not necessarely ! because we are not robots in the end! we need others ! but the lesson is that we don t have to rush !! we don t havr to rush love , freindship... it s about acceptence until it happens naturally ! timing is the answer ! but as humans it s very natural to look for others ! we should respect ower emotions and ower needs too .
Something I found powerful in my life was to realize that my state of Being does not DEPEND on any person, circumstance, or thing . The moment I realized this, loneliness stopped becoming a thing . We're all just as "lonely" as as we are "together" , whether you're with another person or not, you are the creator and chooser of your state of Being, but CHOOSING where you place your attention . If you master your ATTENTION and ENERGY , you will master LIFE , and LONELINESS will be a natural thing of the past because you're always in the preferred state of being that you choose by consciously shifting your attention where you want it to be . Great video Eckhart . Much Love . 🙏
The vulnerability of the man who asked this question was so beautiful. When he said people seem like robots, it spoke straight to me. That is exactly how I feel.
The mass of humanity are conditioned robots just parroting the memes of their particular culture. Understanding that provides a doorway to finding compassion for others. Because up until a few years ago I was one of those robots. Everyone is on their own journey across a scale of consciousness. I believe that our purpose is to be the light and love that helps to lift those around us to a higher plane❤
The most powerful realization for my self was discovering I can be at work surrounded by people or home alone and still be in the state of being. It feels like the function of doing is on auto pilot not having to think about it and being present during doing. The people around you seem to respond to this too. I can be with a customer who is angry about something and they're anger will subside interacting with me, but when their attention goes away from me it returns, but never as drastic as in the beginning of the interaction. This has only been this way for a few months and it is beautiful.
As Tolle wisely keeps saying in his teachings either you're willing to seek the acceptance of oneself or the suffering will be the motivational force to get you there!!
I like the questioner.. I have felt as he does. It seems in my life the universe just hasn't brought me the relationship I need until I'm ready for it. I don't necessarily feel lonely I feel complete with source. But there is lately a part of me is desiring a partner. But learning to feel complete without another person has been such an important lesson. I'm grateful for it.
@@natcat1984 thanks for sharing. it looks like we're aren't the only ones. It's tough to grow and evolve in a world gone crazy. But harder yet to find someone near you that's at the same place in their journey. Blessed be. ✨💫
Yes. Agree. One of the greatest lessons in my life. Sometimes when there is no human interaction for 2-3 days I feel on my daily forest walks a connection to the quietness of the forest. A wonderful experience and would never exchange it for some argument with a partner in day2day life in human relationships.
i agree. i remember hearing that when you place happiness on someone or something and it ends or falls apart so does your happiness. i am in the process of growing as well. being present. accepting life as it is. and knowing you will always have yourself you are never alone. difference between desiring someone and NEEDING someone. we got this.
Something positive is happening to me from the day i subscribed. Today i saw fly on the wall that moments ago continuously buzzed around me, and normally i would hit it in anger but... i felt absolutely no hate or irritation, even more, i felt love towards that fly. True story.
I love being alone:) I could roam the earth by myself, no problem. I laugh at my self all the time, and I enjoy my own company very well. im alone 90% Of all my time, been that since 2005ish
This is gold for me. I have spent most of my life alone and I'm nearly 50. Thank goodness I have a son, but as he is an adult now I have to face my aloneness head on and accept I was never able to find a life partner
Right. In Truth you are alone, because aloness means being. Lonelieness is, if Consciousness caught in thought patterns, aloness is freedom from thought constructs so from form. You are this aloness.
"Intensity of presence is important to cut through mind." "Life will give you what you need." "Enough suffering can provide motivation to awakening" Many thanks Eckhart.
Thank you. I wanted to write something about suffering. Suffering will push you down to suicide level, or wake you up to a greater reality. It's hard to take in that suffering can be a catalyst to wake us up. Actually if you study the law of one. That's what it's supposed to be, a catalyst.
I'm at that very catalyst of suffering now after losing everything and leaving an abusive relationship. Suffering is usually the best way to let go of the illusion we create of the world. When all else fades away, the I AM still remains. That consciousness is the only real thing there is.
“What I like doing best is Nothing." “People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.” "How do you do Nothing," asked Pooh after he had wondered for a long time. "Well, it's when people call out at you just as you're going off to do it, 'What are you going to do, Christopher Robin?' and you say, 'Oh, Nothing,' and then you go and do it. It means just going along, listening to all the things you can't hear, and not bothering." "Oh!" said Pooh.”
What I’ve been on recently is to say: "set everything on fire and see what remains. What remains is the only truth, the present moment in all its brilliant intensity." Namaste 🤘🏻
In this busy world - Being alone is a luxury - so you should think of it that way - Most of the time you have to be engaging with people to get what you need. So any time when you don't need to engage with them - consider that as a gift. The real problem is FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) - it's a feeling that other people are having a better and more fulfilling time than you are. But if that is the case - it is because they are pushing themselves into doing activities more than you are - and they pay a price for that. There is nothing stopping you from doing those activities - and you don't necessarily need to be in a group to do most of them. You might find once you start those activities it attracts people to you - because they want to be doing what you are doing. But the key is to focus on your own likes and experiences and not be seeking the approval or attention of other people. At the end of the day - who cares what they think anyway? Other people don't necessarily want the same things that you do. It's like you are on your own personal journey - and watching your own life play out - like a movie that nobody is watching apart from you.
Agree. I find I don't like the things our current culture values so it is hard to find like minded people. So most of my time is spent alone. I also wont spend time with people who dont value me.
I agree 100%. Visit me here and you'll see a goofy old man that does exactly this, as I've gone No Contact with a toxic family over 10 yrs ago. I do understand this feeling of loneliness though. It's not a need to be with others, but when you've had close friends or family, or been in love, and lost that, and know that good feeling it brings, sometimes you do desire it again, a longing I guess. But you have to awaken and find a happiness within, and cherish your time alone too, it's critically important. Stay strong folks.
Eckhart saved my life. Everyday my mind thinks spirit and presence is fake even though I've been awakened for a little over a year after reading the Power of Now and I'm definitely rooted in being without any pointers or gurus.
I always find this to be true; when you're most uncomfortable about a situation, its only then you will act and change to get a better or different result. When Eckhart said that you're not suffering enough or the situation is somewhat bearable, it wont push you to change.... I totally agree with this notion. How profound! I really connect with Eckhart explanations and reasoning.
Always the comic. When I first listened to Eckhart I tried his Power of Now listening at night and I would invariably fall asleep immediately when his voice began. I really wanted to hear his teachings. What I have found is that when he interacts with others there is a lightness and a humor along side his kindness that I can relish in and find a way to feel alert enough to stay awake long enough for teachings to sink in...
"It could well be that there is not enough suffering in your life". I think think this was the key thing I was thinking also when the man stated "the universe" had given him all he needed, & he hadn't run out of money, yet still was able to travel for a couple of yrs.
I'm bipolar and most times I ONLY feel comfortable when I'm alone. But sometimes I get so lonely and depressed. Some nights I feel like I'm *LITERALLY* the only person in the universe. It's a HORRIBLE feeling that I can't even describe. It's at those times that I usually turn on my PS4 and play video games just to be able to hear other human voices and socialize. Video games can be VERY therapeutic. Don't ever let anybody tell u otherwise!
You never alone,there many ho feel that way!Do what makes you feel better,it’s okay!For me going in to Natur,a Garden or a Park!Its all okay,blessings your way!💜💜 🙏 🌹
I am alone and have spent many years of my life alone - not necessarily out of choice however I came to love myself and l finally got to a place of inner peace and contentment. I felt that I was missing that special someone to “complete me” I had the worst relationship ever that destroyed “ME” (narcissist) I’ve had relationships before and was soon able to bounce back to myself but after the NARC I feel unable to accept myself anymore. Obviously I didn’t know about narcissism before encountering it. I find it extremely unbearable now being alone. I have been stuck for two years already. How to move on, as it seems impossible :(
It is good to know what Presence is while having not that much of suffering, in order to enjoy the path, knowing when there will be enough suffering, liberation will be available.
You are never alone, there are countless spiritual beings with you, you just can’t see them with your primate eyes. When you meditate ask for a sign that they are with you, and get ready to be surprised! 👼
To me it sounded as if the loneliness the man asks how to deal with, is the loneliness in the worldly life. He mentioned people as perceived as robots; I therefore heard the question being not related to relationships, but loneliness as a feeling of detachment from people.
...or the relationship will be an expression of aliveness.... This is a wonderful thing.. I can resonate with the questioner. In me is a presence when loneliness shows up and a I can sit with it ( sometimes it's very challenging) and, despite it, there is a deep feeling of the need to sharing life with another. To dance it. And there is the missing, somehow. And that's a wonderful desire from my heart.
When Eckhart at the end said "find the necessary suffering", the crowd laughed, 'cause they thought he meant that this guy should try to find the necessary suffering when in a relationship, so he could end it and move on. 😄 But then he finished the sentence with: "to get you there". So he meant that he needs to find the necessary suffering, in order to use it as fuel, to motivate him to go find someone to start a relationship with, and not to end one. 😅
If you are reading this, you are going to celebrate something really special really really soon, you will be full of joy and happiness sharing your good news. It will almost seem out of this world how suddenly it all happened for you. Be ready, expect it, it’s happening ~ Much love from a Law Of Attraction TH-camr💜
Loneliness is just another illusion, it's impossible to be truly alone, knowing that the suffering of loneliness comes from self-shame (of which there is no individual self this is so obvious when one is alone, the world seems like a fantasy and movie-esque) rather than lacking of abundance has kept me alive these past few years, thank you Eckhart.
In the ‘Form’ state as Eckhart said there could be a need for the comfort of another- (Self shame was never mentioned.) it might be interesting for you to look at why you used that expression?
@@janel342 Although it was never mentioned the root of loneliness in many cases (in society) is shame of being alone; just be alone or not it doesn't matter because there is no separation of anything, as to why i mention shame on a "personal" level maybe this is something being projected through this vice, then again maybe not the answer i certainly don't know. tl;dr being alone is not necessarily loneliness and one is not dependent on the other.
Thank you for the video! I broke up with my partner a few days ago, it's terribly hard for me, insomnia started, I can't sleep alone, the need for a loved one is very strong and I don't know how to overcome it yet. I'm uncomfortable with myself and I can’t accept my loneliness. I suffer so much. I hope that someday this will change.
It will. The only constant in Life is Change! ( an Eckhart type joke.) You are in a huge sea of change so you can learn about waves. Be with the waves.🌹
9:45 "And the only place where you can find what you're seeking is within you, in the present moment, doesn't matter where you are." Wisdom. How to go within? One method is via the HU song. There are many TH-cam videos demonstrating how HU is sung. Very interesting and insightful correlation between suffering and motivation. Is there an easier way?
We grow by what we love or attract to us. Just like a flowers love is towards sun, water and nutrients from the soil. We're constantly being pushed in the direction of growth, question is, how long will you stay where you're at, before you start to push towards it?
Loneliness is actually a evolutionary feeling to help guide us to being with people for 'safety; and 'belonging' I highly recommend this video that explains scientifically why we feel lonely : Why Are We So Lonely? - Glad You Asked S1
I am alone and detest it at times. But I am sick of being homeless and couch surfing! I keep that secret .But I am ignored at work by coworkers and bullied at times.
I feel so sad listening to this young man and Tolle's response. I feel if Tolle had just met him where he is(without any judgement) this young man could have woken on the spot his heart was just so OPEN. Listening to him I felt the Q wasn't that different to the zen story Tolle tells of the zen master and the mountain stream, the young man just needed a pointer towards the fullness of his experience rather than looking for the nothingness in it. Of course Tolle is AMAZING and his response as always was empathic but I just felt this young man wasn't that far off of what he is searching for and as Tolle himself says we don't all need to suffer to awaken . This young man like us all just needs to take one step towards surrender (and stop seeking nothingness) and to realise that the loneliness he feels as we all feel is the separation from whole . I have absolutely no doubt looking at him that he is already where he wants to be he just needs to wake up and celebrate his good fortune not go looking for suffering to awaken. I so wish Tolle had just said (as Jesus would have done, and I am not in any way a Christian) "don't seek nothingness BE the wholeness that you already are. "
Alone does not mean loneliness. Sometimes from my observation, some married couple are more lonely married than single. Maybe it is our perception that alone mean lonely. But in reality when you have all the times by yourself, you realised you can focus mediatation and stillness easily, furthermore with no attachment like partner to worry.. Only you, yourself, by yourself can have all the time to enjoy.
Presence is there more when life tempts you to do contrary acts this happens after great deal of suffering and pain ..one craves to drop the parts contributing to set backs if the intention is sincere the presence is there very much
I live alone i dont have family and husband they passed away, dont have children , i am on my own really on my own. I dont seem to worry about it, i have my pets they are worth more then gold. I chat to people when i take my dog for walks, i love a best friend but i not lose sleep over it, i think i better off alone peace of mind.
Doing nothing is not the answer. A hut in the woods is not it either. It's being done through you. Grounded in reality of the crazy world. But living the path also. Human and spirit combined...a marriage.
"Loneliness, with presence, can be transformed to Solitude. The unbearable loneliness then becomes joyful solitude". Now, how beautiful is that !! Thank you, dear Eckhart.
He is right either way as long as you seek happiness outside of yourself in life situations , suffering must happen . If you avoid relationships out of fear then you suffer not having relationship . If you enter relationships out of seeking happiness ( self fulfillment) then you suffer changes in relationship which happens by itself . Its never only day , night comes . Its never only love , hate comes . Its never only living , death comes . Nothing outside will make difference , because outside is just bunch of random situations which will turn around in a way that we are in the end . So if i want to live in relationship with specific person i must already feel that way in my mind and body , and that is how we tune into situations that will bring us to fulfillment of our desire. But to think that once desire is fulfilled that situation manifested aka desire will make you happy is just foolish . Because the very situation is created by change in your mind and perception of reality . So even to have what you want you need to make change from within ,thats why seeking outside happiness is bound to be suffering.
Mine has lasted 14 years, but it just is the way it goes. I noticed I keep learning tremendous understandings--but in truth this makes one different from the Norm--so that is an issue
4:00 - Here I disagree, because even on the level of form and ego, if you cultivate both the masculine and feminine within yourself, the balance takes place within you and does not depend on someone else. Similarly, you should never seek a life partner based upon too much masculine or feminine attributes. You're better off spending the rest of your life alone, than to settle for someone, regardless of what they look like, who has not also balanced themselves and transcended gender role identification altogether.
Anyone have any insights/ opinions on how to deal with a new self after truly feeling the moment for the first time in a long time? I feel like in these moments I no longer worry about anything, and in that, I don’t feel like “myself” which is freeing and scary. It’s like in peace I don’t know how to operate or respond to people because what I usually say I don’t desire to and I almost have nothing to say.
we are human being and it s a natural thing to "need" someone in ower life! partner or friend .. it s been 4 years since my awakening ! i spent so much effort to understand the lesson ! the truth : that peace is actually the goal of life ! of being alive! i went throught loneliness and really i love my alone time ! but .. a good friend .. a good partner.. is important. we couldn t stay by owerselves !!! we need to love and to be loved !! we need to discover owerselves !!! by relationships !!! by giving and recieving emotions !! loneliness hurts !!!and it s very normal to hurt !!! but the lesson is in the way to hundle this loneliness !! means we don t have to rush love or relationships!! everything will happens in the right time ! and that s the lesson !
Rosi Sunny We are love that's why we need to spread love and to receive it too .. it s life ! The lesson is just not rush love . Because timing is the answer ! Because everything will happens in the right time ! But as human being we couldn't stay away from people or living alone !
Loneliness is not the absence of others, it is the absence of yourself. 🙏🏽❤
Be-you-tiful!
I have only just realised this 🌟
Thank you
not necessarely ! because we are not robots in the end! we need others ! but the lesson is that we don t have to rush !! we don t havr to rush love , freindship...
it s about acceptence until it happens naturally ! timing is the answer ! but as humans it s very natural to look for others ! we should respect ower emotions and ower needs too .
It's peaceful and spiritual to me ....
Something I found powerful in my life was to realize that my state of Being does not DEPEND on any person, circumstance, or thing . The moment I realized this, loneliness stopped becoming a thing . We're all just as "lonely" as as we are "together" , whether you're with another person or not, you are the creator and chooser of your state of Being, but CHOOSING where you place your attention . If you master your ATTENTION and ENERGY , you will master LIFE , and LONELINESS will be a natural thing of the past because you're always in the preferred state of being that you choose by consciously shifting your attention where you want it to be . Great video Eckhart . Much Love . 🙏
Amen ....
So with practise I can choose not to feel lonely?
yes!
Thank you.🙏
beautifully stated - thank you so much!
The vulnerability of the man who asked this question was so beautiful. When he said people seem like robots, it spoke straight to me. That is exactly how I feel.
indeed
😢
Eckhort should make a book about being presence in the generation of technology
The mass of humanity are conditioned robots just parroting the memes of their particular culture. Understanding that provides a doorway to finding compassion for others. Because up until a few years ago I was one of those robots. Everyone is on their own journey across a scale of consciousness. I believe that our purpose is to be the light and love that helps to lift those around us to a higher plane❤
Same.
The most powerful realization for my self was discovering I can be at work surrounded by people or home alone and still be in the state of being. It feels like the function of doing is on auto pilot not having to think about it and being present during doing. The people around you seem to respond to this too. I can be with a customer who is angry about something and they're anger will subside interacting with me, but when their attention goes away from me it returns, but never as drastic as in the beginning of the interaction. This has only been this way for a few months and it is beautiful.
“Leave life alone. Let it be.” - ECKHART TOLLE
🤖 🚨!
@@lighthousea4655 wow, that qoute resonates with me so much 🤔
It reminded me of a phrase from one Soviet movie, it could be translated as "I'm not interested in living a life, I just want to live".
Love it.
As Tolle wisely keeps saying in his teachings either you're willing to seek the acceptance of oneself or the suffering will be the motivational force to get you there!!
Willingness 💕☮️
I like the questioner.. I have felt as he does. It seems in my life the universe just hasn't brought me the relationship I need until I'm ready for it. I don't necessarily feel lonely I feel complete with source. But there is lately a part of me is desiring a partner. But learning to feel complete without another person has been such an important lesson. I'm grateful for it.
Same!
@@natcat1984 thanks for sharing. it looks like we're aren't the only ones. It's tough to grow and evolve in a world gone crazy. But harder yet to find someone near you that's at the same place in their journey. Blessed be. ✨💫
Yes. Agree. One of the greatest lessons in my life. Sometimes when there is no human interaction for 2-3 days I feel on my daily forest walks a connection to the quietness of the forest. A wonderful experience and would never exchange it for some argument with a partner in day2day life in human relationships.
i agree. i remember hearing that when you place happiness on someone or something and it ends or falls apart so does your happiness. i am in the process of growing as well. being present. accepting life as it is. and knowing you will always have yourself you are never alone. difference between desiring someone and NEEDING someone. we got this.
@@LisaLywulf Blessed be, sister ⭐️
Something positive is happening to me from the day i subscribed. Today i saw fly on the wall that moments ago continuously buzzed around me, and normally i would hit it in anger but... i felt absolutely no hate or irritation, even more, i felt love towards that fly. True story.
Keep doing that,some Days will like all there is!
I love being alone:) I could roam the earth by myself, no problem. I laugh at my self all the time, and I enjoy my own company very well. im alone 90% Of all my time, been that since 2005ish
Paperclip, love your name by the way! I often laugh at myself, too. It’s neat you said this.
Me since 2007..So i feel ya❤
Such a wise man. This man has helped me so much.
This is gold for me. I have spent most of my life alone and I'm nearly 50. Thank goodness I have a son, but as he is an adult now I have to face my aloneness head on and accept I was never able to find a life partner
Being alone is a gateway to stillness, presence.
Right. In Truth you are alone, because aloness means being. Lonelieness is, if Consciousness caught in thought patterns, aloness is freedom from thought constructs so from form.
You are this aloness.
Every waking moment could be seen as such a gateway ❤🥓
I agree removing people and adult obstacles like interacting with normal humans helps me feel grounded in being.
you don't want too much gateways ........
Nobody resonates, the universe takes away everyone that is not aligned to this stillness. 🙏🇨🇦❤️🌈🌎🏄♀️🦋🌺
Suffering always brings me back to Eckhart. I am so grateful for these videos.
Yes a way to be,is being still,jest being the Lessoner!
You joined 6 days ago and have no subscribers haha scammers aren’t very good these days
Rosi Thank you ❤️
"Intensity of presence is important to cut through mind."
"Life will give you what you need."
"Enough suffering can provide motivation to awakening"
Many thanks Eckhart.
Thank you. I wanted to write something about suffering. Suffering will push you down to suicide level, or wake you up to a greater reality. It's hard to take in that suffering can be a catalyst to wake us up. Actually if you study the law of one. That's what it's supposed to be, a catalyst.
@@Donita1213 How a situation looks is not what the situation is about. How you respond to it is what the situation is about.
As with all negative emotions, they are "bad" because of our craving for them to be different
@Jordan Gill its not the mean reason why they are " bad"
I'm at that very catalyst of suffering now after losing everything and leaving an abusive relationship. Suffering is usually the best way to let go of the illusion we create of the world. When all else fades away, the I AM still remains. That consciousness is the only real thing there is.
Yes
Truth!!!
All the best for you 🙏🏻
Good Look you gat it!Blessings your way💜💜🙃👍👍👍🙏🌹🌹🌹🇩🇪
“What I like doing best is Nothing."
“People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.”
"How do you do Nothing," asked Pooh after he had wondered for a long time.
"Well, it's when people call out at you just as you're going off to do it, 'What are you going to do, Christopher Robin?' and you say, 'Oh, Nothing,' and then you go and do it.
It means just going along, listening to all the things you can't hear, and not bothering."
"Oh!" said Pooh.”
Fun, ain't it ???
Is that from the Tao Of Pooh? I have that book, but have not looked at it in a long time.
The only problem with doing nothing is you never know when you're done.
"Life always gives you what you need"....
Really? Where's my share?
im still waiting, the more im alone the harder it is to intract with new people. im struggling at the moment
@@lesleydcook99 over here
What I’ve been on recently is to say: "set everything on fire and see what remains. What remains is the only truth, the present moment in all its brilliant intensity."
Namaste 🤘🏻
The balance between human and being is the intensity of presence.
Stated perfectly!🥰⚘👌
How eloquently put, nice ....
Yes we go fort and back!Not easy in a Changing World it’s all 🙃🙃🙃🙃
"Trying to, like you, doing nothing".....that was good!
In this busy world - Being alone is a luxury - so you should think of it that way - Most of the time you have to be engaging with people to get what you need. So any time when you don't need to engage with them - consider that as a gift. The real problem is FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) - it's a feeling that other people are having a better and more fulfilling time than you are. But if that is the case - it is because they are pushing themselves into doing activities more than you are - and they pay a price for that. There is nothing stopping you from doing those activities - and you don't necessarily need to be in a group to do most of them. You might find once you start those activities it attracts people to you - because they want to be doing what you are doing. But the key is to focus on your own likes and experiences and not be seeking the approval or attention of other people. At the end of the day - who cares what they think anyway? Other people don't necessarily want the same things that you do. It's like you are on your own personal journey - and watching your own life play out - like a movie that nobody is watching apart from you.
nice. what do you like to do
Agree. I find I don't like the things our current culture values so it is hard to find like minded people. So most of my time is spent alone. I also wont spend time with people who dont value me.
Very nice.
I agree 100%. Visit me here and you'll see a goofy old man that does exactly this, as I've gone No Contact with a toxic family over 10 yrs ago. I do understand this feeling of loneliness though. It's not a need to be with others, but when you've had close friends or family, or been in love, and lost that, and know that good feeling it brings, sometimes you do desire it again, a longing I guess. But you have to awaken and find a happiness within, and cherish your time alone too, it's critically important. Stay strong folks.
JOMO, joy of moving out vs FOMO.
What a masterful and attentive prescription. We are lucky to have him.
Eckhart saved my life. Everyday my mind thinks spirit and presence is fake even though I've been awakened for a little over a year after reading the Power of Now and I'm definitely rooted in being without any pointers or gurus.
I always find this to be true; when you're most uncomfortable about a situation, its only then you will act and change to get a better or different result. When Eckhart said that you're not suffering enough or the situation is somewhat bearable, it wont push you to change.... I totally agree with this notion. How profound! I really connect with Eckhart explanations and reasoning.
Always the comic. When I first listened to Eckhart I tried his Power of Now listening at night and I would invariably fall asleep immediately when his voice began. I really wanted to hear his teachings. What I have found is that when he interacts with others there is a lightness and a humor along side his kindness that I can relish in and find a way to feel alert enough to stay awake long enough for teachings to sink in...
Listen to his books 🙏🏻
"It could well be that there is not enough suffering in your life". I think think this was the key thing I was thinking also when the man stated "the universe" had given him all he needed, & he hadn't run out of money, yet still was able to travel for a couple of yrs.
Yeah, I also felt that this was the key answer for the guy. I have been there so I can relate.
I'm bipolar and most times I ONLY feel comfortable when I'm alone. But sometimes I get so lonely and depressed. Some nights I feel like I'm *LITERALLY* the only person in the universe. It's a HORRIBLE feeling that I can't even describe. It's at those times that I usually turn on my PS4 and play video games just to be able to hear other human voices and socialize. Video games can be VERY therapeutic. Don't ever let anybody tell u otherwise!
Your not alone brother 💕🙏
I get what you say.
Sending you Good Karma & positivity 💜🕉💜
You never alone,there many ho feel that way!Do what makes you feel better,it’s okay!For me going in to Natur,a Garden or a Park!Its all okay,blessings your way!💜💜 🙏 🌹
He is a blessing to humanity... thank you Mr tolle 🙏
I am alone and have spent many years of my life alone - not necessarily out of choice however I came to love myself and l finally got to a place of inner peace and contentment. I felt that I was missing that special someone to “complete me” I had the worst relationship ever that destroyed “ME” (narcissist) I’ve had relationships before and was soon able to bounce back to myself but after the NARC I feel unable to accept myself anymore. Obviously I didn’t know about narcissism before encountering it. I find it extremely unbearable now being alone. I have been stuck for two years already. How to move on, as it seems impossible :(
You got this ❤
It is good to know what Presence is while having not that much of suffering, in order to enjoy the path, knowing when there will be enough suffering, liberation will be available.
it's almost like he knows what's going on with me and posts exactly what i need at the moment
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Hi hi hi soo true,we all do! 🙏 💜
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What we are seeking is seeking us. I want to meet it. No relationship is it, place or thing.
are we not going to talk about how he farted @ 10:34 LOL, that was funny
"Unbearable Lightness of Being" is the book that changed my life. Its title specifically. :)
I'm perfectly comfortable being alone thanks to this knowledge. Thanks Eckhart ♥️✨🙂
You are never alone, there are countless spiritual beings with you, you just can’t see them with your primate eyes. When you meditate ask for a sign that they are with you, and get ready to be surprised! 👼
Really very nice to imagine. It makes us happy and get enough mental support too
Thanks🙏. Love you friend❤
@@madhumitakar2282 … you will discover that your imagination is actually reality and that this world is an illusion ✨
@@abdulrashid-iy8lt … Love and Light to you my friend 💕
🙏 💜 Yes we all One!
As I watch this video what arises in me
are feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness.
I am filled with terror and grief and rage.
To me it sounded as if the loneliness the man asks how to deal with, is the loneliness in the worldly life. He mentioned people as perceived as robots;
I therefore heard the question being not related to relationships, but loneliness as a feeling of detachment from people.
I also felt like his question might not have been answered. 🤔 Though the video answered my own questions 😁❤️
I felt that too, and I get it. Everyone is so wrapped up with devices and appearances now, it's easy to feel detached.
Yes they fast in mind and thinking we become Robots!And no one Feels no more!I feel all is 🙃🙃🙃🙃🤷♀️🤷♀️😳😳😝😝
@@TheBlackSheepDiaries Yes and People become to fast in there Mind!Talk 😅 too fast!
Love you Eckhart🙏🏽❤️
thankyou, sometimes the way its said can make a difference....
...or the relationship will be an expression of aliveness....
This is a wonderful thing.. I can resonate with the questioner. In me is a presence when loneliness shows up and a I can sit with it ( sometimes it's very challenging) and, despite it, there is a deep feeling of the need to sharing life with another. To dance it. And there is the missing, somehow. And that's a wonderful desire from my heart.
“Solitude is the only blessedness.” - Maharishi Mahesh Yogi
"The bliss of being..." - hold it Right There.
Eckhardt is so enlightened, his ears are glowing. Lol.
They sure are! 😅
I'm not an expert but it seems like Eckhart is teaching him how to detach from the outcome. Wishing everybody love in their life!
We are it,we are Love,no need to wish for!😅😅💜💜👍👍🌹🌹🌹
I think it was one of the best performance of Mr. Tolle
When Eckhart at the end said "find the necessary suffering", the crowd laughed, 'cause they thought he meant that this guy should try to find the necessary suffering when in a relationship, so he could end it and move on. 😄 But then he finished the sentence with: "to get you there". So he meant that he needs to find the necessary suffering, in order to use it as fuel, to motivate him to go find someone to start a relationship with, and not to end one. 😅
The universe responds to you, so for you only you matters! Everything else everyone else is irrelevant☀️💫
Stay presence in that state of loneliness
-it’s a great opportunity to do that
This is so true about suffering.
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Thank you Eckhart 💜
If you are reading this, you are going to celebrate something really special really really soon, you will be full of joy and happiness sharing your good news. It will almost seem out of this world how suddenly it all happened for you. Be ready, expect it, it’s happening
~ Much love from a Law Of Attraction TH-camr💜
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Thank you 😊
Thanks dear friend. Love you❤
Thank you! 💜
@@lorrainew7529 my heartiest love to you friend❤
Loneliness is content which can be Transmuted into Formless Being.
Loneliness is just another illusion, it's impossible to be truly alone, knowing that the suffering of loneliness comes from self-shame (of which there is no individual self this is so obvious when one is alone, the world seems like a fantasy and movie-esque) rather than lacking of abundance has kept me alive these past few years, thank you Eckhart.
Loneliness is not an illusion. Your experience is your experience.
In the ‘Form’ state as Eckhart said there could be a need for the comfort of another-
(Self shame was never mentioned.) it might be interesting for you to look at why you used that expression?
@@janel342 Although it was never mentioned the root of loneliness in many cases (in society) is shame of being alone; just be alone or not it doesn't matter because there is no separation of anything, as to why i mention shame on a "personal" level maybe this is something being projected through this vice, then again maybe not the answer i certainly don't know. tl;dr being alone is not necessarily loneliness and one is not dependent on the other.
Thanks, I need to hear truth. Thanks again.
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@@eckharttollereplied8749l am ready to be the real one living out my life. I am Genevieve Amos.
Jenny to most, Jenny Amos
I Am Not.😀🤗
Thank you for the video! I broke up with my partner a few days ago, it's terribly hard for me, insomnia started, I can't sleep alone, the need for a loved one is very strong and I don't know how to overcome it yet. I'm uncomfortable with myself and I can’t accept my loneliness. I suffer so much. I hope that someday this will change.
It will. The only constant in Life is Change! ( an Eckhart type joke.)
You are in a huge sea of change so you can learn about waves.
Be with the waves.🌹
I feel this mans heart....I understand ❤️
Thank you so much for this video it helped me a lot ❤
Brilliant... Tolle's messages are just absolutely ⚡BRILLIANT⚡...!
♥️you are the best. I could listen to you forever♥️
WOWWWW THIS IS SO GOOOOOOOOOD thank you Eckhart✨♥️♥️♥️
Very well said… this man is incredible; l love him !
We all do,wonderful being!
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„Thank you very much, you are the best teacher.🙏❤️🧚🏾
Again and again I say to you Sir AM VERY GRATEFUL to have come across your channel.
Thank you👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
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Thank you 🙏
I got this message at the best time ☀️❤️
So relate to this man
Yes we hope to find a way out off suffering true a Relationship keep on watching E.Tolle!💜💜 🙏 🌹
9:45 "And the only place where you can find what you're seeking is within you, in the present moment, doesn't matter where you are." Wisdom. How to go within? One method is via the HU song. There are many TH-cam videos demonstrating how HU is sung. Very interesting and insightful correlation between suffering and motivation. Is there an easier way?
We grow by what we love or attract to us. Just like a flowers love is towards sun, water and nutrients from the soil.
We're constantly being pushed in the direction of growth, question is, how long will you stay where you're at, before you start to push towards it?
Loneliness is actually a evolutionary feeling to help guide us to being with people for 'safety; and 'belonging' I highly recommend this video that explains scientifically why we feel lonely : Why Are We So Lonely? - Glad You Asked S1
I am alone and detest it at times. But I am sick of being homeless and couch surfing! I keep that secret .But I am ignored at work by coworkers and bullied at times.
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I feel so sad listening to this young man and Tolle's response. I feel if Tolle had just met him where he is(without any judgement) this young man could have woken on the spot his heart was just so OPEN. Listening to him I felt the Q wasn't that different to the zen story Tolle tells of the zen master and the mountain stream, the young man just needed a pointer towards the fullness of his experience rather than looking for the nothingness in it. Of course Tolle is AMAZING and his response as always was empathic but I just felt this young man wasn't that far off of what he is searching for and as Tolle himself says we don't all need to suffer to awaken . This young man like us all just needs to take one step towards surrender (and stop seeking nothingness) and to realise that the loneliness he feels as we all feel is the separation from whole . I have absolutely no doubt looking at him that he is already where he wants to be he just needs to wake up and celebrate his good fortune not go looking for suffering to awaken. I so wish Tolle had just said (as Jesus would have done, and I am not in any way a Christian) "don't seek nothingness BE the wholeness that you already are. "
Alone does not mean loneliness. Sometimes from my observation, some married couple are more lonely married than single. Maybe it is our perception that alone mean lonely. But in reality when you have all the times by yourself, you realised you can focus mediatation and stillness easily, furthermore with no attachment like partner to worry.. Only you, yourself, by yourself can have all the time to enjoy.
Instead of seeing it as loneliness, see it as an opportunity to go deeper in yourself & find your true self.
That's is true
Presence is there more when life tempts you to do contrary acts this happens after great deal of suffering and pain ..one craves to drop the parts contributing to set backs if the intention is sincere the presence is there very much
Hayatta en güçlü insan, en uzun süre yalnız kalabilendir.
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Henrik İbsen
So beautiful. And great question came.
I live alone i dont have family and husband they passed away, dont have children , i am on my own really on my own. I dont seem to worry about it, i have my pets they are worth more then gold. I chat to people when i take my dog for walks, i love a best friend but i not lose sleep over it, i think i better off alone peace of mind.
Suffering is a gift, hard to accept it but it's very TRUE.🙏
Excellent, relevant content. Thank you!
"If you are alone and you are getting bored, obviously you are in bad company.” - *SADHGURU* 🙏🏽🧡🙏🏽
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Hahahaha!!! This was explained in such masterly way. Thank you ET!!!
Perfect 👌. Thank you 😊 🙏 ❤
I almost got myself into a relationship but came back to consciousnesses and realized I was just feeling lonely 😭🤣
Nothing wrong with getting into a relationship though, but it has to be with a person who understands you, whatever that means to you personally.
Good don't do it from that state of mind.
That's often how most relationships happen. People dread being on their own.
Really enjoyed this, thank you.
Doing nothing is not the answer. A hut in the woods is not it either. It's being done through you. Grounded in reality of the crazy world. But living the path also. Human and spirit combined...a marriage.
"Loneliness, with presence, can be transformed to Solitude. The unbearable loneliness then becomes joyful solitude". Now, how beautiful is that !! Thank you, dear Eckhart.
He is right either way as long as you seek happiness outside of yourself in life situations , suffering must happen .
If you avoid relationships out of fear then you suffer not having relationship . If you enter relationships out of seeking happiness ( self fulfillment) then you suffer changes in relationship which happens by itself .
Its never only day , night comes .
Its never only love , hate comes .
Its never only living , death comes .
Nothing outside will make difference , because outside is just bunch of random situations which will turn around in a way that we are in the end .
So if i want to live in relationship with specific person i must already feel that way in my mind and body , and that is how we tune into situations that will bring us to fulfillment of our desire.
But to think that once desire is fulfilled that situation manifested aka desire will make you happy is just foolish . Because the very situation is created by change in your mind and perception of reality .
So even to have what you want you need to make change from within ,thats why seeking outside happiness is bound to be suffering.
Feeling sorry for yourself is a Luxury!
Mine has lasted 14 years, but it just is the way it goes. I noticed I keep learning tremendous understandings--but in truth this makes one different from the Norm--so that is an issue
You've been alone for 14 years?
I felt so much joy watching this. I even belly laughed 💕🙏
Me too. So funny he puts truth so bluntly and it can be funny.
Absolutely! It's such a gift he has. And he just exudes gentleness
@@billielafollette7308 In That we connect 🤷♀️😲💜💜👍👍👍🙏
4:00 - Here I disagree, because even on the level of form and ego, if you cultivate both the masculine and feminine within yourself, the balance takes place within you and does not depend on someone else.
Similarly, you should never seek a life partner based upon too much masculine or feminine attributes. You're better off spending the rest of your life alone, than to settle for someone, regardless of what they look like, who has not also balanced themselves and transcended gender role identification altogether.
Suffering is optional pain is inevitable
I understand. What he. Is saying
Focus on BLESSINGS and you will receive BLESSINGS
As always, great teachings.
Thank you so much for this talk, all the involved 💟
Wish you the best life journey
Anyone have any insights/ opinions on how to deal with a new self after truly feeling the moment for the first time in a long time? I feel like in these moments I no longer worry about anything, and in that, I don’t feel like “myself” which is freeing and scary. It’s like in peace I don’t know how to operate or respond to people because what I usually say I don’t desire to and I almost have nothing to say.
Loneliness is only old glue pulling us back to where we left from.
There are to aspects to us Negativ- Women and Positiv + Man ,like Batterie 2x 🔋 that’s way we look for each other!
we are human being and it s a natural thing to "need" someone in ower life! partner or friend .. it s been 4 years since my awakening ! i spent so much effort to understand the lesson ! the truth : that peace is actually the goal of life ! of being alive! i went throught loneliness and really i love my alone time ! but .. a good friend .. a good partner.. is important. we couldn t stay by owerselves !!! we need to love and to be loved !! we need to discover owerselves !!! by relationships !!! by giving and recieving emotions !! loneliness hurts !!!and it s very normal to hurt !!! but the lesson is in the way to hundle this loneliness !! means we don t have to rush love or relationships!! everything will happens in the right time ! and that s the lesson !
🙏 💜 We are Love,you It !!no need to look somewhere for it!Blessings to you 💜💜 🙏 🌹
Rosi Sunny
We are love that's why we need to spread love and to receive it too .. it s life ! The lesson is just not rush love . Because timing is the answer ! Because everything will happens in the right time ! But as human being we couldn't stay away from people or living alone !