How To Deal With Loneliness
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- Is a feeling of loneliness tied to being incomplete without a partner? Delving into the idea that it is unseemly for a woman to be alone, Kim suggests that it is the questioner's belief in this standard that is causing her unhappiness. Kim gently urges the woman to confront this deeply held belief, fully experience her loneliness without resistance, and discover her own innate internal completeness.
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Eckhart Tolle is widely recognized as one of the most original and inspiring spiritual teachers of our time. He travels and teaches throughout the world.
Eckhart is not aligned with any particular religion or tradition, but excludes none. His profound yet simple and practical teachings have helped thousands of people find inner peace, healing and greater fulfillment in their lives. At the core of his teachings lies the transformation of individual and collective human consciousness - a global spiritual awakening.
Eckhart Tolle is the author of The Power of Now, a #1 New York Times Bestseller, which has been translated into 32 languages and become one of the most influential spiritual books of our time.
In his most recent book, A New Earth, he shows how transcending our ego-based state of consciousness is not only essential to personal happiness, but also the key to ending conflict and suffering throughout the world.
When Im feeling lonely and want to get back to my ex. i just played kim Eng and Eckhart teachings ... Thank you both 💖
“I’m married to the consciousness within myself” MIC DROP
lol ❤
I was like 👏👏👏
Lol😅
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I wish she could delve into THIS
So many people can’t admit that they are unhappy.
Loneliness is not that you’re yearning for someone outside of yourself; it’s because you are yearning for YOUR SELF. Now, don’t read this sentence and then think about it; instead let it enter within your heart and blossom.
SighDown ⭐️💚⭐️
I never thought of this, true for me.
I believe there's a difference between 'thinking about it' and trying to analyze or rationalize it. Do the First, not the 2nd or 3rd
Wow
Personally I don’t lecture for others.... if someone tells their feeling about I like to listen and comfort them ....if the one in pain is me I like to listen to her and remember
I feel the pain in her eyes. Bless her for having the courage to speak up!
Somewhere in Eckart presentations he said, it's the desire from our own mind.
Agreed. Saw that.
I don't see the pain. Maybe it's your pain you're projecting. No judgment, just maybe?🤔💗
MH S It makes sense. We are each other’s mirrors. I also see pain in her energy. Propbably coz this pain is also in me.
But she didn’t have the courage to say she is unhappy she was obviously but was saying I m not
the most beautiful couple is:
two independent people, who loves themselves, are happy without a person, but enjoy s time with the partner.
Yepp.
If I could find her
Exactly!
Absolutely yes!
Pleasent wish
I feel like I've evolved past the need for a romantic partner. I left the dating world two years ago and haven't felt the need to return to it, or even just meet someone organically. This messes with people's heads so I don't mention it anymore... people often feel threatened by someone who is alone, yet content and fully complete. I love being alone. I don't know why, but I love it. 💗
I was the same for about four years and now would like to meet someone, Marsha Alison. It wasn't like what the speaker her references, I really didn't want a partner, so if one had emerged, I would have sent him away. I once annoyed the husbands at a dinner party when I spoke about how much I loved being alone. They couldn't believe I was happy. I don't know why people don't get that this is possible and can be perfect. I am still satisfied but would enjoy having a companion.
Omg I am going through this right now. I assumed that after a year of designated "alone" time (which came after 2 years of simply recovering from a traumatic breakup), I would feel a natural motivation to return to dating, but I don't think that's going to happen... much to what will be my mother's chagrin lol
Omandita4, dating seems like a chore because the odds are against anyone being "the one." I believe that these things can and sometimes do happen organically if we are expecting them or not. I am hoping.
The only person who can make you happy is YOU. It is very dangerous to rely on others for validation as if they change or leave you it will be very difficult to cope. Whether in a relationship or not, learn to know and love yourself. Teach your children this 💕
@@gillianm9367 it does seem true that one is the most in charge of their own happiness.
I love how honest Kim is about needing space in a relationship. Love relationships have been so overly romantized to the point where it seems to be symbiotic. This is to my mind why so many ppl nowwdays have committment issues....becaus they think they have to erase themselves. The best relationship is where everyone gets the space they nees without having to feel bad about it.
Well said. Yes
I dropped the need to be with a woman a year and a half ago. Next month I celebrate my 1 year anniversary with the woman of my dreams. In my experience what she described is 100% true
Gives me hope
@@giovannifabrik5003 3 years together now!
@@JoLaureys thank you for sharing this!
@@GillianMulholland getting married this summer 😄
This is probably the second video that I watched of Kim Eng and I seem to get everything she has to say in a very big way. I see a counselor, psychotherapist, psychic, and a good friend in the way she answers questions. What a gift to see right through a person’s heart and offer advice. Bless you Kim.👼
This is such great advice. If only people got this the divorce rate would drop as people wouldn’t choose a partner from loneliness but from a safe happy place. Interdependent relationships are the healthiest. Not co-dependant. We come into this world alone and leave alone so be happy alone. Make that connection with your inner being and the rest falls into place 😊
Lisa Marie i got divorced when I was 27 and I pretty much have been single since then. I turned 40 four days ago, and I don’t have family of my own. I used to wonder why I’m in this situation and was blaming myself for not being able and also ashamed for not having a partner. But at the same time I’ve known that I won’t have that until I’m in peace with myself and find happiness within me. I’ve been desperately seeking for years, and have been wondering in darkness for a long time with no answers. But since half year ago, things has been revealed to me and i i know where to seek and I know the tools. I think that when I am in peace with myself and become the one I’m meant to be, the right person will show up. Somehow God will introduce that person to me. But most important I’ll be happy and have a meaningful life even without a partner.
I think you meant to write "INDEPENDENT relationships are the healthiest."
Golden... Thanks. I need the patience.
No, I think she meant interdependent; next level.
M Munroe interdependent not independent x
Life is not about having it all, otherwise you suffer and can’t appreciate anything 🌹
"Look at why you just ran away."
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I think I ran away because I was looking for myself and didn't know it at that time...
@@lilianamorice7846 wait, were you there?
@@shubhamraj25 Was I where?
@@lilianamorice7846 I thought you were the women in the video
@@shubhamraj25 😂😂😂
Intimacy is a human need. Saying that you and your spouse enjoy living in separate quarters and enjoy spending lots of time alone, doesn’t translate for people who are experiencing constant loneliness. It would be like telling someone who is starving that you enjoy not eating between meals
WORD! Teach!!!
If eckhart tolle would speak he would say: when you feel loneliness, you feel a lacking and a need for more. A need for the the ego personality to feel whole with another person. But a lacking and needing something is there when toughts arise in your mind. Dont resist them but observe your toughts. Be present and be in the now. Namaste
Jajaja thank you eckart namaste♡
That is a dismissive comment and completely rude and very typical of a male chauvinist attitude. Why can’t you accept all that Kim said? It was perfect.
I don't agree with Wotiluv. Man or woman it doesn't matter, what Divero said resonates better with me.
Absolutely!
Seems you listen to ekhart a lot. You have responded so well.
We are conditioned to think we need someone, its just a state of thinking but you need to find that out for yourself. No one can give us what we need to give ourselves❤🙏
Can we please stop looking at Kim as a „substitute teacher“? She is her own entity, she brings her own flavor into the mix. She isn’t here to replace or rival with Eckhart. See it as peppermint and chamomile tea. Both help your tummy, but their taste is entirely different. No need to compare.
Thanks. I concur strongly xxx
Yes please and thank you!!
Thank you Moonshadow Garden
Way to work on your judgement, Mister! You see a video and project your opinion onto people you don´t know, "waste" your time on a comment about something you don´t like instead of clicking onto THE OTHER THOUSANDS of Eckhart videos available. She is on the thumbnail! It´s not like you we´re lured into believing it should have been him...
Daniel Eder ASMR Italiano Italian Still you waist your time with me on your high horse. Merry Christmas!
We live in a ‘Coupled world’ I became widowed six years ago. It’s difficult to constantly be walking into social gatherings alone, seeing couples all around you. Also 80% of the time if your other friends are couples they won’t invite you to social gatherings they are having at their house or if they’re meeting at restaurants because they know you will show up by yourself. And being a single woman you become a threat to the other women that are paired up that do not have a lot of self-confidence about their own relationships. Believe it or not ....it’s in your face a lot when you go out into a social setting. I’ve been doing it for six years. You have to be strong and feel whole like she’s saying to keep putting yourself out there. It’s not easy.
Justine...I've been widowed for 6 years too and everything you wrote is accurate. But I do not miss the question, "What's for dinner?" Lol
JG..you sound like a sensitive and fun man. May we all get through "whatever" this is without going nuts.
J G I agree . And I also find that they’re throwing all of their time into their grandkids.
Peggy Harris that’s so true! Lol
So true - we can wallow in that or think, well, I don't really need to be with my friends when they bring along their (sometimes!) not so interesting/engaging partners. I like being able to talk to my friends. Being with couples can feel 'clunky'. It is what it is. I don't take offence anymore. I feel I have to 'act' when I am in a group of couples as very often I am not as familiar with their partners, so conversation can be stilted. It depends on my mood! Ha! No ones fault .
Justine Szot I too lost my husband seven years ago. The first couple of years, I felt like I needed to find someone else...and I tried but it felt “off.” Instead, I started looking within myself and discovered a passion I had forgotten about since childhood. It was horses. I got involved with horses for many years and had absolutely no desire to be in a relationship. It grounded me and totally fulfilled me. I have since moved on from that and I’m pursuing new passions that have nothing to do with finding a partner. I go to many social events, where there are couples but also many other singles. Frankly, I really don’t ever notice it because it really doesn’t matter to me. Whether someone else is with a partner or not has no impact on me. I feel like if that is coming up for you and it seems to be all around you, then somehow you are drawing this awareness in for a reason. I actually have had times in my where I felt like what you’re describing and felt like the third wheel. But, when you truly are able to let that go, you won’t experience it anymore. I do think that sometimes we have a tendency to look for other people to fill a void, when the answer is possibly in a completely different place. And the only way to find that answer is to look within. Just my two cents and I wish you well!
Loneliness is a frequency and just like every other frequency that you put out to the world you get back to you. So until you become aware of that feeling you will be stuck admitting that frequency to the world. if you become aware of this feeling of loneliness you can then move on to accepting this feeling. A powerful thing to do is to just lay down and feel the emotion fully no matter how much it sucks don't run, don't wish it was different, don't ask why this is happening to you. See it for what it is and shine the light of your presence on the situation. Once you reach that stage your frequency that you admit will be of higher vibration and then you will attract people and circumstances that match that vibration. Once you find the love within yourself it can shine through into the world and match with someone else's. Edit: thanks for the responses! I have more stuff that will help on my channel check it out♥️
Sumbee loneliness only exists in the mind.
Sumbee Thank you for your comment.☺I never saw it that way. And I really learned something from what you wrote. So ya.... thank you and much appreciation.🖒🌻🌻🌻
@@ianaustin5541 oh wow, I was not expecting that! I'm glad to help. I explain Eckhart's wisdom on my channel in a way that is different and perhaps helpful to my viewers. Take a look!
-Sumbee
@@Sumbee Oh ok, I'm gonna go check it out. Thank you☺
I wonder: when you truly find love within yourself, does this mean there is no desire anymore to connect with other people? Friendships or relationships
Standing independently is our True Nature.
A real woman giving a real teaching- priceless!
Independently doesnt mean alone... It means that you are not in need.... Not much people having selfconfidance, so we dont beleive that we can have...
I don’t feel incomplete, I do want a man in my life for the sharing, the growing and physical aspect of being with him. I feel happy. Wanting to have this only for an enhanced experience does not mean it is because of a need or belief.
The woman who asked the question was right that this is a question all people would like to ask, that’s why the others laughed.
Fill your emptiness from within. Quit looking to others to make you whole. Loneliness is a state of mind.
@J G No, you only cover it up.
c fedyszyn - If it isn't about completeness, why is there so much emptiness when a relationship ends?
This. Yes, and we are human, and therefore social by nature. Yes, loneliness is a state of mind, but when you're alone and you don't want to be it manifests as a real physical manifestation that can loop itself into a deep depression if you're not careful.
Black Bird Hollow - "Loneliness is a state of mind." -- Correct... But just because it's a state of mind doesn't mean it's illegitimate -- it's perfectly natural and a sign of a deficiency. It would be comparable to say:
"Fill your stomach from within. Quit looking to food to sustain you. Hunger is a state of the body." ... Correct... It's natural, that's why we need to eat.
OK ? so how ?
I know why Eckhart chose a woman like her , you both are beautiful spirits , I love you two so much ❤️❤️
That is so incredibly wise. Being completely independent is SO hard for me.
Since I was a child I needed my space, me-time, most of my life people judged me for not being "normal". Thank you for clarifying. I can't see myself living with a man in the traditional ways society taught us to be "normal". I feel empowered to stay true to my needs, connection with source, my ultimate love partner. Thanks🙏
She's right. That loneliness is your teacher. And if you avoid being lonely you're abandoning yourself. I went into the loneliness and I saw that I didn't know myself at all and that's why I felt lonely. I'm still alone and I never feel lonely anymore. If I'm with other people and they can't meet me where I am. I can accept it because I am there with me and when they can be there with me I will be there.
Beautiful ❤
I am absolutely blown away by the wisdom of Kim Eng, here I’ve been going about this all wrong! I’m about to lay all this down, because I truly am happy alone! She made me realize so much! I will be a willing student because at 64, I am still learning and hope to always be!
Thank you Kim. Also for the honesty in not putting yourself and Eckhart on a "spiritual pedastal" This shows true wisdom. You aren't ignoring our human nature whilst pointing to the Divine within us that reveals itself more and more when we acknowledge and accept ourself. We know our deeper self is beyond thought and belief. You have helped me today and many people not just women. It made me cry as I felt your love and empathy. I love Eckhart and now I see why he loves you. Blessings to you both and to everyone on here who at times feels frustrated by their seeking to understand who they truly are at the deepest level because the mind or belief gets confused for who we are. It's OK to be human but be the Presence we are in our human ups and downs. Ups and downs are essential to experiencing in this world. There's no day recognized without night. 💗
Kim has a kind of bluntness that Exkhart doesn't, that really complements his teaching. I like to listen to one, then the other, like a constrast bath kind of thing haha. Sometimes she will say something blunt that irritates me slightly, and then I know right there she struck a hidden little thought I didn't notice I had. Thank you Kim
As long as you believe in the illusion of separation there will be loneliness.
Loneliness can happen in relationships too, especially when you're married for many years.
You are the universe as Deepak Chopra says. When you realize this you will never be lonely.
Give to get. Be friendly and helpful and you will attract people naturally.
We are one. Helping others means helping yourself. Do not focus on your needs too much.
Also loneliness is a so called first world problem. When you struggle with feeding a family of 12 you won't have it.
"Give to get" ? That sounds like manipulation, expectation, compensation...(I could go on) But I know, you only meant it in the 'beautiful' sense.
@@peggyharris3815 Yeah, that's just for starters. Ideally you just give. After awakening you realize that you and the others are not separate so that what you give them you give yourself. Until then it's a bit like barter.
@@onreact ...I'll buy that.
WHY does everyone minimize the NORMAL feeling of wanting to have a significant other to share life with? There's absolutely nothing wrong in wanting a life partner to share life with... everyone always makes the person who is ready, eager and happy to share life with a partner feel guilty about that want and sincere desire... You can have everything, and feel "Complete" in your own company, but having a significant other to maximize that feeling is always rewarding... Enough of making the ones looking to share life with a partner feel guilty or in a "Wrong Frequency".
Agreed! The fact that this woman "has it all" but still feels empty proves it. There is an innate need for loving human beings to be intimate with someone. To share thoughts feelings and life experiences with one another person. Just like there is an innate need for food, and water. You can fast, and discipline yourself but at one point you will have to eat and drink again. It isn't a co-incidence that one of the highest forms of punishment in our society is solitary confinement. It also isn't a co-incidence that serial killers are usually lonely outcasts of society. Perhaps there is a state of consciousness in which you suddenly do not desire human intimacy. If so, I certainly have not experienced it yet. :)
People aren't all the same at all stages of life. We don't have to defend our feelings here, do we?
I don't think the point of this video was to say that this desire is wrong. It was more about being careful what you wish for: so often we head into new relationships because of this desire that are not good for us or the other person/people involved. We just kinda let this desire controll our actions without being conscious about it. We seek an ideal instead of a human and are surprised and hurt when the human comes to light.
You missed the point entirely...which is, seek a mate, but don't do it from your own place of loneliness. Do it from a place of inner fulfillment.
I think the point she was trying to make is - happy if you are alone and happy if you are with a partner ...so many are not happy when they are alone and it is addressing this …..
Thank you Kim :) Just married myself tonight cause I know I'm not marrying anyone else!
For now, untill you meet the 'crazy' person who's 'crazy' about you the same way you are 'crazy' about that person.
you can hide from yourself, but you can't hide from the nature honey XD
Erica- That would be a Loner Nun, honey.
Frank Houttave Oh, well yeah :) But when I meet that crazy person haha I won’t want to be legally married to them because I don’t believe that the church or state really ought to be involved in romantic relationships. A ceremony/celebration of our love would be beautiful though 💜
beamer Uhh, no, not as I see it. I just meant I never want to be legally married to someone because I think it’s a hassle :)
The lady asking has not got to a place where she really needs an answer. Kim is correct 100%... Life has not humiliated her enough to get that she is latching on a belief so strongly...
"I'm married to the consciousness within me"..... so great to hear this, this is the place to always know how to start your day
The anger behind the resentment that the woman felt was for Kim Eng intellectualizing her comment and her not feeling understood or accepted for the loneliness. The woman raises her left shoulder 3 times or more and that is shame and anger for being alone and for unprocessed anger towards her husband. It's not about ego. Kim is angry during part of this interview for the woman to feel lonely and that is what everyone missed. What I think is the woman is unhappy because she's attached to having a partner, and that causes the loneliness but it's not about all the spiritual stuff and ego, it's a human being wanting love. I appreciate a lot of what I saw and for the courage to stand up and admit she was lonely was awesome.
Why would Kym Eng be "angry" during that interview? Can you please clarify for me?
“It is not the critic who counts…the credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena”. Teddy Roosevelt
I thought I saw and felt that, too, but didn't want to dwell on it... wasn't sure if I wasn't projecting some of my own stuff...
Kim is no comparison to ET. She’s not compassionate or warm.
I feel this woman has a human need. Like I am hungry, I need food. Sometimes spirituality will help feeling connected...we live in society that creates a sense of separateness. I think Kim means well, but she over explains a very simple concept.
I agree.
kim missed the boat with this answer.
the correct answer is using acceptance to enter the now.
thank you very much anyway was the lady's answer. she did not get an answer from Kim.
Kim is a SPECTACULAR teacher. I just found her on TH-cam today. I was looking for some good Eckhart videos to listen to; and I found videos of his wife teaching. Truly wonderful. Thank you both Kim and Eckhart!!!
I still dread Friday nights alone like a plague. Fridays and New Years Eve.
Embracing my own beautiful company embracing being alone.
Andreas Leon Landgren ❤️
MGTOW?
“Look at why you just ran away”…I feel like she ran away because her feelings were being slightly dismissed. We’ve all heard the same comment of “you need to be happy alone” but the women said she was happy.
Life’s best moments are usually moments that are shared and this women clearly just wants to share her happiness with someone.
This talk is great. Questioning the taboo of loneliness is really important. However, Kim misses an important point about partnering. They enable creativity and service. It isnt just inner work. Relationships can become too internally focused. There is an outer life aspect as well. The soul of the world. People need a worldly connection as well.
“ When I didn’t want it anymore Eckhart appeared” Wow
The conditioning from our parents is so deep inside of us...for hundrets of years people lived in codependency ....to change this pattern is the hardest challenge but its the only way to free our minds ...
It is so true, we have to come home to ourselves first.
Totally agree. I felt like that friday night, when I did not have plans..but then, on saturday morning upon waking up refreshed and ready to go to the beach, the thought or the judgment of friday night was long gone. Our ego is so annoying. :) as for a partner, I have desired to have one for the tingling, endeering feelings you can get when you are with someone but that is so short lived. Then the feeling of exhaustion from the hard work and the realization: I do not want a guy, I can't stand the complexity of relationships. It is a choice indeed and it is liberating to know that, at this day and age, we can choose. That alone is so very great.
I wish there were more videos of Kim's lectures and classes. She has the ability to break through and help a person see and identify thoughts and feelings that one can express on their own and this allows understanding oneself.
I went deep, deeeep into my loneliness and found this video. Big aha moment. And yes, it is indeed a question many, many people may be having. THANK YOU ! to Kim and to the lady who asked this question _/\_
What an brilliant response.. There is no half measures from Kim she is thorough in her offerings ❤️❤️
I love how she explains the need for your own space in relationships!!
This really helped. I cried through it. Glad I watched it.
"Come home to yourself." Honey, I'm home...😆 you say to yourself and it feels great!
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Beautiful Kim, totally honest " raw" and clear in a loving way. Much respect. We need that for 2020 and forward.
Wow, I've just gone through a breakup but this is so profound and beautiful. I'm saving it for later - thank you Kim!
Lol, coming back to my own comment more than a year later (by chance). Indeed the message is still as profound. I really love this segment.
There's so much value contained in this video if you are only able to sit and listen without judging. Thank you, Kim!
Kim, what a wonderful soul you are!! Much love your way . Thank you and Eckhart for being and sharing.
This answer has made me get in tune with my Divine Self and realise the depths of my Being.
Thank you - Kim
Great teaching; thoroughly explained with so much insight, understanding for the person who's asking, compassionate and patient. Thank you so much
Thanks Kim! Lovely. Great to hear your beautiful insights. I can make sense of the times I walked on hot coals during relationships I've experienced. Thanks, I've come a long way since I first listened to Eckhart a year ago as I built my mountain bike track. I named a corner after him and think of him every time I whip through it. I no longer find a need to argue with my wife and teenage daughter. Life is now peaceful serene and creative as I experience this, now. I can't really put my finger on it with words so just thank you Kim.
We do not need dependency but we are made to feel other skin 🙂
I wish you an conscious living with no touching nobody !!!!
Wow! This was everything I needed, even after working on myself for so long I still need these reminders! I need to go within and this lockdown time is really reinforcing this message to me
Thanks to the Lady for questioning such complex and true feeling.
This is the most helpful advice I've ever heard. Thank you so much! I feel liberated now.
Thank you so much. It makes so much sense to me know. One should love yourself first, before you can give love to someone else.
I like your videos alot. So much pain in this world, because we are losing touch to ur true nature. Two beautiful people trying to help some other people :)
Keep it up.
Very refreshing to hear her talk about her relationship with Ekhart. "You must fill yourself". The best advice ever. Finally, I see someone who needs her own space. I thought I was a weirdo. So glad I saw this video today Dec 31st. Thank you. This is perfect!
She is a wonderful teacher. When people ask a question, she always manages to make a perfect lesson.
Thank you so much for sharing these videos. I am single for 4 months, and for the last 2 days I was thinking so much about my previous relationship, just wanted to call and accept everything he wanted, just forget myself, my needs. I was feeling really lost with my contradict thoughts, about what I should do, if my needs were not meant to be with him, etc.
Then I saw this video, I wasn't really interested, not feeling lonely. But the teaching is so profund, so smart, so deep, so true, it blows your mind. Thank you again for helping so many people ❤️
co dependent relationship 1 + 1 = 0
independent relationship 1 + 1 = 2
Interdependent relationship 1 + 1 = 11
Really appreciate Kim's comments about conscious relationships especially with regards to living in a way that gives both people space. It has inspired me as I find I need alone time to meditate and process :)
Wow Kim, thanks so much for this video. After a 14 year marriage, I am in a place now of re-building myself and really finding within me everything that I used to seek outside but that I can only find within me: self love, self appreciation and all the other "selfs" :). Thanks a lot
This video really helped me to find inner peace. I am so grateful for that
Thank you for your insight Kim. We want, want, want, but when we get what we 'want' often we want something else, as is obvious by the high divorce rates, over consumption of food, things, drugs, etc. I personally believe loving what is, as hard as it may be, brings great wisdom, peace and growth.
The BEST advice after having a break up!! Thank you!
A need for intimacy is natural on all levels. Not a belief but her Saturday morning is a reminder of the absence
thank you so much for the wonderful explanation. So easy to understand. Really loved the finger work showing partners, I’m v visual and really got it. I also love your honesty, openness and great great humour. Bless you so so much. Xxx
A really great talk around the subject of loneliness and the desire to be with someone. It made me think very deeply about my previous relationship and how we’d interact. It’s possible to be physically close to your partner constantly yet you are still experiencing loneliness. I agree with the idea of personal space between you and your partner and a respect for time spent with ourselves. 🙏🏽☮️🌱
No wonder people like her! She's so sweet; so transparent. Good question- it's helped me...
That woman wants the feelings you get from a romantic sexual relationship and I understand that
lol
There is a type of love only a partner can give you.
Of course, the attention, the specialness, the exclusivity, the (mutual) attraction, the distraction,...
But all those last only for so long.
Loneliness is basically due to craving for socialization, this craving energy is already there in the subconscious mind of every human being when he is born, it intensifies when he grows older resulting in a state of mind called loneliness. that state is delusional and dominated by lack of companionship and feelings of left out from the society.
Thank you very much for your insights and reminders, I really appreciated the information. This was the first time I've heard of this wonderful teacher. Thank you for sharing this material, and for being available for help to all of us. Much love ❤️😊
Eng is such a GREAT teacher sharing her own experiences
This is amazing! Hits home. ❤️ Thank you🙏🏼
This really speaks to me as a single woman. I’ve been single since 2014 and we’re now in 2020. I often feel myself consumed by bitterness, resentment, jealousy and anger because I see so many people (often younger than me) moving through the healthy, “normal” stages of life such as being in relationships, engagements, marriages and babies. Loneliness twists everything pleasant in my life because like she said... I’m craving something external to complete me. I truly understand this is useless as my own completion already exists within myself. It really resonated with me that I’m still holding onto a belief of what is expected of me. I’m still placing the responsibility and expectation on an unidentified man to come riding in on a white horse to save me from myself. I hope one day I can let this fantasy truly go and marry myself like she mentioned as I know true contentment comes from within and having a partner is simply an extension or an external manifestation of the internal completion you already feel.
I love how Kim didn't get stopped when the lady thanked her abruptly and sat down, and she asked her to look at why she ran away after the initial responses. Didn't get let her just slide. That was so powerful. So thorough through and through. Nothing stepped over. Thank you Kim!
She ran away because Kim was too intimidating. I would run away too
One of the best videos by Eckhart Tolle.
So encouraging and inspiring to hear about your and Eckhart's relationship -- the way that you have found creative ways to honour one another's space. Thank you for sharing!!!
They’re fortunate they have the money to live separate but together....a lot of people do not.
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This really touched me deeply. I can really relate to a lot that was said. I’ve realized for a long time that I am complete by myself. I spend time with myself. I’ve learned so much.
At what point in the relationship ship described do you realize that the time spent apart is a stretching of the connection for one or both people. How does the one feeling it tell the other without fearing being considered codependent? I guess being able to express oneself openly and honestly and the other genuinely caring is key. Keeping the partnership in balance is vital.
Thanks Kim it's good to hear you speak here, felt lonly just before listening to you here, have released alot here now after listening, it's an emptyness and there's just silence here now. I can be with that. ❤🙏
She's is so beautiful and show vulnerability to all brands of for the courage to ask this question ...bless
this is both hilarious and genius. Kim is far more revealing of and in touch with her human side than Eckhart is and it's refreshing. many of my ideas have been set aside via this conversation alone.
I'm going through a break up and this really helps alot. Thank you Kim.
Thank you Mrs Kim, very well said and said from experience, thanks for your words, Namaste 🙏
Thank you, Kim. Another perspective from Eckhart’s, but valuable in a different way
Wow, i was down looking for consolation and i found this video. It helped me so much.. i was sad about the idea in my head. There is something so freeing in the awarness of it.
I used to think that something was wrong with me for wanting what she has with Eckhart, this form of free and non attached love and also being totally fine alone but now I know something was actually right with me.
yes, I think it's safe to want to emulate success
This was so good! Thank you, Kim!
Very nice , well said. Thank you so much !
I wish Kim and Eckhart were my parents... what an incredible privilege that would have been :)
I think this blond lady is super confused and doesn't know what she wants. I love how Kim challenges her to make her think deeper about her situation💞
Thank you for providing this video again