Why am I Alone in my RV Life?
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You know, having backpacked with Carolyn before she became a TH-cam star, for four days with two other guys, I find this amusing. We all adored her. The idea that she might be unappealing to men is hilarious. The real issue, as with a lot of us older folk who have accomplished a lot and become unique individuals, is finding someone with compatible uniqueness. And that, in turn, is a matter of divine grace (aka luck and a prepared mind).
I am with you. I’d rather be alone than with someone who does not value me as a person.
👍🏿 Wisdom 😊
Or worse yet who is trying devalue you to yourself through manipulation.
Amen to THAT!
Yes! Absolutely A woman is to be valued, respected and loved!
So true
I loved this. I’ve been widowed for 12 years and I’ve never been happier. My life is my own. I feel strong. Capable.
MY LIFE IS MY OWN...that says it all Marcia 🙂In my younger years I was in a few really bad long-term relationships (yes, I stayed longer than I should have, tried to "make it work" because I thought I was doing something wrong) & ended them because I finally woke up and wasn't going to settle for being hit or treated like a doormat anymore. After I'd been alone for a few years because I had major trust issues, I finally realized that I absolutely loved not having to answer to anyone, doing what I wanted when I wanted without "checking in" constantly. And it was just amazing to me, having that kind of freedom.
Every time a girlfriend of mine would be fighting with her boyfriend I would feel so blessed that I didn't have to have that kind of drama in my life anymore. It's not worth it. My aunt used to say to me just find a man & get married (even if I didn't love him), you're not going to find a prince charming, you're not cinderella lol. She was married her entire life, 2 marriages (first one ended in divorce) & miserable the whole time because she hated "taking care of him" (sad imo, it's called taking care of each other I thought) & I just always said to myself "I sure don't want that" I mean seriously. I've always hated drama (my aunt raised me so u can see why). I just turned 58, been alone for years now & I'm happier than I've ever been. Great comment Marcia, I absolutely love that. Thank u :-). My Life Is My Own.💜
Marcia Bell, I think you have coined a phrase we should all live by. My life is my own, some very powerful words Girl!
Ditto!
Lol.
@@purplehorsechick9706
Same here. I went from 1 relationship to another my whole life , married at 16 divorced at 21. He was a farmer and drank and beat me almost daily. I had another guy waiting for me, and ended up marrying him at 28. We got along great until we married, so I divorced him. I had another long term realationship until I caught him cheating, then like an idiot met a guy and we got married. We had 2 kids together, and he went out drinking and playing in his band and rode his Harley around with other Women. My youngest turned 18, and I left him. Now I am divorced for 5 years and about to turn 65. I love being alone for the first time in my life, and plan to be for the rest of my life. I have a Minnie Winnie and my dog and I are gone exploring and camping all Summer long. My Husky doesn't talk back, and he appreciates me more than any of those Aholes ever did. Good on you for doing you. Good Luck with your Freedom! 💪😎
Being alone is not being lonely. I loved my time when I traveled alone, but never questioned that it was in pain, troubled, or being sad because I was alone. In fact, I was happy with my stillness, my quiet time to think, to read, and to reflect. Now that I am with my family, I still find time for the quiet time and inner peace. I love my wife and family, but I love myself too. A very good call on your status of being happily alone (sans Sadie), because you have faith in yourself. That’s happiness. Be safe and be careful Carolyn.
@Stuart Riley Beautifully articulated, Mr. Riley.
Exactly Stuart! Well said!
@@blakesleyk.7166 I really hate the helpers built into word processing. I had typed originally, "not including Sadie" and it said "too wordy" and replaced as you have seen. Being in a hurry, I left it alone and did not do my due diligence and double check. Thank you for the update, and no I am not suggesting anything without Sadie.
Thank you Stuart
@@Parkhurst12-79 Currently no , but I don't support taxation because I don't agree with what my money is paying for...as far as Carolyn goes I'm not sure but that would be a question she would need to answer....
I totally relate to what you are saying. Personally, I love the freedom of not having to answer to any significant other.
Its not just u don't want a man
Its not just that u don't want a man u don't want b around people period. I understand but same time not good.
I’m 61 years old woman and living in 98 toga class c and my husband left me and kids after 20 years. I sold my house and bought my rv once my last kid moved out. I love being alone but my kids live now in TX, AL and CO so this life style fits me perfectly. I could have got another man but who needs them. My opinion lol
So glad to hear this worked out!!🌿 Blessed Travels to you.
58 . I got my last devorace.
Bought a fithwheel and land .
Now I've built my cabin..
Happy happy happy.
Im in west ark.stop n visit.
Nice! Grateful to see your comment…. I’m there with ya
Enjoy your life
I quit using the word alone because it carries a negative connotation. Like you have a void in you life, your heart ,your soul or even your toe. Lol. Instead I say, ask, state or exhibit. "I am on my Own." This has a positive connotation. A strong and proud tone resonates in these three words -On My Own- with no void lingering. When someone asks me do I live alone, I answer, I live on my own. Do you like being alone, I answer, I like being on my own. It puts things at ease and just works. Carolyn, You are Woman and that is just fine. Thanks for being true to yourself and us. 🙂
@@CH-eg7tg I am independent!
I love that you brought up being a woman alone! I have been alone by choice for over 30 years. It has allowed me to travel and adventure and pursue interests. I get to play with my horses and dogs and read and write! I have super friends (men and women) with whom I have fun times and stimulating conversations. I was married before, but made this choice on purpose, and have never regretted it. Thank you for being so articulate about the joys of being alone!
That sounds like my life, minus the horses, lol.😊love it!!
I am so glad that there is someone out there like me. I have been single and "alone" for many years and I have absolutely 💯 no desire to introduce a man into my peaceful existence so he can fuck it up again.
Well you’re my kinda guy. Wonderful.
I have been alone for a very long time. I have always been open to a relationship but I figured I'd rather be alone than be miserable in a relationship that is not right for me. I think it's always best to be willing to be by oneself and make a conscious choice in your partner and not just partner up because you're afraid of being alone. I am a very strong person and very independent and so are you Carolyn.
Or partnering up because that's what you think your supposed to do.
@@maryrusso4910 which many do and never really live or enjoy life.
The loneliest I’ve ever been was when I was married. I have been unmarried for 30 years and have never been lonely over all this time.
After deploying with 4,300 other sailors on my first ship, I suddenly found myself alone in London in 1987, separated from my "liberty buddy". I probably should have felt very alone and fearful of the unknown, but I felt quite the opposite - no one was gonna get me outta this but me, and I knew I could very much rely on my sense of self! Your journey proves that very point - you can rely on YOU! Never feel you need to explain or excuse anything!
You go girl - happy travels!
There are pros and cons to living alone and to living with someone else. I've been married 38 years now with plenty of ups and downs, plenty of stresses, and good times too. Having said that, I really like my alone time. It's your choice. I think we should stop judging each other for wanting to live alone or not. Let's mind our own business.
amen
Talking about minding our business,not to be rude but here you are,watching her business telling us to mind our own business.
Hi. I'm not judging Carolyn. I tune in because I like Carolyn and I'm interested in what goes into the RV way of living. I also like seeing the towns and scenery (I'm not in the US) I was trying to support her by saying it's her choice, and then separately, saying of people in general, let's not judge other people's choice to live as they wish, so it would be nice to mind our business regarding this. I hope that's a bit clearer. Live and let live basically.
@@dawnwokson8202 "minding one's own business " is another way of saying... " don't be nosey", or.. Don't pry.
What we are doing here is openly SHARING our own personal experiences of liberation, for the purpose of UPLIFTING those within our circle... so... not the same thing at all. I guess I didn't read any judgment toward Carolyn in to that poster's comment.. but simply a generalization of how pointless it is to judge anyone.
Once again you struck a common chord! I was lucky enough to spend a good part of my life with my love and soulmate. Before he died in 2020, he wished me a life filled with adventure and happiness. For the last two years I’ve been solo…alone, but not lonely. I do have a “base camp” but I’ve spent about half of that time on the road in my little class C, with my copilot, Skippy (a Schipperke aka LBD - Little Black Devil). I’ve always been an introvert and often catch myself rolling my eyes at people who assume I’m lonely and spend way too much of their time speculating about why I don’t spend more time with family, or friends or social groups. I’m 70 years old. I HAD the love of my life. I don’t need another one. I don’t do small talk…I just kinda get a blank look on my face and wish I was anywhere but in that moment. The word SISU (pronounced See Sue) is a Finnish word that roughly translates to strength of will, determination, bravery, resilience and grit. I’d add fierce independence to that. That pretty much describes me. I’ll be back on the road this week and I’m already dodging questions about where, when and how my trip will progress. NEWS FLASH! I don’t KNOW! I’m just going to get out there and let my life happen! I’ll take the surprises, disappointments and challenges as they come, but it won’t be as part of a caravan or with a human sidekick. Skippy and I will do just fine and I will be channeling your independence and appreciation of living life your way, Carolyn, every mile of my journey! Keep inspiring. #BHBFBK!
Preach! I love being alone. I’m never lonely. I’m 51 and I know myself well now. My ex husband made a remark a few years after our divorce, “that’s why you are single still” … I was laughing so hard to myself. He is on wife #3 and miserable. I’m sure he is more alone than I am. I make myself feel safe and valued. I make a good living. I have a full life. The patriarchy doesn’t understand my life purpose if am not claiming the role of wife or girlfriend. I need to be identified in association to a man to have value in their world.
I’ve heard that too. One time I mentioned that I think men are a lot of work and a male relative said, “that’s probably why you’re still single.” I said, “Not probably, that’s EXACTLY why I’m still single.”
Carolyn, I was visiting a friend when her father (not creepy) asked me why I wasn't married. His wife, and mother of their seven children, laughed and said, "You just tell him, you haven't met anyone who deserves to be that happy!" Feel free to use that. ;)
I'm a single fulltime female rv-er. On the road over 3 yrs. From the time I got my drivers license at 16, I would drive for hours, get lost, find my way back.. I was the youngest of 7 and loved getting away from the chaos. I'm divorced 25yrs - was married 20. I have no desire to give up anymore years of my life to a male of my generation. Carrying ALL the child rearing tasks, all the cleaning & cooking, and scheduling my entire life around someone else. Many men of my generation are afraid to be alone. Lost their identity when they lost their work titles upon retiring. Had no plan for when their career ended. They want to stay home and not try new things OR SPEND MONEY BECAUSE IT MIGHT RUN OUT. I am debt free, spontaneous, enjoy a challenge- and so far am very healthy. Like Carolyn...never say never. Who knows what the future brings.
Girl preach on! I’ve been a lone for a while because I want to. Seeing friends in bad relationships makes me want to stay alone. If I have to be lonely than I”d rather be lonely alone. Lonely with company is the worst.
Never married and no kids (at 56) and yes, I planned it that way. Been tent camping and solo traveling all my adult life. So happy to see this video. Alone is not as bad as people think. Learning to enjoy yourself (without anyone else around) is epic to a quality life OUTDOORS.
I am 55 - I love being alone - I joke that I am "super single" - never married, no kids, no boyfriend.
58, super single. Not settling. If it's right, I'll know.
@@Tinkerplace me too! It's ok. No responsibilities!
This was a wonderful video. As someone who was married to the wrong person for 20 years only to have him leave me for someone “better,” I am happy to be alone now. I, too, am in the healing process. It took 20 years of emotional abuse culminating in a devastating divorce to make me realize, I don’t need to settle. It’s been three years and I’ve been in therapy much longer than that, but I’m finally happy with who I am. I admire you, Carolyn, for your courage to take back your life and to be able to talk about it publicly. Although some people might not get it, you are a role model for a lot of us.
Exactly how I feel and so well said Carolyn! I absolutely love my alone time and living alone. I'm 60 years old and have 2 grown adult children, divorced from my first abusive negative husband, widowed in my second marriage. I've dated some but have no desire to ever marry again. This is all my time now. I'm happy and that's what's important. I do not need a man to make me feel whole like Mom and Grandma did.
Such a wonderful video that mirrors my thoughts at this time in my life. I separated in 2007, divorced in 2008 and am by myself or with my kids since then. I chose at age 55 to stay by myself and I'm almost 70 now. I've had plenty of time to work on myself without other voices in my head. I'm so content in myself and capabilities. The neediness that prevailed in my life is gone. I've grown to love myself, forgive and show compassion to myself. I so enjoyed this video and thank you so much for being so open toward your audience. I'm presently traveling for the past 2 years in an RV with my oldest daughter and her wife. We're having a blast. I wish you a pleasant journey with many happy adventures.
Hi Carolyn, Stevi here, the 83 year old female in her van with her service dogs. I'm alone because the average man is just that....average. Crushingly BORING, stop learning as time goes on. I like learning over a lifetime. I don't meet men who are like that. It's been since 1992 since I met a highly educated male who was smart and interesting. I like being alone , been that way most of my life. It's just fine. Carry in girl☺️
Well said!
Wow 83!! I hear you… !
I meet men like that but they are more often than not heterosexual.
Funny! The average man is just that....Average. LOL. Yep. They're pretty simple and quite predictable and oh most are sooooo afraid to be alone.
@@Parkhurst12-79 do you avoid real thought with those two brain cells you have left. Go be an ass somewhere else....like the Kalahari desert....
Love all of Sadie's photobombing!.... Like I tell my son " What people say, is a reflection of them, not you" .... Thank you for voicing what so many of us feel.
I tried to make my marriage work for decades,but finally the daily drinking and anger was enough. The physical abuse is what finally sent me over the edge. I told my ex I would rather give up my farm and my animals and live in my truck. Am now happy being single with my dogs and cat in my airstream. No one is hurting me,judging me or leaving me at home while he goes out and fools around. I love it.64 healthy and living offgrid. I felt more alone when the ex was home than I do now. It took me nine years to heal and plan for leaving him,I was mostly bedridden during that time.
Truth be told, I've never given much thought to the "why" aspect of your solo nomad life. Although, you explained your situation and life choices from the very beginning of your channel, so perhaps that's why I don't question anything. I sit back and enjoy the videos, from RV repair to pure adventure, and let you be you. You are appreciated, Carolyn. Keep 'em coming😊 ...PeAcE
You're on fire lately. Your topics are very relevant. Keep it up! I've been alone for 5 years and I noticed that I like myself more when I'm single. Having a dog/cat is fulfilling, volunteering, and a few hobbies keeps life interesting. You should do a whole series on being alone.
I love, love, love being alone! I relate to and agree with almost everything you said! I, though, have decided, I do not want to be partnered. Been there, done that, kept trying 'cause that was what people did. Finally, I figured out, I do not want a partner, and that is perfectly fine.
It surprises me, “not sure why” that some guys are so threatened by an independent female. I’m still sorting out my own stuff when it comes to trust, but I’m more comfortable being my own best friend! Thanks Carolyn ☮️❤️
I don't care
Girl, you are killin' this whole Crone-hood thing. Way to go!
Right on Carolyn! I think as we get older and learn to love ourselves, we realize we are just fine being alone. At 59 I bought my class C one day and headed west to drive Route 66! I was traveling alone for five weeks. I was never afraid. I knew I was smart and was confident I could handle anything…and I did. It was the trip of a lifetime.
But I do have one fear. Only one. I’ve always said I’m not afraid to die. I am afraid to not get to LIVE before I die. Now I travel with my pets. Soon I will be traveling with three small dogs, three parrots and one old grumpy cat. My one fear is if I did die while traveling alone, what would happen to my animals? I only worry about what would happen to them. My sister always knows where I am and where I am headed. We talk every day at least once. So that is some consolation.
Good that you talk to your sister everyday but have a known plan and agreement with her or whoever you chose to take care of your pets in in the event something happens to you. At this point you're just guessing she'll be the one because you talk to her everyday when she may not have a clue what you need or want where your pets are concerned.
@@tinaperez9756 yes she’s on board and knows what to do. Still I worry. We are not young. If I outlive her there’s no one left 😔
@@maryhartsock7792 Could you make connections with other local animal lovers perhaps through local rescues? I've got a wonderful rescue cat and my plan is to adopt more rescue animals in future. I'd definitely adopt animals of people who had passed away and needed new homes. There are a lot of us out there.
@@katec9893 thank you for your suggestions. I do have plans for the animals set in writing. Sometimes I get stuck on the what if, what if, what if. But if you are afraid of everything…you’ll never do anything.
Yes, think of yourself first and be proud.
I have been alone for 17 years and the longer I’m alone the better I like it. I enjoy being with people and I have many friends but when it comes to going home I’m happy to be alone with my dog. Just don’t want anybody else in my space and I am set in my ways! 👍🏻
I too am sooooo set in my ways. I prefer it that way and love to be alone. Have been that way about 40 years.
After 20 years of aloneness, I agree with everything you are saying! I enjoy having spontaneous conversations with other travelers, store clerks, etc. and then love retreating to my space of aloneness in nature. Good job explaining this to the Masses!
Great video well said for single women who travel and camp alone.you always give great info for campers and inspire me.im 61 years old and started traveling 2.5 years ago.some boondocking areas are scary but I let my gut feeling guide me there.i do travel with my cats.i don't need a man either..been alone 14 years and love it...
Live and let live. You know what is best for you. Keep on keepin on!
Hi Carolyn. I'm a 29 year old girl/woman from Belgium. And I just have to say that I just LOOOOOVE your videos! Especially those about being a woman in this society and female empowerment. I thought that I was liberal/progressive about all those things, but I'm realising now that there is still so much more to learn and to improve on. I'm getting things ready to start traveling alone next Spring in Europe. And I'm looking forward to that! Thank you! :-)
I am still learning how to be alone for the first time in my adult life. I'm glad you are providing a strong image of self respect for those like me, who are just beginning to appreciate their selves, our own strengths. 💕👍
Boy can I relate to everything you’re saying. I’ve been alone since 1984 when my husband died. I love my own company and can truly say I get lonely about 10 minutes a year. Ive always believed that I was good enough. I don’t need the affirmation that comes from being tied to a man. I see a lot of married women around me who are just an appendage to their husbands. I could write a book.
The old saying about the ability to be "being alone together" reminds me of who we are as tube followers. Great info talk! Your sharing your life in all aspects so genuinely is a blessing to us.! Thank you!
I love this. I totally agree with you. I am so much happier not settling for what other people think I should do. I am healthier and have so much more joy in my life unapologetically choosing what I want to do.
I can't wait to go be alone in the forest and feel nature with me 24/7. I love this video!!!!
Omg I have been there !!!!!
I love that I feel the same way as you do!
One of the biggest flaws of way too many human beings is that they fail to realize not everyone would be comfortable living their lifestyle. Congrats to you, Carolyn, for living YOUR life.
I've been alone for 22 years now. I love it, and it's the hardest thing in the world to explain to people who aren't so inclined. I like to be around people sometimes, but mostly I'm happiest by myself.
In a more perfect world, women and men wouldn't have to explain their lifestyle choices. I know it would be difficult for me to be in a serious relationship after having to only worry about myself for so long. I've always said I was meant to be a long haul truckers wife. If I ever get a van together, I know it won't bother me to be alone.
Love you girls, happy trails.
Regardless of gender, there are probably more people afraid to be alone in this world than not.
I don't think most people understand how impowering and fulfilling being a "single" , capable, I-don't-give-a-shit, solitude craving , free person is. I think some folks are just born to live alone.
Seems to not be hard for most to understand a male being a solo...it's not even questioned.
We’re pack animals
No, we’re neuro-diverse mammals
@@SinMore That does not exclude being pack animals
Exactly, what I’m thinking and what I go by.
I am soon to be 59 and have never been married or had children which I struggled with for many years as I watched close friends marrying and starting families. I am an only child and I learned how to be my own friend. I still assumed I would find 'Mr. Right,' marry, and start a family. People have admitted that when first meeting me the thought came to mind, "what's wrong with her?" Once they got to know me they no longer had that thought. As much as it did suck at times knowing my life was not the 'norm' by not adhering to social expectations as a woman fulfilling 'my duty' I will say that I would rather have it this way than to have experienced unhealthy relationships.
I'm the same both parents gone no kids. It like you are guilty of a crime. It took me a while to not worry about what people think. I have every right to enjoy life.
I have lived alone for over 20 years. I like it... I can do what I want when I want etc... and not have to worry about anyone else. I enjoy talking to people etc... but living alone or being alone is okay too. So I understand... 🤷♀️
76 and totally on my own with my dog.....I am content to live the rest of my life FREE and in PEACE
Awesome!! Good for ou!
Love this video! Just started watching Anna uncharted. A delightful young lady who also enjoys being alone and doesn't want to date. So refreshing to see a young person enjoy herself and her surroundings.
I think you speak the words many of us share. I’ve been divorced for 11 plus years. It took me a year, or 3, to get back in my feet… now, I won’t settle either. I have found such a strength in myself over these years. I’m alone by choice. I’m so happy and free and living MY life genuinely, in my terms. 💗love to you!
Hi Carolyn. The world is designed for couples and I have been swimming against the tide since 1998. I am mostly happier on my own than attached to a man. I enjoy my freedom to do as I please. I really agree with what you say about how as older women we are viewed. All the best in your travels.
Carolyn you are never alone. God is always with you and loves you. He takes care of you and provides for you. We love you too.
You've said it all so I will only add, I love being alone because I win all the arguments. lol
When I am with someone, it is by choice, not by necessity. I would think that is a compliment. "Take my wife, please." Standard joke for married couples back in the day. You were stuck and hating your spouse was common. Thank the stars, we no longer have to stay in crappy relationships. I would rather be alone.
It’s nearly impossible to reflect and grow without having alone time. I cherish the times I have to “work” on myself. I loved your hiking analogy. You really do absorb & notice more when hiking alone. I can stop & listen to the sounds in the forest for a considerable amount of time when I am alone ❤️😊 and the same goes for life. You need time to stop, listen, & grow.
"You should" are trigger words for me...designed to make me feel guilty...or judged. We all have only one life to live...you do you! I'm thankful for your positivity and encouragement. I believe when the student is ready...the teacher will appear. Thanks everyone!
same here... totally hate being told what I "should" do! You're absolutely right about them being judgey words.
72, on my own for 20 yrs..In my van for 4 1/2 yrs.
I am being reminded, a lot of late, by my youngest, that I will have to, need to, consider life when I can't drive, that I can't do this forever. I live one day at a time. Right now, I don't want to think about when I can't live this independent life that I have come to love. I too am an introvert. Many cannot understand why I am living as I am. Why would I choose to live like this. Most days everything is good, others not so much , but I have lived on my own, renting, like my friends. I just felt like my life was quickly speeding to its end. And I knew that I needed to make a change. Not sit around, just waiting to die. Thank you Carolyn 💕
You sound just like me. Seriously, I think I’ve said everything you just said. The older I get, the more I love being alone, and if I’m with people, I prefer the time spent to have a meaningful connection.
I think it is so awesome that you do what you do alone. So inspiring and broad-minded. So respect you.
I admire you Carolyn. Your Brave!!!
thank you Eileen!
Your Welcome Carolyn. I love watching YOUR Video’s. I’ve always wanted to live like you do. ❤️
I’m alone since 4 years. Because my boyfriend passed away. In the first two years I feel alone, but now I feel not alone anymore. I’m happy with my self. Greetings Saskia
Because your smart👍🏻❤️🤩
You nailed it.
Amen sister! I love being alone! I was married for 24 years. My husband died 12 years ago. I am happier now, stronger, more independent than when I was younger. I completely agree with u on the compromise issue and settling just to be part of a couple is crazy! I can relate to everything you said!
As a woman over 50, I enjoy alone time. I don't have the need for companionship I did when I was younger.
I think this behavior often happens later in life.
I like the peace and quiet.
I was alone for 12 years and learned in that time how to handle myself and my world and when he came i was ready to share my life and now I have a best friend and love !
Learn to be independent before you give it up for a mutual dependency! So worth it!
Love ya Carolyn !
I love solitude and I don’t know what boredom is. My Grandmother’s response to “I’m bored” was “the bored are often boring”. We’d hit it off. I hope to meet you one day at a “meet and great.” Thanks for sharing good food for thought. 🌻
I became so much more accomplished and regained my self worth after divorcing , graduated from college at night as a single parent, and became and still am the person I’m very proud to be at 74 years old. I once had a guy I hired to do some work say to me at the end of the day, “Your a good looking women, why aren’t you married”. I looked at this generally unemployed guy, no homeownership future, who was really stumped about me….a women with a waterfront house, new car, good job and yes, very attractive when that seemed to matter. Anyway, I said “Well, so far I haven’t found anyone who is as interesting, as self confident as me in a non ego way, and is kind. You know ….someone my equal.” He just stared like he didn’t have a clue what I was talking about. Men just don’t get it. In Politics as well we see this blindness as it is their fear. “We need to control these women”. Men, relax. A good women is one who values herself and like you, doesn’t need anyone to control them. Just love and enjoy,please.
My first thought... Because you're smart! I'm 66 so was raised like you - that I was NOTHING without a man. Being alone took awhile but I've never been happier. I agree with you 100%!!!
YEEAAAHHHH!!! You are such a leader, adore you! Thank you for speaking on this. I also am a solo RVer and get these questions too.
You keep tracking on, gal. Envious with your life’s choices. Good job. ❣️
Everybody dies, but not everybody lives!
Yes! I love that saying.
Me also! Your just living your life on your terms.
Carolyn…….this was a great video. As a 72 yr.old man raised by a single mom I somehow have women’s rights and respect for women in my DNA. I’ve never found it odd that you enjoy being alone or that you’ve chosen this way of life. I have to admit I probably don’t have your courage but I certainly admire yours. I was married for 21 yrs, struggled in a career that I hated. My ex wife and I have two fantastic, successful daughters with four grandchildren and we get along great. I am not alone. I live with the girl I dated in high school in 1966-67. I looked her up when I was recovering from a heart attack and we’ve been together ever since. This is too much information I know. I’m just saying, your great, your happy and continue your happiness as long as you want to. I admire you a lot.
You’re not alone…you’re with your pupper, Sadie!
Thank you for sharing this! Yes yes yes! I have had to work so hard in therapy to feel valuable, even tho my life is very much status quo - married, two kids, two grandkids, nice home, enough resources to do fun things we enjoy in retirement, I still have so much trouble feeling worthy. We, as women, mostly have no idea how our culture here in the U.S. trains us to “need” all kinds of things that we don’t need at all, and to believe we have no value unless we follow the prescribed formula for life. You are a breath of fresh air!!
Fav video, important words, can totally relate, at the same place.
I used to have a greeting card with a whimsical drawing with the quote “ A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle”. Loved your vlog. One of the best (maybe one of the few benefits) of getting older is the realization that I’m enough, obviously not perfect, but I’m ok with that.
I'm glad this was mentioned. Being alone, is not loneliness. When I was married, I felt alone, as soon as I divorced, I felt like all my angels were around me all of the time. I feel so loved and I don't need anyone in my life to tell me so. Also, I stay away from man child because I'm looking for a real man, and I won't stop for anyone ever again!
Well said. You go girl.
well said, Carolyn! Your clear and honest articulation about topics like this really do help people (like me) who can relate but hear those internal and external voices saying “there’s something wrong with you” and wonder if they’re right. Not always but sometimes in weaker moments. Thanks for sharing, it really does help.
Carolyn, everything you said is so important for all people to consider. Our cultural conditioning is built layer upon layer over a lifetime, for women especially, but everyone in general. Many of us don’t even know who we are without all that junk. My goal (I’m a 49 yo woman) is to peel back all those layers…and it sounds like that is what you are experiencing, too. Being alone- and especially in nature- is something we should all be doing to reconnect with ourselves and question our place in the world. I often think human culture is the problem we are facing, on most levels. Thanks for the insight. Your videos go deeper than most❤️
I just saw something on my FB feed which made me think of this video. “People (on House Hunters) are always saying they need room to entertain and guest bedrooms so family can visit. I need a moat full of gators.” 🤣
This is common among women, too. My demand for accountability among my female 'friends' has been thrown in my face as the reason I am alone.
NOPE! While I enjoy the company of functional adults, I simply refuse to 'settle' for crappy company. This keeps me away from the drain of their gossiping and drama energy.
Yes indeed “ demand for accountability from female friends”… you nailed it, another reason why I have so few female acquaintances…. they talk crazy, whine and gossip about foolishness… and lord they scatter when you call it what IT is….
I refuse to sit around and ask another human being to do for me what I can do for myself…!
I would rather be alone and happy, than with someone who had no respect for me and made me unhappy. Divorced twice and I chose divorce with no regrets !
Ditto to all the comments here. My life became so much more emotionally simple, as well as just simpler in general, post husband. I’m currently on the road in my van, traveling to ‘see stuff’ and living my life for and with me. I’m 66, feeling blessed and so happy to have this time…..with me. 😊
Keep on doing what you are doing, you have to take care of yourself. When you are ready it will happen. Have a good day tomorrow. Love little Sadie she's so darn cute.
I love your spirit!
I too am an introvert by nature. I feel best when I have significant amounts of alone time. My parents were married for 47 years before my dad passed away and my mom said to me, she had been married all of her adult life since she was 16. She didn't know how to not be married. Yet, she struggled through it for 20 years before she passed away and honestly she never was truly happy after my dad was gone. So, I was raised with that mentality of "you need to have someone to be happy". My mom never understood my embrace of solitude. I'm like you, I'm not closed off to the idea of a life partner, but I have not yet met anyone who inspires me to want to compromise my personal space and enjoyment. I've been in good relationships of sorts, bad relationships and toxic relationships, and (hopefully) grown through them, and now I value myself, my peace of mind, my peace of spirit, and haven't yet met anyone that can complement that focus so I prefer to be alone. 😎.
I've given it a lot of thought over the years. I see many, many relationships built on "need", and only a small amount built on true respect and enjoyment of each other. I won't settle for less that the latter.
Sooooo well said!!
Honestly this is the most important video I’ve ever seen on TH-cam. Thank you for speaking my feelings out loud. At 57 I absolutely LOVE being alone. FREEDOM!
Thank you Carolyn! I am 61 and have been alone since 2011. Fast forward to today and I am proud to say that I am an independent, strong and determined woman that is fully embracing single life. My children are grown and I am now retired. I have converted a cargo van and started travelling solo and love it! So many people just don't understand that I truly am happy even though I don't have a partner. I am not opposed to, and am even open to meeting someone. I recognize that I am not, however, willing to lose myself, the growth, self respect and self love that I have come to realize in my journey of reacquainting myself with me :)
I'm 49 and the happiest I've ever been being single. I can't imagine having to check in with someone.
To the may sayers you are not alone you have 134000 people with you. And a big loveable dog
At my mature age with all ive been through, I am happy to FINALLLY know that if you love and value yourself, you are self reliant. That doesnt mean we cant enjoy others. It means we dont NEED others. And, if we truely love and value ourselves, we are never alone.
Well said. Thanks for watching!
I am 2 yrs. separated and going thru the "divorce", OF a 38 yr, Abusive Marriage.
I am SO PROUD of Finally Finding My Voice and Strength! I Definitely have not received positive support from MOST people.
THANK YOU!!! As always you are such an inspiration!🙋♀️🌲💯
Carolyn is seriously awesome irl ❤️
So are you!!!
I prefer to be alone. I have spent my life doing for everyone except myself! 🙃 I've worried about other people's feelings and well being my whole life. And finally I decided to take care of me for once and now I don't want to have to be responsible for someone else's feelings anymore..lol I'm not going to be here forever, and I've already wasted enough time and ended up with nothing out of that. So now I have my dogs and I'm happy an enjoy my life even if others don't think I should be..lol I have loved ones both friends and family that I feel blessed to have in my life,no more stressing people who can't be on my life level..lol You be you,we all love who you are! ❤ blessings and safe travels!
i am still cheering you and I've only gotten to 6:24 minutes so far. sooooo many of us have lived exactly what you stated. you go girl! we are all healing slowly too. thank you for your content. When we finally tell ourselves, "I am enough ..." is when we win.
In my opinion, you finally have confidence in yourself, as is! "Attracting more real people", comes form confidence within! Embrace it. I see that you are thriving, with confidence, in your life, right now! You do you, boo!
Carolyn, I absolutely LOVE this video. Everything you say rings true. Stay strong!
thank you so much Charlie!! I appreciate the comment and support!
In hindsight I'm very happy for the divorces I went through. Despite the unpleasant experience. I learned better for the negative experience and grew as a better individual. I've been happy with my "Carolyn like" partner ( Who's older than Carolyn) for the past seven years and we're mutually happy being together. To the people who will take offense to my comment. Oh well, mature, get wiser, and learn better 👍🏿 Or NOT. If you don't learn to genuinely love yourself, you'll NEVER understand.
I’ve watched quite a few of your videos, this one by far…is my favorite. I need to remind myself quite often, all of the points you made in this video. I admire your courage to be your true self. Thank you for this.
Carolyn, it's been seven years since you and I began our nomadic journey, and we're still enjoying our peaceful solitude. Happiness starts inside you, so stay happy little lady, and enjoy your journey. 👌🏾🤩👋🏾🥳🤙🏾😄 PS: You are not alone; our nomadic community loves you.