This Is What EMOTIONAL HEALTH Looks Like
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ส.ค. 2024
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What does emotional health look like to you?
Being okay with what has happened in your past and moving forward with the present.
Contentment!
Recognizing your emotions so that you accept them instead of reacting to what is around you.
“Expectations are disappointments waiting to happen.” This hit home! What a gem.
When i learned to stop having expectations of others and just focused on myself, it was amazing how much more confident, happy and free I felt.
Please remember...just because you're upset it doesn't mean you can snap and get into someone's face and belittle them. Take a breather and calmly communicate to the person your issue or explain to the person that you didn't appreciate the thing that made you upset. Communication is key, but it needs to be done in a relaxing and calm way, done in an anger or violent way is automatically blocked by the person that's being attacked. Humble opinion.
This reminds me of a tip I got when entering the workforce. I’m allowed to be angry but I have no business being cruel to people🙃
There's an emotional bully at work. This person will make personal comments, belittle people, ignore others in conversation and block work of others. Many of us have tried to talk to her for years but it hasn't improved.
How do you stand up to a person like this? Because when others held their ground, this bully lashes out even more.
@@ThirumahalS the sad truth is that if that person has behaved like that for a long time it's because management has allowed it (unless no one has talked to management about it) and when that happens there's not much you can do. I left my previous job after 3.5 yrs because of office toxicity (management was doing nothing because they themselves would look bad if brought up to the CEO).
@@julihouser7468 thanks for sharing, I hope your new company treats employees better!
So true…I just did that with my neighbours and after I regretted because I understood that even if my message whas correct I used the wrong tone…but sometimes it’s hard because people are behaving rude and ignorant…😞
Emotional health is so important. And I admire anyone with the courage to speak and teach it.
Emotions are what make us human; it’s uncomfortable, being vulnerable. Having difficult conversations. But it’s so nice when we can relate to one another on a deeper level.
It took going through a divorce (I’m in the middle of one of the hardest, confusing and uncertain times of my life). But I am learning so much about myself. Learning that I have the power to feel whatever I need to feel; that emotions can come and go, and THEN I can choose how I want to act.
If it were not for my therapist, my aunt/life coach, my friend/counsellor, and all the books and podcasts I’ve been reading/listening to…all overlapping each other…saying the SAME things in their own unique ways…it’s all finally starting to click. I would not be as okay with my circumstances. I would likely keep on going down the same old paths. It takes courage to simply take responsibility for yourself and make the changes you need to make. Because ultimately, you cannot control how other people are going to show up in your life.
Best quote ever! “Expectations are disappointments waiting to happen.”
I believe acceptance follows essential emotions, such as grief and anger.
There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well . And the world must be easy.
Albert Ellis
"no one has the power to upset me" guess you've never worked in a call center😂
Work in call center also and having to work from home with customer service is a hell, and right in my OWN home
I love this quote: Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed. Author Unknown
I had stopped to be influenced by people months ago but I Don’t know what to call that ‘achievement’ until I heard you said ‘nobody has the power to upset me’, then I realized I achieved that unknowingly.
This is essentially the Stoic wisdom of Epictetus. He talks about what you can and cannot control, and taking the time to examine your impressions of a person/situation before making a rational response. He also deals with the ‘bad’ emotions, like grief and sadness. Worth a look IMO
great podcast. Love Susan David too - how important and useful to know that anger is and should be a way to tune into our values when we respond. Thanks
Wow she’s from my country,South Africa.
So proud ❤️
Totally love you Guy’s,it’s like you really leading a way for us to live better lives.
For the first time I disagree with the Minimalists. I have never liked the mantra of "no one can make you upset but you". If no one can make you upset, all that means is you just don't care about anyone. Of course other people's actions give you every range of emotions. A wonderful gift from a friend makes you happy, do they have no right to give you the emotion of happiness? Of course they have that right, they are your friend, you have allowed them close enough to you to effect your emotions, for better or worse. I very much agreed with the guest speaker today, she had such a well-rounded view of emotions. Great stuff.
So good! A different perspective on anger! I love this!
How does this pertain to a kid that is being bullied? How can you teach a child to not suppress anger and not to feel that they did wrong?
This has been weighing on me a lot as I navigate the end of a divorce and a new school year after what was possibly the most stressful year of my 16 year teaching career.
Timely!!! Thank you always
"You do not know people by what they like, everybody likes more or less the same things. You know people by what they hate".
Random thought that adds nothing to the conversation: the M logo on the bottom left of the screen reminds me of The Ricki Lake show's R logo.
Very good advice / direction … these discussions in groups make for good backyard fire pit conversation
Really interesting perspective. Appreciated.
Emotions that people have is natural and understandable. Also, emotions are what make us human and we do have the power to control our emotions.
We don't have conscious control over our emotions because they're a far older system in our bodies (if that makes sense). But we have control over a) what we expose ourselves to and b) how we process/express emotions. Ie. Reacting (exploding/imploding) vs. responding. Reacting is knee jerk and unconscious and responding is witnessing the emotion/sensation within our body before responding to the situation once the emotion has reduced in intensity.
@@eleanor4759 To be honest, I think before I act with emotions because I cannot take words back or my actions out of emotions. So my thoughts and my feelings can match what I am about to express.
3:06 “What is, is. Now have faith in the way things are. Ausar/Auset” ~ Saul Williams
Wow such insight to human nature
he who angers you controls you
I love the thumbnail
Very helpful podcast. Thank you!
Much like expectations can be disappointments waiting to happen I think met expectations can be missed out delights!
Hi- Answering such interesting questions here.... big question isnt it -"what does emotional health look like" - we probably all have different answers to this question..."don't give anyone the privilege of making me angry" - great quote too. Thanks
So much great info here!!
Love your channel.
Totally ❤️
Well said fellas.
I like this!
Great!
Great listening i dont think people are happy 24 7 i know social media some channels make it look like that we all get our days rich poor married single thats life
Self control.
Adulting!
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