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My Daughter Banned Me From Her Wedding. So I Secretly Canceled The Whole Thing I Paid For.
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The story details a strained relationship between a father and his daughter, Ava, who ultimately banned him and his wife, Mercy, from her wedding despite him paying for it. After learning he was unwelcome, he tried to confront Ava, only for her to dismiss him coldly, reigniting deep-seated pain over her hostility. Hurt and angry, he decided to cancel the wedding arrangements he financed. Ava was forced to face her friends when the wedding was abruptly called off, and her father refused further contact. His parents initially opposed his actions, but later sympathized after Ava's behavior worsened.
The story reveals a history of turmoil: Ava struggled with discipline, rebellion, and substance issues from her teen years, resisting his efforts to provide stability. Her resentment grew stronger after her father remarried Mercy, whom Ava despised and demeaned as a “gold digger.” Despite Mercy's support and encouragement, Ava’s antagonism persisted into adulthood.
Following the canceled wedding, Ava secretly married her fiancé but later separated due to anger issues and abusive tendencies. Her ex-husband, Matt, apologized to her father, explaining Ava’s pattern of blaming others and her refusal to take responsibility. He requested her father’s help in encouraging Ava to seek therapy. Attempts to reconcile failed when Ava rejected him, expressing hatred toward Mercy.
After contacting Ava’s childhood friend, the father was able to facilitate Ava’s commitment to therapy. Ava later apologized to her grandparents, acknowledging her bitterness but still blaming her father. The father hopes Ava will find peace, letting go of resentment and wishing her a better future, though he accepts their relationship may never heal.
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No one should even be expected to pay for a wedding they can’t attend.
Why is she so shocked? Did she expect him to just sit there and take it? If she wants only her friends to attend, she should have sought to finance it with her fiance.
Yeah! She banned him but still expected his support-definitely bold! Do you think he was right to cancel, or did he go too far?
@@RedditFamilyTales He was right..all the way!
@@williamj.dovejr.8613i agree
Daddy doesn't seem great either
@carolinef1508. He isn't good father for sending her to his sister and then to his parents, but he still cared more about her than her bio mother. Anyway she wanted to humiliate him at her wedding day by denying his access to the venue while using him to fund her wedding. His money isn't her money. He should just leave all his money to someone else. She is his only child and she thinks he can do nothing about her, despite her ungrateful and disrespectful actions she is still his only heir. He should adopt several children and leave all his family's wealth to the adopted children.
Ava is a total lost cause.
She is beyond help at this point
Well the daughter played stupid games and she certainly won stupid prizes. I get she had a hard time growing up but she was largely at fault for that. She couldn’t stand that the father moved on but he still supported her financially, helped out with college, and even finding a job. Some kids just can’t deal with their parents moving on and doing what is right for them. I certainly wouldn’t have been the fool to continue to financially support her spoiled entitled ass, even if that means cancelling the wedding I PAID FOR. Cut that toxic shit out of your life OP because she’ll never change and she’ll always just use you for what you can do for her and nothing more
EDIT: why didn’t Ava have the same hatred for her mother? It was the mother that wanted absolutely nothing to do with her after she cheated, destroyed the marriage and moved away with her new husband. Thats not OPs fault and he shouldn’t have to spend his life alone because his daughter is a toxic mess that not even the aunt can deal with
I’d hazard Ava directed her anger/hatred towards the parent who was dependable. Was it misdirected? Yes. Ava is cooked because she’s probably too hard set now.
Being able to go to a good college cause daddy has influence? That would not be possible here in North Europe. What a joke of a school if people without merit can get in
Yeah, that's a lie. You just have to know the right people.
Trust me, I know.
@@kaidestructor7350maybe in your country, but that wouldn't fly here.
@carolinef1508 My guy, if tour country IS made of humans, It Will fly.
It's just a question of how hard and expensive It is.
@@carolinef1508 all one needs is to promise to donate a large amount or be a politician
I have an entitled sister, She claims my 70+ yr old mother HAS to do things for her and her children because "Shes their grandmother." And before that she claimed it was because "Shes my mother." According to her our mothers and grandmothers shouldnt be upset when they are borrow something to people and dont get what is borrowed back. My sister thinks she can just take and take without giving anything else in return except, "the love of her grandchildren. "
You did the right thing! Don't beat yourself up about it as you were in the right
Heard this one before, but glad for the update.
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Props to Mercy for being a great Support when OP failed to Tank his daughters Damage
What nonsense is this. Cancel that payment, daughter is delusional and is crazy. So sad.
i won’t have to worry about anyone canceling my wedding because the people who will be in attendance are genuinely on my side & want it to happen. luckily for me, my man’s parents already knew me young & literally chaperoned out childhood date lol, so they’ve already had a fond heart for me very young. i’ve known them in some of their best years, & they’ve seen me at my mini stage! 😊
Ma'am you can put the phone down now. This is like your 5th comment on the same post
No one cares :)
Great job, good lesson to teach
Thanks! I'm glad you found it helpful. It's always good to learn from experiences and make sure we're treating others with respect.
"No one can harm you more than your children".No one can ruin kids lives more than their parents.
Thank you for sharing. Family dynamics can be so complicates, and it's often hard to know who bears the most responsibility.
the reason why in some culture it is the groom’s family who pays, was to show the bride’s family that they were well off enough to take care of her throughout her entire lifetime. it is a gift from the family who loves their union so deeply, & don’t want them to start life with any financial struggles. that’s what you call generational blessings & generational wealth!
The reason it is the other way in other countries so they can marry their daughters off otherwise they would just be old maids. On there own fathers dime.
I think she is bi polar and her mom abandoned her and she couldn't cope with this fact. She does need intense therapy because she wants to take out her angry on the mother figure that stayed and is apart of her dad's life. Maybe her real mom is bi polar too.
This is pure delusion from everyone, Ava’s a lost case.
You didn’t have any other choice! Best of luck for you
Thank you so much for the support
Ava sounds like a real bad seed.
People shouldn't have a wedding if they can't afford it. Don't go running to your parents to pay for it. They are not your ATMs.
I don't know about you but the desserts made in this reddit video look hella delicious 😅
I've gained 15lbs watching these videos.
Old story. Father should have laid down the law when she was a kid but from the beginning the father is the least to blame in all of this. The daughter is entitled and selfish completely and utterly.
I would have cancelled the wedding too, but doing it secretly probably ruined the relationship permanently. He probably should have told her up front that if he is not invited he will not pay for it. I suspect that if he has done that, he would have been invited and over time, probably when the marriage fails, the relationship would be restored. Of course, he was under no obligation to care one way or the other. His daughter was in the wrong.
Rejected 3 times and you wonder why she has issues…..
i just think paying for your own wedding is the best game plan! culturally, it’s the family of the groom anyway who pick up the tab! that’s what i was surrounded by, until i seen all these women struggle to keep worthless dudes around! i’m cultured & will honor myself & my spouse. i plan everything, your family who loves my unconditionally & even more than mine, can gladly pay as they wish!
Presents aren’t typically conditional. It sounds like you tried to buy her love which was your first mistake
Can we circle back to the part when he slapped his wife in front of his daughter?
this is why my fiancé’s family & i will be paying for our own shyt! i am 100% being very selective on who can & can’t come to my fairytale wedding! my ancestors will be in attendance & i don’t need any family sellouts around their energetic presence! they don’t like you!
You seem like you and Ava would be great friends
Why someone can be so full of anger and hate? I can’t believe he endured so much, I would have dumped Ava right after high school and forget her
She sounds like a borderline.
Would have blackballed my parents also
Still blames everyone else for her problems. Entitled spoiled narcissistic psychopath. This is what happens when you don't force your kids to face the consequences of their actions. Stop fixing everything for them.
I was thinking that she was bipolar and or schizophrenic until the end where Ava just has deep hatred and narcissistic tendencies. She should be thoroughly examined because there’s a break in there somewhere!
yall be rushing men who don’t even want you, just because you want to show social media that you got a ring, not because you’re in love, not because you care for one another, but because you want to compete!
Oops, karma! Petty but brilliant! Good on you OP. Your daughter is a Bruja!
A Native American from the middle east😂🤡🤡🤡
do you need to get your ears checked out ???
The wife is from the Middle East, while op is Native American
She's seeking the love of her mother that abandoned her but since she can't get that she hates anyone's that's around
You play stupid games you win stupid prizes. Welcome to the real world honey.
How many of you think that Ava needs a ride to the train station?
your a good man not paying 4 the wedding i would do the same thing when my girls got married i paid 4 nothing
I work at a wedding venue hotel and good. I’ve seen this happen but dad paid for it anyway
Bet. I can’t come to the wedding? My wallet can’t come either. Simple as that. Not the AH.
U did the right thing but i may have just pulled my funding but i would have not gotten in her way of making other arrangements
women should plan & only marry once the man is confident in his finances, that’s how you progress in life, instead of sinking the ship before it even left shore!
Women should worry about their own finances more often
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He had every right to cancel everything cuz it was his hard-earned money and she didn't want to invite her father or stepmother I don't know why she hates him when her real mother just left her how she treated her father and his parents were just truly awful she doesn't deserve his help but I see he was a good man and tried at least once or a few times he's not responsible for anything it's herself to blame maybe one day she'll realize that it's all her fault and not her father's
This is ridiculous. This is exactly why AiI should not be writing things for people. So did Mercy tell you to get rid of Ava or to keep her? The next sentence after that it says that Mercy said to wait. It makes no sense. Then it goes on to call her a Native American and then a few words after that calls her family Middle Eastern...
Ava has some serious mental issues! Not to mention being spoiled as hell.
OP is weak, he is lucky his wife isn't.
The OP is lying
Why would her fiance's boss care about their wedding?
He's criticizing her for explaining that you acknowledged for mistreating her & hitting her stepmother?
Generating negativity due to him crying ?
He said that she was got a respectable job, but she was living off his money?
Native Americans don't live in the Middle East
She said that stepmother is independent, but also a gold digger? It sounds she was a gold digger not to mention that he said that that the stepmother was 12 years younger than him.
That sounds like a gold digger to me.
Why is he trying to stop her from saying her side of the story? It's because it's not true.
They can get married in City Hall
He said that she he didn't touch her bank account, but has a job.
Why would the ex-fiance call him & say how terrible his daughter was instead of just file for divorce & leave her.
He's not paying for the wedding otherwise all he would've freezed everything; he might be rich, but if he was actually in control of paying for the wedding she would've been forced to invite him.
He said that she lost her friends because she had a rage problem; this is possible, but unlikely due to the fact that this sounds like a movie rather than reality.
He said that Ava attacked her & the stepmother when the stepmother wasn't there.
Keep in mind that just because someone posts something online doesn't make it true; there was a similar situation where a woman claimed that she did everything for her daughter & she was ungrateful. Everyone believed it until the daughter said no, that wasn't true & that she was never for her.
The mom just wanted a pity party
P.S I'd like to hear Ava's side of the story
where is your brain ? i’m looking but i can’t find it. just because you have a LOT of issues comprehending a youtube video doesn’t mean it’s the case for everybody
He was correct to cancel, but to do so without informing her was an immature move
Why? Did the daughter tell him before taking that decision? It's amazing how she was OK with taking his money, but not ok with him being at the wedding.
YOU HAVE UNGRATEFUL DAUGHTER.GOOD FOR YOU TO CANCEL
humm. He was behinde her back requesting the guest list for add a person withouth her knowledge and forced the planner to give him the guest list to make "arrangements" aka remove someone she wanted there to add the person he wanted. This gives me red flag vibes, I whish I could know her version of this and why she kicked him out.
Right?
Good point! There might be more to the story than we heard from his side. What do you all think-was the father justified, or could there be another side to why Ava banned him? Share your thought!
Either way, once she made her decision, she shouldn't have expected that he would simply finance it after being banned. If you can't afford to get married, then don't get married. If you want to ban the person financing it, ensure you can finance it yourself.
Yeah I just know he did something because why would she just not invite you 🤨
what’s going on it yalls brain ??? a whole lot of nothing ?? she clearly a spoiled and entitled child. get your ears checked out and rewatched. if you have issues with someone don’t ask/ accept them to paying for your wedding.
if all her friends and family want nothing to do with her maybe she is the problem ??? so what they’re all hallucinating her shitty behavior ??? connect to two brain cells you have left, please
I want the donuts.
So basically, you rewarded her bad behavior
My daughter asked me for 20 grand for her wedding,,,,ho we did laff, then said NO, she then threatened to ban me from the wedding Ho we laffed, again, I wouldn’t go to that wedding now if she begged me, this is what happens when you treat people bad over years, she tried to blackmail me with my ex her mom, Ho we did laff, you can pick your friends but not your family
Stupid is as stupid does lmfao 😢😢😢😢😢
So his new wife is a Tuareg Apache?
uh ? what are you on about ??
Sorry but, I wanna pay attention to the story but these cakes man...... About to make me have a hugeeee big back moment.
So...Her mom abandoned her, her father sent her away to an aunt, who threw her out to the grandparents, but she was supposed to magically grow up to be a well-adjusted adult? How? How was that supposed to happen?
not exacly, he tried
He did try but the daughter was being stupid and didn't want to listen at all
Funny how you focus on the results of her stupid actions, I understand why the mum abandoned her
@@fernandafefe2011we have no details on how he tried though. We only have one side of the story which is obviously going to be biased. Regardless of why it happened, being abandoned by every parental figure you’ve had in your life is going to mess you up. His daughter had an absolutely fucked childhood and ended up turning to drugs as an escape and his only comment is “this child is a pain in the ass” without at all acknowledging what could have led her down that path. From what it sounds like, he thought that she would just magically get over the fact that her mom abandoned her.
@@serampartz5303 True, the story is probably biased but the same could be said if OPs daughter decided to post her side of the story. It's also going to be biased. The truth, more often than not, is always somewhere in the middle.
sometimes I truly wonder if people on youtube listen to videos with their ass
This a interesting story but the background video is giving me diabetes
Besides the gold digger comments, is Ava racist or xenophobic as well? She said she's ashamed of her father's younger wife from a different cultural background. Mercy did the whole "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" thing by moving to a foreign country, studying hard, and working her way into a successful and respected career before she even met OP. So what is there to be ashamed of? That she's not "old money"? Or that she is a different race? Or is it because Mercy is young enough to still have children? Maybe Ava didn't want any chance of her father having another kid, which would reduce the amount of money and assets she could milk out of him.
CAN'T
UNDERSTAND
NORMAL
THINKING
"Youngster" ok AI
This seems pretty fake.
Shit parents shocked they created a shit kid despite not doing anything to prevent it. Where was her therapy as a child when you had control? Why would you marry, and bring another person into the dynamic when things arent well with your child? Why wasnt she sent to rehab when you found out she did drugs? And why would you make her so many other peoples problem. He got a brat because he raised one.
Did you listen? She had therapy, and he sent her to rehab twice... He remarried years after his divorce when she was 15... Was he supposed to stay single all his life because his daughter is a heartless person? You gloss over the fact she turned against everyone around her... Even her husband left her because he couldn't stand her behavior anymore
Kids don’t do this without reason.
@eliciabonnie Time Stamp? I legit listened again thinking I missed something but I can't find it. I see where his wife worked with children but she told him to just wait and she'd grow out of it.
Fr. He should just cut his losses and forget about her. There is no reconciliation. He should just start a new family and do better this time around.
@RabidDisposition I don't want him having more kids but I agree their relationship is beyond saving. 🤷♂️
This guy is toxic as hell, I wouldn’t want him at my wedding either. Her mistake was letting him be involved at all! Court house wedding is better than being in the fathers life.
did you even watch the video ???
Did he get her pronouns wrong? 😂
It's AI generated folks. And poorly done.
Shit parents raised a shit kid and the shit kid did a shit thing and her shit parent got hurt and shit kid also got hurt. So everyone is shit in this story😂
all reddit stories those guys are weak af
This feels like a typical Reddit story from the other person's perspective.
"I didn't invite my abusive parents to my wedding, AITA?"