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"plushies are not a replacement for real therapy"
Don't you tell me how to live my life.
Exaclty
I agree. My plushies are GREAT therapy. Especially my emotional support octopus, Octavius. 😊
Exactly! And given by another person, ESPECIALLY if squishmallows, I can get therapy in the sense that they chaotically sell online for like 10x their actual price, and some sell that way consistently depending. Sooo I just make way more money on them than you spent and either buy a therapy session or something to make me feel good 😊
yes. i need my blahaj named Death-Ray, as well as Doofus, his bamboo shark cousin
most normal blahaj name. my two are named Gregory the cheese lord and greytail
The “but theyre your mother!” Thing happened to my college roommate all the time. The reason she doesn't talk to her mom is that when her mom’s bf SA’d her at 17, her mom called her names and kicked her out. I can’t stress this enough: if someone says they don’t talk to a family member or that they don’t drink or any potential field of landmines just nod and accept it. Never. Walk. On. The. Land. Mines.
edit: grammar.
Sadly, people tend to be stupid 🥲
I don't drink alcohol (no landmines there. I just find it really gross) so when I meet other non-drinkers I don't ask why, I just say, "Cool. We can be sober buddies together."
@@ceilinh6004 same, it doesn't taste good. but recently I've started meds that has a side effect that affects my ability to process alcohol. I'm already a lightweight, so I'm thinking one whole drink would make me legit drunk. so now I just say "no, my meds make me unable to process it so I get alcohol poisoning really fast" they never push it any further
Those people: "what landmines? All I see are efficient roombas"
@@ceilinh6004Yeah, I don’t bother with booze mostly because I have a few sensory anomalies (I’m not exactly neurotypical), and at least one of them causes both alcohol and carbonated beverages to give my mouth a similar burning/heat sensation that I’m not a fan of. Plus, the one time I tried communion wine, it also somehow managed to taste like it had dust in it.
While at least one side of my family may be vulnerable genetically to alcoholism, that cycle got broken by the time my parents got together, maybe in generations before them, so no landmines there for me.
Pro tip, if someone lies about you having sex with them, start telling people they said their mom’s/dog’s/grandpa’s name during the act. They’ll stop :)
Nope. I walked right up to them when they were sitting at a group table and confronted them about it. Went straight to the source.
Yeah or just say they were crap lol
Ik some creeps who did that to my friends, I'm keeping this in mind
do not do this if they didn't lie to you but honestly insulting their "size" or skills or make up some weird shit they did will immediately make them stop. if you dont want to "admit" that you had sex then tell people that they asked for sex and when you said no they freaked out like an incel or something. the desire to look good in front of others will immediately crush their attempts. never underestimate the power of public image or social convention!
I had a group of guys say I slept with them all and that I was all the degrading things you can call a woman. When people asked me if it was true, I said yes and that they're all awful 😂 they stopped with the rumours veeery quickly
When someone calls me a s1u7 for rejecting them my answer is just: "Yeah... must really suck to be you when not even a s1u7 like me wants you."
I'm gonna use that holy shit 😂
@@StarlitLady Same! xD
Keeping that one in mind
I love that 😂
r/ProRevenge epic!
When people find out I am no-contact with my father frequently I get asked "But how will you feel if he died and you never saw him or made up?" My response is always "relieved unless he has me in his life insurance, then I'd be psyched"
Yep. I'm not no contact with my parents (yet), and people are so quick to jump to the "but what if you never see them again" line. Uh, I'll never see them again? I think you answered your own question. Unfortunately people still harass me over it.
I stayed away from my dad all my life. He wanted me to think "o poor me". I didn't fall for it. I didn't choose his career for me so I was useless and would not inherit a penny. Too bad. When he died, all that stopped. True to his word, no inheritance, but No tears from me. My life is happier without him.
I’m lucky. My parents, while still seriously flawed humans, are great people overall.
One of my HS friends could use a place to stay that isn’t her hoarder, neglectful parents’ house? She got my room for a while, since I was in Ireland at the time and would quickly head back to University once I was back stateside.
Similar situation! Only worth he is in my life at the current moment is that there might be a decent sum of money for me? Aside from that, couldn't care less if I tried. My stepfather though? I'd be devastated if something were to happen to that man.
@@WeaponizedStrumpetTotally off topic but your username is amazing.
My moment of "traumatize them back" was when my mom called me over and over again to scream at me for being a traitor. Apparently I had betrayed her by being close with my dad when she abused me the majority of my life.
She wouldn't stop yelling and crying and screaming about how awful I was and how my dad had brainwashed me (apparently being a good parent is brainwashing in her eyes) and after a while I just lost it on her.
I recounted every instance of her degrading me. Every instance of her calling me names, hitting me, starving me, convincing me that I was obese (I was almost 20 pounds underweight) throwing me, overworking me then shaming me for not being perfect. I told her I wanted nothing to do with her anymore and to lose my number, and now she hardly reaches out because she knows I won't put up with her bullshit anymore.
I like to imagine she's afraid to call me to ask for favors the same way she made me afraid to ask for basic human needs.
I'm so sorry you had to put up with that, but I'm glad you got away!
You're fucking awesome
I went through the same thing, going on 2 or 3 years of no contact now and it’s the best revenge we can ever hope to get. You are amazing, and people like us are resilient and more capable of loving and healing than they ever could hope to be. Nursing homes about to be filling up in the next few decades though lol
@@AspienWaifusadly many people like them will almost always say it’s not their fault even if it 150% is
@@Allantitanyeah, my mother refuses to take accountability for anything that she did to me. She has the audacity to say it never happened, or that I’m lying. I WISH it was all a lie, I don’t want the things that happened to me to be real, yet here we are 🤷 sucks to suck, abuser, you’re hearing that shit each and every time you try and guilt trip me.
I’ve even told her to hold her tongue after she accused me of lying about groceries LAST WEEK.
I mainly use her for money, she abandoned me as a teen, so I’m collecting what I’m due.
Oh goodness, those "but she's your mother" stories are so infuriating. My mom guilt-tripped my dad (a kind, gentle man) into keep in touch and visiting his abusive father until he died. Her excuse of course was, "he's still your father". I was a child myself so I didn't understand the situation, unfortunately. I was 8 when the abusive grandfather died.
I will never forgive my mom for that.
No one is obligated to keep in touch with an abusive person, not ever. Doesn't matter who that abusive person is!
Yep, my parents tried to guilt me into having a relationship with my father's mother. Nope, not happening. Obviously she didn't know I'm trans, but she thought "there should be open season on [those people]" (the [ ] is definitely against TOS, use your imagination, make it 5x worse and you've got the basic idea, and yes, open season mean's exactly what it sounds like). Apparently I "wasn't allowed to be mad because she doesn't know". Uh, even if I wasn't trans, I don't think you need to be part of a group to understand why genociding them is bad.
I didn't go to her funeral and they still won't let that go.
"But they're your..." is always been the dumbest excuse I've ever seen. Family is those who care about you not those who share your blood.
@@waffles3629The Matt Walsh grandma.
@@AIHumanEquality pretty much, though I'm not sure if she knew who Matt Walsh is. But fox news was on in her house all day every day.
The obligation to make amends should never be on the victim of abuse. No matter how much remaining family pressure you, never let them dictate how you live your life and whether or not you have contact.
If they "but she's your mother" you, hit them with "and I was her child, and look what she did to me", or whatever the equivalents are for your situation.
you don't quite understand the phrase:
"The best revenge is a life well-lived" until you escape an abusive household
This is surprisingly really wholesome and motivating. Tysm
Exactly!
Even just being happy is revenge. I moved out, I'm dirt poor, my health is a mess, and I'm still happier than I ever was with them.
@@waffles3629good things are coming your way.
The main point of revenge is getting back, how tf is chilling doing that?
"But they're family!!!" All the more reason they should have treated me better than they did.
Thank you!!!!!!!
100% you want to be treated like my mother, you should have treated me like a daughter and not an emotional punching bag.
The 'end it' one with the fake scars reminds me of something I saw on tumblr once - this one person was CONSTANTLY being sent kys type messages, and having lost all patience with putting up with it one day, the person responded to whatever latest message with something short and sweet, I think it was something like 'you win'.
Now, iirc, this person had no intention of LISTENING, just logging out and STAYING gone for a while to decompress from the constant harassment. And when they finally came back, they had a BEVVY of messages, starting with the usual 'kys lol' type messages, devolving into this anonymous person BEGGING and PLEADING with them to respond or post or SOMETHING because they couldn't handle knowing they might be the reason a person killed themselves.
This caused the person to take ALL those sent asks, pile them up in a public post as images, and scream at them why on earth they'd so stubbornly and persistently demand somebody kill themselves, and indeed why say that at ALL, if they 'couldn't handle being the reason somebody killed themselves', which since then has led me to believe that the vast majority probably genuinely don't think anyone ever WOULD be bothered by that kind of bullying - that these people think 'kill yourself' has the same level of severity or weight as something like 'you're ugly' or 'I hate you'.
But yeah. Shockingly, some people genuinely don't think KYS type bullying has any potential to actually cause the victim to... well. Off themselves, and are shocked when something ACTUALLY seems to happen.
I am so proud of that Tumblr user for teaching them a lesson.
It's extremely serious here and in Europe. You even said that once you'd have the police involved. Death is not a joke or anything that people should be taking lightly.
@@AIHumanEquality Alas, the anonymity of computer media has allowed it to be treated in such a manner. How sadly true that kys is thrown around as lightly as 'you're ugly' or 'shut up' once were.
@@FairbrookWingates Funny enough that security of being anonymous on the internet doesn't actually exist. You can be tracked down by hackers or crackers from any connection point you make to the internet.
@@AIHumanEqualitydamn right. American needs to catch up in that sense
On the "racist" story: Long ago (like over 50 yrs) I had a picture of my mom where the lighting was really awful and it looked like she was a light skinned black woman... She had black hair and dark brown eyes. Back then, racist remarks were common, especially in the work place. Whenever someone would make such a remark to me, I would casually say, "Don't you know that my mom is black"? They, of course, didn't believe it since I am whiter than white. But when I would show my mom's pic, they would get quiet, give me a lackluster apology, and slink off. I never told my mom because she was racist too and would have had a heart attack just imagining that someone thought she was black! I wish I still had that picture!
I have a coworker who has a white American mom and a black African dad. But because genetics are weird, he is usually mistaken for Indian rather than biracial. He says a surprising amount of people are willing to reveal anti-black sentiments to him.
I'm ¼ Japanese but because of the high Hispanic population where I live in the US and significantly lower Asian population people ask me all the time if I'm Mexican. Like my mom (who is half Japanese and half white) literally had some Hispanic women ask if she spoke Spanish once and they didn't believe her when she said no. One of these days I'm just gonna play into that assumption for the entertainment
The definition of chaotic good 😂
You should use this opportunity to practice your spanish@@Amayawolf_01
@@Amayawolf_01 How would you though? The crucial part of this one is that theyre making racists uncomfortable by subverting their expectations but you would just be playing along with being hispanic?
Click laughing hysterically about his plushie scheme is the best medicine.
That is one cool pfp
@@BerzklTheDragon Oh thank you! The only comments I’ve gotten about it is people accusing me of being a furry lol.
@@eagastudios Np! I just love the art people put on their pfps!
It’s good art I say
@@matthewboire6843 yep
I actually got pregnant at 17 from my youth pastor's brother. He is 7 years older than me. I announced that I was pregnant to some members of the congregation. One Sunday after morning service, my pastor followed me to the parking lot and told me to "stop lying about a man of god", amongst other incredibly insulting things. I was shunned by everyone. When my child was born, I got a DNA test, but definitely no apology from anyone there. I quit going to church after my child was a few months old. Should've quit sooner, but I was young and used to that sort of treatment. The father has been absent for the past 16 years. That story hits too close to home.
That ain't a church. That's a cult. Ain't no God in history that would condone lying to escape responsibility.
I’m so sorry that happened to you! You were taken advantage of and shunned for it. Let me guess: the youth pastor’s brother received no consequences and still treated like a golden boy in the church. Again, I’m so sorry that happened and for the way you were treated!
Thank you so much for sharing your story, I hope you’re doing better. Have a great day ❤
Jesus Christ. Glad you're doing well?.
Holy cows and bones! I’m so sorry, I hope your family is well and I really hope you appreciate yourself for taking your child out of that yokel backwards environment. I’m sure it was really difficult. Never forget you did that, it’s a BFD!
"But they're your mother"
Nope. Being a parent is a privilege and honor. As far as I am concerned, these are just evil spawnpoints.
Like Lemon Bread or that one bench in Hollow Knight.
A hostile incubator
@@thatonewitch can I use that one? Can I make that my mother’s contact in my phone?
@@McDonalds_Tighnari_officialI don't see why not
@@McDonalds_Tighnari_official
Go right ahead!
I had a lady once tell me "you just dont understand what a childs voice means to a mother" because i was frustrated over a convo with my mom. Wasnt even talking to this woman aka none of her business. Her response to being told "idk. I think i have an idea but my kids are dead so maybe you're right"(I had had a miscarriage and she KNEW this so i opted to provide a reminder as caustically as i could) was priceless.
26:41 My great uncle was a drug addict and alcoholic. When his daughters were born, he got rid of all the drugs because they could hurt his kids. If money was short, he wouldnt drink, all so his girls could grow up happy. That woman isnt a mother. She is an egg donor, thats it.
Good on your uncle for getting clean.
Aww I'm proud of your uncle. Getting clean isn't easy. Even if he still drank, he clearly put his kids first, and at least to me, that's more important than being 100% clean and sober
My father was a habitual smoker and drinker. He quit both with extremely hard work once he was adopting 2 kids cause he wanted to put being a father above his addictions.
My dad used to smoke ciggies when he and my mom decided to have me how to quit
@@thierryeubanks3586 same
I was in university taking anatomy and physiology classes. My niece was just two years old. She loved when I practiced my anatomy memorization with her. She knew several body parts, such as sternum. One day I took her to the store with me. I was looking for a specific product when my niece looked at the customer next to me, threw out her her arm, pointed at the lady, and loudly said Gluteus Maximus! The woman was stunned and I was nearly on the floor laughing. Niece waited to be praised for her correct identification. When the lady didn't praise her, she tried again. Nothing. frustrated, niece yells "BUTT!" and grins while awaiting her praise. I finally gathered myself enough to explain to the poor lady.
In med school, some of my classmates had kids that were included when practicing anatomy, naturally. One day between classes, one of them told us about how the day care teachers thought it odd when their child scratched their knee and said "my patella is hurt!" That was just the first of many such stories.
Children do use words they hear. That's how öanguage learning works.
Damn. That woman must've had a big booty. That's hilarious lol
@@JaharNarishma My sister is a kindergarten teacher. When she wants her students to buckle down and work on an assignment, she tells them it's time for quantum physics. She's had many parents pull her aside after asking their kid, what did you do in school today? Response: "Quantum physics!"
@@gloriousmediocrity985 I'm reminded of the SF story, "Nice Girl With Five Husbands" by Fritz Leiber, in which a man completely fails to notice he has temporarily slipped into the future and definitely doesn't realize that a little girl's jumprope chant, "Gik-lo-, Ti-o, Rik-ko, Gis-so!" is a mnemonic to help her remember part of General Relativity.
I went through anatomy when my kids were little. They new the names of bones and such.
My daughter taught her son's the bones. Someone told her that was too advanced for a 3 year old. She thought it was normal.
No no, that isn't the philosophy of not wanting your kid to be spoiled, that's the philosophy of "if I ignore this child to legally allowable amounts, then maybe I can pretend I don't have this child I don't want without seeming like a terrible person to society."
i know this probably isn't the full story, but i also had to work for everything i got and my parents never bought me anything but still love my parents because they allowed me to help myself. the reason they're real shitstains is the fact that they didn't let anyone help her and weren't there for her, and it's not fair that she was the only one of the kids to suffer coz otherwise you can bring each other up like me and my siblings did as kids.
(ps. english isn't my first language so apologies if i made some mistakes)
@@kyto0918 that's what I'm saying, it's one thing to make a kid earn what they get, but it's another thing for narcissistic or selfish parents to not want 1 of their kids to have anything ever (basically because they kind of want to punish the kid they don't like for simply existing). I find it usually happens to firstborn children, children with disabilities, children of a divorced or divorcing couple who are too old or aware to be weaponized against the other parent, or to stepchildren (mostly after the stepparent has another child with the kid's actual parent because they view the new child as better and more worthy of love for being theirs). It's also seen a lot in the forms of sabotaging the success of the targeted child and guilt-tripping the target child, along with a lot of other emotional and psychological abusive tactics as those forms of abuse do not leave visible scars at the hands of the abuser, but rather form complex trauma that impacts all areas of life of the child (and into adulthood) in most cases unless help is received, even being passed onto their children (becoming generational trauma). This complex trauma can also cause physical injury, mainly self-inflicted or inflicted by siblings or abusive partners, but may also cause psychosomatic symptoms such as weakened immune system, chronic pain, fatigue, high blood pressure, etc. It's a real problem that a lot of people don't realize, as it isn't seen as actual abuse under the law, it has been normalized (and even "justified") by older generations in quite a few ways (including in media), and the effects take a long time to manifest to a concerning extent (and by that time the victim of this abuse is usually blamed by both others and themselves as they have internalized their abuser's logic).
@@kyto0918 you get it ya. By not letting anyone else help, it can be lied about as "teaching the kid independence" but really it is not wanting ANYONE to acknowledge the kid as even being worthy of existing. It is purposeful alienation and isolation beyond independence and hard work, but yet still legally allowed, so it is less likely to be seen as abuse by someone who hasn't experienced a similar thing, and might even not be seen as being abused (neglect is abuse) by the kid or others who have experiences similar things due to both the legal standards of abuse, and the psychological conditioning that may be found in both victims and perpetrators of abuse for this to be seen as allowable (and sometimes even the right thing to do, which can perpetuate this same kind of abuse through generations and even through societies).
I think people don't really understand the definition of spoiling kids anymore. Spoiling kids is giving into any and all demands they want, not providing lots of things or good stuff for them. Too many parents don't understand you need to have a two way respectful relationship with your kids.
Right? They went on vacation without her and bought expensive gifts for themselves, while not even throwing her the most basic of birthday parties. That's not refusing to spoil a child, that's neglect, if not abuse.
My mother is weird.
She's a decently kind person who raised me and my brother after divorcing from my father and worked her ass off to provide for us. But after school, when me and my brother started earning our own money, she started demanding rent.
"Okay, fair..."
Then she started going on spending sprees, and needed financial help with important bills
"Okay..."
Then she would start lying about it
"..."
and then the amounts kept increasing...
Then my father died, and the FIRST THING she asked was if I had his social security numbers so she could make a claim on widows insurance (she was already divorced for like 2 decades at this point)
eventually, when I was asked to provide for HER MOTHER'S assisted living bills, bills that stretch into several THOUSAND dollars, casually asking "Well, maybe you still have grandpas inheritance lying around?", I lost my mind.
She would always remind me and my brother about how "family means more than money" and so eventually I asked her "If money is so unimportant, why the fuck do you only reach out when you need some? Huh? Can you not live by yourself? You're a grown ass, early-retired single woman, who theoretically shouldn't have many expenses in her life, yet your bad financial situation is the fault of my brother not buying the right house so you could move in with him, and me not giving you 120% of my own paycheck every month? THE FUCK IS YOUR PROBLEM?"
I blocked her number, blocked her on social media, and haven't spoken to her in months, including missing her birthday, missing christmas and new years, and my birthday.
She constantly makes bad financial decisions and I am NOT responsible for bailing her out of them.
@Chrinik stick to it. Don't let her back in, she showed what you were worth to her and if your mother views you like that, perhaps you just don't need a mother.
I'm so sorry but also really proud of you for taking a stand.
My mother was awful, the choice was easy for me to make when I did. I think it would be a lot harder if she had been alright and then it started changing.
You made a really tough decision but you did the right thing. Good for you, genuinely.
Damn. Did she also keep guilt-tripping you with "how much she did for you" and all that crap?
My classic is when old people come up to me to rant about trans people. I let them rant, then say: "look, those are some interesting points, but I'm trans, and you're really wrong." Excellent way to shock those idiots. Particularly if they were doing a "we can always tell" thing. 🤦♀️
They sent a cis girl into hiding with police protection because "they can always tell"
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I’m half Latina and half Asian but I look completely Latina. The amount of times someone said something racist against Asians and I just turn around and am like “You do realize I’m half Chinese right?” Usually they back peddle real fast.
One of my favourite moments like this was a guy trying to flirt with an Indian girl and one of his friends said "why are you hitting on this girl? I thought you only liked white girls" and his response was to say without any hint of embarrassment, "I'm not racist... except against Asians" at which point the girl he'd been flriting with got up, saw that I was laughing, and came over to sit next to me before telling the guy "In case it's not obvious why I left, it's because this guy knows India is a country in Asia" then started chatting to me. We ended up staying friends for a few years, but she eventually moved to England and we lost touch.
My blond cousin has a white looking blond bright eyed baby, normal right? Well, the BS part is that his wife is Asian and idiots think my nephew can't be Asian because of his colouring. My mom has started training my sis-in-law because I also look nothing like my mom and she gets different snarky and not so snarky comments about where she found me, or if she was sure she's my mom, or if she kept the receipt so she could return me (I have dark hair and eyes and am somewhere between average and overweight, so apparently I was not seen as a desirable kid)
Same, but instead of Latina people assume im Mexican or smth
The real irony about the "but shes your mother!" statement: Yea shes your mother, you´d think you would have a good relationship with her and that she loves you. So the fact that they are not talking to each other should tell you all the more that something went REALLY wrong to make that happen.
Lol, yep.
When we say "we're playing Silent Hill's 'Room of Angel' if we are forced to attend the egg donor's funeral," that'd be a MILD response to such BS. I'm otherwise not going to visit her grave, when she finally dies. She abandoned me in Kansas, started ghosting my family whe she began to neglect the child support payments (while she lived in Hawaii, during her last marriage), and never showed up for when I or my sisters graduated high school.
Finally blocked her, last year, and it's a mix of pain and relief-pain from being unable to voice my grievances in person, but relief that I'll be less likely to be haunted by that "ghost" anymore.
as the saying goes: the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. maybe a parent gave you half of their chronosomes, but that doesn't mean they earned the title of mom or dad. your mom/dad/etc. is someone who cares about and for you. someone who loves you unconditionally. not the person responsible for creating you or even raising you.
"You pathetic use of a carbon lump" has to be THE best insult I've seen in a while lmao
Yep, like LMFAO, that was great
I go to a college for people with disabilities. There is one student who is ableist despite having a disability himself. He says he’s less disabled than everyone else and has legit said he has the highest brain out of everyone at the school despite my best friend being much smarter and more mature. I’m using this insult on him.
33:51 About this: Spoiling kids doesn't come from getting them nice things. Spoiled kids come from giving kids nice things that they don't deserve, or giving them nice things after they complain. Rewarding a kid for good behavior won't make them spoiled, but rewarding them for crying and complaining just because you want them to stop will make them spoiled. Their behavior like this has absolutely no reason behind it other than not caring about their child.
That's what I was thinking. I have a feeling those nice parties and gifts have more to do with social media clout than anything else.
The story about the little girl who got incredibly spoiled and entitled because she only has one eye made me pretty irked. I’m blind in one eye, have been since I was a few months old, and I can do ALL the things those people were saying she can’t. Sure, if you throw a ball at me I’m likely to get it in the face because I have no depth perception and I’m also incredibly clumsy for the same reason, but it’s not been a barrier to me doing things for myself in general. People like that give others with disabilities a bad name.
My brother did used to call me Cyclops, though. So that bit made me laugh. 😂
Same here.
I'm not sure whether to laugh at that last line because you are, or to feel bad
I feel bad for the girl because she was set up for failure by the adults in her life.
You are proving that having one eye is not easy (rip your depth perception) but not earth shattering
I lost my left eye in my 30's my Dad told me I'd have been better off born that way. The depth perception was the hardest, had to retrain myself driving, definitely not disabled.
I've got two eyes but atrocious depth perception due to astigmatism that has only gotten worse in recent years thanks to MS-related 3rd cranial nerve palsy, so I'm with you on the clumsiness and the teasing nicknames (and I have to patch my left eye on bad days to be able to see well enough to not fall down the stairs, so I think everyone I know has run out of pirate jokes and references to characters who wear eye patches at this point but it doesn't seem to stop them)
My mom went legally blind in both eyes and still tough herself to draw and paint and did such amazing work. She kept up with her crafts till her cancer made her bedroom and she passed.
That child was coddled and allowed to be a bully instead of being allowed to learn and figure things out.
I’m glad your mom was still able to do things she enjoyed despite being blind :)
R.I.P to your mother. She must’ve been beautiful, inside and out.
Did you mean bed ridden?
the "but she is your mother" really pisses me off. i love putting these people in their place (sometimes). i will say something like "and i was her daughter and she didnt protect me, that was on her." sometimes i will say shit like "yeah well, she shouldnt have let my step dad abuse and laugh at me when he tried to take my life." shuts them up really quick.
THIS. It's amazing how quick they back off. I'm sorry for your experience and I hope you have the best life now
@nowitchisanisland life is great now. I'm over 5 years no contact with all my relatives. I got married in 2021, moved to ireland in 2023, and life is good. I'm in a much better place now. When people ask if I have family back in the states I just say "nope" and leave it at that for the most part, lol
Those same people always seem to use “blood is thicker than water” as an excuse to stay with family no matter how toxic, too. I’m all too happy to correct them on what that saying ACTUALLY is and what it ACTUALLY means.
To me, family is what you make it. Just because someone isn’t blood doesn’t mean they’re not your family and won’t love and protect you like a pitbull. ❤️
@@Mx.Rainbow_Goth your story gives me life omg 🖤 I'm so happy for you !!!!
@@shosho089Those people always forget that the "blood is thicker than water" phrase comes from the FULL saying: "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb"
"I got the goods. Where you wanna meet?"
that one stole my little black heart.
Stories like this are why you should always change your locks after a breakup, even if you have to do it yourself (which is usually cheaper and not even that hard tbh). Even if they say they don't have the key anymore, better to change it and be certain. I'm sooo glad someone was willing to help OP get the cat back.
I begged my dad to change the locks on our house after breaking up with my ex, not because I thought he was gonna steal my pets (though I would've been so upset if he stole any of my cats) and I knew we had motion cameras, but because during the breakup he threatened to end himself and when he got out of the psych ward (I called the police and they held him for 72 hours) I was afraid he might show up with a weapon since he liked to collect knives. Nothing ever came of it, thankfully, but I was able to sleep better at night knowing he couldn't just walk into my house whenever he wanted as I am a small woman who cannot easily defend herself
@@Amayawolf_01 Thankfully we now have keys you can just deactivate, no lock-changing necessary. Hopefully this style of lock spreads to other countries. 😄
@@Longingtobesomeone Oh man that would be so nice to have lol
About the person who never even got a birthday party as a kid but was supposed to buy those expensive gifts for their siblings; this was actually a great uno-reverse moment had they just said "Sorry, I wasn't raised like that.".
Not exactly a "traumatize them back" but my proudest clapback will always be how I finally got out of a 3 year long abusive relationship. One day, we had an argument over the phone since he was out of state. He said "I'm tired of dealing with your bs." After a short pause, I just said right back "I guess we're on the same boat on that." in the most dead pan voice. I can't remember what I said after that but that was finally the end of the abuse. I'm still healing and I'm so much happier in life now
I am so glad for you and so proud of you! Hope you are doing amazing!!
I am part maori (new Zealand) one side of my family is maori. I took all the welsh and German DNA i could gather and turned out very blinde, blue eyed. People tend to think its ok to be racist around me for some reason (especially older men) and i LOVE dropping it on them, making them feel truly uncomfortable and not giving them an out. My favourite thing to do? Why on earth, because i look like hitlers representation of a perfect brood mare do a lot of people think i will be on board with racism
Pretty sure some people think a blond head is an empty head 💀
@emilyrln very true. Worse, the older they get, unfortunately, lol. Luckily, I have two degrees and can hold my own. Now that you mention it, people do talk to me VERY slowly, lol.
I think you and I are living the same life! I’m also part Māori and English, but look SO white and blonde. Green eyes tho. The sheer number of dudes who think it’s ok to be cinophobic or anti-Asian/islander is just insane. I drop the brick that “oh huh, you do know I’m half Polynesian right?” And the look of terror in their eyes….
@Genderanarchy yes, there are a lot of us I think. I come from Taranaki. My mum died in a plane crash and I think we scared all the farmers with the invite list to her funeral (not many people realized) but I agree...shaming ignorant idiots who think they are not racists but just "realists" is chefs kiss lol
@@meganjones1184 I actually am German and would be Hitler's dreamboy, too.
(Purely for aesthetic reasons, i'm a staunch and proud lefty)
The amounts of times i had to be "Bro, I would be fine, but you have brown hair, a crooked nose and a busted back. What makes you think you're not directly on the list after immigrants and queer folks?" is waaaaay too high
That's also why polish and russian people being nazis cracks me up.
Like, dudes, you're not "white", you're "slavs".
The women supporting women is THE LEGEND! She won, what do you even do after such a genius move?😂
I hope they stayed friends after that. Trojan horse lady sounds like a real one.
(After changing the locks or better after moving)
Send the photo to the guy with the caption „My Cat came just back! Sorry for suspecting you😇“
@@HaliaStone yeah haha that'd be amazing
She will become a constellation "Queen retrieving the stolen cat from enemy territory"
She really took one for the team.😎
The Ree with one eye story made me laugh. My son had a birth defect where one leg was small and not really functional. When he was between three and four I told him it was time to clean up his toys for the night. Someone had said something to him at preschool. He looks real sad and said, “But Mamma, I only have one leg.” Took me about five minutes to quit laughing my ass off. I finally was able to say, yeah, so? It’s still time to clean up. It’s bedtime.” He cleaned up and that was the last time he tried that crap on me. 😂🤣😂
He'll thank you one day. Disability does not mean helplessness.
It’s also just plain wrong. Like, I’m blind on one eye and my other one isn’t that great either (haha genetics), but as long as I don’t have to throw/catch anything the missing depth perception doesn’t matter at all.
Edit: just got to the other commenters that said pretty much exactly what I said.
As an Asian European mixed person, all of the racist stories were so relatable.
Calming telling someone (in chinese) that i can in fact understand them calling me "Foreigner" is amazing
I felt a liiiittle bit of racism when I was in japan, but it was nowhere near what people face in the USA.
Just knowing a general idea of what it’s like totally changed my perspective.
I pass white to good degree, so I d ended up in places and having a good time, then discovering everyone there is antisemitic and I have to sneak out and lose all their phone numbers.
About the "kids can sense evil" thing-
I did the same when I was a baby (as seen in various photos from that time). Whenever my grandparents (from my father's side) held me, I looked distrustful and a lil anxious. It didn't happen with other people there, just specific ones. Well, turns out they were aholes and treated my mum like crap behind the scenes. I'm glad we don't have contact to that part of the family anymore.
as a toddler i didnt like my aunt just on vibes. turns out my vibe check was accurate and shes a bitch
When I was a kid, my dad took a traveling job because it paid more money. We moved every 3 to 6 months. This was fine, but one middle school teacher got really weird about it and said, “why do you move around so much? What are you hiding?”
I didn’t say this out loud, but I thought, “lady! We could be in witness protection, you don’t know!”
My mom looked like she was going to punch this teacher. My dad put on a strait face and said, “don’t worry. They’ve never found any of the bodies.”
Rofl; great move on your father's part! Seriously, as long as you look well cared for and not in danger from your family environment, no business of the teacher's.
@@FairbrookWingates actually it is the business of the teachers. they may not be allowed to do it much anymore if at all but it used to be that teachers were some of the first to check on a student if they thought that something was wrong at home and if the teacher didn't know about the dads job having them move so much then the every couple months having to be moving would look very suspicious
Sure, that's why I wrote "and not in danger from your family environment". If there's nothing to be suspicious over, it's none of their business. Lots of valid reasons to move, so long as the kid is safe, healthy and happy, not suspicious.@@lionheartt15
@@lionheartt15You are right, teachers are often the ones calling CPS and good teachers will try create a safe haven for abused kid (by complementing them, showing the kids their worth ect) but this teacher was dumb as break to ask directly the parents, if they were abused alerting the parents is a nice way to get the kid homeschooled
Absolute king behavior right there bravo to the dad for sticking it to that awful nosy teacher sometimes it's good for a teacher to be nosy under other circumstances but that clearly wasn't it
Well, I'm off to buy my parents a "thanks for not traumatizing me" gift. These videos are a nice reminder to me that I am actually doing pretty okay for myself.
Gonna get one for my mum. (Not dad sadly. He's transphobic and alcoholic)
@@gunsandroses896 Mine's the other way around, I got trauma from my mother and mitigation of the trauma from Dad.
@@a-blivvy-yus parent troubles. Always fun!
Same.
definetly doing the same when i start making money, these videos have been a huge wake up call for me
40:34 - yes, I have had to say “I’m not pregnant, I’m just fat” sooooooo many times in my life. And it’s soooooo satisfying to see the shock on the person’s face. (And believe me, I didn’t even need to be all that fat-looking to get the pregnancy comments).
Then there was the Karen who tried to double down - “Are you sure ?? That looks like a baby belly to me!” And I got to tell her, “Ma’am, I’m infertile and I’m currently celibate… so unless I’m the Virgin Mary, I’m pretty damn sure I’m not pregnant.” Then I just stared at her until she got flustered and left.
You could also secretly be a mourning gecko-human hybrid, ready to lay eggs and take over the world with an army of clones. (mourning geckos are a fully parthenogenetic species)
That seems like a fun option to present to those people as well :)
I really love these "traumatised a bully back" stories.
I had my own bullies at school, at one point it has been so bad that i cutted myself in class. After one amok incident in another part of Germany happened we got a therapist at our school and guess who was the first one sent to him..and it was the best that could happen to me, he was the only person at my school that never treated me like the problem and clearly coud see that the bullies were the ones that needed to be looked at. Saved the rest of my self esteem and basically helped me to fight them back. One year after the kid in Erfurt went amok we had a "prevention and memorial" class and i was fed up. The therapist made sure that i was the one that held the summary and oh boy it was beautiful 😄
I stood in front of 4 school classes, a handful parents, teachers, the group of police staff that held the prevention classes and the school director. Therapist right behind me. I had the opportunity to tell everything that happened to me, packed like it were just examples and not my own story. Like f.e. getting spit on, pushed down stairs, been called satanist for wearing black and been mocked for my choice of style (goth/metal look, this music saved my life and i till today want to show that i am different than 'normal' people), getting thrown at with sport items in class, humiliation, the one time a kid tried to burn my hair in class (i am ginger and he said smth about burning the witch..) and so on.
I could see that everyone tried to look away or realised that i told my own story. The parents went pale, were shocked and some clearly had a "you are in trouble son" look in their eyes. The teachers looked really uncomfortable. The director looked angrier from minute to minute. It was so wholesome for me to see, but i struggled not to cry. The therapist positioned himself so i could look at his face and smiled, motivated me to go on. I closed with "if we were in the US and not in a country with strict gun laws, you all could have seen different consequences for your actions. Remember Columbine. Remember Erfurt. Ask yourself not "how did this happen", ask yourself "what made a person do something so extreme". I really hope that at least one of you uses their brain only once and consider that every action has a reaction. I wish, from the dept of my heart, that each one of you that becomes a parent at least tries to make a better job than the parents of bullies and shooters. And I "pray" that every kid you someday may have, will get the same type of "friendly, good and supporting" classmates like i had.
I said everything with the biggest fake smile i could come up with.
I know it was heavy but it worked. And it was such a relief for me. That room full of white faces, shame and the silence from the parents were so satisfying. I really loved the police staff, all of them went from shock at first to smiling at me and hand clapping.
The aftermath was pure satisfaction. The director punished my classmates with extra classes after regular school ended and cleaning work in classrooms and outside. All teachers that never did anything were punished too. The sport teacher in particular was fired bc took part in bullying instead of helping.
I was kind of untouchable for the rest of the time till graduation. In the school after that i had a boyfriend that was bigger than the other kids and metal musician with that "bad guy" look. Not one of them ever tried to do bully me again. I had enough self esteem to stand up for others they made fun of and everytime they tried to befriend me or said nice things just to look good in front of others, i responded with sarcasm and remembered them that they were shitty persons.
It helped me a lot to overcome. I am scarred, still in therapy 17 years after school and my psyche is unstable, but this one person that helped me and listened laid the foundation of the confident person i am now.
I work with troubled teens and my own trauma is a good connection to them. They usually trust me enough to speak up so i can help them survive their own ordeals and get stronger mentally.
That was way more than i first wanted to write 😅🙈 But i think stories like mine needed to be shared, i see and hear so many things that are tragic, unnecessary and preventable. With social media and cameras in phones it has reached a different level nowadays.
Parents, please teach your kids to be responsable adults that care for others. Empathy is something that should be valued more in all societies. Don't look away if someone is bullied. Sometimes one friendly word or one person that stands beside the "victim" can change their whole world.
I'm so glad you had a good - amazing - therapist!
When I was bullied at school (not physically), I went to a the school therapist. The interview was only 15 minutes: "life is not like films. You can't expect people to accept you the way you are. You have to fit with the group".
Never went to a therapist since, almost 20 years later.
@@grenade8572 He was definitely amazing at his job and i am thankful i had this luck. You still can try to find one to work with.
The one at your school clearly failed at his job 🙈 Individuality is one of the most valuable things in humans and nobody should be told "just fit in". I hope you didn't listen to him and grew strong despite the bullying.
This was so iconic of you wow, you're very strong ❤️.
Yeah, glad you had a decent therapist. I don't remember much about mine, except that he told my friend who was upset about being bullied by racists that she was just going through a phase.
I do remember getting bullied even worse after all the bully proofing presentations. But it was mostly just name calling, which happens everywhere.
Thank you so much for sharing your study! It has really inspired me
The adoption story reminds me of a few years back.
My flat was near a school and with open windows I could often hear the children talk.
One day a boy made fun of another girl for being adopted.
The girl spoke loud and clear: "Well, my parents CHOSE me on purpose. Yours didn't have a choice but to have you"
I laughed my ass of and celebrated that girl 😂
Yeah. Don't make fun of adopted kids. Because atleast they were chosen.
Ex Mormon(Exmo) here. Sadly this behavior is common in Mormon spaces. It can get worse like the 8 passengers situation. I’m lucky enough to receive my letter one month before (last June) my 16th birthday. You have to go through a LEGAL process to be able to leave. And then I moved. I’m happier now more than ever. It’s been a tough life so far.
I’m so happy she got to say that to her mom. It takes guts to do that. Especially when you’re taught to listen to your parents and congregation leaders ALWAYS. Good for her
I'm so happy for you 😤 sending you the best my friend
@@nowitchisanisland thanks homeskillet 🫶🏻
You have to write a letter!?
@@deedeedan8681 yep. I had to say in a NOTARIZED letter “I no longer believe. Do not contact me further and remove my records permanently” then they sent one back like “hey we will not contact you further, but if you want to join again go to your local bishop for an interview” nahhh💀👎🏻
@@ghosty_mothhh so that's how you do it, thank you
The pregnant chick with the pastor should definitely get a DNA test and also maybe give him a copy of The Scarlet Letter and a large red A for his shirts.
The announcement would have gone viral, istg...
"I am pregnant... and our dear Father is the father!"
Gasps erupt from the congregation, "Scandalous!" 😂
She wouldn’t even gave to announce it in church. Just hand out copies before church starts.
My dad's father left when Dad was 10. Presently, the man is legally blind, too weak to walk and bathe, and is living in alone in a home (his second wife left him and he had to sell all his property). He's been trying to contact my Dad for months, wanting Dad to take him in as he could very well die in the next few years. The same man who couldn't be bothered to take care of his own family wants said family to take care of him.
My Dad has blocked him on our landline and his cell.
I'm Native, the third story is 1000% true, happens a lot. I get followed around stores and I dont even look "that Native", but Native enough i might steal something. Welcome to Canada, enjoy your stay.
Soo true. I like the irony of them hating the native and both the immigrants at the same time!😂
Yeah, fuck this country. “Our home and native land”, _uh_ , more like “Our home _on_ native land”, eh? Or should I say “stolen land”?
Hearing about that one eye child that used it to get things the way she wanted reminded me of a kid in my school that was deaf and used it to get what she wanted, she’d purposely “forget” her hearing aids to not have to do work, she’d touch other peoples things, trying to steal them, her family was insane as well, tried to run over my friends dog.
Well she so happened to try and do the casual thing she usual did to everyone to me, except I’m autistic, I don’t read social cues, I don’t mask, I care for my comfort.
I became the teachers enemy basically as I was a “bully” as I refused to let her steal my things, and became annoyed very verbally everytime she tried to do anything wrong. The teacher went from having us sit together, to having to make a rule that we weren’t allowed to be put near each other. It was definitely for that child’s comfort though, not mine, but I’m glad I was so socially unaware, that when another disabled person pulled things I didn’t go “oh they are disabled I can’t do anything back” and instead would go “you fight first, I fight back”
Im ½ black and ½ Mexican. Much like Justin Bonitz, I look incredibly pale which leads most people to believe I'm white with a tan. The amount of racist comments I've heard is staggering. Very few people have been able to tell just from looking at me that I'mixed. I've never been one for racism and I'm sure not one for stupidity.
My husband is proudly blaxican, but we live where there's not much sun so he's pale af. I still don't understand how he can possibly be mistaken for white, but it happens!! He will just code switch and start chatting to his coworkers in Spanish and the bigots go pale. 🤣
I am pretty much an American mutt (little bit Irish, little bit Scots, little bit Black etc) I have grown up in NC most of my life. I tell you that to tell you my favorite clap back is "My Grandma-ma was Black" dudes I practically glow in the dark, but it does shut ignorance up for a bit.
@@ShellyS2060 I had a lover for awhile who was in the opposite situation. Like Rachel Dolezal, she had no known African ancestors, but when she had an African American boyfriend, his friends and family looked at her tanned face and curly hair and "clocked" her as African American. She never claimed it, but she also never denied it. She just rolled with it.
Around here by Métis territory you learn pretty quickly that Indigeneity comes in all the colours, including blue eyes and dark blonde hair.
@@valerielevasseur8674 To say nothing of the fact that American tribes are still being formed, by people of mixed Native, European and African ancestry. When I first heard about tribes being formed in modern times, I thought these were less authentic than older ones. Now, I think that the fact that tribes are still forming is evidence that they are a real institution, as real as towns or counties (new ones of those are being formed also, after all).
Okay but good on the parent in that razorblade story for going along with it. Helping with the makeup and basically giving her kid free time. That's so good. Sucks that the bully was a POS but wow.
True that... The mom could have done the mom thing and went to the principal or school board, but she was like, "Nah, your bully wants to play Fuck Around and Find Out, then let's play. And we're going to win."
@@chatboulon743
I LOVE the saying "fuck around and find out." My partner says it a lot and every time he does I burst into fits of giggles, it sounds especially funny when he says it (he's aussie and so am I)
@@AmieMorley-st6tz Australia gang
38:24 The whole "Blood is thicker than water" doesn't mean what most people think it does. The full saying is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."
The actual meaning is the bonds you choose are thicker than the bonds formed by the happenstance of birth.
I've seen this claim over and over, but never seen any proof. Where is this from?
And if it's not true, why are you repeating it? You don't need to "disprove" an aphorism to rob it of rhetorical weight. If someone claims that "blood is thicker than water", all you have to say is "so what?". What does the consistency of blood have to do with interpersonal relationships? Just because a phrase is short and snappy does not make it true.
....did you look up the whole phrase, though? @@tbotalpha8133
@@tbotalpha8133probably the Bible. Usually the thing about most Christians is that they quote whatever is convenient for them, so it's possible that many years they just didn't say that last part. Like how there is these lines: "Honor your father and mother.” "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them."
People don't usually say that last sentence. Something something power over their children without fear of consequence.
@@janelle57759 "Probably" is not good enough. Either provide a citation or stop repeating it.
@@tbotalpha8133 wow. That was so asshole-ish when I came to just speak. The Internet is at your fingertips, my friend. Utilize them, yes?
31:32 ah yes, the kindergarten approach. Treat them like little kids learning how to have a conversation, it’s seemingly very effective.
Some people who say "but she's your mother" aren't even people from happy homes who are oblivious to abusive parents existing. Some of them are actual kids of abusive parents with zero self awareness. My maternal grandmother is an abusive shitstain whom I can't even call a human being. She abused my mom, her sisters and my cousin terribly. My mom doesn't talk to her for more than 20 years now. And when I told my mom a story about my friend who was abused the same way she was and how he moved out of the house the day he turned 18 and doesn't speak to his mom for several years now my mom was like "But why?! She's still his mom, the person who gave him life! Who's gonna help her when she's old? He's selfish!". Oh, the irony.
The bully girl whose parents abandoned her, kind of reminds me of a kid from my primary school. His mom died from breast cancer when he was 2 years old (we where probably about 10ish at the time) but he would constantly use her as an excuse to start fights and bully other kids. He told my friend (who's parents had just divorced) that she was the reason they split up because they didn't want her. She started bawling her eyes out so I turned to him and told him "your mom is probably glad she's dead so she doesn't have to see how ugly you turned out". He tried to challenge me to a fight after class but he backed down when realised he would look pretty stupid fighting a girl half his size in front of the entire class.
I remember doing my social year and there was a seminary about mental health. one topic was bullying and we all were called out to tell our stories (if comfortable). my seat neighbour was trying to get the rest around her to agree that no matter how long you get bullied, if you have a strong mind it won't ever bother you.
so I soon after raised my hand to tell the whole room about how I got bullied for around 9 years in school (out of 12) and how I tried to stay strong but it eventually got to me and just broke me. I was so close to ending my life several times because no one ever gave a shit. and instead, they just told me I'm emotionally strong. yeah, otherwise I'd be long gone. but only then they would've cared. afterwards.
anyway, the whole room went silent for a few minutes while I just sat there, sipping on my water. sure enough, the person who was so sure of herself before, never said a word about the topic again during the seminary
I've gained a lot of confidence since then, though my gender dysphoria often enough takes it back to 0 again. and still, there's a scar deep inside that still makes me passively suicidal. so no, feeling the effects of bullying isn't a sign of weakness. it means you're strong. you're still surviving
There was a meme/inspirational quote thing I saw years ago that compared fighting with depression/mental illness to being a commando behind enemy lines. It said asking for help isn't weak or giving up, it's asking for a weapon, even a fucking stick will do.
I had the same experience in a LGBT support group where most of the super privileged people were crying about the mildest shit so I hit them with the "I genuinely hated going home because my mom bullied me and bullying at school was bad enough I packed on 70 pounds so nobody could ever hurt me again" and it got real quiet after that
I doubt you will see it since i'm 3 days late but thanks a lot for sharing, especially the last line, it was something i needed to hear today. Thank you.
I was bulied 6 year at school (from 12yo to 18yo = my whole teens).
My mom told me: "act like they don't bother you, they'll find the bullying annoying and leave you alone" (she also made me tell her what was going on at school; after a few monthes, she went to the principal, who believed us, but could do nothing because we couldn't prove the bullying). Note: I never had any thought about ending my life. I just... accepted the situation, I think.
Result? In my 30s (= 15 years after the end of the bullying) I'm still totally unable to set up boundaries, don't know how to make friends, have never anything to say in the conversations, and DON'T EVEN KNOW WHEN I FEEL BAD OR WHEN I FEEL GOOD...
My experience with bullying is definitely related. I was very much a crybaby until I was in like 7th grade (6th and 7th grade for me were like night and day lol). But, when I was in elementary school, like mainly Kindergarten & 1st grade but to a lesser extent up to like 4th grade, I was bullied. So, when I was getting bullied in school by "friends," I was told that I needed to stop reacting so much, and that they were only bullying me to get a rise out of me, basically saying that it was my fault I was getting bullied. It eventually stopped but I didn't realize until way later that I was basically being victim-blamed for my bullying and that it was all BS. My experience with bullying definitely isn't as bad as yours, but I think it goes to show that people on the outside never really understand what's going on, and they'll always look for a reason to blame you for it.
Fellow dysphoria-sufferer here, just want to wish you luck and offer empathy. It’s a shit time for ppl like us, stay strong out there ❤️🫂🏳️⚧️
The one story where the parents wanted their first born, that they never allowed them any happiness ever, to purchase those ridiculously overpriced gifts for the siblings, that story is the one I'm referring too. I grew up like that, myself. My father never wished to provide, anything, more than just the basics for, despite my mom's wishes to do so. He was the abuser in our household. Yet, when my siblings were born 13 and 15 years after I was, it became clear, they were getting spoiled with the things I never got. I have a horrible feeling, with the story you read, that the OP's parents had wished for such exuberantly, expensive gifts to be purchased for OP's siblings, had dark intentions behind it. The fact that the parents had not wanted their first born, to give any of the gifts, directly to their siblings, by themselves is very sus. I have a bad feeling, those kids would have never received anything if the OP had done so. I think the parents may have gotten behind on some bills, and wanted the expensive gifts so they could secretly, either be returned for the cash, or exchanged for a lot of smaller gifts, that the parents could then say we're from themselves, to their younger kids. Or, they may have just wanted to outright sell them on the Internet, for some quick cash, to cover the family's Christmas gifts or a vacation for them, or something. Then they probably would have lied and said their older sibling didn't get them anything, just to be extra cruel to OP. I grew up with one insane parent, the other one was an angel, to have put up with as much abuse as she had. I could totally put myself in that poster's shoes, and I could, so see that happening. I pray I'm wrong, but it was just a feeling I had, from growing up in that same kind of craziness.
I am sorry your parents failed you. The amount of "parents" in my friend group refered to by first name or simply "the donor" is staggering. Heck even my FIL calls his bio dad "the donor", and that man is in his 50s.
The entire time listening to the story, all I could think was: If that was me, I would buy the gifts for the siblings, not tell the parents, show up on Christmas/at the birthday party hand delivering the gifts, just to tell the parents "Now I am punishing the right people".
I get to be the cool older sibling AND be petty. Win-win!
The whole "but shes your mom!" Thing is so crappy to me. Like, "yeah and...?" people do this assuming that parents love the children and etc when it sometimes ain't the case.
All children deserve good parents, not all parents deserve children
She stopped being mom when she didn’t act like one
1:05
“in the link in the description you can find…. ✨N O T H I N G ✨”
GOD I LOVE CLICK 😭💀
At 21:52,
On the topic of nice guys, before I met my current polygamous partners, I had a guy try to hit on me at a bar. I refused to go out with him because I already had a trans girlfriend (who happened to be drinking next to me, I don't drink, but I was her ride as I don't support drinking and driving) and didn't want to cheat on her. The guy almost immediately turned on his own words of how I was pretty and said I was the ugliest girl in the world. I responded with: "I'm non binary." And took my drunk girlfriend home.
That’s the best comeback I’ve ever heard! Literally fire!🔥🔥🔥
I hope you are doing well! You absolutely deserve all the joy in your life! Have a great day/night! :)
@@jayfeather8023 we're fine now and we are even in a polygamous relationship now!
People like this baffle me and I see it all the time. I even had an ex-girlfriend call me ugly before and was so dumbfounded cause I was like "Then why the fuck did you date me???"
Now to be fair, this was middle school and I was a little shit.
Anyways, love your response. I bet he was so baffled.
yay for polyamory ♡
As a person from the UK, that last story is GOLD. Yes, "Should have gone to Specsavers" is a very well known tagline over here.
So impressive she could think on her feet like that too
Well known in Aus as well😂
@@megandunnett7900 I was about to say that as well! AUSSIE AUSSIE AUSSIE!
And Ireland lol
Here in Finland too! This should be their ad
I'm not native so idk, but imagine that dude from the construction worker story says some racist crap about natives and you turn around and call him an immigrant 😂
I saw a 'Karen' clip that might fit the bill: In a gas station, a middle-aged white Karen and her finger were getting in the face of a brown lady (younger and prettier, I'm just saying to anger the Karen; I'm petty that way). "Go back to where you came from" was said once or twice. The brown lady provided the most satisfying smack I've seen outside of my grandma's slipper. "YOU GO BACK."
The brown lady, it turns out, to be Navaho.
Every non-Native-American has at least an immigrant family background.
Colonizer is also good
@@desperadox7565 yeah thats the point😂
There was a bunch of very pale folks protesting immigration along the border, yelling the usual "go home!"
A Native American guy walked up to them & yelled the same thing back @ them.
There's a vid of it on UTube.
Oh my gosh. I also got "you only get one mother you know!" Or some variation of that. I always respond woth some form of "yes i know, and I promise you, i understand that fact far far more deeply than you do." It usually makes people seem like they have kind of a "wait........oh..." kind of reaction. Yeah. We (people who don't speak to family, especially moms) know far better than anyone saying "yaonlygit ONE muther!" That that's true. We do. That's the problem. And I don't owe her anything because of that fact.
41:39 especially if you work night shifts, they don’t seem to realise, you walk home for an hour at 3am to sleep for the next night shift. They seem to think you can be awake all day too. Doing annoying things like singing “wake up songs” outside your door at 6-8am or vacuuming outside your bedroom, banging the plastic bit violently against the door
The racist kne reminds me of an incident several years ago. I'm welsh and i was in england on a bus heading up to Gloucester when behind me a guy and woman were talking, the guy starts talking about how there were two welsh girls on the bus the day before. He goes on about how backwards the welsh are joking about how we still live in caves and ride dinosaurs and sleep with sheep.
As i got to my stop i stood up and said in the thickest most stereotypical welsh accent i can manage "nah we only sleep with the sheep we sell to your butchers. And it's dragons not dinosaurs we ride"
I REALLY want to hear this correctly 😂
As a disabled person who grew up having to take extra classes either other disabled kids to learn how to manage with our conditions better and make future challenges easier and I can assure you that disabled kids can be just as big of bullies as fully abled kids I remember one girl who was even worse than Ree and she even once tried to get a teacher fired because the teacher wouldn’t let her bully the other kids anymore and she had almost the whole staff wrapped around her finger and would threaten other students that if they didn’t do her bidding she would go to the office and say that they were billing her to get them suspended and she was completely mentally there she just had a physical disability so she knew exactly what she was doing and was an expert an manipulation and was just as mentally capable as any other student but because she had problems walking she figuratively walked all over everyone
Well that's messed up. I never doubted that disabled people could be just as bad but still. Damn
There's this one girl in most of my friend's classes with minor autism and MY GOSH SHE IS BABIED. Said friend has pretty bad autism paired with ADHD and still has good grades, andndoes their work. The other girl does absolutely nothing, always wanders around the school during class, and is just a minor jerk at times. The teachers are always like "Oh but she has autism! It's not her fault!" She's literally told me she upplays it and in reality she has little difference from us with it. Also, my other friend forgot to do an assignment once and literally got SCREAMED at by the teacher who coodles the other girl the most.
Doubt she has any friends now
@@CharaDreemurr_TheyThemyikes.. i feel really bad for your friend!
@@CharaDreemurr_TheyThem she’s going to gain a reputation by over exaggerating her issues that’s going to make it hard for her to make friends. A lot of ppl dislike ASD/ADHD ppl who don’t mask. By playing up her neurodivergence she’s going to get a lot of ppl treating her badly down the road for her antics, until she graduates. I guess that’s karma.
So my Cousin went through a similar situation as the woman in the first story. His dad was so jealous if him, that he called him names and belittled him. One year for Christmas, my cousin got a remote control car and his dad had to have one too. This was in the 1980s and remote control cars were a pretty expensive item back them ad it was, but this MoFo felt like he deserved it more and he should have got one, too. My aunt eventually divorced the ahole because she was sick of her Ex's unfair treatment to his own son. To top it all off, he treated his daughter, my other cousin better. She was his little princess. She is the younger of the two children. It is so strange to know that an adult can be that jealous of his or her own child. It is so weird.
Sounds like a Snow White scenario to me 😂
It's like Oedypus complex, but in reverse!
Emotional incest 😅
@@luluzin5022 The "opposite of Oedipus complex" would be "Elektra complex"
Funny thing is, that the Oedipus complex describes an actual sexual desire to your own mother, but Oedipus himself was tricked into sleeping with his mother, which disgusted him so much he unalived himself by poking his eyes out with red-hot iron nails after he found out.
I feel like naming it after Oedipus completely misses the point lmao
My mother also used to compare sleeping longer in the morning to laziness. I've turned it around and comparing it to laziness too wanting to go to bed early instead of working all night through.
That's actually when I am the most productive - when I'm not forced into staying awake during the day and sleeping during the night for my job the times I feel most productive and wide awake would be between 9 pm and 6 am.
Second-hand trauma does exist, there is a specialized type of therapist meant for veterans with PTSD due to how graphic the stories can be. Ordinary therapists can get traumatized by being told the same stories.
Found that one out because of Azeal, you can find him here on TH-cam. Great story time videos, just as great for background noise.
So like then wouldn’t the therapist get really upset if they get traumatized too?
@@NiennaFan1 I wouldn't think so, it's a byproduct, an unforeseen side effect. No doubt unfortunate, just the usual burdens of getting a therapist, while being a therapist. Trying to get themselves through it alone is an option. However it is a harder procedure than going to a professional, the same thing can be said for everything else. In such cases of second hand PTSD, it is best for veteran therapists, otherwise a cycle would begin.
The thing about the name being misspelled really made me laugh for several reasons:
I dated a guy in high school, and he told me the story of how his prior school's principal (maybe a teacher) told him that he was pronouncing his last name wrong. Even told the parents that it was being pronounced wrong. They never did resolve it before they moved.
I also had a friend in the same high school whose given name was a common nickname of a common name. When we were set to graduate, there was a teacher or admin responsible for getting the correct info so our names would be correct on the diploma. They got upset and kept putting the full common name instead of my friends actual given name on papers we needed to sign and stuff before graduation. Even after my friend brought in his birth certificate, this person said his "nickname" can't be his given name. We were in a predominantly military families school (60% of us were military kids), so his dad, a high-ranking officer in the Air Force, had to come in and set the admin straight. It was fantastic, and I wish I'd been in the room to see it. Some people are weird about names.
God the audacity makes my blood boil…..
It takes a LOT of courage to stand up to abusive people. I am proud of the person in the first post. They deserve every happiness away from their abusive mother.
In witchcraft we have a saying, “for the most part, do no harm, but take no shit.” Basically try to be a decent person but if someone crosses your boundaries, cross them back. Stand up for yourself. You deserve it. ❤
That’s a good way to look at things. Which type(s) of witchcraft do you practice?
@@DaydreamingArtist322 I’m a sea witch, so predominantly sea related magick. I’m pagan by religion and that plays into my magick as well.
I desire a witch western whose whole writing prompt is that saying.
That's quite the business scheme you got there; traumatize your viewers and then sell them emotional support plushies. Absolutely devious.
When I heard the line 'I don't have anywhere to live because I didn't manage to do the homewrecking!' I laughed so unexpectedly I accidentally spat my drink. That one got me.
I'm called Fred. This introduction made me feel things I haven't felt in a while, ngl.
Usually, when people call me freddie, I tell them I don't like it, but this time it's really different. Well damn. Thank you, you absolutely wonderful bastard.
The running in circles one was probably real, but if she can’t see well enough to assemble LEGOS then she’d have to be functionally blind.
LEGO has braille bricks now
@@suzannepottsshorts Oh my goodness, I didn't know that! That is so awesome! It's great when companies are more inclusive with their products, whether it's disability, sexuality and race, etc.
@@dragonfliesnh4204 they’re being sarcastic. Braille is a series of bumps that can be felt by touch. Since lego pieces are typically identified by the number and arraignment of the connective bumps that allow the pieces to interlock, literally *ALL* lego bricks are braille bricks.
@@RealCoolstriker64 They weren't being sarcastic. There are Lego sets with Braille on them. Just look at their website which I verified before responding to them. I'm VERY familiar with Braille as I've been working with older adults and people with disabilities for over 20 years. I also used to help people with getting large button phones with braille on them. Also I had to take documents and have them embossed with Braille so our clients can read the material.
@@RealCoolstriker64 no they're not being sarcastic, Lego is making actual functioning bricks that have braille just like their alphabet blocks of old but with braille. it was even in a magazine.
The trojan horse cat operation made my day! Reminds me of the time my sister stole the cats she had adopted with her ex-bf. She had heard from a mutual friend that he was not caring for them properly. So she hit up a friend, drove to his place when he was at work and was let into the flat by ex-bf's best friend who didn't wanted the cats to suffer anymore. She got the cats, their stuff and even the friggin cat tree and brought them home. At the time we lived with our parents and they had a no-more-pets policy but decided because of the circumstances that she could move the cats in. It was a bloody war afterwards, but in the end, many months later, he gave up, she paid him a bit of money and then blocked his number for good.
One thing that bothers me about this particular story, is that we don't really hear any reason for why she should get to keep the cat and not the ex BF. Like they adopted the cat together, and there was no indication that the cat was being mistreated. So are we simply supposed to side with the gf because she's the one who's point of view the story is taking? It never established an argument for who is the better caretaker, or who loves the cat more.
@@mishal2401 lying about the spare key and breaking in when he knew she wasn't home is automatically sketchy though.
@@mishal2401 He lied about not having a key so he could break in and steal the cat. He could've just asked.
@@mishal2401this. I mean, what he did was a dick move, but it was still just as much HIS cat as it was HERS. Such things need to be rationally and mutually decided upon a breakup, anything else is childish. If she just kept it "because fuck him", then that cat is better off anywhere but in either of their households.
PUSSY….. Easy come…. Easy go……
I can’t stand when people negatively judge people who rightfully break contact with their parents and throw that whole “but they’re your parent” crap at them. If you have a parent who makes you constantly anxious and is overall really cruel to you then you have every right to break contact with them. You owe them nothing.
"The link in the description has... ***NOTHING...***" I laughed SO hard at that.
Who ever said that diamonds are a girl’s best friend has clearly never met Boltcutter Lady
Honestly I'm on boltcutter lady's side here
The only time diamonds can be my friend is when they're made into a file or a drill.
Meet in the middle and get a diamond boltcutter.
The casual racism is very relatable, although in Europe its more discrimination of nationalities rather than skin tone. I've been in so many situations where people are shit talking slavic/russian people to me not realizing that I am half Russian. It's amazing how quick people go quiet after a proper introduction lol.
yes but in europe it's more jokingly than in the us or at least it is where i live, it's more like banter back and forth not sneakily behind someone's back
@@kyto0918 Nazis. Look it up. They had Jews wear gold stars to distinguish them because they blended in.
@@kyto0918 we do not care if it's "jokingly"
Not like there’s a good reason to shit talk russians rn, oh what could it be
@@NonaMoreau So all russians in the world is ok to shittalk? I thought it ws the Russian government and the ones supporting the war tbh
13:40 i had at least a few situations where people told me "those f*gs..." type of stuff. The look on their faces when I told them I'm gay. Priceless
Damn, one time a person in my friend group said something about a pew pew lgbtq, their face when I said I'm pan and a femboy 😂
@@BerzklTheDragon>Pew pew lgbtq
Amazing.
Almost as good as They/Themperor.
@@zacheryeckard3051 And I made that rime up on the spot 😂 (but they still did say something about gun fun)
This subreddit reminds me of something my Mother's therapist told her, which was passed down to me: "Every confrontational statement, jab, or snide comment made to you has a cost to be paid. You decide who foots the bill." As a chronic self-esteem trashcan, this was huge in helping me to stand up for myself. You don't have to be mean, but just a small comment can change the entire dynamic.
An example from a couple months ago, I'm asexual and unfortunately have some radical right-leaning family members, one of whom was constantly pestering me about "finding a God fearing husband and settling down to have kids, and to leave college so I don't ruin my life." Le barf. I finally got sick of it and planned y retort. Like clockwork, she asked me again when I'd become a Christian mother, and my response was " Aunt, I LITTERALY DON'T GIVE A F*CK!" and left. She won't talk to me now and apparently I'm unsavable, but at least the old bat shut up!
superb )))
Especially since I’m pretty sure St. Paul said in one of his letters that some people are called to be single like he was
I have very fond memories from when I worked in a supermarket and people would stop me and ask, "Do you work here?" I would make a point of looking at my uniform and name tag and say, "Y'know what? I think I do."
I had a strained relationship with a guy in my neighborhood. Sometimes we were friends but mostly he was a bit of bully: gave me a humiliating rhyming nickname, we fought a few times, once was batting rocks at me while I rode my bike. When we were in 3rd grade his mother committed suicide. We were sitting at the lunch table and he was being a jerk to me, again. I said something like, "now I see why your mom killed herself". By far the worst thing I've ever said to anyone. I regretted it as soon as I said it, he pushed me out of my chair and that was the end of it. We never really talked after that and he didn't bully me anymore either.
That Ree (missing one eye) story?
It strikes me as the teachers dropping the ball. Unless that girl was a phrenomenal actress, you can usually catch the signs of a child being manipulative. It sounds like nobody wanted to be the one who told the 'poor handicapped girl' that nope, she can cut her own food, so she learned that she can get anything if she just plays up her disability - and again, nobody wants to be the strict one.
I had a very similar case in my acquaintance: parents somehow thinking that the older brother is responsible by default and has to act "grown-up" (- at age seven !! So whenever the little sister cried, the parents would bear down on _him_ . They weren't cruel or mean or anything, just generally: if your sister's crying, it's your fault.
And you can probably imagine the result: whenever the little sister didn't get something, she'd starts crying --> big brother got into trouble. I don't at all think that the girl was to blame! If you give a child a tool to get whatever, then of course it's going to use that tool.
The beauty of it is that I was baby-sitting them one afternoon, and I was very careful to be polite to the little girl when telling her that no, her brother did _not_ have to give her every last toy, he was allowed to have some too. (Again: not her fault that her parents were spoiling her!) But I sure as heck enjoyed the look of affronted shock on her sweet little face. Never has a face so explicitly said
_"Hasn't anybody told you how this works? I cry, I get what I want - don't you know anything?"_
Yep, kids learn by experience. I had a kid like this in swim lessons. I put her in time out (aka sitting on the edge of the pool) for trying to kick a classmate. She immediately slid back in and I immediately put her back on the deck. Complete look of shock, then hands covering her face, and the fakest crocodile tears ever (I could see her looking through her fingers). I turn to go back to teaching her classmates and she slid right back in. Nope, back on the deck you go. *Complete and utter look of disbelief and shock,* she didn't know what to do. She actually stayed up there for almost the whole time I'd told her to, and the camp counselors were flabbergasted (it was swim lessons through camp), because apparently they couldn't get her to do anything.
Obviously this didn't fix her behavior overnight, but it got better. By the last lesson she would stay on the deck the entire time I told her to. She still got in trouble occasionally (apparently kicking isn't touching), but hey, small improvements are improvements.
Yeah, I don’t blame my little brother, but for some reason he hated my younger sister (older than him). It might’ve been because his dad did, just learning from the stuff around yknow? She and I are autistic so he was always making a point of how useless and annoying we are or whatever, and at some point it seemed especially targeted at HER, which led to our little brother also hating on her (in case you think she’s like the Loud Autistic and that’s how she’s “annoying”, no, she is even to this day quiet as hell and minds her own business most times. Idk what she could’ve possibly done wrong except misunderstand something). So basically any time she dared APPROACH her own little brother, he would just start crying at the top of his lungs so his dad would punish her. And despite NUMEROUS WITNESS ACCOUNTS (by the other 5 siblings) declaring that she did not Touch him or Raise her voice or Do Anything Even Slightly Wrong, he would IGNORE it all because lil bro was crying and punish her no matter what. It was so god damn annoying that he would disregard blatant proof that the kid was just throwing a fit for no reason. And none of us ever blamed him, the thought never even crossed our minds tbh because it was all my stupid step father taking any possible excuse to punish our sister and making our little brother hate her for no valid reason.
Update to this day, that brother grew out of that weird sister hating phase very quickly, pretty much when everyone got bored of hating that particular sister. I’d say he’s one of the like meaner kids but he’s still a nice kid. My mom and that step father divorced when we were teens and now we’re early 20s and that sister I was talking about still maintains a positive relationship with said step father somehow??? Like our older sister and I just try to ignore his existence and she’s like “idk why you didn’t try keeping a connection with him like me” BECAUSE HE ABUSED US?? YOU AS WELL?? So confusing but hey I guess she’s doing fine despite it all!
So yeah. Kids cry to get minor inconveniences in trouble all the time. It’s not really like a permanent trait.
32:00 I used to work at Starbucks. I remember one time in December of 2020, I was being hit on by a 30 something guy. I, as a minor at the time, had no idea he was flirting with me. He eventually asked my age and I said I was 17. This is when he doubles down and says "but you're going to be 18 soon, right?"
I was taken aback but just answered "I guess, yeah." It wasn't until he left the store that my coworkers came up to me to ask if i was okay, I didn't know why until until they flat out said that he was hitting on me.
Never saw that guy again, thankfully
What a nasty dude!
You would be 18 soon, and that is not an excuse in any way for the dude to keep hitting on you. What a disgusting creep he was
45:19 HO. LEE. SHIT.
The only thing that could make that more perfect would be if she set the fake scar waxpiece on the bully's desk and patted it lightly, while whispering at them, "just, thought you'd like a little keepsake" and winking at them before leaving.
15:35 here in Australia, if some gets aggressive or starts harassing people on a bus, the driver calls the “transit cops” which are police dedicated to transit incidents, and they’re given the buses current location and said to meet then at the next stop. Where the person is removed for the safety of passengers.
OMG on the appearance/looks category. A guy I worked with ages ago in construction had a very large scar on his face. The answer he would give of how he got it depended on how he was asked. If it was friendly he would ask if they want full story with details or the just of it. If the question was rude his answer was "I got run over by a truck, what's your excuse?!"
He was accidently run over by an older relative and a tire spun. The older relative thought it was the truck slipping on the mud. It was not mud. He laughs about it, but damn
Holy smokes that terrible!
The revenge for the bully telling OP to “end it” was so fucking clever!
What I wouldn't give to see a picture a day throughout the revenge!
Being a waman, my mom taught me early about periods, since the inevitable would happen. Then when I was, like, 7 or something, I overheard my teenage cousins talking about periods, so I loudly said "OH LIKE PERIODS" in reference to something they said. I wanted to be part of the conversation.
Later, my mom had to explain it's not normal for young children to know about periods, even if it's a normal body thing....
Similar story here, but talking about menstrual products with my fellow guides group at a sleepover inside a museum because they wanted to know what that "strange machine" was in the bathroom. Got pulled aside by one of the leaders after they found out. You're _never_ "too young" to know about puberty and the body
@lazyperfectionist3978 I couldn't imagine being a girl, not being told about puberty and then your first period happens.
Literal horror story
I'm a dude, but if i ever started bleeding out of my PP at around 13 years i think i would have died from a panic attack thinking i got PP-cancer or whatever
@@ngotemna8875 - absolutely, it's disgusting that this sort of information is withheld from those who need it the most before it even happens to them. The adults who get the ick from informing their "little darlings" what to expect when they become not-so-little are not responsible adults imo
It's NOT normal to discuss expected changes of the body as it grows? Huh...
I guess I learned early only because I kept getting so many infections at a young age that were mistaken for menstrual blood.
Click is starting to look more like a TV mob boss every day and I am absolutely here for it
9:44 she literally and figuratively pulled a Trojan on him... Wonder if the Trojans are in the Afterlife snickering about the sheer irony of this story
the first one is... wild... keep the child you don't want and make them miserable, but make yourself miserable in the process as well?????? the thought process does not track...
Resentment is mind poison.
see, the thing about abuse is that it is inherently irrational
She probably wanted the kid around as a punching bag, putting someone down and making them feel less than they are is a good thing to abusers. The fact that she said those things were likely a manipulative lie to make the person feel like they had no where to go while feeling miserable at home. You also can't forget misery loves company, there could also have been future plans of OP taking care of their mother either by providing a roof or being a living piggy bank. If you get abused like they did and feel like you have nowhere to go, that just means the abuser has more control over you in that you may not want to leave as readily. There's obviously a whole bunch of different factors but it boils down to, don't take someone like that at their own word.
The one about the guy being racist to natives got me laughing because I've had experienced something similar, on my mother's side of the family
I'm indigenous but my fathers is whiter than white, and I got my dad's colouring.
I was in a cab on my way home from getting groceries, and the cab driver (Which nobody liked) was chatting with me the ride home.
He often liked to chat with me because I'm nice or something, but one day brought up some racist remarks towards Indigenous folk and
talked to me like I would agree with him. So then I just said in a fake sad tone "Sir, I'm Indigenous on my mothers side, I thought you liked me"
For the rest of the ride home he stumbled over his words to try and fix what he said but nothing helped, got home, got my groceries inside, and he
awkwardly left. 😆
Seeing click getting shocked at 34:44 about a kid never having a birthday party broke my heart. My parents never even said happy birthday to me. Their reasoning was birthdays were a Christian thing (they are Muslims) and “you become the person you act like” therefore you have to specifically make your birthdays as boring as possible. Ofc no gifts at new year and same be bored thing. At the Muslim holidays I HAD TO BUY THEM GIFTS. Childhood was wild.
I'm sorry to hear that happened to you with your family. Birthdays are not a Christian thing at all either, that some bs. Birthday celebrations come from ancient egypt.
Ah yes, being born. Only a Christian thing
Thats wild, I was raised muslim around a bunch of other muslim kids and we all had birthdays with presents, plus graduation parties that had even more presents 😕
they do birthday celebrations in many cultures that aren't even christian. I'm so sorry your parents used their religion as an excuse to be crappy to you
Well, happy birthday for all future birthdays! You are awesome and deserve a day that celebrates you.
my birthmom did the same thing to me that happened in the first story. we even ended up in foster care and they sent us back to her. our dad had been sending us gifts the whole time but she said it was from her. i feel so bad for anyone that has to go through that and am happy that the op was able to snap back and shut her up. good on them. their mom created that karma. so happy to see it delivered. cant wait to deliver mine.
I have severe Obstructive Sleep Apnea that causes me constant fatigue all the time. I'm currently getting used to a CPAP machine and I often get told off for getting up late in the day (around 11am to 2pm). I'm currently struggling with my health as it is and I'm trying my best to sleep well as possible but it's difficult to wake up early sometimes. I used to as a kid be able to wake up around 7am and stay awake. If someone else lays in bed they don't get told off for it yet I do and it's upsetting sometimes
My best friend in high school was half Vietnamese. When we were in 11th or 12th grade, there was this 6th grader (our middle and high school shared the same building) who ran up to her while we were walking down the hall and yelled in her face, "Go back to Mexico!" She casually looked him in the eye and said, "I'm Vietnamese; if you're going to be racist, at least use the right country." The kid went wide-eyed and immediately darted down the nearest staircase. Seriously one of the most hilarious situations I've ever witnessed.
I was born with a cataract in one eye, which was removed when i was 8 weeks old. 25 years on and it's now a prosthetic. My good eye has needed glasses to see passed my elbow for a bit over a decade.
Growing up, I never had trouble with lego, or running in circles, and according to my parents I mostly stopped bumping into things around 2-3 years old.
In fact, I'm even pretty good with a rifle, out-shooting a lot of other people with a similar amount of experience, even though I'm forced to shoot with my non-dominant hand.
Operating the forklift and towing up to 12.5m trailers is a bit dodgy due to my lack of depth perception, but it was necessary for work when building custom trailers. I haven't hit anything yet and my last day was yesterday, so i think I'm in the clear on that front. That said, welding proved difficult, and i would tend to burn my support hand, so i left that to the other guys, while I cut the steel and fitted the suspension, axles and electronics.
Ree is just an entitled little shit, and i hope she gets the guidance she needs to be a better person. There are definitely some limitations and difficulties, but it's nowhere near as crippling as Ree makes it out to be.
This is my reverse the trauma story: I used to work as a substitute mail carrier in a small town that was known to have a large carnival worker population. Being a new substitute, I wasn't as fast as the regular carrier. There was a small person who lived on the route who had retired from circus work. He would mock me (not in a funny, joking way) for being "slow". His mailbox was regulation height and I started putting his mail alllll the way in the back of his mailbox. Have fun reaching your mail jerk! Never mistreat your mail carrier!
The cat-napping story never gets old for me.
That foster kid story (and honestly most of this subreddit) is the perfect those in glass houses. Like girl why would you talk about someones parents when you know yours left you 😭