“Yes I sacrifice my Vagina” 🤣 “No need for savage fenty the only thing savage is the pain in your vagina” 😂😂 “Graduate from your mattress (pad)” “every size on deck “😂 “Vagina hammock” 😂 “Padsicles”😂 “Hmm that wasn’t there before wtheck is that”😂😂 “Barely B”😂😂 “Adults wiwi pad” Lmaof at this vid thank you 😂😂😂
That’s what I did for my sister. I spent over $100 on her after the baby came. Ya. The baby was ok. She was kinda cute (I’m not a baby person. I like them after 8months) but my focus was on my sister.
Totally agree! Was saying that yesterday to my husband. "If you get pregnant, you will have to wear diapers after you give birth." Best reason ever to practice safe sex.
I’m a soon to be dad for the first time and this is very knowledgeable and helpful for me, to help my wife as best as possible during those tough times. Thank you
The fact that you care about it this much to watch a video about it, I'm sure you will be a great father and husband 💖 Congratulations! May God bless your family
Angelique Hogan overall pretty good. I ended up getting a 3rd degree episiotomy and the doctor had to use a vacuum, but other than that he was a healthy baby boy!
Ok but can we take a minute and appreciate how funny and light hearted she made this serious talk. This is all a LOT to take in but she made it tolerable
1) I can’t stress how important that squirt bottle is when you pee 2) use that donut to sit on a chair 3) sitz bath with epsom salt 2-3 times a day 5) take that extra strength Motrin for the pain!! 4) as a first time mom, I was guilty of not going to sleep when baby went to sleep, I felt like it was the time to get chores done around the house plus I was the typical worried first time mother. 5) I had mood swings like no other, one minute I was happy and next minute as I’m feeding my little dude I would break down into tears, gotta love the postpartum blues. 6) ask for help!! Ask. For. Help.
@@zamiaramirez1390 i never did the sitz bath and was perfectly fine with all 3 kids. You just need to have more numbing spray and witch hazel on hand to help you heal
19 years old and boutta be a father... scared as shit but I’m 100% ready for everything that life is gonna throw at me. Wanna make my gfs pregnancy/postpartum experience as painless and bearable as possible.
If your girlfriend enjoys massages, please offer them as often as she’d like. Offer to make her food or get takeout, get her facial masks, paint her toenails... basically treat her like an absolute queen. ESPECIALLY when she’s cranky. You’ll both have a much easier time. ;)
As a child who's suffered from the absence of their father I'm very proud of you for sticking around while being so young. I know I'm a stranger but that doesnt change the fact that I am So PROUD of you. You are important, and you play a huge part in how that child will grow up.
This is the sweetest thing 💕 i love how youre researching videos of this on your own just to help her so amazing especially for your age, shes a lucky girl! You guys are gonna do great!
Girl, I have so much respect for you, NOT ALL HEROS WEAR CAPES, THEY WEAR PADS! Lord, now I’m definitely more scared about the postpartum experience than the actual child birth😂
Cesarean post-partum here. A couple of my things I think people should know: In case you're wondering, yes, you still bleed afterwards. Your body has to get rid of the extra blood from pregnancy, lining, etc. I never did need the super big pads, just the regular size (could have just been me, not sure), but after about a week with those I was in liners for six weeks. Ugh. Bowel issues are common from all the anesthia and the surgery. I'm 11 weeks postpartum and just now starting to go regularly on my own. Before, I had been using Miralax, because without it I had rock hard poop that was soooo painful to pass. The soreness lasted for a while, and even once you feel better on the outside, it's going to take you a year plus to heal on the inside. Stairs are not your friend. Be prepared to camp out on your main floor for a couple of weeks if you have stairs and don't want to spend most of your days in your room. This may seem like common sense to some, but if you're breastfeeding, make sure you also eat and drink at night. I was so used to eating during the day only, and this was a no-no for breastfeeding. You have to drink a ton of water b/c you use up even more feeding your baby, and you can find yourself dehydrated (no fun). Not intaking enough calories will make you really tired too. Which brings me to another thing - breastfeeding can make you sleepy. FYI. Also, don't be surprised if your libido takes a hit, and surprise! Even though you didn't give birth vaginally, you may experience vaginal discomfort when you return to having sex due to hormones.
Because not everybody goes through the same thing! 99% of the stuff she saying I didn’t experience. I had the easiest birth and I breastfed my son for over a year. Currently pregnant with my second child. It’s honestly not as bad as everybody makes it seems but then again everybody experience is different.
Paris Davis that’s true. I went through most of the things she mentioned but I feel like no one talked about them to me until after I was already going through it. I wasn’t warned. It’s not soooo bad, and I plan to do it again. Just wish people were more real about the not so fun stuff that happens postpartum
I’m not pregnant or have kids but this just makes me more terrified to even think about having kids. My mom has 10 kids and she never told me any of these things. God bless all the moms out there.💕
Girl I feel you same here, I was always afraid of the idea of child birthing and postpartum since I used to be in high school because I studied on it a lot just out of curiosity. Even though I am soon to be married, and don't have any kids. Yeah children is and sound amazing, but honey the process...... uhhh..yeahh..... yeahh I don't know if I want to go through any of that stuff... Ima need God's strength fr fr.
Lol. I had my baby yesterday. He was 5lbs 14oz. I had to get 2 to 3 stitches. I have to be honest..the past 24 hours haven't been that bad. Yes it stings a bit l when I pee. My first bowel movement came out pretty easy. It wasn't that bad. I bled pretty heavy for a few hours, now the bleeding is just like a regular period. Not really cramping that bad in my stomach but every now and then I get very mild contractions where my uterus is trying to shrink back down. Been taking ibuprofen and that seems to help. Your video was so funny and I enjoyed it. Good luck mama's❤❤ It won't be so bad😘😘
Yeah I notice a lot of people try to traumatize us women LOL it’s not intentional but it’s awesome because every woman’s body is different and reacts differently to pregnancy so some will have it easier than others after birth and some will have it harder just depends
I had similar experience as yours, a bit of stinging when peeing the first few times but bowel movement didn’t hurt, at first used maxi pads then regular. the witch hazel is helpful deff recommend that!! Agree video was really funny!
@Dee James Thanks so much for your comment. Most women have such horrid stories, it all scares me, lol. You managed to calm my nerves down a bit. Hope you and the baby are doing well!
Was he full term? 5 lbs is very small and not the average weight for boys unless you and your partner are both small. But having an 8 lb. Child is very different from 5 lbs
I’m 30 weeks & sitting here giggling bc you’re funny but crying in the inside 😭😭 #ripmytutu Update: gave birth to my baby boy Logan on 6/19.. got a first degree tear with abt 2 stitches I believe. I’m still walking funny ! My tutu definitely died but it’s on its way to redemption. I say in another week the pain should be bearable for me. 😂 take these tips !
You all do fine. Remember these tips use it to be aware but not scared. Love yourself love your babies. Love G d. Welcome to Motherhood. It is truly a blessing, but honestly it doesn't always feel like that. Ask for help and feel no shame in doing so. Take it from me. My kids are grown and my youngest "baby" is well into his teens.
I’m due in 3 weeks with my first baby... please pray for me 😂 (edit) 1 year later and I had my beautiful baby boy with a very easy birth! Feeling so blessed ☺️
As a 73 yr old granny now, I'm just in awe & envious of all the fabulous products available now to make our lives at this delicate & fragile time, so so much easier! Also desperately needed is a kind, understanding & patient partner!!
I gave birth 5 days ago and I am suffering, I thought I was dying and I am grateful for this video coz all the new moms show the nice videos but never such truths. Now I will just breath and ride the wave coz IT'S NORMAL
I'm 1 month PP today. Vaginal delivery and an epidural. I had a minor tear that required 3 stitches. I was pain free basically a day or 2 later. Peeing was weird and I was scared to poop but stool softener helped with that. All I'm saying is sometimes it's easier than you're expecting so don't let this video scare you!!
I'm on my 4th and my experience was a lot like hers. Everyone is different tho. I didn't have an epidural or the tissue growth she had, but the pain and bleeding was the same. I've never used padsicles and prepped them for this new baby. That's new and hopefully very helpful.
No one warned me about postpartum hair loss... I literally lost the whole front of my hairline in clumps! And it wasn’t my Primary or OB who solved the mystery but a nutritionist... I was “malnourished” from Childbirth and nursing. So please eat right and continue your prenatals after delivery especially if nursing.
Gypsy Princess No problem! I tell everyone I know about it now because I found it to be so devastating when it was happening. I had to wear scarves and hats until my hair grew back...which while going through all the postpartum stuff and hormones and sleep deprivation was a rough time for a while. My advice is to take care of your self as best as you can and to sleep as much as you can before and after baby arrives...and most importantly....CONGRATULATIONS!
Don't forget that lochia (the bleeding and discharge during post partum) might smell like something has decayed inside of you. Apparently it is normal. Made me freak out a lot, because I was afraid of an infection. Also I was in too much pain in order to realise whether anything else was going on besides the pain I was anyway feeling. Couldn't have survived without ibuprofen.
@@mariasoto1837 soon after I had my first baby I was crying in the car realizing that my mom went through the same horrors that I was going through. Except she was a single mom with twins😭 so I called her to say sorry she had to deal with that lol
I'm also due in late October - on my birthday for goodness sake... I was not ready to see this video... Thankfully, here in The Netherlands every mama gets a personal care nurse who visits your home daily for the first week post delivery to help you out!
gw3nd0l3n3 Congratulations!! You will have a birthday twin, lol. My birthday is October 14th. I was not ready for it either but I would rather know about it now and be prepared. Wow, that’s cool!
I have desperately been looking for a video that goes this in depth about post birth! Why don’t more women talk about this?? Thank you for your video!!
*Ladies, not only water. Hydration you can get in many forms. I loved the soups I made, infused water, watermelon, etc. That helped a lot instead of plain water.*
@@jazzie_wolf nope if u do research any women can be loose once they had a kid it don't matter how many kids u have it depends if u exercise ur vagina the older u get the looser it gets so it's EVERY WOMEN I bet people dt share that neither.
Facts! After having my 1st I was so confused as to why literally NO ONE ever mentions postpartum care. Pregnant with my 2nd now so get to do it all over again. Fun times!
This definitely cured my baby fevers. I have being worrying my hubby and family for a baby, to the extent of watching almost everything child birth, from 1st trimester to after labor. That alone wasn’t fun and knowing I will go through this much pain and discomfort, I think I will go ahead to finish my Masters. The baby can come later when I’m done with school. I’m just 25
Yes as women I feel like we’re always thinking about growing a family especially when we’re in a relationship . I feel like taking care of everything first like your education and getting your financial needs and wants ready is a must before starting a family !
I'm 19 years,,, in my third year of my degree n well I'm pregnant though unplanned. Sometimes I think pregnancies are inevitable if God wills one to have a baby. Irregardless,, gotta juggle between single mother hood n school n ik this experience will make me stronger
Based on our experience, I could imagine how scary it must be for teen moms and single moms or moms without an active partner to assist with the aftercare.
@@Coolcatscattery It must be scary for you.. My biggest respect for you being so brave. It will be alright, remember this is just a pain for the body and if it happens it will still go away. But your heart and soul will be full of joy. Being a parent is wearing a crown ❤ Lots of love and stay safe.
I didn't feel like this was TMI. I felt like this was detailed/ thorough, which I really appreciate. I feel more prepared knowing what all to expect. Thank you for sharing your experience and for being so real and practical in your videos!
Finally someone who is actually telling it like it is. Everyone tells you how “sunshine and rainbows” it is to give birth. They neglect to mention the giant mesh underwear you’ll be wearing for weeks due to your non stop heavy bleeding. Or the fact that you’ll need that squirt bottle on every trip to the bathroom.
I’m a mother of a toddler with one on the way (in like 2 weeks), and I just want to say, to all the new mamas to be out there, please don’t let this video scare you. Everyone’s experience is different. My postpartum experience with my son wasn’t half as bad or traumatizing and I had a 2nd degree tear (also not that bad). I had a natural, unmedicated, birth center water birth (which was amazing btw). The cramping during breastfeeding was so minimal, I hardly notice them. The supplies she suggested are helpful, but please know that there are more holistic options for you. Long story short, try not to allow anyone’s traumatic story stop you from enjoying such a phenomenal, transformative moment in your life. Pregnancy, labor/delivery can be beautiful, it’s all in your mindset. Embrace it, revel in your superpower and trust the process. You got this 💛
@@nazlyrinquest5365 my mom had both Natural births and c- sections and she explained that they're both hard in there own way. With a natural Birth, delivery can be the hard part and with a c- section, recovery is hard too. I had 2 at-home deliveries with midwives and loved them. Bringing a new life to the world isn't the easiest thing but research and do what's best for you.
I feel like when it comes to postpartum, we are living in the Victorian Era. Remember how women had to learn about the birds and the bees from their husbands on their wedding night? That’s exactly how I feel about postpartum. Thank you so much for this video! I’m terrified lol but I learned a lot and now have an idea on how to prepare.
Trigger warning ⚠️ For the women that don't know what they are going to watch P.s Yall will be okay . You will make it through. Remember day by day you are healing ✨️ 💛 It's scary , uncomfortable and down right painful. Give yourself love and respect during these times. Breathe in and out and have a calm mind.
Thats y children must respect their mothers and never neglect them....bringing a child into the world and raising him or her take sweat, pain and tears, plus ALOT of unconditional love.
Love this video 😁. On my 4th pregnancy and a lot of this info is useful. Yes everyone’s experience is different. But one regret of mine was never being 100% prepared. People always tell you how beautiful and wonderful pregnancy and motherhood is but they miss out on the ugly truths. With this pregnancy, I want to be ready for everything because I’ve experienced a lot of what she has throughout all of my pregnancies, so I WILL be buying a lot of these items. If you have a great support system then you can take it one day at a time but if you don’t being prepared for it all is best. Thanks for this, literally had me laughing! 🤣
AOK some extremely HUGE HUGE pads the hospital give you. It’s like sitting on a bassinet mattress. They come in handy for heavy bleeders and I guess women who have vaginal births. I’m not a heavy bleeder so always infinity overnight pads work just fine for me.
You are so fun!! Thanks for the great video. My baby is 9 days old, and post partum hit hard.. I am experiencing all you're saying... it really is hard. The pain never ends... can't wait for my perineal tear to finally heal so that i can walk freely again!!! 😢😢
I really don’t know if it’s my hormones, but I was literally crying for half of your video. I’m currently 3 months, first time pregnant, and I am scared. But you did great at explaining every detail and I appreciate it.
Bc its gross and nobody likes yalking about gross things. The smell alone made me sick personally, it was like a period but on steroids, it smelled different than a normal period but pungent too to annoy me....it was gross but only lasted like 3 days
Ohhhhh Lawwddd, Why did I hit the play button. 🤣🤣 I'm 37 weeks and genuinely freaking out. I was scared of delivery, but this postpartum is another level....🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Send prayers please 🙏🏽🙏🏽
It went OK actually. I wanted a natural birth but God said sike C section for you boo. That recovery was brutal, never felt pain like that in my life. I also felt helpless, my husband helped me out the bed, use the bathroom...So annoying because I was used to doing things on my own, but he's such a blessing because he got up most nights to feed her. It was easier that way because he was quicker then me. Overall the pain of the journey is always worth it. My girl is 15 months and thriving. God is so Amazing y'all 🙏🏽🥰
As a first time dad, looking for ways to support his dear wife on our pregnancy journey, (we are 8 months pregnant), I am I incredibly grateful for sharing your experience. It’s wonderful to know these things beforehand so that I know the little big things I can do to just help. I love your tip about the haemorrhage cushions. The stories I’m hearing about postpartum are nuts! I respect women even more man! My wife told me about her work colleague who said peeing for the first time after delivery is like peeing blades. At the time, I thought it was crazy, but I recently had to undergo cystoscopy, and the recovery took 48 hours but that was one of the most challenging 48 hours of my life. Now, I can only imagine how much more painful it would be for a woman who just birthed a human! So I think God gave me my experience NOT to trivialise any reports from my wife about pain and discomfort because it can be easy for someone who never went through it to think “surely it can’t be that bad”. Overall, I’m immensely grateful for videos like this because I need to learn to be sympathetic, empathetic, and just supportive during this period. It only saddens me that I can’t be on maternity leave with my wife due to work as I would love to THERE, simply to just serve my wife and my child without having to worry about work but God willing, we will he fine :) Love inputs from your hubby as well-he’s a funny guy. Love from the Uk
Thank you so much for this honest, raw, vulnerable video!! I am 24 weeks and trying to educate and prepare myself for everything birth/postpartum. Knowing what could/will likely happen is so helpful. Really appreciate all your videos. Women are warriors!!!
I had my first baby last Wednesday and let me just start off by saying I had NO pregnancy symptoms.. no nausea no food cravings or dislikes no better sense of smell no cramps no Braxton hicks. Now when I was going into labor this is what happened, I woke up at 3:50 am with cramps and the sudden urge to poop and it was not solid.. I went to lie down and then at 6:45 am, I slightly moved in bed and i felt a tiny squirt and i thought i just peed a little so i was UGH ok lemme get up and go pee. I put my hand on the bed and I felt a wet spot and I was like fuck did I leave the water bottle open, so I proceeded to get up and I felt more liquids start to come out and when I stand up amniotic fluid just came down. I felt small little contractions until I was probably 3 cm keep in mind I was planning on skipping the epidural I made to 8 cm without it but as the pain got worse I wasnt able to control my breathing meaning the baby wasnt getting enough oxygen so I had to get the epidural to calm down. Pushing was hard only because I didn't know if I was actually doing anything. When my baby came out, all I felt was like a super wet tampon being pulled out. I DIDN'T TEAR!!🎉🎉 but peeing kinda did hurt bc of the catheter they had put in my urethra. I was scared to poop but it doesnt really hurt maybe it felt a little sore. Yes bleeding is very heavy the first day. Idk if other women have heavy bleeding after but my bleeding has been very light even more now 6 days after giving birth. Cramps eh but BACK PAIN girlll, I think it's the worst part about all this.
good for you gurl!! i also have no pregnancy symptoms, its actually been a breeze! im due end of june and im praying my delivery isn't so painful and that i dont tear. especially that i dont tear!!!
You’re SOOOO lucky, I gave both one week ago to a small 6 pound baby girl and had second degree tearing. Supposedly that’s not that bad. It felt TERRIBLE!!
I was so shy about being undressed in front of people but its so true as soon as your in labor or even after labor all that goes out the window! My nurse gave me a whole sponge bath in the bathroom after I pushed my son out and I was so comfortable with it and thankful
True I gave birth on all fours but afterwards I wanted to be covered up. Business as usual but I had a nurse tell me I was being high and mighty all of a sudden and acted as if I should have just stayed naked even after being stitched just because "other women don't care".
@@tiffanyjohnson172 true. I just need their cold a$$es to pony up some extra loans & become pathologists instead. They can instead work in a hospital morgue, no one told them to be in l&d where women & babies are most vulnerable 🤷🏾♀️
Great video! My husband and I were watching this video and he made pancakes for me afterwards because he felt so sad about everything my body would have to go through to bring forth our child. 😂 Thank you for your detailed video.
Right? I'm having my fourth after 3 years, and 8n like.... Oh fuck... I forgot abt that.. ughhhh. Witch hazel really is the bff that and warm water in that Peri bottle
You are hilarious lmao! You had me dying with the Tempur Pedic mattress pads! I'm currently 26 weeks, and after seeing so many "fairies and unicorns" unrealistic postpartum videos - it's nice to see a REAL one. Thanks for the laughs lol
i didn't know anything about this and i'm due in 2 weeks 😅 this is very helpful.. wish i can afford all of those stuffs.. and pls pray for me for safe delivery ❤
I’m a young mom and 6 months but this doesn’t scare me only because so many woman go through this and I know I’ll be ok at the end with my little baby boy
Finally, someone with an understanding of biology. This woman is screaming and sensationalizing something NORMAL that every woman has gone through since the first human. I wish she could be reasonable and not so dramatic about this.
@@negautrunks no actually not every woman goes thru this. Other people who I have talked to say "i didnt have any pain" "My bleeding only lasted up to a week or two" "I could walk normal" "Nothing hurted I was just tired" "Honestly I just wiped and it didnt hurt at all." "I had no back pain whatsoever" For others, it's really in a sense, dramatized like this. Every step is painful, but u deal with it but it hurts a lot. For others, even just spraying that water down there hurts. Everyone is really different. Other ppl I remember telling me "i felt really cold after i gave birth" While other ppl said "i didnt feel cold at all idk what they talking about " So it's really different for everyone lol.
@@khuxiong4589 I never said it wasn't different for everyone. What I did say is every woman who gives birth goes through the postpartum experience. You should read more carefully. And you should learn grammar so that you can communicate effectively. You look uneducated. Also this woman IS fearmongering for views.
@@negautrunks wow okay you're very butthurt about what i said You can say whatever you want about me but im just saying it could be that bad for some people My postpartum exp wasnt that bad but ik others whove had it a lot harder than me but ok
Had my baby last Friday, 4.09 Kgs in Nairobi 🇰🇪 Second baby, this time I had a perineal tear & I'm still on my menses. I was scared of going to the loo, the nurse took me as I'd bled heavily. I think my gynae is really good & I'm lucky, don't feel pain down there and had a natural bath. Using the tips from the nurses, keeping clean and taking it slow. I'd like to share some non-US perspective videos since the approach is different.
I cried for a few days because the pain I felt after having my son was such a shock! I found labour less painful (unmedicated birth so thank you so much to my body for making all those pain relieving hormones). Walking, sitting and standing was horrible! I had a 2nd degree tear so peeing without the squirt bottle was the stupidest thing I tried to do. I pooped just fine oddly enough lol I felt better after a month but it probably took 3 months for me to be able to stand and walk for long periods of time without pressure. I then also cracked my tailbone due to prolonged pushing so that took about 6 months to heal. AND I'm pregnant with baby 2 so I'm going to do this all again lmao! I'm going to look into frida mom this time around.
@@ADoseOfRox Hopefully having some knowledge that the pain after could suck could help with coping. I think I'll do better the second time around because I have the awareness that I I didn't have before. Xoxo go for the epidural if you want!
@@peeenalope1 ha ha ya the delivery was easier to deal with! There's also no baby to care for in the same way. Its tricky to take care of a baby when you feel so bad.
I have enjoyed this video so much. Thank you. The fact that you mentioned everything I am going through at the moment and making jokes in between makes the pain feel less.
SO real. I'm 4 weeks postpartum and ALL OF THIS. No one told me you'd bleed for like a month, that pooping was worse than labor (it was) or that your stomach would be a giant floppy mess. Postpartum/breastfeeding/pumping has been worse than pregnancy or my birth - both of which went awesome.
Yes girl! Nipple care! Another thing to help is after nursing express some milk on your nipple and let it air dry. Breastmilk has a TON of healing properties and helps so much! I did this a TON and it helped so much.
Thank you for being so unfiltered and honest. And for not saying "BUT you have a cute lil baby through all this" It is soo annoying when people constantly say that. I feel like the PP healing process is a totally separate thing from bonding with your babe and DOES NOT take away your pain. I'm due in November and this made me feel more prepared 💛
You'd need to use that same squirt bottle that was shown. You can get other ones that have a curved top so you don't have to put the bottle so far down. You can find them when looking for some cheap 'bidet' options. (They're good for camping too as you don't have to get rid of any toilet paper.) Some people have a hand-held shower nozzle. That would definitely help.
I'm 1 month postpartum and laughing while watching this - so relatable! Somehow this info didn't find me before I delivered, and didn't even know to look for it. One thing I wasn't expecting was the massive hormonal shift and how it would make me a sad, weepy mess for like 2 weeks. I missed being pregnant and the gravity of new motherhood made me cry quite a lot. As my chemistry balanced out so did my mood, but I can imagine these so-called "baby blues" could develop into something more serious (PPD) if a woman isn't well-supported at home.
I am literally going thru all of this currently with my baby of 10 days old and i do not have half of the things thats making you life easier. Its really such a struggle. No pain meds, no soothing sprays, nothing for the boobs.. it just sucks so much but im soldiering on with what i have and just tryna be the best momma for my little girl. Thanx for making me see that im not crazy experiencing all this, cause sometimes i just dont even want to complain to my husband ❤️
I am 30 weeks now with my first child and bumped into this video while doing my research. I nearly gave birth as I laughed so hard. I am very sensitive and have had a very high risk pregnancy with lots of complications so I know this will be me. Thank you for this video. I feel like I know will be prepared for the next level of pain. God bless us mothers. Btwn the mattress pad i will never forget this ! Lol
This video is so real. I was told by soooo many that normal vaginal delivery would have faster recovery than a C sec but based on my experience, and those I know who did a C sec, I can’t say I agree... it’s so much pain and you can’t even walk! Two weeks on and going to the toilet gives you the shivers!
I have literally never heard of granulation growth omg I was getting lightheaded listening to this poor woman speak about I am scared of labor and delivery 😭😭😭😭😭
Bianca, I saw your video when I was like 12 weeks prego and it has stuck in my mind. I’m now 31+2 and coming back to refresh my memory. I’m a first time mom. Thank you so much for sharing this! This is great information and I feel so much more prepared.
Berenice Pagan girl what I’m watching this video and I’m mad my mom not more active and ain talk to me and I’m 7 weeks away but she always be like that so .... whatever. Makes me just wanna be alone after pregnancy fr !
OMG, I was laughing so hard at times, cringing at times, smiling at times, wincing at times, this video had it all! Thank you for being so honest yet supportive! You make amazing videos! Best wishes to you, your baby, and your new family!
Thank you for that, just never understand why no one talks about this part of it! Just about to go into my 2nd trimester and feeling a little more prepared for what I need to buy for after
“Yes I sacrifice my Vagina” 🤣
“No need for savage fenty the only thing savage is the pain in your vagina” 😂😂
“Graduate from your mattress (pad)” “every size on deck “😂
“Vagina hammock” 😂
“Padsicles”😂
“Hmm that wasn’t there before wtheck is that”😂😂
“Barely B”😂😂
“Adults wiwi pad”
Lmaof at this vid thank you 😂😂😂
😂😂😂 I love hearing your fav moments! Thanks love!
The savage fenty comment sent me so relatable 😂 🤣 😭
The tempurpedic got me
Right I was crying laughing at everything 😭💀
Me toooo …. I’ve been Hollering 😂😂😂
If you're reading this and you're pregnant right now, don't worry. You're going to be fine ❤
THANK YOU!!!!!
Thank you 😊
Thank you 😩💕💜🙏🏽
Thank you
This video was scary
I'm entering my second trimester and while everyone is planning baby showers, I'm planning my postpartum care.
Take care of yourself that was my biggest mistake in baby 1now baby 2 in June I'm getting my stuff ready
same 👏🏼
Well you can't have a baby shower so that makes sense
right there with you girl...😂😂
That’s what I did for my sister. I spent over $100 on her after the baby came. Ya. The baby was ok. She was kinda cute (I’m not a baby person. I like them after 8months) but my focus was on my sister.
This needs to be in every sex education class.
Would have traumatized some kids but at least they would think twice before having unprotected sex 😂
Right!!!
Totally agree! Was saying that yesterday to my husband. "If you get pregnant, you will have to wear diapers after you give birth." Best reason ever to practice safe sex.
Well at least it will make them think twice about having unprotected sex and lower teenage pregnancy
Yup
I’m a soon to be dad for the first time and this is very knowledgeable and helpful for me, to help my wife as best as possible during those tough times. Thank you
I loved that you watched this!! You’re already on the right path to be an amazing Dad! 🥰
congratulationsssssssss new daddd ! you will do just great
The fact that you care about it this much to watch a video about it, I'm sure you will be a great father and husband 💖 Congratulations! May God bless your family
Can I borrow you after giving birth 🤣😭
You’re an amazing husband wow I’m gonna cry
I’m 9 months pregnant and I couldn’t decide if I should laugh or cry during this video! My favorite was comparing the pad to a mattress.
How was your experience?
Angelique Hogan overall pretty good. I ended up getting a 3rd degree episiotomy and the doctor had to use a vacuum, but other than that he was a healthy baby boy!
Danielle Igims congratulations on the baby
Am 6 months pregnant. I laughed all through..i even had to send to my sister to watch too. She makes the pains thing sounds funny
Exactly only I laughed to later cry 😂😂😂
Ok but can we take a minute and appreciate how funny and light hearted she made this serious talk. This is all a LOT to take in but she made it tolerable
Literally was thinking the same. I was in the process of watching someone else until I saw her video, so glad I did
Adoption is looking like a very real possibility after watching this.
You literally read my mind 😂
Yup! Lol
😂 Yes it is!
Same
Girl same and I’m pregnant 😅
1) I can’t stress how important that squirt bottle is when you pee 2) use that donut to sit on a chair 3) sitz bath with epsom salt 2-3 times a day 5) take that extra strength Motrin for the pain!! 4) as a first time mom, I was guilty of not going to sleep when baby went to sleep, I felt like it was the time to get chores done around the house plus I was the typical worried first time mother. 5) I had mood swings like no other, one minute I was happy and next minute as I’m feeding my little dude I would break down into tears, gotta love the postpartum blues. 6) ask for help!! Ask. For. Help.
Truth ! You feel like your the only person and feel so lonely at times it’s a weird feeling 💗
SoniaBSanchez try using a wrap to carry baby while she/he is up and you can do chores that way and sleep
I never slept when the babies slept lol
What if you dont have a bath
@@zamiaramirez1390 i never did the sitz bath and was perfectly fine with all 3 kids. You just need to have more numbing spray and witch hazel on hand to help you heal
19 years old and boutta be a father... scared as shit but I’m 100% ready for everything that life is gonna throw at me. Wanna make my gfs pregnancy/postpartum experience as painless and bearable as possible.
Wow!! Already sounds like you are going to make an amazing father!! You got this! Wishing you the best
If your girlfriend enjoys massages, please offer them as often as she’d like. Offer to make her food or get takeout, get her facial masks, paint her toenails... basically treat her like an absolute queen. ESPECIALLY when she’s cranky. You’ll both have a much easier time. ;)
As a child who's suffered from the absence of their father I'm very proud of you for sticking around while being so young. I know I'm a stranger but that doesnt change the fact that I am So PROUD of you. You are important, and you play a huge part in how that child will grow up.
This is the sweetest thing 💕 i love how youre researching videos of this on your own just to help her so amazing especially for your age, shes a lucky girl! You guys are gonna do great!
Teach all the men! PLEASE!
I’m literally 16 lmao, so I’m not sure why I’m here. However mad respect to all mamas out there, women are tough as nails.
I'm only 14 so like.... I'm not sure why I'm here either 🙂😂😂
I'm 13 but i want to be a cnm so that justifies it? 😂
i was 16 when i was pregnant, so maybe this video helps not be in the same situation i was in lol !
Kay Nicole true :)
17. I'm kinda far from this but I kept watching coz she's kinda funny
Girl, I have so much respect for you, NOT ALL HEROS WEAR CAPES, THEY WEAR PADS! Lord, now I’m definitely more scared about the postpartum experience than the actual child birth😂
🤣🤣🤣
They wear mattresses. Lol
righttt
Cesarean post-partum here. A couple of my things I think people should know: In case you're wondering, yes, you still bleed afterwards. Your body has to get rid of the extra blood from pregnancy, lining, etc. I never did need the super big pads, just the regular size (could have just been me, not sure), but after about a week with those I was in liners for six weeks. Ugh. Bowel issues are common from all the anesthia and the surgery. I'm 11 weeks postpartum and just now starting to go regularly on my own. Before, I had been using Miralax, because without it I had rock hard poop that was soooo painful to pass. The soreness lasted for a while, and even once you feel better on the outside, it's going to take you a year plus to heal on the inside. Stairs are not your friend. Be prepared to camp out on your main floor for a couple of weeks if you have stairs and don't want to spend most of your days in your room. This may seem like common sense to some, but if you're breastfeeding, make sure you also eat and drink at night. I was so used to eating during the day only, and this was a no-no for breastfeeding. You have to drink a ton of water b/c you use up even more feeding your baby, and you can find yourself dehydrated (no fun). Not intaking enough calories will make you really tired too. Which brings me to another thing - breastfeeding can make you sleepy. FYI. Also, don't be surprised if your libido takes a hit, and surprise! Even though you didn't give birth vaginally, you may experience vaginal discomfort when you return to having sex due to hormones.
This is the best all inclusive postpartum video ever!!!! Why don’t people tell you this stuff????
Because women wouldn´t want to get pregnan if they do... xD!
Because not everybody goes through the same thing! 99% of the stuff she saying I didn’t experience. I had the easiest birth and I breastfed my son for over a year. Currently pregnant with my second child. It’s honestly not as bad as everybody makes it seems but then again everybody experience is different.
Paris Davis that’s true. I went through most of the things she mentioned but I feel like no one talked about them to me until after I was already going through it. I wasn’t warned. It’s not soooo bad, and I plan to do it again. Just wish people were more real about the not so fun stuff that happens postpartum
I’m not pregnant or have kids but this just makes me more terrified to even think about having kids. My mom has 10 kids and she never told me any of these things. God bless all the moms out there.💕
Vanessa 🙏❤️
I know right! 🥰
Girl I feel you same here, I was always afraid of the idea of child birthing and postpartum since I used to be in high school because I studied on it a lot just out of curiosity. Even though I am soon to be married, and don't have any kids. Yeah children is and sound amazing, but honey the process...... uhhh..yeahh..... yeahh I don't know if I want to go through any of that stuff... Ima need God's strength fr fr.
Lol. I had my baby yesterday. He was 5lbs 14oz. I had to get 2 to 3 stitches. I have to be honest..the past 24 hours haven't been that bad. Yes it stings a bit l when I pee. My first bowel movement came out pretty easy. It wasn't that bad. I bled pretty heavy for a few hours, now the bleeding is just like a regular period. Not really cramping that bad in my stomach but every now and then I get very mild contractions where my uterus is trying to shrink back down. Been taking ibuprofen and that seems to help. Your video was so funny and I enjoyed it. Good luck mama's❤❤ It won't be so bad😘😘
Yeah I notice a lot of people try to traumatize us women LOL it’s not intentional but it’s awesome because every woman’s body is different and reacts differently to pregnancy so some will have it easier than others after birth and some will have it harder just depends
Congratulations on your new baby! I’m glad your delivery went smoothly:)
I had similar experience as yours, a bit of stinging when peeing the first few times but bowel movement didn’t hurt, at first used maxi pads then regular. the witch hazel is helpful deff recommend that!!
Agree video was really funny!
@Dee James Thanks so much for your comment. Most women have such horrid stories, it all scares me, lol. You managed to calm my nerves down a bit. Hope you and the baby are doing well!
Was he full term? 5 lbs is very small and not the average weight for boys unless you and your partner are both small. But having an 8 lb. Child is very different from 5 lbs
I’m 30 weeks & sitting here giggling bc you’re funny but crying in the inside 😭😭 #ripmytutu
Update: gave birth to my baby boy Logan on 6/19.. got a first degree tear with abt 2 stitches I believe. I’m still walking funny ! My tutu definitely died but it’s on its way to redemption. I say in another week the pain should be bearable for me. 😂 take these tips !
Same here, I'm 33 weeks and I am both happy to get it over with but also super nervous about labor and postpartum 😭
Yes feel this! Im 36 weeks super nervous/scared also so ready for my child to be born
You all do fine.
Remember these tips use it to be aware but not scared.
Love yourself love your babies.
Love G d.
Welcome to Motherhood.
It is truly a blessing, but honestly it doesn't always feel like that.
Ask for help and feel no shame in doing so.
Take it from me. My kids are grown and my youngest "baby" is well into his teens.
Congratulations you all
Same!!! Lol
I’m due in 3 weeks with my first baby... please pray for me 😂 (edit) 1 year later and I had my beautiful baby boy with a very easy birth! Feeling so blessed ☺️
Make sure you update us girl!
Congrats🎉🎉 how was it?
Im due in 2 weeks and this is😅
I'm due in 5 days 🤦🏼♀️
I just gave birth 2 days ago lol. I was hoping for tips on this video/review on the kit lol. How was your experience?
As a 73 yr old granny now, I'm just in awe & envious of all the fabulous products available now to make our lives at this delicate & fragile time, so so much easier! Also desperately needed is a kind, understanding & patient partner!!
I gave birth 5 days ago and I am suffering, I thought I was dying and I am grateful for this video coz all the new moms show the nice videos but never such truths. Now I will just breath and ride the wave coz IT'S NORMAL
How are you feeling as of recently?❤
@@artisha2612 much better but I have a long way to go. Patiently waiting for the stitches to disintegrate. ❤️
@@MIMZ5876 I hope you start to feel better soon! You gave life and that's so beautiful.🧡
@@MIMZ5876 you can do it!
I gave birth a week ago and I thought the SAME thing!! No one tells you what comes after! SO MUCH BLOOD and PAIN!!!
I’m a mama (she’s 3 now) and I approve this message. I always told people that labor was a walk in the park compared to the recovery.
Omg I so scared now due in 8 weeks 😟
Kitty Kat don’t be afraid! Every BODY is different.
rubbb BBB I had some, but I really tried not to take them. I was doing entirely too much after birth
I'm 1 month PP today. Vaginal delivery and an epidural. I had a minor tear that required 3 stitches. I was pain free basically a day or 2 later. Peeing was weird and I was scared to poop but stool softener helped with that. All I'm saying is sometimes it's easier than you're expecting so don't let this video scare you!!
Thank you so much for this 😭😅
Thank you
Definitely
Just keep this as information just incase
Right unless you get cursed and it don’t turn out right for everyone
I'm on my 4th and my experience was a lot like hers. Everyone is different tho. I didn't have an epidural or the tissue growth she had, but the pain and bleeding was the same. I've never used padsicles and prepped them for this new baby. That's new and hopefully very helpful.
Twenty seven minutes and sixteen seconds of birth control.
Swear to god 😂
😂😂😂
Too late for some of us lol
On Everything
I swear 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤞
No one warned me about postpartum hair loss... I literally lost the whole front of my hairline in clumps! And it wasn’t my Primary or OB who solved the mystery but a nutritionist... I was “malnourished” from Childbirth and nursing. So please eat right and continue your prenatals after delivery especially if nursing.
Same here! My hair never recovered.
Wow a lot of people don’t know about the hair loss ish is real.
Thank you for the heads up. My husband and I just found out we are expecting our first baby.
Gypsy Princess No problem! I tell everyone I know about it now because I found it to be so devastating when it was happening. I had to wear scarves and hats until my hair grew back...which while going through all the postpartum stuff and hormones and sleep deprivation was a rough time for a while. My advice is to take care of your self as best as you can and to sleep as much as you can before and after baby arrives...and most importantly....CONGRATULATIONS!
@@lifewave7321 Thank you and I will and am. :)
Don't forget that lochia (the bleeding and discharge during post partum) might smell like something has decayed inside of you. Apparently it is normal. Made me freak out a lot, because I was afraid of an infection. Also I was in too much pain in order to realise whether anything else was going on besides the pain I was anyway feeling. Couldn't have survived without ibuprofen.
I thought it was an abnormal when i am smelling so bad down there
Thanks for saying that! Yeah it’s an… interesting smell.
I'm not even pregnant and I'm terrified. holy cow I'm gonna call my mom now and say thank you for all that she went thought
I was an accident. And then she chose to have me.... So it's all on my mum lol.
@@mariasoto1837 soon after I had my first baby I was crying in the car realizing that my mom went through the same horrors that I was going through. Except she was a single mom with twins😭 so I called her to say sorry she had to deal with that lol
@@andrearich7351 it kinda feels good to know in my faith mothers are valued 3x than fathers and theyre rewarded and honored for it all.
I'm pregnant now and will be due late October early November. I learned a lot from this video. This might be my only baby, lol.
I'm also due in late October - on my birthday for goodness sake... I was not ready to see this video... Thankfully, here in The Netherlands every mama gets a personal care nurse who visits your home daily for the first week post delivery to help you out!
gw3nd0l3n3 Congratulations!! You will have a birthday twin, lol. My birthday is October 14th. I was not ready for it either but I would rather know about it now and be prepared. Wow, that’s cool!
I feel the same way about mine due in December 😱😥😣
I’m due early October and this will be my only baby lol
Me too !!
I have desperately been looking for a video that goes this in depth about post birth! Why don’t more women talk about this?? Thank you for your video!!
It is so taboo! Once I got into post partum (now), I discovered all these painful experiences...
I remember I was so tired and the nurse was trying to help me pee after birth and I said “I don’t remember how, I can’t do it 😂”
Dani Ward omggg 😂
Omgosh lol
I had newborn deer legs after birth.. I straight up could not walk (had epidural)
😂
I can just imagine the look on your face when you said it 😂
I wasn't expecting to lose my mind. Literally. Not all wounds are physical, and postpartum depression and psychosis are real.
Very real!
The hubby and I are talking about starting a a family and watching this has me freaked the F out. Holy 💩. My mom did this 7 times! she’s crazy.
your mom is a hero!
I said the same about my mom 9 times
Lol
mine too😂
Have you done it?
*Ladies, not only water. Hydration you can get in many forms. I loved the soups I made, infused water, watermelon, etc. That helped a lot instead of plain water.*
So easy to forget that. Thanks for the reminder
Thanks for the tip!!
My doc also recommend Gatorade or some sort of electrolyte drink. I am not looking forward to postpartum now wtf.
This is why I can't understand Michelle Duggar having 19 kids. Thanks for the info.
After kid 5 I'm pretty sure it turns into a slip N slide
@@jazzie_wolf ma'am 🤣🤣🤣
@@jazzie_wolf 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Christine Wooding bro 😆😆😂😂
@@jazzie_wolf nope if u do research any women can be loose once they had a kid it don't matter how many kids u have it depends if u exercise ur vagina the older u get the looser it gets so it's EVERY WOMEN
I bet people dt share that neither.
Facts! After having my 1st I was so confused as to why literally NO ONE ever mentions postpartum care. Pregnant with my 2nd now so get to do it all over again. Fun times!
This definitely cured my baby fevers. I have being worrying my hubby and family for a baby, to the extent of watching almost everything child birth, from 1st trimester to after labor. That alone wasn’t fun and knowing I will go through this much pain and discomfort, I think I will go ahead to finish my Masters. The baby can come later when I’m done with school. I’m just 25
Yes as women I feel like we’re always thinking about growing a family especially when we’re in a relationship . I feel like taking care of everything first like your education and getting your financial needs and wants ready is a must before starting a family !
I'm 19 years,,, in my third year of my degree n well I'm pregnant though unplanned. Sometimes I think pregnancies are inevitable if God wills one to have a baby. Irregardless,, gotta juggle between single mother hood n school n ik this experience will make me stronger
Based on our experience, I could imagine how scary it must be for teen moms and single moms or moms without an active partner to assist with the aftercare.
It is not a good thing to go through post partum alone🤨
The position I’m in right now :) I’m shitting my pants watching this LOL I’m 19 and going to be a single mom. Wish me luck!!!😂
@@Coolcatscattery you will do great you are already preparing yourself ❤️. Ask for help when you need it if it's available. You can do this!
@@Coolcatscattery It must be scary for you.. My biggest respect for you being so brave. It will be alright, remember this is just a pain for the body and if it happens it will still go away. But your heart and soul will be full of joy. Being a parent is wearing a crown ❤ Lots of love and stay safe.
@@Coolcatscattery Prayers it’s gotten easier for you 💕
I didn't feel like this was TMI. I felt like this was detailed/ thorough, which I really appreciate. I feel more prepared knowing what all to expect. Thank you for sharing your experience and for being so real and practical in your videos!
Finally someone who is actually telling it like it is. Everyone tells you how “sunshine and rainbows” it is to give birth. They neglect to mention the giant mesh underwear you’ll be wearing for weeks due to your non stop heavy bleeding. Or the fact that you’ll need that squirt bottle on every trip to the bathroom.
I think frozen pads with aloe and witch hazel saved my life - def recommend!
I'm definitely preparing me some of those "pad-sicles".
I’m a mother of a toddler with one on the way (in like 2 weeks), and I just want to say, to all the new mamas to be out there, please don’t let this video scare you. Everyone’s experience is different. My postpartum experience with my son wasn’t half as bad or traumatizing and I had a 2nd degree tear (also not that bad). I had a natural, unmedicated, birth center water birth (which was amazing btw). The cramping during breastfeeding was so minimal, I hardly notice them. The supplies she suggested are helpful, but please know that there are more holistic options for you. Long story short, try not to allow anyone’s traumatic story stop you from enjoying such a phenomenal, transformative moment in your life. Pregnancy, labor/delivery can be beautiful, it’s all in your mindset. Embrace it, revel in your superpower and trust the process. You got this 💛
I love this comment, best ever! 🙏❤️ bless you
Thank you.. that video was scary 😭🥹
Lol and the lies continues 😂 no thank you c-section it is for me
@@nazlyrinquest5365 if that is your choice, then great.
@@nazlyrinquest5365 my mom had both Natural births and c- sections and she explained that they're both hard in there own way. With a natural Birth, delivery can be the hard part and with a c- section, recovery is hard too. I had 2 at-home deliveries with midwives and loved them. Bringing a new life to the world isn't the easiest thing but research and do what's best for you.
I feel like when it comes to postpartum, we are living in the Victorian Era. Remember how women had to learn about the birds and the bees from their husbands on their wedding night? That’s exactly how I feel about postpartum. Thank you so much for this video! I’m terrified lol but I learned a lot and now have an idea on how to prepare.
I’m only 7 weeks along idk why I’m scaring myself with these videos right now 😂😂😂
Lonna Bunny same here! ☺️ due Dec 17!
It’s not scary, but it’s best to know what you may go through. I kept telling my mom y’all didn’t tell me all this stuff.
I’m 7 weeks too, and now I’m so scared!! 🙈
Lonna Bunny I’m 6 weeks and scared to pieces now 😩
Same due aug 16
Trigger warning ⚠️
For the women that don't know what they are going to watch
P.s
Yall will be okay . You will make it through. Remember day by day you are healing ✨️ 💛
It's scary , uncomfortable and down right painful. Give yourself love and respect during these times. Breathe in and out and have a calm mind.
When she said mattress I legit screamed from laughing!!!😂
Same
Thats y children must respect their mothers and never neglect them....bringing a child into the world and raising him or her take sweat, pain and tears, plus ALOT of unconditional love.
💯💯💯💯
Well some mothers abuse their kids lmfao.
Love this video 😁. On my 4th pregnancy and a lot of this info is useful. Yes everyone’s experience is different. But one regret of mine was never being 100% prepared. People always tell you how beautiful and wonderful pregnancy and motherhood is but they miss out on the ugly truths. With this pregnancy, I want to be ready for everything because I’ve experienced a lot of what she has throughout all of my pregnancies, so I WILL be buying a lot of these items. If you have a great support system then you can take it one day at a time but if you don’t being prepared for it all is best. Thanks for this, literally had me laughing! 🤣
This is the realest postpartum video I have seen.
No it’s not a mattress , it’s a pad 😂😂
Ruby Bonilla they are so big I use them as a cushion for my csection scar 😂
@@kendrajoseph5252 what pads are these?
AOK some extremely HUGE HUGE pads the hospital give you. It’s like sitting on a bassinet mattress. They come in handy for heavy bleeders and I guess women who have vaginal births. I’m not a heavy bleeder so always infinity overnight pads work just fine for me.
Use Depends instead
You are so fun!! Thanks for the great video. My baby is 9 days old, and post partum hit hard.. I am experiencing all you're saying... it really is hard. The pain never ends... can't wait for my perineal tear to finally heal so that i can walk freely again!!! 😢😢
When u pulled out that pad.. I screamed!!!
Your humor is amazing.
Btw your curls are poppin
🤣🤣🤣 thanks love!
No where near being pregnant or having a baby but I just love Bianca and all her content. This is super informative. Thank you Bianca 💕.
Kindle Van Heerden same here!
Same!
Me, too!
Kindle Van Heerden yaas same!!
Lol, same here.
I really don’t know if it’s my hormones, but I was literally crying for half of your video. I’m currently 3 months, first time pregnant, and I am scared. But you did great at explaining every detail and I appreciate it.
remember .. u will Survive like the other mothers 💕
Awww! I’d love to hear how your journey has been since. Hope you’re 2 year old is happy and healthy ❤
My legs are numb watching this. Why isn’t this taught in school? Oh god i feel unprepared now 😂
Bc its gross and nobody likes yalking about gross things. The smell alone made me sick personally, it was like a period but on steroids, it smelled different than a normal period but pungent too to annoy me....it was gross but only lasted like 3 days
Ohhhhh Lawwddd, Why did I hit the play button. 🤣🤣 I'm 37 weeks and genuinely freaking out. I was scared of delivery, but this postpartum is another level....🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Send prayers please 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Howd it go?
It went OK actually. I wanted a natural birth but God said sike C section for you boo. That recovery was brutal, never felt pain like that in my life. I also felt helpless, my husband helped me out the bed, use the bathroom...So annoying because I was used to doing things on my own, but he's such a blessing because he got up most nights to feed her. It was easier that way because he was quicker then me.
Overall the pain of the journey is always worth it. My girl is 15 months and thriving. God is so Amazing y'all 🙏🏽🥰
As a first time dad, looking for ways to support his dear wife on our pregnancy journey, (we are 8 months pregnant), I am I incredibly grateful for sharing your experience. It’s wonderful to know these things beforehand so that I know the little big things I can do to just help. I love your tip about the haemorrhage cushions. The stories I’m hearing about postpartum are nuts! I respect women even more man! My wife told me about her work colleague who said peeing for the first time after delivery is like peeing blades. At the time, I thought it was crazy, but I recently had to undergo cystoscopy, and the recovery took 48 hours but that was one of the most challenging 48 hours of my life. Now, I can only imagine how much more painful it would be for a woman who just birthed a human! So I think God gave me my experience NOT to trivialise any reports from my wife about pain and discomfort because it can be easy for someone who never went through it to think “surely it can’t be that bad”. Overall, I’m immensely grateful for videos like this because I need to learn to be sympathetic, empathetic, and just supportive during this period. It only saddens me that I can’t be on maternity leave with my wife due to work as I would love to THERE, simply to just serve my wife and my child without having to worry about work but God willing, we will he fine :)
Love inputs from your hubby as well-he’s a funny guy. Love from the Uk
The unused post-partum box would be a good giveaway item!
(Not pregnant lol but this video gave me more info than anything else ever has!)
“No this is not a mattress” I SCREAMED 😂😂😭 i was having baby fever but you have definitely slapped it out of me thanks🤍🤍
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Thank you so much for this honest, raw, vulnerable video!! I am 24 weeks and trying to educate and prepare myself for everything birth/postpartum. Knowing what could/will likely happen is so helpful. Really appreciate all your videos. Women are warriors!!!
I had my first baby last Wednesday and let me just start off by saying I had NO pregnancy symptoms.. no nausea no food cravings or dislikes no better sense of smell no cramps no Braxton hicks. Now when I was going into labor this is what happened, I woke up at 3:50 am with cramps and the sudden urge to poop and it was not solid.. I went to lie down and then at 6:45 am, I slightly moved in bed and i felt a tiny squirt and i thought i just peed a little so i was UGH ok lemme get up and go pee. I put my hand on the bed and I felt a wet spot and I was like fuck did I leave the water bottle open, so I proceeded to get up and I felt more liquids start to come out and when I stand up amniotic fluid just came down. I felt small little contractions until I was probably 3 cm keep in mind I was planning on skipping the epidural I made to 8 cm without it but as the pain got worse I wasnt able to control my breathing meaning the baby wasnt getting enough oxygen so I had to get the epidural to calm down. Pushing was hard only because I didn't know if I was actually doing anything. When my baby came out, all I felt was like a super wet tampon being pulled out. I DIDN'T TEAR!!🎉🎉 but peeing kinda did hurt bc of the catheter they had put in my urethra. I was scared to poop but it doesnt really hurt maybe it felt a little sore. Yes bleeding is very heavy the first day. Idk if other women have heavy bleeding after but my bleeding has been very light even more now 6 days after giving birth. Cramps eh but BACK PAIN girlll, I think it's the worst part about all this.
good for you gurl!! i also have no pregnancy symptoms, its actually been a breeze! im due end of june and im praying my delivery isn't so painful and that i dont tear. especially that i dont tear!!!
i’m due on july 31st, honestly scared😫
Ohhh my how did you manage not to tear I don’t wanna tear I’m scared for that!
You’re SOOOO lucky, I gave both one week ago to a small 6 pound baby girl and had second degree tearing. Supposedly that’s not that bad. It felt TERRIBLE!!
Is there any special diet or exercise or anything you followed during your pregnancy?
Geeeeeez so you’re telling me after all these months, weeks and days of carrying this child it’s not over when I give birth! 😩😩😩
😬😬😬
Naijeema Shanelle no it's not! I just had my first. And I swore I'd finally feel better when the baby came out. Noone warned me.
Nope! Lol!!!
I think the lack of education around postpartum is disgusting. Thank god for TH-cam so I have a clue what to expect!
No, it's just beginning babe
Thank you for being real about postpartum! I feel like I didn’t know any of this stuff and I’m 24 weeks pregnant!
I was so shy about being undressed in front of people but its so true as soon as your in labor or even after labor all that goes out the window! My nurse gave me a whole sponge bath in the bathroom after I pushed my son out and I was so comfortable with it and thankful
🤣🤣🤣 riiiiight?? So true!!
True I gave birth on all fours but afterwards I wanted to be covered up. Business as usual but I had a nurse tell me I was being high and mighty all of a sudden and acted as if I should have just stayed naked even after being stitched just because "other women don't care".
Jazzy Nicole My nurse said I shouldn’t be asking for drugs while I was in labor lol Some of them are cold 🥶
@@tiffanyjohnson172 true. I just need their cold a$$es to pony up some extra loans & become pathologists instead. They can instead work in a hospital morgue, no one told them to be in l&d where women & babies are most vulnerable 🤷🏾♀️
Jazzy Nicole I said the same thing! They’re like vultures waiting until we are at our most vulnerable smh.
Soo this is what they call the 4th trimester? 😬 I am due in 3.5 weeks. Lord help me!
Angel Mercer hang in there! You will have a cute little baby soon.
@@LaJuera25 Aww Thank you🤗
Be strong i am in same position as u with my 4th and i am scared aswell but once baby is born and on your chest ull forget everhthjng
@@kiranjalees2911 thank you. I can't wait🥰
@@kaylewatermolen2692 Aww thank you!
Great video! My husband and I were watching this video and he made pancakes for me afterwards because he felt so sad about everything my body would have to go through to bring forth our child. 😂 Thank you for your detailed video.
“So you grab your tempur-pedic mattress” 😂😂😂
Pregnant with my third baby and I still learned a lot from this video. It’s been 6 years since my last child. It’s funny how you forget. 😅
Right? I'm having my fourth after 3 years, and 8n like.... Oh fuck... I forgot abt that.. ughhhh. Witch hazel really is the bff that and warm water in that Peri bottle
You are hilarious lmao! You had me dying with the Tempur Pedic mattress pads! I'm currently 26 weeks, and after seeing so many "fairies and unicorns" unrealistic postpartum videos - it's nice to see a REAL one. Thanks for the laughs lol
Wish I seen this before getting pregnant 😂😅😂. the baby fever deffo would’ve took a quick exit
Betty Boop seriously lol
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Girl SAME!!
Right?!
I like the way U talk about it, very realistic. Some people do this kind of videos and they don't say it the hard reality the way U did! Congrats
i didn't know anything about this and i'm due in 2 weeks 😅 this is very helpful.. wish i can afford all of those stuffs..
and pls pray for me for safe delivery ❤
I’m a young mom and 6 months but this doesn’t scare me only because so many woman go through this and I know I’ll be ok at the end with my little baby boy
God bless you woman of strength🙏❤
Finally, someone with an understanding of biology.
This woman is screaming and sensationalizing something NORMAL that every woman has gone through since the first human. I wish she could be reasonable and not so dramatic about this.
@@negautrunks no actually not every woman goes thru this. Other people who I have talked to say "i didnt have any pain"
"My bleeding only lasted up to a week or two"
"I could walk normal"
"Nothing hurted I was just tired"
"Honestly I just wiped and it didnt hurt at all."
"I had no back pain whatsoever"
For others, it's really in a sense, dramatized like this.
Every step is painful, but u deal with it but it hurts a lot.
For others, even just spraying that water down there hurts.
Everyone is really different.
Other ppl I remember telling me "i felt really cold after i gave birth"
While other ppl said "i didnt feel cold at all idk what they talking about "
So it's really different for everyone lol.
@@khuxiong4589 I never said it wasn't different for everyone.
What I did say is every woman who gives birth goes through the postpartum experience.
You should read more carefully. And you should learn grammar so that you can communicate effectively. You look uneducated.
Also this woman IS fearmongering for views.
@@negautrunks wow okay you're very butthurt about what i said
You can say whatever you want about me but im just saying it could be that bad for some people
My postpartum exp wasnt that bad but ik others whove had it a lot harder than me but ok
I’m not a mom yet, but after watching this how do people have 2 under 2 😱. I will definitely remember this video in the years to come for help.
Had my baby last Friday, 4.09 Kgs in Nairobi 🇰🇪 Second baby, this time I had a perineal tear & I'm still on my menses.
I was scared of going to the loo, the nurse took me as I'd bled heavily.
I think my gynae is really good & I'm lucky, don't feel pain down there and had a natural bath. Using the tips from the nurses, keeping clean and taking it slow. I'd like to share some non-US perspective videos since the approach is different.
“If you aren’t really good about drinking water you will get a lot of headaches”
*reaches for my half full 32oz water bottle and gulps it all down*
I cried for a few days because the pain I felt after having my son was such a shock! I found labour less painful (unmedicated birth so thank you so much to my body for making all those pain relieving hormones). Walking, sitting and standing was horrible! I had a 2nd degree tear so peeing without the squirt bottle was the stupidest thing I tried to do. I pooped just fine oddly enough lol I felt better after a month but it probably took 3 months for me to be able to stand and walk for long periods of time without pressure. I then also cracked my tailbone due to prolonged pushing so that took about 6 months to heal. AND I'm pregnant with baby 2 so I'm going to do this all again lmao! I'm going to look into frida mom this time around.
I'm debating about an epidural.. I usually have a high pain tolerance but IDK.. BUT the AFTER delivery is what scares me huhuhu.
Omg same. I was praying to take me back to the delivery!
@@ADoseOfRox Hopefully having some knowledge that the pain after could suck could help with coping. I think I'll do better the second time around because I have the awareness that I I didn't have before. Xoxo go for the epidural if you want!
@@peeenalope1 ha ha ya the delivery was easier to deal with! There's also no baby to care for in the same way. Its tricky to take care of a baby when you feel so bad.
I have enjoyed this video so much. Thank you. The fact that you mentioned everything I am going through at the moment and making jokes in between makes the pain feel less.
SO real. I'm 4 weeks postpartum and ALL OF THIS. No one told me you'd bleed for like a month, that pooping was worse than labor (it was) or that your stomach would be a giant floppy mess. Postpartum/breastfeeding/pumping has been worse than pregnancy or my birth - both of which went awesome.
Girl yes! Pumping made my nipples bleed and the scabs would peel off. That was 10 years ago and I'm still traumatized by it
Yes girl! Nipple care! Another thing to help is after nursing express some milk on your nipple and let it air dry. Breastmilk has a TON of healing properties and helps so much! I did this a TON and it helped so much.
Thank you so much, trying to learn eveyrthing I need for my pregnant wife :)
I better heal correctly after having this baby in 3 weeks or else I’m never going to stop cursing. I’ll be mad for life😭
🤣 you got this!
I’m gonna have my husband watch this so he knows how to help me after the baby’s born!!! 😂
Same, I am not ready so I can't imagine he is 😭 lord help me
LOL. I made my husband watch too. He needs to know what all this entails on my part.
I have fainted about 20 times listening to the pain stories.
This is the ultimate cure for baby fever 😷 and careless fornication 😂
When ur strong for pain baby fever NEVER goes away
My advice pls get birth control I ended up having 5 and one is baking
Mehitz 16 lol
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😂💀def
Glad I never suffered from baby fever. Birth makes me run for the hills! Lord I hope my birth control NEVER fails me 🙏
Thank you for being so unfiltered and honest. And for not saying "BUT you have a cute lil baby through all this"
It is soo annoying when people constantly say that. I feel like the PP healing process is a totally separate thing from bonding with your babe and DOES NOT take away your pain.
I'm due in November and this made me feel more prepared 💛
I love the honest reality!! My mother passed away before I had kids and everyone around me just told me about the fun parts of being a mom.
Tell me how when taking a shower, how would you wash down there? Postpartum shower routine, if that changes.
You'd need to use that same squirt bottle that was shown. You can get other ones that have a curved top so you don't have to put the bottle so far down. You can find them when looking for some cheap 'bidet' options. (They're good for camping too as you don't have to get rid of any toilet paper.) Some people have a hand-held shower nozzle. That would definitely help.
I'm 1 month postpartum and laughing while watching this - so relatable! Somehow this info didn't find me before I delivered, and didn't even know to look for it. One thing I wasn't expecting was the massive hormonal shift and how it would make me a sad, weepy mess for like 2 weeks. I missed being pregnant and the gravity of new motherhood made me cry quite a lot. As my chemistry balanced out so did my mood, but I can imagine these so-called "baby blues" could develop into something more serious (PPD) if a woman isn't well-supported at home.
I’m 19, 13 weeks pregnant and not with the father so I am terrified!!! This video was very helpful, thank you!!
how was it?
@@daisy.6656 she’s almost 3 years old now :)
I am literally going thru all of this currently with my baby of 10 days old and i do not have half of the things thats making you life easier. Its really such a struggle. No pain meds, no soothing sprays, nothing for the boobs.. it just sucks so much but im soldiering on with what i have and just tryna be the best momma for my little girl. Thanx for making me see that im not crazy experiencing all this, cause sometimes i just dont even want to complain to my husband ❤️
Everytime I think the worst is over with you're like "THERE'S MOREEEE" and I just want to cry hehehe
I am 30 weeks now with my first child and bumped into this video while doing my research. I nearly gave birth as I laughed so hard. I am very sensitive and have had a very high risk pregnancy with lots of complications so I know this will be me. Thank you for this video. I feel like I know will be prepared for the next level of pain. God bless us mothers. Btwn the mattress pad i will never forget this ! Lol
Pregnant with my second and this is 100% accurate.
I am guessing women forget all this when having more than one child.
Okay, I’m not rushing my due date anymore
Anaiya Beaudion Periodtttt June can take its time frfr 😂😂‼️ shit
I swear I’m due in August my ass can wait now😭😭💯
Same!! Due in July.. lol
Iesha Weaver same lol July 11
Happy to extend this pregnancy contract for another couple of months 😅😂.
I’m 6 months & so nervous about labor and postpartum.. please pray for me guys!!
Did you have the baby yet? How did it go??
This video is so real. I was told by soooo many that normal vaginal delivery would have faster recovery than a C sec but based on my experience, and those I know who did a C sec, I can’t say I agree... it’s so much pain and you can’t even walk! Two weeks on and going to the toilet gives you the shivers!
I have literally never heard of granulation growth omg I was getting lightheaded listening to this poor woman speak about I am scared of labor and delivery 😭😭😭😭😭
Vanessa Jones light headed !! 😂
Rachel Hanson praying!! I don’t have time for it , I’m not okay with it lol
Vanessa Jones yeah, I almost fainted at the tear part, Lord help us 😨🙏🏾
I think it's a fancy word for scar tissue.
Bianca, I saw your video when I was like 12 weeks prego and it has stuck in my mind. I’m now 31+2 and coming back to refresh my memory. I’m a first time mom. Thank you so much for sharing this! This is great information and I feel so much more prepared.
This was EVERYTHING!
Berenice Pagan girl what I’m watching this video and I’m mad my mom not more active and ain talk to me and I’m 7 weeks away but she always be like that so .... whatever. Makes me just wanna be alone after pregnancy fr !
OMG, I was laughing so hard at times, cringing at times, smiling at times, wincing at times, this video had it all! Thank you for being so honest yet supportive! You make amazing videos! Best wishes to you, your baby, and your new family!
Thank you for that, just never understand why no one talks about this part of it! Just about to go into my 2nd trimester and feeling a little more prepared for what I need to buy for after