out the chemicals and stuff that the item has from when it was in the factory :=)
Not a job tip but I suggest laundering any new clothes you buy anyway. That way, any residue left on the clothes from manufacturing, shipping, and other shoppers trying it on can be washed off before you wear them and as a bonus they smell "yours" because of your detergent
I agree about being nice to everyone in the building. I was working in the back room while we had people come in for interviews. I would look at each of them walk by just trying to get a feel for my potential coworkers. They all seemed nice enough but we had a girl who walked by the back room door and stopped to say hello to me and goodbye after her interview. My boss and the other interviewer asked me who I thought would be a good fit and I immediately thought of the girl who said hello. She did get the job and even a promotion. We still work together 3 years later
Got my first big girl job because when I turned up the reception team was dealing with a crisis, and I was polite and let them deal with it as I was 10 minutes early. Head receptionist was an institution there, and after my interview marched in and told my interviewer they HAD to hire me.
Thank you for doing this! I am 44 years old and I’ve been in human resources for the last 20 years. I cannot tell you how many people have no idea how to interview especially after Covid you’re doing great work here! FYI, I always ask the people in the lobby what vibe they got.
In my company, those who were hired during and post-COVID never even had to go for an in-person interview ! They were given a choice ! IMO, you get to see so much about the person's character when you are in person and it is soo easy to hide things when doing Zoom type interviews!
I'm gonna be honest, the first tip is exactly what make me get rejected from a job interview once. I applied for a dishwasher position and they literally said I was too dressed up for it. All I did was have light eyeliner and lip balm, black dress pants, a black blouse, a cardigan and dress shoes. Like they were concerned that me putting effort in my appearance for the interview implied I'd be too worried about how I look rather than getting the job done 😅 that's what the interviewer told me at least.
Honestly they probably rejected you for being a remotely attractive (I’m assuming) young woman. They were afraid you wouldn’t last in the role since you probably have better options but they decided to make it seem like it was your mistake for not getting the job.
@@sabias3932 also probably the outdated thinking that someone who is more attractive would be likely to confuse their “joking” for harassment when it probably is just harassment and they don’t want to be told that things they are saying/ doing are wrong
I was 10 minutes late to my interview (I know that's bad, my bus didn't show up), but I called them to let them know I was going to be late, which they appreciated, and I got the job anyway!
Yes. Be nice to everyone in the lobby! U never know who they are. I’ve told hiring managers and executives how rude some people were when they walked in and so they wouldn’t waste their time and we would do a quick meeting and send them on their way.
I used to tell everyone I saw with the back ties still in at job fairs to pull them as an FYI. Didn't want anyone to get judged for not knowing that weirdly specific thing.
My mom always taught me to never look at my phone when I’ve entered the building before an interview. It might be a little outdated with how things are now but I always stick to it.
That's what I was taught in high school, when unless you were a junior or senior you weren't even allowed to use your phone during lunch. Actually had my phone taken away one time in 9th grade. Now whenever I have an interview I keep the phone on silent and put away, look over my resume, and think about what I'll say during the interview
The amount of people that are so rude when they come in for the interview and instantly flip the switch when they meet the interviewer is astronomical... I work front desk for a hotel and I'm often the first one people see... I've had people snap at me when I'm talking to a paying guest, roll their eyes, do the little clear their throat thing while I'm going to inform the interviewer that they're here... And yes, I do pass these things along--
It depends on the backpack. I have a very nice, slim one because I come to interviews with a portfolio and mine slips right in my backpack. I've gotten five job offers in the last month. If you use public transportation sometimes you have to work with what you have.
Just be friendly and act like you already work there (not impersonating, just posture). But this works if you're already mature. If you're a new grad immature kid working with 40yos, be happy and eager. It only takes the first job to gain confidence starting next time.
When I got my first job, the person who interviewed me introduced me to my potential coworkers. I was as polite as possible and as friendly as I could. Being given that the location was having 3 employees, besides their main coordinator, they were relying heavily on the opinion of the other colleagues to make sure there would be a good harmony between them and the person they were employing. Obviously, I didn't know that, so I was acting as I usually would when meeting new people. So I was hyped when I found out that in the process of choosing, I was found to be the most pleasant and liked candidate amongst all who had come to be interviewed. It really makes a difference when you make a first good impression in the place you want to work.
you are the BEST. SO many people do NOT have family or community, and so many MORE have family and community who have never worked anything but blue collar jobs. Thank God for the internet! Also you have an awesome reassuring vibe.
This is wonderful! I really appreciate that you point out that perhaps some people may not have a family or community to teach them these things, but pass no judgment about that. Plus, these are genuinely great tips!
The vent thread on blazers, jackets and coats is a pet peeve. I see everyone walking down the street with them still intact and I just want to snip it off for them. It’s especially funny when you can clearly see they need the vent open to comfortably move with ease, or you see the clothes underneath bunched up
For real. I have worked as a receptionist for years, if you treat me badly or are rude, I will tell the person conducting the interviews. One time a guy coming in for an interview was about 10 minutes late. He asked that I call the interviewer and tell them that I forgot to call when he arrived on time. That's definitely not what I said on the phone!
As an autistic and socially anxious person, I would literally rather go to the dentist and get multiple teeth pulled than sit through a bunch of interviews again, but I know it’s inevitable in the somewhat near future
@@emmib1388 And your comfort with those people does not translate to strangers. I can make eye contact with my partner. It's almost _impossible_ for me to make eye contact with a complete stranger, especially if there are high stakes or pressure.
@@emmib1388that sounds good at first, but a stranger who actually agreed to this might tell you that you did fine no matter what you said just to get you out of their hair. Better to get somebody who you know will straight up say you suck, and tell you why of course
I just had an interview and landed the job but it was so awkward when I went in because I went in and said I had an interview and the girl said "I'll go see if she's ready for you", disappeared, came back and then just went back to work without saying anything to me for quite a while. I just stood around trying not to make weird eye contact with anyone while they were working and then the girl finally told me the interviewer would be out soon. I felt like an idiot standing around for so long doing nothing where everyone could see me.
It's a good time to check any literature on reception tables. It can give you a hint at their corporate culture. Find one that really doesn't agree with your sensibilities, it's a good question to ask when they say "Do you have any questions for us?" REMEMBER You're in control. They need you or they wouldn't be advertising. Little tells can be hidden.
Good tips! One time I was interviewing at an office upstairs with services downstairs. They had someone come greet me and take me up the elevator to the interview. The lady who greeted me turned out to be the boss of my interviewer! So lucky we hit it off and had a lovely conversation before the interview. I think the lady gave a thumbs up to the interviewer as she brought me in to indicate that I was a good candidate! And I got the job! So yes just be a decent person always, even if you are nervous!
Rule #1 whether you are applying for a job -- or you are now an employee -- make sure the receptionist / security guard whoever is at the desk is your friend! That also goes for the person(s) who clean up the place!
I worked in field biology, which required getting dirty hands and being able to handle harsh environmental conditions. I had a professor say to look clean but not too domestic (i.e. no claw manicure, not much obvious makeup, somewhat practical clothing and shoes)
My bosses definitely talk to the receptionists to see what they think of people who come for interviews. That's a real thing! The ladies at the front desk have been in the company for a long time and people respect them and their judgement
I went to my first interview after college and was having mad anxiety sweats and rushed to the bathroom before the interview. Seemingly random woman passes me in the hall (was many businesses in this building) and I just sort of nod at her as I go into the bathroom when she said good morning. Turns out she was the owner where I was interviewing and didn’t get the job even though everyone else loved me.
These really are the basics. I worked a job on the tills in a supermarket for quite a while and I had a 90% success rate predicting who would be hired for various roles, I was the one who directed applicants to the manager most of the time and she always asked- you basically just had to get these bits right and be legal to work in the country to get the job. The ones I was wrong on tended to be nepo situations or we were desperate for staff for some reason.
YES about the friendliness thing!! I’m in engineering and I swear I have gotten most of my positions by 1. having interesting work experiences and 2. By being super super friendly. Your grades matter less than showing that you’re upbeat and excited about the opportunity. However for us-always dress up business professional.
Some times one of the bosses will sit in the lobby just look like they are interviewing more people. So even if no one is there to greet you... don't discount the other interviewees
100% agree. I’m glad our department managers have a keen sense of whether a person will gel and is open to Feedback. A couple ladies came through a department, letting all of us know that they had job interviews , they seem kind of snotty and only wanted to talk to you if they could get something out of you. Needless to say they didn’t get a job. Versus a couple people who came in who seemed kind, personable and confident because they didn’t have to prove anything. Got the job. Surprise surprise!
see my mother hires people as part of her job, but unlike most hirers, she HATES this sort of song and dance. she prefers a resume that says “stocked shelves” over “maintained a neat and welcoming atmosphere that maximized sale potential”, she doesn’t notice how they’re dressed, she doesn’t care if they’re super early or a little late. so her advice doesn’t really apply to the jobs i’ll be applying to in a couple years
My HR worked at the reception during interviews, the receptionist was there but she always acted like the second receptionist, later on she told me that we can access a lot about a person the way they treat support staff.
Disagree on the clothes - it really just depends on the company. Overdressing is as equal of an issue as underdressing, just know what's expected from you. I'm in IT, so if I went to an interview with a blazer, I would be extremely out of place in a workplace that wears hoodies and sneakers to work.
I was always taught to go one level up from what you would wear to that job - so for an IT role I would probably wear a nice blouse/T-shirt and jeans with non-trainer shoes (I’m female)
Yes, I just want to normalize the idea that nice jeans are nice clothes. Wish people didn’t feel the need to spend money they may not have just to interview for a job they really need.
For those with anxiety (like me), I get there twenty minutes early and then I listen to my fav music for ten minutes to get me in the zone and then I head in immediately
Same here for my current job. The initial interviewer and my now manager never even turned on their cameras for the interview (I was not asked to turn mine on either). Ended up in the highest paying job I've ever had.
I do security at a bank HQ and HR and department heads always ask how the interviewee/intern behaved; did they pace the lobby or quietly sit, did they side-eye or mutter under their breath, did they smile or frown, were they polite or rude, etc. One person was quite rude to me and the department head had him removed from the options, because in his words "I don't trust people who are nasty to the security that help keep us safe".
Part of my role at my job is to answer phones which means I have been the first person at the company you have given your impression to even though I have really nothing to do with your interview. And yes, some hiring managers have asked what my impression was and I have been honest. I might have to work with you every day for the next 10yrs. I have no idea if my inputs have had any impact on the manager's decision to hire or not but it's nice that they ask.
Lol and once you work there always be especially friendly with: the janitor, receptionist and security person… these three will get you fired faster and help you more than than your boss/manager
Been a corporate recruiter for over 20 years. Great tips. Except, I've only seen a handful of blazers/suits since Covid, even for manager candidates. I think you need to dress for the company you are applying for.
This is 100% true. Even in retail, we check to see if candidates say hello to everyone on the way to the interview room and already decide if we like them or not.
This is more applicable for careers in a business setting and less for retail or public service jobs. I had an "interview" at a car wash and i wore nice jeans and a nice tshirt with nice boots. Not fancy, but clean and no holes. But being respectful to the staff and being punctual and having standard hygeine is still applicable advice.
These are great tips! I also reccomend if you attend or did attend a US university, get in touch with their career development center. Almost all universities have them. Part of their jobs is teaching this kind of thing to students and alumni who do lack this social capital. I love the videos, but these centers can also do mock-interviews and set up real interviews with companies they have connections with.
I would recommend picking up the outfit at a thrift shop or second hand store instead of target or h&m. You’ll find higher quality items while also not contributing to the fast fashion industry
If you need a suit asap a thrift shop won’t do most of the time because they don’t always have the iteams you need or in your size . Everything is unethical now, even high end designers have sweatshops in China. I hope you don’t have a smart phone as you typed this, otherwise you are a hypocrite
So this doesn’t imply people are being rude. It could be that you are nervous, or are neurodivergent and do not engage (ie not making eye contact, using minimal verbal answers, keeping to yourself). It’s a reminder to mask up to put others at ease. As someone with ASD I prefer to blend into the wallpaper wherever possible to avoid human interaction, but sometimes that’s not a productive strategy when you need to get something done.
I would love more tips on outfits to wear! I'm really struggling with finding pieces for my new job, especially since I don't like button down shirts. Help!
My bigger issue is that every pants I try are extremely uncomfortable for me (I usually wear leggings on everyday basis). If I need to wear pants I‘d gave an issue focusing on the interview and more on how it‘s digging into my belly.
Go on a practice journey the day or week before if possible. Find a coffee shop, restaurant or other quiet spot nearby that you can wait. This is my personal preference to walking around the block.
I almost no-showed my interview because I tripped on the front step, and thought maybe the receptionist saw me from inside. Receptionist wasn't there that day and I ended up getting the job 😂
Sweaty and tired?? From a 10 minute walk?? If you live in a really hot place sure but that's not the norm. No shade to people who are disabled or can't do that for another reason, but I think the majority of people this video was aimed at are able to do a 10 minute walk. For the rest, adjust the advice to your need. Sit in the shade or do something else, idc.
Whenever someone came in for an interview at our workplace, the way they interacted with all the staff made or broke their chances! The SECOND they left, we'd all huddle around and give our opinion on them 🤣
Am I the only person in the world who thinks interviews are less about you and the work you can provide and more of a power trip for your employer. To get employed, you dont get to prove who you are. You have to be what you think they want. Kitchens arent perfect, but I have always liked the hiring practice. When I was first starting in kitchens I brought a super nice portfolio with pictures of my work. The chef at the time barely looked at it. He asked me a few basic questions relevent to the work I would do and then asked of I could show him. Id give an hour of free labor proving my skillset over the ridiculous peacock show that is the standard job interview any day.
You're correct. It is a power trip. There is so much information that is so nuanced and contradictory. It's impossible to keep up with. The only thing you can do is put your best foot forward and hope for the best.
If you don’t know how much eye contact to make (interview settings make me too aware of this), try to just make eye contact with whoever is talking as much as you can while they are talking - they probably won’t be looking back at you the whole time. Then when you’re talking, make eye contact with the person you’re addressing periodically while you’re talking.
I work in a small office. My bosses met with everyone after interviewing applicants to discuss who to hire. Final call was theirs, of course, but since we were all in agreement, it was easy.
@@423adriana Uhm no, she talks faster than the average person. I admit though that even though it may not be too fast for everyone, it's a bit too fast for me. Ever thought about the fact that not everyone has English as their first language and that it can be hard to understand someone talking fast because of that?
@@blankerinienglish is not my first language but this is the perfect speed for me. I also often speed up tiktok videos. People have different. Idk if youtube allowes shorts to be slowed down tho.. :/
I used to work at a vet clinic and my boss 100% always asked the rest of the staff what vibe the person had when they came in. A lot of times the receptionist at a vet clinic is also a vet tech or office manager so you never know what they may say to the boss. My first boss also taught me “phone voice” by making me smile while I spoke on the phone, it also makes a good impression on clients in the building watching you take phone calls if they see that you look upbeat while on the phone.
Yeah, as an interviewer you kinda feel bad for someone sitting around doing nothing for a long time. Also sometimes annoying if the reception is part of the main office, to have a person sitting there. Had a candidate show up 30 minutes early, something weird about them just sitting there for so long. I even had to walk past them, coming out of a meeting, without having time to say hi
I think that's too many mental gymnastics and kinda overcomplicates everything and leaves you stuck in your own head. Trust your instincts and be polite. If you don't get hired, there's a big chance it wouldn't work out to begin with. I would rather my employer know what hiring me would be like right off the bat, and I would rather I know what kind of workplace it is. Personally, it seems better than getting hired by pretending to be someone I'm not and try and keep up that facade.
you do care because if they are hired you will see them everyday and you don't want to have to deal with that rude person and it would reflect on your job performance review.
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Couple more things to add, if I may Erin, re. suits (for men):
1. CUT OFF THE TAG ON THE SLEEVE!
2. If you can afford it (it’s a lot, but worth every penny), get a tailored suit. If you can’t afford that, buy off the rack, and take to a tailor for adjustments. Buy it in charcoal grey - it will go with everything, so you only need one (also everyone else going for interview will be wearing navy blue, for some reason). Single-breasted, two-button, notch collar, double vents at the back. But on the top button only (but unbutton it when you sit down). Pocket flaps should be OUT (but keep pockets stitched up). Ticket pocket (small extra pocket on right, for a train ticket) is a nice touch. Bonus points if you actually use it for a train ticket (you can unstitch it for this purpose!). Don’t go three-button, double-breasted, wing collar, or waistcoat for an interview - it’s too much. In the unlikely event that you need to pin something to your lapel, use the lapel buttonhole (that’s what it’s there for).
3. Shirt: white, cutaway collar (use collar stiffeners, plastic are better then metal ones, so you can fold them up slightly at the end, making sure the collar doesn’t curl over), double cuffs (either silver cufflinks (engraved with your initials) if you can afford, or silk knots (very cheap) if not - they should complement, but not match, the tie). Royal Oxford weave is best. An expensive shirt can (partially) make up for a cheaper suit. Bonus: when you don’t know what to do with your hands, just pull at your cuffs slightly
4. Tie: dark colour, either plain, or diagonal stripes. Max two colours. NOT black (a black tie is for a funeral only). Don’t go skinny
5. Tie knot: Double Windsor is a bit showy; go with a simple knot, slanted to (your) right-hand-side, and add a dimple. Should reach your waist, and thick end should be longer
6. Pocket square: classy touch, go with white to match shirt, or one that complements (but does not _match_ ) the tie
6. Tie pin: I like them, but may seem a bit showy. Slide on from (your) right-hand-side. Dark grey would be more subtle than silver
7. Trousers: buy two pairs if it’s a tailored suit - they’ll wear out faster
8. Shoes: black. Always black. Pointy is better. POLISH THEM
9. Belt: black, to match the shoes, silver buckle. Keep it simple. Tailored suit trousers may not need one (discuss with your tailor)
10. Watch: keep it simple and understated. Black leather strap, silver bezel. Consider a rectangular face instead of a round one. Doesn’t have to be expensive. Go easy on any jewellery. If you paint your nails, go with black (kidding…sort of)
11. Think again, and go for a tailored (charcoal) suit. It might be the best investment you ever make. You will feel like James Bond, and people will notice. If you think your clothes don’t matter, imagine the reaction if you turned up naked.
If you’re wondering why there are so many “rules”, it’s because men’s suits are all basically the same (we don’t get to mix it up like the women), so the devil is in the detail.
Remember, _clothes maketh the man._
Good luck, gentlemen.
I like your vibe.
@@TPRM1 *suits (for everyone)
@@Noahdaz No, I am a man, so I am only giving advice to men. Anyone can wear a suit, but I cannot speak for everyone, hence I am only offering my advice to my own gender.
If you are a woman, or non-binary, feel free to follow, or ignore, my advice, at your leisure.
Erin, I love your content, but if there's a part 2 (or any other call to action,) a link in the description or pinned comment is an absolute must.
Just wanted to put that on your radar, keep kicking butt!
Before an interview, I used the ladies bathroom. While there, another lady walked in and we had a cordial conversation while washing my hands. As I was introduced to the lady interviewing me; turns out, it was the very same lady from the bathroom! Always be nice to everyone.
did it make you feel a little more comfortable once the interview started ?
@@emmib1388 Yes, it did, and I was glad that nothing negative was said while in the bathroom.
@@gracec1665 great reminder to others that when you are on the interview site, you are always in the interview!
@@emmib1388 So true!
Literally my mum was the interviewer and would collect the candidates herself, they’d presume she was a PA etc and it caught alot out for rudeness and weird vibes …. She once even had a guy scream at her in the car park with road rage and then she sat opposite him … he asked to be excused 🤣
“Walk around the block for 10 minutes before you go in”… girl I live in the middle of Florida, 10 minute walk leaves you looking DISHEVELED😂
LITERALLY this is the comment I came to find, I can’t think of a worse idea than walking around the office block getting sweaty before going in. I’d rather seem eager
@@hazeygrace8142 if you really get sweaty from WALKING for 10 minutes, then you certainly do not walk or exercise even nearly enough.
Yes, even if it's a little hot outside.
@@Minecraftrok999 😂😂😂 not even remotely true
@@Minecraftrok999 Florida is a special kind of wilting, crushing hot.
@@Minecraftrok999 , something tells me you have not been to Florida during a really hot+humid time. It's the humidity that is the killer. I'll take dry heat any day if I have a choice. (Also, I'm really glad that my sis moved from Florida - I am not getting any younger, so a cooler and drier climate is much nicer for visits)
Remember to be kind to everyone after you're hired, as well.
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Cool tips! 👍🏽 I like how you point out that these etiquette tips are expected to be taught to you by your family/community. It is one of those things that put people at a disadvantage without even knowing. Because these are unspoken expectations on them, they don't even know they are "messing up" their interview.
Great job aiding in information 👏🏽 Many are lucky to have you as a "big sis"
In college sociology class, they called this “social capital”. Pretty much yet another disadvantage if you weren’t born into a privileged family where you just learn these things from birth.
I mean maybe the dresscode, sure. But you can't tell me that you need someone to actually teach you to be on time for your interview and not be an asshole to the receptionist. If you need to be taught that by someone you won't get the job anyway.
@@kaboomsihal1164 That is the point. You will not get the job if you do not know.
For your example, someone taught you to do those things. You learned that somewhere. It feels obvious because you have a societal expectation based on your experiences. That is fine for you, but other people may not have that experience.
@@Usedfood004 dude... if "don't be an asshole to people you want something from" is something you have not learned then that's not your parents fault, that just makes you a psychopath. There are many many life lessons people with successful parents and good parenting benefit from. But "Don't be an asshole" isn't one of them. If you watch this video and think "Oh my god I never knew that!" Either you are a psychopath or just incredibly dumb.
Google is also home to a lot of useful information! I didn’t have people to talk to when I was young and also when navigating adulthood, so it was a highly valued resource for me :) there are countless reliable blogs and videos out there for young adults nowadays
I've been the receptionist in the lobby. We absolutely tell the person you interviewed with what you were doing and how you treated us 😉
Yuuup. The receptionist at my old job would complain about interviewees if they were doing something awful and gossip about it lol
Yes, but also it shows that folks need to be reminded to be kind to service workers 😢
I'm security, and HR/dept heads always ask me and the receptionist how the person behaved and what they were doing. Why would they want to work with someone who is nasty to "the help"?
I ran recruitment for a contact centre and absolutely used to get reception/security's opinion. He knew most of the team my department was made of and what sort of personalities would fit. And he was very observant, which helps when you have someone who's being themselves before changing to best behaviour.
This is something that I think people sometimes forget. The recruiter is trying to find a good fit for the team. Not only for their sake, but for the interviewee's sake too. If I hired someone who I didn't think would fit the team I could usually predict how soon they'd quit.
And that wasn't just bad for morale, for my department the cost of recruiting, training and upskilling staff meant that we didn't break even until they'd been with us for 7 months. Anyone who left before that was a cost to the business. 😉
as an interviewer, I would say I have an alternative for the "suit up" approach since it doesn't work in all industries. In manufacturing, even if you're applying for a job that pays "suit up" $$$, if you show up in a suit you'll come off as a gomer. Instead, hang out near the building around quitting time and get an idea of what people are wearing and dress to match the nicest dressed person you see. Sometimes that means just a polo and kakis!
A lot of times if its not office work a simple nice blouse for ladies or sweater/dress shirt for men with clean ironed slacks will do.
Ive gotten office jobs and retail jobs that way because i dont own and will probably never buy a full of suit because Im short as shit and always look like a kid playing dress up 😂
YES, this is so true.
The advice I've heard is dress just slightly nicer than you expect to on the job. For example, in my field is pretty normal to wear a button up and slacks. For interviews, I wear a nicer single color button up and a tie. I've had very good success with that. Admittedly, at this point I've got almost a decade of experience at this point so maybe there are other reasons that I'm getting the job.
Also, as a person who has conducted interviews there's nothing wrong with showing up early. 10 minutes is best, but longer isn't a problem. We want people who want to work here.
Final tip, the goal is to find a good fit for both sides. Ask questions! See if they are looking for someone with your skills. See if they seem like a good fit for your life. Figure out if you even want to work there. Interviewers typically like it if you ask good questions that make it feel like you are judging the fit.
Work is a huge chunk of your life. Find a place you enjoy being. Good luck out there!
@@artemisameretsu6905 even if it is office work, some companies would allow "just wear whatever you want". Our CEO sometimes comes to the office wearing a hawaii shirt and flip flops. Ive never seen my colleague wear jeans, always jogging pants.
Never me walking in with a suit trynna be a tavern bartender
The amount of psychological gymnastics employers do kind of makes me nervous for trying to get a 9-5
Yeah. It's pretty bad. I've been a hiring manager and the amount of weird hoops you're expected to force applicants to jump through is insane. The bosses basically want you to act like working for their company is the greatest thing that could ever happen to you.
Calling being polite and brushing your teeth "psychological gymnastics". Jesus Christ you cannot be serious.
Psychological gymnastics? Don't stink. Dress respectfully. Be polite. 😮
With all due respect, I have had to hire for companies before and there is a lot of BS that they expect from people who apply. It really isn't that simple. @@maryann7619
It's crazy, when everyone knows why you're applying for the job - money.
Your last point about interviewer checking out your vibe , my mum used to interview people and she did exactly that. She’d always go to collect the candidates and a lot of the time they would think she was the assistant etc … it caught a lot of people out for being rude to other staff and weird vibes etc She said that when they walked into an empty room and my mum would seat herself opposite it was priceless. 😂
Even if they aren't intentionally checking it out... If they hear later someone in the office being like "That guy who was in here was SO RUDE to me in the elevator" or something, it's going to make a bad impression.
I never get why being eager is a turn off for an interview. If an employer were actually trying to get the most amount of productivity out of their workers they’d want them to like and want the job as much as possible.
It's more so if you're over eager they might take advantage of that and try to low ball you.
@@IJustWant2WatchAnime definitely this. I was young and naive and didn't know this. I didn't know this and ended up burnt out, overworked, and overweight. My mental health struggled. Fixing all this has been quite the challenge.
Overly eager people might also not be a great fit for the team. At some point eagerness can become annoying and a single overmotivated person can't make up for the productivity lost when the rest of the team is constantly annoyed with them.
@@nonchiii4548ngl this reads as a group of lazy coworkers got annoyed that someone who actually wanted to get stuff done came in and ruined the vibe, so they singled them out and blamed their lack of productivity on the one person actually doing stuff. Totally could be wrong but idk
@@LeggoMyGekko it did 😂
I think it is important to note that we all have different backgrounds. As an immigrant what is considered “professional” definitely varies from culture to culture. This was a hard transition for me as I graduated college and sought my first “real job.” Let me tell you, it’s the soft skills, non verbal behavior, etc. that really counts.
This is a very good point. Cultural differences are important to take into account. Something like looking someone in the eye can vary in it's interpretation based on the cultural/societal expectations.
"When in Rome...."
As a south Floridian with a large diversity in my area, I can attest you make a very valid point.
However, with someone who has high functioning autism, its really hard to remain eye contact.
@gilfhound69 The whole interview process is ableist, and will probably go away. It is set up for discrimination against anyone who doesn't belong to your little same-same club.
The interview eliminates autistic people who don't/can't make eye contact. Who don't communicate in the same way as neurotypicals, and aren't looking for a social club, but work.
Here is the deal and why the interview is likely to go away. Autistic humans are 141% more productive than allistic/"Normal human beings, and we are the most innovative/creative/problem solvers on the face of this earth. Hiring autistic people actually increases the bottom line exponentially, and the cost of our accommodations is nothing compared to the cost of not hiring us. The tide is changing and corporations are spending millions on how to hire, onboard, and retain autistic people. They are not only after hiring those of us who are verbal, but also non-verbal. They are spending millions on training neurotypicals how to interact and respect us in the workplace. They have no problem giving an autistic person who needs peace and quiet and control of the lights a private office even if they are one of a team of five, and then when the NTs complain they respond that it is an accomodation. You see a private office for a non-management autistic person is way cheaper than having them quit because they can't work out on the "floor".
Obviously, there are jobs that we can't do well, like forward-facing jobs dealing with clients or the public. We aren't happy being on phones, and we don't like working in environments where we don't get to control our environment, like lights. Dirty jobs, and generally anything that takes executive functioning (that has nothing to do with being an executive there are lots of autistic CEOs, we thrive in businesses especially where innovation is a huge part of it. NTs thrive in DOING, and we thrive in INNOVATING stuff.
Suffice it to say, since the traditional interview eliminates us, the corporate world is starting to create new hiring systems, and it is only a matter of time before you will have to compete with us with our systems. The tables are turning on you, and when that happens do you want me to post that you just need to buckle up buttercup? Actually, accommodations that help autistic people actually help/benefit NTs.
Turns out that NTs need NDs to function properly and all people are needed to work together not apart. This is really hard for us because they have a real need for the same-same everything, and don't like anyone who doesn't fit in. Seems like you might need to learn to get along with different people better!
So I aimed this at autistic people, but your comment was dripping with micro-aggression racism/culteralism, and I am sure you believe that anyone that isn't your religion needs to change that too to be just like you!
You should always be nice to anyone you're meeting at your workplace, but *especially* to the cleaners. They get overlooked a lot, BUT THEY SEE EVERYTHING😈
Definitely, and in some places the owners/bosses actually talk to them as well, not just the people in the lobby.
Absolutely not just in work but in school as well. I can't tell you how many times being friends with facilities help me get into classrooms to retrieve something I forgot.
"whatever you do to the least of these..."
It seems so ironic to me, since I work in the industry where the managers clean
Don't ever look down on people who do menial tasks. You don't who they are. And they know "stuff" and people. (A job is a job.)@@jennyh4025
Only issue i have with this is business casual. It depends on the type of business you are interviewing for. My husband works for a construction company. They actually said they preferred someone coming in nice jeans and a polo shirt for an interview than someone dressed in business casual. You should dress for the type of job you are going for.
That's true 👍
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Love the tip about being polite to the receptionist. I used to do reception but also pre-screen all of our applicants. You never know what role someone may play in the hiring process.
I treated my admin like gold because she held the office together. I would have let go 10 others before even thinking of cutting my admin. Be nice to her or you’re out.
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Idiots who think it gives them status to be rude to everyone who makes less money than them.
It's not so common that 'just be nice to everyone' is enough to land a job. But being rude will definitely cost you a lot of potential opportunities.
I got there so early I got there before my interviewer. I had 5 people interviewing me in total but this guy, in the interview, commented that I got there before him and he was honestly impressed. I always always get to work early. It's just always been my thing. I always anticipate traffic/flat tires/etc. I've been with this company for a few yrs now and can always be counted on for reliability. ❤️
I was so lucky growing with a dad who interviews people at his job. He would make me and my siblings do mock interviews with him at the office 😂 hated it at the time but now as an adult, I'm grateful for the early experience
I've been a receptionist, and a supervisor. As a receptionist my supervisor used to ask me about the interview candidate, and I did the same when I became supervisor. You want everyone to vibe, or it becomes a dreaded place to work
Additional advice, when you go into a place of business to fill out an application bring your own pen and a surface to write on, like a notebook or a clipboard. If you fill out the application on site take a seat somewhere out of the way. For instance don't stand at the reception desk or cash register and proceed to fill out your application. You'll be in the way and it looks really bad because you might come off as oblivious, not very bright, clueless or just plain rude. That's not the impression you want to make.
I honestly have not seen any places that have you fill out an application on paper, on-site in a very long time. Did not even think it was a thing anymore. Like for a while some places even had a little computer stationed of to the side so even if you were on-site it was still online. Even that was many years ago. Nowadays I see flyers or signs directing to the website. Some have QR codes so you can theoretically complete them while in the business, but not really the intended purpose.
Either way, good tip if you come across it. I always have a pen, carrying around a clipboard might best be reserved for the extremely rare chance this comes up and I know I need to.
@@Usedfood004 a lot of smaller businesses use paper applications. The virtual ones are quite costly.
@@Jeauxnir Yes, you might have a point there 🙂. A Mom & Pop shop level of business might do just that. There are different levels of digital documentation so the expense is not always cost-prohibitive but any expense is an expense to a small business. I am glad the original comment mentioned a suggestion I was not thinking of, considering how rarely I come across it. Surely, someone finds it useful for their experience.
@@Jeauxnirnot anymore. A lot of smaller businesses use indeed and emails...maybe a Google form if they're fancy. Maybe 10 years ago but nowadays things are changing
_“Why can’t you just get a job? Nobody wants to work these days…”_ Mf I’m trying but I didn’t cut the vents on my suit or something. Might as well be an actor because my autistic ass is not getting hired with all the scripts you need to memorize to get through an interview
Exactly! It's all a game. They want you to jump through all kinds of hoops just to get turned down anyway. And if they do hire you, chances are good you will be abused by the same people who expected you to be nice to everyone.
One thing I'll add to your point about cutting the stitching off the back of the jacket - if you're wearing a brand new button down shirt, iron it or get it pressed at the cleaners beforehand. A lot of people think since it's new and crisp, it's good to go, but it usually still has the crisp fold lines in it from being packaged and it's very obvious that the shirt was recently purchased and thrown on. Good luck to everyone out there on their interviews✌️
actually, it is a good idea to wash all clothing before wearing to take out the chemicals and stuff that the item has from when it was in the factory :=)
Oh no god forbid you wear brand new clothes to a job interview
Not a job tip but I suggest laundering any new clothes you buy anyway. That way, any residue left on the clothes from manufacturing, shipping, and other shoppers trying it on can be washed off before you wear them and as a bonus they smell "yours" because of your detergent
@@sus4nahright it’s ridiculous.
I just nailed my most recent interview! I watched a bunch of your videos to gain confidence and this week is my first work on the job! 🎉❤
I agree about being nice to everyone in the building. I was working in the back room while we had people come in for interviews. I would look at each of them walk by just trying to get a feel for my potential coworkers. They all seemed nice enough but we had a girl who walked by the back room door and stopped to say hello to me and goodbye after her interview. My boss and the other interviewer asked me who I thought would be a good fit and I immediately thought of the girl who said hello. She did get the job and even a promotion. We still work together 3 years later
Got my first big girl job because when I turned up the reception team was dealing with a crisis, and I was polite and let them deal with it as I was 10 minutes early. Head receptionist was an institution there, and after my interview marched in and told my interviewer they HAD to hire me.
Thank you for doing this! I am 44 years old and I’ve been in human resources for the last 20 years. I cannot tell you how many people have no idea how to interview especially after Covid you’re doing great work here! FYI, I always ask the people in the lobby what vibe they got.
In my company, those who were hired during and post-COVID never even had to go for an in-person interview ! They were given a choice ! IMO, you get to see so much about the person's character when you are in person and it is soo easy to hide things when doing Zoom type interviews!
I'm gonna be honest, the first tip is exactly what make me get rejected from a job interview once. I applied for a dishwasher position and they literally said I was too dressed up for it. All I did was have light eyeliner and lip balm, black dress pants, a black blouse, a cardigan and dress shoes. Like they were concerned that me putting effort in my appearance for the interview implied I'd be too worried about how I look rather than getting the job done 😅 that's what the interviewer told me at least.
Honestly they probably rejected you for being a remotely attractive (I’m assuming) young woman. They were afraid you wouldn’t last in the role since you probably have better options but they decided to make it seem like it was your mistake for not getting the job.
@@sabias3932 also probably the outdated thinking that someone who is more attractive would be likely to confuse their “joking” for harassment when it probably is just harassment and they don’t want to be told that things they are saying/ doing are wrong
I work in HR and can promise, if you’re late it gets talked about, and if your vibe is bad when you first walk in, it gets talked about!
I was 10 minutes late to my interview (I know that's bad, my bus didn't show up), but I called them to let them know I was going to be late, which they appreciated, and I got the job anyway!
Yes. Be nice to everyone in the lobby! U never know who they are. I’ve told hiring managers and executives how rude some people were when they walked in and so they wouldn’t waste their time and we would do a quick meeting and send them on their way.
Same!
I used to tell everyone I saw with the back ties still in at job fairs to pull them as an FYI. Didn't want anyone to get judged for not knowing that weirdly specific thing.
The what?
It looks weird when it's snipped, so I judge people that snip it. Like, why would you cut an expensive piece of clothing like that
@@HeyJD123they’re supposed to be cut 😉 it’s the equivalent of not cutting a tag off your shirt!
@@HeyJD123 they're put there during the construction process. They're left there so the suit hangs nicely on the hanger on the rack.
@@patti6194 Oh, interesting! I didn't know that
Being polite to everyone you meet is just generally good life advice.
My mom always taught me to never look at my phone when I’ve entered the building before an interview. It might be a little outdated with how things are now but I always stick to it.
YES YES YES!!! Keep the phone on silent and in your pocket/purse. You're looking and acting professional.
@@lcxb8575 But what if you're on your phone to double check the location or trying to figure out if you're at the right place?
@@catinabox3048if you're taking a notepad and a pen with you, you could write it down ahead of time
That's what I was taught in high school, when unless you were a junior or senior you weren't even allowed to use your phone during lunch. Actually had my phone taken away one time in 9th grade. Now whenever I have an interview I keep the phone on silent and put away, look over my resume, and think about what I'll say during the interview
The amount of people that are so rude when they come in for the interview and instantly flip the switch when they meet the interviewer is astronomical... I work front desk for a hotel and I'm often the first one people see... I've had people snap at me when I'm talking to a paying guest, roll their eyes, do the little clear their throat thing while I'm going to inform the interviewer that they're here... And yes, I do pass these things along--
It depends on the backpack. I have a very nice, slim one because I come to interviews with a portfolio and mine slips right in my backpack. I've gotten five job offers in the last month. If you use public transportation sometimes you have to work with what you have.
Just be friendly and act like you already work there (not impersonating, just posture).
But this works if you're already mature. If you're a new grad immature kid working with 40yos, be happy and eager. It only takes the first job to gain confidence starting next time.
When I got my first job, the person who interviewed me introduced me to my potential coworkers. I was as polite as possible and as friendly as I could. Being given that the location was having 3 employees, besides their main coordinator, they were relying heavily on the opinion of the other colleagues to make sure there would be a good harmony between them and the person they were employing. Obviously, I didn't know that, so I was acting as I usually would when meeting new people.
So I was hyped when I found out that in the process of choosing, I was found to be the most pleasant and liked candidate amongst all who had come to be interviewed. It really makes a difference when you make a first good impression in the place you want to work.
Good advices. In general it's just good practice to be nice to other human beings, even if there's no consequences. Dish out what you wish to receive.
you are the BEST. SO many people do NOT have family or community, and so many MORE have family and community who have never worked anything but blue collar jobs. Thank God for the internet! Also you have an awesome reassuring vibe.
This is wonderful! I really appreciate that you point out that perhaps some people may not have a family or community to teach them these things, but pass no judgment about that. Plus, these are genuinely great tips!
The vent thread on blazers, jackets and coats is a pet peeve. I see everyone walking down the street with them still intact and I just want to snip it off for them. It’s especially funny when you can clearly see they need the vent open to comfortably move with ease, or you see the clothes underneath bunched up
Why are they not pre cut..?
@@kimchi8022 they are sewn that way in the factory so that when they are hanging in the store, they hang nicely.
For real. I have worked as a receptionist for years, if you treat me badly or are rude, I will tell the person conducting the interviews.
One time a guy coming in for an interview was about 10 minutes late. He asked that I call the interviewer and tell them that I forgot to call when he arrived on time. That's definitely not what I said on the phone!
That sounds like an immediate 'no' and 'thank you for your time' to me!
As an autistic and socially anxious person, I would literally rather go to the dentist and get multiple teeth pulled than sit through a bunch of interviews again, but I know it’s inevitable in the somewhat near future
ask friends / family members to help you do 'mock' interviews so you feel comfortable. Even those who are not autistic do this!
@@emmib1388 And your comfort with those people does not translate to strangers. I can make eye contact with my partner. It's almost _impossible_ for me to make eye contact with a complete stranger, especially if there are high stakes or pressure.
then you try practicing with strangers. We all have things that we have to do outside our comfort zone.
@@emmib1388that sounds good at first, but a stranger who actually agreed to this might tell you that you did fine no matter what you said just to get you out of their hair. Better to get somebody who you know will straight up say you suck, and tell you why of course
@maryk7262 obviously you have to get some one who wants to help. Like the non profits that help people with their job search
You should be nice to everyone because if you're successful, they're your coworkers.
Your interview videos will help me so much in the future! I'm actually waiting to be called on the interview for a job, I'm taking notes 📝
Wishing you luck and sending good vibes your way ❤️
I used to be a receptionist, I was the first person candidates would see. This is absolutely true. The boss checks in with us
As a former receptionist that last point was so true, if I liked your vibe I’d advocate for you to be hired 100%
I just had an interview and landed the job but it was so awkward when I went in because I went in and said I had an interview and the girl said "I'll go see if she's ready for you", disappeared, came back and then just went back to work without saying anything to me for quite a while. I just stood around trying not to make weird eye contact with anyone while they were working and then the girl finally told me the interviewer would be out soon. I felt like an idiot standing around for so long doing nothing where everyone could see me.
It's a good time to check any literature on reception tables. It can give you a hint at their corporate culture. Find one that really doesn't agree with your sensibilities, it's a good question to ask when they say "Do you have any questions for us?" REMEMBER You're in control. They need you or they wouldn't be advertising. Little tells can be hidden.
that could have been part of the interview to see how you would react to the response
Good tips! One time I was interviewing at an office upstairs with services downstairs. They had someone come greet me and take me up the elevator to the interview. The lady who greeted me turned out to be the boss of my interviewer! So lucky we hit it off and had a lovely conversation before the interview. I think the lady gave a thumbs up to the interviewer as she brought me in to indicate that I was a good candidate! And I got the job! So yes just be a decent person always, even if you are nervous!
im a fan of "your rich bff" too, prolly why youre recommended to me and i cant wait to see you blossom into your own scripting
I think one of the best advise of my dad was how an interview doesn't end untill you leave the building!
Also wear simple makeup. This isn't the time to try out your big fluffy lashes or glitter eyeshadow.
Can confirm, cause I work at the front desk and when there are interviews the boss will sometimes ask me what did I think when they walked in.
My boss would always ask the receptionist her opinion. So that is definitely true.
Rule #1 whether you are applying for a job -- or you are now an employee -- make sure the receptionist / security guard whoever is at the desk is your friend! That also goes for the person(s) who clean up the place!
I worked in field biology, which required getting dirty hands and being able to handle harsh environmental conditions. I had a professor say to look clean but not too domestic (i.e. no claw manicure, not much obvious makeup, somewhat practical clothing and shoes)
My bosses definitely talk to the receptionists to see what they think of people who come for interviews. That's a real thing! The ladies at the front desk have been in the company for a long time and people respect them and their judgement
I went to my first interview after college and was having mad anxiety sweats and rushed to the bathroom before the interview. Seemingly random woman passes me in the hall (was many businesses in this building) and I just sort of nod at her as I go into the bathroom when she said good morning. Turns out she was the owner where I was interviewing and didn’t get the job even though everyone else loved me.
These really are the basics. I worked a job on the tills in a supermarket for quite a while and I had a 90% success rate predicting who would be hired for various roles, I was the one who directed applicants to the manager most of the time and she always asked- you basically just had to get these bits right and be legal to work in the country to get the job. The ones I was wrong on tended to be nepo situations or we were desperate for staff for some reason.
Exactly!
Out of ~200 applicants that walked in and I directed to the office manager, I knew which would get the job.
YES about the friendliness thing!! I’m in engineering and I swear I have gotten most of my positions by 1. having interesting work experiences and 2. By being super super friendly. Your grades matter less than showing that you’re upbeat and excited about the opportunity. However for us-always dress up business professional.
Some times one of the bosses will sit in the lobby just look like they are interviewing more people. So even if no one is there to greet you... don't discount the other interviewees
100% agree. I’m glad our department managers have a keen sense of whether a person will gel and is open to Feedback.
A couple ladies came through a department, letting all of us know that they had job interviews , they seem kind of snotty and only wanted to talk to you if they could get something out of you. Needless to say they didn’t get a job.
Versus a couple people who came in who seemed kind, personable and confident because they didn’t have to prove anything. Got the job. Surprise surprise!
I’ve had to tell a lot of dudes to snip the vent and they all look at me like I’m crazy. “But then it’ll just like be… open 👁️👄👁️”
Lol, that's right. That's how it's supposed to be! It's to give 'ease' when you move or sit in it.
You should tell them if it gaps widely, it means the jacket is either too small or the wrong fit for them.
see my mother hires people as part of her job, but unlike most hirers, she HATES this sort of song and dance. she prefers a resume that says “stocked shelves” over “maintained a neat and welcoming atmosphere that maximized sale potential”, she doesn’t notice how they’re dressed, she doesn’t care if they’re super early or a little late. so her advice doesn’t really apply to the jobs i’ll be applying to in a couple years
My HR worked at the reception during interviews, the receptionist was there but she always acted like the second receptionist, later on she told me that we can access a lot about a person the way they treat support staff.
Disagree on the clothes - it really just depends on the company. Overdressing is as equal of an issue as underdressing, just know what's expected from you. I'm in IT, so if I went to an interview with a blazer, I would be extremely out of place in a workplace that wears hoodies and sneakers to work.
I was always taught to go one level up from what you would wear to that job - so for an IT role I would probably wear a nice blouse/T-shirt and jeans with non-trainer shoes (I’m female)
Yes, I just want to normalize the idea that nice jeans are nice clothes. Wish people didn’t feel the need to spend money they may not have just to interview for a job they really need.
Dressing "up" for an interview shows basic respect for the company and time taken to interview you.
For those with anxiety (like me), I get there twenty minutes early and then I listen to my fav music for ten minutes to get me in the zone and then I head in immediately
Meanwhile I got my job via Zoom, and I have yet to meet a co-worker in person, all done online.
Same here for my current job. The initial interviewer and my now manager never even turned on their cameras for the interview (I was not asked to turn mine on either). Ended up in the highest paying job I've ever had.
I do security at a bank HQ and HR and department heads always ask how the interviewee/intern behaved; did they pace the lobby or quietly sit, did they side-eye or mutter under their breath, did they smile or frown, were they polite or rude, etc.
One person was quite rude to me and the department head had him removed from the options, because in his words "I don't trust people who are nasty to the security that help keep us safe".
HAVE A GOOD HANDSHAKE. Bad/limp handshakes are the kiss of death.
Part of my role at my job is to answer phones which means I have been the first person at the company you have given your impression to even though I have really nothing to do with your interview. And yes, some hiring managers have asked what my impression was and I have been honest. I might have to work with you every day for the next 10yrs. I have no idea if my inputs have had any impact on the manager's decision to hire or not but it's nice that they ask.
If they asked, it counted towards their decision :-)
Lol and once you work there always be especially friendly with: the janitor, receptionist and security person… these three will get you fired faster and help you more than than your boss/manager
Been a corporate recruiter for over 20 years. Great tips. Except, I've only seen a handful of blazers/suits since Covid, even for manager candidates. I think you need to dress for the company you are applying for.
Everybody needs this kind of advice. Thank you, for being there, for people that dont have family or community
Me who interviewes online and doesn't even wear pants.
This is 100% true. Even in retail, we check to see if candidates say hello to everyone on the way to the interview room and already decide if we like them or not.
So... you will not hire a candidate that's nervous or possibly has a social disability?
Sorry I’m not gonna wear a blazer to my Target interview.
😂😂
This is more applicable for careers in a business setting and less for retail or public service jobs. I had an "interview" at a car wash and i wore nice jeans and a nice tshirt with nice boots. Not fancy, but clean and no holes. But being respectful to the staff and being punctual and having standard hygeine is still applicable advice.
Nice slacks and a nice shirt that's tucked in would be fine for that setting.
Always be kind to the janitors. Even if you’ve been with the company for decades.
These are great tips! I also reccomend if you attend or did attend a US university, get in touch with their career development center. Almost all universities have them. Part of their jobs is teaching this kind of thing to students and alumni who do lack this social capital. I love the videos, but these centers can also do mock-interviews and set up real interviews with companies they have connections with.
I'm pretty sure all of this is common knowledge except that "cut the vents" thing. Interesting tidbit.
Just be sure to snip the stitches and not the fabric, lol
I would recommend picking up the outfit at a thrift shop or second hand store instead of target or h&m. You’ll find higher quality items while also not contributing to the fast fashion industry
If you need a suit asap a thrift shop won’t do most of the time because they don’t always have the iteams you need or in your size . Everything is unethical now, even high end designers have sweatshops in China. I hope you don’t have a smart phone as you typed this, otherwise you are a hypocrite
The first person I met when I went to my job interview was my future boss and I didn’t even know it
Yeah, I ALWAYS asked the receptionist for their take on interviewees. She had some good insights.
Honestly if you needed this video to TELL you to be nice to the receptionist and the janitor then I really don’t want to hire you anyway.
Same here
Being punctual and good hygeine too? Really?
So this doesn’t imply people are being rude. It could be that you are nervous, or are neurodivergent and do not engage (ie not making eye contact, using minimal verbal answers, keeping to yourself). It’s a reminder to mask up to put others at ease. As someone with ASD I prefer to blend into the wallpaper wherever possible to avoid human interaction, but sometimes that’s not a productive strategy when you need to get something done.
Honestly if you think every tip is directed, you should do some self-reflection because general advice is just that: general.
I would love more tips on outfits to wear! I'm really struggling with finding pieces for my new job, especially since I don't like button down shirts. Help!
My bigger issue is that every pants I try are extremely uncomfortable for me (I usually wear leggings on everyday basis). If I need to wear pants I‘d gave an issue focusing on the interview and more on how it‘s digging into my belly.
Go on a practice journey the day or week before if possible. Find a coffee shop, restaurant or other quiet spot nearby that you can wait. This is my personal preference to walking around the block.
Honestly, i just want a compilation of "you've got this" and most definitely the big sister i need ❤
I almost no-showed my interview because I tripped on the front step, and thought maybe the receptionist saw me from inside.
Receptionist wasn't there that day and I ended up getting the job 😂
don’t recommend walking around for 10 minutes before an interview, you’ll get all sweaty and tired
It shows that you really want it 😤😫
10min walk VS Americans
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Sweaty and tired?? From a 10 minute walk?? If you live in a really hot place sure but that's not the norm. No shade to people who are disabled or can't do that for another reason, but I think the majority of people this video was aimed at are able to do a 10 minute walk. For the rest, adjust the advice to your need. Sit in the shade or do something else, idc.
In tropical/near tropical climate like where I live, yes.
@@CindersSpot I start sweating 5 minutes outside during the summer. Heat plus humidity makes for a very sweaty time.
Ok but can we just appreciate her beauty for a moment 😭✋ she legit looks like Snow Queen or something
Whenever someone came in for an interview at our workplace, the way they interacted with all the staff made or broke their chances! The SECOND they left, we'd all huddle around and give our opinion on them 🤣
Am I the only person in the world who thinks interviews are less about you and the work you can provide and more of a power trip for your employer. To get employed, you dont get to prove who you are. You have to be what you think they want. Kitchens arent perfect, but I have always liked the hiring practice. When I was first starting in kitchens I brought a super nice portfolio with pictures of my work. The chef at the time barely looked at it. He asked me a few basic questions relevent to the work I would do and then asked of I could show him. Id give an hour of free labor proving my skillset over the ridiculous peacock show that is the standard job interview any day.
You're correct. It is a power trip. There is so much information that is so nuanced and contradictory. It's impossible to keep up with. The only thing you can do is put your best foot forward and hope for the best.
hey, ik its odd but as an autistic person, I find it difficult to do alot of these things. any tips for us? you dont need to im just curious :]
If you don’t know how much eye contact to make (interview settings make me too aware of this), try to just make eye contact with whoever is talking as much as you can while they are talking - they probably won’t be looking back at you the whole time. Then when you’re talking, make eye contact with the person you’re addressing periodically while you’re talking.
the way u explained it gave anxiety for no reason like I'm at the interview 😂😂
I work in a small office. My bosses met with everyone after interviewing applicants to discuss who to hire. Final call was theirs, of course, but since we were all in agreement, it was easy.
either it's the video or you, but you talk way too fast 😅
no it's just you
@@423adriana Uhm no, she talks faster than the average person.
I admit though that even though it may not be too fast for everyone, it's a bit too fast for me. Ever thought about the fact that not everyone has English as their first language and that it can be hard to understand someone talking fast because of that?
She’s talking fast because there’s a time limit on the video, the faster you talk, the more you can cram into a video!
@@blankerinienglish is not my first language but this is the perfect speed for me. I also often speed up tiktok videos. People have different. Idk if youtube allowes shorts to be slowed down tho.. :/
I used to work at a vet clinic and my boss 100% always asked the rest of the staff what vibe the person had when they came in. A lot of times the receptionist at a vet clinic is also a vet tech or office manager so you never know what they may say to the boss. My first boss also taught me “phone voice” by making me smile while I spoke on the phone, it also makes a good impression on clients in the building watching you take phone calls if they see that you look upbeat while on the phone.
I have been watching her videos, and I just realized that my favorite part has always been when she says, 'You got this!'" It's encouraging!
God i want a sister like her for Christmas for life 😂❤ this was wholesome
You're not supposed to show up too early?? That explains why I haven't gotten certain jobs.
Yeah, as an interviewer you kinda feel bad for someone sitting around doing nothing for a long time. Also sometimes annoying if the reception is part of the main office, to have a person sitting there. Had a candidate show up 30 minutes early, something weird about them just sitting there for so long. I even had to walk past them, coming out of a meeting, without having time to say hi
I think that's too many mental gymnastics and kinda overcomplicates everything and leaves you stuck in your own head. Trust your instincts and be polite. If you don't get hired, there's a big chance it wouldn't work out to begin with. I would rather my employer know what hiring me would be like right off the bat, and I would rather I know what kind of workplace it is. Personally, it seems better than getting hired by pretending to be someone I'm not and try and keep up that facade.
Thanks Erin for being supportive and providing all of these tips for free!
"You got this," makes me feel more at ease... like yeah, I got it now.
If an employer asked me what I thought I’d say it’s not my job and I don’t really care
you do care because if they are hired you will see them everyday and you don't want to have to deal with that rude person and it would reflect on your job performance review.