Right?? Mine too. My mom would have never told me to apologize either, even if she was disappointed. My mom would have called him a cheater and her a whore for what they did.
For what? failing to be honest and communicate how u felt about the whole thing and instead act like a child? ACT (lie) for months that EVERYTHING is fine when its not and then ruin wedding and every quest and their families plans etc...vacation days they had to use for this wedding etc..
@@KuopioKallavesi THIS! If OP had told her parents right away? It would be ok! If she had told the BFF off after she confessed? still ok If OP had told her 'bff' that they were finished? still ok if OP had told her BFF (when asked to be her bridesmade) "no!!! you cheating whore!!! never contact me again" that would be hurtful but I could understand! Instead OP lied to het EX-BFF for all this time and pretended she was OK with it and then got some over the top revenge and STILL the EX-BFF showed that she was the better person! I don't blame the parents for being disapointed And after ALL off this and over te top revenge, OP still plays the victim and (if she got the chance) would do someting like this again!
@KuopioKallavesi sometimes you need to be and Ahole to an Ahole, I f were ger parent would be proud of her and throw a party for her to standing up for herself and not being a stepping doormat like before.
No, OP is NTA. Her friend betrayed her. I don't care how long she had been seeing this guy, betrayal is betrayal. I love what OP did and I applaud her.
Story 1: NTA. If she thinks she can ask the friend she backstabbed to be maid of honor, she can expect there to be shots fired. Girl's either stupid, thinks that little of OP, or both. Personally, I would have said everything's taken care of, not done any of it, and ghosted.
Except everything was OK agreed , forgiven adn talked. T his infantile OP did not COMMUNICATE her feelings to her but instead got angry for her "feelings being ignored" Feelings other women DID NOT KNOW even existed!! Way to go.. how people miss these LITTLE details escapes me. also 1 week relationship is not a relationship but TEENAGE drama. No wonder OP was acting so effing childish.
@@KuopioKallavesi It was never okay, the friend cheated with OP's boyfriend. OP wanted to leave the situation and she made an obvious effort to do so. Then that selfish witch comes back with all her "needs" and not a care in the world for OP's wellbeing. That's not a friend, that's a user. Anyone who's willing to hurt their best friend that badly deserves no friends at all. They deserve to get drenched in cold rain and tossed to the curb like tomorrow's trash.
But she might have tought OP forgave her for being with her BF (of one week) and OP NEVER did anything to correct her! So I disagree She could NOT have known!
@@robertx8020 there is NO forgiveness for that. and whoever thinks they’ve legitimately been forgiven for committing such an act, deserves every bad thing that’s coming to them and more for making that horrible choice.
Nah. If you knowingly and willingly punch someone, you have no right to complain when the same person punches you back. Honestly, it was like the friend came begging for that revenge punch by asking for OPs help. Edit: I do not mean this as an excuse for hitting someone or something similar. This is about knowing that all actions have consequences and it is on us as adults to be responsible for them. Literally one of the MOST important things about being an adult. If that friend is old enough to marry then there is absolutely no excuse for her not knowing such basics.
Bad analogy. OP didn't punch back. More like lying to BFF and herself pretending it was no big deal then cowardly pretending to be a friend while taking her revenge. This wasn't hitting back. More like pretending to be a friend while cowardly slashing tires, poisoning food, and setting a house on fire. The former BFF was wrong but OP should have confronted BFF honestly.
@@brenttaylor8907 I never said that OP was in the right. Same rules apply for her as well. Plus there are people who are perfectly comfortable with being the jerk and the consequences that come with it.
@@brenttaylor8907 but she dropped the friendship the other girl was just so far up her own a££ she didn’t think about what she was asking. Being polite and giving the benefit of the doubt because no one can be that stupid
Op acted like an immature, obsessed, spoiled bratt who embarrassed herself and noone was on her side. What she did was stupid and pathetic. And I really can debate which of all was more stupid and pathetic.
if she couldn't live with guilt of betraying OP. why did she marry OP's boyfriend. my best friend went out with a guy I really liked he was also my friend. but what hurt the most was when I completely backed off liking him anything more than a friend an told them no hard feelings. my friend stopped being my friend she said she was sorry an attempted she only went out with him because I liked him. I never noticed how every guy who flirted with me or I liked she'd try and go out with...but to this day her stopping being my friend hurt worst than any guy she ever "stole" from me
[every guy who flirted with me or I liked she'd try and go out with] WOW, JUST WOW! You should be tough mentally and hit back. Say something like, "You are a vamp. How easily you snatch BFs and fiances when you want them. You should put this talent to use and become an escort. I blv they earn a lot of money. You can retire and enjoyyyyy life" I don't understand your last statement. Aren't you happy she was exposed as a back stabber and a not-friend? Better a few friends who are true (Quality) rather than many who are doubtful (Quantity)
@@seraglioborneo2803 I felt bad her mom was on drugs an stole people's i.d's. my friend wasn't enrolled in a school this happened during middle school. she always talked about dying before she turned 28. I wanted to give her hope. I'm always worried when something reminds me of her where is she now
Then how could she make sure everyone knew about her betrayal? It’s like people who love quiet close cabinet doors. It’s the slamming of the door that lets you know how I feel.
@@nikig2891 Hate to point out - this was no great dramatic betrayal at the beginning - she'd only dated him for 1 WEEK. At 1 week you are only just getting to know each other but she turned it into a total melodrama.
Not tah just a good hearted lovely person who shouldn't have to be around or tolerate toxic poisonous just plain nasty people like them . I thank u for your service to animals in distress and hope u continue with this work and I hope u have a great life and the joy u deserve
Nah. Thing is. One doesn't have to be "reasonable" to people who are not "reasonable". If her "friend" is unreasonable then there is not reason she can't act the same.
I just feel like in story one she did alot for little pay off she could have just told the girl she wouldn’t be a bridesmaid. Told her parents why she not going to the wedding and I think her and her family not being at the wedding would have had the same impact and you could have kept your peace and ended the friendship officially. 🤷🏾♀️ sometimes the best revenge is not giving someone anymore of your time
Same her skank of a friend never apologized and didn't even consider the fact that she started dista cing herself from, also most of the a hole commenters are probably the type of people who would or have slept woth a friend's bf
You could have told her you’d take her daughter only if she signs over permanent custody & starts paying child support. (I KNOW you don’t have to pay support if you’ve signed over custody). What kind of crazy person would let their child cross state lines let alone leave the country!?
Story 1. Mostly NTA but kinda ESH. I am all for justice being dished to these kinds of people but if OP really wanted to take the high road she would've aired everything out and washed her hands from the beginning. OP definitely held a grudge and I'm glad she realised her going overboard was what was so disappointing, hope she's doing better now. I'm more surprised that no one's talking about the cheating bf who didn't even try to contact OP or interject with OP becoming the MOH.
Maybe slightly off topic but when you have betrayed someone in this manner inviting them to your wedding and to boot making them MAID OF HONOR is pretty damned stupid. You are setting yourself up as an easy target for revenge. its like inviting an angry fox into a hen house.
Last story: Definitely not the asshole. I had a friend who was accused of molestation by a student who had propositioned him and been firmly told no. Despite being completely cleared by the police his name had been in the media with the accusations and the stink and shame ruined his teaching career. Casual accusations like this are despicable and must be challenged immediately. Then there is the issue of violation of confidentiality. Use of work computers to do so has been deemed appropriate for automatic termination by arbitrators for the last forty years. A clerk at the hospital I worked at was fired for looking up a patient because he was "cute" and then calling him at home later. OP acted rightly and the termination was just. Good work!
exactly this! And ALL based on his appearance? So he would be in his right to say that she was a whore?> because "well, she looked like one" (not saying she did)
Story 1: NTA, what do people actually expect when they actively hurt someone and then try to throw it in the hurt person's face? OP your ROCK and did nothing wrong F your parents they are ridiculous
she failed to honestly communicate her feelings at any point. she lied about it for months and continued lying when asked to be MOH. She let her friend believe that she was absolutely OK with them dating! OFC she asked her to be MOH. besides they dated for 1 week..so ? lol ? eh ?
@@KuopioKallavesi why would her "friend" think that OP would be OK with what she did to her regardless of time? Like be serious please, trying to make OP the bad guy just because the "friend" had her feelings hurt is laughable because she didn't care about OP'S feelings one bit.
OP says: I forgave her. We stayed as friends. I wasn't bitter. I wasn't out for revenge. I moved on with my life. I wasn't gonna drag her name through the mud. OP does: Literally makes a speech about how the bride was a boyfriend stealing backstabber at the girl's wedding. Sure OP. You're so over it and totally the bigger person. 🙄 If that wasn't revenge then what do you call it?
Being the bigger person is totally overrated and she is lying to herself with this "I am over it" shit talk. 99% of people who tell "I'm over it" just didn't have the opportunity for revenge and revenge is many times better than being the best person.
NTA, PARENTS THE AH. If you were my daughter I would help you. Besides if the ex best friend doesnt get she burned her friendship, too bad. She is the one who decided to not consider what her actions would reap. The minute she slepted with your boyfriend she killed that relationship and had the audacity to ask you to celebrate ... well she reaped what she sowed. Parents stupid for not putting their daughter first.
I agree both are at fault for unprofessional behavior. Sadie making bad remarks and Lana taking his driver’s license copy to look him up. 🤦🏼♀️ Just think how embarrassed they would have been if the man turned around to confront them…which I was wishing he did 😡 I bet that even if he did want to adopt the dog, he wouldn’t step back in that building after hearing the remarks…so they essentially cost that dog a loving home!
OP is passive aggressive to a toxic level. No wonder her best friend was a crazy selfish b. She acted like a doormat until pushed too far and then did the most passive aggressive crazy stuff I’ve ever heard of.
Story 1 He'll hath no fury like a woman scorned. Why would someone ask you to arrange their wedding after stealing their boyfriend.? But to be fair OP should have said no and told her the reason. So YTA.
Story 1: idgaf, karma is karma, she thought shit was sweet and that was foolish, I dont care if Op did say no hard feelings🤣🤣☠️ don't ever trust someone you've betrayed, so it is what it is, she absolutely got what was coming, and I hope her pos husband continues to be a pos.🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
last story: at a former job about 20 years ago, i had an assistant manager show me a few returned checks for some people, that everyone knew had money.. the checks were nearly $1,000 in gas for company maintenance trucks.. i knew these people personally and i was offended.. i told him to stop and to put the checks away, that hes not suppose to do that.. he was laughing, hysterically... before he finally put them away he showed them to some of our customers and a few of them i knew and knew they knew the people that had wrote the checks but they didn't say anything and just paid for their stuff and left.. i knew these people, and i knew how long they had known the people on the checks, i knew what was going to happen.. after i took my kids to school the next morning, i stopped by my place of work and told the manager what had happened, she got very angry, very quick.. she had already been called by the people that wrote the checks that several customers that had come in the store the evening / night before had also been shown those checks and some called them and told them what the assistant manager had done, til i came in and told her what happened she said she wasn't for sure if i knew anything.. i told her that he shoved those checks in my face laughing about them as soon as i came in the door that i hadn't even had time to clock in yet... i told her that i knew some of the people that he showed the checks to and i knew them well enough that i knew they would probably call and tell the people on the checks and that i also knew them personally considering they were friends of my mom and dad and my mom worked with the husband at another place and the business he wrote the checks for was the mans 2nd job of which he and his wife owned.. the main manager was even more pissed at the assistant manager, she called the district manager right then and told her what had happened and i had to tell the district manager my side and then was told not to say anything to other employees or customers bout what happened but he would be fired that day.. sure enough when i came in to work my shift later the manager was there and told me about the stink the assistant manager caused when he came in to talk to the store and district managers and he was made to apologize to the people on the checks, because they had both came in to pay for the returned checks.. it was actually the fault of their bank for not clearing money they deposited 2 days before they wrote the checks at the store, bank didn't clear the deposit til another 2 days after they wrote the checks.. manager after they left the store then the district manage fired the assistant manager and said he started yelling and screaming and cursing about everything he did and done for that store, yada yada yada and manager said they had to threaten to call the cops before he would leave the store and they banned him from the store even as a customer...
2nd story, could the ex be trying to set OP up for kidnapping charges by having her take the daughter along on the trip? OP doesn't know that girls mother and that mother may not like the idea of her baby's daddy having a new girlfriend and may try to screw that up.
Ex BFF is NTA, she was handed revenge on a silver platter and I would've taken it too. Did she go too far? Pfft! Idgaf who said YTA, they know they'd do the same too
OP never should’ve said yes to being a bridesmaid, I understand she’s hurt, and what her best friend did 14 years did to her, but she went to far she should’ve done it in private and hold her. It
So wait. I'm high right now but OP just let them drift apart instead of cutting the friend off? She also didn't just walk away from the friend when turning down the planning. OP is super passive aggressive. All this rage for a guy they only dated for a week? Wow OP needs therapy.
Its not about the guy. Its the friend. She had the audacity not thinking about the feeling of OP to help her with the wedding. The friend needs a prenup because they both would cheat on each other again. OP is rine
If a woman stole a guy and is getting married and then calls the woman she stole him from, it's to gloat in some way, to rub it in that she got the guy. She is no innocent in this. Her showing up to demand an apology from OP is nothing more than stroking her ego. Op should never have apologized to her, especially if OP's family is now taking ex friends side. I'm all for revenge, more so since she had never told anyone else about what Ex Friend had done and ex F had then attempted to drive the nail in further by inviting her to the wedding like nothing ever happened.
maybe her ex friend will deserve what she got and ended up getting cheating on and i lost an respect for her parents for taking her ex best friend side
@@hugoumero9723 They appear to be quite people. The parents probably felt publicly humiliated at the ruckus their daughter caused. I’m guessing they would have sided with her if: 1. She told them when it happened. 2. She declined being MOH. 3. They not have gone to the wedding. Instead they go to a crap show with community friends side eyeing them for their daughter’s actions.
Story one: You are NOT the asshole here. You are just posting on the wrong site; this is definitely a revenge story, and the former friend had it coming. If that had happened in MY family my parents would have understood.
@@robertx8020 i would agree IF OP continue to be as usual with BFF, but she clearly distanced herself. It's kinda clear sign, that you're not welcome in someone's life
@@helar2574 I disagree, even the way OP described it HERSELF! it was, even if they would still be the best of friends, that the contact would be less and less BECAUSE OP used 'workload ' as an excuse! If one of my friends that moved away, would give me that reason, I would accept it w/o thinking! Tell me why OP coudln't jsut say "get lost you filty cheater, never want to see you again!!!" WHY did she asume her BFF was a mindreader?
@@robertx8020 again, my main point, it's idiotic to think, that you fully forgiven after betrayal, we are not mind readers, why you need to invite troubles for yourself?
#1 Are you still in middle school? If you didn't want to honor this former best friend on her wedding/marriage, then you pass on going to it in the first place. You sound like the classic "mean girl".
story 1. You should have just refused and told her why. You are the AH. You don't get dibs on a guy after a week. Did he even agree to be exclusive? Just say no. And if you want revenge, be satisfied that cheaters cheat, and she married one.
S1: OP should kindly and in a soft voice tell the BFF: Wow, you are a vamp. How easily you snatch BFs and fiances when you want them. You should put this talent to use and become an escort. I blv they earn a lot of money. You can retire and enjoyyyyy life!
WTF is it with everyone siding with the cheater!!! I actually applaud the OP for having the nerve and cleverness to do it. Not her fault the BF was stupid enought o think she was forgiven easily. Though to be fair even if she hadn't went the path of revenge, she could've start screaming in her face callingh her every name for being a cheater. The only mistake was not telling the parents before the whole wedding happened.
It's NOT siding with the cheater! It's the way OP handled it by lying and pretending they were OK all this time! (for so many years) And even lying to her parents all because of her BF she hardly knew and let them control her whole life She could have easily ciut them out of her life! I on the other hand can't understand how everything (including lying ) is fine when you want revenge!
Story two: Definitely not the asshole. Taking a child out of the country is hard enough when it is your own. I ran into an enormous bureaucratic excrement show taking grandchildren to Disneyland ten years ago when they decided to play hide and seek in the overpriced hotel and one got lost in the basement laundry. I have to admit it was an excellent hiding place. The problem was when she fell asleep until after the staff had gone home and locked up. Seriously, even with the documentation and easy contact with her parents it was an expensive challenge to pry her away from California's Child Protection Services. Bureaucracy gone mad, with a month between court dates and social workers who ignored the judge's order to return her to me. Stay away from the USA while travelling with other people's children, because they assume every adult is a potential abuser. Besides, Disney is a waste of time. You will spend a lot of time and money for the privilege of standing in lines all day. You can get the same thrill pretending you have to renew your drivers licence.
S1: ESH, the bff for sleeping with OPs love interest, the boyfriend for cheating on a girl only a week into the relationship and with her BF!! And 0P for not explaining and communicating everything when it was still fresh. How can her ex best friend know that their relationship is over if OP didn’t explain her true feelings
Idk why this post painted her the AH. Same situation on Reddit except it was the guy who got betrayed and asked to be the best man. Everyone felt sorry for this guy but the saying she’s the AH? Revenge is a dish best served cold. I applaud her.
Why not just say no, instead of going to all that trouble? She spend way to much on those cheating assholes, the best revenge is to live your best life
St 2. Tell wacky grifter mother, this isn't a blended family. BF is not your husband and you are not a stepmother. She can take her own child to Disney with her cousins like you are doing with yours. It is open to the public. No guilt, this isn't your job or responsibility.
The take I get is bio mom sees dad is out of country and girlfriend is going out of country…hmm, free vacation for me if I can get girlfriend to take my daughter with her when she leaves! Yea, no…who’s supposed to pay for all the things this girl is gonna need, aka food and flight expenses, not including Disney tickets (which for 3 people, it $109/day per person = $327 for one day and that doesn’t include food or souvenirs!)
Why do people do this? This is not the first time the betrayed has been asked to be bridesmaid/best man. You're inviting revenge. Cheating is fucked up as is, but what do you get by rubbing it in their face by having them arrange your wedding
It's understandable. I believe she said she had been dating that guy for an entire week. She was just 2 dates from learning his last name. Wouldn't say never funny. It's definitely tricky source material. Definitely can't tell if someone is racist by looking at them. I have heard you can tell if someone is not racist just by looking at them.
If the friend would have been really sorry about the cheating she would have told and cut contact with the guy, not start dating him.. she told to op about it only for selfish reason, she wanted the man for herself and that was the only reason she told.. I don't believe a second that she felt really guilty or bad for OP, shelfish people who think only about their best don't apologize because they are sorry, but because they can gain something by doing that.. ofcourse op should have cut contact with the "friend" long before the wedding.. but I can't understand how the friend even dared to ask op to be her maid of honor... -.-
S2 NTA your correct her daughter is your bfs responsibility. Is dad going to pay for his daughter to go to Disneyland? Her mother has no say in the his. Not to mention the legality of the situation.
DUDE WASNT THE 1st BOYFRIEND OF HERS SHE SLEPT WITH. SHE HAS ALWAYS HATED & BEEN EXTREMELY JEALOUS OF O.P. SHE PROBABLY HAS BEEN SABOTAGING O.P. 4 YEARS !!!??? NOBODY BUT HER KNOWS ABOUT.
What she did to YOU? Come on! You dated for a whole week, and then found out your bff slept with him. Sounds like you both hooked up with him at the same time and were not exclusive. Sounds pretty petty of you to ditch a 14 year long friendship
To those who said she was the yta you all are yta. I'd off done even worse. What kind of BFF sleeps with someone's boyfriend? One who is entitled. And to ask for to be her maid of honor? She's lucky op only did what she did. The parents should of understood why their daughter did what she did. Shame on them.
Story 1: YTA. Yes she betrayed OP, but even OP said it had only been a week. OP should have declined her offer and told her why and told her you never wanted to see her again. In the beginning OP took the high road and then got petty.
Some of these stories are funny. It’s like aita? Listen, most people know when they’re being an AH. They really want to know if what they did was warranted or equal to the suffering they went through.
Story 1: Instead of being wishy washy and hoping that your former friend would take the hint when you kept ignoring her and then playing that passive aggressive game around the wedding you should have nipped it in the bud from the start. Sat her down and explained that because she crossed an unforgivable line of sleeping with your relationship partner you cannot trust her and that the friendship is over AND TELL YOUR FAMILY. You should have dealt with it right away.
Story 1: OP is YTA. She should have confronted ex-bff after the betrayal and have ended it. Instead she carried around an insane amount of anger, to the point where I can't help but wonder if OP is in love with the ex-BF who cheated. Or she could have said no and admitted she was still hurt over the betrayal when offered to be MOH. But no, she went full supervillain in order to destroy the wedding, when she should have said No.
OP #1 is a nutcase. She dated the guy for a week. ONE WEEK. Did they even sleep together? I'd sue OP. Geez. One week compared to two years. Just....geez. I'd most definately drop her as a friend.
While I understand why OP did this, It is really annoying that OP said she had forgiven her and had moved on and then did something like this - She’s definitely the a hole to herself for lying to herself and everybody else about how she really feels. And for using her grown ass parents as the excuse as if they need her to protect their feelings of “being able to trust” for a reason not to stand up for herself
Wedding story: ..Except everything was OK, agreed upon, forgiven etc. Infantile OP did not COMMUNICATE her feelings to her but instead got angry for her "feelings being ignored" Feelings other women DID NOT KNOW even existed!! s She had no justification to ruin the wedding She did what alot of women do SHE acted like everything is fine and then when the moment comes they back you in the back pretending like it was justified. Learn how to communicate. WHEN she asked you to be a MOH(or before), u should have told her what u really feel instead of lying.
This is so weird. Anyone who agrees with OP are weirdos. As an adult we need to be able to speak up about things. That's what you do! If someone wrongs you tell them what they did hurt you and never contact them again! You don't pretend to be someone's friend. How was the ex best friend supposed to know they are no longer friends????? To embarrass someone like that over a 1 WEEK relationship when they ended up marrying the person really sounds ridiculous.
Wats wrong with people in this story??!! YTA 1 u stay friends w/ her even though u don’t like her 2 ignore her instead of telling her like a proper adult u don’t wanna be friends 3 u ruin her wedding instead of just sayin no Had she gotten her revenge when it happened it would have been karma. But you don’t wait after years of telling her it was ok
YTA but ESH so I probably would've never apologized if I was in OPs shoes Of course YTA for ruining someone's wedding. Lol that's just cruel but all is fair in love and war, revenge is cold, play stupid games win stupid prizes and all of that. What would make the AP think it was appropriate to ask OP to be a MOH? OP must've been a MAJOR blindspot for AP.
If she was Marrying another guy I would understand the bride asking, but she’s asking her to be maid of honor to the guy that was her ex, that is just rude.
Story1 commentors: YTA and opportunist my foot.. keeping her in her life is a big deal.. she's expecting goody goody relation? OP is wonderfully right... She did only embarass her... I would have ruined her life to the point of no wake up
Story one very immature, just kick the backstabber out of your life. This silly revenge is just petty jealousy. Op so prod of their own trash behavior is pathetic.
1st story, OP your a sad person who only dated a guy for a week before he cheated on you. Instead of taking the high road and deciding the maid of honor roll, who got revenge for no reason. You need to look yourself in the mirror and reflect the person you've become. No good man, will like the person you've become. OP YTA.
Exactly. OP isn't wrong for her feelings. She is wrong for never telling anyone what happened and how she felt about it, her ex, and bff. She should have told bff off when it happened or when she met with bff and found out about wedding. She could have told her off then and there, let her know the reason for no contact. How would they know when she never told them? They just thought she was ok with it and they weren't in contact because life. Apparently from the reactions at the wedding, no one knew about what happened.
Those things old people say are actually wise life lessons. Like: Hell has no fury like a woman scorned.
There's a version of this proverb in every culture in tre world. Must be vero true
Lol! If I had been the OP in this story, my parents would have been cheering me on from the audience and chucking things at the bride and groom!
Right?? Mine too. My mom would have never told me to apologize either, even if she was disappointed. My mom would have called him a cheater and her a whore for what they did.
For what? failing to be honest and communicate how u felt about the whole thing and instead act like a child? ACT (lie) for months that EVERYTHING is fine when its not and then ruin wedding and every quest and their families plans etc...vacation days they had to use for this wedding etc..
Julie, it's like she kicked you in the nuts while you dropped a bulldozer on her. OVERKILL TO THE MAX.
@@KuopioKallavesi THIS!
If OP had told her parents right away? It would be ok!
If she had told the BFF off after she confessed? still ok
If OP had told her 'bff' that they were finished? still ok
if OP had told her BFF (when asked to be her bridesmade) "no!!! you cheating whore!!! never contact me again" that would be hurtful but I could understand!
Instead OP lied to het EX-BFF for all this time and pretended she was OK with it and then got some over the top revenge and STILL the EX-BFF showed that she was the better person!
I don't blame the parents for being disapointed
And after ALL off this and over te top revenge, OP still plays the victim and (if she got the chance) would do someting like this again!
@KuopioKallavesi sometimes you need to be and Ahole to an Ahole, I f were ger parent would be proud of her and throw a party for her to standing up for herself and not being a stepping doormat like before.
Why can people just be honest and say FU we aren't friends anymore. Fuck what the parents want.
bEcAuSe It'S FaMiLy!
@@helar2574 Still OP's call
No, OP is NTA. Her friend betrayed her. I don't care how long she had been seeing this guy, betrayal is betrayal. I love what OP did and I applaud her.
Story 1: NTA. If she thinks she can ask the friend she backstabbed to be maid of honor, she can expect there to be shots fired. Girl's either stupid, thinks that little of OP, or both. Personally, I would have said everything's taken care of, not done any of it, and ghosted.
Perfect!!!
Except everything was OK agreed , forgiven adn talked. T his infantile OP did not COMMUNICATE her feelings to her but instead got angry for her "feelings being ignored" Feelings other women DID NOT KNOW even existed!!
Way to go.. how people miss these LITTLE details escapes me. also 1 week relationship is not a relationship but TEENAGE drama. No wonder OP was acting so effing childish.
@@KuopioKallavesi It was never okay, the friend cheated with OP's boyfriend. OP wanted to leave the situation and she made an obvious effort to do so. Then that selfish witch comes back with all her "needs" and not a care in the world for OP's wellbeing. That's not a friend, that's a user. Anyone who's willing to hurt their best friend that badly deserves no friends at all. They deserve to get drenched in cold rain and tossed to the curb like tomorrow's trash.
But she might have tought OP forgave her for being with her BF (of one week) and OP NEVER did anything to correct her!
So I disagree
She could NOT have known!
@@robertx8020 there is NO forgiveness for that. and whoever thinks they’ve legitimately been forgiven for committing such an act, deserves every bad thing that’s coming to them and more for making that horrible choice.
Story 1 NTA. You should stand your ground before and after.
Nah. If you knowingly and willingly punch someone, you have no right to complain when the same person punches you back.
Honestly, it was like the friend came begging for that revenge punch by asking for OPs help.
Edit: I do not mean this as an excuse for hitting someone or something similar. This is about knowing that all actions have consequences and it is on us as adults to be responsible for them. Literally one of the MOST important things about being an adult.
If that friend is old enough to marry then there is absolutely no excuse for her not knowing such basics.
Bad analogy. OP didn't punch back. More like lying to BFF and herself pretending it was no big deal then cowardly pretending to be a friend while taking her revenge. This wasn't hitting back. More like pretending to be a friend while cowardly slashing tires, poisoning food, and setting a house on fire. The former BFF was wrong but OP should have confronted BFF honestly.
@@brenttaylor8907 I never said that OP was in the right.
Same rules apply for her as well.
Plus there are people who are perfectly comfortable with being the jerk and the consequences that come with it.
@@brenttaylor8907 but she dropped the friendship the other girl was just so far up her own a££ she didn’t think about what she was asking. Being polite and giving the benefit of the doubt because no one can be that stupid
Nahhh, i like what OP did. People need to taste there own medicine lmao. I'd be just as petty and mean lol.
I agree she made it clear that her ex is a piece of crap and her ex BFF is a tramp
only petty and mean people are petty and mean.
@@KuopioKallavesi hurt people are petty and mean. Don't want someone to be petty to you? Then don't hurt them. Such a simple transaction🙄
@@01wonderful Then don't PRETEND you forgave them!
But is seems lying is ok ...the only exception is cheating, even if you come clean? /
Great !
Op acted like an immature, obsessed, spoiled bratt who embarrassed herself and noone was on her side. What she did was stupid and pathetic. And I really can debate which of all was more stupid and pathetic.
if she couldn't live with guilt of betraying OP. why did she marry OP's boyfriend. my best friend went out with a guy I really liked he was also my friend. but what hurt the most was when I completely backed off liking him anything more than a friend an told them no hard feelings. my friend stopped being my friend she said she was sorry an attempted she only went out with him because I liked him. I never noticed how every guy who flirted with me or I liked she'd try and go out with...but to this day her stopping being my friend hurt worst than any guy she ever "stole" from me
admitted sorry spell check
Thank your lucky stars your no longer friends with her.
[every guy who flirted with me or I liked she'd try and go out with] WOW, JUST WOW!
You should be tough mentally and hit back. Say something like, "You are a vamp. How easily you snatch BFs and fiances when you want them. You should put this talent to use and become an escort. I blv they earn a lot of money. You can retire and enjoyyyyy life"
I don't understand your last statement. Aren't you happy she was exposed as a back stabber and a not-friend?
Better a few friends who are true (Quality) rather than many who are doubtful (Quantity)
@@seraglioborneo2803 had to re read your reply thought you were talking about me
@@seraglioborneo2803 I felt bad her mom was on drugs an stole people's i.d's. my friend wasn't enrolled in a school this happened during middle school. she always talked about dying before she turned 28. I wanted to give her hope. I'm always worried when something reminds me of her where is she now
When asked to be her bridesmaid a "No" and walk out would have been enough.
Then how could she make sure everyone knew about her betrayal? It’s like people who love quiet close cabinet doors. It’s the slamming of the door that lets you know how I feel.
@@nikig2891 Hate to point out - this was no great dramatic betrayal at the beginning - she'd only dated him for 1 WEEK. At 1 week you are only just getting to know each other but she turned it into a total melodrama.
@@Boogledigs again, BREAKING first is GOOD thing, CHEAT behind OP back - is NOT.
Betrayal IS betrayal, however little it was
@@helar2574 So OP is just as bad? As she totally betrayed her BFF
@@robertx8020 dont mistake betrayal and revenge,
Nope. Not the AH. Chefs kiss. Perfect.
Story 1 seems right out of petty revenge stories. LOL
Not tah just a good hearted lovely person who shouldn't have to be around or tolerate toxic poisonous just plain nasty people like them . I thank u for your service to animals in distress and hope u continue with this work and I hope u have a great life and the joy u deserve
Nah. Thing is. One doesn't have to be "reasonable" to people who are not "reasonable". If her "friend" is unreasonable then there is not reason she can't act the same.
I just feel like in story one she did alot for little pay off she could have just told the girl she wouldn’t be a bridesmaid. Told her parents why she not going to the wedding and I think her and her family not being at the wedding would have had the same impact and you could have kept your peace and ended the friendship officially. 🤷🏾♀️ sometimes the best revenge is not giving someone anymore of your time
Best response.
#1. Nta. So basically op still a push over.
1st story, sometimes you get payback for double crossing people 🤣🤣🤣. Or don’t start none won’t be none.😂😂😂😂😂
Seriously, Op should’ve just say no and tell her parents the truths.
Why waste so much energy?
Because she wanted her life to revolve around revenge
She couldn't move on
Story 1 absolutely disagree with most commentators saying shes TA. I think she did right , I would have done the same or worse.
Worse? like what?
The revenge was "Overboard" per se, but what did she think & expect after blatant disregard and audacity to the OP?
Same her skank of a friend never apologized and didn't even consider the fact that she started dista cing herself from, also most of the a hole commenters are probably the type of people who would or have slept woth a friend's bf
You could have told her you’d take her daughter only if she signs over permanent custody & starts paying child support. (I KNOW you don’t have to pay support if you’ve signed over custody). What kind of crazy person would let their child cross state lines let alone leave the country!?
Story 1. Mostly NTA but kinda ESH. I am all for justice being dished to these kinds of people but if OP really wanted to take the high road she would've aired everything out and washed her hands from the beginning. OP definitely held a grudge and I'm glad she realised her going overboard was what was so disappointing, hope she's doing better now. I'm more surprised that no one's talking about the cheating bf who didn't even try to contact OP or interject with OP becoming the MOH.
That’s dumb
@@MONKEYDZETS the ex-friend definitely was
Maybe slightly off topic but when you have betrayed someone in this manner inviting them to your wedding and to boot making them MAID OF HONOR is pretty damned stupid. You are setting yourself up as an easy target for revenge. its like inviting an angry fox into a hen house.
Why wasn’t Lana fired too ?
Disney with flights etc. would add 5 to 10 thousand $ minimum for each additional person . Tell kids mom to pay up.
Last story: Definitely not the asshole. I had a friend who was accused of molestation by a student who had propositioned him and been firmly told no. Despite being completely cleared by the police his name had been in the media with the accusations and the stink and shame ruined his teaching career. Casual accusations like this are despicable and must be challenged immediately.
Then there is the issue of violation of confidentiality. Use of work computers to do so has been deemed appropriate for automatic termination by arbitrators for the last forty years. A clerk at the hospital I worked at was fired for looking up a patient because he was "cute" and then calling him at home later. OP acted rightly and the termination was just. Good work!
exactly this!
And ALL based on his appearance?
So he would be in his right to say that she was a whore?> because "well, she looked like one" (not saying she did)
Story 1: NTA, what do people actually expect when they actively hurt someone and then try to throw it in the hurt person's face? OP your ROCK and did nothing wrong F your parents they are ridiculous
she failed to honestly communicate her feelings at any point. she lied about it for months and continued lying when asked to be MOH. She let her friend believe that she was absolutely OK with them dating! OFC she asked her to be MOH.
besides they dated for 1 week..so ? lol ? eh ?
@@KuopioKallavesi why would her "friend" think that OP would be OK with what she did to her regardless of time? Like be serious please, trying to make OP the bad guy just because the "friend" had her feelings hurt is laughable because she didn't care about OP'S feelings one bit.
NTA revenge is best served scorched earth
OP says: I forgave her. We stayed as friends. I wasn't bitter. I wasn't out for revenge. I moved on with my life. I wasn't gonna drag her name through the mud.
OP does: Literally makes a speech about how the bride was a boyfriend stealing backstabber at the girl's wedding.
Sure OP. You're so over it and totally the bigger person. 🙄 If that wasn't revenge then what do you call it?
So what if it was revenge? It was justified. The worst people in this story are the parents for supporting cheating.
Being the bigger person is totally overrated and she is lying to herself with this "I am over it" shit talk.
99% of people who tell "I'm over it" just didn't have the opportunity for revenge and revenge is many times better than being the best person.
Op never said she forgave her. Op makes it clear they did not stay as 'friends'. Op was in the midst of disengaging from her life.
@@shammydammy2610 yeap, and ex-bff was stupid enought to make OP MoH, i really want to know mental gymnastics to do it
Congratulations OP, you get the Star Trek Khan award for
Revenge is a dish best served cold.
You were over nothing, just biding your time.
NTA, PARENTS THE AH. If you were my daughter I would help you. Besides if the ex best friend doesnt get she burned her friendship, too bad. She is the one who decided to not consider what her actions would reap. The minute she slepted with your boyfriend she killed that relationship and had the audacity to ask you to celebrate ... well she reaped what she sowed. Parents stupid for not putting their daughter first.
OP stupid for not telling her parents to begin with
My question is why weren't both girls fired?
I agree both are at fault for unprofessional behavior. Sadie making bad remarks and Lana taking his driver’s license copy to look him up. 🤦🏼♀️ Just think how embarrassed they would have been if the man turned around to confront them…which I was wishing he did 😡 I bet that even if he did want to adopt the dog, he wouldn’t step back in that building after hearing the remarks…so they essentially cost that dog a loving home!
OP is passive aggressive to a toxic level. No wonder her best friend was a crazy selfish b. She acted like a doormat until pushed too far and then did the most passive aggressive crazy stuff I’ve ever heard of.
Kudos to the first girl!!!!!
Story 1
He'll hath no fury like a woman scorned.
Why would someone ask you to arrange their wedding after stealing their boyfriend.?
But to be fair OP should have said no and told her the reason.
So YTA.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Story 1: idgaf, karma is karma, she thought shit was sweet and that was foolish, I dont care if Op did say no hard feelings🤣🤣☠️ don't ever trust someone you've betrayed, so it is what it is, she absolutely got what was coming, and I hope her pos husband continues to be a pos.🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
last story: at a former job about 20 years ago, i had an assistant manager show me a few returned checks for some people, that everyone knew had money.. the checks were nearly $1,000 in gas for company maintenance trucks.. i knew these people personally and i was offended.. i told him to stop and to put the checks away, that hes not suppose to do that.. he was laughing, hysterically... before he finally put them away he showed them to some of our customers and a few of them i knew and knew they knew the people that had wrote the checks but they didn't say anything and just paid for their stuff and left.. i knew these people, and i knew how long they had known the people on the checks, i knew what was going to happen.. after i took my kids to school the next morning, i stopped by my place of work and told the manager what had happened, she got very angry, very quick.. she had already been called by the people that wrote the checks that several customers that had come in the store the evening / night before had also been shown those checks and some called them and told them what the assistant manager had done, til i came in and told her what happened she said she wasn't for sure if i knew anything.. i told her that he shoved those checks in my face laughing about them as soon as i came in the door that i hadn't even had time to clock in yet... i told her that i knew some of the people that he showed the checks to and i knew them well enough that i knew they would probably call and tell the people on the checks and that i also knew them personally considering they were friends of my mom and dad and my mom worked with the husband at another place and the business he wrote the checks for was the mans 2nd job of which he and his wife owned.. the main manager was even more pissed at the assistant manager, she called the district manager right then and told her what had happened and i had to tell the district manager my side and then was told not to say anything to other employees or customers bout what happened but he would be fired that day.. sure enough when i came in to work my shift later the manager was there and told me about the stink the assistant manager caused when he came in to talk to the store and district managers and he was made to apologize to the people on the checks, because they had both came in to pay for the returned checks.. it was actually the fault of their bank for not clearing money they deposited 2 days before they wrote the checks at the store, bank didn't clear the deposit til another 2 days after they wrote the checks.. manager after they left the store then the district manage fired the assistant manager and said he started yelling and screaming and cursing about everything he did and done for that store, yada yada yada and manager said they had to threaten to call the cops before he would leave the store and they banned him from the store even as a customer...
I mean she should never have let her guard down and let someone who she betrayed plan her wedding. She's stupid
2nd story, could the ex be trying to set OP up for kidnapping charges by having her take the daughter along on the trip? OP doesn't know that girls mother and that mother may not like the idea of her baby's daddy having a new girlfriend and may try to screw that up.
Ex BFF is NTA, she was handed revenge on a silver platter and I would've taken it too. Did she go too far? Pfft! Idgaf who said YTA, they know they'd do the same too
She and her daughter can fly to FL and join you on a group Disney adventure and then leave you to YOUR trip.
Ball is in HER court now.
OP never should’ve said yes to being a bridesmaid, I understand she’s hurt, and what her best friend did 14 years did to her, but she went to far she should’ve done it in private and hold her. It
So wait. I'm high right now but OP just let them drift apart instead of cutting the friend off? She also didn't just walk away from the friend when turning down the planning. OP is super passive aggressive. All this rage for a guy they only dated for a week? Wow OP needs therapy.
Yep
Its not about the guy. Its the friend. She had the audacity not thinking about the feeling of OP to help her with the wedding. The friend needs a prenup because they both would cheat on each other again. OP is rine
If a woman stole a guy and is getting married and then calls the woman she stole him from, it's to gloat in some way, to rub it in that she got the guy. She is no innocent in this. Her showing up to demand an apology from OP is nothing more than stroking her ego. Op should never have apologized to her, especially if OP's family is now taking ex friends side. I'm all for revenge, more so since she had never told anyone else about what Ex Friend had done and ex F had then attempted to drive the nail in further by inviting her to the wedding like nothing ever happened.
You can be a "better" person, but that doesn't mean you have to lay down & take it, be a doormat or keep getting stabbed in the back.
Should have declined being MOH
maybe her ex friend will deserve what she got and ended up getting cheating on and i lost an respect for her parents for taking her ex best friend side
Yep! If they cheat with you, they will cheat on you!
@@hugoumero9723 They appear to be quite people. The parents probably felt publicly humiliated at the ruckus their daughter caused. I’m guessing they would have sided with her if: 1. She told them when it happened. 2. She declined being MOH. 3. They not have gone to the wedding.
Instead they go to a crap show with community friends side eyeing them for their daughter’s actions.
OP’s friend could have spat in her face. They would have still berated OP for being the wrong one in this situation.
@@juliemcgugan1244 also very possible.
NTA I feel it was beyond fair
Story one: You are NOT the asshole here. You are just posting on the wrong site; this is definitely a revenge story, and the former friend had it coming. If that had happened in MY family my parents would have understood.
my mom would cheer me, if she knew full story
@@helar2574 but they DIDN'T know because OP didn't tell them EVER!
@@robertx8020 i would agree IF OP continue to be as usual with BFF, but she clearly distanced herself. It's kinda clear sign, that you're not welcome in someone's life
@@helar2574 I disagree, even the way OP described it HERSELF! it was, even if they would still be the best of friends, that the contact would be less and less BECAUSE OP used 'workload ' as an excuse!
If one of my friends that moved away, would give me that reason, I would accept it w/o thinking!
Tell me why OP coudln't jsut say "get lost you filty cheater, never want to see you again!!!" WHY did she asume her BFF was a mindreader?
@@robertx8020 again, my main point, it's idiotic to think, that you fully forgiven after betrayal, we are not mind readers, why you need to invite troubles for yourself?
Well she acted immaturely first by riding a dingy that wasn't her then thinking they could be all happy again.
#1 Are you still in middle school? If you didn't want to honor this former best friend on her wedding/marriage, then you pass on going to it in the first place. You sound like the classic "mean girl".
story 1. You should have just refused and told her why. You are the AH. You don't get dibs on a guy after a week. Did he even agree to be exclusive? Just say no. And if you want revenge, be satisfied that cheaters cheat, and she married one.
The shelter worker. Lana went way over the line. She definitely needed to go.
I haven't heard either of those songs before.
Blank Space would be a horrible song to play at a wedding.
S1: OP should kindly and in a soft voice tell the BFF: Wow, you are a vamp. How easily you snatch BFs and fiances when you want them. You should put this talent to use and become an escort. I blv they earn a lot of money. You can retire and enjoyyyyy life!
That have been far better than the cowardly actions that the OP took. Not defending the BFF but your idea is honest upfront.
WTF is it with everyone siding with the cheater!!! I actually applaud the OP for having the nerve and cleverness to do it. Not her fault the BF was stupid enought o think she was forgiven easily. Though to be fair even if she hadn't went the path of revenge, she could've start screaming in her face callingh her every name for being a cheater. The only mistake was not telling the parents before the whole wedding happened.
It's NOT siding with the cheater!
It's the way OP handled it by lying and pretending they were OK all this time! (for so many years)
And even lying to her parents all because of her BF she hardly knew and let them control her whole life
She could have easily ciut them out of her life!
I on the other hand can't understand how everything (including lying ) is fine when you want revenge!
Story two: Definitely not the asshole. Taking a child out of the country is hard enough when it is your own. I ran into an enormous bureaucratic excrement show taking grandchildren to Disneyland ten years ago when they decided to play hide and seek in the overpriced hotel and one got lost in the basement laundry. I have to admit it was an excellent hiding place. The problem was when she fell asleep until after the staff had gone home and locked up.
Seriously, even with the documentation and easy contact with her parents it was an expensive challenge to pry her away from California's Child Protection Services. Bureaucracy gone mad, with a month between court dates and social workers who ignored the judge's order to return her to me. Stay away from the USA while travelling with other people's children, because they assume every adult is a potential abuser.
Besides, Disney is a waste of time. You will spend a lot of time and money for the privilege of standing in lines all day. You can get the same thrill pretending you have to renew your drivers licence.
S1: ESH, the bff for sleeping with OPs love interest, the boyfriend for cheating on a girl only a week into the relationship and with her BF!! And 0P for not explaining and communicating everything when it was still fresh. How can her ex best friend know that their relationship is over if OP didn’t explain her true feelings
More people like OP and /entitled would shrink. Cudos for OP for long play
Idk why this post painted her the AH. Same situation on Reddit except it was the guy who got betrayed and asked to be the best man. Everyone felt sorry for this guy but the saying she’s the AH? Revenge is a dish best served cold. I applaud her.
Why not just say no, instead of going to all that trouble? She spend way to much on those cheating assholes, the best revenge is to live your best life
St 2.
Tell wacky grifter mother, this isn't a blended family. BF is not your husband and you are not a stepmother.
She can take her own child to Disney with her cousins like you are doing with yours. It is open to the public.
No guilt, this isn't your job or responsibility.
The take I get is bio mom sees dad is out of country and girlfriend is going out of country…hmm, free vacation for me if I can get girlfriend to take my daughter with her when she leaves! Yea, no…who’s supposed to pay for all the things this girl is gonna need, aka food and flight expenses, not including Disney tickets (which for 3 people, it $109/day per person = $327 for one day and that doesn’t include food or souvenirs!)
@@stirrednotshaken4823 Exactly.
Why do people do this? This is not the first time the betrayed has been asked to be bridesmaid/best man. You're inviting revenge. Cheating is fucked up as is, but what do you get by rubbing it in their face by having them arrange your wedding
There's a special place in hell for traitors and back stabbers
😂😂😂 petty I love it ughhhhhh I swear to God if they become friends again I’m done why would you want to be her friend screw her
Story 2...do not take your boyfriend's with you to Florida...in case of an emergency there is nothing you can do because you are not her parent...
revenge is a dish best served cold but that was absolute zero Kelvin 🥶
Of course people on reddit would call her an ah. How dare she hold a woman accountable for cheating, thr nerve.
ABSOLUTELY LUV LUV LUV THAT SPEECH 🎤. BEAUTIFUL !!!!! SIMPLE JUST BEAUTIFUL %!!!!
They proved it was not just a joke when they used the internet to try to find something on the guy.
I didn't see it as a joke to begin with!
'jokes' like this can destroy someone's life!
It's understandable. I believe she said she had been dating that guy for an entire week. She was just 2 dates from learning his last name.
Wouldn't say never funny. It's definitely tricky source material. Definitely can't tell if someone is racist by looking at them. I have heard you can tell if someone is not racist just by looking at them.
You are not a racist if you have 'friiends' with a different skin color 😎
If the friend would have been really sorry about the cheating she would have told and cut contact with the guy, not start dating him.. she told to op about it only for selfish reason, she wanted the man for herself and that was the only reason she told.. I don't believe a second that she felt really guilty or bad for OP, shelfish people who think only about their best don't apologize because they are sorry, but because they can gain something by doing that.. ofcourse op should have cut contact with the "friend" long before the wedding.. but I can't understand how the friend even dared to ask op to be her maid of honor... -.-
Story 1 she never felt guilty she wanted your man that's why she told you she WANTED YOUR MAN.
S2 NTA your correct her daughter is your bfs responsibility. Is dad going to pay for his daughter to go to Disneyland? Her mother has no say in the his. Not to mention the legality of the situation.
DUDE WASNT THE 1st BOYFRIEND OF HERS SHE SLEPT WITH. SHE HAS ALWAYS HATED & BEEN EXTREMELY JEALOUS OF O.P. SHE PROBABLY HAS BEEN SABOTAGING O.P. 4 YEARS !!!??? NOBODY BUT HER KNOWS ABOUT.
What she did to YOU? Come on! You dated for a whole week, and then found out your bff slept with him. Sounds like you both hooked up with him at the same time and were not exclusive. Sounds pretty petty of you to ditch a 14 year long friendship
PARENTS WERENT MAD JUST EMBARRASSED
To those who said she was the yta you all are yta. I'd off done even worse. What kind of BFF sleeps with someone's boyfriend? One who is entitled. And to ask for to be her maid of honor? She's lucky op only did what she did. The parents should of understood why their daughter did what she did. Shame on them.
S3 NTA Sadie got fired because of her actions and words. You shoulda have gotten Lana fired too. She went too far so did Lana.
Story 1: YTA. Yes she betrayed OP, but even OP said it had only been a week. OP should have declined her offer and told her why and told her you never wanted to see her again.
In the beginning OP took the high road and then got petty.
Some of these stories are funny. It’s like aita? Listen, most people know when they’re being an AH. They really want to know if what they did was warranted or equal to the suffering they went through.
Story 1: Instead of being wishy washy and hoping that your former friend would take the hint when you kept ignoring her and then playing that passive aggressive game around the wedding you should have nipped it in the bud from the start. Sat her down and explained that because she crossed an unforgivable line of sleeping with your relationship partner you cannot trust her and that the friendship is over AND TELL YOUR FAMILY. You should have dealt with it right away.
Story 1: OP is YTA. She should have confronted ex-bff after the betrayal and have ended it. Instead she carried around an insane amount of anger, to the point where I can't help but wonder if OP is in love with the ex-BF who cheated. Or she could have said no and admitted she was still hurt over the betrayal when offered to be MOH. But no, she went full supervillain in order to destroy the wedding, when she should have said No.
OP #1 is a nutcase. She dated the guy for a week. ONE WEEK. Did they even sleep together? I'd sue OP. Geez. One week compared to two years. Just....geez. I'd most definately drop her as a friend.
LOL always amazed and people who give wrongdoers a past
First Story: She should have told her family and cut off ties immediately. And laughed on BFF's face if she dared ask her help with the wedding. ESH.
Wtffffffff…. Nta and yall know it 😂
While I understand why OP did this, It is really annoying that OP said she had forgiven her and had moved on and then did something like this - She’s definitely the a hole to herself for lying to herself and everybody else about how she really feels. And for using her grown ass parents as the excuse as if they need her to protect their feelings of “being able to trust” for a reason not to stand up for herself
She never said she forgave her. It’s justified
Wedding story: ..Except everything was OK, agreed upon, forgiven etc. Infantile OP did not COMMUNICATE her feelings to her but instead got angry for her "feelings being ignored" Feelings other women DID NOT KNOW even existed!! s
She had no justification to ruin the wedding
She did what alot of women do SHE acted like everything is fine and then when the moment comes they back you in the back pretending like it was justified. Learn how to communicate. WHEN she asked you to be a MOH(or before), u should have told her what u really feel instead of lying.
This is so weird. Anyone who agrees with OP are weirdos. As an adult we need to be able to speak up about things. That's what you do! If someone wrongs you tell them what they did hurt you and never contact them again! You don't pretend to be someone's friend. How was the ex best friend supposed to know they are no longer friends????? To embarrass someone like that over a 1 WEEK relationship when they ended up marrying the person really sounds ridiculous.
Op is my hero
Wonder if when she does something with her own daughter is she going to invite your daughter. I doubt it.
Wats wrong with people in this story??!! YTA
1 u stay friends w/ her even though u don’t like her
2 ignore her instead of telling her like a proper adult u don’t wanna be friends
3 u ruin her wedding instead of just sayin no
Had she gotten her revenge when it happened it would have been karma. But you don’t wait after years of telling her it was ok
Take unrelated minors on an international trip to Florida? No thank you.
YTA but ESH so I probably would've never apologized if I was in OPs shoes
Of course YTA for ruining someone's wedding. Lol that's just cruel but all is fair in love and war, revenge is cold, play stupid games win stupid prizes and all of that.
What would make the AP think it was appropriate to ask OP to be a MOH? OP must've been a MAJOR blindspot for AP.
If she was Marrying another guy I would understand the bride asking, but she’s asking her to be maid of honor to the guy that was her ex, that is just rude.
Story1 commentors: YTA and opportunist my foot.. keeping her in her life is a big deal.. she's expecting goody goody relation? OP is wonderfully right... She did only embarass her... I would have ruined her life to the point of no wake up
Story one very immature, just kick the backstabber out of your life. This silly revenge is just petty jealousy. Op so prod of their own trash behavior is pathetic.
Story 1: NTA
the parents are doormats
First story, f*** all those people ✌️
nah, she was justified
Wow..Many comments here are siding with the creep OP, even though she finally accepted the fact that she was TA
1st story, OP your a sad person who only dated a guy for a week before he cheated on you. Instead of taking the high road and deciding the maid of honor roll, who got revenge for no reason. You need to look yourself in the mirror and reflect the person you've become. No good man, will like the person you've become. OP YTA.
found OP Ex friend account
@@hugoumero9723 or another adept of "high road way", pathetic guys
1 week does not a relationship make.
@@michaelplunkett8059 it doesnt matter really, it's betrayal anyway
Nta 1st story anyone think not try staying friends with such a person. Doormat you would be.
I understand the resentment OP had, but her method of revenge made her look worse than her lousy "BFF".
Exactly. OP isn't wrong for her feelings. She is wrong for never telling anyone what happened and how she felt about it, her ex, and bff. She should have told bff off when it happened or when she met with bff and found out about wedding. She could have told her off then and there, let her know the reason for no contact. How would they know when she never told them? They just thought she was ok with it and they weren't in contact because life. Apparently from the reactions at the wedding, no one knew about what happened.
@@sgm8265 ty