Being Non-Binary and Top Surgery w/ Whitney (@captain_whit)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ส.ค. 2024
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Whitney said body dysmorphia but meant to say body dysphoria.
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So happy I got to speak on this! I realized my tired brain made the mistake of saying Body Dysmorphia instead of Gender Dysphoria. There is a clear difference:
Body Dysmorphia is a disorder in which you see yourself as “fat or ugly”
Gender Dysphoria is the terrible feeling of your physical body not matching your gender.
I meant to say Gender Dysphoria in the video!
So proud of you 🧡🧡
Im so happy for you 🧡🧡
This transman of color appreciates you speaking to your journey. Even though I started my journey many years ago I have a ways to go and a lot to learn. It always does my heart good to hear others life stories. I thank you for sharing yours.
Thanks for correcting. Honestly, I really struggle to differentiate between the two within myself (as you kind of mention). Sometimes it's hard to know why exactly you feel negatively about your body and whether it has to do with gender
So awesome hearing this. We need more non binary representation n you made me feel so seen as a person with the same chest issue
"I like what I see, but it's not me."
Oh my, this hit me hard.
Thank you so much, both of you!
I hope you all had an amazing LGBTQ+ History Month🙌🏽🖤🌈✊🏽 Also, Happy Halloween!
Thank you so much for this Amber. Non-binary visibility in South Africa is rare and as a non-binary individual this was so informative for me because I always knew that my boobs had to go. I just didn't know how I would go about it. Thanks
Just want to say from a black transman. It was great to see you touch on the subject of trans and non binary and surgeries. Appreciate you brings to light the issues of issuance and having to be “diagnosed “. Very good interview and I personally appreciate it.
I’m 76 soon to be77 I started transitioning 3 yrs ago. I was in an animal behavior class in NMSU in las cruces at 46 when I first learned what makes where you are on the line of male or female. I had a hard painful out male all my life. I have already always been male. But now I can be me both the inside which is male. But transitioning has let me be that part that was female. Which caused me so much pain. I hated the female part. I could never understand the women part. I would have chosen top Sugery since birth. But by the time I came aware I was old and had a lot of joint replacements. So after my sister who has always hated me for my différence made it impossible to continue living with them. We all had a living space but when she found out I was transitioning she said not in this house your not. I left. And though I had a roof for 3 yrs it wasn’t mine. Not only did i leave but i will never talk to her again. NEVER! Transitioning was the very best thing i have ever done for myself. I was a calif city fire fighter. A wild land firefighter USFS firefighter. I went in the navy,went to photography school. 1963. Worked in a photo lab as top clearance.
Thank you for sharing your story! Best wishes to you on this new path.
Tuck, thank you for sharing your story. I am glad that you are able to come into your identity.
Much respect to you!
I love how thoughtful and self-reflective they are
I really enjoyed this video. The content was thoughtful, sincere and intelligent. As a straight Black Woman, I want to learn how to be supportive and non-judgmental about people who identify differently than I do. Whitney seems like such a sweet soul, and is so articulate with her story that I definitely think she will help MANY of us on this journey of loving ourselves and accepting people as they are, not how we expect (or want them to be. Thank you!
Just to help you out a bit in your journey in understanding folks who identify differently than you (good on you for that, btw) -- Whitney uses they/them pronouns. It's disrespectful to refer to them as she/her. It may seem like a minor thing, but it goes A LONG WAY in validating the experiences and identities you're trying to understand and be supportive of.
Much love. ♥
@@Lenny4254 Ok. Thank you! Still learning, lol.
I’m literally crying every thing they were taking about I can relate to 🥺 I can’t wait to get top surgery. Thank you for this video 🧡
Wow I relate to what they were saying about having a difficult time letting go have the "I am a proud black woman" as someone who is struggling with that rn in glad they spoke on it
Amber shout out to you and thank you for having Whitney on the show. As a NB lesbian I wish there was more information out there for other people to see who we are and what we represent. I know some can be confused about us. It was hard for me to figure out what my gender was because I didn't feel like I was "female" or "feminine" but I knew I wasn't a man either. I also want to get top surgery and can't wait! Thanks Whitney!
It’s very important to Surround yourself with people that Lift you up and not bring you down. I simply just walk away if anyone is mean to me. Cause i know i cant Change people.
I don’t think the psychologist thing is wrong. As a mental health professional, I know that the trans community still has high suicide rates even after the surgery. So having someone help you process who understands the mental health impact that surgery has, can save lives. And with people who are beginning to detransition, they would benefit so much from this. It’s not about proving your self. It’s about having a mental health guide. Also though it is hella complicated when it comes to diagnosis because they need to categorize as a system in general and because it greatly impacts mental health we have to be able to label and identify it to explore it. But we only have the DSM V to do this is and it’s purpose is to diagnose. If we don’t include it in there it would be considered an elective surgery. Which is never covered by insurance. But those systems for diagnosis have been extremely beneficial when it comes to validating the trans experience instead of considering get just a choice. I say all this to say it’s complicated.
I agree to an extent. The part I would change is that it’s not about whether therapy is or isn’t about proving yourself if people feel it is. Maybe the way it’s done needs to be changed then?
As a therapist myself, you explained it perfectly. People don’t seem to understand the complexity of managed care and mental health especially when it comes to the trans umbrella and surgery.
I work in this sector too, and I think there is a HUGE difference between gate keeping, and providing genuine care, support, and helpful pathways for people to feel empowered, informed, and making the best choices for themselves. What whit described is starting to be researched.. How many non binary and queer people have to fit themselves into boxes to get the heth care they need, in ways that arnt right, truely them, and can often cause more harm and confusion that if we had genuinely supportive systems. Big ups to therapists who genuinely have it together, but there is a lot of ticking boxes, gatekeeping, gaslighting, and in appropriate "therapy" that goes on in the name of some proving that they're trans enough, and that is unnecessary suffering for sure.
I think for some trans people it’s the difficulty of affording proper therapy. It can be very expensive. That’s something I’m dealing with right now. I’ve been through 2 therapists and I’ve used up my HSA for the year. It took me months to find a WPATH certified therapist near me and I have to pay $250 per session. Something I just can’t afford right now. So it sucks to have to get someone to verify that you need the surgery. But I also absolutely understand how important it is.
Planning my top chop right now! The comments about the muscle contraction info was clutch thank y’all!!
I related to this video a lot, i’m currently questioning my gender so i really appreciate you guys using your platform to talk about this stuff ♥️
Plz do not cut parts of your body🙏
@@user-zg7nf5yv1r You don’t have to understand it, just mind your own business 😊
“I like what I see but it’s not me.” That was me this last year. Congrats on your top surgery!
There's some drs who wont operate here in texas unless you are in the hands of a therapist for 6 months. Which makes since since there are some people who do have these surgeries and regret it but then it hurts us who know we need these surgeries. I'm 2 months on t and planning on getting top surgery next year. Thanks for sharing! Love it! 💙🤘
This was the most insightful video in understand the normality with not being comfortable in your own skin. I really took away the fact that Whitney was able to find their inner self that doesn't fell like a costume. I used to associate being non-binary as a form of androgyny, but even that still conforms to a type of gender. so thank you for helping me understand a different perspective to non-binary. This is the stuff people need to take the time to listen to, in and outside the community.
This was mindblowing to me. I've recently been thinking I'm nb and wanting top surgery, but then sometimes I'll put on a cute boob-forward top and think it looks good-but I'm queer and I never stopped to think I was seeing what I was attracted to, not what I am. This makes so much sense, thank you so much
Don't feel bad about not coming out till 26. I'm almost 31, and only now acknowledging and putting words to my own situation. Thank you both for being an inspiration to myself and many others.
I hear you girl. I have never had a relationship with my breasts.
@Antonija K it’s not about misogyny; it’s about being true to yourself and your gender identity.
@Antonija K Exactly. That’s why people have surgery. Your body is an integral part of you. People make their body fit to themselves because of that. “Nothing truer than that” is a bit extreme though because what about one’s faith, personality, and family. Those are all far truer than one’s body.
@Antonija K One, if yourself is your body I feel bad for you. Two, why do you think people have the surgeries? It’s because surgeries help relieve dysphoria. Three, fulfilling anorexia’s ideal can kill you, while relieving dysphoria can save you. For many, the surgeries are lifesavers and if they couldn’t have it, they might not have been around anymore. It helps make them happier, healthier, and right in themselves.
@Antonija K They do, but intolerant people like you make recent post ops just as likely. The more someone passes and the more support someone gets, the less likely they will to commit suicide.
“among trans people who had undergone gender-affirming surgery, the longer ago their surgery, the less likely they were to suffer anxiety, depression or suicidal behavior during the study period,” researchers reported in The American Journal of Psychiatry
@Antonija K I’m actually not a man. I’m a gender nonconforming woman who thinks people should have the option to be how they choose. I never have had surgery and don’t want to, but I know several people who it’s really helped. The reason why I choose Justin Time was because it’s like “just in time,” but it looks like a name. I made it when toilet paper was low so it just went in with the whole mood. My ideal world is one where everyone can exist without discrimination, including trans people.
I love that you talked about being AFAB and attracted to femininity, but not identifying with the femininity you see in the mirror ! It’s a layer to dysphoria that can really make you doubt yourself and your own feelings - “do I really need top-surgery, or am I just being ungrateful and selfish?”
“My self-confidence is the most attractive thing I could possibly have”
Thank you for this interview. I'm a masculine lesbian myself but I have a hard time understanding non binary people. I don't want to offend anyone but to me there seem to be a denial, a kind of shame if you will, that some lesbians have about being a woman. I personally don't feel like a ''woman'' inside at times and I don't feel feminine at all and yet my reality is that I am a woman, nothing I can do will change that and that's okay. I can still wear the clothes that I like and do the things that I want, that doesn't make me non binary. I don't like my breasts, my hips or my ass but I can't imagine having surgery on them. To me, non binary people just sound confused and like they're running away from their sex. Also, how come the majority of people who claim the non binary label are born female? clearly there's a lot more to unpack about this issue.
-AMAB nonbinary people exist they are just underrepresented
-Yes some women may not enjoy being a woman due to misogyny, but some afab people don't enjoy identifying as women because they just aren't women and think that there are more accurate and comfortable ways of describing their gender
-Them "escaping" misogyny by being trans/nonbinary is replaced by even more transphobia
-If you think that being a binary woman is accurate and comfortable label for you than that's great, but it isn't your reality because you were said to be a girl when you were born, it's because you personally think binary woman is accurate and comfortable label.
Would you tell a trans man that they're just confused and running away from misogyny by transitioning? No? Neither am I.
I agree. And Irony that when actual women speak up about choosing not to dis-associate from being a woman, the backlash response defaults to [trans]men...? Males & Females are shown statistically to transition for different reasons. Females are escaping sexual objectification of their bodies while Males are seeking to make their desirability more visible. Females are suffering under a debilitating patriarchy & ...looking for a way out.
It's like the inverse of the "I'm not like other girls" thing - except instead of thinking you're better than others it's this almost shameful, internal, imposter-like feeling. I hate the binary, I've never understood or related to it, the maths doesn't add up lol, and even when I feel like a sexy successful image of a woman it still feels like I'm an imposter. It's hard though cos I also hate myself so being an imposter feels safer than risking letting the thing I'm hiding out of the bag...
I really appreciate this video. It has put things into perspective for me. When Whitney spoke, I kept correlating it to my own life. I have felt the exact same way and not really understanding it. No doubt this has changed a lot for me.
same! ive only ever doubted top surgery cuz of complications and my own fear of surgery, but I know for a fact a perfectly flat chest is what i want and need.
Honestly this video was great, helped shed light to people including myself who are unknowledgeable on all the different beautiful people in this world. Glad i got to learn and understand. Thanks to you both!
Thank you so much for making space for an enby. I would love to see you talk to a trans lesbian about their experience in the community.
Amber, your podcasts have been very informative and supportive for me as I chose to affirm my lesbian self in my later life. I am a mature woman (with grandchildren) that chose to pursue my authentic self finally at 65 years of age. I am now 72 and sexually active with a kind and loving woman I might never have known how to appreciate had I not finally allowed myself to come out.
Over the course of time I searched the internet constantly for relevant and often practical understanding of this new community that I was entering into, and Amber's Closet met that need. Over the course of time I have developed a sense of knowing you, having seen you go through your own love relationship and the development of your online platform. I am continually impressed by your ability to find words to express authentic feelings and life dynamics that previously had no language. I laugh at the antics of CASE and I continue to grow more confident in myself as I hear you and your guests cut through the heteronormative BS that has kept so many of us from celebrating life.
Thank you so much for your courage as you take action with purposeful choices that lead the way for those of us that come after you. Age is not a factor when it comes to freedom.
This was amazing! So informative as I am still in my process and identifying how I feel good within my body.
Top secret clémence in WDC. And then came back to ca. Where I got into the building trades. I’ve lived in many states, New Mexico and finally moved to OR. Now I’m back in CA. I can no longer build houses but I was always gifted as an artist. And that will be my final hurrah. I now love myself for who I am! Thanks to all the women and men who had more courage than me cause they didn’t hide they stood up an said here I am. This is me get used to me! I AM TUCK CONTRERAS
Do you think it's possible to have body dysmorphia in regards to reproductive organs? I guess I'm still just trying to figure myself out, but the pressure of my gf and mom want me to have kids has been making me think about it more often lately. I've gotten so comfortable with identifying as whatever makes other people feel comfortable about me , but now I'm not comfortable with myself. 😕
It’s the “I’ve gotten so comfortable with identifying as whatever makes other people feel comfortable about me” for me. Soo relatable fam. Eventually I hope you find that you matter more than that **complacency you have become accustomed to. They’re comfort is to your detriment and you have to love yourself more fiercely. Sending love your way, I def feel where you are coming from, I’ve been there.
Love your interviews❤ Such interesting and nice people
This is exactly how I feel!!! Thank you so much for having them on! This was one of the best videos
I’ve never related to something in my whole life. This has helped me really accept my non-binary identity.
Feeeeelll thiiiissss!! 😍🙏 Thank you soooo much! Urg, so beautiful!! 😁 My heart is smiling so wide
Awesome video, thanks for making this. Listening to conversations like this is the best way to understand and learn and feel really happy to see differences among ppl.
Thank you for sharing this conversation. I found it very validating and insightful.
Thanks for sharing the story. It helps those that are feeling the same and for those that need a greater understanding. Thank you again!
Wouldn't they have to prove it to get it covered because if they didn't, then wouldn't it just be cosmetic surgery which most often is never covered. So I get it.
Wow thank you for this I’m starting my process now just came out to my family and I’m 35 and struggling with raising money too with insurance! Ugh this information helped a lot again thank you
Thanks for this!! 🤟🏿🙏🏿🤎
i want to cry watching this video lol :”) so happy for whitney
Found myself wanting to like this over and over🥰
Great conversation. I love their vibe.
I literally just sent one of my patients whom has never been diagnosed with gender dysphoria for a psych evaluation before I would start him on testosterone. I would be doing him a disservice if had not done that. Testosterone and top surgery are so permanent in terms of the anatomical changes that take place that I need for him to know he is 100% sure before he goes through with it. I have seen too many patients begin the process only to later realize they don’t have dysphoria and now want to de-transition.
Whitney is such a handsome very sweet and kind hearted person I think their story is so beautiful and strong and powerful. Congratulations on your surgery love ❤️ that’s amazing congratulations on living your truth we love you.
Amber, you are so amazing! Thank you so much for all the education you provide as it pertains to the queer community
Really needed this, thank you both for this ❤️
This was such a good video and so relatable. I identify as a pan/gray a and with she/her pronouns. But I remember as kid growing up and not wanting to eventually wear bras, and crying when I got my period. I developed an eating disorder in high school. I was so averse to any sexuality or expression of my gender that I spent most of my adolescence in baggy jeans and t-shirts, or overalls. When I was very underweight, I didn't really have breasts, I didn't have my period or any hormones really. I was in what I felt at the time to be in a "safe" zone. ss (if that makes any sense). I'm able to feel comfortable expressing myself in more typically 'femme" looks. I still would rather wear loose fitting, gender neutral clothing most of the time. I don't think I have the courage or certainty to have top surgery, But if I ever was larger than I am now I'd want them gone.
OH MY GOSHHH. I have an LGBTQ+ studies class in school(I’m a high school senior) and we’re reading Beyond The Gender Binary. Lol
is it a new class? I am 30 & it is awesome they are covering this topic in schools
I wish it was easier doing this in South Africa, I can't wait to do a top surgery 😢
This video is explaining my most inner thoughts thank you both
Great video. Thank you Whitney!!
This video is so amazing! Thanks for that Amber 💗
You guys rock. One love🌻💚🌻💚
Honest question, does this mean you could technically be trans without being ftm or mtf? I thought those were the only definitions. If your transitioning to a body your more comfortable, does that mean you could use the label of being trans, or am I going in the wrong direction? I'm more genderfluid, but I'm not ftm/mtf. But I want to better understand this question. Thank you
if you do not identify with your assigned gender at birth (a.i, being cis) then by definition you're trans. But some people dont use that label and that's ok
@@monomonito929 yeah I'm OK with association with my AGAB. I'm in a weird position on what to do with my chest. Some days I want it and others not so much. I also just wanted to ask the question cause I saw it somewhere online and I'm like???? Is that a thing or is this trolling? Also thanks for the reply
You helped me. Thank you.
Love the topics of real life most are still trying to survive other than express thy true self
I appreciate your voices.
I felt similar about being raised latina and identifying as nonbinary like I expierence life as a women of color I don't identify there but I honor that expierence to the upmost it is complicated being a poc and engaging in the self but I so appreciate this video
lov the content here. I have insurance but opted to pay out of pocket. I still had to see a therapist for a few sessions to get the referral letter required by the surgeon. If I had gone with insurance, it would not have covered all the cost and I would have been required to see a therapist for 12 mos before they would approve.
this was so amazing!
Like how BREVE you are ❤️❤️ and I cannot changing the shape of my nails 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Interesting interview. At the very beginning of the video (Amber) you say that people stating their pronom should be more the norm. While I absolutely agree that non binary and trans people should feel free to state their preferred pronoms, they represent what 1% of the population ? Probably less. I don't think 99% of the population should have to do it if they don't want to. If they do, then no problem of course, to each its own. While I respect Withney and their identity not everybody agree with gender identity ideology and its principles. So stating your own preferred pronoms ? Absolutely If you deem it necessary nothing wrong with that ! Asking the rest of the population to do the same if they find it unecessary ? I strongly disagree and I think it would probably backfire. Just my opinion on the subject.
Ps: As a black lesbian woman I'm always sad to see a former black lesbian sister stating they're not a woman anymore but if Whitney is happier this way then good for them.
pronouns aren't just for nonbinary people, everyone uses pronouns and you can't assume someone's gender just by looking at them. what pronouns do is make everyone feel more affirmed so you're not going around with your assumptions of what a man or woman "looks like" and invalidating people's identity. nobody's going to force you but they're super easy to use and don't hurt anyone. and p.s. they were never a woman
@@bettydereje9947 Actually yes humans can assume people's gender simply by looking at them for what 98,99 % of the population. Even babies can. I don't have a problem with people stating their preferred pronom just don't force me to do the same especially when I don't believe in gender identity ideology. As Withney never being a woman, absolutely just as much as Elliott Page isn't a woman.
@@bettydereje9947ps : I don't go around with assumptions of what a woman or man look like I just can see when I'm talking to a man or a woman.
Wow! You are brave and admired!
Love love LOVE your videos ♥️♥️
As a black trans non-binary person, this truly was the representation I needed!
Wow this is so helpful
Amber she/her and daddy 🥰
Hi amber i love your channal an ezzes i am a intersexed pansexual. I go by they or them. Sometimes i feel female sometimes i feel male an sometimes i feel both it was hard growing up telling my friends how i feel. I was called a freak. I felt alone but now i know im not alone :)
I feel this so much!!! I really identify with being a black woman because that is who I was raised to be. I just thought because I liked women I was gay.. It's hard because I don't want to let go of who I am as a woman either, but I want a flat chest, I want a beard, I want a masc body and voice but still be me.... I don't know why this is so hard/confusing!
Any recs for trans/non-binary therapists in LA?
Hi Amber, Do you know if Whit is going through hormone therapy? I was trying to look for people who have top surgery but are not doing hormone therapy.
Great conversation
Happy Halloween Amber
Yah for sure cutting is a hard décision to make. If I was a 20 yr old in a heartbeat. But I see a different universe on the cusp. A place where we can love each other and see a universe of different cultures and colors and love. I can now see different universities. I can say it hasn’t been easy. But if we can learn to love and except each other. To embrace the story of each culture and each person the ending will be so much more beautiful. Each of our struggles will be that much more beautiful. I’ve lived in Los angles for over a year. Less than 100 miles to a place I swore I would never live. And in this time I have learned more loved more. And become a much better human being. With so much more love and understanding in my heart. Excepted so much more derversity . So much more understanding of how cultural derversity is to be loved not discarded. Derversity is not about color of skin, it’s not about the way we look. It is about love and understanding, and forgiveness. About where we came from. It’s about how we grew from pain to adulthood. I have never loved life more. I have never seen more love. I am not a easier person. But I love more. I think and talk different. I am different. I love to talk about loving ones own culture. I can see more how hard it was to see the original mother. I love to think about her.
Well damn😃Zo Beautiful 😍 ❤ thank you for sharing❕❕🤓🤙🏽 Mad Respect👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💪🏽💪🏽
I'm nonbinary with large breast, here because I am finally curious about maybe getting top surgery.
I feel torn though.
Anyhow, I really loved this video.
9 minutes ago. Damn #earlysquad
buh amber though 👀👀
Ok, I'm confused. What is the definition/characteristics of a non-binary person? Please forgive me, I want to learn... When I was growing up there was only gay & lesbian.
In general, it's somebody who doesn't identify as a man nor as a woman. But it varies a lot though, there's no *one* way of being non-binary and it's sometimes used as an umbrella term that contains many other, more specific identities that are related to gender-non-conformity. It's best just to ask a non-binary person what it means to them. Also, enby (non-binary) people could use different pronouns, not just "they" necessarily, so it's good to ask that too.
@@daoaraya I don't think I would know if someone is non-binary. Thank you for taking time to answer my question
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Oh wow hard relate on the whole, knowing you want surgery but not much else front :O
This video was so informative, thank you Amber for constantly reporting and pushing LGBTQIA+ community topics. You doing amazing work.
I only ever need my breasts when I need to pass as a woman in public restrooms, and that's not for me but to make others feel comfortable. Other than that I don't like having them since I got them..
so beautiful
Both are cute
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I don't understand 🤔how do I put there/then into a sentence?
they/them?? they left their phone. i like their shirt. yeah that's my friend, I love them. super simple.
They are so fine my god
🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈😩!!
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So does she have the female organ V ?
This is new to me, just want to learn
I'm pretty sure they have just had top surgery not bottom surgery.
Wtf .... Channel !!!
Hey man not cool. This doesn't have something to do with you nor it is your business to post your negativity.
Galatians 6: 7-8 !!! ~ No Flamingos !!!
Bro wtf is your problem!
if they still have ovaries aren't they still physically a woman many women have mastectomies and I know those women don't identify as trans which makes me lost in translation as a retired surgical nurse I have had patients in the or who are what their internal organs dictate outside was not as relevant as the inside or what their minds think all in all I'm happy if they are happy
I think you are confusing gender with biological sex. When it comes to biological sex they are female but their gender is nonbinary. When a person's gender doesn't match their sex at birth it can cause discomfort and that discomfort can often be relieved by getting surgery
I've always thought it's interesting why some women don't choose reconstructive surgery after a cancer related mastectomy.
just doing the most smh
I support you guys, the community, the values. But cutting peaces of your body is just crazy. I understand that you feel musculine. But cutting breasts, cutting penises, and things of that nature - it seems to me so physically damaging. I do understand that you feel musculine and large breast is on your way but still cutting it will make you having instead of 2 large breasts 2 large scars....which to me look way more uglier. Plz understand that i am saying with respect and care for your physical health❤
it's good that you said it looks uglier to YOU.she isn't you and you aren't her so if that makes her feel better and beautiful about herself that's all that matters.Not everything is about you 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Please learn the meaning of *support* . Until you do, do not describe yourself as such.
@@achannelhandle do your research and you will see how many transgenders regreted their choice. The phsical pain was too much for them. If you're wishing this for your community that makes you a REAL SUPPORTER i guess🤔