All you can do is try! Hear my full story in episode 10!
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- This week we talked more about our journey w/ pregnancy and postpartum… and A LOT about breastfeeding lol. It can be a super confusing topic as a new mom so we wanted to share our experiences and perspectives :)
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That's the hardest lesson of pregnancy and childbirth. We cannot control most of it.
Yet, the men trying to be controlling all of it.
Your comment hit me so hard it made me cry. Our daughter was stillborn last summer. It’s a trauma and grief I wouldn’t wish on anyone.
I’m pregnant again (just barely 7 weeks), and I am really trying to remember that there is only so much I can control. You can do everything right, and things still don’t work out. Giving up control really is such a hard lesson.
@killasounds313 oh I am so sorry for your loss 😞 I can't imagine having a stillbirth. I had 3 miscarriages last year and those wrecked me. Praying for your pregnancy!
I am so sorry, I am chronically ill and try to remind myself I chose not to share my genetics but the heart wins some days cox@killasounds313
@@killasounds313you and your little miracle are in my prayers. ❤
Oh I can so relate. I wanted to nurse my daughter, but my body just would not produce milk. It took 3 long days of her crying, me crying trying to nurse and coming to the realization that my daughter was just very hungry. My pediatrician told me not to worry, formula feed but pump the little milk I had and hope that maybe it would help, but I was literally pumping maybe 3 ounces a day! So she got 1 3oz bottle of breast milk a day as a "snack" but was formula fed. I only did it for a couple weeks before I just gave it up. Sarah, you are so not alone. My daughter is just a little younger than you ladies are and the whole syringe with a tube wasn't even given as an option to me. Love you guys 💜
Milk doesn't even come in until the third day.. colostrum comes out first then milk..
@dianah.9718 it would have come in by 3 weeks though. Likely 3 days
@@dianah.9718I tried for 3 months changed my diet those stupid cookies I produced less then an oz a day. Sat around on the stupid pump for 1 hour multiple times a day trying to get my supply up. Sometimes it just doesn’t come in.
My doctors even wanted to try a heart medication and a diabetic medication to try and get my supply up but that sounded sketchy when I had neither of those problems 😅
Yeah I wanted to at least pump and bottle feed but I couldn’t produce enough milk the most I made at once was 1 oz. And my baby wasn’t gaining enough weight and she had jaundice so I switched to formula to make sure she was actually getting enough food and so we wouldn’t have to go to the hospital for jaundice.
@dianah.9718 yeah but that's still breastfeeding. Some women may not even produce that
Thank you for being so open about this! So many women struggle with breastfeeding, it was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through physically and mentally. Eventually I was able to, but wow was it so hard. In the moment I felt so alone because none of the women in my family had experienced issues with breastfeeding. Your openness will help other women listening feel less alone 💗
This is my fav episode yet. It is so hard to be a mom especially a new mom. Breast feeding is soooo hard and people judge so much about it. Your a great mom.
🙌🏼 my child’s father nonchalantly offered that maybe I wasn’t cut out for motherhood since I couldn’t breastfeed her the first night home. I did end up feeding her. It took my body time to adjust; however, she popped a tooth out within the first month, so that did not last and organic (she had allergies to the basic stuff) formula was fine. Do not let hateful, ignorant ppl casually shame you for being the best you can at that time.
Is she really such a great mom??? She has been exploiting and exposing both her kids since they were infants.
A good mom grants her kids privacy and protection from social media, until they are old enough to decide for themselves
@@Dragon-wl5ic I feel sorry for ignorant people. People that are brave behind a keyboard. I imagine your the best mom ever. Hahhhaa
@@crivera4374 yes, in fact I am . I would never expose/exploit my children for my own benefit on social media. If you think that this is actually ok to do, then I'd say that speaks volumes about you!!
I breastfed my daughter for as long as I could and we have an incredible bond and are very close, then had my son 15 months later and when I couldn’t lactate for him and he wouldn’t latch, I was devastated thinking I wouldn’t have that same connection or bond with him. I was very stressed but learned that fed is best and my son and I are incredibly close and happy at best!
Just connecting and spending quality time with your children tend to make an amazing connection with them.
At best?
Exactly a fed baby is a happy baby and it doesn't affect your bond.
Sooo relatable. I’m a nurse big advocate for my patient. Telling them if you cannot breastfeed, it doesn’t make you less of a mom. Telling them that whatever happen your baby’s gonna be happy as long as you are happy and healthy. But when it came to me and I couldn’t, I was destroyed. Society have such high expectations for mom, when you don’t fit in those really narrow expectations you don’t feel up to the task. That make me sad.
7 years into parenthood and breastfeeding with the SNS is still one of the hardest things I’ve ever done
I feel this so hard, Sarah. Being told that breastfeeding is best and natural and all that….you just think if you want to, it will work. Then when mine didn’t, I felt like such a failure. It was torture.
I had such serious complications from my first babies birth I was unable to breast feed her. It broke my heart. But I had to be flat on my back for 3 months straight after her birth bc I had swelling on my brain and was leaking spinal fluid (among many other things wrong) and it was by far the worst possible pain I’ve ever lived through to this day. I was literally pulling my own hair out to distract from the constant pressure and pain in my skull. Omg it was hell, I’d go through my 26 hours of full blown labor again and again before I’d ever do the swelling on my brain again. I genuinely thought I’d die. And none of the procedures they did to try and alleviate the pain medically with blood patches etc didn’t work. Eventually I was just sent home w/ my baby. I was 20 and a single mom. I had absolutely zero help. And strict orders to lay flat at all times. 🤦🏻♀️🙄 with a newborn. I was also recovering from an emergency c-section and my anesthesiologist screwed up my second block bc it was rushed for my emergency C-section and he permanently damaged my spine. So it’s 18 years later and I still have pain daily from it. I’d crawl w/ my head tucked to my chest, from my bed to the kitchen to make/clean bottles or to change diapers for like 2.5 months. I couldn’t stand up or if faint from the pain. I was alone w/ a baby I could not risk it. It was insane looking back now. We women sacrifice so much to bring life into this world. We deserve so much more grace. Less judgement!!!!
U r one strong mama😟😢I can't imagine being alone in this journey😓I hope u and your baby are doing good
Breastfeeding or not, you're still an incredible caring mom❤
This hits home for so many of us mamas out here. Thank you for sharing ❤
Thank you SO MUCH for taking about this. I tried so hard with both my babies but could never produce enough. It is so hard hearing some women talk about this abundance they have and then some and I couldn’t get through a feeding much less make a stash. I hate that you dealt with it too but km glad someone else may see this and it will lighten their burden too
She looks like an Irish goddess in this! 💚
We went through that to, the pain and the trauma of this experience will never go away... I never imagined that breastfeeding could be to complicited. No one talks about it, everybody act like it's the most easy and natural thing in the world, exept it's not for every women or baby.
Even years later, I feel like a complete failure thinking about it.
This needs to be spoken about more. I had nurses in the hospital turn nasty after 3 weeks of trying, to no avail. Breastfeeding is not something that comes natural to everyone and it needs to be normalised. I feel your pain, even 20 years after I experienced it myself ❤
Happened to me too. This issue isnt spoken about enough because when your body doesnt cooperate you feel so guilty. Like youre failing as a mom, and that just isnt true.
Your not alone!!!! OMG I feel this with every bit of my soul!!! I tried and tried and tried but I had absolutely no milk literally not even one drop. I cried for weeks. I was so mad at myself and my heart was broken. I blamed myself and my body. I thought I was broken because I couldn't' provide for my baby in that way. Even now 3 years later I know it was my fault and there wasn't anything I could do I still get sad that I couldn't😢😢 😢
I tried and tried myself and could only get maybe a teaspoon of milk out per day of pumping all day long. The guilt I felt and sadness, omg I will never forget. I never expected to have issues as I got pregnant without trying and had a healthy, full term baby. I figured my body would “work” for everything. Unfortunately it did not. Despite my baby being formula fed, she’s healthy and thriving and we have a great bond. So to any moms going through this, it’s okay and will be okay. You are doing the best you can ❤
Thank you for sharing...I needed to hear this❤
@@Chai92 ❤️
Y'all are both super Moms!❤❤
This story is almost exactly like mine. My son is 6 years old and I still get emotional thinking about the struggle. Thank you for talking about your experience. It is extremely validating.
Happened to me with my 2nd baby and it is so stressful and so emotional. After days and days of trying to nurse, I finally spoke to my doctor, and he said “ just like nursing is not for every mom, it’s not for every baby and thankfully, we have formula, it’s OK to give him a bottle.” I also had a two-year-old at this time, who had nursed just fine, so that was added stress. When I finally gave up and bottle fed him, we were all much happier. You just gotta do what’s best for you and your baby at the time. ❤️❤️
Interesting Sidenote, my boys are now 26 and 28 and the one who wouldn’t nurse has zero allergies or food aversions, while my older one who was nursed, has asthma, all the allergies and a very sensitive stomach. It makes zero sense! 🤷🏼♀️
Ugh, this brings me back to those dark days, I remembered hating myself and my body and just feeling so helpless, so many people including family tried to shame me for having to bottle feed my son, even people we didn’t know would comment like “you’re not breastfeeding?” Like are you effing kidding me?! My journey to having my baby is one that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy, I wish people wouldn’t be so quick to judge without knowing the full story and making new moms feel bad for it, we are amazing, look at the the beautiful little people we created ❤
I have so much respect for youI had my first at 16 and also had to do the syringe the amount of heartbreak and pain I felt knowing I couldn’t nurse my baby broke me. I wish that new mom 2 years ago could’ve had this and just known it wasn’t just me and I wasn’t a failure thank you for being so honest and open from all the mommies who had hard times ❤❤❤
I have never felt so seen 😢😭 I tried with all 3 of my kids SO hard, even did what you did with the tube on the nipple, took a medication you can only get out of this country to help with lactation, and nothing worked. I was SO disappointed and so hard on myself. To hear somebody else went through this struggle and seeing these comments I feel so understood and seen. Thank you so much for sharing ❤
❤ I relate to this so much. 😢 still cry about it sometimes 3 years later. Your not alone and you did your best mama
You gave him life and are giving that baby love, don’t focus so much on what you weren’t able to give him because you physically couldn’t, you’re so strong and are doing amazing!💕
We are not alone, I went through the same thing!! With my now 7y/o I remember crying and my husband holding the tiny syringe with formula in it on my breast slowly pushing it in for her to not get used to a bottle. I wanted to be able to breast feed her so bad. The shame I felt at that time was unbelievable, like I was a terrible mom unable to feed my baby. Looking back, I wish I realized sooner as long as my baby was fed and healthy that was the only thing that mattered. But in the moment it is so stressful. I feel your pain momma you’re a wonderful mom!
You gave him life!!! That is the absolute best gift!! ❤
This possibility is not talked about enough, and I feel like that adds to the distress/feelings of failure for new moms. It CAN happen that your body doesn't "do what it's supposed to do" -- for me, it was my body not kicking in to labor on its own. I went as far past my due dates as I could safely, but had to be induced with each of my four babies. I hated my body for not doing what everyone else's bodies did naturally... until I understood that I still brought my babies into the world, there was no real failure on my body's part. I still struggle sometimes, but remind myself that my children are healthy and happy and I get to be a primary source for their well-being. ❤
I never comment on videos- but thank you so much for sharing. This was my story too with my daughter and going through that was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done!
Fed is best and all baby needs...so you were the best Mom for making sure he was fed❤
There’s nothing easy about motherhood other than the love you have for your baby!❤
It’s really rough when you either realize you can’t or realize it’s so bad for you that it’s not good for your baby either. There’s so much shame that comes upon mothers when this happens. I was incredibly fortunate having the support I did when coming to this conclusion, I feel terrible for mothers that don’t have this. I feel like it was much easier for us 25 years ago.
I had a similar experience with my first. It was 2010 and still makes me tear up. I tried for 2 mos. She lost so much weight that we had to go to the pediatrician every other day to do weight checks and eventually I got a terrible mastitis which was painful and it affected the little milk supply I had at that point....... my girls are 14 and 12 now and they are happy and healthy and HOW they ate as infants has zero impact to their lives. You are doing amazing, Mama ❤
This is exactly what I went through! You are not alone!!! It's a heartbreaking thing!
Same with both of my babies but the lactation nurse made me feel bad about it, I was talked into trying to feed my second baby after the experience from hell with my daughter. I was able to give them the first colostrum so I was glad for that, I was so jealous because my sister very successfully breast fed two of her 3 babies, so the fact that I got a mastitis in my one breast and I still had to feed when it hurts so bad and my nipples were raw and bleeding with both babies my friend had no problem she would flow milk when she heard any baby cry and I would not produce any!
I'm glad you gave it up. That's probably one of the hardest decisions you've made as a mom but it had to be so much better for your mental health in the long run!
This hits SO close to home… thank you for opening up my, it makes me feel so much less alone… I did this with all of four my babies, it’s called supplemental nursing system (SNS) and it’s so hard to do and learning that I couldn’t do the one thing my body was suppose to do (feed my babies) still makes me cry.
Thank you for this. My breastfeeding experience was so stressful too and it’s not widely discussed. Breastfeeding is one of the most difficult things to do as women and we need to support each other’s journeys, especially those that are close to losing hope on it altogether!!! ❤
I had the same situation as you, for the same reasons. It was a tough pill to swallow. However, years later, I look at my 4 kids now, seeing they are healthy and happy, and it doesn’t haunt me one bit. I’m grateful I had the option of formula for them. I’m sure you’ll find healing in time, if you haven’t already. ❤️
My first baby could not latch due to really bad lip and tongue tie 😢 I feel your pain so much Sarah! After trying everything to get her to latch, I ended up exclusively pumping and hated it so much but was so proud of myself and learned so much about myself through the whole journey. I totally get the feelings of anxiety and disappointment and the loss of breastfeeding ❤
So relatable 🥺 just went through this with my 6 week old. I was devastated when the doc said we need to supplement with formula every feed. She just wasn’t gaining weight. I know leading up to this, I’d always read “fed is best,” and I genuinely TRIED to convince myself of that. But when it happened to me, I felt so defeated and like a complete failure as a mom. To add salt to the wounds, she won’t even take my pumped milk from a bottle. So she’s formula fed 95% now. I’m still lactating slightly, so I’ll feed her for comfort from time to time. Just know you’re not alone. I 1000% understand the heartbreak involved with this. 💕
I am in it right now with my 6 day old. I am so sorry. Your tender heart gets me weepy too.
I remember with our son, our first born, how devastating it was that I couldn't breast feed. He was 2 months premature and my body had just been through too much and he wasn't strong enough to feed that way. It amazing to hear someone else who went through the same. I felt like a failure it multiple ways. But the most important thing was that he got the nutrition he needed and grew to be a healthy young man.
My daughter too 3 month premature...couldn't breastfeed nor produce enough milk...so guilty...my daughter is now 9 months old...I hope what I read about formula feeds bottle feeds aren't true...thank you for sharing your story...it gives me hope that things will be fine with my daughter too
You gave him life!! That’s the ultimate gift.❤ sending hugs from Ohio.
You gave him life, thats the one thing you could give him. You are an excellent mom.
Sarah you are so beautiful inside and out! I was breastfeeding my daughter until 16 months but it was a difficult road with lots of tears and me wanting to give up because I really had not enough milk. But she never accepted the bottle, lost weight 😩 I would have been so happy if I had the opportunity to just give her formula, but yeah after she got more solid food it was a tiny bit better. But now I am feeling sooo incredibly free without breastfeeding. 😂
We all are trying our best. It is so real and authentic to see you talking about this topic.
Proud of you for getting thought that, birth and postpartum trauma are so very real. We want what's best for our babies.
Personally I think with the traumatic nature of your birth you're body may have been traumatized and ultimately your body didn't fail you it did what it needed to do to recover. Amazing to hear your partner was there to help support you in that ❤
As a mama who breastfed and is currently breastfeeding her second child you didn't give up. You tried your hardest you tried everything you possibly could and if it wasn't working and it was stressing you out then what was best for you was to stop. So that way you could focus your heart and soul on your child instead of stressing over something that isn't working for you guys and he's healthy and he's safe and he's loved and that's all that matters in the end
My 1st son was so hungry. He would cry and cry... so the nurses would tape a little hose with formula. They have those little specialized formula tubes for it.. my little baby slept finally full. It felt better knowing that it was better for him
I am so sorry that you went through that. It is so hard. Just know that you are an AMAZING mom and wife... Jack is healthy, and happy. That is what matters
Sarah you are one half of most beautiful women--the other half ofcourse is your co-host best friend and sister Lo--andcyour feelings are do validated as a mom just wanting the best for your beautiful baby boy Jack ❤️❤️
She is such a good mother prayers Sarah 🙏🏻
Breast feeding is the hardest and most emotional thing ever
I feel I'm reliving this. Your so not alone. Same thing happened to me. It was heartbreaking but knew I had tried everything. ❤️
I remember this with both my pregnancies. I tried so hard and even with pumping and the pain I was physically in trying to do so it was a realization of my body isn’t doing it and I just wanted my baby fed as much as I tried and felt I failed. My girls are teen/preteens and we have just as close as bond as if they were breast fed. You did your best and that’s what matters but with pregnancy and postpartum we are so not in control. ❤
My daughters are 28 & 25. I wanted nothing more than to have a healthy nursing relationship with them when they were born. The biggest disservice given to moms Moms around the time I was having kids was that if you wanted to nurse you just “did it”. I was in for a rude awakening with my first. Due to allergies and other problems we only made it 4 very painful months before we just switched to formula. They weren’t gonna trick me again though. I went into my second pregnancy a lot more prepared and we nursed until she weaned herself at 10 months. My heart goes out to those Mamas that want so badly to nurse, and their bodies just won’t cooperate. Big hugs 🤗.
"The one thing I could give him" like you didn't give him life. 😭
Bf is so hard, and for me more difficult than being pregnant. You're doing amazing momma. 💖
It's okay Sarah! The pressure that's placed on new mothers to breastfeed is pretty bad! I tried breastfeeding my daughter. I thought it was going well, but she was two months old when I discovered my milk had no nutrients. So, my boys, I was checked and still couldn't. I was in tears with all three babies. The pressure is real. Hugs for you both! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Omg. This is the first time I've heard of this. How is it possible? Do you hv more details
I went through the exact thing with my first child. I am proud of you lasting as long as you did. Day 3 we gave up. The pressure to breastfeed is REAL! Our pediatrician made me feel so much better. She explained as long as I was pumping giving him the colostrum that was all he needed. I pumped and supplemented formula for 3 months till we went all formula. As mothers it’s hard when you feel like you’re failing your child, we got to give ourselves grace. Being a mom is hard!!!
Thank you for talking about this!
You are still an incredible mom❤
As long as a mother’s infant is well fed, that is all that matters! 💗 It doesn’t matter if they are breast fed or bottle fed, drink formula or breast milk… at the end of the day, as long as baby is well taken care of, the minute details don’t matter. Kudos to all of the Mamas out there! 💞 You are all incredible women and have my admiration and respect.
My husband syringe-fed our first daughter too. I hemorrhaged after the C-section and had to have a blood transfusion. I wasn’t producing enough milk yet.
I am so blessed that he was so excited to become a daddy he actually took over feeding for the 4 days we were at the hospital! ❤
Not being able to feed your child is the most stressful thing ever
Yeah same thing happened to me. I felt really guilty about it for awhile. We do the best we can for our babies ❤
Girl I totally empathize and sympathize. It took time for my milk to come and when it did, the flood gates opened and I became an over producer. The longest I ever went was 4 months because it affected my mental health. Luckily I was able to give my two youngest kids enough breastmilk to last them until they turned 6-7 months. Sometimes, you’re either damned if you do or damned if you don’t. What makes you a good mom is that you care and you put effort in your relationship with your child.❤️
The girl crying is so beautiful. The other is beautiful also.❤
I gave birth a month ago, and my milk took it’s time to kick in, while I had no milk I gave my baby formula and now that there is milk he won’t nurse from me because it’s too slow for him !! I pumped for a while but my nipples got sore and scarred so I just had to accept his want for the formula and occasionally nursing him to soothe him when he’s fussy 😫 we always put pressure on ourselves as moms to provide everything for our little ones, but we have to remind ourselves that we are only human and we can’t control everything (especially in pregnancy, delivery and the NB stage of a baby’s life)
I went through something very similar with my oldest. It killed me not to be able to... hurt my heart. I feel her pain
This was the hardest part of having a child. There is no way that you can prepare for something like this. I think the exact situation you are a better person at the end of the rainbow.❤❤❤
I had to do this for mine too. I had no help and it is very stressful. I’m so sorry it was like this for you. But jack turned out beautifully and you’re such a good mama❤️
Oh my goodness! I'm with u, Sarah! I had a hard time as well. I had lactated, but my son didn't take it from me, so I had to pump, it hurt so much 😢
Crying with you 😭
Women don’t talk about this enough. I had a similar experience and felt so sad and alone and didn’t realize how common this is! Thank you for sharing so publicly and helping others to not feel alone.
I had to do that too and it was so anxiety producing and effected my mental health so much.
Same! Even had to do drip feeds. (Hold formula high and it drops into tubes and then slow push formula using that skinny pointy syringe. Did I mention I had a 18month old too. Needless to say. Baby #2 was formula fed from day 5!
The more stressful is the situation when people around you pressure also give boob but a mother also know breast milk is the best n she is trying hard..
Especially in a joint family when people around pressuring you to do best n mother is already trying her best....
Be easy on yourself mamas. We do enough. I love you ❤
We did this with my first. It is way overwhelming as a first time parent especially. Fortunately I was able to nurse, my body just took a little longer to adjust. You definitely learn to let go of what you can't control and become ok with it
This is my story! It was so hard to let breastfeeding go. Even harder to let myself be okay with it.
Breastfeeding, bottle feeding…as long as your kid is fed, that’s all that matters. Stop being so hard on yourself. You don’t deserve to feel shitty. Parenthood is BRUTAL, so, maybe realize that you’re doing AWESOME and we are SO PROUD of you!!! ❤️❤️❤️ No offense, but, you’re both EXCELLENT moms. So, maybe know that and stop beating yourself up. ❤️❤️❤️
I know exactly how you feel I had to do the same thing with my last one. I would cry a lot
Same. My last born of 4 got 'the most', just 4 weeks of breastfeeding.
It's really hard..but I'd wondered if it's why sisters/soul sisters have Babe's at same time.. in the Old days, our sister would help us keep our Babe's alive.😢
Aww sweetheart i feel for you. Its something youre not told that breadtfeeding is so hard and its painful to add to the pain ypure already in. I could only do it for a few mo ths and i was miserable, my son was miserable and when i ha e him formula he was happy and i was happy and thats all that matters. A fed baby is a happy baby whether its formula or not and these militant breatfeeding mothers drive me nuts for making women feel this way. Sending love from Scotland ❤
I know your pain. I couldn't nurse any of my five babies. It was heartbreaking. The lactation nurse said to just not feed the baby when they wouldn't latch on. I just couldn't do that... and I used the pump, and that was frustrating also. ❤❤❤❤❤
It is so heartbreaking when you realize you have to come to this point as a mom. And I’m at this point again with my second newborn even though I’m making so much much more to offer this time. Especially when you never think of breast feeding as being such a struggle.
I had to do this with my son as well!! I was induced a week early. My milk hadn’t come in, I was pumping like crazy to try and get it flowing. Eventually they brought us some donor milk and the tiny syringes with tubes attached. We fed our son this way for around 2 days until I finally started producing milk. Nothing wrong with it, I’m so grateful some mommas were able to donate milk for us to use during that time ❤
If you tried, you breastfed! Period. ❤
If you tried to fly and fell on your face then you flew! Period.❤
So sorry that happened Sarah! Every baby is so different and breastfeeding can be so hard at first. I had almost four years of breastfeeding under my belt when I had my third baby and we struggled and barely made it to six months.
YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! ❤
I'm a mom of three and i had a similar situation with my breastfeeding journey. It was so painful when I realized I wasn't going to be able to feed my first daughter. With my second and third I decided it wasn't worth the stress and I'm so glad we have many formulas to use that are healthy alternatives.
This is called SNS (supplemental nursing system) support feeding and it is a great way to get through difficulties, even though it is challenging. I am a lac ed. & did this with my second born for a month. So grateful for this system but it takes a huge amount of commitment thank you for sharing ❤
dont feel bad honey. ❤😢
my mama couldn't for us 4 either,im her first.
it never made me love her less or our bond to be different. so many mamas worry about that.
It is so hard, my boys where in the nicu for almost 2 weeks and I didn’t get to see them for the first 24hrs. It killed me that i couldn’t make enough for both and it too a big toll on me. You did what was best for him. That is all that matters ❤️
No one talks about how hard breastfeeding truly is. It is honestly the most brutal. I thought I had prepared myself, wasn’t enough.
I can relate mama. 2 babies and I couldn’t with either but I refused to let anyone make me feel bad because they will!! Formula is expensive!!
My last baby, I sat and cried IN the dr office when the lactation specialist told me I wasn’t producing enough and she needed to switch to formula. My first two were formula, I finally had the confidence to do this and couldn’t and it broke me a little in that stressful time.
I had this exact same situation. It’s so so so hard. ❤️
Bless you, Sarah, it is hard when your body won't cooperate. ❤
I feel so bad for mothers that want to breastfeed but just can’t! I NEVER ever wanted to breastfeed because I’m so extremely tender already so I had the shot to dry up my milk and don’t regret it at all! I had and still have an amazing bond with both of my sons and I don’t feel like any of the 3 of us missed out on that ! I do realize how important it is for some moms to be able to do that for their babies and themselves but it makes me sad to see the ones that can’t! Don’t be so hard on yourself honey! You’re an amazing mom and can tell how much Jack and Sunny adore you and daddy