Short and to the Point: Michael Sartain on dating, relationships, marriage, and more

We're trying something different this week.
There isn't much sports talk this week, but host Jessica Kleinschmidt interviews relationship expert and life coach Michael Sartain. Jessica and Michael discuss a wide range of topics including describing what "modern dating" is, developing a healthy relationship, having too much dating advice, and more.
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-2:03: Welcome Michael to Short and to the Point
-2:16: Defining “modern dating”
-7:52: Lack of courting
-13:17: Coinciding having a career and having peace
-15:06: Giving advice to a woman to be more feminine
-16:51: Lack of trust in relationships
-21:45: Needing the ability to walk away
-23:30: “Stop giving attention to women because you are attracted to them"
-28:49: Making a good first impression without making it all about looks
-32:06: The irony of a man constantly used to being around beautiful women
-35:01: Ratings
-37:38: Drama
-40:14: Having a crush or being bored
-43:27: OnlyFans
-46:14: Being lovebombed
-50:21: Being overloaded with dating advice
-55:22: Not trusting your heart
-57:00: Monogamy
-1:02:41: Divorce
-1:05:13: Evolution of sports talk radio
-1:08:42: Sports as an escape

[@tiomoidofangle102]

Michael is always worth listening to.

[@baldeagle4710]

27:00 he’s referring to not being a simp which is so tough for some men to do. But valuable advice

[@ptrckmrcd]

Having Michael was a great choice

[@SupremeCobraCommander]

Michael puts the MEN in MEN OF ACTION!

[@donaldjdemarco]

30:39 Aaron Clarey shout out, love it. He does great work

[@donaldjdemarco]

@SiegeD-cq3rp cheers mate!

[@vivek27789]

Good conversation... Subscribed. 😊

[@TheAgrolith]

What a bump for the channel.

[@oaklandsoldier8520]

I noticed that every time Michael says a truth bomb about dating and female nature, Jessica takes a sip of her drink. Lol

[@bolt9110]

24:45 Mike is referring to creating anxiety inorder to create AROUSAL in the woman.
it's starts with a man she has a base level of arousal for .... by not giving her free validation "on her sexual Appeal", it does many thing including making the women think "doesn't he like me?", causing her to invest more, , then she think "I must really like him, look at all the things I've done to get his attention".

[@bolt9110]

52:58 you have to CONVINCE him that you have red hot burning enthusiastic desire for him, and him alone , that you can't wait to have him inside you BUT that he simultaneously needs to CONVINCE you that he think you are the best he can get out of all the women interested in him , so that he will want to be with you long term.

[@bolt9110]

7:54 Think about a man you currently do NOT want to have sex with. And think what exactly does this man have to do/change inorder for you to ENTHUSIASTICALLY have sex with him.
That's the dating advice men want to get them out of the "ick" zone into the "Hell Yes" zone.
Figure out the real brass tacks, step by step, ACTIONABLE information that men must do to go from "ick" to "hell yes!" WITH YOU.
Then you'll stop giving terrible advice like "be yourself" or "bring her flowers".
If you can self reflect and figure out what actually worked on yourself with the men youve had sex with, that information is GOLD, and men will pay $$$ for.
Women can't because they realise their arousal is based on her anxiety, and it's uncomfortable to reveal that weakness.

[@bolt9110]

36:35 Can you explain more how you can say in college you cared more about how a man LOOKS ... and then in the same breath say as you've aged the LOOK of the man you HAVE dated has NOT changed?
if you cared more than about looks then, then that means you care LESS about looks now, but how can that be if the LOOK of the man hasn't changed over the years.

[@baldeagle4710]

Top 10% of men get a majority of punani

[@bolt9110]

8:00 No. I hope you didn't mean "You have felt the shift in the last 3-4years because of social media". ?
Social media:
Facebook has been around since 2004
Instagram from 2010
Tinder from 2012.
Any shift you are feeling is NOT because men are just now reacting to social media in the last 3 to 4 years, (its mire likely the shift you are feeling is because your sexual market value has dropped compared to yourself at age 23. You cannot compete against the 23 yr old version who want the same men you do)
You have as Michael was saying a dilemma of preceived choice.
e.g. Many women thought they had a lot of men interested in her for the long term but he is arguing that women actually do not. Women had a lot of men interested in her only for the "short term" sex. but women didn't realise that because women never tested that those men were going to stick around if you witheld sex. . . if you HAD witheld sex and insisting on signs of commitment first you would have filtered out alot of men BECAUSE those men thought she was hot enough for sex only , but she was NOT the best out of all the women interested in him, and hence he was not interested in her for exclusive long term commit. And had women insisted on commitment upfront she would have realised those men were not interested and she would have had a clearer idea of how many men were and were not actually interested in her for the long term.