"Women aren't meant to work" Does that mean your wife gets to just sit on the couch and watch t.v while you handle all the cooking, cleaning, yardwork,maintenence,running errands, taking care of the kids etc on top of whatever job/career you work at?
Men: Women aren’t meant to work Also men: very comfortably letting women work just that unpaid work apparently isn’t work. Men: hating modern women that work full or part time in paid jobs. Also men: relying on women’s paid jobs whilst still letting them do all the work at house and with kids but claiming they need a break bc they actually worked. Also men when women do all the unpaid work around household and children but doesn’t work in a paid job: She doesn’t really work and she’s a gold digger. Gals we heard it here first, we aren’t meant to work. So the unpaid work around the house and co. is part of their jobs! 👹🤡
I'm sure he thinks women enjoy domestic chores in the same way he does sports or video games. Therefore it's not work. I'm sure if she does take a day off from chores that's one of those times that he just needs to go into a violent rage to blow of steam. And since that's natural to him she can't get upset. This is what the mormons were yammering on about in the 80s and 90s when I was young. Redpill is just recycled patriarchal religion after all.
Also, women have always worked. For most of history, so-called "women's work" was back-breaking labour - for instance, doing laundry was a day-long, multi-step process involving dangerous chemicals and heavy physical work: carrying water, boiling the clothes in a hot lye solution, beating or scrubbing the clothes, hauling them out of the boiler into the rinse, then wringing them out and hanging them up to dry. Housewives before "modern conveniences" were jacked.
To say nothing of how, on farms, EVERYONE worked the fields. The women might have just worked… I dunno, LESS, in order to do the aforementioned backbreaking labor of laundry, housecleaning, and cooking (which usually also included gathering firewood and grinding and milling all the grains or other crops into viable ingredients) …now I wanna reread the Little House on the Prairie books…
Laundry is literally where the word 'mangled' come from 🙄 The damage caused to a human body from getting caught in the mangle ... And they wonder why the '🙄' is part of the exclamation "🙄 men!"
@@phastinemoon My grandma had a farm, an absentee trucker for a husband and three kids. She would run that whole thing by herself, doing male tasks and female and on top of her own kids she'd often take care of a neglected neighbor's girl, her sister's kids and her kids' friends. I loved that place growing up, everyone was welcome, everyone would get fed. And she literally worked the entire day every day. At one point she literally did the work of an ox pulling a plow because at the time that was the only way to get it done.
I always find it funny to imagine those guys are trying to perpetuate the notion that women are weaker to minimize the threat they pose to the male privilege.
Him: "Women are not meant to work" Me: tell that to the last 5000 years of farmers, factory workers, seamstress, postal workers, soldiers......5 hours later truckers, nurses. Also Me: I hate working pay for my existence then shit head!!!
Also, can we talk about how keeping a home and raising children is apparently not work? Put this guy in a room with two toddlers and a newborn for 12 hours and see if his tune changes.
@@carljohnson2194 it is for most people around the world and through out history it was only possible for a handful of families that could afford it. you really naive and have no clue the reality of the world explain how women handled the stress of the world before civilization ? men and women had to survive the harshness of the wild for over 200.000 years . you have no idea how hard it was back then and you mean to say women cant handle it please
Women were actually regarded as more flexible and enduring for multi tasking operations in secret service, intelligence gathering sectors... So you saw an influx in recruitment in organizations such as the MI5 and MI6.
Wow, interesting. I can’t help but think of women suspecting their boyfriends/husbands cheating on them, and all the detective work that goes on there.
I also learned recently that there was actually more homeless women that struggle finding housing then men and that transgender people struggle finding housing more then men too it really pissed me that women and transgender people always get paired together as if there more related to each other women can never be a separate entity thats not paired with other people. Can't women just exist without men lying about women always being more privileged than men? For the longest time I thought there was more homeless men but i was wrong they always had more privileges than women and they will even lie about how many men are struggling to paint themselves as some sort of victim. Sometimes the real victims don't actually play the victim that's the sad thing about it. Victims have high tolerance levels for pain that's why people try to paint them as the abuser because some of us have this mentality were we put up with guys pushing us around it's like being spanked for passing your test guys have no clue how to gain control of women because they can't even control themselves half the time.
@spitt3640 😂😂 it helps that kids are so much noiser and less good at lying and sneaking than they think they are. I used to think my mom was psychic or something, how did she always know?? Now that I have kids, I can say with certainty that I was just that blatant and obvious and didn't realize it!
Yep. Apparently "cramps don't hurt much" or even "Cramps are painless" (a literal licensed medical doctor said this to me 🤬). Yeah, my non-binary ass was passing out from my cramps but apparently I was "just being dramatic". Then I got a hysterectomy and my biggest post-op symptom was...being tired. My biggest complaint? I was too tired to make grilled cheese. A nurse at a follow-up appointment started a freaking argument with me when I disagreed with her statement that post hysterectomy pain "was like a really bad, worse than usual period" by saying "No, it's like a mild period". Apparently I was misunderstanding her "because surgery is painful". I mean yes, it hurts a bit, but I literally went to work with worse cramps and pain as a lifeguard. She refused to understand that the worst of my post-op pain didn't even get half as bad as my regular cramps. So I kicked her out of the room and my doc ended up doing my vitals. The proof is that I took fewer narcotics during recovery than I did for many periods. Yes, I needed narcotics for my "normal" cramps. And yet I was expected to act like nothing was wrong. Bullshit. Also the fun bit for when cis men say that pregnant people are hormonal and crazy? Wanna guess when afab testosterone levels most closely match amab levels? Oh yeah, during pregnancy.
@@catxtrallwayscareful with that last one - mid life is also when a lot of life “events” tend to be centered around mentalities of “you SHOULD be at [x] in your career, and you SHOULD have done [x] by now” and not everyone gets that… What I’m saying is- it’s complicated.
@@godofmath1039So you're saying men are imbalanced? That seems a little drastic to me, but if they are then props to the good ones for overcoming that disadvantage.
I healed up from a C-section with over the counter doses of ibuprofen, but needed the post-op Percocet for my first period 6 weeks later. Baby was still in the NICU, so it wasn't like exhaustion added to my pain. It was just a normal yucky period.
This is kind of dark, but I remember reading an interview with a Saudi executioner who performed beheadings, and he said condemned women have nerves of steel. They kneel and wait. Men often collapse into a whimpering pile, and the executioner would poke them in the back to get them to jerk their heads up and then take the swing. This is coming from a guy in one of the most misogynistic countries on the planet, and a killer at that. To be crystal clear, I was still horrified by the interview, even as I found that fact interesting.
Not to speculate, but it’s also possible that women being executed might be just completely burned out and are disassociating hard enough to knock everyone else out in a mile radius?🤷🏻♀️ Either way - shits fucked.
@@phastinemoonI was about to say taht out loud. Women from those societies are used to be mistreated and 4bused, and being minecrafted might look like a release, while their men have a red carpet from birth to the tomb.
My British great-aunt was an ambulance driver to the front lines in WWI; France, Gallipoli and Egypt. All these women were volunteers. They all had to know how to maintain, and repair the ambulances, as well as knowing basic first aid. We have heard of men doing this (paid) job. Hardly any information is available about these women saving lives at the front lines during The Great War. Evidently, my great-aunt handled more stress than that guy could imagine in his worst nightmares, and lived to tell the tales.
It’s scientifically proven that female fetuses handle stress better than male fetuses. And if a baby is premature, the survival rate is higher in females/ they tend to progress better. My friend just had a baby at 36 weeks and the NICU staff literally said; “being a girl works in her favour!”
Also, stressed mothers are more likely to have girls; their bodies go "yeah, looks scary out there... better make one of the tough kind". Tangent: a lot of those guys who hound and harass their women to make them bear sons are actually getting girls because of the way they're acting.
Also the birthrate of girls went up during historically stressful times (great depression for example) and it was discovered that in utero male fetuses are more sensitive to the mother's stress and adverse conditions.
by being calm and logical and completing the task boom stress is gone. my grandfather was a bricklayer and died at arround 90 years old so it is possible to have a stressfull job without having a heartattack or dying at 42. i know its hard to imagine:)
The grifter in the video doesn't seem to handle stress well if he needs to "blow up" every so often and rant about women online 😂 he needs to get a real job. I guess most places aren't hiring psychopaths though.
Shit like dealing with a monthly vaginal bleeding, cramping, flu symptoms, hormonal overwhelm from the age of what? 9? 11? And they still have math tests and volleyball practice and has to babysit their siblings on top of something that would get most men hospitalized. I cannot believe this man would even go there.
@@solus8685 thats not true at all my mother acts way worse than me when she gets a cold. In fact People Can never tell when i am sick so i dont know what you mean by that generalizing statement.
I love how this guy just decides what he’s going to say just because he thinks it’s true without any information on the topic he assumes that he is right. A simple google search would have disproved his theory 😂
There are people who legit think their opinions are facts despite not being grounded in fact. They really do think they know better and it pisses all of us off. Its ridiculous.
He probably saw one women who was stressed out bc of her job and was like this must be true for all women. Like you said he didn’t bother to look at any actual information. Almost everyone is going to be stressed with their job at some point in their life
I mean.... i personally as a man.... handle stress not well at all... thankfully i work at a great company where we really don't have any stress... but i worked in jobs where i went home and cried... never hit a wall or blew up though... drank a carton of milk a few days ago and felt really bloated... almost made me feel like i'm about to blow up
I had open heart surgery when I was a single mom and went back to work 3.5 weeks later because I couldn't afford to stay out of work. Can't handle stress? Pfft please
1) anyone who thinks this has never been pregnant or dealt with a toddler 2) maybe, just maybe, modern US life is too stressful and we should change it?
When my neighbor's house was engulfed in flames in the middle of the night it wasn't men who made sure everyone got out okay. When I realized my husband's truck full tank of gas was facing the blaz it wasn't a man who ran through literal fire and risked their life to move that sucker. It wasn't men who rescued three dogs and my eight year old son from my home. It wasn't a man who turned the garden hose on the flames until the FD showed up. I couldn't tell you how much time passed while I was doing all those things. I couldn't be sure today what order I did them all in. But I can tell you that the men in the neighborhood all stood there like deer in headlights and watched me do it all and no one but my husband helped. And he was in such shock that I had to kind of yell at him to get him going. I might have lost my home that night but I found out that m a freaking bada$$.
I'm so sorry that happened to you and your family. You are a total bad@ss. A few years ago, a trailer that was a couple places from mime caught fire on Christmas Eve and the people that reacted first were the women. The ladies in the neighborhood were getting the kids away, coordinating with each other to get the houses next to it clear of people, planning where the kids were going to stay while emergency services arrived and contained everything. In trailers, if a fire starts, it spreads in minutes and can run through the street if you don't act fast enough, so getting the people living there away fast was imperative. A couple of the kids in the neighborhood stayed in my place for a few hours while everything was being handled. A lot of the emergencies I recall being in, the ladies present were usually the ones keeping it together and trying to keep people calm or safe.
Wow, Jennifer you are a literally a hero, a bad🍑 hero! I think in a situation like this you are either frozen in shock, full on adrenaline or you are overwhelmed and you don't know what to do until someone tells you what to do.
@@Lorvay You don’t get the point girlie pop. Men say they handle stress better. They are the ones claiming bs left and right. They are the ones claiming survival mode and being delusional about hero stuff and landing crashing planes. God complex, something behind it? Highly doubtful. Also not you ignoring the person under the comment literally sharing her experience where all the women were organizing the escape routes, mobilizing everyone and making sure the fire doesn’t spread and ppl and esp. kids are safe. So they didn’t just handle stress better, they acted fast and strategically in life or death situations but we’ll claim till the end of time that women can’t do high stress jobs.
Jennifer you ARE awesome! Now that is what I call a hero!! At the end of the day no matter how many men claim different they are bystanders like everyone else too.
Or a “male period vacation” - days off that are reserved SPECIFICALLY for the guys to have their period. (Because a company-wide holiday would only work if all the dudes cycles were synced, perfectly)
If men had periods... Is where it falls apart for me. Like, you know they wouldn't be. Every single penny in the world would have been spent on creating a solution where they could just turn that off with zero side effects or repercussions.
yeah i dont think so. but i do get the impression that you are a feminist since you kinda give me the vibe as someone who complains alot escpecially about men but who knows i could be wrong about you
Flatmate of mine blew up once and kicked the kitchen bin in. As I work with adults with learning disabilities, I used my mum voice to explain to him that this was absolutely inappropriate and if this ever happens again I'm out. To be honest for I while I didn't feel safe. He has learned better ways of dealing with disappointments now and I have moved away too.
We're not made for work? What the hell does he think house*work* is? Pregnancy? Nursing? All things I'm sure he believes are women's *work*. And we're not made for stress?! How f*cking stressful does he think it is being a woman in a world where we deal with constant sexual harassment and the constant threat of rape everywhere we go? Not stressful? Does he even know what stress is?
Remember, its not hard work if a woman does it, but if you ask a man to take on that work in addition to his job suddenly it breaks the camel's back. What do you mean? I thought this work was easy???
the same kind of man that will say this stuff will probably go back around and say ‘well a woman should be in the home, raising kids, cooking, cleaning’ as if that isn’t work. like, he says ‘women can’t handle stress’. raising kids isn’t stressful? mothers would like to disagree.
Raising children is more stressful than any job out there. I have at least three almost heart attacks just watching my son for half an hour as compared to the one almost heart attack I get once a week at work.
@@alyzu4755 Oh yeah! Dealing with the "brain damaged" little people all day every day is mentally stressful. Especially if they are sahms that also do all the household chores and cooking. It is not surprising that many homes are stocked with some kind of "mommy's little helper" in some kind of bottle.
And then there's being on-call 24/7 for the little ones. I was a stay-at-home-mom for 18 years. My firstborn had insomnia from the beginning, just like me, so that was fun.
I believe my pain tolerance is higher than most men and women. It comes from severe chronic pain that I've had to overcome. That doesn't make me better than anyone. I don't think less of people who are stressed out; they're dealing with their life's challenges too.
That’s just facts. I had a molar pulled and got dry socket. Had it for days before I went back to the dentist. Even showed up for RN consolidation and was sent home by the nursing instructor. Ex bf thought I was just a suck mean while my jaw bone was exposed to open air. 🤦♀️ men. They collapse with a head cold.
Pain, mental or physical, is relative. One person can feel different kinds of mental or physical pain to different levels. For example, me. I can deal with some mental pain but not others. I can really well deal with depression, I can get myself up, make sure that I am not living in a tip, make sure my hygiene is good (even if I skip a day for showers occasionally). I can usually get some of what I need to get done, done. However I cannot deal with stress. A relatively small amount of stress can send me spiralling, completely unable to function. If I try and function, try and do the bare minimum as I do when I am depressed, I end up turning into a human pressure cooker. It is not fun. People deal with different things to different degrees, and thats something to respect, and not dismiss.
I mean, my dad became a raging dick under literally any pressure, and my mom had to regularly operate pressure because she handled most of the pick-ups, drop-offs and cooking/cleaning for 5 kids while working. Meanwhile, if my dad was put in charge of dinner for one night or asked to help book a hotel for vacation, he'd have huge freakouts and pick fights with people.
i think thats more of a personality problem tho, like i can be completely stressed out but no one would notice bc i just look and behave normal while feeling completely burnt out.
My parents were the same way. While neither of them were abusive, I always felt like O could be more honest and open with my mom. This was because my father would jump the gun and use an aggressive harsh tone whenever he was confused. Being autistic, this would shake me.
DUDEBRO: "Women's stress thingydoodads aren't wired right for them to be able to do work stuff like us men, Unless it's work us men don't want to do, in which case they're totally womenalogically wired for that."
My dad literally loses his mind over accidentally breaking a glass. My mom handles picking up the galss that he broke, cleaning the place, and then cooking dinner after cleaning till 10pm without a single swear word. I think we all know who's more sensitive than who.
75% of autoimmune disease suffers are female and a lot is stress related so. If you have to just smile and push through, yeah, your body pays the price. And once you're sick have fun being taken seriously by the medical system 🙃
The irony that the guys that would agree with him are usually the same ones that will believe that when a man comes home from work he shouldn't have to help with house work or child care because he's had a stressful day at work and should get to just decompress.
I came across this statistic awhile ago: "In America, if women were compensated for their unpaid work with minimum wage, they would have made $1.5 trillion in 2019. For reference, that is almost 130 times more than Amazon's net income in 2019, $11.588 billion." Sounds similar to slavery, and that's just American women.
What he is saying is women aren't build for *paid* work. Because having to do the laundry or taking care of kids is not stressful at all and we should be grateful for the opportunity to be lazy like that that men provide for us. 🙄
OMG, I was said from my ex that I can't handle stress. When he made fun of me, he crossed the line so I was mad. Then he said that I can also make fun of him because he was joking which he thought it's not a big deal. So I made fun of him, then he was pissed off and never talked to me whole one day in the travel. Finally when we talked, he said I can't handle stress unlike him. When he made fun of me, I couldn't handle so I insulted him by making fun of him. Wait,,,, when you made fun of me, I told you seriously it hurted and asked you to apologize. Then you said it's just joking, I don't have to take it serious. If I don't like your jokes, make fun of you also. So I did. Then you were pissed off and haven't talked whole day during the travel？ Who can't handle stress?
1) that research he was talking about was done on rats. (Maybe a little done on kids with PTSD) 2) women don't just physiologically handle it differently. studies show they also chat more with friends when stressed, which gives them much better stress outcomes than men. Lower blood pressure etc. (edit, you got it)
I make it a point to tell my husband when I'm getting my period, like "be glad I am still able to do SOMETHING and take care of the children SOMEHOW". Realized I had to after he came home one day, asking what I've been doing all day because the place looked terrible. My answer "Lying down almost the whole day because of cramps, nausea and mygraine. Now everytime I say "It"s that time of the month again", he immediately jumps up, asking if I need anything, if he should get the kids to and/or from school and kindergarten. He alsay admitted, men would be on sick-leave the whole week if they were kn our shies.
I have never been this early. You good sir are an inspiration and a role model for men everywhere. Thank you for having this channel and being a voice of reason amongst the hate speech and negativity.
I will never forget working in hazmat, how is hurt myself, get checked and Keep Going. The men were always amazed when they found out how I was hurt. First day back from covid, ten hour shift, fell and bruised my ribs, back to work in two hours after the paperwork was done. (Just made sure to do low impact stuff) Than went and got my first tattoo. They were all a bit flabbergasted that I hadn’t gone home and continued to work. I was just ????? It’s not that bad?
Actually, there is more than one culture that had women NOT do work during the week of their menstruation. Some said it gave them a break and reminded the family how important they were in the household. Others had the ostracism go to extremes and may not have had food/water delivered by family (as should have happened) and were risking dehydration. Still, a range did exist in many cultures.
Cramps can be MORE PAINFUL than a heart attack according to the study. But even a lot of the reporting is misogynistic, saying it can be AS bad as a heart attack.
@@williamkjrgaard4654 Yes thanks for pointing out that there are people who notice the very obvious thing with mysogyny being very prevelant in our society. You are so smart and wise.
Fun fact: multiple studies and surveys have shown that sahm are more likely to be depressed and have worse mental health than working moms. So no, women do find work fulfilling !
@@MisterIncog no, since they were surveyed, the researchers collected their responses. The respondees stated they felt "socially isolated" and they "lost their identity". So it isn't correlation, its genuine feelings.
@@fictionalromances7554 fair point-alot of people think its some sort of relaxing job when it's physically and emotionally exhasuting. Stay at home parents. soo important to society and thei contributions aren't valued enough!
@@fictionalromances7554Also the isolation. We are meant to have some semblance of socialising with our adult peers. Even introverts need a form of it (they just can do without more than Extroverts as well as have their social energies drain quicker but it doesn't mean Introverts have no friends they enjoy spending time with either. Or that they wouldn't get depressed if the social isolation was extreme and unending). Being completely cut off from Society as well as having no help is what causes the most depression in SAHPs. Many working parents feel some relief at being able to have those friendships and interactions because yeah, the alternative is Full time caring with no help and no adult socialising. The latter often comes with the no help for the biggest impact. Edit: Typo.
Also people with estrogen-dominant hormone profiles have (overall, obviously) stronger immune systems. That's part of why cis women are more likely to have autoimmune conditions. I did a bunch of research into this after getting sick so much more often after starting testosterone for my transition than before, and wanted to know how it related. Turns out I had to nerf my immune system because otherwise I would be far too powerful 😆
@manifest2203 I did some searching and found a study from 1990 titled, "Responses of Women to Orthostatic and Exercise Stresses." It's just one exampl and I don't know what OP was referring to, but the conclusions were that women handle microgravity and stress "little if any different from those of men," and claims that periods would change the results were unsubstantiated.
I appreciate your research! I gotta say...no matter how uneducated, a woman always knows that she can handle stress better. We are entering this world more vulnerable than men. And nothing ever changes that. Oh boi...I could do 20 comments filled with different points of view that all proof this "man" wrong. How is he even having views at all? Horror movie nights?
Thank you three for talking about this. Our bodies go through stress from puberty onward. I want to see a man push a the equivalent of a baby through his pee hole and, chances are, he would not be able to handle it.
Dude. I don't understand anyone being with someone who won't do dinner when my body is just like "Nooooo thank you!" Like. How is that your partner? I do not understand. My partner will 100% pick up the slack when my day and my body are shit. But they also know I'll do the same for them. Honestly, I'd rather be alone than have that as a norm.
A lot of the places that respond to men complaining about women not dating them, etc point out (especially when the men threaten loneliness if you don't conform to their gender expectations) that men must bring something to the relationship. If living with them is harder than living alone, why bother?
Of course he turned it into a competition, and then immediately lost the competition *he made up* in his head; but tried to gaslight his audience into believing he won.
"1-minute video made so many problematic points that it took us 2 full episodes to break them all down" - yet another instance of the law that it is very easy to spin BS but very hard to actually dismantle it.
Men have far higher unaliving rates than women, because they are less likely to know how to handle stress and are reluctant to share their experiences, and reach out for help. A relative of mine did her psychology Masters thesis on this topic.
Women, don't get to clock off, they start when they open their eyes and go on call when they go to bed, that's just looking after the family Then she also squeezes paid work to help her partner with living expenses because society has gotten very expensive If that's not handling stress, I don't know what is
I disagree on the “if men had periods” part. Patriarchy wouldn’t have occurred if a group of ppl wasn’t consistently disabled (and therefore easily oppressed). And periods not only hurt and slow you down for a week, but also bring on the anemia which is barely treatable even today.
Somehow I knew Caylee was going to have words on this within .5 seconds, and THERE SHE IS 🙌 I love your channel and how you and your guests engage with nonsense!
This dude is all kinds of wrong. Women have been working since prehistory. They do it in hunter gatherer societies, and not just gathering. Women also have adapted to handling stress because we have to be conscious of more predators than men do… because some men are predators.
This is incongruous with human prehistory and is more in line with personal fanfiction/speculation than actual historical fact. In addition, you must have an especially rampant persecution complex if you think women have never been predators or men haven't had to face as many predators as well.
@@godofmath1039 You have no idea what you’re talking about. “Work” doesn’t mean a 9 to 5 job. All able bodied and mature humans worked in early human and hunter gatherer societies, even kids old enough to follow instructions. Predatory humans are most likely to be male, for a number of reasons. For one, the difference in strength means it’s a lot easier for men to kill other people or beat them into submission with their bare hands than for women. There are obviously female murderers, too, but not nearly as many as male murderers. And that’s not even getting into the other type of human predation that women have to look out for, which was a lot more common in the days when tribes were frequently fighting each other. It wasn’t safe for females to wander alone, and in many places it still isn’t.
@@godofmath1039”this is incongruous with human history.” No it isn’t. Women and men have been doing hunting AND gathering for the majority of human history. Any other claim is proven bunk.
So... why are we left to raise the kids then?? Housework, waking up in the middle of the night with babies, cleaning up spills, lifting toddlers up onto the potty, cooking meals, pushing strollers, lugging grocery bags up the stairs... these things aren't work?
Stress is basically the main thing that women’s bodies are built for. That’s why we are the gender that has periods, pregnancy, menopause. And he thinks we can’t handle something as low stress as a job?
Some women are absolutely shite at handling stress. Some do it really well. Some men can't handle stress at all. Some handle it without problem. Now that I think about it, it's almost like it isn't really tied to gender at all. Weird.
The point is that the people who make the generalizations are blatantly ignoring any and all data that might be scientifically pointing to trends about stress management.
Well, it kind of is when women’s bodies are meant to deal with the stress of growing another human being Obviously, there’s going to be a lot of variable, but on average woman would definitely handle it better
@@dying2survive298I handle stress better than most women in my workplace, like some take edibles and some barely do anything to avoid getting stressed out, it’s prolly because I don’t care how many orders there are, they’re out the door when they’re out the door
A. Fits right in with women handling pain better B. If women can't handle stress as well, why do we outlive men? C. Just looked up heart attack rates, and while they aren't what I'd thought, women tend to have theirs a decade after men, on average. Stress being a major contributor to heart attacks, well...
Dude: “[Women’s] bodies don’t handle stress the way a man’s does.” My immediate response as a woman: “Oh, because we don’t internalize it, terrified of showing any emotion, until we drop dead from a heart attack in our cubicles at 55?” EDIT: Also, his comment about men “needing a blow-up”? That kind of, shall we say, emotional expression has a correlation to weakened heart muscle, if I remember correctly. It’s not healthy!
Women outlive men coz women don't go through the same mental and physical stress men go through. You can say it is not more stressful than carrying a child for nine months. I'd gladly switch places with women. I'd be a stay at home father while the wife goes out doing physically laborious jobs with a pay that actually can support an entire family's needs and wants.
@@iloveplumpgrannies174women live longer than men because they are not as prone to violence and conflict as men are. Also, testosterone puts them at higher risk of disease. Even I would love to work 9-5 and have a partner who does all the domestic work and childrearing. Being a homemaker isn't as relaxing as men like you think. There is a reason that every single statistic has shown that unmarried women live longer than married women and on the contrary married men live longer than unmarried men. It's pretty clear whose getting better end of the bargain.
Estrogen has a protective effect against cortisol, which is why women have much lower heart attack rates until menopause compared to men, and then after menopause women's and men's heart attack rates are similar. Women are actually physiologically *better* at handling stress than men.
I agree! We should be waited on by men like this guy every hour of the day and night. I am too fragile to care for myself and waiting for things or retrieving my own food and drinks might stress me out! So much stress trying to do my laundry, he better handle that too. Lordy, those sheets stress me out when I change the bed, better quit that too. These pets! Always wanting to be fed, egads, so stressful let’s not even talk about them kids……
I would like to say that with the way jobs are run now with so much micromanaging, busywork, and having to do in one day what it used to take 6 workers to do in 2 days (because shareholders want their profits to go infinitely up), it’s safe to say that NOBODY is designed to handle these levels of stress. If you want a life where your trophy wife can stay home and take care of the house, then you need to be getting paid enough for that to be feasible. Not to mention women don't "want jobs" because work is fun. At least that’s not the big reason. Women want jobs because then if their husband dies, gets fired, or becomes disabled, the family doesn't starve. That's the big reason for MARRIED WOMEN. Financial independence. But because we have that now, many women ALSO enjoy working because work can be fulfilling in ways that homemaking might not be. Women are not hiveminds. In general, women want jobs for the financial independence. But individually, there are infinite reasons why a woman would prefer work over homemaking. Maybe jobs could be made less stressful for everyone and maybe single income households should make a return and maybe that would satisfy the traditionalist itch by giving people options? Maybe that would be nice.
If men were as great at withstanding stress as that individual claims, ..... then they'd stop stressing this much about being single and just move on with their lives instead of constantly trying to grasps at any straw that supposedly entitles them to hold any sort of claim or expectation towards women :'D
The guy they're responding to is definitely making wild generalizations and comes off as a bit of a tool. It seems a bit premature to say there's any definitive link between sex or gender and ability to handle stress. There's just too much nuance within the blanket term of stress itself, how people interpret it, and even variance in what people consider to be tolerating it and not.
@@catxtrallways I don't necessarily disagree with anything you've said here. All valid points. I would say that some of the concerns are likely more sociological than inherently biological to men but that doesn't really change the end result. I do think you're doing one of the things I mentioned in my comment and hyper focusing on a rather narrow interpretation of what stress is, eliminating a lot of relevant nuance in the process. I don't think you're wrong, though.
@@godofmath1039 of course not. My son's awesome. Love him obviously. My wife can't get a job because no job is flexible enough and pays enough for her to be able to take care of him when he has to miss school for being sick and mine while flexible it still wouldn't allow me to provide the care I think is deserved when he's sick.
@@pcsurgeontheoriginal8015 Well that's good to hear. I get worried because, a lot of the time, some folks who complain about their children's medical complications also express a casual disdain for their kids for "holding them back," so to speak. I'm happy to see you're not one of them
I don’t think I should generalize, because there’s always the few golden men who actually get it, but I think that a lot of the “stress” that men talk about with women is really just women being more involved. Women worry about making sure everyone is healthy, that everything is clean, that chores are done, that homework is done … every little detail down to whether or not the dog has been fed. A lot of men cruise through life not stressing themselves out about any of that. Their ability to turn off even caring about it is what I’ve always found interesting. Of course life would be less stressful if you didn’t CARE about wanting to caretake a healthy life. And that women can do all of that at home and at work is what makes them great workers. I recognize that there are a lot of men who DO care and do get it. We just need more of ‘em!
At the start of this week, my 2 year old had a little accident, I went to the doctor with her, he said we needed to go tonthe Hospital, she needed stitching (she didn't in the end). Inwas totally calm thr whole time, when she was bleeding all over herself, me, the carpet and the sofa, at the doctor, later at the Hospital. But the moment I realized I had no car to take her to the Hospital, the ambulance would not come bevause it was not a life-threatening emergency, I went to phone, calling my brother if he could take us there, I broke down in tears. Now I can laugh about it because I know my calm was used up at that moment, I got a handle on myself right after the phone call, bejng back jn operation-mode, I think. By ghe way, my daughter is fine, in case anyone wonders. Has two lacerations which can healnon their own according to the surgeon.
Stay at home parents: it's not that we work from home, it's that we sleep at the office and we're always on call. All parents work hard, are stressed, and do challenging things they probably didn't know they could do. Staying home with your kids is just a different brand of stress, and I'm assuming this guy couldn't handle kids at all, let a lone staying home with them.
The whole premiss of devaluing parenting and homemaking and taking care of ourselves and others is false to start with. Either gender can do this. This guy just kinda said he can’t!
Working on my uni's final project has made me realise that I can't trust anything on the internet unless they cite their sources which is a pointless ask because I don't think these alpha omega men have ever read single sentence without getting lost 15 times. They just pull crap out their ass hoping other people who are out there just to confirm their biases or are too gullible or uninformed to fact check will just take them at face value.
If women appear to be more stressed than men on average, it's because their life is way more stressful. When I see nurses who look stressed AF, I don't think to myself "wow, nurses don't know how to handle stress", I'm thinking "they're doing one of the most stressful jobs, I can't even fathom being in their shoes one second"
I'm taking this to mean that the childfree movement is supported by men who feel like that. Because pregnancy is the most stressful human process imo lol
The angry blow-out thing reminds me of that scene in Mulan... (before Shang asks for her name) "You know, sometimes you get these... manly urges! And you just have to kill something! Fix things... cook outdoors..."
It’s alarming how much he believes this nonsense. If that is true, then women globally should be on a LAVISH disability benefit to not have to work to survive and feed our families. I’m happy to sit at home and be pampered if you think that’s all I can handle. But for some reason, I’m supposed to do all my work to survive AND help you survive also bc you go to work and come home and you’re done doing anything for the rest of the day😵💫 you can barely wash your own butt after work, so asking you to feed yourself (AND ME according to his logic) is out of the question right?
Look... I'm not saying we "aren't meant to work" cus that's a stupid concept (like, do you think that, throughout human history, men have been the only working force???)... But I just think it's strange for you to say "woman go to work in pain, bleeding out, it's awful" and complete it with "that's why we can handle stress".. I mean, yeah, we can, obviously, or else we'd all be going to the hospital once a month rsrs... But it's not like we handle it cus we can.. but because we have to. It's not to say we should stop working, but society should really normalize the "I'm dying and I can't stand today" leave for women, like, at least 3 day a month...
Put that man on a period pain simulator and make him get to work, do a full day, and get himself home again. I know I missed a few days - because I couldn't walk. I _know_ I worked whole days I don't remember because of the pain I was in - and no-one noticed anything was wrong. I remember that absolutely _no_ painkiller even dulled the pain. I remember my Ob/Gyn. Once asking if I was engaged - because of a ring I was wearing - and being disappointed for me ... he figured getting pregnant would be a relief from what I went through monthly, and actual birth would be fairly tame compared to my 4 day ordeals. Getting a hysterectomy was one of the kindest things I ever did for myself - I regret that children were never really on the cards, but will never regret not having to live the last 17 years, 3 weeks at a time.
Absolutely wild how confidently wrong some folks can be, like, seriously how does someone get that level of confidence to just spout off about an entire half of the population based on decades old misunderstandings.
I'm so glad you brought up the oxytocin thing in the end because it was the first thing that came to my mind. This is a huge part of why women live longer than men.
Our bodies are designed to handle labor, that is literally the worst thing the human body could whistand. Men cannot even handle a fraction of that pain on a simulation without going insane.
The Handling of stress isn't something that can easily be like "this demographic of people handle it better", why? Because it really depends on the individual, their mental health, their coping methods, and their life experiences. All of which can't really be broken down into gendered categories as everyone is different
@@taylerkolin3075 very true, I wasn't implying that we can't. My comment was more about how the generalization of "men can (blank) better than women" and vice versa reduces people down to their parts (as it's usually in reference to Cis people or peoples"biological sex"), which completely ignores every other factor of why someone might be better at something.
Women work loads - always have - and still live longer!!!! 😂😂😂 that guy (OP) is clearly in need of education in social, cultural and historical studies…. Who does he think makes the beds and change the towels and empty trash bins, replaces the toilet paper, etc. in 99% of hotels worldwide? He should go tell an Amish mother with 12 children that she is not made for work and she will laugh in his face!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 food from scratch, weaving -knitting - sewing - laundry, ironing, dishes, for that family - not to mention caring for elderly parents and the sick, tending to farm animals, and gardening/cultivating crops/foodstuff can ONLY be called work…. The first university in the world - founded by a woman - Fatima bint Muhammad Al-Fihriya Al-Qurashiya…. The women warriors of Persia… women have always worked not just to care for their offspring and clean the domestic space, but also in the paid labour force and in empire building… women’s history is important! what is considered “work” is also important….
Sure, you can cite all the science you want, but no amount of scientific studies can beat some random dude saying what women are "literally meant to" handle... "hormonally", so check-mate. /s These guys, always with their bad takes about "women and their hormones"...
I hate being all biological but since they brought it up: you could argue that men actually handle stress *worse* than women *because* of hormones. Trans men who started taking testosterone describe losing it way easier, having violent surges that were previously not there, and from *very* small frustrations. That seems to indicate testosterone interferes with the other hormones (their adrenaline high and their cortisol low, the two biggest helps needed to withstand stress). This goes into creating an imbalanced hormonal cocktail that resembles unstable molotov. They could make men experience extremely volatile outburst of violence (which would explain women's ancestral fear of men abusing their "strenght"). This all means men's thresshold of tolerance to stress and "bullshit" is near zero before they start punching someone. And it also means there's a bigger apprehension in men to face negative emotions in general, while women can process them and deal with them head on. Men aren't "less emotional": they are easier to be made scared of emotions.
I’m a woman. I don’t handle stress well. But that’s not because I’m a woman lmao, it’s because I have diagnosed anxiety, adhd, and ocd issues. Y’all be looking at these issues like men don’t have em too???
"Women aren't meant to work" Does that mean your wife gets to just sit on the couch and watch t.v while you handle all the cooking, cleaning, yardwork,maintenence,running errands, taking care of the kids etc on top of whatever job/career you work at?
This
Men: Women aren’t meant to work
Also men: very comfortably letting women work just that unpaid work apparently isn’t work.
Men: hating modern women that work full or part time in paid jobs.
Also men: relying on women’s paid jobs whilst still letting them do all the work at house and with kids but claiming they need a break bc they actually worked.
Also men when women do all the unpaid work around household and children but doesn’t work in a paid job: She doesn’t really work and she’s a gold digger.
Gals we heard it here first, we aren’t meant to work. So the unpaid work around the house and co. is part of their jobs! 👹🤡
He's probably the kind of man who wouldn't count house chores as work when a woman is doing them.
I'm sure he thinks women enjoy domestic chores in the same way he does sports or video games. Therefore it's not work.
I'm sure if she does take a day off from chores that's one of those times that he just needs to go into a violent rage to blow of steam. And since that's natural to him she can't get upset.
This is what the mormons were yammering on about in the 80s and 90s when I was young. Redpill is just recycled patriarchal religion after all.
The guy in the video does grifting as a job so I don't think that counts as a legit career
Also, women have always worked. For most of history, so-called "women's work" was back-breaking labour - for instance, doing laundry was a day-long, multi-step process involving dangerous chemicals and heavy physical work: carrying water, boiling the clothes in a hot lye solution, beating or scrubbing the clothes, hauling them out of the boiler into the rinse, then wringing them out and hanging them up to dry. Housewives before "modern conveniences" were jacked.
To say nothing of how, on farms, EVERYONE worked the fields.
The women might have just worked… I dunno, LESS, in order to do the aforementioned backbreaking labor of laundry, housecleaning, and cooking (which usually also included gathering firewood and grinding and milling all the grains or other crops into viable ingredients)
…now I wanna reread the Little House on the Prairie books…
Laundry is literally where the word 'mangled' come from 🙄 The damage caused to a human body from getting caught in the mangle ...
And they wonder why the '🙄' is part of the exclamation "🙄 men!"
@@phastinemoon My grandma had a farm, an absentee trucker for a husband and three kids. She would run that whole thing by herself, doing male tasks and female and on top of her own kids she'd often take care of a neglected neighbor's girl, her sister's kids and her kids' friends. I loved that place growing up, everyone was welcome, everyone would get fed. And she literally worked the entire day every day. At one point she literally did the work of an ox pulling a plow because at the time that was the only way to get it done.
like literally if grandma came at you with a frying pan you ran like it was the rock either a baseball bat 😭
Some of these men act like WE aren't in the workforce ALREADY!!! Stop gaslighting yourselves, guys!
They want women to get pushed out of it again. That`s why there is an abortion ban.
Also as we haven't been for centuries!
I always find it funny to imagine those guys are trying to perpetuate the notion that women are weaker to minimize the threat they pose to the male privilege.
@@thedolcetto81 Millennia actually 🤣
It’s hilarious. Okay then, say goodbye to about half the workforce.
Him: "Women are not meant to work"
Me: tell that to the last 5000 years of farmers, factory workers, seamstress, postal workers, soldiers......5 hours later truckers, nurses.
Also Me: I hate working pay for my existence then shit head!!!
Also, can we talk about how keeping a home and raising children is apparently not work?
Put this guy in a room with two toddlers and a newborn for 12 hours and see if his tune changes.
@animeotaku307 I think he would just neglect the children for 12 hours and then come out saying how easy it was.
yup thats "Women are not meant to work" and the "stay at home wife" is a myth has always been for most o human history
@@xMckingwillit’s not a myth it’s a fact
@@carljohnson2194 it is for most people around the world and through out history it was only possible for a handful of families that could afford it. you really naive and have no clue the reality of the world
explain how women handled the stress of the world before civilization ? men and women had to survive the harshness of the wild for over 200.000 years . you have no idea how hard it was back then and you mean to say women cant handle it please
Women were actually regarded as more flexible and enduring for multi tasking operations in secret service, intelligence gathering sectors... So you saw an influx in recruitment in organizations such as the MI5 and MI6.
Wow, interesting. I can’t help but think of women suspecting their boyfriends/husbands cheating on them, and all the detective work that goes on there.
@@christinamann3640not even for cheating but new dates and other reasons as well.
It's to save on heartache a lot of the time.
I also learned recently that there was actually more homeless women that struggle finding housing then men and that transgender people struggle finding housing more then men too it really pissed me that women and transgender people always get paired together as if there more related to each other women can never be a separate entity thats not paired with other people.
Can't women just exist without men lying about women always being more privileged than men?
For the longest time I thought there was more homeless men but i was wrong they always had more privileges than women and they will even lie about how many men are struggling to paint themselves as some sort of victim.
Sometimes the real victims don't actually play the victim that's the sad thing about it. Victims have high tolerance levels for pain that's why people try to paint them as the abuser because some of us have this mentality were we put up with guys pushing us around it's like being spanked for passing your test guys have no clue how to gain control of women because they can't even control themselves half the time.
@spitt3640 😂😂 it helps that kids are so much noiser and less good at lying and sneaking than they think they are.
I used to think my mom was psychic or something, how did she always know?? Now that I have kids, I can say with certainty that I was just that blatant and obvious and didn't realize it!
Yep. Apparently "cramps don't hurt much" or even "Cramps are painless" (a literal licensed medical doctor said this to me 🤬). Yeah, my non-binary ass was passing out from my cramps but apparently I was "just being dramatic". Then I got a hysterectomy and my biggest post-op symptom was...being tired. My biggest complaint? I was too tired to make grilled cheese. A nurse at a follow-up appointment started a freaking argument with me when I disagreed with her statement that post hysterectomy pain "was like a really bad, worse than usual period" by saying "No, it's like a mild period". Apparently I was misunderstanding her "because surgery is painful". I mean yes, it hurts a bit, but I literally went to work with worse cramps and pain as a lifeguard. She refused to understand that the worst of my post-op pain didn't even get half as bad as my regular cramps. So I kicked her out of the room and my doc ended up doing my vitals. The proof is that I took fewer narcotics during recovery than I did for many periods.
Yes, I needed narcotics for my "normal" cramps. And yet I was expected to act like nothing was wrong. Bullshit.
Also the fun bit for when cis men say that pregnant people are hormonal and crazy? Wanna guess when afab testosterone levels most closely match amab levels? Oh yeah, during pregnancy.
For that last bit...perhaps it has something to do with an imbalance of hormones rather than an abundance of testosterone.
So glad you're doing better!
@@catxtrallwayscareful with that last one - mid life is also when a lot of life “events” tend to be centered around mentalities of “you SHOULD be at [x] in your career, and you SHOULD have done [x] by now” and not everyone gets that…
What I’m saying is- it’s complicated.
@@godofmath1039So you're saying men are imbalanced? That seems a little drastic to me, but if they are then props to the good ones for overcoming that disadvantage.
I healed up from a C-section with over the counter doses of ibuprofen, but needed the post-op Percocet for my first period 6 weeks later. Baby was still in the NICU, so it wasn't like exhaustion added to my pain. It was just a normal yucky period.
This is kind of dark, but I remember reading an interview with a Saudi executioner who performed beheadings, and he said condemned women have nerves of steel. They kneel and wait. Men often collapse into a whimpering pile, and the executioner would poke them in the back to get them to jerk their heads up and then take the swing. This is coming from a guy in one of the most misogynistic countries on the planet, and a killer at that.
To be crystal clear, I was still horrified by the interview, even as I found that fact interesting.
Not to speculate, but it’s also possible that women being executed might be just completely burned out and are disassociating hard enough to knock everyone else out in a mile radius?🤷🏻♀️
Either way - shits fucked.
You believe that shit 😂
@@chaitanyagupta6668 Yeah we do, because its pretty believable.
@@phastinemoonI was about to say taht out loud. Women from those societies are used to be mistreated and 4bused, and being minecrafted might look like a release, while their men have a red carpet from birth to the tomb.
@@chaitanyagupta6668lol you don't?
My British great-aunt was an ambulance driver to the front lines in WWI; France, Gallipoli and Egypt. All these women were volunteers. They all had to know how to maintain, and repair the ambulances, as well as knowing basic first aid. We have heard of men doing this (paid) job. Hardly any information is available about these women saving lives at the front lines during The Great War. Evidently, my great-aunt handled more stress than that guy could imagine in his worst nightmares, and lived to tell the tales.
It’s scientifically proven that female fetuses handle stress better than male fetuses. And if a baby is premature, the survival rate is higher in females/ they tend to progress better. My friend just had a baby at 36 weeks and the NICU staff literally said; “being a girl works in her favour!”
Also, stressed mothers are more likely to have girls; their bodies go "yeah, looks scary out there... better make one of the tough kind".
Tangent: a lot of those guys who hound and harass their women to make them bear sons are actually getting girls because of the way they're acting.
This is correct. The girls are stronger and develope faster than boys.
Also the birthrate of girls went up during historically stressful times (great depression for example) and it was discovered that in utero male fetuses are more sensitive to the mother's stress and adverse conditions.
@@titi4112
Yes! And males are less likely to produce Y sperm during stressful times.
This is true, I knew this as well.
So what is the wonderful male way of handling stress? Bottle it all up and have a heart attack at 42? Congrats, guys, you have it all sorted out 🙄
Na they just relax at home after venting on their wife and children’s faces.
Demand women do things to make them feel better and never return the favor.
"Blow up"
Except they say women are 'hormonal' and 'on their time of the month' when they do it.
Men come home and yell at their wives and children, traumatizing them for life 😍
by being calm and logical and completing the task boom stress is gone. my grandfather was a bricklayer and died at arround 90 years old so it is possible to have a stressfull job without having a heartattack or dying at 42. i know its hard to imagine:)
The grifter in the video doesn't seem to handle stress well if he needs to "blow up" every so often and rant about women online 😂 he needs to get a real job. I guess most places aren't hiring psychopaths though.
Shit like dealing with a monthly vaginal bleeding, cramping, flu symptoms, hormonal overwhelm from the age of what? 9? 11?
And they still have math tests and volleyball practice and has to babysit their siblings on top of something that would get most men hospitalized.
I cannot believe this man would even go there.
why would that get most men hospitalized, when it doesnt really seem that severe? is it fatal?
@@williamkjrgaard4654 because men already act like they're dying when they get a simple cold. Periods would end them lmao
@@solus8685 thats not true at all my mother acts way worse than me when she gets a cold. In fact People Can never tell when i am sick so i dont know what you mean by that generalizing statement.
@@williamkjrgaard4654 there's literally a whole term because of it, the "man-flu"
I love how this guy just decides what he’s going to say just because he thinks it’s true without any information on the topic he assumes that he is right. A simple google search would have disproved his theory 😂
There are people who legit think their opinions are facts despite not being grounded in fact. They really do think they know better and it pisses all of us off. Its ridiculous.
He probably saw one women who was stressed out bc of her job and was like this must be true for all women. Like you said he didn’t bother to look at any actual information. Almost everyone is going to be stressed with their job at some point in their life
Many guys just assume that they are right…
If you KNOW something there is no need to look into it further 🤷♀️
@@wendyblaauw2578 I hope you're kidding
I mean.... i personally as a man.... handle stress not well at all... thankfully i work at a great company where we really don't have any stress... but i worked in jobs where i went home and cried... never hit a wall or blew up though... drank a carton of milk a few days ago and felt really bloated... almost made me feel like i'm about to blow up
Different kind of blowing up 😅
Okay the milk almost making you blow up got me 😂
I had open heart surgery when I was a single mom and went back to work 3.5 weeks later because I couldn't afford to stay out of work. Can't handle stress? Pfft please
"Woman can't handle stress" bet a 20 he cries when he gets a cold
When he gets stressed he beats his wife because he "needs" to get all that rage out
Ahh yes, the man cold.
not as much you would i could imagine
1) anyone who thinks this has never been pregnant or dealt with a toddler 2) maybe, just maybe, modern US life is too stressful and we should change it?
When my neighbor's house was engulfed in flames in the middle of the night it wasn't men who made sure everyone got out okay. When I realized my husband's truck full tank of gas was facing the blaz it wasn't a man who ran through literal fire and risked their life to move that sucker. It wasn't men who rescued three dogs and my eight year old son from my home. It wasn't a man who turned the garden hose on the flames until the FD showed up. I couldn't tell you how much time passed while I was doing all those things. I couldn't be sure today what order I did them all in. But I can tell you that the men in the neighborhood all stood there like deer in headlights and watched me do it all and no one but my husband helped. And he was in such shock that I had to kind of yell at him to get him going. I might have lost my home that night but I found out that m a freaking bada$$.
I'm so sorry that happened to you and your family. You are a total bad@ss. A few years ago, a trailer that was a couple places from mime caught fire on Christmas Eve and the people that reacted first were the women. The ladies in the neighborhood were getting the kids away, coordinating with each other to get the houses next to it clear of people, planning where the kids were going to stay while emergency services arrived and contained everything. In trailers, if a fire starts, it spreads in minutes and can run through the street if you don't act fast enough, so getting the people living there away fast was imperative. A couple of the kids in the neighborhood stayed in my place for a few hours while everything was being handled. A lot of the emergencies I recall being in, the ladies present were usually the ones keeping it together and trying to keep people calm or safe.
Wow, Jennifer you are a literally a hero, a bad🍑 hero!
I think in a situation like this you are either frozen in shock, full on adrenaline or you are overwhelmed and you don't know what to do until someone tells you what to do.
So how many woman helped yaa with this?
@@Lorvay You don’t get the point girlie pop. Men say they handle stress better. They are the ones claiming bs left and right. They are the ones claiming survival mode and being delusional about hero stuff and landing crashing planes. God complex, something behind it? Highly doubtful. Also not you ignoring the person under the comment literally sharing her experience where all the women were organizing the escape routes, mobilizing everyone and making sure the fire doesn’t spread and ppl and esp. kids are safe. So they didn’t just handle stress better, they acted fast and strategically in life or death situations but we’ll claim till the end of time that women can’t do high stress jobs.
Jennifer you ARE awesome! Now that is what I call a hero!! At the end of the day no matter how many men claim different they are bystanders like everyone else too.
Workplace policies would have "male period week" baked in. "All male employees get five days off every calendar month."
Or a “male period vacation” - days off that are reserved SPECIFICALLY for the guys to have their period.
(Because a company-wide holiday would only work if all the dudes cycles were synced, perfectly)
If men had periods... Is where it falls apart for me. Like, you know they wouldn't be. Every single penny in the world would have been spent on creating a solution where they could just turn that off with zero side effects or repercussions.
i think you underestimate just how quickly capitalists would stomp that policy
@@ceryxfigmenti5377you are tryna use sense here, bud. Not feasible...😅
yeah i dont think so. but i do get the impression that you are a feminist since you kinda give me the vibe as someone who complains alot escpecially about men but who knows i could be wrong about you
Flatmate of mine blew up once and kicked the kitchen bin in. As I work with adults with learning disabilities, I used my mum voice to explain to him that this was absolutely inappropriate and if this ever happens again I'm out. To be honest for I while I didn't feel safe. He has learned better ways of dealing with disappointments now and I have moved away too.
I once heard that NASA had to redo their stress tests after discovering that women found the tests to be relaxing 😂
That's f*ing hilarious!
Omg 😂😂
hahaha omg
If you can find a source for that, I would LOVE to read it
Please source. Hilarious.
We're not made for work? What the hell does he think house*work* is? Pregnancy? Nursing? All things I'm sure he believes are women's *work*. And we're not made for stress?! How f*cking stressful does he think it is being a woman in a world where we deal with constant sexual harassment and the constant threat of rape everywhere we go? Not stressful? Does he even know what stress is?
It’s called ‘unseen and unpaid labor’. If men don’t see it, the work doesn’t exist.
No.
He doesn't.
He's a (white) cis man. 🤷🏻♀️
Remember, its not hard work if a woman does it, but if you ask a man to take on that work in addition to his job suddenly it breaks the camel's back. What do you mean? I thought this work was easy???
it doesnt take alot to stress you does it?
@@williamkjrgaard4654 Okay incel.
the same kind of man that will say this stuff will probably go back around and say ‘well a woman should be in the home, raising kids, cooking, cleaning’ as if that isn’t work.
like, he says ‘women can’t handle stress’. raising kids isn’t stressful? mothers would like to disagree.
Raising children is more stressful than any job out there. I have at least three almost heart attacks just watching my son for half an hour as compared to the one almost heart attack I get once a week at work.
Right?!?!? When my 2 kids were toddlers I got to the point where I told myself that if everyone was still alive at bedtime, it was a good day. ☺️
@@alyzu4755 Oh yeah! Dealing with the "brain damaged" little people all day every day is mentally stressful. Especially if they are sahms that also do all the household chores and cooking. It is not surprising that many homes are stocked with some kind of "mommy's little helper" in some kind of bottle.
And then there's being on-call 24/7 for the little ones. I was a stay-at-home-mom for 18 years. My firstborn had insomnia from the beginning, just like me, so that was fun.
I believe my pain tolerance is higher than most men and women. It comes from severe chronic pain that I've had to overcome. That doesn't make me better than anyone. I don't think less of people who are stressed out; they're dealing with their life's challenges too.
That’s just facts. I had a molar pulled and got dry socket. Had it for days before I went back to the dentist. Even showed up for RN consolidation and was sent home by the nursing instructor. Ex bf thought I was just a suck mean while my jaw bone was exposed to open air. 🤦♀️ men. They collapse with a head cold.
Pain, mental or physical, is relative. One person can feel different kinds of mental or physical pain to different levels.
For example, me. I can deal with some mental pain but not others. I can really well deal with depression, I can get myself up, make sure that I am not living in a tip, make sure my hygiene is good (even if I skip a day for showers occasionally). I can usually get some of what I need to get done, done.
However I cannot deal with stress. A relatively small amount of stress can send me spiralling, completely unable to function. If I try and function, try and do the bare minimum as I do when I am depressed, I end up turning into a human pressure cooker. It is not fun.
People deal with different things to different degrees, and thats something to respect, and not dismiss.
I mean, my dad became a raging dick under literally any pressure, and my mom had to regularly operate pressure because she handled most of the pick-ups, drop-offs and cooking/cleaning for 5 kids while working. Meanwhile, if my dad was put in charge of dinner for one night or asked to help book a hotel for vacation, he'd have huge freakouts and pick fights with people.
i think thats more of a personality problem tho, like i can be completely stressed out but no one would notice bc i just look and behave normal while feeling completely burnt out.
My parents were the same way. While neither of them were abusive, I always felt like O could be more honest and open with my mom. This was because my father would jump the gun and use an aggressive harsh tone whenever he was confused. Being autistic, this would shake me.
DUDEBRO: "Women's stress thingydoodads aren't wired right for them to be able to do work stuff like us men, Unless it's work us men don't want to do, in which case they're totally womenalogically wired for that."
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😂 That's it exactly! You just perfectly described their mindset!
some guys have just never actually met an actual woman? 🤷♀️
My dad literally loses his mind over accidentally breaking a glass. My mom handles picking up the galss that he broke, cleaning the place, and then cooking dinner after cleaning till 10pm without a single swear word. I think we all know who's more sensitive than who.
Women can and do handle a lot of stress from an early age, unfortunately, we also become ill more often because of it. 😿
75% of autoimmune disease suffers are female and a lot is stress related so. If you have to just smile and push through, yeah, your body pays the price. And once you're sick have fun being taken seriously by the medical system 🙃
The irony that the guys that would agree with him are usually the same ones that will believe that when a man comes home from work he shouldn't have to help with house work or child care because he's had a stressful day at work and should get to just decompress.
I came across this statistic awhile ago: "In America, if women were compensated for their unpaid work with minimum wage, they would have made $1.5 trillion in 2019. For reference, that is almost 130 times more than Amazon's net income in 2019, $11.588 billion."
Sounds similar to slavery, and that's just American women.
What he is saying is women aren't build for *paid* work. Because having to do the laundry or taking care of kids is not stressful at all and we should be grateful for the opportunity to be lazy like that that men provide for us. 🙄
And yet this dude never has, nor is he prepared to spend a half hour with two toddlers without losing his absolute mind!
OMG, I was said from my ex that I can't handle stress.
When he made fun of me, he crossed the line so I was mad. Then he said that I can also make fun of him because he was joking which he thought it's not a big deal.
So I made fun of him, then he was pissed off and never talked to me whole one day in the travel.
Finally when we talked, he said I can't handle stress unlike him. When he made fun of me, I couldn't handle so I insulted him by making fun of him.
Wait,,,, when you made fun of me, I told you seriously it hurted and asked you to apologize. Then you said it's just joking, I don't have to take it serious. If I don't like your jokes, make fun of you also.
So I did. Then you were pissed off and haven't talked whole day during the travel？
Who can't handle stress?
1) that research he was talking about was done on rats. (Maybe a little done on kids with PTSD)
2) women don't just physiologically handle it differently. studies show they also chat more with friends when stressed, which gives them much better stress outcomes than men. Lower blood pressure etc. (edit, you got it)
Not the first time I’ve heard someone like that referencing some study that wasn’t even done on humans 🤦♀️
rats and humans arent the same sry
I make it a point to tell my husband when I'm getting my period, like "be glad I am still able to do SOMETHING and take care of the children SOMEHOW". Realized I had to after he came home one day, asking what I've been doing all day because the place looked terrible. My answer "Lying down almost the whole day because of cramps, nausea and mygraine. Now everytime I say "It"s that time of the month again", he immediately jumps up, asking if I need anything, if he should get the kids to and/or from school and kindergarten. He alsay admitted, men would be on sick-leave the whole week if they were kn our shies.
He has learned the path of wisdom.
Good on him.
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I have never been this early. You good sir are an inspiration and a role model for men everywhere. Thank you for having this channel and being a voice of reason amongst the hate speech and negativity.
I will never forget working in hazmat, how is hurt myself, get checked and Keep Going. The men were always amazed when they found out how I was hurt.
First day back from covid, ten hour shift, fell and bruised my ribs, back to work in two hours after the paperwork was done. (Just made sure to do low impact stuff) Than went and got my first tattoo.
They were all a bit flabbergasted that I hadn’t gone home and continued to work.
I was just ????? It’s not that bad?
Actually, there is more than one culture that had women NOT do work during the week of their menstruation. Some said it gave them a break and reminded the family how important they were in the household. Others had the ostracism go to extremes and may not have had food/water delivered by family (as should have happened) and were risking dehydration. Still, a range did exist in many cultures.
Cramps can be MORE PAINFUL than a heart attack according to the study. But even a lot of the reporting is misogynistic, saying it can be AS bad as a heart attack.
misogynistic this misogynistic that i think thats the most used word that feminists use in 2024 but lets see what happens
@@williamkjrgaard4654 Yes thanks for pointing out that there are people who notice the very obvious thing with mysogyny being very prevelant in our society. You are so smart and wise.
Fun fact: multiple studies and surveys have shown that sahm are more likely to be depressed and have worse mental health than working moms. So no, women do find work fulfilling !
Eh, could be for multitude of reasons. Correlation doesn’t equal causation and stuff like that.
Being a sahm can be fulfilling. Its just that a main contribution to the depression is that sahm aren't respected for the work they do 😔
@@MisterIncog no, since they were surveyed, the researchers collected their responses. The respondees stated they felt "socially isolated" and they "lost their identity". So it isn't correlation, its genuine feelings.
@@fictionalromances7554 fair point-alot of people think its some sort of relaxing job when it's physically and emotionally exhasuting. Stay at home parents. soo important to society and thei contributions aren't valued enough!
@@fictionalromances7554Also the isolation.
We are meant to have some semblance of socialising with our adult peers. Even introverts need a form of it (they just can do without more than Extroverts as well as have their social energies drain quicker but it doesn't mean Introverts have no friends they enjoy spending time with either. Or that they wouldn't get depressed if the social isolation was extreme and unending).
Being completely cut off from Society as well as having no help is what causes the most depression in SAHPs.
Many working parents feel some relief at being able to have those friendships and interactions because yeah, the alternative is Full time caring with no help and no adult socialising. The latter often comes with the no help for the biggest impact.
Edit: Typo.
Also people with estrogen-dominant hormone profiles have (overall, obviously) stronger immune systems. That's part of why cis women are more likely to have autoimmune conditions.
I did a bunch of research into this after getting sick so much more often after starting testosterone for my transition than before, and wanted to know how it related.
Turns out I had to nerf my immune system because otherwise I would be far too powerful 😆
NASA disagrees with this bozo.
How so?
@manifest2203 I did some searching and found a study from 1990 titled, "Responses of Women to Orthostatic and Exercise Stresses." It's just one exampl and I don't know what OP was referring to, but the conclusions were that women handle microgravity and stress "little if any different from those of men," and claims that periods would change the results were unsubstantiated.
I appreciate your research!
I gotta say...no matter how uneducated, a woman always knows that she can handle stress better. We are entering this world more vulnerable than men. And nothing ever changes that.
Oh boi...I could do 20 comments filled with different points of view that all proof this "man" wrong. How is he even having views at all? Horror movie nights?
Thank you three for talking about this. Our bodies go through stress from puberty onward. I want to see a man push a the equivalent of a baby through his pee hole and, chances are, he would not be able to handle it.
Dude. I don't understand anyone being with someone who won't do dinner when my body is just like "Nooooo thank you!" Like. How is that your partner? I do not understand. My partner will 100% pick up the slack when my day and my body are shit. But they also know I'll do the same for them. Honestly, I'd rather be alone than have that as a norm.
A lot of the places that respond to men complaining about women not dating them, etc point out (especially when the men threaten loneliness if you don't conform to their gender expectations) that men must bring something to the relationship. If living with them is harder than living alone, why bother?
Of course he turned it into a competition, and then immediately lost the competition *he made up* in his head; but tried to gaslight his audience into believing he won.
"1-minute video made so many problematic points that it took us 2 full episodes to break them all down" - yet another instance of the law that it is very easy to spin BS but very hard to actually dismantle it.
seriously? we do one of the hardest things in biology-give birth. a case of the snuffles would sideline this 'manly man.'
Men have far higher unaliving rates than women, because they are less likely to know how to handle stress and are reluctant to share their experiences, and reach out for help. A relative of mine did her psychology Masters thesis on this topic.
not true the reason men kill themselves are not bc of the job. it is more trauma related why men kill themselves
Women, don't get to clock off, they start when they open their eyes and go on call when they go to bed, that's just looking after the family
Then she also squeezes paid work to help her partner with living expenses because society has gotten very expensive
If that's not handling stress, I don't know what is
I disagree on the “if men had periods” part. Patriarchy wouldn’t have occurred if a group of ppl wasn’t consistently disabled (and therefore easily oppressed). And periods not only hurt and slow you down for a week, but also bring on the anemia which is barely treatable even today.
Somehow I knew Caylee was going to have words on this within .5 seconds, and THERE SHE IS 🙌
I love your channel and how you and your guests engage with nonsense!
Like Elrond said... Men are weak. I'm not gonna argue with Elrond. He was there, three thousand years ago.
This dude is all kinds of wrong. Women have been working since prehistory. They do it in hunter gatherer societies, and not just gathering. Women also have adapted to handling stress because we have to be conscious of more predators than men do… because some men are predators.
This is incongruous with human prehistory and is more in line with personal fanfiction/speculation than actual historical fact. In addition, you must have an especially rampant persecution complex if you think women have never been predators or men haven't had to face as many predators as well.
@@godofmath1039 You have no idea what you’re talking about. “Work” doesn’t mean a 9 to 5 job. All able bodied and mature humans worked in early human and hunter gatherer societies, even kids old enough to follow instructions.
Predatory humans are most likely to be male, for a number of reasons. For one, the difference in strength means it’s a lot easier for men to kill other people or beat them into submission with their bare hands than for women. There are obviously female murderers, too, but not nearly as many as male murderers. And that’s not even getting into the other type of human predation that women have to look out for, which was a lot more common in the days when tribes were frequently fighting each other. It wasn’t safe for females to wander alone, and in many places it still isn’t.
@@godofmath1039”this is incongruous with human history.”
No it isn’t. Women and men have been doing hunting AND gathering for the majority of human history. Any other claim is proven bunk.
@@evilsharkey8954 Dude you're off the deep end. Where on Earth are you getting this info? Goodness me you need help
@@godofmath1039 ~ That's it. When you can't prove your argument, resort to gaslighting. Because that is such a good look.
So... why are we left to raise the kids then?? Housework, waking up in the middle of the night with babies, cleaning up spills, lifting toddlers up onto the potty, cooking meals, pushing strollers, lugging grocery bags up the stairs... these things aren't work?
My girlfriend handles some kind stress better than i do, I handle other kinds of stress netter than she does.
I loved the "LET ME AT HIM! LET ME AT HIM!" I felt that in my soul
Stress is basically the main thing that women’s bodies are built for. That’s why we are the gender that has periods, pregnancy, menopause. And he thinks we can’t handle something as low stress as a job?
Some women are absolutely shite at handling stress. Some do it really well. Some men can't handle stress at all. Some handle it without problem.
Now that I think about it, it's almost like it isn't really tied to gender at all. Weird.
Yep, everyone is different.
The point is that the people who make the generalizations are blatantly ignoring any and all data that might be scientifically pointing to trends about stress management.
Well, it kind of is when women’s bodies are meant to deal with the stress of growing another human being
Obviously, there’s going to be a lot of variable, but on average woman would definitely handle it better
@@dying2survive298 working a job has nothing to do with pregnancy
@@dying2survive298I handle stress better than most women in my workplace, like some take edibles and some barely do anything to avoid getting stressed out, it’s prolly because I don’t care how many orders there are, they’re out the door when they’re out the door
A. Fits right in with women handling pain better
B. If women can't handle stress as well, why do we outlive men?
C. Just looked up heart attack rates, and while they aren't what I'd thought, women tend to have theirs a decade after men, on average. Stress being a major contributor to heart attacks, well...
A. Childbirth enters the chat.
Dude: “[Women’s] bodies don’t handle stress the way a man’s does.”
My immediate response as a woman: “Oh, because we don’t internalize it, terrified of showing any emotion, until we drop dead from a heart attack in our cubicles at 55?”
EDIT: Also, his comment about men “needing a blow-up”? That kind of, shall we say, emotional expression has a correlation to weakened heart muscle, if I remember correctly. It’s not healthy!
Women outlive men coz women don't go through the same mental and physical stress men go through. You can say it is not more stressful than carrying a child for nine months. I'd gladly switch places with women. I'd be a stay at home father while the wife goes out doing physically laborious jobs with a pay that actually can support an entire family's needs and wants.
@@iloveplumpgrannies174women live longer than men because they are not as prone to violence and conflict as men are. Also, testosterone puts them at higher risk of disease. Even I would love to work 9-5 and have a partner who does all the domestic work and childrearing. Being a homemaker isn't as relaxing as men like you think. There is a reason that every single statistic has shown that unmarried women live longer than married women and on the contrary married men live longer than unmarried men. It's pretty clear whose getting better end of the bargain.
Estrogen has a protective effect against cortisol, which is why women have much lower heart attack rates until menopause compared to men, and then after menopause women's and men's heart attack rates are similar. Women are actually physiologically *better* at handling stress than men.
I agree! We should be waited on by men like this guy every hour of the day and night. I am too fragile to care for myself and waiting for things or retrieving my own food and drinks might stress me out! So much stress trying to do my laundry, he better handle that too. Lordy, those sheets stress me out when I change the bed, better quit that too. These pets! Always wanting to be fed, egads, so stressful let’s not even talk about them kids……
I would like to say that with the way jobs are run now with so much micromanaging, busywork, and having to do in one day what it used to take 6 workers to do in 2 days (because shareholders want their profits to go infinitely up), it’s safe to say that NOBODY is designed to handle these levels of stress. If you want a life where your trophy wife can stay home and take care of the house, then you need to be getting paid enough for that to be feasible. Not to mention women don't "want jobs" because work is fun. At least that’s not the big reason. Women want jobs because then if their husband dies, gets fired, or becomes disabled, the family doesn't starve. That's the big reason for MARRIED WOMEN. Financial independence. But because we have that now, many women ALSO enjoy working because work can be fulfilling in ways that homemaking might not be. Women are not hiveminds. In general, women want jobs for the financial independence. But individually, there are infinite reasons why a woman would prefer work over homemaking.
Maybe jobs could be made less stressful for everyone and maybe single income households should make a return and maybe that would satisfy the traditionalist itch by giving people options? Maybe that would be nice.
If men were as great at withstanding stress as that individual claims, ..... then they'd stop stressing this much about being single and just move on with their lives instead of constantly trying to grasps at any straw that supposedly entitles them to hold any sort of claim or expectation towards women :'D
The guy they're responding to is definitely making wild generalizations and comes off as a bit of a tool. It seems a bit premature to say there's any definitive link between sex or gender and ability to handle stress. There's just too much nuance within the blanket term of stress itself, how people interpret it, and even variance in what people consider to be tolerating it and not.
@@catxtrallways I don't necessarily disagree with anything you've said here. All valid points. I would say that some of the concerns are likely more sociological than inherently biological to men but that doesn't really change the end result. I do think you're doing one of the things I mentioned in my comment and hyper focusing on a rather narrow interpretation of what stress is, eliminating a lot of relevant nuance in the process. I don't think you're wrong, though.
I love the philosophy that I want my wife to have the choice. Sadly that choice was taken from us due to my son's medical condition.
Do you resent your son?
@@godofmath1039 of course not. My son's awesome. Love him obviously. My wife can't get a job because no job is flexible enough and pays enough for her to be able to take care of him when he has to miss school for being sick and mine while flexible it still wouldn't allow me to provide the care I think is deserved when he's sick.
@@pcsurgeontheoriginal8015 Well that's good to hear. I get worried because, a lot of the time, some folks who complain about their children's medical complications also express a casual disdain for their kids for "holding them back," so to speak. I'm happy to see you're not one of them
I don’t think I should generalize, because there’s always the few golden men who actually get it, but I think that a lot of the “stress” that men talk about with women is really just women being more involved. Women worry about making sure everyone is healthy, that everything is clean, that chores are done, that homework is done … every little detail down to whether or not the dog has been fed. A lot of men cruise through life not stressing themselves out about any of that. Their ability to turn off even caring about it is what I’ve always found interesting. Of course life would be less stressful if you didn’t CARE about wanting to caretake a healthy life. And that women can do all of that at home and at work is what makes them great workers. I recognize that there are a lot of men who DO care and do get it. We just need more of ‘em!
At the start of this week, my 2 year old had a little accident, I went to the doctor with her, he said we needed to go tonthe Hospital, she needed stitching (she didn't in the end). Inwas totally calm thr whole time, when she was bleeding all over herself, me, the carpet and the sofa, at the doctor, later at the Hospital. But the moment I realized I had no car to take her to the Hospital, the ambulance would not come bevause it was not a life-threatening emergency, I went to phone, calling my brother if he could take us there, I broke down in tears. Now I can laugh about it because I know my calm was used up at that moment, I got a handle on myself right after the phone call, bejng back jn operation-mode, I think.
By ghe way, my daughter is fine, in case anyone wonders. Has two lacerations which can healnon their own according to the surgeon.
I've handled stress worse than the women in my life, I think so have the men in my life too.
I’m sure you have sweetie. Mom didn’t cut the crust off your sandwich once!
@@magnarcreed3801 bruh I hated when mom cut the crust off, I like that part
If this is true then why does statistic state that unmarried women live longer than married women?
Stay at home parents: it's not that we work from home, it's that we sleep at the office and we're always on call.
All parents work hard, are stressed, and do challenging things they probably didn't know they could do. Staying home with your kids is just a different brand of stress, and I'm assuming this guy couldn't handle kids at all, let a lone staying home with them.
The whole premiss of devaluing parenting and homemaking and taking care of ourselves and others is false to start with. Either gender can do this. This guy just kinda said he can’t!
Is it only paid work we're too délicate for? Like, a desk job is too much but not scrubbing the kitchen floor, for free?
Working on my uni's final project has made me realise that I can't trust anything on the internet unless they cite their sources which is a pointless ask because I don't think these alpha omega men have ever read single sentence without getting lost 15 times. They just pull crap out their ass hoping other people who are out there just to confirm their biases or are too gullible or uninformed to fact check will just take them at face value.
Silly man. We know you don’t really want women to stop doing work. You want them to not do paid work. You thought we wouldn’t notice, though, right? 😂
You three had me 😂😂😂! Awesome takedown!🤜🤛
Also, thank you for always quoting literal scientific researches instead of just assuming ❤❤❤
If women appear to be more stressed than men on average, it's because their life is way more stressful. When I see nurses who look stressed AF, I don't think to myself "wow, nurses don't know how to handle stress", I'm thinking "they're doing one of the most stressful jobs, I can't even fathom being in their shoes one second"
I cant believe he would say something so stupid without even considering pregnancy and childbirth 💀
I'm taking this to mean that the childfree movement is supported by men who feel like that. Because pregnancy is the most stressful human process imo lol
“Women’s bodies aren’t meant to handle stress” like we don’t live with men.
Did he ever watch a single one of those videos where men and women both put on period simulators? XD "Excuse you, boy?? You were saying...???"
I 💙 watching men try the period simulator! Usually, AFTER the wife tolerates the top of the scale when they cant make it to halfway! 😂😂😂!
What a doofus! Well done guys for putting him in his place.
The angry blow-out thing reminds me of that scene in Mulan... (before Shang asks for her name) "You know, sometimes you get these... manly urges! And you just have to kill something! Fix things... cook outdoors..."
It’s alarming how much he believes this nonsense. If that is true, then women globally should be on a LAVISH disability benefit to not have to work to survive and feed our families. I’m happy to sit at home and be pampered if you think that’s all I can handle. But for some reason, I’m supposed to do all my work to survive AND help you survive also bc you go to work and come home and you’re done doing anything for the rest of the day😵💫 you can barely wash your own butt after work, so asking you to feed yourself (AND ME according to his logic) is out of the question right?
Look... I'm not saying we "aren't meant to work" cus that's a stupid concept (like, do you think that, throughout human history, men have been the only working force???)...
But I just think it's strange for you to say "woman go to work in pain, bleeding out, it's awful" and complete it with "that's why we can handle stress"..
I mean, yeah, we can, obviously, or else we'd all be going to the hospital once a month rsrs... But it's not like we handle it cus we can.. but because we have to.
It's not to say we should stop working, but society should really normalize the "I'm dying and I can't stand today" leave for women, like, at least 3 day a month...
Put that man on a period pain simulator and make him get to work, do a full day, and get himself home again.
I know I missed a few days - because I couldn't walk. I _know_ I worked whole days I don't remember because of the pain I was in - and no-one noticed anything was wrong.
I remember that absolutely _no_ painkiller even dulled the pain.
I remember my Ob/Gyn. Once asking if I was engaged - because of a ring I was wearing - and being disappointed for me ... he figured getting pregnant would be a relief from what I went through monthly, and actual birth would be fairly tame compared to my 4 day ordeals.
Getting a hysterectomy was one of the kindest things I ever did for myself - I regret that children were never really on the cards, but will never regret not having to live the last 17 years, 3 weeks at a time.
Absolutely wild how confidently wrong some folks can be, like, seriously how does someone get that level of confidence to just spout off about an entire half of the population based on decades old misunderstandings.
I'm so glad you brought up the oxytocin thing in the end because it was the first thing that came to my mind. This is a huge part of why women live longer than men.
Our bodies are designed to handle labor, that is literally the worst thing the human body could whistand. Men cannot even handle a fraction of that pain on a simulation without going insane.
I didn't know you wanted him to actually look at the science.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
The Handling of stress isn't something that can easily be like "this demographic of people handle it better", why? Because it really depends on the individual, their mental health, their coping methods, and their life experiences. All of which can't really be broken down into gendered categories as everyone is different
True, but we can still make the point that women are *statistically* more likely to handle stress better. Just not inherently more likely.
@@taylerkolin3075 very true, I wasn't implying that we can't. My comment was more about how the generalization of "men can (blank) better than women" and vice versa reduces people down to their parts (as it's usually in reference to Cis people or peoples"biological sex"), which completely ignores every other factor of why someone might be better at something.
Child birth isnt stressful at all
This is sarcasm.
And yet some fool men pass out from just viewing it.
@@iatethecrayonsThanks for the clarification.
@@amberinthemist7912my brother did. The nurses had to leave his delivering wife to render medical care while she was crowning 🙄
@@amberinthemist7912 Ever heard of sympathy pain?
Women work loads - always have - and still live longer!!!! 😂😂😂 that guy (OP) is clearly in need of education in social, cultural and historical studies…. Who does he think makes the beds and change the towels and empty trash bins, replaces the toilet paper, etc. in 99% of hotels worldwide? He should go tell an Amish mother with 12 children that she is not made for work and she will laugh in his face!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 food from scratch, weaving -knitting - sewing - laundry, ironing, dishes, for that family - not to mention caring for elderly parents and the sick, tending to farm animals, and gardening/cultivating crops/foodstuff can ONLY be called work…. The first university in the world - founded by a woman - Fatima bint Muhammad Al-Fihriya Al-Qurashiya…. The women warriors of Persia… women have always worked not just to care for their offspring and clean the domestic space, but also in the paid labour force and in empire building… women’s history is important! what is considered “work” is also important….
Sure, you can cite all the science you want, but no amount of scientific studies can beat some random dude saying what women are "literally meant to" handle... "hormonally", so check-mate. /s
These guys, always with their bad takes about "women and their hormones"...
“Women’s bodies can’t handle stress” Excuse me we BLEED EVERY MONTH.
I dont think the man in that video has met a woman his entire life
I hate being all biological but since they brought it up: you could argue that men actually handle stress *worse* than women *because* of hormones. Trans men who started taking testosterone describe losing it way easier, having violent surges that were previously not there, and from *very* small frustrations. That seems to indicate testosterone interferes with the other hormones (their adrenaline high and their cortisol low, the two biggest helps needed to withstand stress).
This goes into creating an imbalanced hormonal cocktail that resembles unstable molotov. They could make men experience extremely volatile outburst of violence (which would explain women's ancestral fear of men abusing their "strenght").
This all means men's thresshold of tolerance to stress and "bullshit" is near zero before they start punching someone. And it also means there's a bigger apprehension in men to face negative emotions in general, while women can process them and deal with them head on.
Men aren't "less emotional": they are easier to be made scared of emotions.
I’m a woman. I don’t handle stress well. But that’s not because I’m a woman lmao, it’s because I have diagnosed anxiety, adhd, and ocd issues. Y’all be looking at these issues like men don’t have em too???
I have a 2 Rule during my periods. If I projectile vomit more than twice on my period, then I'll call in to work. If it's twice or less I'll go in