She Got Ditched At Dinner WITH HIS BILL. Have Online Dating Apps Ruined Dating?
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i did it...4 times I was like "I'm not paying for her"
Nah.
I enjoy my life of solitude. If I want the drama of dating apps, I watch the trauma happen to other people so they can post their experiences on TH-cam for me to watch.
I treat it like violent video games or violent movies. I am okay the trauma happen to others on a screen rather than living it. I'm like a trauma-cuckhold. I am very unfaithful to it and get my kicks from watching it fuck other people's life up.
Unforgivable!!!😂
Unforgivable! Aba N Preach hopefully if this happened to Yaa.. Plzzz post the girl FACE! We Got yaaa for sure!!!!!
If this happened to a man. This could hurt a man heart and could deleting them self for not feeling value in the world!
Could it be possible that girlie is a walking red flag and he said F…… this…… s…..
I am 54 years. My view is that online dating imposes no obligations on people to behave. In my era you dated people in your social circle. Any poor behaviour got back to your peers with social consequences.
Lack of community is at heart of a lot of problems
Wish we still had this.
This was true up until the apps. Reputation was everything back then. It wasn’t “cool” to be a player; now F-boy/F-girl; it’s been renamed to be casual but the actions have no honor and there are way too many men and women hating the opposite sex. If rep becomes popular again people will act accordingly. Now everyone is lazy. The #1 reason I hear people say they do OLD is because “It’s easy”. Which is THE WORST thing to do when finding a lifetime partner. Even more so bad that someone will comment and say “ not everyone is looking for marriage or life time partner” completely forgetting that DATING and (a forgotten word) COURTING was for the purpose of MARRIAGE. People have lost value in PEOPLE and CHILDREN (No your pet is NOT your child). It’s all fun and games now and EVERYONE SUFFERS. It’s a lose lose situation. OLD should be banned you can not Amazon love. GO OUT, make friends, bring back house parties make them popular again and find your person.
I think your explanation is on point! There was no way getting away with outrageous behaviour because your social circle was your "checks and balances", and people seemed to have basic decency and a little bit of shame. Nowadays I feel like it's impossible to make someone accountable for their bad behaviour....
Yeah but also gets complicated if you ever break up and start dating another person in that same social circle lol.
That happened to me once. Matched online with a girl, took her out for drinks, she "went to the bathroom" and never came back. The bartender felt bad for me so I got a few free drinks. It's a completely shitty way to behave.
People SUCK.
You deserved better, sorry that happened
I’m going to do this to avenge my fellow males
I meannnnn was u weird? Lol
@@zsazsa4159 No.
People don't realize that posting online is the same as being an author, in that you always reveal more about YOURSELF than intended
It just shows how narcissistic they are
What the author said; "The curtains were blue."
What you misinterpret; "The curtains represent his immense depression and his lack to carry on."
What the author meant; "The curtains were literally the colour blue."
Yeah, i don't know why, but the girl is giving me wierd vibes... There's definitely something she ain't saying about the date, that would be crucial info. Like what was going on before he left?
Maybe she couldn’t stop posting online during the date
If people want to judge this woman for being upset after her date ditched her than that's on them. She might be one of those influencers that vlogs going to get their hair done and baking muffins so maybe she wanted to share it for an online audience she already had and it went viral.
I quit dating apps because I found way more cons than pros. I found it emotionally draining, non stimulating, and counter productive. The point was to connect with people, but I felt no connections. It felt like a game. The quality of people I met was poor. No one had their priorities in order. Or people were just getting out of a relationship like 2 days ago. Or people still living with their wives. Just a mess.
If he's a therapist he shoulda known from the profile picture.
I quit Hinge last weekend. My profile: 38 years old, 5'11, in excellent shape, good looking, and good career (PhD, tenured faculty at an elite university).
I had no trouble matching with women, but I never found someone of comparable quality. Several doctors and lawyers matched with me, but I never met one of them in person because they all either failed to respond to my initial greeting or just unmatched me summarily for no reason. The sense of entitlement among this group was staggering.
Then there are single mothers who want a 'life partner' to help them raise their kids. They don't pitch it that way, but it's the way it would pan out. Thanks but no thanks.
Then there are career-orientated women who realise in their mid-to-late 30s that they want a family and are desperate (in many senses of the word) to get pregnant.
The last group are women who just want to get laid and/or be showered with attention. I can understand the first impulse, but the second one is to my eyes bizarre. I never matched with anyone on the app. Chasing women is a boys' game and I would wait for women to match with me. You would think that if you took the time to match with someone and they responded in good time (i.e. not immediately but a day or two after), that you'd write back to them. But about 80% of the women I matched with never wrote back to me. 80%!
For a time I was convinced these chicks were bots, but my female friends are adamant they're not. They claim they're women who use dating apps to get 'liked' by eligible bachelors simply to make them feel better. That's utterly bonkers, but par for the course in this deranged era of social media.
@@JasonlaroseLaRoseknown what
@@bbailey3055 It helps if you watch the video.
Very true
The worst part of modern dating is poor communication.
I disagree. You can't even get to the communication part when most people are lying before even the first date lol
@@meganod279lying is part of poor communication lmao you’re arguing for no reason
@@meganod279 Wich would also fall under poor communication
@meganod279 that is still poor communication
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Going out out >>> dating apps. I've dated women that wouldn't even blink at me on the apps. It just a completly different feeling going out to meet people naturally, while those apps just make people feel like trash and treat others like trash.
Just out of curiosity and I'm just I don't know I guess I'm a loser or something. Where the fuck do you meet people?
@@hbsharkmanLibraries, bars, clubs, city centres and other locales - Places that hold potential for socialisation.
@hbsharkman bro just like me 💀
Libraries, that's crazy.
@hbsharkman You can go find places to learn or practice hobbies. I started with dancing, but would also do amateur theatre, go to board game meetings etc. Bars and night clubs are more in line with "hooking up". Also try thing you wouldn't normally do. You would be surprised how many different people you can meet like that.
When i lived in Austin i was warned about "serial daters" women that will go on hundreds of dates with hundreds of men just to get an evening out of it.
She got treated like a man.
Foodie calls
This is about a girl, it's her story.not other people's. Why do you feel like commenting about the opposite sex? You know when you can't feel empathy for a woman just because she's a woman and was wronged you have a problem that needs to be addressed.
@@timmytee734 exactly just like those who comment "it harm real victim". When there is a rare case of false accusation made by a woman against a man.
@@timmytee734 You're crying about a problem that doesn't exist. Despite the video being about a woman's experience, op was able to draw a comparison even if the genders were reversed. Ironically, by saying what you said, you don't believe women and men are capable of understanding each other and being able to see similarities in each other's problems, thus no empathy.
The "are we dating the same guy" groups are how tinder Swindler was caught 😂
😂😂😂
@@mr.anderson4755 Oh.
I love that one man acted like an average woman and it became a whole thing 😂
@@_..-.._..-.._Exactly
@@_..-.._..-.._ Bruh.
For me, the only difference in online dating from back in the day is that you could start a conversation with something like "Hi, how are you?" and ask simple questions like "what are your hobbies?", but now if you try this you are considered unoriginal, boring and not worth talking to
Very True.
Been a long time since I've been on an app. But i remember females setting a word limit. You basically had to approach them with nothing short of a light novel. They'll be disappointed when they find out how little cats talk
If you are from normal places, I think it still works, the simple phrases.
Crazy world lol
I'm dating a woman I met on match about 2 months ago now. That's almost exactly how our conversations started lol. But, we are both a year or so away from 50yrs old so our age group tends to not be so loopy as kids in their 20s and 30s.
I can second what Aba said about Tinder. It was notoriously known as a college hookup app.
100%
Yeah that lady made it seem like there's this horny group of people moving from one app to the next and leaving ruin and destruction. I'm not sure why all apps turn into hookup apps but I'm sure those old school ones like eHarmony aren't. It's actually probably about the age of the user more than anything. If they make it boring for young people it would probably be a relationship app.
Abolish it
@@Aaron-kj8dvthere were kind of two tiers. The free apps like pof, tinder, etc. they were for hookups mainly. EHarmony and match, the paid ones, were supposedly for relationships. The "real" ones were filled with bots and people who felt entitled because they paid.
So was Facebook when it started.
My wife and I met online in the 1990s before it was a thing. We hit it off and after meeting in person fell in love and have been solid since. I think something is missing in the overly transactional nature of how it works now. We met playing an online trivia game, started talking about class stuff and working on papers (met in college). We weren’t looking for anything transactional, just humans interacting. That part seems gone to me.
Excellent point
I've left a date at a restaurant only because the girl was not the same person in the photos I chugged my beer dropped $20 on the table for the beer and left. As I walked out she berated me then a female server got mad until I showed her the pictures she then turned her anger on the girl i was meeting
She must've really been a whale
You stayed long enough to drink a beer?
@@prepordietryin9119maybe he got there first
She definitely wanted a free meal and thought you were stupid enough. Good choice to leave, should’ve left a lot sooner though.
Brad i need more my guy. So when you showed the picture what did the server say to the girl and what happened after 😂
Tinder was always a hook up app. Then they tried to pivot.
They met on hinge
I hate that tinder blocked me for asking for a casual thing
I have met younger college girls that wanted me for one night..
and also on tinder, even girls from below the border not from here, on work and church missions, doing it...
After doing both a while...both tinder and real life, it is, both, a random mix.... its all confusing women who dont know what they truly want...
...and ive dated the both of those recently and three times, it wasnt me, ha...
That’s what women do though
Does it matter was it made hookup or not. Whats matters is that when you are on those apps be sure what your intentions are. Be clear of what you are seeking and stop cowering asking no bs questions cause you scared she gonna block or unmatch you.
It's only a matter of time before we hear about someone being "followed" to the restroom because their date thought they were being ditched.
Or you go to the bathroom & come back to find your date gone cause they thought you were ditching them.
@@beewest5704
So... Romeo and Juliette, but for modern audiences?
@@beewest5704 I feel like the first girl should’ve said how long she waited for
If you’re waiting for a whole hour and your date hasn’t come out then I’d get a little concerned and probably text/call them or something
But she didn’t disclose any info between the time she got to the date and when she got home 🤷🏾♂️
If someone says they need to use the bathroom I’m definitely saying me too and following them or making sure I can see where they are going. I’m not being left with someone else’s bill.
@@cecee3480 technically if the waiter/sever saw you with two people you can justify only paying for your meal.
At least that’s what I imagine
The irony of the bumble commercial before and after this video
I just saw eHarmony lol
I just got a bumble ad midway 😂
nahhh😂😂😂 I just saw that shitt
Dude i got one too 🤣
Thought Tinder was a hetro version of grinder hook up app?
Downloaded and uninstalled the Tinder app within 24 hours 😂
That second girl has obviously never spoken to a guy about dating apps. They all have a paywall for men to see their DMs and respond to matches, which are probably fake to convince a guy to pay in the first place.
Criminally underrated comment
There was a thing on reddit where people who worked for online dating companies told their stories and one guy who worked for match and he said they told him to make fake profiles and talk to men a day or 2 before their subscription expires then ghost them after they sign up again.
He also said he could see messages between people and got a free profile as part of his work and girl he was talking to was talking to another guy and he shared his number with her so he went in and deleted the message so she thought she got ghosted and the original guy ended up dating her.
I mean, 75% of Tinder users are men. Some of the remaining percentage are bots, catfishers and fake accounts that exist solely to make men think there are more women on the app than there really are.
These companies exist to make money, not to help you find love and/or sex. I'm not sure how anyone is surprised that they do things meant to part fools from their money.
Exactly it's 1400% worse for men. Men will never in their entire lifetime even get half of the attention women get
you created a comment SO accurately on target it created a singularly point
The last girl I matched with told me her requirements to date her that “everyone follows” are 1) no touching and 2) bring her a gift. I gave the apps a break after that one.
I don't mind the first rule, Second rule though is a bit off. I mean theres nothing wrong with something inexpensive and thoughtful but not if they demand it as a requirement.
@@MusMasibruh if she doesn’t let you touch her it’s not a relationship
@@MusMasi Those rules are glaring red flags
@@burtreynolds8030It's a first date they don't know if they like each other yet.
The gift thing was wild though.
@@MusMasiIf not touching her is a requirement, then it’s followed by “and bring a gift” I think we all know what game is being played here.
To be honest keep first dates short, cheap and during the day (coffee, a walk at the beach, ice-cream)
That way there’s less expectations on both ends and all this trauma can be avoided 😂💀
Yup. First dates should be cheap and kept short so more time isn’t wasted if there’s no compatibility.
This was a drink date
@@Zwirdshe has a full plate of food.
While I agree, a $20 dinner is a cheap short date.
@@NicheGreens I didn't see the plate at first
All my friends moved away after college making it hard for me to go out and meet people. This was also during Covid at its peak. So I turned to dating apps. I will admit most women on that app cannot hold a conversation for shit. But I met my now fiance on that app and haven’t looked back.
People are out there if you’re patient. I’m a very traditional guy (26) and never met someone who was worth my time prior. Don’t give up people
Oh your def right about dating apps. Women on there are terrible. Ill try my luck at a bar or something. At least there i got a better chance at getting a reply
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I would say people are terrible. As a woman, I can say the exact same thing for men. So, it is not a matter of male or female. it is a matter of person.
Getting married? Bruh..
guess you're doing to learn the hard way, even in 2024 🤣
Online dating apps convinced me that women hate men and treat them like crap.
I thought I was just picking bad women, nope. They are all a bunch of narcissistic sociopaths!
I had no idea the contempt for men women had till I started reading profiles..
Just reading the profiles, the ego and the entitlement are as attractive as vomit.
13:40 "you on the app.. you desperate too 🤣🤣 Preach brought it all full circle
facts on facts
I mean women are really hypocrites at this point
My mother actually left me stranded at a dealership before. My and my ex didn’t have a car or a ride to a dealership. So I asked my mom, she said she would take us - and I assumed she would take us home if I didn’t get a car, but she didn’t. She was using her abusive ex boyfriend’s truck and told me how he wouldn’t be happy if she took us home. I am her DAUGHTER. Stranded miles from home with no car. And it was YEARS of not seeing her. We, embarrassingly, had to ask the dealership for help and a dealership employee was kind enough to drive us home.. I was so fucking hurt and betrayed by my own mother. People WILL leave you stranded like that and it can even be your own parents.
Sounds like my mom. My therapist says I was raised by a narcissist. Her man gave her the kind of validation you can’t, so he’s more important to her than you are. And it sucks because no one ever believes your mom is so cold, they always assume there is something you did to deserve it
Sam, you've had a conversation with your Momma about this since ? You need to tell her off
Well your mother is a horrible person. Make sure you get yourself fixed before finding a mate or you risk repeating the cycle
brutal.
A TH-cam comment section is probably not somewhere to vent about your troubles
"Paying to talk to me without knowing me is weird"
What the fuck are dates then?
Hella weird behavior
Yoooooo lmao
That's woman logic for you ☕.
Paying for food or a drink on a date is one thing. We pay for goods and items whether on a date or not.
Paying for some emoji or whatever virtual icon just to message someone is a bit cringe. It should never be that serious; just go out and meet people.
I get it doesn’t make sense to y’all but that’s still how a lot of us feel.
@@mariam2115 We're talking about dates. You're waffling on about stuff unrelated.
Being a therapist shoulda been her first red flag, i met a few therapists out in the world (not as a client), they are all crazy af and will admit thats why they became therapists thinking it would help their own mental issues. It never helps them, if anything makes them even crazier.
I agree 100 percent, same experience
Therapist would never EVER be a positive in my eyes haha
she played herself
this is one of 2 ways it can go. Which I mean, isn't really new right. Why did they used to call them Quacks?
Is it cuz they are speaking a language we don't understand? or does it just not make sense.
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There are three logical fallacies in your argument:
1. The Anecdotal Fallacy: Which is when one draws sweeping conclusions on a broad subject matter using their own personal experiences. Like if I’ve had some bad encounters with therapists, then therapists are bad.
“I’ve met a few therapists out there (not as a client), who are all crazy…” implying that all therapists must be crazy because of your anecdotal experiences.
2. The Fallacy Of Composition: which is when you think what's true for the parts is true for the whole. Like if some therapists are bad, then all therapists must be bad.
3. Lost Cause Fallacy: Which occurs when a person incorrectly assumes something causes something without enough proof.
“They [The Therapists] get into their profession to learn about themselves (A false assumption/false premise fallacy) that’s how they all become crazy.”
In addition to my previous reply, It’s quite interesting how some women who love to use the fallacy of composition to ostracize groups of men, bawl your eyes out when a man does the same. Quite hypocritical, don’t you think?
Say, a guy calls women gold diggers because of his past experiences and you lose your mind over it forgetting that it isn’t any different from this very comment you posted.
I always prefer to go for coffee on a first date. That gives the option for the both of us to “cut it short” without it looking too rude if we’re not to each other’s taste. I would keep dinner for the 3rd or 4th date.
I really think most would honestly, but it’s just some women specifically online saying that women shouldn’t accept that. But they’re only loud online
I hated the coffee dates. I didnt want my coffee to ruined with the potential of not being good enough. Coffee is good with friends you are going to hang out with again
@@chasingsunsets87Then walk around a park that way no party has to pay and leave whenever they want...
This is the best answer. Low pressure on both ends, no alcohol involved to cloud your judgement, you still have your whole day and evening free if it doesn’t work out.
See even this for me seems too formal and structured. When you meet a good partner it's organic, whatever numbered date you're going to eat together on is the last thing on your mind
I remember Tinder just being for hooking up. Then I started hearing about people looking for love on it. I'd always respond with "Why are looking for love on an app that's for hooking up?" and they'd look at me like I was crazy.
Tinder always has and always will be a hookup app. Even if setting up for high value matches, the app will always devolve to hookups. If you start as a hookup app, you’ll never successfully be known to raise standards to high value matches. That’s not how life works. Edit: I should have started with “I agree with you!” Sorry. 🤜🤛
It started as a dating app but became used for hookups more and thats the current status of tinder the hook up app
Still a hookup app. People are just pretentious about being whores now.
@@davantebarbain3216 no, it was even stated from the CEO that tinder was originally for casual encounters, which is strictly hanging out and hooking up
😂my poor cousin is looking for true love on there, he’s probably dated like 10+ women a year and is getting upset about not settling down or finding the “one” and I have the same answer every time… “why the F on you on Tinder?” The couple I’ve met are emotionally unstable. Holy hell dude just hire a professional matchmaker at this point.
I quit using dating apps because it just made me feel actually alone. Hardly get a reply, and when I do it's either some bot, or chick just trying to promote her OF. --- It's like constantly applying for jobs, and they say won't hire me because I don't have experience, and I can't get any experience, because no one will hire me. --- Either way the risks involved in dating aren't worth it. Can hardly think of retiring some day let alone own a house, getting to date, marriage, having kids. paying taxes .. idk how some people do it, I hardly make ends meet, and I don't even have any baggage. I already know i'm gonna end up offing myself when old, alone, & broke. Quiet literally the only reason i'm here is for my brother, & father outside of that idk how i'm still here tbh.
Bro don’t think that way. Sure life can be terrible but it’s about those little moments that bring you joy. You can’t experience happiness without sadness.
Connect with God. You are clearly here for reasons beyond your knowledge right now
@@peaceunion5316mentally weak scape goats are cringe
Hold onto that connection you have with your Father and Brother and back each other up, so you can branch on from there. Try not to think like that, think about the small things that bring you joy and grow it from there, and if things knock you down, go back to those connections you have to know you do have a Foundation.
True, just like searching for a job, it can be soul-crushing. Apps can do a number on you, they make you cynical. Don't go that way. As long as you're healthy and have yr family, it's a lot. Find a job that makes you happy (even if it isn't something that you thought you'd be doing), possibly working among people, and build from there
Most people don't vet hard enough before spending time and money on people. Have a phone call and videocall before meeting people. It won't guarantee that they won't do something like this but it will help greatly reduce it.
Then you’re paranoid and weird. Girls play defense in the dating game so they’ll assume the worst of everything you do. That’s why in person first impressions are more important. You have some degree of control in how you’re represented
Her going on the date without a reliable source of transportation + not carrying enough money on hand for taxi or Uber is a whole big ass red flag…
My mother told me never let a guy pick you up on the first date so he doesn’t know where you live, don’t let him know you live alone & don’t complain abt car trouble - call a friend for car problems & phone a friend for a backup ride..
Don’t leave for a date without money to at least pay for a ride & your half of the date…
That was a sign from god when she needed her car jumped.. she should not have left for the date & worried abt her car/money problems.
💯
The rule for any man or woman who are dating is to have on hand/in a. Out, sufficient funds to pay for the date twice without feeling negatively impacted. If you cannot do this, you cannot afford that particular date.
How any of this even needs to be explained is wild.
I got a strong feeling watching this that there was no guy and that she made it all up to get views. The whole thing seemed very fake to me. She also looked drunk and/or not mentally stable during her venting session.
Yeah but let's not ignore the fact that buddy is a therapist and decided to bounce on her. Man saw huge red flags with her.
People are so mean and unkind. Just no sense of kindness for anyone.
its main character syndrome...they dont think or care about anyone else but themselfs, everyone else is just an NPC there for entertainment...absolute narcicism
That’s what happens when you live in a godless society that promotes Thelema.
She was so obnoxious on the way to the date that he had to bail! That's all that makes sense
@@ashleysanford8645 then he should have the balls to tell her he was leaving and pay his bill like an adult. His behaviour was cowardly.
People that are rude like this need to be banned from the apps
This is why in the Cartibbean they say walk with your "vex money" for such a situation.
For real 😭
My gran called it titty money. You always have enough money in your bra under your tit to get you home no matter who takes you out. Lol.
Facts.
Guyanese mother's motto
I’m from Texas. What’s vex money mean?
I suppose to modify Preach’s club analogy, it’s like paying a cover charge to get into a club because the club advertises all of these attractive, awesome people. You get inside and see a bunch of weirdos, and ask an employee, “Where are all of the people you advertised would be here?” They point you to the VIP section. You shell out additional money to get into that section and start clocking a bunch of potentials. When you go to approach one of them, an employee stops you and tells you that you have to pay additional money in order to talk to someone-in fact, it costs additional for each person you want to approach.
Instead of everyone being in the same space paying the same cover charge and you can approach, accept, or reject anyone.
Is this what happened at Club Pulse?
Tinder was forever an app for hookups not for relationship.. tinder is what started the netflix and chill.. everyone goes there to hookup even the ones creating the app wants u to hook up and never be in a relationship that is what keeps their business going.. if u get in a relationship u delete the app and not use it anymore.. hooking up brings repeat customers to the app..
Spot on. People forget it's a business at the end of the day, so the apps are designed to keep you on them. Hinge's slogan is genius marketing because it lures you in with a false reassurance.
Hookups? well sht, used it for months and no matches. it's over
@@thevoyagerv4499 yeah it was meant for that but women only swipe the top 10% now only.. so tinder is loosing a lot of men as they r wasting money and no results and men are getting scammed in foodie calls so they lost a lot of traffic
Found my partner there 😂 we're on our 6th year together.
@@not0mrhso did I
Yea the apps ruined it for both genders and tbh we F-girl and F-boy as a term for a reason. Half the people can’t communicate, can’t say “we don’t click but you are chill”. And tbh it’s sad but if you ain’t married already good luck. At 33 as a Dj, my industry’s full of people like this. And it’s only gonna get worse.
Not to use stereotypes but I'm not expecting to find wifey material in your industry if you're a DJ
@@SASMADBRUV7who's says he's meeting girls at party's to wife up? I think what OP meant is that he meets hundreds of people who act like this and are still single.
@@SASMADBRUV7Stereotypes are a time saver.
@@Jeremy-wp4yh it's when he said if you're not married then good luck
My husband, a DJ, found his wife. me. a tattoo artist :D I think it's hard for everyone (everyone normal, not fboys/fgirls) to find a legit person. if you are real, you will find a real person-just don't tell ppl you are a DJ, trash is always attracted to titles.
Every week Hinge selects 5 people that they think are the best match for you. You cannot just swipe /like them, you have to send a rose. You get one free rose a week so if you want to like/swipe more than one of them you have to buy roses. Those people don’t come up in your regular choices. That is what she was saying.
Actually there is a work around....if you X on all of them they will pop up in your regular feed....I'm surprised they haven't fixed it yet
Abba clearly did not understand then tried to gaslight preach. That was annoying. Abba, if you’re not using hinge, don’t speak on it. I noticed the change in their algorithm a few years ago and it was beyond annoying. If you don’t pay, you won’t see the folks you normally would swipe on. They know this based on who you “like”/match with. You have to pay.
@@darkslider802this makes no sense bc eventually you will need to actually “like” ones you actually are interested in…. What else is the point of the app. Your comment is asinine at best.
I know what you’re talking about. Technically Hinge is deceiving you. What the app doesn’t tell you is that those five people they select are the ones who Hinge thinks are best matches for you. But also are profiles with a lot of activity. Meaning that they already get lots of people liking their profile frequently
This apps sound terribly complicated nowadays 😂
as someone who did online dating from 2001-2008 and then stopped and went back in 2012 and then again in 2015. its NOT the same it has not always been the same. i will never go back to online dating and i loved it in that first half lol
How was it different from the past may I ask?
@@tobiaslawrence8928less fuck boi culture and more looking to connect with someone. Whimsical societies cause people to behave flakey.
@@VCRAGEfalse. The prob is women only choosing 5% of men. They've created the thing they hate. If they started giving average guys a chance, these problems would go away overnight. But attractive dudes with alot going for themselves don't have any incentive to be good men since thousands of women are throwing themselves at them.
Remember back then in the start in 2001 we were labeled as so weird and so risky for dating online and then everyone decided to join and act like they weren't insulting us that we're trying at the beginning..back then ppl were a lot more fun and laid back and not acting like it was a competition
@@jessicahawks3223 yessss! thats what it feels like exactly. it didnt used to feel like a competition now it does. ugh
“Is that you Cindy??” 🤔🤔🤔 _VROOM_
😂😂😂
"Is that you Tiffany??" 🚗💨😂
Man, dating apps destroyed my confidence. Girls would match with me just to not talk to me. All I did was just swipe with no progress.
I'm sorry that it happened to you and so many others. Those matches just fed their egos. Loads of M and F are like that on apps. Some ppl really find partners but the apps are not meant for that. Try the real life, some hobby in a social environment. Have fun and build yrself up in a healthy way. In the end, nobody can be sure to find love, but do what matters to you and do yr best
@@anabltc Thanks for the advice, really appreciate it. I’m trying to focus more on me. Heck, doing a solo trip to another country for the first time to prove I can do it. Been doing well so far. Going to get back to running and gaming again.
Its an Ego trip
@@skyemilk one of my guy friends told me he does that too to boost his confidence. I mean I get it but the people at the receiving end lose confidence. I understand that they are not responsible for our lack of confidence. It just sucks, that’s all I’m saying.
Don't even trip. A lot of people online are bots or there to play games. Online seems to bring out the worst people.
I wouldn't take it personally.
7:30 Turning the computer screen off with H3H3 playing is gold
Getting ad revenue while slick dissing. Aba and Preach at their finest
I was just about to write my appreciation for the comedy 😅 👌🏽
Of course. They can’t keep clowning of F&F now that their platform has gotten substantially smaller.
Yes they can lol@@terraventusaqua123
@@terraventusaqua123or maybe because H3H3 keeps talking about them and F&F doesn't?
Sneak diss not slick
Abba is right. I live in NYC. Everyone was talking about Tindr & Grindr were hook-up apps; no dating, no nada. Grindr was moreso for gay men, but it was crazy in it told you exactly how close (and how many) other Grindr users were in your IMMEDIATE vicinity. It was ALL about the hook-up.
The therapist clocked the BPD in the first hour, and needed that drink to climb out the bathroom window
BPD can be hell to deal with, especially the distortion campaigns. I know not all BPD sufferers do this but if you have been stung a few times you become extremely wary.
Yeah. Something happened during the date, all he got was a drink.
@@Zheratulshould have communicated like an adult
Yeah, somethings not mathing up for a dude to just bail like that.
@@tweatification Some people are just natural born cowards and instead of being honest and saying the just didn't feel like it was gonna go well, offer to at least pay for a ride home or something he just left. True, dunno what might have happened on the way there but the vibe I get he just runs away from things he doesn't like rather than be a stand up guy.
My theory is that all the people with brains and are decent will leave the dating apps inevitably leaving said apps with the worst/dumbest people. I’d be fine with that. They can all be each other’s problem
Yeah. It’s just easier for deceptive people to be deceive online. Meeting people through real life is just more unfiltered and you meeting a real person.
Don't underestimate how much people love convenience
@@CorinthianIvory Yeah, me personally tho I get over it. McDonald's is on the way between my stops at times but I have better food at home. Thats just me tho
Turning off H3 H3 in the middle of your ad saying you were suppressing unwanted noise was fantastic😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Interesting how no one has any idea what happened on the date yet still make judgements on the guy. Two sides to every story.
I think it was found out that he was a like a serial dater or something.. not sure but that’s what I heard.. but still ur right there’s always two sides and the truth
"How am I supposed to talk to you?" 💀
Telepathically, of course.
Gonna need the Neurolink lol
Not if you cane enough Ketamine. @@DtehHermit
Well...browsing the comments I can see why interpersonal relationships have been twisted into a weird marketplace thing rather than...y'know forming a relationship with a person
So I did this kinda, Took a girl to the movies, she picked up her phone mid movie and started arguing with her ex in the movie. I got up went to my car and drove home 🤷🏾♂️. Blocked and deleted her off everything.
good on you lol
Don’t blame you!
Why block them? Think of all the sport trolling you're missing out on.
You didn’t do what he did. You paid for your movie and snacks at least.
9:40 True that hahaha. The amount of times I saw on bumble profiles "I don't message first" was crazy. Like why are you here then??
Attention. Most girls staying on apps just want to get likes. The other ones get flooded by men and quit cause it’s overload.
I met girls on hot or not in the early 2000s. it was great because not a lot of dudes were online because it was not cool. And all the women were like "if anyone asks we met at the library". it was down hill from there.
I found that Okcupid was great when it first came out.
@@leehalloway8787 i met alot of girls on Okcupid when it just started, it was really good. Got hookups and relationships. Checked back on it few months ago and had to delete. Our times were so much easier.
😂😂😂😂😂
@@leehalloway8787 okc was 38 fire emojis
@@leehalloway8787 Plenty of fish wasnt bad either at first. me a few women there.
7:25 Ngl throwing shade in the middle of a promotional ad is actually crazy lol Well timed 😂😂😂👌🏽
It happened to me twice. Twice. I am no longer on apps as I am engaged. God speed for yall out there.
he’s a therapist, and he blocked you.., that honestly makes sense
The girl trying to tell the "history" of online dating apps and lying in the first 15 seconds is tough work lol.
Might be she is misinformed and not deliberately lying, but she should do her research then and not open her mouth on something if she is that ignorant on the subject and try an lecture on it.
Lying is the wrong word
@@benja303Lying is the correct world. It's 2024, information is free and plentiful, so to push misinformation pretty much outs you as a fraud.
It's best to fact check anything women say. They love to omit important information and misrepresent things.
@@benja303no she lied. It was never branded as the app to find love as per Aba reading of the article sighting tinder’s rise.😂 she also said it came out when she was in high school in 2010. Aba read the article that said the app launched in 2012.
“Create trauma, create demand” lmfaooo
The world system
Modern dating isn't an issue bcuz of social media. People who date RANDOMS are always more likely to experience stuff like this. Date people u know and u can limit this modern or not
Exactly. Ppl forgot how to be friends. The “friend zone” should be looked upon as a foundation but ppl take it for this place where you can’t form a relationship, which imo is weird.
Yea you are right. We think we have to get right into dating or there is no chance, but it's all about making friends first. Then eventually someone in that friend pool might be a potential match for dating.
True
@@bunnyrabinot true actually this isn’t a one way thing relationships happen in different ways there is no organized way it works.
True but because of social media people have so much more of an option and so are convinced they can get 'better', they will never be satisfied with who they have because of that
I think the problem is too many matches at your finger tips makes you too picky. Yea and social media makes it worse. And i do believe too much online dating makes everything worse.
"Create Trauma, Create demand" 😭😭😭 oh my gosh 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Gotta love how the girl says that the apps have gone downhill, blame hinge for declining for placing her good matches behind a pay wall but said it was better originally and she had tons of matches.....Lady, why didn't you find your forever after when you were surrounded by your perfect matches? Sounds like she needs to look at herself instead of blaming the app
The old husband store joke has now become reality
These women can't help but play the "what if the next guy" game
Until the wall arrives
@@capo4270and that’s exactly what all these dating apps excel at. In some ways you could argue it shares some similarities with gambling. Why settle for the option presented in front of you when you can swipe and get a potentially better option?
Its almost like she didnt know businesses were made to make money😂.
She even had someone to asked to show his face so they can say something, and she did for reason, these women are snakes
And the fact she an "independent feminist" who was offered a ride
Correct. Tinder launched as the hetero version of Grindr that was already making waves in that community. Eventually it expanded to all forms of relationship but never shook off it's original 'mission' forcing spin offs by former employees like Bumble. Now Tinder is focussing on the sugar daddy (plausibly deniable escorting) with their new very expensive membership option because they see that sugar dating websites are making waves (when young girls on school playgrounds start bragging about how they want a sugar daddy when they're old enough you know that it's become normalized and a cultural phenomenon.. like OF.). Capitalism. God help us all. Sex is profitable, serious relationships aren't.
Haha one can deny, it won't be plausible.
The oldest trade ever in history. Sex will always sell.
Blame capitalism and not the natural state of women in a feminist environment. Women all want to extract resources from men, feminist societies encourage the transparency and behavior of S working
I thought it was the other way around? That Grindr arrived after Tinder
Lol it isn’t property rights’ fault that people are promiscuous. Sometimes an economic system can’t be blamed for everything, but hey, makes you sound smart!
I love how you guys communicate to each other. Great points.
There is a lot she isnt telling us.
You tell me a man went out of his way to pick you up, go to a restaurant, ONLY ORDER A DRINK when he theoretically couldve finessed you for more, and left?
Nah there's more to this story.
Haha true I get what you mean.
Facts mane, this shit isn’t adding up like why he asked her on a date just to mysteriously leave. Men don’t do stuff like that without a reason.
@@easylife6348stop cursing its a sin
She seems to be on shit from the beginning to me. Or is she just like all that?
@@easylife6348 true. I mean you’d almost hope that she’s telling the truth given that she had the nerve to post his picture, and potentially ruin his career and personal life. It’s unbelievable the lows people will stoop to once you refuse to put up with their bullsh**.
I uninstalled dating apps a few years ago because I don't connect with people over seeing a few photos and knowing whether or not they think pineapple on pizza is wack. I second guessed myself about whether I was rejecting profiles too easily and ultimately only went on one (unsuccessful, awkward) date over fourish years of trying them on off. It felt very one sided all of the time. If I got a rose from anybody I'd probably crawl into a hole out of shame. I'd hate the sense that I was obligated to talk to them because they wasted their two bucks or whatever too. I'm lucky I was able to meet someone the old fashioned way not too long after I realized dating apps weren't for me.
Literally women are dating the same men because they shrank they're dating pool and those men are having fun being in high demand. The fact women use an app called "are we dating the same guy" says a lot about dating.
Most people dating online are dating the same people. That being said Most people do not use dating apps so they're not having that issue.
Exactly, they scream men are cheaters and fboys but that's because they all want the "666". 6 figures, 6 foot, 6 pack. Lol. Most men are not that lol. And if they don't have that man, he is a place holder until she manufactures a way to get out of being with him or cheats. Recognize female nature. The consider the 1% as all men, there is no use telling her there are more genuine men, they don't care lol
If you are not going to keep those dishonest men accountable, you are part of the problem
If you live in a small city your chances of dating the same person increases, women who are online dating aren't dating one guy at a time hoping it sticks when they have a bunch of other options available.
@@renenetatm8222 we will as long as you keep dishonest women accountable also. Don't scream at men but whisper at women. Keep the same energy
It’s annoying how some women excuse their behavior by calling the man weak for not wanting to deal with them
Go to sleep.
Ik I need to
no.
It's actually 9am here
4am. perfect time for aba and preach
No you
This is why I deleted Hinge, it was getting ridiculous I had good conversations with people but it never went anywhere and at this point I kept getting the same people on my feed and the people that "liked me" was quite humbling as a lot of people had said too, because they were not my type. I had it for months and held on for as long as i could and I got the hint that I would have to pay in order to get at least "decent" people nah.
I met my husband on POF. Now I know this was like 10 years ago now but I found most people I talked to who had a hard time on dating apps were going about it all wrong. They either had weird standards or didn't stick to good standards to weed out the losers. Maybe I just got lucky but I generally had a fine time.
You got extremely lucky. Marrying someone from an app is 💯 the exception.
I agree… I also met my husband on an online dating site, OkCupid. We dated for 6 years, and we just got married. I also believe that many people that have difficulties on these apps approach them wrong to begin with.
@Drageisha I know lots of married couples who met on pof. Two who met on tinder. I'm 33 and it's the minority of couples in my peer group who met in real life.
the ad edits were good this time! nice b-roll and you kept it moving in a fast paced way that kept attention. the audio change to one of preaches part was a little jarring tho
“I don’t like it” “do you want some waffle fries” reference at the end baahhahahahah
I moved underneath a rock last year and i'm loving it
Why?
😂
Is this patrick?
Must be nice. I hope one day you at least expand to a hobbit hole. Looks very comfy.
I've never had a long-term relationship that came from online dating. It's always been with people I met first in person. I've met my best friends in real life from online (gaming), but not relationships. Meetup is really the best place to meet new people. Just get out there and meet people in person. For me, in online dating you lose that connection you can have when you first meet someone.
Yeah but I have friends and coworkers who met their spouse through online dating as an intro. It works for a lot of people despite it not working for you. 🤷♀️ I wouldn’t advise to stop using apps to anyone. I would advise not paying too much unless you’re paying an actual matchmaker (a person, not AI).
Yup, looking for a relationship on dating apps is crazy to me.
I know a few people that had succes, but they had so many miles in it before it even happened.
To me, i would rather engage in real life.
A lot of women on these dating apps are also pretty damaged in some type of way out of my experience, or they tend to be super masculine in their attitude.
3 out of 5 my long term relationships came from online dating and my fifth relationship was when I met my fiance and my husband to be. He loves me so much. Very excited to be getting married.❤
My sister met her husband met on one after 4 weeks they were exclusive and they have been married 12 years, 2 kids and a big house in London. Very happy family.
It works if you know what you are doing but the quality people get snatched up quickly. I was on the app for only 2 to 3 weeks before meeting my fiance.
Meetup hobbies are filled with senior citizens and that website is still damn near unusable even after all the years of its existence
Yes, meeting in mixed activity groups with no pressure of ‘date interview’ is more comfortable, more organic, more real. Meet Up or particular type of events mean you already have something in common to spark up a conversation
Preach: Ty SO much for not focusing on men vs women when you were talking about the foul behavior of abandoning someone mid-date (first story). Doesn’t matter who does it, those who do that are just doing foul behavior.
Most folks commenting on these videos dogpile on women doing it as if it’s ’typical female behavior’.
The “are we dating the same guy” group for my city really is a good one. Nobody’s on there just clownin dudes for small things. People who post do it for GOOD reasons you know.
I’m not dating right now but man I have seen it GO DOWN on that page.
Married men are common
is crazy because it also supports the theory that 80% of women go for the top 20% of men. women choose the same dudes and the same dudes are causing the issues
Back in the 90’s and early 00’s, on most dating sites men paid for membership and women were free to join. And before the websites there were chatlines where you talked to people and met sight unseen. No pics, just a voice. Kind of like love is blind.
And before that, it was personal ads in newspapers.
@@AngryReptileKeeper And before that it was some lady at church/temple/friendly gathering with the perfect niece or nephew.
@@barongerhardtOddly enough, my pastor is trying to set me up with her nephew, the good ways never stop, lol!
Its wild seeing some of those personal ads from 100-150 years ago @@AngryReptileKeeper
Most men on these apps kind off still pay for memberships and women not.
Because if you have 10 likes for example, the app will most of the time not present them to you.
In other words, some people swipe for weeks without finding 1 match.
Paying kind of helps getting pushed more forward.
Women can swipe once or twice and have a match.
Mfs instantly commenting when the vid drops, what did yall watch.
Exactly not even 6 minutes😂
😂
They prolly just skim through
Lmao shut up
Yeah, it's bitter men that think this is a war between men and women instead of everyone should have good character. Andrew tate brainrot losers i tell you
If I knew my date is the kind to record all her life for no reason I would do the same. Selfie people are a pest.
Online dating only works when you as an individual have learnt to sift through overly entitled people and those you are not interested in.
When looking at womens and mens dating profiles there are very clear signifiers in a lot of cases as to what type of people they are - not 100% accurate but you eventually learn to avoid certain types of people based on how they structure their profiles and end up dating a much better range of people who are genuinely wanting to find a partner.
If you're swiping right to all for example as a man you get a mixed bag and its a fundamental waste of time if properly intending to date, as a woman if youre only swiping on people who are in the higher ranges of attractiveness most of those people aren't interested in a relationship with you unless you are genuinely within the same looks range from their sexes perspective (your own ratings for yourself man or woman arent accurate as its the intended sex who make the rating based on their own process).
Have fun dating, just make sure you know what you're after before diving in as to not waste yours and others time.
Online dating has resulted in people focusing more on presentation that personality. They will upload all these great looking photos of them travelling, carrying out their hobbies and the mandatory thirst trap or 5, but when you talk to them, no substance comes across. Obviously it's better to get a 'feel' for them in-person, but when you try and meet them to get to know them, they assume you're a freak. Whether it's to date or hookup, the best thing to do is vet people and that's better irl. Because a lot of people spend all their time meeting other people virtually, their social skills are non-existant and nobody's out here trying to connect with a husk.
Unaccountable. She went out of her way to explain the history of the dating apps completely wrong to make men look majority low quality. The truth is people today are shallow about their standards but dont want to seem like it so much, so they die on the hill that everyone sucks when most people would make the most loving supporting partners if we just stopped being greedy.
She's a woman what do you expect 😂. They have no integrity
She said her type is ‘went to ivy and works in corporate America’ she’s mid and wants a successful smart guy
@@Tickerchicken my type is a millionaire who's easy to emotionally manipulate 😂
This specifically her experience, and you can say that’s her choice, but you don’t know someone is a asshole til they show you
@@BlaxkSun What you said doesn't even make sense because she's not speaking about her experience she literally attempted to give a history of dating apps and lied about everything 😂
dude saw 20 red flags in 20mins 😂
7:39 that lady pretending to sleep but watching you is hilarious
The more the floor creaks the better the story 😂
I haven’t been on a dating app in almost 9 years, however, that hasn’t stopped bots or whoever wants to steal my photos from making fake profiles. I randomly get told from people in my hometown from time to time.
When she speaks, she ruins everything.
That man hit her with the uno reverse card.
Insta filters Vs Reality
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I have an old work colleague from a liaise agency that is on a date every other day via dating sites, she has her insta pics on there, everything, and she looks nothing like her pics because of the filters. She's probably been stood up a good 75% of her dates, and it's completely understandable. Given she's a close friend of ours we've had discussions about it, she acknowledges the issue, but she admits if she puts originals on she knows she won't get the dates that she currently gets - she's a manager too, for a whole mental health division
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
thats the thing...women on the apps have a lot of ways to filter and weed out actually trashy people, theirs (and their own) profiles, how they get approached, how the other side acts etc, THEN they choose the bad experience and instead of changing their "filter" to not weed out the good guys they will just complain and go to the next date with someone that will eventually be the reason they complain again.
Yeah see...she needs to take the filters off. I did some online dating some years ago and never used a filter in my life. Surprisingly, every guy I met in person after meeting them online said I look better in person. She may be surprised at how guys will think she actually looks
The Irony LOL!!
If she didn't look the same as her pictures he could have ditched before they ordered anything.
Did she date you ? How do you know this much
My only hope is that one negative experience with someone won’t turn you away from having positive experiences with others!! Life’s too short to be standing in your own way! ❤
Abba described how tinder worked from the start correctly. App was for casual sex and then so my women tried to force it into a relationship app. Tinder met them half way just to get more women to sign on but the app always was and always will be for casual sex just much much worse now
12:29 - this is a generational difference. Back in the day, drinks were bought by men for women at the club to get a conversation started. That was the game. There’s a bunch of dudes at the club so you had to stand out. That’s how it worked.
And paying was the way to stand out lol
And then the chicks started taking the drinks with no intention of talking to the guy and guys stopped doing it. And now the women are crying that men never approach them anymore.
Dating is just prostitution with extra steps lol.
Facts. , women abuse and manipulate every game then get made when men figure it out and move on. Women bust themselves
The whole scene has shifted for the worse for everyone. The GenXers and above are the ones who feel it the most because we have seen the shift. The younger generations now have little to no social skills. Its all a big mess.
After the "chick orders 48 oysters and got left with the Bill" incident, i think its 100% acceptable to ditch a date... for the right reason, they're being rude or insulting then get up and walk away.
If women have the right to it or have it be acceptable when they do then its equal. They stated this shit and changed the rules, now its coming to bite them in the ass.
Can't we'll just grow up & do neither?
Stop cursing its a sin dude.............
Imagine unironically stranding someone in a restaraunt without a ride and making them pay your bill and thinking that's anywhere near acceptable behavior.
No, that's pure fucking evil. Unless they pulled out a knife and threatened to kill you on the way home you at least pay your tab and offer to drive them home first. Jesus christ what is actual the fuck wrong with you.
@@gregkareem9824Who said that?
Ditching a date has never been acceptable for women. You just want a reason to be a bihh, just don’t go on dates.
The most obvious scenario was that her pictures were completely filtered, making them inaccurate.
He then saw her got annoyed and left.
He's not attractive though. Both are in the same league. People need to be realistic. You're not going to be dating the most beautiful men or women in the world. Those beautiful people live in LA, NYC, Milan and Paris and they are all dating and marrying each other.
He could have left instantly if she didn't look like the woman in the pictures instead of sitting down and ordering food. People are trying to justify this because it happened to a woman.
She's beautiful
I’m not saying she’s ugly people. I’m saying that her pictures are inaccurate. I’m sorry, but we don’t know what he’s attracted to and women have a bad habit of editing out all of their flaws.
When they edit out their flaws they also aren’t attracting the guys who would see those perceived flaws as positive.
I’m not saying he’s a model and thus deserves a model. I’m saying that she might have edited her photos making herself appear to be his type and she’s not actually his type.
@@Zwird You can’t be serious with this “because it happened to a woman” nonsense.
I’ve seen women yell “you’re ugly, don’t talk to me” at a man intentionally trying to embarrass him, just for approaching.
No one gave a shit about his feelings.
pretty sure shes done that before herself too.
I was just talking about this with a friend yesterday. He's been on tinder recently and he only gets few matches. And he is not ugly or average by any means. This guy is handsome, 6 foot master race. Im 5'6. I got a debuff 😂 and he says even i have more luck than he does. But i dont use tinder, i prefer hinge. Even though it's still a version of tinder on steroids, at least i can message first and maybe get some interest and that fits me better than mindless swipping. I think it comes down to personal preference and what works for you.
I got SO pulled into her story, then you 2 goofs come up on screen and have me laughing like the kid at the back of the classroom!
When aba was talking about people need to go out more: thats a gamble too. You are playing with your luck that whatever you choose that you are interested in will produce single people of the gender that you want to be with.
If you stick with things you like and it produces low to nothing results then online dating is where you gotta go because your interests are so niche it doesnt produce the people you want.
Not to mention theres no guarantee that the single people you are around find you attractive at all. They could find you good enough to be friends with but never good enough to actually be with.
I run into that a lot personally and then when you bring it up, they say some BS like...."i never thought of you like that, or that never came up in my mind."
Both online dating and in person meeting people is a shit show because people dont want to be honest with themselves.
I surround myself with gamers, and nerds. Their preferred woman doesn't look like me, but a thot, baddie, hot tub streamers, OF model, the one with tons of makeup, fake hair, nails, and lashes. They claim they don't like them, but they still would choose her because they think that's the ideal, that's what everyone wants. Maybe for the status, maybe just for the beauty, but either way, they find me ugly, frumpy, or disinteresting. So I agree with you, a lot of people are delusional.
@@JadedeaJade if this is how you really look, you are pretty and hopefully you find a community of guys that will see that and one of them or whatever style of relationship you want they will partake. It's tough out there for all and people are in crazy delusions. I can admit it. I don't want no only fans girl but I also can admit that I have watched way too much mainstream media to know that I probably will forever struggle with what is beautiful or not. I am not gonna stopwatching it. It's become my identity at 35 years old. So I communicate and articulate that this is part of who I am. My measure of beauty was socialized on every level. From movies and tv shows to friend groups and society.
I am a heavy set dude that is athletic who has always struggled with his weight surrounded by guys the same size and body shape as Klaus Mikaelson and Damon Salvator and Ryan Reynolds etc. I was and am the turtle from entourage in friend groups. Just minus the car skills and ability to figure out where I am. I have a horrible sense of direction. But at least I know it. 90 percent of my dating struggles is on me.
I have a contrarian existence that requires someone to be stable within themselves that is sure that they want to be with me. I can't have anyone that's insecure, looking for truth, or questioning anything.
Literally my job as a behavioral scientist is to question and test. I need some stability in my life that I don't have to question. That's why I am who I am and I'm not interested in changing that. I value stability and security. I know that's not popular today.
The culture is questioning and wondering whether or not they should leave America etc. All of that gives me major anxiety. But I know this about myself and I can communicate it on a date or anywhere. I know myself. Plenty of people don't know themselves like that.
@@Dr.Beetlejuice110 Thank you, and good luck to you too! You sound attractive, and I like that you're a behaviorial scientist. That must be fun. I mean you've got so much data it would be hard to pick a lane. Thanks again Doc!
@@JadedeaJade thanks!! Yeah, it's interesting for sure.
@@JadedeaJade cap they're just not into you.
Bro really said I’m not getting paid for this 😭
You guys say being on the app or paying money is desperate, but what is a person supposed to do when they're serious about finding a serious relationship? I put effort into my profile, I invest to get the best matches, and I put the time in to search and vet my potential matches. I do all this so I can find a partner who will be good for me, well-matched, and want the same things for our relationship and life together. Why is wanting a serious relationship considered "desperate"?
Met my wife there. In the end of the day, if your intention is good you will meet that kind of person. Don't be blind or scared to ask no bs questions. If she understands what you are asking and not getting offended thier a chance it might be her. As always have a good intention and the world answer backs
The only reason I could possibly think of him ditching her is that she ordered super super expensive food and was totally uninterested in the guy. But I feel that there's something that she's definitely not telling us, and that she hides, probably to protect her from accountability. Because the story sounds crazy, there must be something missing...
Maybe she is hiding or maybe she's telling the truth but I have heard worse stories that did actually happen. As it crazy as it may sound to you, it does.
“It must be her fault” head ass
Yea that is what I am thinking. Especially since he left after drinking only one drink, I can't imagine someone going through all that trouble just for one drink.
Yeah it’s crazy that when most guys discuss ditching a bad date, people don’t want to give them the benefit of the doubt. That they believe there’s more to the story. Yet when a lady does the same thing, people aren’t supposed to question it??
@@lisablack4290 I'm not saying that there aren't assholes who would do that, I just feel like her story was not full. She didn't comment anything about the actual date, how it was going, what was said, done, etc. Just "he got up and left". That's why, to me, it sounds fishy...
Ok, I highly doubt that Ray guy just picked her up, drove her to the restaurant, ordered a drink and just left right after. Nine times out of ten she either said something or did something to make him leave. 🤷🏾♀️
Kiya, she was probably a catfish . she ain't telling the whole story
He was a serial cheater and doing that often. So, don’t make excuses for men like this.
@@ap9212 but he didn't even do anything this girl? He left after 1 drink after having picked her up in the first place. He really got nothing out of this driving there probably cost more than the 1 drink all he did is lose time. Seems very odd to do for no gain which is why it feels like there's more to this story to make him do this.
@@ap9212youre bitter
@@ap9212this happens because from my experience women ask little to no questions about you, all women want is a good time or to feel good they could care less about the guy if you just offer to take them somewhere nice they are good to go and don’t know anything about even on the date asked nothing at all so it’s like what do you expect did they ask if he was single or what he was trying to do or anything about him to figure out what type of person he is?