I just don’t know who I am. I’m this happy person but then there’s me who is almost always there and I feel so much hatred and just ego and everything doesn’t feel real and I can’t take it. I just. I can’t.
Hi Abby, thank you so much for sharing how you feel. I would recommend trying to seek the help of a professional to help you feel better. I hope you feel better very soon. Kind regards, Dr Martina
@@isabella-ti4ns hi basically a lot of the symptoms i expressed were from severe depression they were not really things people talked about as much , and he said that my way of thinking is structured in a unique way so i should be doing good with talk therapy and it help :0
1. behavioral activation: choose constructive, engaging activities that may influence a more constructive, positive outlook 2. ask yourself if your habits are destructive... reduce or eliminate unhealthy habits. 3. reach out to talk about your experience 4. relaxing techniques such as mindfulness, mindfully walking, deep breathing 5. avoid triggers 6. be patient, accept your tendencies, don't judge yourself 7. help some one else 8. keep a mood diary (help with emotional awareness) 9. physical health (diet, exercise, sleep) mind and body are connected! apt for outdoor activities 10. talk therapy
Hm… interesting list. Especially point 5. „Avoid triggers“ - as in, just don’t leave the security of your own bedroom? Avoid any situation that you can’t be sure to be able to totally control? How can one avoid triggers?
I recently came to know about the symptoms of BPD and identified all of those symptoms were in me. However unknowingly I somehow overcame that by undergoing a specific process: However, I would suggest the below whoever is here for self help: 1) Do not worry if you have been diagnosed with BPD. You will be fine as I am today. 2) Identify exactly what triggers you to become vulnerable and when these BPD symptoms start to appear. avoid those trigger points and never ever show or disclose your trigger points to your partners, sometimes they can take upper hand. Better identify triggers and try to solve it by setting goals. 3) Engage yourself in any physical activity like gym, morning walk, dance , where the emotions will be channelled in a proper way. 4)Try to meditate, or even listen to calming videos available on the internet. 5) Spend more time in nature. Believe me or not none can heal you the way nature can. And nature will never betray you anyway. 6) Keep yourself away from phone atleast few hours everyday. Try to normalise not going to phone to check notification now and then. 7) Remember that at the end of the day its you who can help yourself the most. Love yourself the way none can. Believe in yourself more than anyone else. You are the best friend and will always remain your best friend.
About 2) one of my biggest triggers are perceived signal of abandonment, which i have disclosed to my now ex ( :( ) partner. Disclosing that fact made her doubt the relationship and actually break it off, so a part of me agrees with this since i dont want to be abandoned again (if i'm ever able to get another partner that is), but at the same time if i dont disclose this i feel like im being dishonest/manipulative which i dont want to be. So yeah.. i feel very conflicted about 2), and i have no clue how to handle it.
@@Nobody-hc1rw I can relate as I did the similar mistake. Before trusting someone and telling your weakness you need to be with that person for long period, you can only share if you find that person trustworthy and strong enough to handle your situation. Because you will see that any random person doesn’t have the patience and empathy to qualify as a partner in this case. They need to be good at heart and willing to help mentality , not an escapist one. However try to practice deep breathing techniques everyday for 5 mints at least. You will feel less anxious during troublesome situation. Good luck!
I just caused my fiancé to end things with me over a text because of these rude horrible things I said and yet I feel like I had no control over myself. It’s like I genuinely thought we were over and I had this incredible incredible pain and so I pushed her away and caused our destruction. Im finally accepting that I have this. It’s horrifying.
My marriage of 13 years is in danger because of me. I say so many hurtful things, and I don't mean any of it. I also feel like I can't help saying them, and it's horrifying.
@@dolliehiser2981 I lost my wonderful girlfriend of 18 years because of it.. She really loved me many years but eventually my madness made me unlovable... *BARRY* 😢
Tip number 3 is terrible for us because we wear out our we're out our support network and then people will draw back from us thus making us feel abandoned which is our largest fear
I had a really bad mental breakdown today enough for my parents to try and send me to the hospital. I tried to communicate how I was feeling mutilple times calmy and clearly. I increasingly got more upset and eventually I was told I was overreacting. I told my father to stop because I was becoming overwhelmed. He basically said I couldn't handle the truth while practically yelling at me. I left and went psycho. It got worse once they said they were taking me away. I begged them to stop and no one would look at me or listen to me. I felt so helpless.. I just don't know what to do. I'm terrified of getting therapy and not being understood. I don't know why I'm sharing this but I don't think it's ever been this bad before. I'm desperate to be understood..
It’s gonna get better you can trust me on that one. Therapy will help and there are people that want to listen and help without any judgement. Whoever you are I hear you and that must be so painful to experience. It’s going to be hard but you are more than able to do very hard things. Not being understood by your parents is incredibly painful but you only need yourself in the first place and then it will get better. Sending lots of love!!
I wish I could afford a private Psychologist!... I also wish I could jet off to some sunny place to recover....FLIP THE COIN....NHS for me and a cheap coach ticket to Cornwall, solo camping for 6 weeks...highly recommend the latter! Oh ! and the internet with people like Dr Martina sharing her knowledge...thanks for that....
I'm there for it ..just join my channel where I will help you for free of cost really ..it might be sounding weared but I was also a bpd patient ..I recover my self
I just lost the best thing that ever happened to me bc I don't know how to live with bpd. I tortured my fiancee with accusations and paranoia. I never knew I was like this until recently. I listen to teaching on line. But when it comes to put it into practice when needed I am unable to do it. Then I hate myself for hurting him and wish I could torture myself instead bc it's all my fault. It's like watching my horror movie of a life not being able to do anything about it.
That’s how I feel with my friends. I convince myself they are leaving me and in spite I try to passive-aggressively make them think that I don’t like them the same bc my stupid brain somehow thinks that will make them respect me and want to chase me. I feel so bad and guilty but when I am good at stoping myself I just feel so empty and hate myself
Not sure if it's genetic for me. I had a very traumatic childhood. I had to cut my dad down when he took his life. That and other stuff really took its toll on my mind
Experiences like that most likely will absolutely shape your outlook and tendencies! I hope you can find therapy (it can take several tries to find a good fit) to help you work through all that you have seen. I'm so sorry this happened. If CBT (talk therapy) doesn't work, I've heard DBT can fill in gaps. Best wishes!
BPD is "A disaster a day." Paradoxical, ("I hate you, I love you." "Go away. Don't go away.") You're coping skills are way too temporary. And frustrating. Have you truly dealt with bpd personally? Doesn't sound like it.
Hello Dr. Martina, I myself suffer with BPD and I've been in therapy for more than 1 and a half years. A thing I often struggle with is feeling negative feelings towards my boyfriend. I can be very afraid of intimacy, but also can feel dependent. I think I tend to be afraid of abandonment and then bad episodes happen, where my brain keeps screaming at me to leave the relationship and completely numbs me to his love. I'm not sure if these things are normal to happen and can be fixed, or if it means something else. It's very confusing and painful.
I have a Solution just induce lactation and have Adult Nursing Relationship with your bf just give it a try It will bring you close to whole new level.... Search more about it on Quora
Me too n I am tired of this tired of this feelings.... Lately I discovered I have BPD but I still don't know how to handle it?.. I do really need help but no one will do.... Even psychologists r not good here in my country m done
When try to make new friends i start talking real fast and tell them everthing about me. Most freak out and run away. Now days i do it beacuse running people off seems fun now.
Thank You So Much Dr Martina For Sharing this Video regarding BPD Sufferers, I Have BPD & I Really Need Support but I, m Not getting what I Need atm, but I, m Going to Help Myself & get the Help I Need Thank You.
Was just diagnosed. I have appointments set up to start the coping process but it's good to see professionals offering their knowledge so I can fill in the gaps between appointments
Thank you I recently discovered this is something that I’ve been battling for a very long time some of the healthier coping skills I’ve done range from working nonstop in the public ,improvisation, activities acting ,jogging,extreme couponing, and now writing poetry. Also making short films and volunteering .I can overdo things, and I’m starting to pull back in and not put so much into my work ethic and volunteering for other people, but trying to work toward my future goal and recently enrolled back in school, full-time to get my degree. Quit the show I was volunteering on for no pay and have been going to therapy for about two almost 2 years now on a weekly basis, and I find when depression comes into my mind. My therapist help me make a choice to only commit to two things because I was working myself to the point of exhaustion Doing good causes. I hope this can help at least even one person I was subjected to various types of abuse as a young child and abandon at different points by my mom coming of age and then my dad as a young child, and both introvert entered back into my life, but I figured I had different events and episodes of BPD when my mom died in 2021 and I’ve been struggling with it and continue therapy. It’s a relief to finally know what I have been dealing with.
my psychiatrist diagnosed me with generalized anxiety first. then bipolar. then she said that more and more symptoms are appearing after my antidepressants took effect (i got them for the GAD). like depersonalisation, derealization, and even some psychotic symptoms, like hearing voices, etc. they were likely there before too, but i just can't remember. so she told me that she thinks it's most likely that i also have bpd. and im glad to finally have a name for it all, but it doesn't take away from the fact that its so scary, and i cant really see a future for myself where i don't leave early, but i will keep trying
I just realized after over a dozen online quiz's I have it and I realize now I dont want to be a jerk and be distant then the center of attention I just want help
Mentalization & works Mindful walk are my favorites... They only work When i want them to i notied that!! It's all about my everyday lifeatyle amd interaction .
Avoid unhealthy coping mechanism- if I was able to consistently do this- especially in the moment- , I wouldn’t have the diagnosis . It’s like telling a heroine addict- just stop taking the drug. SMH
Well been a month like this … I feel like giving up I have bpd from 1 year now But last month is wired Im trying everything but nothing excite me anymore
I'm having a really hard time concentrating because of her accent. British, Latin, American, Canadian, Borat?? I'm losing it and I'd really like to learn from this video. My psychiatrist has diagnosed me recently and this has made me aware of a whole set of behaviors/ thoughts/ coping skills that I just attributed to myself being an absolute nightmare of a human. At 38 it's good to know this is identifiable and manageable!
Thank you so much. This video is the best & most informative video I've encountered in my search. Everyone else recommends drugs. Others title their video how to treat bpd but then dont mention a word about treatment only advertising their books or websites. (which Im sure those are helpful if one has money)
1.behavioural activation. Release the emotional turmoil thro activities that are pleasurable and healthy like going for a walk, doing yoga, dancing etc. 2.avoid unhealthy coping mechanism like binge drinking, Eating, self harming behaviour. 3.talk to people. 4.learn relaxing techniques and mindfulness.
try to see what is the main cause. is it the people themselves? an idividual? the behavior of them or some things they do? they way they talk to you? try to analyze it and discuss it with em just, mention them to take if slow n soft. this is a tip from a bpd person
How can you tell others you have bpd when there is a lot of stigma attached. I have 3 different jobs. One balance the other. I don't really look to professionals for help. I don't find they help.
I don't know if I should say "I used to" harm myself but I feel like I have changed a bit I've learned to put on a mask... to fool the people close I feel like I'm way far from being saved... I can hurt myself anytime.
This video was so helpful!Thank u💙I think ill try the one where u try doing at least one good/happy activity a dy.I subscribed!I hope u keep making more coping skill related ones! 🙂
It help you cope, but nothing productive gets done and you slowly get disillusioned and are just smoking because that what you always do. That's my experience at least, hope it works for you
Funny how a preacher might say, "you need a better relationship with God," a politician could say, "vote for me, life will be better," and a therapist, will always say, "you need therapy," and on and on. Didn't Socrates say, "know thyself," and "heal thyself"?
@@theinternationalpsychology9838 You may be "correct as usual, King Friday". My greatest complaint, if this is the correct word, concerning therapy is that for those of us without health insurance or deep, deep pockets can not afford it. As a former wage earner, one hour of therapy used to cost, in addition to paying my medical provider, because of travel time to and fro, a minimum of three hours of wages and benefits, which, depending on where I worked, was anywhere between $150 and $450. I am not sure that anyone budgets for mental illness when he or she choses a career be it trade or profession. I am glad that you responded; however, it feels like a cookie cutter reply; that is, it is the only thing you could say at this juncture. Beyond that one statement, which is mildly offensive to me, Dr. Paglia's list IS pretty good. Send me an address, and I'll send a single page list of my many life grievances, which include death at the hands of my father and consequential resuscitation, toxic poisonings, heat strokes and numerous TBI's among many. I know that all lives are complicated, but comparatively speaking, my life seems to be a bit more so. I choose not to devolve or revolve, but rather to evolve, albeit slowly. Thank you for your response. I do appreciate it. Con mis abrazos y besos a todos.
@@stevenzerbach6447 you may wish to consider looking for a local charity or a public service etc if you do not wish/are unable to self fund therapy on a private basis. There are also very affordable options out there - online therapy and private therapists who offer reduced rates for some clients.
I reach out to my only support network "Jack Daniels" or when Jack is not available "Johnny Walker". They are the only friends I have and they always help soothe me. Pschobabel bullshit does nothing to help
All things that I don't feel remotely close to doing when I'm in the full throws of bpd. I can manage the imagery technique. But the thing is, the pain Is still there. It might help me put the pain away for a little while but it's still there.
Like I wanna change and get better but I've lacked support all my life including professional (yes I've spent 10 years seeking it so don't even go there) to a point where I have no motivation to do anything. I can't be fucked anymore. I got no energy to fight. I'm so suicidal it's not even funny in fact I been thinking of just going off grid completely and ending it. I'm too stubborn, pessimistic and impatient now.
I just don’t know who I am. I’m this happy person but then there’s me who is almost always there and I feel so much hatred and just ego and everything doesn’t feel real and I can’t take it. I just. I can’t.
This is relatable. You’re not alone
Hi Abby, thank you so much for sharing how you feel. I would recommend trying to seek the help of a professional to help you feel better. I hope you feel better very soon. Kind regards, Dr Martina
@@theinternationalpsychology9838 i’ve gone recently and they said i have really bad symptoms of depression and anger probelems 😳
@@abbyferrer7415 hi Abby, how old are you? That may interfere in your diagnosis. Hope u know you're not alone tho!
@@isabella-ti4ns hi basically a lot of the symptoms i expressed were from severe depression they were not really things people talked about as much , and he said that my way of thinking is structured in a unique way so i should be doing good with talk therapy and it help :0
1. behavioral activation: choose constructive, engaging activities that may influence a more constructive, positive outlook
2. ask yourself if your habits are destructive... reduce or eliminate unhealthy habits.
3. reach out to talk about your experience
4. relaxing techniques such as mindfulness, mindfully walking, deep breathing
5. avoid triggers
6. be patient, accept your tendencies, don't judge yourself
7. help some one else
8. keep a mood diary (help with emotional awareness)
9. physical health (diet, exercise, sleep) mind and body are connected! apt for outdoor activities
10. talk therapy
Thank you! Was able to take a snap shot on my phone.
Thank you
You are so general. This is something I could talk about and you are a doctor and everything is easier said than done
Thank you ❤❤❤
Hm… interesting list. Especially point 5. „Avoid triggers“ - as in, just don’t leave the security of your own bedroom? Avoid any situation that you can’t be sure to be able to totally control? How can one avoid triggers?
I recently came to know about the symptoms of BPD and identified all of those symptoms were in me. However unknowingly I somehow overcame that by undergoing a specific process: However, I would suggest the below whoever is here for self help:
1) Do not worry if you have been diagnosed with BPD. You will be fine as I am today.
2) Identify exactly what triggers you to become vulnerable and when these BPD symptoms start to appear. avoid those trigger points and never ever show or disclose your trigger points to your partners, sometimes they can take upper hand. Better identify triggers and try to solve it by setting goals.
3) Engage yourself in any physical activity like gym, morning walk, dance , where the emotions will be channelled in a proper way.
4)Try to meditate, or even listen to calming videos available on the internet.
5) Spend more time in nature. Believe me or not none can heal you the way nature can. And nature will never betray you anyway.
6) Keep yourself away from phone atleast few hours everyday. Try to normalise not going to phone to check notification now and then.
7)
Remember that at the end of the day its you who can help yourself the most. Love yourself the way none can. Believe in yourself more than anyone else. You are the best friend and will always remain your best friend.
Thank you! 😊
Thank you for this. ❤
This is such simple and great advice. Thank you for sharing!
About 2) one of my biggest triggers are perceived signal of abandonment, which i have disclosed to my now ex ( :( ) partner. Disclosing that fact made her doubt the relationship and actually break it off, so a part of me agrees with this since i dont want to be abandoned again (if i'm ever able to get another partner that is), but at the same time if i dont disclose this i feel like im being dishonest/manipulative which i dont want to be.
So yeah.. i feel very conflicted about 2), and i have no clue how to handle it.
@@Nobody-hc1rw I can relate as I did the similar mistake. Before trusting someone and telling your weakness you need to be with that person for long period, you can only share if you find that person trustworthy and strong enough to handle your situation. Because you will see that any random person doesn’t have the patience and empathy to qualify as a partner in this case. They need to be good at heart and willing to help mentality , not an escapist one.
However try to practice deep breathing techniques everyday for 5 mints at least. You will feel less anxious during troublesome situation. Good luck!
I just caused my fiancé to end things with me over a text because of these rude horrible things I said and yet I feel like I had no control over myself. It’s like I genuinely thought we were over and I had this incredible incredible pain and so I pushed her away and caused our destruction. Im finally accepting that I have this. It’s horrifying.
I'm really sorry that happened. Learn as much as you can about this, it will help make it feel less scary
My marriage of 13 years is in danger because of me. I say so many hurtful things, and I don't mean any of it. I also feel like I can't help saying them, and it's horrifying.
@@dolliehiser2981 I lost my wonderful girlfriend of 18 years because of it.. She really loved me many years but eventually my madness made me unlovable...
*BARRY* 😢
Tip number 3 is terrible for us because we wear out our we're out our support network and then people will draw back from us thus making us feel abandoned which is our largest fear
I feel that in my bones I always exhaust everyone I come into contact with
I have only my mom and my therapist to rely on 😢
I had a really bad mental breakdown today enough for my parents to try and send me to the hospital. I tried to communicate how I was feeling mutilple times calmy and clearly. I increasingly got more upset and eventually I was told I was overreacting. I told my father to stop because I was becoming overwhelmed. He basically said I couldn't handle the truth while practically yelling at me. I left and went psycho. It got worse once they said they were taking me away. I begged them to stop and no one would look at me or listen to me. I felt so helpless.. I just don't know what to do. I'm terrified of getting therapy and not being understood. I don't know why I'm sharing this but I don't think it's ever been this bad before. I'm desperate to be understood..
You need to try you can't live like this
In the same boat. Please go for therapy, it'll decrease your suffering and pain hopefully
It’s gonna get better you can trust me on that one. Therapy will help and there are people that want to listen and help without any judgement. Whoever you are I hear you and that must be so painful to experience. It’s going to be hard but you are more than able to do very hard things. Not being understood by your parents is incredibly painful but you only need yourself in the first place and then it will get better. Sending lots of love!!
@@lmy222 Ive recently been making steps towards therapy. Your kind words give me some strength so I thank you
Are you okay now????
I wish I could afford a private Psychologist!... I also wish I could jet off to some sunny place to recover....FLIP THE COIN....NHS for me and a cheap coach ticket to Cornwall, solo camping for 6 weeks...highly recommend the latter! Oh ! and the internet with people like Dr Martina sharing her knowledge...thanks for that....
I'm there for it ..just join my channel where I will help you for free of cost really ..it might be sounding weared but I was also a bpd patient ..I recover my self
I just lost the best thing that ever happened to me bc I don't know how to live with bpd. I tortured my fiancee with accusations and paranoia. I never knew I was like this until recently. I listen to teaching on line. But when it comes to put it into practice when needed I am unable to do it. Then I hate myself for hurting him and wish I could torture myself instead bc it's all my fault. It's like watching my horror movie of a life not being able to do anything about it.
I understand completely. Sending you a big hug 💞
That’s how I feel with my friends. I convince myself they are leaving me and in spite I try to passive-aggressively make them think that I don’t like them the same bc my stupid brain somehow thinks that will make them respect me and want to chase me. I feel so bad and guilty but when I am good at stoping myself I just feel so empty and hate myself
This is the exact situation I’m in now :( I’m sorry you went through it. I know how you feel and hope you have recovered!
❤
Not sure if it's genetic for me. I had a very traumatic childhood. I had to cut my dad down when he took his life. That and other stuff really took its toll on my mind
Experiences like that most likely will absolutely shape your outlook and tendencies! I hope you can find therapy (it can take several tries to find a good fit) to help you work through all that you have seen. I'm so sorry this happened. If CBT (talk therapy) doesn't work, I've heard DBT can fill in gaps. Best wishes!
I already feel better after listening to you ❤
BPD is "A disaster a day."
Paradoxical, ("I hate you, I love you." "Go away. Don't go away.") You're coping skills are way too temporary. And frustrating. Have you truly dealt with bpd personally? Doesn't sound like it.
Exactly
Sleeping through the moment helps me most
Thank you for taking the time to make this ❤️
Hello Dr. Martina, I myself suffer with BPD and I've been in therapy for more than 1 and a half years. A thing I often struggle with is feeling negative feelings towards my boyfriend. I can be very afraid of intimacy, but also can feel dependent. I think I tend to be afraid of abandonment and then bad episodes happen, where my brain keeps screaming at me to leave the relationship and completely numbs me to his love. I'm not sure if these things are normal to happen and can be fixed, or if it means something else. It's very confusing and painful.
I have a Solution
just induce lactation and have Adult Nursing Relationship with your bf
just give it a try
It will bring you close to whole new level....
Search more about it on Quora
@@chandrasekar3635 huh, never heard of that before. I'll check it out
Wait a minute, me too
Me too n I am tired of this tired of this feelings.... Lately I discovered I have BPD but I still don't know how to handle it?.. I do really need help but no one will do.... Even psychologists r not good here in my country m done
I can relate to you on the relationship part. How are you doing?
When try to make new friends i start talking real fast and tell them everthing about me. Most freak out and run away. Now days i do it beacuse running people off seems fun now.
I have been struggling a lot for a few days to get out of this situation. Thank you ❤️
Thank You So Much Dr Martina For Sharing this Video regarding BPD Sufferers, I Have BPD & I Really Need Support but I, m Not getting what I Need atm, but I, m Going to Help Myself & get the Help I Need Thank You.
Was just diagnosed. I have appointments set up to start the coping process but it's good to see professionals offering their knowledge so I can fill in the gaps between appointments
Thank you I recently discovered this is something that I’ve been battling for a very long time some of the healthier coping skills I’ve done range from working nonstop in the public ,improvisation, activities acting ,jogging,extreme couponing, and now writing poetry. Also making short films and volunteering .I can overdo things, and I’m starting to pull back in and not put so much into my work ethic and volunteering for other people, but trying to work toward my future goal and recently enrolled back in school, full-time to get my degree.
Quit the show I was volunteering on for no pay and have been going to therapy for about two almost 2 years now on a weekly basis, and I find when depression comes into my mind. My therapist help me make a choice to only commit to two things because I was working myself to the point of exhaustion Doing good causes. I hope this can help at least even one person I was subjected to various types of abuse as a young child and abandon at different points by my mom coming of age and then my dad as a young child, and both introvert entered back into my life, but I figured I had different events and episodes of BPD when my mom died in 2021 and I’ve been struggling with it and continue therapy. It’s a relief to finally know what I have been dealing with.
My sister told me no one in my family likes me. It almost killed me. I knew she was projecting her own hate on to me but those words nearly killed me!
my psychiatrist diagnosed me with generalized anxiety first. then bipolar. then she said that more and more symptoms are appearing after my antidepressants took effect (i got them for the GAD). like depersonalisation, derealization, and even some psychotic symptoms, like hearing voices, etc. they were likely there before too, but i just can't remember. so she told me that she thinks it's most likely that i also have bpd. and im glad to finally have a name for it all, but it doesn't take away from the fact that its so scary, and i cant really see a future for myself where i don't leave early, but i will keep trying
I just realized after over a dozen online quiz's I have it and I realize now I dont want to be a jerk and be distant then the center of attention I just want help
What support network lol everyone is tired of dealing with me
U got this Jole
Mentalization & works Mindful walk are my favorites... They only work When i want them to i notied that!! It's all about my everyday lifeatyle amd interaction .
@@og-bobbytyson8242 same um bored with life not goin off my self jus done
Avoid unhealthy coping mechanism- if I was able to consistently do this- especially in the moment- , I wouldn’t have the diagnosis . It’s like telling a heroine addict- just stop taking the drug. SMH
This was really helpful thank you
I struggle massively on a daily basis and i don't know how long i can keep fighting
play chess I find it really helpful to release emotions.
@@wush7985 i don't know how to play chess or anybody who plays the game
Well been a month like this …
I feel like giving up
I have bpd from 1 year now
But last month is wired
Im trying everything but nothing excite me anymore
Thank you, this video was very helpful for me. 🙏🏼❤️
I'm having a really hard time concentrating because of her accent. British, Latin, American, Canadian, Borat?? I'm losing it and I'd really like to learn from this video. My psychiatrist has diagnosed me recently and this has made me aware of a whole set of behaviors/ thoughts/ coping skills that I just attributed to myself being an absolute nightmare of a human. At 38 it's good to know this is identifiable and manageable!
Thank you
Thank you so much. This video is the best & most informative video I've encountered in my search. Everyone else recommends drugs. Others title their video how to treat bpd but then dont mention a word about treatment only advertising their books or websites. (which Im sure those are helpful if one has money)
1.behavioural activation. Release the emotional turmoil thro activities that are pleasurable and healthy like going for a walk, doing yoga, dancing etc.
2.avoid unhealthy coping mechanism like binge drinking, Eating, self harming behaviour.
3.talk to people.
4.learn relaxing techniques and mindfulness.
What if the trigger is people?? Like meeting individuals or interacting?
try to see what is the main cause. is it the people themselves? an idividual? the behavior of them or some things they do? they way they talk to you? try to analyze it and discuss it with em just, mention them to take if slow n soft.
this is a tip from a bpd person
The trigger is narcisisstic abuse.
@@NarcismeOverleven the root cause and one of many triggers
imagine having a support network
Thanks for the tips ☺️
How can you tell others you have bpd when there is a lot of stigma attached. I have 3 different jobs. One balance the other.
I don't really look to professionals for help. I don't find they help.
Thank you Doc💪🏾
Thank you for all these tips
Thank you so much for this helpful video
You are very welcome!
Thank you so much I will try and use these tips and see how it gose
I don't know if I should say "I used to" harm myself but I feel like I have changed a bit I've learned to put on a mask... to fool the people close I feel like I'm way far from being saved... I can hurt myself anytime.
I hope you keep learning things you need to to help. Hugs. 💛
Thank you this was useful ❤️
This video was so helpful!Thank u💙I think ill try the one where u try doing at least one good/happy activity a dy.I subscribed!I hope u keep making more coping skill related ones! 🙂
My therapist told all of these to do but why can't I get rid of it,,, I don't know,,, it's hard
Thank you so much
My partner has BPD I need to help her to help every one,its really difficult.
@Vex8 Thank you so much for taking the time out to reply with your advice I really do appreciate the kindness I will definitely take this advice.
What do I do if I don't have a network. I shut out ones who stress me out. That in a regular person would be the network.
Thank you so much for this
Thank you.
When I was six years old my stepmother left me in a doorway with a note saying not wanted
Dont tell people you have BPD especially medical professionals as they will run a mile
I’m on a waiting list for treatment thanks for this
Honestly same this video was so helpful
No support network.
Appreciate 💐
Smoking weed seems to be my go too
this is what im afraid that i will end up like
I quit after smoking for 10+ years, I have less fitts of anger, quitting helped me. Are you smoking CBD strains primarily?
Then u have an apt name
It help you cope, but nothing productive gets done and you slowly get disillusioned and are just smoking because that what you always do. That's my experience at least, hope it works for you
Take up some sport like running. You'll be distracted from your anger/sadness. Endorphins get released and you'll be happier afterwards.
Why is my comments being removed??
I was diagnosed back in 2018, the whole Amber Heard trial has made me panic and augment my care of my behaviors.
This lady has an unusual voice
Funny how a preacher might say, "you need a better relationship with God," a politician could say, "vote for me, life will be better," and a therapist, will always say, "you need therapy," and on and on. Didn't Socrates say, "know thyself," and "heal thyself"?
Hi Steven, it’s always a client’s choice if they want to engage in psychological therapy to address BPD.
@@theinternationalpsychology9838 You may be "correct as usual, King Friday". My greatest complaint, if this is the correct word, concerning therapy is that for those of us without health insurance or deep, deep pockets can not afford it. As a former wage earner, one hour of therapy used to cost, in addition to paying my medical provider, because of travel time to and fro, a minimum of three hours of wages and benefits, which, depending on where I worked, was anywhere between $150 and $450. I am not sure that anyone budgets for mental illness when he or she choses a career be it trade or profession.
I am glad that you responded; however, it feels like a cookie cutter reply; that is, it is the only thing you could say at this juncture. Beyond that one statement, which is mildly offensive to me, Dr. Paglia's list IS pretty good.
Send me an address, and I'll send a single page list of my many life grievances, which include death at the hands of my father and consequential resuscitation, toxic poisonings, heat strokes and numerous TBI's among many. I know that all lives are complicated, but comparatively speaking, my life seems to be a bit more so. I choose not to devolve or revolve, but rather to evolve, albeit slowly.
Thank you for your response. I do appreciate it. Con mis abrazos y besos a todos.
@@stevenzerbach6447 you may wish to consider looking for a local charity or a public service etc if you do not wish/are unable to self fund therapy on a private basis. There are also very affordable options out there - online therapy and private therapists who offer reduced rates for some clients.
@@theinternationalpsychology9838 Thank you for your suggestions.
I reach out to my only support network "Jack Daniels" or when Jack is not available "Johnny Walker". They are the only friends I have and they always help soothe me. Pschobabel bullshit does nothing to help
take a walk, dance, or take a walk in nature. the answer to BPD episodes! smh.
All things that I don't feel remotely close to doing when I'm in the full throws of bpd. I can manage the imagery technique. But the thing is, the pain Is still there. It might help me put the pain away for a little while but it's still there.
Sports e.g. running can help to distract and afterwards one feels too exhausted to be angry and endorphins are released and make you feel happier.
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Am I the only one whos hearing a British accent come out? it kept throwing me for a loop all video 🤣
You are correct. I have listened again to try and work out the regional influence. The location in the description is London
Watch this at 2x speed... it's like she doesn't realize who she's making this video for.
I hate myself
I love you
I am tired from someone have this
Reduce as much as you can what you can't avoid..... but if I could reduce it wouldn't I be able to avoid it?
Such a bad video!
Like I wanna change and get better but I've lacked support all my life including professional (yes I've spent 10 years seeking it so don't even go there) to a point where I have no motivation to do anything. I can't be fucked anymore. I got no energy to fight. I'm so suicidal it's not even funny in fact I been thinking of just going off grid completely and ending it. I'm too stubborn, pessimistic and impatient now.
Thank you!