This is why they always hop from place to place. They don’t like to pay bills, they ignore their children, etc. Anything adult like is overwhelming for them. They hate responsibilities.
I totally agree, there an embarrassment and immature. The worse thing about it is that u get played by someone who was lucky u even was with them. Speaking some truth Quinn awesome video👏
🎯 They run from reality. Never take life or the lives of others serious. Just run from situation to situation with no clue, because they are unwilling to change themselves. #loveyourself
That's why they end back up with low hanging fruit random mediocre panic picks....jus to portray to the community they have somebody....they don't care for nor love anybody ITS ALL A GAME CHESS NOT CHECKERS
A Narcissist has lost connection to their soul. But they cannot admit that , instead their existence becomes an effort to hide this and to appear to be whole
There could never be a serious convo. If I tried to speak to him like an adult he would get nervous and start turning the conversation into an argument which then became my fault. Or he would start making jokes and then if I didn't laugh he would say things like, see, you're always too serious. After a while you start to realize you will never be able to have anything deep or solid with them. They just aren't capable. And they will spend the rest of their lives living like that. It's exhausting and not worth your time. Stay well everyone.
Narcissists are shrewd. They will study you to hone in on any vulnerability, weakness or problem you have. Once they have identified it, they will interact with you solely for the purpose of questioning you and making comments to you about the issue. Once you have resolved the issue, you may find that the narcissist does not have quite as much to say to you. Narcissists are aggressive. If they perceive a person or a situation to be a threat, they will make statements of aggression toward that person or they will talk about how they will handle the situation with violence. Narcissists are inconsistent. They will go from serenading you with a song "just for you" to revealing that they are in a relationship that really isn't that serious to saying they've got to go to the bar down the street.
Best video yet: immature, inappropriate, saying and doing embarrassing and inappropriate things, no contact with reality, obnoxious behavior which they think is cute or clever. I've seen this a lot in the narcissists I've known. Saying shocking inappropriate things.
ONCE YOU RECOVER..YOU WILL NOT ALLOW THEM ANYTHING..IT TAKES TIME AND YOU WILL GET BETTER..THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO ABUSE YOU CHILDISH OR NOT..TAKE CHARGE AND GO AFTER THEM IN COURT..ABUSE IS A CRIME..WHEN YOU TELL THEM NO ENTRY BACK IT UP..NO MORE B/S
These assessments are correct. Another one is impatience. Being super annoyed when they don’t get what they want or when things are going their way. They want everything fast.
The narc I endured and escaped told me (while in the midst of "getting to know one another" convo) "He doesn't like to read books (ANY books)". Major red flag, to me anyway. I was sitting there thinking, that's odd. What person doesn't like to read at all? So nothing interests you? Wow. You'd think almost everyone has something that interests them and have read at least a book or two....nope not him😂. Smh, I think back like really? Wtf was I thinking??😣😂
Everything that you said is 100% the truth. I just got rid of a Narc after two months of knowing him. He is 47 years old, and was childish, immature, jealous, possessive, etc. Lately, he’s been provoking me in order to break the NC rule, but I’m good. He can go play in traffic until he sorts out those inner demons that cause his Narcissism. I’m glad that I didn’t stick around.
This is true, also the stuff they watch on TV is a huge indicator of their intellect and emotional level. My ex would only ever watch gang banger type programmes, all about making quick money, imorally and cheating. He would never watch an emotional movie or anything deep or realistic. Just delusional fantasy.
You are so right, Quinn. I thought some of my ex’s statements and actions were off. I just thought he was nervous around certain ppl. Looking back, he was wearing a mask, trying to impress ppl and it didn’t fit. I remember thinking to myself that his behavior made no sense. If I witness that type of vibe again from a grown ass adult, I’m out!!! So many things to look out for but if caught early, it can safe us so much heartache. Thank you ❤️❤️
To be honest these were probably the biggest red flags that I missed! He was extremely immature and in the beginning since I knew nothing about narcissism I thought he was just a little "quirky". I also noticed in the beginning that he wasn't really embarrassed by anything. Usually in the beginning of a relationship people are embarrassed to do certain things in front of someone they've just met. He could've cared less what he did or said in front of me. I also never recall having a real conversation with any meaning or any deep subject matter to it the entire time I was with him. Looking back I think of how sad that whole situation was. I think some of the more overts tend to act like this.
I see why I was exhausted an angry an downright fkd up, dealing with some crap like that is draining, I would get away from him an sleep for days ....I'm aware today an out!!! Nobody: J lo I aint ya mama 👀
There is no elevator going up or down. Just a dungeon with a chute leading down and no way up but by the slippery slope. But, there is a way out. Grip, claw, spit, cry, get traction and get the hell out, by any means. And don't look back.
My narcissist used to play movies while I was asleep that would trigger my ptsd. While I was asleep I was a target and that is the biggest part of my recovery to understand. I understand why all else has happened but why trigger the most painful memories of my life while I am asleep…?? Then I remember telling him that I had nightmares that would set the tone for my day 😑😑😑😑
HELLO EVERYONE, I hope that everyone is doing well, SHOUT OUT, TO YOU, QUINN. Thanks for your help and time to EDUCATE US, about THESE, PEOPLE. You have HELPED, so many HURTING PEOPLE.🤗🤗🤗🤗♥️♥️🤗🤗
They are selfish and can not handle being told about their wrong doings. They immediately go into defense mode. Make an excuse never wanting to look at themselves.
This describes my kids dad TO A T!!! i can not begin to tell you how therapeutic and healing your videos and information has been to me over these last couple months!! I have been attracting narcs my entire life and your videos WOKE ME UP!!! THANKYOU, THANKYOU, THANKYOU
Thank you very much for informative and caring information. My former best friend is a narcissist. I’ve learned from your videos how to identify and disassociate from her. Sadly I was influenced by her in many ways. Life is infinitely better without her energy around me. Thank you again. 💖
One time I was in a children's boutique with my narc mother. I was 15 years old and my sister was a toddler. So my mother was looking for an outfit for the baby. She sees some children's accessories which were quite expensive. She looks at the price of a hair barrett and very loudly blurts out OMG look at the price of this barrett! That's OUTRAGEOUS! They're crazy. Everyone in the store stopped, looked at her annoyed. I was so embarrassed, I whispered to her to stop because she was embarrassing me. I was 15 years old telling a grown woman that her behavior was inappropriate. This is what it looks like folks.
The deep conversations in my experience were only in the beginning you know the love bombing stage then after that passes they don’t want to talk about deep issues
If i wasn't abuse by a narcissist I would have not known, now because I experience it I'm good at spotting one, but you ignore these signs if you don't know and your attracted to them. It only hits you when you are discarded, or you find out the are seeing someone. So i think experience is what protects you in the future, if someone was telling me I would not listen, because I'm going by feelings. But once you lived it you can spot them from a mile.
I've heard just about all your videos and I always agree with you because i had a sexy ass somanic narc that I cut off successfully two years ago it wasn't easy but I stood strong, on all your vids i make sure to always give you a thumbs up. Keep exposing these narcs brother. Thank you
I think the “being the victim” is also high on the list of things we can spot early. Also, being too interested in my life before him. And the love bombing. Those are my top 3.
Narc Whisperer! Thanks for the new information. I didn’t need confirmation, but this is further confirmation for me. They say they are so deep when that couldn’t be further from the truth, LOL. When you tell them you want to talk about their behaviour they blurt out the dumbest things and change the subject. Be well. Stay safe!
I had to say those exact words to my mother the final time I spoke to her over a year ago. Sh was basically ostracizing, gaslighting, smear campaigns to family members, triangulating me with my siblings and silent treating me.. all based on her feelings. She had come to the assumption that I was a wicked person and couldn’t give a concerté reason why. My final statement was “these are you feelings mum and your feelings are not fact, I am not responsible for your feelings that is for you to choose and own” To this day we have not spoken another word and I doubt we ever will again.
Me thinks the inappropriate-ness is a test to see how you react, test you see if you let them off the hook, how far they can get. See what does bother you..
The narcissist I dealt with pulled away and withheld intimacy much of the time when I wouldn't conform. She'd get really pissed off by the smallest things I did or little jokes I made. I felt like i was in a box
The narco brother, bought our dad a golf cart (dad doesn't golf, never interested in it), to try and impress our dad. Dad doesn't live in Florida... In Minnesota, golf carts aren't "street legal!!!" I told my brother that wasn't even "street legal," he's going to get a ticket. Narco bro says he was told by police it was fine. Lies, put our by my lying brother. Of course my dad did get stopped by the police, and was LUCKY not to get a ticket!
How I wish I had know these things when I was dating my husband...I thought they where very odd things....but he would just tell me it's all in your head or you have low self esteem.....lordy ....thanks for sharing
thank you for all the helpful info . my ex is a narc and i was almost suck in by him again after twenty years. the oh i have changed bit but after a few months the mask slipped and he was even worse than what he was before, but now his whole family knows it. he can't hide any longer. he learned very quickly that i have changed and it is not talk but action. after he insulted our son i told him to get out and never come back. he was snarling and talking through his teeth. i was hoping he would try to hit me so i could beat the hell out of him for what he said to our son, oh well, i guess dealing with a crazy pissed off mom is not a good idea for anyone. but i do have to say this. i dealt with him pushing my buttons and having me run around in circles. everything was my fault. my mother was the same way. around about the age of 42 i got sick and tired of trying to please everyone else. i said forget this, i am not an emotional masochist. i no longer care what people say about me. i work hard, and i don't take crap from people any more. some people say i am mean, but there is a shirt i am going to buy that has written on it..."I am not mean....I am just too old to pretend to like you." that is where i stand now. i am not a narc, i care about and love my family and friends. i try not to hurt others and i try to give them understanding, but if i see they don't care about the way i feel, forget that! i am not running around in circles trying to please everyone anymore. people can call me cold, mean, hard hearted, but i don't care. i am now 48...i'm done. i love people and will do what i can to help others, but if i don't see them trying to help themselves, i am not going to stick my neck out for them any more.
Hope you'redoing well Quinn. You're spot on as always. Your videos keep me going, always validates my experience. Spotting more and more narcs around me its unbelievable how frequent they are. Take care brother.
All I can do is laugh at all the comments😆😆😆😂😂😂It’s so hilarious but at the same time a dog on shame that we have actually all encountered the same spirit all across the globe from different people. I’m sure the one I was with is gonna try to research narcissism now because I keep blurting it out every time they start a fictious argument because they know I’m leaving them AGAIN and so they’ll start the switch and bate, dogging and lying, attacks and assaults and false accusations that I’m cheating! But now they know I know for sure what they are, I’m sure they’ll try to find out what exactly a narc is so they can flip the script and say I’m the narc and start using all the knowledge from the videos to try not to act like the narc they are. I hate I gave it away but it’s true and it will always be true! This is all so deep and I saw all these things very early on and I hate that I ignored all the flags it was flags everywhere!!!! Hanging off the roof, hanging from the window, sitting on the toilet in the sink! I mean everywhere I turned I was being warned! All the way from the turn off of them talking bad about their ex, to the immature disrespectful and abusive ways towards me when I didn’t deserve it all, the overreacting to situations, the lies, the selfishness, the hypocrisy and double mindedness, the professional victim playing, the blaming and twisting, the using my words and phrases l, the gas lighting, the projecting, the deflecting, the possessiveness, the immaturity, the lack of consideration, the hatefulness, the evilness, the spiteful mess, the cynicism, the judgmental/critical spirit of others, the deception of self, no self awareness, no real honest apologies, hard time ever apologizing and in two seconds will take it back by blaming you, the hard heartedness, the dishonorable spirit, jealous, envious, grudge holder, lack of motivation, no depth very very shallow, dependent upon their sexual abilities and/or their looks and material possessions, think their more than what they are, entitled, ignorant and the list can go on and on! It’s amazing the experience and the level of sickness I saw it’s mind blowing every time and you never get use to it! It’s unbelievable to watch and to recover from. I have a lot of work to do because it should of never happened! It’s just like the word says it’s like a sheep being led to their slaughter! You see them, yet, you keep going with them! You know this ain’t gone be good, yet you stick with it anyway! I have a lot of work to do. But...I can say I am no longer afraid. I kept being afraid that it would happen again. No sirrey Bob!!! I am FULLY confident that it won’t ever happen again!
In coverts' case this awkwardness occurs very often and this seems to be the stablest clue. These two first characteristic may be deftly hidden by playing a persona of choice.For instance I came across a young man who was really convincing in playing a well -read, sophisticated person ready to tackle intellectual topics. Being really skilful at picking up bits and pieces from other people's comments and discussion he was able to create quite a credible looking image which turned out to be an illusion while more thoroughly explored.
Wish they would've left me alone. I much better off. Look up this song. This song (Loner) the lyrics Khali uchis I don't want to be your cigarette I don't want to be your ashtray I don't want to be your door mat Don't want to be ignored All o' sudden you're not into me And maybe it's not deliberate And I know you never asked me I just gotta put it out there I don't put myself out there Usually I stay tucked away 'Cause I was a loner until I met you And I let you in after all the persuasion Mind games, manipulations That's why I'd rather be a loner Yeah I'd rather be alone I don't even want to know ya I don't want to be known 'Cause I'd rather be a loner I'd much rather be alone Baby it was nice to know ya Packing up and leaving home No I don't want to be your cigarette Use me up then toss me, step on me I don't want to be an option Avoidin' interaction 'cause I just want to get away And maybe you got a full plate Know I'm cookin' something better But if you don't want me now No boy I don't want you later Don't try to come and eat with me 'Cause I was a loner until I met you And I let you in after all the persuasion Headaches and allegations That's why I'd rather be a loner Yeah I'd rather be alone I don't even want to know ya I don't want to be known 'Cause I'd rather be a loner I'd much rather be alone Baby it was nice to know ya Packing up and leaving home
So on point with what I'm dealing with about my neighbor.She's loud obnoxious and can't wait till night comes to open her bedroom blinds and curtains wide open for my boyfriend or son is outside smoking for them to see her.Everything about them is attention seeking.They have no standards or respect for themselves
I agree with this because i went through all of this my ex-husband narc will embrass you in the store cussing the store clerk out, walking in the store with listening to old school music, talking about people, i remember going in the children place he was buying his half daughter a baby outfit the cashier was rung the items up the receipt got stuck and she had to replace he got agitate start going off calling her name i told him dont do that it not nice he kept going off i had to tell her please dont mind him she finish and hands his bag with him, he cuss my land lord out just because he put a board on the back of the door and my land lord said it was a fire hazard now i can't move back to the country to rent a house out because of my ex-husband narc he is very child like i knew it was a red flag but i had to start holding accountable for those things but got mad at me but i didnt care because you don't treat people trying to make a living crater to you. I hope the new supply better then me because she saw the red flag as soon as she started coming around and he cuss her out so she knows everything by now.
I love listening to you always Quinn. 😘 You have such a beautiful voice which is so calming to me... Your intelligence on this subject is always so clarifying & brings peace to the soul. God Bless You Always!!!!!❤️😘❤️
Great video!!!! I know this all now after two in half years.....but at first I thought it was just the “fun side” that I enjoyed.......but you are spot on!!
I agree with this my ex-husband narc would be in the car with me and pull his private part out telling mommy know she want of see it while Im driving down the road I would tell him people can see you he say so what. He just did embrassing things in the store cuss the associate he big one playing music on the phone loud I'm groceries shopping in HEB, or Walmart didn't care at all we driving by his friends he would turn the radio blasting out so his homeboy could see him talking loud out the window telling them they can't be like him this is decade dealing with this behavior with a grown ass 57 years old man.
Explains completely the sexual misconduct of a pensioner I dog walk with. I feel v ashamed & yet I believe he has finally learnt how to be a decent friend, then bang- when I'm ill, in a vulnerable mood (diagnosed CPTSD) & after wks & months of all of my spare time & efforts he does a whole phase of it again. There's nothing online about pensioners covertly coercing 30 something women who are alone in life with their dog. I ve been quite happy for over a decade being independent. Yet it's exactly 3yrs & I'm now tired of trying & ppl not understanding how scary it is when never mind monitor you or whatever. Police previously said he seems like a quiet pushover (he's got everybody gaslit great like I'm some sort of goldigger or mentally ill. Complex trauma isn't a mental illness.) Anyhow- just bcos I would square up if need be to someone my own age, doesn't mean I would or would want to hit the guy. What if I really hurt him accidentally or worse losing my temper. It's equally scary to notice your giving in as the persistence beats your resistance. It strikes me that I was raised by my lovely grandparents. It's obviously why I feel pity, guilt & even worry for him when I go NC. He has never raised a voice to me, he doesn't actually talk at all. Repeated jokes & doctor chat outdoors. That's IT. TY for this actual video. I can apply the situation EXACTLY into this stencil of subtle cues. Clarity finally. Any ideas what to do about the grandparent thing? A huge vulnerability that's being exploited. Funnily enough it DOES feel incestous, the trauma when I get home or rethink it. Any ideas anyone pls? Rural Scottish Highlands ❤️
This is why they always hop from place to place. They don’t like to pay bills, they ignore their children, etc. Anything adult like is overwhelming for them. They hate responsibilities.
Them talking in circles is them being deep. And what's worst is when you realize you get with these types because you were raised by them.
The more you try to change the immature things they do the worst it gets its like being with a big kid in a adult body🤦♂️
Having all of the adult privileges with none of the responsibilities. Sums them up to a tee.
Also red flags are if they are in the wrong they won't apologize they feel like it's not their fault. That you caused them to act this way.
I totally agree, there an embarrassment and immature. The worse thing about it is that u get played by someone who was lucky u even was with them. Speaking some truth Quinn awesome video👏
I've been a victim but I have recovered! 🙏🏽
🎯 They run from reality. Never take life or the lives of others serious. Just run from situation to situation with no clue, because they are unwilling to change themselves.
#loveyourself
That's why they end back up with low hanging fruit random mediocre panic picks....jus to portray to the community they have somebody....they don't care for nor love anybody ITS ALL A GAME CHESS NOT CHECKERS
A Narcissist has lost connection to their soul. But they cannot admit that , instead their existence becomes an effort to hide this and to appear to be whole
The only time they will have a deep conversation if it's something pertaining to them or something serious that they are involved in.
There could never be a serious convo. If I tried to speak to him like an adult he would get nervous and start turning the conversation into an argument which then became my fault. Or he would start making jokes and then if I didn't laugh he would say things like, see, you're always too serious. After a while you start to realize you will never be able to have anything deep or solid with them. They just aren't capable. And they will spend the rest of their lives living like that. It's exhausting and not worth your time. Stay well everyone.
Narcissists are shrewd. They will study you to hone in on any vulnerability, weakness or problem you have. Once they have identified it, they will interact with you solely for the purpose of questioning you and making comments to you about the issue. Once you have resolved the issue, you may find that the narcissist does not have quite as much to say to you.
Narcissists are aggressive. If they perceive a person or a situation to be a threat, they will make statements of aggression toward that person or they will talk about how they will handle the situation with violence.
Narcissists are inconsistent. They will go from serenading you with a song "just for you" to revealing that they are in a relationship that really isn't that serious to saying they've got to go to the bar down the street.
Best video yet: immature, inappropriate, saying and doing embarrassing and inappropriate things, no contact with reality, obnoxious behavior which they think is cute or clever. I've seen this a lot in the narcissists I've known. Saying shocking inappropriate things.
ONCE YOU RECOVER..YOU WILL NOT ALLOW THEM ANYTHING..IT TAKES TIME AND YOU WILL GET BETTER..THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO ABUSE YOU CHILDISH OR NOT..TAKE CHARGE AND GO AFTER THEM IN COURT..ABUSE IS A CRIME..WHEN YOU TELL THEM NO ENTRY BACK IT UP..NO MORE B/S
These assessments are correct. Another one is impatience. Being super annoyed when they don’t get what they want or when things are going their way. They want everything fast.
The narc I endured and escaped told me (while in the midst of "getting to know one another" convo) "He doesn't like to read books (ANY books)". Major red flag, to me anyway. I was sitting there thinking, that's odd. What person doesn't like to read at all? So nothing interests you? Wow. You'd think almost everyone has something that interests them and have read at least a book or two....nope not him😂. Smh, I think back like really? Wtf was I thinking??😣😂
On point as always Quinn! 1. Immature 2. Inappropriate 3. Lacking depth of thought process. 💯. I’m over narcs🤷🏽♀️
Your entire relationship with a narc is as limited as any serious discussion you will ever have with them!
Everything that you said is 100% the truth. I just got rid of a Narc after two months of knowing him. He is 47 years old, and was childish, immature, jealous, possessive, etc. Lately, he’s been provoking me in order to break the NC rule, but I’m good. He can go play in traffic until he sorts out those inner demons that cause his Narcissism. I’m glad that I didn’t stick around.
This is true, also the stuff they watch on TV is a huge indicator of their intellect and emotional level. My ex would only ever watch gang banger type programmes, all about making quick money, imorally and cheating. He would never watch an emotional movie or anything deep or realistic. Just delusional fantasy.
Sarcasm is their favorite tool
"they use feeling as logic" so! true!
Quinn you got the Narc all figured out!😁🤣😁🤣
You are so right, Quinn. I thought some of my ex’s statements and actions were off. I just thought he was nervous around certain ppl. Looking back, he was wearing a mask, trying to impress ppl and it didn’t fit. I remember thinking to myself that his behavior made no sense. If I witness that type of vibe again from a grown ass adult, I’m out!!! So many things to look out for but if caught early, it can safe us so much heartache. Thank you ❤️❤️
Mine got deep, mine got very deep pretending to be spiritual and godly
To be honest these were probably the biggest red flags that I missed! He was extremely immature and in the beginning since I knew nothing about narcissism I thought he was just a little "quirky". I also noticed in the beginning that he wasn't really embarrassed by anything. Usually in the beginning of a relationship people are embarrassed to do certain things in front of someone they've just met. He could've cared less what he did or said in front of me. I also never recall having a real conversation with any meaning or any deep subject matter to it the entire time I was with him. Looking back I think of how sad that whole situation was. I think some of the more overts tend to act like this.
That's what I never had a deep and meaningful talk . I missed that in a partner and she was just superficial always trash talking everyone .
I see why I was exhausted an angry an downright fkd up, dealing with some crap like that is draining, I would get away from him an sleep for days ....I'm aware today an out!!!
Nobody:
J lo I aint ya mama 👀
Invaluable videos! Been watching for two years and my eyes are open to their tactics.
These demons are essentially the seven deadly sins.
Quinn always be spitting fire 🔥on his channel about how these narcissistic predators operate!
Always great content!
I will NEVER be fooled again
Hardened me up for life....
This is so true they will speak to others like they are deep but dont have any depth to them at all .
The ACCURACY!! Wow!! It's a beautiful thing when you don't have to deal with the craziness any longer! #nocontact Save yourself the headache! 🙌🏾❤
There is no elevator going up or down. Just a dungeon with a chute leading down and no way up but by the slippery slope. But, there is a way out. Grip, claw, spit, cry, get traction and get the hell out, by any means. And don't look back.
My narcissist used to play movies while I was asleep that would trigger my ptsd. While I was asleep I was a target and that is the biggest part of my recovery to understand. I understand why all else has happened but why trigger the most painful memories of my life while I am asleep…?? Then I remember telling him that I had nightmares that would set the tone for my day 😑😑😑😑
HELLO EVERYONE, I hope that everyone is doing well, SHOUT OUT, TO YOU, QUINN. Thanks for your help and time to EDUCATE US, about THESE, PEOPLE. You have HELPED, so many HURTING PEOPLE.🤗🤗🤗🤗♥️♥️🤗🤗
My ex Narc has "Coronavirus" or so they say🤦
They are selfish and can not handle being told about their wrong doings. They immediately go into defense mode. Make an excuse never wanting to look at themselves.
This describes my kids dad TO A T!!!
i can not begin to tell you how therapeutic and healing your videos and information has been to me over these last couple months!!
I have been attracting narcs my entire life and your videos WOKE ME UP!!!
THANKYOU, THANKYOU, THANKYOU
Thank you very much for informative and caring information. My former best friend is a narcissist. I’ve learned from your videos how to identify and disassociate from her. Sadly I was influenced by her in many ways. Life is infinitely better without her energy around me. Thank you again. 💖
You were so on point with 1) immaturity. They’re incapable of manifesting an adult relationship.
One time I was in a children's boutique with my narc mother. I was 15 years old and my sister was a toddler. So my mother was looking for an outfit for the baby. She sees some children's accessories which were quite expensive. She looks at the price of a hair barrett and very loudly blurts out OMG look at the price of this barrett! That's OUTRAGEOUS! They're crazy. Everyone in the store stopped, looked at her annoyed. I was so embarrassed, I whispered to her to stop because she was embarrassing me. I was 15 years old telling a grown woman that her behavior was inappropriate. This is what it looks like folks.
Deflector, grandiose attitude, law breaking, lack self control, blame, possessive, entitlement and the list goes on…
I know one thing these people hate to be questioned
You are spot on I experienced everything you talk about. I’m divorced now and happy. He is bitter and nasty.
The deep conversations in my experience were only in the beginning you know the love bombing stage then after that passes they don’t want to talk about deep issues
If i wasn't abuse by a narcissist I would have not known, now because I experience it I'm good at spotting one, but you ignore these signs if you don't know and your attracted to them. It only hits you when you are discarded, or you find out the are seeing someone. So i think experience is what protects you in the future, if someone was telling me I would not listen, because I'm going by feelings. But once you lived it you can spot them from a mile.
Lack of Empathy
Entitlement
Grandiosity
my ex narc watch another female's butt as she walked by right in front of me, and laughed about it like it was funny. And said yeah I'm going to look.
Nodding my head in agreement the entire video. Thanks Quinn!
They want the easy way out ok there’s the door narc.
I've heard just about all your videos and I always agree with you because i had a sexy ass somanic narc that I cut off successfully two years ago it wasn't easy but I stood strong, on all your vids i make sure to always give you a thumbs up. Keep exposing these narcs brother. Thank you
This is so on point with what I'm dealing with right now!!
I think the “being the victim” is also high on the list of things we can spot early. Also, being too interested in my life before him. And the love bombing. Those are my top 3.
You couldn't be more accurate if you tried!!! This really validates what I went through. Thank you!
He did all of that.
Narc Whisperer! Thanks for the new information. I didn’t need confirmation, but this is further confirmation for me. They say they are so deep when that couldn’t be further from the truth, LOL. When you tell them you want to talk about their behaviour they blurt out the dumbest things and change the subject.
Be well. Stay safe!
I had to say those exact words to my mother the final time I spoke to her over a year ago. Sh was basically ostracizing, gaslighting, smear campaigns to family members, triangulating me with my siblings and silent treating me.. all based on her feelings. She had come to the assumption that I was a wicked person and couldn’t give a concerté reason why. My final statement was “these are you feelings mum and your feelings are not fact, I am not responsible for your feelings that is for you to choose and own” To this day we have not spoken another word and I doubt we ever will again.
Me thinks the inappropriate-ness is a test to see how you react, test you see if you let them off the hook, how far they can get. See what does bother you..
Needed this confirmation, as I asked myself but why? And then you confirmed we’d be thinking that. They hinder themselves
The narcissist I dealt with pulled away and withheld intimacy much of the time when I wouldn't conform. She'd get really pissed off by the smallest things I did or little jokes I made. I felt like i was in a box
The narco brother, bought our dad a golf cart (dad doesn't golf, never interested in it), to try and impress our dad. Dad doesn't live in Florida... In Minnesota, golf carts aren't "street legal!!!" I told my brother that wasn't even "street legal," he's going to get a ticket. Narco bro says he was told by police it was fine. Lies, put our by my lying brother. Of course my dad did get stopped by the police, and was LUCKY not to get a ticket!
11 NARCS THUMBED THIS DOWN! Great commentary as usual Quinn! You are our guardian angel!💯💯💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Hello Quinn. So happy to hear your voice again.Hope you are doing well in this New York dramatic Covid 19 situation. Kisses from France.
Yess hi Quinn!! Thanks again for all your amazing work and spreading the knowledge.. can't thank you enough
How I wish I had know these things when I was dating my husband...I thought they where very odd things....but he would just tell me it's all in your head or you have low self esteem.....lordy ....thanks for sharing
They are not operating with a full deck, loosely wrapped, one wing stuck in the mud...🖤
Another home run video! I wish I saw this video before I met mine, would have saved me a lot of aggravation!!
Narc= the illusion of idealism is attainable
thank you for all the helpful info . my ex is a narc and i was almost suck in by him again after twenty years. the oh i have changed bit but after a few months the mask slipped and he was even worse than what he was before, but now his whole family knows it. he can't hide any longer. he learned very quickly that i have changed and it is not talk but action. after he insulted our son i told him to get out and never come back. he was snarling and talking through his teeth. i was hoping he would try to hit me so i could beat the hell out of him for what he said to our son, oh well, i guess dealing with a crazy pissed off mom is not a good idea for anyone. but i do have to say this. i dealt with him pushing my buttons and having me run around in circles. everything was my fault. my mother was the same way. around about the age of 42 i got sick and tired of trying to please everyone else. i said forget this, i am not an emotional masochist. i no longer care what people say about me. i work hard, and i don't take crap from people any more. some people say i am mean, but there is a shirt i am going to buy that has written on it..."I am not mean....I am just too old to pretend to like you." that is where i stand now. i am not a narc, i care about and love my family and friends. i try not to hurt others and i try to give them understanding, but if i see they don't care about the way i feel, forget that! i am not running around in circles trying to please everyone anymore. people can call me cold, mean, hard hearted, but i don't care. i am now 48...i'm done. i love people and will do what i can to help others, but if i don't see them trying to help themselves, i am not going to stick my neck out for them any more.
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Hope you'redoing well Quinn. You're spot on as always. Your videos keep me going, always validates my experience. Spotting more and more narcs around me its unbelievable how frequent they are. Take care brother.
These are all FACTS !!!! It took me way too long to figure these things out 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ It was definitely a learning experience
My narcissist mom told me I'm neglecting my daughter .... She would know...lol please
Narcs love Attention
All I can do is laugh at all the comments😆😆😆😂😂😂It’s so hilarious but at the same time a dog on shame that we have actually all encountered the same spirit all across the globe from different people. I’m sure the one I was with is gonna try to research narcissism now because I keep blurting it out every time they start a fictious argument because they know I’m leaving them AGAIN and so they’ll start the switch and bate, dogging and lying, attacks and assaults and false accusations that I’m cheating! But now they know I know for sure what they are, I’m sure they’ll try to find out what exactly a narc is so they can flip the script and say I’m the narc and start using all the knowledge from the videos to try not to act like the narc they are. I hate I gave it away but it’s true and it will always be true! This is all so deep and I saw all these things very early on and I hate that I ignored all the flags it was flags everywhere!!!! Hanging off the roof, hanging from the window, sitting on the toilet in the sink! I mean everywhere I turned I was being warned! All the way from the turn off of them talking bad about their ex, to the immature disrespectful and abusive ways towards me when I didn’t deserve it all, the overreacting to situations, the lies, the selfishness, the hypocrisy and double mindedness, the professional victim playing, the blaming and twisting, the using my words and phrases l, the gas lighting, the projecting, the deflecting, the possessiveness, the immaturity, the lack of consideration, the hatefulness, the evilness, the spiteful mess, the cynicism, the judgmental/critical spirit of others, the deception of self, no self awareness, no real honest apologies, hard time ever apologizing and in two seconds will take it back by blaming you, the hard heartedness, the dishonorable spirit, jealous, envious, grudge holder, lack of motivation, no depth very very shallow, dependent upon their sexual abilities and/or their looks and material possessions, think their more than what they are, entitled, ignorant and the list can go on and on! It’s amazing the experience and the level of sickness I saw it’s mind blowing every time and you never get use to it! It’s unbelievable to watch and to recover from. I have a lot of work to do because it should of never happened! It’s just like the word says it’s like a sheep being led to their slaughter! You see them, yet, you keep going with them! You know this ain’t gone be good, yet you stick with it anyway! I have a lot of work to do. But...I can say I am no longer afraid. I kept being afraid that it would happen again. No sirrey Bob!!! I am FULLY confident that it won’t ever happen again!
Yes it's mind boggling for sure😳
Yes. Woot. Woot.
In coverts' case this awkwardness occurs very often and this seems to be the stablest clue. These two first characteristic may be deftly hidden by playing a persona of choice.For instance I came across a young man who was really convincing in playing a well -read, sophisticated person ready to tackle intellectual topics. Being really skilful at picking up bits and pieces from other people's comments and discussion he was able to create quite a credible looking image which turned out to be an illusion while more thoroughly explored.
Wish they would've left me alone. I much better off.
Look up this song.
This song (Loner) the lyrics
Khali uchis
I don't want to be your cigarette
I don't want to be your ashtray
I don't want to be your door mat
Don't want to be ignored
All o' sudden you're not into me
And maybe it's not deliberate
And I know you never asked me
I just gotta put it out there
I don't put myself out there
Usually I stay tucked away
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
And I let you in after all the persuasion
Mind games, manipulations
That's why I'd rather be a loner
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I don't even want to know ya
I don't want to be known
'Cause I'd rather be a loner
I'd much rather be alone
Baby it was nice to know ya
Packing up and leaving home
No I don't want to be your cigarette
Use me up then toss me, step on me
I don't want to be an option
Avoidin' interaction 'cause
I just want to get away
And maybe you got a full plate
Know I'm cookin' something better
But if you don't want me now
No boy I don't want you later
Don't try to come and eat with me
'Cause I was a loner until I met you
And I let you in after all the persuasion
Headaches and allegations
That's why I'd rather be a loner
Yeah I'd rather be alone
I don't even want to know ya
I don't want to be known
'Cause I'd rather be a loner
I'd much rather be alone
Baby it was nice to know ya
Packing up and leaving home
So on point with what I'm dealing with about my neighbor.She's loud obnoxious and can't wait till night comes to open her bedroom blinds and curtains wide open for my boyfriend or son is outside smoking for them to see her.Everything about them is attention seeking.They have no standards or respect for themselves
U helped me so much. 3 years narc free.
It is soooo sad they can't love. He really missing out on the best love
They are a child and can't be any better and are being themselves. No need for shame since this is their better. No need to explain. Just let them be.
This VIDEO IS ALL SUPER FACTS!!!!
You have their Number for sure!!!
They have no shame or Boundaries to say anything or do anything. Total wreckless
Quinn always bring us good content. Keep giving us knowledge
Absolutely absolutely correct omg!!!!!!
I agree with this because i went through all of this my ex-husband narc will embrass you in the store cussing the store clerk out, walking in the store with listening to old school music, talking about people, i remember going in the children place he was buying his half daughter a baby outfit the cashier was rung the items up the receipt got stuck and she had to replace he got agitate start going off calling her name i told him dont do that it not nice he kept going off i had to tell her please dont mind him she finish and hands his bag with him, he cuss my land lord out just because he put a board on the back of the door and my land lord said it was a fire hazard now i can't move back to the country to rent a house out because of my ex-husband narc he is very child like i knew it was a red flag but i had to start holding accountable for those things but got mad at me but i didnt care because you don't treat people trying to make a living crater to you. I hope the new supply better then me because she saw the red flag as soon as she started coming around and he cuss her out so she knows everything by now.
I love listening to you always Quinn. 😘 You have such a beautiful voice which is so calming to me...
Your intelligence on this subject is always so clarifying & brings peace to the soul. God Bless You Always!!!!!❤️😘❤️
Yet another excellent video
Missed your videos been awhile
When I see one I get so excited to listen💞💜💝
Great video!!!! I know this all now after two in half years.....but at first I thought it was just the “fun side” that I enjoyed.......but you are spot on!!
Thank you. Your absolutely right!!
I agree with this my ex-husband narc would be in the car with me and pull his private part out telling mommy know she want of see it while Im driving down the road I would tell him people can see you he say so what. He just did embrassing things in the store cuss the associate he big one playing music on the phone loud I'm groceries shopping in HEB, or Walmart didn't care at all we driving by his friends he would turn the radio blasting out so his homeboy could see him talking loud out the window telling them they can't be like him this is decade dealing with this behavior with a grown ass 57 years old man.
Spot on, on every thing
The inappropriateness came up but it was too late by then
Well said spot on 👍
Explains completely the sexual misconduct of a pensioner I dog walk with. I feel v ashamed & yet I believe he has finally learnt how to be a decent friend, then bang- when I'm ill, in a vulnerable mood (diagnosed CPTSD) & after wks & months of all of my spare time & efforts he does a whole phase of it again. There's nothing online about pensioners covertly coercing 30 something women who are alone in life with their dog. I ve been quite happy for over a decade being independent. Yet it's exactly 3yrs & I'm now tired of trying & ppl not understanding how scary it is when never mind monitor you or whatever. Police previously said he seems like a quiet pushover (he's got everybody gaslit great like I'm some sort of goldigger or mentally ill. Complex trauma isn't a mental illness.) Anyhow- just bcos I would square up if need be to someone my own age, doesn't mean I would or would want to hit the guy. What if I really hurt him accidentally or worse losing my temper. It's equally scary to notice your giving in as the persistence beats your resistance. It strikes me that I was raised by my lovely grandparents. It's obviously why I feel pity, guilt & even worry for him when I go NC. He has never raised a voice to me, he doesn't actually talk at all. Repeated jokes & doctor chat outdoors. That's IT. TY for this actual video. I can apply the situation EXACTLY into this stencil of subtle cues. Clarity finally. Any ideas what to do about the grandparent thing? A huge vulnerability that's being exploited. Funnily enough it DOES feel incestous, the trauma when I get home or rethink it. Any ideas anyone pls? Rural Scottish Highlands ❤️