I am a kenya man. Married to an American. Cultural difference is huge. But we have found a way to meet in the middle. But we African men have tough heads. Back home women listen to the man. Here we listen to each other. Huge adjustment
The fact lamb accepted the fact that he was proud... shows how humble you are. Some people always think they are right... they can never accept that they are wrong. Thank you for being humble seriously.
Absolutely. It is so key that not only one person takes account of every situation everytime to the point that it becomes a default way of dealing with issues.
Ling has what is called Emotional Intelligence. When you are emotionally intelligent, you can relate with anyone because you are aware of your own emotions and how it affects others. Lamb....you are blessed to have her as a wife. Cheers to you guys
Lamb shows Maturity in expressing his weaknesses and also acknowledging Ling's ability to communicate effectively in resolving issues. Lessons learnt 👌
Mehn..That "I love you" came out of nowhere. And you could hear/feel the sincerity, warmth, and depth in it. Lamb was legit in his feelings there. And I'm here for it!
I think a big part of why Ling is the way she is, probably is because of the way she was brought up. Look at the relationship of her parents and how they interact with her even as an adult. It shows why Ling is such a wonderful person. The influence she had growing up, the model her parents had been to her, the relationship between her mother and father:it all played a huge part on shaping how she is as an adult.
Growing up in an Nigeria home my parents never apologize to me so I got use to this so thank you for this. I will start my journey of including others feelings
Most Nigerian parents, especially fathers, see apology as a sign of weakness, for them, apologizing is confirming and admitting you were wrong, which is a no no for them... But you can learn for the sake of your children or anyone that looks up to you, to put aside your ego and learn be honest with yourself first when you reflect on any incident... That way you can understand and take responsibility for your part in it... Apologizing is the natural thing that comes after an honest talk with your conscience.
It also has a lot to do with our culture and upbringings. Our African men are taught to be dominant in marriage- they are the head, are always right and must have the final say. This makes them very egoistic. Iam glad Lamb is learning to defuse that. Much Love.
I AM BLESSED, My sentiments exactly....Sometimes, tradition can be the enemy of progress....Cultural conditioning can be a major hindrance to individual growth.......We just need to adapt and grow.....Be blessed AGAIN! 😂.....
An apology without change is manipulative.... Thank you lamb for sharing the milestones and growth you have achieved proud of you guys.. Lots of love from kenya
I love when he just stops and looks forward and says ' I just love you' you can see in that moment this man literally loves her to death... That is his queen💖 That was so sweet... You two are great!! I love you both! And you don't understand how much you are teaching and showing others what true real authentic love is!! God bless you both!
Wow! I hope African men,and Nigerian men in particular can find this video cathartic and therapeutic ...Ling is a relentless embodiment of maturity, grace and class. For an African, , Lamb is evolving in real time....I am impressed with your understanding of the dynamics of communication in relationships.Very thought provoking video....Keep growing folks...#Respect...
I have learnt alot from this video, we Africans hardly apologize, but I have chosen to change from now own, starting with my kids.... My husband and all, at least it will help my children, and change their mindset, we should all start from some where👏🏽
This was such great advice. As I child, I never witnessed healthy resolution of arguments/disagreements with my parents, so this is honestly eye -opening for me. Thank you!😊
Best thing I like about you both is you re soo o natural. He doesn't try to sound/ act american, she doesn't try to act Nigerian. She teases his accent, but doesn't demean him in the process
Sometimes not to be able to apologize or apologize properly as to do with upbringing. For example when a parent and a child are arguing probably later in the argument the child was right and the parent realizes that he/she was wrong they just let it go without apologizing, so that child is not used to it from the onset for someone like that it affect it might affect that child in a relationship because the child is not used to apologizing
Being able to own up and apologize definitely has to do with how you were raised and the people you grew up with. You can easily tell Ling was raised very well by loving parents that communicate very well and they also taught her that while growing up. Lamb is really lucky to have her.
Ling & Lamb, thank you for uploading this video. I have been watching some of your videos and i wanted to say two things: Ling How beautiful you looked, but especially to Lamb, I must give you all the credit, or put it this way: Lamb, when it comes to serious matters/topics such as this one, you appeal and touch the soul of so many people. You speak with sincerity, truth and wisdom and I am grateful to you, for your honesty and the ability you have to share your point of view on different aspects of a relationship. May God bless you and your wife cause you are dear brother a blessing to others. From Kinshasa, D.R.C/Congo
I know exactly what it was for Lamb. Most Nigerian men are prideful and don't even know it. Its already embedded in the culture really and that's real talk!
Trust me though I don't mean to defend, but my gf is like him, while I prefer to address the matter quickly and it is really stressful, so it's not all Nigeria men
@@timdan1504 Yea I feel you. I mean I think everything is situational. It all depends on the circumstance. Definitely if its in public, wait to you get in private before addressing it.
You know.. growing up in an African home taught me that when someone is upset about something, give him sometime to cool off before addressing the matter if not it will lead to more disaster. So in a way, I understand why Lamb wanted to take a walk 8n the beginning. I face the same problem in my relationship, but I have learned to communicate. Thank you both for this video. It served as a good reminder
It is so special to see how much he literally adores and loves her. He does not find it threatening to do things for her. When they were on vacation and he got out of bed and slept on the floor, I was so touched. It totally showed how much he is willing to please her, even to the place of his discomfort. That is a real man.! I hope the men young and older are able to learn from him. He is a wonderful example of strength in humility. He is not ashamed to show he is vulnerable to her, that is so beautiful. Keep it up ling and lamb its good to see happiness and fulfillment in a marriage.
I have self-isolated myself from my family and your channel has been one of the most entertaining channel I've ever watched. It has been one of the things that kept me sane. You guys are one of the best and funniest TH-cam couples the world didn't want but needed. Kudos to you, Ling and Lamb! ❤❤❤
@Abid chy I hope you and your family will eventually be able to rectify your differences. Family is important but sometimes we do need separation if things are out of control crazy. God bless you with peace and strength.
I was literally wondering about this a few days ago!!! I wondered how A Nigerian man reconciles with a female who isn't of even african heritage. Thanks Lamb!! Glad to see this. Didn't think I would see it so soon.
We really do gotta unlearn a lot. Being African we learn so much even by just watching our parents & relatives. The notion of not apologising, being so prideful, not taking accountability for the wrongs you contributed etc and we grow up thinking it’s okay, but hearing how y’all solve issues, I am so grateful I watched this video, learning to put it into practise!! 🙌🏽👌🏾
Marriage should help you grow into you becoming your best self. There is so much emphasis on the romance or lack of it. But it is about team work and that has to do with adjustments. It takes maturity and dedication to commit to becoming the best you so that you and your relationship will flourish. Im proud of how you handle things this is what's called being a true grown up. Grown means constantly growing for the better.
I came across your channel and I cant stop watching. I also subscribed. I'm originally from Jamaica but I grew up in Connecticut and I was married to a Nigerian man who is an Igbo. I spent a month in Nigeria back in 1983 and we have two children. Through a series of events and his business he traveled again to Nigeria in 1985 and I decided no to go at that time. We eventually divorced and married different people. He passed away in Nigeria a few years ago. We had very good communication up to that point. I'm still in communication with his Mom and Siblings in Nigeria and they have been wonderful. He was from Enugu and Lamb your way of thinking and your mannerism is very similar to his you would think you guys were related. His name was Earnest Nnaji. You and Ling make a wonderful couple and you are both breath of fresh air.
I have learnt how to apologize properly. I will put pride aside and start apologising and doing so properly. At first, I did not realise it was pride. Thanks for sharing. I strongly believe my marriage will be better because of this aspect
And so if man who can actually listen to a good woman. That she is to add and multiply. She is not trying to take you down. Both are good. This man deserves some bigs props for understanding. Big Props to him too.
It is good to remember that it takes two to make a marriage successful. Wives remember a peaceful environment is the goal, where there is peace for the husband there is contentment, and he wont stray. Husbands remember when you show understanding and listen to the wife she will freely cooperate and assist you. Things will flow easier in the home. Women grow up stop being petty with holding back the love and affection, and the cooking, you can be angry and still show love and respect to your husband. Men please swallow that pride and accept the fact that you all "need" some help from your wife Its okay to tell her that you need her, it is the truth! You both married each other for love and support so stop the foolishness and be happy, its fun!
Sometimes you need to CLEAR your head, regain your composure and think things through. It is not always pride that you want some time "away" from the argument/confrontation, it's just that we all are wired differently. I am glad you have figured out what works for you. Ultimately, the two minds have to meet - accept responsibility and find a way to the "soft landing"
If you "always" walk away from confrontations, as a means to clear your head; that is, arguably, you addressing the love/respect that you have for that person but not addressing the situation. And yes we are wired differently.
I just called that the real love bcoz they is understanding between the couple. Ling you are playing a big role in your marriage life and Lamb you love your wife so much which is very good and you are learning up from her and she is a best friend, and sister, and mum, and she is your wife. The unique word is understanding. God bless this beautiful family.
The most heartwarming part of this video was when Lamb realises how blessed he really is to have Ling and says "I love you". Yo! That was so genuine, guys. I legit watched that part over and over. ❤ #RealLove You guys are awesome, really! 👍🏽 #LingAndLamb
My mom is an uneducated women. Growing up my mom will apologized to us if she mistreat us badly. I grew up knowing how to apologize. All what you guys said is what a healthy relationship is all about. Kudos to you guys. We celebrated our 26th weeding anniversary in January 25th. This year.
Wow my husband and are the opposite of you guys. My husband wants to solve the issue immediately, but I am the one that walks away. I am getting better at with God's help and my amazing husband. Thank you for this video!
I love this one. That is an effort my husband and I make to tackle things head on.. no festering of bad feelings. Who is wrong acknowledges thier wrong sincerely and we move on.
“ When you sincerely apologise to your spouse about any mistake , you are almost likely not to repeat that mistake if you love him or her” Absolutely correct.
Must confess, i thought after just 2+years in marriage, you were a bit ambitious to think you both qualify to advice on such matters. But how pleasantly surprised was i? Thanks Ling and Lamb you are just really and truly beautifully blessed. I've been married 20 years and we didn't figure out ours that quickly, that easily. l love what you both put out, fun, serious and all else.
What does it take to be qualified according to your standards? And What does your statement even mean? You dont need to be married 50 years to give advice on this topic! These are values parents teach us since we Kids...Our Ego and pride wouldnt Just let us put all that in practice.
This is a classic example of the power of a woman over a man. This is the super power of an intelligent woman that can soften an otherwise tense situation and make a man do anything. Also, this is an example of how good people (especially couples) make those around them better human beings. Kudos Ling and Lamb!
I don’t think you guys understand just how wonderful you’re energy is. Watching your videos are like eating your favorite food, or sitting next to a warm fire in the winter or snuggling under a thick blanket while listening to the rain… I just love y’all! 💚
I'm glad you both take the mature approach and not the stereotype that society pushes. The mindset that tells the men that the women are always right 🙄. I always say right is right and wrong is wrong no matter what. Ling has a mature response. A lot of wives out there would do things like stop cooking etc for their husband if they have a falling out. I agree with most that was said but I'm not sure about dealing with something right then and there all the time. Sometimes a person really needs to step away and calm themselves first. Discussing some things while still in that place of anger can lead to wrong and hurtful things being said. Better to discuss an issue when both are kinda calm 🤷♂️
@@onyekachitemitope4689 Interestingly, I wish I'm somewhat confrontational as confronting issues- without anger- helps, rather than sidestepping them. I'm naturally conflict-averse. Truth is, both extremes are bad for relationships.
I loved this. It is hard to merge to totally different cultures on a friend level, let alone a marriage level. My husband and I have been married almost 9 years and we are still learning and adjusting. It definitely makes the journey exciting and interesting.
Wow Ling! I can SO relate to that concept of not liking confrontation and dealing with that uneasy atmosphere if things aren’t resolved- not a good feeling 😅
That's the best bed for lovers, any turning around, your close to eachother even if there's arguements, you will touch each other but big beds,they can put a fence with words, don't cross the line.
This was one of those "oh! I see" moments. What part did I play in us reaching the point of an argument? How to apologize is soon important. God bless you both.
Amazing and touching. You two will have more blessing from the universe. Thank you two to show the world what true, healthy relationship and committed marriage is. The people who are emotionally dysfunctional and toxic ( like narcissist), will do the same kind of thing to hurt you again and again, even worse, they will learn what you likes and wanted from them, what you don’t like and it will hurt you, and use those to later do exactly the opposite way to cause your emotional distress and make you losing your peace. Their sorry means sorry that you caught their wrong doing but not sorry what made you felt. And next time they will do again with a different angle, when you call them out, they will gets angry with you and telling you “ why you are yelling!” This world need more of this kind couple shows up, to have some true good influence to the humanity.
Awwww....the moment lamb paused and said 'i love you' that's so cute. Ling and lamb if what we see is really what's going on between you both..... you've got a beautiful thing going on for you2. Best wishes
You are both so young with a great deal of wisdom for successful relationships. Add this, when you are evaluatinh your behavior in any disagreement, be quick to apologize. Behind every bit of anger is pain. Be truly sorry for bringing that pain to your injured partner. That's a valuable lesson I learned very late in my 77 years of life.
Are we allowed to know how old you two are? You both seem so mature, mature in yourselves, your self-awareness etc I just LOVE watching you two together. How you interact with each other is teaching me so much about what it takes and how to "be" in a genuinely healthy relationship. 💕👌❤️🤔😍😍
To get to self reflection emotional maturity is needed, this is why, mostly, this is not practiced enough, and we look outwards for answers, when the answers are within
Hi guys my wife just showed me these and subscribe right away Am Nigerian married to a beautiful Jamaican American woman and I must say we are definitely in the Same boat you guys are talking about. As an African culturally speaking there are certain things we see as off the block that may not mean anything from your partner. As Africans we are people of culture and pride. Definitely learning from you two.
I use to tell my girl that, whenever we are having minor issues, address the situation and not the love we have for each other. She's always quick to say "am done", "I regret whatever I did with you"… very very wrong... It's nice to knw someone else shares the same ideology. That's rich...
@@godwinejiofor8064 So for how long will I continue doing that??? Mr/ Mrs Responsible. Love is not a one way street, u give and receive. I cannot have a lady threatening breakup each time we have a petty issue. I cannot.
Dude, you bullseyed with this lady. Kudos to you limb!! No wonder there is that much laughter and joy between you two!! This need to be in print “ own up to your errors” I love it!!
Lamb saw how Ling parents were and this is the foundation of their marriage.Ling came from a very good home and this issues comes natural to her and husband can see her intelligent and maturity. Men her teachable,they just need to be with the right woman and women are teachable when they are with the right men.
I love everything you both said ❤ it's so accurate! Also, don't try to find something random to start an argument, don't say things out of anger to intentionally hurt the other person, and stop comparing your current spouse to your ex. Lots of love and respect for you both ♥
You guys are fast becoming my favorite TH-cam couple after watching this video. Your love, mutual respect for each other is genuine. When Lamb said he has learned a lot from you sincerely says much to me about your relationship. Ling is so naturally beautiful.
My God...the transparency is this video is so refreshing. For a relationship to be successful, both parties have to be mature and humble enough to take a second, stop pointing the finger, and take responsibility for their part in the disagreement, or at least be willing to admit that you could've responded different;y. Thank you guys for doing this. We see many public couples who either portray a perfect relationship or display a wrecked relationship. There's not enough out here about how to OVERCOME issues! Blessings to you both!
I’ve been following y’all on TikTok & recently started following you on TH-cam, I have a lot of respect for Lamb because he can admit, his wrongs & that speaks volumes for a man! Much respect my brotha
I love what you guys have. I desire to have an interracial marriage more so if we both have the same moral and religious beliefs. I pray for it every day.
I LOVE YALL!!! THE LAUGHS, THE JOY, WE NEED MORE OF YALL IN THIS WORLD!!! LAMB ACCENT, LING SWEET LOVING SELF, AND ALL THE LOVE YALL SHARE!!! HIGH FIVE TO YALL
Despite how long ago this is, I still think this conversation is so important. Like you guys I am Nigerian married to a German man. And like Lamb, I didn’t like to address issues immediately, I always wanted to walk away but my partner always wanted to talk. We have learned to find a common ground where I can stew but never longer than a few hours. I can’t stew more than 24 hours. And that works for us. Love you ling and lamb.
Addressing the issue when it happens is very very important in a marriage and relationships in general else that’s how malice develops. It’s very common with Africans ie not addressing issues immediately, ego, pride, we need to let go of our pride and strengthen our relationship. Thanks L& L.
Watching at 2am from Dubai....Love you Ling and Lamb❤️❤️❤️❤️Am an Indian and I love wen you said..."Sitting Indian Style" that is how I sit everywhere 😉🤗
I agree with all your points, specially the sorry and apologizing part. I was with a woman for more then 20 years, and she said i am sorry 3 times, the rest of the time, she never acknowledged the wrong. We are not together anymore. May God continue blessing you
Sometimes it's not pride, it's just you trying to cool off and then we talk about things because I may be too hurt to talk or say somethings not meant to be said. I always want the air to be calm first
Oh guys !!! I am watching this episode today (20/03/2022) and I'm really touched to the core. I love the way you guys truly love each other. SO BEAUTIFUL SOULS.
What I do like about what you said is after an argument, when one is truly sorry, you don't have to repeat the argument. It's props on you guys 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. That's the way to go. It's also rare. Well done at it. 👏🏼👏🏼
I saw these tweets this week, and listening to you guys made me go look for it. #Teach your partner whatever you learn. Good or bad. Show them whatever movie you watch that made you more knowledgeable. Share books, articles, resource materials, and new things that you get to know. Ensure there isn’t so much knowledge gap between you guys.
I genuinely love this couple. They are showing everyone what a great relationship is. Flaws and all. The fact that they have a great foundation for friendship that turned into a loving relationship is amazing. This is great for my growth in the new year. Thank you so much. I want my relationship to grow into what you both have.
I am a kenya man. Married to an American. Cultural difference is huge. But we have found a way to meet in the middle. But we African men have tough heads. Back home women listen to the man. Here we listen to each other. Huge adjustment
Increase volume on that especialy for those who are still like that.It balances the marriage when we listen to each other.
At least you admit it. Love is about mutual respect. Best wishes
Mufunzi step by step guide and most of us women are good to listen and address the issues while it's still raw.
😂😂😂😂 I LOVE that break down. Oh my.
Habari ndio hiyo.
The fact lamb accepted the fact that he was proud... shows how humble you are. Some people always think they are right... they can never accept that they are wrong. Thank you for being humble seriously.
Absolutely. It is so key that not only one person takes account of every situation everytime to the point that it becomes a default way of dealing with issues.
When he said ' I love you' .. I felt that! That's Real❤️
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I felt that too... Absolutely they are soul mates💖
I felt it all the way from America to Africa 😢
I appreciate how she didn't bounce back with the "I love you too" sometimes it just sounds so flippant.
Sure right 👍👍👍
Ling has what is called Emotional Intelligence. When you are emotionally intelligent, you can relate with anyone because you are aware of your own emotions and how it affects others.
Lamb....you are blessed to have her as a wife. Cheers to you guys
Emotional intelligence! Very important in life👌
Very correct. Emotional intelligence is a win in any relationship.
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Lamb shows Maturity in expressing his weaknesses and also acknowledging Ling's ability to communicate effectively in resolving issues. Lessons learnt 👌
Emotional intelligence, emotionally aware, emotionally mature
Mehn..That "I love you" came out of nowhere. And you could hear/feel the sincerity, warmth, and depth in it.
Lamb was legit in his feelings there. And I'm here for it!
I think a big part of why Ling is the way she is, probably is because of the way she was brought up. Look at the relationship of her parents and how they interact with her even as an adult. It shows why Ling is such a wonderful person. The influence she had growing up, the model her parents had been to her, the relationship between her mother and father:it all played a huge part on shaping how she is as an adult.
I totally agree...I am taking notes
I second agree to that. Most definitely
I truly agree
I strongly agree
Strongly agree
Ling is an embodiment of a virtuous wife! Thank you for modelling the role of a wife without being subversive!
very true
True
Growing up in an Nigeria home my parents never apologize to me so I got use to this so thank you for this. I will start my journey of including others feelings
Hahahahaaa naija parents no dey apologize o
@@hopedsolution1603 they no fit ,😅🤣🤣
Most Nigerian parents, especially fathers, see apology as a sign of weakness, for them, apologizing is confirming and admitting you were wrong, which is a no no for them...
But you can learn for the sake of your children or anyone that looks up to you, to put aside your ego and learn be honest with yourself first when you reflect on any incident... That way you can understand and take responsibility for your part in it... Apologizing is the natural thing that comes after an honest talk with your conscience.
@@samsonoluwafemiojiti9438 Actually, not being able to apologize is a sign of weakness. It takes strength to apologize.
Swears
It also has a lot to do with our culture and upbringings. Our African men are taught to be dominant in marriage- they are the head, are always right and must have the final say. This makes them very egoistic. Iam glad Lamb is learning to defuse that. Much Love.
I AM BLESSED, My sentiments exactly....Sometimes, tradition can be the enemy of progress....Cultural conditioning can be a major hindrance to individual growth.......We just need to adapt and grow.....Be blessed AGAIN! 😂.....
@@olabodeakinola9849 absoulutely. thanks and be blessed as well. 🤗
Exactly thats why we are always on argument with my nigerian bf because he taught he was always right but he is the one who always say sorry
An apology without change is manipulative.... Thank you lamb for sharing the milestones and growth you have achieved proud of you guys.. Lots of love from kenya
wow, very true Anne, an apology without change is manipulative... you should be quoted for that
I love when he just stops and looks forward and says ' I just love you' you can see in that moment this man literally loves her to death... That is his queen💖 That was so sweet... You two are great!! I love you both! And you don't understand how much you are teaching and showing others what true real authentic love is!! God bless you both!
Wow! I hope African men,and Nigerian men in particular can find this video cathartic and therapeutic ...Ling is a relentless embodiment of maturity, grace and class. For an African, , Lamb is evolving in real time....I am impressed with your understanding of the dynamics of communication in relationships.Very thought provoking video....Keep growing folks...#Respect...
"For an African" to generalize African men as not evolved is hugely problematic.
He is evolving!!
Hope African women find it too
I have learnt alot from this video, we Africans hardly apologize, but I have chosen to change from now own, starting with my kids.... My husband and all, at least it will help my children, and change their mindset, we should all start from some where👏🏽
For he who finds a Wife finds a Good thing and receives God's Blessing! Be Blessed!
This guy na real naija man... Twale baba✊🏿✊🏿I love how Ling sometimes mimic our accent.. it's very funny 😂😂😂
Ikr
That part always cracks me up. Her face and mouth changes drastically and it’s funny 🤣
@@osakwevictor669 😂😂😂😂
It's my highlight of every video. It's so funny when she says that
I love his type so funny
This was such great advice. As I child, I never witnessed healthy resolution of arguments/disagreements with my parents, so this is honestly eye -opening for me. Thank you!😊
Best thing I like about you both is you re soo o natural. He doesn't try to sound/ act american, she doesn't try to act Nigerian. She teases his accent, but doesn't demean him in the process
Apologies! Honesty! Self-Acceptance! Nurturing the LOVE!
Sometimes not to be able to apologize or apologize properly as to do with upbringing. For example when a parent and a child are arguing probably later in the argument the child was right and the parent realizes that he/she was wrong they just let it go without apologizing, so that child is not used to it from the onset for someone like that it affect it might affect that child in a relationship because the child is not used to apologizing
Being able to own up and apologize definitely has to do with how you were raised and the people you grew up with. You can easily tell Ling was raised very well by loving parents that communicate very well and they also taught her that while growing up. Lamb is really lucky to have her.
Very true and well said..Especially in Naija culture and non-western culture...
Ling loves her husband so much. The mimics him in a loving way and she caresses his cheeks lovingly, too. I love them!
First women I’ve ever seen who is straight up. They deserve each other, I’m glad he makes her happy.
Lamb’s willingness to learn should be applauded. Ling is so much of a gentle soul.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Love your love ❤️❤️
Ling & Lamb, thank you for uploading this video. I have been watching some of your videos and i wanted to say two things: Ling How beautiful you looked, but especially to Lamb, I must give you all the credit, or put it this way: Lamb, when it comes to serious matters/topics such as this one, you appeal and touch the soul of so many people. You speak with sincerity, truth and wisdom and I am grateful to you, for your honesty and the ability you have to share your point of view on different aspects of a relationship. May God bless you and your wife cause you are dear brother a blessing to others. From Kinshasa, D.R.C/Congo
I know exactly what it was for Lamb. Most Nigerian men are prideful and don't even know it. Its already embedded in the culture really and that's real talk!
But I'm glad he was able to self reflect, that makes a difference in any type of relationship
You are very right and its really destroying marriages and relationships
Trust me though I don't mean to defend, but my gf is like him, while I prefer to address the matter quickly and it is really stressful, so it's not all Nigeria men
@@timdan1504 Yea I feel you. I mean I think everything is situational. It all depends on the circumstance. Definitely if its in public, wait to you get in private before addressing it.
Truth 😞😞😞
These things sound so simple, but it takes some people YEARS to understand this and save their marriages. Well done!!
True, but when you try it once and it works then you will not have problems doing it.
You know.. growing up in an African home taught me that when someone is upset about something, give him sometime to cool off before addressing the matter if not it will lead to more disaster. So in a way, I understand why Lamb wanted to take a walk 8n the beginning. I face the same problem in my relationship, but I have learned to communicate. Thank you both for this video. It served as a good reminder
And that's ok sometimes depending on the person
So true, til date its still the same
That little intro about balance. That hit different. I needed that. Tongue is definitely life or death. God continue to bless you you guys x
Valid point: "knowing How to apologize properly."
This is maturity and pure sincerity of heart.
Ling is truly peaceful
I like the way how he dropped the ''...I love you''
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@@tinycoloredmiracle does that help
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It is so special to see how much he literally adores and loves her. He does not find it threatening to do things for her. When they were on vacation and he got out of bed and slept on the floor, I was so touched. It totally showed how much he is willing to please her, even to the place of his discomfort. That is a real man.!
I hope the men young and older are able to learn from him. He is a wonderful example of strength in humility. He is not ashamed to show he is vulnerable to her, that is so beautiful. Keep it up ling and lamb its good to see happiness and fulfillment in a marriage.
I have self-isolated myself from my family and your channel has been one of the most entertaining channel I've ever watched. It has been one of the things that kept me sane. You guys are one of the best and funniest TH-cam couples the world didn't want but needed. Kudos to you, Ling and Lamb! ❤❤❤
Thank you for being with us!!!
@Abid chy I hope you and your family will eventually be able to rectify your differences. Family is important but sometimes we do need separation if things are out of control crazy. God bless you with peace and strength.
The way he said the 'I love you' ...I 've learnt so much from you'.....so very sweet
I was literally wondering about this a few days ago!!!
I wondered how A Nigerian man reconciles with a female who isn't of even african heritage. Thanks Lamb!! Glad to see this. Didn't think I would see it so soon.
We really do gotta unlearn a lot. Being African we learn so much even by just watching our parents & relatives. The notion of not apologising, being so prideful, not taking accountability for the wrongs you contributed etc and we grow up thinking it’s okay, but hearing how y’all solve issues, I am so grateful I watched this video, learning to put it into practise!! 🙌🏽👌🏾
Marriage should help you grow into you becoming your best self. There is so much emphasis on the romance or lack of it. But it is about team work and that has to do with adjustments. It takes maturity and dedication to commit to becoming the best you so that you and your relationship will flourish. Im proud of how you handle things this is what's called being a true grown up. Grown means constantly growing for the better.
I came across your channel and I cant stop watching. I also subscribed. I'm originally from Jamaica but I grew up in Connecticut and I was married to a Nigerian man who is an Igbo. I spent a month in Nigeria back in 1983 and we have two children. Through a series of events and his business he traveled again to Nigeria in 1985 and I decided no to go at that time. We eventually divorced and married different people. He passed away in Nigeria a few years ago. We had very good communication up to that point. I'm still in communication with his Mom and Siblings in Nigeria and they have been wonderful. He was from Enugu and Lamb your way of thinking and your mannerism is very similar to his you would think you guys were related. His name was Earnest Nnaji. You and Ling make a wonderful couple and you are both breath of fresh air.
Hi, my name is Success also from Enugu State, I have this feeling that I know that name
Wow!
What a story.
@@kingsuccess8578 Hmmmmm. Beware of scammers.
I have learnt how to apologize properly. I will put pride aside and start apologising and doing so properly. At first, I did not realise it was pride. Thanks for sharing. I strongly believe my marriage will be better because of this aspect
I swear your wife is a good woman. Even when u quarrel she cooks and talk to you. Women is the key to any healthy relationship.
And so if man who can actually listen to a good woman. That she is to add and multiply. She is not trying to take you down. Both are good. This man deserves some bigs props for understanding. Big Props to him too.
Wrong! Both men and women are the key to a healthy relationship.
Nigerians put too much pressure on only the women.
You're wrong. Both parties are the key to any healthy relationship. BOTH!
@@JuliaPedro so true
It is good to remember that it takes two to make a marriage successful. Wives remember a peaceful environment is the goal, where there is peace for the husband there is contentment, and he wont stray. Husbands remember when you show understanding and listen to the wife she will freely cooperate and assist you. Things will flow easier in the home.
Women grow up stop being petty with holding back the love and affection, and the cooking, you can be angry and still show love and respect to your husband. Men please swallow that pride and accept the fact that you all "need" some help from your wife
Its okay to tell her that you need her, it is the truth! You both married each other for love and support so stop the foolishness and be happy, its fun!
Communication, sorry and understanding is the key to every relationship
Sometimes you need to CLEAR your head, regain your composure and think things through. It is not always pride that you want some time "away" from the argument/confrontation, it's just that we all are wired differently. I am glad you have figured out what works for you. Ultimately, the two minds have to meet - accept responsibility and find a way to the "soft landing"
You are right. Sometimes addressing it there and then can bring tensions still. I will prefer not to sleep with an unresolved issue.
This is true
If you "always" walk away from confrontations, as a means to clear your head; that is, arguably, you addressing the love/respect that you have for that person but not addressing the situation.
And yes we are wired differently.
Timing is key!
I agree, especially for hotheads. I rarely regret restraint.
I love the way Ling makes fun of Lamb's pronunciations and Nigerian gestures in a sarcastic but so loving way. You both are really fun to watch.
I just called that the real love bcoz they is understanding between the couple. Ling you are playing a big role in your marriage life and Lamb you love your wife so much which is very good and you are learning up from her and she is a best friend, and sister, and mum, and she is your wife. The unique word is understanding. God bless this beautiful family.
It's very hard to find woman like Ling these day's. Lamb such a humble guy his so loveable ♥️
The most heartwarming part of this video was when Lamb realises how blessed he really is to have Ling and says "I love you".
Yo! That was so genuine, guys. I legit watched that part over and over. ❤ #RealLove
You guys are awesome, really! 👍🏽 #LingAndLamb
Very true! I pray to God that I find a relationship like theirs. Lamb, is showing us that he is a real man...just the way Christ loved the church
@@chidichuks2853 hi chuks let's talk FB Stenzylove
@@stenzylove4486 okay... Will do
I admire your openness and the value you place in communicating truly with each other. May your love grow ever stronger.
Ling’s smile is EVERYTHING! Her smile is so beautiful.
The issues not repeating SHOWS THE AMOUNT OF LOVE AND RESPECT YOU GUYS TRULY HAVE FOR EACH OTHER....U GUYS ARE COUPLE GOALS!!!
Exactly!!!
My mom is an uneducated women. Growing up my mom will apologized to us if she mistreat us badly. I grew up knowing how to apologize. All what you guys said is what a healthy relationship is all about. Kudos to you guys. We celebrated our 26th weeding anniversary in January 25th. This year.
@@1browngirl29 very very true it is one's nature and GOD given wisdom. Not education
Wow my husband and are the opposite of you guys. My husband wants to solve the issue immediately, but I am the one that walks away. I am getting better at with God's help and my amazing husband. Thank you for this video!
The "..I love you" part🙈❤
I love this one. That is an effort my husband and I make to tackle things head on.. no festering of bad feelings. Who is wrong acknowledges thier wrong sincerely and we move on.
“ When you sincerely apologise to your spouse about any mistake , you are almost likely not to repeat that mistake if you love him or her” Absolutely correct.
Must confess, i thought after just 2+years in marriage, you were a bit ambitious to think you both qualify to advice on such matters. But how pleasantly surprised was i? Thanks Ling and Lamb you are just really and truly beautifully blessed. I've been married 20 years and we didn't figure out ours that quickly, that easily. l love what you both put out, fun, serious and all else.
What does it take to be qualified according to your standards? And What does your statement even mean? You dont need to be married 50 years to give advice on this topic! These are values parents teach us since we Kids...Our Ego and pride wouldnt Just let us put all that in practice.
This is a classic example of the power of a woman over a man. This is the super power of an intelligent woman that can soften an otherwise tense situation and make a man do anything. Also, this is an example of how good people (especially couples) make those around them better human beings. Kudos Ling and Lamb!
I don’t think you guys understand just how wonderful you’re energy is. Watching your videos are like eating your favorite food, or sitting next to a warm fire in the winter or snuggling under a thick blanket while listening to the rain… I just love y’all! 💚
I'm glad you both take the mature approach and not the stereotype that society pushes. The mindset that tells the men that the women are always right 🙄. I always say right is right and wrong is wrong no matter what. Ling has a mature response. A lot of wives out there would do things like stop cooking etc for their husband if they have a falling out. I agree with most that was said but I'm not sure about dealing with something right then and there all the time. Sometimes a person really needs to step away and calm themselves first. Discussing some things while still in that place of anger can lead to wrong and hurtful things being said. Better to discuss an issue when both are kinda calm 🤷♂️
I am learning. Cause I also have problem with pride and being too confrontational.
I’m learning.
Love you guys.
You're on the right path sis as acceptance is the first step.
Being (always) confrontational never helps...it kills relationships.
I'm learning too.👍❤
@@onyekachitemitope4689 Interestingly, I wish I'm somewhat confrontational as confronting issues- without anger- helps, rather than sidestepping them. I'm naturally conflict-averse.
Truth is, both extremes are bad for relationships.
I loved this. It is hard to merge to totally different cultures on a friend level, let alone a marriage level. My husband and I have been married almost 9 years and we are still learning and adjusting. It definitely makes the journey exciting and interesting.
Wow Ling! I can SO relate to that concept of not liking confrontation and dealing with that uneasy atmosphere if things aren’t resolved- not a good feeling 😅
Right?! Ugh the worst hahah
The struggle is real with lamb and that bed hahahahaha 😅
That's the best bed for lovers, any turning around, your close to eachother even if there's arguements, you will touch each other but big beds,they can put a fence with words, don't cross the line.
Lol
This was one of those "oh! I see" moments. What part did I play in us reaching the point of an argument? How to apologize is soon important. God bless you both.
Amazing and touching. You two will have more blessing from the universe. Thank you two to show the world what true, healthy relationship and committed marriage is. The people who are emotionally dysfunctional and toxic ( like narcissist), will do the same kind of thing to hurt you again and again, even worse, they will learn what you likes and wanted from them, what you don’t like and it will hurt you, and use those to later do exactly the opposite way to cause your emotional distress and make you losing your peace. Their sorry means sorry that you caught their wrong doing but not sorry what made you felt. And next time they will do again with a different angle, when you call them out, they will gets angry with you and telling you “ why you are yelling!” This world need more of this kind couple shows up, to have some true good influence to the humanity.
Awwww....the moment lamb paused and said 'i love you' that's so cute. Ling and lamb if what we see is really what's going on between you both..... you've got a beautiful thing going on for you2. Best wishes
9:20; Lambs honest confession is just so AMAZING!! A real humble character! U guys are the best!!
That was a heartfelt confession
You are both so young with a great deal of wisdom for successful relationships. Add this, when you are evaluatinh your behavior in any disagreement, be quick to apologize. Behind every bit of anger is pain. Be truly sorry for bringing that pain to your injured partner. That's a valuable lesson I learned very late in my 77 years of life.
Apologising and apolosing the right way... Very key.
Thank you Lamb,for being open and willing to learn. That is a true mark of humility.
Being honest with yourself and self_reflective is so important to a relationship or an argument. " I used to be a victim of that " is so true.
Are we allowed to know how old you two are? You both seem so mature, mature in yourselves, your self-awareness etc I just LOVE watching you two together. How you interact with each other is teaching me so much about what it takes and how to "be" in a genuinely healthy relationship. 💕👌❤️🤔😍😍
Honestly, I find Ling a very mature young woman.
To get to self reflection emotional maturity is needed, this is why, mostly, this is not practiced enough, and we look outwards for answers, when the answers are within
Hi guys my wife just showed me these and subscribe right away
Am Nigerian married to a beautiful Jamaican American woman and I must say we are definitely in the Same boat you guys are talking about. As an African culturally speaking there are certain things we see as off the block that may not mean anything from your partner.
As Africans we are people of culture and pride. Definitely learning from you two.
When u truly love someone u will do anything to avoid hurting them..that's true love
He gave her all the credit!! Smart dude ... happy wife is happy life my brother
I use to tell my girl that, whenever we are having minor issues, address the situation and not the love we have for each other. She's always quick to say "am done", "I regret whatever I did with you"… very very wrong... It's nice to knw someone else shares the same ideology. That's rich...
When she say that if you are a responsible man you should have hugged her
only black girls do that
@@godwinejiofor8064 So for how long will I continue doing that??? Mr/ Mrs Responsible. Love is not a one way street, u give and receive. I cannot have a lady threatening breakup each time we have a petty issue. I cannot.
Hmm, you can find a therapist for her. Try and help her to see any changes.
@@boanerge4879 I used to have this and it's one of the most frustrating things in a relationship
Dude, you bullseyed with this lady. Kudos to you limb!! No wonder there is that much laughter and joy between you two!! This need to be in print “ own up to your errors” I love it!!
Lamb saw how Ling parents were and this is the foundation of their marriage.Ling came from a very good home and this issues comes natural to her and husband can see her intelligent and maturity. Men her teachable,they just need to be with the right woman and women are teachable when they are with the right men.
I love everything you both said ❤ it's so accurate! Also, don't try to find something random to start an argument, don't say things out of anger to intentionally hurt the other person, and stop comparing your current spouse to your ex. Lots of love and respect for you both ♥
You guys are fast becoming my favorite TH-cam couple after watching this video. Your love, mutual respect for each other is genuine. When Lamb said he has learned a lot from you sincerely says much to me about your relationship. Ling is so naturally beautiful.
I’m just addicted to you both.
Blessed relationship !! I’ve learnt so much from you guys
My God...the transparency is this video is so refreshing. For a relationship to be successful, both parties have to be mature and humble enough to take a second, stop pointing the finger, and take responsibility for their part in the disagreement, or at least be willing to admit that you could've responded different;y. Thank you guys for doing this. We see many public couples who either portray a perfect relationship or display a wrecked relationship. There's not enough out here about how to OVERCOME issues! Blessings to you both!
Very well said Lamb❤️...."We forget the value of person When we Fight"
I’ve been following y’all on TikTok & recently started following you on TH-cam, I have a lot of respect for Lamb because he can admit, his wrongs & that speaks volumes for a man! Much respect my brotha
I am addicted to this channel. So real and genuine.
I love what you guys have. I desire to have an interracial marriage more so if we both have the same moral and religious beliefs. I pray for it every day.
I LOVE YALL!!! THE LAUGHS, THE JOY, WE NEED MORE OF YALL IN THIS WORLD!!! LAMB ACCENT, LING SWEET LOVING SELF, AND ALL THE LOVE YALL SHARE!!! HIGH FIVE TO YALL
When he said .... I love you.... I welled up ... that was beautiful right there!
Background music is fire, MOVE
~Give thanks in the morning, for my friends and my family~🕺💃🇿🇦🇳🇬🇺🇸
The guy sang it
Despite how long ago this is, I still think this conversation is so important. Like you guys I am Nigerian married to a German man. And like Lamb, I didn’t like to address issues immediately, I always wanted to walk away but my partner always wanted to talk. We have learned to find a common ground where I can stew but never longer than a few hours. I can’t stew more than 24 hours. And that works for us. Love you ling and lamb.
I was just on y’all tiktok videos
And got this notification 🥰🥰
Huge fan from 🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷 Liberia
Marriage has a way of molding,breaking and teaching partners how to communicate so guys keep enjoying ourselves.
Addressing the issue when it happens is very very important in a marriage and relationships in general else that’s how malice develops. It’s very common with Africans ie not addressing issues immediately, ego, pride, we need to let go of our pride and strengthen our relationship. Thanks L& L.
…the value surrounding the love that we share, that that one issue should not devalue every other thing around it…”😌
Watching at 2am from Dubai....Love you Ling and Lamb❤️❤️❤️❤️Am an Indian and I love wen you said..."Sitting Indian Style" that is how I sit everywhere 😉🤗
Awww. Love it and you!
I agree with all your points, specially the sorry and apologizing part. I was with a woman for more then 20 years, and she said i am sorry 3 times, the rest of the time, she never acknowledged the wrong. We are not together anymore. May God continue blessing you
Sometimes it's not pride, it's just you trying to cool off and then we talk about things because I may be too hurt to talk or say somethings not meant to be said. I always want the air to be calm first
Oh guys !!! I am watching this episode today (20/03/2022) and I'm really touched to the core. I love the way you guys truly love each other. SO BEAUTIFUL SOULS.
How he paused and said "I love you"..... you guys are doing just fine.
What I do like about what you said is after an argument, when one is truly sorry, you don't have to repeat the argument. It's props on you guys 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. That's the way to go. It's also rare. Well done at it. 👏🏼👏🏼
I saw these tweets this week, and listening to you guys made me go look for it.
#Teach your partner whatever you learn. Good or bad. Show them whatever movie you watch that made you more knowledgeable. Share books, articles, resource materials, and new things that you get to know. Ensure there isn’t so much knowledge gap between you guys.
I genuinely love this couple. They are showing everyone what a great relationship is. Flaws and all. The fact that they have a great foundation for friendship that turned into a loving relationship is amazing. This is great for my growth in the new year. Thank you so much. I want my relationship to grow into what you both have.
Learning from your partner is of the best feelings in life. I just love watching this two.
Sincerely right now so I can say is "I love you both and thank God for your union". It keeps getting better for you both.