overall, i'm investing in myself for all of 2025 and damn nobody getting in the way of that. Marriage is overrated. I stand by the phrase, once a cheater, always a cheater. Time is something we can never get back, only learn from the failed time we lose.
Keep your chin up Repzion, keep it pushing .... the pieces will come together during the journey ❤❤ much ❤ from 🇨🇦 wishing u the Merriest Christmas and Peace 🙏 in 2025
A work schedule is a good way to keep you centred, have routine and give you a reason to wake up, helping ward off depression when personal life isn’t the best. Please take a break from relationships, your head needs to be in the right place. Take a few months off and spend time with friends, go do some irl social stuff (movies, escape rooms, whatever), but then, when you feel ready, try bumble (of all the apps), my friend who has relatively recently met someone new (couple of years ago now) has told me that he finds bumble to be the least damaging to your mental health. From what I understand, women initiate contact, and things get off on a better foot. ❤
i love you and enjoy all of your content! You've helped me unknowingly im sure through a really tough time. this year has been shit for me as well. I lost my home, my dog, and my patience. thanks for engaging with us from your random lives. Some creators never know who's life they're touching by offering and ear and empathy. Thanks danny!
A word of advice from a 52 year old. Take at LEAST 1-2 years before you get into another love relationship. And as someone who was a nurse for 18 years, I once went 17 years without having Christmas Eve and Day off in the same year.
42 yr old here, I 100% agree with this advice! I spent my entire 20s in a terrible, toxic relationship which ended right before my 30th birthday. I waited 2 years to start dating again and then casually dated 2 guys briefly. I decided dating just wasn't for me and that I had no desire to try anymore. With in a month of making that decision I met my current partner of 11 years. By far the healthiest and happiest relationship I've ever been in and for sure my forever person. We're not married but that's just because it's not important to either of us but we have every intention of being together forever. People always say that when you stop trying that's usually when you find your person and that was so true for me. Waiting that 2 years to start dating allowed me to heal from my previous relationship and not bring that baggage into the new one. When you do start dating again, it might be a good idea to try giving someone a chance that you normally wouldn't go for. It seems like you may subconsciously be going after the same kinds of toxic people. Unfortunately, when you go through trauma from relationships we tend to pick the same types of people with out realizing it. You definitely need time to heal though and until you do, you probably will keep attracting these same kinds of people. I never did online dating so I have no advice there. I wish you luck though! You deserve happiness and you will find it. It's definitely out there for you! Hope you have a great Christmas!
@@Repzion this 51-year-old. Also agrees with the 52 year old. My last three relationships consisted of nine years, one year, 11 years after the last one I’m like you know a lot enough for that. While it’s great to have someone around once in a while at the end of the 11 year relationship, I find myself spending more time to myself, Except for when it came time to my daughters, but besides that that was it, I was just fine and happy earning my businesses
56 here and what you are saying is true. Also don't actively seek a relationship. Real ones just happen naturally and when you least expect it. And it should feel natural and not work at all.
Hey these last 5 years I’ve watched you grow … you are the same age as my eldest child You are doing absolutely ok you will see this thru we’ve all been where you have the journey it’s going to be bumpy what you are going thu is perfectly normal …..seriously you are doing ❤more than ok ….
I watched a video of a penguin in Antarctica freaking out because a cameraman approached him and he didn't know what a human was. Fantastic. 👌 (The title was "Emperor Likes Me", if you want to watch it. Highly recommend.)
Whilst it isn't our business think about it. You just listened to someone talk about something that has bothered them but not give the reason for half an hour, it feels like avoidance behavior and it's a little hard to watch someone wanting to open up and not fully doing it and holding themselves back on purpose. Nobody needs the nitty gritty details and a real in depth analysis but how can you expect people to offer anything more than base level platitudes and "vibes" when you never say the word and he doesn't deserve that. I wish him well, hope he gets more free time, heals himself and takes a holiday somewhere to disengage from everything and take some solo time and I really, really hope he doesn't go full r/blackpilled
As someone who is old enough to be your mom, I just want to give you a big hug. I am so glad you are in therapy. Getting your mental health care needs met is so important. I hope you find all the love you deserve.
I’m really sorry to hear about your struggles this year. You’re a sweet, kind and vulnerable person. These kinds of people attract narcissistic pigs. It’s not a *you* thing, honey. It’s a *them* thing.
Daniel, I get where you’re coming from 1000%. Relationships are not easy, and especially in this weird time period where no one wants to build a human connection. As someone who has experienced much of the same issues you’re describing in your video, just know you’re not alone. Having hope is hard, but if it’s any consolation, we’re proof people want a genuine connection and love. Focus on you for right now, but keep hoping - the magic will find you eventually. Every “failure” is a lesson ✨
The problem is that you are seeing a relationship and thinking marriage. You need to find the PERSON. And as cliché as it may sound, the best will come when you stop looking. Take a year or two to focus on yourself and your career, and the rest will fall into place. I've never followed you much, but I've always enjoyed what I've seen when I do watch; you seem like a genuinely good and honest human being. That's rare these days! Dont just go giving your treasures to just anyone because you want that companionship. I wish you all the best in the coming year 🖤
The fact you keep going, keep building, keep striving and keeps doing what you believe is best for you, is a truly admirable quality in a man. You are the creator that inspired me to begin as a creator and I am glad you are still here and still creating your fantastic content.
I got married at 37. ( Not for lack of trying) I had issues. Needed rehab, and then lots of therapy. Sadly ( i hurt people in😢) i was the problem. But i healed. I married. 7 years in so far- so good. You are loved. And i am happy your gonna stick around.
Politically and socially I agree with your on very little but I have always enjoyed your content and valued what you put out. I'm very glad you didn't leave the app
Hey, just wanted to let you know I appreciate your comment as a fan of Repzion. You disagree but still support someone we both like regardless of unaligned views. I highly respect your open mind and respect you even more for enjoying the content of a person you disagree with on topics. Keep on as you are and I hope you have a good day/life, friend.
Sorry you've been through shit ~ In the Uk there's a law where workers are entitled to a minimum of 11 rest hours between shifts. Keep strong because life will get better and you'll find your special person 🧡
Mid 50's Englishman here, I've watched you from almost the beginning and I would like to say, from my experiences, the secret to this "life stuff" is to relax. I still fail at that relax thing sometimes, and i've learned that it's OK to fail, but the ups now outstrip the downs. Keep going, keep doing what you're doing, and this will come good.
Never apologize for being vague. It’s your personal life and you don’t need to share anything you don’t want too. I’m so sorry that you have been through so much. I hope this next year treats you much better. Focus on you for a while. The right one will come when you least expect it.
Man, i relate to the dating struggles so much. People seem to only want hookups, or they ghost for seemingly no reason. But its also hard to meet anyone irl. Dating in your 30s is rough. I'm sorry it's been a tough year Daniel. Hopefully 2025 will bring nothing but positivity and happiness ❤
I'm 44. I met my late partner in 97. I lost him in March to Glioblastoma. We had two extra years before things went bad. Trying to find someone to connect with, especially when you're different. Like Neurodivergent different. I don't know if I will find someone again, but I hope to. I wish you luck as well.
Try telling this to people who think if this doesn't happen, then the guy is stringing the girl along as a placeholder, etc. People heavily criticise my bf and I for being together "long term" (4 years this year) and waiting for when life circumstances are correct with properly stable housing and work being consistent enough on my end for that next step to be considered
laughs in proposed after 4 months, long distance for two years, living together with family for 5 years and now 6 months in our own appartment, still engaged. But I guess staying engaged is more of a European thing.
My husband and I got engaged after a week of dating. We got married within the year. This year we're celebrating 21 years of marriage. Sometimes when you know, you know. (Which is not to say I didn't make a lot of mistakes before I met my husband!)
I've watched you since I was likely 16. I'm 22 now. I watched almost all of your videos with baited breath whenever you uploaded because I respect your wisdom. I relate to you on a personal level as someone who came out of religion. You, like many of the youtubers that I have watched over the years, have heavily impacted my world view. Thank you for giving me your perspective and helping me identify toxic behaviors that I and the people around me do. I may not always agree with you, I may think you're a bit of an ass- But so is everyone else. You continue to be yourself and I find that incredibly admirable. Don't ever lose yourself in this corporate capital hellscape. Maybe don't try and get married to someone within a year, no matter how close you think you are. A year might feel like a long time but, as you know, people are crazy amd wildly unpredictable. So are you but you've got to protect your peace of mind. I don't know you. And it's likely we never will meet. But I do hope the best for you.
I can relate. Apps are full of scammers and weirdos. I’m an introvert too and I haven’t been in a relationship for a very long time. I don’t trust myself to pick someone that won’t shit on me. Don’t give up Daniel. You don’t want to be my age and still be alone. Take care of yourself. You’re a good guy with a good heart. You’ll find the right person and all the pain and frustration will be worth it.
It’s good to wait until you can actually trust yourself. If you’re not already and you have resources for it, please try therapy. Good luck and best of health ❤
disagree! my relationship is natural AND work. we are a couple that is two autistic project managers, we like working on ourselves! the ideal partner challenges you to develop yourself as far and fast as you healthily can.
That's why most people can't keep up long-term committed relationships. They assume it should be easy. When anything gets hard, they're ready to quit. Every relationship requires a lot of hard work. They all become work. People want love. They enjoy falling in love. They don't actually enjoy relationships. They would rather use paper plates than wash dishes. They would rather quit than try to fix what's broken.
People replied amazingly here, natural doesn't imply being easy, lazy, perfect or anything of that sort - you gotta contribute to it and put it in the work and show you care -no doubt! and naturally sometimes it would be passionate, and sometimes rough, 100% naturally :)
What natural means you get as much as you give, which makes it feel natural, but not at all effortless. Good relationships take work, but as long as both are contributing and communicating their needs to each other it will work. For instance sometimes I give more to the relationship than my husband, but sometimes he does. We don't always see eye to eye, but when there is a challenge we have to face we naturally come together to get through it.
You deserve to find a genuine love, man. Sucks you've had all these bad experiences so far, and I can strongly relate to the lack of trust part. Sadly, that can ruin future relationships if you're unable to open up and trust the next one, and your therapist probably says the same. Just take your time to mentally heal, and the right person could very well come along when you least expect it 😊
Aw Repz. I feel you. I found my now husband on a dating app after a year of being on them. I had a few rubbish experiences that made me want to pack it in. However, I'm glad I stuck at it, or I wouldn't be where I am today. Take a break from it if you need to, but don't give up, there is someone out there for you. And if it's any consolation, some of the best things in my life happened right after I hit the point you're at now... so I have a feeling something good is just around the corner for you 😊. Good luck for 2025! 'When you hit the bottom, the only place left to go is up'.
I feel you, I used to work 12 - 16 hours a day 7 days a week for years. Cost me a couple relationships. They would get so mad if I didn't reply instantly.
Relatable, my dude. Way too relatable. I'm not too far off from 40, and I remain unmarried specifically because of having about the same luck you do. What I've learned from all this is that you have to put yourself first. You also have to learn to love yourself. If you can't do these things, nobody worth your time is going to want to enter into a relationship with you. These can be really, really difficult things to accomplish. I'm still not there yet, myself.
You’re a lot stronger than you think you are. Despite all these hurdles and difficulties and having been through so much you still stand today. Which is honourable.
Honestly Daniel, do not let these people ruin your trust in others. Everyone goes through these relationships where you think you found the one, but ultimately ends in shambles. Trust me when I say, you will find the one and when that moment happens, these previous relationships will seem like specs of dirt in a giant field. You said you like gaming? Go to gaming conventions, or competitions. Go somewhere that you find passion in. Bars are not always the right place for people, theirs a certain type that hang around bars, and they are usually looking for more than 1 sausage for their basket if you catch my drift. If you want a serious relationship you have to find them at more serious locations. Best of Luck to you man, and absolutely do not let anyone stop you from investing in yourself. Now, I wish you an early Merry Christmas, and hopefully a happy New Year. Btw, don't ever feel like you owe us anything about your personal life, especially relationships and stuff. I am sick of people feeling like they are entitled to more than they should be, people need to realize that content creators are humans too and need their personal space.
We are here for you, Repzion. The people who have watched you for years and are still here to watch your videos care about you. You aren’t alone in going through this. Your true fans will be here to help you the best they can. We care and we are glad to see you again and listen to you.
Man I feel you so hard on the trust thing. I feel like I know a person for the first couple of months or so, maybe longer, and then suddenly they become different and the relationship falls apart and I’m left standing there like ‘wtf just happened-‘
I hope that you’re able to heal from whatever happened. It sounds like you’ve been knocked on your ass a few times. I hope that life gets its act together and treats you better from here.
You are enough. I know that's hard to believe when you've been through so much trauma. But you are. You need to have more love and respect for yourself. Once you do, it definitely shows and you will attract the kind of people that deserve your love and deserve to be in your life. Keep your chin up.
Those years weren't wasted. I've been through a failed engagement too. It's a special kind of hell most people don't understand until they realize you're living at your parents' house again in your late 20s. It sucked, but it sure as hell did get better. Married over a decade now, after fate randomly transferred my spouse to my job while I was engaged to an absolute idiot. We decided to be friends for awhile (obv when I was single and fine with it) before diving into a relationship, and that's the best advice I have. Make sure that's your best friend for life, and you'll never have to worry about them having your back.
19:00 The answer is: Don’t give everybody your all just like that. Your heart is a treasure, so protect it. A relationship is not about you laying roses in front of some girls feet and rushing to get married. That’s how you end up burned. You need to search for a person who will treat you well. You need to observe her behavior to you. To see what kind of person she is. It’s not all about if YOU are good enough. It’s as much about if SHE is good enough for you. It’s about if you two truly agree on things. It’s about respect and dignity both ways. And it’s about cooperation.
I know the feeling of being screwed over over and over again, used, and feeling left behind for reason. I’ve desired giving up on people and it hurts so fucking badly that to be drawn to people who only seem interested in using me. You’re not alone and don’t give up, and I’m sorry you’ve had so much shit to go through. ❤ Your vids have got me through a lot of hard times and I want you to know that you’ve made a positive difference in my life. Just by putting on one of your vids on a bad day have helped me for over 10 years now, you’re a legit good person who deserves good people who care about you.
Speaking as someone who has not dated for almost 11 years and am nearly 40, I get it. My ex-fiancé almost end-gamed me, and I came extremely close to end-gaming myself. 😞 It ain't worth it. I am not actively looking for a new partner either. IF a new person does arrive, they will. If not... well, c'est la vie, c'est la vie. Just be careful not to burn yourself out with your work. You don't want to make yourself ill, Dan. Please look after yourself, man!
Hey Rep, I've lived a very similar situation, and I empathize a lot with what you're going through. You are a very kind man, and I hope you won't let these experiences change who you are, because you have a very beautiful soul. I'm certain you will find someone who will appreciate it someday. Please take care.
I can relate with having your trust destroyed. I was in a relationship for little over 12 years... It ended this years March when my now ex decided to betray my trust because he liked the "attention" his coworker gave him. I'm 32, turning 33 next February, and I'm now happier than I've ever been. I realized how toxic my ex and the relationship was. Spent the past 9 months working on myself and finding me. I felt in the relationship that I had lost myself. I've found me again. I'm so sorry what you've gone through and sending a ton of strength your way.
Sucks that your relationship didn't work out. Give yourself time to fully recover from that heartbreak. In regards to your job, it's good that you enjoy it and that it's paying well, but don't go overboard on the hours and the long shifts. Rest is critical to any career, but especially when you are driving commercial trucks. Know your rights and your limits, and do not let them manipulate or bully you into going beyond them, because not only will you be liable for what happens the knowledge that you caused harm or worse is not worth it. No matter what you're promised or how much you might be pushed to do it.
I know exactly what you mean and I feel the exact same way. I thought I was the only one who loved too much and gave to many chances to the person. I feel like I’m never going to find someone. There has to be someone for you just maybe not right now. I’m so sorry you’ve been treated badly you don’t deserve it.
My heart hurts for you man. I totally understand the dating struggles and wanting a true human connection. Dating apps and social media have made people unable to empathize on a basic human level. You have a big heart and a lot of love to give. Give it to yourself for now. Don't rush into something because you're feeling lonely. Looking forward to seeing more videos from you. Take a video in Antarctica, that would be amazing to see. I know I'm just some random comment on TH-cam but ive been watching you for a long ass time and watched you grow as a person, and hell, grew along right with you. I wish you nothing but peace and happiness dude
I'm a BPD girlie, and with Bipolar disorder people wanted to treat me poorly, because i was treating myself poorly, a lot of the feelings you're expressing remind me of the abandonment loop i was stuck in for years. I met my partner (who i cant marry for legal reasons) on FB dating people are more chill there. You are allowed to grieve the loss of the future you thought you were going to have, I had a really hard time dealing with that after my short marriage in 2019. I met my forever boyfriend in 2023, it took me that long to realize I was seeking a pattern and not a person and maybe you need to look at the pattern you're taking a part of. You deserve love, and ultimately the happiness that comes from it. You've got this.
As a recovering people pleaser, I hope you can get out of the cycle of always putting your own needs second. It's a hard cycle to break and I wish you the absolute best hun. Sometimes taking a break from people can help you figure out the things that you need and want for real: what makes you feel happy and content. Then the other things don't matter anymore. Once you have your own needs taken care of and you know what you know about yourself it makes knowing what's important in a relationship a lot easier and it makes you realise that sometimes sacrificing yourself to a relationship isn't the way to go. Relationships should be a two way thing not all giving or all taking. You should be able to meet in the middle. Stick to the things that are important to you. If the other person can't compromise for those it's always going to fail. Best of luck for 2025! x
You know man, I really just wish the best for you this upcoming year. Also, love is hard. The whole not responding and people get pissed types are simply not for you, me, or a few friends i have. Anyone who doesn't understand that work gets in the way of freely talking doesn't get it. Finding someone who finds your individual priorities just as important and what you stand for is so tough. You don't have to match perfectly, but similar values are so important. Getting to know someone shouldn't be so hard.
I was gonna say much the same. Sounds less like a job and more like abuse because of the fact he says that whenever someone calls in sick (and he said alot do) he's the first person they call up because of the terms of employment with the POSSIBILITY of it changing once he's a year in. Look I don't care how good the pay is, it's not worth it if you have NO social life outside of it.
Sorta reminds me of driving for one of the Big 3 LTL package delivery services. Even the union couldn't save us from some of the inhumane BS they'd put us on during peak holiday rushes.
You can always find another job if you don’t like what you’re doing instead of claiming it to be abuse. He agreed to the terms. And apparently likes his job.
@@kittencakes9836 You missed the part where it's costed him having pretty much no social life, splits where they try to pay him $3 instead of $30, and the fact he only has 8 hours between shifts when the minimum in most countries is 12 hours plus being the guy who gets called in whenever someone calls in sick to cover with the POSSIBILITY of that changing once a year has passed. It's supposed to be work to live not live to work.
I feel you on this with 2024. Our rooomate left our apartment with no notice, my car died so I lost my job, my partner is disabled so he’s just now able to go back to work, and I have eviction court Monday. Not been able to get ahead at all. Things will get better. They have to. Take care of you and your mental health. It’s important. Much love! I’ve seen all your personal videos. You’re an amazing human and deserve the best in life.
Im 33 years old. I literally havent been in a relationship since i was 22 and it was the BEST thing I could've ever done. There are developments that happen inside of yourself when you are alone and learn about yourself. I LOVE being alone and should i find someone, i know what i want - my boundaries, my expecations, etc because im getting too damn old for games 😂
I'm sorry Daniel :( Going through some similar things. For right now I give up on dating and am not bothering. I doubled down on therapy, got really in shape, did all the things you're supposed to, and it just still doesn't work. I thought they cared and get ghosted. It hurts. ... Pulling for you, I hope it's a way better year
I’m about half of your age on the younger side, 16 years and 6 months. And I’m gonna have to completely agree. I met this girl a couple of months ago, we started hanging out and a month later we started dating. She is still, amazingly smart, stunningly pretty, loving, and caring. But she had an anger problem. There was a lot going on with herself, and school. As well as for myself. We also run into a predicament, How would it work with our futures in the way? She’s a year older than me, she’s going to college first, And then I’m going to the Army. It’s all too much to salvage at the moment. What was said was, “someday we can touch base on this again, but until then this is as far as we go.” I’m greatly saddened. But I’d rather her focus on herself and her studies than have to worry about me, but regardless, I’ll always care.
I'm sorry for your struggles. I also recommend like another commenter to give yourself time purposely single. That's what I did I'm now 32, and i lost my mom when i was 21, and I purposely remained single for 5 years working on my self by building my self love, self confidence, self esteem, and working on grief. You could seek older women if you like older women since they're more in a mature no bullshit headspace like you are in now too. Plus in my opinion older women are way more attractive.
I am so so sorry that things didn't work out. Was rooting for you that you had found the one too... You are a wonderful man and have everything to offer. I hope 2025 you get to have your head also healed and find everything you need and deserve. 2024 almost cost me my life, If not for the help of my family to retreat to I'd not be here anymore. 2024 is soon behind us and I wanna hope for everyone that 2025 will be amazing for us all and especially you. Lotsa love and take it easy please.
Daniel, I've watched you for over 10 years dude . It sucks what has happened to you. People really suck like majority of the time and it sucks that you have encountered more than you would have liked to. Hope your upcoming year is better and you find kindhearted, caring, reciprocative people! Everyone deserves their peoples!
Awe I’m so sorry to hear about your relationship and other things that have happened. I got married at 38 after leaving a 5 year relationship that was not the right person. Therapy helps. Take care of yourself honey! Much love from Texas! I’ve been with you since 2008ish and have seen a lot of crazy shit happen. You’re tough and resilient. You’ll be okay bb ❤❤❤❤
I gave up on relationships when i hit 30, never been happier lol. If I catch any slight feelings for anyone it's anxiety because I know I'll get hurt, people overall are TERRIBLE
Hey, I just wanna add one thing- people don't like people-pleasers. Being on the receiving end of that in many different types of relationships I can tell you it's very lonely. Because when someone is preoccupied with giving me what they think I want, they're not receiving ME as I am. Just be you, and someone will come around while you're busy making yourself the best you can be, living your life enjoying the things you enjoy.
"Let the right one in Let the old dreams die Let the wrong ones go They cannot do what you want them to do."-Morrissey Daniel, I don't know if you'll read this, but I feel you. You think, do I deserve this? It keeps happening to me, why? Because you care, you're a caring, empathetic person and unfortunately the wrong ones take advantage of people like us. You don't deserve the shlt they put you through, male or female, old or young. I see others have suggested you taking a break from relationships, good advice. Focus on you, your job, gaming, friends, your goals, charities, whatever it is that fulfils you. You're still young, (at least you're not 38 like me hehe) and you have a lot going for you. In time, the right one will come, and when he or she does, let him or her in. For now, just focus on healing and doing whatever is best for you. Take care of yourself, Daniel. I'm happy you have a good job and that you are still on youtube. Even if you left youtube, I would respect that, though I am glad you're still here. I'll try to catch you live streaming sometime. :3
Mann, this sucks, there is nothing to say that could help. But wish you so much luck in life and love again. Relationships have become so complex, people have become complex.
Just my thoughts while watching this video for rep or whoever needs it: If you give someone your all but its not what they want, it will never be enough. sometimes it's not about how much energy we put in but what types of energy we put and where its going towards. consider perspective, one persons 50% is another's 100%. Do not give up the "giving it your all" mentality, even if it seems like its not worth it. being 100% is such a rare and important thing to find in a partner and is easily overlooked or taken advantage of. Please keep your heart open and minds clear without letting those past experiences cloud your judgement with negative perceptions. I promise that one day you will be able to find someone else who balances you. stay 100% as much as you can, and when you are having a bad day and only mentally at 50%, stay with that partner who will be your other 50%.
Also just to add, in the UK we have a rule where you are required at least 11hrs rest inbetween shifts, that should be the case for people all over.. although I cant say I'm too surprised with the way the US are 🫠
You are enough Daniel. Someones perception of your value doesnt get to determine your worth. You can do everything right and still loose. I agree with you about online dating. Ive tried to pull back how much I give people emotionally by making them earn it with their actions ie showing me they are trustworthy showing me they have empathy for others, showing me Im a priiority. Alot of times I feel like people who are too giving get taken advantage of, thats not you thats this messed up society. Hang in there man.
I'm 35 and I've been out of a 12 year relationship for about two months now. I'm doing okay and I've been talking to this lady I met on a dating site, but I will probably stop trying to make that happen, it ain't clicking. I kinda feel like my heart's not ready yet and it'll take a year or two before I can naturally fall in love again. If I have learned one thing, it's that Phil Collin's was right: You can't hurry love, you just have to wait
Give yourself grace and reflection time. Before I met my husband (together 15yrs, married 13yrs), I took a hard look at my past relationships and the ppl I seemed to date. I had to start dating someone who wasnt my type because my type was toxic. 😭
I watched you back when you were talking about experiences in college, you being open helped and continues to help me learn a lot about myself. The world is yin and yang, dont blame yourself because you arent responsible for other's actions. Stay focused on the goals you set. Rooting for you Daniel. Dont change who you are, change how you navigate relationships.
First off, I just wanted to say it was so good to hear an update from you, man. But I could feel your exhaustion with relationships/people through the screen and I'm so sorry for all you've been through this year and that you came to this update with such a shaken mental. :( You've always emanated such a radiant vibe and I'm sending so much positive energy your way to keep it strong. You deserve someone who makes you feel like you ARE more than enough- even on your worst days- and I hope you can find them someday soon, as you've dealt with enough bull! Much love, brother. 💜
I always wanted to get married too and I work crazy hours as well. I'm working so hard on my life and following my passions in the free time I have -- I joined a local radio station and even have a show -- but alone on holidays are just a way of life now. It sucks to feel like the only single woman in my city -- Understand what you're going through -- you're not alone
Thank you for sharing this. You are not alone, and sharing your experience will help others too. Sending good vibes your way man! If its any consolation being 30+ the only reason I have human contact is because dnd I agree with ya. It's hard to connect with others not through a screen. You got this!
The one thing i think you might not be aware of is : you have such hardships yet you find the energy to work so hard?? I envy you. I hope you know how amazing this is. Truly, thats not easy AT ALL. Be aware of how much of a great ability this is and you do it so consistently. Amazing!!!
Best thing i wver did was stay abstinent and single for 3 years and learn to love myself. Sometimes i wish i was still there because i was the happiest. Now im in a relationship and i dont know if its the one, but they arent easy. I have to learn how to love myself and someone else and balance that. Its easier alone and its good, but its also good to learn how to do it with someone else. Have to be ready for that though. Every experience is a good one even the bad ones. You learn. Take care of YOURSELF.
You got to watch that mind to get married. It can make you see things inaccurately and get you straddled in a bad situation. Also try to keep in mind, anything you want TOO badly, you're going to repel.
I’ve watched your content for over a decade now , I’m usually a silent viewer. Lots of your viewers including myself have celebrated with you and mourned for you through your ups and downs. That being said, you’ve noticed a pattern in your relationships. That your people pleasing. I’d recommend that you learn to set boundaries with yourself, and others work with your therapist more on getting to the route of your people pleasing. I say this because I had the same issue. Similar patterns myself. Spartan life coach on yt helped a lot, especially his older videos. I took a lot of accountability that I was allowing people to erode my boundaries because I didn’t even really set them. Given that I’ve watched you so long I know you’ve had it tough. People pleasing can be a response to the toughness you’ve had in life, wanting to be kind but not being kind to yourself. This attracts predatory people. I really hope this helps, I’m speaking from experience and all your long time viewers want to see you happy
First, good luck on the application, because that sounds awesome. Second, take the time to mourn your dream relationship; I get it. You're literally the only TH-cam I feel simpatico with, so maybe I'll shoot over onto the discord that I haven't touched since my WoW days :)
I have never experienced a person getting into as many bad relationships as this dude. With so many bad experiences it’s a pretty clear indication that there may be something in your own actions that is part of the reason, otherwise you are the unluckiest person I’ve ever ‘met’ and hopefully the next one works out. 🤞 Edit: by the way, what’s up with this major focus on getting married? Just stay with the person your love and embrace that. Marriage should not be a goal in itself - a healthy loving relationship should. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 17 years ( as far as I remember 😀), we have 2 kids together and it’s mazing. Marriage is probably not something we are ever gonna do, cause what’s really the reason to do so as long as you are with a partner you love!? Having marriage as a goal every year with every partner seems to add more stress and impact your mental health so why not just aim at getting a healthy relationship as the main goal? If you then decide to do the marriage one day that’s fine but it’s not like it’s gonna make a good relationship better or save a bad relationship. Constantly focusing on that one formality is not healthy.
You seem like a genuine loving and giving person and sadly people will see that and take advantage of it. I’ve seen my best friend sadly have to deal with very similar experiences because she just gives and loves and the world doesn’t like that. It will always try to beat you down and snuff the light out. I’m sorry for whatever you’re going through and i’ll be praying for you dude just keep on keeping on and doing the best you can.
I know this won't help you but I want to remind you this will pass. I won't ask specifics because like you said it really isn't any of our business. I'm glad you're here though. Truly.
Been watching you for ages and you sound like you are going through rough times. I’m so sorry and I hope this new year will be everything you deserve ❤
Hiya sorry things didn't work out .but you have such a good heart ..you did help me when I needed it when your dad was coming home mine was coming home with the exact same thing..so thank you and hold your head up things will work out!
I have been watching you for years and appreciate the transparency you do have. No need for explanation any further. Hope life balances out soon and brings you joy.
You are not alone. I've felt the same feelings since high school. Love in today's world is hard and unfair. Thank you for sharing your struggles, because now I feel much less alone in my pain.
Hi Daniel , I know you’ve kept a details vague. What I would say as an outsider listening in on your thoughts and feelings- it sounds like marriage and a family is something you obviously really want. Are you at all looking past any potential red flags in an attempt to have yourself set up with a family before it’s too late? I know there is a panic in your late twenties and early thirties to get married and have it all figured out (I’m only 27 and already feeling that strain) Of course I don’t know. But my suggestion would be to take a very long break from a relationship- don’t make it your priority, allow someone to come along on the way. Easier said than done I realise…
As a person with bpd, i think you might want to look into this, you might find yourself in this category/diagnosis. It might help you narrow down therapy options. It does require specific type of understanding, different than other diagnosis. Or at least help you understand yourself better. BUT remember the info online on BPD is not very reliable. Many wrong shit out there, first time i researched it, after i got diagnosed, i was horrified by the descriptions i found online . And the amount of hate for it. There are different types of it as well. But look into it, what you descrbe sounds like pbd in my very unprofessional opinion. I Wish you the best in life ❤️
overall, i'm investing in myself for all of 2025 and damn nobody getting in the way of that. Marriage is overrated. I stand by the phrase, once a cheater, always a cheater. Time is something we can never get back, only learn from the failed time we lose.
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Keep your chin up Repzion, keep it pushing .... the pieces will come together during the journey ❤❤ much ❤ from 🇨🇦 wishing u the Merriest Christmas and Peace 🙏 in 2025
A work schedule is a good way to keep you centred, have routine and give you a reason to wake up, helping ward off depression when personal life isn’t the best.
Please take a break from relationships, your head needs to be in the right place. Take a few months off and spend time with friends, go do some irl social stuff (movies, escape rooms, whatever), but then, when you feel ready, try bumble (of all the apps), my friend who has relatively recently met someone new (couple of years ago now) has told me that he finds bumble to be the least damaging to your mental health. From what I understand, women initiate contact, and things get off on a better foot. ❤
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i love you and enjoy all of your content! You've helped me unknowingly im sure through a really tough time. this year has been shit for me as well. I lost my home, my dog, and my patience. thanks for engaging with us from your random lives. Some creators never know who's life they're touching by offering and ear and empathy. Thanks danny!
A word of advice from a 52 year old. Take at LEAST 1-2 years before you get into another love relationship. And as someone who was a nurse for 18 years, I once went 17 years without having Christmas Eve and Day off in the same year.
That's what i'm planning on. it's been 6 months already. thank you
42 yr old here, I 100% agree with this advice! I spent my entire 20s in a terrible, toxic relationship which ended right before my 30th birthday. I waited 2 years to start dating again and then casually dated 2 guys briefly. I decided dating just wasn't for me and that I had no desire to try anymore. With in a month of making that decision I met my current partner of 11 years. By far the healthiest and happiest relationship I've ever been in and for sure my forever person. We're not married but that's just because it's not important to either of us but we have every intention of being together forever. People always say that when you stop trying that's usually when you find your person and that was so true for me. Waiting that 2 years to start dating allowed me to heal from my previous relationship and not bring that baggage into the new one. When you do start dating again, it might be a good idea to try giving someone a chance that you normally wouldn't go for. It seems like you may subconsciously be going after the same kinds of toxic people. Unfortunately, when you go through trauma from relationships we tend to pick the same types of people with out realizing it. You definitely need time to heal though and until you do, you probably will keep attracting these same kinds of people. I never did online dating so I have no advice there. I wish you luck though! You deserve happiness and you will find it. It's definitely out there for you! Hope you have a great Christmas!
@@Repzion this 51-year-old. Also agrees with the 52 year old. My last three relationships consisted of nine years, one year, 11 years after the last one I’m like you know a lot enough for that. While it’s great to have someone around once in a while at the end of the 11 year relationship, I find myself spending more time to myself, Except for when it came time to my daughters, but besides that that was it, I was just fine and happy earning my businesses
56 here and what you are saying is true. Also don't actively seek a relationship. Real ones just happen naturally and when you least expect it. And it should feel natural and not work at all.
Hey these last 5 years I’ve watched you grow … you are the same age as my eldest child You are doing absolutely ok you will see this thru we’ve all been where you have the journey it’s going to be bumpy what you are going thu is perfectly normal …..seriously you are doing ❤more than ok ….
If you go to Antarctica, PLEASE keep filming and uploading videos. It's such a beautiful place, and I want to see if any penguins approach you.
I watched a video of a penguin in Antarctica freaking out because a cameraman approached him and he didn't know what a human was. Fantastic. 👌
(The title was "Emperor Likes Me", if you want to watch it. Highly recommend.)
It would be Onision dressed up as a penguin yelling, "I'm a penguin... I'm a penguin!" Merely out of desperation for clout.
I still cant wrap my head around the fact that its almost 2025.
actually dude! 2024 has been such a traumatic year & life changing one for so many and it's nice to know soon it'll be kinda a fresh start :')
It’s crazy that 2050 is as close as 2000
We here and it’s still scary 😨
@@coldwar45don’t you dare
Never apologize for being vague! It’s your business, not our’s. 💜
That’s what I’m saying
❤ Yes!!!!!
Then why upload a video talking about it?
Whilst it isn't our business think about it. You just listened to someone talk about something that has bothered them but not give the reason for half an hour, it feels like avoidance behavior and it's a little hard to watch someone wanting to open up and not fully doing it and holding themselves back on purpose. Nobody needs the nitty gritty details and a real in depth analysis but how can you expect people to offer anything more than base level platitudes and "vibes" when you never say the word and he doesn't deserve that. I wish him well, hope he gets more free time, heals himself and takes a holiday somewhere to disengage from everything and take some solo time and I really, really hope he doesn't go full r/blackpilled
@@jackbizzell7136I think he sounds burnt out, this job is taking its toll and it seems like he’s being exploited.
As someone who is old enough to be your mom, I just want to give you a big hug. I am so glad you are in therapy. Getting your mental health care needs met is so important. I hope you find all the love you deserve.
I’m really sorry to hear about your struggles this year. You’re a sweet, kind and vulnerable person. These kinds of people attract narcissistic pigs. It’s not a *you* thing, honey. It’s a *them* thing.
agreed
Daniel, I get where you’re coming from 1000%. Relationships are not easy, and especially in this weird time period where no one wants to build a human connection. As someone who has experienced much of the same issues you’re describing in your video, just know you’re not alone.
Having hope is hard, but if it’s any consolation, we’re proof people want a genuine connection and love. Focus on you for right now, but keep hoping - the magic will find you eventually. Every “failure” is a lesson ✨
The problem is that you are seeing a relationship and thinking marriage. You need to find the PERSON. And as cliché as it may sound, the best will come when you stop looking. Take a year or two to focus on yourself and your career, and the rest will fall into place.
I've never followed you much, but I've always enjoyed what I've seen when I do watch; you seem like a genuinely good and honest human being. That's rare these days! Dont just go giving your treasures to just anyone because you want that companionship. I wish you all the best in the coming year 🖤
The fact you keep going, keep building, keep striving and keeps doing what you believe is best for you, is a truly admirable quality in a man. You are the creator that inspired me to begin as a creator and I am glad you are still here and still creating your fantastic content.
I got married at 37. ( Not for lack of trying) I had issues. Needed rehab, and then lots of therapy. Sadly ( i hurt people in😢) i was the problem. But i healed. I married. 7 years in so far- so good. You are loved. And i am happy your gonna stick around.
You seem like such a good man, Rep. I hope you find love and happiness ❤
Politically and socially I agree with your on very little but I have always enjoyed your content and valued what you put out. I'm very glad you didn't leave the app
Hey, just wanted to let you know I appreciate your comment as a fan of Repzion. You disagree but still support someone we both like regardless of unaligned views. I highly respect your open mind and respect you even more for enjoying the content of a person you disagree with on topics. Keep on as you are and I hope you have a good day/life, friend.
Sorry you've been through shit ~ In the Uk there's a law where workers are entitled to a minimum of 11 rest hours between shifts. Keep strong because life will get better and you'll find your special person 🧡
Yeah it's only some US states where they're mandated at least 8 rest hours in a 24 hour period
Mid 50's Englishman here, I've watched you from almost the beginning and I would like to say, from my experiences, the secret to this "life stuff" is to relax. I still fail at that relax thing sometimes, and i've learned that it's OK to fail, but the ups now outstrip the downs. Keep going, keep doing what you're doing, and this will come good.
Never apologize for being vague. It’s your personal life and you don’t need to share anything you don’t want too. I’m so sorry that you have been through so much. I hope this next year treats you much better. Focus on you for a while. The right one will come when you least expect it.
Man, i relate to the dating struggles so much. People seem to only want hookups, or they ghost for seemingly no reason. But its also hard to meet anyone irl. Dating in your 30s is rough.
I'm sorry it's been a tough year Daniel. Hopefully 2025 will bring nothing but positivity and happiness ❤
I think this is such a relatable thing for us. You'd think by 30 people would have a bit more respect than just ghosting.
Hookup culture killed dating. 🫤 Especially after the pandemic..
I'm 44. I met my late partner in 97. I lost him in March to Glioblastoma. We had two extra years before things went bad. Trying to find someone to connect with, especially when you're different. Like Neurodivergent different. I don't know if I will find someone again, but I hope to.
I wish you luck as well.
❤❤ sending love, I'm sorry
Don’t propose to someone after only being with them for a year.
Yeah 😕 true
Try telling this to people who think if this doesn't happen, then the guy is stringing the girl along as a placeholder, etc. People heavily criticise my bf and I for being together "long term" (4 years this year) and waiting for when life circumstances are correct with properly stable housing and work being consistent enough on my end for that next step to be considered
@@Nekogal21 And who are ‘those’ people? Where are they to back up your claims?
laughs in proposed after 4 months, long distance for two years, living together with family for 5 years and now 6 months in our own appartment, still engaged. But I guess staying engaged is more of a European thing.
My husband and I got engaged after a week of dating. We got married within the year. This year we're celebrating 21 years of marriage. Sometimes when you know, you know. (Which is not to say I didn't make a lot of mistakes before I met my husband!)
I've watched you since I was likely 16. I'm 22 now. I watched almost all of your videos with baited breath whenever you uploaded because I respect your wisdom. I relate to you on a personal level as someone who came out of religion. You, like many of the youtubers that I have watched over the years, have heavily impacted my world view. Thank you for giving me your perspective and helping me identify toxic behaviors that I and the people around me do. I may not always agree with you, I may think you're a bit of an ass- But so is everyone else. You continue to be yourself and I find that incredibly admirable.
Don't ever lose yourself in this corporate capital hellscape. Maybe don't try and get married to someone within a year, no matter how close you think you are. A year might feel like a long time but, as you know, people are crazy amd wildly unpredictable. So are you but you've got to protect your peace of mind.
I don't know you. And it's likely we never will meet. But I do hope the best for you.
I can relate. Apps are full of scammers and weirdos. I’m an introvert too and I haven’t been in a relationship for a very long time. I don’t trust myself to pick someone that won’t shit on me. Don’t give up Daniel. You don’t want to be my age and still be alone. Take care of yourself. You’re a good guy with a good heart. You’ll find the right person and all the pain and frustration will be worth it.
It’s good to wait until you can actually trust yourself. If you’re not already and you have resources for it, please try therapy. Good luck and best of health ❤
"Why try?" Don't try. Real relationships should not feel like work, but feel natural.
disagree! my relationship is natural AND work. we are a couple that is two autistic project managers, we like working on ourselves! the ideal partner challenges you to develop yourself as far and fast as you healthily can.
That's why most people can't keep up long-term committed relationships. They assume it should be easy. When anything gets hard, they're ready to quit. Every relationship requires a lot of hard work. They all become work. People want love. They enjoy falling in love. They don't actually enjoy relationships. They would rather use paper plates than wash dishes. They would rather quit than try to fix what's broken.
People replied amazingly here, natural doesn't imply being easy, lazy, perfect or anything of that sort - you gotta contribute to it and put it in the work and show you care -no doubt!
and naturally sometimes it would be passionate, and sometimes rough, 100% naturally :)
What natural means you get as much as you give, which makes it feel natural, but not at all effortless. Good relationships take work, but as long as both are contributing and communicating their needs to each other it will work. For instance sometimes I give more to the relationship than my husband, but sometimes he does. We don't always see eye to eye, but when there is a challenge we have to face we naturally come together to get through it.
You deserve to find a genuine love, man. Sucks you've had all these bad experiences so far, and I can strongly relate to the lack of trust part. Sadly, that can ruin future relationships if you're unable to open up and trust the next one, and your therapist probably says the same. Just take your time to mentally heal, and the right person could very well come along when you least expect it 😊
Aw Repz. I feel you. I found my now husband on a dating app after a year of being on them. I had a few rubbish experiences that made me want to pack it in. However, I'm glad I stuck at it, or I wouldn't be where I am today. Take a break from it if you need to, but don't give up, there is someone out there for you. And if it's any consolation, some of the best things in my life happened right after I hit the point you're at now... so I have a feeling something good is just around the corner for you 😊. Good luck for 2025! 'When you hit the bottom, the only place left to go is up'.
I feel you, I used to work 12 - 16 hours a day 7 days a week for years. Cost me a couple relationships. They would get so mad if I didn't reply instantly.
Anybody worth having won't fall out with you for not replying immediately (especially if you told them you can't use your phone at work)
Ppl that expect instant replies are ridiculous. I can react to that.
Relatable, my dude. Way too relatable. I'm not too far off from 40, and I remain unmarried specifically because of having about the same luck you do.
What I've learned from all this is that you have to put yourself first. You also have to learn to love yourself. If you can't do these things, nobody worth your time is going to want to enter into a relationship with you. These can be really, really difficult things to accomplish. I'm still not there yet, myself.
You’re a lot stronger than you think you are. Despite all these hurdles and difficulties and having been through so much you still stand today. Which is honourable.
Honestly Daniel, do not let these people ruin your trust in others. Everyone goes through these relationships where you think you found the one, but ultimately ends in shambles. Trust me when I say, you will find the one and when that moment happens, these previous relationships will seem like specs of dirt in a giant field. You said you like gaming? Go to gaming conventions, or competitions. Go somewhere that you find passion in. Bars are not always the right place for people, theirs a certain type that hang around bars, and they are usually looking for more than 1 sausage for their basket if you catch my drift. If you want a serious relationship you have to find them at more serious locations. Best of Luck to you man, and absolutely do not let anyone stop you from investing in yourself. Now, I wish you an early Merry Christmas, and hopefully a happy New Year. Btw, don't ever feel like you owe us anything about your personal life, especially relationships and stuff. I am sick of people feeling like they are entitled to more than they should be, people need to realize that content creators are humans too and need their personal space.
We are here for you, Repzion. The people who have watched you for years and are still here to watch your videos care about you. You aren’t alone in going through this. Your true fans will be here to help you the best they can. We care and we are glad to see you again and listen to you.
This is a beautifully vulnerable and honest video. Sometimes sharing our problems with the world helps unburden us.
Man I feel you so hard on the trust thing. I feel like I know a person for the first couple of months or so, maybe longer, and then suddenly they become different and the relationship falls apart and I’m left standing there like ‘wtf just happened-‘
I hope that you’re able to heal from whatever happened. It sounds like you’ve been knocked on your ass a few times. I hope that life gets its act together and treats you better from here.
You are enough. I know that's hard to believe when you've been through so much trauma. But you are. You need to have more love and respect for yourself. Once you do, it definitely shows and you will attract the kind of people that deserve your love and deserve to be in your life. Keep your chin up.
Those years weren't wasted. I've been through a failed engagement too. It's a special kind of hell most people don't understand until they realize you're living at your parents' house again in your late 20s. It sucked, but it sure as hell did get better.
Married over a decade now, after fate randomly transferred my spouse to my job while I was engaged to an absolute idiot. We decided to be friends for awhile (obv when I was single and fine with it) before diving into a relationship, and that's the best advice I have. Make sure that's your best friend for life, and you'll never have to worry about them having your back.
19:00 The answer is: Don’t give everybody your all just like that. Your heart is a treasure, so protect it. A relationship is not about you laying roses in front of some girls feet and rushing to get married. That’s how you end up burned. You need to search for a person who will treat you well. You need to observe her behavior to you. To see what kind of person she is. It’s not all about if YOU are good enough. It’s as much about if SHE is good enough for you. It’s about if you two truly agree on things. It’s about respect and dignity both ways. And it’s about cooperation.
8:47 I’m honestly surprised there aren’t such laws in a state as blue as Washington
I was surprised too. Trust me.
I know the feeling of being screwed over over and over again, used, and feeling left behind for reason. I’ve desired giving up on people and it hurts so fucking badly that to be drawn to people who only seem interested in using me. You’re not alone and don’t give up, and I’m sorry you’ve had so much shit to go through. ❤
Your vids have got me through a lot of hard times and I want you to know that you’ve made a positive difference in my life. Just by putting on one of your vids on a bad day have helped me for over 10 years now, you’re a legit good person who deserves good people who care about you.
Speaking as someone who has not dated for almost 11 years and am nearly 40, I get it. My ex-fiancé almost end-gamed me, and I came extremely close to end-gaming myself. 😞
It ain't worth it. I am not actively looking for a new partner either. IF a new person does arrive, they will. If not... well, c'est la vie, c'est la vie.
Just be careful not to burn yourself out with your work. You don't want to make yourself ill, Dan. Please look after yourself, man!
Hey Rep, I've lived a very similar situation, and I empathize a lot with what you're going through. You are a very kind man, and I hope you won't let these experiences change who you are, because you have a very beautiful soul.
I'm certain you will find someone who will appreciate it someday. Please take care.
I feel this too man, you’re not alone
I can relate with having your trust destroyed. I was in a relationship for little over 12 years... It ended this years March when my now ex decided to betray my trust because he liked the "attention" his coworker gave him. I'm 32, turning 33 next February, and I'm now happier than I've ever been. I realized how toxic my ex and the relationship was. Spent the past 9 months working on myself and finding me. I felt in the relationship that I had lost myself. I've found me again.
I'm so sorry what you've gone through and sending a ton of strength your way.
Sucks that your relationship didn't work out. Give yourself time to fully recover from that heartbreak.
In regards to your job, it's good that you enjoy it and that it's paying well, but don't go overboard on the hours and the long shifts. Rest is critical to any career, but especially when you are driving commercial trucks. Know your rights and your limits, and do not let them manipulate or bully you into going beyond them, because not only will you be liable for what happens the knowledge that you caused harm or worse is not worth it. No matter what you're promised or how much you might be pushed to do it.
I know exactly what you mean and I feel the exact same way. I thought I was the only one who loved too much and gave to many chances to the person. I feel like I’m never going to find someone.
There has to be someone for you just maybe not right now. I’m so sorry you’ve been treated badly you don’t deserve it.
Hope you get through whatever you going through, and be strong
This absolutely does resonate with others.
My heart hurts for you man. I totally understand the dating struggles and wanting a true human connection. Dating apps and social media have made people unable to empathize on a basic human level. You have a big heart and a lot of love to give. Give it to yourself for now. Don't rush into something because you're feeling lonely. Looking forward to seeing more videos from you. Take a video in Antarctica, that would be amazing to see. I know I'm just some random comment on TH-cam but ive been watching you for a long ass time and watched you grow as a person, and hell, grew along right with you. I wish you nothing but peace and happiness dude
We're here for ya, man! Here's to more gaming, side hustles and Antarctica!!
To be honest, I think I would prefer living in Antarctica in a penguin colony than among humans at this point lol.
@Hollyucinogen I can see that, but you'll find your ppl!
I'm a BPD girlie, and with Bipolar disorder people wanted to treat me poorly, because i was treating myself poorly, a lot of the feelings you're expressing remind me of the abandonment loop i was stuck in for years. I met my partner (who i cant marry for legal reasons) on FB dating people are more chill there. You are allowed to grieve the loss of the future you thought you were going to have, I had a really hard time dealing with that after my short marriage in 2019. I met my forever boyfriend in 2023, it took me that long to realize I was seeking a pattern and not a person and maybe you need to look at the pattern you're taking a part of. You deserve love, and ultimately the happiness that comes from it. You've got this.
Im 26 and i relate to everything you said literally sucks to be the good hearted person
As a recovering people pleaser, I hope you can get out of the cycle of always putting your own needs second. It's a hard cycle to break and I wish you the absolute best hun. Sometimes taking a break from people can help you figure out the things that you need and want for real: what makes you feel happy and content. Then the other things don't matter anymore. Once you have your own needs taken care of and you know what you know about yourself it makes knowing what's important in a relationship a lot easier and it makes you realise that sometimes sacrificing yourself to a relationship isn't the way to go. Relationships should be a two way thing not all giving or all taking. You should be able to meet in the middle. Stick to the things that are important to you. If the other person can't compromise for those it's always going to fail. Best of luck for 2025! x
You know man, I really just wish the best for you this upcoming year. Also, love is hard. The whole not responding and people get pissed types are simply not for you, me, or a few friends i have. Anyone who doesn't understand that work gets in the way of freely talking doesn't get it. Finding someone who finds your individual priorities just as important and what you stand for is so tough. You don't have to match perfectly, but similar values are so important. Getting to know someone shouldn't be so hard.
That's not a great job. That's abuse.
That was my thought too. The job sounds draining and not sustainable
I was gonna say much the same. Sounds less like a job and more like abuse because of the fact he says that whenever someone calls in sick (and he said alot do) he's the first person they call up because of the terms of employment with the POSSIBILITY of it changing once he's a year in.
Look I don't care how good the pay is, it's not worth it if you have NO social life outside of it.
Sorta reminds me of driving for one of the Big 3 LTL package delivery services. Even the union couldn't save us from some of the inhumane BS they'd put us on during peak holiday rushes.
You can always find another job if you don’t like what you’re doing instead of claiming it to be abuse. He agreed to the terms. And apparently likes his job.
@@kittencakes9836 You missed the part where it's costed him having pretty much no social life, splits where they try to pay him $3 instead of $30, and the fact he only has 8 hours between shifts when the minimum in most countries is 12 hours plus being the guy who gets called in whenever someone calls in sick to cover with the POSSIBILITY of that changing once a year has passed.
It's supposed to be work to live not live to work.
I feel you on this with 2024. Our rooomate left our apartment with no notice, my car died so I lost my job, my partner is disabled so he’s just now able to go back to work, and I have eviction court Monday. Not been able to get ahead at all. Things will get better. They have to. Take care of you and your mental health. It’s important. Much love! I’ve seen all your personal videos. You’re an amazing human and deserve the best in life.
I hope things settle down for you, that's an awful lot for anyone 💛
Im 33 years old. I literally havent been in a relationship since i was 22 and it was the BEST thing I could've ever done. There are developments that happen inside of yourself when you are alone and learn about yourself.
I LOVE being alone and should i find someone, i know what i want - my boundaries, my expecations, etc because im getting too damn old for games 😂
I'm sorry Daniel :( Going through some similar things. For right now I give up on dating and am not bothering. I doubled down on therapy, got really in shape, did all the things you're supposed to, and it just still doesn't work. I thought they cared and get ghosted. It hurts. ... Pulling for you, I hope it's a way better year
I’m about half of your age on the younger side, 16 years and 6 months.
And I’m gonna have to completely agree. I met this girl a couple of months ago, we started hanging out and a month later we started dating. She is still, amazingly smart, stunningly pretty, loving, and caring. But she had an anger problem. There was a lot going on with herself, and school. As well as for myself. We also run into a predicament, How would it work with our futures in the way?
She’s a year older than me, she’s going to college first,
And then I’m going to the Army.
It’s all too much to salvage at the moment. What was said was,
“someday we can touch base on this again, but until then this is as far as we go.”
I’m greatly saddened. But I’d rather her focus on herself and her studies than have to worry about me, but regardless, I’ll always care.
I'm sorry for your struggles. I also recommend like another commenter to give yourself time purposely single. That's what I did I'm now 32, and i lost my mom when i was 21, and I purposely remained single for 5 years working on my self by building my self love, self confidence, self esteem, and working on grief. You could seek older women if you like older women since they're more in a mature no bullshit headspace like you are in now too. Plus in my opinion older women are way more attractive.
I am so so sorry that things didn't work out. Was rooting for you that you had found the one too... You are a wonderful man and have everything to offer. I hope 2025 you get to have your head also healed and find everything you need and deserve. 2024 almost cost me my life, If not for the help of my family to retreat to I'd not be here anymore. 2024 is soon behind us and I wanna hope for everyone that 2025 will be amazing for us all and especially you. Lotsa love and take it easy please.
Daniel, I've watched you for over 10 years dude . It sucks what has happened to you. People really suck like majority of the time and it sucks that you have encountered more than you would have liked to. Hope your upcoming year is better and you find kindhearted, caring, reciprocative people! Everyone deserves their peoples!
I’m 31. This video speaks to me personally. It’s never enough and it’s never going to be enough for people. It’s so lonely and I hate it
That work thing sucks. In Ireland you have to have 11 hours between shifts.
Awe I’m so sorry to hear about your relationship and other things that have happened. I got married at 38 after leaving a 5 year relationship that was not the right person. Therapy helps. Take care of yourself honey! Much love from Texas!
I’ve been with you since 2008ish and have seen a lot of crazy shit happen. You’re tough and resilient. You’ll be okay bb ❤❤❤❤
I gave up on relationships when i hit 30, never been happier lol. If I catch any slight feelings for anyone it's anxiety because I know I'll get hurt, people overall are TERRIBLE
Hey, I just wanna add one thing- people don't like people-pleasers. Being on the receiving end of that in many different types of relationships I can tell you it's very lonely. Because when someone is preoccupied with giving me what they think I want, they're not receiving ME as I am. Just be you, and someone will come around while you're busy making yourself the best you can be, living your life enjoying the things you enjoy.
It's good to see you Rep, love you man. Glad to see you here, sorry about the circumstances
"Let the right one in
Let the old dreams die
Let the wrong ones go
They cannot do what you want them to do."-Morrissey
Daniel, I don't know if you'll read this, but I feel you. You think, do I deserve this? It keeps happening to me, why? Because you care, you're a caring, empathetic person and unfortunately the wrong ones take advantage of people like us. You don't deserve the shlt they put you through, male or female, old or young. I see others have suggested you taking a break from relationships, good advice. Focus on you, your job, gaming, friends, your goals, charities, whatever it is that fulfils you. You're still young, (at least you're not 38 like me hehe) and you have a lot going for you. In time, the right one will come, and when he or she does, let him or her in. For now, just focus on healing and doing whatever is best for you. Take care of yourself, Daniel. I'm happy you have a good job and that you are still on youtube. Even if you left youtube, I would respect that, though I am glad you're still here. I'll try to catch you live streaming sometime. :3
Mann, this sucks, there is nothing to say that could help. But wish you so much luck in life and love again. Relationships have become so complex, people have become complex.
People and relationships have always been complex. Sometimes people make it work, sometimes it doesn't.
Just my thoughts while watching this video for rep or whoever needs it:
If you give someone your all but its not what they want, it will never be enough. sometimes it's not about how much energy we put in but what types of energy we put and where its going towards. consider perspective, one persons 50% is another's 100%.
Do not give up the "giving it your all" mentality, even if it seems like its not worth it. being 100% is such a rare and important thing to find in a partner and is easily overlooked or taken advantage of. Please keep your heart open and minds clear without letting those past experiences cloud your judgement with negative perceptions. I promise that one day you will be able to find someone else who balances you. stay 100% as much as you can, and when you are having a bad day and only mentally at 50%, stay with that partner who will be your other 50%.
Hope all the best for you man. It’s been so great following you since way back. Sending all the best 🤘
I feel this. it's like the people who are loyal and who really try to be good people are the ones who get screwed over the most.
Also just to add, in the UK we have a rule where you are required at least 11hrs rest inbetween shifts, that should be the case for people all over.. although I cant say I'm too surprised with the way the US are 🫠
I worked in care for years and never got that long between shifts. Was burnt out and nearly killed Me
You are enough Daniel. Someones perception of your value doesnt get to determine your worth. You can do everything right and still loose. I agree with you about online dating. Ive tried to pull back how much I give people emotionally by making them earn it with their actions ie showing me they are trustworthy showing me they have empathy for others, showing me Im a priiority. Alot of times I feel like people who are too giving get taken advantage of, thats not you thats this messed up society. Hang in there man.
I'm 35 and I've been out of a 12 year relationship for about two months now. I'm doing okay and I've been talking to this lady I met on a dating site, but I will probably stop trying to make that happen, it ain't clicking. I kinda feel like my heart's not ready yet and it'll take a year or two before I can naturally fall in love again. If I have learned one thing, it's that Phil Collin's was right: You can't hurry love, you just have to wait
Umm that wasn’t Phil but do go on
Give yourself grace and reflection time. Before I met my husband (together 15yrs, married 13yrs), I took a hard look at my past relationships and the ppl I seemed to date. I had to start dating someone who wasnt my type because my type was toxic. 😭
Take all the time you need to heal mentally brother, we always will be here when you need us.
I watched you back when you were talking about experiences in college, you being open helped and continues to help me learn a lot about myself. The world is yin and yang, dont blame yourself because you arent responsible for other's actions. Stay focused on the goals you set. Rooting for you Daniel. Dont change who you are, change how you navigate relationships.
I really enjoy your pop culture/ internet drama commentary live chats. Very entertaining.
First off, I just wanted to say it was so good to hear an update from you, man. But I could feel your exhaustion with relationships/people through the screen and I'm so sorry for all you've been through this year and that you came to this update with such a shaken mental. :( You've always emanated such a radiant vibe and I'm sending so much positive energy your way to keep it strong. You deserve someone who makes you feel like you ARE more than enough- even on your worst days- and I hope you can find them someday soon, as you've dealt with enough bull! Much love, brother. 💜
I always wanted to get married too and I work crazy hours as well. I'm working so hard on my life and following my passions in the free time I have -- I joined a local radio station and even have a show -- but alone on holidays are just a way of life now. It sucks to feel like the only single woman in my city -- Understand what you're going through -- you're not alone
Thank you for sharing this. You are not alone, and sharing your experience will help others too. Sending good vibes your way man! If its any consolation being 30+ the only reason I have human contact is because dnd I agree with ya. It's hard to connect with others not through a screen. You got this!
The one thing i think you might not be aware of is : you have such hardships yet you find the energy to work so hard?? I envy you. I hope you know how amazing this is. Truly, thats not easy AT ALL. Be aware of how much of a great ability this is and you do it so consistently. Amazing!!!
Best thing i wver did was stay abstinent and single for 3 years and learn to love myself. Sometimes i wish i was still there because i was the happiest. Now im in a relationship and i dont know if its the one, but they arent easy. I have to learn how to love myself and someone else and balance that. Its easier alone and its good, but its also good to learn how to do it with someone else. Have to be ready for that though. Every experience is a good one even the bad ones. You learn. Take care of YOURSELF.
You got to watch that mind to get married. It can make you see things inaccurately and get you straddled in a bad situation.
Also try to keep in mind, anything you want TOO badly, you're going to repel.
I’ve watched your content for over a decade now , I’m usually a silent viewer.
Lots of your viewers including myself have celebrated with you and mourned for you through your ups and downs.
That being said, you’ve noticed a pattern in your relationships. That your people pleasing. I’d recommend that you learn to set boundaries with yourself, and others work with your therapist more on getting to the route of your people pleasing. I say this because I had the same issue. Similar patterns myself. Spartan life coach on yt helped a lot, especially his older videos. I took a lot of accountability that I was allowing people to erode my boundaries because I didn’t even really set them.
Given that I’ve watched you so long I know you’ve had it tough. People pleasing can be a response to the toughness you’ve had in life, wanting to be kind but not being kind to yourself. This attracts predatory people.
I really hope this helps, I’m speaking from experience and all your long time viewers want to see you happy
First, good luck on the application, because that sounds awesome. Second, take the time to mourn your dream relationship; I get it. You're literally the only TH-cam I feel simpatico with, so maybe I'll shoot over onto the discord that I haven't touched since my WoW days :)
I have never experienced a person getting into as many bad relationships as this dude. With so many bad experiences it’s a pretty clear indication that there may be something in your own actions that is part of the reason, otherwise you are the unluckiest person I’ve ever ‘met’ and hopefully the next one works out. 🤞
Edit: by the way, what’s up with this major focus on getting married? Just stay with the person your love and embrace that. Marriage should not be a goal in itself - a healthy loving relationship should. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 17 years ( as far as I remember 😀), we have 2 kids together and it’s mazing. Marriage is probably not something we are ever gonna do, cause what’s really the reason to do so as long as you are with a partner you love!?
Having marriage as a goal every year with every partner seems to add more stress and impact your mental health so why not just aim at getting a healthy relationship as the main goal? If you then decide to do the marriage one day that’s fine but it’s not like it’s gonna make a good relationship better or save a bad relationship. Constantly focusing on that one formality is not healthy.
Rep is a natural empath we all suffer it sucks being one 😊
I’ve watched it for years and I appreciate the work you’ve done. I don’t have any words to say other than your cared for and loved.
Man plans, god laughs. I wish you nothing but the best.
Man I feel this so deeply. People are so selfish and hurt others too easily
Best of luck in 2025. Ive been with you since 2013, so here’s to year 12 of your content!
You seem like a genuine loving and giving person and sadly people will see that and take advantage of it. I’ve seen my best friend sadly have to deal with very similar experiences because she just gives and loves and the world doesn’t like that. It will always try to beat you down and snuff the light out. I’m sorry for whatever you’re going through and i’ll be praying for you dude just keep on keeping on and doing the best you can.
I know this won't help you but I want to remind you this will pass. I won't ask specifics because like you said it really isn't any of our business.
I'm glad you're here though. Truly.
Been watching you for ages and you sound like you are going through rough times. I’m so sorry and I hope this new year will be everything you deserve ❤
Hiya sorry things didn't work out .but you have such a good heart ..you did help me when I needed it when your dad was coming home mine was coming home with the exact same thing..so thank you and hold your head up things will work out!
I have been watching you for years and appreciate the transparency you do have. No need for explanation any further. Hope life balances out soon and brings you joy.
Peace and love, buddy. We got ya ❤
You are not alone. I've felt the same feelings since high school. Love in today's world is hard and unfair. Thank you for sharing your struggles, because now I feel much less alone in my pain.
I truly hope you're okay...
Hi Daniel , I know you’ve kept a details vague. What I would say as an outsider listening in on your thoughts and feelings- it sounds like marriage and a family is something you obviously really want.
Are you at all looking past any potential red flags in an attempt to have yourself set up with a family before it’s too late?
I know there is a panic in your late twenties and early thirties to get married and have it all figured out (I’m only 27 and already feeling that strain)
Of course I don’t know.
But my suggestion would be to take a very long break from a relationship- don’t make it your priority, allow someone to come along on the way.
Easier said than done I realise…
As a person with bpd, i think you might want to look into this, you might find yourself in this category/diagnosis. It might help you narrow down therapy options. It does require specific type of understanding, different than other diagnosis. Or at least help you understand yourself better. BUT remember the info online on BPD is not very reliable. Many wrong shit out there, first time i researched it, after i got diagnosed, i was horrified by the descriptions i found online . And the amount of hate for it. There are different types of it as well. But look into it, what you descrbe sounds like pbd in my very unprofessional opinion. I Wish you the best in life ❤️
I do not have BPD… I’ve been tested for a bunch of things and the only thing I have is clinical depression and level one autism diagnosis, that’s it.
As a fellow cat person with BPD, I understand. And I am sending you much love. Merry Christmas 🎄