I feel extremely violated and exposed, guess I'll just have to restructure, reorganize and restrategize my flawless life plan just to prove that I am not that predictable, robotic lol.
My hairdressing friend stopped being able to cut hair -- hands getting too shaky -- so I finally started cutting my own hair. A number 4 blade on a hair clipper works well enough. But I discovered that I had been parting my hair on the wrong side all these decades -- from my teens to my sixties. So I have now swapped sides. Mid-life crisis? More just "well, I never knew that..." Feelings ... relationships ... hmmm, if it ain't broke, don't meddle with them. Finding a therapist who understands me would take a lot of work. Some of us INTJs are on the autism spectrum: can't just go to a random therapist who hasn't specialised in autism, autistic adults, and their relationships. Random therapists *can* do harm. PS: it is very hard to observe a wide range of human behaviour if you are not allowed to use concealed cameras. How are you supposed to know what people are really thinking? (in case you cannot tell, my tongue is in my cheek.)
I have a hairdresser acquaintance. She hates my hair because I have two modes. One is for going out. I get out my Wahl animal trimmers that I bought at Walmart 20 years ago, and I buzz my hair. The other is the mode I've been able to be in for the last 4 years thanks to lockdowns. I don't do anything with it. Currently I look like I'm ready to move to the woods and write a manifesto. And on another note, about 8 months ago, I decided to move into a tent in the woods. It has a small stove, and a sleeping bag, and a pillow. But no typewriter.
That's all wrong. I'm right now designing my cybernetic body that will prevent me from growing old and allow me to escape society forever and run on solar energy.
I'm INFJ, and I could totally relate to the pre-teen! It must be the dominant Ni, but having a physical body to deal with just feels like so much work all the time. 😂
I’m enfp and sometimes I’m extremely annoyed I need to feed myself or wash my hair like frrrr it’s so annoying and don’t get me started on washing dishes no way I’m doing that while robots are making art out there 😭😭😭😭😭
I really enjoyed this new series, Kristin. Thank you for still keeping the channel alive and kicking. Naturally, INTJs were planning world domination as early as childhood.
I recognize my mom in a lot of this. 😅She's an INTJ and most people find her intimidating. I never have, though. We've always gotten along very well and I think a big reason for that is we both have Ni as our first function, so we understand each other a lot.
Baby: Didn't like planes. Probably thought I was dying. Young child: Apparently I used to go get milk at nursery in my own time because I found out where they kept it (I didn't steal it, I only took what I would have gotten later anyway). And apparently when I had to write a letter to Santa Clause, I wrote it from the perspective of one of the toys instead. Child: Used to sneak past my mother whenever she put food on my plate I didn't like and silently put it in the bin. Learnt to step very quietly and control my breathing to the point where I was basically silent. Also developed the ability to eavesdrop while appearing busy or asleep. Oh and was constantly thinking about how I'm probably an alien that got born into the body of a human (since people seemed so... weird...) and also thought about stuff like would I prefer an older or younger wife. Teenager: No, we're not going into that period. Young adult: Crippling depression. Black-pilled. Late 20s: Finally getting out of it, actually paying attention to my appearance for once... which is weird...
Wow. We must be relatives separated at birth because I did all that (except maybe the "would I prefer an older or younger wife". But that damn 7-10 year depression was deadly (especially to social life and social skills...)
@@tarukaja8 The wife thoughts were prompted by my first crush (who was two years older than me) so naturally I was imagining what my future would be like and pondering questions about what would be best (like "If she's older than me, I have to watch her die, but if she's younger she has to watch me die... which is better?" Silly, I know. xD). Yeah... I still haven't totally recovered from it either. But I'm getting there, I think.
I get out of depression by 1. Socialize 2. Enjoy a passion for like 4 hours uninterrupted 3. Pray for help to feel better, do things that makes me feel close to God 4. Meditate. If you search on TH-cam for the Avatar the Last Airbender meditation from Guru Pathik, it is SUPRRISINGLY helpful at helping me with depression 5. Find a way to stop feeling like I need to keep myself trapped in my near-perfect persona.
Lol, can relate to all of that XD I have crystal clear memories from when I was about 2-3 years old... I find myself amazed whenever my parents make a comment about my childhood self's habits and they are interpreted very differently from they actually meant to me I remember the first time I was deceived by another human being in life, if I can even call that little devil of a child "human". I also remember my first existential crisis when I was 5, right after my grandfather passed away. And then there was that time I wrote a whole ass story book when I was also 5, knowing dogshit about the alphabet. To be fair, I did it by drawing the illustrations in chronological order of the story at kindergarten, then when I got home I told my mom the whole lore that I had created and made her write it syllable by syllable over the drawings... And the story was about a bean who escaped a warehouse in an attempt to be free from his doom of being eaten, only to discover from a hermit broccoli that the purpose of his life was feeding a human so that life could be perpetuated. He then returned to his home at the warehouse and gladly served his duty.
@@dearkristinfor the INFP, you may want to consider this point.... We like to be snug and safe (i feel confident speaking for all the INFPs here.... 😊) I was literally born 3 weeks late for my poor mother..... I'm not sure why they didn't induce me, but i was born in 1970, so yeah, that may have been a factor... In any case, i was happily snug and, apparently, quite content. And then i was an extremely content baby who smiled and waved at everyone. Everyone 😊
I have a funny [but a bit tragic] story to show you how I was like as an INTJ 3-year-old. My friend wanted to talk to one kid, but he was ignoring her, so I gave her some advice. But she kept on bothering so I sarcastically told her to yell directly to his ear, then he will hear her for sure. It was CLEARLY a sarcastic sentence, but she didn't get it, did as I SARCASTICALLY told and what happened next? The boy complained to our supervisor, who wanted to punish the girl, but she told that I "commanded" her to do it and I got punished instead. I had a lot of similar cases during my school years and all of them were because I acted not like a kid, but like an INTJ. So yeah. NT kids - always punished for being well&fast-developed. My ENTP friend didn't have it easy either.
ENTJ here! As a kid I would always get in trouble for trying to figure out why we have rules and if there was a point to them. The few times I got answers I would always suggest changes to the rules and give reasons for my opinion 😂😂😂 In school I also constantly challenged the systems we used and developed new ways to do things out of sheer interest to see if I could. Teachers didn’t (and still don’t) like me
..now i suspect my daughter 4 years old to be NT^^ At preschool, teachers put her with older children when they do school work because otherwise she bothers her classmates: she wants to help them by doing their school exercices herself 'cause she thinks they are slow, she gets annoyed when they dont understand directions.. today she asked me how the all deal of town sewers and waste waters works😂 (not english speaker native, i hope i m understandable)
@@user-gh5gl7dq4h As INTP, an important lesson I learned in school was that it's good to give teachers good first impression that you know your stuff, doing that you get a lot more leeway on future rules-twisting (I did a fair amount of that, mainly out of curiosity what could be done with the given conditions and wordings). Though Ti-Te difference probably plays a role, in school it's also sometimes easier to just have broken the rule already instead of initiating a discussion about rule-breaking...
One day while I was 6, my Mother threatened to burn all my books unless I went outside to play. Ten hours later, when she (frantically) called her own Mother for assistance in dragging the local ponds for my undoubtedly dead self, she discovered I'd been there since lunch, having popped in for a visit nearly two miles away from my own home in the next town over. Dinner was lovely...
As an INTJ, sometimes I feel like I'm the most brilliant person in the world, and then after a minute, I feel like the most foolish. Only to then feel like a genius again.
This is everything!!! (I know I've said this before, but Kristin just keeps on delivering every single time). Now I'm waiting for the ENFJ and ENFP to have their lives summarized, I think these are going to be the best ones.
@dearkristin Could you do a video on the Shadow Types? Under stress the INTJ can act more like an ENTP. I was a scatterbrained class clown for significant parts of secondary school, and only got my sh^t together after I left. Now I realise it was a defence mechanism to cope with bullying and the discomfort of socialising.
As an INTJ, this is hilarious; I had a few of these thoughts growing up, especially the existential crisis. I didn’t understand why I had to go and “have fun” at a playground or be particularly kind to or sociable with others. For the past year, I have been starting to spend more time in the physical world instead of my head. It’s very rewarding, I feel much closer to my younger siblings and twin sister. Apparently, my younger siblings and their friends, think I am “very cool”, but I look annoyed all the time so they don’t think it is fine to speak to me. I didn’t even realise that. I’m learning a lot about how I come across to other people, using feelings that I never thought that I would use and making unlikely connections with people.
INTJ: Can't say I directly identified with all of the quips, but everything was hilarious nonetheless. As a sidenote though, I think we would be having life crises much earlier than mid-life. Personally, I had a quarter-life crisis at 20 where I felt I accomplished nothing but going through school my entire life and it was a waste. It drove me to read more philosophy than the philosophy I was already reading.
As an INTJ who got counseling and discovered that ignoring ones feelings has consequences in my late 30s, I am extremely pleased to see I am well ahead of the curve. Current project is seeing how I can utilize these pesky feelings to further my ultimate plans.
Yay! Love me some imaginary inner monologues! These were so good! 😄 Shiny, new series incoming! with, I would imagine, any amount of muttering about neglecting dusty, unfulfilled, older series. What? No, I am NOT projecting, ENFJ! 😂
Every time I relate to an INTJ, which is frequent, within 3 ms I realise I am SO glad im an ENTP instead… Much of the same thinky stuff plus we actually have fun lives! 🥳
Is this the same INTJ that was the future self of the same INTJ younger self? (time travel is weird lmao, thankfully my years if watching doctor who has paid off and i understand time travel)
I too remember going through all the official paperwork and birth certificates and old pictures to prove that my so called parents are really my own. Still not fully convinced.
I understand why other types assume that INTJs must be ignoring our feelings, but we really just don’t feel what they feel. I am pretty much just evenly “calmly happy” all the time. My highs and lows are not that far from each other.
The one about group projects is especially like me. I have always hated having to do things with other people. This is especially the case when the results of my efforts will be affected by what the rest of the members of the group do. I have occasionally convinced teachers to allow me to submit the entire project on my own rather than doing it with a group. I explained to them that I knew more about the subject of the project than the rest of my classmates already and that I would most likely wind up doing most of the work if I was in the group anyway, so there wasn't really any point in having me do it as a group project. I remember on teacher even saying, when I discussed this with her after class one day, that I was probably right about already knowing more about the subject than my classmates did.
My makn fictional character that I created is an INTJ and this is very heartwarming (also because as part of her midlife crisis she's embracing the outdoors and gardening more lol).
It's more a stereotype than a rule that INTJs never go outside. As an INTJ, I do find a nice little nature walk is a pleasant change of pace from time to time... the air, the flora & fauna, little to no other people besides who I go with, it's good exercise, & doesn't cost $$. Also, use to have plants out on the balcony that I took care of. Still, her joke at the end was funny. Point is simply it doesn't require a mental crisis for an INTJ to enjoy these thing. :p
@LooneyTiksCrap True. I also believe INTJs and ISFPs can have some overlaping traits such as you mentioned enjoying nature or even having an eye for aesthetics.
Part of the 20s, the 30s and 40s resonated perfectly with me. My childhood was a bit different though. Outside of school, I’d just be freely roaming with friends and going on adventures. From maybe 14-27 life was all just one big wild Saturday night party with varying degrees of boredom in between. I did well in school, but hated it. I picked up on things quickly and resented the fact that I had to listen to boring people repeat themselves for hours and hours instead of directing my own learning and continuously branch out into new areas that interested me. TH-cam is much better than school, so long as you can keep your mental diet healthy and avoid too much junk food.
At first I though the last one couldn't be right, because no INTJ would willingly go outside. However the person clearly isn't going willingly, therefore they were forced to, figured out they liked it, then convinced themselves that it was their decision all along. Classic INTJ.
i am an INTJ female and i couldn't really relate to this video. Because most people make videos on INTJ assertive and not turbulent. US t's are not that extreme.
@user-iy1bl9ol1xis that a true story ?! oO If so, i am amazed. Meanwhile, my infj school self: got adopted by "bad kids" estps (yes, those especially, not the rich popular estp kid) for no reasons and could happilly hang out quietly with mostly other introverts and a bunch of funny enfps. Never popular, but never bullied. ..and just like the infj portrayed on this channel, i crushed on most those estps 😂
Meh. I tried forming normal friendships in grade 1 through 4, it didn't work. The librarian gave me some books to read and I didn't mind anymore. I read Sphere and Jurassic Park in 3rd grade. Middle school I separated myself from my "peers," who would destroy my textbooks and pee in my backpack. Avoiding people became a skill set. The school told me I chose to be a victim and should be more like everyone else and put me in group therapy as forced socialization with the other misfits. They also required me to sit with others during lunch so I couldn't read anymore. I learned to do just enough to not be noticed. In my 20s I wanted meaningful and fulfilling relationships but most people want to drink and screw and fulfill other animalistic drives. So I dropped out of college, got 3 jobs and worked. Then went back to school while working two jobs, graduated so I could work two jobs. For my 30s until now I have had a job that demands so much of my time I won't have to worry about socialization until I'm forced to retire at 65. I don't ignore my feelings, I know how I feel. Other people taught me my feelings are not dependent on them, but on setting and following my own goals, relationships be damned. So tonight, I'm going to do the same thing I do every night Pinky (Kristin), increase my knowledge and skill sets until I'm so indispensable that the world around me relies on me to function and then redefine the rules to suit myself. In other words, try to takeover my world.
Love it! 😍 Thank you so much! 💐 One question though: Do we get married? I think that I know what I want, but I still can't decide about this one to this day.
I am a 37 yrs old INTJ and I have cut my hair basically the same way (same instructions to the hair stylist/barber) since around 10. Variability is only given by the hair professional's skill level (or lack thereof).
I reach the 40s and i wish i can remain emotionless. Thinking back all i done, all the opportunities i miss, the love i throw away. I hurt so many people and i cant even say i am sorry. All my life i regret what i lost. Feelings are the first ting i regret gaining.
Good day, dear Kristin, It has been several days since I last wrote to you regarding reconsidering your decision not to send me an invitation for the upcoming party. I must emphasize how important it is for me to attend your party, as I am looking forward to meeting your ISFP friend. If you could rethink your decision and invite me to the party next month, I'd appreciate it, as I understand your ISFP friend will be leaving soon to move upstate. Sincerely, Your friendly neighbor, INTJ.
Thanks, Kristin! Now I Se why the ENFP likes INTJ so much. If I squint really hard. Since I'm guessing how to Se with Si. I'll save the smart talk for the INTJs...performed by the smartest type of them all... The Best= Dear Kristin. Was scrolling through the previous videos to check, and this might be the funniest thumbnail yet. Fitting finale to April Fool's month! Also, a fitting type to finally get your 60k subscribers since, early on, imo, it appeared like you were propping up ISFJ, but INTJ was your type to back in the great type battle. However, I think you threw down the gauntlet with ENTP early on so we'll Se who wins the war. Ne-ways.... Hilarious haunting mwhahaha music! Quite the trajectory! Cautionary tales rule. This was a pleasant surprise! Just like the first few adorable seconds until the INTJ baby started criticizing her hat. ahahaha You're the best, Dear Kristin! And best regards to you, Andrew, and your little bundle of joy!
Oh, wow! Trippy! I have come to the (at least current) conclusion that I am INTJ on one side of my brain and ESFP on the other. Also, I have a mother- or do not- named Margaret, whom I have been told by the FBI and people from Interpol is probably not my birth mother, and who recently told me that herself but after she developed dementia. She seemed to be in a rational state at the time, though. So, very weird hearing that spy cam teddy bear bit!
Nah the only reason I would go to therapy is because I want to test 2 theories 1. I don’t think a therapist could tell me anything about myself that I don’t already know given my hours and hours of introspection. I know what’s wrong with me, I know where it stems from, I know (theoretically) how to address it. So yeah I doubt they’d be able to provide any valuable insight. 2. Smart people are notoriously hard to provide therapy for (this is arrogant I know but I mean remember who you are talking to)
only true from 0:30 on. As child we are in "perceptive-mode" without any judgements for the world. Then, all these questions come up, and only then we begin to categorize, optimize and filter out.
"I've been ignoring my feelings for 70 years, and I've recently discovered that there are consequences for that." Idk why i died when I heard that😂
What consequences? Genuinely
This entire 2 minutes was traumatizing for me lmao
May yourself rest in fish 😔✋🏻
@@kindauncool Never fitting in society, never gaining social skillsets and becoming a self proclaimed monk
Same 😂
As an INTJ who's had the same hairstyle since I was 8, I approve this message.
I have the same hairstyle since I was born. Why change it? I was born perfect and only grew bigger
I just recently changed my hairstyle after having the same one for 25 years
“It [the need for relationships, romantic or otherwise] is the first thing I’ve ever been wrong about”
Is a MOOD
I feel extremely violated and exposed, guess I'll just have to restructure, reorganize and restrategize my flawless life plan just to prove that I am not that predictable, robotic lol.
Rock that mid-life crisis hair change, INTJs.
My hairdressing friend stopped being able to cut hair -- hands getting too shaky -- so I finally started cutting my own hair. A number 4 blade on a hair clipper works well enough. But I discovered that I had been parting my hair on the wrong side all these decades -- from my teens to my sixties. So I have now swapped sides. Mid-life crisis? More just "well, I never knew that..."
Feelings ... relationships ... hmmm, if it ain't broke, don't meddle with them. Finding a therapist who understands me would take a lot of work. Some of us INTJs are on the autism spectrum: can't just go to a random therapist who hasn't specialised in autism, autistic adults, and their relationships. Random therapists *can* do harm.
PS: it is very hard to observe a wide range of human behaviour if you are not allowed to use concealed cameras. How are you supposed to know what people are really thinking? (in case you cannot tell, my tongue is in my cheek.)
I have a hairdresser acquaintance. She hates my hair because I have two modes. One is for going out. I get out my Wahl animal trimmers that I bought at Walmart 20 years ago, and I buzz my hair. The other is the mode I've been able to be in for the last 4 years thanks to lockdowns. I don't do anything with it. Currently I look like I'm ready to move to the woods and write a manifesto.
And on another note, about 8 months ago, I decided to move into a tent in the woods. It has a small stove, and a sleeping bag, and a pillow. But no typewriter.
I shaved my face clean once in my late 20's just for a look, but barely recognized myself.
No thank you. Completely unnecessary.
@@bassafarside6071 fair 😉
As an INTJ I loved this. Gave me a really good laugh along with the thumbnail, thank you for that.
That's all wrong. I'm right now designing my cybernetic body that will prevent me from growing old and allow me to escape society forever and run on solar energy.
Howw?
Taking purchase orders?
I'd like to order one as well
count me in
teach me ur ways, intj. - infp
I'm INFJ, and I could totally relate to the pre-teen! It must be the dominant Ni, but having a physical body to deal with just feels like so much work all the time. 😂
I know right! As a fellow INFJ I don't understand how people are aware of their body and not bumping into litteral every furnitures 😖
I know right!
I’m enfp and sometimes I’m extremely annoyed I need to feed myself or wash my hair like frrrr it’s so annoying and don’t get me started on washing dishes no way I’m doing that while robots are making art out there 😭😭😭😭😭
@@Pirogok01 haha, I get that. My mom is an ENFP and that's exactly like she is
Existential crisis hit way too close at home since 17. Never been the same after that first hit.
Thinking too much trying too little is gonna get me nowhere, I've learnt this this year
I really enjoyed this new series, Kristin. Thank you for still keeping the channel alive and kicking. Naturally, INTJs were planning world domination as early as childhood.
'll just have to restructure, reorganize and restrategize my flawless life" Thks for advice.
Professor: “we’ll be starting another group project on…”
Me: *screams inside*
I recognize my mom in a lot of this. 😅She's an INTJ and most people find her intimidating. I never have, though. We've always gotten along very well and I think a big reason for that is we both have Ni as our first function, so we understand each other a lot.
Baby: Didn't like planes. Probably thought I was dying.
Young child: Apparently I used to go get milk at nursery in my own time because I found out where they kept it (I didn't steal it, I only took what I would have gotten later anyway). And apparently when I had to write a letter to Santa Clause, I wrote it from the perspective of one of the toys instead.
Child: Used to sneak past my mother whenever she put food on my plate I didn't like and silently put it in the bin. Learnt to step very quietly and control my breathing to the point where I was basically silent. Also developed the ability to eavesdrop while appearing busy or asleep. Oh and was constantly thinking about how I'm probably an alien that got born into the body of a human (since people seemed so... weird...) and also thought about stuff like would I prefer an older or younger wife.
Teenager: No, we're not going into that period.
Young adult: Crippling depression. Black-pilled.
Late 20s: Finally getting out of it, actually paying attention to my appearance for once... which is weird...
Wow. We must be relatives separated at birth because I did all that (except maybe the "would I prefer an older or younger wife". But that damn 7-10 year depression was deadly (especially to social life and social skills...)
@@tarukaja8 The wife thoughts were prompted by my first crush (who was two years older than me) so naturally I was imagining what my future would be like and pondering questions about what would be best (like "If she's older than me, I have to watch her die, but if she's younger she has to watch me die... which is better?" Silly, I know. xD).
Yeah... I still haven't totally recovered from it either. But I'm getting there, I think.
I get out of depression by
1. Socialize
2. Enjoy a passion for like 4 hours uninterrupted
3. Pray for help to feel better, do things that makes me feel close to God
4. Meditate. If you search on TH-cam for the Avatar the Last Airbender meditation from Guru Pathik, it is SUPRRISINGLY helpful at helping me with depression
5. Find a way to stop feeling like I need to keep myself trapped in my near-perfect persona.
Lol, can relate to all of that XD
I have crystal clear memories from when I was about 2-3 years old... I find myself amazed whenever my parents make a comment about my childhood self's habits and they are interpreted very differently from they actually meant to me
I remember the first time I was deceived by another human being in life, if I can even call that little devil of a child "human". I also remember my first existential crisis when I was 5, right after my grandfather passed away.
And then there was that time I wrote a whole ass story book when I was also 5, knowing dogshit about the alphabet. To be fair, I did it by drawing the illustrations in chronological order of the story at kindergarten, then when I got home I told my mom the whole lore that I had created and made her write it syllable by syllable over the drawings... And the story was about a bean who escaped a warehouse in an attempt to be free from his doom of being eaten, only to discover from a hermit broccoli that the purpose of his life was feeding a human so that life could be perpetuated. He then returned to his home at the warehouse and gladly served his duty.
So interesting to show the different stages in life!!! Love it - so inventive!!! 😊❤ Great job! - INFP
Thanks 😁
@@dearkristinfor the INFP, you may want to consider this point.... We like to be snug and safe (i feel confident speaking for all the INFPs here.... 😊)
I was literally born 3 weeks late for my poor mother..... I'm not sure why they didn't induce me, but i was born in 1970, so yeah, that may have been a factor... In any case, i was happily snug and, apparently, quite content. And then i was an extremely content baby who smiled and waved at everyone. Everyone 😊
I have a funny [but a bit tragic] story to show you how I was like as an INTJ 3-year-old.
My friend wanted to talk to one kid, but he was ignoring her, so I gave her some advice. But she kept on bothering so I sarcastically told her to yell directly to his ear, then he will hear her for sure. It was CLEARLY a sarcastic sentence, but she didn't get it, did as I SARCASTICALLY told and what happened next? The boy complained to our supervisor, who wanted to punish the girl, but she told that I "commanded" her to do it and I got punished instead.
I had a lot of similar cases during my school years and all of them were because I acted not like a kid, but like an INTJ. So yeah. NT kids - always punished for being well&fast-developed. My ENTP friend didn't have it easy either.
ENTJ here! As a kid I would always get in trouble for trying to figure out why we have rules and if there was a point to them. The few times I got answers I would always suggest changes to the rules and give reasons for my opinion 😂😂😂 In school I also constantly challenged the systems we used and developed new ways to do things out of sheer interest to see if I could. Teachers didn’t (and still don’t) like me
I'm sorry you got punished ❤ although tbh I do understand a 3 year old not grasping yet the concept of sarcasm.
..now i suspect my daughter 4 years old to be NT^^
At preschool, teachers put her with older children when they do school work because otherwise she bothers her classmates: she wants to help them by doing their school exercices herself 'cause she thinks they are slow, she gets annoyed when they dont understand directions.. today she asked me how the all deal of town sewers and waste waters works😂 (not english speaker native, i hope i m understandable)
@@user-gh5gl7dq4h As INTP, an important lesson I learned in school was that it's good to give teachers good first impression that you know your stuff, doing that you get a lot more leeway on future rules-twisting (I did a fair amount of that, mainly out of curiosity what could be done with the given conditions and wordings).
Though Ti-Te difference probably plays a role, in school it's also sometimes easier to just have broken the rule already instead of initiating a discussion about rule-breaking...
Using sarcasm at 3 old age…. You gained my biggest respect
One day while I was 6, my Mother threatened to burn all my books unless I went outside to play. Ten hours later, when she (frantically) called her own Mother for assistance in dragging the local ponds for my undoubtedly dead self, she discovered I'd been there since lunch, having popped in for a visit nearly two miles away from my own home in the next town over. Dinner was lovely...
🤣 🤣 🤣
That is THE BEST childhood story ever. Funny & mischievous & cute.
Ouch Kristin 🥺, now I must change my life plans and go outside 🥲 or was that your intention 🤔 - an INTJ
Don’t fall for the trap, that’s exactly what she wants!
As an INTJ, sometimes I feel like I'm the most brilliant person in the world, and then after a minute, I feel like the most foolish. Only to then feel like a genius again.
It's narcissism or puberty or ADHD or anything else, but not type of thinking 🤦
As an INFJ with an INTJ dad this is sooo him 😂
This is everything!!! (I know I've said this before, but Kristin just keeps on delivering every single time).
Now I'm waiting for the ENFJ and ENFP to have their lives summarized, I think these are going to be the best ones.
@dearkristin Could you do a video on the Shadow Types? Under stress the INTJ can act more like an ENTP. I was a scatterbrained class clown for significant parts of secondary school, and only got my sh^t together after I left. Now I realise it was a defence mechanism to cope with bullying and the discomfort of socialising.
I'm really looking forward to monologues from all of the types. Hilarious as always, Kristin. 😅
41-year-old INTJ here and that is exactly what goes through my mind since I turned 40 😅
The thumbnail's a work of art!
As an INTJ, this is hilarious; I had a few of these thoughts growing up, especially the existential crisis. I didn’t understand why I had to go and “have fun” at a playground or be particularly kind to or sociable with others.
For the past year, I have been starting to spend more time in the physical world instead of my head. It’s very rewarding, I feel much closer to my younger siblings and twin sister.
Apparently, my younger siblings and their friends, think I am “very cool”, but I look annoyed all the time so they don’t think it is fine to speak to me. I didn’t even realise that. I’m learning a lot about how I come across to other people, using feelings that I never thought that I would use and making unlikely connections with people.
That was brilliant - hope you do more! I love ALL your videos, Kristin! ❤
"It worked splendidly the last time"
This is why I love this channel
INTJ: Can't say I directly identified with all of the quips, but everything was hilarious nonetheless. As a sidenote though, I think we would be having life crises much earlier than mid-life. Personally, I had a quarter-life crisis at 20 where I felt I accomplished nothing but going through school my entire life and it was a waste. It drove me to read more philosophy than the philosophy I was already reading.
You're right! I'm having the same crisis right now. The feeling of stagnation is dreadful.
BEST. THUMBNAIL. EVER !!
I know an Intj who's also cripplingly bored rn
This was brilliant, Kristin! Now I want to see more of it :D
As an INTJ who got counseling and discovered that ignoring ones feelings has consequences in my late 30s, I am extremely pleased to see I am well ahead of the curve. Current project is seeing how I can utilize these pesky feelings to further my ultimate plans.
Love this video! If I ever doubted that I was an INFJ, it was definitely disputed with how much I identified with the video. 🤣
PERFECTION! More of this!
Although not an intj (infp self studying mbti), I found this interesting. Would love to see these on all mbti types
So early life INTJ is Stewie lmao
Yay! Love me some imaginary inner monologues! These were so good! 😄
Shiny, new series incoming! with, I would imagine, any amount of muttering about neglecting dusty, unfulfilled, older series. What? No, I am NOT projecting, ENFJ! 😂
Every time I relate to an INTJ, which is frequent, within 3 ms I realise I am SO glad im an ENTP instead… Much of the same thinky stuff plus we actually have fun lives! 🥳
Is this the same INTJ that was the future self of the same INTJ younger self? (time travel is weird lmao, thankfully my years if watching doctor who has paid off and i understand time travel)
I doubt there are many INTJs who don’t watch The Doctor
She ended up in the same hat!!!!
incredible, please let this be a series
Thank you for telling me how the rest of my life will unfold
Ah, that is a wish harboured in the chests of all Ni-users, is it not?
I too remember going through all the official paperwork and birth certificates and old pictures to prove that my so called parents are really my own. Still not fully convinced.
I understand why other types assume that INTJs must be ignoring our feelings, but we really just don’t feel what they feel. I am pretty much just evenly “calmly happy” all the time. My highs and lows are not that far from each other.
This is a neat concept!
Love this format!
The one about group projects is especially like me. I have always hated having to do things with other people. This is especially the case when the results of my efforts will be affected by what the rest of the members of the group do. I have occasionally convinced teachers to allow me to submit the entire project on my own rather than doing it with a group. I explained to them that I knew more about the subject of the project than the rest of my classmates already and that I would most likely wind up doing most of the work if I was in the group anyway, so there wasn't really any point in having me do it as a group project. I remember on teacher even saying, when I discussed this with her after class one day, that I was probably right about already knowing more about the subject than my classmates did.
😂 omg, as an INTJ who started going to therapy at 13 years old I'm glad that i took that decision now and not at my 60s
I’m an INTJ Dad; I’ve done an excellent job staring out my window to observe the children’s play patterns, and I’m not changing my haircut.
Lando, "Hey"
Vader, "I have changed the haircut, pray that I don't change it further."
My makn fictional character that I created is an INTJ and this is very heartwarming (also because as part of her midlife crisis she's embracing the outdoors and gardening more lol).
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It's more a stereotype than a rule that INTJs never go outside. As an INTJ, I do find a nice little nature walk is a pleasant change of pace from time to time... the air, the flora & fauna, little to no other people besides who I go with, it's good exercise, & doesn't cost $$. Also, use to have plants out on the balcony that I took care of. Still, her joke at the end was funny. Point is simply it doesn't require a mental crisis for an INTJ to enjoy these thing. :p
@LooneyTiksCrap True. I also believe INTJs and ISFPs can have some overlaping traits such as you mentioned enjoying nature or even having an eye for aesthetics.
as an INTJ, I'm just here wondering who the hell wrote this entire plot for my life and why is it constantly horrible? lol.
What? 0:31 ? You want to say that people don't question themselves that question?
U forget the part when we think to upload our conscience to a master cloud in the future
Yay! I’m so happy you used my suggestion! Love it! 🥰
Part of the 20s, the 30s and 40s resonated perfectly with me. My childhood was a bit different though.
Outside of school, I’d just be freely roaming with friends and going on adventures. From maybe 14-27 life was all just one big wild Saturday night party with varying degrees of boredom in between. I did well in school, but hated it. I picked up on things quickly and resented the fact that I had to listen to boring people repeat themselves for hours and hours instead of directing my own learning and continuously branch out into new areas that interested me. TH-cam is much better than school, so long as you can keep your mental diet healthy and avoid too much junk food.
Peak INTJ and peak Kristin 👏🏻👏🏻 amazing
Spot on.
That bad posture in the thumbnail is so true lmao
This is what sitting on a desk and doing math all day does
Ahahaha that last line really hit home. I haven't gone outside since 1984.
George Orwell?
the last was lmao nice jab at them
At first I though the last one couldn't be right, because no INTJ would willingly go outside. However the person clearly isn't going willingly, therefore they were forced to, figured out they liked it, then convinced themselves that it was their decision all along. Classic INTJ.
This would be me currently.
But I was an ENFP before
"It worked splendidly the first time" 💀
I SO can't wait for the other 15 videos!!!!
i am an INTJ female and i couldn't really relate to this video. Because most people make videos on INTJ assertive and not turbulent. US t's are not that extreme.
I can't 😂
There are consequences for that?
OMG, I LOVE this - Please do me, do me! (INFJ)
And why do I feel like I have some sort of stupid hat on me.
Not ten seconds in and this is ver accrete.
Nice try, but you forgot the drama of planning to conquer the world during childhood and how those plans are thwarted throughout life.
@user-iy1bl9ol1xis that a true story ?! oO
If so, i am amazed.
Meanwhile, my infj school self: got adopted by "bad kids" estps (yes, those especially, not the rich popular estp kid) for no reasons and could happilly hang out quietly with mostly other introverts and a bunch of funny enfps. Never popular, but never bullied.
..and just like the infj portrayed on this channel, i crushed on most those estps 😂
INTJ inwardly ROTFLMAO
Meh. I tried forming normal friendships in grade 1 through 4, it didn't work. The librarian gave me some books to read and I didn't mind anymore. I read Sphere and Jurassic Park in 3rd grade. Middle school I separated myself from my "peers," who would destroy my textbooks and pee in my backpack. Avoiding people became a skill set. The school told me I chose to be a victim and should be more like everyone else and put me in group therapy as forced socialization with the other misfits. They also required me to sit with others during lunch so I couldn't read anymore. I learned to do just enough to not be noticed. In my 20s I wanted meaningful and fulfilling relationships but most people want to drink and screw and fulfill other animalistic drives. So I dropped out of college, got 3 jobs and worked. Then went back to school while working two jobs, graduated so I could work two jobs. For my 30s until now I have had a job that demands so much of my time I won't have to worry about socialization until I'm forced to retire at 65. I don't ignore my feelings, I know how I feel. Other people taught me my feelings are not dependent on them, but on setting and following my own goals, relationships be damned. So tonight, I'm going to do the same thing I do every night Pinky (Kristin), increase my knowledge and skill sets until I'm so indispensable that the world around me relies on me to function and then redefine the rules to suit myself. In other words, try to takeover my world.
0:32 as an INFJ I can relate 😅
Same
Love it! 😍
Thank you so much! 💐
One question though: Do we get married? I think that I know what I want, but I still can't decide about this one to this day.
I am a 37 yrs old INTJ and I have cut my hair basically the same way (same instructions to the hair stylist/barber) since around 10. Variability is only given by the hair professional's skill level (or lack thereof).
I reach the 40s and i wish i can remain emotionless. Thinking back all i done, all the opportunities i miss, the love i throw away. I hurt so many people and i cant even say i am sorry.
All my life i regret what i lost. Feelings are the first ting i regret gaining.
Good day, dear Kristin,
It has been several days since I last wrote to you regarding reconsidering your decision not to send me an invitation for the upcoming party. I must emphasize how important it is for me to attend your party, as I am looking forward to meeting your ISFP friend. If you could rethink your decision and invite me to the party next month, I'd appreciate it, as I understand your ISFP friend will be leaving soon to move upstate.
Sincerely,
Your friendly neighbor, INTJ.
I simultaneously feel attacked and vindicated.
PS: I'm never changing my hair style. Too much stress.
and I'm waiting for INFJ's life summarised
AND compared it with iNTJ for references
What would be the difference if this was an INTP?
I feel... seen AND attacked.
For me the serious doom and gloom didn’t set in until age 14 or 15.
Ouch! Lucky me I have to work with children. So, I am now at almost 40, it's the first time I actually think about studying emotions and feelings.
Thanks, Kristin! Now I Se why the ENFP likes INTJ so much. If I squint really hard. Since I'm guessing how to Se with Si. I'll save the smart talk for the INTJs...performed by the smartest type of them all...
The Best= Dear Kristin.
Was scrolling through the previous videos to check, and this might be the funniest thumbnail yet. Fitting finale to April Fool's month!
Also, a fitting type to finally get your 60k subscribers since, early on, imo, it appeared like you were propping up ISFJ, but INTJ was your type to back in the great type battle. However, I think you threw down the gauntlet with ENTP early on so we'll Se who wins the war. Ne-ways....
Hilarious haunting mwhahaha music!
Quite the trajectory! Cautionary tales rule. This was a pleasant surprise! Just like the first few adorable seconds until the INTJ baby started criticizing her hat. ahahaha
You're the best, Dear Kristin! And best regards to you, Andrew, and your little bundle of joy!
omg its literally someone i know from my life >< i cant wait to show them this. They will find it so funny!
0:45😂
That was so random!
Damn, I'm speedrunning it seems. I'm 22 in actuality but already reaching the 40's checkpoint
When you past 30 alone and with no friends in new city, crying almost every day. Then you can check that mark.
PLEASE let that be a new series! Up next the ISFP, pretty please?
Oh, wow! Trippy! I have come to the (at least current) conclusion that I am INTJ on one side of my brain and ESFP on the other. Also, I have a mother- or do not- named Margaret, whom I have been told by the FBI and people from Interpol is probably not my birth mother, and who recently told me that herself but after she developed dementia. She seemed to be in a rational state at the time, though. So, very weird hearing that spy cam teddy bear bit!
You on to something, more of this place
I both hate you and love you for this.
Nah the only reason I would go to therapy is because I want to test 2 theories
1. I don’t think a therapist could tell me anything about myself that I don’t already know given my hours and hours of introspection. I know what’s wrong with me, I know where it stems from, I know (theoretically) how to address it. So yeah I doubt they’d be able to provide any valuable insight.
2. Smart people are notoriously hard to provide therapy for (this is arrogant I know but I mean remember who you are talking to)
I am an intj and I am intensely working on my emotions and relationship dynamics at the age of 23....( Too many early realisations for me)
only true from 0:30 on. As child we are in "perceptive-mode" without any judgements for the world. Then, all these questions come up, and only then we begin to categorize, optimize and filter out.
So will this be a series, a one-off, or a "series" about which you forget long before it is over?
I actually feel attacked but I'm still clicking like.
INTP tier list when
that coming outside😂