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My daughter is 6. She was being bullied by this girl who constantly tells her she's ugly. I told her to say "ok." And walk away. It worked lol. Then she started up again and I told her "next time she says you're ugly, start sniffing the air, make a cringe face, sniff towards her and say "omg, is that your breath?", cover your nose, cringe your face and walk away." It's been a year and the girl doesn't even speak to her anymore 😂
I did that when I was around 10. One of the boys that liked to bully decided it was a good idea to try to target me by calling me fat. I deadpanned with "Yes, I know. And?" The look of confusion on his face was priceless.
You are a great Mum, way to have your daughters' back like that. 😊👍👍
Yep, most of my bullies got bored with me because I agreed with them. Which was really easy when 98% of what they said was true, just said rudely. Like oh, you're mocking me for the stupid mistake I made in class? Well, it was stupid so why would I disagree? School bullies were a joke, I'd been trained by bullies with much more experience. Unfortunately that would be my parents.
I’m going to try that. I’m 14, so it might not work the same, but I am trying it.
@@waffles3629 EXZACHARY
"all parties involved in a fight get punished" is way too common in schools and I assume it's just because they don't want to bother figuring out who's at fault.
Yup usually the case
Pretty much
Yep, and they'll even do it when it's obviously one parties fault. My school district was forced to change it after a 6th grader was punched unconscious by a few 12th graders. They were actually gonna suspend him and his friend who used his body as a shield until the parents threatened to sue. Like oh yeah, let's suspend the kid for being sent to the ICU.
@@waffles3629 That is insane. If they are that injured it’s very likely that they didn’t stat the fight. Even if they did start the fight they have suffered enough as it is with getting beaten up
Yeah, definitely. And there’s so much more unfair rules.
Ugh, fuck TSA. I'm trans and they think my chest is a suspicious foreign object. One time the agent refused to believe that the only removable thing on my chest was clothing. He kept telling me I needed to take off whatever was on my chest, and I kept trying to explain that the only thing on my chest was clothing. Eventually I was told if I continued to refuse to cooperate I would not be flying. So I replied, in a louder voice than necessary for him to hear, "Are you ordering me to remove me shirt?". Wow, it was like magic how fast a supervisor appeared. He tried to bluster and say I was just refusing to cooperate and he obviously wasn't asking me to take off my clothes, just whatever was under my clothes. So the supervisor asked me what was under my clothes and I said "Boobs", only to be told that because I refused to answer, I would be patted down. Yeah, like two inches down my chest it was like his hand was magically repelled from my body. Like yeah, boobs, I told ya.
Edit- yes, I told him I'm trans, that's not the issue, his refusal to listen was
> just whatever was under my clothes.
"So you want me to take off my bra as well?"
"Skin? You want me to remove some skin? Tell me how to detach it, I'd LOVE to have that party trick."
@@rolfs2165 he wasn't even talking about bras (I wasn't wearing one anyway, I had a binder on), he wanted me to remove the non clothing item on my chest. Which would be...my chest.
💀 some people really are dense, huh?
@@waffles3629 I'm aware of that, but … y'know, if you're already going down that route anyway … ;)
Fun fact: in 2000 pope John Paul II blessed the Pokemon series with Vatican saying that Pokemon have no moral side effects and it's based on strong friendship bonds
rare Pope W
@@BlooMonkiMan JPII was a huge w indeed
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This made me happy
POKEMON ARE BLESSED
And here's my "traumatize them back" story - I was out with friends, most of whom are gay (I'm a straight cis woman). My 2 female friends (who are a couple) & I stepped outside to wait on the guys, who went to the men's room before we were to leave. A large group of frat bros walked by & preceded to catcall us, getting more disgusting in their comments & surrounding us to keep us from leaving. About this time, our male friends came out & seeing what the frat bros were doing, told them to leave us alone. They were like, "Sorry, didn't know they were yours". My male friends said "We're gay & they are not "ours", you just shouldn't speak to them that way." Frat bros yelled a few gay slurs as they ambled away. Then my friend Thomas, entered the scene. Thomas is 6'5, had played football & rugby at university & is so ripped, I'm pretty sure even his muscles have muscles. He is also very proudly gay & was wearing an "Out & Proud" t-shirt. He had overheard the entire thing & proceeded to follow the guys down the street, saying all the disgusting things to them that they had said to us. They kept walking faster & faster, with Thomas jogging behind them, catcalling & all of us following him, enjoying the show. By the time they were at the end of the block, frat bros were sprinting like they were running the 100-yard dash for Olympic gold. Thomas finally let them run away, yelling after them, "Remember this the next time you feel like harassing random women". Not all heroes wear capes, some of them wear "Out & Proud" t-shirts.
We stand Thomas 💅💅 I aspire to be like him. In vibes, cuz I am only 5' 7" and nonbinary/gender fluid 😂
This story screams "Homophobic men hate gay men because they don't want to be treated the same way they treat women"
I love this story so much! Everyone should have a friend like Thomas.
Hell yes!
Wow, A real life Thomas the Tank Engine, minus the Engine! Are you sure his name isn't Sherman or Abrams?
Either way, A true friend the world needs more of!
When I was pregnant with my first child, my husband and I were in line at the market. I was REALLY pregnant, like unmistakably pregnant. There was a woman ahead of us who noticed me and squealed, “When are you due?” While reaching for my stomach. I looked her in the eye and said, “I’m not pregnant. It’s a tumor.” The woman was HORRIFIED. All of her groceries were already on the belt so she was stuck there. Once she was gone, my husband burst into laughter and asked me why. I said I was tired of being fondled by strangers. I’m POSITIVE she never did that again.
That was the perfect comeback. People seem to forget personal boundaries when it comes to pregnancy (and sometimes hair--can't tell you how many strangers wanted to grab/touch/stroke my hair when I was younger). It's bizarre and so inexcusable. It takes literally zero effort for a person to not put their hands on someone else.
@@gl8172 this was 25 years ago and people were more handsy back then. I was sick and tired of being touched. It felt so violating.
And I also had my hair touched constantly as a child! My hair has always been long, thick, and auburn. It was so unique that many women asked my mom for snips of it to take to their hairdresser. I mean, this was back in the 80’s when hair dye wasn’t as awesome but who the hell does that?!?! Freaking weirdos out there with zero restraint.
It’s always so weird when someone tries to touch the belly of a pregnant stranger. I can understand starting a conversation abt when someone is due. Even with that you never know if someone is pregnant or not so that question also could be bad. Someone might have a tumor or they could just look pregnant without actually being pregnant. Touching a pregnant belly without asking is so weird bc most the time they don’t want a random stranger touching their pregnant belly. If someone does want to touch the pregnant belly they should ask and respect whatever the answer is even if the answer is no
@@ArtByJUSTSAM Yikes! Reminds me of what happened to the Lassie dog with locks of hair hacked off for souvenirs.
@62 This is the odd thing for me, I had the opposite problem where preggy women would grab my hand and try to get me to touch their bellies because they could feel the kid moving about.
Then I'd be snarled at for "not being maternal enough" when I'd pull back not sharing their overwhelming joy (they were random strangers btw), that was 20 years ago and I'm SO GLAD things have changed now.
"All parties involved in a fight get punished."
Kids quickly realized even if you didn't start it, you're going to get punished anyway so why not go all out?
So under this rule fights are often MORE DANGEROUS than they would have been under different circumstances.
Yeah, the kids realized pretty quickly that if their getting in trouble anyway atleast they can walk away from the fight satisfied. I remember two guys getting into a scuffle in the hallway because one said something about the other's mom. Dude realized that he was going to get suspended either way and decided to break the kids nose
Wish I realized this when I was younger. I was the one always getting suspended/ISSed because my bullies would all back each other up that they were innocent and that I started it. 🙄 Maybe if I realized the first time that if I fucked them up instead of just defending myself, the first time would have been the last time and I wouldn't have suffered 6 years of hell.
This is 100% accurate, but it's worth noting that the reason these rules get implemented in the first place is that all the other rulesets have serious flaws as well:
'No punishments for anyone' is pretty obviously flawed.
'Those who started it are punished' very quickly results in all fights having as few witnesses as possible, so each side can claim the other started it. This effectively just turns into 'the less popular kids in a fight get punished', which is a very nasty standard to set.
'The least hurt kids in a fight get punished' is probably one of the better options, as it at least creates a strong deterrence against more-excessive levels of carnage, but it also makes kids very, _very_ good at the art at inflicting maximum pain with minimum evidence. And once that happens, all fights thereafter basically get treated as 'the kids who are least good at screaming and turning on the waterworks get punished', which is obviously not ideal.
The real issues are that:
A. Trying to address conflicts _after_ they escalate to violence is always the wrong approach. It's important to take notice and take action _before_ that.
B. Proper supervision is very very important. Large class sizes and low school budgets mean there's just not enough resources for teachers to actually protect the children under their care from each other.
C. It's high time we actually recognized that schools should teach life skills of all sorts, not just 'job skills'. Most adults today have thousands of hours of training and practice at math and linguistics and such, but their skills and knowledge for deescalation, conflict resolution, and how to build healthy and lasting relationships from scratch, are all barely above toddler-level. In some cases, what they've 'learned' about relationships and conflict resolution is so wrong and bad that it's _actively worse_ than knowing nothing at all.
Wasn’t there a story of a kid throwing their bully out of a window because of such rules
My dad's mindset was always "If you get in trouble for defending yourself, we're getting ice cream and playing videogames."
As much as I tried to avoid fights to avoid punishments from the school, it was good to know I could fall back on my dad if I got into trouble for BS like that.
I got verbally abused by a religious person when I was in a shopping centre. I'd just picked up the fourth Harry Potter book and was following my parents around in stores, reading it when I could. This guy comes up and starts this tyraid about witchcraft and satan and stuff. He was standing over me with this crazy look in his eye. I'm crying and when my mum notices, we leave the store immediately. Turns out he followed us somewhere else, still raving.
So my dad pulls me behind him, looks up at this man (the dude was quite tall) and said "If youre going to pick on someone smaller than you, try me instead. But I am going to warn you I will beat the **** out of you in front of everyone and it's not going to be pretty. "
The dude took one look at my dad, realised he was dead serious and left.
The fact the bully chose to pick on a child showed what "good" Christian he was.
Sounds like you’ve met my godawful uncle.
Absolute chad of a dad, I'm happy that bully got what he reserved
Fun Fact: Unicorns in the Bible are actually associated with Jesus. So that grandma doesn’t even know much about that book she loves so much.
I was just thinking that.
It's a mistranslation but as the grandma probably uses the KJV you're not wrong.
My bet is the grandma would be of the opinion that Jesus is a woke liberal hippie and not worth listening to. Unlike her pastor who tells exactly who to hate.
I was about to post the same thing lol
I notice a lot of them don't. Just cover to make everyone else miserable.
"Prove you're disabled!"
*disassembles self*
"Oh, god, stop!"
They straight up started bonitis folding.
“It’s rude of you to do something I myself asked you to prove!” The entitlement 😑
“you’re not disabled bla bla bla”
i was told this by a bunch of 12 year olds at my school bc i have a lift key, they don’t know me, why do they think i have a key in the first place?! i started listing of symptoms and more fancy names for my disability’s, they did not stop until the lift door had closed
I felt that one tho :') EDS runs in the family, which means that I too can disassemble myself.
@@Liz-yp9im Me, too. As soon as OP explained they were dislocating their joints, I had a pretty good idea of what was coming.
My dislocations are usually restricted to my ribs. I can usually get the "out" ribs back in myself, but sometimes they get stuck, and then my muscles go into spasm, and it becomes much more painful. At least I know what's going on and why! I was diagnosed at 38, after a dozen years of trying to find explanations for my chronic pain. I've been doing my best to spread awareness through all of my medical team, so that maybe the next person doesn't have to go through what I did.
Sending gentle hugs and extra spoons your way! 💙🤗🥄🥄🥄
My friend posted a picture of her little boy (let's call him Joey) who loved Disney Princesses and their beautiful gowns. It was his birthday, he was with Rapunzle and in his best green dress. A stranger commented about how the mother shouldn't have dressed him like that, he's going to get teased etc etc etc. My friend said "No, he chose what to wear, he just loved princesses." Stranger went on a few more times, I finally said "Maybe your mum still dresses you but a 5 year old is perfectly capable of picking his own clothing out for his birthday party." Stranger went on about how he was destined to get beat up and high school is going to be treacherous because she is encouraging this. I'd had enough. The car crash that took several lives including Joey was very public and very violent so I replied to the stranger's comment with a link to the news articles and just said "He won't have to worry about high school. I would think the fact that the photo said "Joey's last birthday - I miss you so much." would have said it all but some people need help.
I am very sorry for your loss!
That's terrible, I'm so so sorry
Some fuckers just lose their ability to read the moment they see specific buzzwords.
I'm so, so sorry.
May that scumbag realize what a horrible person he is.
That took a turn
I had this one PE teacher who even though she knows I have asthma, she made me run the most saying that my condition is not that bad and that its gonna go away if I excercise and she constantly body shamed me saying stuff like "you from all your classmates should be training the most with that body" I am not even obese just slightly overweight because of medical treatment I had to get when I was younger which made people gain weight really fast. One time she even said to my MOM that I am too fat and that I need to work on myself. Like a week after, this dude in my class sprained her ankle, so when she came with the sprained ankle, visibly struggling to walk, and I told her to go on a a run because her condition "can't be that bad". She never talked to me ever again after that.
Your logic does not make sense.
Her logic doesn’t make sense
I have Asthma too, and I had too many similar experiences.
I feel that. I have a history of asthma, and a gym teacher in high school forced me to do the Pacer test anyway. Had my first asthma attack in nearly a decade.
@@maxirgendwas6079pardon?
"What's in your pants?" has got to be the strangest, most inappropriate question you can ask a trans person, while still having the excuse of it just being a harmless question.
I think it's inappropriate to ask that of anyone. It's too specific 😭
Ikr?? Like I’ve never looked at someone and thought “Gee, I wonder what’s in their pants,” much less deciding to ask
I don't think any of the people asking it realise how weirded out they would be if someone walked up to them, looked them in the eyes and said "What's in your pants?"
if whats in your pants is your gender, my pronouns are under/wear
Hey! Do you have a COCK?
That's basically what that question is in blunter terms. Gross.
I have to take abuse awareness to volunteer with youth. An adult insisting that a child is “evil” or “satanic” is a sign of abuse we’re taught to look for. That Grandmother was emotionally abusing her grandchild & the mother was enabling it. It was vicious, cruel and the true evil in the story.
My mother still tells anyone who will listen about how "evil" and "satanic" I am. It's been going on since I was less than a year old and now I'm making eye contact with fifty.
I shut off contact with her a decade ago. I still hear about her doings from time to time, but I don't have to put up with her in my life.
@@tealkerberus748I'm so sorry you went through that! But good on you, distancing yourself from that toxicity! ❤
I'm glad to hear that helpers are being taught to be aware of that. A sure sign that humanity is getting at least a little better.
Beware the evangelical
Destruction of personal property is another a sign of abuse, whether in familial or romantic relationships. Things the person loves are targeted because they cause the most pain. If the destruction is done in front of the person, it’s also an implied threat, as in “this is what I want/will do to you.” In either case it’s essentially physical abuse by proxy, a symbolic destruction of the individual themself.
"Never start a fight, but always finish it" sounds like the advice an anime parent/mentor would tell their child/student.
But it's really good irl advice.
Call me Ichigo, cause my dad always tells me that
Or Master Chief.
This is real advice in my house. The only time I ever got into trouble with my mom for "fighting" was when I didn't fight back. My principal was very shocked the first time he called her because I was fighting and she cut him off asking it I started it...
That's total BS. Most people who get bullied have no chance whatsoever "to finish it". This attitude is partly responsible that bullying is still so prevalent in the US because it puts blame on the victim for not being strong enough.
'swhat my dad told me. He expanded a little, though: "They hit you, *you punch them.* They kick you, *you stomp them."*
There are people that say they're "religious" or are "a child of god" then proceed to do things that are said to be a sin in their religion.
Yes, and I will always find it funny when people do stuff like that.
@@Wezryxsame
As a christian i can indeed confirm these people are what we refer to as "dumbasses."
They indeed do not love others as they do themselves, which is what the bible says to do...
they're not looking for enlightenment, they're looking for an excuse.
In America, "zero tolerance policies" have nothing to do with protecting victims, and everything to do with protecting the school from liability. By suspending all students involved, even those involved unwillingly, the school decides that the fight is not their problem. The bullying is not their problem. Etc.
That’s the most disgusting thing I’ve ever heard, and the most disgusting part is it’s completely true!
Most disgusting school system of the whole world.
@@Robin93ksad part is it’s REALLY not.
I mean, it’s also there to stop the school from having to use resources to find out who was the problematic person.
Otherwise a bully could knock someone out in the bathroom and then hit themself, go run to the principal, and claim self defense and get the victim kicked out of school.
@@micaheiber1419funny enough, america is quite literally directly at fault for why a lot of countries (particularly south/central american countries) are poor and struggling the way they are
Yep, zero tolerance fighting policies are utter bullshit. My school district was forced to change it after a 6th grader was punched unconscious by a bunch of 12th graders. They were actually gonna suspend him and his hella brave friend who literally used his body as a shield, well until the parents threatened to sue the district.
Were the 12th graders charged with assault? Beating a 10 or 11 year old kid freaking unconscious is a criminal act.
@@Bethsabee_Sheba_Newrose two of them ended up locked up for a year. Because they hit the 6th graders, hit the teachers who pulled them off the kids, hit the security guards who pulled them off the teachers and two of them were stupid enough to hit the cops who pulled them off the security guards. And they just so had the misfortune of being 18, so that went exactly as well as you'd expect. The rest of them got no legal punishment because all the court cared about was the cops getting hit. Because I don't count a restraining order as punishment. Like yeah, they can't go near the kids they assaulted, that's not a punishment.
@@waffles3629that escalated way too quickly, what even
I was suspended in high school because the girl my boyfriend was cheating on me with came from another school to beat me up.
@@theyoutubersfromdenmark8143 yeah, it wasn't my school (I went there for one class, long story that's not relevant to this) and I didn't know any of the students involved. But like, what the hell? One of them had a full ride to an ivy league school and instead went to prison. I have no idea how it went that wrong. It was like three weeks till graduation and they did this? Why??
I'm transmasc, which makes people call me a biological woman. But by that definition, I should have a uterus, ovaries, and vagina. I was assigned female at birth, but what they missed until later in life is that I'm actually intersex... My external genitals developed, but my vagina never really did. I talk about it openly because I feel there needs to be someone who talks about this. In that situation, I would find a piece of paper and pen and draw a similar diagram to what my OBGYN drew to explain it to me.
It’s great that you’re open about it and willing to educate people. But it’s a shame that it’s ever necessary. People should be taught to mind their own damned business. The only people that need to know are your partners and your doctors.
There’s a Vagina Monologues story told by a similarly intersex woman (born w/o a vagina). It’s called the The Missing Vagina Monologue. I read it online a few months ago. What the doctors put her through as a 13 year old was awful.
I read that 6 times before realizing that you said 'transmasc' and not 'transphobic'
Well as long as you have the two important holes for your waste, the rest of it doesn't matter? I can be curious but I dare not ask for it being none of my beeswax even though I would rather know just so I'm not being ignorant in future, just forgetful.
@@Roadent1241yeah like why should anyone know/ask such personal info if they arent your doc or your partner? thats so nonsense
This sub reminds me of the time when I was in I think my sophomore year in high school, when someone was spreading a rumor that I had lost my V-Card to him, news flash I didn’t, I’m a lesbian, but I decided that whenever anyone asked about it, I would just answer, “I ALMOST did, but the little guy was small and wouldn’t get up if you know what I mean” I think I destroyed that kid’s reputation and ego.
"What's in your pants?"
"Genitals. Why? Is there something else in yours?"
Lmao okay that one's pretty good
In my pants there usually is a little money, hair ties, my keys and a guitar pick.
"Do you really want to know? I assure you it's nothing you'd expect"
underwear.
Another, smaller set of pants
My parents used to regularly perform exorcisms on me when I was only a baby. My mom's sister thought they were insane but couldn't convince them to stop. Not sure what a literal infant could do to make you think they're possessed but that's religious fundamentalism for you.
I mean my parents would jokingly call me their demon child as a baby because of the sounds I would make (probably acid reflux, I've heard my grandma make the same sounds in her sleep and it's legit terrifying lol)
Why didnt she call CPS??
@@tudytudy3316 Come on. Really?
@@laravioliiii2832 yeah. Really. Why the fuck not?
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When I was pregnant, I had a co-worker who would run up and grab my stomach every single day. Like, before there was even a bump. It was super weird and made me very uncomfortable. I asked her a couple times to not do that, and she would just huff and roll her eyes like I was SO RUDE to tell her she didn't have the right to grab my body. One day I had enough, so when she ran up and grabbed my stomach, I grabbed her boobs. She jumped back like I struck her and looked horrified. I said "Oh I'm sorry, I thought we were inappropriately touching each other." She not only never grabbed my stomach again, she never even spoke to me again, and she quit a few weeks later.
I’m a massage and bodywork therapist who has had several pregnant clients in my career, and I ALWAYS ask if I can touch their bellies, even though they’re there to be touched. It’s so rude to assume you can touch someone.
That is brilliant! Especially the comment. I really don't get why people think it is their right to touch and fondle pregnant bellies and newborn babies. I am a firm believer in "If you touch what's mine then I touch what yours.
Lol, brilliant
Chefs kiss
@@ashannaredwolf8485the LMT students I’ve worked with always asked ahead of time where I was comfortable with them working, or if there was an area I didn’t want touched.
12:30 Congratulations Mom. You've taught your daughter to never get attached to anything because you'll just take it away and call your child a monster for liking something.
You know you dun goofed if your child calls you mother instead of mom.
Also, not to mention: taught your kid to lie to you as well. Because they will never trust you to treat them liking anything without assuming the devil's influence.
Picture it. Elementary school in Montana. 1998. Me, AMAB 11 year old student, gets jumped by 3 older, larger boys. When I say I was jumped, it was multiple times, and a jungle gym was involved. Anyway, I got in trouble, because the school principal had a zero tolerance policy very similar to what was described in this video. She said I must have INSTIGATED the beating, and she apparently couldn't see from her office 15 feet away with the blinds and window wide open with essentially a ringside seat for this.
My mom gets called. I'm an absolute mess, and my principal is telling my mother that she wants to punish ME by making me be BEST FRIENDS with the boys that nearly unalived me and walk to school with them EVERY DAY for a YEAR.
My mother had had enough. She stood up to her full height, all 5 feet 0 inches of her, and without yelling or swearing, yet clearly enunciating every word, asks her how she would feel if she was r**ed, and at the trial, the judge ordered her to be BEST FRIENDS with the person who r**ed her, and walk to work with them every day. Then My mom said "Can you guarantee my child's safety in this school? Can you guarantee that they won't be harmed again or potentially unalived?" The principal waffled a bit, but finally said no. My mom said "Fine. I can." and she pulled me out of school.
I love my mom.
You are allowed to say “killed” in TH-cam comments, they say “unalived” in videos to keep sensors away
Your mom should have sued.
When I was in elementary school I was SA'd by a high school boy on the school bus. I went to my school principle like I was taught and was basically told I was too young to know what really happened. My mom found out and was PISSED, apparently she caused such a scene that the principle (rightfully) lost his job. I have a lot of issues with my mom for a lot of reasons but I'll never forget that
@@godrickstockwell1505 The principal thought every parent was a conservative that didn't allow their kids to learn that these things are bad.
W
"If you can't take a punch, don't get in the ring."
That line is raw as FUCK.
It's raw until it's true
Passes step in the ring so fucking much, but because their opponent is ALSO a pussy ass, neither of them get karma'd.
it has the same vibe as "you cannot kill me in a way that matters."
@@redmegarexis that from a movie or youtube video?
@@victorhurwitz5559from a tumblr post
I read this comment at the exact moment he said it in the video! HOW?!! 😂
You don't need all the background because it would take years. But my grandfather is the worst person ive ever met, he's racist, sexist, homophobic, delights in physical and mental abuse, and genuinely took pleasure in drowning kittens.
Anyway, when i was homeless due to my mum being in hospital and having no where else to be (i was 14) anyway i had recently come out as gay and he said to me
"You really are a failure aren't you?"
And i don't know where it came from but i just said in the most mock surprised tone
"Ooooooohh, so we ARE related!"
THATS EPIC DUDE
SAVAGE
@@Mari-Schimmer hehehehehe thank you
@@Black_Sheep7 ksksksksk Ty Ty
Damn I feel so proud of you and I do'nt even know you ! x) good job friend that was amazing ! I hope you have a good life
My mother had an unusual condition in the last months of her life. Her stomach filled with water, making her look pregnant. She needed it drained in the hospital every couple of months. She was in her late 40s at the time, but looked younger(if sickly). She took a lot of joy in traumatizing people who were pushy about her supposed pregnancy, telling her what to eat, how to care for the ‘baby’, trying to touch her, etc.
As a TSA officer, that officer did that pat down completely wrong!!!! We’re supposed to use the skirt or dress as a barrier NOT reach up and touch someone beneath their clothes. So unprofessional
I never took the airplane in my life. Glad to know there is rules for pating and it isn't up to the officer.
@@vcool122yeah!
TSA patdowns turning into groping is depressingly routine, moreso if you're trans and the body scanner flags you for having unexpected shapes in unexpected places.
Trust me, most tsa agents are really invasive if you're disabled or trans
I'm an invisibly disabled, cisgender woman who has gotten multiple airport pat-downs. For the record, the term "pat-down" is misleading. There's really no patting; instead, the security agents smooth their hands along the body. I'll explain the procedure I've been through in detail as a reference, in case anyone is curious or wants a comparison point. I am happy to answer questions; nothing is off limits or too personal. Seriously. If I can be useful, I'm happy to do so. _Everyone_ should be treated with the dignity and respect I've been privileged (which I _hate,_ but will ruthlessly use as an ally) to experience.
I have an implanted medical device located in my back, just above my right hip. It pumps medication into my spine (kind of like an epidural, except a teensy bit deeper) to reduce my chronic pain from unbearable to just plain terrible. One of the benefits is that I get some pain relief without the drowsiness or other unpleasant side effects of other routes of pain medication delivery. (I'm happy to answer questions about this, and the spinal cord stimulator I had beforehand.) The general safety instructions, per the pump's user manual, caution me to avoid passing through any magnetic security devices that have a ceiling.
My pat-downs have been quite consistent.
As I am female-presenting, they find a female agent for me. This can take a while. There have been times I've waited at least twenty minutes (which cut it pretty clo, and have told them that I'm fine with a male agent performing the pat-down; I have had so many medical staff handle me that I long ago stopped caring about people touching me clinically. I do not remember any male agent performing a pat-down on me, but chronic migraines have made a mess of my memory, so I can't be sure. Hubs handles putting our belongings (including my shoes) through the metal detector and collecting them. He is not allowed near me from the moment I'm taken aside for my pat down.
Once they have a security agent, this is what happens:
-I stand on a mat, with my feet about hip-width apart, as indicated on the mat.
-The screener puts on fresh gloves.
-I'm asked to raise my arms, so that they're straight out, at roughly a 90° angle from my body.
-The screener usually starts with my front. With medium pressure, they hold the front of their hands flat against my body, with their fingers parallel with the floor, and make parallel, downward passes from shoulder-height to about where my breasts start (if I'm wearing clothing that covers this area). They do this until they have checked the whole area, from one shoulder to the other.
-They repeat the same motions from below my breasts (just under where the bottom of a bra hits) to about the level of my hip bones.
-They do the same with my legs. Some screeners curve their hands to follow the contours of my legs, and some keep their hands flat. They start fairly high up on the thighs, but _do not_ touch my crotch at all.
-When finished smoothing along my legs, they go back and carefully feel the hems of my clothing, and my ankles under my socks (if I'm wearing any).
-They follow the same procedure along my arms, checking the hems of sleeves. Once that is finished, I am allowed to put my arms down.
-Then, they explain that they will briefly run the *backs of their hands* over my breasts and pelvic area. This is always done quickly and clinically, using the same, parallel, downward motions as on the rest of my body. There is no lingering, grabbing, cupping, or anything of the sort. They do *not* put their hand(s) between my legs.
-They explain that they will hold one hand bladed (like a "karate chop" position) and run the side with the pinkie around the bottom contour of my breasts. This follows the path of where an underwire would sit on a bra. Again, it is done briskly and impersonally.
-They ask me to turn and face away from them, keeping my legs hip-width apart, and leaving my arms down.
-They follow the same procedure as with my front, only avoiding my buttocks.
-They notify me that they will use the backs of their hands on my buttocks, and use the same bladed hand position to run along the bottom curves of my buttocks, where they meet my legs.
-They check under my hair and squeeze along the length of a braid or ponytail. Some run their hands over the areas of my hair that are pulled back, too.
-Sometimes, they will wipe my skin, clothes, and/or carry-on with special paper that will pick up bits of debris that they can test for certain substances.
Security is not allowed to ask what my implanted medical device is for. They will ask the location, and if it is completely under my skin (it is). Sometimes they'll ask if it's a pacemaker or insulin pump, as those are most common. Since they can feel the pump through my skin when they reach that area of the pat-down, I pull my clothes aside, so they can see what it looks like, and confirm that the surgical scars are old and healed. They're not allowed to ask me to do that, but it makes the process easier for both of us if I volunteer it. I do have a card that was given to me by the device maker's representative to offer to security personnel. The card has some information on it, but TSA is not allowed to look at it, which is weird.
I live in Southern California, and have gone through these pat-down procedures at airports in San Diego, CA; Los Angeles, CA; Oakland, CA; San Jose, CA; Miami, FL; Lihue, HI; somewhere in Texas; Puerto Vallarta, Mexico; and Willemstad, Curacao. The procedure has been nearly identical at each airport, both inside and outside of the US.
I have found that the type of clothing I wear can make the process go faster and require a little less touching than I have described. This is what has worked for me, I am not advocating for or against it with regard to anyone else. I wear a form-fitting tank top, capri-length yoga pants, and either flipflops on bare feet or ankle-height socks and sneakers. I pull my hair back into a French braid or ponytail, and make sure my hair tie is not bulky and does not contain metal. The only jewelry I wear is my wedding ring and sometimes earrings. This leaves very little of my body obscured. If it's cold, I'll wear a hoodie or jacket, which I take off to put through the scanner with our other carry-on items.
3:34
Click not realizing that he's more than just the guy that reads reddit posts. He offers free therapy, advice, and sometimes even some effective verbal weapons.
hes a versatile king
True as hell.
And wholesome trauma and laughs
Exactly! He's like a comforting big brother/cool uncle.
Also educational content. Click academy teaches actual maths and physics.
When I was eleven, I was standing up on the bus waiting to get off. An older boy behind me grabbed my butt. It scared me and I panicked. Because there were people in front of me, I couldn’t run so instinctively I turned around and punched him. The bus driver saw this and sent me to the principal. I told them what happened but they said it was my word against his because no one saw him grope me. They suspended me. My mom was FURIOUS. She treated the suspension like a vacation and I got ice cream and toys and whatever I wanted. She was proud of me for standing up for myself and said I did nothing wrong. My mom’s awesome.
I wish I had your confidence, the first time I got gropped(two 'p's or one? idk) I only slapped the dude's hand away and made a disgusted face, idk how to speak up for myself lol. Also, your mom sounds rad for having your back at the time.🔥🔥
I fucking love your mom
Tf is wrong with people
Your mom is 🐐 and so are you
I just want to drop by and say, I have never been groped or even catcalled in the 30+ years of being a marginalny attractive woman on this Earth. I could probably walk through the street naked and still be safe.
It IS possible to build a society like that.
The unicorn story reminds me of something a friend told me about his childhood. He really liked Magic the Gathering, collecting the cards and playing the game. He had gathered a large collection, and even had some super rare cards by high school. One day, his mom was really upset with him over something and decided to punish him by throwing away his entire collection while he wasn't home. Well over $1K down the drain. My friend got home and was beyond furious and heartbroken, and he could only salvage a scrap of them. Afterwards, he disconnected from his family and stopped caring about chores. The mother later realized not only she lost her leverage, but permanently fractured her son's trust and respect for her.
Oooooh, RIP those Magic cards. Shouldn't mess with them cards
I’m a wheelchair user and get asked all the time by random strangers “what happened to you/why are you in a wheelchair?!?!?”
I have a genetic disability that’s kinda rare, no one has ever heard of it and it’s always really awkward for me to talk about cause like - why do you need to know wtf?
Now I’ve just taken to deadpan describing horrific accidents in great detail (even funnier when they’re super implausible) and watching them back away slowly haha.
This happened on the train a week or two ago
Old guy: why is someone as young as YOU in a wheelchair?!
Me: … well, I was the only survivor of a multi car pile up, my parents died horribly and slowly, and I had to watch the light go out of their eyes. I was trapped under a car for 3 days and had to eat my own vomit to survive!
Guy: oh… well…. Sorry *he scurries away while I stare at him*
I’m not usually a fan of lying, but it’s just so funny to make intrusive people uncomfortable I can’t resist sometimes 😂
"Why are you on a wheelchair?"
demolishing response: "Well, I was going to get a segway, but I really don't like to have a shaft between my legs"
....and watch their mind go full dialup modem.
@@bcn1gh7h4wk omfg I’m so using that next time thank you hahahaha
I wish the person in the video had yelled back "Maybe don't ask me about my sex life if you're not ready to share yours!" because like. What that fuck.
@@macytorro if you want another for random quips "Well, it was cheaper long term than paying people to carry me around." or similar but more exaggerated.
Power Move. That's a total Power Move. Love it.
It's amazing how often disabled people get told that they should be more 'polite' to people asking invasive questions about their medical history and giving unwanted and unqualified advice. I'm definitely going to try asking invasive questions back next time some stranger decides to interrogate me, and i absolutely will NOT be 'polite'
It works so well! No one expects you to ask them back.
Yeah, it's honestly baffling to me, even as someone who's not disabled. It's why my only interactions are to either smile and nod at them, or simply make a small comment like "hope you're doing good". Of course... this is also how I generally react to just about anyone that I'd have a reason to interact with in such a way. Just small, positive comments. Because from personal experience, such things can really make a difference in someone's life and mental health if they actually are doing bad. (there was a time where I was feeling pretty depressed, and while out with family at a symphony, some random young girl (probably 14ish?) just randomly complemented my shirt and it seriously made my week. (I was with my grandmother at the time, and was around like 26, with a full beard, so it was really easy to take it as simply a random positive comment and nothing else.))
BTW, I do genuinely hope anyone reading this is doing well, and if you're not, that things improve for you soon.
It's the same sense of entitlement to answers people often take with transgender people as well, or neurodiverse people, or anything really not seen as "normal" by the ignorant masses.
"OMG you're not EXACTLY LIKE ME!! You must tell me everything now without complaint because I NEED TO KNOW!!"
This is why, whenever it comes to disabilities or other sensitive topics, I always make sure to include something like "just out of curiosity" and ESPECALLY something along the lines of "Only if you're comfortable answering that"
"How did your last colonoscopy go?" Should do the trick
The "boys will be boys" one. In preschool there was a kid who'd hit me every day. Told my parents and the teacher, there was a discussion with both sets of parents and the teacher. Kid's parents said that line, my dad returned with "and girls will be girls". He came home and told me that the next time that kid hits me I have full permission to "handle my business". Next day I gave him 3 strikes. Hit 1: "don't touch me. Teacher, X hit me". Hit 2: "I told you to stop. Teacher, he did it again". Hit 3: didn't say anything, I just broke his nose.
The teacher relayed the days events to my parents, I got in no trouble. And even though the teacher did also tell him to stop he ignored her.
Dads give the most random, but amazingly functional fix-it-yourself issues. And if this happens again, show them your true power, morph into a being undescribable by anything other than "pure horror" and use your power to "vomit" metal sparks, it won't kill them, but it will hurt and burn, because girls will be girls 😊
I'm still so proud of myself because of the time someone tried to call me gay to insult me in high school, and rather than doing what most people do and being like "nah I have a girlfriend" or whatever, I immediately responded with "Only for your dad!" and the entire class laughed at them.
Sometimes you just gotta steer into insults and take 'em by surprise, even if they aren't true.
r/kamikazebywords
ya really realized ya had the entire enemy team cornered and out of ammo and decided to equalizer taunt
Telling people they shouldn't get a tattoo they clearly *already* have is so unhelpful. My daughter always says, if I can't fix it in 15 minutes don't tell me, ie: food in her teeth, smudge on her face or a change of clothes before we leave...telling someone they need to lose weight or get a tan or not wear that color when they can't change, just gives them something to worry about. Super crappy
That's such a good way to phrase that! I've been struggling getting that idea across to some of my family members lol
Absolutely spot on!
My family casually comments on my weight and there's always a compliment when I lose weight, but never if I gain it. I'm plump/chubby and I happen to like having more meat on my bones. I like having curves. So telling me it's great that I'm losing some pounds just pisses me off. I happen to also be Caucasian and I can't tell you the number of times my Caucasian family tell me to "get some sun". I like being white thank you very much. In fact, I'd prefer it if I were more pale. And, I'd tell them that, and they'd scoff or brush me off. Or tell me that I need clothing other than all black and dark colors. I happen to be a punk rock/goth/emo tribrid. I'm happy being different, and I wish my family would stop with trying to "convert" me. It also doesn't help that my family votes for Trump, other than my one awesome cousin. And I'm trans non-binary. I deal with a lot of bs. It's ridiculous.
@geminiwolf0077 i hope someday things get better for you. That's super shitty of your family. Proud of you for being who you want to be. Stay loving who you are, don't listen to ppl who say otherwise. I truly hope that you continue to have people around you that support you and respect you. 🙏 😁
Your daughter has a very wise quote now. That line could be on every teenage girl's Instagram it's so good.
I came in for my shift at work after literally finding my dog dead under the porch. I had been crying for most of my shift but had finally started to calm down, when this older guy came up to me and said "you'd be prettier if you smiled". I just broke down bawling again and told him that my dog had died and i found him just before my shift". His eyes went wide and he didn't look at me the rest of the transaction. People really just need to mind their own beeswax.
I hate this type of people. If you tell them the same thing when they're not in the mood they'll be mad
I always hated the stupid f-ers who said that to me! 🤬🤬 Like we OWE them a smile! BS!!!! Good for you for telling that man off!! And I’m sorry for your loss. 🙏
Good! He should have felt embarrassed about that! It’s a shitty comment to begin with, but even worse when leveled at someone who is clearly upset!
My (30F) dad died a few years ago and I had flown back to my home state to be with him in his last days and then be with my family for a couple weeks to get affairs in order and just generally grieve together. Terrible time but I am also SO glad I was able to be there. Anyway, the day after I returned home I was driving through town and was pulled over-I think my tags were expired? The officer was just being, like, way too nosey especially after I said something like “oh shoot, it must have expired while I was out of town”, and he ended up asking me why I was out of town with this weird incriminating tone. I had spent several days crying and mourning and was pretty emotionally exhausted at this point so, I looked at him straight in the face and with a deadpan tone, told him “well, my dad died”. He visibly reeled and then rushed off to his patrol car to gather his paperwork returning with just a quick, short warning. That interaction actually made me laugh and I *know* my dad would have laughed as well! 😂
I went through many years of bullying in school and often was just keeping my tears in, and since my dad as a teacher had a similar schedule he often picked me up. At some point he started complaining that I wasn't smiling and that it would suck that I'm not smiling. I'm 18 now, graduating in three months, suffering from PTSD thanks to the bullying and what does my dad do? Tell me the exact same thing. Supportive father
I'm sorry for your loss, that would have been absolutely heartbreaking. 💜💜
My favorite cat call is crouching down rubbing my fingers together on one hand while going "ps ps ps ps" and holding an open can of friskies tuna in the other hand. Works every time lol.
I just shake a cup most of the time when I wanna catcall, they always come running ;) cats ofc, why would I wanna call humans over to my place?
See I get cat called all the time, whenever they're hungry, or want to play, or lonely, my cat calls me constantly
@@discordiacreates6669 so they can pet your cat
@@gwblueberry which one? The one that bites or the ones that hate being petted? ^^'
@@gwblueberryNah they’re my cats
I remember when a bully said "Hey, are you gay" clearly planning to ask "Does your mom know your gay" or something like that. But I patted his shoulder and said "Sorry no, but you'll find someone, I know it" and walked past him as he stuttered, after leaving the room I heard a loud "HEY!" but I was already out of sight.
☠️
If I was there I would have been in the corner going ” OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO? "
Lol
fucking legend
💀
The best part of being autistic and ADHD is that my standard mode is to traumatize them beck because I have 0 impulse control and it takes a while for my “that’s not appropriate to say” brain center to switch online lmfao
Hahahahaha I feel you 😂
That's what makes living in modern times so exciting! There's so many horrible things on the internet and all of them come live in my brain until one day at dinner I blurt out a fact about human taxidermy and everyone is stunned
No because that's too real. 😂
I feel you 😂
I feel like there is no good parts in having ADHD, I can’t talk about autism because I’m not that dumb but ADHD is not fun tbh.
36:45 "you could've politely told her" No. People do this stuff all the time to disabled people, and worse! Even well meaning people like OP's friends will tell disabled people to back down, it's stupid. I'm glad they stood up for themself
It's odd that so many people think that they are intitled to being able to decide if they think someone is "disabled enough". It harms people inside of the community too, even without someone asking them directly, because it causes many people to stop themselves from using resources they need because they think they aren't struggling enough to use the resources and that tohers might have it worse. The idea that marginalized groups owe people explanations for their existence is so mind boggeling to me. We get enough invalidation for several life times from doctors alone, I just wish people would recognize that we don't owe kindest to those who don't give it to us
My response anytime someone tells me I take something "too far" is always "why is it okay for them to do it, but not for me to do it back to them? conversations ain't a one way road, don't drive in my lane and i won't crash into your car."
If someone feels "entitled" to be that invasive to complete strangers, you GOTTA be just as invasive to them to make them realize how out of pocket they were.
It's such bs, like just because someone is disabled they need to politely regurgitate either personal information or things one can learn if they just bothered to google, with a smile on their face. Or even have to disrupt their day at all to kindly ask someone to f off, when they're just trying to enjoy their ice cream or whatever. Why is the person being invasive and treating a stranger as a living museum exhibit deserving of politeness? Asking disabled people to put up with rudeness born of ignorance, and getting upset if they respond in kind is beyond hypocritical.
2:01 reminds me of a quote from the movie Aristocats: “Ladies dont start fights, but they can finish them” and honestly I live by that quote
Marie is iconic ❤
Marie has some real good advice
Marie is such an icon
"girls don't start fights"
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAA
Okay not to be pedantic but technically the quote is
*Ladies* don’t start fights, but they can finish them.
During middle school I was constantly bullied by two kids, and guess what? The moment I dared to fight back the school threatened to suspend me.
Fortunately my dad came in clutch and hit them with this line:”My son has been bullied for 3 years and you’ve done nothing, yet the moment he tries to stand up for himself you try to punish him?”.
I wasn’t suspended fortunately, but neither were my bullies, which stings still to this day.
That story about the unicorns is messing me up. How can you mess up so badly as to make your child not only watch but participate in the destruction of stuff that clearly means a lot to her, and then tell her she's upset because she's in satan's grasp and is therefore evil FOR LIKING UNICORNS?! I never experienced anything like this, but I'm horrified. Anyone who accepts that such a harmless interest is evil, is an idiot with no imagination. To get to a point where your child doesn't cry or accept your peace offerings - you done MESSED UP.
Same here. Makes me thankful my Christian mom loved mystical creatures.
@@kittycatmeowmeow963 Same! My mom was Christian and loved fairies, always buying books about fairies or trinkets of fairies. Funnily enough, she also adored witches, something a lot of Christians have hard stances against.
That are called narcissists, shutting down is a self defense mechanism. Those of us who survive them are tough as nails
I felt my own heart break when the kid said "It's too late."
My cousin recently banned her children from going to Starbucks because the mermaid or siren or whatever it is on the logo is "not of God." Does this make sense to anyone?
I have a pool pass for a hotel called Pegasus. Is she going to ban her children from swimming there too because of the winged horse on their logo? How does she pick and choose which fairytales are evil? Can anyone explain this, because I do not understand it.
Trauma: Double it and give it to the next person
No no
Double it and give it to the PREVIOUS person!
the next person is your child
@@kaderen8461 insane parents be like
I’m disabled (mobility and PTSD) but apparently “don’t look disabled”.
I have a lifetime permit to park in disabled parking, and am now owner training my service dog (I live in Australia and we call them assistance dogs here btw ).
I have been interrogated, verbally abused, harassed about my service dog when we’re training outside of the supermarket, told that “only blind people should have guide dogs!”, and more.
It’s at the point now that my PTSD is triggered just by going to certain shopping centers, I don’t even make it out of the car before this happens because I’ve been abused in the parking lot.
Now when people start questioning me I go into graphic detail about the domestic violence I’ve grown up with that still continues to this day. I recently turned 40, so it’s a lot.
Needless to say most people try to back out of this situation but if I’m up to it, I just walk along with them, service dog by my side (he’s a bullmastiff/ American staffy mix and a lot of people find him intimidating), and continue my story until we get to their car.
I recently got a camera for my dog so I have evidence if anyone accuses me of harassment, just in case.
Anyway, people need to be less shitty and less nosey 😐
YES! Honestly, with every story that involved the OP going into graphic detail and the harasser getting uncomfortable and leaving, my first thought was "follow them. Don't let them get away that easy"
It's the assumptions that people make that get to me.
People tend to have this idea about what a disabled person looks like (or what an LGBTQ+ person looks like, or what a neurodivergent person looks like, or what.... etc etc), without realising that the gambit of human experience is insanely massive.
If someone has a disabled permit in their car, the safe assumption that should be taken is that the driver of this car has been assessed by the relevant medical professionals and determined that this is warranted.
That's it, end of story. I don't need to know any more than that because A: I'm not a disability expert by any definition; B: It's not affecting me anyway as I'm not competing for the spot; but most importantly C: It's none of my business anyway!!
@@WombatMan64I feel this especially for my parents, mom's hips and knee are shot and my dad's back and legs randomly give out. Neither uses a walker though I wish they did. When I'm driving and they're with I may be able to walk fine, but they need that space so they can join me in the store or restaurant.
im so sorry you have to go through that in your day to day life, I can only imagine how often this becomes overwhelming, I wish you all the best and an easy/ “uneventful “ training period ❤
I’ve been once harassed by a lady while walking my dog and I was so flabbergasted by her aggressive manner and the bs that was freely coming out of her mouth I couldn’t even defend myself, my anxiety took a toll on me that day and it took me a while to get over that event… I can’t imagine how it must affect you and especially when it’s not a singular incident, can only hope for society to become a little less intrusive, cause kindness and understanding seem to much to ask nowadays .
If someone ever says "i dont look disabled" id say "yeah you dont have access to my brain!"
"I can give it to you though!"
Honestly im Pretty good at masking but ill tell them "if i get perks for being disabled IM USING THEM!"
43 yo man here.
When I was 14ish, the guy sitting besides me in class was sometimes saying random homophobic nonsense.
One day I told him I was gay. He turned white as a corpse then red and shut his mouth for the rest of the class.
A week later he came to me and apologized.
I responded something like "Yeah, whatever. And by the way, I'm not gay."
He looked at me like I just murdered his grandma.
"Why the hell would you lie on this subject ?!" he asked.
"Just to make you use your brain, for a change." I responded.
After all those years I still remember the look on his face ...
Now *that* is some solidarity and allyship, and I am here for it.
"He looked at me like I just murdered his grandma"
Im saving this one
That's amazing omg
I have a tattoo on the back of my shoulder with my Moms name, her birth and death year, and a rose petal (her favorite flower). I was hanging out at a beach with some friends when some random dude with his family yelled at me "You're gonna regret that tattoo when she leaves you." and I just respond with, "Well, she's dead. So....? -shrugs-" he shut up really quick and didn't make eye contact with me the rest of the day (it was a small lake beach). My mom passed in 08 and this happened in 2015 so I was perfectly okay with making jokes about it. Still am.
That's really cool (the tattoo, not the jerk) my stepdad has a memorial tattoo for his brother, it's neat to see the ways in which we try to remember our loved ones
@@bobthegamingtaco6073 My Grandmother got her first tatt at the age of 60 to commemorate her mother after she died - a book and a lemon.
Your whole body is an extension of your parents, in a way. I wonder how people feel when their entire appearance is similar to one of their parents. I assume it makes you feel closer to them when they're gone.
Fun fact flamingos are born white and turn pink over time due to them eating high amounts of crustacean
And they are tanks. Their legs allow them to stay in the water even if the temperature of the water is 100 degrees Celsius and they can drink it too. These birds are not to be messed with
I wish to be pink. I think I will also go eat high amounts of crustacean
@@Aliens420yeah, life forms that are considered extremophiles are usually little microscopic blobs living around an underwater sulphur vent. But flamingos also fall under that category!
Thank you for the fun fact
A zoo in Germany (Schwerin if I remember correctly) has a sign out at the flamingo enclosure saying, that they dye them with paprika powder.
Like, too flamingos need to be dyed and in zoos that can hardly be achieved solely through crab's 😂
Did... did the Click just establish that Pokémon are all emotional support demons?
ALL cute monsters are emotional support demons to me.
Nothing to calm the nerves as a cute mascot monster or two.
They always were according to unreasonable christains...
@bazilda It's weird that accurate angels are worse nightmare fuel than classical demons.
Old demons might be horrible, but at least we're more humanoid and less bio mechanical looking.
Yes.
Pokémon is short for Pocket Monsters after all
I didn't really traumatize anyone but a while back, (I'm a trans girl, MtF) I convinced someone who was being extremely nosy that I was a trans boy instead (FtM) so he was saying I'm "still a girl". Best validation ever
Infinity IQ
infinite gender euphoria glitch (working 2024)
"We can always tell"
No Billy, you can't.
YESS YOU GO GIRL🫶🫶
real
Randomly, I had a man tell me in the middle of a conversation I would be "really pretty if I would lose ten pounds". I was shocked. I looked at him and asked "what makes you think starving myself would make you look any better to me?" True story. He said, "don't be like that, I was just trying to help you".
They get so trigger lol😂
Correct response would be "you're literally 300 pounds heavier than me"
I was always chubby in HS, and when I got cancer, my dad legit said "well at least you're thin now." I was so mad but hes always said fucked up things being sociopathic (ASPD diagnosed). I wotked out really hard to get strong and later he said "Its good the chemo stuck so now youll always be thin." Pissed off I told him "too bad your alcoholism cant be cured the same way than."
Definitely a Nice Guy™️
@@SaintShion _DAYUM._ That belongs in r/RareInsults.
Of course she’s not gonna want the unicorns anymore - you’ve shown her with enough influence, her mum is willing to destroy the things that mean the most to you. It’s dangerous to carry on emotionally investing in things, in case someone finds them ‘satanic’ and buzzes in your mum’s ear enough.
I remember one time in middle school, this guy kept bugging me, calling me names that were slightly on the edge between fine and not fine. I remembered this idea that my mom told me that boys sometimes bully girls because they're attracted to you (I'm a female aromantic, so I take an academic approach at most to this sort of thing). This gave me an idea. One time he was nagging me, as usual, and I turned around and asked, IN THE MIDDLE OF CLASS, "do you bother me because you're attracted to me?" He turned beet red and put his head on his desk. He was the class subject of ridicule for a long time after that.
Ahh the classic ,,they just like you" excuse, I love it so much😊
Well, it worked, didn't it?
Well he didn’t say no 🤔
I wouldn't care all that much if he had said yes. He would be gutsy to do so, and it was that typical environment where boys couldn't show any emotion without being called names.
The aromantic academic approach to boys trying to bully you is the best tbh.
Oh you want to bully me? Well you're my test subject for human behaviour now. I will study you like a bug.
I'm a doctor and I would NEVER ask someone for their medical history when the person in question is not currently my patient.
It makes me think sometimes that these nosy people (for want of a better word) just don't see others as people, especially if they don't fit into their vision of what a "perfect" society is.
The whole "you're not hot enough to be harassed/SA'd" is so damn stupid. I'm no beauty physically, and even I have had my share of catcalling and way, way older dudes trying to hit on me. It's alllll about power, guys...
"just tell em you're allergic to erectile dysfunction or sumn idk" -Sun Tzu, the Art of War
The kind of man who's desperate enough to start catcalling is the kind of man who would screw a brick wall if it wore a wig and lipstick. Pretty is not the issue
@@bobthegamingtaco6073 Do I dare get myself r/woooosh'd?
@@BlooMonkiMan always. Better to comment and find out than don't comment and don't find out
Funny thing is that more “attractive” you are the more likely it is to be sexually harassed (so sorry for bringing up a sensitive topic)
7:40 that projection thing is so so real. Taking myself as an example. I’ve never ever expressed any interest in alcohol, drugs or even going to social gatherings in general. My family knew that well and would never think of me doing any of those things. But then! Then I came out as transgender… and SUDDENLY! I MUST be hiding drugs in my bedroom!!!
I have no idea why, but some people feel like they have the right to know everything about you or judge your disability when you are disabled. I had a lady come up to me once at a bus stop and Tell me I don't need the wheelchair cuz I'm just fat and if I "actually exercised" and lost weight like a normal person I'd be fine. I was Not having it that day and gave her my best dagger stare and told her "Lady, I broke my spine in 2 places, want me to break yours too and see if you can fix it with a little exercise?" It was admittedly mean, but dang lady. She did have the grace to look ashamed.
This line is actually fucking badass holy shit
You had full right to say that, don't feel bad
Oh how I wish to have your level of 'in the moment' wit. Whenever I think of a clever retort, it is already tomorrow.
Admittedly some people need a reality check every once in awhile. If you never did that she would have kept doing that to people.
Good God, that line is EPIC. Boy do I wish I had your quick wits, cause I would love to make a comeback as awesome as that. Absolutely priceless!
The TSA one hits close to home. I'm a type 1 diabetic that's fully geared up. Dexcoms, my insulin pump, EVERYTHING. Now, my dexcom transmitters can't go through the little scanner belt thing because it'll ruin them, so we put them in a medical bag with all my other stuff like pump insets, insulin, syringes and needles, etc. and they have to swab every single item. They've made me open sealed packs of dexcoms so they could swab each sensor gun individually. I can't go through the full-body scanners for a similar reason, but it'll also crash my insulin pump which is literally the most deadly thing you can do to a diabetic. Unfortunately, my pump also has metal in it, which means I beep every time I go through the metal detectors and the only other option is a full-body patdown.
The worst TSA experience was when I was flying back to school over winter break (January 2024). I was with my very confrontational and aggressive (and tall) brother, luckily, because my social anxiety would've just let them ruin thousands of dollars worth of life-saving equipment that I simply can't get at school right now. Naturally, I beeped going through the metal detector, which is natural. I show them my insulin pump and they ask of it's attached to me.... Yes??? I don't magically teleport the insulin into my body otherwise I literally wouldn't need it. This was AFTER the TSA lady continued to try to force my medical bag into the conveyor belt after my brother repeatedly said that it can't go through and that he would sue if she continued to try it (he's planning to go to law school next year so...) which made her run off and not come back. The next guy was more accommodating, but it held up the line a ton because I'm here for 4+ months and need my stuff every day. They didn't have a woman that could pat me down despite me literally talking to 3 different women in TSA. Eventually I said fuck it, gave them my pump, told them to swab it quickly or the entire TSA would smell like insulin (I don't smell it anymore, but I hear it smells bad). They took too long, insulin started being pumped out due to my hourly basal, and they got pissed at me when they were standing there for like 20 minutes carefully swabbing it. This pump has been smacked against wood and metal, has been accidentally brought into water, has been dropped multiple times after ripping the inset out, etc. and they're worried a tiny swab would make it explode or something. This was a 40 minute ordeal of just me standing around and them swabbing my pump. Finally, I make it through to the other side of the metal detector and they're STILL swabbing my medical supplies. They even made me uncap one of the vials of insulin to make sure it was insulin. For context, they're snapped off, so you literally can't reseal them when they're opened. Unfortunately, I didn't have TSA pre check or Nexus as my previous pre checks were due to my parents and that I was a minor. I'm currently in the very long wait to get Nexus, which includes TSA pre, but it's taking a while. There were people waiting for their own stuff to be swabbed and even they said it was rediculous that they had to swab literally every little thing. They had me open one of my syringes so that I could prove that the insulin was in fact insulin... My brother blatantly said "This is insane. It's medical. [He's] 18. You think [he'll] be bringing a bomb on the plane when he literally failed Chemistry?" and the people waiting said "What a rediculous system. This is life saving equipment that you need a prescription for just to get. Not only that, but it's thousands upon thousands of dollars. No druggie or terrorist has that kind of money, patience, or ANYTHING to warrant faking diabetes to bomb a plane." A full fucking hour of waiting at TSA, holding up the line (which the other people were pissed at TSA, not us), and eventually my brother talking to the TSA manager who said this is "normal" (I've been diabetic for 7 years and we've never had this happen... wven when flying in the same airport). We're lucky we got there painfully early otherwise we probably would've missed our flight, which was literally the day before my brother had to go back to school.
When I was 11 I had a wart removed from the sole of my foot, in the middle of the heel, and because of that, I had a note from the doctor to sit out of my PE classes for a couple of days while the wound healed. I only used that "excuse" for the activities I really couldn't do (basically anything involving putting my heel on the ground) but I still used my scooter to get to school every morning because I only needed to use the front of my foot to propel it, so it didn't hurt.
Well, one day we were supposed to do a running activity in PE and the teacher allowed me to skip it, but a group of my classmates started complaining that I was faking it to get out of the activity, that I couldn't have any problem because obviously, I was fine enough to use my scooter every day.
With a wicked smile I just went "oh yeah, I have a hole in my foot, do you wanna see it?" and started taking off my shoe and my sock and peeled off the bandaid that was covering the wound.
The look of absolute horror on their faces when they saw the 2cm wide hole in my heel was so satisfying. They all instantly looked away and begged me to cover it. They never said a word after that.
Proper procedure, power to you.
you warned them, now gaze into the HEEL VOID
@@audiovisualcringe 🤣🤣🤣
I mean that is the most fair and reasonable one of these stories. Ignorant kids didn't know better and complained rudely, you taught them that health issues aren't always immediately apparent.
That's big
That's a big hole
It's like a bullet hole
For the "what's in your pants" question, I usually just list off what's in my pockets in order of least concerning to most concerning.
Had one the other day where I answered "wallet, phone, keys, gloves, mask, knife"
being the middle of winter (in the northern hemisphere), the mask and gloves make perfect sense!
“…Duct tape, incidentally does this hankie smell like chloroform to you?”
@@corpsehandler5321 But it take a whole new meaning if used with the knife .
But Gollum did not gues that you had the ring in your pocket
"knife" is unironically a normal item on myself but then again, I just like to carry multi-tools because jfc sometimes I just need something sharp and I do not have something sharp. >:C
to the "TSA provides a necessary service" The TSA has been evaluated many many times. They have never once passed and have always failed to detect weapons or explosives brought by people examining them
But they scare people into thinking it works! That's just as good! /s
@@PenguinLord10 -sounds of impotent rage-
Who needs security when you can have security theater?!
@@tookitogoExactly! Why would we need something to be safe when we can all just pretend it's safe! That water won't burn you if you pretend it isn't boiling!
Hey! They're only like 98% ineffective so they should've detected it at least once in examinations.
3:42 oh my god that reminds me of my weird bully story. I was in 9th grade and I had been out for like a year as trans and like 5 years as queer. This dude wouldn’t let go of calling me my dead name, I’d always ignore it (though I couldn’t help but flinch) but one day I was having a terrible day, and I was ready to go home, we were at bus circle and ofc, he took the time out of his day to say “hey [deadname]” the exact words I replied with were “you call me that again and you won’t have kids and your balls will have to descend again, call me dylan, or call me nothing,” could have been better, but pretty good for a first try
Strangely that's also my name, not Trans tho
“Nice people made the best Nazis. My mom grew up next to them. They got along, refused to make waves, looked the other way when things got ugly and focused on happier things than “politics.” They were lovely people who turned their heads as their neighbors were dragged away. You know who weren’t nice people? Resisters.”
― Naomi Shulman
You don't owe anyone a damn thing. Not your medical info, not your ID, not your smile, heck, not even your time.
My bully was not a nice person at all…
I've been staring at your comment trying to figure out what you were trying to say. So confused.
NICE DOES NOT EQUAL KIND @@thetruechickenking9172
@@thetruechickenking9172 The 'Nice people' were the ones who didn't want to make trouble in Nazi Germany and let their neighbors be abducted and sent to concentration camps. The people who made efforts to save the people being imprisoned weren't considered nice. That's because they weren't afraid to make waves since they knew they were right.
@@thetruechickenking9172 fighting for what's right will make people say you're not nice because "kicking up a fuss" is "impolite".
My dad also taught me the “never start a fight, but always finish it”. He fully supported me taking MMA lessons and helped me with some basic self defense before I was ever interested in fighting. I’m a trans guy, and there were a couple guys going around harassing the “girls” (I wasn’t out yet, private Catholic school in a conservative area) and when one of them got to me I grabbed his arm and said very audibly “If you touch me, I will make you regret it.”. Of course he didn’t believe that the straight A quiet kid would ever fight back, so he didn’t listen. A little while later he came back, tried to grab me, and I gave him an elbow to the clavicle and shoved him into a wall. Shout out to my PE teacher who watched the whole thing and applauded me. No doubt that any other teacher I had would have sent me home for that. On the bright side, those idiots never messed with me (or anyone I was in the room with for that matter) again. So to any cis women or closeted trans afab people out there who are being harassed, I highly recommend a self defense class. Not only will it get them to leave you alone, the look on their face will be priceless.
I have a younger friend who was really mistreated by her secondary school (high school). She's neurodivergent, and spoke up for any of her peers who were mistreated. She had also learned self-defence at a young age. One day, the vice-principal grabbed her bodily in the hallway. She reacted as she had been trained, pinning him to the wall. She was a legend to her peers after that.
@@YourQueerGreatAuntieShe's a legend to me too, good for her.
@@YourQueerGreatAuntie Absolute legend indeed
@@YourQueerGreatAuntiehope that vice principal got a nice vacation, in prison. Your friend is awesome though.
w dad w teacher
The story about the unicorn decor being destroyed hit pretty close to home. Though she didn’t nearly take it to the same extreme, when I was about 8-9, my mom decided that I was too obsessed with horses (I was undiagnosed autistic, and they were a special interest; I loved learning about the different breeds, traits, their care, etc.), and went out of her way to destroy everything I had related to them. The peak moments were when she shattered the DVD for Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron in front of me while I begged her not to get rid of it, and then dumped the plastic horse figurines (both from a board game my sister had given me and some given to me by my best friend we were moving away from) into a trash compactor. It’s been over 15 years and I still struggle with letting myself hyperfixate on anything that interests me, because she always insisted that it was like “watching an addict on drugs” whenever I talked about something extensively for more than a week at a time.
I hope you ran far, far away from these unloving people
@@grenade8572 That sounds a lot like my mom. Every time I tried to talk to her about one of my special interests or something I was proud of, she’d always find a way to turn the conversation to something I was falling short in (maybe I hadn’t finished homework yet, or my bed wasn’t made to her satisfaction-always something). I’m now low-contact with her (partially because of these things, partially other issues) and somehow she wonders why I don’t come to her more often after all that.
I’m sorry you’re stuck in a similar situation, but I promise it gets better. Hopefully your mom will learn to be better, but the quality of your life in the future doesn’t depend solely on her 🩵
@@grenade8572I'm sorry for both of you.
I find it difficult to share any interests I have with anyone.
Basketchaos, hmu if you ever want someone to talk to and hyperfixate on something that you adore. I promise to listen and fall and love whatever you've hyperfixated on. (I just love listening to people who love and just want to talk about a thing).
And as Basketchaos said, Grenade, things can get better. When you can, leave. Go low-contact. Seek therapy. It might take a few tries to find the right therapist. Try to go to public libraries as well. Can read and stuff, and see what events are there. (DMs are also open if you want to chat).
Both of you deserve so much better.
If she ever says anything like that again I urge you, no, I BEG you to respond with "Well I'd rather be addicted to 'special interest' than addicted to hurting others, having no interest and no joy" :)
But seriously please be safe and I hope you're in a better place away from such a pathetic excuse for a parent.
From one autistic person to another - only the stupid or terminally boring are incapable of having interests outside of eating, shitting, screwing or sleeping. Don't be ashamed of loving something with a passion, it just means you're capable of LOVING and is endearing. Nobody wants to be around someone who has no likes or can't enjoy anything except themselves.
The best thing to tell yourself when you feel anxious about how others will view you is to remind yourself - Anyone who would judge you for liking something strongly is someone to pity, for they have never felt the joy of loving something completely, mostly they are incapable of loving themselves.
The thing every child wishes to do is grow up and enjoy all the things they couldn't as a kid, only the most pitiable people never let themselves enjoy something for fear of 'being childish' and feel the need to lash out at others for enjoying what they won't allow themselves to. Let yourself be happy, let yourself love and adore and binge and share your excitment about the things you connect and express with. You deserve to enjoy life and anyone that can't or won't support that isn't someone you need in your life.
I'm so sorry. Joy is important.
3 years ago we had to put my dog to sleep (she had late stage bone cancer) and i was always struggling with depression but that sent me to a downward spiral and i wasn't able to take care of myself properly... when i started to get better i shaved my really long curly hair off down to like 1-2 mm because it was tangled beyond saving and it helped me a lot with feeling better and also it was a confidence boost (i looked badass imo) but the amount of unsolicited opinions and questions from complete strangers was frustrating and most of them came from, you guessed it, men and the most common ones were "women should have long hair", "i don't find short hair on women attractive", "are you trying to be a man?", "only lesbians have short hair" and so on, but i was ignoring all of them until one day an older guy on a bus stop asked if i was a lesbian in a very degrading tone and i just had enough so i turned to him with a smile and said "no, but i have cancer" and i know it's wrong to lie about something like that but the look on his face as he paled and tried to stutter out an apology was priceless... i wanted to stay there and grill him some more but right then my bus arrived so i left him there to process all that... i bet he'll never ask a total stranger an invasive questions like that ever again :) or at least i hope
i can't speak 100%, but as someone whose family has been dealing with cancer a lot and whose pretty probably gonna develop it. this. is. amazing.
Hey! That's my story!
Giraffe tattoo person here! Been a fan for a while and was so excited to share that one after hearing about the sub through your channel. I usually put these videos on for background noise while I work on sewing projects so hearing my words come out of your mouth really freaked me out for a moment there lol
I'm so sorry for your loss, my friend. Your story was one of my favorites I've seen. I always resonate more with the service industry stories due to my own personal experiences. I hope you're doing well and I hope you're handling the loss of your sister the best you can. I know that pain will never go away, but I hope that the weight of it gets lighter to carry as time goes on. Sending you love and light, my friend ❤️🩹❤️🩹
@@seesoux3070 Don't worry, I'm far better now than I've ever been before. I keep her close, and joke about wearing my heart on my sleeve. I've also turned to art to help me express the uglier emotions involved. I also have other siblings who I'm able to reach out to and talk to when things are more difficult. Things aren't perfect, but every step is towards a better place.
@willjackson3402 that sounds really great! As someone who also loved your story most, I send you all the best!
Ps: do you share your art somewhere?
I have no words, but want to send you a virtual hug 🫂
@@aymcleonidas195 I really don't post my work on social media much unfortunately. A lot of it is deeply personal and I prefer to keep it in friend and family groups.
Zero Tolerance was never about right and wrong. It's about avoiding responsibility.
I thought it was about shooting aliens?
(Old video game joke)
I always callid it the bully protection service or the pro bully rules
Zero Tolerance Policies are always objectively bad, by every metric you can measure outcomes by. A lot of really bad ideas have these minor fringe one-out-of-a-billion scenarios where they _might_ do some _hypothetical_ good; these policies do not.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa Like I said. They are draconian and widely-applied by design, to prevent individual teachers or schools from being liable for their outcomes "It's just the policy, there was nothing I/we could do!"
About the catcalling thing: One time i went absolutely feral at a man that was always sitting in the outdoor space of a bar and was constantly catcalling every person who remotely looked female. I had to walk there to get to a friends house and every time he screamed very off-hand disgusting things, it was so annoying and i decided one day i'll just f with him so he hopefully stops. So i put make-up on, dressed real fancy and went on my way. Of course he was there at the bar again, harassing everyone. So as i walk by he screams at me, i look at him like "oooh you mean meee, strong man?" went right to him and as soon as i was just a few meters away i started acting like a maniac, screaming, growling, hissing, moving like gollum. You get the point. I'm pretty sure he shit his pants by the look on his face. 😂 After that i went on my merry way and never saw him again. 🤷😅
I feel like that strategy can backfire so easily. Like, in your scenario it's a bit harder because the dude wasn't expecting it, and yet if he was drunk enough he would 100% buy into it.
But if I were in the same situation as the guy in the video, I will full on capitalize on it. "I like your biceps, but I like them more without the shirt", "You're gonna love what I have without the pants then".
Do I want to do the girl? No. But gawd danmit I would love to be "that guy".
When people decide that the right answer to an issue is to try and prove a point in a very dumb way, they kinda deserve their scheme to backfire.
Don't do things just because you're angry. 9/10 times it can end up badly.
12:19 Honestly I wouldn’t have touched the unicorn toys after either. They did it once, what’s to say they won’t do it again? Not gonna bother getting attached to the same thing when they showed that they were that willing to rip it away from me.
I once had a bully that kept provoking me, often telling me to hit him. One day, he was in my face, telling me to hit him, even pointing at his cheek where he wanted me to slap him. I refused for a few minutes, where he kept preventing me from moving and kept telling me to hit him. At some point, I saw a teacher coming our way and stand close by, just observing. The teacher heard how the bully kept telling me to hit him and then I had enough. I slapped him so hard that he had prints of my hand on his cheek. When he saw the teacher, he immediately tried to play the victim, tears in his eyes because it did really hurt. The teacher just looked at my bully, asking why on earth I should be punished for doing something that the bully wanted me to do. I didn't get in trouble, not even told off for resorting to violence.
I'm not a violent or confrontable person, but that day I had enough of him. He never asked me to hit him again, though he still bullied me from time to time, but only when he was around others. He never bullied me when it was just the two of us. In fact, he ignored me when it was just the two of us.
Why did i read this as if NF was rapping it?
"He never bullied me when it was just the two of us" BRO EVERY BULLY I HAVE EVER KNOWN DOES THAT!
@@Sparkly_nekoit’s all a show, to impress or instill fear in others.
@@THECHEESELORD69 idk I was bullied by like half of my class when I was 12 and there was one boy who kept insulting me and saying awfull things even when it was just the two of us, I think he genuinely got a kick out of making me cry. Cruel sadistic bastard.
When I went to high school people constantly made comments and id get catcalled a lot.
I had no ides the catcalling were talking to me so I completely ignored them.
They'd try but I never cared I ignored them or said idc or agreed all infuriated them
I had a coworker ask me if I'd done anything naughty with my girlfriend over the course of a few weeks. I finally said to him, "Your sex life must be pretty bad if you have to keep prying into my private business with her." He never asked me again.
For real lol. I love my friends dearly, and I would not want to know when, if, or how they go about getting down with another person. My place is NOT between their genitals
Just so you are all aware what the TSA did to you is considered sexual assault even officers of the law are not allowed to touch that area without extensive paperwork, witnesses and NEVER in public (on any gender)... IF THIS EVER HAPPENS TO YOU IMMEDIATELY GET A LAWYER!!!!!
Yeah but Trans people are more focused on the WORDS you say to them than the actions you enact on them!
So they literally enjoyed the simple human contact, because they didnt get none from dad.
But that's why they allowed the evident molestation.
The problem is that in some US states it is basically illegal to be trans, so the legal system wouldn’t give a poo.
It’s literally legal to end one of us just because the perpetrator thought the victim was creepy and upsetting in some states.
I don’t leave Minnesota.
@@GretchZ same
@@GretchZthis is a federal institution, though, so the court would be federal, not state.
at a theater I did a class in I once had to bring my friend a pad, that day we both decided to make period baskets for the bathrooms, since the rules there are that you go to the bathroom you identify as (transfems in the girls transmascs in the mens ect) we put a basket in both bathrooms with some period products, one year later and I just found out the basket is still there :)
So I learned how to cry on command when I was in theater. For me, I tap into my anger. I cry a lot when I'm furious.
One time, a guy (former) friend was asking about one of my sisters. I said her relationship history was not my business to share with him, but he kept insisting. He actually made a joke about not being able to keep his hands off of her.
So I made up a lie. I let the rage tears come. Then I started uncontrollably sobbing, making up a huge story about a stranger assaulting us as kids.
Maybe it was just the crying, but he got very uncomfortable and even gave me a few quiet apologies. I never invited him over again.
Good. Glad he ain't a friend anymore. If things are private, they're private. I may now REALLY want to know if there was any particular reason why you didn't want to share, but you know what? It is irrelevant. That is none of my business, and I wouldn't have mentioned it if it didn't help my point. And if he couldn't respect that you didn't want to share, he won't respect anything you don't wanna share. Best to get rid of the issue before he pries into something that'll make you ACTUALLY cry. Also, that is an incredible response and exactly the discomfort he deserved for not respecting your boundaries. And this is coming from a guy who has trouble with boundaries, and even I think he crossed a line.
Good on you for doing that!
@@setster007 Thats tbh a pretty shitty response cause if that ex friends at any point down the line lets that information you fed him slip, mentions it later towards the sister or whatever you just locked yourself in an enormous shitpile. With the easiest way out to sacrifice the friend you lied to and hope your sister and family either never hear of this or lack any common decency as a human, while the hard way tanks your own image big time.
Also thanks to the creepy comment, (unless they were actually already starting to see one another or something) its atleast somewhat safe, but otherwise the friend could literally have asked for wether shes dating anyone, has her eyes on someone, sexuality etc which while not being something you have to share would be in quite another ballpark to actually private information. Agree on the no reason to keep pressing tho, ask once, maybe ask why you arent willing to share that information and then let it rest and either ask her yourself or dont mention it anymore. Depending on the reasons given for not sharing the information on the more reasonable questions id maybe think about wether that friendship doesnt stink of too much drama, either making it or actually existing one, but wouldnt push there.
Hahaha haha, you cried to get someone to go away? Lucky i wasnt there to bully you too to back him up and tell him you lied.
I can cry on command, just something I have always been able to do. A kid in HS bet lunch I couldn't do it, and I did, but Im super believable, so I wanted to F with him. I just going, "Why?! Why would you kill my cat!!??" He started begging me to stop. He bought my lunch saying "thats too powerful." Best pizza ever.
Just an FYI for people who think trauma needs to be violent: molestation and other forms of assault are still traumatic and cause mistrust and PTSD as a result. Violence makes it more difficult to ignore, and usually causes more aggressive coping mechanisms, but it is still traumatic. Trauma is trauma, no matter the cause.
Even more-so: Mental trauma is 100% a thing. I say this as someone who definitely 100% suffers from minor PTSD due to entirely mental reasons. It doesn't even have to be physical, or even intentional. Mine comes from my family basically just... never thinking about how I feel about anything. Been lied to my entire life about multiple things because it would be too hard on THEM to tell ME. Only reason I know about these things is from having learned to spy on them if I want to know literally anything.
Basically, my parents treat me like how most people treat their neighbors. Yet I'm forced to go along with everything. I'm told plans sometimes the day before, despite being something planned for over 6 months, that forces me to be out of the house for multiple days. And the rest of my family just accepts this and doesn't inform me of anything, despite also being informed months in advance.
And the part that makes this all ridiculously traumatic is the fact it doesn't remotely stop there. It includes things like... who my biological father is. Imagine just one day learning that your biological father is in jail for the cause of your birth, and realizing that you've never once been told the man you thought was your father isn't actually related to you in any way. Yeah. That's what happened when I was 14. I'm now 30ish. They still haven't told me.
Yes, and trauma can be just about anything as well, especially if we're talking about early childhood stuff. I was legit terrified of sinks for months as a small child thanks to watching a whole two minute scene from the old It movie unsupervised. That's why I don't make fun of anyone for any kind of phobia, even if I think some of them are a bit silly or pointless, because I mean, I also slipped and almost got sucked away in a storm ditch not that far apart in time from that instance and I still haven't learned how to swim because I'm scared of water 2ft deep. People really shouldn't judge others on what is or isn't justified as trauma by their standards as well because different people also have different tolerance levels and while some can go through a bad situation minimally affected, that exact same scenario can have such a profound effect on the mental state of a different person that it permanently changes them. This I... Knew but never quite fully understood so I'd accepted it as something others went through but it honestly only very recently hit me that, oh wait, the stuff I personally experienced is why I don't have friends and am very asocial and have trust issues, oh wow, amazing, where's my refund ticket? Looks can often be deceiving, especially if you're hurt and trying to hide it to appear strong when you really aren't and should just accept that it's better to be ok with not always being ok, but ik, easier said then done when I for sure can say but can't act on that atm
Yup! It can also have some effects that affect the person in quite unexpected ways.
@@ChaffyExpert that's got nothing to do with the conversation. Stop trying to cause an argument, it's pathetic.
@whatisthis1958 That person won't be the first or last I've encountered on YT who think or speak badly of me for being myself. Thanks for the reminder not everyone is out to get me ❤️
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This story makes me mad because I have severe scoliosis and sciatica that leaves me needing a cane to walk with. I've been disabled since my late 30's.
I've had people much older than me yell and complain about my usage of a cane or occasionally a mobility cart and their argument almost always boils down to "you're too young to be disabled".
My go to response for traumatizing them back has been to tell them that if they believe young people are always healthy and able they need to go spread their message in a children's cancer ward.
9:40 - They're trying to "save them from evil" but in reality they're the only thing that's evil.
When I was in high school, I was SUPER short. Between the latter part of year 11 through year 12, i grew by almost 30cm. In year 10, though, i was barely breaking 120. My bully was a year older than me (same grade, though) and was the athletic type, 2 meters, muscles, all that. He always had other assholes with him, of course. One day, i had had ENOUGH and i put my fists up. He was cocky and said i could have one swing before he kicked my ass. I was too mad to stop, so i took a wild swing as high as i could reach, aiming for his jaw... And I missed... Barely...
And hit him right in the throat with all the tiny nerd rage my Chihuahua-esque body could summon. He instantly dropped to his knees, vomited, and wheezed for air. His whole posse backed up and wanted no part of the vicious little maniac that just dropped the biggest jock in school with one swing. The next day he apologized awkwardly for bullying me because apparently his mom told him that he got what he deserved. 😂 We actually ended up becoming really good friends because he was curious how i got so good at fighting (his dad was abusive, go figure) and I helped him study and get better grades. I did have to admit that it was a total accident, but he was cool with that. He took it as a wakeup call that he was being an asshole.
Glad to hear it ended up like that!
mf you pulled a goku and befriended a villain
I don’t understand what you mean by barely breaking 120
@@murilocardoso6769 120 pounds i'd assume. if it was height op was barely the height of a 7 year old so. i'd assume that's not it.
@@sours-orchardGiven they said 2 meters, I have to assume 120 cm is meant. None of his comment mentions weight for that matter.
120 is very short for sure, but maybe they skipped a grade or something and are a year or 2 younger. Add some genetics on top of that and I can see it.
"Usually the brain is supposed to consist of more than a cup of lard" is something I will be using from now on
Re: “Lady stop asking what’s in my pants I don’t want to have sex with you”
I used to use a similar tactic in high school. I was a queer kid going to Catholic school in a conservative town. I was deep in the closet and could “pass” most of the time, but the same was not true of some of my friends. On multiple occasions, people said things to me like “oh my goodness you’re friends with _____, right? I heard he’s gay, is that true?”. My response started being to pretend like I hadn’t understood their bitchy/ gossipy/ etc tone and to respond as if the gossiper had just admitted to having a massive crush on my friend. Eg “Ooooh why do you need to know? Are you in love with him? Aww that’s so cute that you have a crush!”
When I was in grade 8 (F presenting) a bully (who had multiple times gotten in trouble for bad comments and behaviour) told my friend, who is openly gay (I said I was lesbian then, but now I realized I’m nonbinary and have no clue about my sexuality) that if he were my friend he would kill me. He got suspended from the bus for two days. HE WAS ONLY SUSPENDED FROM THE BUS, WHICH I WASN’T EVEN ON, FOR ONLY 3 DAYS! it made me so mad, I didn’t tell my mom then, but later in grade 9 I did tell her. The only reason I told her though was because me and the kid were in the same science class and he asked my science teacher how gay people have kids, my science teacher told him that it depended on the person, and that the kid would have to ask someone personally. The kid then turned to me and said, if you and whatever wh*re you end up with want kids, i’d be happy to help. I told him that “oh, if I ever have kids i’ll just take them from homophobic a$$h*les like you, that way they’ll know what having parents who love them and each other is like.” My mom doesn’t like swearing, so o told her in a more pg way, but she got so mad on my behalf it made me so happy
Massive W you were delivering there.
I only got asked if I was gay in school once. It was from a total stranger and I was so stunned I didn't know what to say. Of course I immediately wished I had thought to say "why do you want to know? bc you like me?" But sadly I didn't. So I'm glad you got to actually say it to someone!!
Did you call the gossipers disgusting after asking if they had a crush? Cus ngl I'd probably do that.
i love to reply "i can set y'all up!! :D" it's a real winner too!
Listening to this has been personally rewarding AF. I was born with a physical defect, and was bullied especially in middle school, up until the year before high school graduation. How very much I wish there had been a way to TraumatizeThemBack for me during those years. I did the best I could to teach my children not to ever bully, but I never found that perfect come-back for myself.
I'm glad that for once a parent that traumatized their kid actually had to sit and live with the harm they did because so many parents that do traumatized their kids don't even notice it and act like it never happened when the kid brings it up years later
thats what i thought too! i wish my mom was capable of such realizations
"never start a fight, but always finish it" is such a raw line. props to that mom for treating her kid right.
Traumatizing a kid by destroying all their stuff and then having to deal with the fact they're now emotionally screwed to some extent is just- what the hell were you even thinking-
“I do have a vagina, actually” was already hilarious before realizing he was telling the truth 😂 that part just elevated it
'Zero tolerance for fighting,' only helps bullies; they either get better at not being caught or they just proudly fly their delinquent flag as they screw over people by starting something, knowing the victim will be forced to either meekly submit or be punished for defending themself.
It makes no sense too, self defense is allowed in almost every other scenario, if I get beat in the parking lot of a grocery store, I'm allowed to swing back, but in school? Nah, we get suspended for that
@@bobthegamingtaco6073 Yes, it's nonsensical and I suspect, a product of the fact that many places and people don't treat bullying seriously and therefore, don't count being bullied as being attacked, even when it blatantly is.
37:48 in German we have an idiom: "wie man in den Wald hineinruft, so schallt es heraus". 'The way you scream into the forest, the [same] way it will [echo] out'. I guess it could be translated as "you reap what you sow".
This forest idiom is usually said in cases such as this story, where one person is saying something shitty or with a shitty attitude and your voice and/or answer has the same energy.
I'd translate it with "yell" not "shout", but yeah. Unfortunately it seems to slide into obscurity …
"What's in your pants?"
Shit 😊
Would you like some new pants?😅
I had a lovely interaction the day before yesterday. I am a caregiver for my mom, who is disabled. I park in the handicap for her, and will get out either the wheelchair or the rollater (walker but for outside and with a seat). I had parked in a grocery store parking lot and was working on getting out the rollater when a guy asked me if I needed assistance getting out my device. I told him that I didn't, but thank you. He was super willing and not judgmental at all; I am 31and am physically abled for the most part (I have a spine injury but it's mostly manageable at this point and not noticeable). He didn't see my mom in the passenger seat and thought that it was for me.
Although it wasn't for me, the lack of judgement and willingness to be helpful, but also respectful of being told help wasn't needed was an amazing thing to see. I am given a lot of dirty looks for parking in the handicap spot until people see my mom get out (who is very noticeably disabled). There are many younger people who are disabled, and a lot you cannot tell that they are because it's not something you can always see. I hope more people learn to be like him.
Yo I'm literally in the same boat I'm 30 so people automatically think my body is young and strong but I've had complications since before I was born and I'm caregiver to my mom as well and when I have to go get her a scooter when we go shopping and take it to the car so she can get in it people in the store look at me like I'm an abomination or something for taking a scooter
One thing that Jessica and Hannah said in a video about disability that really stuck with me is that the most visible disabilities can be the least disabling, and the least visible (or not visible) disabilities can actually be the ones that affect people's lives the most.
True story, I walked into a public ladies bathroom here in small town, Oregon, America. A man was at the sink. I looked at him and he said, "I'm sorry, I thought this was the men's room.", then I walked in the stall and shut the door and did my business. When I left, he was gone. Nothing happened.
I don't understand people's issues with bathrooms anyway. It's not like you're sitting on the toilet with the door open? Why does it matter who's in the room when you wash your hands? Just do your business and leave other people alone and noone is gonna have any problems.
21:28 Ive actually had people say this to me before. I was stalked when I was 15-16 (I'm 18) and am currently being cyberstalked, ive had so many people tell me "who would want to stalk you?" or trying to justify it because I create content on youtube. People, NEVER 👏 ACTUALLY 👏 SAY 👏 THIS 👏 TO 👏 A 👏 PERSON. Stalking is a serious situation no matter the persons looks, gender, gender identity, sexuality, race, religion, job or anything. I am so sorry to anyone who has also experienced this.
Man, that sucks. I can't relate (luckily), but I hope you stay safe and that it will end happily.
@@Abegilr_Dragonrider thats very much appreciated, I wish you well! ^^
Some people are buttholes, and some believe no buttholery would happen unless deserved. It’s the double butter: if someone was sa it must either be a lie, or their own fault.😱
I try to avoid all these negative people, and perhaps they will disappear one day.
Jesus fucking Christ, who could be so insensitive to say something like that? And that’s coming from me, someone who can be insensitive (not intentionally though). That just sounds malicious to me.
@@-alovelygaycat- It was. When I was being stalked at 15 people (even family) would tell me it isn't an issue when it really was and with the cyberstalking (which has now thankfully stopped) I was told it was to be expected because of my social media presence and was too afraid to go to the police (cyberstalking is illegal in my country) because I was afraid I'd be seen as an idiot.
People really need to have a better approach to stalking :/
My dad had his fun traumatizing TSA. Went through the metal detector sans belt so his pants were falling down. TSA got pissy that his pants were not as high up as they preferred and proceeded to do the detector wand wave. It went off over his pants zipper. After a short argument that it was the zipper and the agent denying that fact several times, the agent suggested going to a private booth to do a pat down only for my dad to announce very loudly for the entire line to hear that if they wanted to do that, they could do it in view of everyone so he had witnesses. He did not a pat down in the end and the agent seemed rather hesitant to do any pat downs after that.
FTM with prosthetics also have problems with TSA.
And disabled folks (wheelchair etc) get the FULL invasive pat down *every* time.
I went through wearing a knee brace under my pants one time and yeah... I got groped. Like, the "anomaly" is on my leg, why are you trying to finger me through my jeans??
Yeah and never let your mind slip when they pat you down and say something dumb like “I’m packing.” I’m lucky the TSA person couldn’t hear me and asked me to repeat myself.
@@mlm628if I worked in TSA my response to someone saying that would be "I don't feel it."
As someone with a prosthetic leg I can confirm. Not always a pat down but definitely wanded and swabbed every time
I'm surprised. My mom always gets the wheelchair and escort in airports because she can't walk long distances, and they fly her through security every time. I wonder whether having the escort is what makes the difference or if it depends where in the world you are. I know for a fact airport security is a lot less power-trippy in Europe than the US, for example.
the boobgrab story reminded me of an experience i had pre-T... 💀 an old man cat-called me IN A SUPERMARKET... while he was with his WIFE AND GRANDCHILDREN so i just. said very loudly "WHAT WAS THAT? DID YOU JUST SAY (LEWD SHIT) TO ME?" and he went PALE and then as fate would have it... i kept bumping into that family and made sure to stare down the guy every single time.
Prank 'em, John.
Damn bruh
Im not trans but when i was younger and in primary after a dressup day, i remember walking home dressed as sans, had tights (skeleton tights) and some shorts on and some old ass man started catcalling and whistling at me.. that made me feel so uncomfortable and i honestly wish i did more than just speed up and getting away from him.
@@robotic2406 Boomers are pretty insensitive with their humour sometimes. I doubt this geezer was being serious.
Still, you should have sharply shown him how to have class and respect, because humour is, in the end, supposed to be funny. This is just harassment.
@@doodlesyoru2108 yeah but also to be fair I still didn't think he was serious but sometimes I still got some doubt, ya never know ig
But ur right on that tho
@@robotic2406 Really, sometimes it's hard to know.
One *really* insensitive joke you could have made is ask him where his caretaker was, and that he needed to go back to the elderly home.
Disabled Op with the wheelchair is NOT the butthole. I've had people ask me weird af questions because I have an invisible disability like "How can you go outside? You have autism? You're supposed to hate people????" And Its RUDE. I have literally been asked how can I even wear clothes because of my autism. And YES, I have been questioned about my s*x life too. People just are wild af and have no brains left I guess.
Thing with that is they have the excuse of literally being unable to experience it themselves.
@@Sleeper____1472 Doesn't mean they should ask kinda rude questions. You wouldn't ask a random woman how old she is would you? You wouldn't ask a man their penis size. To us with those disabilities, its seen as really intrusive to ask. They are not a doctor and thus have no reason nor right to an answer.
@shinyjules8088 If I were asked any of those I wouldn't really care. If people ask me my weight I tell them. If people ask me what's wrong with my brain I tell them anxiety. Depends how you're raised. There's not really a reason they shouldn't be shared, you're just taught not to.
@@Sleeper____1472 I would rather be treated as a normal average person than "That person with autism" thats why a lot of us dont share it with strangers. I went through my entire life of school being "That freak with autism" and had no friends. All because a teacher shared that information with the class I was in. Rumors spread, and not everyone is kind. I understand where you are coming from.
@@shinyjules8088 Yeah I guess it can depend on the environment you're in too. In my area people don't really care what you have unless you're an asshole with it.
I used to work at Walmart, and I had a lady come through my line with a WIC check.
If you don't know how WIC works. It's like food stamps, but you can ONLY get the VERY exact items on the check. If it says you need to get a loaf of bread between a certain ounce range for instance, you can't get bread that is less or more than the allotted amount.
Anyways. This lady had one item that was wrong and I told her "Hold on, let me get a manager to run back and get you the correct item." The lady looked embarrassed and tried to tell me not to worry about it, and I told her "No it's fine! Really. I'm here to make sure you get out of here with the items you need and I'd hate for you to waste part of your check. It'll be real quick." She thanked me, the manager showed up, quickly ran back and got the correct item. It maaaaybe took an extra few minutes. The lady thanked me again with a smile and left.
The next lady in line though... immediately puts on a judgemental face and says "What took so long???" And I just simply said "Oh just some issues with WIC but nothing that couldn't be solved quickly." (admittedly I should have said something else but my mouth couldn't think of anything else to say in the moment, I'm Autistic) It really hadn't taken that long so I was a bit shocked when the woman says with a scoff, "Of course it was. She looked the type..."
At which point I just stopped ringing up her stuff. "And please enlighten me... what do you mean by... looks the type??"
She was caught off guard for a second, but continued "Oh the kind of person that probably gets stuff she's not supposed to with those checks like cigarettes."
And I hit her with "Ma'am you literally can't do that. You can only get the exact items on the check. Down to the weight. Even if that woman wanted cigarettes she couldn't get them with a WIC check. The reason it took a few minutes was because she was off on a food item by a few ounces. What you are saying isn't possible. And once again... please.... what EXACTLY about her makes her "look the type" to you??"
And I stared her down, knowing the customer that was behind her because he was a regular and I knew he would be paying with foodstamps. I wasn't okay with the shit she was saying, but I REALLY wasn't okay with her saying it in front of a regular that was a nice guy and I knew her comments would affect him. I could tell they already were.
She just kinda looked surprised and just stopped talking. Clearly when actually put on the spot to DESCRIBE what she was meaning she couldn't actually say it out loud and was uncomfortable. She left without saying another word. I didn't even bother telling her to have a nice day. My regular told me thanks for saying something. I waited the rest of the day to get called into the office for how I talked to a customer. This happened YEARS ago and I STILL don't understand how I never got in trouble for that conversation.
2:05 "Zero Tolerance" is a misnomer, it should read "Zero Effort", as in "we punish everyone involved in the fight so it looks like we're doing something, without actually going in and figuring out what really happened"