This vid definitely hit home fr. It’s time for the world to change a lot of problems that needs fixing fr but only we as a society need to realize the harm of it all in order to find a solution. Thank U for this bro, God bless
damnn. I've been really low recently, watching people argue about gender and shi but watching your video has given me some sense of relief as to how there are some logical people out there on social media. nice video keep it up
i love this. im a 22yr old girl, and i crave conversations like these. down to earth, etc. i don't feel a social connection with a lot of people now, because theyre SO connected to influence feed. and dont get me wrong, i go on plenty of youtube rabbit holes, catch myself scrolling for too long, and i hop on twitter to follow a few artists. but...that's it, i don't post, and i don't take .. well every strangers passing thought into account. i love hearing other people's thoughts, perspectives from ppl not like me, but i wouldn't be seeking that on such a high density level, from that kind of app? but everyones so comfortable with being told what they "need", what is "better", what is "right". Beauty, success. I have an insane amount of pressure to be a certain box of "successful" in my family, and i have always said, i want to be satisfied! humbly making ends meet, keeping in touch with friends.. how is that not success, people! im a bit of a tomboy... from my many older brothers (close in ages). the roles conversation is so accurate to my experience. my pov of the world is warped, because nobody raised me, but i was around my brothers being raised, so i indirectly inherited a lot of core fundamentals ive only started to recognize in the last few years- provider, being strong, performance confidence, being in control, always being capable. i know girls can have those traits as well, but i can't explain it, it's like a lock. these things aren't OPTIONS, in order to be ..."right?" i guess? a success, a PERSON, i musttt be capable even when i'm incapable. im aware when im emotional. it feels safer because girls are allowed to be, but i don't want to lessen my voice or reputation for it, so i avoid it for later privacy. in my subconscious, vulnerability completely changes my reputation or respect. how silly is it to think that guys don't have feelings, or complex feelings, when they're just as much flesh and blood human? all because... they're.. supposed to? for what purpose? what suppressing torture.. and then gaslighting yourself later.. gender roles cause so much tension, the ROLES, the social expectations. you don't need to change who you are to have/accept your trait that isnt "in the box". conversely, y'dont have to get into an entirely diff box, worldviews, to have JUST that "unique" trait fit in. you can be all of you, as is. you're just not in this black and white simple version. nothing is! and yknow, i think that's beautiful! the most human experience!! we're complicated creatures, it's ridiculous to have so many boxes and titles that LIMIT us. words should just describe, not box-define. wave in the mirror, THAT'S you, not what we write down :> wanna say i appreciate you for timestamping, too! im def going to return to some sections over time. i need more critical thought convos :>
Thank you for watching. I really appreciate it. Everything you said was so beautiful. And it’s all good. Take your time. The video will always be here.
God bless you sir, I think that the media has deluded so many into thinking that there’s a strict way we have to live and a certain path we need to be on to get anywhere in life. It makes me happy to see people talk more about this sorta stuff and now have the brains to figure out the damage it’s causing people. All the standards we reenforce only worsen mental health and the system can’t catch up. Coming to Christ was the best decision I’ve ever made and I couldn’t be more satisfied and content with my life and how everything is going now. I pray you do the same, if you haven’t already. Much love and blessings to you! 💕
i have a unique experience navigating the whole gender norm hell scape. god gave me extra hard settings cause i dont fit into the black or white, yes or no, binary of man and woman. or atleast the flawed script of man and woman in america atleast. im someone who has been mistaken as a girl all my life till this day even after puberty my voice is still high pitched i was born w a mix of masc and fem qualities. conflictingly i have a dad from the hood from an environment where being hard and upkeeping ur masculinity was necessary to ur survival. being born and socialized as a black man while naturally being more fem and flamboyant by nature was like swimming against the current and every time u get tired of swimming and drop the mask (the masculinity performance mask) u get ridiculed by society and a slew of femme phobia, homophobia+ misogyny combo. think abt all the times being compared to a girl is the worst insult u can call someone. thats years of conditioning shaping the way u view women and urself teaching u to become a shell version of ur authentic self because a warped perception of what a man is growing up in black spaces especially bc we all know black masculinity is a whole diff breed than yt masculinity. when it comes to hyper masculinity bc the framework of what a man is that was passed down from colonial times was built for white men under capitalism not with us in mind so what it means to be a black man historically has always been different its like a script passed down rippling thru time little do we know we r performing the script passed down by our oppressor. the ideas of manhood are not our own i pray for everyman still stuck in the man box bc i know how trapping it feels its a curse i know so intimately. the making ur voice deeeper the over compensating the way they speak about women boasting sexual experiences for male validation the fear of being vulnerable and authentic. the non chalant olymics im sick of it. im yapping now cause i smoked tew much but imagine all the opportunities missed to create a domino effect of inspiration bc the original creator was too scared of being vulnurable to share. god knows how many times thats happened and we miss out on something beautiful bc for example after recording this video u second guess and say i cant post this as a man bc how would that look to others you know what im tryna say then the 10 people this really resonated with who might have been influenced to explore these ideas further like the idea of a cannon event u never know how u r shaping someones future even in the small ways so imagine all the times compounded over all of time how much further as a society we would be if men were free from the expectations that harm us all. in so many complex intersecting ways damn i sound blasted introspective then a mug got me typing essays in this bithc lmao i can feel the insecuritynow the resistance the idea "dont expose urself, dont share too much, dont compliment his shoes u dont want people to think ur glazing him" the fear of judgment /resistance that i was just talking about that is filtered thru ur gendered expectation is telling me why tf wo anyways much love for sharing u never know who u are freeing from the cycle of mental enslavement especially bc u r a straight presenting man ur voice carries WEIGHT we need men like u to keep these conversations going in ur spaces w other straigght men. Then hopefully we can live in a world where ppl like me r not in a constant state of hyper vigilance, not just for the oppressors we share but for the black men in my own community who might hate crime me bc they cat called me before they clocked i was born male at birth. not to mention the folks furthest effected by these issues the black trans women getting murdered bc a man felt the need to defend his man hood bc" i would never be attracted to a man im not gay " i gotta go touch grass thats enough internet for today
This vid definitely hit home fr. It’s time for the world to change a lot of problems that needs fixing fr but only we as a society need to realize the harm of it all in order to find a solution. Thank U for this bro, God bless
Indeed. You’re welcome. Thanks for watching.
damnn. I've been really low recently, watching people argue about gender and shi but watching your video has given me some sense of relief as to how there are some logical people out there on social media. nice video keep it up
Thank you. We are all one at the end of the day.
i love this.
im a 22yr old girl, and i crave conversations like these. down to earth, etc.
i don't feel a social connection with a lot of people now, because theyre SO connected to influence feed. and dont get me wrong, i go on plenty of youtube rabbit holes, catch myself scrolling for too long, and i hop on twitter to follow a few artists. but...that's it, i don't post, and i don't take .. well every strangers passing thought into account. i love hearing other people's thoughts, perspectives from ppl not like me, but i wouldn't be seeking that on such a high density level, from that kind of app? but everyones so comfortable with being told what they "need", what is "better", what is "right". Beauty, success. I have an insane amount of pressure to be a certain box of "successful" in my family, and i have always said, i want to be satisfied! humbly making ends meet, keeping in touch with friends.. how is that not success, people!
im a bit of a tomboy... from my many older brothers (close in ages). the roles conversation is so accurate to my experience. my pov of the world is warped, because nobody raised me, but i was around my brothers being raised, so i indirectly inherited a lot of core fundamentals ive only started to recognize in the last few years- provider, being strong, performance confidence, being in control, always being capable. i know girls can have those traits as well, but i can't explain it, it's like a lock. these things aren't OPTIONS, in order to be ..."right?" i guess? a success, a PERSON, i musttt be capable even when i'm incapable. im aware when im emotional. it feels safer because girls are allowed to be, but i don't want to lessen my voice or reputation for it, so i avoid it for later privacy. in my subconscious, vulnerability completely changes my reputation or respect. how silly is it to think that guys don't have feelings, or complex feelings, when they're just as much flesh and blood human? all because... they're.. supposed to? for what purpose? what suppressing torture.. and then gaslighting yourself later..
gender roles cause so much tension, the ROLES, the social expectations. you don't need to change who you are to have/accept your trait that isnt "in the box". conversely, y'dont have to get into an entirely diff box, worldviews, to have JUST that "unique" trait fit in. you can be all of you, as is. you're just not in this black and white simple version. nothing is! and yknow, i think that's beautiful! the most human experience!! we're complicated creatures, it's ridiculous to have so many boxes and titles that LIMIT us. words should just describe, not box-define. wave in the mirror, THAT'S you, not what we write down :>
wanna say i appreciate you for timestamping, too! im def going to return to some sections over time. i need more critical thought convos :>
Thank you for watching. I really appreciate it. Everything you said was so beautiful. And it’s all good. Take your time. The video will always be here.
God bless you sir, I think that the media has deluded so many into thinking that there’s a strict way we have to live and a certain path we need to be on to get anywhere in life. It makes me happy to see people talk more about this sorta stuff and now have the brains to figure out the damage it’s causing people. All the standards we reenforce only worsen mental health and the system can’t catch up. Coming to Christ was the best decision I’ve ever made and I couldn’t be more satisfied and content with my life and how everything is going now. I pray you do the same, if you haven’t already. Much love and blessings to you! 💕
Indeed. Much love to you as well.
Being a black and Hispanic alternative guy …. Everything u said was not only true but made me think heavy
Thank you. What part of what I said made you think?...I said a lot lol.
so we all got that same lamp lmao my sis and i both have the same bookshelf lamp
It’s so fire.
i have a unique experience navigating the whole gender norm hell scape. god gave me extra hard settings cause i dont fit into the black or white, yes or no, binary of man and woman. or atleast the flawed script of man and woman in america atleast. im someone who has been mistaken as a girl all my life till this day even after puberty my voice is still high pitched i was born w a mix of masc and fem qualities. conflictingly i have a dad from the hood from an environment where being hard and upkeeping ur masculinity was necessary to ur survival. being born and socialized as a black man while naturally being more fem and flamboyant by nature was like swimming against the current and every time u get tired of swimming and drop the mask (the masculinity performance mask) u get ridiculed by society and a slew of femme phobia, homophobia+ misogyny combo. think abt all the times being compared to a girl is the worst insult u can call someone. thats years of conditioning shaping the way u view women and urself teaching u to become a shell version of ur authentic self because a warped perception of what a man is
growing up in black spaces especially bc we all know black masculinity is a whole diff breed than yt masculinity. when it comes to hyper masculinity bc the framework of what a man is that was passed down from colonial times was built for white men under capitalism not with us in mind so what it means to be a black man historically has always been different its like a script passed down rippling thru time little do we know we r performing the script passed down by our oppressor. the ideas of manhood are not our own
i pray for everyman still stuck in the man box bc i know how trapping it feels its a curse i know so intimately. the making ur voice deeeper the over compensating the way they speak about women boasting sexual experiences for male validation the fear of being vulnerable and authentic. the non chalant olymics im sick of it.
im yapping now cause i smoked tew much but imagine all the opportunities missed to create a domino effect of inspiration bc the original creator was too scared of being vulnurable to share. god knows how many times thats happened and we miss out on something beautiful bc for example after recording this video u second guess and say i cant post this as a man bc how would that look to others you know what im tryna say then the 10 people this really resonated with who might have been influenced to explore these ideas further like the idea of a cannon event u never know how u r shaping someones future even in the small ways so imagine all the times compounded over all of time how much further as a society we would be if men were free from the expectations that harm us all. in so many complex intersecting ways damn i sound blasted introspective then a mug
got me typing essays in this bithc lmao
i can feel the insecuritynow the resistance the idea "dont expose urself, dont share too much, dont compliment his shoes u dont want people to think ur glazing him" the fear of judgment /resistance that i was just talking about that is filtered thru ur gendered expectation is telling me why tf wo
anyways much love for sharing u never know who u are freeing from the cycle of mental enslavement especially bc u r a straight presenting man ur voice carries WEIGHT we need men like u to keep these conversations going in ur spaces w other straigght men. Then hopefully we can live in a world where ppl like me r not in a constant state of hyper vigilance, not just for the oppressors we share but for the black men in my own community who might hate crime me bc they cat called me before they clocked i was born male at birth. not to mention the folks furthest effected by these issues the black trans women getting murdered bc a man felt the need to defend his man hood bc" i would never be attracted to a man im not gay " i gotta go touch grass thats enough internet for today
Every. Single. Thing. You. Said. Chef’s motherfucking kiss.
Well spoken.
Thank you.