My parents ghosted me for 5 years after my wedding. I'm now in contact and they told me it's because

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  • @oonachestnut509
    @oonachestnut509 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +131

    I feel so bad for Op in the 2nd story. He's taking everything on himself. He yelled at her after all the abuse she was putting on him because she needed to go to rehab. I feel that he had every right to say everything he told her. She needed to hear it. He also shouldn't blame himself for her od'ing. That's all on her.

    • @DyslecticAttack
      @DyslecticAttack 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Instead of facing the fact that she was abusing drugs, was extremely toxic to the man raising her children and allowing her to be a SAHM, generally was a terrible partner, and even a bad mother towards the end. She needed to change, but instead she chose to get out the "easy way". She refused to face reality and change herself, despite getting offered the help and even time she needed. She didn't need to rush anything, yet it was still too difficult to face.
      The result is on her, nothing could have changed without her. If OP didn't yell, then it'd have ended up the same, but just more drawn out. She was in a downward spiral, and refused to get out herself. If OP didn't divorce, it'd still have ended the same.
      Ultimately, as harsh and even cruel as it is (and possibly very misguided since I myself have a history related to the subject), I think this is probably one of the best endings for their kids. It damn sure won't be the easiest, but realistically, I can't see how this would have been a happy ending. And of the possible endings, this is the most faultless and quickest ending. The trauma and loss is severe, but it's also as direct as possible. It's irreparable, but it leaves uncomplicated scarring. The scarring will still be deep, the scarring still will take time to be able to live with, but it's one gutteral stab instead of a drawn out grease fire.
      They couldn't have gone back to how it was. They couldn't hide why it isn't how it used to be for long. She went to rehab to have time to process and to get it out of her system, that was the ideal time to change, but she refused to.
      And thus, realistically, it was inevitable that it'd get worse before it could ever get better. And her getting worse from there? That'd send both parents over the edge. They may have recovered with time, but the children still would have been scarred for life.

    • @PilloTheStar
      @PilloTheStar 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I don't. How many red flags do you need?

    • @nastyachernomorchenko1065
      @nastyachernomorchenko1065 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@PilloTheStarit seems I missed red flags you saw. Can you give a list please?

  • @thesheerwoodcrow5465
    @thesheerwoodcrow5465 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +248

    Yeah you don’t get to cut your kid out for a reason like that and still get to play grandparents

    • @karinefonte516
      @karinefonte516 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They want to be grandparents despite them being biracial because it's the only way for them to be grandparents at all, since she's now their only child. They took 5 years to convince themselves to accept the {insert slur} children.

  • @rickynieves3144
    @rickynieves3144 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    It's heartbreaking that she relapsed and overdosed. Most overdoses happen during a relapse because they are dosing at an addict level but their tolerance has gone way down without them knowing. So sad for everyone, but especially those boys. They are too young to understand and don't have the life experience to forgive. They still see everything so black and white. My heart is breaking for this family. I lost my husband 3 years ago and am still dealing with the grief poorly. I can't face therapy yet, so I'm proud of this guy for doing it. I hope they all go on to heal and lead happy lives. Good luck to them

  • @dullicecream
    @dullicecream 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +257

    That second story was a fucking trip, I feel so bad for OP and his sons…

    • @Maninawig
      @Maninawig 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Had to take mental health breaks to get through the story.

    • @hburke45
      @hburke45 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      ​@@Maninawig same 😢 It hit especially hard for me being a recovering addict and a mother. I've been sober for almost 4 years now but my last and final relapse almost killed me. I spent 5 days in the ICU... I knew I had to quit or I would die, it wasn't even a question- it was when-
      I went cold-turkey and detoxed for a little over a week in my room. I've done the rehab thing many times before and I kinda wanted to do it by myself, feel the withdrawals- kinda like somewhat punishing myself (which is very damn warranted) and needing to remember how bad it felt so I would never end up here again.
      Long story short lol I am sober. We do recover!!! You just gotta want it and put the work in ❤

    • @Maninawig
      @Maninawig 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@hburke45 congratulations on your sobriety

    • @dullicecream
      @dullicecream 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@hburke45 Hey, congratulations!! I know this doesn’t mean much from an internet stranger, but I’m super proud of you. Shits tough. Have a good day!

    • @PilloTheStar
      @PilloTheStar 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don't. How many red flags do you need?

  • @asherikamichaela8425
    @asherikamichaela8425 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +94

    I'd heard the first story before, so I knew where that one was going. Glad OP and her hubby are going NC with her AH parents. They and their kiddos don't need that toxicity in their lives.
    And speaking of toxic... wow, that second story is wild. Most toxic "friend" I think I've ever heard of, and I've known of some doozies. That woman literally destroyed everything in OP's ex's life, then practically took her life herself by just letting her OD on her couch and not doing a damn thing, after getting her hooked on the very drugs that killed her. This woman wrecked OP's world, and for what? She bragged about it! The misandry, the cheating, the drugs... all of it. She poisoned OP's ex, literally and figuratively. I don't use the word often, but that woman is evil.
    I hope OP and his boys are able to heal and move on from this nightmare. 😔 They all deserve so much better.

    • @Kevin-og1zx
      @Kevin-og1zx 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I just find it funny how it's the other way around for me I've heard the second story before but the first one was all new for me it just shows how many different content creators they are for this and how many different stories and which ones get pushed where

    • @oonachestnut509
      @oonachestnut509 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      This is on the wife. Yes, the friend may have offered the drugs, but she took them. She didn't have to. Even after watching her mother go through addiction, she decided to try it.

  • @President_Weeb
    @President_Weeb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +92

    That story is fucking wack. I hope OP will overcome his feelings of being a monster and guilt bc he did the right things, got her to rehab, supported her when she got back, let her down easy. And yet…

  • @queenof2kings299
    @queenof2kings299 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +185

    Story 1: They just want to see how dark the kids are.

    • @Friday1207
      @Friday1207 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      If op got in contact with the parents, they’d definitely favor the lighter child over the darker child

    • @peterkn2
      @peterkn2 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I agree. It would have been perfect if OP used some kind of filter to make the kids look as dark as their father and then showed it to the grandparents to see their reactions

  • @chrizztopher97
    @chrizztopher97 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    op should have reported the drug dealer friend straight to narcotic department. i mean she is a drug dealer, a menace to society, the reason his wife died is because of the same friend if he reported her before it might have not happened. If you know a drug dealer report them. Anyways im so sorry for OP ans his loss. hope him and his kids are doing just fine

    • @stancamita9126
      @stancamita9126 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah , but the problem is that usually drug dealers might hire hitmans or something , i dont think he would ve wanted to endanger his family and errrm it won t be to hard to track where they currently live , and police is more lenient to women than with men. I fricking wish this world wouldn t make discriminations because of what u have in your pants , it s so stupid , an example is the sssniperwolf thing , she fricking doxxed a youtuber cuz he exposed her for not crediting the clips she was using in her video and other allegations. It s so messed up she got the minimal punishment.

    • @IndestructibleMandelbrot
      @IndestructibleMandelbrot 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No, she died because she couldn't keep her hands off the drugs... Also this story is bs I'd bet

    • @DumbAsh00
      @DumbAsh00 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      If I reported the drug dealers I know then who would I buy my drugs from?

    • @shadowsnake5133
      @shadowsnake5133 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@DumbAsh00 have you tried becoming a police officer and using what they have in evidence? Shits probably stronger.

    • @DumbAsh00
      @DumbAsh00 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@shadowsnake5133 well whats in evidence is 98% whats in the street. DW best way to get strong shit

  • @countrygirl7402
    @countrygirl7402 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    The last story... OP has to realize his wife made a choice. She chose to use. She chose to cheat. She chose to continue to use until it killed her. I know addiction is a battle. I've seen it. I had an alcoholic father. He quit cold turkey. And he battled it every single day. I adore him for loving his family enough to stop. This mom simply couldn't love anything more than her fix. It was beyond her. And it's unfortunately the choice most addicts make. Op chose to love his sons enough not to use. He battled through. He smoked. Op this may sound silly but if that cigarette gives you peace... smoke it. If it keeps you from using... smoke the whole damn pack. If those cigarettes keep you sober for your sons... then the smell is worth it. Guess what?? My dad picked up smoking to replace his whiskey addiction. I preferred the smoking.

  • @SweetyO666
    @SweetyO666 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    gotta love Story 1: "We treat our own child like shit, but we need to have their kids" First of all, bad parents don't get to be grandparents and second, grandchildren are not your own children, so stop acting entitled

  • @snowflakewhite5068
    @snowflakewhite5068 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    For story 2, if your getting called horrible names or getting yelled at by your spouse (no matter the gender) and you end up yelling back (no matter the gender) that's not abuse, that's retaliation. I don't understand how the OP could think it was abusive when she was doing the exact same thing to him. Is it because he was a man and she was a woman? Even then it doesn't make much since, he was still only returning the energy she was giving him. Idk, I could just be stupid, but that's just something I wanted to point out.

  • @pawel2669
    @pawel2669 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    I learned that you tend to say things that you secretly think when you are angry,

    • @Maninawig
      @Maninawig 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      It depends. With my ADHD, in times of stress (fights or nervousness), my mirroring and RSD come out bad. In other words, I catastrophize and respond in ways my mind thinks the other person wants to hear in order to end the event.
      Sometimes it is an hour before I realize what I said, but sad thing is that I only learned about this like a month ago.

    • @pawel2669
      @pawel2669 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@Maninawig I know the feeling. I actually noticed that after taking my adhd medication I say a lot more stuff that I keep feeling embarrassed or worried about for days afterwards

    • @Maninawig
      @Maninawig 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@pawel2669 I am 35, and wish I knew this stuff earlier (diagnosed when I was about 6-7). It lead me to form a strong mask that others praise as "being so easy to talk to," but the issues still pop out when I am tired or stress and less when I get meds. I honestly still worry today about stupid stuff I said when I was a kid.

    • @Keksemann666
      @Keksemann666 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Eh some people just say the most hurtful things they can think of when they are pissed... Doesn't have to be the actual opinion, just some insults.

    • @Wendy_O._Koopa
      @Wendy_O._Koopa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Keksemann666 I'm pretty sure they have to think them, at least on some level. No one "accidentally" becomes racist just because they are angry, they just go "mask off" when they get angry.

  • @sharpshooter33
    @sharpshooter33 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    God I love this narorator. No offence to the earlier guy but this one is just so much more personable and warm. I say this as someone that at best would still fall short of being as warm as the previous narrator.

  • @theubiquitouspotato
    @theubiquitouspotato 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Threatening divorce is emotional abuse and budgeting very definitely isn't financial abuse. In fact she fits the definition of that one much than he does.

  • @Ew_Michelle
    @Ew_Michelle 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Story 1: I picked up on the racism as soon as OP explained her husband isn’t white- and thought back to the explanation that her parents left the wedding early because they “felt uncomfortable.” I knew it was a race issue- so I wasn’t surprised when her father popped out a racial slur. I’m glad OP shut that down right away.

    • @Waluigi7891
      @Waluigi7891 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's fake af. Yet another hoax to make white people look bad. The cartoonish, unrealistic characters should be a dead giveaway.

  • @kerenrashish
    @kerenrashish 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Oh man... That final story gave me flashbacks to when my mom passed and I felt the same way about my younger siblings. I had helped raise them because my mom was a university student ever since my youngest brother turned 1. When I would cry after the funeral and my younger siblings would comfort me, I'd feel guilty, because I was supposed to comfort them, not the other way around... It felt awful and I felt guilty, but while it's hard, I had to try to work through it. I think if I had let myself process my emotions back then more despite that guilt, I'd be less intertwined in my grief now (7 years later) than I still am... Sometimes it's hard but you still have to do it. I wish I did back then...

  • @jpk544
    @jpk544 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    They usually just want to see how light the children are.

  • @Levithos
    @Levithos 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    OP in story 2 needs to just accept that what happened happened. He can't change that. She made the decisions, and she gave him NO choice in the entire thing.

  • @Kevin-og1zx
    @Kevin-og1zx 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    To those who think that second stories X just all of a sudden changed out of nowhere please for the love of God put together the actual list of his responsibilities because Opie's responsibilities include setting up all of her appointments for her and I'm assuming since she doesn't want to set up her own appointments he also sets up the appointments for the kids it's mentioned that he does both the laundry and the trash any cleans on the weekends the whole house I'm pretty sure it's mentioned at one point he also does the dishes at night and he cooks breakfast and dinner she just has to do lunch like cleaning throughout the day and hanging out like her kids are not that young they can mostly do for themselves he was already doing the Lion's Share and willing to say that she was she tricked him into a relationship into financially securing her future only to slowly change and have the same sort of change furthered and worsened by a friend she made she found a like-minded individual who won that like-minded individual was willing to go further so was she

  • @Sevness
    @Sevness 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I had to look up the term to understand it more, and it is a coin toss on if it is racial slur or not, but the origin is from Hebrew referring to Ethiopian people moving to Israil, and at first was actually a term of endearment, as in Cushite people, who are said to be descended from Moses.
    But in recent years has become more of a derogatory term, and now can just mean any one of African decent, so yeah, while there is like, a small chance it wasn't meant as racial, namely so long as the family is Jewish and/or from Israel, I feel like it really does fall into being used as a racist term, more so as the people that use it in non-racist terms, have stepped using it as much.
    The closest but not entirely accurate way to frame it is it was originally used the way the n-word ending with A is used among black people to mean brother or friend and such, while and the word ending in ER is used as a derogatory term even among black people.

    • @m310grass
      @m310grass 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      He was definitely using it as a slur, saying "no "insert word" can talk to me like that" is definitely racism

    • @Sevness
      @Sevness 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@m310grass oh, for sure, I was just adding some context to the word and saying while there is a small chance it may not be as the word is still used today in a non-racist way, there is for sure an increase of it's use as a slur as fewer people say it due to the coopting it as a racial slur.

    • @ryanmackenzie6109
      @ryanmackenzie6109 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There really isn't a chance that it wasn't a slur in this case, I'd think. You don't tend to yell friendly words in an argument like that.. 😅

  • @flamelily2086
    @flamelily2086 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Last story OP was right to yell at his wife. She needs a a wake up call. I hope OP gets full custody of the children. Their mother is on a downward spiral andbis an unfit mother. OP is not to blame for his wife's poor choices! His wife chose to cheat and start using drugs. It was nothing to do with OP. She chose to take an overdose. OP had tried to encourage her to get help. She still chose her dealer friend and drugs. This is not OP's fault. It won't hurt the boys to see their dad cry sometimes. It will help them understand that they can cry too.

  • @gunslingermando8275
    @gunslingermando8275 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    That slur is a term near Jerusalem. I had to google that to figure that out is Hebrew "kushi" is how that shit is spelled. Kinda funny that a delicious food and a racial slur is only one letter apart🤣

  • @nahomybaez7058
    @nahomybaez7058 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This story went from 0 to 1000 really quick

  • @ChairmanMeowzah
    @ChairmanMeowzah 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Raising your voice is not abuse, don't gaslight yourself when the situation allows for you to feel hurt by whats happening. Drugs in your home and around the kids is dangerous.

  • @miamyos
    @miamyos 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I don't think the guy screaming at his addict wife is abuse, it was a reaction to her constant verbal abuse and she needed to hear what he said.
    He's not responsible for her suicide attempt, she brought this on herself.

  • @justingesner1060
    @justingesner1060 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Story number 2. Be strong for your children. Bring them up right. Show them there is unconditional love and support from proper parents.

  • @mog-gyveroneill2500
    @mog-gyveroneill2500 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My new favouritist channel...obsessed!!!!

  • @susanrand512
    @susanrand512 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Drug use-not your fault that your wife chose the easy way out. Turn the dealer in. What a sad story.

  • @stancamita9126
    @stancamita9126 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The second story... i say that the friend is at fault , she made his wife go this route of andrew tate jr , if she didn t exist then op s wife would have been good and happy. And errm ik it sounds bad but why not sneak pills that reduce her addiction greatly into her food , get incontact with a doctor or professional and talk how many times is good to take those pills in a week. Ik it sounds as forced help but a lot of people need forced help tbh , or else they would not change

  • @smorphous8928
    @smorphous8928 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Story 1: having racist parents is bad, but having parents who play favourites and ignore their daughter for 5 years is worse.

    • @casualobserver7867
      @casualobserver7867 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can tell the “origins” of people from the “naughty” words they use. That “word” is jewish slang for a person that has dark skin.

  • @Scardro
    @Scardro 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Story 1 is probably to get it off her chest rather than ask for advice, side with the husband parents are clearly garbage, and it sucks you can't go back in time to uninvite them from the wedding, them being their honestly tainted it, I'm not a peaceful person my parents would've gotten hell

  • @xqiuvmah
    @xqiuvmah 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Second story. OP made a mistake by taking her back after her first OD. That reinforced in her mind that doing drugs "saved" her marriage and probably allowed her to justify continuing her drug problem. There were no real consequences of her doing drugs, so why should she stop?
    We all know that it is irrational and delusional on her part, but for an addict, any small encouragement to relapse can be enough.

  • @izegaegbe
    @izegaegbe 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Story 2: Steady escalation

  • @ruthlessreturns6925
    @ruthlessreturns6925 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's not your fault she can't make the right decisions

  • @Letha-AnnCooper
    @Letha-AnnCooper 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Nope don’t respond. They want grandkids they don’t respect you at all Nope they made up the letter after the fact. All they are interested in are the children. They didn’t go to the reception from the beginning. Return to no contact

  • @brighterphantom4530
    @brighterphantom4530 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    3 minutes in, I'm calling bs. The power dynamic is gone, emphasis on 'former boss'.

    • @asherikamichaela8425
      @asherikamichaela8425 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sorry, but what's bs, exactly? The parents' "excuse?"

    • @brighterphantom4530
      @brighterphantom4530 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes.@@asherikamichaela8425

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@asherikamichaela8425that was their cover excuse. Until OP and husband pushed the issue, that excuse was quickly shot down (they tried to say that she wasn't mature enough to marry, classic controlling gaslighting).

    • @asherikamichaela8425
      @asherikamichaela8425 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@LunaP1 Oh, I know. The above comment was just a bit... vague and I didn't want to misread it.

  • @gtc9966
    @gtc9966 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    18:50 - 19:00
    What…?! What HE did could be ‘considered abuse…’ the fuck is wrong with these people?

  • @smsff7
    @smsff7 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Story 1: OPs parents are full of shit. They had no reason to block OP and were showing their true colors. They should never be allowed contact with their grandchildren.

  • @jorgefreitas5983
    @jorgefreitas5983 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    That second story... Why was the title of this video not about it? That was a wild ride.
    Now, I know many will disagree with me, and don't get me wrong, I have sympathy for OP and the kids as well, but I really feel bad for the wife. No, I do not condone cheating. I do believe OP made the right call when he decided to divorce her, and I agree he did inform his wife in the best way possible, trying to respect her recent coming from the treatment.
    All that being said, no one deserves to die. Drug addiction is a vile disease, it changes the way the person thinks and leads one into self destruction. Only someone who had a case like this in the family or with a close friend can understand this.
    To OP and his kids: my deepest condolences. I know it's hard to ignore all the bad things she did, but try to remember her for the good ones. Especially for the children. Don't let their anger feast on your hearts, it will not do any good to you. OP already seems to understand this. I do hope he gets his kids into grieving counseling as well.

    • @Sorreltail768
      @Sorreltail768 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      the only genuine horrible person in this story is that fucking drug dealer

    • @sillymanmcgee
      @sillymanmcgee 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i also feel immensely for the wife! i was scrolling through the comments to find anyone who felt similar.
      obviously i also do not condone the cheating or abuse, but i understand painfully where she came from, and she’s not a monster.
      i should disclaim ive had no drug abuse in my immediate life, but i was a self harmer for a long time, as well as a hypersexual. disorders like that reek havoc in any relationship, especially intimate ones. i definitely made a ton of bad choices due to those illnesses in my teens, and am constantly working every day to avoid making more, but some days, it for sure feels like i’m a rock throw away from falling all the way back in.
      some people convinced me that i deserve no empathy for that, but recovery is knowing that you deserve empathy with accountability and change.

    • @jorgefreitas5983
      @jorgefreitas5983 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@sillymanmcgee I couldn't have said this better myself. Unfortunately, people have a hard time understanding how mental illnesses can be just as harmful as physical ones. That's why it's so hard to find people who agree with my points - and not just in this video, this story has been reposted at least 2 times that I know, and unless I'm wrong you're the first one to reply to me
      My sympathies to you as well. I won't tell you to stay strong, though. Just to keep on healing yourself. You are on the right path already. :)

    • @sillymanmcgee
      @sillymanmcgee 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jorgefreitas5983 thank you and peace to you as well !

    • @DumbAsh00
      @DumbAsh00 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The addict story is 100% fake. OP says her DOCs were Klonopin and adipex, and then says she's on Suboxone for treatment. Suboxone is a treatment for opioid use disorder, so it makes zero sense why she would be on it.

  • @fairycore4619
    @fairycore4619 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    story 1: how tf are u gonna call ur daughter’s husband a racial slur and then expect to see the kids💀

  • @matchaified
    @matchaified 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    OP should try fum (it's a natural vape)

  • @jackcurl2005
    @jackcurl2005 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Story 2: Dude, not coming down on you or anybody in that situation. It's terrible, no two ways about it. As for being "strong" for your children, yes, you don't want to fall apart into worthlessness. At the same time, though, your grieving is not mutually exclusive to your kids grieving. You're all grieving through this together. Your grieving will actually help them to grieve, to understand it's okay to have feelings and express them. Always reassure them of your love for them regardless of how you're doing on any particular day or time. Reassure them that mom loved them, but that she made some poor choices she couldn't overcome (age appropriate, maybe as simple as "poor decisions" or "bad choices"-it sounds like the oldest can [and does] understand much more, and you can and should be more direct with him).

  • @jackieraulerson2005
    @jackieraulerson2005 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    OP is not at fault!!!!!

  • @mog-gyveroneill2500
    @mog-gyveroneill2500 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yeah, no, those grand parents don't ever get to see these biracial kids..what happens when the kids being kids pisses them off, and they say something racist to the kids?? Disgusted.

  • @teresayates8274
    @teresayates8274 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolutely NOT the Ahole. I'm retired, my husband still works. I do all the house work and all the cooking. Because I'm retired and home all day and not lazy. I enjoy taking care of our home, he mows the lawn fixes what breaks. I love him dearly and we do all the shopping together and we go out and have fun together. We don't argue because we respect and love each other. Ever time I read a story like this I can't help but think these people don't know what a marriage is. Its a partnership, you work together to achieve your goals big or small. We don't fight, we don't yell, we don't argue, we don't have petty drama. We talk to each other about everything because we are understanding of each other.

  • @ruthlessreturns6925
    @ruthlessreturns6925 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bru I'm feeling so bad for him like it keeps getting worse damn

  • @gizzyg5337
    @gizzyg5337 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The last story is so sad and similar to my own 😢

  • @aalyahensley
    @aalyahensley 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    all I can say is oof to the whole thing.

  • @HyenaBlank
    @HyenaBlank 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    With the first story.. sometimes it is nice when the assholes just fully out themselves instead of beating around the bush and trying to keep up formalities

  • @wil404
    @wil404 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What's the game in the background?

  • @Wendy_O._Koopa
    @Wendy_O._Koopa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This story reminded me of this one time my Dad was doing this really over-dramatic "stage" crying, really hamming it up during visitation. I was kind of standing there awkwardly... when he eventually stopped, he told me to "Tell your mother that I'm working through this." by which he meant the divorce. The divorce that happened seven years ago, the one caused by him beating up our older brother Ludwig in a drunken rage, and also cheating on Mom. The divorce he didn't even care about until now because she had started dating, let's say King K. Rool. Another asshole, very similar to King Dad in several ways, but that's a whole different story. Anyhow, I didn't tell her, because wow that was cringe. (Obligatory the story is true, but the names have been changed to fit my PFP disclaimer.)

  • @michellefinn2933
    @michellefinn2933 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As far as the second story goes, none absolutely nothing ISO p's fault, the smug arrogant entitled attitude of the drug dealer says it all! Where was the wife's drug dealer when she was spiraling out of control, out getting new customers and making new druggies! This is not O p's fault this is the drug dealer's fault and the wife's fault for partaking in said drugs period ! OP needs to worry about himself and his children right now and let the wife sort her Self out he can want it for her but he can't do it for her and unless she wants it and puts in the work, it will not work at all! I just think it's hilarious in a very twisted way that the drug dealer egged on the divorce and the wife leaving because that would mean that the drug dealer got more money from the wife because the wife would be more dependent on the drug dealer! He definitely needs to follow through with the divorce and contact the police and give them all the information on the dealer because she needs to be held criminally and legally accountable for what she has done And the husband needs to get In 2 therapy and put the wife into therapy in a impatient rehab, with the suicide attempt she obviously cannot be trusted

  • @yeahyeahyeah3724
    @yeahyeahyeah3724 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm sorry but 2nd OP's wife is a dvmba$s for letting herself get influenced by a bad friend. She had a good life with a man who truly loved and took care of not just her, but her kids whose not even his biologically. Then, she left them traumatized. She left the world being a bad mom and a bad wife. I don't feel bad for her at all. She and that awful friend of hers are the "bad guys": in this story.

  • @dawnjohnson2864
    @dawnjohnson2864 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So they thought her boss may take advantage of her so they leave her to same boss.

  • @thousandyardgavri2785
    @thousandyardgavri2785 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Y does story 2 sound like a Jodi Hildebrandt case except the drug stuff

  • @AishaClark-js2vo
    @AishaClark-js2vo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im hearing two different reasons. Were the parents concerned about you being married to your boss or his color?

    • @Heartrose7
      @Heartrose7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Likely both.

  • @Graveyardace.
    @Graveyardace. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    what gme is this?

  • @DanaTheInsane
    @DanaTheInsane 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That was a new slur for me, I had to look that one up.

  • @charriemac1
    @charriemac1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Who cuts their kids off when they are worried they are being taken advantage of? I’m not sure why people are quick to dismiss race?

  • @wendychouxx
    @wendychouxx 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Story 1 : i'm so bitter i would just tell them to fuck of and i don't ever want to see them again (yes i would be so effing mad at them)

  • @yunoisreal757
    @yunoisreal757 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im sorry if my husband work and brings the money i wouldnt vitch at him to do some house work after he came back from work..on his days off? Yes but it would be things like hey can you clean the bathroom/living room like one place only ill do the res

  • @GODdank
    @GODdank 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    All these stories are so fake these days wtf has reddit done.

    • @Heartrose7
      @Heartrose7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And you'd know they're fake how?

  • @jadesorono6694
    @jadesorono6694 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Story 2 Family meeting hearth to hearth with both parents side to
    And tell every thing about her so
    (True toxic venomest friend 😅)
    Famly counselling
    Oops that so call friend hahahaha

  • @Mamakaymmkay
    @Mamakaymmkay 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Sorry buddy. If she ACTUALLY loved your boys, she wouldnt of died from a Drug over dose. She wouldnt of picked up drugs in the first place, she would of went to rehab willingly. Your wife didnt love your boys and honestly its pathetic you actually think that. HER LOVE for HER BOYS, should of made her want to be better. Youre better off without her and so are your boys better off without her. She was a horrible excuse of a mother and by you putting your wife on a pedestal, you're a horrible dad too. Period.

    • @brighterphantom4530
      @brighterphantom4530 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      People who make poor decisions are also capable of love. You saying she made a really ridiculous choice and that's proof she doesn't love her children isn't founded. This isn't to excuse her behavior or chasing the high over self-recovery and family life. This is just to give you something to chew on. It really isn't so simple.
      Edit: I stand by my earlier statement, but I am starting to feel like you are right this time. It is starting to look like she only sees OP as a cash cow, rather than a partner, and that rather than struggling, this is just the lifestyle she wants.

    • @asherikamichaela8425
      @asherikamichaela8425 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      My youngest sister was an addict for years, bud. You have no damn idea how hard her life was, how it drove her to use. You have no idea how hard she fought to get clean. While, yes, it was primarily for her son (now she has three and is happily married, still clean and much healthier), she didn't have an influence like that "friend" always in her ear. She had me, and she knew that I was always there to support her. Even when she was seizing and foaming at the mouth on the floor during an OD while I was frantic to save her life, which remains one of the most terrifying experiences of my life.
      It took her years to get off the drugs, partly due to severe mental health issues stemming from our childhood that weren't being adequately (or at all) treated by doctors and she felt for a long time that the drugs were the only thing that helped, even momentarily. She went through hell, lady. What I've shared barely even scratches the surface of what she's been through.
      Do _not_ play the "holier-than-thou" card on this one. I will personally eviscerate you on behalf of my sister, OP and all those out there who struggle with addiction if you keep up that attitude. Come down of your bloody high horse and learn some basic empathy.

    • @Mamakaymmkay
      @Mamakaymmkay 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@asherikamichaela8425 basic empathy? I'm the daughter of an ex addict. Youre coming from a sister perspective, I'm coming from a "that's my parent" perspective. You probably have NO IDEA what it's like to be a child of an addict. That's the difference. It's not holier than thou, your threats of coming down on me are absolutely pathetic. I'm the daughter of an addict, youre the sister of an addict. Calm down and get a grip. you don't know what it's like.

    • @asherikamichaela8425
      @asherikamichaela8425 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Mamakaymmkay Actually, I do. My father was an addict and an absolute evil excuse for a human being, even worse than the "friend" in this story. I know that people can be good or bad with or without the influence of drugs. You're letting your bias color your perception. Get over yourself and get therapy.

    • @Mamakaymmkay
      @Mamakaymmkay 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@brighterphantom4530 I'm the daughter on an ex addict. I don't find sympathy for her at all. She kept choosing drugs over her kids every single time, REFUSED help, let the drugs inside the house and even went back to drugs which is why she died. I have no sympathy for her in the slightest. She chose drugs over her kids, she used her husband over and over again, cheated, put her health, husband's health, and kids safety at risk. She doesn't deserve any sympathy. We can agree to disagree on sympathy for this lady as Ik, neither one of our stances will change, but being the daughter of an ex addict and seeing it first hand all my life, she doesn't deserve sympathy. She doesn't deserve to be forgiven and she doesn't deserve to be on a pedestal.

  • @RdWarrior-x8y
    @RdWarrior-x8y 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    2nd story; I love Happy endings

  • @FemDeku1969
    @FemDeku1969 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I could never forgive my parents if they were racist toward my spouse

  • @cecillianhater
    @cecillianhater 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    the second story is just cliche misandry honestly

  • @hr_3m0_fk_rv5u2
    @hr_3m0_fk_rv5u2 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You have 420 likes. The perfect number. I am going to be the villain we all need and like this to break the number, so others too will like it without fearing breaking the number.

    • @Drawwithauto
      @Drawwithauto 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Keep up the good work!

  • @avrahamnachshonbookatz9992
    @avrahamnachshonbookatz9992 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Kushi is an israeli term for black.

  • @Nathan_Bookwurm
    @Nathan_Bookwurm 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Why are there so many stories where people only tell their parents they have a partner when they're either engaged/married or getting pregnant. They were together for 1.5 years and just expect everything to go smoothly when casually telling "hey mum, dad, I'm going to marry a (to you) complete stranger and I'm pregnant. See you at the wedding."
    Cutting off and racism is ofc wrong, but that aside, there's so many Reddit stories where parents meet their kid's spouses the first time after years, it's insane.

    • @oonachestnut509
      @oonachestnut509 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well, it depends. They could be far away and don't get to travel often.

  • @YRAT-mr8jq
    @YRAT-mr8jq 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Mannnn OP is a doormat 😂 2nd story haha

  • @susanrand512
    @susanrand512 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2nd story, you wife is being influenced from the outside. Put your foot down she needs to adjust to the real world, dump that friend or dump the marriage. Love her or not you have put up with too much. Time for marriage counseling.

  • @roseh458
    @roseh458 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is it an Israeli term? Explains alot if it.

  • @susanrand512
    @susanrand512 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The parents are racist. Ray Charles could see that. They want to see grandchildren, to see our biracial they look. Continue to enjoy the family minus your parents.😊😅

  • @N3yo100
    @N3yo100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This guy sounds a little bit chy he would just constantly expose those kids to her because he was too weak to move on

    • @leileyaravencroft
      @leileyaravencroft 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don't think you or the person who liked your comment are aware of this but... the children were hers not his. If he moved on, the boys would have stayed with their mother as he doesn't have any blood relation to them.
      Even if the courts took the children away from her (which very rarely happens as courts want children to stay with the birth mother), he still wouldn't have the children so he wasn't constantly exposing them to anything. Again, they are her children, he is the stepfather. He would only get custody if he fought every family member and even then he most likely wouldn't.

    • @N3yo100
      @N3yo100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@leileyaravencroft ummm he adopted the 2 from her soooo Yeah I guess you missed that part ....

    • @leileyaravencroft
      @leileyaravencroft 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I was just about to comment. I had just got to that part.

    • @N3yo100
      @N3yo100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@leileyaravencroft cool for a moment I had to go back and check🤣😂🤣😂

  • @maunabot5292
    @maunabot5292 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    For store two I have nothing against single mothers but if she had picked bad men in the past and never even blamed herself a bit for it. He kinda asked for this... I have an aunt that's a single mom because she wanted to have a family because her sisters had one and she didn't. And guess what she's single and miserable know she married and abuser our of desperation. And to this day fosent wanna admit it's her fault for not making good choices...

    • @ruthgarza920
      @ruthgarza920 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      He asked for this???? WTH is wrong with you how did he ask to get abused and lose his wife to addiction and then cheat on him???

  • @ruthlessreturns6925
    @ruthlessreturns6925 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pawn what bru

  • @davidtaylor9742
    @davidtaylor9742 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Kushi is a racial slur used my Jewish people to describe black people

    • @Keksemann666
      @Keksemann666 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Is it a Hebrew n word or less problematic?

    • @SewardWriter
      @SewardWriter 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Keksemann666It refers to the land of Cush.

    • @SewardWriter
      @SewardWriter 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      SOME Jewish people. It's not commonly used.

    • @Keksemann666
      @Keksemann666 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SewardWriter so not as bad?

    • @SewardWriter
      @SewardWriter 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Keksemann666 I didn't say that. I only gave the origin.

  • @kristhebrownie
    @kristhebrownie 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't think the friend caused the mom to become worse. I think her true self was just revealed

  • @erinkolbe5973
    @erinkolbe5973 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dancing isn’t cheating tho

  • @bobbylambert9191
    @bobbylambert9191 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    First

  • @mariesantiesteban3067
    @mariesantiesteban3067 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2nd story, the guy is a sucker. Point blank. She got a guy paying everything and doing the work at home, even though kids go to school, so now when you leave she will get alimony. What a sucker sucker.

    • @SisberaEntertainment
      @SisberaEntertainment หลายเดือนก่อน

      Clearly, you didn't stick around till the end.

  • @polarbearhero9803
    @polarbearhero9803 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Use you grammar. There is no such thing as “a racism”. There is “racism”. Words count.

    • @ABadPassword
      @ABadPassword 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A level 99 racism 🚨🚨🚨

    • @Heartrose7
      @Heartrose7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's called a typo.

  • @arjundhaliwal8853
    @arjundhaliwal8853 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Story 2 Op is such a doormat stories like these r so annoying to hear cause u the OP is just restarted

  • @KOFRE._.
    @KOFRE._. 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Narrator what is your twitter?

  • @PilloTheStar
    @PilloTheStar 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Goddamn dude in story 2, how many red flags do you need?

  • @evolvetrooper
    @evolvetrooper 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Story 1 I feel sorry for the parents in this.
    Story 2 is just a fucking doormat

    • @Heartrose7
      @Heartrose7 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Your empathy meter is running low it seems.