NEVER Tolerate a Disrespectful WOMAN
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- In this video we talk about women who don't have respect towards men and how to deal with that.
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#Men #Women #Dating
If she hates her father, she hates you.
Yup. Never date a woman with daddy issues.
If she hates herself, she hates you.
@@pjf3837 If she hates her mom she hates herself and if she hates herself she won't be able to love anyone.
So true...wish I'd known that before marrying my ex-wife.
That’s what I’m starting to see.
Private disrespect turns into public disrespect 🔥
Need to put that one on my corkboard of quotes
That's a fact. You're right
Respect
damn....thank you
@financeinfluencer true words
If she can disrespect you once, she'll disrespect you twice. If she can disrespect you twice, she'll never stop disrespecting you.
im fucked
Bingo. These dudes can sit here and act as alpha as they like and tell their cute stories about setting their women straight but it doesn’t matter. Women are a boundless sea of toxicity and no matter what you do it’s like shoveling shit against the tide. Best to work on yourself. Get enough money to tell any woman to go screw herself.
You want a cute “alpha” story? I have a box of dildos I keep on hand to give to women as a consolation prize. “Go fk yourself” is the last thing they hear from me.
When she disrespects you, dump her, quit being such a jellyfish. Get rid of her when she continually puts you down. Too many men have no backbone and women feel they’re never going to be held accountable.
Now that ... is definitely a true statement! Thank you, Kevin, words from a wise man.
My rule of thumb is - would you tolerate this same sort of rude or judgmental behavior from a friend, as you do from your girlfriend?
Agreed.... disrespect=I'm outta here
Exactly, “losing” a woman who treats you poorly isn’t losing at all. Women that will gladly take advantage and treat you poorly have no value and can be readily had anywhere and anytime. Find something better or just be alone.
@@Anthony_in_Bloomington_Indiana no, but let the friend know they disrespected you. If they can't change, adios.
Kevin from sales right here guys! Indeed, man...
I know a guy who’s girlfriend was acting belligerent on a road trip. He dropped her off in the middle of the interstate and drove away...DON’T be afraid to crack the whip.
@WM Paco If it's what you had to do, it's what you had to do!
@Mark Park good following your frame but lad, atleast drop her off where shes save. no need to kick her out next to a few lions because she disrespected you on a jungle trip
@BASIL!!!!! The musical and pumpin' Seagull you are clearly an Alpha ..
all the other clowns that kicked their gfs on the side of the road are lowlifes
He was a lowlife
@Mark Park you mean woman/women
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." -- Maya Angelou
Gold
Yes.. make no excuses for them.. men woman or child..
Yep
Indeed
Yes!
Disrespectful isn't always verbal. Cheating is very disrespectful. Lying is too. Can be the nicest woman in the world but have very disrespectful traits
Exactly, disrespect is not solely about words or behavior, I had an LTR with the sweetest girl, but she was narcissistic and a liar, ended up cheating too.
@@actuallyflaw I hope you got rid of her! You're definitely better off without her.
Lying is a big one, total disrespect, plus another step into deceit, plus another step into selfish, and knows exactly what she’s doing, and will do it again if you let her, the lying habit is almost impossible to break, it’s not teamwork, if she lies early on, dump her on the spot, much easier and cheaper than a divorce, been there done that, lies was the thing that destroyed us, and cost a lot of money.
@@thomasshort1784 i did after a horrible breakup (putting all the blame on me) 2 years after she came back begging to take her back knowing that i was the only one who tolerated her bs, but no more my friend.
@@actuallyflaw Good for you! You owed it to your self-respect. That blame angle is a form of gaslighting.
One thing’s for sure. You’ll get MORE of whatever you tolerate...!
True. This is Economics 101
Words of wisdom my friend.
Exactly! One of my cardinal rules is: Whatever you choose to tolerate, you are facilitating by default.
Tolerance vs Boundaries - a pretty binary process. Maybe = Tolerance.
In over 50+ years of marriage my Mother only argued once with my Father. He pulled the car over and looked at her and said sternly, "Never raise your voice to me ever again." My Father never laid a hand on her or his children ever but my Mother went pale and silent. Set your frame. Set your boundaries. In this case, my Father would have divorced her in a heartbeat.
Doesn't sound healthy to me. If they argued once in 50 years it sounds like a dictatorship.
Lots of men won't put their foot down because they think it would be the end of the relationship. You will either be a doormat or divorced. Stand up and if the relationship ends move on. Better to know now, than after a costly divorce.
If you don't put your foot down, there is no relationship. It's already over.
If she don't want you, she will tell you...it's in her behaviors
Yes
Women do the chasing. Never chase women. If a woman is chasing you shes not replacing you.
True, a lot of women are happy with a roommate with resources, little benefits / little romance, and having the real side action. Many need adventure and this is a form of adventure. Two or more partners, and the thrill of disrespect. Caught and cut off, these types might move on very quick, requiring codependence, unable to heal alone because of weak accountability - "no idea how I got here" stuff.
Left mine at a wedding 3 hours away bc she blew up on me over nothing. Ruined the whole weekend. I was done and had enough. She was yelling at me like I was a 9 year old. Complete bs
You dodged a nuke.
@@dontfeelcold lucky he.
Awesome lol. How did she get home?
Good for you, that will teach her 👏 👍 These disrespectful and narcissistic females need to learn manners and how to treat others.
If you are an introvert, ambivalence really goes a long way. When you are not afraid of being alone, you can afford to have a zero disrespect, tolerance policy.
Facts 😂
When I called my wife out for the disrespectful way she was treating me I got accused of being verbally abusive and she is divorcing me! It broke my heart but 6 months later and the rose tinted glasses are off it’s probably the best thing-costly but at 67 I can cry FREEDOM!!!😂
Good luck to you sir.
*Its always more difficult in a marriage, because women have the upper hand with divorce*
Mistake was giving her the leverage to do that. But I'm glad for you brother
It’s just projection, my woman was emotionally abusing me for a year, I called her out on it and she switched it round to say I was emotionally abusing her by calling out her emotional abuse.
She would tell me constantly I did nothing for her, to combat this I would remind her of all the nice things I did for her and then she would say I was throwing those things in her face!?!?
I could never win and neither could you, the only way to win with a woman like that is to leave her!
A woman like that will take years off of your life with stress. Enjoy your freedom my brother and make the most of your time and your life without the burden of hate and misery weighing you down.
Lmao u got screwed for talking ur mind. U should have never gotten married to her to begin with. If you can’t even have a reasonable disagreement then there should be nothing
Any disrespect, invalidation, emasculation, dismissiveness, or denigration.... they get ghosted.
Before I even get into a relationship with somebody they know the rules. I tell them straight out not only am I gonna walk away from you forever I’ll forget your name and I’ll go find somebody that looks just like you.
Gang
That sounds harsh 😳
@@zippyblessed839 "That sounds harsh 😳" It's called being a man and having self-respect
W
"When someone willfully disrespects you it is a test for hierarchy; so, be a knight or be a pawn because you cannot be both." - brian padrick drake
Damn! Thanks for this
That's a good one.
Respectfully, I choose to be king, with a queen who serves and protects me.
This is great, not doing anything is too often the pawn unless you're adept in a knight's body language and silence to convey a fury back at them. Sometimes you've got to strike fear in the entire room to stop a war.
Never tolerate a disrespectful anyone...
Ive found in my personal experience that it only gets worse. Disrespect is a snowball, growing and getting worse. Once she gets away with it, she'll try it again. Then it gets worse.
True. You need to squash it as soon as it rears its ugly head. If it's a minor infraction give your girl some straight-talking the first time it happens. The 2nd time : dump her, she won't change.
On God.. NEVER EVER TOLERATE DISRESPECT. You don’t deserve it and don’t let it slide.
🎯
I don't tolerate a disrespectful anybody. Probably why people respect me.
@Ryan Stresser Same here! When somebody tries doing that, you're best off cutting ALL contact with them. This world needs MORE stand-up and assertive men!
BINGO. I got locked up for 17 months by the Feds for doing some hard core patriot stuff. Everyone around me called each other "fool" all the time. Not once did anyone ever call me fool. Know who you are and live it. Others can tell.
I had this girlfriend that tried to disrespecting me this one time. I told her ‘thats it i’m done’ I literally just stopped talking to her. Received like over 100s messages. Even now 2 years later, i get birthday and holiday messages from her and i only reply ‘thank you’. Every couple months
Wouldn’t even reply at all if you want her to stop
Good for you
Why are you even replying?
@@ericpowell4350 he's a beta
What she do?
When a broad checks out of the relationship she will not only disrespect you openly in front of your friends but she will not care what happens to you. I've seen so called "love" dissappear and turn into disdain lol
Love is real, but existential. Its a verb and not a noun.
Very true!!!
I have seen it many times and experienced it myself, on both sides from multiple woman!!!
When a female checks out!!
She’s trying to get you to leave .so she be with pookie and ray ray
Do you have any example of her not caring? I’m having trouble thinking of them.
Also in this scenario, what other things will she do ?
Check a woman's disrespect immediately, in private or public! They will cower like wounded kittens and crawl back. A woman only gets one shot with me, when it comes to disrespect. She's trying t pull the man out of you!!! Give it to her.
When to Dump your Women:
1 - When She is not DTF
2 - When She steps out of your Boundary
3 - When She is operating in her Hypergamy Mode
Be So Unpredictable and Make Her think She has made a BIG Mistake! - And Of course, DON'T TAKE HER BACK!
Rollo's Iron Rule: it is time better spent with new prospective women than to rebuild already broken relationship
@Luis just exactly the right time to dump her... When she think she can do better than you, show that bird the exit 😆
DTF?
@@vdm_ No DTF means no Genuine Desire... DTF (Down to F*ck) 😏
@Luis how can you tell? Whats the signs?
I could write a book on these women. And at this age I’ve learned the good ones got married and stayed married, what’s left is other men’s cast offs and lunatics who can’t keep a man.
Man, 1000% true! I wish I knew in my mid 20's what I know now... would've stopped the partying and settled down. Now at 40, going through a rough breakup 2.5 years ago to a solid 9 then seeing what's left in the dating pool.... my GAWD, it's bad out there..
So right!! Dating today is like shopping at the Goodwill!!
all the good ones get locked down once you hit your 30s its not a pretty site
"Private disrespect becomes public disrespect" That is sooooooo fuckn right!!!
This is true for friends, co-workers, teachers, students, bosses etc. My old boss yelled at everyone but me. Give respect, expect respect
It's funny when Paul mentioned leaving her behind and it reminded me of an incident that happened in my family. My dad and mom came to visit us in our apartment shortly after I was married. At one point in the evening around 10:00 my dad stood up and said it's time to leave. He went to the door , put on his coat, said his goodbyes and walked out. My mom said I'd better go or he'll leave me behind again. As she was putting on her coat she said he'll go down to the car, start it and wait two minutes and then he'll drive home and leave her there. Mom said he won't come back for her; if that happens and I would have to drive her home. As dad got older he didn't take crap from anyone. He had ran his own businesses his whole life and had to put up with customers. Once he retired and sold his business and his apartment buildings he didn't put up with anything.
Was your mom a nag?
Thanks for sharing - who's side do you take when your parents visibly quarrel
like this ?
@@topcathk1 It has nothing to do with me. I just observe. It's not really a quarrel it's more a quiet statement of dominance from my dad. My mom was not that bright. All women need to be lead. But, lead by a man that cares for his woman. Women expect to be lead and it gives them a sense of security as long as she has confidence in that man.
It's true. Age gives license. It sounds like your parents have an understanding of how their marriage works.
That's a BOSS. Thanks for sharing
Disrespect, comes in many forms:
Here is some examples:
At a restaurant I told a waiter I dont want peas in my pastas. She tells waiter he will have the peas after I said I didn’t want it. She got checked real quick!
Another time holding her hand while walking to restraurant I said something she didnt agree with she threw my hand away from hers in front of everyone. I walked out of restruarant and took off. No dinner for her!
This is on point start distancing
Never tolerate any form of disrespect. You have the power to walk away.
"When your silence inspires more dread than anything you can say, that's when you're alpha."
100%. There's a reason women use the silent treatment. They use it on each other and it is brutally effective when they do, their tendency to gaslight themselves does more work than any words they say. They use this on men too thinking it will have the same effectiveness but not knowing they can turn it right back on them. When she's the first one to speak after a conflict it's almost always because the silence is getting to her
When your dread inspires silence, that's when you're Omicron.
That's not alpha
That's sigma
If she dont respect you get rid of her and find a woman who will.
I started noticing this 2 years into my relationship that I ended at 4 years. At family gatherings or at get togethers with mutual friends I would often become the butt of one of her jokes, but it was always have joking and half serious. I got to the point where I didn’t want her around the people in my life. It took too long to realize my mistakes, but I’ll be hyper aware moving forward.
I found out my wife cheated on me. I didn't say a WORD!!.. SHE had a trip out of the country 3 days later. I took her to the Airport and have never seen her since. Divorce papers were on the table when she got back!!
Nice
Bravo! my fella.
- you gotta know how to stick it to them.
- my dumb ex went to work at 7am one Saturday in 2012.
- by the time she got back from work, my belongings were packed out of the house.
- 3 kids. yet i had to give up for my own sanity.
- modern women are a basket case of never-ending troubles.
Zero tolerance for any form of disrespect. Shut it down the first time. End it after the second time. Don't look back.
Spot on, i learned the hard way.
Right on brother
Same here
Me too, never again.
Never again
I'm sorry, brotha
No child should ever experience mum throwing dad out of the house. It messes with a child's mental health. What's worst is a man trying to come back after she did that. I've lived through that and i feel sorry for my dad. It came to a point I couldn't handle the disrespect I moved out. If a woman doesn't respect the man of the house, the children are in deep trouble. Better leave when dad doesn't even stand up for himself. A mother who claims her children are emasculating her husband needs help. If mum doesn't respect dad, how on earth do u expect the kids to respect him. In my case, I tried respecting dad but she made it impossible. Now I love them from afar, but for my own mental health I don't associate with them. I'm just being real here. I'd rather die than treat my husband that way.
I put up with so much of what you said and now I'm in my 60s where I finally left my wife from decades of disrespect. She trash talked me constantly to all her family and relatives. I kept thinking things would get better but only got worse. I should have left decade's ago, but now I'm looked upon as the bad guy. Sure wished I'd had guidance such as you guys decade's ago.
In the 15 years I was married to my ex, she apologized less than 3 times. I didn't have the spine to hold her in check. But I learned the hard way.
Taking notes RN should have known this as a teen. It's messed up when you see blatant desrespect of a guy from his girl in public. It's sad to watch you feel sorry for the guy especially if he's married or has kids.
Never let anyone mistreat you always best that you leave find something better
I threw out my ex because she became obsessively disrespectful. Constant critique about me on twitter behind my back, and constant antagonistic behavior literally trying to push new buttons every time.
If she doesn't honor her commitments or isn't willing to cooperate, leave her.
I love rich's story about the gf calling him cheap.
This is 100% true. Private disrespect will escalate into public disrespect. When disrespect rears its ugly head, you cut its head off immediately and keep that disrespectful tendency in constant fear of ever showing itself again. Do it not, and it will grow into a hydra that will eventually destroy your relationship.
It’s sad to see men get pushed around by women and then they still plan on marrying her like dude you’re setting yourself up for failure
"if she values you you'll notice changes, if she doesn't then she won't change"..... its that simple and I ended one quickly over this!
They only sincerely apologize when you don’t call them out on it
I disagree. They apologize only when you call them out.
From my experience they apologize only when they need help
@@abhisekgogoi1043 Unfortunately, I have to agree. They rarely apologize because it's the right thing to do. In my experience, they do it when they see that not apologizing could be worse. Or, when they are under the gun.
It's funny, in that I know I am not perfect. I know I am prone to error. I do not want people to think I am perfect. That would be a terrible burden. But others have a VERY high opinion of themselves, and they would rather die (figuratively) than apologize.
@Chris you have to call them out on it and not whine about it. There's definitely a difference. The thing is marriage turns most men into the type that will eventually start whining because one is trying to keep the peace.
Actionable advice? I divorced my wife for huge levels of dismissal and disrespect over too long of time. And now she has little going on, is still shocked after more than a year, is alone and very lonely. Yes, she is indeed replaceable.
I shut a woman down that tried to play games. So glad I’m learning tools from you.
It’s important to train the women in your life
Thank you Mr. Rich for sharing your story on how to deal with disrespect. It really made me think about how I need to approach disrespect across the board. "Act immediately on private disrespect."- Mr. Rich
My ex wife never disrespected me while we dated for 16 months, and not the first 6 months of marriage, but after the first 6 months the disrespect started. She never disrespected in front of people (she did it once and I ripped her) or cheated. I always called her on the disrespect. After a couple of yrs of disrespect, she became an ex wife. And yes, she only rolled her eyes at me one time!!!!!
All are spot on, agree nip it in the bud or just bail out. If she doesn’t inherently know how to be respectful and not to air issue in public it’s a walk of the lot.
Dad does not need to say anything. It’s just that look he gives to us including mom. He just passed 70 and still have our respect and we’re 10 successful siblings.
If a woman disrespects you, it means you need to check her. most beg for it
She disrespects you it's time for NO CONTACT. Depends on severity of disrespect of course. A little dread game can work wonders. If it's a pattern of disrespectful behavior and words then cut bait ASAP.
The story Rick told at the end sums it up perfectly!
Put your self respect above all else gentleman. Follow through when these women test you and have the abundance mindset to walk away. This video is truth and you'll be happier with or without her.
I have mommy issue and grew up with 3 sisters (one of them has BPD), there was constant fight and controlling mother so I am getting Avoidant personality disorder. So when my Borderline girlfriend came into my life, I couldn't see her abuse abnormal (yelling, physical hits, toxic attitude). Sometimes family dynamic makes young boys not having strong boundaries. In conclusion, my borderline ex mentally broken me into pieces.
I am avoidant too and i dated a BPD, we seem to ignore red flags more because we see them as normal from growing up around toxic family members. Just a question, how long were you with your BPD ex?
Same here. One sister , crazy mom, dads too long of a story but none the less sides with the girls against me . Almost shot myself a while back. Glad I’m alive , I hate women now but want to bang ‘em still haha
I had a girlfriend that was 14 years younger than me when I was 35 and boy let me tell ya.. she could be a different person in different situations. I had neeeever dated anyone like her. I was guilty of letting things go too far because I didn't want to end the relationship but damn it got so bad. She wouldn't stand up for me or anything. I remember a comparable time to his story about turning the car around... We had loaded up my snowmobiles and had only made it about a half mile down the road and she was in one of her disrespectful moods and she said, "the only reason I'm going is because you're making me!" She had me so mad I just turned around at the corner and took her back to the house. She immediately changed her tone but I just wanted to get away from her. I wasn't making her come with me and I wasn't even fighting with her, she just liked to stir shit up over absolutely nothing! So as I was out riding my snowmobile and having a good time she started texting me and being all nice. This would always happen, back and forth to where I got so damn sick of getting her to behave! She just wore me the hell out so I kicked her out. Been single ever since. Now I'm 40.. I have a bad taste in my mouth about women now. I just view them as all bad now to where I dont even want to be in a relationship with them. I go on lots of dates but shit.. I just dont trust that they won't turn into a shithead. Women just aren't what I used to think.. Theyre so much trouble..
Amen
Similar situation. She’s 11 years younger than me. First time I checked her she got on good behavior for two weeks then everything went down hill from there. I have to constantly pull back to get her to behave and it’s wearing me out.
If being cheap means owning a McLaren down the line, then I'm in!! 🏎️
I appreciate what you are explaining here. My partner and I treat each other with care and respect. I’m female and my dad an alpha. That being said the things that you are saying women do I can’t even imagine. Women have become horrible. I wouldn’t even do those things to a girlfriend. What you are doing here is teaching yourself boundaries and how to communicate to the immaturity that women seem to behave with. It also shows me that fathers are important. My dad treated me with love but we also treated him with respect. He would have taken a bullet for me. Be good fathers. You will help correct this insanity of modern feminism.
" Can you drive her home? "
Leave, light a cigar, and drink some bourbon.
Leave her on read.
There is one thing women hate more than being ignored, that's being alone. I already see generations of cat ladies in the making.
You need to be willing and ready to walk out of a relationship. If you are not married, it is easy. When you are married and no kids, it is also relatively simple. When you are married with kids the problem is exponentially more complex... Don't get married if it does not feel right. Listen to your gut feelings and don;t be a needy bastard!
Great content with the collaboration Rich 👍🏽
Both my exes did this. Breaking ranks, if you will, in front of the kids, parents, friends, etc. I'm a very self-reflective guy, so I wondered what I did to cause them to lose respect for me. I did things different...changed how I dressed, how I spoke to them, put more value on my time (by refusing to waste it), worked more, was home more - not at her request....nothing worked. Its kind of like once she loses respect for you, it's gone. There didn't seem to be anything i could do to get it back. So I agree. Once she loses respect for you, adios.
But you have to treat yourself like a high value man. My own personal observation: You have to show the world that you're worthy of their respect without demanding it. If you have to say it, you don't deserve it. Keep control of your emotions and don't take shit from people. Zero tolerance for bullshit. She has to see you earn respect from others. Let her see others asking your opinion... about something that matters (video games and star wars don't count). She has to see you handle your work load (vocational and daily stressors and life's curve balls) with poise, determination and an even keel. If you're going to lose your shit, Don't. You. DARE. do it in front of her. Ride your motorcycle, kick the crap out of a heavy bag, take it out picking up and putting down some heavy shit, anything but yelling and screaming or arguing. Don't allow the cracks in your armor show. You're better than that and you have to make sure (by SHOWING her, not by telling her) that she's well aware of that fact.
I'm 21, thanks for this man
I’m 26 years old and it makes so much sense now after reading why women have ghosted me once they see a slight weakness in their (me) “knight-shining armor.”
Thanks my friend, the same thing happened to me, everyone disrespects me and my exes disrespected me at the first opportunity and I tried to change a thousand things about myself but nothing went back to the way it was before. The more I opened up the worse it got. Stoic.
It's not about respect, those chicks were probably cluster B.
Her kids? Lmao first mistake
Awesome clip fellas and awesome story about dealing with disrespect.
These women "know" when they have crossed the line. They know. Mine did. Even if you don't call her out.
The question is, then what happens?
@@Ace.0.0.0. what happens? You bounce!
From the start of the relationship, NEVER tolerate her badmouthing you to other people. Set a standard.
And ALSO, NEVER badmouth her to other people, set that standard that you respect her and "this is how we behave, like a class act".
I'm not saying you worship her in social settings, with glowing compliments, just talk about her with respect and dignity. Like I said, set a standard and then always insist on that standard.
Hard to remain respectful of someone who constantly disrespects you and treats you like a dirty rag.
@@GreenBroccoli100 hmmm, I would not be in a relationship with someone that bad...
@@wizrom3046 Problem is you don't find out till its too late, my ex became very disrespectful towards me in the end, was gaslighting me and being emotionally abusive. But she played the sweet and caring girl for a while.. till I started living with her then I found out really who she was... all the respect and love I showed her, she took it for granted, and discarded me like trash. It's easier said than done, if you know what I mean.
Unfortunately I haven't met a lot of girls who treat men with equal respect if hes good to her, usually she ends up treating him like crap, so one thing I have noticed is that they do respond well to and seem to give respect to men who treat them like trash... I get it alpha fucks beta bucks lol
Anyway it was a harsh but important life lesson for me. Never love someone more than you love yourself. I'll just have to be incredibly selfish and ruthless next time, not put up with their BS again.
@@GreenBroccoli100 I feel for you man. 🙂
All I can say is you have to pick them right from the start, then set good standards right from the start... And probably still takes some luck too.
A good trick is to test her character early in the relationship. Expose her to problems, especially ones where she doesn't get her own way. If she has a quality character she will respond with humour and a good natured approach. If she instantly turns into a screaming spoilt psycho when things go wrong and she doesn't get her own way, that tells you all you ever need to know. 😱👎
@@wizrom3046
Thank you for your kind words brother.
To be honest I'm not experienced enough with relationships, I was still somewhat red pill.. I read a lot of red pill books, articles but not red pill enough to actually have enough practical experience out in the real world when it came to having a relationship. Although I've slept with over 50 women in my lifetime..by doing pick up. Finding a girl who was looking for a serious relationship was hard work.. (I'm not a fan of hookup culture but that's just me, since sleeping around made me feel hollow and empty)
Early on there weren't any red flags I could think of (perhaps she just hid it really well). She was completely different to most girls I've been with, she had this charm about her, and well she kind of exceeded my expectations so to speak.. (I was an idiot to think she would be any different to any of the other girls I had met prior) Its just that it turns out she hid her true nature till later on.. she had far more relationship experience than I did like most girls do (This is an area I think women tend to have an advantage over men, I have found more men lack relationship experience than women nowadays, even fat girls can easily get a boyfriend)
Here men on average have never had a relationship, or only had a few, while women jump from one relationship to another from what I've seen. I basically live in the worst country for a single man lol since statistically over 80% of our women are obese and well we have a country that embraces feminism.. and our laws here are very anti-male.. the future ain't looking so bright here when they are looking to introduce made up laws about consent..
I'm just focusing on myself now, building myself up. I don't care about relationships anymore..or dating, I'm too burnt out by women and their drama, they are more demanding than they were ten years ago, and I've never met one woman who has ever told me she was happy with her man. So I've decided I'll move abroad if I really want to settle down one day. I just don't feel the lemon is worth the squeeze anymore.
I'm going to chase excellence and focus on myself, luckily I'm approaching my 30s.. and my sex drive is more under control. If i was still stuck in my 20s, I'd be having a really hard time having it under control.
The other side of this that doesn't get touched on here is that some women will never respond positively to this. From personal experience, the women that were raised in 2 parent homes but the father was a bumbling doormat of bufoonery that spent all his time providing and then serving the mother will never comprehend this boundary. It took me 3 years with an otherwise great woman to finally just kick her to the curb because it had been a constant source of conflict since 6 months into the relationship. I always responded to it immediately, either kicking her out of wherever we were or leaving without her whenever possible, and giving her a "you must have lost your fuckin mind" whenever it wasn't possible. She would cut the shit...for a month or 2. Then be right back on it. The cycle never stopped. Moral of the story: just because she doesn't have daddy issues doesn't mean she doesn't have daddy issues. A female-dominant parental situation is a big red flag.
Female dominant parental situation. Nailed it.
I'm Mindblown after reading this... just went through it and it adds up, luckily i was the one who ended it before she could monkey branch.
This leaves me with a question: What if the woman disrespecting you (and others) is doing it because she already has the power. For example, the woman belittling you is your employer and she has the power to fire you if she doesn't approve of you. Then what do you do?
This is such high wisdom it would’ve been more powerful if you all would’ve met up to speak on it together in person
for those not sure how to calibrate disrespect, if it feels like it was a "dig" then thats your signal to bounce ( Especially after patterns of it )
Yeah and dudes need to realise that they probably have a different metric for disrespect. Some guys like to joke around and will take a lot of shit if it seems jokey and like they can send some back. Other guys are no nonsense and even a joking dig is disrespectful. Its all about finding out what is disrespectful to you personally
Imagine our boy Rich at the grocery store and feeling the tap on the shoulder and him turning around thinking it might be someone who wants to fight him or something lol she was scarrrrrrrrrred
And now people are going to do that if they see him.
This channel is gold!
I’m reading your book now. Enjoyable
Great topic guys. Great commentary and insight also. Keep up the good work brother
It's videos like this that have made me realise I am not crazy, or "too sensitive". Thanks gents.
So true I have seen so many times that women did not offer an apology to me or somebody else.
love that suzuki swift / pull over and throw her out story . Made me chuckle .
More guys need to take that kind of action .
Extremely well spoken Alpha Kings!!!
Its funny that you say that. My wife is amazing. Respectful. Loving. Caring. But all woman piss you off and test you at times no matter how good they are. And the more annoyed i am the less i say. If im dead silent there is a big problem. Ive had multiple times this year shes coming running back to me apologizing because i just shut down and didnt give her 1 cent of attention. Didnt even acknowledge she was there. Every time the matter was fixed within a day without a word being said and didnt happen again.
But guys ill be honest my 1st wife walked all over me so i had to learn this the hard way. So please take these lessons before wasting time on the wrong women.
You want to let her know openly and as often as necessary... She needs to know you can get with someone else easily. Hard for her to respect you if you can't get another love on your own. If you can get another love right in front of her, her behaviors start changing quickly.
Great advice.Stay silent stay stoic and dont engage in the drama.
Bravo. Nice story Rich. 👏
My favorite, TH-cam video of all time hands-down
100%
What women need most from men is unconditional love. What men need most from women is support and respect. The Bible even teaches that.
My social life is impinged upon by the fact that I will never be comfortable with a couple if I have seen one be emotionally abused. Of course 9/10 situations are the woman emotionally abusing their man.
Pure gold!
My friend's girlfriend often disrespects him. Recently she started disrespecting him behind his back in front of all his friends including me. We gave her no reaction but kept it to ourselves (even her boyfriend wasn't aware). Feeling defeated she decided to take it a notch higher by slandering the reputation of the guys to their respective girlfriends and wives. Girls being girls easily fall victim to the gossip. Our girls started questioning us. In retaliation, us guys made a round table conference with her boyfriend and cleared off everything. Right now she's an outcast from the friend circle and has lost all the privileges. Unfortunately my friend's still a puppet. Hope he realises that soon. It's very very important for men to stand strong in the face of adversity even if it means standing up against your female counterpart. Principles matter. I'm grateful that we a have a group of strong male friends. Any female attempting to break us up will be obliterated socially.
That's fucking cool.
With me after about a year'ish she started speaking to me like I was dirt. At first in private, then in front of others. Sporadically increasing over time. Then she became unafectionate. Little if barely any intimacy. The relationship went on for 2.5 years and came to a car crash end when one weekend she was simply plain horrible towards me. The look of utter freezing dislike in her eyes actually chilled me! I realised then she was a fraud, a fraud of feelings. And used men to do things for her - support her, graft for her... Then began to treat them like utter crap!
I'd started to see the woman she truly was, and her privileged life and being spoilt by her parents had done nothing for her.
I cleared off that awful weekend, even left a few things that I never returned for her. And I never spoke to her again....
She was a good looking bird, received a lot of male attention. But I cared not. I was glad to get away from her! Totally had enough. Let some other bloke suffer her. Horrible bird she was. Not at first mind. Lovely. But that's the lure. The trap. Once I saw the 'real' woman behind the attractive looks.... Wow, TERRIBLE.
Did you do anything wrong or was it all her fault?
@@raycarden7941 yes I did do something wrong Ray!!! Treating her so decent. Treat her like a star, eventually she'll treat you like a fan.
Do as you please and act like you can take it or leave it. That's my advice.
Same thing happened to me!
Good topic and discussion.
Two things I learned from my marriage and divorce.
1. Be willing to walk away from any relationship (for good reason obviously).
2. Never lose control of your emotions. Doing so gives away any moral high ground you would've had.
Very informative thanks a lot you guys..
My own attitude above everything in any situations !
“Your presence isn’t unconditional” at 2:42 should be applied to all relationships especially family.
This is amazing
My sister-in-law talks down to her husband all the time now, as if everything she wants must be the best & only way to approach any given issue of the day in their family. I've known this woman since 1986. I thought about pulling her aside and telling her she's out of line, but the other part of me says my brother should fight his own fights. Thing is, he can't just kick her out of the house now that children are involved.
Don‘t think of it like that. You‘ll be doing your sister a favor by pointing out her behavior. That‘s your responsibility as her brother.
@@olefeelsnature6589 You misunderstood. Alan's *brother* is married to this disrespectful woman (aka Alan's SIL). I do think it would be helpful if you talked to your brother about it, but it may already be too late. She's set in her ways, mentally, and they've got kids in tow..
@@Director-M Oh. Thanks for clarifying.
It is your brothers relationship and your brothers problem. He is either a weak man or accepts it. I would pull my brother aside say my peace and let it go. However, I would make it clear if she does that, I will tell him it is better if we not spend time together if she is involved.
@@olefeelsnature6589 Yes SIL. I kind of don't want to intrude on their relationship, but she's talking down to him in front of the kids, and teaching them that this is acceptable behavior.